Not really, a decent person doesn’t necessarily is high value, If she allows man to treat her like shit . That’s called a kind person with morals who lets men step on her toes
Thanks for this. At 68, I've discovered that many men will do better if they understand it's wanted from them. My late husband paid me the biggest compliment I've ever had: "You make me want to be a better man." Hearing that made ME want to do better. God I miss him.
How many women fail at those so called high value rules and still get the man anyway, why ? BECAUSE WHEN A MAN WANTS YOU , HE WANTS YOU PERIOD, nothing to do with sex, being too nice or too needy or anything else... Those types of behaviours a man will do only when he's not into you (ghosting, pulling back, not responding, breadscruming, not caring etc. ) A MAN WHO REALLY WANTS YOU WILL NEVER PUT HIMSELF IN A POSITION TO LOOSE YOU.
I totally agree!! When a man wants you there is no stopping him. Men go after what they want, it’s just that simple. Anytime I was in a relationship the man knew right away wether he wanted to date me, have sex with me or be in a relationship with me. Unfortunately men always dictate which way the relationship will go but ultimately it is up to a woman to accept what he is offering. Any man that wanted to be in a relationship with me always stayed consistent and I didn’t have to sit and wonder what he wanted and guess what I want a high value man!
Bang on. Women spend millions of hrs & dollars on MEN (videos, counseling, exercise, clothes, makeup etc). Men don't do sh÷t...drink beer, lie, just want sex, play games. If a man wants you it's simple and you know it. We need to stop wasting time on them. Not one has ever been good to me & I have boundaries, kindness, you name it. Men want the screwed up women that are "fun".
Johnaton, I am so sorry for the loss of your son that must be the greatest heartache "Those we Love don't go away they walk beside us everyday unseen, unheard but always near still loved still missed and very dear". Johnathon you remain so positive and fun well done that is an achievement "you obviously do make the world go around" . On a lighter note getting an Irish man to read the Four Agreement at that rate I won't have any fun until I'm pension age. I have noticed during this time of ""social distancing" which is kinda a paradox, I have had more attention and have been asked on more dates.... God Bless from Ireland it is so beautiful here like a little piece of heaven.
Reading some of the comments here.. wow I'm shocked at the amount of crap basic human behaviour people put up with. It starts with you. Deal with your stuff, learn boundaries, what a healthy person and relationship is and be that. Then you will attract and create a wonderful relationship and life.
Relationship isnt easy for either men or women. It's an experience of knowing how to handle personalities of the differences in people. It's about the narcissist that out there and the empaths. No give and or take. Who's right and wrong to meet in the middle! Noone taught us about those type of people. Love ya Jonathan!! Keep up the love sharing! We need more coaching being direct! I'm 71 and I'm still learning about relationship after 2 marriages. One with 30 yrs. Involvement. Thank you!!
I have the 5 and I am single living alone for 30 years.... Men don't value valuable women or they are afraid to approach them. (as you gave me a ❤️, I read my comment and I've corrected the preposition - happy to know that what we say matters to you ❤️)
I’m very proud of you as one human to another, that you lost your son a couple of years ago and you were able to go through that grieving process and come through it and retain your own light and joy. You have remained present within your own life today instead of living in the past. That is really amazing to me. I’ve said that to you before about your son,. Being that you only lost him a couple of years ago that’s very accelerated work you did on your healing process. You really pushed through and shortened that duration that could’ve dragged on for years in despair. I would feel that way about anyone who has buried their child and overcome that to still emote the positive energy that you do. Hugs for that!!
I absolutely agree...love your book and how your son inspired you to write..think of his legacy and hiw many people you have helped via your son....love your vulnerability and you...hugs...thanks for all you are Jonathan ❤🦋
I gotta add that my Dad taught me all about integrity. Actions do need to meet your words. Unfortunately there isn't enough of that in relationships today and I have to ask if this means I am not respected enough as a person who always delivers. I don't say what I can't do ...and I expect the same in return. That's all I ask. Boundaries
Just found this video, very informative and honest. I have been trying online dating and it sucks! I will be messaging back and forth with somebody for a while and then all of a sudden they just stop messaging me and it's very disappointing. I want to say I'm very sorry for the loss of your son thoughts and prayers are with you.
Thank you Jonathan! I have five older brothers and none of them have stepped up like you have! 🤗 Also thank you for reminding us women that we need to be checking ourselves for the same behaviors.
I wish, I would have had a brother like you growing up. Thanks for stepping up and being that big brother/friend that tells us like it is - totally love that!! As far as I have seen, you are the only one out there speaking like you do about relationships. It is like a breath of fresh air. You are awesome!!
