One SURPRISING Emotion That Makes 92% of Men Respect YOU
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- One SURPRISING Emotion That Makes 92% of Men Respect YOU
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One under-discussed conversation in the dating, mating & relating realm is the lack of respect many men have for women.
Now I'm not suggesting men are disrespecting women and yet when it comes to romantic love many men are very selfish in the way they date... only thinking of themselves.
In today's video, we are going to explore the DEEPER need women can shift with this one emotion.
Let's talk about... One SURPRISING Emotion That Makes 92% of Men Respect YOU - แนวปฏิบัติและการใช้ชีวิต
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I was in a relationship with someone who snored badly and I asked multiple times and that person never did anything do make it better... he ended up sleeping in the separate bedroom because I couldn’t sleep. That led to our relationship ending.
Most of the men I’ve met have been lazy and only go for the low hanging fruit. I’m still here at the top of the tree, waiting for one that’s smart enough to get a ladder.
Oyeah
Yes girl 🙌
Me too.
Right!!!???
I mean come on!!!!
I’m educated
I’m stable
I’m fun
…
Gee whiz!!
What is meant for you will not pass you. 🙏 Wisdom is not knowledge, wisdom is experience. I, at 60 years young have had lots of experience. I do consider myself full of wisdom at this time in my life. It’s all good! Remember, All Is Well! 😊
Boundaries are sooooooo important in any relationship! Be a firm boundary holder
Snoring never bothered me. It reminded me he was there and I wasn’t alone. I’m a real light sleeper but I can selectively tune it out like kids yelling or a dog barking.
Resonates with me! Thank you Jonathan. Why did my ex act in love with me, but could never listen to my firm and kind requests? Being with him was a constant battle. When someone asks me for something I enjoy making them happy. Of course there are times to discuss and come to agreements, Why is that so hard for some? Blows my mind.
Thank you dear Jonathon ! You are of great value as a human being, and you share with such warmth and humanism ! Highly appreciated...
Wow, thank you!
A woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle
😂 exactly! They're Not needed!!!!
Hahahahhaah! 🙌
True!
Just curious why the need to listen to johnathan then?
Yes, respect him & yourself by honestly kindly stating my truth! The more I do it, the easier it becomes !
My boyfriend snores so loud.....at first it was hard but now I cant sleep without his snoring.....helps me feel safe I guess, coz then I know he is there😊
So cute mindset😃
My last relationship, of 3 years,, was with a chronic snorer. He was not prepared to do anything about it,, I never felt respected. But I’m missing him terribly. But back to the snoring,, he had shifted in with me,, as he had no where to live,, and he set up the spare room as his own,, to not disturb me.. but our intimacy went. I was so sad,, as he wasn’t a n affectionate person anyway.. he was fine.. I felt lonely in my own house. We are in our 50’s,, and it’s very hard to meet people. I pray he will wake up to himself and realise his love for me...... I’m dreaming though
Plenty of good guys out there still....keep looking! DONT settle for a selfish unaffectionate man. You DESERVE BETTER!!! God bless! Never give up!
My girl please drop this guy. Practice self love and a man will show up that will be a blessing in your life. This guy does not sound like he appreciates you.
I dated a man this was 10 years ago a man who snored like a grisly bear on attack mode it was something awful & nothing over the counter worked & he quickly stopped using he’s sleep apnea machine i wasted 4 years of my life in that hell. He also was a heavy alcohol drinker. *Alcoholic* he showed me that side later. One day I woke up and left him.
Love this video! Boundaries are so important.
Thank you so much for this. I always say I am not for the faint hearted men who feel intimidated when you set boundaries out of self love. Thank you thank you thank you. I love this topic
You are so welcome
My father and my husband snore. I love them both.
Ok in my last relationship it was with a guy I was friends with when we were in our late teens (in the 60’s) which was 50 yrs ago!!! But he has respected me all those yrs for a couple of things that I stood for ... I didn’t (even in my teens) like a guy that cussed around me and I didn’t like guys that smoked weed or any kind of drugs......and this was during the 60’s when “anything goes”... but I have never been that kind of girl even to this day... when he found me on fb 50 yrs later he rt off the bat told me that he really admired me all along for these 2 things......
