3 Powerful Ways to Love Yourself INSTANTLY (100% Self Love)

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  • @queenofthorns4053
    @queenofthorns4053 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2246

    I'm tired of feeling like someone has to love me to feel good about myself. No one can love me more if I don't love myself.

    • @chamzie5443
      @chamzie5443 5 ปีที่แล้ว +70

      I just want somebody to love me as much as i love them 😅

    • @Openyoureyestothelies
      @Openyoureyestothelies 5 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      Queen of Thorns I have thought this way for along time. I have destroyed a lot of relationships because i didn’t love myself!

    • @Openyoureyestothelies
      @Openyoureyestothelies 5 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Adam James it seems like most relationships are one sided. I keep going on a teeter-totter where I love them more then the next they love me more. I’m stuck in this trap. I feel you bro!

    • @petersonmasoryde3163
      @petersonmasoryde3163 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@Openyoureyestothelies so true man. Im ready to take back love power

    • @theyellowroom7003
      @theyellowroom7003 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Completely Agree!

  • @keisha1109
    @keisha1109 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1654

    1- forgive yourself and others
    2- don’t set rules on yourself, love yourself and be yourself.
    3- focus, focus on the present

    • @sorrybae1053
      @sorrybae1053 5 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      I am being myself but my mom didn't support me :< i feel empty.

    • @comf0rtzone
      @comf0rtzone 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      2-how can I love my self? Be specific.

    • @elaangel4203
      @elaangel4203 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@sorrybae1053 realize that your mother is like that so that yiu can be stronger and braver to love and be yourself. She thought it is the right thing to do that she doing it right since that MAYBE thought/influenced to her. So realize that amd forgive her and forgive yourself for thinking that way. And be grateful because now you realize and you learn.

    • @godlovesyou5503
      @godlovesyou5503 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Sounds like what a Christian should do

    • @sathyaaplayer666
      @sathyaaplayer666 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      👍🙏

  • @zahraa100
    @zahraa100 4 ปีที่แล้ว +294

    - The first powerful way at 3:25,
    - the second way at 7:03,
    - and the third way at 9:51

  • @mayankyadav9977
    @mayankyadav9977 5 ปีที่แล้ว +520

    Love yourself unconditionally. NO MATTER WHAT you've been in the past, NO MATTER WHAT people think who u are, NO MATTER WHAT u were unable to achieve in the past. It's like everything that happened in the past was just a way to make you a better person, a happier person, a more successful person, a way to make u what u are now. But feel grateful about today because UR PAST DOESN'T DEFINE U, today u are successful, today u are happy, today u are u yourself, A BLESSING.
    NAMASTE. Much love from INDIA.

    • @mayankyadav9977
      @mayankyadav9977 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Gio G Its my pleasure.

    • @prasadsatpute6706
      @prasadsatpute6706 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That’s so real. 🙏🏻

    • @neesemma950
      @neesemma950 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks for ur wise words

    • @nofybn7794
      @nofybn7794 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      How is it going to make me better? I am NEVER going to be better! It does define me. I am not successful. I am not happy.

    • @SBEE2803
      @SBEE2803 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I needed this. Thank you also for opening my eyes

  • @noorayousef3441
    @noorayousef3441 6 ปีที่แล้ว +95

    Summary:
    1- forgive your self
    2- always say " People love me because I'm being myself , and I love myself because I'm being myself"
    3_ focus more on the pressent not on your past .

  • @senpaitricky6207
    @senpaitricky6207 5 ปีที่แล้ว +315

    Being sad is a waste of time
    Thats all
    Do what you love
    Be whatever you want to be
    Eat what u want
    And dont worry about future or past

    • @simbz194
      @simbz194 5 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      You can't say its a waste of time, everyone will and must go through sadness to experience happiness.
      Its a balance, there is no happiness without sadness.

    • @EnderHydra
      @EnderHydra 5 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      the more sad you feel the more happiness you will feel later on when u finally get over the sadness... without sadness life would just be a long flatline without much emotion

    • @simbz194
      @simbz194 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@EnderHydra Love for that brother!

    • @Lightflames85
      @Lightflames85 5 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      sadness and reflection is part of life. Its a great teacher if you listen to the answers it brings. People that have never gone throw hardship dont know who they really are. Because its when things are hard you learn most about your self.

    • @lolapoente6216
      @lolapoente6216 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Best comment ever

  • @yelu6
    @yelu6 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1153

    😢 I needed this. My mom can be so abusive some times she makes me forget I’m worthy and I have to start over again.
    I’ve found great relief in your words. Thank you 🙏🏻

    • @euniceo5345
      @euniceo5345 7 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      You're worthy. :)

    • @g.3865
      @g.3865 7 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      sit down and talk to her... maybe she feels you will become unworthy like her (Its not that she is unworthy...maybe she feels it that way inside of herself that she is unworthy might be because she have ignored some greatest opportunities in life to become someone which she or everyone around her will be proud about, she wont be able to talk to you about it maybe cos of embarrassment or ego or pride..etc etc.) and shes scared it will happen to you.. cos you probably have the same attitude as hers, and do things like she does..and she can see herself in you ..So she might be scared you will turn into her and take the wrong decisions that she took which made her feel guilty till now......that's why shes abusive...she cant forgive herself nor forgive you... cos she brought this upon everyone...
      she will never want it to happen to you or take decision like her which caused her TIME and LOVE..... Sit down and talk to her....both of you need help. SORRY IF IM WRONG :) good on you.. god bless you....Namaste!!!

