I just wanted to say that I think it's very comforting to know that someone like Austin (A very well put together, likeable successful guy), has made it where he is even with having an excessive amount of anxiety to deal with. It makes me feel like I can do it too.
I feel like I get way more out of these interviews than I anticipate going in, with just a plan to watch for entertainment and coming out with insight about my own issues/shortcomings. Thanks Dr. K, you are truly a blessing not just to the streamers and community but also to myself.
For friggin real. He connects the dots so seamlessly in these. I love that he's gentle and affirming but also gives his clients some real pushback when he notices them trying to dodge or gaslight themselves.
Even when I don't remotely have whatever the problem is they're talking about. It's fascinating how that works, even if it doesn't have any direct relevance to myself.
@@AlaskaMike907 well it's still a struggle but I'm still here. For a long time I didn't know what was wrong with me. I've always known I was above average in intelligence but I haven't done anything due to a lack of drive. I avoid things I don't want to do in favor of things that are easy and feel good. Well roughly 6 months ago something difficult happened and shook up my life and I decided to get evaluated by a psychiatrist and he diagnosed me with inattentive adhd(formerly known as add). I found a doctor that would prescribe medication for it and my life has greatly improved. Something I still struggle with when I sit and think is how I've wasted 10 years of my life due to a disease I didn't know I had and it makes me sad to think of what mightve been different. But that's not healthy, you can't think like that. You have to do the best you can with what you have and you have to start NOW. If you are struggling you need to seek help. I was able to see a Dr because I have insurance but if you can't I believe Dr. K now has a team of counselors who are affordable and trained in a way to be effective for the things that plague this community. Something isn't right if you feel hopeless all the time, that's a symptom of something thats gone wrong. The first step in solving a problem is to identify what the problem is. Mental health is very important and you cant do it alone. As time goes by i discover more things about myself tgst explain how and why things have happened and while it doesn't change what happened it does help me understand myself and helps with better decisions in the future. Theres also comfort and healing to know what the problem is, if nothing else it will help relieve pressure on the things you cant change. I don't know you but I feel for you and I hope you do start the process of getting help. Life can be beautiful, you just have to identify your black cloud so you can work on seeing the light. Anyways I wish you all the best and please update me if you do pursue help.
Actually learned a lot about myself with this one. Was raised just like him and have the same anxious thinking patterns in adulthood. Also opening up emotionally on any level can lead to crying that feels irrational at the time. I've watched his Rajj streams in the past, but would consider myself a fan now. He seems like a great dude and I hope he's doing okay.
Wanted to check in with the community and show that this video is helping me two years after it was posted. Have had anxiety for most of my life and it was suddenly heavy as a teenager. My fiancé gave me an Ohm bracelet. It meant a lot and I appreciate it so much more and it’s meaning after this video. I practice the exercise with your tune, and I felt that beautiful vibration after it was complete. I don’t remember the last time I felt that in a calm kind of way without needing to cry all of my energy off. I will thank her again for the bracelet and thank you now for this video.
I was diagnosed with a phobia back when i was younger and something really interesting that was brought up that i relate to was when Austin brings up that he would try to distract himself from his anxiety and it wouldn't help because he was conscious of himself trying to avoid the anxiety. In his case his brain thinks he should be afraid so it tries to make him more afraid if he tries to ignore it possibly. Not sure if you have ever done a video on phobias but would be interesting to hear people talk about that sort of thing.
Damn I relate to Austin so much. This has helped me make a lot more sense of my life. My mom’s voice making me feel anxious about things like money. My car accident making me anxious to drive. Ever since I started watching Dr. K, I’ve felt the increasing need that I need to go and actually get some professional help for these issues, and this one has just kind of solidified that idea for me. Sucks that the anxiety is saying I can’t because I need the money more for college, but I’ll see how I can work something out with on-campus services.
Btw, my mom voice and ciggar used to drive me insane. The voice because of her trying to make me stay at home, not allowing me to go out with friends and she always used some king of sentimental voice, you know... Through professional help I understood it. And the ciggar lol, the fucking smell on EVERYTHING
wow ive never related to someone as much as austin 😭 i’ve always struggled with anxiety but recently it’s been worse. my anxiety keeps me up at night thinking something could happen… random scenarios pop in my head all the time. this puts it in a much understanding perspective, thank you for making this video!!!
i KNOW ME TOO especially the plane thing, like I also have anxieties around that and just generally have an issue with thinking of the worst possible scenarios, even when nothing is really happening...
this helped me understand my anxiety better. I don't have a problem with flying, but i'll be moving to a different country to start medschool very soon. I have anxiety about being homesick/on my own/ lonely at the new place and leaving my friends and family behind. I grew up pretty sheltered, my mum took care of problems whenever anything came up, so not having that is pretty scary for me. I think i learned growing up that if " I have a problem" mom will fix it for me, just like Austin got taught to be scared of everything, i got taught that someone is there to help me and do stuff for me all the time. Hell I'm 24, still live at home and my mom still makes my breakfast. Knowing where it comes from makes it possible to just sit with it when it comes up and accept it, atleast that's how I understood it. Accept the anxiety, don't invalidate it and do the thing that scares you anyways. I think moving away will be beneficial for me , make me more independent and so on logically, but i still catch myself thinking stuff like "what if it's too hard" and "you're going to be all alone" and so on. Whenever I catch myself thinking stuff like this from now on I'll think back to this talk and how to deal with these feelings. The meditation was really helpful for me aswell, thanks for that. I don't know why i started typing out this paragraph, but it felt pretty good putting it into words! Have a good one people
Coming from a rich family I had a lot problems ranging from bullying to being vocally abused from my family that I couldn't complain about. Because I'm rich I can't complain about my mom smashing in my tv because she can buy me another one. I can't talk about my social anxiety because people have worse problems then me. After watching this video I can work on changing my my mindset. Thanks doctor
People try to gatekeep suffering not realizing that the one thing all humans have in common is suffering or the potential to suffer and we should use that as grounds for unification not tribalism.
Sorry to hear about that. Dysfunctional people come from all walks of life. I had a pretty toxic upbringing to yet we were not exactly rich but I can relate to some extent. Being around family like that is extremely emotionally taxing and it took me years to return to a more relaxed state of mind. Wish you the best of luck. Take care of yourself. Meditation helps a lot but I asume you already know that ✌
As someone from a poor family, even I feel like I can’t complain because I have a food on the table or electricity. I hope you can tak about your problems because suffering happens to all.