Oh my goodness I really needed to hear this. I put up with a man invalidating my feelings over and over and tried to be OK with it. WHY?? Ha had no empathy and no desire to even try to understand . The result was I felt totally worthless. Thank you for always cutting to the heart of the matter. I wish you were there as my protective brother with your ‘listen mo-fo’ attitude all the time! 💖
Guess it really needs the will to get to know eachother and it takes time. Unfortunately lot of people are not patient at all. Most of us have some baggage to deal with. Of course no one wants to show these struggles already at the beginning. But it's worth to be patient and have empathy/compassion for the other ones situation. We did great progress over distance. It's even harder
jess_moon I have no baggage. I keep my circle tiny to only my sister. No friends only associates. I love life and have found a great guy. 8 dates, he spent $4K on me on the second date and we have not had sex or even kissed. Making him work. I am the PRIZE, period!
Not all of us believe that men are knights in shining armor, who initiate, take charge, and save women. The irksome part is that you want us to understand men and give them grace for their failings in a way that men do not give grace to women for similar issues. I wasn’t aware of this until men literally told me that they weren’t willing to date/ deal with somebody who’s been hurt/ damaged. Men want you to take care of your ish but be their therapists and comfort... very shortsighted and selfish.
@@JonathonAslay It’s by the simple fact that you have not articulated in any of your videos what men are doing to show us the same understanding and openness, without expectation that women take the first step (It shouldn’t be an expectation that women always show vulnerability first). That might not be your intention with these videos, but thats how these videos are coming across and strong impression given. When I watched many of your videos back to back, the common theme seems to be that it’s the woman’s responsibility to make the relationship happen and to happen successfully (common phrase- lead). I hope that is not what you believe or mean. When will you address what leaps of faith are men taking? A video about identifying behaviors and actions that show effort and intent by men (without women initiating vulnerability every time), would be helpful. When you point out and give tips on what women should do it would be helpful to also point out how to ID actions men are doing to show they are putting in the work as well.. There are so many videos out there showing women all the things we need to do to keep a man in our life or to simply get a good man in our life, and most of the videos for men are about “how to get a woman” or “get what you want from women”. There’s something deeply and profoundly wrong with this trend of information and worse, people are excepting it. I do appreciate your intention and the work that you are doing here. Especially for the middle age group which is almost always ignored. I’m trying to convey my thoughts as concisely as possible. It’s a little bit of a struggle on a comment thread. I have a lot of questions and things I want to articulate, mainly because I literally watched all your videos.🤣🤦🏼♀️
I just needed to add that I’ve gone on hundreds of videos for helping men and women with relationships. It just seems like ( the majority) women are asking a lot of questions and trying to better themselves, while most men use the comment string as a place to insult women and joke about these help videos... That shows the truth of what’s really happening in the world of dating...
@@jess77surfs Comments on the internet are not an accurate representation of what's going on in real life. I talk to my male friends and they have similar problems with women. What these videos seem to say is you can only take responsibility for your own behavior, and since they are for women why would he be addressing men?
@@MaryJane-hr9vn he wouldn't be addressing men and that is not what I'm asking. I'm asking for input and feedback about men that we could understand. Examples of what they should do that we can look out for. I don't think that's asking a lot. Also, understand that what men are telling you are not what they say to each other when women aren't around.. if you assume they behave the same way around you that they do when it's just the boys, that's incorrect.
Thank you for this! I’m 26 and recently started dating someone who’s 44 years old. It’s a bit complicated since it’s kinda long distance we’re both in Mexico but different cities. But I really care for him although I’m going to take it slow I used to be self conscious in the past and now I’m in a better position I completely trust him. He has met me and my mother and I was supposed to meet his mother next week in Sweden but I lost my passport. But hopefully later on. Only tough thing is when we message each other is not much due to internet issues. But hope all goes well !
I’m so sad that you lost your child! Each time that you profess this, I want to hug you ❤️😢 We’ll find someone lovely when we love for the right reason. Love the person and not their things their career title their looks.. Love who the person is..
I went right up to my wall calendar at work and wrote “I choose to be happy!” On it as a reminder to think positively. Now let’s see if I get any comments from my coworkers, or if they also need that reminder. Lol!😃
I’m the prize, i am fit, sexy and smart why would I waste time with a low value man. Hell no! Too many ladies don’t know how to treat a man either. Don’t nag, be playful.
I appreciate your Saturday morning videos reiterating integrity and emotional maturity in relationship. And appreciate your references to books on relationship. So many important reminders in a confusing world of dating within different generations and during our current atmosphere.
I loved this video and I copied the names of the books mentioned ... I really have to get reading ! Hugs back to you Jonathan and the comments of victim vs victor were spot on and so true ! Kindness and empathy always ! Hugs to you 🤗
Jonathon, your son will Love you forever. Whats important is we Love from the heart daily and let the riff raff go.Bee happy and dont waste time on insignicant people or events
Great points, thank you Jonathan. And I’m sorry for your loss, I have a 19 year old son who’s the love of my life, I can feel your pain. Hugs to you! Back to dating, it’s exhausting! Haha
New Book titled Me First. Goes with self love. YOU ARE THE BEST! Thank you for your Selfless Devotion to help us all understand each other promoting love care acceptance understanding great communication and into me you see ❤❤❤
I love love love your videos, they are absolutely inspiring, encouraging and I always sit here with kind of a light smile in my face because they hold a special kind of life joy....with a deep understanding of humans‘ inner life. I feel sorry for your loss, it is hard to miss a Child in your life, my son Daniel passed away 6 years ago at the age of almost 21.