Hello marguerite. So did you end up in a relationship with him after all these years? How was it? I have a similar situation, but have never been with the person.
@@MN-re9oh not really... he lives 5 hrs away and doesnt have a decent car to get him long distances .... we had a phone relationship for 2 yrs but he turned out to be a huge flirt and has lots of very young girl friends and was always bringing them up and was even considering moving one of them into his house and was expecting me to be ok with that.... eventually i called him out on some things and he abruptly ended any and all communication with me....
@@margueritecrater6016 - You dodged a bullet. Both of those things you listed are superficial things that do not define a person's character, and often men will say they respect such things in women because those women end up taking on a mothering role. It sounds like that is what he was doing: looking for "mommy" and then he goes out and behaves like a teenager. Find a man who will love you even when you cuss and/or smoke weed. Not saying to do those things, and of course you won't, I'm saying that if a man is "respecting" you for things that are surface and superficial, then that is easy for him. If he respects you with your flaws? Then you've got something there. Also, not that cussing and smoking weed are flaws either, but some people judge others for doing those things.
Thank you for your insight. Always helpful. You give me the push I need to set my own boundaries and ask for what I need in my new relationship.
You got this!
I truly appreciate what you have to say. Too many videos give advice that sounds more like manipulation than real wisdom
My ex snored and didn't care that I couldn't sleep.
So we had separate rooms.
The man I'm dating now is just snoring in a quiet and cute way. ( We didn't have sex, we just share hotel room on vacation.)
Great point Jonathan and I concur! Also, I love Brene Brown's work. I've read Daring Greatly. So helpful. Be solid in your empowerment, YES! Great video, I appreciate you!
Thank you for stating this so clearly. Someone needed to. If men can demand respect without being vilified for it how could they expect any less from women who are their equals.
I’m just sooooo happy when my man is there, that I couldn’t care less that he snores louder than a pneumatic drill. We adore each other!
Thank you for Brightening up my Day! Jonathan!
Great video, perfect timing. Thank you and be safe.
Thank you and ditto... 🙏
I appreciate your work, I truly enjoy listening to you.
Thank you 🌸
The first time I slept at my partners place, he told me if I woke up in the night and he wasn't there , it meant he was snoring and gone to sleep on the couch bed..... he said it was important I knew he hadn't deserted or abandoned, rejected me. He wanted me to have a good restful sleep. 🤗🥰 2 years later we're happier than ever and his thoughtfulness continues. Ps. He snores rarely and it never bothers me.
I like the way you keep things simple in your couching and get down to the point.
I appreciate that!
I like the fact that you post so often.
Is it too late to set boundaries after you've been with for 10 years
@@jessicagalford2821 it's never too late. I am setting boundaries after 5 long years
Me too and they’re short and sweet! 😊
Love it I am very kind but not so firm and assertive and just for the record I try watching the ads all the way thru I heard it helps you 💕
Recently, I had a fella invite me over for dinner, movie, and a romp in the hay. Apparently, he thought I was desperate. I told him I didn't want to complicate my life. He said there was nothing like the touch of a man. Then I put the hammer down. I told him what I tell my nephews. "Peace of mind is better than a piece of ass!" He finally got the message 🤣
Jon, This is great material. Thank you so much.
My husband snores, has a CPAP machine that he intermittently uses, and sleeps in the living room during his non usage times. So, he thinks he’s doing me a favor sleeping there but if he was responsible and used it daily I would feel loved and respected
For people who have problems falling asleep snoring can be a huge problem.
Dairy didn't let me sleep. I take Osteoprocare instead of dairy. I need no gluten also and supplements/Vit D3 5000IU/sunlight etc.. Raising oxygen in the brain may help sleep. Vit K2 may help unclog the blood vessels..raise oxygen.