I've been binging these podcasts while at work and they've been legitimately helpful. Thank you for everything Dr. K! My only issue is everyone so far has related a main core issue to their parents (which I think I do too) but they all talk about how they know their parents cared about them and did the best they could with the interest of their kids at heart and I'm unable to relate to that. Unfortunately my parents were actively malicious and were very verbally abusive giving me crushing feelings of unworthiness for the vast majority of my teenage years and early twenties. I still struggle with this and this podcast has motivated me to seek professional help with these issues. Thank you again for giving us hope Dr. k
Its not about forgiving always. Its about accepting that your parents have their own traumas and reasons for their bad behavior. By accepting that, you can let go of the trauma they put on you because you understand there is no validity in holding onto it. And perhaps, at that point you may find yourself forgiving them because what they did ultimately doesnt affect who you are now if you remove those traumas. I wish you the best.
Hey Dr. K! I haven't watched this video yet but I figured commenting on a recent video would make it less likely to be lost. I found your channel from a comment on r/meditation earlier this week and I have been so fascinated I'm binging your 2 hour videos with more interest than I've had in any Netflix binge (probably watched like 10 this week). I'm a nearly qualified art therapist, and I am recommending your videos to basically anyone that will listen to me. I have learned so much from watching your talks with people both personally and professionally and I am so grateful. I just wish your channel were known by everyone. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and skills in such a valuable way.
As someone with GAD, this video did a great job of just having another person with the same kind of issues and thought patterns I see in myself (i.e. irrational fears, unsure of why, if medication is needed). Videos like these are so so so helpful for others in the same kind of boat.
The meditation at the end was a really awesome way to show what meditation fundamentally is about! The giggling seemed like it was really relieving too :)
3:50 makes me think of happen recently with Jenna Marbles and she also streams now and play games (I don’t know if only people that streams or plays games get to talk with Dr K like this so please be nice) I’m not gonna lie it would be interesting to see a talk between Dr K and Jenna about what happen and how she feels. ^^
Dr. K, Thank you...i have been crippled by anxiety for the last 3 months. I've had a sense that i've had something wrong with my body for a while. I seen a doctor last week because it felt like i had a lump in my throat, I was mostly convinced that my anxiety was the cause, he gave me a long term medicine for the anxiety, ended up going to urgent care and getting hydroxyzine which seemed to work, but was only given 5 days worth of medication. I feel like you mentioning thyroid issues might have saved me months of anxious doctors visits.
this was a really good watch!.. i dont struggle with a lot of anxiety myself, but ive had lots of conversations, like the ones you guys mentioned, where i encourage my friends, or talk with them about their anxieties. i feel like this really helped me to understand them better :)
Why does it feel like every time I watch a Dr. K video the solution to all my problems is so damn simple but 5 hours later my mind is like that meme with the strings all over the bulletin board
Great talk, I related to this so much as I have worked with my anxiety. I went from seeing it as a problem to understanding it as having learn lessons about the world that didn't serve me. I'm still working on changing my outlook to help support myself and be kind to myself, I still learned loads from this talk. Great explanations Dr K.
Personally I felt like chanting brought the same feeling I got to when I was experiencing psychedelics leaving out the visuals, the stress free relaxing feeling in your legs and the sensitive warm comfort in your chest and the calm silence in your mind almost as if your whole body had no feeling like when you’re floating around in the pool. I come back to this feeling when I’m dealing with stress or overthinking stuff I don’t want to.
This was really great, I recognize a lot of my own anxious behavior in the way Austin talks and the things he gets insecure or worried about so it’s nice to see Dr. K discussing these sorts of things.
Hi, Dr K. The observation on the usage of Bomb word around the 26 minutes mark is something that I am familiar with. I relate very much to Mr Show's reluctance to use certain words because I am very conscious of the things I say and how I will be perceived. Part of it is because I want to appear politically correct and don't appear stupid using certain words. While Mr Show did say that he doesn't think he minds being perceived as stupid, I did feel it was a defense mechanism to appear "politically correct" because I do it too. That is more dangerous because for me, I suppress that vulnerable side of me from surfacing out and over the years, it really does a lot of damage to my self esteem. At 39 minutes, when you asked him what does he think about his mum's part in his anxiety. I can relate very much to Show. I think he didn't want to blame his mum for it, even though it clicked in his head that it was that interaction that contributed to his anxiety. I felt the same way too, and I definitely would have said I don't know cause I didn't want to accept that in some ways, I was blaming my mum for this.
Wow, this is so helpful. I can relate to this so much, and Dr. K has so many insightful points here. It's also helping to make me realize I should get therapy. Great work, you're doing a lot of people a lot of good here!
feel like putting these on spotify would be a great idea. I cant always show up for streams or make time to watch youtube. but like listening to it on a run or like on a commute to work would be super awesome
Honestly I've got my own case of anxiety, but for me, Om chanting actually just brought my anxiety up to the surface cuz the residual sensations feel exactly like how I feel when I am anxious. Welp, doesn't always work for everyone. That being said, I love your work, Dr. K, and I'm glad that I discovered your channel when I was dealing with some real tough shit at home.
2:08:43 ok this is screwing with my head because it’s starting to make sense… It’s kinda like trying to understand who you are but without really thinking… this. Part really made me feel happy? I think?
I am someone who knows nothing about twitch streamers besides what I see on TH-cam with Dr. K. I wish I could have told Austin during this interview to just let himself be, no judgment here. Just love human to human.
I get your point, and at the same time, it's not JUST let yourself be. Let's try to notice: JUST let yourself be = un-doing 20-something years of reinforcing & cultivating anxious thoughts. What you see as a simple, easy JUST, ... is actually un-doing & reframing 20 years of Austin's life experiences. It takes time & it takes work
As usual another great show which creates opportunity for deep dive into myself. Big fan of the ohm meditations as I tend to practice breathing ones on my own time. Love the summary at the end if he can just be himself it will all just go away. Essentially, that's what I've been getting to all this time. Just being myself and being comfortable with who I am. It has only taken 35 years lol. Still I push on. Boosh!
