Male Trauma Epidemic: Becki Houlston
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 19 ต.ค. 2024
- The reaction from the last episode I recorded with Becki Houlston has been unlike anything I’ve ever experienced.
I’m still receiving messages from victims of narcissistic abuse today, over 5 months after the episode went live.
I wanted to get Becki back on to talk about another of her specialist subjects: Trauma.
As a life coach and therapist, Becki has heard it all, and this episode is full of powerful information for anyone who’s witnessed the immediate and long term effects of Trauma.
If you need immediate support on any the issues discussed in this podcast, call Samaritans for free on 116 123
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An absent father can be detrimental but a present father that makes you feel anxious and worthless through childhood can be even more damaging.
Sadly, that is very well said
This episode spoke to me on a personal level. Everyday i wake up wondering what life would be if I wasn't wired this way. I'm drowned with anxiety in every interaction and only feel safe when i'm alone. I got goosebumps from this episode. Thanks for it
My pleasure Adam and I hope it has helped in some way 🙏
Adam, you and I both mate im in the same boat. Only this week ive reached out for help im 52 and kept everything under the carpet but struggling to go on i hope you find your peace. Dodge & Becki thhis episodes brought me to my knees but needed to here this. I just need to unload before i explode .. Again! Thank you
@@scotney33 talking about these things and simply letting them out instead of keeping them in was the biggest relief for me. I hope you find peace on your journey. It's not easy to reprogram
Not at the end of this discussion yet, but this is so enlightening. Thankfully there are many people out there willing, waiting and wanting to help! Thanks to both of you for this fantastic chat.
My pleasure and it’s an episode that I really wanted to do as I believe it’s going to help soooo many MEN 🙏
Great content dodge 👌 I'm a new follower, really enjoying the podcasts. Great work
Flippin hell Dodge. What an episode. I am the youngest of four kids from a loving family. I’ve had my family try to analyse my behaviour most my life (53 now). I joined the army at 16 and caused havoc there and caused myself lots of problems through violence and having fun. The army in the 80’s and 90’s was not an environment where you discussed your feelings. Any weakness was dealt with by the troop.
This has made me think about my behaviour and why I did what I did. I think I did it because I wanted to and for the buzz, or did I???
I am alright now, senior manager at a logistics firm, 10/10 wife who I have been with for 32 years. Two great girls. But I still have a rogue side I try to keep control of.
Man, this was a strong podcast!!
Great message Stuart and love the ‘I still have a rogue side’ 😂
As a bloke who's suffered major childhood trauma this really brilliant. Thanks for this
Our pleasure Marty 🙏
I’m literally hooked on your podcasts mate, Joe rogan would be proud, absolutely class, you’ve become one of my favourite TH-camrs 👏👏
Wow! Kind words Ashley and thanks 🙏
In Tai chi it's taught exactly what your saying here. That pur nervous systems log our old trauma. It's quite common for someone new that is dedicated to the art will randomly start crying and things like this. It's said that's you opening up that old chi line letting out the old trauma. And the whole point is to work through your body clearing out everything.
Obviosly that's out there talking about chi ect however anyone looking for something to help go train tai chi. It helps a lot.
Dodge, I wish these were the first episodes I watched. Things make a little more sense. I know I can't rewire myself from trauma but I can begin to understand it. Thank you and your amazing guest. Much love brother!
Good man Robbie 🙏
Thank you so much for these interviews Dodge,I’ve just fished watching the entire set and I can honestly say it’sa totally changed my life for the better by helping me understand I’m not alone in things that happened in my childhood.It’s almost as if all your interviewees are what my Dad should have been later in life since he also totally turned his life around and went back to be the Dad he’d been before the madness(drinking/resentment/violent abuse) started. I’m a Paediatric nurse and became one because of my childhood I felt I understood how childhood traumas can go in to effect a persons entire life so I try to make every child I meet have a positive experience.I clearly recognize some behaviors some children I’ve nursed who it emerged had problems at home. Your channel is in fact a safe space in itself,non judge-mental or prejudiced and where people can be open,frank and honest.Beki is such an amazing Lady,this hour long interview has addressed 48 years of having being lost in an emotional wilderness.I’ve wanted to hear what she explained since that 9 year kid hearing Dad beat on Mum So thank you Dodge,all your guests and in particular Becki. ❤❤❤
Wow what a lovely heartfelt message and glad it has helped 🙏
Have wonderful day wherever you are in the world 🌎
Phenomenal content once again Dodge. Thank you to you both 🙏🏻
Glad you enjoyed it Zach 👍🏼👍🏼
Dodge, another great episode! Thank you to Ms Houlston and yourself. Very....very enlightening. There are a heck of many timestamps throughout the session that I found so relatable and useful to my own mindset that gives me a small bit of confidence to swim outta the swamp. Appreciated, as always mate 🙂
You are welcome Prince 🙏
Becki, your an exceptionally enlightening lady to listen too, I'm 52, your two podcasts are helping me get threw a hard time just now, thank you very much for your expertise, you truly have made sense of a lot of things that are bringing me down just now, I'm going to read up on a lot of things you've brought up and try and sort this out, thank you so much 🙏🏻
Cheers dodge, best guest ever, that nice lady's helped this tired out old lad to see a wee bit light at the end of the tunnel 👌🏻
Thank you so much for doing this episode. I have educate myself thru books about trauma and shared it to my partner feeling low since he is not a book person this episode helped him understand and opened his mind about what he has going through. Good job mate and hope you keeping doing this kind of content.