Love the advice! Sent a note to my oldest son regarding your book and another you recommend as great Christmas gift ideas. Thanks again! Best wishes...
This was awesome! Good good advice! Love the Led Zeppelin T shirt! I was at that concert at the Seattle King Dome! Epic! I could hear seals barking in the background of your video! Thank you Jonathan look forward to your videos every day! ❤️
I like the way you make us ( women) think more kindly of men...I mean in the way that we can choose to understand their issues that can be similar to our own. . it's important if we want success A great video. Empathy resonates big with me..my most favourite song is Stairway To Heaven by Zeppelin. ..thank you Jonathan for helping so many of us
You're my favorite uncle. 🙏🙌 You tackle each topics skin deep. Human behaviours are not complicated as long as we LEAN IN 😂 to understanding each other.
Hey 😊 you got a couple cool points with me based on that T-shirt you have on. That’s my all-time favorite band. Been a Led Zeppelin fan since about 14 years old. Great stuff.
Looove Led Zeppelin!! So jealous you were there in '77. I also love David Bowie, I was so sad when he died. He seemed so brave. I've been listening to you for a while and I bought your book so I think you mean "leaning in" is doing the work necessary either with yourself or with a prospective partner. "Speaking your truth, do it with kindness. " Leaning back sounds lazy and like you're leaving everything to chance. I think people need space, but leaning back feels like running away a little bit. Especially if you're confused by someone's behavior. I think clarity is better than "leaning back." I was confused about a guy, and the main problem was his words and actions didn't match... Next!
I appreciate the message here. Neither men nor women are perfect and both are responsible for themselves for sure. For me, having a history of abuse and assault from men, as well as friends who’ve been abused and raped by men, as well as a cousin of mine who was murdered by her boyfriend, it’s really hard to trust men for me sometimes. I know there’s good men, I have examples of some in my life, so looking for that empathy transparency respect etc..is super important for me to remember. Learning how to vet guys better... hopefully:) Thank you 😊
☕...❤️ your coffee time videos ...I'm all that and it feels great when you have your standards of your own behavior...guess we can't be all that all the time... but we can always revise our actions...learn...be vulnable... Great style today Jonathan!...great hair and t-shirt...looked soooo 80s ❤️
Hi Jonathan, the way to fix not knowing your neighbors issue is contributing to a housing co-op. Condos, buying houses only contribute more to isolation.
I like you Jonathan. I am so sorry about the loss of your son. Man that has to be a heart ripper. I like your real no nonsense approach. I have not read the 4 Agreements I will do that.
Again you are right on..what has made you so intelligent? It is very difficult meeting the right one due to the Covid crisis we are in. One has no choice but to use the internet, and it is very hard to gauge how a person really is, without meeting face to face..I think I can come pretty close to how YOU really are, just by your words that you use on each of your videos..lol..lol
I like listening to you because you have understood men and women both has similar needs when comes to relationship ... its said as human requirement for relationship not as how women should do to men to win their mind, body and soul
I like when you said to question men about their upbringing and other questions is so helpful so sorry I didn't have the information earlier it was all about snagging the male winning him being the prize and not about our self esteem
A good man is worth being patient with. Maybe they have some wound they need to process. I suggest some of those frustrated women to read "Men made easy how to capture his heart forever". Consider how you approach him in attitude. Maybe it's more you than the man. I can admit that I can be impatient but at the same time, I might have to examine my own thinking and actions and consider his reception or maybe he's going through a process.
Aww God love you! I love that you are able to still carry on and still want to help people with their dating and relationship issues. Its shows great courage, after suffering the loss of your son.
Johnathan buddy your fucking awesome! I just found you on TH-cam, omg... I can’t stop laughing 😂 I just subscribed thank you! I am so sorry to hear about your son however I am glad you are good! & I agree with everything you say 👌🏻😅
Hahaha I watch your every video and love each one!! I appreciate your knowledge and sharing the many things you have learned in your own life and more...you are a sweetheart and your videos mean so much to me...not only do I apply your teachings to my love life...but in all relationships I have. Speak your truth with kindness...and not about our own egos. You are the best....can you come live in Florida so you can be my best buddy/ friend LOL thanks as always Jonathon :)
Hi! Jonathan, I knew this man for a year now, he is a very nice men I've ever meet. He is always treated me good and respect me, and he is making sure that my car is clean and safe for me to drive, he always giving me a good complement, and every time I called him to do something for me, he is there, he never say, no I can't do it. until later on I feel in love with him. I wanna tell my feelings towards him but I feel embarrass because I am a woman, and I am thinking if I tell him and he doesn't feel the same I will be so embarrassed. What should I do?
