TBH I went st8 to option 5, five months ago. Bc my family and best friend has already told me in passing how they feel about mental health. It makes me feel even more alone. I get from them, "yadda yadda...your energy isn't high enough.. blah blah blah..." wtf ever that means...I just want someone to listen!
I'm serious about it, doctor. I feel as if, one day in the near future , I may be driven to actually end my life. I'm seeing councilors for the issue , and all they have been able to give me is Antidepressants
You probably dont care but does anybody know a method to get back into an instagram account..? I somehow lost my password. I appreciate any help you can give me.
Cats are wonderful companions! They are lovely beings to share your lives with. My cat gives a lot of meaning to my life and existence, and I couldn't do anything that would leave him hurting and alone. He really helps me to keep on going in the worst days
I've had two suicide attempts. The second one was very bad; I almost succeeded, and was hospitalized for ten days. As someone who has spent an inordinate amount of time dwelling on suicide, I can say this video is very accurate. Dr. Marks is my favorite mental health professional on TH-cam. She's the greatest.
@@winterkyomoon7096 fu c u this is TH-cam not aa meeting, welbutrin the way to go too bad they pumped my stomach live to tell the tale. zoloft won't do shit but make u feel weird venlafaxine in conjunction with some other random pills almost had me 🤣🤣🤣
I asked for help.....got locked up in a psyche ward. Thrown in an isolation room, given a sedative, restrained, humiliatsd and traumatised, and given electric shock treatment. great help.
@haizeljang - maybe you can drop everything else in life that doesn’t matter and start really exploring what will make you happy and what purpose you want to live for. I was having really dark thoughts at one point in my life and this is what I did. I looked at my environment and I changed EVERYTHING! I also started practicing Islam (faith). I’m not saying you have to do that but I got a lot of answers and the heaviness started lifting ... it took a little while because my mindset was crap at that point. I hope you choose life. You never know what is waiting you! How many lives you may touch. Peace brother!
@@khabose2948 thank you for the kind words. I know you will see me as stubborn because I will say this again and again. That I don't see any purpose for my life, nor any hope of living it well. But thank you, I hope you find peace and happiness as well. ❤
This is really helpful! I made what I call my 'anti-suicide box' after I was hospitalized for an attempted suicide. I had my friends and family write letters I could read when I was headed toward that hopeless feeling to remind me why I need to stick around. I will work on this safety plan as well.
I had intrusive thoughts while in an emotionally abusive relationship. These included gory imagery and suicidal ideation. I never had those before until the abuse escalated. I went as far to lightly act out hanging myself. This scared me so I stopped immediate. I knew I didn’t want to die but I was at the end of my rope and desperate for relief. I worked with a therapist and worked on getting out of the relationship. Then I realized I had childhood trauma. I worked on that for the next 3 years. Now I’m happy and healthy and mostly healed from the childhood trauma. I have zero toxic people in my life and no longer experience intrusive thoughts or suicidal ideation. Could you please do a video on how toxic people can affect our physical and mental health? I love your videos. Thank you!
I have passive suicidal thoughts and frequent rummination. I just wAnt to move on with my life and look forward to my future. Stay strong everyone, too are worth it and we are all in this together.
I've had multiple attempts, and the intrusive bad thoughts scream so much louder in my head than any good thoughts that could have been in there. I have tried repeatedly to get help, and I just give up. I just can't take the pain anymore.
I think what really gets on my nerves os when you express your suicidal thoughts and people respond by saying what about friends/family, those that you will leave behind. It's like hello??? What about me? What about the struggle of having to live everyday in emotional pain, anger, frustration? Then it appears as if u are no longer living for yourself but either existing /living / to satisfy those same people and what sense does that make. If i don't see a future and i am not happy then why am I forcing myself to stick around and live for others. I am just speaking for myself.
@@barb7124 it really sucks to hear that you're thinking about life that way..I really hope that you're thinking to see a therapist soon since I did and it makes me a lot better. Don't be hesitant, okay? Therapy can actually be really benificial. I'm sending you lots of love, support and good vibes 💜 and I really hope you'll find a great and understanding therapist. That's it for now. Take care.
I know it`s not related but I apreciate so much that you speak clear and calm...I love psychology topics but some videos may be a little overwhelming sometimes trying to gather as much information as they can... Hello from Chile.
I have active and passive suicidal thoughts, but I know I will never follow through every time I have them. Mostly I just lie in bed unable to move until the thought disappears.
I find your pragmatic approach to mental health issues very refreshing. I imagine this video is a question many of us have asked ourselves over the years. It’s comforting to understand the theory and categorization and also ways to establish a plan should someone find themselves seriously struggling. I’m more existential than active or passive suicidal. Sometimes labels help provide us with beneficial insight.
All I wanna say is THANK YOU. You speak clearly, without judgement and filled with compassion. Thank you for helping us open up meaningful conversations around Mental Health.
Thank you so much for this. As a mental health care provider, I really appreciate the care that you put in to disseminating important information or diagnoses, treatments, and related topics.
I like to think that if i can talk myself into believing im better off dead then i can talk myself into believing that im better off alive. It is litterally the same thing but it seems so much more difficult.
Thank you dr. I appreciate your straightforward informative videos. The fact that you're not trying to sell something Ed's so much value and credibility and shows your sincerity. Thank you again
Also, for me, cutting is simply a way to punish myself. Like when you or someone smacks you upside the head and says "how could i be so stupid". At times i become infuriated by my own actions, or inactions.
I smoke fag after fag after fag! I starve myself stupid and pray my phisical body will one day be so weak it WILL give up on me in my sleep! I prsy wish n hope i leave this evil-live spelt backwards is evil and LIVED spelt backwards is devil! This realm is HELL
I have been on medication for a year, but my depression is not going anywhere, im feeling defeated because i really thought the medication would make me feel better
Different anti-depressants work in different ways and just because one is useless doesn't mean there isn't another one that could work for you. Plus, the pills are more effective if you are also getting therapy. A lot of therapists are doing video or phone therapy because of the pandemic.
I really dislike the trend in educational videos that they are all about helping yourself. Also address others to help the ones in need. To those who are not depressed: Be a true friend and be open to new friendships, enjoy your fellow Man's companionship and help them in need.
Not to be mean, but if the only thing of value in your life is your cat, then you have a pretty pathetic existence. Here is the problem of "safety planning" and "suicide prevention" -- it's clinging to temporary, contingent factors. You might be forced to give up your cat and not be able to get a new one, your cat may (or rather, will) die. Here in NYC, people give up cats as often as they are forced to give up apartment furniture.
@@lilawrence91 temporary factors help us get trough temporary suicide feelings. Thats why they work sometimes. Once we are able to reach for help we do it. And its ok to be clingy to temporary thing if thats what keeps you alive.
Thank you so much for this very clear and precise answer ! I really like how you describe facts without being overdramatic or in the contrary playing it down: they're just facts. Thank you !
Did not realize that my thoughts were so active, my doctor asked and I told him passive without understanding. I'll let him know, thank you for this video!
I just can’t take this pain anymore. I’ve reached out to professionals, I’ve been told it’s illegal to commit suicide. Suicide hotline even sent the police! I truly can’t think of any other way to end the pain
Hey man Jesus loves you so much, you’re life is so valuable to him, he gave his life for yours. Reach out to him and he can save you. You literally have nothing to lose! I promise this will be the best thing you ever do
Sometimes I get really down and feel like a burden and think about how my family will be better off without me. But then I talk myself out of it because my life is so easy compared to others suffering. Even though I have low self esteem I will keep living on and trying my best.