    • @yelu6
      @yelu6 7 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Eunice o :) thank you. So are you.

    • @yelu6
      @yelu6 7 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Gopala Krishnan well actually I don’t think you’re wrong at all. I never thought about it that way. :) thank you for your words I’ll try to talk to her.
      Lots of blessings for you.

    • @Ericalovespokemon13
      @Ericalovespokemon13 7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Yelu C i feel u my mom makes me feel like that too

  • @sam8040
    @sam8040 5 ปีที่แล้ว +51

    Ever since I started loving myself and letting stuff go I feel like I am a happy, bubbly person I also feel like nothing can bring me down

    • @timtim0007
      @timtim0007 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      How did you start letting things go?

  • @CreativeQueenx
    @CreativeQueenx 7 ปีที่แล้ว +531

    WE CAN ONLY TRULY LOVE SOMEONE IF WE LOVE OURSELVES FIRST !!!!!

    • @nofybn7794
      @nofybn7794 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Wrong. I loved someone and didn't love myself

    • @creatinglife3396
      @creatinglife3396 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@nofybn7794 truly

    • @tobihashtag803
      @tobihashtag803 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      nofy bn Than it wasn’t true/ real love, it was a need which you thought you needed because you didn’t love yourself

    • @comf0rtzone
      @comf0rtzone 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      How?

    • @tobihashtag803
      @tobihashtag803 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Karisu Zoldyck Find out what is holding you back from self-love. The process of shadow work is what you’ll have to do, I myself am doing shadow work and what it brought me is huge, I love it.

  • @thelmabukikun1485
    @thelmabukikun1485 4 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    Being alone in my own space for the first time for a whole year has helped me alot. I have the time to learn more about myself like never before

  • @Ella-tf8yv
    @Ella-tf8yv 4 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    “I love myself for being me” so powerful yet so simple✨❤️

  • @bertdowns5240
    @bertdowns5240 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    First time - I have felt wretched. My dad passed away when I was 6. I had no one to protect me from her. I hated myself for decades... Christianity didn’t help... you make it simple... thank you. I’m just going to listen everyday. I’ve been so close to ending things but as a parent I have no right to wimp out. They need me and I need them. 😀

  • @emilyhsmith
    @emilyhsmith 7 ปีที่แล้ว +257

    This such an important topic when increasing your consciousness. We have to love ourselves to truly unconditionally love others. Otherwise you are just coming from your pain, fear, unresolved emotions,... I have gone through quite the shift this year. I lost my oldest sister in December of last year which crushed me. It also caused the implosion of my entire family who began immediatley to start fighting over her estate. I was literally looking in the mirror in January and saving I hate you, you suck. Terrible, I know. Lowest point of my life. Now, I am completely the opposite and I do I love you, I am talented, I am abundance, I am gratitude,... Just like your videos. I am so much happier with myself and I am able to more easily accept others as they are now and forgive. Extremely liberating, life saving actions. I appreciate you Aaron! Excellent video. Much Love!!! Namaste.

    • @AaronDoughty44
      @AaronDoughty44  7 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      You are abundant and worthy :) Happy to hear you've reconnected with yourself, Much love!

    • @weebwithadream8260
      @weebwithadream8260 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@AaronDoughty44 I love myself, but in a different way. The only things I loved in life were my ideas, beliefs and motivations that I created since childhood. They embody my whole personality. Without them, I am nothing. Like an empty shell. I am the personification of my ideas. I would be nothing without them. I would lose my personality, my talents, my thought process, everything I ever loved. Everything I am. Everything I stand for. I would have to start from scratch. Who would I be if I just let them go?

    • @weebwithadream8260
      @weebwithadream8260 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@AaronDoughty44 And I forgive you. My mindset is not common, so it's okay if you didn't take it into consideration beforehand. We all make mistakes. I hope you find your own way of making the world a truly better place.

    • @xxstraksxx9825
      @xxstraksxx9825 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@AaronDoughty44 hey, if we have negative thought with neg lfeeling should we use your technique or observe it, let glot go then choose what we trulry are?

    • @beethegirl9172
      @beethegirl9172 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@weebwithadream8260 late to see this but I had to comment because I feel the exact same way. And it's hard to find help because of it. I know what to do and how to do it, but...if I change (let go) of everything...I am not even myself anymore. Thank you for the comment ❤️

  • @lucymaynard6798
    @lucymaynard6798 5 ปีที่แล้ว +180

    Need to stop loving my ex and love myself instead 💔

    • @jenmyl05
      @jenmyl05 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I felt this....❤️

    • @masza8212
      @masza8212 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Lucy Maynard me too I love my ex too much still

    • @lucymaynard6798
      @lucymaynard6798 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Gosia Kochanska I was stuck in that place for a year. I practiced daily affirmation on self-love. You too can soon find your purpose. Love yourself and know you’re worth! Everything else will then fall into place 🌍🌟

    • @masza8212
      @masza8212 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I am trying ... u cant unlove some ppl ... 😢

    • @keishamayniac5375
      @keishamayniac5375 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Forget him. Go after conor maynard 😉

  • @BeccaTeersMindPlus
    @BeccaTeersMindPlus 4 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    So true! The most powerful three words there are: "I am enough".

