Lazy Husband Installs 21 Surveillance Cameras in House Before Wife's Death | Matt Leili Analysis
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If anyone's marriage is so toxic and volatile that your minor child needs to move out, THEN MOVE WITH HER. Stop choosing other people before your children.
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But they were seemingly both toxic. Why are you assuming it was only one side?
Matt thinks we're all dumb when it's seriously obvious he killed her. No woman leaves without her phone and maybe a wallet but then bothers to cut off the security system. He's guilty as sin.
I always tell people if I go missing and my purse is still in the house I'm dead somewhere. I don't leave my driveway without my purse.
Yeah, that "She turns off the security system when she leaves" is about as weak sauce as weak sauce can get.
You can't say this about men because we forget to the point of agitation and self-outsmarting.
@@Casinogirl56 I feel like anyone who knows me would know this about me already 😄
He was right about the police being dumb. They had audio recordings which they didn't bother to listen to?
Even the average true crime enthusiast has more curiosity than some of these knuckleheads.
He should have been charged with SA too, drugging your wife to have relations is just pathetic smh.
He is so unattractive though. He probably thought it was nice of him to drug his wife!
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Rape. It's called rape
Not enough evidence for that, the drugs could have just been to kill her, so how would you prove the "relations" were related?
@@gavinjenkins899bruising, sperm age/ deterioration, tearing. Actually quite a few ways they could get evidence for that.
So, Matt would want the world to believe that Nikki not only shut off the cameras but she also used software to delete the recording during those specific hours?? Sure, that's quite likely, said no one ever.
BUT... did you see that movie "Gone Girl"? 🤔
@@frakismaximus3052. That’s FICTION. Few females have the capacity for utter psycho controlling behavior.
@@frakismaximus3052you do know it's not a documentary
He was stalking here and monitoring here which is nuts. Talk about trust issues.
Yeah kinda hard to do all that when you're already dead , especially the file on the day hee body was found .
I have question: can you someday analyze the case of how you manage to pump out so many high-quality videos every single day?
Hard work I guess.
Dr. Grande is AI generated
he has a network of criminals comitting crimes exactly the way he's going to tell the stories
Plenty of channels have hired researchers and just one person producing the content. They are easy to spot.
@@mongoose6685don’t know if it applies here. I can’t see him having a “team” prolly him and his wife.
Secure-erasing the video the second time, after she’d been found dead is the clincher for me. He’s guilty.
Maybe she turns the cameras off whenever she storms off mad, just to annoy him-who knows.
Additionally stopping to secure-erase the recordings as she’s storming out seems pretty unlikely.
But secure-erasing the video again after she’s dead is impossible.
No woman know how to operate a dvr and then run software to make sure the data’s of the hard drive unrecoverable. At most she would have pull the cables and that would show signs and then he run the software to delete?
IMO It's a huge red flag when a man doesn't want to do anything to help support the family. His wife had the job that supported them, but he still ridiculed her and demanded more from her. Hope he appreciates his prison wife more LOL
No way in hell he isn't the wife.
@@TheErikM 🤣
Matt goes both ways
Didn't it say he worked selling computers for a while? Also it's reasonable to assume he did housekeeping duties since she worked. This doesn't excuse murder at all but also there's implicit bias in the belief that if the woman earns a salary then the man MUST also
And housewives? Are they bad for staying home and looking after the house? They never said the house was a mess. He probably did all of the housework but he should have only done half because we keep getting told that men are bad if they don’t come home and do half regardless of whether they work more or not.
If he did all of the housework then he was clearly a victim of domestic violence.
Guilty, guilty, guilty. What a creep! If the other stories you relayed are true they are both a real piece of work, but she didn't deserve to be murdered. Thanks again, Dr. Grande! I love your analysis. And I agree with what you said about both partners being aggressive and take part in the escalation in arguments. That is what I have witnessed.
This is the classic "Tell me you're guilty without telling me you're guilty" in the case of Matt.
This reminds me of the Alissa Turney case, which I wish you would cover as there have been changes this year. Alissa’s stepfather was obsessed with her, and allegedly took her life. He treated his biological daughter completely different, and ended up putting secret cameras in the house to record Alissa. He would show up randomly to her job to record her from outside. This isn’t all.
how are the cases similar ??