I met a man at a time where I was healing... Our connection was strong...but he had some personal issues that he was trying to come out of... We realized it was bad timing... I texted him periodically he responded but eventually I just stopped...been thinking about him a lot lately ... wondering should I say "Hi" or just continue to stay away?
How open can you be or when can you start being transparent? Like telling secrets or desires?? I really believe it’s important to be and individual without sharing so much and to not interfere with the others individuality, but still confused of how much to tell someone before sleeping with them.
5 high-value attitudes: 1. Your actions consistently match your words. (Integrity) 2. You take personal responsability for your choices. (You have a Victor mentality vs. Victim mentality.) You can have bad experiences with men, but look for clues in yourself, not in men. (Read Brene Brown: letting go of imperfection). 3. Fighting fair (learning good conflict resolution skills. Not being right but chosing to be happy. Listening to the other, and finding a resolution.) And the man needs to accept what you say as your truth. Kind perspective. 4. Empathy. (I care about your feelings. Don't be in a relationship with someone who doesn't value your feelings. Do not settle for them.) 5. Transparency. (Be honest with the other one, authentic, vulnerable.) Also, if you're with a man, who is not transparent with you, constantly hiding from you, then the relationship will not work out. Read : the 4 agreements book, which is about building a relationship with integrity. So you need to adopt these high value attitudes/qualities/mindset. When these embody an emotional maturity in you, that will attract a great guy to you.
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I get sick of the term (high value) really it is just a decent person with morals and a kind heart.
Spot on!
Oh my goodness thank you for saying this TH-cam and the Internet are wearing me out with this high value designation
@@andreacarr2793 Me too :)
Exactly... Its not hard!!...
Not really, a decent person doesn’t necessarily is high value, If she allows man to treat her like shit . That’s called a kind person with morals who lets men step on her toes
Thanks for this. At 68, I've discovered that many men will do better if they understand it's wanted from them. My late husband paid me the biggest compliment I've ever had: "You make me want to be a better man." Hearing that made ME want to do better. God I miss him.
How many women fail at those so called high value rules and still get the man anyway, why ? BECAUSE WHEN A MAN WANTS YOU , HE WANTS YOU PERIOD, nothing to do with sex, being too nice or too needy or anything else... Those types of behaviours a man will do only when he's not into you (ghosting, pulling back, not responding, breadscruming, not caring etc. ) A MAN WHO REALLY WANTS YOU WILL NEVER PUT HIMSELF IN A POSITION TO LOOSE YOU.
I totally agree!! When a man wants you there is no stopping him. Men go after what they want, it’s just that simple. Anytime I was in a relationship the man knew right away wether he wanted to date me, have sex with me or be in a relationship with me. Unfortunately men always dictate which way the relationship will go but ultimately it is up to a woman to accept what he is offering. Any man that wanted to be in a relationship with me always stayed consistent and I didn’t have to sit and wonder what he wanted and guess what I want a high value man!
Bang on. Women spend millions of hrs & dollars on MEN (videos, counseling, exercise, clothes, makeup etc). Men don't do sh÷t...drink beer, lie, just want sex, play games. If a man wants you it's simple and you know it. We need to stop wasting time on them. Not one has ever been good to me & I have boundaries, kindness, you name it. Men want the screwed up women that are "fun".
I totally agree. My first and only spouse was just like that.
Exactly all my friends are dysfunctional and they're still in a relationship
@@zenawarrior7442 lol that's true. Stupid men love crazy bitches
It’s simple really if a man fancies you and is in right frame for a relationship he will pursue if not he will dissapear .. there’s nothing else to it
Exactly. When his taxi light is on, it’s on.
I love it. Don't be the "Victim" be the "Victor"...yes!!
Johnaton, I am so sorry for the loss of your son that must be the greatest heartache "Those we Love don't go away they walk beside us everyday unseen, unheard but always near still loved still missed and very dear". Johnathon you remain so positive and fun well done that is an achievement "you obviously do make the world go around" . On a lighter note getting an Irish man to read the Four Agreement at that rate I won't have any fun until I'm pension age. I have noticed during this time of ""social distancing" which is kinda a paradox, I have had more attention and have been asked on more dates.... God Bless from Ireland it is so beautiful here like a little piece of heaven.
Reading some of the comments here.. wow I'm shocked at the amount of crap basic human behaviour people put up with. It starts with you. Deal with your stuff, learn boundaries, what a healthy person and relationship is and be that. Then you will attract and create a wonderful relationship and life.