    • @k____heri
      @k____heri 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      👌

    • @AmandaMG6
      @AmandaMG6 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I feel like that phrase needs another word or words “I am ___________ enough.” Without it I have a hard time making sense of it

  • @piperjones3227
    @piperjones3227 6 ปีที่แล้ว +114

    5:49-6:47 is a GAME CHANGER! I really needed to hear this you just don't understand but you just made me become a better mom. I almost took my daughter through the same mental abuse my mom took me through. May you continue to be blessed and highly favored 🙏

  • @BreakFreeAddiction
    @BreakFreeAddiction 7 ปีที่แล้ว +131

    love this. Not loving yourself can bring lots of damage to life. Thanks for sharing.

    • @taydavies9971
      @taydavies9971 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      BreakFree Addiction UPLOAD MORE OFTEN!

    • @HH-yg9sx
      @HH-yg9sx 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      BreakFree Addiction true that.

    • @efe8085
      @efe8085 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Right

  • @grantcornelius1577
    @grantcornelius1577 7 ปีที่แล้ว +171

    THANK YOU.... Aaron for all the vids you post everyday especially this one I'm an ex-heroin addict and your vids keep me on the right track every day.... much love.... namaste my cuzzy " Peace from South Africa"

    • @TheLaurenmichelle
      @TheLaurenmichelle 6 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Grant Cornelius..... I know we don't know each other.....but I'm proud of u

    • @tejaskulkarni3841
      @tejaskulkarni3841 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Namaste means hello in Hindi just FYI!

    • @ravenstillwaters5195
      @ravenstillwaters5195 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm so proud of you, I wish you much happiness and abundance.

    • @niamhstevens1145
      @niamhstevens1145 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Know this is from 2 years ago but I'm a heroin addict just done detox but used today.. watching this video to try help me get back on track tomorrow.. Think your amazing for staying clean it's so hard.. well done, wish me luck!

    • @eduardocardona6608
      @eduardocardona6608 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Batista is unleashed

  • @DesazMusicYt
    @DesazMusicYt 4 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    During my relationship I stopped loving myself. It's been 3 years since the breakup and I want to regain the feelings I had before the relationship.

    • @xtrol4330
      @xtrol4330 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You waited 3 years brother omg
      Dude I'm telling you now its going to be so hard but you have the strength to do it

    • @thischannelhasmovedcheckla1235
      @thischannelhasmovedcheckla1235 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You can do it. Try my video on self love. Let me know how it helps. Much love to you

  • @Simrangangwar023
    @Simrangangwar023 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    1. Forgiveness nd letting Go
    2. Don't love yourself for that I am doing XYZ , just love yourself for being yourself .
    3. Focus on present times.( gratitude , change your image of who you are ) ...,

  • @Metallady1972
    @Metallady1972 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Just one Word of my BF helped me so much. He said:" Just be yourself!" and I started to think about it. It changed my Mind...yes, I love myself :-)

  • @jax3065
    @jax3065 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I disconnected from watching these reminders and started to fall backwards in my mind body and soul , I'm greatful to have found my way back to this Chanel Arron Ty love and light for all ,self love is where life start's

  • @emeraldkaysgarden
    @emeraldkaysgarden 7 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    Omg you touched on a subject that i am currently wrestling with....school and not being passionate about it but doing it due to insecurity of myself feeling like i don't want to seem like an uncommitted person.

  • @cristinad.5835
    @cristinad.5835 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    omg Aaron!! this reminds me of great quote I saw that said that "Forgiveness collapses time." Meaning when you forgive, the timelines that are running from the past and into the future collapse into one. You effectively dissolve your karmic lesson that entangles you with another person, situation, timeline. And that's why forgiveness is so powerful..it effects the fabric of time and karma in such a way that releases you into the freedom of infinite oneness and love.

  • @Shegreen
    @Shegreen 6 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    “I can love myself, for being me.” Wonderful vid. 💚

  • @DLaing
    @DLaing 7 ปีที่แล้ว +55

    Your videos are by far the best therapy I have found in coping with my grief and seeing joy in "today".

  • @karziflora
    @karziflora 7 ปีที่แล้ว +71

    Self love is the greatest love of all, Thank you Aaron for sharing your love with us!

    • @yvonnemuhoza3876
      @yvonnemuhoza3876 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I love the song 1rst love yourself and love other

  • @1313MockingbirdLane
    @1313MockingbirdLane 5 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Thank you for this message I am middle age and just now coming to realize that I am worthy. I was created a worthy human being. Just confessing this is healing. No more hiding from myself.

    • @ishaali7841
      @ishaali7841 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Awwww sending you love and peace♡

  • @claire5886
    @claire5886 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I used to be anorexic and I am currently trying to recover which means I am gaining weight and I feel disgusting and ugly but listening to this video made me see myself differently which I needed. Thank you

    • @lightweaverwildstein
      @lightweaverwildstein 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Claire I hope you are doing well many many blessings to you beautiful soul!!

  • @ladybug160
    @ladybug160 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This message is 100 percent on point. It was only when I worked through forgiving myself, and being grateful for being in the position I was in at that time, that I found the true freedom of unconditional love for myself. I found it profoundly liberating. Love and blessings to all you beautiful Souls who are reading this. 💟

  • @jimmyandres1822
    @jimmyandres1822 5 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    This is one I most struggle with but slowly I have begun to fall in love with myself and discovered so much about me and even my purpose

  • @esteemity5405
    @esteemity5405 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The emotions you have about yourself are contagious to other people...if you don't love yourself, you make it difficulty for others to love you...lord have I seen too much of that. Excellent material Aaron.

