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I am 72 and still am trying to catch up. I am learning to accept that I will never be caught up. It is no big deal because most of that feeling is being driven by how I want people to see me. I have to start thinking about I feel. Even now I am a work in progress. Have a peaceful day.
I’m 46 and am astounded at the double life fakery in social media. I respect honesty in life. You balance beauty with honesty and heartache pretty darn well. I also have a good life but the older I get the less I give a sh.. about what people think of me. Great video BTW❤️
David Wear, I agree. The deal is….you’ll never figure it out so quit trying. The other thing is… you’ll grow out of giving a shit or feeling the need to figure it out. The recipe for peace and happiness for me has been just living long enough to allow life to unfold
I don't think it's "double life fakery". It's just people posting what they're comfortable with and what makes them happy and what they think others would like to see. Just because they don't post the bad days doesn't mean they're fake, just means they aren't comfortable sharing it with you and everyone else. And they don't owe it to you either. They don't know you and don't owe you personal stuff. They also use social media to pay their bills, it's their jobs, its not always appropriate to share those things. They have to stay within certain lines to keep paying those bills, just like anyone else when at their job. The only difference is their job is far less consistent in earnings then 9-5. You may be taking things too personally and may be feeling more entitled then you should from people on social media and TH-cam.
I can relate to this so so well... I'm turning 31 this summer and I have been struggling a lot with feeling behind in life, to the point where I thought something is wrong with me. I don't have a job or any savings, no partner, kids etc like a lot of people my age, and up until recently I was so lost, not knowing what I want to do with my life. I am only starting my path now and still have a lot ahead of me, and I still feel behind at times. But what helps me is to realise that all these expectations we also have in our own thoughts, have their source in our society and other people. We are constantly flooded with how things should be at a certain age or time and people suggesting us what to do. If we take that all away and just "be", we would not feel that way I think. Not too long ago someone told me something that really changed my view on this. This person said, I may feel behind in life, but actually, I am ahead of a lot of other people. Because I have found my path and I have found myself, I have learned so much about myself in the past months and gained clarity. This is so valuable and a lot of people my age DON'T have that. Our society tends to only look at materialistic achievements, things that can be shown to others, and compare with that. But the work that has been done on the inside is equally important! I hope this helps anyone who is reading my comment! 🤗❤
I will be 60 in a couple of months & I have the same feelings. I think as a humans we set expectations on ourselves that don’t really resonate with who we really are. Kalle thank you for being so real & honest. This was a message that I needed to hear today. Remember that you are good enough !!! 😀
I'm 33 and often feel like this, too. My life is rather unconventional, I guess. Learnt a job, studied, quit several 9-5 jobs, spent years abroad working different kinds of jobs, now I'm self-employed which comes with its own challenges... Sometimes I'm like "wtf am I even doing with my life" when I look at others. But then - I did everything I wanted to do so far. I might not have a big career or anything but damn - I have some stories to tell! I know if I die, I'm gonna die in peace, knowing I left my comfort zone 1000 times and didn't settle for less than what makes me happy. Often we're too hard on ourselves. I know a lot of people probably envy me for my life and all the experiences I made. The grass always looks greener on the other side. Often I try to remind myself that nothing really matters. I mean: We're floating around on a little blue planet in the universe, our life is so short, our problems are so small - who actually cares what we do with our lives (if we don't hurt others)?
Love it ... two things to tell you 1. More money in life just buys you a better class of miserableness 2. Write you own path in life as you only get one chance. Be happy and keep sharing the love x
"At some point when you create yourself... To make it you're going to have to either let that creation go and take a chance on being loved or hated for who you really are. Or you're going to have to kill who you really are and fall into your grave grasping onto a chracter that you never were". ~ Jim Carrey Be yourself, accept yourself to be enough - because you are. For yourself and for those around you. Very important topic. Thank you for your honesty 💕🙏🏼
I understand these feelings. I am a 54 year old woman living in rural USA (the State of Pennsylvania). I am a university professor teaching visual art. At the age of 40 I learned how to play the violin (and read music). A year ago I started a journey to learn clinical herbalism. I thought it would help me age well. For the rest of my life I will be outside in nature leaning from the plants. What a perfect way to complete one's life. What I've discovered is that no one really cares what you do with your life expect you. We have an entire lifetime to do the things we love. There is no rush. If you consider yourself to be an inquisitive person, then you are lucky. Most people in this world are not, thus they are bored with themselves. But you will never be bored with your life. Your child will see that you know how you move forward in life, and that you are always interested in taking on new projects, and learning new things. May everything you touch in this world turn to gold !
I'll be turning 33 this winter, and I can't tell you how much I relate. For the past 6 years I've been working as a self-employed and freelance artist and illustrator, and while I feel rich in experience, my savings haven't really increased and my health is calling for a change. I find myself walking into the unknown once again, and the 'should's' I eradicated from my vocabulary long ago come creeping back in. Telling me I 'should' have things more figured out and own a house by now. I can't really conceive how that could be possible at the moment - your story is inspiring, to say the least. I realize, anything is possible if you believe, take the leap and work towards it. But also, how we measure our happiness and sense of fulfilment or success is entirely up to ourselves. Thank you for sharing.
I'm 24 right now and I get caught up thinking this way too. Everyone tells me "you have your whole life ahead of you" and its so true, but sometimes it doesnt feel like I'm doing enough. But now I'm going to Hawaii for 3 months this summer to work on a farm and get my hands in the land, grow my own food, build things, and tap in with nature, which I know is one of my purposes. I know this will teach me so much going forward with the rest of my life and I'm thankful to not have waited for so many years to grasp this opportunity!