1. Actions Match words
2.Personal Responsibility
3.Victor Consciousness
4. Learning Good Conflict Resolution
5.Empathy
5 is Transparency
Relationship isnt easy for either men or women. It's an experience of knowing how to handle personalities of the differences in people. It's about the narcissist that out there and the empaths. No give and or take. Who's right and wrong to meet in the middle! Noone taught us about those type of people. Love ya Jonathan!! Keep up the love sharing! We need more coaching being direct! I'm 71 and I'm still learning about relationship after 2 marriages. One with 30 yrs. Involvement. Thank you!!
Well said!
Well put
I have the 5 and I am single living alone for 30 years.... Men don't value valuable women or they are afraid to approach them. (as you gave me a ❤️, I read my comment and I've corrected the preposition - happy to know that what we say matters to you ❤️)
So sorry for the loss of your son, 😞. No words.
Thank you for sharing. 🌿🎋🕊
Jonathon, this is the first video of yours I ever watched.
I am so sorry to hear about the passing of your son. 😢
Wish the best for you in your life.
Thank you so much... you are very kind to say.
I’m very proud of you as one human to another, that you lost your son a couple of years ago and you were able to go through that grieving process and come through it and retain your own light and joy.
You have remained present within your own life today instead of living in the past.
That is really amazing to me. I’ve said that to you before about your son,. Being that you only lost him a couple of years ago that’s very accelerated work you did on your healing process.
You really pushed through and shortened that duration that could’ve dragged on for years in despair.
I would feel that way about anyone who has buried their child and overcome that to still emote the positive energy that you do.
Hugs for that!!
WOW! Thank you so much... hugs
I absolutely agree...love your book and how your son inspired you to write..think of his legacy and hiw many people you have helped via your son....love your vulnerability and you...hugs...thanks for all you are Jonathan ❤🦋
I gotta add that my Dad taught me all about integrity. Actions do need to meet your words. Unfortunately there isn't enough of that in relationships today and I have to ask if this means I am not respected enough as a person who always delivers. I don't say what I can't do ...and I expect the same in return. That's all I ask. Boundaries
Just found this video, very informative and honest. I have been trying online dating and it sucks! I will be messaging back and forth with somebody for a while and then all of a sudden they just stop messaging me and it's very disappointing. I want to say I'm very sorry for the loss of your son thoughts and prayers are with you.
What dating site are you on? Online dating does suck but I’ve been on quite a few dates that weren’t so bad.
Thank you Jonathan! I have five older brothers and none of them have stepped up like you have! 🤗
Also thank you for reminding us women that we need to be checking ourselves for the same behaviors.
I wish, I would have had a brother like you growing up. Thanks for stepping up and being that big brother/friend that tells us like it is - totally love that!! As far as I have seen, you are the only one out there speaking like you do about relationships. It is like a breath of fresh air. You are awesome!!
You are so welcome
Oh my goodness I really needed to hear this. I put up with a man invalidating my feelings over and over and tried to be OK with it. WHY?? Ha had no empathy and no desire to even try to understand . The result was I felt totally worthless. Thank you for always cutting to the heart of the matter. I wish you were there as my protective brother with your ‘listen mo-fo’ attitude all the time! 💖
Sending hugs your way 🤗
Guess it really needs the will to get to know eachother and it takes time. Unfortunately lot of people are not patient at all. Most of us have some baggage to deal with. Of course no one wants to show these struggles already at the beginning. But it's worth to be patient and have empathy/compassion for the other ones situation. We did great progress over distance. It's even harder
Well said... 👍
jess_moon I have no baggage. I keep my circle tiny to only my sister. No friends only associates. I love life and have found a great guy. 8 dates, he spent $4K on me on the second date and we have not had sex or even kissed. Making him work. I am the PRIZE, period!
@@fitnessbabe7958 how
Jess moon "Everyone come with baggage find someone that loves you enough to help you unpack" Happy Christmas from Ireland.
Not all of us believe that men are knights in shining armor, who initiate, take charge, and save women. The irksome part is that you want us to understand men and give them grace for their failings in a way that men do not give grace to women for similar issues. I wasn’t aware of this until men literally told me that they weren’t willing to date/ deal with somebody who’s been hurt/ damaged. Men want you to take care of your ish but be their therapists and comfort... very shortsighted and selfish.
I'm a little confused, where in the video do I suggest men shouldn't give grace to women? In my video I repeat several times... this goes both ways.
@@JonathonAslay It’s by the simple fact that you have not articulated in any of your videos what men are doing to show us the same understanding and openness, without expectation that women take the first step (It shouldn’t be an expectation that women always show vulnerability first). That might not be your intention with these videos, but thats how these videos are coming across and strong impression given. When I watched many of your videos back to back, the common theme seems to be that it’s the woman’s responsibility to make the relationship happen and to happen successfully (common phrase- lead). I hope that is not what you believe or mean.