  • @ritag.1929
    @ritag.1929 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Great affirmation Aaron- " I LOVE MYSELF FOR BEING ME." Self-Love opens doors to other areas that are blocked in our lives. Thanks for making this vid!!

  • @cartooneyed
    @cartooneyed 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Aww thank you so much. I was going through heavy stuff, people I slept with talked bad about myself and don’t find me attractive and then that damaged my self image so bad.
    I’m choosing me, that’s where the healing starts.

  • @LonjeMarie7
    @LonjeMarie7 6 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    It’s amazing you say that once I was in the doctors office and I was looking at the cover of a magazine with a beautiful model ,and I started to feel inferior ,but then I had a thought God what do you think of me ,you made me wonderful and beautiful and enough.After That the negative emotion totally went away!!

  • @drewwilson1122
    @drewwilson1122 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love myself unconditionally, I forgive myself and also I forgive others and learn from it and get stronger from it.
    We fall to get back up don’t give up stay positive and strong minded through emotions and feelings.
    I am myself I am me, stay focused at the present moment set it forget it do not dwell on the past focus on the now and choose your future for you.

  • @Backyardboogie9473
    @Backyardboogie9473 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Not even halfway through the video and I NEEDED THIS!
    I literally just finished a self love Ted Talk and they mentioned tips to “add” to life. The idea of not adding but subtracting is exactly what I needed to hear.

  • @SalvadorOlagueOfficial
    @SalvadorOlagueOfficial 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Expressing myself more without feeling insecure, being more grateful and present, working on what I’m telling my subconscious mind

  • @katelinjenkins3463
    @katelinjenkins3463 7 ปีที่แล้ว +102

    This is so honest , raw and relatable . Thanks for this !

  • @ninad7478
    @ninad7478 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you Aaron. I needed to hear this. Anyone reading this, may you be blessed with a successful and happy life.😊

  • @Anikinomundo
    @Anikinomundo 7 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    My psychology professor once said that love is a secondary emotion and is socially implemented (is not innate). I said to her that it didn't make any sense , and asked if the love she had for her son was something that she learned. She said "yes!I didn't loved him right a way, it's not like you find you're pregnant and boom you feel love for this unknown being. No, you learn to love that being. "
    Idk. It's something that I will never forget.

    • @analezaa6306
      @analezaa6306 7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Moniikkah17 i don't agree with her. I think she's coming from a place of pain with her reasoning and belief. There may be stress with getting pregnant, but when knowing the being growing in there is completely innocent and pure, you won't let the stress affect the love you have for that worthy and precious being.

    • @Dnez44901
      @Dnez44901 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Was she a robot?! She sounds brainwashed?!

    • @khfan818
      @khfan818 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Well if that’s her belief, it’s her reality. Even if there was scientific evidence of it, I’m betting a humanistic psychologist has evidence of the contrary.
      She doesn’t have to be wrong or right, but she’s also entitled to not love unconditionally.

    • @Diamond_InTheRuff
      @Diamond_InTheRuff 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Um FYI: we love because he first LOVED US (JAH) when i found out i was pregrant i loved right away But to each is own.

  • @eternal_ruler74
    @eternal_ruler74 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I choose that from today forward I am always my best self

  • @maviagho1117
    @maviagho1117 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Honestly I really loved this video, now I'm starting to realise how good loving yourself is, a lot of people say they love themselves but are they truly feeling it?. Really loved this video❤

  • @liquid7315
    @liquid7315 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I had a spiritual awakening about a week ago, a realization, an ephiphany... then suddenly I get these videos along with other channel suggestions about self love, what a weird coincidence...almost as if the universe has reinforced my realization that I am love, and love comes from within. present to the moment is one of the keys to self love. I have this fire, like a ball in my chest that just makes me love myself and everything right now, with 0 resistance, yet contained and controlled in my own being .

  • @TheAnticSits
    @TheAnticSits 7 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    Great Video! It’s so important to love ourselves. So often we project who we think we should be to others. Then we think there’s no way they could love the real us because we think they can ONLY love the projection.
    Your videos really help me think bro. Thank you. 🙏🏻

  • @ROBERTJ986
    @ROBERTJ986 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This will free many burdened spirits! This is powerful. Not many people teach you how to replenish and recharge your spirit. Building self esteem. The world hits you like current. Washing you away with each embrace!

  • @samanthacatcher7838
    @samanthacatcher7838 6 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    When you were saying let that luggage go, I did...and my husband said, "What are you doing?!? We're boarding now, they just called our seats!". Flying out to California atm.

    • @bscnyc9948
      @bscnyc9948 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      agree much.....practical but it doesn't apply all the time... like when you go walking or travel.... I prefer to travel light...!!! what's comfortable and makes one contented at ease happy that's it.

  • @lullabi3234
    @lullabi3234 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I really like how you flipped the Conditions for Loving Ourself narrative, from "Do these things to earn permission to Love and Accept yourself" to just be "Love Yourself, and the world then has permission to Accept YOU"!
    Brilliant.

  • @brookebain610
    @brookebain610 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    -forgive yourself
    -give yourself permission to love yourself
    -be grateful for what you already have, don't live in the past or future

  • @strawberry9497
    @strawberry9497 ปีที่แล้ว

    Accept myself, accept everything, forgive myself, forgive everything. I have a abusive mom too, and what I realize from what you say is she get that from her parents and she gets a lot of judge from others, she thought she were supposed to put that on herself so she become like others with abuse and judgement, and do it to others. I don’t have to take her belief or her perspective. I don’t have to think that I am supposed to take this or take that and put it on myself. I can be myself, I have rights and freedom to be myself, and I LOVE myself when I BE myself. Thank you, I totally agree with your speech.