@@gregoryowain2073 phenomenal. Long story short, worked on 2 farms and I got to live in Hawaii for free in exchange for working on someone’s land. It showed me a whole new way of life and it inspired me to do van life back on the mainland, which is what Im doing now!
@@nicktheavatar_ That is amazing. I'm glad it all worked out well and you found a way to continue the adventure! Definitely much more exciting than just staying at home!
@@gregoryowain2073 absolutely! Thanks for asking btw. I plan on working this summer at Denali National Park and then going back to Hawaii later this year to live there. And I think I might go to Puerto Rico for a month before I go to Hawaii! Right now I’m just focused on making money so I can afford those trips 😊 we gotta use the system to our advantage so we can explore and do amazing things!
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Something to consider: -do you live in front of the camera or behind the camera? -do others lives in front of your camera or behind your camera? -what about staying together on the same side of the camera? -what about removing the camera completely from the picture? -do you see the picture?
"I don't have to believe everything that pops into my head"... perfect! As a sensitive over thinker, this is a great phrase I will say to myself to get me through the hard events/interactions. I appreciate you sharing your perspectives, this is a timely message. Be blessed with joy Kalle.
I’m about to turn 45 and I know exactly how you feel. I feel like this every day and every day I remind myself that I am enough. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this with us.
Thank you Kalle. This is a much needed conversation. I'll be 60 in a couple of months and definitely feel like I have to make up for lost time. But then I ask "who says?" You're an inspiration to me to keep doing what I'm attempting in going for a music career. Thank you for all you do. You're enough m' dear. Big hugs from the Pacific Northwest.
I also have this feeling all the time...As I thought, five years ago, that by 30 I would finally own a land to grow my own food on, a little home on that land and a baby... I have accomplished none of those things, and mostly due to the lockdowns in these past years (I lost my jobs, my apartment, my partner lost his job too ) and now we are struggling so much, saving pennies and I keep seeing it impossible to even have our home this year, and I'm about to turn 31...I gave it a huge cry a couple of nights ago and I can't sleep lately and therefore my health is going down...I have mouth ulcers all the time (I mean it) and stomach aches, and I lost a lot of hair....I need to get out of this zone before I get a serious disease...So...Thank you, Kalle, I needed to hear this!
I just turned 67 I am retired I also feel so lost in Life actually I feel abandoned by my Adult children is is heartbreaking 💔 I not seen my grandchildren in going on four years I have five grandchildren I not seen even one of them.I am a retired Registered Nurse but that’s not who I am now I am so confused about this world we are living in I am awake and aware my adult children have their head in the sand I am called a Conspiracist because I know what is going on politically so I am a outcast actually I’ve never ever fit in being born a healer and deeply spiritually aware.I been deeply depressed and alone in a extremely rural area. Thank You for sharing your feeling Kalle
Kalle, I'm currently 34 with husband and 6 year old twins. Totally agree with you. There's expectations from society ( everybody who points at you, if you fail in something) the only way is to ignore those voices and enjoy little joys in life. 😉
Dear Kalle, I feel you so much you don't even know. The feeling of not being good enough in a society where we tend to constantly compare ourselves to others. Thank you so much for showing yourself so vulnerable. This is what the world needs. Role Models like you who show themselves honestly speaking their truth. No one is good enough and that's okay. What is even good enough?! .... This is what real masculinity looks like. Thank you so much ❤
ALWAYS REMEMBER PLEASE. YOU ARE ENOUGH. I have lived 59yrs & worked so very hard to make everyone but myself happy. Finally figuring out what I did wrong. I never thought about what makes me happy. These things are always on our minds,success?, wealth, happiness. You are amazing and living a challenging wonderful life. Thank you for sharing your life. Have a blessed week 💖 🌟
Dear Kalle, you have everything in order to make it ! You're a great singer, photograph, filmaker, come on ! Don't be too hard on you. Step by step, day by day. God bless.
@@KalleFlodin In this planet, everybody struggles Kalle, it's a very low, dense vibrational planet, but keep your faith and courage, we're all in the same boat ! :)) Praying for you and Christina, all is well. Let it go, don't try to please everyone, it's impossible. Do what is right for you.
Tack för att du delade dina känslor på det här sättet. Jag tänker att vi människor är våra värsta slavdrivare själva. Vi har tankar om hur vi måste prestera för att bli lyckliga och där föds stressen. Istället för att kunna känna tacksamhet för vår frihet att kunna leva som skapare av våra liv och låta inspirationen guida oss.
This is a tough thing for me to swallow as well, and it's something I've been thinking about more as I am about to turn 30 in a few months time. There's just that something about not being in my 20s anymore, thinking that life gets more serious from here on out and that I've got to 'get it sorted'. But it's not like everyone else is leading completely happy and fulfilled lives, despite appearances online or offline. I think the good thing is that even though I've made a lot of mistakes in my 20s, and squandered many good opportunities, I have learned from them. I'm definitely a better and happier person now than I was when I turned 20 and I'm sure it'll be the same again when I turn 40. Just gotta keep faith through the difficult times in life.
