I remember the issues you had when you were in NZ. I realise personal circumstances are completely different now. But you may need to find time to relax. Just a thought. 🤔😊👍👍
We all have struggles so I know what you mean, if it wasn't for channels like yours and a few other channels that has kept me sane, well semi-sane, so I would like to say thank you.👍
I genuinely can't understand why 28 people saw the need to dislike a video about two of the most genuine and relatable TH-camrs out there talking about their mental health. This video has helped me and two of my family members more in 18 minutes than the mental health support system ever has
Sadly there is some really nasty bits of vile scum out there that has nothing better to do than to make it hard for others. I really enjoy his videos and I respect him and his colleagues for talking about subjects that are often ignored.
I think some had the phone upside-down, some hit the button by accident, and some may just want a car focused channel to never deal with anything else. A personality / humour rich channel like this can't be pidgeon-holed. Let them thumb as the please, hopefully they'll reflect on the contructive discussion and benefit from it.
Ian, just remember that all you do is hugely appreciated by us all. You have a following that holds you in high esteem - we are all grateful. As for the cars, why not dispose those that are too big a job and concentrate on those that you already know inside out to bring them to the peak of condition. And don't forget, you have that wonderful girl in your life too. Nuff said....
ian taf. Well said. I was about to suggest that feeling overwhelmed by the scale of what work needs to be done having so many vehicles and a couple of which require enormous amounts of work could be the problem. I have battled mental health of and on for years and have a small fleet of 4, which require some work, and had gotten very far behind in my "book work" for my business and was feeling as "flat a sh*t carter's hat" for quite a while recently - my solution, eventually, was to break it down into small tasks, and to mentally disengage from the bigger picture or anything that is not urgent. You could also just ask for help. I am feeling much better now that I have gotten some (small) things done (just make a start). I wish Ian and Mrs HubNut to rediscover their mojo, and to know that there are many of us out here that understand and support you both, no matter what - kudos to you both for having the courage to talk honestly about this subject.
@@phillipevans9414 entirely agree. My fleet of one has required many, many months of maintenance recently and it gets me down sometimes (especially when doing something a second or third time). I couldn't imagine having multiples of that and still coping
You want peace Ian? Reduce at once the project cars. To start with the Yugo and that red one in the right corner. Keep the cars you like and inspires you to work on, otherwise you get stressed. In the most worst case Miss Hubnut has to take the decisions.
agree. I've had to do that in the recent past too, No depression issues here, but too many cars to maintain pulled me down a lot. I will stick to my beloved BX and DS, no new cars for me anymore. we love you Ian, no matter now many cars you have!
@@HeDzsz So true, you can't ride two horses at once....unless it's a Citroen Deux Cheveaux ha. I deeply envy you for having a DS, one of the most beautiful automotive creations of all time!
You don't know how releived I was to watch this episode. After 50 years of tinkering I've recently found myself being 'scared' of starting a job in case I can't finish it. Knowing full well I can do it but just starting is the problem for me. It's as if I've lost all my confidence. Keep going folks I'm sure we will come out the other side. Bern.
@@TheMentalblockrock He did say it was stress induced by over work. But the high tempo of work he was doing was actually a by product of his mental state at the time. Well that is what i gleaned from what he said about it at the time. It really shows that he cares about his subscribers in a way, because he doesn't wish to disappoint us. I hope Ian is a more relaxed about that now.
@@allanfoster6965 I wonder if Ian might be a little bit bi-polar? These people can go from mania (lots of energy, work and activity) to depression (little motivation, work or energy) and used to be known as manic- depressives. We have seen some of that with Ian, i.e. LOTS of work then burn-out. It's a LOT more common that people think, I've known a few, great people they were, but they need to be aware in order to manage their condition.
@@TheMentalblockrock i am in no position to comment on that. All i will say is that Ian and a huge amount of people sometimes struggle (i include myself). I feel privileged that people share these things, i think it is extremely brave.
As someone who suffers from bouts of depression for 20 yrs now not helped by lockdown and losing 2 friends from it's very personal to me. Mental health is such a taboo subject but i think we're slowly getting there. Remember it's okay not to be okay.
"Motivation can just vanish" What's motivation ? Since switching to Internet TV and watching the BBC news online, I no longer have to get up at 1pm to watch it.
@@millomweb Depression, diagnosed over a decade ago. So stop trying to be an armchair doctor!!! Are you claiming that my feelings of wanting to end it all by slitting my wrists was fake as well?
@@millomweb no one should ever ever doubt any person's depression because no one out there is confident, perfect or arrogant enough to never be susceptible to depression or anxiety.
Well said Man. It is through no fault of your own that you have depression and does not make you in any way inferior to anyone else. A lot of people who claim to never have suffered from depression are not being completely honest with themselves and others.
@@terminusaquo1980 Who said anything about things being fake ? It sounds like you're saying you've caused your depression yourself ! At least I've a genuine reason for it.
For what it's worth, I think the community that follow your channel do so because we can relate to you, including when things don't go to plan (or lack of it). This is definitely a worthwhile video, and definitely deserves its place on your main channel 👍
Depression really is a horrible thing, and unless you have suffered from it yourself, it is hard to understand just how much it can affect someone's life. It really can suck you in, to the point you just don't want to talk to anyone about it. You just have to keep reminding yourself that it's the depression that is making everything look and feel so hopeless, once you can understand that your well on the way to seeking help. I suffered silently for a long long time before finally getting help. It was the best move I ever made. No need to suffer in silence these days.
@@SmR8008 Who said it wasn't an achievable goal ? As at least one other has said hereabouts and as igenerally known, it's a matter of breaking the problems down to manageable sizes and pursue them. I've a load of 'jobs' that need sorting out - first fix the country's justice system - and then use it to fix the other issues.
I have been suffering from depression for many years. I have been in the dark for many years. But your video brightens my heart. I support you from far away Japan! And thank you!
This is the first time I've ever commented on any TH-cam video, but I felt I had to acknowledge your incredibly dignified approach to this sensitive subject, there will be many, myself included that will appreciate your honesty and bravery. Thank you both. PS your car content is brilliant.
Remember we aren't watching you tinkering because you are a master mechanic, we are watching because you aren't, and largely neither are we and we have the same problems with our cars. Also, and I struggle with this too, only one car HAS to work, and that's the family car (let a garage look after it), for the others it's just nice if they work. Take care, keep on keeping on and bring on the gatherings ❤
This is so true. How boring this channel would be if Ian sorted every problem in 30 seconds. We watch this channel because it is more down to earth and we can relate to the tinkering challenges!
Everyone suffers from mental illness at some point in their life, some cope better than others, some hide it well, others feel overwhelmed. I've had my dark moments but now things are falling into place and I can see where I want to be. My family were amazing and helped me find my way. Best thing I found was to talk to friends, family, be honest with them and with yourself.
Retired as a qualified RMN having previously had serious depression in my life I really admire what you have done with this video Ian showing the courage to come out so to speak. I was so concerned when you were showing stress in NZ I was trying then trying to work out a way to get in touch to offer my help. Hold on to two things. You have discovered the best therapy...talking...offloading . You are so very fortunate to have found a wonderful partner in Carly and you seem to naturally support each other . Balance. You don’t need me to tell you how fortunate you both are because it shines through . Just because I am trained, I like many, many others have found the last year shielding so very tough as I have physical health issues too and live alone. It has been a nightmare but by counting my blessings and with help you carry on. Well done again. Your revelation will have lifted many when they realise they are not entirely alone with their thoughts . You have other offers I see but I add mine to be available anytime should you ever want to talk. What you have done here is special.
When you seek medical attention - and A+E refuse to treat you - then you get physically assaulted by staff - do you really think I want my life to go on ? Absolutely not. Which is why, if the useless health service offers me the vaccine (I'm 56) I'll turn the offer down. Can anyone name a country with an acceptable health service ?
Just remember, all the cars feels like one big problem to resolve however, it's just lots of small jobs, which are easier to tackle. Pace yourself and set yourself goals, 1 small job a week etc. I was diagnosed with GAD (General Anxiety Disorder) late 2019, which has kind of made sense of a few things, so I totally can relate to certain aspects. 😎
Exactly. Also, up to a point, it doesn't matter which job you do first. A small job that you know you can finish gives a real sense of achievement. Even if it's only putting new speakers in a C5, that's a job finished (Yay!) and one less thing to do later (Yay!) This is a lesson I have had to teach myself.
Sometimes a break from the tasks is needed. And it allows you to clear your head a bit. It's easy to be tough on yourself, but it's okay to ease off a bit. It's allowed. You're doing great. Take care, both.
Thank you for sharing. We love the content, ALL of it. There is a link between mental illl health and perfectionism. I have a VW T25 and I love it and hate it in equal measure. However, I see it as a challenge. I break it down in to smaller problems and learn from my mistakes. Nothing is perfect, and good enough is great. When my mood is low I eat. Keep sharing and keep talking x
I must say miss hubnut has done an amazing job tidying the workshop up and you aren't useless at fixing cars just take your time and things will get fixed have faith in yourself 👍👍👍
As someone who has spent many years working in mental health as well as having experienced mental health issues, I fully support you both deviating from the usual fare to discuss mental health. It is an area where too many people still suffer silently rather than admit that they have a problem due to stigma or perceived reactions from those around them, especially within the workplace. It is encouraging everyone someone admits that they themselves are not immune from negative thoughts or feelings and says that there is no shame in seeking help as one would for a physical issue. Well done.
