I have been isolated for so long it is poisoned with negativity. I want to get close to people but I cannot get too close. I have never had a girlfriend, I don't go outside very often unless I need to, and fitting in isn't exactly easy. I have wasted so much time doing nothing that I feel I should just stay this way. I guess I'm happier.
This isn't the same isolation. I mean, I didn't come here to complain about how isolated I am, I just wanted to hear adequate information of the effects of socialization on early human development.
Search the case studies of Genie, Anna, and Isabelle. Three significant case studies on the advance of the study of isolation. These girls where isolated by birth, and a case study, not an experiment.
That exactly how I feel. I am so used to being sad that it's familiar. It is not right. It's what others have done to me because they could. Welcome to disability.
I know exactly how you feel i can only remember the bad from socializing with others people getting angry, letting them down, forgetting important stuff or being laughed at. So what did i do? I took some time off with myself and tried to recharge my social batteries and thought this time i got it and then it just starts all over again the same way. After so many defeats so many disappointments you start loosing any confidence you might have left in yourself and when people ask you to socialyze with others you resist fiercely in order to avoid the pain. And then finally you're just fine with living in isolation were you can do no wrong and were nothing is expected of you.
a week later watching this video. left my house only to walk and skateboard at night. and sat in bakyard looked upon nature very nice. going to try and keep getting out there.
Social Isolation, something i'm very familiar with as im going through it right now. It's like being a ghost only people who believe i exist can see me.
@@shivanisaxena2052 I'm glad you asked. In previous years I have socially isolated myself and now I see that this is a trap. We do that in order to avoid the anxieties and fears that come up with human contact (our own feelings of social inadequacy, rejection, etc...). The problem is that by doing so we lose much of our skills in other areas too and as time goes by the fear grows and our safe zone gets even smaller. We are basically "safe" but unhappy. I'm a cognitive psychologist, therapy has helped me much and I say that going step by step, approaching the things I was afraid of one by one and little by little I could discover other sides of people and of myself. Today I can say I'm glad, with friends, living with my girlfriend for 2 years and generally satisfied with myself (albeit not free of problems, of course hahaha) And how have YOU been my friend?
I feel this and have even said this myself before verbatim.. Only differences nobody believes I exist. 👻 Edited: because ghost looks too damn happy for this shit 😶😣😥
MoonShadow Rising yeah and when you move out of your home country and cone back it is more hard to socialize because you have to socialize again and it feels weird that you do not fit in your OWN country because you have socialized in foreign country already
Pls stay strong and make everything work to get back into life. Small steps are a good beginning, just go for a walk in the park nearby everyday for an hour first and build up, stimulate your brain, maybe start going to the gym and work on daily plans at home but give it a try to look into the future, im also socially isolated but ill fight this shit
Same. Praying I die early. This pain just isn’t worth hanging on for. You want me to suffer even longer??? Plus I’d much rather leave my assets for my children to better their lives than to waste those assets on myself staying alive longer.
@@bryanw5951 best wishes and I hope whenever you think these things, you challenge the thoughts, and accept support. I relate to this, and I strongly believe, seeing you saying similar things, that it's not true. And you matter to people around you. ☮
i believe you too. but you are important and needed. go volunteer at an animal shelter- they need volunteers! wonderful and kind people there. foster or adopt animals on the side. you will never be alone. become a foster parent. you wont have time to think about loneliness. many kids need a loving home.
I'm a 23 year old male, grew up in an abusive family, never had a friend, girlfriend, so I have never felt what love, and friendship feels like, and honestly I've never talked to a person on a personal level, whenever I talk to another person it's the basic "have a good day" to the cashier at the grocery store, or asking the supervisor at work what I have to do that particular day. I don't feel like a normal human being, there have been times when I've gone weeks without saying one word to another human, and I really don't know where to begin to try and improve, at this point in my life, the situation I grew up in I know I'll never fully recover, but I would be satisfied with some improvement, eventually make a friend/s, find a girlfriend, and live a somewhat normal life, but I just don't where to begin? How much would a psychiatrist really help? I feel like pills would just make me worse.
if you don't mind my saying ...why don't you try something different...I bet there is a bunch of people out there that will find you nice and interesting...I suggest you to talk to people from other national origen different than yours (you will find them interesting and in turn they will find you interesting too)...in my own experience that has helped me a lot to improve my self confidence and feel again that nice and conforting feeling of interacting with other human beings...by the way I'm a mexican guy and you're more than welcome to visit my home and hometown whenever you want. it will be a pleasure to meet such a sincere and humble human being as you for sure are.
Try antidepressants. Really. It will change your life. Read jordan peterson books and watch his lectures. That will change your life as well. You are way more than you think you are.
Classmates always isolate me. Idk what I am doing wrong, most of them don't even speak to me. This is why I am always quiet. I have gotten used to this, now when we have to do a group activity I tend to do it myself, without looking for a partner. I do get depressed because of this but it isn't my fault why they always do this.