I relate to what you describe so much - your fear, the pressure coming from the outside, the feeling of "I have to do more to feel worthy'. I'm 36 and also feel I should have things together, still figuring it out. Thanks for sharing, all the best
I think you are describing what many struggle with - you are one of few that are open and communicate your feelings - because it is about feelings - they do not disappear when you move away somewhere. So much is flooding all over us about what life is not...all the time...
Thank you Kalle. I am also 46 years and you just spoke out loud my inner voice, which is rambling all day long. I thank you for your honesty and inspiration.
We live in a society that basically wants us to feel behind and inadequate cause that's what drives the economy. We always get told we should work more or get a "better" job so we can buy more stuff we don't need to impress people we don't know. No matter where you are in life there is always someone who seems "ahead" of you, more "succesful" and what not, but only you can define what success means to you.
Kalle. All I can say is that you are honest and doing your best you can. Happiness can’t exist without feeling sad or having struggles. It’s the flow of life we have to deal with. Acknowledging your emotions is everything you can do and sit with it. Answers will come.
Great subject! I’m a women of 52 and i understand everything you said. You are a boy of this( cultural ) age and we all are in a sort of brainwashed life. It's normal to feel what you feel at this moment and for you it's even more normal to feel this inner doubt and stress because you don’t live a conventional life. You know what is going on in your mind and you can put it into words very well and you will see you will get rid of this feeling but it takes time , a lot . I wanted say to you that you should not forget your biology . What i mean is that , because you have chosen a different life, quite wild, physically demanding , you are responsible for everything yourself. You are a young man and that means you are driven to survive and provide and you make a lot of stress hormones for that. Life in the city also gives stress , but so does the life you lead. Your hormones can contribute to the feeling of restlessness , it is a lot you want from yourself and your body responds to it. Testosteron, adrenaline , cortisol makes you powerful but also restless. If they lower you feel much more at ease and won’t compare anymore or less. Meditation and food can help . Thinking and reading also but your hormones play the front role and they fool you .
This video is quite an eyeopener actually. I think everyone here will agree that you live in a place most of us dream about. But hearing you say that you sometimes feel behind in life too, makes me think. No matter what we achieve in life or happens, we directly think about our next step. In some ways we are our own worst enemy sometimes. Altough it is good that we always want to improve ourselves or the life around us, we have already improved so much. We are already enough. You are enough. Thank you for this video, always a pleasure ❤
I’m 18. I dropped out of college and now I’m having a break from burnout. I’m just struggling on what my next step is. I don’t want to settle on a crap job. I’m autistic and I really struggle with doing a 9-5 structure. I wanted to go to university but I’m thinking now that it isn’t the best thing for me now. I think it’s important to remember that life isn’t a race. Try to be happy in the moment and search for the good things.
It's hard not to listen to the external influences that constantly push to accomplish more and more, and this in turn influences our inner monolog which sets up these ideas of what we should have achieved by a certain age. It's a lie. We accomplish what we need to at the time we're meant to. I'm turning 50 in a few months and I struggle with this as I see much younger friends or colleagues achieving certain things when I haven't. But comparison is not the answer. I'm an artist and I will continue to work towards how I want to live my life and I am learning to accept that my art will resonate with those who need it in their own time. You are not behind, Kalle. And you are permitted to take as much time as you need. There will always be those who will be unhappy with your choices, but ultimately, you need to live for you. Then you can be there for your family and friends. Sending love to you and Christine. ❤
Everyone who does this shows the good times and never the struggles. Just be you and don’t worry about what people think. You have to be happy with yourself and you are young enough to figure things out. No one is happy all the time. That is impossible. I’m 76 years old and I have times I wonder what I have accomplished. Continue to be the best person you can be and treating people the way you want to be treated. Don’t worry how other people think or do.
Thank you this feels so encouraging. I am trying to grow my TH-cam and I feel behind on working on it. I am rebuilding my life and I am so grateful to have everything I have but I needed to hear your voice today. Thank you
I’m right there with you! I work full time, take care of my elderly mother, and am trying to get my TH-cam off the ground. It’s overwhelming at times. This is such a wonderful channel Kalle - love what you are doing. You are helping so many of us with the same sort of questions and worries.
My teenage daughter once told me "I reject your reality and replace it with my own" If you are doing the best that you can how could you be "behind"? Don't forget to look back at what you've accomplished. I tended to just move on to the next thing on my list, until I started keeping track.
I actually just talked with my mum about this topic today. I recently quit studying and am now starting to work as a flight attendant. I‘m only twenty years old but people now are already asking about whatvI‘m going to do after working as a flight attendant. I guess a lot of people where proud that I landed at one of the best universities in the world (ETH Zurich) and did pretty well there and now think that I‘m wasting my potential and life. But I only know what I wanna do right now in this moment, and that is to not study and just live my life. most people just don‘t get it, that I don‘t have a goal in life and that I can‘t answer the question of where I see myself in 10 years.
