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8 Lies Depressed People Believe
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The irony of depression is that a truly "bad' person would never castigate themselves for being a bad person.
That’s true
No, it could give them a sense of pride or make them seem unique: a badge of “honor.”
@@Brxwn9 True, but then it wouldn't be self-beratement. It's one thing think you are the baddest mother in the valley, quite another to think you are a piece of worthless shit.
Thank you for that
Wow that’s a good point
1. 0:23 - "i don't measure up"
2. 1:25 - "no one cares about me"
3. 1:41 - "i'm better off alone"
4. 2:28 - "no one understands what i'm going through"
5. 3:12 - "it's all my fault"
6. 3:55 - "If I avoid unpleasant things I won't get depressed" ( thanks to user Learning With Harry for the clarifying suggestion )
7. 4:17 - "nothing matters"
8. 4:35 - "i'll never get better"
Thank you😊
Just skipped over/ forgot to say #6
@@praxym9293 go for it, get over the shame or other pre-programming keeping you from reaching for help. As soon you realize our mental problems are not something "about us"/ defining us, but something happening "to us", you might find it easier to tackle it. identifying your predispositions will give you a defense strategy too. Make it about curiosity about a personal puzzle to figure out, hopefully a team effort.
@@Dm3qXY thanks
Dang
In my experience, when I have a depressive episodes I am aware that I'll recover but that makes me even more depressed because I feel like I've been living a loop my whole life and no matter if I recover I'll fall again and feel terribly awful again, have psychotic thoughts, paranoia and/or make shitty decisions
Yes, it’s like even in the happiest moments, that feeling is still lurking, waiting to make a return.😔
same
Same here too
This time around, I realized that my psychiatrist and I always focus -- understandably -- on immediate symptoms and problems and medications and side effects, but never talk about larger or future aspects of major depressive illness. I plan to have a discussion with her about how to (try to) be aware much sooner that the illness is coming on again and to prepare both of us to engage in more aggressive coping and treatment strategies right away.
Idk if this is helpful but for me it helps to think of the look in a flipped way. Like whoa I’ll recover and do really well and feel really good soon this is just temporary. Like yeah it’s a cycle and I feel bad but I can also possibly feel very good and have happy moments too
It feels like being trapped in life
No one can see how much you are suffering and you don't have the energy to explain it. They would never understand...
(Psalm 46:1)
God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.
Even my psych doesn't. Just found out I'm on a "moderate" dose. God in Heaven, I'm in so much pain and despair and I've tried to tell her, but no. Not until I asked about supplementing with St. John's Wort (asking if there'd be conflicts) did she mention I was on a moderate dose of anti-depressents and suggested she might increase it. YES, PLEASE.
Have you sought out talking therapies in conjunction with the medication? Working on root contributions to the symptoms of the depression is a huge part of recovery and insight x
@@laurent2523 Agreed. Absolutely zero people overcome depression using only medication. Therapy and/or support groups are a must.
That's true,my family don't understand, they know I'm diagnosed for years, I take medication on prescription, they see that but my mother say "you can control you're mind , u actually trigger by yourself how you are feeling, if you would think positive, this thing , how you called: depression,will go away, just set up your brain to think positive and be thankful that you are alive" ! Really? Do I have a button , to set up my brain ? or a switcher and I'm not fuckin' aware of? I can't,and I 'm not the only one who doesn't know to express how you feel when you have depression to you're family! The ones who loves you and they don't understand and I don't have enough energy to explain to make myself understandable about that ! That's is why I see a therapist and I have medication! And also with medication you have moments when you are feeling like crap , it's just keeps me away to not self harming myself anymore,or trying to suicide myself like I did in the past ! But the depression and anxiety it is ! I can't control it,I didn't ask for it, I don't want this even to my worst enemies, it's like you"re traped in hell , trowed the key and locked ! I try to motivate myself sometimes, It's not that simple! This is not a CHOICE! Nobody chooses to feel like hell ! Only people with depression can understand! That's why more "credible lie" for me it's: I'm better of by myself alone , nobody from the family understand and I don't buder anymore to explain anything about how I feel anymore, in fact to nobody but my therapist and one good friend! Nobody else, I keep it to myself!
Whether you have depression or not.. everyone should watch this! It’s a very real illness.
Unfortunately, the people who *should* watch and learn from this type of video would almost never see it (let alone watch it). Trust me, most of those people would revert to: "They're just losers giving dozens of excuses. Anything to get out of actual responsibilities." 💪😎✌️ It is what it is. Just like a rich, megalomaniacal narcissist would think, nothing could possibly prevent people from becoming wealthy unless they were just lazy.
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Mrs Tracey Videos have helped me alot I’m now able to meditate and I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well
The Trips helped me alot
I was having this constant, unbearable anxiety due to work stress. Not until I came across *dr_carmen_adams* a very intelligent mycologist. He saved my life honestly Mrs Tracey Videos also encouraged me
@@OscarLouis-sv6fz Does *dr_carmen_adams* ship?
All you need is to find a mycologist who can teach you the proper techniques.
Tripping isn't all that bad,
The fact that depression is dismissed so easily is sad, and dismissed especially by abusive people. It can be as deadly as cancer.
But without end, what makes it twice horrifying
Suicide
@@Fluffymck which isnt suggested. dont bring that up man
@@Fluffymck ?
Exactly, it's depressing how many of us have to interact with narcissists on a daily basis.
I had heard the most dangerous time for a depressed person is as they start to recover. As the malaise begins to lift, if they had suicidal thoughts they now have the energy to act on them.
for me, it depends on how I get there. ketamine is an instant boost for me that makes the 3+decades of suicidal ideation feel like a completely foreign concept. sadly it only lasts for a couple weeks and then I'm back to thinking it's the best idea in the world for my crippled ass. as you can maybe tell, I haven't had any mental health boosts in a while.
@@jn1211 Try mushrooms if you have yet to.
In my experience that's exactly right. It's very difficult to push those thoughts to the side.
For me it's the realization that no matter how 'good' I feel now, I know the next ride into depression is just around the corner only adds to those feelings.
Thanks for your post
For me, I literally feel amazing on some days but when certain triggers appear, the feeling just comes back all too fast. Sometimes I'm not sure if it's just in my mind, or if something is actually happening.
I don't buy that. For me, as soon as my energy comes back, or my mood lifts, it's like there is new life in me, my spirit has returned. Why on earth would I still contemplate suicide, or even think to act on it, when I suddenly have a sense of hope? I would say, something else must happen or occur to have the energy to act on them. I don't know what that is, because I've never tried
I think one reason why we tend to isolate also is bc we see our depressed self as a burden to others. In one way, moving on alone made my decisions easier, that said it is tough to handle the worst of times by yourself. Yeah, I believe talking to somebody ought to be better.
Our depressed self IS a burden to others. That is why people, all of them, eventually turn their back. So don't feel bad for turning yours first, it was gonna happen anyway most likely.
I've been so depressed for so long, all this is just normalized lol. When I see videos like this it reminds me that constantly battling these things isn't something society expects.
(1 Peter 5:7 )
Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.
@@TRUTHBEINGTOLD-rk3ni too bad imagining throwing my mental illness into the clouds for someone to catch doesn't actually do much.