Yooo That Observation at 26:00 I think I do the same thing :Where I explain smth ,but rather than just using the "easy" word, I try to convey the meaning or smth, I think it's in an attempt to net seem stupid. And I also feel like it's hard for ppl to follow sometimes (maybe bc I suggest a thought rather than conveying the story in words/pictures?)
This is THE interview I was looking for. My mother was the exact same way. It was never “look before you cross the street because it’s safe” it was “if you cross the street you’ll probably get hit by a car so DONT go in the street.” I’m a severe hypochondriac now. I would look up everything and anything to do with medical I obsessed over to the point I wanted to be a nurse or doctor. Recovering now and life is better but loooord was it hard for a while. And I still tend to think I’m always going to die lol
that prediction topic really resonated with me, because i honestly predict so much that comes to be true, and unfortunately that makes it so much worse..
I do too and I have been diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder, so I think Dr. K is doing a good thing by telling him to see a professionnal about it. It can get better and therapy helped me so much. Hope you are taking good care of your mental health, you deserve it. :)
@Theo Johnson srsly?? People like you killed Reckful. Shut up and grow up! I can imagine its hard, maybe you have some background of abuse, or you are going through some phase. But please, stop being an asshole. People dont have to put up with this.
Hey. I really hope you read this Dr K. If you ever need to talk to somebody im here for you. Im from Argentina. I know Byron was really happy to have you as a friend in his last days of the journey and I know that he dont reggret any talk you give him. I think he might have beeing sad for letting you down. He didnt even want to make the chat sad. He was trying and beeing the best he can till the end.
I had an interesting thought with this episode. I feel austin may have an interest in aviation to have control over the plane, so he doesn't have to worry if the plane is going down or not, yknow?
I thought the same thing. He wouldn’t have as much anxiety if he was in control, but one of his first examples was him driving on the mountain road where he still had anxiety when he was in control. All be it with other people on the road, but I still think he’d have anxiety with other pilots and with the plane itself holding up (instruments, engines, etc)
at 21 min mark this is me literally. I hate driving my truck (26ft box truck) it's caused so many panic attacks to the point where I've had severe physical issues leading to one time in the ER. I don't know if its for sure anxiety or panic attack (that was just suggested to me by a doctor) but I haven't actually fixed the problem, I just have someone else drive now but that created another issue because I feel like if they aren't available then I can't work that day. Watching the rest of the video hopefully I can get some insight
I feel that people should appreciate what they have, but they also need to understand that having a privileged upbringing does not invalidate that persons suffering. Just because you have money does not mean that money makes you happy. Just because you come from a decent back ground does not mean you cannot experience your own internal mental struggles. In fact I'd wager that coming from a privileged back ground fucks you up more then one that doesn't because you never get to be challenged or learn. Then you get told that you can't have issues because of your privilege. One of the primary human needs is one to grow. To overcome ones personal struggles. If society deems you unworthy to do that because of your upbringing ( a thing that you had no control over) then it fucks people up. People need to erase privilage from their vocabulary because it's done nothing but harm society by allowing people to excuse their shortcomings with a lack of it, and prevent others from growing as humans because it's perceived they have too much of it.
Dr. K talked about this briefly in one of his other interviews, think it might've been with Asmongold but i'm not sure. The way Dr. K phrased it was "There's a lot of gatekeeping around suffering and who's allowed to suffer and who's not" and i think he's spot on with that description.
It would interesting to see him on the rajj royale. Unfortunately, people are toxic on that show, Wes in an example, so he would just feel uncomfortable.
@@lisapizza8211 It is very different. As far as I can tell Austin's condition has a lot to do with the fear of death or in general the occurrence of bad events. Physical anxiety (I belive there's several forms of it, I'm stating what would apply to me) is rather the fear of being judged or perceived in a certain way due to (physical) traits. It may lead to self-consciousness, isolation and impairs your life in countless ways. I suppose the same notion applies that its rationality is debatable.
The thing that blew my mind the most here is when Doc K said that allergies, atopy and anxiety are related, it's exactly what I've been experiencing all through this year.
40:24 i find it intreasting that austin flinched for a split second the moment he said "... or a guy", and seems really uncomftorable with it. It's weird to me because i realized this was the exact same micro-reaction i had when he said it, same as austin, and i also came out this year. Wonder what does it mean exactly, kinda weird
It might just be because you realise he is consciously recognising you in saying that. Because if he just said a girl to me, I get that as just a general thing, but because being gay is not the normal (as in most people arent) it seems like a more specific reference or accommodation of you, I guess? I'm no expert, just that people tend to have a reaction when someone specifies you- like if I talked to a bear owner and said in an analogy "If someone owns a dog... or a bear" Its a weird example but I think its just the same thing happening with sexual orientation as something slightly different and more specific to you than general.
@@benextinction__144 That's actually a really good example. I think a lot of people get that feeling of almost being called out, and since being gay can be looked down on by many people having that kind of conscious accommodation and therefore attention drawn to your sexuality can cause a brief sense of fear.
Dr k, you are held to a higher standard becuase of your position. When you have tens of thousands of people watching you, you are emitting acceptable behaviors, qualities, goals, mannerisms etc. To these people. From my position as a viewer, I also believe that I should have a high standard. I believe in respect, love and empathy. But as a leader that is paving the road, we have a great responsibility to our pack and our missteps have great consequences to them Your good actions will also be seen throughout your community, youll see that reflected within them The follower grows to the level of the quality of leadership
I wonder if by observing anxiety and sitting with it, we are allowing the neural signal to run its course and then since the brain is somewhat calm it provides feedback that the fear is exaggerated. This diminishes the anxious feeling since you are providing the correct feedback. Most people avoid the feeling and use other methods of reducing the effect of anxiety which means it never gets the proper feedback which allows for proper regulation. Also, I wonder if Dr K is familiar with the ying-yang principle which speaks exactly to the concept of holding two opposing things at once. It promotes the notion that everything has two opposing forces interacting with the other and striving for balance. It would be great to hear him talk about it. Honestly, Dr K is the best thing to happen since sliced bread.