I don't think people have a problem with mental health, I think the have a frustrating problem with society that they shouldn't have and the alleged services there to deal with such issues don't.
Honestly Ian, as someone who hasn't even worked up the nerve to do a timing belt change, you are more skilled than you give yourself credit for when it comes to working on vehicles.
Do the timing belt change…do it on something old, and follow the steps for your car. After you overcome the first worry and self doubt with the first one. You will take on more! Did my first one at 25! Just have time and patience 😃
One thing that has helped me get through all of this is the joy of watching you and others doing these vlogs ! I suffer from anxiety,stress and can't deal with pressure or confrontation! So you and the others are helping so many people without you knowing it ! Keep on doing what you are doing we all love the things you do !👍🛠🛠🛠🔩🔧
My goodness, I feel the same way as you do! Anxiety, hate confrontation. Totally disorganized. I literally push myself every day, and some days I am grateful!
Now listen to me Ian. You need a few of us hub nutters to get up there when we are allowed and smash out a few of these projects. A couple of weekends, bit of banter and some fun. It's hard when you have to struggle on your own. Keep safe.
In the US, Keith Rucker (VintageMachinery.org) did just that - asked for a load of volunteers to get one job done - expecting it to take a day. There were enough volunteers to get the job done in the morning !
I'm so glad you are on TH-cam Ian,you were 1 of the inspirations (along with miller corner) that helped me start my own TH-cam channel...so thankyou for being there 👌
I've got many demons myself & I'm glad you guys made this video, because I genuinely believe that talking about what we know about ourselves & being honest about our demons helps people feel less alone. I always have a serious bout of blues between the end of January & Valentines due to the anniversary of my mum's death &, what with valentines, I feel incredibly alone, unwanted & a failure of a human being. That last point is my biggest demon, that feeling of failing as a person, not really helped my working for a well known motorfactors that's better known for selling the wrong parts, working minimum wage, sacrificing weekends on the trade counter for countless people who don't show any gratitude for what I do for them. I'm in my late twenties, I'm still working stupid hours minimum wage & all people say is "you have your whole life ahead of you" but that means precious little when the rest of your life could be fifty years or fifty minutes. What helps get my demons under control is understanding that our time on this planet is fleeting & life is a rare thing. You have to grab it by the scruff of the neck & shake as much goodness as you can from it. It's one factor that led me to moving in with friends in Stafford as I couldn't talk about my demons with my last housemate without it devolving into "I've had it much worse than you". I'd say the best way to improving your mental health & your state of mind in general is to surround yourself with good people, despite the hardships of my work, my colleagues are the best people I've ever worked with. I live with two people who understand demons & we frequently talk about what's on our minds. I have a loving father & brother who are only a phone call away if I ever need them. At the end of it all, people are the only way of settling those demons & it's thanks you yourself Ian (& indeed Carly & the Hublets) & this awesome community you started, that we are able to open up & confront those demons so that they don't have a chance of ruling our lives. So for that, Thank you
I feel the same as you regarding work, it's constant pressure and politics with no real regard to your worth. Companies talk alot of shit and tick boxes... Have you ever tried working in the parts dept of a main dealer? Might be an option for you with your experience.
What an amazingly open vlog, whole heartedly agree it’s a hugely important subject that has been neglected or stigmatised over the years. You’re both great as presenters and your tinkering is interesting and honest because it is exactly what happens when most of us tinker.
Hello Ian an Miss HubNut from France. I'm mentally disabled (official handicap), don't want to get too much into it but I have similar problems : disorganisation, very bad mood when I fail, low self confidence. And a huge anxiety (who almost killed me twice) I always struggle to talk about this : people don't want to know, think that I'm a "simulator". Mechanic is a cure but also a problem : I it's "too much for me" : I give up. Sometimes it's nothing more than a bad comprehension, very little things, but I managed to change a cylinder head on a volvo without knowledge. There is no rule. To be fair with you Ian : you almost had a burn out "down-under" and remember than symptoms are not always immediate, and lockdown affected all of us badly. Be careful of you : we love you all. My soulmate help me a lot to have good decision : I'm sure Miss Hub Nut will do the same, she is clever (et en plus elle parle Français). Take care.
I don't want to talk about myself but I can very much identify with that being faced with an overwhelming workload of projects and jobs amongst other things. I do think you're a bit hard on yourself Ian. I remember watching the Fox Anne series of videos and, as someone with a lot of experience, I was dead impressed. Also, and this is to both of you, I wish I could communicate how much your channel means to so many of us. We all screw up lots of times, it's what keeps us all real. Wishing all of the Hubnut community all the best ❤️
I'm sure there are lots of owners, like me, of cars that could be on the Hub Nut fleet, and who are trying to keep those cars going, who find your videos both entertaining and instructive. Even when things don't go to plan, that just reminds us of our own struggles with maintenance issues, and occasionally gives us good ideas on how to solve the next inevitable issue. Right now I'm following your paint repair videos on Ellie because I have a 24 year old Rover 420 with a slightly rusty rear wing that I'd like to fix. Even if all you do is convince me that I'd be better off getting someone else to do it, that's invaluable guidance. I hope you bear in mind that only a few years ago, most of us could only get our fix of car information via the TV. Now there are endless sources of that via You Tube to the extent that even TV presenters have their own You Tube channels (Late Brake Show and Edd China's Workshop diaries being just two examples). You are an important part of that, with your own niche: i.e. all of us with slightly older vehicles who are just trying to keep them running. If you do get fed up then frankly I'm not surprised because I'm amazed how much great content you put out there. It's obvious a lot of work, and time, goes into it. There are endless car channels on You Tube doing the same old, same old stuff, but only a few that stand out. Yours is in the latter category, and that wouldn't be the case if you weren't a great presenter with a lot of knowledge. I know all of us would rather never make mistakes, but we all know from experience that it happens, and when it happens to you it just reminds the rest of us that we've been there, done that and that if we haven't done that, then there but for the grace of God etc. I think you have probably spoilt us with the frequency of your content. I'm also sure most will stick with you even if you post a little less frequently.
Thanks to both of you for being so open and frank. I have had no social contact for over a year so it was helpful to hear your views. Thanks for all the wonderful content, you will never know how much i've enjoyed it.
Thank you for sharing this, I know from experience that it is not easy to do. We don't watch your videos because you are an expert mechanic, we watch them because you are a friend and someone we can relate to. Your videos and those of a few other select TH-camrs have helped me, and I'm sure many others, get through some hard times.
You have too many cars in my humble, you need to lose a couple and take it from there. I have to say I think your greatest strength on TH-cam is your road trips and road tests, both outstanding viewing and highly entertaining.
Well i'm not surprised. One of the reasons i LOVE your channel is (besides your awesome knowledge and love for cars), that you are a "real" person. I have been in your position since january: No passion, no energi, drinking way too much.... and not being able to just "snap out of it". Being open and honest about it helps, and you are very brave (both of you) to share. Thanks!
With all that is going around it is hardly surprising. I looked after my mum who had severe mental issues. I looked after her single handed for 25+ years. At the end Social workers and the police got involved, and they put her in a home. For years after I was suffering from panic attacks and still am. My doctor said it was the years of stress slowly coming out. When it starts it's like walking into a brick wall, and I end up a blubbering heap. The last few years since I met my wife it has got very much better.
It's so easy for people to say "pull yourself together" and it's not that simple - as you said, there's no magic button to press to sort yourself out! It also creeps up on you, from experience I know that when you get yourself into trouble mentally you need to try to talk to people as early as you can to avoid it getting overwhelming. Sometimes though you think you're doing OK then it just comes in a great big wave and you're buggered. One of the best things to have is someone you can talk to, and looks like you both have that in each other...
Thank you for sharing and its always good to talk about things. Watching this video mirrored very similar thoughts and feelings I've had in the past and present, but dealing with things in a much better way now. You both look like a good match, helping each other and that's how it should be.
Thank you both for sharing this. It is heartwarming to read all the comments down here and to know that you are not alone, I am not alone, all of us Hubnutters are not alone. I am touched.
Well said Ian, I remember messaging you when you hit a low point in Betty. I too suffer from the same things. After not working for 5 months and promising to paint the house and complete all the renovations with my free time, I just don't know where to start. The only things I seem to fix are the urgent things that have a time line. I did 2 jobs on my Landcruiser today, One had the new part sitting on a shelf for 2 months, only today did I feel that i had to get it done.The more we talk about these things, and the more we admit they aren't weaknesses, the better.
I've struggled with depression for the majority of my life, coupled with undiagnosed autism (though it hasn't officially been diagnosed as yet, it's bright flashing neon signs showing all the symptoms and traits in me), it's been quite hard for me to get by, as socially I'm just useless in person, and when I am trying to be social, I end up waffling too much (like going into too much detail for one!), which puts people off and makes things worse for me, so as a result, I'm pretty much a solitary loner with no real life friendships or any personal relations, and it's bloody hard work to keep my head above the water some days, moreso this past year with lockdowns, so mental health is indeed something we need to be mindful of, not carry on the stiff upper lip thing, cos that's more harmful than anything...
I see you responding to many of Ian and Carly's tweets and I like that, though I have an instant like for persons who like 2CV. 😄 I have friends and co-workers who have been diagnosed with autism, they have had training so they can cope with the fact that their brain works differently but it can be hard, especially in socialisation. Don't ever think you're useless because you're not, it's not your fault that the world seems incompatible, you're good the way you are.