@@dakalodkMaybe bc of the security cameras🤔
@@dakalodk maybe because there is an element of privacy invasion that is really unnerving? A person choosing to basically stalk and record someone without their permission. Yeah, the relationships are different but that is not all these cases are about. A man was obsessive and controlling over a woman because he wanted sex out of her, which is basically why Alissa’s stepfather killed her and even got rid of the recordings. And he had phone and video recordings
The house they lived in is about 20 minutes from where I am. I didn't realize the sister was his biological daughter, though. Also, you mentioned this, but he would actually take her to work and wait for her shift to be over to take her home. How anyone thought this wasn't controlling (not to mention reprehensibly psycho and stalkerish) is beyond me. How long it took for these charges to be brought also blows my mind!
This sounds like a classic case of the control of domestic violence.
Nikki might have had instability due to reactive abuse.
She was married to a controlling empathy less man.
Possibly her reaction to abuse made her behavior erratic and in a healthier give and take marriage her behavior would have been calmer, happier and more stable?
I think these are more your own personal resentments than anything else.
I think this is a possibility too. After years of being bullied, do we really expect a person to behave rationally and calmly? This seems to be asking quite a lot of a person
So she holds no accountability?
Right. Abusers always blame their victim, refusing to accept their victim's "instability" and "irratic" behavior as reactionary. For every action, there is a RE-action. He claimed she turned off the cameras and left in the night "to provoke" him. Projection-that is something HE would have done. I dated a man like this. When things go smoothly, they get an itch to FIGHT. The guy would come up with what EVER he could think of to provoke me. Nope-see ya!
@eadweard It's actually just how it works. The more you get f***ed with, the crazier you become. They practice this in the military. Hurl insults and physical punishment while forcing THEM to maintain control while Sargeant goes apes*t. It is only done to recruits for a few years, waning as they up rank. That HAS to happen, or your soldiers will start suffering severe mental breakdowns and irrational bouts of aggression. Matt was an instigator. Whatever it took to provoke a fight, then blame her for being the problem. It's called gaslighting. Abusers use it to keep their victims compliant. They get slowly brainwashed into believing their abuser is the victim. Nicki was not buying it, which ticks abusers off to high holy hell. They cannot accept anyone who refuses to be controlled.
What an awful relationship.
Fascinating information regarding abusive dynamics, thank you Dr. Grande.
No, you do NOT love some clown who's not working. You really don't.
True, I dumped my gf of 12 years after she went 3 weeks without employment. Best thing I've ever done hands down. No one likes a gold digger. 👍
I think that video and audio recordings of spouses are highly inappropriate. To me, that is just another way of exerting control.
Thank you for your input on this case, Dr. Grande.❤
Some spouses don't have SELF control and therefore need to be controlled. These are called "high maintenance" spouses. Not knowing that marriage means submitting your own self interests and autonomy to your mate and becoming ONE. The modern idea of Together but Separate lives is a disaster. So many people want to "be in a relationship" and act like they're single at the same time. These people can end up under brushpiles as a reward for their deceit. Be careful out there!
@@Heywood.JablomeI've been happily married for over 20 years and sorry but this is crap. Anyone who doesn't trust their spouse and needs to "control" them should leave.
You are so relaxed and informative as you explain each case. Very interesting approach. Thank you. nh. Ireland.
Right off the get go, it is a BAD matchup. If a dude or she installs cameras, & 21 of them. Get out immediately. They're CRAZY. Inspect & pay attention everyday in your home or wherever you go. Protect yourself/ever vigilant. Nobody is going to do it for you.
Hook up culture is bad period. In this neighborhood where I live everyone has installed security cameras on the outside of their homes after a house on this street had to be torn down because of an explosion which happened in the basement of that house. While renovations were being done to the vacant building in which I live in now; for awhile some homelss people lived in the garage when I could not inspect the building as often because I was healing from a roll over car accident in which I was a passenger. Any person who lives alone in their own suite in a multifamily building has the right to install security cameras inside of their home which will not be monitored by outsiders.
I got out of a nightmare marriage and combined with experiences as a child has left me with no trust with men and a fear of being in another relationship. Rather sad.