For me, i would listen to music and cry out loud when i get these episodes.. i normally get depressive thoughts in mid nights, although when i cry, the next morning when i wake up, i get sore eyes but i feel lot better everytime i cry. If you have anxiety issues, i think it would be best to adopt few rescue kittens, well my cat helped me a lot during my emotional breakdowns, its like these animals can detect negative energies and they get affectionate when i am sad.
@@TRUTHBEINGTOLD-rk3ni he gonna be payin my bills? passing my exams? no? well then hes useless.
@@ekinie3854i dont think thats the point of religion or god
When I was in my last depressive episode, I was convinced that I was a horrible wife and mother, and that my family would be better off without me. Those thoughts are usually when I know I need to ask for help, and thankfully I’m doing much better now. ❤️
Me too … I’m scared to go back there again. I went as far as making plans …
It must be nice to have a support structure. For 30+ years, I've been on my own. Absolutely anyone and everyone who entered my social circle was a VAMPIRE. No, not a literal one (for the overly anal folks out there), but a psychological, financial, narcissistic, megalomaniacal one.
Now that I'm an award-winning author, illustrator, and content creator, I am hoping to be left alone until I stop working in 2027 or so. Mankind has NOT been kind, and my work here is *almost* done! 🙂 But not yet. Not quite.
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Y’all aren’t alone im a single mother of two and I often go there believing they would be better off without me…I’ll even visualize it and it breaks my heart..im in therapy and will be speaking with a psychiatrist soon
You are the glue holding your loved ones together ❤
Thank you for talking about getting help,too many people 💭 they can just silently "tough it out" & are really struggling badly.
This is the main way I can catch my depression before it gets worse. It takes a while to get to know your depression voice, but once you do it can save your life. Even if it feels like you’re lying to yourself, fight to be nice to yourself, it’s so worth it
I have set the Lord always before me. Because he is at my right hand, I will not be shaken.
( Psalm 16:8 )
“The depression won’t go away but you can manage it” words that have plagued me everyday for years.
Its like saying you can manege cancer, you can´t you need help.
Yeah I wouldn't find that helpful at all... First thing outta my mouth would have been, "PROVE IT! 'Manage' meaning what, exactly? Does my quality of life factor into your equation here, or not so much? Cuz we aren't talking Diabetes type 2, which btw isn't as straightforward as "you can manage it" - ain't no doctor signing a written, legally binding, and notarized statement to that effect (with consequences spelled out, should that statement prove untenable as it almost surely will) so they've got *zero* business making statements to that effect to anyone! Yes maybe there's objective data that show very promising outcomes using x, y, z interventions and processes... But these offhand statements so many of us hear, those statements are outrageous, reckless and make us feel worse --- especially when we have tried many of them and we have found that they don't work for us... Imho rash statements like that are just made to make someone feel better: the person making that claim.
(James 1:12 )
Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him.
Depression can definitely be cured, but it's a lot of work.
@@TRUTHBEINGTOLD-rk3ni This verse is about persecution of religious minorities. That's hardly applicable in this circumstance. Glorifying suffering made Christianity toxic
What really crushes me is when people say "everybody has their problems these days" or "look at all the people who have it way worse than you do." Makes you really not want to talk to anyone
As someone who's been diagnosed with MDD (Major Depressive Disorder) recently, I cannot stress enough how important it is to seek professional help.
As someone who has struggled with depression my whole life, I can't stress enough how utterly useless professional help has been. For me the only professionals that have ever helped shake depression have been strippers and whores. Doctors and psychologists have been utterly useless and I've had many.
Thank you for saying that👍🏻...There are far too many folks out here that are really struggling badly & they're not getting the care they need.
Well, it is important to seek professional help, but it is really really hard to find a doctor that can help you specifically. It can take you years or decades to search.
It's important, but not everyone here in US has access to help they want and need.
@@StephieGsrEvolutionhell I’m a mental health counseling student and couldn’t find access to help. I don’t think American puts emphasis on mental health nearly as much as they do profit.
Another recovery..!? I got no family or friends. The only "supports" i have, is the Psychologist & someone who gets paid to be my support worker..!! Not many hours, and all i end up doing is staying home in bed, unless i really have to go to get some shopping or go to my Drs appointment. It doesn't help when my issues include rejection and trust & abandonment issues..!! I literally have no one else i can turn to, to talk to anyone.
You’ve described my life from 8 yrs old to present at almost 40, in less than 10 minutes, wow 😮😢 especially the isolation part because no one cares or will help anyway, smh. Thank you for this breakdown Dr. Marks
I think the best options is to live for yourself and not listen to others, you CAN get better it's hard but everyone can, expecting help from others is not the best option i think
Your Not Alone
@@Kirb171 I agree, like Rodney Dangerfield said in the movie back to school. Don't buy used books because the guy that under lined them could be a real moron. Another good piece of advice I heard on the old MacGyver show. His grandfather said to him follow what's in your heart like in the Triumph song. Not what's in your head because what's in your head can confuse you. Roll on like a steamroller and don't let any of these idiots get in your way or stop you life is hard Rock on
She described my life too, its nice to know what you have so you can act on it but man how on earth im just realizing it blows my mind
@@Kirb171 There is no real help from others, not long term. People give up on you. This is why it's important for people to understand that they must help themselves, so yes, I agree.
It's odd for me because the depression is so complete I've sort of passed into, "too apathetic to care about offing myself" but at the same time, too apathetic to not enjoy things in a sort of Nhilistic, "I could die at any point anyway, not worth not enjoying the moment" kind of mindset that frequently makes me immune to a lot of negative self talk. Also, after trying to off myself enough times and failing repeatedly, I've given up on that, and decided to see what earth and the universe has to offer.
Not that I speak from want, for I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances I am. I know how to get along with humble means, and I also know how to live in prosperity; in any and every circumstance I have learned the secret of being filled and going hungry, both of having abundance and suffering need. I can do all things through Him who strengthens me.
(Philippians 4:11-13)
Drugs are dope 😮 not the hard ones. They add to life.
This world can't offer you anything. Live for God not the world. We are all in a spiritual battle an the only way to win is threw Jesus.
Depression will never make any sense until it happens to you. It’s complete hell and unable to get out of bed.
I think it's more courageous to NOT commit suicide. To allow yourself to feel the pain and keep moving forward despite the fact that you want to end it all, that takes a lot of courage when you have no hope. As someone who has been there recently, choosing to stay has been hard because I don't want to feel like this for the rest of my life. I don't think committing suicide is cowardly. When you're in that headspace, it's hard to think clearly. But I think when people who are on the brink think to themselves "I'm such a coward because I'm too afraid to do it myself." No, that's not true. You are strong! Anyone who can survive those moments is strong.
That's what I think, too.
Of course, I leave an epistle and THEN scroll down to see someone has said it more succinctly four days prior. :)
Let’s be honest here.
It is “more courageous” to commit suicide.
To do such thing, despite its pain on your body, it’s effects, and the unknowing of what will happen next, is nothing less than bold. It’s courage.
Not encouraging it, just stating out the fact.
@@Brxwn9 I guess that's why they call suicide 'taking the easy way out.' Because it is. Nothing courageous about it.
As someone who’s been at the brink for decades, I know that either decision takes significant courage. It is certainly not cowardly to seek an end to relentless torturous misery, regardless of how extreme such an action may seem to others.
Psilocybin saved my life. I was addicted to heroin for 15 years and after Psilocybin treatment I will be 3 years clean in September. I have zero cravings.