Over the last two years (two years exactly next week), I lost my mum at just 55 to cancer. Six months earlier she was fine and cancer free. I then lost my home, my job, my car, and myself. I got a new job as a Delivery Driver and, six months in, was written off by a drunk driver, leaving me with £6500 in loans to pay back for a van that was written off. I now have a new van and I'm back delivering, but this past few years has broken me in every possible way, and one of the major things that helped was the escape of loading up TH-cam on my phone and watching you explore Australia and New Zealand and all the different vehicles you've driven and reviewed. So I personally thank you Ian for your part in helping me navigate life after losing my mum, and you bring that help and support to so many viewers of your channel without even really realising it. You're awesome mate 👏
Exactly what i needed to hear today. Well done both of you for your openness and honesty.. We all, myself included, if we are honest, have our struggles and self doubts. On the car struggles, that's why we all love the channel so much. Because most of the time its exactly how it goes when we try and work on our own!
I agree with some of the comments below regarding reducing the fleet. It's gunna be tough but I think the basket cases need to go. I understand you have a strong connection with ellie , myrtle and twc but don't get attached to the others. I actually enjoy the recent buying and selling of rita and the vectra and the primera. Maybe that's the way forward. Get cars that are already runners and improve them slightly and then do it again. Whichever way you decide to go with the fleet I will be tuning in.
Really refreshing to hear such openness and honesty. My partner and I love your channel - it's wonderfully entertaining and eclectic and provides so many uplifting moments for us, and for so many others. Long may it continue.
Mate, I drank a whole bottle of whiskey on Sunday and then phoned my dad in tears... I phoned AA and talked to a nice chap. My doctor doubled my dose of Sertraline and I went to the Pharmacy yesterday and they had run-out due to demand. Today I've finally cleaned the kitchen and went for a walk in the park in Ipswich...in the sun. Feeling better. Social anxiety is so odd, you dare not go somewhere because you are worried about asking where the toilets are etc. Love to everyone here xx.
Well done to both of you for talking about mental health so openly. I lost my wife to aggressive and pretty sudden brain cancer early in 2017, and took the offer of counselling from the hospice very gladly that spring - it really helped. I've not had great success in meeting anyone, with 2020 being a low point for reasons we all know. You are incredibly lucky, Ian, having la belle petite Miss HubNut. She is a gem. Like many many thousands of your followers, your videos have helped me through this pandemic. They brighten our days. You should be immensely proud of that. You are a naturally gifted presenter. You've always got to remember that your viewing community (mostly) very eagerly follow how you - an enthusiast rather than a boring robot - go about jobs including the tasks that go wrong/ overrun. We love how you react to owning cars or road testing ones that we remember from our own experiences, we really fancied, or from time to time have heard of but wouldn't "touch with a bargepole". Your tours of the Balkans with the mighty Dacia, Netherlands-France-Austria-Croatia-Germany with Elly, then NZ with the BX and Betty Fairmont and over to Oz were educational, VERY informative and entertaining (I've seen bits of all three at least twice during English lockdowns; yep could be considered 'sad' but, as we can't travel we can at least dream...) Your museum vids likewise are brilliant. On tinkering, many contributors below have commented that you should thin out the fleet. I won't offer a view on that but whatever you decide to do I'll just offer/ repeat a maxim from some management training years ago: "How do you eat an elephant? The first thing is to slice the elephant up into burgers (or rissoles). Then you have an elephant rissole every day and, hey presto, before you know it you are well on the way to eating your elephant." I think I'd add "and you should always offer a rissole for sharing". The clipboards for each car were your equivalent of elephant rissole making. Rissole-sharing is getting outside help when you need it, and you WILL need it from specialist fettlers, we can all see that. Your feeling low will get better. We are with you. Take care of yourselves and the mini-HubNuts.
Interesting and brave stuff. Credit to you both. 👍 I've been watching the channel for years and always enjoyed it. But these past 12mths this channel (and a couple of others) have been a great help in escaping the daily cr*p that we are all having to deal with in our own way.
Cheers for this you two - a lot of folks don't see TH-camrs as 'people', just as 'entertainment'. We all have our own struggles. Glad you're both doing OK and no worries about the lack of tinkering when that comes up once and awhile Ian. Both of you do what is best for yourselves....the world is in a strange state these days and we all have our inner shadows to fight (Lord knows I have some of my own). BUT, humanity has been around this long....we can all make it through to the other side :)
Thanks you two for having the conversation miss hubnut she's a keeper Ian what a woman you don't know how much you having this conversation has helped people much love and respect to you both
Thanks both for your openness and honesty. Showing your vulnerability actually shows great strength. Ian don't worry about your mechanical skill level even the greatest have their critics. George Daniels one of England's finest Watch makers said "When a man looks at your work he doesn't look to compliment it but to find fault".
I can relate to you both and felt quite emotional listening to what you both said. You make a great team and you are so right; talking and relating to each other is so vital.
Don't give up you two. It's a blip and it will pass. You are an inspirational couple and obviously a wonderful match. You do also buy old bangers, which is never going to be easy! But whether they run or not, your videos will always be brilliant to watch. Please don't go changing, our doubt yourselves. We will still be here supporting you.
Ian you are very brave putting this out there. Your channel has kept me sane over the last few months. Take some comfort that in your pain you have been helping others immensely. Thanks for your contribution. There is nothing more beautiful than the imperfect. As far as I am concerned this channel is a celebration of that. Thanks again
As someone who has suffered from depression/anxiety/panic attacks for 20+ years i understand where your coming from and thanks for the video . It spoils my hobby's of repairing electronics fixing cars etc and affects my daily life as well I'm unable to go places where there are a lot of people incase i have a freakout session. Its so hard putting the face on that people know when inside i feel empty and have no motivation or interest in things i used to love doing when im going through a bad patch .
Brilliantly expressed explanations of the problems of mental health, been treated for anxiety and depression for over 25 years and lost my mum almost exactly one year ago and struggle to cope,your talk helps it really does, Thanks, Terry
Ian, Thank you , thank you, thank you. I have lived with depression and anxiety for more than 20 years, and I have hit the dreadful low points when I don't feel ANYTHING. Nothing at all would motivate me, nothing would make me happy, the recent times in this world of virus and pandemic have been cruel, being able to watch people like you and Miss Hubnut helps me to have a time in the day where I feel like I'm with friends. My friends and colleagues don't see the real me as I hide behind a humorous façade, so keeping up appearances is something I've done for many many years. I cannot thank you enough for both being so open and honest. You are the kind of people I wish I knew in person, but I'm glad to know you through TH-cam.
Ian, you have taken a massive step by acknowledging the issue and talking about it. Well done. Remember that you, Miss Hubnut and your channels are very much loved. Both of you, take care and keep talking about it.
I'm speechless !!! Thank you both so much for making this video, I cannot believe how much I can relate to all that you said. As a fellow Ceredigion TH-camr that used to enjoy hiking all around Wales I have now found myself becoming more and more reclusive and introverted like you can relate to. I'm not sure if this virus has caused all this, or just compounded it but I used to love going out, meeting people and hiking all over the Elan Valley and now I stay indoors, never leave and just quietly make videos in my garage. I think it's tough to keep yourself making video's, coming up with a new idea and having to implement it yourself especially if it's your sole income. In a normal job you can go home and switch off after work but with TH-cam you have to keep rolling with it even on your days off as the buck stops with you if you don't create another video. That can be a lot of mental pressure upon oneself. Talking about anxiety, I've even managed to avoid going to any shops if at all possible lol. McDonalds in Aber is the most I have ventured to maybe once every couple of months if someone else orders lol. I truly never realised you had suffered these feelings HubNut & Mrs HubNut and you should be so proud of yourselves for telling the world. Mrs HubNut seems to be clearly a little gem in your life and lucky for you both you found each other. What an amazing episode....thank you for sharing and hope you both keep well and keep those local video's coming Mrs HubNut.
With the start of the pandemic it brought out old demon's in my head and took us further into the depths of depression. It made me realize that I needed to excorsise some troubles I had into the past which ended up being treated with Councilling and CBT it has helped I got diagnosed with PTSD and throughout the shit times I had the videos of TWC and the other cars you have owned and the successes and failure's over the year has kept my sanity as you videos have literally kept me sane so thank you
Your so fortunate , that you found each other, your strength and weakness are being dealt with head on!!! As you experience more of life as a family, there are so many levels of each individual! As long as your there for each other, no one will be left behind!!!!!
Very brave and forward thinking to make this - I applaud you both. Many of us do struggle, the key is being there for each other and just being nice to people you meet. After all it costs nothing to be nice. All the very best Ian, miss Hubnut and all that read this.
Hi Ian. Your followers love what you do. Your video's are a staple in my life and keep me going. It is fabby to see you working on the fleet. The thing to remember about cars is they always need something. I think the best thing is to talk. We, who tune in are all connected now because of you and your shows, your banter and your fabby Hubnut community. Lean on us when you need us as we certainly need you.
I totally see where you are coming from with the 'feeling down - buy another car'. I cannot buy cars anymore but instead I have a love of clocks, I have more than 15 at the moment but that did not stop me buying 3 more recently in an auction because I needed something to 'cheer me up'. You both do an amazing job and keep us entertained but I can see that that must be difficult at times. Thank you both for being so honest, I appreciate it very much
This was a very honest and open hearted thing for you both to talk about personally these times have been hard as I think a lot of people will admit just caring and sharing and most of all loving the people in your life and being their for each other you two are chalk and cheese but you somehow make it work which is just as well because someone needs to tidy up after you Ian keep yourselfs safe Rob
Probably the most, brilliantly, honest, and loving vid, you have ever made. I feel UTTERLY SHITE when my Morris doesn’t run... I’m glad I’m not the only one. Thanks you two xRx
I appreciate your help keeping me going with all your car vids through a very strange tough year. Mental health is real and I have it too but keep talking and keep busy. Admitting it is good and you will be fine. You have a good lady with you. Stay safe and well please all of you and thank you always.