I am a woman.. And that's me who snores!! 😂
Lol me too
Me too :)
I'm starting my book collection with your fantastic book list thank you Dr..💖❣❣❣
Love this advice!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 You look Happy today! Thank you!
Thank you! You too!
I loved this talk! Very insightful and relatable . Ill check out your book!
Thank you...
Great advice! Usually when you like someone y'r afraid he'll leave if you won't say the right things. Now i know i have to set boundaries in firmly. Thank you!
Absolutely!
Wow! Thank you Jonathon. Through your videos, I am understanding a lot about my past relationship AND what it is I want in the event I am courageous enough to try relationships again.
Thanks for sharing!!
🙋♀️ Totally agree with you! I married my university sweetheart 26 years ago. We are still very happily married.
The first week we met, he told me that he wanted to marry me... I told him straight up I don’t marry smokers- (he was a social smoker). That was the last day he smoked. 👌 We have built our relationship on straight talk not petty talk. Your advice here is spot on Jonathon.
This was a pretty meaty video. Glad I got to hear it! Great examples of what you were trying to convey as well. Thank you. I struggle staying within my power.
Did! Takes courage and rethinking.... and retraining oneself ...you’re GOOD!!
Hallelujah Jonathon 🎉
Thank you for your content. I love that it helps put my thoughts in perspective. I needed the hug too thanks 🤣
Thank you 😊
I love Brene's work and her take on vulnerability. I recommend her Netflix documentary! I think vulnerability is so important, it's a great strength.
Do you know what it's called? Would live to see it.
@@Dee-mc4qg The call to courage! I think it’s still on there
Good Afternoon Jonathan, I was married to a man who snored and so did my father! LOL i appreciate what you shared in regards to leaning forward and firm in what we say and do. That was good! Thanks for all you do always and I pray that you and your family are well. Blessings
That is awesome!
Seven years. He won’t do anything about it. We haven’t slept in the same bed in years. I got a eye mask that has headphones in it. It’s not comfortable. He won’t do anything. I recently brought it up to him and flat out said “if I were the one you’d get a cpap machine” and he said no he wouldn’t.
Very strange. So much disrespect.
Not just what you say but how you say it to us...another great video...love u johnathon
💯 agree! Had that happen with an ex where I knew something was off and sure enough he was with another women. Fortunately I kept my boundaries with it all, as I am mastering listening to my gut for sure! 🙏
Absolutely. All men snore😃. Yet it has never stopped me from sleeping well. I imagine it as a lullaby for me 😅 and I fall asleep in a minute. I have a good imagination.
Thank you 😊
TY Jonathan!!!! I needed this today! However, I'm going to be applying it towards my relationship with my kids (single mom here). Also, Brene' is *fabulous*!!
You are so welcome!
Thank you Jonathon for all the information you are sharing with us. I’m finding it tremendously helpful and your f bombs don’t bother me at all! Love your passion!
Really liked your message today about EMPOWERMENT. Also really connected to your massage yesterday, confused about men over 40. The man I’m seeing is 61, I’m 58, never looked at it from the other point of view about his traumas. Something to really think about. Thanks so much.
Thanks Lucy...
Nice to to be Valued & respected, you r important! Very Refreshing!
Yes! Empowerment energy!
My partner snored loudly and I didn’t let it bother me as my father snored.
Happy Sunday 🌞
Same to you
Thank you! Im so happy i stumbled upon your channel! Good info here! I like men coaches because women just dont get men lol. You have very gentle eyes by the way😊 thanks for the air hug😊 hugs to everyone🤗
Welcome aboard!
Brene Brown is one of my favorite authors. I love all of her books. Great suggestions, Jonathon!!!
Have a beautiful day !
Thank you for that lesson
My pleasure!