It's understandable to want to be safe and to avoid things that have violated your safety in the past. I think it'd be hard to step out of that kind of space but therapy may be helpful.
I've been divorced for about 25 years now, never dated or even thought about a relationship. There is Nothing in this world that would make me want another man.
Me too. I used to go out dancing, have friends over and a real community of friends. After my ex slowly and deeply cut me off and down from everything g including my Self, I’m pretty isolated. Utter distrust. Hoping to heal, wish you the best.
Glad you got out, wishing you the best on your healing journey
You do seem to forget that domestic work and child care are WORK!
I love all your new cacti! What an interesting, complex, and disturbing case. 😨
This one was a little eerie for me. My name is Nicki. My birthday is February 14 and my husband's birthday is July 16th. I know the dates are just random, but still, it's weird.
I'd like to see Dr Grande interviewed by Piers Morgan and then Dr Grande's analysis of the interview.
Wow never thought of this
Dr. Grande, I've never been blown away by a title before. New York Times have nothing on you!!👏👏😊
Thank you for covering this case. I have been an avid watcher of yours for years and I'm also into true crime, am from Lawrenceville, Georgia, and have been compiling a playlist of cold cases and crimes that have taken place in Lawrenceville and was totally unaware of this one, so thank you. So glad this monster was put away for life
After a physician admitted to me and others in a social setting once not long after 9/11 that he was sometimes feeling upset about what some of the people looked like after they arrived in the emergency ward in the downtown hospital here where he worked at the time then I decided to become better prepared before going back to work in a more formal health care setting. He said it was always upsetting to him whenever some emergency ward patient was too afraid to tell him the truth about how their injuries happened.
He did it. The evidence is beyond a shadow of a doubt for his guilt.
The shit a lot of married women have to put up just baffels me... and then they try to pressure young women into settling with them asap by saying shit like you're gonna die alone with cats as if this shit isn't exponentially worse
Yes
This story reminds me of that count case - the husband was being accused of murder of his wife.... BUT her body had not been found. The Lawyer of the husband said that she could walk in the door any minute and pointed to the court's door - instinctively everyone was looking at the door BUT the husband did not, the husband did not look towards the door because he knew it was impossible for her to walk thru the door because he knew she was dead..... he was found guilty and years later her body was found.
She lost interest in him because he was a lazy bum.
After I heard the story, my first thought was that I'd be too afraid to stop to reasonably exchange information with an unreasonable man. And I would've called 911. And certainly wouldn't have left the house. I definitely see the points you made
Are there any cases that both partners were simultaneously trying to kill each other?
Just the early 90s blockbuster, The War of the Roses
@joshbhargava1042 great movie lol
Oh I m sure there are.
@@joshbhargava1042 also Mr. & Mrs. Smith with Brad & Angelina
“Trapped by his own security system” that is really funny. for some reason, people would rather be with an asshole, than be alone. This doesn’t make any sense to me, because then if you do meet someone you really click with?, you aren’t available. Ever since I realized that it is far better to be alone, then with someone you don’t really love, I have been so much happier and productive. I am a better parent to my kid, I have a decent job and a bright future. And I am available if I meet someone great, but I will still be happy if I am just with my dogs through middle and old age.
If my boyfriend dies before me I would prefer to be alone too. I am 55. I have no children.
Another banger Doc. Thanks for the video!
Could you do the case of Michael Edward Blackburn and Nicholas Padron? Nicholas murdered Michael on May 29, 2020 in Grafton, WV
Edit: The Mountain Statesman covered the murder along with a newspaper from Azle, TX I think
I’d like to hear your deadpan roasts of my father’s killer
Hello 👋 good Dr. Grande 😊
Dr. Grande, Stuart Seldowitz's case is very intriguing to analyze. Could you please!!!
Next level mindf**kery.