Thank you SO MUCH for this video. I have been feeling the exact same way. Ive really been struggling for the past year. A lot of the same feelings that both of you have been experiencing. Thank you for this moment of connection. It really makes me feel like I'm not alone. Thank you both for taking the risk and being vulnerable...it's courageous.
This was a lovely video to watch, simply because most mental health awareness things (I have seen) tend to be either people who talk about very regularly (so it becomes part of their public persona) or what has become cliched statistics (who came up with 1 in 4? thats got to be BS!) and random encouragements to just talk about it. But you guys - who we see in the context of hosting a down to eart car channel - talking about it is I think more helpful. When I talk about my anxiety it tends to trigger it - so it's not much fun. But hearing you talk about it makes it identifiable, and whilst we are not talking to you about our problems, hearing yours can help us to realise that what we may suffer through isn't uncommon. I think you raise very good points about stiff upper lip etc, but for me, I am not sure how talking to someone who doesn't identify/empathise with it helps, and as people don't talk about it, we never know who to talk to. As for fixing cars, my anxiety doesnt usually stop me doing that (my terminal laziness sees to the incredibly slow progress there!). One of the reasons I love watching you fix cars is because you aren't necessarily that good at it! Whilst its all very well to see a mechanic in a fully quipped garage lift the car up on the lift and do a quick job they have done hundreds of times before - seeing you struggle, not be able to find the right tool, have the wrong part, forget to put things back (or put the wrong bit back!) is exactly what I do. I changed the oil on my car the other week - it took 24hrs as I couldn't get the filter off and had to go and buy a tool - thats the reality of the home mechanic. Professionals are there for the advice, you are there for the entertainment - but we can still learn something along the way (even if its what not to do!). Also, seeing your real results can really help manage expectations that as someone who has never attempted something like paint work before, I am unlikely to get perfect results (so, I just avoid it!) Keep up your amazing videos - few others put out as many videos as you guys do, but they are always a joy to watch.
I can relate, and I continue to work towards healing as I grow older. I have to keep reminding myself not to be so hard on myself. I also try and take the time to break up jobs so they don't become overwhelming. And it's taken me 50 years, but I am starting to accept who I am. Thank you both for being honest and baring your soul just a bit.
Thanks for this, you both have touched on mine and many other struggles with mental health especially anxiety and self confidence, watching your videos over the last year have greatly helped me get through these challenging times and just recently gave me the motivation to get back into the garage to start to revive a car I have neglected for over 15 years, I can't tell you how satisfying it has been to rediscover a car that was my pride and joy all that time ago.....So a big Thanks to you both!! Always looking forward to your next videos, keep up the great work! Cheers
Thank you for this one! It meant a lot. I retired about five years ago, leaving behind a position that required special skills and knowledge, along with a great deal of responsibility. Now that’s all behind me, and I feel somewhat dead in the water. And being a creative introvert, I tend to hold in a lot of feelings. I’ve had many dreams where I was employed again, and involved in various projects. May days I spend doing very little, as interest in my favorite activities comes and goes. Ian, I see something of myself in you... working on classics is a hobby that’s close to my heart. I’m by no means an expert, but simple curiosity and a need to figure out and fix problems keeps me going. Meaning, I don’t approach a job on my MG with full knowledge of the solution, but I enjoy the learning process required to make that fix. The only time it gets frustrating is when numerous attempts fail to correct the issue. Anyway, I’m wandering. Keep doing the wonderful things you do. I can relate to both the high and low times, as I’ve been there myself. HubNut is more than just entertainment; it’s encouragement.
Can I thank both of you, Ian and Carley for your honesty, openness and sharing basic human emotions experienced by so many of us at a point in our lives. It is moments like this and videos like yours that truly make a difference to real people because you are real people. All of us hub nutters, I am sure, genuinely appreciate the hard work that you put into your channels. Ellie is in bits and maybe that reflects on you Ian, but we are all in this together and I would just like to say how grateful I am to have found your channel. "How does that work, how do I repair it" is a question that _ I feel your pain! May Hubnut, Miss Hubnut celebrate their many successes and sail onwards as you, your family and the channels so deserves. My best wishes to you and all the family. Our quirks make us human. We are a community of friends- we support each other. Best wishes Richard.
I totally understand where you are coming from. Lately I have been completely unmotivated, and therefore most does not get completed. And I take prescription medication, SSID. But I must say that you are much braver than I in performing all the maintenance on all of your vehicles! You should be extremely proud of your accomplishments, good and bad. And I believe here in the US it Mental Health Awareness month, and not enough information, and especially investment in mental health, are the biggest issues. And this is a global issue! Thank you very much for being so honest and open!
I can relate very much to what you both said. Thanks for making this video. Your videos are always appreciated. keep up the good work and only get back to tinkering when you are ready.
I think we’re all ‘odd ball’ to a certain extent, it’s what makes us who we are. I suffer quite bad with SAD, especially as winter sets in and it all turns cold and dark, not good times for me at all, I know people don’t understand when I get like I get... nice to watch a video like this from people I very much respect. Always see the value in what you guys do for all your subscribers, sometimes it’s nice to just get away and watch a HubNut video for a few minutes, often takes my mind off any troubles I have, even if only temporary... you guys are very much ‘doing your bit’ for mental health!
This past years done it for me Ian - started off ok at the beginning of lockdown but today was my last day at work. I am taking a step back and looking to early retirement - work that I found so fulfilling for 40 years just became a butt pain in the end.
Thank you for being so open and honest, so many people have struggled during the last 12 months or so, it takes balls to be so open and talk about it in an open forum. so pleased you have such a solemate Ian. kids are hard work but give it. a few years they will fly the nest. you make a great couple!! you are 'spinning ' too many plates, reduce that fleet and keep and treasure the cars that mean a lot to you rather than cars you 'should' enjoy! Stay safe both of you and look after each other x
Thank you both for a fantastic and lovely video. Really interesting and helpful. And in terms of achievement/getting things done etc I love the HubNut videos, they really chime with my motoring and amateur mechanic interests. Thank you
As many have commented, your not alone. I'm in the process of medical retirement due to mental health issues. In a previous profession I was a mechanic and I couldn't bring myself to tinker with my classis motorcycle also. To admit your struggling is the first part of the healing process. It's great you have each other for support. We're all with you Ian. Happy hut nutting.
Thank you for so many lovely, often personal comments. I'm trying to catch up with them all!
@@TheKenjoje well… everyone is “the one” to talk about their own mental health !! We’re all in the soup together !!
We are all mental... Maybe hand the PT Cruiser back as it is, as you do have a lot to do.
@@TheKenjoje 👍🏻❗️
I remember the issues you had when you were in NZ. I realise personal circumstances are completely different now. But you may need to find time to relax. Just a thought. 🤔😊👍👍
We all have struggles so I know what you mean, if it wasn't for channels like yours and a few other channels that has kept me sane, well semi-sane, so I would like to say thank you.👍
I genuinely can't understand why 28 people saw the need to dislike a video about two of the most genuine and relatable TH-camrs out there talking about their mental health. This video has helped me and two of my family members more in 18 minutes than the mental health support system ever has
I really don't understand why there is a dislike button to begin with
Yes the like button is needed.....but not the dislike
Sadly there is some really nasty bits of vile scum out there that has nothing better to do than to make it hard for others. I really enjoy his videos and I respect him and his colleagues for talking about subjects that are often ignored.
@@BritishRail60062 Ian and Miss HubNut put out quality vlogs....if people don't like them...there's no need to put a thumbs down
I think some had the phone upside-down, some hit the button by accident, and some may just want a car focused channel to never deal with anything else. A personality / humour rich channel like this can't be pidgeon-holed. Let them thumb as the please, hopefully they'll reflect on the contructive discussion and benefit from it.
Treasure Miss Hubnut. She is very special. I didn't find my soulmate until I was 60!
Im lucky found mine in my mid thirties , if it wasnt for her id be long gone by now . I count my blessings every day after 25 yrs together ,
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Ian, just remember that all you do is hugely appreciated by us all. You have a following that holds you in high esteem - we are all grateful. As for the cars, why not dispose those that are too big a job and concentrate on those that you already know inside out to bring them to the peak of condition. And don't forget, you have that wonderful girl in your life too. Nuff said....
ian taf. Well said. I was about to suggest that feeling overwhelmed by the scale of what work needs to be done having so many vehicles and a couple of which require enormous amounts of work could be the problem. I have battled mental health of and on for years and have a small fleet of 4, which require some work, and had gotten very far behind in my "book work" for my business and was feeling as "flat a sh*t carter's hat" for quite a while recently - my solution, eventually, was to break it down into small tasks, and to mentally disengage from the bigger picture or anything that is not urgent. You could also just ask for help. I am feeling much better now that I have gotten some (small) things done (just make a start). I wish Ian and Mrs HubNut to rediscover their mojo, and to know that there are many of us out here that understand and support you both, no matter what - kudos to you both for having the courage to talk honestly about this subject.
