There should be no excuses for staying in a relationship with someone that puts you through more stress and pain over love and joy. 💙TH-camr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
I have always been a dumpee. A dumper, for the lack of better term, is usually more of an avoidant attachment, to the best of my understanding. The dumpee is, generally speaking, a bit of anxious attachment. If I consider myself a secured attachment, but with life experience of experiencing several abandments, including deaths, divorce, and my attachment shifts. I can recognize the agony and pain as being a dumpee or being led on. BUT, our Lord is long suffering, and HE calls us to follow. I can only speak for myself that the pain and agony are my sources to grow. To forgive a dumper is to forgive myself, as a dumpee, and an uliltimte form of loving the dumpee as who she/they is/are because our Lord wants me to grow. May our Lord keep you and me and bring us strength.
Thank you Elizabeth, God bless you. These advices are very useful. I felt like you were describing my story. I tried to end my relationship with my girlfriend, but we kept seeing each other in the church group, so I could see her pain and it made me feel so bad, and after a month we came back together again, but I was never completely sure of that decision. In the meantime, I was praying to God to let me know what should I do, and I used to say to my girlfriend: God told me this and this... And one day she told me: stop saying it's God's will, you're not assuming your own responsibility. And I thought: she's so right. I think I've learnt most of this the hard way. Now we are in this relationship again, and I've been trying to discern for a long time if we should continue or maybe it would be better to break up, but I'm afraid that if we keep seeing again, we will end coming back together again. She feels good with our relationship, and she says she wants to get married with me, but I feel most of the time I don't want to get married with her.
if you dont want to get married with her, please, for her sake and all the women who are in these type of relationships-break up with her. Be honest, don't lead her on. It is not fair. She deserves to know the truth, she deserves to heal, she deserves to have someone, who will want to be with her, even if she may not see it yet, that you are not the one. If God wants her to work on things, and maybe, she is attached to you rather than in love- maybe she needs to learn if by hard situations. I am a woman and I was in a relationship- literally, I am straight after break up with my boyfriend who I still have feelings for and like etc. I cannot be lead by the emotions and feelings of loneliness being on my own. This is not the way forward. Even tho I was the was who made a clean break (this time for real, although still hoping deep down God will put us back together-but knowing it wont probably happen)I know I cannot wait or make him wait, i cannot have hopes and give hopes when I have discerned through 15 months of being together that he is not a good husband material for me. IT IS HARD AND WILL BE HARD. But we have no right to lead someone along for our own comfort. Please, be honest with her.
Get out of that relationship for her sake, not yours. She is living in a delusion that her boyfriend loves her and wants to marry her. The truth will set her free. God bless you. You can do this!
Yes, it is, but facing truth is also, since it requires courage, not something with which most people, short of training in the virtues in terms of the freedom to love in the first place, are familiar, much less comfortable. What I would like to know is whether the person doing this video has also had experience being on the receiving end of such a “difficult conversation”. I would say, without a doubt, that it’s a no brainer that the latter would be the more challenging of the two teaching forums, in that being on the receiving end of the rejection is the more difficult truth to face.
Thanks. Was gonna comment something similar. Her attitude grinds my gears. Yeah, be proud of yourself for the "courage" to wound someone else. Nowhere does she point out the contradiction between the "yes" you have already said with your body and the "no" you are saying with your words.
I need you to explain.....what a Catholic should do when one married a narcissist. I was married to a narcissist and about to receive my civil divorce. The next step is application for the annulment from God's own Earthly authority, The Catholic Churc
There should be no excuses for staying in a relationship with someone that puts you through more stress and pain over love and joy.
💙TH-camr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
Pls can you do video how to over come rejection or break ups without blaming God
I have always been a dumpee. A dumper, for the lack of better term, is usually more of an avoidant attachment, to the best of my understanding. The dumpee is, generally speaking, a bit of anxious attachment. If I consider myself a secured attachment, but with life experience of experiencing several abandments, including deaths, divorce, and my attachment shifts.
I can recognize the agony and pain as being a dumpee or being led on. BUT, our Lord is long suffering, and HE calls us to follow. I can only speak for myself that the pain and agony are my sources to grow.
To forgive a dumper is to forgive myself, as a dumpee, and an uliltimte form of loving the dumpee as who she/they is/are because our Lord wants me to grow.
May our Lord keep you and me and bring us strength.
Very grateful THANKYOU so very much xxxx god has just given me courage!!!❤
You're so welcome! Here's another video Elizabeth did more recently if you'd like to check it out: th-cam.com/video/PoD7W7nuf2A/w-d-xo.html
Thank you Elizabeth, God bless you. These advices are very useful. I felt like you were describing my story. I tried to end my relationship with my girlfriend, but we kept seeing each other in the church group, so I could see her pain and it made me feel so bad, and after a month we came back together again, but I was never completely sure of that decision. In the meantime, I was praying to God to let me know what should I do, and I used to say to my girlfriend: God told me this and this... And one day she told me: stop saying it's God's will, you're not assuming your own responsibility. And I thought: she's so right. I think I've learnt most of this the hard way. Now we are in this relationship again, and I've been trying to discern for a long time if we should continue or maybe it would be better to break up, but I'm afraid that if we keep seeing again, we will end coming back together again. She feels good with our relationship, and she says she wants to get married with me, but I feel most of the time I don't want to get married with her.
if you dont want to get married with her, please, for her sake and all the women who are in these type of relationships-break up with her. Be honest, don't lead her on. It is not fair. She deserves to know the truth, she deserves to heal, she deserves to have someone, who will want to be with her, even if she may not see it yet, that you are not the one. If God wants her to work on things, and maybe, she is attached to you rather than in love- maybe she needs to learn if by hard situations. I am a woman and I was in a relationship- literally, I am straight after break up with my boyfriend who I still have feelings for and like etc. I cannot be lead by the emotions and feelings of loneliness being on my own. This is not the way forward. Even tho I was the was who made a clean break (this time for real, although still hoping deep down God will put us back together-but knowing it wont probably happen)I know I cannot wait or make him wait, i cannot have hopes and give hopes when I have discerned through 15 months of being together that he is not a good husband material for me. IT IS HARD AND WILL BE HARD. But we have no right to lead someone along for our own comfort. Please, be honest with her.
Get out of that relationship for her sake, not yours. She is living in a delusion that her boyfriend loves her and wants to marry her. The truth will set her free. God bless you. You can do this!
Can you do a video on authentic discernment please!
Thank you! ❤️
The attitude in this is horrible to listen to, but there are a couple good points in the middle and at the very end.
Yes, it is, but facing truth is also, since it requires courage, not something with which most people, short of training in the virtues in terms of the freedom to love in the first place, are familiar, much less comfortable. What I would like to know is whether the person doing this video has also had experience being on the receiving end of such a “difficult conversation”. I would say, without a doubt, that it’s a no brainer that the latter would be the more challenging of the two teaching forums, in that being on the receiving end of the rejection is the more difficult truth to face.
Thanks. Was gonna comment something similar.
Her attitude grinds my gears.
Yeah, be proud of yourself for the "courage" to wound someone else.
Nowhere does she point out the contradiction between the "yes" you have already said with your body and the "no" you are saying with your words.
I need you to explain.....what a Catholic should do when one married a narcissist.
I was married to a narcissist and about to receive my civil divorce. The next step is application for the annulment from God's own Earthly authority, The Catholic Churc
horrible advice.