This is something that truly needs to be more broadly used in addiction treatment.
Please does anyone know where I can get them? I put so much on my plate and it really affects my stress and anxiety levels, I would love to try shrooms
Yes, bergwilly11
Psychedelics saved me from vears of uncontrollable depression, anxiety and illicit pill addiction. imagine carving heavy chains for over a decade and then all of a sudden that burden is gone. Believe it or not in a couple years they'll be all over for treatment of mental health related issues.
depression and anxiety is like the worst disease you can get
Is he on insta?
Finding coping skills that work for me is the reason after 30 yrs of Major Depression I'm still here.. 💪
But the Lord is faithful, and he will strengthen and protect you from the evil one.
(2 Thessalonians 3:3 )
Hi, any ideas of figuring out coping skills?
I had my hart broken at 19 years old first time feeling depressed never quit whet away almost 62 still standing, stay strong family, you can make it.
As someone with a mild/medium depression, I've ve heard this a 100 hundred times before. And I will probably need to hear it another 100. Happiness takes practice but it gets better and easier each time. Thank you for keeping this message going 🙏
This channel and these videos are so helpful. Everyone needs to be educated about mental health and treatment, not just those suffering from a disorder. Thank you for these.
I'll never forget the time I helped my mom out of her depression when I got the help I needed to get out of mine. She brings it up sometimes. I said, "You don't HAVE to be depressed." I shook her out of it. One of the lies depression told me is that I had no other choice than to be depressed and give in to it. Take back your power over it, take back your life. ❤
(Proverbs 3:5-6)
Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight
Oh yeah, stupid us! We should have just told ourselves to be happy, that would have cured everything. Didn’t think of that… 🙄
I appreciate the sentiment but unfortunately I don't think it's as simple as making a conscious choice to 'get out' of depression, particularly if it is an illness that you have had for a long time.
You can take steps to mitigate the effects of depression ie: exercise, therapy and sharing your feelings with others, learning how to challenge the depressive 'voice', but these skills don't make depression truely go away. It's a continuous battle and a hard one, and as the video says each episode can feel unique and almost hopeless to the point where you truely don't feel you have control over it in spite of what you've learned and achieved. It can make your progress and learning seem redundant and pointless in the bleakest of times.
I don't think you have a choice to 'be' depressed, but you do have a choice in whether or not you let it beat you. Regardless, I'm really happy you got help and were able to help your mother through it. It must have been a very empowering experience.
But what happens when you’ve been depressed since you could remember, and never had a life to begin with?
Thank you for this video so much. Having adhd as an adult and parents who constantly tell me "if you just work your butt off like we do, you'll feel better." make my depression worse. I don't want my life to just be about overworking for a high income and working so much harder to make up for the deficits that I've always had. It makes my hopelessness worse like when you get into your 30s, your life is all about a job mostly and all the other stuff like keeping in touch with people who don't shame your adhd at all and hobbies just fall to the back burner and eventually forgotten about entirely because you don't have the energy or think they're just as important or even more important than a job for your mental health and wellbeing.
I like your name 🌼. I'm an elder with similar issues and I want to say that I think you are on the right track. Don't give up! I converted to Catholic 3 years ago, and most people won't hear it, but I encourage you to pursue your spiritual life. I resonate with the Catholic mystics, such as Maria Valtorta and Luisa Piccarreta, which are free online. 🙏💝☕🐦🎶
There is a movie from 1981 called "My Dinner with Andre" that may interest you. 💕🌿
Hi. I understand what you might be going trough. I have been trough similar stuff most of my life. No matter what you do, as long as you dont behave the way they think you should...you cant seem to reach to them. Yes, you shouldnt follow what everyone else is doing. And if your fammily is that much toxic and you can get away from them, do it. If you can, just limit your contact at least for a while. I could tell so much about how my situation is similar to yours. But what is important is that you do find peace. Unfortunately hard times are coming and people should unite more than ever. But if you can, get away from them fir a bit. You dont need to prove anything to anybody. People have firgotten that it doesnt matter what we have, what matters is how we behave, how pure our hearts, minds, actions and intentions are. That is our priority în life ir should be. So, do what you love and what sets you free because time is not guaranteed.
You're not alone. I have pretty bad ADHD-I (inattentive) and people (even my wife) don't understand that I have to use an enormous amount of mental effort even for menial tasks. The depression is what makes me constantly doubt my abilities, which leads to anxiety because I worry about others thinking I'm stupid and inept. Socialising is also a painful experience because you have to put wayyyy more effort into listening and exchanging words with others - I've lost count the amount of funny looks I have been given because of my deficits.
I can relate so much to this as someone with adhd and asd. But life doesn’t have to be all about working and making a lot of money. Yes, we have to make money to survive, but there’s ways to make money while still having the freedom to do what brings you joy. We don’t have to live the conventional life that we see other people live. I’m not there yet myself, but I do have hope. We only get one life to live so why not take a chance and go for exactly what we want?
I’ve seen therapists throughout life because I’ve routinely experienced all of these things. All i can say is that the therapists I’ve seen have been so terrible that they actually increased my suicidality when i was seeing them! I swear, the schools that produce these people need to do better
yea why the fuck would I give my money to a therapist when I've known several therapists who have themselves been depressed af
@@juhis5936 isn't a therapist who's been depressed more likely to empathise with you?
@@MusiicRoolz no I'm pretty sure a therapist with mental issues is only a therapist because of some power trip thing
@@MusiicRoolz definitely lol.
@@juhis5936 ?? on what grounds are you making these assumptions lol it's true that that _could_ be the case, but it's most likely not going to be. especially not if it's private therapy
I've been thru a depressive episode that lasted a year and did not respond well to antidepressants (possibly we didn't hit the right one). Last September, I woke up one morning and the episode was over. I simply woke up in a good mood and full of energy and that was it - the depressive episode was over as if someone flipped a switch. This state of good mood and abundance of energy lasted for about a month and then started to decline. Two months later, I was back to my usual state of low energy, low motivation and general hopelessness. I regret to confirm that I check all eight points mentioned in this video. I don't see them as lies I tell myself, I see them as reality. And yet, I'm not back into a depressive episode. I have difficulty explaining this to people. They say, okay, you were in a depressive episode but it's over, now you are fine. I have no way to explain to them that I am not fine, even though I am not in a state of vegetable to which a depressive episode turns you. I'm not capable of working for money as I have no energy, no concentration, no patience and my memory is pretty bad. I also have some physical issues as I am not young, so it makes the whole situation worse, as my body betrays me. This inability to earn a living causes awful anxiety. It makes me feel inadequate and I don't want to see anyone. Not many people want to see me either, which reinforces the feeling of feeling inadequate. And so on. So no, I wouldn't call what this video talks about "lies". I would call them "issues" that may or may not be "true" for everyone in the sense of objective outside reality but some or all of them can certainly be true for some people. Everyone's depression is different and even one's own depression is different at different points in time. There are no set rules. Sometimes we feel better, sometimes we feel worse, and we have no control over that. This absence of control makes it appear that "whatever I do is pointless because the depression is beyond my control anyway". This may not be a good attitude to adopt, but it certainly is very difficult to avoid to adopt it.