That‘s exactly what it is. I‘ve had severe OCD and am still recovering rn. You pretty much recover by not reacting to the scary thoughts and feelings. and of course it easier said than done a lot of times. By letting your body feel the anxiety and sit with it till it goes away by itself you show your brain that this fear actually doesn‘t pose a really threat to you and after time through habituation and neuroplasticity in your brain these thoughts will feel less and less threatining untill you can fully coexist with them without reacting to them at all
to each his own, but if you truly are struggling i'd give meds a shot. i was against medication for a very long time. i really regret it now. it isn't always easy narrowing it down to the right med or medication tho. some people find it right away. everyone is different. i it took me close to a year to find out the right combo for me. i've tried about 14 different medications. i noticed slight improvement before then, but it wasn't until i was on a few meds that worked for me and worked well together. i was depressed for about 9 years. i've wasted a lot of my life because of that. i also have bad anxiety too. but now finally my anxiety is pretty well non existent, at least for GAD, i still have mild social anxiety, but that used to be extremely bad. i haven't felt depressed in a little over a year i think and have even managed to come off one of my meds. i dont see it as cheating. they are magical pills. they aren't perfect. they take the edge off. quite significantly, but it's not like forced fake happiness, it just gets rid of or dampens the depression. i highly discourage benzos tho. for anxiety do not use downers. they're habbit forming, and only help short term. they should really be saved for anxiety attacks. yes not everyone does well with meds, but they absolutely should not be demonized. that's why i didn't take them. you hear all the horror stories and few of the positives unless you go looking for them.
Honestly, it's causing me pain when they start to scratch the surface of it. Like whether he's aware of what it is or not, he's getting stressed, uncomfortable and just slightly shuts off
Amazing session as always, Dr K! I have come to the conclusion that the USA is an amazing, just astounding, country, but for the wrong reasons. The culture there claims to be the most inclusive and tolerant ever, while at the same time it is the complete opposite... People bully each other all the time, they ridicule each other, pull their neighbors down. Flat out crush people who stand against this bullying. I am starting to think there is some real 'cultural disphoria' happening, which needs to be fixed. It keeps causing issues and unrest in its own people and we can all see it's not going so well.
There is a difference between feeling it is someone's fault and it is someone's fault. Noone does things to be bad just that they learned that it works towards the goal in mind. The goal might be good in a way but maybe not the right goal to focus on.
I had a dream where i was going to give a speech about something random to a very large audience. Both my mom and dad were sitting next to me and when I got up to head to the stage my dad said "You got this son" and immediately after, my mom said: "You're going to fail" even though both my parents are very loving and look out for me. Idk if I have mommy issues but I feel like i'm not in the right to say that because she looks out for me and loves me. But I sort of feel like my anxiety stems from hers. P.S. Who asked
For anyone here feeling like " I found myself after watching shows, or helps you out figure who you are".. Pls dont go at it that way. You can relate and reflect but do not ever become what someone else is just because they use logical words or have a good attitude towards life. You need to find yourself on your own path without being influenced by people online, being influenced basically means ur kind of "brainwashed" into believing you are just like that and this.. No hate tho, i just wanted to say that finding your own balance and your own way is what makes you identify with your true self in the end, not trough the internett. Seek nature, find peace, calm down and achieve blissfullness. That way you reprogram your mind over a period of time and you can better go on to the road you were ment for. You need to reset due to all the information this era spits out or you will have some sort of personal identity theft.
I just wanted to say that I think it's very comforting to know that someone like Austin (A very well put together, likeable successful guy), has made it where he is even with having an excessive amount of anxiety to deal with. It makes me feel like I can do it too.
U can bro
Show is a good dude. His whole family the Shows are good people.
Lmfao. the Shows
I always thought he was a part of the Royale family
@@scvpest "the shows" sounds like an 80s band name
ZulStrait, have his mother! GODDAMN
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I feel like I get way more out of these interviews than I anticipate going in, with just a plan to watch for entertainment and coming out with insight about my own issues/shortcomings. Thanks Dr. K, you are truly a blessing not just to the streamers and community but also to myself.
For friggin real. He connects the dots so seamlessly in these. I love that he's gentle and affirming but also gives his clients some real pushback when he notices them trying to dodge or gaslight themselves.
Even when I don't remotely have whatever the problem is they're talking about. It's fascinating how that works, even if it doesn't have any direct relevance to myself.
How y'all doing now? Genuinely curious, I'm fucked up.
@@AlaskaMike907 well it's still a struggle but I'm still here. For a long time I didn't know what was wrong with me. I've always known I was above average in intelligence but I haven't done anything due to a lack of drive. I avoid things I don't want to do in favor of things that are easy and feel good. Well roughly 6 months ago something difficult happened and shook up my life and I decided to get evaluated by a psychiatrist and he diagnosed me with inattentive adhd(formerly known as add). I found a doctor that would prescribe medication for it and my life has greatly improved. Something I still struggle with when I sit and think is how I've wasted 10 years of my life due to a disease I didn't know I had and it makes me sad to think of what mightve been different. But that's not healthy, you can't think like that. You have to do the best you can with what you have and you have to start NOW. If you are struggling you need to seek help. I was able to see a Dr because I have insurance but if you can't I believe Dr. K now has a team of counselors who are affordable and trained in a way to be effective for the things that plague this community. Something isn't right if you feel hopeless all the time, that's a symptom of something thats gone wrong. The first step in solving a problem is to identify what the problem is. Mental health is very important and you cant do it alone. As time goes by i discover more things about myself tgst explain how and why things have happened and while it doesn't change what happened it does help me understand myself and helps with better decisions in the future. Theres also comfort and healing to know what the problem is, if nothing else it will help relieve pressure on the things you cant change. I don't know you but I feel for you and I hope you do start the process of getting help. Life can be beautiful, you just have to identify your black cloud so you can work on seeing the light. Anyways I wish you all the best and please update me if you do pursue help.
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Bruh when he said feeling anxious isn’t irrational, I felt so much relief.
Actually learned a lot about myself with this one. Was raised just like him and have the same anxious thinking patterns in adulthood. Also opening up emotionally on any level can lead to crying that feels irrational at the time.
I've watched his Rajj streams in the past, but would consider myself a fan now. He seems like a great dude and I hope he's doing okay.
This Show dude is a nice fella! I like him a lot! Also shows to show that Show's a showman. Funny guy!!
Punny guy
get out
@@AXharoth only if you show me the way out..