I guess I just wanna live a life where it would be okay for me if I died tomorrow. I mean of course it would be sad but I don‘t wanna live a fulfilled life in my 30s, because like you just said I probably won‘t have everything figured out then either. I don‘t know how it‘s in Sweden because it’s already different in France than here in Switzerland, but here people do everything in their 20s to have everything in their 30s. Two of my cousins, two of my neighbours and the sister of a friend all recently turned 30 and all got kids at the same time, it‘s crazy😅
I think this is a great example of how the external life is something else than the internal and does not always go together. The Ego itself will never feel complete, that is just how the Ego is build so to say. So if we listen to the Ego too much, one will never feel good or complete enough even if the external environment is your dream come true. Ego will always find something more to feel more complete. Same Ego exist in both the rich man sitting in his castle and the humble man sitting in his forrest cabin. This can come come from a deeper believe from childhood that one is only loved, if... Which all is something we all struggle with as humans on this earth I think. It is tough! Thanks a lot for sharing Kalle, this is how we can connect and come together as a unit
In the last two years my life has changed in dramatic and incredible ways. Not always easy and not always with a feeling of simple progress but it’s evolving in a beautiful way. Pursuing my life’s work and deepest passions has given me bigger dreams, ambitions, and better relationships. Watching your content has been a part of my growth and journey to actualize a similar dream. Writing cabin, artist retreat and community to continue the cycle of growth. Thanks for the inspiration friend. Your honesty is so valuable
People pleasing is a futile struggle. Know that you are enough, you are a great person, giving so much and doing so much. You don’t need to please everyone. You shouldn’t try to please everyone. Make sure you are content, your family is content. A gratitude journal is a great way to start the day. Write lists for what you want to do. Social media is a crazy territory. Keep perspective and if you need a break, take a break, we will all be here when you return! Most important thing is your health- above everything in life and that includes your mental health. Take care & be kind to yourself x
Hi Kalle! your videos have brought me so much peace since the passing of my sister last may. Even at the age of 22 i have always felt behind, and now even more and lost. Thankyou for speaking your honest thoughts, its refreshing to see someone mentioning the thing many are struggling with. Thankyou for inspiring and being peace for me < 3
Man, it is SUCH a struggle. Being enough, doing enough, trying to progress.. a constant underlaying stress. And I think it all has to do with income for me personally. Income and sustainability. Long-term stability. Which in a sense doesn’t exist in the professions we’ve chosen and love. It’s a bit of a clash. But I rather deal with that stress than not “stressing”, but not enjoying life and work and passions.
I have a simple question for you: were there people in your childhood or when you grew up in teenage years that constantly told you (or maybe only gave you the feeling) that you do things not good enough, or that you yourself are not good enough? Sometimes its not obvious for example if people have a good childhood, because even the best parents if stressed and worried make mistakes. The way you describe it: the possibility that there was at least one person who said things like that over a longer period of time is very high in people who think like that.
I think you basically summed it up in the end. A few words of advice: Don't compare yourself to others, if anything, compare yourself to the person you used to be. Being a people pleaser will only make you unhappy. Do what makes you happy, the people around you will benefit from your happiness. You have accomplished so much of what you wanted, don't stop there, but do it at your own pace. Don't let money be your reason. Money is needed to survive, but happiness, health and time cannot be bought. I hope these thoughts will be of help. I enjoy your videos, each is a gift, not a given. No expectations here, just admiration. Keep on being you.
I am 52 and after a financially devastating divorce in my mid-30s (with three young children) I’ve asked those questions of myself over and over. I finally realized that, as you mentioned, I’m the only one making up the timeline in my head about what I “should have done “ and by when. If that’s true, I can change the storyline in my own head. Sure, financial and career or relationship struggles at any age can make one feel “behind”. But again, as long as you’re breathing, there’s time to change your path. And it’s YOUR path only. I think that’s a nugget to hold onto. And I think these questions will always be with you…thanks for sharing your dance with them!!
The way I like to think about it is that we need to have things to do. It's what keeps us feeling alive. We need things to not be perfect, and yet still we need to strive to make them perfect. All of this has to be done with the understanding that we can never really get to the finish line, and that we wouldn't want to even if we could.
I have been struggling with this recently, I have not been able to stop....mind is a tool, lets not be pushed around by it... everything we need is here☺️🌺
If you compare your life to others life, you will never be satisfied. Do everything what you can and if you did, simply live that life and be happy in.
👋🏼 Kalle I’m 68 and still can’t seem to catch up with my hopes and dreams. I use to think, am I dreaming to big, am I lazy, am I not smart enough, what do people really think about me? As time goes by I have realized that none of that really matters- the real question is ...am I enjoying my life with the people I love and truly care about. I have made so many mistakes in the past but I can’t go back and change any of it or take it back, but I can make better choices today. One of my favorite quotes is: Inch by inch, life’s a cinch. Yard by yard, life is hard. By John Bytheway What’s your inch today? That’s the question I ask myself each morning now. Hope you inch your way to whatever fills your heart.
Life to me is about finding happiness even through the struggles because all we can really feel and experience is "the now." Nice video ...I sent it to me 19 yr old daughter. You are going to be a great dad one day.
This was so good, Kalle! We have all heard it, “Everything is not as it seems”. But actually hearing it from the people who you think “made it” really makes you reconsider your goals and remember to enjoy the journey. Thank you for making this important video 😊 (and really nice edit btw) Hugs, Annie
Kalle I relate so much to what you said and love your honesty. I literally was observing these same thought patterns this morning as I was meditating and saw the pressure and stress it creates. It was empowering to take the power back by seeing the thoughts and not identifying with them. You are more than enough just as you are and inspire others to have the courage to live their most authentic life :)
Kalie thank you for your honesty about your life. Do enjoy your videos that you do Kalie. Take care of yourself first then you can take care of others.
Thank you for the video. I think this was a message I needed, bc I am kinda always reminded by relatives why I am behind in life in their eyes, and it gives constant stress. Yeah, being a woman without any kids and not yet married is an eyeshore in their eyes, or they just give that feeling. So, thank you again for the vid!