I’m getting tested for neurodivergence(sp) but not until June…I understand trying so hard and for what…
Ask your provider to check your labs . Other conditions such as low vitamin D or thyroid levels and check your adrenal glands for any abnormalities as there are some medical conditions that present as depression as well. Hope all is well❤
@@ce.379 I can totally relate to what you Said. Just because we can kinda function ir doesnt mean were ok . Work to me is a challenge too but I have certain responsabilities that make me try as much as i can. the cycles of Ups and Downs are the worse. When Im 🆗 i know that some months later i Will be crap again. Its draining to the Core 😢
@@dianaa.6268 . I can only imagine. Sending strength to you and to anyone suffering from any mental illness. ❤️❤️
Switching from depression to a great mood overnight can indicate manic depression. Bipolar depression may not respond well to conventional antidepressants. There are other classes of medications that can be more helpful. I’ve been through this myself and found that getting the correct diagnosis was key to getting effective treatment.
I caught myself slipping back into a downward spiral of my inner thoughts. I've been doing better lately but the fact that I'm still struggling made me very self critical. I needed the reminder to have compassion towards myself.
I experienced every single lie mentioned here during my depression episode. These lies are so dangerous. Thank you for articulate what i was feeling
Knowing that these beliefs aren't true helps but doesn't fix the depression.
Depression is hard. Eventually it goes away but it can last so long it seems unbearable.
The worst thing about depression is that people dont realize early yhat they are suffering from depression. Plus they believe nothing can get better in any way
My brother hung himself in 1982. Our whole family ( 5 including mom no father ) were depressed. I am now 67 and diagnosed with Cptsd... at age 5. I was raped. Also have multiple birth defects, had a stroke 2 yrs ago Been depressed/Taking sertraline off & on for years. MENTAL Health is Paramount to living the best you can. Unfortunately my (3)family members are still dealing with it, But TODAY AGAIN I RISE PEACE AND LOVE TO EVERYONE YOU ARE NOT ALONE Remember to treat ppl kind You Never know what someone is going through.
Thank you Dr. Marks. I switched jobs recently and had to change ins and my psychiatrist of many years is no longer covered and neither is my therapist. Right now I don’t have either and it’s hard. Your videos help me keep going and keeping fighting this depression struggle without judging myself. Thank you so much! 😢❤
Keep up the good fight. You are worth it. Things will get better.❤
The righteous may fall seven times but still get up, but the wicked will stumble into trouble.
(Proverbs 24:16)
If you have a job - you are not depressed.
When you say 'you might feel like it's futile to seek help because no one will get it enough to be able to help you' you have to remember that is just one option. After twenty years of trying I have FOUND that it's futile trying to get help because nobody understands my situation.It's not from lack of trying. I kept on trying past the point of rationality out of desperation. I have found that people don't really get me. Therapists often talk in platitudes, lack versatility and assume ways of thinking. Many of them are just plain shit at their jobs and that takes it's toll. I might be a poor communicator too. I think that I am. It's possible a therapist won't understand what is going on. People vary so much. Situations vary so much.
Depressed since three years. Bearly no social contacts(you know why). The few I've still got are only telling me to do better. They've got family and friends and they don't want to hear about my situation. I am the problem is what they are telling me. It's frustrating. :/
Mostly I struggle with number 8. Sometimes I get so depressed and full of panic attacks that I feel there's no way out... there's no way to just snap out of it, no matter what I do, the feeling doesn't go away, until some things fall into place and I just stop being stuck in that mode for no particular reason. But it's usually outside circumstances that suddenly change the "mood" or the "color" in my life.. but I can't say I have found the way to actively get myself out of the situation.
We're not sick or depressed. It's society that's sick. Our brains are reacting normally.
One thing I experience is a feeling of "only I can help myself". Yes, others can give me guidance and support, but it is ultimately up to me to act with the tools provided. And when I'm at my lowest, I do feel that guilt or thinking "I could be doing more to help myself." which makes me feel worse. Such a horrible spiral to get caught in
I can relate with you there, I’ve been trying to get better these past few months, but when I’m alone, not keeping myself busy I feel guilty.
I hate when people say that being depressed or sad means that you’re ungrateful.
Gosh I needed to hear this today.
Poverty is a huge catalyst for depression as is isolation. No healthcare sucks
I'm on my first Ketamine vacation from depression and the difference is amazing. It really makes me understand that it's not my fault. No matter how much hard work to recover I've done the last 3 decades, I couldn't get to this depression free/clarity stage myself.
I really hope the psychiatric psychedelic renaissance comes faster for us. Too many people are suffering/unproductive.
Does it make you think more clearly and rationally as well? I've heard good things; Dr Gabor Mate is a big endorser of psychedelics for mental disorders and has often mentioned ketamine. Glad it's working for you!
I've heard of ketamine treatments, I've undergone 300mg of psilocybin on different schedules but it just barely helps. I'm sticking with it and cannabis since both help a lot, but ketamine might be useful for depressive periods which the cannabis and mushrooms don't help with. I've also begun to see high-functioning depression mentioned and it really helps to see more awareness and info, helps others and myself tremendously.
@@Baz87100 sorry, just got this in my notifications.
Yes! The biggest thing about it is overall clarity! I'm on day 27 and I'm still more present, able to focus, have a more panoramic view instead of a hazy grey outer edge vision, and colors are still vibrant.
I still haven't been tormented all day with CPTSD flashbacks either. I had a fortunate breakthrough for sure!
I highly recommend setting good intentions, listening to guided meditation or calm music, and having someone you trust hold your hand if it gets tense, because I purged a lot and many people do. I have phenomenal emotional regulation still on my fourth week, so it was worth it.
Taking liposomal glutathione with my regular supplements also has helped I think. 💛
Gabor Maté knows what he's talking about on many things.
@@Defirence I have no experience with shrooms, but I have friends who like them and say it helps.
@@DefirenceHi, I have been treated with Ketamine, 5 sesions for intravenously. The first 3 sessions I felt an improvement in my depressive and anxious symptoms, but the effect on me lasted 3 or 4 days. After that, it didn't work for me. In fact, I feel worse, maybe because I had high hopes of getting better with this. but in my case the treatment was not sterile. Ketamine seems to work very well for a high percentage, but it seems that I am one of the remaining percentage that does not work for them. I hope that's not your case.
"Depression is the belief in your own helplessness". I can't remember where I heard this, but I strongly believe that it's at the base of all depression.
I LOVE the new badge that denotes Dr. Tracy as a MEDICAL DOCTOR. ❤ What a great thing for me when I quote her and send people to her page. 🌹
This video arrived at the perfect time. I woke up. Felt awful. Opened YT. This video was waiting for me. I'm watching it several times and dedicating myself to not feeling any of this today. I'm grateful for this help and for the resilience I demand of myself and that I grace myself with. ❤
He gives power to the weak and strength to the powerless.
(Isaiah 40:29)
Okay, wow. This is describing thought processes that have been so recurring for me for so long, they just seem normal.
Thank you! I didn't think any professional realized how much energy goes into planning your own suicide and the effort it takes. And then the thought of actually carrying through with it seems exhausting! I have been to that point, and it's horrible. Thank you for acknowledging that fact and not making people feel like they are crazy for feeling that way! The lack of energy to go through the entire planning process has probably saved more lives than people think.
I'd like to add to this that you can have a permanent depressed personality. I'm in therapy, I take my medication, I go for walks and all that jazz, however I've been fighting depression going on now for about 20 years. Yes, I will likely never be "happy" or not depressed, but I can manage my symptoms by doing all the things that make me feel better and yes my therapists agree with me that I will never fully get "better". Keep fighting the good fight!