@@phillipevans9414 Yes, Phillip. We are a strange breed indeed, us humans.... Best wishes
Ian couldn't agree more Ian & Carly are truly wonderful I am so glad to follow them
@@phillipevans9414 entirely agree. My fleet of one has required many, many months of maintenance recently and it gets me down sometimes (especially when doing something a second or third time). I couldn't imagine having multiples of that and still coping
You want peace Ian? Reduce at once the project cars. To start with the Yugo and that red one in the right corner. Keep the cars you like and inspires you to work on, otherwise you get stressed. In the most worst case Miss Hubnut has to take the decisions.
agree. I've had to do that in the recent past too, No depression issues here, but too many cars to maintain pulled me down a lot. I will stick to my beloved BX and DS, no new cars for me anymore. we love you Ian, no matter now many cars you have!
@@HeDzsz So true, you can't ride two horses at once....unless it's a Citroen Deux Cheveaux ha. I deeply envy you for having a DS, one of the most beautiful automotive creations of all time!
Absolutely, the Olcit-Prolapse is ridiculously knackered...
You don't know how releived I was to watch this episode. After 50 years of tinkering I've recently found myself being 'scared' of starting a job in case I can't finish it. Knowing full well I can do it but just starting is the problem for me. It's as if I've lost all my confidence. Keep going folks I'm sure we will come out the other side. Bern.
I remember Ian saying he had issues when he was NZ. Most revealing and touching.
I say this, you are very brave. In many ways. Thank you. 🤔😊👍👍
Yes i was touched too. So brave!
The issues in NZ could have been overwork and home-sickness!
@@TheMentalblockrock He did say it was stress induced by over work. But the high tempo of work he was doing was actually a by product of his mental state at the time. Well that is what i gleaned from what he said about it at the time.
It really shows that he cares about his subscribers in a way, because he doesn't wish to disappoint us. I hope Ian is a more relaxed about that now.
@@allanfoster6965 I wonder if Ian might be a little bit bi-polar? These people can go from mania (lots of energy, work and activity) to depression (little motivation, work or energy) and used to be known as manic- depressives. We have seen some of that with Ian, i.e. LOTS of work then burn-out. It's a LOT more common that people think, I've known a few, great people they were, but they need to be aware in order to manage their condition.
@@TheMentalblockrock i am in no position to comment on that. All i will say is that Ian and a huge amount of people sometimes struggle (i include myself). I feel privileged that people share these things, i think it is extremely brave.
If it's any consolation Ian you've helped many people in the past year and a bit during the lockdowns thanks to the uploads.
He's just like Tony with that shrink broad I was telling you about. Madonn'
Most definitely .Love every vid . Something warm about them . And makes me laugh .
As someone who suffers from bouts of depression for 20 yrs now not helped by lockdown and losing 2 friends from it's very personal to me. Mental health is such a taboo subject but i think we're slowly getting there. Remember it's okay not to be okay.
I suffer from depression so completely understand how your motivation can just vanish! My wife is my rock and helps me through the darker times!
"Motivation can just vanish"
What's motivation ?
Since switching to Internet TV and watching the BBC news online, I no longer have to get up at 1pm to watch it.
You aren't alone, I've suffered with depression for over a decade so you are not alone and that goes for all of you in the comments as well 😉
Is it depression or is it frustration with the fake services offered in this country - like justice, health and wellbeing ?
@@millomweb Depression, diagnosed over a decade ago. So stop trying to be an armchair doctor!!!
Are you claiming that my feelings of wanting to end it all by slitting my wrists was fake as well?
@@millomweb no one should ever ever doubt any person's depression because no one out there is confident, perfect or arrogant enough to never be susceptible to depression or anxiety.
Well said Man. It is through no fault of your own that you have depression and does not make you in any way inferior to anyone else. A lot of people who claim to never have suffered from depression are not being completely honest with themselves and others.
@@terminusaquo1980 Who said anything about things being fake ? It sounds like you're saying you've caused your depression yourself ! At least I've a genuine reason for it.
For what it's worth, I think the community that follow your channel do so because we can relate to you, including when things don't go to plan (or lack of it). This is definitely a worthwhile video, and definitely deserves its place on your main channel 👍
Agree..Ian is "our kind of guy".
Depression really is a horrible thing, and unless you have suffered from it yourself, it is hard to understand just how much it can affect someone's life. It really can suck you in, to the point you just don't want to talk to anyone about it. You just have to keep reminding yourself that it's the depression that is making everything look and feel so hopeless, once you can understand that your well on the way to seeking help. I suffered silently for a long long time before finally getting help. It was the best move I ever made. No need to suffer in silence these days.
It's not the depression that's the problem, it's the cause of it - this shite country.
@@millomweb If this country is as "shite" as you claim it is then why do you still live here?
@@terminusaquo1980 Because getting out of here needs money and my gran isn't The Queen.
@@millomweb So as that is not an achievable goal, then what alternative approaches could you use to reduce the negative feelings ?
@@SmR8008 Who said it wasn't an achievable goal ?
As at least one other has said hereabouts and as igenerally known, it's a matter of breaking the problems down to manageable sizes and pursue them. I've a load of 'jobs' that need sorting out - first fix the country's justice system - and then use it to fix the other issues.
I have been suffering from depression for many years. I have been in the dark for many years. But your video brightens my heart. I support you from far away Japan! And thank you!
Why do you get depressed in Japan ?
@@millomweb Is that question intended to be idiotic?
@@steven-vn9ui What do you think is idiotic about it ?
@@steven-vn9ui Thank you. It's okay.
@@millomweb Because I have a natural problem.
This is the first time I've ever commented on any TH-cam video, but I felt I had to acknowledge your incredibly dignified approach to this sensitive subject, there will be many, myself included that will appreciate your honesty and bravery. Thank you both. PS your car content is brilliant.
This comment is basically what I wanted to write. 100% concur.
They say a problem shared is a problem halved, you’re so lucky to have Miss Hubnut to help. Stay safe both❤️
But he's shared it with 7 million people - is it still only halved ?
Remember we aren't watching you tinkering because you are a master mechanic, we are watching because you aren't, and largely neither are we and we have the same problems with our cars.
Also, and I struggle with this too, only one car HAS to work, and that's the family car (let a garage look after it), for the others it's just nice if they work.
Take care, keep on keeping on and bring on the gatherings ❤
This is so true. How boring this channel would be if Ian sorted every problem in 30 seconds. We watch this channel because it is more down to earth and we can relate to the tinkering challenges!
Everyone suffers from mental illness at some point in their life, some cope better than others, some hide it well, others feel overwhelmed. I've had my dark moments but now things are falling into place and I can see where I want to be. My family were amazing and helped me find my way. Best thing I found was to talk to friends, family, be honest with them and with yourself.
Thank you for voicing out loud what many feel.
Retired as a qualified RMN having previously had serious depression in my life I really admire what you have done with this video Ian showing the courage to come out so to speak. I was so concerned when you were showing stress in NZ I was trying then trying to work out a way to get in touch to offer my help. Hold on to two things. You have discovered the best therapy...talking...offloading . You are so very fortunate to have found a wonderful partner in Carly and you seem to naturally support each other . Balance. You don’t need me to tell you how fortunate you both are because it shines through . Just because I am trained, I like many, many others have found the last year shielding so very tough as I have physical health issues too and live alone. It has been a nightmare but by counting my blessings and with help you carry on. Well done again. Your revelation will have lifted many when they realise they are not entirely alone with their thoughts . You have other offers I see but I add mine to be available anytime should you ever want to talk. What you have done here is special.
When you seek medical attention - and A+E refuse to treat you - then you get physically assaulted by staff - do you really think I want my life to go on ? Absolutely not. Which is why, if the useless health service offers me the vaccine (I'm 56) I'll turn the offer down.
Can anyone name a country with an acceptable health service ?
Just remember, all the cars feels like one big problem to resolve however, it's just lots of small jobs, which are easier to tackle. Pace yourself and set yourself goals, 1 small job a week etc. I was diagnosed with GAD (General Anxiety Disorder) late 2019, which has kind of made sense of a few things, so I totally can relate to certain aspects. 😎
Exactly. Also, up to a point, it doesn't matter which job you do first. A small job that you know you can finish gives a real sense of achievement. Even if it's only putting new speakers in a C5, that's a job finished (Yay!) and one less thing to do later (Yay!) This is a lesson I have had to teach myself.
@@cme2cau - wholeheartedly agree 👍
Sometimes a break from the tasks is needed. And it allows you to clear your head a bit. It's easy to be tough on yourself, but it's okay to ease off a bit. It's allowed. You're doing great. Take care, both.
MIND's slogan - 'As long as it takes'.
DON'T make your own deadlines !
Thank you for sharing. We love the content, ALL of it. There is a link between mental illl health and perfectionism. I have a VW T25 and I love it and hate it in equal measure. However, I see it as a challenge. I break it down in to smaller problems and learn from my mistakes. Nothing is perfect, and good enough is great. When my mood is low I eat. Keep sharing and keep talking x
I must say miss hubnut has done an amazing job tidying the workshop up and you aren't useless at fixing cars just take your time and things will get fixed have faith in yourself 👍👍👍
As someone who has spent many years working in mental health as well as having experienced mental health issues, I fully support you both deviating from the usual fare to discuss mental health. It is an area where too many people still suffer silently rather than admit that they have a problem due to stigma or perceived reactions from those around them, especially within the workplace. It is encouraging everyone someone admits that they themselves are not immune from negative thoughts or feelings and says that there is no shame in seeking help as one would for a physical issue. Well done.
I don't think people have a problem with mental health, I think the have a frustrating problem with society that they shouldn't have and the alleged services there to deal with such issues don't.