  • @delicious1525
    @delicious1525 5 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    This is so. fucking. hard. My whole life, I've hated myself. The "People will love me if ___" is exactly right. The conditionalizing. I only had a tiny moment last night realizing how many people I've hurt because of this. I bring people down. As soon someone confronts me, I break down. I say sorry about everything so much. Too much. My mind is set only to say "No, I'm not (compliment), I'm (opposite of compliment)." I feel so selfish about all of this.. it's not okay for me to say im beautiful, right? It's so bad to say I'm good when I've had this mindset. I keep saying "I love me, I forgive me,.." ect. But I can't. No matter how hard I try, everything makes me say no. I hurt other people unwillingly. I've been hurt. I don't know how to help myself.

    • @simonriley4180
      @simonriley4180 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I am sorry. I also sometimes feel like selfish if i start loving myself and living life like in my own way because my parents have done so much for me. I want to say sorry to them because i felt like i was a let down to them. But I came to a realisation that their happiness is my happiness. They are happy if I am happy. Then i started to give the love i gave to other people expecting the same in return to myself. Living carefree has now become my goal and I Think i am on the right path. I hope you will figure it out too.

    • @pecan8866
      @pecan8866 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I used to be like that, totally
      What I did, cuz I got bored of feeling like trash, I got tired of being dependant and ruining my relationships, living on a trashy place because I couldnt care enough, was correcting myself
      "I hate myself, Im trash"- No, Im not! Im doing my best to survive the way I can. Im just hurt and tired, and I want to heal.
      "I should die, I dont deserve anything" Im alive for a reason, suicide didnt kill me so I might as well keep it up! If I didnt deserve these things, why do I have them? Im a precious living being and Im proud of myself. I got so far despite everything. I deserve everything good I have, and I will get rid of everything bad.
      Constantly correct yourself, even if it feels wrong, selfish, egocentric. It doesn't matter. Until you will start saying those things automatically. You will heal.

    • @RobbeyT1
      @RobbeyT1 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You know what's wrong don't you? You are fighting your thoughts, and the more you fight your thoughts, the more they will fight back.
      It's the thoughts you're thinking, and you think either in the past or in the future and hardly in the present moment..Thinking too much. Being lost in thought you are totally unconscious, sleep walking within your own world of thoughts...Thoughts bring suffering, because it's to do with the ego which hates being in the present moment.
      Every single word, thought, feeling, all your beliefs, everything you do and say manifest instantly all around you and that's all you'll ever know. You have to realise that you are a magnificent creator, if you think it's hard, you will manifest this, it will be hard for you..The Universe always says yes to your thoughts and feelings...If you think you're being selfish, yes you will create this environment for you to feel that way. If you feel you've been hurt, yep, the universe will back you up all the way!
      YOU hold ALL the power of the Universe to completely change everything, no matter what..NO MATTER WHAT!
      You're in a vicious cycle that you created, no one else created it! You can't blame anyone, no one! You chose to adopt it through your choices! ...Nothing of the past can ever affect you in the NOW, unless you allow it! And you allow it simply by fighting those thoughts or calling them wrong! Your thoughts are NOT right or wrong unless you deem them to be, so stop criticising or judging them and they will eventually stop criticising and judging you!......
      It's like a mirror, can you stop your reflection from doing exactly the same things that you do in front of the mirror?
      So...The very first step towards your healing, is to commit to a week of constantly being aware of only the present moment, NO past and NO future, only the present moment, keep a quite mind of NO thought but any thoughts that do arise you just accept and allow them to be as they are. Try NOT to get carried away by thoughts or lost in thoughts, but if you do and you notice this, then be kind and gentle and just remind yourself what you are doing and get back to the present moment awareness. Your ego won't like it and try to catch you out because that's what you've taught it! But persist...
      IF you want help, TH-cam search for Eckhart Tolle, there are perfect meditations from him for you to enjoy.
      Next stage, is to carry on with the above, but now include your heart. Connect to your heart centre, Aaron has a few videos on how to do this or Gregg Braden "How to Harmonize Heart and Brain".
      Aaron has quite a few videos to help you advance, but there is NO magic bullet, you MUST do the ground work yourself, no one else can do it for you!
      Best of luck

    • @katarzynabednarczyk7185
      @katarzynabednarczyk7185 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@RobbeyT1 how about being now knowing that I am alone? These are present thoughts and in the present I am suffering I feel emotional pain . I am total aware of this how to deal with it? Don't think about future there is no future but suffering is now in that moment ...Feeling like nobody wants to love me ,be with me ...How to deal with them acceptance only leads to more thoughts filled with pain..