Im glad you did this video, its something that a lot of people struggle with, trying to feel as though you are doing "enough". Very difficult in todays world where we have access to SO much information on the internet which can easily overwhelm us. Trying to do the right thing by the planet, disadvantaged people, countries and endangered animals, fulfill our known potentials like talents and gifts and also taking the time to go deeper within ourselves and know ourselves in new ways, not to mention our partners, children and friends.. read all the good books, watch all the classic movies, documentaries and keep informed of world events, politics, humanitarian crises. Then make sure you nurture yourself, take time to smell the roses, meditate, exercise, journal.. omg its not a wonder we get overwhelmed.. I think the important thing is to be present in the moment, and be honest with yourself about how you feel, and understand what your motivations and intentions are .. we can all only do the best we can .. I still struggle with being ok with where Im at in my life, at 56 I dont feel as though I have made all the best decisions but I do know I did the best with what I knew at the time, always coming back to Love and understanding that nothing is perfect but imperfection ..keeping a balance is important in all things .. and forgiveness, for yourself and your loved ones and the people who do you wrong .. you're doing great Kalle ❤🙏
Oh yes, I understand it so much! But also I trust so much in the Universe's guidance, because even today I tried to speak with my relatives about this topic like "is it easy for you to just do nothing? Do you feel that you've done enough?" and then spontaneusly while having a coffee break I just clicked on this video - where you just continued the topic... So, my 'cracking the code' is regularly meditating to get to this moment as much as possible and... trusting the Universe. That we are all moving towards our best life and all the experiences we have are necessary and for our highest good! Thanks for your sincerity and good luck in everything! ♥
Awww Kalle! It’s okay to feel like this sometimes, I’m sure literally everyone is feeling this way at some point in life. You and Christine went through so much lately, it’s completely normal and it’s okay! It would be nice if you two got the chance to go on a mini vacation just the two of you just to get a breather and a fresh outlook on things. I hope you’re doing well! Hugs from València, Spain 🥰
Thank you Kalle for sharing this. It is soooo relatable. I'll be 54 in a few months and could tell the same things about this feeling as you did. Maybe lacks wouldn't be the same as yours - I have a bathroom - but they would be so many. What really helps me is awareness that this feeling or those thoughts are something what comes and goes. I feel this now or overthink this issue but I didn't yesterday or a day before. They are something temporary, something passing by. My reality on the other hand is so much more than fleeting feeling which comes and goes as wind or April shower rain. Knowing this I don't take those thoughts so seriously. I don't believe every thought passes by or feeling which comes and goes if they don't serve me. It also helped me to get sincere feedback from other people. Many of them have strong respect for me and value things I have accomplished in my life. And I thought: Well, my objective reality is not just what I feel and see and also not just what they see. The best feasible truth about me is probably my view and their view combined. Therefore I better not to believe tm my view only and completely. Wish you all the best. I'll support you by subscribing to your TH-cam and Instagram. You are an inspiration.
Hi Kalle. I guess there is nothing more human feeling. I feel you, for sure. I am 38 and I still do not have a clue sometimes. And you know what, it's ok. Yes, sometimes I am hard on myself. Feeling pressured. And sometimes I can laugh about it and take it day by day. It's not about what you do. Its all about who you are as a person. So thanks for being vulnerable. There is so much power in there. You are good enough! A hug from the Netherlands 🤗
52 years old, and I still don't know where I am at, at heart, I am still a kid, wanting to forget all the responsibilities of adult life, I want to be free like a kid, doing whatever I like.. part of me keeps saying "grow up Simon, stop messing about".. but in reality, I like doing what I want.. we own our own house, have zero debt, and can take time to do what I like.. Then I see everyone else around me, neighbours etc.. all racing about, hyperactive, driving backwards and forwards.. and it causes me anxiety... family and friends think I am a lazy dude.. I'm not lazy, I am very efficient with time, preparing wood for the year is done without problems, doing the renovation on the house.. this isn't lazy, but people think because I don't have a 9 to 5 job (lucky, haven't had one since the age of 18).. people think I'm a slacker.. a bum..
This video is so relevant to me right now! I'm 23 so a bit younger than you but I've been feeling the same way as you very strongly lately. I have a house on 10 acres that I bought with my partner a year ago, we just got married, we have an adorable dog. Working on paying off the mortgage slow and steady. But it does just feel like we're not doing enough and all the long-term goals we want to reach are so far away. So it's a constant source of stress. Very good advice about how everything is made up and you don't have to believe all the thoughts in your head saying you're not good enough. I talked to my therapist today about how I've been feeling and his suggestions were similar. It helps to know this is something everybody goes through so thank you for speaking about it and being so honest!
Hej Kalle! I just want to start off by saying that you are a true inspiration when it comes to listening to and doing what YOU want and feel is right in life! I am 45 years old and have a daughter that is 9 years old (single parent every other week) and I guess I can recognize myself a couple of years ago in your thoughts. However, the older I get the more I realize that what makes me happy will also make the people around me happy. I realize that being dependent on the ”world of social media” as a living make things a bit different but I still think that if you are happy that will shine through in the content that you post. In other words I think the most important thing for you is to make sure that you do things and make choices that makes you feel good and happy and that will then reflect on the other things that you do! Many times I have felt that I have had shortcomings in being and providing good enough for my daughter but I have always loved her to the moon and back (and told her that) and done my best. Every single time that has been good enough and she is the most lovely and adoring human being and I could not dreaming of having a better relation with her. What I want to say is do not focus to much on what you think other people might think and do not have to high expectations on yourself. Focus on what you want and what makes you happy and the rest will follow!
