Reminds me of an interaction I had as a kid. Mum had a friend over, and for whatever reason I said "You're gay!" in a pejorative way - turns out she actually was gay, and she said "Yes, I am!" Really surprised my tiny child mind. Years later turns out I'm a butch lesbian myself. Go figure.
When my sons were at school, they too picked up the phrase "that's gay" as a pejorative. I was shocked to hear it. I made it clear I would not tolerate the use of "gay" as a negative word, and whenever I heard any of their friends talking like that I also pulled them up pretty sharp. Not long ago my eldest, who is now 34 years old, surprised me with an unexpected remark; he thanked me for not letting him use anti-gay talk, even though it was the norm among his peers. I guess the other parents he knew at the time just acted as if anti-gay talk was normal. But he remembered that I spoke up about it all those years ago, and it stuck with him. With the kids in our lives, we never know what values are going to stick and what won't. But it sounds like your nephews are on the way to being fine young men.
At a birthday party my kid attended last year, they were playing one of those Jackbox games where part of the game is coming up with funny one-liners and other players vote on their favorites, and some kid wrote, "That's gay... I'm in!" That line was overwhelmingly voted the winner, and although it's a very small thing, it gave me hope that their generation might turn out alright after all. 😊
I got pretty edgy when I played jack box so I don't think it's fair to judge someone's morals based off that. What determines what's off limits? Homophobia is bad but school shting jokes are fine?
Right? That was popular when I was growing up in the '90s and early '00s, along with the r-slur and a number of derogatory words, slurs, etc. I was saddened to hear that people still say such things in the year 2024. Guess I figured it would have died out by now, despite homophobia in general still being common... but at least more kids are aware that it's harmful.
We've already moved past it. LGBTetc people throw "gay" around as an insult all the time, because it's funny to follow it up with words to the effect of "and because it's gay, I like it". Meanwhile outside those spaces, "gay" has become a toothless insult, except when aimed at homophobes, where it's now funnier than ever. This is because the insulting power of the word gay was always in the target's fear of being perceived as gay, which could have resulted in ostracisation. Now, no one cares if you call them gay, because it's become destigmatised enough that people aren't scared of being perceived as gay, but at the same time, homophobes have become more afraid than ever of being called gay, which is hilarious.
Someone recently reminded me that I need to give others a chance to surprise me. Given where I live, in the rural Midwest, I tend to assume most of the people around me hold bigoted views... but every so often, someone proves me wrong by being very open-minded and caring. It always warms my heart and makes me feel like maybe I can have a social life out here after all.
I live in a very liberal area, but I attended Missouri Synod Lutheran school for quite a few years, which is quite conservative. I always assumed that people I knew from those days were judging me/thinking I’m going to Hell when they saw me on social media. But I have had conversations with former teachers (which means they are significantly older than i am) who do not feel that way. I’m sure some do lol but I am glad I’ve had those conversations and positive feedback from some people who easily could have gone the other way
@@a.m_blueberries sure! I was confused by that too, as I thought it seemed like that name would have been taken. I haven’t been active on TH-cam in quite awhile so I’m kind of learning how thus all Works (plus they change the settings a lot, hard to keep up!)
Why do I feel like you're saying this as some kind of "gotcha"? The way you're phrasing it, it just feels like you don't believe in nonbinary identities, which is weird to me as a nonbinary person as that's like saying you don't believe in gravity. There are more genders than can reasonably be known or counted by any one person. That's hard for most adults to understand. I don't think "how many genders there are" is a productive line of conversation regardless of how old someone is, because it's not a relevant question to be asking, as long as they know it's more than two.
@@binghamguevara6814 I’m not sure exactly what you are asking either, but I did not have any conversation with them. I was just living my life, playing hide and seek.
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Reminds me of an interaction I had as a kid. Mum had a friend over, and for whatever reason I said "You're gay!" in a pejorative way - turns out she actually was gay, and she said "Yes, I am!" Really surprised my tiny child mind.
Years later turns out I'm a butch lesbian myself. Go figure.
@@mintpalmer fam recognized fam ;) but seriously, it was sweet of her to respond in such a matter-of-fact way.