Have a blessed day Johnathon
Ditto... hugs
Jonathon Aslay Thank you I really needed that today
Its funny, when my sons father and i first started dating and i first went over to his place where he was roommating and i got up to the threshold of his bedroom and i seen that 1 it was a small back room made into a bedroom and 2 i could barely see the floor. First words out of my mouth was..."If we ever move in together...i wont put up with THIS!" and i pointed down to the floor. We ended up eventually moved in together and he always picked up after himself and cleaned dishes. Im a neat freak (Virgo) and my places were always clean and neat.
Thanks for the another empowerment ...🙏🙏🙏
You are so welcome
Glad you spoke about your snoring and that you respected your partner enough to go out and try to fix it. Very Nice. Well my husband snored so bad ( worsening over the years) and I would plead with him that I couldn't take it I need my sleep. Bottom line is that he stated that I should just get "used to it".
No freakin effort on his part to solve the problem. But you made me see that he was really being disrespectful. It didnt bother him so why should he do anything about it. He had that attitude more and more. Finally I woke up!! I have since divorce the narcissistic selfish piece of shit and learning to set boundaries. Thank you Jonathan.👍🥰
Amen to that 🙌
YASSSS... Guys need to know where we are staying! ☺️👌🏻 Love Berene Brown and all of her books! 📚🤩
I love your energy 💕🙏😊
Yes my man snore, so what I love him....music to my ears 💖😉
This is great (volume down LOL) I love this and practice it. And if the man doesn’t like it then he doesn’t respect your needs. My ex snored like a freight train all night long. I got no sleep when he stayed. I told him and he just denied it. Said he had recorded himself one night and he only snored for five minutes. That’s so not the case. But in the end he wasn’t my guy. He showed many more Narc traits after that. So this is also a great way to find out what he’s like in culpability.
I love to watch your videos as of recently. This one, I agree with the percausion of communication and lack of ego. Because, one person's feeling like lack of respect could be based on lack of clear communication and the other person living their own life and being clueless to the other person's feelings. So, yes firm, but be easy too... Easy as in patient...etc..
Also, I realize its just an example, but its a two way street. She could sleep with earlplugs too...
You are so very refreshing. The j. Gray and dr. Ruth methods have to be dispelled. You are doing a great job changing my perspective.
Yup, snoring is a deal breaker and my internal med doc got me a snore guard years ago. My parents are both on c-pap machines. You lose your breathing muscles on those machines.
Dang, I learn something new from you each day. I share your insights with lots of ppl. Thank you, dear one.
Just curious, what do you mean by disspelled? Do you have something that says that?
Love!
O my! Going to look into this for my bf!
😂The first time I slept with my boyfriend he snored all night long and when the morning came he asked me how I slept, I told him I didn't sleep because you wereing snoring. He felt bad and he said he will try not to snore next time. The next night came he still snored, but as much. My mom used to date this guy that snores and I hated and now I'm dating a guy that snores😬
A person cannot stop snoring on their own. He might need to see a doctor. He may have large tonsils or adenoids which causes snoring.
My first guy I’ve dated in 25 years due to my husband’s illness… I’m healthy and eat healthy. I’m full of life and positivity!!!This guy says he wants to improve his eating due to diabetes and wants my help. After the 3rd date I found out he has no intention of being actively healthy at all. He says he’s old and plans on dying in his 60’s!!!!
Bye Bye!!!!!
Yuck!!!!
O appreciate your words tks
Respect is very important in a relationship
I have one question for you.why is it so hard for some men to open to their partner,even if it is obvious they love them?
He most likely has an unhealed wound around love, closeness and intimacy.
Hilariously Accurate.
Dad snores.
Mom
was deaf in one ear.
She slept on her good ear.
Screening process for mate:
ALL compatibility/discussion/vetting aside...
Share at the onset,
(I'm a silent sleeper.
Serene.)
The Biggest question,
(Not connected to character is)
"DO YOU SNORE?"
Snoring is something that my ex did. I LOVE IT! It helped me sleep. Something I will Miss... got to move forward. Yup, I'm different. 😊
I was sure you were going to say anger. This was so much better!