Based on my personal experience, you do get a whole new perspective on life once it hits you hard and forces you down to your knees. How brutal life can treat you and make you helpless. Overcome those things is the most rewarding feeling in the world because you look at life and the things you have in a whole new light. Im not saying people shouldn't seek new adventures, just saying that a void in life isn't a problem, so don't stress yourself over it. Just means you have ambition.
Figuring out the care and feeding of oneself is a lifelong task! We are not good at predicting what makes us happy so I think the answer is experimentation. Try things and then observe yourself. What experiences move your happiness dial? What do you want more of, less of? Even when you feel trapped, there's often room for little experiments. Buy yourself a bouquet of flowers. Are you smiling or sneezing?
I’m 73 and still struggling with this issue. I truly think I will until my time is over. Perhaps the questioning is a positive thing, in that it guides us into periods of reflection and adjustment. After the adjustment phase, if we breathe, meditate, pause, and reflect, we may discover that “where we are in life” is precisely where we’re supposed to be. Pausing to reflect and re-choose is comforting. (Until the next time . . .)
What a great reflection. I'm a dreamer and i a dream everyday of the next day. It's hard for me to have a complete peacefully mind in the present. Thanks for these enlightening thoughts and for sharing it.
The issue comes down to where we place our focus/attention; within or without. Just by looking at those two words we can see that if our attention is on what is outside of us, we feel less than or, we go without. Bring your attention back inside where it belongs and you will feel more at peace🙏🏻❣️😌 And be ok with not caring what others think. That has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. You do you🤩
Hi Kalle, is the first time I drop a comment under a video here in TH-cam, but I wanted to thank you, for being so sincere and transparent, thank you. I feel understood and wish I could hug you, I know you're doing the best you can and hope you know that as well Have a nice day, you and Kristine, hugs from Italy Gloria
I'm also in my mid 30's and I think when we were teenagers looking up at the 30 year olds, they seemed put together because they'd had more of a chance at a stable economy than we do today. Pre-GFC was a pretty good time, but it was a different time. So I think we need to give ourselves some slack because we're not on their timeline of success in life, we're on ours. And ours is pretty great too. Sending much love and happy thoughts x
The feelings you have are conditioned feelings which run very deep, as you yourself said. And they are collective feelings of society. It s very well that you can feel them and express them. And they hold us so strongly!! You can see it... not even living in nature can rid you off them. Meditating can help us to look behind this veil of what society has build around us and bring much peace of mind a understanding of the world. Much love to you on your journey !
When I start feeling inadequate about where I am in life, I remind myself that there is ALWAYS going to be someone better than me, more intelligent, wealthier, fitter, more disciplined, more beautiful, more confident, more successful etc etc etc, and that this is probably how even the most successful people in life feel about themselves. And then I feel the pressure come down. Often quoted and so true: 'Comparison is the thief of joy'.
I can totally relate. I am not a TH-camr, but I know the feelings of not feeling good enough or this annoying little voice that always tells to push harder, never allows to take a short break. I am a musician and I am used to live with constant compairing to others and never feeling good enough to even take a short break without practicing or doing other music/job related stuff. But I try to change it! As you say in the video, it is always my choice if I compare myself to others or if I follow every single thought that is in my head. I am living in the countryside now. If my "spinning thoughts carousell" is overwhelming, I go outside and plant (or water) some vegetables. We all have to learn to set limits, take care of ourselves and stop being too serious about everything. ("Serenity" is my new favorite English word and mantra) 💚 Great video, Kalle. Like this format. Greetings from 🇦🇹 Austria.
Thank you for your honesty. It’s true we all struggle. Sometimes more sometimes less. I’m 58 and life still throws me curve balls! I’m having a operation on Thursday, emergency that it is. But I do have more peace with myself thankfully then when I was your age. That took me a long time!! I’m still not were I want to be but I’m close. Well I hope 😂🤞🏼 So happy to hear that the sponsor of today helps funding your build! I wish you , Christine , Tuss and Nala all the best and lots of happiness and blessings! 💚🍀🌸
“The problem with making everyone else happy is that I’m unhappy”. So here’s the lowdown: You cannot and will not please everyone - I learned that the hard way over a couple of decades. Now, I’m 51, almost an empty-nester with both my kids at college, and I have to figure out who I am beyond being a mom and what I still can do with my life.