    • @RobbeyT1
      @RobbeyT1 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@katarzynabednarczyk7185 I too suffered a great loss in my life. Nearly 18 months ago I lost the love of my life to cancer, she was my soul mate, my twin flame and my dearest companion
      Your mind had invested all of its happiness and all of its self worth in an external thing or person. Your mind with this other/outer self felt happy, joyful and maybe secure. Your mind built up happy memories of the past with this “other” which further empowered and strengthened the feeling of love, happiness.
      This is a dangerous thing to do, because the mind believes that everything lasts forever, it believes itself to be forever secure, that nothing bad can happen. However, the mind refuses to see that life itself is ever changing, ever evolving, that nothing escapes, nothing is sacred, nothing is permanent, everything must END so that something else can grow..
      Mind thinks itself so important that it feels and believes itself to be free and safe from all this change. Mind thinks that life never changes, that life should never change and any change is bad.
      So, No….
      You're NOT living in the present moment, your mind is lost in THOUGHTS of Loss, you have identified yourself as the mind which remembers and emotes the past, you're still focused ( IN THOUGHT) on the loss.
      So, you believe wrongly, that you ARE your thoughts, and your thoughts are at this time, of thinking/feeling of losing something….Thus by believing/thinking you ARE your thoughts, you feel loss.
      To be truly present and start to heal, you must go into the inner space of NO Thought.
      Your healing starts to take place when you are fully aware of you inner space, which is the True you, your real self.
      When you go into the silence of NO thought within the present moment, you become fully aware of the pure, blissful silence...This is the REAL and authentic you.
      Thoughts from ego mind will still try to interfere, it can’t live in the present moment and will try to convince you that what you are doing is bad, or wont work. It may say, this is rubbish, or it may try to take you away to another thought. It may say, “Come here, this is more important”, it is very cleaver and will try to get you to stop.
      This is where you must be fully present and just OBSERVE what the false ego mind is trying to do. ALLOW thoughts and feelings to be there, don’t fight them, just observe them and be totally none reactive.
      *Just allow what IS, say yes to what IS. What you accept you go beyond, what you don’t accept you keep!
      Ego says “No, no, no, no!”
      You must learn to say “Yes, yes, yes, yes!”
      Another thing… Ask!! You have Free-Will, nothing can happen unless you give it permission.
      In silence with no thought, go to your heart and say “Jesus take the wheel” know it is done! (Jesus/God/Source/Inner being or whatever, it doesn’t matter it’s all the same energy).
      Surrender totally, trust, and allow it to take charge. Ask for healing, know it is done!
      *It's actually impossible to be alone, you're never truly alone. Your physical senses works within like 1% of true reality, ego thinks in limited terms and can only see this life in a very limited ways. Anyone who has "passed" are always close by, they never went anywhere, they simply shed their physical bodies. Energy cannot be created nor destroyed, speak to them as though they are still there..because they are!! They don't want you to suffer, they have a new perspective and can help you, if you ask. They will send you signs ...you will meet up again. be happy*

  • @ruwansolangaarachchi5716
    @ruwansolangaarachchi5716 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Ok
    Self love. It is very good. Live in now. Be HAPPY always. Trust yourself always. Be honest with yourself. Do happy activities. First love you very much. Gratitude and Thankful.

  • @crowntheraven1372
    @crowntheraven1372 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I was once told by a High Priestess, “how can you give someone something you do no have?”
    Think about it, how can you give someone else love if you have no love for yourself?
    Stop the excuses that make what is simple difficult. Go with the simplicity, you’ll feel better and your life will then bloom like a rose 🌹
    M

  • @organize1979
    @organize1979 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I listen to Abraham Hicks, Eckhart Tolle, etc...just about anyone who resonates and can help me in the process of waking up to who I am. And I'm in one of the most uncomfortable places I've ever been in. I stumbled on your video somehow and when I heard you say "Wherever I was in my life when I made a certain decision, that was where I was at and that was the decision I needed to make in order to learn and come to where I'm at now" ...I really can't describe how much emotion came over me. I just wept and felt more understanding in that moment than I have in a very long time. Thank you so much for doing what you do and for giving me some light and clarity along this scary part of my path.

  • @akhilshriram9441
    @akhilshriram9441 7 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    yesterday i was in a flight i had a moment of epiphany . as i sat reading a bussiness book i thought. i am nothing.....
    i am just in a piece of flesh .there is no reason that i shouldnt have self esteem .the behavioral traits of this peace of flesh can be changed simply by acting in a different way. acting from a point of low self esteem is meaningless. i am nothing.....
    every identity can be changed . dont try to be, just be that guy. its not fake. it just is .your identity is is just your current perpective of life .i was and am more confident than when i got into the flight.

  • @vanessamclennan1
    @vanessamclennan1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love that you are talking about forgiving yourself. We are conditioned that we ‘should’ forgive others but not spoken about to ourselves. It’s often harder to forgive ourselves than others.

  • @listche123
    @listche123 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I CHOOSE to be amazing! This is gold! Thank you Aaron!

  • @イズミ-h9g
    @イズミ-h9g 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    "I am the person that I want to be". I never thought about it like that.
    I had always belived that I was not a good person at core. I thought that my negative emotion was the real reflection of who I really was. The low self-esteem that elicited jealousy, selfishness and self degradation had always made me feel like it truly was a part of my personality.
    Thank you so much for making me realise that this is not true, that my true self has not been found and that I am the person that I honestly want to be.

  • @mayankyadav9977
    @mayankyadav9977 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Love is my natural state of being.

  • @doflamingo2854
    @doflamingo2854 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    man I cried when you said I choose to be not worthy (i'm able to choose)

    • @audreyd1787
      @audreyd1787 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      THE knowledge tube same

  • @kristinemccowan6572
    @kristinemccowan6572 7 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    You made the perfect choice~ helping so many! Thank you! Much love

  • @gone4684
    @gone4684 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love your positivity. I only want to see and listen to your positivity. It actually makes me love me more. Thank you 💜

  • @radhikade876
    @radhikade876 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Love your authenticity and your efforts to make these videos for us! May you keep shining and inspiring everyone!🙏🏼💕💕

  • @LadyDiaVa
    @LadyDiaVa 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you, however, I remind myself by chanting; I am love, I am loved and I am loving.