I’m sixty-one and my husband hasn’t desired me physically for 15 years. He’s perfectly happy writing his blog and drinking beer, as though I don’t exist. You tell me how on earth I am supposed to feel anything but worthless. Nobody needs me. The world is no better for having me in it. Life is just one rejection after the next and I’m sick of the pain.
I’m so sorry to read your post you are still a young women please try to talk to someone about how you feel don’t let one person make you feel like this there are opportunities out there to do things maybe adopt a cat or dog that’s what I have they bring me so much joy since my children have started to leave home I felt same way and still do sometimes have my off days but seeing my pets depend on me changes my mind set and helps me..I wish you peace
Volunteering is one the things that saved me
I stay as busy as possible. Physical activities and volunteer work. Anything to keep my mind busy and distracted.
Maybe lose some weight
I had to write those down, because when these thoughts lour in they feel like my true self. It’s like being sucked into the void and feeling the void inside of you and believing that that’s how it’s forever going to be.
I suspected it was depression, but since I’ve recently discovered I have a form of high functioning depression, it has taken me a long time to really see that I was hurting too.
Thank you for this video and thank you for the awareness you and other youtubers are spreading, truly.
Be strong and bold; have no fear or dread of them, because it is the Lord your God who goes before you. He will be with you; he will not fail you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed.
(Deuteronomy 31:6,8)
I really need help. This stuff helps, but when I think "nobody cares about me" is absolutely true to me. I have no friends, no family that calls or visits to see how I'm doing.. I am currently working at what I thought was my dream job, but I'm afraid soon I will lose it. The social anxiety and depression is just way too much for me. I stair at my computer screen and its all a big haze or fog anymore. I've suffered like this my entire life, but I do feel it is getting worse. I have tried therapy, medication, etc. Nothing seems to help much. I also quit my therapy because it was 115$ a session even with my insurance..
I have ever single one of these thoughts. I’ve been on meds for 24 years. After covid, the meds that was working for me, began causing terrible side effects. My psychiatrist and I have been trying different meds for a year and a half now. I told my family we’d be trying new meds, and to hold on…that I am trying. That wasn’t enough for them. They ever so “kindly” pointed out that I suck ass,I needed to get help “or else”. I did 6 weeks of intensive outpatient therapy. I was starting to feel better, then my 6 weeks was up. My family expected me to be “better”. I now talk as little as possible. I stay in my room most of the time, that way they can be free from me. I try to pretend smile, but even that is getting hard. I haven’t found a new medicine that was working as well as the stuff I was on before covid. I hate who I am, and what I’ve become. I’m also in therapy. I always feel so stupid complaining about things, when I know other people have it worse than I do, and yet they still manage. My husband has never, ever been much of a talker. So, it’s really hard to have a conversation, when only I am talking. Better luck and wellness to everyone.
One day my Late Uncle, RIP Randy, came up and place his hand on my shoulder and said these simple words THeRe is Nothing Wrong with YOU! Hat lifted a lot off of my shoulders, mind, and I felt like if they can so can I!!!!
IME "depression lies" is far and away the most helpful thing to hear. This has been the foundation of every remission I've experienced. Thank you for this awesome video Dr. Marks.
My daughter once said to me that not to come around when I was in a depressed mood. I, apparently, brought her down too.
Most ppl are like that. I have experienced similar but they didnt tell me, they just didnt want to hang out or talk to me.
I used to believe all that. It didn’t help being raised by a narcissist. They loved keeping all those lies alive. On occasional bad days mostly I just struggle with “why bother” thinking. But that usually starts with not measuring up and self blame. Breaking it had as much to do with their lies as the lies in my own head. And being allowed to call them liars and hold them accountable (at least in my own mind) went a long way. Boy did they love to make everything my fault and loved telling me I never seemed to measure up. Case in point tho. Those voices come from somewhere ya know. We aren’t usually born saying Mea culpa all on our own. We get groomed that way by some very sick people that we don’t realize are total sickos and who have a problem with sabotaging their own offspring. I had to put the crazy back where it belongs. Then eventually I was much better off.
These days I enjoy solitude mainly Bcuz I need enough quiet and blocking out all the noise of other peoples’ drama and varying opinions. In a toxic fam you really can feel that way tho (like it’s you and not them when it is really them and not you) Bcuz you are literally surrounded by A-holes, users and ignoramuses and most of them forever still drink the poisoned kool-aid. I do resent being set up like that tho and just knowing this helps me remember how all that sh*t was never my fault. Basically I was depressed Bcuz I was constantly taking the rap for their crimes and that just had to stop. Maybe not in all cases but I would bet money that most cases, something is screwy in Denmark and learning about who the culprits really are can be life changing. ESP as a child. You can’t always remember who put that in your head or who fostered that way of thinking or how it all started. And it’s hard to remove idol parents off of their pedestal as well at times. You have to dig deep and connect all the dots and you have to let some people you thought were good finally fall from Grace.
Yes I was depressed by my mother and completely sabotaged from two onwards, know no other way to be now I am seventy-five, and looking back it was hard on a small child but I see my mother, in turn, was messed up by her experiences as a child and so on it goes on, I think parents should be made aware that words and actions to their offspring carry many wounds that are hard to heal and some times impossible to get over,So that saying words can never hurt you is a load of rubbish
@@christinedavis5813 So true. It only took me about 50 years myself to even just start to comprehend that. There will always be a tinge of sadness about the grief (which comes and goes) but for me it at least isn’t a mysterious looming constant dark curse cloud anymore. It was for a long time tho and I think it was worse to not really know why. I would go so far to say that I wish some of these folks were never allowed near any kids. Let alone have any of their own. I think I’ll forever still be learning how to “adult” properly tho. It’s like trying to run a race when you are lame. And being lame (Aka walk with a limp or similar) today Bcuz of past trauma yesterday. Nothing we can do about that bus they threw us under decades ago except learn how to exist and function better WITH the injuries. But the thing that gets my goat the most is that they will never repent for any of it. There Imo is a huge diff between parents who royally eff up and repent and own it and those who never will. Who forever deny what damage they did. Forever they want their kids to carry their bs load of toxic crap so they never have to. To me that is just not acceptable. It’s sick, proud and stubborn and arrogant. They so often want to have it smoothed all over and for everyone to pretend it never happened. The problem with that tho is that it can’t be undone and it has to go somewhere. It won’t just evaporate into thin air. So imo better it goes where it belongs and not on innocent parties anymore. All I have to say to them is yah. You still did what you did tho and I was still hurt by it. And Bcuz we don’t go around being malicious and envious and sadistic Bcuz we were hurt. So why do they? I don’t believe in excusing them for it just Bcuz they were hurt. They kept choosing to be hurtful and to take it out on others rather than working to deal with their own trauma. And ten times over when they refuse to ever deal with it. I could perhaps pity them more for whatever they went through if they didn’t use my care and concern like crack cocaine and then make all their enormous pain, shame and insecurity always be at my expense.
@@goodenoughgirl8102 So Agree with all your Comment thank you for replying to mine
@@christinedavis5813 Aw. Thank you also for bearing with my rather long comments. 😅😅
Oh narc family members LOVE to @#$& with people that are struggling with really bad untreated Depression... I've had to 👀 the 🚹 I love endure this 💩 from 2 garbage narc parents🤢.Disordered or not...I throw narcs & their enablers in the darn dumpster 🔥 exactly where they belong🙄.