I hope things got better for you. Blaming classmates for lack of interaction won’t help you in your life. I have gone through isolation 14-24 i am now 35 certain things get hard to develop. Please go seek professional help or just work with an social neurologist or something to figure out the problem. I have the same problem. Tc ~human concerns~
social isolation occurs when you are surrounded by entitled human beings constantly demanding the moon and the sun for a breathe of fresh air so you come to the conclusion of saying indoors with the AC on and whatever form of entertainment you enjoy to keep you some what sane until that too drives you insane.
That's exactly how I feel. I lock myself in my room with all of the lights off. I feel like the world is out to get me sometimes. Idk if I would call myself paranoid but I do have a lengthy history of depression since age 10 and high functioning autism. I also get explosively angry thinking about social situations and usually break my belongings (I think I have intermittent explosive disorder and borderline personality disorder). It's hell living through and it feels like crawling on glass shards or razor blades trying to better myself. My biggest fear is my depression worsening and the possibility of suicide, but I love my family too much to put them through the torture of the loss of me. I'm torn on the matter and it's slowly devouring me into state certified lunacy. I'm sorry for writing a book, but a lot has been on my mind and I just had to find an outlet, any damn outlet I can find.
Being isolated is fantastic, i achieve great things when I'm isolated from motivational music, inspirational videos etc. I will only watch these when I'm alone under total, complete peace of mind and disconnected from frustrations. Isolation brings about passion, focus, determination, drive and a string will power for success. There is no better feeling than when everything is quiet meaning you are the only person in the room and you are motivated by whatever it is that makes you motivated. I am a dangerous but positive person at the same time when motivated, isolation brings about the motivation where there is complete concentration.
It depends. Voluntary isolation can be incredibly useful for motivation and creativity. Involuntary isolation generally leads to a lot of confusion, anger, and resentment towards the self and others. All of those things are poison to a healthy mind, making it much harder to be motivated. Hence why withdrawn people sometimes struggle to even eat a full meal in a day. The will for life has been corrupted.
Quite frankly I feel validated. I don't think I am a bad person but I do feel like people really don't care about anything or anyone but themselves. The world doesn't want to be bothered with those people who are isolated. I reach out to friends and family without any response. I often wonder if there really is something wrong, why doesn't someone tell me and get me out of this hell. I feel like I've been stranded on an island and the map to find me was thrown away.
try having a low quality friend, low quality as in hacing a bad stupid arrogant aggressive egoistic unempathetic underdeveloped indecent unlikable character. makes lonliness feel like you are on vacation.
First year psych student so I only have remedial knowledge on stuff like the isolation you just described Wallis but everything I have read about when your in a kind of self defeating cycle like that ( also something that afflicts me too) says to try and take a risk. Maybe try and shake up your routine you don't have to go out and make a friend or learn a new language but just start with something small it helped me when I was stuck in a rut. Oddly reading also helped for me. Feel better!
Lots of love to John Cacioppo! Lots of love to all of you, within - by loving each-other, we stay aware, we are free, we get to experience sorrow and happiness.
I’ve been alone for most of my life, for the past 2+ years I have actually been living alone. I’m 31, I live in a 320 sq ft box and never hear or see anyone for 4 straight days a week. I “play house” with the people I work with, but don’t understand most of the things they find important or funny. I believe that most people have high expextations of how the world and our interactions should be, I’ve lowered mine drastically and I can see things for what they truly are. I choose to stay away from other people unless I have to interact with them. I spend my time playing games, reading, and drawing. Though I’m alone, I never feel lonely. Drop your expectations and learn to live with yourself, you are the most important person in your life :)
People can be on their own and it doesn't bother them, or they even like it. Others need people around them constantly to feel contented. When I was suffering depression, I didn't like being at home by myself for even a couple of hours. Now I can be alone for most of the day and be OK. It is a burden and a pressure to be too needy of company, as it cannot always be found. I'm not alone everyday and have plenty of friends.
Is there any correlation between isolation or perceived isolation and insomnia? What about people that have a tendency to desire or want minimal social interaction, i e those that prefer majority of isolation or alone time and on occasion do a kind of "touch and go" with socializing, only to return back to isolation? Is there a difference between introverted people and extroverted people with regards to the study? I myself being introverted find that socializing regularly is physically, mentally and emotionally draining. I prefer a majority of my time to be alone time...
If you focus on yourself you can't go wrong friends and family are some of the ones that doubt you first it's okay but don't feed into it DO what YOU need to DO focus focus focus on what you can control
Yes I well relate with the feeling of unresolved bitterness and indeed with isolation and segregation from society at large. I have lived through that pain many times in life over the years. It makes one feel so terribly unluckiest to be born into what is one of the world's most social species. Life over the recent 6 or more months has been very difficult.
I purposely push myself away from social contact, but at the same time I want someone to have an intelligent conversation with me. I don't need it though.
Saforge, I appreciate that you think that isolation and feeling suicidal is an "lol" topic. However, if you haven't felt the sense of pure despair then please do not pretend to think that by telling people to "Cheer the hell up" is going to do anything but make them feel inadequate. Wow, something else. I really am defective if people are telling me how easy it is to feel joy and elation. smh. If it works for you great! It's just not that easy for many people.
I think it depends on if you are isolated by CHOICE or by CHANCE. If it's obviously not by choice but by chance, you will not be happy and it will lead to your detrimental state of mind and health.