@@mih6317 you can show yourself out the show
Wanted to check in with the community and show that this video is helping me two years after it was posted. Have had anxiety for most of my life and it was suddenly heavy as a teenager. My fiancé gave me an Ohm bracelet. It meant a lot and I appreciate it so much more and it’s meaning after this video. I practice the exercise with your tune, and I felt that beautiful vibration after it was complete. I don’t remember the last time I felt that in a calm kind of way without needing to cry all of my energy off. I will thank her again for the bracelet and thank you now for this video.
I was diagnosed with a phobia back when i was younger and something really interesting that was brought up that i relate to was when Austin brings up that he would try to distract himself from his anxiety and it wouldn't help because he was conscious of himself trying to avoid the anxiety. In his case his brain thinks he should be afraid so it tries to make him more afraid if he tries to ignore it possibly. Not sure if you have ever done a video on phobias but would be interesting to hear people talk about that sort of thing.
Damn I relate to Austin so much. This has helped me make a lot more sense of my life.
My mom’s voice making me feel anxious about things like money. My car accident making me anxious to drive.
Ever since I started watching Dr. K, I’ve felt the increasing need that I need to go and actually get some professional help for these issues, and this one has just kind of solidified that idea for me. Sucks that the anxiety is saying I can’t because I need the money more for college, but I’ll see how I can work something out with on-campus services.
Go and do this, man! I imagine there can be cheaper alternatives, maybe some help for students where you atend.
Btw, my mom voice and ciggar used to drive me insane. The voice because of her trying to make me stay at home, not allowing me to go out with friends and she always used some king of sentimental voice, you know... Through professional help I understood it. And the ciggar lol, the fucking smell on EVERYTHING
austin show seems like a great dude
wow ive never related to someone as much as austin 😭 i’ve always struggled with anxiety but recently it’s been worse. my anxiety keeps me up at night thinking something could happen… random scenarios pop in my head all the time. this puts it in a much understanding perspective, thank you for making this video!!!
i KNOW ME TOO especially the plane thing, like I also have anxieties around that and just generally have an issue with thinking of the worst possible scenarios, even when nothing is really happening...
this helped me understand my anxiety better.
I don't have a problem with flying, but i'll be moving to a different country to start medschool very soon. I have anxiety about being homesick/on my own/ lonely at the new place and leaving my friends and family behind.
I grew up pretty sheltered, my mum took care of problems whenever anything came up, so not having that is pretty scary for me. I think i learned growing up that if " I have a problem" mom will fix it for me, just like Austin got taught to be scared of everything, i got taught that someone is there to help me and do stuff for me all the time. Hell I'm 24, still live at home and my mom still makes my breakfast.
Knowing where it comes from makes it possible to just sit with it when it comes up and accept it, atleast that's how I understood it. Accept the anxiety, don't invalidate it and do the thing that scares you anyways. I think moving away will be beneficial for me , make me more independent and so on logically, but i still catch myself thinking stuff like "what if it's too hard" and "you're going to be all alone" and so on. Whenever I catch myself thinking stuff like this from now on I'll think back to this talk and how to deal with these feelings.
The meditation was really helpful for me aswell, thanks for that.
I don't know why i started typing out this paragraph, but it felt pretty good putting it into words!
Have a good one people
2 years later, how are you doing?
^^ I’d also like to know
Coming from a rich family I had a lot problems ranging from bullying to being vocally abused from my family that I couldn't complain about. Because I'm rich I can't complain about my mom smashing in my tv because she can buy me another one. I can't talk about my social anxiety because people have worse problems then me. After watching this video I can work on changing my my mindset. Thanks doctor
People try to gatekeep suffering not realizing that the one thing all humans have in common is suffering or the potential to suffer and we should use that as grounds for unification not tribalism.
Sorry to hear about that. Dysfunctional people come from all walks of life. I had a pretty toxic upbringing to yet we were not exactly rich but I can relate to some extent. Being around family like that is extremely emotionally taxing and it took me years to return to a more relaxed state of mind. Wish you the best of luck. Take care of yourself. Meditation helps a lot but I asume you already know that ✌
As someone from a poor family, even I feel like I can’t complain because I have a food on the table or electricity. I hope you can tak about your problems because suffering happens to all.
I relate to this too much man, would love to talk to you more about it.
Enderworkbench yeah of course man! Here's my discord Mr.BonBon#5854.
I've been binging these podcasts while at work and they've been legitimately helpful. Thank you for everything Dr. K! My only issue is everyone so far has related a main core issue to their parents (which I think I do too) but they all talk about how they know their parents cared about them and did the best they could with the interest of their kids at heart and I'm unable to relate to that. Unfortunately my parents were actively malicious and were very verbally abusive giving me crushing feelings of unworthiness for the vast majority of my teenage years and early twenties. I still struggle with this and this podcast has motivated me to seek professional help with these issues. Thank you again for giving us hope Dr. k
Its not about forgiving always. Its about accepting that your parents have their own traumas and reasons for their bad behavior. By accepting that, you can let go of the trauma they put on you because you understand there is no validity in holding onto it. And perhaps, at that point you may find yourself forgiving them because what they did ultimately doesnt affect who you are now if you remove those traumas. I wish you the best.
The amount of precious wisdom Dr. K is dropping is insane, and he is doing it for free... thank you for this !
Hey Dr. K!
I haven't watched this video yet but I figured commenting on a recent video would make it less likely to be lost. I found your channel from a comment on r/meditation earlier this week and I have been so fascinated I'm binging your 2 hour videos with more interest than I've had in any Netflix binge (probably watched like 10 this week). I'm a nearly qualified art therapist, and I am recommending your videos to basically anyone that will listen to me. I have learned so much from watching your talks with people both personally and professionally and I am so grateful. I just wish your channel were known by everyone. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and skills in such a valuable way.
As someone with GAD, this video did a great job of just having another person with the same kind of issues and thought patterns I see in myself (i.e. irrational fears, unsure of why, if medication is needed). Videos like these are so so so helpful for others in the same kind of boat.
The meditation at the end was a really awesome way to show what meditation fundamentally is about! The giggling seemed like it was really relieving too :)
You can very easily convert any TH-cam video to a .mp3 file online, if that helps.