I hate when I feel suicidal. I remember I blacked out once and when I came back I was already bleeding and my arm was cut open. I called an old friend to help me close it (family in the medical field) and I promised that no matter how hard life gets I would do anything in my power to fight that “ empty” feeling. I recently had surgery I lost my baby... I felt that empty feeling and quickly dialed the suicide hotline and I cried and cried and cried. I’m grateful they were there. I have a therapist who is awesome and I just got another :) I’m excited and hopeful. Life is hard but we have to keep going!
I've recently started watching psych related videos in an effort to gain a better understanding of myself. I'm glad i found your site b/c so far you give the most to the point explanations of what my issues seem to be, so, thank you.
You having made this video is the only help that I have, my environment and family are like kryptonite to me, I feel uncomfortable almost all the time and no one is safe for me to share anything with, because once you've shared they think you're weak or a target for manipulation.
Your worth is not determined by who can love you or not, you can build new relationships to help you cope, ultimately though it is in your efforts to take care of yourself, other people will give you a boost but it is not the answer, otherwise you will depend on them and there's a major pressure into living only for others and not yourself. I suggest Cognitive Behavioural Therapy methods to start a journey of introspection to make it so you rewire your critical thinking, which I assume makes decisions out of hatred towards yourself, CBT makes it so you slowly learn how to love yourself through critical thinking and, unless there's other conditions that you aren't unaware of affecting it, your emotions will catch up to finally love yourself. Best of luck, you are not alone and if you are right now you won't be forever, there's so many people out there and believe me when I say that there's a found family and friends for everyone.
Thanks for making these videos. I just discovered them. They are very helpful and I will be watching as many as I can. Family is the number 1 reason to remain here. You are correct that it is like a nuclear bomb. My cousin's spouse did it with a subway train and it has lasting effects especially to her children. Purpose of being here is for the family. Nothing else really matters in the end. I'm an atheist as well as everyone in my immediate family and we know that there isn't anything after this life. Thanks again.
Thank you so much for making this video I can explain how much You have just changed my mind about a lot of things that I have already planned out And did a lot more steps by writing letters to my love ones for the next couple of years. I don't have a lot of Support I have kids. Thank you so much for taking the time to make this video
I really appreciate your work on this platform. I am just starting my life, but I hope someday I can become a psychiatrist and help people just like you. You are my biggest inspiration on this field 😉👍. Thank you so much...
I like to distract myself by driving over 100 mph on the highway and running red lights. I do that pretty much every day. Can’t think about death if I’m too busy trying not to crash.
This was so helpful. I’ve been feeling like I don’t want to be here anymore but I have no intention and have cut in the past but always felt like it was a bit extreme to say I was suicidal.
Considering all the mass killings, drug addiction, and other addictions, it is easy to see our society is in MENTAL PAIN. I think we talk about having access to health care for all Americans, how bout access to MENTAL HEALTH CARE? Maybe then we could get to the root of people’s pain, and end all the afore mentioned illnesses and STOP SUICIDES. Thank you, I appreciate your services.
Elisa Castro I said access not free. Most insurance plans cover mental health care SEPARATELY. I have Blue Cross Blue Shield at my job but our mental health care is not covered through them, we have FREE mental health care up to so many sessions then you submit forms to re qualify for this service or pay out of pocket. I will say in closing, I am only discussing this country because that’s what my data is based on and I live in AMERICA!!!! And anytime ANY MONEY IS SPENT on any kind of health I believe it benefits the individual and society as a whole,my opinion. Much more is gained in preventing a crisis than waiting for the bombs to drop and cleaning afterwards. Have a blessed day
Hi Dr Marks, really love your content, thankyou so much for the great work! Was wondering if you would be doing any more videos on adhd, in particular adult adhd that has been misdiagnosed as depression and anxiety
My safety plan:listening to worship music sometimes some lyrics are just for your situation and you feel you’re not alone and he saves you from others or even from you yourself.remembering what things God has brought me out of,thinking about what caused that thought and if it’s related to my own deeds I stop doing it and if it’s related to others I stay away from them.and sometimes based on my situation if I can’t stay away from them I still keep listening to my worship music.❤️
Excellent video Dr. Marks, on a very important topic. Because of the nature of my profession I’ve known a number of people that have committed suicide. I know in many cases it is an impulsive action taken when everything looks hopeless. I’m sure this video will help people that are at this place of hopelessness to have a plan to get past that moment when the impulse is strong. 👍❤️
Thanks a lot Mark. You’re right the impulsiveness was such a driving force and if we can have anything that makes people pause and thimk, it's a step in the right direction
The book "30 Days to Overcome Suicidal Thoughts" by Harper Daniels should be shared with all. Share it online for suicide awareness. You can save someone's life.
Oh my goodness Dr Tracey this is a valued video. I recently had theses thoughts. But to get clarification about this in more depth it has bought light to my situation. I have a plane just like the one you described. I had to figure out what is the problem I have a lot of changes going on on my life. I retired from one job. I have three years in to retirement for the other one. My aging years. I hire a professional organizer to get rid of my years and years of clutter and focus on this as part of my plan to sustain a better life for myself. Without going into too much more details I found this was a trigger and it was hard letting go of my stuff. But as time do pass I know it will all get better And by sharing my crisis in a general way to my only child and two of my close friends and team support. This has help me be honest with my self and know I am not alone. This is common with a lot of my circle of friends and colleagues. So I choose to not to remain silent. Because when I do I don’t get the help that I need when I do. We don’t have to suffer in silence. I am worthy.
Good for you. I’m so glad you have support around you. I think people don’t always realize how supportive people are willing to be if you just make them aware of what's going on
Great video Dr. Marks! Anyone out there who is "waiting for the right time", please get help. No matter how alone you think that you are, someone will grieve for you. Someone else loves you! And if you just can't find them know that GOD loves you!!! Maybe a pet will help you too. Something to care for, and they are not going to judge you. GOD be with you
My family would be happy if I killed myself. They don’t understand depression And I’m sure they think I’m a pain in the ass. So I continue to struggle every day I have a few friends who I can turn to, but it’s not the same as your family. I hate my family so much
Dr. Marks, Ive been in therapy for chronic health anxiety. I’m having existential thoughts coming out the blue, I’ll be in the middle of let’s say Cooking dinner then I will have these thoughts like what is this room I am, why I am here?like I’ve been in some time machine and transplanted into a different world. Is this normal with anxiety, I suffer from the disassociation with my anxiety. Side note: I appreciate what you do so much! I have a heart for those who are suffering Like I am. It takes a special person to do what you do. Thank you 🙏🏻
Yes Sasha I would say that’s probably an extension of your health anxiety. It’s not about health but it’s got that same degree of worry. it’s like a variant of your health anxiety. also with anxiety you can get the realization and feeling as though you’re in a different reality. In case you haven’t seen and I did video on the personalization and the realization th-cam.com/video/umAgSGTGr8M/w-d-xo.html
Thank You for a great video. That information is so needed, it's always great to see awareness. It did clear up some things for me, so... I guess I should go make that plan.