Super interesting studies... Especially those on micro awakenings, and the rat who stayed on the border of the field. Thanks for sharing, it was very useful!
I read of many people here claiming that they enjoy being alone and don't need others,well, that's bullshit, or they don't know what social isolation truly is....or they are just butthurt because of bad experiences. It's been 10 years since i'm going through this, i live in a stupid town in the middle of nowhere,no job,no friends,no girlfriend, i rarely even leave my house during the week. I couldn't even imagine going through this in the future because this is really pushing me to the limit, i will ask for help, this isn't living.
You don't. Accept it and learn to love yourself and the way you are. For me there is no such thing as loneliness because I do not wish to be around people. Why would I want to be around people who bully me, or just aren't even that great? I can't think of a reason why I would really want to be around anyone! I mean sometimes I am around people but they are just there and my interaction with them are of no consequence and sometimes not even necessary.
I don't know, is it's loneliness that's causing all these problems, or is loneliness a symptom of too much introspection? If an individual develops more compassion for others, and focuses on making life better for others, even when being isolated they will begin to not feel lonely and develop happiness. Someone coming here is just going to feel worse drawing conclusions from the correlations you've mentioned. I'd suggest you watch what the Dalai Lama has to say about loneliness for a different perspective.
Except people want to avoid pain. If you spend years not being listened to when you try to tell people there is something wrong or ask for help, and people walk all over you, you can't focus on this. Other people have real effects on your life
I haven't talked to another human being other than my wife for three months, I never leave the house, have no friends or social circles. I've been cut off from people for so long I dont know how to talk to people. In reality I've been completely cut off for about 2 or 3 years, I cant really remember anymore. I dont know what to do, I just wanna give up, I have no purpose in life, I just exist. There's no point, anytime I try to talk about it, it just turns into an argument because my wife is extremely co dependent and turns everything around on me, making my feelings and perspective seem invalidated or just a symptom of my disorder. I dont even know why I'm commenting all this, I just have noone to talk to.
Hey man! Thanks for sharing. Don’t give up. I know it’s tough and you sharing your story helps others. I may be a stranger to you but I can relate to your story and that I care about you. I’ll be praying for you. God Bless
I would like to volunteer for science. I have been socially isolated for 15 years since I was 14 years old. I never had a friend during that time and don't talk to people not even my family. I'm really screwed up. Please contact me.
I don't think so. I am never bored. Social isolation, that is, when others choose not to spend time with you, is not something you choose. Solitude is chosen and often a joy. Boredom, to me, is unrelated. If lack activities,in your life, these activities or ways to occupy your mind do not have to include other people. Writers and artists spend many hours working on projects alone.
I've been 2 years isolated due to some legal issues I had in the past. It's destroying my health. I assume people are evil by nature. I need to find social groups.
it might be easier than said, but what about volunteering somewhere? or joining a sports, board game, book club, conferences, language exchange cafes, etc...just saying, a lot of people out there are trying to organize events for people to connect and do something together, its a human need and sometimes, the only way to make things happen
From what I know, isolation doesn't happen because of a person's non-participation in such groups. If a person chooses not to participate, that's a lot different from rejection, such as....if you call people and they don't call back, if you join clubs but find you're unwelcome there, or if your school friends reject you. People who are already unemployed face discrimination based on their unemployed status alone. Someone told me that due to prior unemployment, after he lost his job it took him a full year to find a new one. The one thing I hate hearing on Thanksgiving is that because I don't have family, I somehow owe to the world to volunteer at a soup kitchen. I don't care to be around the other volunteers who are later going home to be with their loving families. It breaks my heart.
How exactly does Isolation [perceived or actual] become a health risk? In what ways does it actually harm the human body? I hear that it does based on studies, but I am unsure of what these mortality risks actually include. Thank you for the great video, looking forward to hearing more
i prefer isolation, i feel happier when i'm alone. somehow i can't seem to find anything about people who are the same as me. everything is always "isolation makes ppl feel lonely and depressed", but i feel neither. i have no desire to have any interaction with people, i isolate myself from others physically and emotionally and feel happier than i have been in my life. "humans are social animals" i guess i'm just a strange animal.
***** One can't isolate oneself totaly one still needs to work and during a day one comes across people any way. I already know how majority people are and i don't like what i seen and experience and i can do with out it.
Im denied all of those I have only 2 people and I feel like I am a nuisance. I am not giving up but I am disgusted in the rest not so much as a text or a phone call
Social Isolation Caused By Wrongful Family Separation: Likely overlooked issues for family and children regarding social isolation. Request for feedback. Found this video and series of topics. The Issues of wrongful separation can include social isolation for the children and a parent, which can be extremely difficult, and can happen in cases of divorce or family court. Is this issue really being properly addressed in courts? What happens when children are improperly separated from their parents for months, or even years without any communication? If you have any related research on this issues, please post. Here is an example of points and quotes on problems of being socially isolated.