Firm a confident emotion and anger is an angry emotion
Interesting story, Jonathon. My dad was a huge snorer but somehow my mom got used to it. Probably because she went to bed hours before he did (he was a night owl and she a morning person). But I've never been with a snorer and it'd probably drive me crazy. Isn't there a surgery for people who snore a lot, too? Anyway, I like how she and you handled it. I have no problem with being firm about my boundaries and if I were in her shoes, I probably would've done the same thing. I hope I would've been kind about it. But if a man doesn't want to do something about his snoring, it's probably time to move on.
Yes, have dated someone who snores. Very difficult. Had to leave his house or sleep on the couch.
I had a man that I liked very much but he had horrible oral hygiene. He told me he knew that there was something bothering me because he could feel that I liked him but I was putting him in the friend zone. I told him finally that it was his teeth and he offered to go see a dentist to fix his mouth. I told him that I felt like that should be something that he does because it’s important to him because I didn’t want him to only care for his mouth because of me. Would have cost him thousands and I did feel like it would be unfair if the relationship didn’t work out. Does this make me shallow? I love to kiss and I just couldn’t. Even though I really did like him and wanted to .
Sounds like you spoke your truth...
I don't think is shallow, that's basic stuff and both people need to be on the same page.Nevertheless remember we all are a result of our family and if he didn't received the example of brushing his teeth then that habit unfortunately got engraved and he learned that was normal....but yeah.you gotta be firm on what you want.
I just don’t know how someone isn’t self respecting enough to deal with their own oral hygiene? How does it not drive them insane? Why wouldn’t it bother them? I’ll be single forever over this issue
True
Jonathan, check out the book, Breath, by James Nestor. An amazing book a s will help you with snoring and more.
OMG thank you for addressing snoring!! Nothing worse than when you are in a perfect cuddle, ready to fall asleep in your man's arms and then he roars out a violent SNNNOOORREEE!!! in your ear. 🤬
Also thank you for being respectful to your woman for finding some kind of treatment that works for you. I always tiptoed around that subject but your suggestions and how we should be firm on what we need has really enlightened me! Thank you Jonathan! 🤗
Snore guard saves lives
@@JonathonAslay how'd you know I wanted to kick him out of bed.. Out the door so he'd roll off the balcony? 🙃😂
OMG the snoring my ex didn’t care mr selfish i said ex right
The firmness, being resolute, will scare some away all right. It's happening to me. Good riddance. Newly separated after over 38 years of marriage (he has a girl friend at 71 years old), I find myself dating after 40 years with the same man. Lucky for me at 65, I look much much younger, like 50-55, still pretty, athletic physique, financially independent, educated, great sense of humor, world traveler and good story teller. I've been told I look like Candace Bergen. Men come on very strong to me. I am up front about not ready to be intimate, they claim they are soooo attracted to me and in it for the long haul to gain my trust and respect. After a short while, and I mean short 3-5 th date, they disappear. All except one. He's a LDR that's worth the wait.
Very nice 👍❤️😊
Thank you! Cheers!
Virtual 🤗 back 2u. Jon if I may ask u ... is your book Self love available om Amazon.?
My boyfriend made me aggressive when he told me my legs look like chicken legs.. I told him I had pictures of dead chickens in the supermarket in my head when he told me that..and I started crying..he will never ever dare to make such an ugly joke!!!!!!!
sending hugs
What a jerk. I hope you gave him hell for that stupid remark. LOL
Yess lol my ex snored and I continued to adore him... wanted to help him find a cure bc it did disrupt sleep and eventually affection 😫 he took that as an insult due to his insecurity ugh
My ex snored big time! One of the reasons he became an ex!
Gosh my ex snored like CRAZY!! I left him in may, but still sleep with noise cancelling headphones! 🤣
This is true I put up boundaries up and my ex came back
My ex husband for eleven years did not do anything about his severe snoring. I wonder why?
Brene (sp?) Brown is fabulous!!!
Low hang fruits.,..,lol. So funny. Thanks
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