I’m glad it cleared some things up. I really wasn’t sure what people would think of this, whether it be too taboo Or make them uncomfortable. It’s easy for me to take for granted that people know things. passive versus active versus existential was something I assumed people knew. So I’m glad I got a chance to enlighten people.
Thank you for making this on my bday. I have an existential crisis each yr on this day. I know it's coming and try to prepare but I still struggle. I have used many of those methods mentioned in video in the past, it helps.
Am 77, a vet diagnosed with PTSD, several potentially life threatening conditions, and major mobility problems due to arthritis and injuries. I am in the VA system but it is falling apart because of funding shortages and COVID. Wife is perpetually yelling and screaming at me and has made implied threats to do harm to me because of mostly imagined infidelity. Son is obsessed with guns and shooting and seems to be mad at me at times - he is forty, living at home, and refuses to leave. Whether either will actually harm me is unclear. I am just worn out fighting my medical conditions and trying to keep my head above water. There isn't much joy in my life. So I have to wonder if it is all worth it.
this is excellent video Doctor tracy. thanks lot and this can help lot off poeple with with active or passive suicidal tought. i am going to print this formula thanks lot again keep up good work
I'm a South African, and the suicide hotlines here aren't useful at all. The social workers usually refer callers to another hotline, and the same process happens again when calling the number they referred you to. Eventually, the caller gets told that they can't speak to a psychologist, because you need an official letter from a doctor stating that you have chronic depression. Then when you do go to a doctor to explain your situation, the doctor says that getting an official letter is not necessary and refers you back to the same hotline that didn't assist you. It is pretty disappointing to see that mental health is not taken seriously unless if money is involved, and I wish it could change. I hope things aren't like this in other countries too.
A man was struggling with a rather large stone. I knew he was tired and in desperate need of aid. He struggled against it's weight while trying to shuffle along, almost dropping it with every step. He seemed to be trying to reach deep down inside for the strength to carry on, but seemed to be failing. I decided I would be that strength he needed and offered to carry it for him. When he didn't respond I grabbed hold of the stone anyway. Being to weak to fight back, he relented and we walked along the path. I asked him where we were going and he said, "I've got a boat to sail, but I needed an anchor." Satisfied by this and sensing he was too weak for conversation I merely followed along. It was easy for me to carry this stone. It wasn't light, but I could handle it with ease. The worrys of the world couldn't slow me down. We got to the boat and it was beautiful. It was the most beautiful old sailboat I could imagine. It had two masts that looked like airplane wings and three different hulls. I had never seen a ship so unique. I told him it was a fantastic craft and while taking the stone offered me to stay and sail her. I leapt at the chance and climbed on board. He let me get her ready as he sat upon the center bow, securing his anchor chain to the stone. It couldn't have been easy, but he got it done. We soon had her free from the dock and we on our way to the open water. She was a beautiful craft to sail for sure. Everything about her was fantastic. She was as good as I could imagine a sailboat should be. And she was fast, oh was she fast. She could sail three times the speed of the wind and she sailed so smooth. I was so caught up in the sailing that I'd almost forgotten the man. He was sitting quietly, not saying a word and not looking around. He didn't seem to feel the wind nor the spray of the waves splashing off the bows. Concerned, I asked him if he was ok. The boat stopped. It stopped so suddenly when he turned the wheel that I almost forgot we were sailing. It didn't halt on a dime sure, but it slowed down faster than fast. I was dumbfounded. I had sailed before and never experienced that. Those wingsails turned sideways were amazing. Still in a daze I hadn't really noticed him move back up to the center bow. I quickly went up, now sure something must have broken. I did feel a bit embarrased. He was struggling with the stone again and when I joined him, motioned for it to go over the side. I dropped it over and the line started dropping. We watched for what seemed like a lifetime as the line unfurled over the edge. It was whipping back and forth in the water as it disappeared into the depths. The man then spoke for only the second time and his words I'll take to my grave. "I got it now" It was then I noticed the line from the stone led back to his legs. Some things in life happen so quickly that you almost only observe them. I observed his feet pulled out from under him but couldn't support his upper body. He slammed against the deck backwards and whipped out from the rails and into the sea. The water was cold and unforgiving as I sank beneath the surface. I once knew a man with a stone, who needed the strength from within.
What is it considered when you have passive suicidal thoughts but you know you won't kill yourself any time soon, but you already have a plan if it gets so bad you can't escape any other way? I know exactly how I'll want it to go, when exactly and what I'll do before. But at the moment I can still drag myself through it all.
Have been having these thoughts ever since early teens, but the only thing that actually pushed me over the edge and made me try was when a boy or man would leave me... First time my mother found me on the kitchen floor, I was a teen and a boyfriend broke up with me. But now I'm 44 and my husband wants to leave me, and my mother isn't around anymore to catch me, or anyone else... If I make it through this I deserve a golden medal
Hi Dr. Tracey! I am a big fan of your channel and your work has helped me so much along with my therapy and psychiatrist. This particular video was really enlightening and I was wondering if it would be ok for me to translate the Suicide Safety Plan to my mother tongue of portuguese, so I can share it with a friend who was been struggling a lot these past weeks. Thanks in advance, keep up the amazing content!
Thank you. This is a high risk time of year for ideators and suicidal thinkers. I appreciate you sharing this valuable content about making a safety plan. May I share this video on suicide prevention social media pages I volunteer on?
This made me feel worse, don't get me wrong the video is great but i realized as it said forming a plan that i have no one, no family or friends and that i don,'t have a reason at all to live i feel empty; no reason to live but because the few others want me to live. It's exhausting, it's s3lfish for others to expect you to live just for them while you suffer daily.
A few years ago, something inside me snapped. I haven't felt normal since winter of 2019. I used to be a high energy, super productive person. It seems that all my drive to work went first. I started questioning the point of it all. I have fallen so far behind on my responsibilities. At first it was when I tried to sit down and begin working on the stuff I'm behind on. Now I have invasive suicidal ideation for no apparent reason while I'm driving down the road. Dont even know what to do. I've tried to talk to my mom and wife about it but I don't want to burden them anymore. I'm trying to stay strong for my kids and pull myself through whatever this is that's happening to me.
I had thoughts of dying before and even almost tried one day but stopped myself. One thing that stops me is a story and characters I built in my head. My character's stories and entire beings will die if I die and they will be forgotten. recently though I have been trying to write and draw as much as I can of them because I keep itching to end it all. My mom doesn't believe in mental health and says god will take away sadness but I don't believe in god. She also constantly causes me to shut down and feel like I won't add anything to this world. I want to talk to my friends but she constantly wants to read my conversations and know what we talk about to the point I can't be overly comfortable with them. I don't trust my brother and doesn't understand me, I at least have my dad but sometimes he sides with my mom. Sorry for ranting I just want to write this out somewhere : |
I have taken an interview training 2 years ago, he has spent some 3 hours alone with me, trying to motivate me, in these chattings, he asked me one question, how many times did you thought of suicide, and I have answered always..., then he asked me why I am not trying for that, I told him, that I have to go to hell if I do that, so I am not doing that. Now I am an atheist, do I want to suicide, I don't know now. Some times I believe I don't have a future and some times I think, there are still a lot of beautiful things around us that can keep us happy. The toughest times are when I am having panic attacks. But somehow I am able to keep away from these thoughts in these days.