By actively isolating an object, destruction replaces itself with your awareness of it. Destruction encourages us to split, instead of uniting - more than social beings, we are ONE. There is no way for our existence to survive by excluding one single mind. By the
The human species is only social because it was advantageous to be so in order to survive a hostile environment. This is singularly the crudest human existential imperative which remains dominant to this day despite advances in technology. Without clearly defining and attributing appropriate values to other imperatives then all utterances with respect to what constitutes natural interpersonal relationships will consistently lead exploration into human social psychology nowhere. When one examines modern achievements they are scarcely ever the product of groups but individuals who are almost invariably the initiators of group actions without which there would have existed a vacuum out of which nothing would have emerged, not even a concept upon which the group could act, rendering any group effectively aimless and with neither purpose nor cause, history again repeatedly testifying to that. This is patently self-evident. Traditional academics are quite adequate at gathering and organising data, what they consistently fail at is in the interpretation of that data largely due to the failing psychological models they employ, in addition to poor definitions, descriptions and characterisations of existential concepts such as "Mind, Consciousness and intelligence (to the extent that such definitions even exist in the respective institutions).
Anxiety and Depression are both causes of Loneliness as well, i wish somebody would have mentioned it to me when i was going through my dark times. And loneliness can felt due to your environment, if it's toxic for you change it. Mental health comes first...please make sure anyone reading this goes to a psychologist. I highly recommend Dr David E. Myers. I think his website is davidemyersphd.com
Isolation is inevitable. Being social is to be connected with other humans, but what If these humans are different? I'm an Atheist and live in a Muslim family and a Muslim community.
woe me, poor me always alone. i have even stoped working and going out , this year 7 i hope i die soon man, there is no cure for it, ha ha ha ha ha, i guess im going crazy who cares anyway
try having a low quality friend, low quality as in hacing a bad stupid arrogant aggressive egoistic unempathetic underdeveloped indecent unlikable character. makes lonliness feel like you are on vacation.
Am I the only one that came here free of suicidal thoughts? lol. Cheer the hell up people, walk outside and realize how much you have to enjoy in life.
If you focus on yourself you can't go wrong friends and family are some of the ones that doubt you first it's okay but don't feed into it DO what YOU need to DO focus focus focus on what you can control
The human species is only social because it was advantageous to be so in order to survive a hostile environment. This is singularly the crudest human existential imperative which remains dominant to this day despite advances in technology. Without clearly defining and attributing appropriate values to other imperatives then all utterances with respect to what constitutes natural interpersonal relationships will consistently lead exploration into human social psychology nowhere. When one examines modern achievements they are scarcely ever the product of groups but individuals who are almost invariably the initiators of group actions without which there would have existed a vacuum out of which nothing would have emerged, not even a concept upon which the group could act, rendering any group effectively aimless and with neither purpose nor cause, history again repeatedly testifying to that. This is patently self-evident. Traditional academics are quite adequate at gathering and organising data, what they consistently fail at is in the interpretation of that data largely due to the failing psychological models they employ, in addition to poor definitions, descriptions and characterisations of existential concepts such as "Mind, Consciousness and intelligence (to the extent that such definitions even exist in the respective institutions).
Being alone has helped me evaluate life. You can't change people but you can change yourself.
Sunny Nijjer I know that's right! Amen to that comment lol
I have been isolated for so long it is poisoned with negativity. I want to get close to people but I cannot get too close. I have never had a girlfriend, I don't go outside very often unless I need to, and fitting in isn't exactly easy. I have wasted so much time doing nothing that I feel I should just stay this way. I guess I'm happier.
This isn't the same isolation.
I mean, I didn't come here to complain about how isolated I am, I just wanted to hear adequate information of the effects of socialization on early human development.
Search the case studies of Genie, Anna, and Isabelle. Three significant case studies on the advance of the study of isolation. These girls where isolated by birth, and a case study, not an experiment.
Do what makes you happy Joey!!!
That exactly how I feel. I am so used to being sad that it's familiar. It is not right. It's what others have done to me because they could. Welcome to disability.
I know exactly how you feel i can only remember the bad from socializing with others people getting angry, letting them down, forgetting important stuff or being laughed at.
So what did i do? I took some time off with myself and tried to recharge my social batteries and thought this time i got it and then it just starts all over again the same way.
After so many defeats so many disappointments you start loosing any confidence you might have left in yourself and when people ask you to socialyze with others you resist fiercely in order to avoid the pain.
And then finally you're just fine with living in isolation were you can do no wrong and were nothing is expected of you.
a week later watching this video. left my house only to walk and skateboard at night. and sat in bakyard looked upon nature very nice.
going to try and keep getting out there.
Social Isolation, something i'm very familiar with as im going through it right now. It's like being a ghost only people who believe i exist can see me.
How have you been after those three years my friend?
Same. . .
@@ikemadi6265 How have you been after 8 months? 😂
@@shivanisaxena2052 I'm glad you asked. In previous years I have socially isolated myself and now I see that this is a trap. We do that in order to avoid the anxieties and fears that come up with human contact (our own feelings of social inadequacy, rejection, etc...). The problem is that by doing so we lose much of our skills in other areas too and as time goes by the fear grows and our safe zone gets even smaller. We are basically "safe" but unhappy.
I'm a cognitive psychologist, therapy has helped me much and I say that going step by step, approaching the things I was afraid of one by one and little by little I could discover other sides of people and of myself. Today I can say I'm glad, with friends, living with my girlfriend for 2 years and generally satisfied with myself (albeit not free of problems, of course hahaha)
And how have YOU been my friend?