I have no tolerance for abuse. If a relationship degrades, as the one just described, leave. Finances is a poor reason to expose yourself to possible violence. When Dr Grande said that Nicky was making plans to leave, I thought "Oh she was murdered by her husband" before watching the video. Not a smart move to have intense fights with someone who is much stronger than you are.
chill with the victim blaming? it’s so easy for people like you to get online and think they’re geniuses and can solve huge societal issues like domestic violence with one snarky paragraph that says “Just leave! Better not argue a lot with your husband or he might rape and kill ya! Shoulda seen that comin, he is stronger than you after all”
when she tried to leave he guilted her to stay by having the daughter call her. you DONT know what you’d do until it happens to you. nobody thinks their husband is going to drug them with GHB, rape them and murder them under the same roof their child daughter lives because they denied sex. implying her engaging in yelling as the cause when people like this will hurt you regardless of if you’re fighting back with them is really just uneducated. also, when someone tries to leave, that is actually the time where most people are killed in a relationship. so it’s not just finance, but could be fear for your safety… i think for a person more scared of violence in their relationship than you clearly ever have been, that factor can be dealbreaker when deciding to leave now or not. you don’t know the kind of planning that goes into leaving a domestic violence situation to decrease the odds of being retaliated against, even murdered.
you don’t know her enough to know the options she could’ve been weighing out, or why any other specific person stays in a situation. because clearly her husband was capable of brutal acts of sexual and physical violence, who’s to say he wouldn’t have done this if she left him?
what do you do when for your safety, you can’t leave but you can’t stay?
It's not as simple as just "leave" in alot of cases. She was on surveillance.
You don't seem to be knowledgeable when it comes to narcissistic abuse
The recordings, like most recordings in situations like this, are usually bizarre. The recordings are unusual.
"G'damb it, damb it (X6). Lower your voice!"
Now, Matt wants his daughters to defend his honour via TH-cam? It's soooo unlikely, that you would even think that this is the way you handle all of this
Its so nice that a sober TH-cam channel like this exists
It takes two to tango. They were both abusive verbally but only one of them was abusive physically.
We all are living in the Truman Show man.
Cell phones track you everywhere you go.
"Met online" is the first red flag! 🚩
Christ, I have lived next door to a couple of Nique Leili types in my time. Insane women. No-one deserves to be murdered, but they always run headlong into disaster because they can't handle living alone.
I’ve had more than one experience living with this type. You have a point.
If she wanted live-in companionship and protection but no sex she should have just gotten a dog
@@mbb--ew. You're all gross blaming a murder victim
@@mbb--bro…..women don’t want sex with men they don’t feel safe with. Get a clue, and some empathy.
@@itchysheets1222 please, random man, continue "educating" me, a woman, about women. I stand by what I said. Nique should still be here today and her murderer should never be released from prison. But women like Nique should just stay single.
"Let's [ blank ] like a family!" I wonder what the [ blank ] was?
You Dr, are brilliant. It would be great if you analyzed the case of AJ Freund in Crystal Lake, IL. 2 people in jail. 2 DCFS people in jail for negligence. A whole ton of people involved. They knocked down the house in an affluent neighborhood in the NW Suberbers of Chicago. We owe it to AJ. TIA.
Wow, this horrible murderer is also a complete idiot. He couldn't have done much more to implicate himself, based on his actions. Another case where one spouse kills the other. It's truly unsettling at how many people kill their partner.😳 Thank you for another great video, Dr. Grande!! You're awesome!!❤😎❤
When a controlling person try to control you don’t give them what they want do anything you can to annoy them I had a partner that have BPD
Some people are just meant for each other
We need to normalize leaving toxic relationships. The second you realize you're in one, get out and get some therapy. And don't get into another relationship until you heal.
I didn't even realize you could meet someone online in 1996.
Corporate finance…in Mississippi?
LETS "BLANK" LIKE A FAMILY!?!?!?!?!???????????
That's messed up
It is interesting to realize that most of people accept women that are home with the kids but not men.
Not from my experience
My friends husband stayed home and worked pt at night.
@@user-rb8mj5ci4n where are you from? In my experience it is exactly what happens. It is the very normal in latin america but also in Germany and Swissland. In those countries, lots of women stay home for their children for some time
Nobody should have to die ...because of someone who is mentally disturbed ....it happens every min.
We aren't supposed to remarry after divorce unless of extenuating circumstances, like death of a spouse.... My point, if one get divorced for selfish reasons like, the sex just isn't as good anymore or I grew out of him or her or we just don't get along; understand that you will inherit a curse or 2 from this decision... try not to look at it as religion....try to see it as science....to be analogous, you can depend on this dynamic to occur like you depend on the sun to rise...