My parents really didn't give a crap if I killed myself. My father told me that I wasn't allowed to talk about the abuse. When I told him that I would end of killing myself if I didn't talk about what happened to me, he told me that I had dilemma. When I told my sister that I was suicidal and needed her to stop abusing me, she didn't believe me. When I told my mom that I was suicidal, she sounded bored. I almost succeeded twice. I've tried many times. I've come close to making attempts more times than I can remember. An alternate identity would often take charge of my body dispose of the substances that I intended to kill myself with. I didn't know that I had DID, at the time and I think it saved my life. I didn't reach out to my friends, because I thought that if the family members who reached out to, didn't care, that my friends wouldn't. It was the most destructive identity that I have that got me out of this. She was suicidal, but she didn't want to be murdered by my husband. I was in denial about the fact that he was an extreme danger to me, but she wouldn't let me ignore it. She is the one that called a domestic violence shelter, when my husband was out of town. She is the one who called the cab to take me to meet the advocate who took me to the shelter. It was a male identity that grabbed weapons for the cab ride, in case my husband came from early and caught me leaving. I transferred to a confidential domestic violence shelter, far away from him and my family to make myself safe. I finally have hope. From a distance, I could see my parents for who they were and I decided that I am worth more than that. I still don't know what is getting me through this, but I faced with the possibility of being shot by the man who I was married to, made me want to live. I went to a lot of trouble to save my life and I couldn't end it, now. I cut off contact with everyone I ever knew and moved to an area that was completely unfamiliar to me. I have 13 personalities who give me unconditional love and support that was absent from most people around me, most of life, who I am responsible for. I have to take care of them. I was told that I would always be dependent on some one other than myself to survive, when in reality, I have had to depend on myself for survival from a young and can do it better, now that I am an adult. For the first time in 43 years, I am in charge of my life and nobody is going to take that away from me. I have a diagnosis of, DID, autism, bipolar disorder and complex PTSD, and I have kept myself fed, reached all the goals that I arrived in this city with. I found housing, in a city that is in a housing crisis, without any help from the people who said that I was not competent enough to do this, without them. They were wrong. I am not defective. I am not broken. I am not helpless. I am not unlikable. My father was wrong. When I tell people about the abuse, they believe me and a lot of people are not rejecting me. Being different, doesn't make defective. I have a great therapist and better medical care than I've ever had. Recovery from years of trauma will take a long time, but I have a good life to start living.
@@lv9265 I've been free from my family for a few years and I feel safe to talk about the abuse with out worrying about my father finding out and getting angry with me. I haven't had the urge to harm myself since 2019. Thank you 💚
Hi, I love watching your videos! Thank you for all the Infos! by the way, can I suggest that you do a video that discusses the distinctions between grief & complicated grief vs depression? how to differentiate between those and when to get help? can grieve leads to depression? what about situational depression? I hope you can take my suggestion into consideration. Thank you so much, Dr!
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TBH I went st8 to option 5, five months ago. Bc my family and best friend has already told me in passing how they feel about mental health. It makes me feel even more alone. I get from them, "yadda yadda...your energy isn't high enough.. blah blah blah..." wtf ever that means...I just want someone to listen!
I'm serious about it, doctor.
I feel as if, one day in the near future , I may be driven to actually end my life.
I'm seeing councilors for the issue , and all they have been able to give me is Antidepressants
I get this way and have propenzity for a plan.. I sometimes wish this was a warry warring period and i could die in combat actively.
You probably dont care but does anybody know a method to get back into an instagram account..?
I somehow lost my password. I appreciate any help you can give me.
@Briar Alaric instablaster =)
'I dont wanna live but Im too scared to die'
Sam cooke a change is gonna come i 🙏 for you
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Same
same!
Are you afraid of being dead?
I'm glad I never commit sucide. My cat saved my life and I'm so grateful for that.
Cats are wonderful companions! They are lovely beings to share your lives with. My cat gives a lot of meaning to my life and existence, and I couldn't do anything that would leave him hurting and alone. He really helps me to keep on going in the worst days
@@airpolygon2714 best medicine ever
So sad that my 2 kitties are the reason why I won’t do it... so sad and so wonderful at the same time. But shitty that nobody cares. 😢😢😢
Ive been there twice with my dog. Crazy, how much leverage they have huh..
Is that her in your profile pic? Precious kits.
If you have suicidal thoughts you are NOT alone! Especially in communities like this and at Authentic Mental Health❤️
Hi @Authentic Mental Health ☺ how are you? I'm subscribed to you and I absolutely LOVE your channel. I really hope you're having a great day.
This dont help at all
I am completely alone. F*ck off.
Jim jones here let's team up
“Your not alone” I hate that saying.
I've had two suicide attempts. The second one was very bad; I almost succeeded, and was hospitalized for ten days. As someone who has spent an inordinate amount of time dwelling on suicide, I can say this video is very accurate.
Dr. Marks is my favorite mental health professional on TH-cam. She's the greatest.
What have you done on your attempt ?
@@Violet-fg9db Probably not the most appropriate question to ask.
@@winterkyomoon7096 Totally agree with you on that! It's not a suitable question for this thread. *triggering per se.
The only reason I not doing it again is that my husband will be so hurt.😢
@@winterkyomoon7096 fu c u this is TH-cam not aa meeting, welbutrin the way to go too bad they pumped my stomach live to tell the tale. zoloft won't do shit but make u feel weird venlafaxine in conjunction with some other random pills almost had me 🤣🤣🤣
I asked for help.....got locked up in a psyche ward. Thrown in an isolation room, given a sedative, restrained, humiliatsd and traumatised, and given electric shock treatment. great help.
Omg... this is horrifying. . I'm so sorry that you went through that during a time of needed support
That's what keeps many people from seeking help.
I've planned lots of times, for different options of how i can kill myself. But I'm so afraid to do it then end up alive the next day.
I feel this so much, i even have a mote ready.
Maybe you could reflect on one person who is the most glad that you’re alive.
@@DrTraceyMarks yes - thinking about my mom. But i'm not sure if I can hold it off much longer.
@haizeljang - maybe you can drop everything else in life that doesn’t matter and start really exploring what will make you happy and what purpose you want to live for.
I was having really dark thoughts at one point in my life and this is what I did. I looked at my environment and I changed EVERYTHING! I also started practicing Islam (faith). I’m not saying you have to do that but I got a lot of answers and the heaviness started lifting ... it took a little while because my mindset was crap at that point. I hope you choose life. You never know what is waiting you! How many lives you may touch. Peace brother!
@@khabose2948 thank you for the kind words. I know you will see me as stubborn because I will say this again and again. That I don't see any purpose for my life, nor any hope of living it well.
But thank you, I hope you find peace and happiness as well. ❤
This is really helpful! I made what I call my 'anti-suicide box' after I was hospitalized for an attempted suicide. I had my friends and family write letters I could read when I was headed toward that hopeless feeling to remind me why I need to stick around. I will work on this safety plan as well.
This is awesome. Thank you for sharing. Will make my own box. 💖💖💖🙏🙏
Oh, you have family and friends! Lucky you!
Dr. Marks can you make a video on intrusive thoughts
Yes I have that on my list. I'm not sure when i will get it done though
I get a lot of intrusive thoughts as well. That's why Mindfulness along with CBT is useful. Looking forward to seeing your video on this too.
What are intrusive thoughts to you?