I think it's this constant feeling we need to keep going, do more, acomplishe more, be better version of ouselves every single day. I am pushing myself hard every single day and sometimes when I reach a certain stage of pressure, my body starts to show me and that is the moment when I have to realize, enough is enough. Just stop and let go of everything. Sometimes when we let go and simply live, the magic starts to happen. But yes, these are circles and this feeling comes and go. So being completely myself, keeping my energy, staying in my power helps a lot to overcome these pressure feelings and the need to constantly do better and more and more.😘 thank you for sharing.🙏
Hej Kalle! In my 60 year life I have had many trials & tribulations - with career, partners, divorce, home, income & moving country. Without belabouring that unnecessarily, it is just to say that even 'normal life' is challenging, stressful and sometimes even catastrophic things happen. At 38 I needed to start my life again with 2 young children, a car and a suitcase or 2. At 48 I lost my job and tried to consult, with financial burdens mounting. I got another job but at 53 lost that again - both were retrenchments, so I tried consulting again & then finally went bankrupt. I then moved to Sweden, leaving my daughters behind aged 21 & 25 to fend for themselves mid studies & their own life problems. I had multiple severe stresses for my entire adult life - if it wasn't work pressure it was always something. One of the most productive, life-saving things you can do is stopping yr mind mid-thought & switching to something you are happy about or grateful for. It takes discipline, but stop those swirling negative thoughts & criticisms dead in their tracks. Really enjoy & savour the things you do have. Don't fill moments of rest & happiness with thoughts of rushing to the next thing. We all need to rest & replenish in between chores & work moments. Plan & prize contented togetherness time with yr partner focussing on each other. When you are ready to nod off to sleep, run through a list of things you HAVE achieved & be grateful. FEEL the gratefulness. Shut off the criticism before sleep. Go through yr happiest moments & bat away sad thoughts. Feel the peace of yr restful moments & feel the joy of happy moments. This is supremely important to have peaceful restful sleep, heighten physical recovery & awaken rejuvenated having healed & replenished all yr cells in yr body & refreshed with positive thoughts. I promise it works. It is the advice of many gurus around the World & is a well-documented phenomenon. What you think about last before you sleep will go round & round in yr sub-conscious mind & either create illness, worry, psychological imbalance & ill- health or - if you have those last minute peaceful, happy thoughts - it generates contentedness, happiness, psychological robustness, productivity the next day, good health & fewer doubts. Good luck. We love you. 🍀🍀🍀🍀🌈☀️
Thank you for sharing, further on in life, being 48 it’s still the case, still struggling especially when external stress factors increase the internal stress grows as well. But being reminded I am actually in control of my thoughts is a good thing, because it’s true.
Hej Kalle. I was sitting here having my lemon drink and writing in my diary and I was just going to cheque the weather for today, when I got "sruck" on your talk. Your honesty. is touching and admirable.There are so many things you say I can relate to. The most important thing I have learned is not to compare myself with others listen and learn yes and use what can help you but comparing ourselves to others so easily ends up with negative self talk. And a other thing, always be thankful for the things I have and the good people I know. Happy midsommar!
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I think a lot of us struggle with these things in today's world . And it's great that you open up about this!
Oh wow so glad I stumbled onto your videos but this one is really what I needed to hear 49 and a people pleaser to the detriment to my physical and mental health. Also, with social media the pressure to be happy all the time and perfect is unattainable because it’s not reality
Hey Kalle! Thank you so much for this super honest video. What I love most about your channel is precisely this: authenticity! I just turned 35 and feel so very much like you. It helps a lot to hear this from you, as you are someone I admire. Rest assured you're not alone at all, and I appreciate so much all you do, every video and idea, as I understand how difficult the life of a creator is (I'm a wannabe writer myself!). You're gonna be just fine :)
thanks kalle i am 34 and feeling way behind, working my way on how to get to sweden is hard even as american citizen(from puerto rico) but will manage and the day i do get to sweden i will make you a visit, wishful thinking.
I am in my mid 40's and am just now starting to live the life I wanted. I was very lost in my teens and twenties. When I turned 30, I was not celebrating a good job, or a lot of money, or a good education, but that I found a way to stop being self-destructive. I was amazed that I was still alive. I had to spend the later half of my twenties on therapy and self help. By thirty, it culminated in being able to go to school and hold down a job and a relationship. From the outside, it seemed like a waste of time, but those years of unlearning trauma and learning self-respect set me up for the rest of my life. I spent my thirties doing what we are supposed to do in our twenties, so I am a decade behind. Should I be mad at myself for those lost years, or proud for turning my life around?
I don't strive for happiness, I strive to find contentment. I learned this from my grandmother who passed away years ago. You are spot on with your observations and explanations of this topic. Stay blessed Kalle!
Imposter syndrome and the feeling of need to catch up with what society tells us we have to do, have to have, have to follow along with is so real... but I believe nature is a true reality check... your lifestyle is exactly what I and my husband are working towards! But mostly so we can disconnect from ' society' and the rat race, and live everyday for only us and our kids... be happy, great video 🖤
Thank you for sharing this. ❤️I just had a brake-down last week. I felt like everything I was doing wasn’t good enough. What I realized was that I couldn’t do it alone anymore. I have been putting way to much pressure on my self trying to make it easier for others. I can’t run my own life and my boyfriends and my mothers while not bothering anyone for help. I need to invent my new reality aswell and focus more on my self and my own well-being. 🌲
dear calle, I'm watching your video right now and you speak to my soul. we put so much pressure on ourselves these days to please others or think we have to keep up with them, but it's so wrong. I've thought about it for years and now, at 31, I've gotten the reward for it. diagnosis: last stage burnout. if we don't take care of ourselves and listen to our soul, at some point the body will go on strike. I had to learn it the hard way, I wouldn't wish that on anyone. we have to learn to listen to our gut feeling again, take time for ourselves and, above all, live in the here and now. learn to appreciate the little things in life. i wish you all the luck in the world and i am grateful that you are someone who communicates openly with your followers Feedback geben
Hej Kalle ! Thank you for your honesty… and I think everyone has been at that point: to feel like a failure. But that is just the system / education you (we all) grew ups with. In Reality, there is no buckelt List, there are no goals to reach. It is the process ! And your feelings along that way. Listening to others is ok, but at the end you will have to realize , that you are unique and so is your path. So, you‘re are not alone, but you are the only one to proceed your way. 💙🙏
Mate I'm nearly 67 and what life has taught me and seems to be true, 'is that life is a jourrney and not a destination'. So what would that loom like for you. It is a cliche but is it accurate. So relax and enjoy the journey. Know this - what you have done is impressive.