Just 1 hour after posting Dr Grande already has 8609 views and climbing....
Jealous of the wife's career and stays at home with his stepdaughter?
Who else immediately squinted at the screen?
Yo bro! What's with all the cactus?!?!?!
I've meet far too many couples like this. Always fighting but never take the common sense path of separation.
Dr. Grande, do you think you could do a video on that doctor who has an infatuation with cacti, even though he lives in Delaware?
You understand that is a green screen background.
Eavesdropping?! What?!
"A very borning version of Truman Show." That's some great writing there!
I'm not going to do the research but I'd like to map where each of these stories originate. I think Dr Grande is in Texas so maybe he focuses more on certain states. But this wild stuff seems more prevalent in the south where I am from. Maybe something in the water?
That husband sounds like a male Amber Heard. 😮
And unattractive to boot.
21 cams.. thats overkill. !!
That's a keeper.
Could you make a video on Ravi Shankar? A self proclaimed guru and leader of "the art of living foundation"
I have nothing to contribute except my congratulations on an excellent channel
im so glad i have no sex drive it only leads to stress... not the murders im talking about being married to some crazy old lady.
I thought that was Tanya Harding in the thumbnail
Imagine what it must have been like to be a child in that home where the children were always having to work for no pay in home care while growing up during their every waking moment as if their family home was instead thanks to Matt who had established it as a public place always. No wonder they left home at an early age.
I'm generating an interesting dialogue.
You can be charged for eavesdropping???
If you didn't know that you should put the on/off switch for your security cameras, where they can be seen by the security cameras, now you know.
That said, I think he might be guilty of being unlikeable and of not looking innocent at all. What that bodes for his actual innocence is beyond me.
Omg 😢 this couple sounds very much like a friend of mine and her husband! Just a few days ago I took her to the hospital because he had strangled her the night before 😮😢😢😢😢😢
Yep 😊
Do we really know how this monster treated the daughters monsters are monsters capable of ANYTHING
It is a simple operation/outfit.
Poor woman 😥😥😥😥
met online in 1996 I doubt that really
AOL Chatroom?
20 cameras outside, and 1 inside......
Lemme guess the ONE inside was placed in the bathroom right???????
Dude seems like a creep!
Thanks!
He turned off cameras of course to get rid of her as well as the cell
I haven't seen anything about this case beyond this video, but it seems to me it's possible he killed her by overdose on GHB. I don't know the details, but I think stopping breathing is a possible death from GHB. I have no idea if the timeline and their tests would have covered this. But at least GHB could be used to incapacitate someone so they are easy to suffocate and unable to defend themselves. I think assuming GHB was used for sexual purposes is jumping to conclusions.
Can you analyze Ralph "bucky" Phillips
They are like the Smiths family in a movie "The Smiths" if I'm not mistaken.
“Hello, this is Dr. Grande. Today’s question is, can I analyze the case of Matthew Bevilaqua”.
Sorry- that’s just the first Matthew that came to mind.
Where’s Jonny?
Missed the chance..... TRUWOMAN SHOW
The empirical finding at 15:55 is unsurprising (to me) while also being quite interesting. Is it due a belief that wives should just submit so that the husbands are enraged at this social transgression or is there some truth to the argument that some women weaponise their tongues and that their husbands, being overmatched in that arena, resort to their fists? Not that that would excuse the husbands behaviour but it’s food for thought.
Also curious to know the circumstances in which most of those recordings were made. Presumably it would usually be the wife so they might (a) have thought that the recorded level of verbal provocation was acceptable behaviour and/or (b) goaded the husband somewhat in order to collect evidence of his behaviour.
he threw her out like a piece of trash naked and face down. there was anger there. disrespect anger resentment… im so sorry to this wife and children
It's a sad story and too many of them out there that cause this turmoil.
She chose to stay with him. You’re not a victim if you put your hand in a fire.
No that doesn’t excuse him either. They seemed to both be terrible
I've realized reactive abuse can make you look like the crazy one especially if the other person is a narcissist and remains calm. It will drive you insane.