I feel this and have even said this myself before verbatim..
Only differences nobody believes I exist. 👻
Edited: because ghost looks too damn happy for this shit 😶😣😥
31 years now. Let's see how much further I can push this.
+JacksInn I'm on 15 and i can't even imagine making it to 31; it's just not worth it.
And how have you been after so long my friend?
30 and on the same page
Never give up🔥🔥
Hey buddy, still alive?
I was reading thru the comments, and even tho nobody has really recently commented, I’m glad I’m not alone in this isolation thing.
Moving out of my home country has contributed to my social isolation. And its true your socail skill go down and mood along with depression.
True that...
***** it's true
MoonShadow Rising yeah and when you move out of your home country and cone back it is more hard to socialize because you have to socialize again and it feels weird that you do not fit in your OWN country because you have socialized in foreign country already
I'm ok with dying earlier because more years of this social isolation is not what I wish for anyway.
Pls stay strong and make everything work to get back into life. Small steps are a good beginning, just go for a walk in the park nearby everyday for an hour first and build up, stimulate your brain, maybe start going to the gym and work on daily plans at home but give it a try to look into the future, im also socially isolated but ill fight this shit
Same. Praying I die early. This pain just isn’t worth hanging on for. You want me to suffer even longer??? Plus I’d much rather leave my assets for my children to better their lives than to waste those assets on myself staying alive longer.
@@bryanw5951 best wishes and I hope whenever you think these things, you challenge the thoughts, and accept support. I relate to this, and I strongly believe, seeing you saying similar things, that it's not true. And you matter to people around you. ☮
i believe you too. but you are important and needed. go volunteer at an animal shelter- they need volunteers! wonderful and kind people there. foster or adopt animals on the side. you will never be alone. become a foster parent. you wont have time to think about loneliness. many kids need a loving home.
Do u believe me I'm 4 years on social isolation I think I'm only one in this world 😭
I had this recommended to me on youtube during the corona outbreak
I'm a 23 year old male, grew up in an abusive family, never had a friend, girlfriend, so I have never felt what love, and friendship feels like, and honestly I've never talked to a person on a personal level, whenever I talk to another person it's the basic "have a good day" to the cashier at the grocery store, or asking the supervisor at work what I have to do that particular day. I don't feel like a normal human being, there have been times when I've gone weeks without saying one word to another human, and I really don't know where to begin to try and improve, at this point in my life, the situation I grew up in I know I'll never fully recover, but I would be satisfied with some improvement, eventually make a friend/s, find a girlfriend, and live a somewhat normal life, but I just don't where to begin? How much would a psychiatrist really help? I feel like pills would just make me worse.
Have you ever tried adderall
if you don't mind my saying ...why don't you try something different...I bet there is a bunch of people out there that will find you nice and interesting...I suggest you to talk to people from other national origen different than yours (you will find them interesting and in turn they will find you interesting too)...in my own experience that has helped me a lot to improve my self confidence and feel again that nice and conforting feeling of interacting with other human beings...by the way I'm a mexican guy and you're more than welcome to visit my home and hometown whenever you want. it will be a pleasure to meet such a sincere and humble human being as you for sure are.
Try antidepressants. Really. It will change your life. Read jordan peterson books and watch his lectures. That will change your life as well. You are way more than you think you are.
My family forced me into isolation, too. Hope things get better for you.
Classmates always isolate me. Idk what I am doing wrong, most of them don't even speak to me. This is why I am always quiet. I have gotten used to this, now when we have to do a group activity I tend to do it myself, without looking for a partner. I do get depressed because of this but it isn't my fault why they always do this.
I hope things got better for you. Blaming classmates for lack of interaction won’t help you in your life. I have gone through isolation 14-24 i am now 35 certain things get hard to develop. Please go seek professional help or just work with an social neurologist or something to figure out the problem.
I have the same problem.
Tc ~human concerns~
autism?
@@hondaissace It's not autism, when you know how to read people you will catch many things.
social isolation occurs when you are surrounded by entitled human beings constantly demanding the moon and the sun for a breathe of fresh air so you come to the conclusion of saying indoors with the AC on and whatever form of entertainment you enjoy to keep you some what sane until that too drives you insane.
Sadiq Adeniran. Best comment in this section
That's exactly how I feel. I lock myself in my room with all of the lights off. I feel like the world is out to get me sometimes. Idk if I would call myself paranoid but I do have a lengthy history of depression since age 10 and high functioning autism. I also get explosively angry thinking about social situations and usually break my belongings (I think I have intermittent explosive disorder and borderline personality disorder). It's hell living through and it feels like crawling on glass shards or razor blades trying to better myself. My biggest fear is my depression worsening and the possibility of suicide, but I love my family too much to put them through the torture of the loss of me. I'm torn on the matter and it's slowly devouring me into state certified lunacy. I'm sorry for writing a book, but a lot has been on my mind and I just had to find an outlet, any damn outlet I can find.