3:50 makes me think of happen recently with Jenna Marbles and she also streams now and play games (I don’t know if only people that streams or plays games get to talk with Dr K like this so please be nice) I’m not gonna lie it would be interesting to see a talk between Dr K and Jenna about what happen and how she feels. ^^
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Its like telling a deaf person "oh yea you can hear" - "that sounds dumb" love it
Dr. K, Thank you...i have been crippled by anxiety for the last 3 months. I've had a sense that i've had something wrong with my body for a while. I seen a doctor last week because it felt like i had a lump in my throat, I was mostly convinced that my anxiety was the cause, he gave me a long term medicine for the anxiety, ended up going to urgent care and getting hydroxyzine which seemed to work, but was only given 5 days worth of medication. I feel like you mentioning thyroid issues might have saved me months of anxious doctors visits.
this was a really good watch!.. i dont struggle with a lot of anxiety myself, but ive had lots of conversations, like the ones you guys mentioned, where i encourage my friends, or talk with them about their anxieties. i feel like this really helped me to understand them better :)
That was truly spectacular ❤️
Why does it feel like every time I watch a Dr. K video the solution to all my problems is so damn simple but 5 hours later my mind is like that meme with the strings all over the bulletin board
Great talk, I related to this so much as I have worked with my anxiety. I went from seeing it as a problem to understanding it as having learn lessons about the world that didn't serve me. I'm still working on changing my outlook to help support myself and be kind to myself, I still learned loads from this talk. Great explanations Dr K.
Personally I felt like chanting brought the same feeling I got to when I was experiencing psychedelics leaving out the visuals, the stress free relaxing feeling in your legs and the sensitive warm comfort in your chest and the calm silence in your mind almost as if your whole body had no feeling like when you’re floating around in the pool. I come back to this feeling when I’m dealing with stress or overthinking stuff I don’t want to.
This was really great, I recognize a lot of my own anxious behavior in the way Austin talks and the things he gets insecure or worried about so it’s nice to see Dr. K discussing these sorts of things.
Hi, Dr K. The observation on the usage of Bomb word around the 26 minutes mark is something that I am familiar with. I relate very much to Mr Show's reluctance to use certain words because I am very conscious of the things I say and how I will be perceived. Part of it is because I want to appear politically correct and don't appear stupid using certain words. While Mr Show did say that he doesn't think he minds being perceived as stupid, I did feel it was a defense mechanism to appear "politically correct" because I do it too. That is more dangerous because for me, I suppress that vulnerable side of me from surfacing out and over the years, it really does a lot of damage to my self esteem.
At 39 minutes, when you asked him what does he think about his mum's part in his anxiety. I can relate very much to Show. I think he didn't want to blame his mum for it, even though it clicked in his head that it was that interaction that contributed to his anxiety. I felt the same way too, and I definitely would have said I don't know cause I didn't want to accept that in some ways, I was blaming my mum for this.
Wow, this is so helpful. I can relate to this so much, and Dr. K has so many insightful points here. It's also helping to make me realize I should get therapy. Great work, you're doing a lot of people a lot of good here!
feel like putting these on spotify would be a great idea. I cant always show up for streams or make time to watch youtube. but like listening to it on a run or like on a commute to work would be super awesome
Revearthal thank you! I was thinking the same thing as Yassin.
I know he gave a link, but listenonrepeat.com will let you play it in the background
I always see Austin around on twitch, watching this provides some interesting context to him which is endearing. He seems really smart and insightful.
Always kinda get goosebumps watching Dr. K's videos. Leaves me impressed.
I really appreciate Mr. Show for opening up in public
Honestly I've got my own case of anxiety, but for me, Om chanting actually just brought my anxiety up to the surface cuz the residual sensations feel exactly like how I feel when I am anxious. Welp, doesn't always work for everyone.
That being said, I love your work, Dr. K, and I'm glad that I discovered your channel when I was dealing with some real tough shit at home.
I think Dr K. has said the point of Om Chanting is to induce anxiety, look at it and become comfortable with it.
2:08:43 ok this is screwing with my head because it’s starting to make sense… It’s kinda like trying to understand who you are but without really thinking… this. Part really made me feel happy? I think?
Your discussion of theory of mind and childhood development was profound for me. Thank you.
I am someone who knows nothing about twitch streamers besides what I see on TH-cam with Dr. K. I wish I could have told Austin during this interview to just let himself be, no judgment here. Just love human to human.
I get your point, and at the same time, it's not JUST let yourself be.
Let's try to notice: JUST let yourself be = un-doing 20-something years of reinforcing & cultivating anxious thoughts.
What you see as a simple, easy JUST, ... is actually un-doing & reframing 20 years of Austin's life experiences. It takes time & it takes work
Dr Show is finally getting an appearance? Excellent!
As usual another great show which creates opportunity for deep dive into myself. Big fan of the ohm meditations as I tend to practice breathing ones on my own time. Love the summary at the end if he can just be himself it will all just go away. Essentially, that's what I've been getting to all this time. Just being myself and being comfortable with who I am. It has only taken 35 years lol. Still I push on. Boosh!
Didn't know Rajj had a twin.
Rajj got deported
Vishal Maraj he left us behind Sadge
Dosent this mr Show feller look like a Indian twitch streamer that likes the Vikings
54:17 "I wipe off the potty dr. k"
shit had me dying 😂😂
Seeing the mind play is delightful.
This seems to be the next step for this I.
I see you, you silly rascal. :)
If people could just have this nuanced conversations about the Jenna Marbles video lmao
Yooo That Observation at 26:00 I think I do the same thing :Where I explain smth ,but rather than just using the "easy" word, I try to convey the meaning or smth, I think it's in an attempt to net seem stupid.
And I also feel like it's hard for ppl to follow sometimes (maybe bc I suggest a thought rather than conveying the story in words/pictures?)
Wow this was pretty eye opening for myself
I might just become a psychiatrist because of Dr. K
Go for it
Didn't know I had so much in common with Austin....
Same
i think u meant Dr. Show
when is rajj coming on?
You mean Dr. Show?
Tomorrow bro
3 self tomorrow monkaW
This is THE interview I was looking for. My mother was the exact same way. It was never “look before you cross the street because it’s safe” it was “if you cross the street you’ll probably get hit by a car so DONT go in the street.” I’m a severe hypochondriac now. I would look up everything and anything to do with medical I obsessed over to the point I wanted to be a nurse or doctor. Recovering now and life is better but loooord was it hard for a while. And I still tend to think I’m always going to die lol
He kinda looks like a young Andrew Lincoln wtf!