That is so true! My ex wife would constantly accuse of of cheating with the neighbor Stephanie ( we lived in an apartment building ) cause she would come home and I’d be outside smoking and then go inside! I realize it looked shady in retrospect but after being accused already and embarrassed I did not want an argument in front of the other neighbors! She would keep on for hours and the angrier I got the more proof that was that I was cheating. I would leave at 2:00 am with a garbage bag of clothes quite often cause she kicked me out and then be accused again a week later! I never raised my hand only my voice but she would say I could call the cops and have you arrested for assault and they would believe me as she was rubbing her cheek to make it appear red! I finally left and didn’t come back she filed for divorce on abandonment even though she knew how to find me though it was the cheapest divorce cause it didn’t cost me anything more than pride and stuff! Later I found out she was diagnosed bi polar and also that she was cheating on me the whole time! Learned a lot about myself and marriage during that timeframe! Been married going on 13 years now and couldn’t be happier!
Exactly. His wife was the breadwinner, and was probably the alpha-controlling person. The problem is he should have left her years before. You can't change someone. You can only change how you react.
@@kenwillis8487I'm glad you moved on before something really bad happened. People don't shine the light on abuse women enact on men.
@@BadBob18 Oh, right, the guy who didn't work and installed 21 cameras to spy on his wife WASN'T the controlling jerk in this situation.
This is a classic example of domestic abuse which is about power and control. He was the abusive one, not allowing her out of the house and spying on her with 21 cameras. Why is it that the murdered person gets the blame?
When in the history of true crime has a wife been reported missing with her purse and cell phone left at the house, and it not been the husbands fault?
Dr. Todd wins "The calmest person on TH-cam" award! 🏆
Just about puts you to sleep in under (2) minutes.
Also most beautiful eyes
@@craigpennington1251 yes, an excellent sleep aid
Dr. Todd's persona is fairly typical of male counsellors. The field of counselling/psychology is feminist dominated, so for the few men who still work in the field to survive they must be seen and heard to be feminist by their colleagues, must keep their voice a calm monotone, must not move hands when talking, must blame men for the problems of society, and must make female colleagues laugh without breaking persona. Its all about being seen to be "the one good man".
very chill and informed guy
I feel like we should really call a rape a rape and not suggest consent. She denied his sexual advances and seemingly only gave in when coerced. She died with GHB and semen in her body. Who’s to say this is the first time he drugged her and had sex with her body, the fact that he had GHB seems like premeditated rape to me. He clearly has a history of sexually abusing her in one way or another.
Well isn’t that what marriage means? Sex is a given and can be taken by the man? What’s the point in exchanging rings and vows of wife can deny sex? Does that mean he gets to go have sex with a single unmarried mom who is ready for sex whenever?
@@discombobwow, just wow! I hope you're joking, although if so it wouldn't even be funny.
@@discombobyou need to try harder with the satire.
His use of GHB also raises my suspicions about why he couldn't get a job and had to stay home with her daughter.
@@discombobbro please reread this. Consent is something u need even when married. If someone doesn’t feel like doing it, the man shouldn’t accept that and just rape her anyway? Nice, very very nice.
Accuses her of being unstable and violent but she was the one able to hold down a high powered job and gained promotions in her work
Right? Who would have guessed that the guy without a job would be a jealous, crazy, controlling, violent abuser? Well, except everyone. Not victim blaming, but we all need to make better choices and stop dismissing red flags. When someone shows you who they are, believe them
@@Heathcoatman The vast majority of domestic abuse starts during pregnancy, or after a baby is brought home. Or after marriage, typically the abuser waits until you’re “locked in” to show their true colors.
People are often criticized heavily for “breaking up their families”. By the time you realize the extent of the abuse, you’re in too deep
@@magnolia6968 That's rarely the case, not sure where you are getting your info....Lifetime TV? The signs are almost always there from the start, and often the guy has exs everyone knows he abused. People see their other as they want them to be, not as they are. They make excuses for his behavior, then when the abuse starts they act shocked. Unlike made for TV movies, these guys are rarely the Jekyll and Hyde you say they are. The signs are there from the start, and often these women will leave one abuser and end up with another. You cant be attracted to the bad boy then be shocked they turn out bad. I would give the same advice to men about bad women.