Being isolated is fantastic, i achieve great things when I'm isolated from motivational music, inspirational videos etc. I will only watch these when I'm alone under total, complete peace of mind and disconnected from frustrations. Isolation brings about passion, focus, determination, drive and a string will power for success. There is no better feeling than when everything is quiet meaning you are the only person in the room and you are motivated by whatever it is that makes you motivated. I am a dangerous but positive person at the same time when motivated, isolation brings about the motivation where there is complete concentration.
Brandon Gerwen I'm with you
It depends. Voluntary isolation can be incredibly useful for motivation and creativity. Involuntary isolation generally leads to a lot of confusion, anger, and resentment towards the self and others. All of those things are poison to a healthy mind, making it much harder to be motivated.
Hence why withdrawn people sometimes struggle to even eat a full meal in a day. The will for life has been corrupted.
yup, sombody is performing this experiment on me in a community setting
Quite frankly I feel validated. I don't think I am a bad person but I do feel like people really don't care about anything or anyone but themselves. The world doesn't want to be bothered with those people who are isolated. I reach out to friends and family without any response. I often wonder if there really is something wrong, why doesn't someone tell me and get me out of this hell. I feel like I've been stranded on an island and the map to find me was thrown away.
I can't get anyone to go out to coffee with me. How can I be a friend if no one accepts my friendship? 16 years since my BF died. Nothing.
I’ll be your friend
try having a low quality friend, low quality as in hacing a bad stupid arrogant aggressive egoistic unempathetic underdeveloped indecent unlikable character. makes lonliness feel like you are on vacation.
First year psych student so I only have remedial knowledge on stuff like the isolation you just described Wallis but everything I have read about when your in a kind of self defeating cycle like that ( also something that afflicts me too) says to try and take a risk. Maybe try and shake up your routine you don't have to go out and make a friend or learn a new language but just start with something small it helped me when I was stuck in a rut. Oddly reading also helped for me. Feel better!
Lots of love to John Cacioppo! Lots of love to all of you, within - by loving each-other, we stay aware, we are free, we get to experience sorrow and happiness.
I’ve been alone for most of my life, for the past 2+ years I have actually been living alone. I’m 31, I live in a 320 sq ft box and never hear or see anyone for 4 straight days a week. I “play house” with the people I work with, but don’t understand most of the things they find important or funny. I believe that most people have high expextations of how the world and our interactions should be, I’ve lowered mine drastically and I can see things for what they truly are. I choose to stay away from other people unless I have to interact with them. I spend my time playing games, reading, and drawing. Though I’m alone, I never feel lonely. Drop your expectations and learn to live with yourself, you are the most important person in your life :)
People can be on their own and it doesn't bother them, or they even like it. Others need people around them constantly to feel contented. When I was suffering depression, I didn't like being at home by myself for even a couple of hours. Now I can be alone for most of the day and be OK. It is a burden and a pressure to be too needy of company, as it cannot always be found. I'm not alone everyday and have plenty of friends.
I have had it for 5 years your lose the energy to do everything
You managed to get your life back and I want to know how
3 years in and yeah, I have no motivation anymore
I'd be a great case study for this.
Is there any correlation between isolation or perceived isolation and insomnia?
What about people that have a tendency to desire or want minimal social interaction, i e those that prefer majority of isolation or alone time and on occasion do a kind of "touch and go" with socializing, only to return back to isolation? Is there a difference between introverted people and extroverted people with regards to the study? I myself being introverted find that socializing regularly is physically, mentally and emotionally draining. I prefer a majority of my time to be alone time...
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Very helpful and very useful information. Terrific presentation and clear to understand. Thank you.
If you focus on yourself you can't go wrong friends and family are some of the ones that doubt you first it's okay but don't feed into it DO what YOU need to DO focus focus focus on what you can control
Yes I well relate with the feeling of unresolved bitterness and indeed with isolation and segregation from society at large. I have lived through that pain many times in life over the years. It makes one feel so terribly unluckiest to be born into what is one of the world's most social species. Life over the recent 6 or more months has been very difficult.
I purposely push myself away from social contact, but at the same time I want someone to have an intelligent conversation with me. I don't need it though.
Saforge, I appreciate that you think that isolation and feeling suicidal is an "lol" topic. However, if you haven't felt the sense of pure despair then please do not pretend to think that by telling people to "Cheer the hell up" is going to do anything but make them feel inadequate. Wow, something else. I really am defective if people are telling me how easy it is to feel joy and elation. smh. If it works for you great! It's just not that easy for many people.
I think it depends on if you are isolated by CHOICE or by CHANCE. If it's obviously not by choice but by chance, you will not be happy and it will lead to your detrimental state of mind and health.
Super interesting studies... Especially those on micro awakenings, and the rat who stayed on the border of the field. Thanks for sharing, it was very useful!
Nice one!
I read of many people here claiming that they enjoy being alone and don't need others,well, that's bullshit, or they don't know what social isolation truly is....or they are just butthurt because of bad experiences.
It's been 10 years since i'm going through this, i live in a stupid town in the middle of nowhere,no job,no friends,no girlfriend, i rarely even leave my house during the week. I couldn't even imagine going through this in the future because this is really pushing me to the limit, i will ask for help, this isn't living.
Hey man, how is it going?