Especially from the Love actually days
Cannot unsee now
He looks like Adam Sandler
omg yes
he also looks like the guy who plays Lenny Bruce on Marvelous Mrs Maisel !
Appreciate this type of content
that prediction topic really resonated with me, because i honestly predict so much that comes to be true, and unfortunately that makes it so much worse..
I can relate so much with this guy.. on every point he's mentioning almost wow
I do too and I have been diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder, so I think Dr. K is doing a good thing by telling him to see a professionnal about it. It can get better and therapy helped me so much. Hope you are taking good care of your mental health, you deserve it. :)
Theo Johnson i can’t seem to find who asked
@Theo Johnson and who asked you?
@Theo Johnson srsly?? People like you killed Reckful. Shut up and grow up! I can imagine its hard, maybe you have some background of abuse, or you are going through some phase. But please, stop being an asshole. People dont have to put up with this.
@Theo Johnson degenerate zoomer making his presence
Hey. I really hope you read this Dr K. If you ever need to talk to somebody im here for you. Im from Argentina. I know Byron was really happy to have you as a friend in his last days of the journey and I know that he dont reggret any talk you give him. I think he might have beeing sad for letting you down. He didnt even want to make the chat sad. He was trying and beeing the best he can till the end.
I had an interesting thought with this episode. I feel austin may have an interest in aviation to have control over the plane, so he doesn't have to worry if the plane is going down or not, yknow?
Like he would have control of the situation rather than it being outside of his hands? Man, that's a real thought...
I thought the same thing. He wouldn’t have as much anxiety if he was in control, but one of his first examples was him driving on the mountain road where he still had anxiety when he was in control. All be it with other people on the road, but I still think he’d have anxiety with other pilots and with the plane itself holding up (instruments, engines, etc)
at 21 min mark this is me literally. I hate driving my truck (26ft box truck) it's caused so many panic attacks to the point where I've had severe physical issues leading to one time in the ER. I don't know if its for sure anxiety or panic attack (that was just suggested to me by a doctor) but I haven't actually fixed the problem, I just have someone else drive now but that created another issue because I feel like if they aren't available then I can't work that day. Watching the rest of the video hopefully I can get some insight
1:05:49 lol “do a flip”
I say in my bed couch 😂
Wow, that meditation part was really great. 👏
His impression of the Australian girl is so funny
I feel that people should appreciate what they have, but they also need to understand that having a privileged upbringing does not invalidate that persons suffering. Just because you have money does not mean that money makes you happy. Just because you come from a decent back ground does not mean you cannot experience your own internal mental struggles. In fact I'd wager that coming from a privileged back ground fucks you up more then one that doesn't because you never get to be challenged or learn. Then you get told that you can't have issues because of your privilege. One of the primary human needs is one to grow. To overcome ones personal struggles. If society deems you unworthy to do that because of your upbringing ( a thing that you had no control over) then it fucks people up. People need to erase privilage from their vocabulary because it's done nothing but harm society by allowing people to excuse their shortcomings with a lack of it, and prevent others from growing as humans because it's perceived they have too much of it.
Dr. K talked about this briefly in one of his other interviews, think it might've been with Asmongold but i'm not sure. The way Dr. K phrased it was "There's a lot of gatekeeping around suffering and who's allowed to suffer and who's not" and i think he's spot on with that description.
thank you for your work Dr. K ❤️🤙🏻
This was interesting, I think he became fascinated to learn about planes to feel control over a moment where he was vulnerable
get this guy on the rajj show!
Put Dr.k on the rajj show!!!
he's married with kids lmao
He should be in the talent show instead since he has kids
It would interesting to see him on the rajj royale. Unfortunately, people are toxic on that show, Wes in an example, so he would just feel uncomfortable.
Or notFrench
@Rex who?
AustinSh OMEGALUL w
Twitch has ruined my life I laughed way harder at that then I should have
@@ZaNeCuDdEr that realization made it even funnier, this is formally known as the twitch brain rot
Is the bandaid from removing the dot he had tattooed to his forehead?
I'd love to see an interview about physical social anxiety.
what do you mean by physical anxiety? is it different from the anxiety this guy has?
@@lisapizza8211 It is very different. As far as I can tell Austin's condition has a lot to do with the fear of death or in general the occurrence of bad events. Physical anxiety (I belive there's several forms of it, I'm stating what would apply to me) is rather the fear of being judged or perceived in a certain way due to (physical) traits. It may lead to self-consciousness, isolation and impairs your life in countless ways. I suppose the same notion applies that its rationality is debatable.
@@YoRHa_Eri Is it body dysmorphia? Because if it is, Dr. K has a video on it
@@mityashabat No, it's not the same thing, they are related though. I've seen the Video.
@@YoRHa_Eri tfw when i realize i have 2 kinds of anxiety
Anybody else think this Show guy looks a lot like the twitch streamer RajjPatel?
Tbh I don’t see it
Nah, this dudes nose looks a bit longer than Rajj's
WH OMEGALUL
The thing that blew my mind the most here is when Doc K said that allergies, atopy and anxiety are related, it's exactly what I've been experiencing all through this year.
Every time I watch one of these I wind up singing to myself "please would you one time let me be mahselffff so ah can shiiiine"
Genuinely didn't know he was actually gay, thought he and Schlatt were just doing bits most of the time
(I'm not insinuating that Schlatt is too)
40:24 i find it intreasting that austin flinched for a split second the moment he said "... or a guy", and seems really uncomftorable with it. It's weird to me because i realized this was the exact same micro-reaction i had when he said it, same as austin, and i also came out this year. Wonder what does it mean exactly, kinda weird
It might just be because you realise he is consciously recognising you in saying that. Because if he just said a girl to me, I get that as just a general thing, but because being gay is not the normal (as in most people arent) it seems like a more specific reference or accommodation of you, I guess?
I'm no expert, just that people tend to have a reaction when someone specifies you- like if I talked to a bear owner and said in an analogy "If someone owns a dog... or a bear"
Its a weird example but I think its just the same thing happening with sexual orientation as something slightly different and more specific to you than general.