  • @jacquelinemartinez514
    @jacquelinemartinez514 7 ปีที่แล้ว +60

    +AaronDoughty Awe I just want to give you a big hug for how far you’ve come ! 💙

    • @AaronDoughty44
      @AaronDoughty44  7 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      haha virtual hug right now! much love : )

    • @tianna1042
      @tianna1042 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Jacqueline Martinez from your profile pic you look like Emily Fields
      From pretty little liars

  • @nellsimpson9307
    @nellsimpson9307 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I cant believe that someone so young can be so wise ...I think you are amazing and thank you for your insights

  • @di-zb3wb
    @di-zb3wb 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    When you have relied on the love of others all of your life then have no one to love you you feel empty. Fill your own cup before pouring to others.

  • @DanielSquires
    @DanielSquires 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You are already 100% whole worthy and complete

  • @tomseljakin350
    @tomseljakin350 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank you very much for your wisdom ! I absolutely love your take and perception on self-love, which definitely helped me shift my consciousness already.

  • @ricardotorres1938
    @ricardotorres1938 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I started doing Louise hay mirror work in the mirror everyday say your name and say I love u i really really love you I love and approve of u everyday and ur entire life will change Aaron your awesome bro I always learn alot from u too thank u from the bottom of my heart

  • @fx4147
    @fx4147 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Great stuff man, thanks for sharing with us! As you help others, you also help yourself.

  • @littlemissy8356
    @littlemissy8356 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Your videos are very uplifting. The journey and desire is to get from where you are, to where you know you need to be. I've been at this for years, and the more concious I am minute to minute is the desire. You are a real cutie pie, and thanks for the wonderful support.

  • @HH-yg9sx
    @HH-yg9sx 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This resonates well with me because many of us usually ask ourselves who am i. Who you are is not a personality. It is a state. You are Holy. I hope you understand. I LOVE YOU.

  • @ahamoment773
    @ahamoment773 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks, wish everyone in here love themself more,
    I choose to become a loving, caring, relax, person, a good listerner, empathy to others feeling

  • @surakshabura1312
    @surakshabura1312 7 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    AMAZING!🙏 And thank you so for all the free goodies you keep offering😍

  • @BeOutstanding
    @BeOutstanding 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great
    Content
    Thank
    You
    Aaron
    Worthy
    Love self 100%
    Uncond
    Let go
    Renew
    Love yourself and be yourself
    Forgive yourself and others
    Don't set rules.
    Focus on pressnt do
    I choose

  • @lightartorias552
    @lightartorias552 6 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    Thanks man. I always feel like I have a lot of love to give, but no matter what I do I can't love myself. Even though I have accomplished everything I have set out to do, I have always felt inadequate and I have especially never wanted to love myself (well I do want to but it's like I can't). I'm going to download your meditation mp3 and listen to it and practice it. Hopefully I'll be able to love myself by the end of this. Thank you so much!

    • @yee5163
      @yee5163 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Light Artorias Go out and do things to make you love yourself. It won’t magically come to you. Wanting to love yourself is the first step. Then go out and do whatever it is that makes you happy (don’t give an f what people think),

    • @lightartorias552
      @lightartorias552 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@yee5163 Oh Yea! I've definitely been going that! That's solid advice.

    • @yee5163
      @yee5163 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Light Artorias thanks. I try

    • @VTun1ng
      @VTun1ng 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That 'love for yourself' is - like Aaron and many others said - deep inside you.
      Try try to THINK of it (when you are searching for it), don't try to use suggestions/affirmations, try to FEEL it.
      Try to feel it the same way you feel it when you love others. Don't force it. Give it a time.

  • @GerdionXT
    @GerdionXT 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love you the way you are because I love myself the way I am

  • @irinarose2757
    @irinarose2757 7 ปีที่แล้ว +45

    The art behind you is amazing. Who painted them?

    • @SimonB.
      @SimonB. 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      look like prints

  • @moonchildren8362
    @moonchildren8362 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I only used listen to Victor videos and you would bore me but now I listen to your videos more and you start to make alot sense to me and I feel so grateful ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @jecaluxe
    @jecaluxe 5 ปีที่แล้ว +72

    Hurt people, hurt people.

    • @jesperfrederiksen687
      @jesperfrederiksen687 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Most bad behavior from people "not all bad behaviors" But for the most it Is just a call for love. It's always easy to hurt people when you are feeling down your self. But it's only temporary the happiness you are getting from hurting another human being. Karma is a bitch then it bites you in the ass and then you are feeling alot worse after you got your karma. But there are also alot of psychopaths and narcissists that is gaining pleasure from hurting you. If you are surrounded by those type of people you need to remove them from your life as fast as possible and move on cause they are NEVER going to change. Try to behave like a rock dont react at all to their child bullshit behavior. Discard them. Move on. Love your self
      Report them to the police if they wont stop their shit.
      Get some evidence on their behavior.
      Boundaries is not something that a little baby child bitch ass wack motherfucking narcissist is going to respect.
      AGAIN. Report their ass and send them to jail.
      Peace out.