You don't. Accept it and learn to love yourself and the way you are. For me there is no such thing as loneliness because I do not wish to be around people. Why would I want to be around people who bully me, or just aren't even that great? I can't think of a reason why I would really want to be around anyone! I mean sometimes I am around people but they are just there and my interaction with them are of no consequence and sometimes not even necessary.
I don't know, is it's loneliness that's causing all these problems, or is loneliness a symptom of too much introspection?
If an individual develops more compassion for others, and focuses on making life better for others, even when being isolated they will begin to not feel lonely and develop happiness.
Someone coming here is just going to feel worse drawing conclusions from the correlations you've mentioned. I'd suggest you watch what the Dalai Lama has to say about loneliness for a different perspective.
Except people want to avoid pain. If you spend years not being listened to when you try to tell people there is something wrong or ask for help, and people walk all over you, you can't focus on this. Other people have real effects on your life
I haven't talked to another human being other than my wife for three months, I never leave the house, have no friends or social circles. I've been cut off from people for so long I dont know how to talk to people. In reality I've been completely cut off for about 2 or 3 years, I cant really remember anymore. I dont know what to do, I just wanna give up, I have no purpose in life, I just exist. There's no point, anytime I try to talk about it, it just turns into an argument because my wife is extremely co dependent and turns everything around on me, making my feelings and perspective seem invalidated or just a symptom of my disorder. I dont even know why I'm commenting all this, I just have noone to talk to.
Hey man! Thanks for sharing. Don’t give up. I know it’s tough and you sharing your story helps others. I may be a stranger to you but I can relate to your story and that I care about you. I’ll be praying for you. God Bless
I would like to volunteer for science. I have been socially isolated for 15 years since I was 14 years old. I never had a friend during that time and don't talk to people not even my family. I'm really screwed up. Please contact me.
Bike Rider Is there an eMail that you can contact the guy in this video? He may be able to help.
Fuck other people. Just focus on yourself and become stronger than those who look down on you.
lol
what does loneliness and boredom goe together?
I don't think so. I am never bored. Social isolation, that is, when others choose not to spend time with you, is not something you choose. Solitude is chosen and often a joy. Boredom, to me, is unrelated. If lack activities,in your life, these activities or ways to occupy your mind do not have to include other people. Writers and artists spend many hours working on projects alone.
ZestyOmelet, and them be buried or burned like the rest of them, right?
Isolated and lonely for 10 years now in Nelson BC...don't move here ever!
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I can't work out the words what to say after watching this.
My best friend has been isolating me for months now. I'm tired of it. I can't focus on anything.
Randall Cadet
don't sound like a true friend
Aa
When you're done pleasing ppl you change .. and you idgaf about anynone anymore it's that simple you stay calm good and neutral
29 years strong.
I've been 2 years isolated due to some legal issues I had in the past. It's destroying my health. I assume people are evil by nature. I need to find social groups.
I am looking for people. Hoping for friends.
it might be easier than said, but what about volunteering somewhere? or joining a sports, board game, book club, conferences, language exchange cafes, etc...just saying, a lot of people out there are trying to organize events for people to connect and do something together, its a human need and sometimes, the only way to make things happen
From what I know, isolation doesn't happen because of a person's non-participation in such groups. If a person chooses not to participate, that's a lot different from rejection, such as....if you call people and they don't call back, if you join clubs but find you're unwelcome there, or if your school friends reject you. People who are already unemployed face discrimination based on their unemployed status alone. Someone told me that due to prior unemployment, after he lost his job it took him a full year to find a new one. The one thing I hate hearing on Thanksgiving is that because I don't have family, I somehow owe to the world to volunteer at a soup kitchen. I don't care to be around the other volunteers who are later going home to be with their loving families. It breaks my heart.
i have been isolated most of my life and i don't think i'm going to last much longer.
That is terrible. I can only reach out to you. Or try.
How do I reach Mr. Cacioppo? I am studying loneliness and creating some viable solutions for. I want to be come an expert on Loneliness.
me too :(
How exactly does Isolation [perceived or actual] become a health risk? In what ways does it actually harm the human body? I hear that it does based on studies, but I am unsure of what these mortality risks actually include. Thank you for the great video, looking forward to hearing more
I like this dude
i prefer isolation, i feel happier when i'm alone. somehow i can't seem to find anything about people who are the same as me. everything is always "isolation makes ppl feel lonely and depressed", but i feel neither. i have no desire to have any interaction with people, i isolate myself from others physically and emotionally and feel happier than i have been in my life. "humans are social animals" i guess i'm just a strange animal.
weezerfan084 Same here
Get a dog they are a great solution.
Forever alone.
Never back Matter of choice.
got 5 cats, helped at first i need to talk to people.
***** One can't isolate oneself totaly one still needs to work and during a day one comes across people any way. I already know how majority people are and i don't like what i seen and experience and i can do with out it.
Loneliness is NOT contagious. Excluding anyone leaves space for destruction for both parts. Loneliness in this destructive world is a sign. of health
Im denied all of those I have only 2 people and I feel like I am a nuisance. I am not giving up but I am disgusted in the rest not so much as a text or a phone call
I'm in the same situation
If you continue to dip in and out of isolation I feel like you lose how to connect with people. Even though you want to, you really cant.