When will you address what leaps of faith are men taking? A video about identifying behaviors and actions that show effort and intent by men (without women initiating vulnerability every time), would be helpful. When you point out and give tips on what women should do it would be helpful to also point out how to ID actions men are doing to show they are putting in the work as well.. There are so many videos out there showing women all the things we need to do to keep a man in our life or to simply get a good man in our life, and most of the videos for men are about “how to get a woman” or “get what you want from women”. There’s something deeply and profoundly wrong with this trend of information and worse, people are excepting it.
I do appreciate your intention and the work that you are doing here. Especially for the middle age group which is almost always ignored. I’m trying to convey my thoughts as concisely as possible. It’s a little bit of a struggle on a comment thread. I have a lot of questions and things I want to articulate, mainly because I literally watched all your videos.🤣🤦🏼♀️
I just needed to add that I’ve gone on hundreds of videos for helping men and women with relationships. It just seems like ( the majority) women are asking a lot of questions and trying to better themselves, while most men use the comment string as a place to insult women and joke about these help videos... That shows the truth of what’s really happening in the world of dating...
@@jess77surfs Comments on the internet are not an accurate representation of what's going on in real life. I talk to my male friends and they have similar problems with women. What these videos seem to say is you can only take responsibility for your own behavior, and since they are for women why would he be addressing men?
@@MaryJane-hr9vn he wouldn't be addressing men and that is not what I'm asking. I'm asking for input and feedback about men that we could understand. Examples of what they should do that we can look out for. I don't think that's asking a lot.
Also, understand that what men are telling you are not what they say to each other when women aren't around.. if you assume they behave the same way around you that they do when it's just the boys, that's incorrect.
I love when you mention your son. Brings tears to my eyes every time. 🧂
awe.... thank you sooooooooooooo much. #saltyforever
'You know how much I F-ing hate the leaning back'...😄 Great life reminders as well as relationship reminders. TY.
Thanks... lol
Thank you for this! I’m 26 and recently started dating someone who’s 44 years old. It’s a bit complicated since it’s kinda long distance we’re both in Mexico but different cities. But I really care for him although I’m going to take it slow I used to be self conscious in the past and now I’m in a better position I completely trust him. He has met me and my mother and I was supposed to meet his mother next week in Sweden but I lost my passport. But hopefully later on. Only tough thing is when we message each other is not much due to internet issues. But hope all goes well !
The art of disagreeing without be disagreeable. Very important ✌️💓
I’m so sad that you lost your child! Each time that you profess this, I want to hug you ❤️😢 We’ll find someone lovely when we love for the right reason. Love the person and not their things their career title their looks.. Love who the person is..
I went right up to my wall calendar at work and wrote “I choose to be happy!” On it as a reminder to think positively. Now let’s see if I get any comments from my coworkers, or if they also need that reminder. Lol!😃
Love that!
I can’t imagine losing one of my kids. Thank you for sharing 🙏❤️🦋
I absolutely agree w/all 5 of these important values. Appreciate all of ur informative vids, Jonathon. Luv ur Led Zep shirt! Hugs 🙂🙂☮☮✌✌💕💕
I’m the prize, i am fit, sexy and smart why would I waste time with a low value man. Hell no! Too many ladies don’t know how to treat a man either. Don’t nag, be playful.
Hate it when women feel the need to put other women down. Men don't throw menkind under the bus.
Very shallow comment
I appreciate your Saturday morning videos reiterating integrity and emotional maturity in relationship. And appreciate your references to books on relationship. So many important reminders in a confusing world of dating within different generations and during our current atmosphere.
Happy to hear... thank you 😊
I loved this video and I copied the names of the books mentioned ... I really have to get reading ! Hugs back to you Jonathan and the comments of victim vs victor were spot on and so true ! Kindness and empathy always ! Hugs to you 🤗
here's where you can find these books... www.jonathonaslay.com/jonathon-recommends
I love your videos. You are honest and blunt. Just ordered 8 dates and 4 agreements books. You are so refreshing when you speak. Love it never stop
Thank you Jonathan. I’m a true honest person and I’m transparent.
Jonathon, your son will Love you forever. Whats important is we Love from the heart daily and let the riff raff go.Bee happy and dont waste time on insignicant people or events
Great points, thank you Jonathan. And I’m sorry for your loss, I have a 19 year old son who’s the love of my life, I can feel your pain. Hugs to you!
Back to dating, it’s exhausting! Haha
To love is when we give of ourself unselfishly. We want the person that we love to be happy and fulfilled.
I love the leaning back joke! I laugh every time.
New Book titled Me First. Goes with self love. YOU ARE THE BEST! Thank you for your Selfless Devotion to help us all understand each other promoting love care acceptance understanding great communication and into me you see ❤❤❤
Love your advice! You so understand where both women and men come from. You are a wealth of information. Thank you
I always give in with conflicts. I don’t like to argue.
You would make a great big brother. So wise. 😊🌸
I love love love your videos, they are absolutely inspiring, encouraging and I always sit here with kind of a light smile in my face because they hold a special kind of life joy....with a deep understanding of humans‘ inner life.