@@HeathcoatmanI couldn’t have said it better myself. Sometimes it takes a bit of life experience, plus a certain level of awareness to even accept the reality of it. What you said here is spot on and is not opinion, it’s fact.
being employed means you can't possibly be abusive? this has gotta be the dumbest thing i've ever heard. So a MAN (I'm guessing you just hate men) who has a well paid job and gets promotions cannot be unstable and violent. Also people also behave differently behind closed doors when compared to their professional life.
The police had AUDIO recordings BUT DID NOT LISTEN TO THEM.
this in and of itself is highly suspicious and should be looked into, even if it was just do to incompetence... SMH Disgusting
people always think the cops were bribed or are corrupt, when the real answer is that they are usually just completely incompetent, and don't feel like working hard on most days.
I know right!
100% I was gobsmacked to hear that. Unbelievable.
It's more unusual for the police to actually take the time to investigate a crime than it is to have them be lazy like in this case!
How many times do we see a crime where everyone says... "if the police had only (fill in the blank)!" Way too many!
@@LifesPeachy321
It's called hindsight bias.
This is wrong. I had a girl friend who 3 months into dating wanted me to install an app on my phone that would allow her to see where Im at whenever she wanted. She used the excuse that shed be able to know how long it was before i got to her place after I left. After she suggested this it took about 5 days to ferment in my head I knew I needed to dump her crazy azz. Just a bad sign of things to come.
YES a red flag for sure
I feel that one course taught in high school should be on relationships and recognising when you are in a controlling and abusive relationship... And this goes beyond intimate relationships and extends to the relationships we have with family and friends.
If these courses existed, I would have recognised that my stepfather was an abuser. People believe that if somebody isn't physically assaulting you that it doesn't constitute as abuse. Then by the time they do realise what is happening, they are in deep and can't escape.
@@TiffWaffles Thats such a good idea! And ya.. mental abuse, especially when subjected to it from birth, will shape and ruin lives. I know this all to well. I wont get into it but I struggle to be happy and at ease.. it feels impossible for me to achieve because of the abuse our borderline mother subjected us to on a daily basis. Im just wired differently because of it and its a real chore to deal with and manage throughout my life.
Yes, it may not change the bad behavior but maybe it could help people to deal with that situation effectively,@@TiffWaffles
@@TiffWaffles agree 100%
Yet another situation of a man who's wife is the breadwinner and he becomes resentful, controlling and violent as a result.
I've noticed this pattern too!
It must be because boys are raised wrong. How pathetic must you be to resent that your wife has a (better paying) job. You should have worked harder. This husband comes across as someone who wanted to be handed everything on a plate without putting in the effort.
Maybe he's resentful, it's absolutely clear he was a piece of sh1t before the marriage to Nique. It's hard wired into us men the desire to provide. For all of human existence, certainly since civilisations the common arrangement was men being the bread winner and women responsibility is the home and family, I've even seen it with indigenous tribesmen in Siberia, both roles as important as each other. Only now we have decided that this is crap and by forced education, society is trying to switch this arrangement for 'whatever' goal, but I don't like the chances of it working. Men feel inferior and simply 'incompetent' if he is earning less than his partner, and it has been recorded many times that the women's attraction to her partner drops quite aggressively if she is out earning him. Neither are useful for long partnerships, the other reason is that there are no examples of a society structured like that that has existed for any length of time, same as with rulers, there has been some amazing female queens and rulers in general, I'm not saying women can not do these things at all, just in general i bossing's more suited to a male brain so you will get a higher consistency of decent Prime Ministers, decent is a big ask, competent enough to read into a microphone
righton! the man feels emasculated, lonely, frustrated and ignored. He shoul dhave gotten some sort of job or volunteer work or something!!
They were both abusive towards each other. Two toxic couples ending in tragedy
This is why you don't marry a loser. Full stop.
At least you know why you're single
The very best advice.
Right!!
Yep sounds about right. Don't marry a loser and you will live happier. To many losers out there it baffles my mind. We all have our problems but some people just seem to attract more problems and never take responsibility.
You have to marry a loser if you're a loser yourself.