@@benextinction__144 That's actually a really good example. I think a lot of people get that feeling of almost being called out, and since being gay can be looked down on by many people having that kind of conscious accommodation and therefore attention drawn to your sexuality can cause a brief sense of fear.
Here's to help Dr.K in the algorithm...Cheers❤️🥃
Video about dysthymia would be nice I think there're lot of people that don't know about it, and how to deal with that
Dr k, you are held to a higher standard becuase of your position. When you have tens of thousands of people watching you, you are emitting acceptable behaviors, qualities, goals, mannerisms etc. To these people.
From my position as a viewer, I also believe that I should have a high standard. I believe in respect, love and empathy.
But as a leader that is paving the road, we have a great responsibility to our pack and our missteps have great consequences to them
Your good actions will also be seen throughout your community, youll see that reflected within them
The follower grows to the level of the quality of leadership
Where's Rajj?
I didn't even realise the band aid until he pointed it out
I didn't realise thr band aid until I read this comment
He is actually very clear headed. I almost thought the name Dr. Show would fit him.
I stand with Austin
I wonder if Austin ever played “The Forest” and at least knows about its premise…
anxiety is so unexplored in germany, there's not even an accurate translation.
same in hungary, most people don't even know about it here
Doch , Angst 😂 generalisierte Angststörung
@@Methylglyoxal Angst triffts aber meiner Meinung nach nicht ganz, bzw. haben viele ein falsches Bild davon, was das eigentlich bedeutet
Austin Show from the Talent Austin Show Talent Show is nice
I wonder if by observing anxiety and sitting with it, we are allowing the neural signal to run its course and then since the brain is somewhat calm it provides feedback that the fear is exaggerated. This diminishes the anxious feeling since you are providing the correct feedback.
Most people avoid the feeling and use other methods of reducing the effect of anxiety which means it never gets the proper feedback which allows for proper regulation.
Also, I wonder if Dr K is familiar with the ying-yang principle which speaks exactly to the concept of holding two opposing things at once. It promotes the notion that everything has two opposing forces interacting with the other and striving for balance. It would be great to hear him talk about it.
Honestly, Dr K is the best thing to happen since sliced bread.
That‘s exactly what it is. I‘ve had severe OCD and am still recovering rn. You pretty much recover by not reacting to the scary thoughts and feelings. and of course it easier said than done a lot of times. By letting your body feel the anxiety and sit with it till it goes away by itself you show your brain that this fear actually doesn‘t pose a really threat to you and after time through habituation and neuroplasticity in your brain these thoughts will feel less and less threatining untill you can fully coexist with them without reacting to them at all
to each his own, but if you truly are struggling i'd give meds a shot. i was against medication for a very long time. i really regret it now. it isn't always easy narrowing it down to the right med or medication tho. some people find it right away. everyone is different. i it took me close to a year to find out the right combo for me. i've tried about 14 different medications. i noticed slight improvement before then, but it wasn't until i was on a few meds that worked for me and worked well together. i was depressed for about 9 years. i've wasted a lot of my life because of that. i also have bad anxiety too. but now finally my anxiety is pretty well non existent, at least for GAD, i still have mild social anxiety, but that used to be extremely bad. i haven't felt depressed in a little over a year i think and have even managed to come off one of my meds. i dont see it as cheating. they are magical pills. they aren't perfect. they take the edge off. quite significantly, but it's not like forced fake happiness, it just gets rid of or dampens the depression. i highly discourage benzos tho. for anxiety do not use downers. they're habbit forming, and only help short term. they should really be saved for anxiety attacks. yes not everyone does well with meds, but they absolutely should not be demonized. that's why i didn't take them. you hear all the horror stories and few of the positives unless you go looking for them.
Honestly, it's causing me pain when they start to scratch the surface of it. Like whether he's aware of what it is or not, he's getting stressed, uncomfortable and just slightly shuts off
This dude can sing 1:01:30
Amazing session as always, Dr K!
I have come to the conclusion that the USA is an amazing, just astounding, country, but for the wrong reasons. The culture there claims to be the most inclusive and tolerant ever, while at the same time it is the complete opposite... People bully each other all the time, they ridicule each other, pull their neighbors down. Flat out crush people who stand against this bullying. I am starting to think there is some real 'cultural disphoria' happening, which needs to be fixed. It keeps causing issues and unrest in its own people and we can all see it's not going so well.
Ok. Dr. K needs to interview all the beauty community and Shane :))
There is a difference between feeling it is someone's fault and it is someone's fault. Noone does things to be bad just that they learned that it works towards the goal in mind. The goal might be good in a way but maybe not the right goal to focus on.
I Loved Rajj 💖💖💖💖💖
I Still Love Austin 💖💖💖💖💖
1:55:40 why is his speech sped up so randomly lol
Only 90s kids remember the Rajj Patel Show
Ahh staking back in the day was great
Only 90s kids remember his accent he used
1:18:00 ( personal timestamp)
Thank you Dr K
whole thing summarized at 2:04:00
Swifterman12 can you explain how it’s real d to anxiety? I don’t feel like watching the whole vid
Thanks y'all ^_^
Man I didn't know the guy from the walking dead had so many issues
I had a dream where i was going to give a speech about something random to a very large audience. Both my mom and dad were sitting next to me and when I got up to head to the stage my dad said "You got this son" and immediately after, my mom said: "You're going to fail" even though both my parents are very loving and look out for me. Idk if I have mommy issues but I feel like i'm not in the right to say that because she looks out for me and loves me. But I sort of feel like my anxiety stems from hers.
P.S. Who asked
For anyone here feeling like " I found myself after watching shows, or helps you out figure who you are".. Pls dont go at it that way. You can relate and reflect but do not ever become what someone else is just because they use logical words or have a good attitude towards life. You need to find yourself on your own path without being influenced by people online, being influenced basically means ur kind of "brainwashed" into believing you are just like that and this.. No hate tho, i just wanted to say that finding your own balance and your own way is what makes you identify with your true self in the end, not trough the internett. Seek nature, find peace, calm down and achieve blissfullness. That way you reprogram your mind over a period of time and you can better go on to the road you were ment for. You need to reset due to all the information this era spits out or you will have some sort of personal identity theft.