When my sons were at school, they too picked up the phrase "that's gay" as a pejorative. I was shocked to hear it. I made it clear I would not tolerate the use of "gay" as a negative word, and whenever I heard any of their friends talking like that I also pulled them up pretty sharp.
Not long ago my eldest, who is now 34 years old, surprised me with an unexpected remark; he thanked me for not letting him use anti-gay talk, even though it was the norm among his peers. I guess the other parents he knew at the time just acted as if anti-gay talk was normal. But he remembered that I spoke up about it all those years ago, and it stuck with him.
With the kids in our lives, we never know what values are going to stick and what won't. But it sounds like your nephews are on the way to being fine young men.
At a birthday party my kid attended last year, they were playing one of those Jackbox games where part of the game is coming up with funny one-liners and other players vote on their favorites, and some kid wrote, "That's gay... I'm in!" That line was overwhelmingly voted the winner, and although it's a very small thing, it gave me hope that their generation might turn out alright after all. 😊
I got pretty edgy when I played jack box so I don't think it's fair to judge someone's morals based off that. What determines what's off limits? Homophobia is bad but school shting jokes are fine?
Yeah that's wholesome
Love is love. ❤ Thank you for sharing this story. Sounds like these kids are wise beyond their years. Nice to hear.
@@ChuckSchickx thank you for watching and commenting :)
Using gay as an insult is so old. We need to move past it.
It literally makes no sense.
Right? That was popular when I was growing up in the '90s and early '00s, along with the r-slur and a number of derogatory words, slurs, etc. I was saddened to hear that people still say such things in the year 2024. Guess I figured it would have died out by now, despite homophobia in general still being common... but at least more kids are aware that it's harmful.
Who said insults have to make sense?
@@jfm14 yeah, I was kind of surprised too. It was definitely a thing when I was growing up, same time period as you it sounds like
We've already moved past it. LGBTetc people throw "gay" around as an insult all the time, because it's funny to follow it up with words to the effect of "and because it's gay, I like it". Meanwhile outside those spaces, "gay" has become a toothless insult, except when aimed at homophobes, where it's now funnier than ever. This is because the insulting power of the word gay was always in the target's fear of being perceived as gay, which could have resulted in ostracisation. Now, no one cares if you call them gay, because it's become destigmatised enough that people aren't scared of being perceived as gay, but at the same time, homophobes have become more afraid than ever of being called gay, which is hilarious.
Someone recently reminded me that I need to give others a chance to surprise me. Given where I live, in the rural Midwest, I tend to assume most of the people around me hold bigoted views... but every so often, someone proves me wrong by being very open-minded and caring. It always warms my heart and makes me feel like maybe I can have a social life out here after all.
I live in a very liberal area, but I attended Missouri Synod Lutheran school for quite a few years, which is quite conservative. I always assumed that people I knew from those days were judging me/thinking I’m going to Hell when they saw me on social media. But I have had conversations with former teachers (which means they are significantly older than i am) who do not feel that way. I’m sure some do lol but I am glad I’ve had those conversations and positive feedback from some people who easily could have gone the other way
Thank you for sharing
@@ishuboshi thank you for!watching!
Hey, can you link to your nephew's channel? There are many under that name, and I would love to give him a follow :)
@@a.m_blueberries sure! I was confused by that too, as I thought it seemed like that name would have been taken. I haven’t been active on TH-cam in quite awhile so I’m kind of learning how thus all
Works (plus they change the settings a lot, hard to keep up!)
@@a.m_blueberries @legendarydestroyers3364 ok
I don’t think linked correctly but that’s his handle
things that literally never happened be like
R/nothingeverhappens
Why don’t you have a discussion on how many genders there are with the kids.
Why do I feel like you're saying this as some kind of "gotcha"? The way you're phrasing it, it just feels like you don't believe in nonbinary identities, which is weird to me as a nonbinary person as that's like saying you don't believe in gravity.
There are more genders than can reasonably be known or counted by any one person. That's hard for most adults to understand. I don't think "how many genders there are" is a productive line of conversation regardless of how old someone is, because it's not a relevant question to be asking, as long as they know it's more than two.
@@binghamguevara6814 I’m not sure exactly what you are asking either, but I did not have any conversation with them. I was just living my life, playing hide and seek.
What are you talking about lmao
What are you talking about 😂
@@cheshireket3132 what planet are you living on?