I had intrusive thoughts while in an emotionally abusive relationship. These included gory imagery and suicidal ideation. I never had those before until the abuse escalated. I went as far to lightly act out hanging myself. This scared me so I stopped immediate. I knew I didn’t want to die but I was at the end of my rope and desperate for relief.
I worked with a therapist and worked on getting out of the relationship. Then I realized I had childhood trauma. I worked on that for the next 3 years.
Now I’m happy and healthy and mostly healed from the childhood trauma. I have zero toxic people in my life and no longer experience intrusive thoughts or suicidal ideation.
Could you please do a video on how toxic people can affect our physical and mental health?
I love your videos. Thank you!
I have passive suicidal thoughts and frequent rummination. I just wAnt to move on with my life and look forward to my future. Stay strong everyone, too are worth it and we are all in this together.
I've had multiple attempts, and the intrusive bad thoughts scream so much louder in my head than any good thoughts that could have been in there. I have tried repeatedly to get help, and I just give up. I just can't take the pain anymore.
I think what really gets on my nerves os when you express your suicidal thoughts and people respond by saying what about friends/family, those that you will leave behind.
It's like hello??? What about me? What about the struggle of having to live everyday in emotional pain, anger, frustration? Then it appears as if u are no longer living for yourself but either existing /living / to satisfy those same people and what sense does that make. If i don't see a future and i am not happy then why am I forcing myself to stick around and live for others. I am just speaking for myself.
Every minute of every day I want to be dead. But I wont kill myself.
@Leopard-King why do I wish I was dead or why wont I kill myself
@Leopard-King depression I guess. Not sure. Life is just boring, meaningless and heart-breaking.
@@barb7124 it really sucks to hear that you're thinking about life that way..I really hope that you're thinking to see a therapist soon since I did and it makes me a lot better. Don't be hesitant, okay? Therapy can actually be really benificial. I'm sending you lots of love, support and good vibes 💜 and I really hope you'll find a great and understanding therapist. That's it for now. Take care.
Barb DeSouza then don't make it boring. Go out, meet new friends or do what you love. don't ever give up because your life is precious
I'm the same except I have a plan and WILL see it through eventually.
I know it`s not related but I apreciate so much that you speak clear and calm...I love psychology topics but some videos may be a little overwhelming sometimes trying to gather as much information as they can... Hello from Chile.
Hi and thanks for watching from Chile. i’m glad you have an interest in psychology topics and I’m glad my videos are helping to satisfy that interest.
Wales in Britain.👋
Great video and topic! Losing a wife and father to suicide I always have an appreciation to videos that bring an awareness!
Hello driven. I feel for you. I'm sorry you've had this in your life. Please take care of yourself.
so sorry for your losses. peace.
Thanks it’s a process and a lot of grieving
Gosh yes to lose two loved ones this way. I’m sorry you had to experience that.
I have active and passive suicidal thoughts, but I know I will never follow through every time I have them. Mostly I just lie in bed unable to move until the thought disappears.
crying in the club sending hugs and prayers 🤗🙏🤗
watching this tonight might be the thing that saved my life
I'm a crisis worker and this is one of the best videos I've seen on suicidal thoughts.
Wow this gave me anxiety I get all these suicidal thoughts
Can you please please PLEASE make a video about how people can manage an existential crisis/nihilistic depression?
I can never express how helpful your videos are Dr. Tracey.
I find your pragmatic approach to mental health issues very refreshing. I imagine this video is a question many of us have asked ourselves over the years. It’s comforting to understand the theory and categorization and also ways to establish a plan should someone find themselves seriously struggling. I’m more existential than active or passive suicidal. Sometimes labels help provide us with beneficial insight.
Yes labels can provide insight and insight is key. Thanks for watching.
All I wanna say is THANK YOU. You speak clearly, without judgement and filled with compassion. Thank you for helping us open up meaningful conversations around Mental Health.
I started having what I guess would be passive thoughts when I was 12. I'm 32 now and still find myself having them.
Thank you so much for this. As a mental health care provider, I really appreciate the care that you put in to disseminating important information or diagnoses, treatments, and related topics.
Thanks a lot Keith. I appreciate hearing this from a colleague
I like to think that if i can talk myself into believing im better off dead then i can talk myself into believing that im better off alive. It is litterally the same thing but it seems so much more difficult.
Thank you dr. I appreciate your straightforward informative videos. The fact that you're not trying to sell something Ed's so much value and credibility and shows your sincerity. Thank you again
You're welcome. Although I've been getting request to put this info into a book/workbook format which I just may do.
I don't want out entirely for my own sake. I self-loathe and feel that in the long run my family would be much better off w/o me.
Also, for me, cutting is simply a way to punish myself. Like when you or someone smacks you upside the head and says "how could i be so stupid". At times i become infuriated by my own actions, or inactions.
Google and Pratice Self-Compassion everyday, please.
I smoke fag after fag after fag! I starve myself stupid and pray my phisical body will one day be so weak it WILL give up on me in my sleep! I prsy wish n hope i leave this evil-live spelt backwards is evil and LIVED spelt backwards is devil! This realm is HELL
I have been on medication for a year, but my depression is not going anywhere, im feeling defeated because i really thought the medication would make me feel better
Selam Kebede
Same here. I’ve been on medication for years and I still struggle. I’m getting ready to give up
i'm 69 and have bad depression, i'm a vegan exercise and pray pray pray, and i cry alot this worlds stinks!
dominick virgilio it’s very hard I know I’m 65 can’t sleep without meds and I think that causes dark thoughts😥😥sending hugs wish we could talk
Me too I'm going to be depressed forever:(
Different anti-depressants work in different ways and just because one is useless doesn't mean there isn't another one that could work for you. Plus, the pills are more effective if you are also getting therapy. A lot of therapists are doing video or phone therapy because of the pandemic.
I really dislike the trend in educational videos that they are all about helping yourself. Also address others to help the ones in need.
To those who are not depressed: Be a true friend and be open to new friendships, enjoy your fellow Man's companionship and help them in need.
Somedays my cat is the most important thing in my life to keep up.
This was realy helpfull. I'm gonna try to get a professional again.
Good I’m glad it was helpful. Best wishes to you
Not to be mean, but if the only thing of value in your life is your cat, then you have a pretty pathetic existence. Here is the problem of "safety planning" and "suicide prevention" -- it's clinging to temporary, contingent factors. You might be forced to give up your cat and not be able to get a new one, your cat may (or rather, will) die. Here in NYC, people give up cats as often as they are forced to give up apartment furniture.
@@lilawrence91 temporary factors help us get trough temporary suicide feelings. Thats why they work sometimes.
Once we are able to reach for help we do it.
And its ok to be clingy to temporary thing if thats what keeps you alive.
My cat was the only thing that made me happy,but he sadly died a few months ago.
+Toaster Witch I'm in the same situation. My cat was my source of purpose and happiness. Now he is gone I feel like everyday is a struggle :(
Amy's question is chilling.
Excellent list of steps and truth about the collateral damage suicide causes.
Thanks for tackling this, Tracey!
Tour hair is really gorgeous- I'm a brazilian psychiatrist and I love tour videos.
Thank you very much. It’s good to hear from a colleague. Thanks for watching from Brazil best wishes with your work.
Thank you. You make difference.