Honestly Ian, as someone who hasn't even worked up the nerve to do a timing belt change, you are more skilled than you give yourself credit for when it comes to working on vehicles.
Do the timing belt change…do it on something old, and follow the steps for your car. After you overcome the first worry and self doubt with the first one. You will take on more! Did my first one at 25! Just have time and patience 😃
One thing that has helped me get through all of this is the joy of watching you and others doing these vlogs ! I suffer from anxiety,stress and can't deal with pressure or confrontation! So you and the others are helping so many people without you knowing it ! Keep on doing what you are doing we all love the things you do !👍🛠🛠🛠🔩🔧
My goodness, I feel the same way as you do! Anxiety, hate confrontation. Totally disorganized. I literally push myself every day, and some days I am grateful!
@@frothe42 my problem has been heightened by having had a Cardiac Arrest ! This was out of hospital so I'm a 1%er ?
@@kenneth7549 Goodness! What an incredible journey! So glad you pulled through.
Now listen to me Ian. You need a few of us hub nutters to get up there when we are allowed and smash out a few of these projects. A couple of weekends, bit of banter and some fun. It's hard when you have to struggle on your own. Keep safe.
In the US, Keith Rucker (VintageMachinery.org) did just that - asked for a load of volunteers to get one job done - expecting it to take a day. There were enough volunteers to get the job done in the morning !
Spot on you two. As a person with mental health issues I can relate to what you are saying. Thanks for discussing this.
I'm so glad you are on TH-cam Ian,you were 1 of the inspirations (along with miller corner) that helped me start my own TH-cam channel...so thankyou for being there 👌
I've got many demons myself & I'm glad you guys made this video, because I genuinely believe that talking about what we know about ourselves & being honest about our demons helps people feel less alone. I always have a serious bout of blues between the end of January & Valentines due to the anniversary of my mum's death &, what with valentines, I feel incredibly alone, unwanted & a failure of a human being. That last point is my biggest demon, that feeling of failing as a person, not really helped my working for a well known motorfactors that's better known for selling the wrong parts, working minimum wage, sacrificing weekends on the trade counter for countless people who don't show any gratitude for what I do for them. I'm in my late twenties, I'm still working stupid hours minimum wage & all people say is "you have your whole life ahead of you" but that means precious little when the rest of your life could be fifty years or fifty minutes. What helps get my demons under control is understanding that our time on this planet is fleeting & life is a rare thing. You have to grab it by the scruff of the neck & shake as much goodness as you can from it. It's one factor that led me to moving in with friends in Stafford as I couldn't talk about my demons with my last housemate without it devolving into "I've had it much worse than you". I'd say the best way to improving your mental health & your state of mind in general is to surround yourself with good people, despite the hardships of my work, my colleagues are the best people I've ever worked with. I live with two people who understand demons & we frequently talk about what's on our minds. I have a loving father & brother who are only a phone call away if I ever need them.
At the end of it all, people are the only way of settling those demons & it's thanks you yourself Ian (& indeed Carly & the Hublets) & this awesome community you started, that we are able to open up & confront those demons so that they don't have a chance of ruling our lives. So for that, Thank you
I feel the same as you regarding work, it's constant pressure and politics with no real regard to your worth. Companies talk alot of shit and tick boxes...
Have you ever tried working in the parts dept of a main dealer? Might be an option for you with your experience.
What an amazingly open vlog, whole heartedly agree it’s a hugely important subject that has been neglected or stigmatised over the years. You’re both great as presenters and your tinkering is interesting and honest because it is exactly what happens when most of us tinker.
Hello Ian an Miss HubNut from France.
I'm mentally disabled (official handicap), don't want to get too much into it but I have similar problems : disorganisation, very bad mood when I fail, low self confidence. And a huge anxiety (who almost killed me twice)
I always struggle to talk about this : people don't want to know, think that I'm a "simulator".
Mechanic is a cure but also a problem : I it's "too much for me" : I give up. Sometimes it's nothing more than a bad comprehension, very little things, but I managed to change a cylinder head on a volvo without knowledge. There is no rule.
To be fair with you Ian : you almost had a burn out "down-under" and remember than symptoms are not always immediate, and lockdown affected all of us badly.
Be careful of you : we love you all.
My soulmate help me a lot to have good decision : I'm sure Miss Hub Nut will do the same, she is clever (et en plus elle parle Français).
Take care.
Merci Laurent. All the best.
I don't want to talk about myself but I can very much identify with that being faced with an overwhelming workload of projects and jobs amongst other things.
I do think you're a bit hard on yourself Ian. I remember watching the Fox Anne series of videos and, as someone with a lot of experience, I was dead impressed. Also, and this is to both of you, I wish I could communicate how much your channel means to so many of us. We all screw up lots of times, it's what keeps us all real. Wishing all of the Hubnut community all the best ❤️
I'm sure there are lots of owners, like me, of cars that could be on the Hub Nut fleet, and who are trying to keep those cars going, who find your videos both entertaining and instructive. Even when things don't go to plan, that just reminds us of our own struggles with maintenance issues, and occasionally gives us good ideas on how to solve the next inevitable issue. Right now I'm following your paint repair videos on Ellie because I have a 24 year old Rover 420 with a slightly rusty rear wing that I'd like to fix. Even if all you do is convince me that I'd be better off getting someone else to do it, that's invaluable guidance.
I hope you bear in mind that only a few years ago, most of us could only get our fix of car information via the TV. Now there are endless sources of that via You Tube to the extent that even TV presenters have their own You Tube channels (Late Brake Show and Edd China's Workshop diaries being just two examples). You are an important part of that, with your own niche: i.e. all of us with slightly older vehicles who are just trying to keep them running. If you do get fed up then frankly I'm not surprised because I'm amazed how much great content you put out there. It's obvious a lot of work, and time, goes into it.
There are endless car channels on You Tube doing the same old, same old stuff, but only a few that stand out. Yours is in the latter category, and that wouldn't be the case if you weren't a great presenter with a lot of knowledge. I know all of us would rather never make mistakes, but we all know from experience that it happens, and when it happens to you it just reminds the rest of us that we've been there, done that and that if we haven't done that, then there but for the grace of God etc.
I think you have probably spoilt us with the frequency of your content. I'm also sure most will stick with you even if you post a little less frequently.
Respect. A timely, heart-felt, open and honest vlog. Thank you, be safe, and look after yourselves.
Suffer myself ,but at 57 I always try to remember "tomorrow is a new day" just relax today
Take care x
Just remember to keep the bailiffs locked out.
Thanks to both of you for being so open and frank. I have had no social contact for over a year so it was helpful to hear your views. Thanks for all the wonderful content, you will never know how much i've enjoyed it.
Thank you for sharing this, I know from experience that it is not easy to do. We don't watch your videos because you are an expert mechanic, we watch them because you are a friend and someone we can relate to. Your videos and those of a few other select TH-camrs have helped me, and I'm sure many others, get through some hard times.
You have too many cars in my humble, you need to lose a couple and take it from there.
I have to say I think your greatest strength on TH-cam is your road trips and road tests, both outstanding viewing and highly entertaining.
Well i'm not surprised. One of the reasons i LOVE your channel is (besides your awesome knowledge and love for cars), that you are a "real" person. I have been in your position since january: No passion, no energi, drinking way too much.... and not being able to just "snap out of it". Being open and honest about it helps, and you are very brave (both of you) to share. Thanks!
To be honest I don’t think you need those two scrap cars at the back of the unit, get rid.
Give the PT back too. You may have borrowed it for contents sake but it hasn't worked out. Are they paying you for the jobs you do? Likely not.
Watching your videos has really helped me since losing my younger brother last year
Sorry to hear of your loss Marc. Hope things get easier for you. Take care.
Sympathies to you Marc. I'm glad to provide comfort with my silly car antics.
With all that is going around it is hardly surprising. I looked after my mum who had severe mental issues. I looked after her single handed for 25+ years. At the end Social workers and the police got involved, and they put her in a home. For years after I was suffering from panic attacks and still am. My doctor said it was the years of stress slowly coming out. When it starts it's like walking into a brick wall, and I end up a blubbering heap. The last few years since I met my wife it has got very much better.
It's so easy for people to say "pull yourself together" and it's not that simple - as you said, there's no magic button to press to sort yourself out!
It also creeps up on you, from experience I know that when you get yourself into trouble mentally you need to try to talk to people as early as you can to avoid it getting overwhelming. Sometimes though you think you're doing OK then it just comes in a great big wave and you're buggered.
One of the best things to have is someone you can talk to, and looks like you both have that in each other...
Thank you for sharing and its always good to talk about things. Watching this video mirrored very similar thoughts and feelings I've had in the past and present, but dealing with things in a much better way now. You both look like a good match, helping each other and that's how it should be.
Thank you both for sharing this. It is heartwarming to read all the comments down here and to know that you are not alone, I am not alone, all of us Hubnutters are not alone. I am touched.
Well said Ian, I remember messaging you when you hit a low point in Betty. I too suffer from the same things. After not working for 5 months and promising to paint the house and complete all the renovations with my free time, I just don't know where to start. The only things I seem to fix are the urgent things that have a time line. I did 2 jobs on my Landcruiser today, One had the new part sitting on a shelf for 2 months, only today did I feel that i had to get it done.The more we talk about these things, and the more we admit they aren't weaknesses, the better.