So well explained.Thank you.Hopefully people who do not suffer from depression will actually watch videos like this and understand something about what a depressed person is going through and try to be patient and give love and support to them❤
Thank you so much for outlining all the false beliefs that make coping with depression so hard ❤ I really feel seen and that I understand more about myself 🙏
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I have suffered with most of these symptoms for the last fifteen years.
I have a successful business, a happy family, my own home.
Nothing to feel bad about.
I do take SSRI's. However, the thing that has totally changed my life in the lat year has been taken a minimum of one g of mushrooms a week.
Stay positive it will always come good again, but always seek help.
The world can be a lonely place on your own.❤
Hello, and thank you. I know all of these symptoms and they are normal for me. I just got gently shown that i do have a Depression by a job coach who does have experience in psychoanalytic work. But i have felt and thought that way my whole live. That's why I didn't notice anything. My source of energy have always been nature. The blooming flowers don't give a f... about if i feel unworthy or whatever my thinking is making up. With humans and animals i fear to put em down so i isolate. It's so helping to have you summ up these symptoms so clearly. Especially because of these mental filters and parts that spiral down and other parts that spiral up. 🌞🌻🌷that's so disorienting. But I'm lucky to have parts that get me to see the beauty.
Thanks for this video.
It's good to know what's going on.
Hi. Animals are so simpatethic, especially our usual friends: cats and dogs. A few of my cats would come to me when they felt I needed it. Many years ago, we hâd a male cât that came to us when he was small. He was feral and wouldnt let us touch him. He would come for food and sleep but as I said he wouldnt let us touch him. One day, I was în a distant corner of our property, on one of my crying spells. He came to me and started rubbing against me and trying to cheer me up. He let me caress him and he of course lifted my spirit. After that he would only let me touch him. So, if you can, rescue a cat or dog and dont feel too bad about being miserable. They feel like that too sometimes and we can be there for them too. Another thing, plants know more than we think, trust me. Try this experiment: if you have plants în your house...talk to them lovingly, caress them, salute them, make sure they feel the best they can. You will see how much they change. Someone told me that and one day I started talking to the plants that were în the house were I worked and lived. They were put în water, they wouldnt let me add soil to them. So, I would dust them off, change the water when I felt I should, and I would talk to them..calling them beauties and cuties. Though they were în a part of the house where there wasnt heat, they started growing more leaves and they're colour was more vibrant. Yeah you could say it was only the chamge of water or whatever, but I know it was my attention and love to them that made them change. They feel our energy and words are mighty powerful. We can get help from anything around us and we can always return the favor...and thats how it is supposed to be. We just have forgotten that.
@@miyaiun4723 reading yours and OP's comment put a lot of what I've been feeling today and recently into a good perspective of what to do instead of getting stuck in my room and letting myself suffer. Thank you.
@@Defirence Hi. Yes, getting stuck is the trickiest thing. Make sure your mood is not affected by health problems and if it is, treat those problems. If its mental abuse trauma, face it, and leave it . Anything that it might be, know you really are stronger than " it". Unfortunately, the whole planet is gonna get hit with even more hard stuff, but if you can, help others în any way you can. Knowing you have helped any being, will bring good mood to you. No matter what comes, smile as often as you can and enjoy whatever is still good în this world. May you be acompanied by loving beings all your life.
@@miyaiun4723 Hi, thank you for the reminder with the plants. I feel very connected and collected in the forest. Trees are kind of my best friends. I care for tomatoes and in my bedroom lives my best friend a palm. I feel when she needs water or something is bothering her. She is truly my besti ♥️
I would love to ... give home to a dog. But my live isn't a fit for a dog. It would not be possible to care for a dog. Financially. And with all i have going on with being a single mom.
@@a.k.3110 Hi. I am wishing all the best to you and your little miracle. True, the forest is amazing. I have always loooooved trees and going to them has helped me so much with being able to keep staying alive. At one time, when I was pondering having a tatoo...my subiect was a big tree, which would have its roots apear to entangle în my body. I love them so much and forests and parks and nature has always been my favorite places to be. I wished I could live în the middle of some forest. I try listening to them and in two occasions I got two messages ftom them. At least thats how it seemed to me. Unfortunately they, along with everything on the planet is succombing to death. I am so sorry that we cannot turn it around. People dont realize that all that means we are going down too. Its such a shame and so sad we have lost our way. But, we have to keep trying to live our lives the best way we can. I am glad you have that connection with trees because they are our brothers and everything else is related to us. And they have done so much for us. As some native nation said, people needed alot of things to live and animals and everything around them helped them/us...because they saw how fragile we are. But we were supposed to give back to them too. Once again I am glad you have that connection because it is a strong one, one that you can count on always. May you and everyone else be as happy and safe as possible în this world.
This is one of your best videos to date. I can relate to a lot of that as I reflect back on my last episode. Number 8 is the worst - I'd been depressed (and on medication) before and yet it took a lot of effort and convincing for me to accept I should see a psychiatrist, simply because I did not believe I would ever get better again. Thank you so much, Dr. Marks!
Please do more of " lies believed" as a possible habit by those of various disorders. Thanks.
I have been thinking this way mostly all my life, or like feeling this way without undersating about emotions or psychology, so for me, it was a nightmare, not even understanding what's happeening. When I was a teen, I understood that how I feel or think is not normal, and that my family also got some problems. I always thought of getting therapy but being underage, depending on my parents and in a country where getting therapy was hard to get, made me reach to adulthood feeling the same, what I can say is that I have improved a lot on my own, But there are some problems in which isn't simple to do on my own, and watching your video, made me realize that I still have those habits and thoughts that I do unconsciously, and thanks to you I'm more aware and educated about this topics in which I always find interesting.
It's self-fulfilling prophecies. My negative thinking has brought me to a point where I objectively am in a very bad place.
Thanks for your insight. I’m surprised that depressed people who are poor aren’t raining down from rooftops. Maybe they are. I have mostly preferred my own company. It distresses me so bad when I have to visit with anyone, but I can fake it if I have to for about 30 minutes. Being alone is just less stressful. After fifteen minutes of visiting I’m ready to bolt out the door. I don’t like talking on modern phones either, cell phone connections are often garbled and I”m getting hard of hearing. I’m 74 and no one is interested in anything I have to say, which is very little anyway, so I let everyone else do the talking and I just smile and look sympathetic or happy, or like I actually heard what they said, whatever they seem to need. An understanding ear is all that most people want anyway. But you have given me food for thought. Thanks.
Thanks for the advice. Existence is weird. I try not to own my thoughts anymore. Just notice and acknowledge but no assigning labels of good or bad, humans are funny animals ❤
I'm working on this through mindfulness. Sounds helpful. Thanks! I had a horrible day with depression yesterday and could see what kinds of thoughts I was having, but it was still hard to detach from them due the mood issue.
That's how I get through life and the advice I give others. Life is a series of moments, some moments are hard, some are neutral, some are wonderful. No matter what, every moment passes as long as we stick around. Try to enjoy the positive moments before they pass and know the negative moments will eventually pass. On to the next moment.
Love your channel I struggle with ADHD, depression and anxiety its like being in a tripple threat match 🥊 and theres no way out because each condition feeds off of the other in a seemingly endless fight. music and videos like this have been my medication for now but i also want to commend everyone for continuing to fight!