Very thoughtful of you talking about suicide and you are admiring her hair and you are a psychiatrist,
Thank you so much for this very clear and precise answer ! I really like how you describe facts without being overdramatic or in the contrary playing it down: they're just facts. Thank you !
You’re welcome. Yes you’re absolutely right there just facts. thanks for noticing that.
I have a hard time soothing myself. I don't find anything pleasurable anymore. I am always in fear something awful is going to happen.
I’m sorry Cathi. I hope you can get some help with that. You can start with a therapist.
@@DrTraceyMarks can you do a video on hypersexuality and sexual deviance related to mental illness and the difference between the two. Thank you 😊
Did not realize that my thoughts were so active, my doctor asked and I told him passive without understanding. I'll let him know, thank you for this video!
This was really helpful! Thank you for your time and effort Tracey :)
You’re welcome. I’m so glad it was helpful 😊
Dr. Tracey Marks thank you for this video. I really needed to hear this. Especially, at these most difficult times.
“No shoes on the beach” 😂 OMG thank you for including that funny little thing! I needed that giggle so badly
She knows EXACTLY what im goin thru...thankies for this.
You’re welcome
I just can’t take this pain anymore. I’ve reached out to professionals, I’ve been told it’s illegal to commit suicide. Suicide hotline even sent the police!
I truly can’t think of any other way to end the pain
Bro, I can understand you. Same goes to me here. I love my family. But in return, they just treat me like as I did not exist. The pain is killing me
Hey man Jesus loves you so much, you’re life is so valuable to him, he gave his life for yours. Reach out to him and he can save you. You literally have nothing to lose! I promise this will be the best thing you ever do
Sometimes I get really down and feel like a burden and think about how my family will be better off without me. But then I talk myself out of it because my life is so easy compared to others suffering. Even though I have low self esteem I will keep living on and trying my best.
Thank you Dr. Marks, it was actually relaxing listening to you.
Thanks Denzel. 😊
I hate when I feel suicidal. I remember I blacked out once and when I came back I was already bleeding and my arm was cut open. I called an old friend to help me close it (family in the medical field) and I promised that no matter how hard life gets I would do anything in my power to fight that “ empty” feeling. I recently had surgery I lost my baby... I felt that empty feeling and quickly dialed the suicide hotline and I cried and cried and cried. I’m grateful they were there. I have a therapist who is awesome and I just got another :) I’m excited and hopeful. Life is hard but we have to keep going!
Keep going gurll :)
I've recently started watching psych related videos in an effort to gain a better understanding of myself. I'm glad i found your site b/c so far you give the most to the point explanations of what my issues seem to be, so, thank you.
You having made this video is the only help that I have, my environment and family are like kryptonite to me, I feel uncomfortable almost all the time and no one is safe for me to share anything with, because once you've shared they think you're weak or a target for manipulation.
Yep , I’ve reached out to those who I thought would care but it’s now official, I’m on my own .
What if you have no friends or family that cares about you?
Your worth is not determined by who can love you or not, you can build new relationships to help you cope, ultimately though it is in your efforts to take care of yourself, other people will give you a boost but it is not the answer, otherwise you will depend on them and there's a major pressure into living only for others and not yourself.
I suggest Cognitive Behavioural Therapy methods to start a journey of introspection to make it so you rewire your critical thinking, which I assume makes decisions out of hatred towards yourself, CBT makes it so you slowly learn how to love yourself through critical thinking and, unless there's other conditions that you aren't unaware of affecting it, your emotions will catch up to finally love yourself.
Best of luck, you are not alone and if you are right now you won't be forever, there's so many people out there and believe me when I say that there's a found family and friends for everyone.
Skill issue
Thank you so much for expanding on this topic, I'm going to make my safety plan right now!
Excellent. Glad to hear this. 👍🏼😊
Thanks for making these videos. I just discovered them. They are very helpful and I will be watching as many as I can. Family is the number 1 reason to remain here. You are correct that it is like a nuclear bomb. My cousin's spouse did it with a subway train and it has lasting effects especially to her children. Purpose of being here is for the family. Nothing else really matters in the end. I'm an atheist as well as everyone in my immediate family and we know that there isn't anything after this life. Thanks again.
Thank you so much for making this video I can explain how much You have just changed my mind about a lot of things that I have already planned out And did a lot more steps by writing letters to my love ones for the next couple of years. I don't have a lot of Support I have kids. Thank you so much for taking the time to make this video
Great video Dr. Marks! The distinction between active and passive thoughts is really helpful.
You’re welcome 😊
I really appreciate your work on this platform.
I am just starting my life, but I hope someday I can become a psychiatrist and help people just like you. You are my biggest inspiration on this field 😉👍.
Thank you so much...
thank you so much for this, it really helps me a lot right now
I like to distract myself by driving over 100 mph on the highway and running red lights. I do that pretty much every day. Can’t think about death if I’m too busy trying not to crash.
This was so helpful. I’ve been feeling like I don’t want to be here anymore but I have no intention and have cut in the past but always felt like it was a bit extreme to say I was suicidal.
Kween! Dr. Marks thank you so much for all you do! 💙💙💙
Considering all the mass killings, drug addiction, and other addictions, it is easy to see our society is in MENTAL PAIN. I think we talk about having access to health care for all Americans, how bout access to MENTAL HEALTH CARE? Maybe then we could get to the root of people’s pain, and end all the afore mentioned illnesses and STOP SUICIDES. Thank you, I appreciate your services.
Thank you Ruth 😊
Elisa Castro I said access not free. Most insurance plans cover mental health care SEPARATELY. I have Blue Cross Blue Shield at my job but our mental health care is not covered through them, we have FREE mental health care up to so many sessions then you submit forms to re qualify for this service or pay out of pocket. I will say in closing, I am only discussing this country because that’s what my data is based on and I live in AMERICA!!!! And anytime ANY MONEY IS SPENT on any kind of health I believe it benefits the individual and society as a whole,my opinion. Much more is gained in preventing a crisis than waiting for the bombs to drop and cleaning afterwards. Have a blessed day
Hi Dr Marks, really love your content, thankyou so much for the great work! Was wondering if you would be doing any more videos on adhd, in particular adult adhd that has been misdiagnosed as depression and anxiety
My safety plan:listening to worship music sometimes some lyrics are just for your situation and you feel you’re not alone and he saves you from others or even from you yourself.remembering what things God has brought me out of,thinking about what caused that thought and if it’s related to my own deeds I stop doing it and if it’s related to others I stay away from them.and sometimes based on my situation if I can’t stay away from them I still keep listening to my worship music.❤️
That sounds like a great plan.
This is a really important video, thank you.
You’re welcome Monika 😊
Where I live, if you tell a doctor you have a plan, you must be committed. It keeps me from getting help bc I can't afford to miss work.
Totally
Excellent video Dr. Marks, on a very important topic. Because of the nature of my profession I’ve known a number of people that have committed suicide. I know in many cases it is an impulsive action taken when everything looks hopeless. I’m sure this video will help people that are at this place of hopelessness to have a plan to get past that moment when the impulse is strong. 👍❤️
Thanks a lot Mark. You’re right the impulsiveness was such a driving force and if we can have anything that makes people pause and thimk, it's a step in the right direction
Thank you! I just needed to hear something/anything..
You’re welcome. I’m glad you were able to watch this.
The book "30 Days to Overcome Suicidal Thoughts" by Harper Daniels should be shared with all. Share it online for suicide awareness. You can save someone's life.