I've struggled with depression for the majority of my life, coupled with undiagnosed autism (though it hasn't officially been diagnosed as yet, it's bright flashing neon signs showing all the symptoms and traits in me), it's been quite hard for me to get by, as socially I'm just useless in person, and when I am trying to be social, I end up waffling too much (like going into too much detail for one!), which puts people off and makes things worse for me, so as a result, I'm pretty much a solitary loner with no real life friendships or any personal relations, and it's bloody hard work to keep my head above the water some days, moreso this past year with lockdowns, so mental health is indeed something we need to be mindful of, not carry on the stiff upper lip thing, cos that's more harmful than anything...
I can relate to you on the socialisation🤐
I see you responding to many of Ian and Carly's tweets and I like that, though I have an instant like for persons who like 2CV. 😄 I have friends and co-workers who have been diagnosed with autism, they have had training so they can cope with the fact that their brain works differently but it can be hard, especially in socialisation. Don't ever think you're useless because you're not, it's not your fault that the world seems incompatible, you're good the way you are.
@@volvo480 Thank you Robert. Thats much appreciated 😊👍
@@SmR8008 actually I was responding to twocvbloke, but if his story applies to you as well, you're welcome 😊
@@volvo480 🤣 Sorry, I did think it was too good for what I'd said😄
Over the last two years (two years exactly next week), I lost my mum at just 55 to cancer. Six months earlier she was fine and cancer free. I then lost my home, my job, my car, and myself. I got a new job as a Delivery Driver and, six months in, was written off by a drunk driver, leaving me with £6500 in loans to pay back for a van that was written off. I now have a new van and I'm back delivering, but this past few years has broken me in every possible way, and one of the major things that helped was the escape of loading up TH-cam on my phone and watching you explore Australia and New Zealand and all the different vehicles you've driven and reviewed. So I personally thank you Ian for your part in helping me navigate life after losing my mum, and you bring that help and support to so many viewers of your channel without even really realising it. You're awesome mate 👏
Exactly what i needed to hear today. Well done both of you for your openness and honesty.. We all, myself included, if we are honest, have our struggles and self doubts.
On the car struggles, that's why we all love the channel so much. Because most of the time its exactly how it goes when we try and work on our own!
I agree with some of the comments below regarding reducing the fleet. It's gunna be tough but I think the basket cases need to go. I understand you have a strong connection with ellie , myrtle and twc but don't get attached to the others. I actually enjoy the recent buying and selling of rita and the vectra and the primera. Maybe that's the way forward. Get cars that are already runners and improve them slightly and then do it again. Whichever way you decide to go with the fleet I will be tuning in.
Thank you for posting this. Mental health can affect anyone. Here's to yourself and your wonderful family.
Really refreshing to hear such openness and honesty. My partner and I love your channel - it's wonderfully entertaining and eclectic and provides so many uplifting moments for us, and for so many others. Long may it continue.
so true i had cbt 20 years ago it was a big help still have off days had a big one yesterday fine today ! we are only human take care .
Mate, I drank a whole bottle of whiskey on Sunday and then phoned my dad in tears... I phoned AA and talked to a nice chap. My doctor doubled my dose of Sertraline and I went to the Pharmacy yesterday and they had run-out due to demand. Today I've finally cleaned the kitchen and went for a walk in the park in Ipswich...in the sun. Feeling better.
Social anxiety is so odd, you dare not go somewhere because you are worried about asking where the toilets are etc. Love to everyone here xx.
Well done. Certainly, better weather can help!
Well done to both of you for talking about mental health so openly. I lost my wife to aggressive and pretty sudden brain cancer early in 2017, and took the offer of counselling from the hospice very gladly that spring - it really helped. I've not had great success in meeting anyone, with 2020 being a low point for reasons we all know. You are incredibly lucky, Ian, having la belle petite Miss HubNut. She is a gem. Like many many thousands of your followers, your videos have helped me through this pandemic. They brighten our days. You should be immensely proud of that. You are a naturally gifted presenter. You've always got to remember that your viewing community (mostly) very eagerly follow how you - an enthusiast rather than a boring robot - go about jobs including the tasks that go wrong/ overrun. We love how you react to owning cars or road testing ones that we remember from our own experiences, we really fancied, or from time to time have heard of but wouldn't "touch with a bargepole". Your tours of the Balkans with the mighty Dacia, Netherlands-France-Austria-Croatia-Germany with Elly, then NZ with the BX and Betty Fairmont and over to Oz were educational, VERY informative and entertaining (I've seen bits of all three at least twice during English lockdowns; yep could be considered 'sad' but, as we can't travel we can at least dream...) Your museum vids likewise are brilliant. On tinkering, many contributors below have commented that you should thin out the fleet. I won't offer a view on that but whatever you decide to do I'll just offer/ repeat a maxim from some management training years ago: "How do you eat an elephant? The first thing is to slice the elephant up into burgers (or rissoles). Then you have an elephant rissole every day and, hey presto, before you know it you are well on the way to eating your elephant." I think I'd add "and you should always offer a rissole for sharing". The clipboards for each car were your equivalent of elephant rissole making. Rissole-sharing is getting outside help when you need it, and you WILL need it from specialist fettlers, we can all see that. Your feeling low will get better. We are with you. Take care of yourselves and the mini-HubNuts.
Thank you so much for this chat, I have to push darkness away almost every morning, knowing I am not alone in this helps a great deal.
Interesting and brave stuff.
Credit to you both. 👍
I've been watching the channel for years and always enjoyed it. But these past 12mths this channel (and a couple of others) have been a great help in escaping the daily cr*p that we are all having to deal with in our own way.
Cheers for this you two - a lot of folks don't see TH-camrs as 'people', just as 'entertainment'. We all have our own struggles. Glad you're both doing OK and no worries about the lack of tinkering when that comes up once and awhile Ian.
Both of you do what is best for yourselves....the world is in a strange state these days and we all have our inner shadows to fight (Lord knows I have some of my own). BUT, humanity has been around this long....we can all make it through to the other side :)
Great video from someone who has suffered and still does suffer from mental health problems it has helped me alot thank you!
So many people have already said it better than I could - so I am a giant "Ditto" and happy to add to the mass of support.
Thanks you two for having the conversation miss hubnut she's a keeper Ian what a woman you don't know how much you having this conversation has helped people much love and respect to you both
Thanks both for your openness and honesty. Showing your vulnerability actually shows great strength. Ian don't worry about your mechanical skill level even the greatest have their critics. George Daniels one of England's finest Watch makers said "When a man looks at your work he doesn't look to compliment it but to find fault".
I can relate to you both and felt quite emotional listening to what you both said.
You make a great team and you are so right; talking and relating to each other is so vital.
Don't give up you two. It's a blip and it will pass. You are an inspirational couple and obviously a wonderful match. You do also buy old bangers, which is never going to be easy! But whether they run or not, your videos will always be brilliant to watch. Please don't go changing, our doubt yourselves. We will still be here supporting you.
Ian you are very brave putting this out there. Your channel has kept me sane over the last few months. Take some comfort that in your pain you have been helping others immensely. Thanks for your contribution. There is nothing more beautiful than the imperfect. As far as I am concerned this channel is a celebration of that. Thanks again
As someone who has suffered from depression/anxiety/panic attacks for 20+ years i understand where your coming from and thanks for the video . It spoils my hobby's of repairing electronics fixing cars etc and affects my daily life as well I'm unable to go places where there are a lot of people incase i have a freakout session. Its so hard putting the face on that people know when inside i feel empty and have no motivation or interest in things i used to love doing when im going through a bad patch .
Brilliantly expressed explanations of the problems of mental health, been treated for anxiety and depression for over 25 years and lost my mum almost exactly one year ago and struggle to cope,your talk helps it really does,
Thanks,
Terry
Ian, Thank you , thank you, thank you. I have lived with depression and anxiety for more than 20 years, and I have hit the dreadful low points when I don't feel ANYTHING. Nothing at all would motivate me, nothing would make me happy, the recent times in this world of virus and pandemic have been cruel, being able to watch people like you and Miss Hubnut helps me to have a time in the day where I feel like I'm with friends. My friends and colleagues don't see the real me as I hide behind a humorous façade, so keeping up appearances is something I've done for many many years. I cannot thank you enough for both being so open and honest. You are the kind of people I wish I knew in person, but I'm glad to know you through TH-cam.
Thank you for being so brave and honest,it affects so many of us. It’s ok to be different
Ian, you have taken a massive step by acknowledging the issue and talking about it. Well done.
Remember that you, Miss Hubnut and your channels are very much loved.
Both of you, take care and keep talking about it.
I'm speechless !!! Thank you both so much for making this video, I cannot believe how much I can relate to all that you said. As a fellow Ceredigion TH-camr that used to enjoy hiking all around Wales I have now found myself becoming more and more reclusive and introverted like you can relate to. I'm not sure if this virus has caused all this, or just compounded it but I used to love going out, meeting people and hiking all over the Elan Valley and now I stay indoors, never leave and just quietly make videos in my garage. I think it's tough to keep yourself making video's, coming up with a new idea and having to implement it yourself especially if it's your sole income. In a normal job you can go home and switch off after work but with TH-cam you have to keep rolling with it even on your days off as the buck stops with you if you don't create another video. That can be a lot of mental pressure upon oneself. Talking about anxiety, I've even managed to avoid going to any shops if at all possible lol. McDonalds in Aber is the most I have ventured to maybe once every couple of months if someone else orders lol. I truly never realised you had suffered these feelings HubNut & Mrs HubNut and you should be so proud of yourselves for telling the world. Mrs HubNut seems to be clearly a little gem in your life and lucky for you both you found each other. What an amazing episode....thank you for sharing and hope you both keep well and keep those local video's coming Mrs HubNut.