YOU ARE NOT ALONE
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I am diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder (moderate level). These things absolutely ring true.
My issue is that mental healthcare is wildly unaffordable even with insurance. Some psychiatrists don't even take insurance, charge $400 for the eval and then $250 for 15min followups. I even tried Psych Nurse practitioners but same thing; $300 for initial, and $150+ for followups for med management (even got swindled by one). And talk therapy is over $100 for 45min. Lots of practitioners don't provide a sliding scale and will flat out not work with you. The help is unreachable esp for people currently out of work. Its horrible.
Here's something to consider: if you can find a low or no cost college or technical school, they often provide free mental health care for students. My first try at it was not so great, then I went to group therapy for one semester and it was so helpful and encouraging, I still have a therapist, at 65 years old.
Your situation is very difficult, and I wish you good luck, please don't give up hope. 😞💔🙏🤝
Hi. Depression can have so many causes. Mental traumas, loss of job, loved ones and those kind of situations. But în many cases it masks other health problems în the body,that you might not be aware of. Like gut issues and organ issues, even spine problems can cause depression. Our food, air, water and everything else is poluted way over the limit and that can also contribute as a factor to Depression. So, if you havent done a serious body check-up, do it before you start taking powerful drugs. Im not saying not to take them at all, just be sure there isnt something else that needs treated and once it does you will see the improvement. May you all get over any troubles as soon as possible.
Girl, you spoke my Depression Queen’s language! Can I give you a high five? ✋
In me, at least, it’s as if I have a separate part of myself (Depression Queen is my public name for her, it’s as if she is part of me and simultaneously not, if that makes any sense. NOT the same thing as DID-also BA in Psychology and certified addiction /abuse recovery coach-but definitely not exactly an integral part of me) that tries to convince me of nothing but the worst. About myself, about everyone around me and about the world in general. That I’m nothing but a c-word, that’s what everyone really thinks of me, etc, etc.
She was the ruler of my mental roost especially when I was in college. I had NO IDEA how to really describe it to anyone, including any therapists I tried to see at that time.
The fact that I’m autistic and a survivor of child abuse doesn’t help, either. I’ve gone basically my whole life feeling as if my WHOLE BEING is wrong. Wondering what business it even is of mine to even be taking up any space in a physical body like this.
Even though the Depression Queen is no longer the main ruler of my mental roost, she’s still not gone. She still tries to look for any loophole possible that she can exploit and drive me to think THE most destructive thoughts. She feels threatened by anything healthy, too.
I greatly appreciate your education videos because I’m financially struggling and cannot afford a therapist that I’m compatible with which also sets back my depression recovery. Keep the videos coming your work efforts are well recognized and rewarding to improving the quality of my life.
This is just great. I would say, after reading comments of the first 20 minutes, is that it might be slightly more accurate to call this video "Eight Lies People Believe When Depressed," because a 'depressed person' will believe these when depressed, but when that same person isn't experiencing the depression, they won't believe all our even some of them... and even knowing *that* can make a huge impact! Like hope becomes possible if that person is reminded that they don't actually believe all these things *when they aren't* depressed! Once she/he remembers this, the "depressed beliefs" can be thought about as "depression beliefs" - instead of "my beliefs" or "what I know is true, bottom line".... At that point, the depression beliefs can actually be challenged and examined- then reality tested and worked with... But without that, those depression beliefs keep control over the depressed person and no saner/safer voice(s) will/can be given the time, and open consideration they deserve. And that could make a difference, crack the shell of the negative persona and problem approach of serious depression, especially when physical manifestation make it so difficult to take any chances to even give positive messages their "day in court..."
I would be very interested to hear Dr. Marks talk about biological vs. psychological major depression and how strategies for coping and treating differ between the two.
Another great video! These are often thoughts many experience after a break up or a failed attempt to reach a goal. We must remember that we're not merely the sum of our experiences❤
As someone with dysthemia, i feel like never getting better is something i might have to accept, because in 10 years not a single day of true happyness has crossed my guts, im just completely numb. Its frustrating because im doing everything i possibly can to get out, but i just feel numb all the time, no matter how hard i am trying
At 70 with 20 years of depression and NO professionals have managed to help, nor medications. I think I've earned the right to not try any more and give up. Just came out of voluntary hospital stay of 7 weeks because depression had me isolated and bedbound for 4 months. Hospital stay was ok because I got to talk, smile, laugh which because I live alone isolated were things I hadn't done in more than a year. Lost count of how many times I've put myself in hospital for respite from mental illness suffering. So I got support BUT 3 days before discharge I went down again and now home only 5% improved and still decreasing. How can anyone be surprised if I've has enough
It's depressing (no pun intended) how many boxes I have ticked. I really don't know how I'm going to get out of my current situation, it's incredibly embarrassing but I SINCERELY appreciate your time that you share with us Tracey. It's great to see your channel grow. Well deserved : ]
Thank you very much
Whatever it is a human must face, it's important that they face such adversities when they're YOUNG. As young as is possible. To put this in perspective, imagine having to deal with Depression discovered at 20. Now think about an 89 year-old discovering it. Must give us pause.
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@@Novastar.SaberCombat yeeees!. Well I'm 46
This is so validating. Most of these thoughts are familiar. Thank you, Dr Marks.
So true
I’ve got number 7 so bad right now. I am an aspiring developer. There’s so much going on with AI right now that I feel like everything I’ve studied for and everything I’ve been working on is pointless. I also do music as a hobby and some of my music has been in games and movies, but I feel like AI is just going to take over everything and there will be no point to be creative anymore. I wonder if anyone else out there feels like this…
Thanks...for your help! You make me feel terribly guilt. At the same time the way you express yourself have my deep admiration..
Thank you for doing these videos. They help me regain some clarity at times (this video was very timely for me) as well as provide an option for helping educate friends and family on what I might be feeling or going through.
Tracey I have to say thank you for all the advice your giving about mental health, very important thank you so much.
Thanks for the video, Dr. Marks. These are all symptoms and distortions I've struggled with.
An eye opening moment for me happened a long time ago when I was helping a fellow martial artist train for an upcoming fight. It was my first time participating in this kind of thing and afterwards a classmate complemented me on one specific thing, he was impressed! I immediatly started saying things like "oh, well I've done X before and a little bit of Y so I..." and he cut me off.
"You don't need to make excuses, you can just say thank you." and he gave me one of those wholesome masculinity pats on the arm before going off to deal with closing up shop.
Another time I was with a person I was romantically interested in. We were spending time together, having a fairly intimate chat. They asked me why I didn't do or or think of some solution to a problem I had faced and I said something like "I'm just an idiot."
Immediately, they said. "You do not do that. I know you would never, ever say that about someone else. You will treat yourself with the same respect." I cried in their arms for at least fifteen minutes after.
We've long since moved on, but I still remember that moment vividly. Them speaking up for me against myself. To this day, when my impulsive answer is "I'm just lazy" or some other negative statement, I try to find a more earnest and compassionate answer like, "I honestly couldn't even get out of bed" or "It's really difficult for me to keep things like this organized."
Some people still don't like those answers, but at least I'm advocating for myself when I am mindful.
I was talking with a guy I work with and he told me that I was the hardest worker on our shift. And I just thought he was gaslighting me.