I feel sorry for your loss, it is hard to miss a Child in your life, my son Daniel passed away 6 years ago at the age of almost 21.
Omg... sending you lots of love, we belong to a shitty club. 😪🧂🙏💗
Sorry about your son. I can't even imagine the pain. 😢😢 I love your videos. I ordered the book self love last week.🙂😀
I recommended the Four Agreements twice in the last 4 months. I’d love to lead “The 5 Love languages “ with shops! Thanks for the reminders.
I listened to it here as an audiobook here on TH-cam.
Love the advice! Sent a note to my oldest son regarding your book and another you recommend as great Christmas gift ideas. Thanks again! Best wishes...
Wonderful!
This was awesome! Good good advice! Love the Led Zeppelin T shirt! I was at that concert at the Seattle King Dome! Epic!
I could hear seals barking in the background of your video!
Thank you Jonathan look forward to your videos every day! ❤️
Cool, thanks!
Lmao 😂 I love when you play the brother ...reminds me of my siblings 😅
I like the way you make us ( women) think more kindly of men...I mean in the way that we can choose to understand their issues that can be similar to our own. . it's important if we want success
A great video. Empathy resonates big with me..my most favourite song is Stairway To Heaven by Zeppelin. ..thank you Jonathan for helping so many of us
I appreciate that
You're my favorite uncle. 🙏🙌 You tackle each topics skin deep. Human behaviours are not complicated as long as we LEAN IN 😂 to understanding each other.
I appreciate that
Hey 😊 you got a couple cool points with me based on that T-shirt you have on. That’s my all-time favorite band. Been a Led Zeppelin fan since about 14 years old. Great stuff.
Thanks for sharing!!
No too tight! I enjoy your vidoes thoroughly and your angles on duality in fault blame or introspection
Love your vids. Grateful for your humor 🙏
Looove Led Zeppelin!! So jealous you were there in '77. I also love David Bowie, I was so sad when he died. He seemed so brave.
I've been listening to you for a while and I bought your book so I think you mean "leaning in" is doing the work necessary either with yourself or with a prospective partner. "Speaking your truth, do it with kindness. "
Leaning back sounds lazy and like you're leaving everything to chance. I think people need space, but leaning back feels like running away a little bit. Especially if you're confused by someone's behavior. I think clarity is better than "leaning back."
I was confused about a guy, and the main problem was his words and actions didn't match... Next!
I appreciate the message here. Neither men nor women are perfect and both are responsible for themselves for sure. For me, having a history of abuse and assault from men, as well as friends who’ve been abused and raped by men, as well as a cousin of mine who was murdered by her boyfriend, it’s really hard to trust men for me sometimes. I know there’s good men, I have examples of some in my life, so looking for that empathy transparency respect etc..is super important for me to remember. Learning how to vet guys better... hopefully:) Thank you 😊
Thank you for sharing...
Jonathon Aslay is learning how to vet guys better part of the discovery program, or how does that work?
☕...❤️ your coffee time videos ...I'm all that and it feels great when you have your standards of your own behavior...guess we can't be all that all the time... but we can always revise our actions...learn...be vulnable... Great style today Jonathan!...great hair and t-shirt...looked soooo 80s ❤️
Thank you so much!!
I love what you say! I have learned from you. You keep reminding me how I should be.
Hi Jonathan, the way to fix not knowing your neighbors issue is contributing to a housing co-op. Condos, buying houses only contribute more to isolation.
6. Lean into a Man that Values Your Feelings
7. Transparency
I like you Jonathan. I am so sorry about the loss of your son. Man that has to be a heart ripper. I like your real no nonsense approach. I have not read the 4 Agreements I will do that.
Fantastic video!! Good info ladies .. trust me.
Good video Jonathon. Good talk. Yes, women think that our " .........." doesn't smell and we are perfect and we are NOT! At least I am not :-))))))))
Boom!
@@JonathonAslay Hallelujah :-)
Again you are right on..what has made you so intelligent? It is very difficult meeting the right one due to the
Covid crisis we are in. One has no choice but to use the internet, and it is very hard to gauge how a person
really is, without meeting face to face..I think I can come pretty close to how YOU really are, just by your
words that you use on each of your videos..lol..lol
I just came to see what your shirt and coffee mug say. 😆 JK. Great advice. Love The Four Agreements and that you encourage reading the books together.
Awesome! Thank you!
Led Zeppelin is my favorite band! Great shirt! Great video!
I like listening to you because you have understood men and women both has similar needs when comes to relationship ... its said as human requirement for relationship not as how women should do to men to win their mind, body and soul
Needed the hug today...thank you as usual handsome!
awe... thanks, blushing 😊
Good content/reminders. Love the Led Zeppelin shirt! 🤘🏽💕
I like when you said to question men about their upbringing and other questions is so helpful so sorry I didn't have the information earlier it was all about snagging the male winning him being the prize and not about our self esteem
A good man is worth being patient with. Maybe they have some wound they need to process. I suggest some of those frustrated women to read "Men made easy how to capture his heart forever". Consider how you approach him in attitude. Maybe it's more you than the man. I can admit that I can be impatient but at the same time, I might have to examine my own thinking and actions and consider his reception or maybe he's going through a process.