Thanks. I hope you get back out there. I feel guilty for not spending more time enjoying the fabulous countryside of rural Ceredigion.
@@HubNut you might get to see a lot more as your now the cameraman for Mrs HubNut lol
There is so much to unpack from this heartfelt video. Thank you both for making it.
With the start of the pandemic it brought out old demon's in my head and took us further into the depths of depression. It made me realize that I needed to excorsise some troubles I had into the past which ended up being treated with Councilling and CBT it has helped I got diagnosed with PTSD and throughout the shit times I had the videos of TWC and the other cars you have owned and the successes and failure's over the year has kept my sanity as you videos have literally kept me sane so thank you
Thank-you both so much for sharing your struggles honestly & helping to dismantle the silence and stigma that surrounds mental health.
Miss HubNut - you're valuable for who you are as a person, not just in what you can do or can achieve.
Your so fortunate , that you found each other, your strength and weakness are being dealt with head on!!! As you experience more of life as a family, there are so many levels of each individual! As long as your there for each other, no one will be left behind!!!!!
The Miss Hubnut channel has got off to a strong start, you present it very well.
Totally agree with you there,it's different to HubNut and that's not a bad thing
Here's to many years of Miss HubNut
Very brave and forward thinking to make this - I applaud you both. Many of us do struggle, the key is being there for each other and just being nice to people you meet. After all it costs nothing to be nice. All the very best Ian, miss Hubnut and all that read this.
Hi Ian. Your followers love what you do. Your video's are a staple in my life and keep me going. It is fabby to see you working on the fleet. The thing to remember about cars is they always need something. I think the best thing is to talk. We, who tune in are all connected now because of you and your shows, your banter and your fabby Hubnut community. Lean on us when you need us as we certainly need you.
I totally see where you are coming from with the 'feeling down - buy another car'. I cannot buy cars anymore but instead I have a love of clocks, I have more than 15 at the moment but that did not stop me buying 3 more recently in an auction because I needed something to 'cheer me up'. You both do an amazing job and keep us entertained but I can see that that must be difficult at times. Thank you both for being so honest, I appreciate it very much
you should see my guitar collection.......
This was a very honest and open hearted thing for you both to talk about personally these times have been hard as I think a lot of people will admit just caring and sharing and most of all loving the people in your life and being their for each other you two are chalk and cheese but you somehow make it work which is just as well because someone needs to tidy up after you Ian keep yourselfs safe Rob
Probably the most, brilliantly, honest, and loving vid, you have ever made. I feel UTTERLY SHITE when my Morris doesn’t run... I’m glad I’m not the only one. Thanks you two xRx
I appreciate your help keeping me going with all your car vids through a very strange tough year. Mental health is real and I have it too but keep talking and keep busy. Admitting it is good and you will be fine. You have a good lady with you. Stay safe and well please all of you and thank you always.
Thank you SO MUCH for this video. I have been feeling the exact same way. Ive really been struggling for the past year. A lot of the same feelings that both of you have been experiencing. Thank you for this moment of connection. It really makes me feel like I'm not alone. Thank you both for taking the risk and being vulnerable...it's courageous.
This was a lovely video to watch, simply because most mental health awareness things (I have seen) tend to be either people who talk about very regularly (so it becomes part of their public persona) or what has become cliched statistics (who came up with 1 in 4? thats got to be BS!) and random encouragements to just talk about it. But you guys - who we see in the context of hosting a down to eart car channel - talking about it is I think more helpful. When I talk about my anxiety it tends to trigger it - so it's not much fun. But hearing you talk about it makes it identifiable, and whilst we are not talking to you about our problems, hearing yours can help us to realise that what we may suffer through isn't uncommon. I think you raise very good points about stiff upper lip etc, but for me, I am not sure how talking to someone who doesn't identify/empathise with it helps, and as people don't talk about it, we never know who to talk to.
As for fixing cars, my anxiety doesnt usually stop me doing that (my terminal laziness sees to the incredibly slow progress there!). One of the reasons I love watching you fix cars is because you aren't necessarily that good at it! Whilst its all very well to see a mechanic in a fully quipped garage lift the car up on the lift and do a quick job they have done hundreds of times before - seeing you struggle, not be able to find the right tool, have the wrong part, forget to put things back (or put the wrong bit back!) is exactly what I do. I changed the oil on my car the other week - it took 24hrs as I couldn't get the filter off and had to go and buy a tool - thats the reality of the home mechanic. Professionals are there for the advice, you are there for the entertainment - but we can still learn something along the way (even if its what not to do!). Also, seeing your real results can really help manage expectations that as someone who has never attempted something like paint work before, I am unlikely to get perfect results (so, I just avoid it!)
Keep up your amazing videos - few others put out as many videos as you guys do, but they are always a joy to watch.
Great video thanks. Your channel is a major source of much joy to thousands of people. I find your content hugely therapeutic 🙏🙏🙏
I can relate, and I continue to work towards healing as I grow older. I have to keep reminding myself not to be so hard on myself. I also try and take the time to break up jobs so they don't become overwhelming. And it's taken me 50 years, but I am starting to accept who I am. Thank you both for being honest and baring your soul just a bit.
Thanks for this, you both have touched on mine and many other struggles with mental health especially anxiety and self confidence, watching your videos over the last year have greatly helped me get through these challenging times and just recently gave me the motivation to get back into the garage to start to revive a car I have neglected for over 15 years, I can't tell you how satisfying it has been to rediscover a car that was my pride and joy all that time ago.....So a big Thanks to you both!! Always looking forward to your next videos, keep up the great work! Cheers
Thank you both for such honesty. Much needed that folks know that they're not alone, especially in the present context !
Thank you for this one! It meant a lot. I retired about five years ago, leaving behind a position that required special skills and knowledge, along with a great deal of responsibility. Now that’s all behind me, and I feel somewhat dead in the water. And being a creative introvert, I tend to hold in a lot of feelings. I’ve had many dreams where I was employed again, and involved in various projects. May days I spend doing very little, as interest in my favorite activities comes and goes. Ian, I see something of myself in you... working on classics is a hobby that’s close to my heart. I’m by no means an expert, but simple curiosity and a need to figure out and fix problems keeps me going. Meaning, I don’t approach a job on my MG with full knowledge of the solution, but I enjoy the learning process required to make that fix. The only time it gets frustrating is when numerous attempts fail to correct the issue. Anyway, I’m wandering. Keep doing the wonderful things you do. I can relate to both the high and low times, as I’ve been there myself. HubNut is more than just entertainment; it’s encouragement.
Can I thank both of you, Ian and Carley for your honesty, openness and sharing basic human emotions experienced by so many of us at a point in our lives. It is moments like this and videos like yours that truly make a difference to real people because you are real people. All of us hub nutters, I am sure, genuinely appreciate the hard work that you put into your channels. Ellie is in bits and maybe that reflects on you Ian, but we are all in this together and I would just like to say how grateful I am to have found your channel. "How does that work, how do I repair it" is a question that _ I feel your pain! May Hubnut, Miss Hubnut celebrate their many successes and sail onwards as you, your family and the channels so deserves. My best wishes to you and all the family. Our quirks make us human. We are a community of friends- we support each other. Best wishes Richard.
I totally understand where you are coming from. Lately I have been completely unmotivated, and therefore most does not get completed.
And I take prescription medication, SSID.
But I must say that you are much braver than I in performing all the maintenance on all of your vehicles! You should be extremely proud of your accomplishments, good and bad.
And I believe here in the US it Mental Health Awareness month, and not enough information, and especially investment in mental health, are the biggest issues.
And this is a global issue!
Thank you very much for being so honest and open!
I can relate very much to what you both said. Thanks for making this video. Your videos are always appreciated. keep up the good work and only get back to tinkering when you are ready.
I think we’re all ‘odd ball’ to a certain extent, it’s what makes us who we are. I suffer quite bad with SAD, especially as winter sets in and it all turns cold and dark, not good times for me at all, I know people don’t understand when I get like I get... nice to watch a video like this from people I very much respect.
Always see the value in what you guys do for all your subscribers, sometimes it’s nice to just get away and watch a HubNut video for a few minutes, often takes my mind off any troubles I have, even if only temporary... you guys are very much ‘doing your bit’ for mental health!
"I think we're all oddball" so true, somebody once said if anybody was supposed 100% sane then they would be insane everybody else? well oddball!
This past years done it for me Ian - started off ok at the beginning of lockdown but today was my last day at work. I am taking a step back and looking to early retirement - work that I found so fulfilling for 40 years just became a butt pain in the end.
Yeah same here, why work till you have no energy to enjoy yourself, sod the money, now it's my time to enjoy my self, you will not regret it.
Thank you for being so open and honest, so many people have struggled during the last 12 months or so, it takes balls to be so open and talk about it in an open forum. so pleased you have such a solemate Ian. kids are hard work but give it. a few years they will fly the nest. you make a great couple!! you are 'spinning ' too many plates, reduce that fleet and keep and treasure the cars that mean a lot to you rather than cars you 'should' enjoy!
Stay safe both of you and look after each other x
Thank you both for a fantastic and lovely video. Really interesting and helpful. And in terms of achievement/getting things done etc I love the HubNut videos, they really chime with my motoring and amateur mechanic interests. Thank you
As many have commented, your not alone. I'm in the process of medical retirement due to mental health issues. In a previous profession I was a mechanic and I couldn't bring myself to tinker with my classis motorcycle also. To admit your struggling is the first part of the healing process. It's great you have each other for support. We're all with you Ian. Happy hut nutting.