What? Don't let him burn you with gas, ouch
Tell him your depressed and just be nice please
this was a good empathetic explainer of how relenting and pervasive depression can affect someone.
Yeah, I worked all those out with my doctor. I and my Mom have atypical depression, her is more severe though, she barely responds to the AD treatment. And to make it worse, most people around us don't believe in depression even if I can see the symptoms in some of them! It's so offensive when your real illness is taken as a joke, and you keep hearing "Get a life! You simply have too much free time to think that you're ill!" It's horrible. I'm a Ukrainian, and due to the war more and more people will - or already have -- depression and PTSD. So, the thinking in our society should get better, I suppose...
I hope you are safe, and (excuse my French) fuck those people who don't believe depression is real. I hope this senseless invasion ends soon and your people can be left in peace, no one deserves to suffer, not from depression or war. ❤
@@Defirence Thank you so much. I live in the safest region, luckily) We can feel this amazing support from the world, it's unbelievable
When I get sick with the flu, I understand that I need to go to the doctor or do certain things like drink fluids, take Tylenol etc. when I go through my depression episodes, I just stew in it. Every year that passes it becomes more and more obvious that this isn’t going to get better without me doing something and the last thing I want to do right now is anything. I don’t know.
I'm tired of sitting into the chair and attempting to fix myself, honestly. The first few years I had hope of getting better, now I don't know why I'm even trying. Okay, one more time, I'll grasp my will and press "Continue" and not "Quit".
When one is also prone to delusions (schizophrenic), when these thoughts are "grabbed" by the psychotic symptoms it's so very hard to overcome them. Add that with, Schizoid Personality, and I'm shocked I'm nearing my 35th birthday
Let's go, 35th birthday 🌻 me too soon. I'm not schizophrenic, but my friends have loved ones who are.
Doctor Tracey, this is an excellent video i can and will watch when i start believing in one of those lies, to be reminded that they are cognitive distortions. i believed all of those lies, i still believe some but it’s better, i’m better after medication and some therapy. I appreciate your videos and i respect you as a doctor and youtuber 😊 and a good person
During the time I was depressed, from ages 19 to 21, except for thinking I may never get better, I never had any of those thoughts. I was just felt extremely depressed. I sought a professional for help, and I only got worse. I tried another one. Same thing. I stopped seeking help from professionals,, and I slowly figured out how to avoid remaining depressed.
I made researches and found out that shrooms are very helpful , it has really helped to reduce anxiety and depression and some other mental health issues..i would love to try magic mushrooms but they are hard to source!
Psychedelic is the answer to most severe anxiety and depression...The use of magic mushrooms completely helps one get over depression and makes you feel like yourself...I used antidepressants for some years but it only made me feel like a zombie but with immediate use of mushroom 🍄 in few months I feel like I'm living a whole new Life.
I just finished weaning off all these terrible psych meds that made me crazy and worse.It’s hard for me to imagine that, but watching all these studies has given me hope.
I live in Michigan….suffering for awhile now but didnt realize how serious I may have it until recently - probably bc of @self medicating” with alcohol
I've been having this constant, unbearable anxiety because of university stress..not until I met Myco_louiis.. he really helped me
Saw some reviews about myco_louiis, looked up for him and I must recommend he is good at what he does
I just got out of a months long depressive episode and *all* of these sound very familiar.
Especially when it felt like I'd never get better and there was only one way out, made even worse when I'd have a day or two where did feel okay only to fall back in to the negative thinking.
And as someone who only works a minimum wage part time job, professional help was unfortunately not an option I could afford in the long run. Fortunately though I was able to find channels like this and a pretty good support system of family and friends to help me through it.
Okay, now I feel the need to thank everyone who helped and supported me through the previous several months. Yall may have literally saved my life back then 💜
wow thank you xxxxx I m hopefully going to make effort I spoke to a charity helpline last night for a whole hour!++ thanks to your advice I reached out and I'm on the first step up ... not down ....thank you so much .....amen xxxxx
⚠️ This is so terrible that when I am happy, "something" says to me: "Your happiness will only last for some hours. Sooner you'll be back to the prison of depression again". Gosh ! Some people in my Country, even normal people, believe that we cannot have intense feelings of happiness. They often say that when we feel very happy, things like: "Old people say that when you are having a really high dose of happiness, is a bad signal, that a tragedy, a disgrace is going to happen in your life." So, some people, fearing that, always refrain themselves from displaying their happiness by fear of a calamity. Interesting, no ? 😮😮😮
We are In a spiritual battle . Only way to win is threw Jesus. Jesus is the way the TRUTH an the life . The only way to the father is threw Jesus.
Last therapist essentially said i was too depressed for her to see me anymore.
I kno its only a bad experience but still im struggling to find the will to seek a new therapist.
I don't have anything helpful to offer. But will say as a dude in his 50's... I understand your situation, I'm still going through it. We are warriors, fight on brother 🖖🤛
I don't think that person should be a therapist. Please, report her to her board or boss. So sorry that happened. Know the feeling. (((Hugs)))
Not to undermine your experience, but is that what she said, or is that how you interpreted it? Therapists can sometimes give tough advice that patients aren't always willing/able to hear.
Therapist could have suggested referral to physician.
I've had intermittent depressed episodes on and off since I was 11. I recently was diagnosed with unspecified mood disorder, partial DID (OSDD1b), and ADHD... and I also have been in therapy the first time at 24 years old for 8 months now. It has changed so much. The culmination of problems from the last 3 years put me in the deepest depressive state I had ever been in the last few months. I revisited thoughts and feelings I never thought I would again, and like you said, it was "worse" than ever before. But I'm righting the wrongs in my life. I will be okay.
We will be okay.
My headmates (we prefer this term instead of "alters') were instrumental in keeping me safe and functional. They helped just like my therapist, my advocate, and my friends have. Discovering plurality and also being nonbinary (he/she) when you're struggling with undiagnosed/untreated ADHD in a PhD program? Yeah, it's been rough. I've needed a village.
Depression takes a village. Mental health at large does.
I thought I was the only one who also had "entities" I conversed with when shit got too rough or lonely. I personally see it as a personification of my inner voice, a group or single person I can just talk with about anything or chew the fat with, and just feel like I matter. This is always seen in a negative light when I mentioned it as a teen, but even now as an adult I realise that just personifying and conversing with myself and my thoughts to cope, recover or manage during good,bad times and all inbetween is just evidence to how much we don't know about the human brain at all, and how advanced we actually are in terms of how we adapt and function. I'm glad therapy is helping you, it failed in some cases for me but I've found other methods and meds that help. I'd advise if you haven't already to look at Stimulant ADD/HD meds since my struggles are super similar to yours and stim ADD meds (methylphenidate) helped me a lot with depression and such. ❤
Wow. Thank you. I have about 4 of these symptoms. I'm aware of them, but only knew of half of the connections between them. It really is a logical, rationalization of self. If no one does or wants to boost your worth (which is even worse when you see those ppl be positive to nearly everyone else), then you tend to think their view of you is valid. Even if you tell yourself otherwise, it either rings hollow or makes you think associating with others is pointless. That can do harm cause we typically need other ppl in our lives.
Been suffering for several years and finally, at the urging of family members, am seeking professional help. Tired of being tired.
Great video. One thing: looks like you skipped over #6 in the numbers and went from #5 It's all my fault to #7 Nothing matters. I was taking notes... 😅
Yup. Skipped over it. Oops