Aww God love you! I love that you are able to still carry on and still want to help people with their dating and relationship issues. Its shows great courage, after suffering the loss of your son.
Johnathan buddy your fucking awesome! I just found you on TH-cam, omg... I can’t stop laughing 😂 I just subscribed thank you! I am so sorry to hear about your son however I am glad you are good! & I agree with everything you say 👌🏻😅
I need to understand why I have been mean to so many, I have chosen wrong ones and then struggled to living them.
Thank you so much for your content!! Sharing your heart like this with us is a privilege ❤️ your son would be so proud.
Thank you so much!
Dear Jon 👹 today I had a really awful day 🤔😂 BUT YOU have JUST MADE MY DAY #laughing ‼️
I give hugs it how I show affection to friends,family,.
You are so inspiring, thank you for your strength and your sharing
It looks so beautiful and sunny we’re you are! I’m in Chicago and it’s so cold 🥶
Hugs to you Jonathon 🐻
Just wanted to share that I also did the Hoffman process!. 😊❤️
Hahaha I watch your every video and love each one!! I appreciate your knowledge and sharing the many things you have learned in your own life and more...you are a sweetheart and your videos mean so much to me...not only do I apply your teachings to my love life...but in all relationships I have. Speak your truth with kindness...and not about our own egos. You are the best....can you come live in Florida so you can be my best buddy/ friend LOL thanks as always Jonathon :)
WOW! every video? Honored 🙏
Brilliant! Thanks for keeping it real 👍
Hi! Jonathan, I knew this man for a year now, he is a very nice men I've ever meet. He is always treated me good and respect me, and he is making sure that my car is clean and safe for me to drive, he always giving me a good complement, and every time I called him to do something for me, he is there, he never say, no I can't do it. until later on I feel in love with him. I wanna tell my feelings towards him but I feel embarrass because I am a woman, and I am thinking if I tell him and he doesn't feel the same I will be so embarrassed. What should I do?
Perfect timing! Thank you ❤️
You're so welcome!
Led Zeppelin great taste in music too...thank you Jonathan! Awesome as usual😁
You have other kids? Very sorry for your loss. But celebrating your other kids too. Stay strong.
The Gift Of Imperfections! I have that book. I got it in high school. I read it with my class. Excellent book 👌
Thanks for this video and opening your heart 💕
"This shirt is a little to tight for me." Ok Leo...lol
That’s awful you lost your son. I can’t imagine losing my daughter. You’re great in your Led Zep T-shirt!!!
Hi Jonathan!! Hope you’re having a great weekend!!😊
Same to you
I always look forward to your Saturday morning TH-cam messages. Thank you so much I brightens my day.
Wow, thank you
I met a man at a time where I was healing... Our connection was strong...but he had some personal issues that he was trying to come out of... We realized it was bad timing... I texted him periodically he responded but eventually I just stopped...been thinking about him a lot lately ... wondering should I say "Hi" or just continue to stay away?
Mr Led Zep Shirt and mugs and advise are 💥💢 fabulosity ‼️
How open can you be or when can you start being transparent? Like telling secrets or desires?? I really believe it’s important to be and individual without sharing so much and to not interfere with the others individuality, but still confused of how much to tell someone before sleeping with them.
That was soo nice!! I wish you could be my protector brother!!! Haha Happy holidays!!!🎄
I love watching your videos
5 high-value attitudes:
1. Your actions consistently match your words. (Integrity)
2. You take personal responsability for your choices. (You have a Victor mentality vs. Victim mentality.) You can have bad experiences with men, but look for clues in yourself, not in men. (Read Brene Brown: letting go of imperfection).
3. Fighting fair (learning good conflict resolution skills. Not being right but chosing to be happy. Listening to the other, and finding a resolution.) And the man needs to accept what you say as your truth. Kind perspective.
4. Empathy. (I care about your feelings. Don't be in a relationship with someone who doesn't value your feelings. Do not settle for them.)
5. Transparency. (Be honest with the other one, authentic, vulnerable.) Also, if you're with a man, who is not transparent with you, constantly hiding from you, then the relationship will not work out.
Read : the 4 agreements book, which is about building a relationship with integrity.
So you need to adopt these high value attitudes/qualities/mindset. When these embody an emotional maturity in you, that will attract a great guy to you.
Hope this helped! 🙏
Love the four agreements!!
I need more people like you and my circle so sweet thank you handsome for helping us 💖
Blushing and much appreciated.
@@JonathonAslay so sweet have a beautiful blessed day handsome 💖