Oh my goodness Dr Tracey this is a valued video. I recently had theses thoughts. But to get clarification about this in more depth it has bought light to my situation. I have a plane just like the one you described. I had to figure out what is the problem I have a lot of changes going on on my life. I retired from one job. I have three years in to retirement for the other one. My aging years. I hire a professional organizer to get rid of my years and years of clutter and focus on this as part of my plan to sustain a better life for myself. Without going into too much more details I found this was a trigger and it was hard letting go of my stuff. But as time do pass I know it will all get better And by sharing my crisis in a general way to my only child and two of my close friends and team support. This has help me be honest with my self and know I am not alone. This is common with a lot of my circle of friends and colleagues. So I choose to not to remain silent. Because when I do I don’t get the help that I need when I do. We don’t have to suffer in silence. I am worthy.
Good for you. I’m so glad you have support around you. I think people don’t always realize how supportive people are willing to be if you just make them aware of what's going on
Thank you for these videos, it shows that you care about us 💖
You’re welcome Alicia. And I do care 😊
I'm dark all the time all the way , my mind and my heart are just dark, to dark for someone to even care about it
Great video Dr. Marks! Anyone out there who is "waiting for the right time", please get help. No matter how alone you think that you are, someone will grieve for you. Someone else loves you! And if you just can't find them know that GOD loves you!!! Maybe a pet will help you too. Something to care for, and they are not going to judge you. GOD be with you
Thanks Tom for the encouragement.
My family would be happy if I killed myself. They don’t understand depression And I’m sure they think I’m a pain in the ass. So I continue to struggle every day I have a few friends who I can turn to, but it’s not the same as your family. I hate my family so much
I just don't want the pain every day.
Thank you for this video. It's really good stuctured. And helps to refresh important points of information. Very well done! ❤❤❤
Dr. Marks, Ive been in therapy for chronic health anxiety. I’m having existential thoughts coming out the blue, I’ll be in the middle of let’s say Cooking dinner then I will have these thoughts like what is this room I am, why I am here?like I’ve been in some time machine and transplanted into a different world. Is this normal with anxiety, I suffer from the disassociation with my anxiety.
Side note: I appreciate what you do so much! I have a heart for those who are suffering Like I am. It takes a special person to do what you do. Thank you 🙏🏻
Yes Sasha I would say that’s probably an extension of your health anxiety. It’s not about health but it’s got that same degree of worry. it’s like a variant of your health anxiety. also with anxiety you can get the realization and feeling as though you’re in a different reality. In case you haven’t seen and I did video on the personalization and the realization th-cam.com/video/umAgSGTGr8M/w-d-xo.html
Thank You for a great video. That information is so needed, it's always great to see awareness. It did clear up some things for me, so... I guess I should go make that plan.
I’m glad it cleared some things up. I really wasn’t sure what people would think of this, whether it be too taboo Or make them uncomfortable. It’s easy for me to take for granted that people know things. passive versus active versus existential was something I assumed people knew. So I’m glad I got a chance to enlighten people.
Thank you for making this on my bday. I have an existential crisis each yr on this day. I know it's coming and try to prepare but I still struggle. I have used many of those methods mentioned in video in the past, it helps.
Oh that’s great to know that it’s helpful. Happy birthday. I hope you had a great day. 🎂
My family doesn’t believe in depression! My moms response is “Get over it, you just need to snap out of it” or you’re being selfish! Very aggravating
Amanda Davis
Your mom is an ignorant, stupid bi***. I’m sorry Amanda you look like a sweet lady
Family members and friends who don’t understand also don’t realize the damage they do with those kinds of comments.
Dr. Tracey Marks you are absolutely correct! It’s very hurtful!
Amanda Davis yes same here
i have depression i'm 69 and my 2 brothers have it runs in my family my father had i pray all the time!
Thank you so much, this enlightened me a lot. 🤍
Am 77, a vet diagnosed with PTSD, several potentially life threatening conditions, and major mobility problems due to arthritis and injuries. I am in the VA system but it is falling apart because of funding shortages and COVID. Wife is perpetually yelling and screaming at me and has made implied threats to do harm to me because of mostly imagined infidelity. Son is obsessed with guns and shooting and seems to be mad at me at times - he is forty, living at home, and refuses to leave. Whether either will actually harm me is unclear. I am just worn out fighting my medical conditions and trying to keep my head above water. There isn't much joy in my life. So I have to wonder if it is all worth it.
It is difficult man
this is excellent video Doctor tracy. thanks lot and this can help lot off poeple with with active or passive suicidal tought. i am going to print this formula thanks lot again keep up good work
you’re welcome Moraccan man. Thank you
You are great. I'm glad I found your videos.
I'm a South African, and the suicide hotlines here aren't useful at all. The social workers usually refer callers to another hotline, and the same process happens again when calling the number they referred you to. Eventually, the caller gets told that they can't speak to a psychologist, because you need an official letter from a doctor stating that you have chronic depression. Then when you do go to a doctor to explain your situation, the doctor says that getting an official letter is not necessary and refers you back to the same hotline that didn't assist you. It is pretty disappointing to see that mental health is not taken seriously unless if money is involved, and I wish it could change. I hope things aren't like this in other countries too.
This made me realize that my 'passive' suicidal thoughts are actually active a lot. 😬
A man was struggling with a rather large stone. I knew he was tired and in desperate need of aid. He struggled against it's weight while trying to shuffle along, almost dropping it with every step. He seemed to be trying to reach deep down inside for the strength to carry on, but seemed to be failing. I decided I would be that strength he needed and offered to carry it for him. When he didn't respond I grabbed hold of the stone anyway. Being to weak to fight back, he relented and we walked along the path. I asked him where we were going and he said, "I've got a boat to sail, but I needed an anchor." Satisfied by this and sensing he was too weak for conversation I merely followed along. It was easy for me to carry this stone. It wasn't light, but I could handle it with ease. The worrys of the world couldn't slow me down.
We got to the boat and it was beautiful. It was the most beautiful old sailboat I could imagine. It had two masts that looked like airplane wings and three different hulls. I had never seen a ship so unique. I told him it was a fantastic craft and while taking the stone offered me to stay and sail her. I leapt at the chance and climbed on board. He let me get her ready as he sat upon the center bow, securing his anchor chain to the stone. It couldn't have been easy, but he got it done. We soon had her free from the dock and we on our way to the open water. She was a beautiful craft to sail for sure. Everything about her was fantastic. She was as good as I could imagine a sailboat should be. And she was fast, oh was she fast. She could sail three times the speed of the wind and she sailed so smooth. I was so caught up in the sailing that I'd almost forgotten the man. He was sitting quietly, not saying a word and not looking around. He didn't seem to feel the wind nor the spray of the waves splashing off the bows. Concerned, I asked him if he was ok.
The boat stopped. It stopped so suddenly when he turned the wheel that I almost forgot we were sailing. It didn't halt on a dime sure, but it slowed down faster than fast. I was dumbfounded. I had sailed before and never experienced that. Those wingsails turned sideways were amazing. Still in a daze I hadn't really noticed him move back up to the center bow. I quickly went up, now sure something must have broken. I did feel a bit embarrased. He was struggling with the stone again and when I joined him, motioned for it to go over the side. I dropped it over and the line started dropping. We watched for what seemed like a lifetime as the line unfurled over the edge. It was whipping back and forth in the water as it disappeared into the depths. The man then spoke for only the second time and his words I'll take to my grave. "I got it now"
It was then I noticed the line from the stone led back to his legs. Some things in life happen so quickly that you almost only observe them. I observed his feet pulled out from under him but couldn't support his upper body. He slammed against the deck backwards and whipped out from the rails and into the sea. The water was cold and unforgiving as I sank beneath the surface.