Social Isolation Caused By Wrongful Family Separation: Likely overlooked issues for family and children regarding social isolation. Request for feedback. Found this video and series of topics. The Issues of wrongful separation can include social isolation for the children and a parent, which can be extremely difficult, and can happen in cases of divorce or family court. Is this issue really being properly addressed in courts? What happens when children are improperly separated from their parents for months, or even years without any communication? If you have any related research on this issues, please post. Here is an example of points and quotes on problems of being socially isolated.
By actively isolating an object, destruction replaces itself with your awareness of it. Destruction encourages us to split, instead of uniting - more than social beings, we are ONE. There is no way for our existence to survive by excluding one single mind.
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Wow
I have always wondered why humans after being isolated for a long period of time get hit by negativity??
The human species is only social because it was advantageous to be so in order to survive a hostile environment. This is singularly the crudest human existential imperative which remains dominant to this day despite advances in technology. Without clearly defining and attributing appropriate values to other imperatives then all utterances with respect to what constitutes natural interpersonal relationships will consistently lead exploration into human social psychology nowhere.
When one examines modern achievements they are scarcely ever the product of groups but individuals who are almost invariably the initiators of group actions without which there would have existed a vacuum out of which nothing would have emerged, not even a concept upon which the group could act, rendering any group effectively aimless and with neither purpose nor cause, history again repeatedly testifying to that. This is patently self-evident.
Traditional academics are quite adequate at gathering and organising data, what they consistently fail at is in the interpretation of that data largely due to the failing psychological models they employ, in addition to poor definitions, descriptions and characterisations of existential concepts such as "Mind, Consciousness and intelligence (to the extent that such definitions even exist in the respective institutions).
alone my whole life now I either destroy myself or the world....
what is this called?
think i would also
I am as lonely as one can get and I see great.
Anxiety and Depression are both causes of Loneliness as well, i wish somebody would have mentioned it to me when i was going through my dark times. And loneliness can felt due to your environment, if it's toxic for you change it. Mental health comes first...please make sure anyone reading this goes to a psychologist.
I highly recommend Dr David E. Myers. I think his website is davidemyersphd.com
Aria Mcgramary my ideal environment is the one of my ancestors. I can’t change modern day living.
Choosing to be alone, is not the same as loneliness/isolation.
Also; if you take some rats and put rhem into a small area; they will necome [very] aggressive towards the others! What to do?.... what to do?...
You're an introvert which means you prefer solitude than lots of company. Nothing wrong with it.
I wonder how hearing loss comes into the equation here.
I could never live a normal life, being alone is what I do, that is all I know now.
Isolation is inevitable. Being social is to be connected with other humans, but what If these humans are different? I'm an Atheist and live in a Muslim family and a Muslim community.
There is tons of people experiencing social isolation already if they wanted to study and help them. But I doubt they do.
Trust asking an anti social person to socialize is counter productive.
Well isolation in a prison I may agree with but having your space is Alsoa good thing
Honestly being socially isolated has changed me into a cynical asshole, even though i realize this it feels impossible to change that part of me now.
woe me, poor me always alone. i have even stoped working and going out , this year 7 i hope i die soon man, there is no cure for it, ha ha ha ha ha, i guess im going crazy who cares anyway
B Yohhanes Im starting to go outside in the middle of the night now when nobody is out.
imagine if you in prison in a hostel environment
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So social distancing is extremely unhealthy
Must be why I can only sleep a few hours a night......better get some friends.
Yeah. Me too i always wake up
Funded through 2020 eh?
Glad you're not hurting the animals
try having a low quality friend, low quality as in hacing a bad stupid arrogant aggressive egoistic unempathetic underdeveloped indecent unlikable character. makes lonliness feel like you are on vacation.
PETA obviously hasn't found this video yet...lol
That's not an oxymoron.
Does it lead to Alzheimer’s?
strangers where hugging each other in Britain That's not possible
kind of why may be religions evolved
Am I the only one that came here free of suicidal thoughts? lol. Cheer the hell up people, walk outside and realize how much you have to enjoy in life.
Boy do I feel sorry for you. You need a new hobby.
If you focus on yourself you can't go wrong friends and family are some of the ones that doubt you first it's okay but don't feed into it DO what YOU need to DO focus focus focus on what you can control
The human species is only social because it was advantageous to be so in order to survive a hostile environment. This is singularly the crudest human existential imperative which remains dominant to this day despite advances in technology. Without clearly defining and attributing appropriate values to other imperatives then all utterances with respect to what constitutes natural interpersonal relationships will consistently lead exploration into human social psychology nowhere.
When one examines modern achievements they are scarcely ever the product of groups but individuals who are almost invariably the initiators of group actions without which there would have existed a vacuum out of which nothing would have emerged, not even a concept upon which the group could act, rendering any group effectively aimless and with neither purpose nor cause, history again repeatedly testifying to that. This is patently self-evident.
Traditional academics are quite adequate at gathering and organising data, what they consistently fail at is in the interpretation of that data largely due to the failing psychological models they employ, in addition to poor definitions, descriptions and characterisations of existential concepts such as "Mind, Consciousness and intelligence (to the extent that such definitions even exist in the respective institutions).