    • @jesperfrederiksen687
      @jesperfrederiksen687 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      If they are threating you punch their mouth. Most of them are weak as fuck. I have personally my self punched two front teeths out of a narcissist that stalked me and harrased me over social media and in real life for half a year and im an empath. But all people have their limits.

    • @jesperfrederiksen687
      @jesperfrederiksen687 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It's not something im proud of. But what should you do when the child does not respect your existence at all and is fucking with you mentally and emotionally? "The one i punched was a male" Right now their is a woman that i dont want in my life that possesses all of those traits and i dont want to surround my self with her cause she is draining me. She thinks i like her. She thinks she have a chance with me. I dont want her and she does not want to stop contacting me there fore i cant be around her. Quick ways to spot a female narcissist: VERY LOUD IN ROOM ALWAYS NEED ATTENTION. ALWAYS TRYING TO BRING YOU DOWN IF SHE'S NOT GETTING WHAT HER CHILD ASS WANT. The only thing you hear coming out of her child mouth is bla bla bla bla agugugugugagagagagagaga look at me look at me look at me ME ME ME ME ME ME ME !!!!!!

  • @shrutikachakravorty2937
    @shrutikachakravorty2937 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is a very powerful message for people have gone through abuse or are trying to understand someone who has. Thank you for simplifying it💜

  • @JohnGalt2028
    @JohnGalt2028 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Just listening to the first 2 minutes : already loads of info !!!!!! good !

  • @brigitalarsen7335
    @brigitalarsen7335 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    So eloquent, as usual. Thank you for making this video.

  • @euniceo5345
    @euniceo5345 7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Love your T-shirt! Great look and message. I easily forgive others but have trouble forgiving myself for very small things. Thanks, again. :)

  • @user-cu1sp3bn2x
    @user-cu1sp3bn2x 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Loving myself is letting go the negative thoughts. Forgive myself. and others. Healing myself by letting go the baggage I have. Focus on myself, and do thngs i love. Focus on family and friends.

  • @melissamuse9919
    @melissamuse9919 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This message really sunk in with me. I've heard this "self love" message a thousand times over the years but yours resonated with me deeply. I had a couple of "aha" moments. Thank you so much for this profound message. Much Love n blessings

  • @estelagraciamedrano9772
    @estelagraciamedrano9772 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    It feels so good to get rid of labels that other imposed you & you accepted as your real you, and yo get rid of your fears that most of them are social conditionated by media, polítics, religions, family, schools everywhere.
    Ive been doing it with your videos & Neville Goddard teachings.
    As Rev Ike stated: They are after your mind!!
    Recover your Mind, and make your Mind think what you really want to think,feel,live, experience. Stop believing in me & start believing in yourself.

  • @suprize6296
    @suprize6296 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I do feel so good watching this! Appreciate your help : )

  • @she-wolfshe-witch5237
    @she-wolfshe-witch5237 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I was crying the whole time. Thank you so much.

  • @tinamonic
    @tinamonic 7 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Thank you so much for this video! It resonates with me 1 million plus infinity percent, lol!!!

  • @RBNN69
    @RBNN69 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I swear I changed my entire life by 13 min video thanks to this guy

    • @gone4684
      @gone4684 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Rabaw Man same

  • @julianaoliveira7695
    @julianaoliveira7695 7 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Those are profoundly uplifting words!!! Thanks!!! All the best, Aaron 🙏

  • @rcah2264
    @rcah2264 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wow, I have struggled with self hate and had really difficult times in my life. I have been watching lots videos of self love recently and thia video has the most useful, powerful advice ever. Never thought of it that way. Thank you.

  • @sophiestephensonreade9046
    @sophiestephensonreade9046 5 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    “You can’t love other people if you don’t love yourself first” - Kim Namjoon

  • @ivandbrunson
    @ivandbrunson 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Your perspective about baggage is the weight that held me down, keeping me from loving ALL of who God made me to be..all of who I am. I could never measure up to unrealistic religious rules & exaggerated expectations that were established for me. All I need now is to love myself, love God & love others.

  • @whatwouldpicarddomakeitso2581
    @whatwouldpicarddomakeitso2581 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    WOW! im grateful to have found you.✨

  • @RandieMars
    @RandieMars ปีที่แล้ว

    You are the only motivational speaker that can get through to me when I'm at my lowest. Thank you:)

  • @AaronDoughty44
    @AaronDoughty44  7 ปีที่แล้ว +71

    Hey Everyone! I just created a Free Subconscious Mind meditation that I think you guys will find powerful and effective. You can get it here ➡ bit.ly/2zk4vP2 Much love!

    • @LoveElizaAboujafari
      @LoveElizaAboujafari 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thankyou aaron for everything! Im grateful that Im able to watch your videos, and be you are uploading everyday! Have a great and wonderful day :)

    • @Tjumpful
      @Tjumpful 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      thank you soo much for this much love

    • @beachbabe7789
      @beachbabe7789 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      Dude you are awesome. I watch and re-watch your videos. Peace, Love, Namaste!

    • @MalkitSingh-xp4rg
      @MalkitSingh-xp4rg 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Can you please give some advice on how to get rid of preoccupied/anxious attachment in a relationship?

    • @manipillai9388
      @manipillai9388 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      +Malkit Virdi I also need it

  • @BONNIEASTROLOGY
    @BONNIEASTROLOGY 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This came up in my suggested and I noticed it was uploaded on my birthday. Crazy synchronicity that I needed this