I once knew a man with a stone, who needed the strength from within.
What is it considered when you have passive suicidal thoughts but you know you won't kill yourself any time soon, but you already have a plan if it gets so bad you can't escape any other way?
I know exactly how I'll want it to go, when exactly and what I'll do before. But at the moment I can still drag myself through it all.
Same
This video is amazing! It’s hard to get care above depression pills. This video is fantastic!
thank you so much for this video. i’m not in such a great place and it means a lot
You’re welcome Marissa. I hope you rise to the top soon.
Have been having these thoughts ever since early teens, but the only thing that actually pushed me over the edge and made me try was when a boy or man would leave me... First time my mother found me on the kitchen floor, I was a teen and a boyfriend broke up with me. But now I'm 44 and my husband wants to leave me, and my mother isn't around anymore to catch me, or anyone else...
If I make it through this I deserve a golden medal
Idk if it could help but you’re worth isn’t defined with whom is by your side …only and ,mostly Allah matters
Hi Dr. Tracey! I am a big fan of your channel and your work has helped me so much along with my therapy and psychiatrist. This particular video was really enlightening and I was wondering if it would be ok for me to translate the Suicide Safety Plan to my mother tongue of portuguese, so I can share it with a friend who was been struggling a lot these past weeks. Thanks in advance, keep up the amazing content!
Thank you. This is a high risk time of year for ideators and suicidal thinkers. I appreciate you sharing this valuable content about making a safety plan. May I share this video on suicide prevention social media pages I volunteer on?
This made me feel worse, don't get me wrong the video is great but i realized as it said forming a plan that i have no one, no family or friends and that i don,'t have a reason at all to live i feel empty; no reason to live but because the few others want me to live. It's exhausting, it's s3lfish for others to expect you to live just for them while you suffer daily.
Flux it agree 😪😪
A few years ago, something inside me snapped. I haven't felt normal since winter of 2019. I used to be a high energy, super productive person. It seems that all my drive to work went first. I started questioning the point of it all. I have fallen so far behind on my responsibilities. At first it was when I tried to sit down and begin working on the stuff I'm behind on. Now I have invasive suicidal ideation for no apparent reason while I'm driving down the road. Dont even know what to do. I've tried to talk to my mom and wife about it but I don't want to burden them anymore. I'm trying to stay strong for my kids and pull myself through whatever this is that's happening to me.
I had thoughts of dying before and even almost tried one day but stopped myself. One thing that stops me is a story and characters I built in my head. My character's stories and entire beings will die if I die and they will be forgotten. recently though I have been trying to write and draw as much as I can of them because I keep itching to end it all. My mom doesn't believe in mental health and says god will take away sadness but I don't believe in god. She also constantly causes me to shut down and feel like I won't add anything to this world. I want to talk to my friends but she constantly wants to read my conversations and know what we talk about to the point I can't be overly comfortable with them. I don't trust my brother and doesn't understand me, I at least have my dad but sometimes he sides with my mom. Sorry for ranting I just want to write this out somewhere : |
I will share this with my therapist! And get a safety plan started
Excellent Morgan. I'm glad to hear. All the best 😊
Great advice Dr. Marks.
Thank you 😊
Really good Dr Tracey thank you
You’re welcome Claire, thank you
I have taken an interview training 2 years ago, he has spent some 3 hours alone with me, trying to motivate me, in these chattings, he asked me one question, how many times did you thought of suicide, and I have answered always..., then he asked me why I am not trying for that, I told him, that I have to go to hell if I do that, so I am not doing that. Now I am an atheist, do I want to suicide, I don't know now. Some times I believe I don't have a future and some times I think, there are still a lot of beautiful things around us that can keep us happy. The toughest times are when I am having panic attacks. But somehow I am able to keep away from these thoughts in these days.
MUHAMED SHAHID P M I’m praying you’ll have all you need to find true peace & love. 🙏🏻💕
My parents really didn't give a crap if I killed myself. My father told me that I wasn't allowed to talk about the abuse. When I told him that I would end of killing myself if I didn't talk about what happened to me, he told me that I had dilemma. When I told my sister that I was suicidal and needed her to stop abusing me, she didn't believe me. When I told my mom that I was suicidal, she sounded bored.
I almost succeeded twice. I've tried many times. I've come close to making attempts more times than I can remember. An alternate identity would often take charge of my body dispose of the substances that I intended to kill myself with. I didn't know that I had DID, at the time and I think it saved my life. I didn't reach out to my friends, because I thought that if the family members who reached out to, didn't care, that my friends wouldn't.
It was the most destructive identity that I have that got me out of this. She was suicidal, but she didn't want to be murdered by my husband. I was in denial about the fact that he was an extreme danger to me, but she wouldn't let me ignore it. She is the one that called a domestic violence shelter, when my husband was out of town. She is the one who called the cab to take me to meet the advocate who took me to the shelter. It was a male identity that grabbed weapons for the cab ride, in case my husband came from early and caught me leaving.
I transferred to a confidential domestic violence shelter, far away from him and my family to make myself safe. I finally have hope. From a distance, I could see my parents for who they were and I decided that I am worth more than that. I still don't know what is getting me through this, but I faced with the possibility of being shot by the man who I was married to, made me want to live. I went to a lot of trouble to save my life and I couldn't end it, now.
I cut off contact with everyone I ever knew and moved to an area that was completely unfamiliar to me. I have 13 personalities who give me unconditional love and support that was absent from most people around me, most of life, who I am responsible for. I have to take care of them. I was told that I would always be dependent on some one other than myself to survive, when in reality, I have had to depend on myself for survival from a young and can do it better, now that I am an adult. For the first time in 43 years, I am in charge of my life and nobody is going to take that away from me.
I have a diagnosis of, DID, autism, bipolar disorder and complex PTSD, and I have kept myself fed, reached all the goals that I arrived in this city with. I found housing, in a city that is in a housing crisis, without any help from the people who said that I was not competent enough to do this, without them.
They were wrong. I am not defective. I am not broken. I am not helpless. I am not unlikable. My father was wrong. When I tell people about the abuse, they believe me and a lot of people are not rejecting me. Being different, doesn't make defective.
I have a great therapist and better medical care than I've ever had. Recovery from years of trauma will take a long time, but I have a good life to start living.
It's definitely important to talk about the abuse. Use your therapy and any support groups you can find.
Hey, how are you doing now?
@@lv9265 I've been free from my family for a few years and I feel safe to talk about the abuse with out worrying about my father finding out and getting angry with me. I haven't had the urge to harm myself since 2019. Thank you 💚
Thanks! Very helpful information.
You’re welcome Donna
Hi, I love watching your videos! Thank you for all the Infos! by the way, can I suggest that you do a video that discusses the distinctions between grief & complicated grief vs depression? how to differentiate between those and when to get help? can grieve leads to depression? what about situational depression? I hope you can take my suggestion into consideration. Thank you so much, Dr!