Thank you Dodge and Becky. 🙏👍 That's a very powerful, fascinating and important episode. You guys are great. Keep up the great work. Thank you both
Our pleasure Scott 👍🏼👍🏼
Wow - fantastic, pretty much speaks to everyone. I learnt lots to help people closest to me, and also help me iron out some early life trauma thats been buried till now. thanks Becki and Dodge
Wow what a stream , thank you dodge and becki i didn't realise but I have most of these symptoms so am going to get some therapy hopefully With becki , what an amazing lady 🙏
Thanks so much Dodge! This has answered so many questions ive been asking myself for 25 Years!
This has just made my day 💛
@@DodgeWoodall I'm Glad! i love your content, but this video in particular mite have just changed my path in life! Thanks again man!
Thank you for this. I have been searching for this piece of puzzle, to see picture of myself clearly.
This podcast is profound. Wow.
Best episode yet, thanks
It’s good Trauma is being covered for civilians, as well as the military, in these podcasts. Trauma can actually happen in the womb as well - the foetus’ nervous system is just as developed then as it is when they are born. So if the mother experiences a deeply traumatic event while pregnant, or there is addiction etc, this can create a traumatised baby - a child being born with an overactive central nervous system and amygdala. There is also birth Trauma. And Trauma that is inherited (ancestral) through the genes: genetic Trauma. The latter is a new area of research with world leading Trauma experts; who also look at Epigenetics where there is Trauma in individuals.
The key is recognising the symptoms - as Trauma is stored in the body, particularly where events occur in a young human being before the brain is fully developed to remember events (by the age of ten at the latest. Brain development varies in each individual). So we cannot always tell what happened, but we can help ourselves and others (if one is a therapist) understand their Trauma and resolve it in a carefully managed way, using various forms of support and therapeutic modalities suited to that person and their specific Trauma (for example one would NOT use breathing techniques with someone whose Trauma is related to breathing). There is still so much to learn. And the more people share this knowledge and educate the world about Trauma, the more we understand each other and the people around us: why everyone behaves the way they do when it’s challenging for them or their health. This compassionate understanding is the key to a peaceful and knowledgable society. Thank you for talking about it. See if you can get Gabor Maté on the show! Or one of his contemporaries.
Dodge very hard hitting in many many ways I cannot believe what's being said I can truly heart felt. My kids got took away in 2011 by my ex my 6 Yr old son kicked and punched his mom, nan, grandad and threw bricks at the neighbours I remember coming from work one Saturday lunchtime and I could he someone swearing and shouting it was my ex dragging my son as she was swearing at him in front of me. I told her to stop it. She said you have him I cannot deal with him.
I bought him up from 2011 twelve months ago he passed out a became a royal marine commando, I'm sorry to say to join the military you need a certain mindset. Thankyou again Dodge.
Love this Scott and good luck to your boy! You must be one proud dad 💛👍🏼
Have read Ollie’s book twice. Every man across all the age ranges should read it!!
Great listening Dodge ...
Andys Man Club is a great start..
Brilliant stuff, i can relate to most of it! Thank you 🙏❤
My pleasure Paul 🙏
Found this really insightful. I learned a lot from this
I scored 8 out of 10 for the childhood trauma test, I was diagnosed with Complex PTSD as an adult and I have Diabetes, High Blood pressure, Eczema, Cronic Hayfever, sensitive skin and obesity.
Again amazing loved this.thank you.
My pleasure Igael and it’s such an important conversation that Men need to hear 🙏
Amazing, thanks. Have you had anyone on that has gone into the work being carried out in clinical trials with psychedelics to help treat ptsd, depression, trauma, etc. Maybe cover regions in the world where psychedelics are legal to use and how they are used..Retreats, etc, if possible... Another blinding podcast, many congratulations to you and guests
Glad you enjoyed it and yes I did a fascinating episode on how Ketamin, MDMA & Magic Mushrooms 🍄 can help with Trauma.
Check out episode 112 on Apple or Spotify 👍🏼👍🏼
Excellent Dodge,just found ya,luv it 👍🏻
Welcome on board 🙏
Can we have more of this brilliant lady
Part 2 coming 😊
Women have *zero* tolerance for weakness in men. IF a woman abuses her man, it's because he has in some way failed her. It's simple enough, women depend (what year it is is irrelevant the wiring and dynamic hasn't changed) on men for their (and their childrens) _survival. Which means the man has to be strong in ALL areas. That's just the way it is. That said, IF a woman is abusing a man mentally and emotionally, his response after a while, will be to beat the crap out of her because he lacks the tools needed to deal with her mental and emotional abuse. Women own the mental, linguistic and psychological realm. Whereas we men own the physical realm. Until discussions like this _recognize_ what I have brought up here (all of which is 100% true) and until they recognize that the sexes are very much different, more different than they are alike, as different as night and day (which is also why they are complementary) things will never change for the better. Not ever. Also, they way the two sexes process emotions etc is very very veeeeery much different. Unfortunately today men are looked upon as dysfunctional just because they do NOT process these things in ways women do.
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Amazing again thanks 🙏
She's AMAZING 👏
She sure is Richard 🙏
Dangerous, dangerous, not sure. Pretty eye opening set of questions.
Coming back to my previous comment funnily enough correct breathing techniques is about 60% of tai chi itself.
Most Dopamine fix from drama people.
This and Becki’s 2nd podcast should really be aimed at both sexes not toxic women!
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