I have the same feelings. I live from more than 20 years from music producing so sometimes I have the feeling like the world moves in one direction and me in the opposite one. We should not compare ourselves to others but we do it anyway. Not knowing how we will pay our bills next month is a constant stress. And when we have enough money also a stress because we do not know how long they will last. But overall I would not trade my life. I am more than happy to be able to live from my passion, hobby, purpose. Take care. I enjoy ur videos
You were right...I LOVE this video! I genuinely appreciate your raw honesty! I can relate to your message. I'm 52 yrs old. I've spent the majority of my life raising 4 children on my own. I am also the proud grandma to seven grand babies. I have spent my life living and doing what was expected of me. I often feel like I'm suppose to be further ahead in life...when I measure myself in terms of other people's success. I am currently in the process of changing my life to live the life I WANT TO LIVE...regardless of anyone elses thoughts on the subject. At 52 I am starting again....and that is ok because I'm on my way to living my true purpose. I believe that is the ultimate goal in life. And I don't believe there is a right or wrong way to do that. I hope to inspire others to the same, to show people it doesn't matter what your age is. If there is breath in your body...there is possibility! As long as I listen to my own voice, follow my own path, remain guided by my own instincts and constantly remind myself this is my journey and it is meant to unfold for me in time, in just the right way! It's the journey that matters...not the destination. Be kind to yourself...Trust the process...Stop and enjoy the path your on....Celebrate the beautiful life you're building everyday...you'll get where you want to go! Look how far you've come already!! Much Love and many Blessings to you...you are an Inspiration! ✌️❤️😁🤙
Dear Kalle, don’t be too hard to yourself. Your lifestyle is the best, you have of course a lot of building and other stuff to do, but you are your own master. Think about yourself and Christine and puppies also, continue with projects which are the most important for you.
I hope you're not judging yourself by others success..I'm trying my ass off to get where you are..please stay your path..your actually leading people..
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Take it one day at the time. You are a great person Kalle AND you have an amazing woman on your side. We are here with you.❤️
I am 72 and still am trying to catch up. I am learning to accept that I will never be caught up. It is no big deal because most of that feeling is being driven by how I want people to see me. I have to start thinking about I feel. Even now I am a work in progress. Have a peaceful day.
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I’m 46 and am astounded at the double life fakery in social media. I respect honesty in life. You balance beauty with honesty and heartache pretty darn well. I also have a good life but the older I get the less I give a sh.. about what people think of me. Great video BTW❤️
I think we need to learn how to deal with social media, it's still such a new thing. And we haven't at all figured it out yet. Thank you ❤
David Wear, I agree. The deal is….you’ll never figure it out so quit trying. The other thing is… you’ll grow out of giving a shit or feeling the need to figure it out. The recipe for peace and happiness for me has been just living long enough to allow life to unfold
@@robinprice6879 poetic mate 👍👍
I don't think it's "double life fakery". It's just people posting what they're comfortable with and what makes them happy and what they think others would like to see. Just because they don't post the bad days doesn't mean they're fake, just means they aren't comfortable sharing it with you and everyone else. And they don't owe it to you either. They don't know you and don't owe you personal stuff. They also use social media to pay their bills, it's their jobs, its not always appropriate to share those things. They have to stay within certain lines to keep paying those bills, just like anyone else when at their job. The only difference is their job is far less consistent in earnings then 9-5. You may be taking things too personally and may be feeling more entitled then you should from people on social media and TH-cam.
@@lunaraynwolf7036 ok
I can relate to this so so well... I'm turning 31 this summer and I have been struggling a lot with feeling behind in life, to the point where I thought something is wrong with me. I don't have a job or any savings, no partner, kids etc like a lot of people my age, and up until recently I was so lost, not knowing what I want to do with my life. I am only starting my path now and still have a lot ahead of me, and I still feel behind at times. But what helps me is to realise that all these expectations we also have in our own thoughts, have their source in our society and other people. We are constantly flooded with how things should be at a certain age or time and people suggesting us what to do. If we take that all away and just "be", we would not feel that way I think.
Not too long ago someone told me something that really changed my view on this. This person said, I may feel behind in life, but actually, I am ahead of a lot of other people. Because I have found my path and I have found myself, I have learned so much about myself in the past months and gained clarity. This is so valuable and a lot of people my age DON'T have that. Our society tends to only look at materialistic achievements, things that can be shown to others, and compare with that. But the work that has been done on the inside is equally important! I hope this helps anyone who is reading my comment! 🤗❤
I will be 60 in a couple of months & I have the same feelings. I think as a humans we set expectations on ourselves that don’t really resonate with who we really are. Kalle thank you for being so real & honest. This was a message that I needed to hear today. Remember that you are good enough !!! 😀
Or; You are not "good enough," and that's okay. 😁😁😁👍👍
Amazing it takes us this long hey!! But, what a wonderful discovery it is!
I'm 33 and often feel like this, too.
My life is rather unconventional, I guess.
Learnt a job, studied, quit several 9-5 jobs, spent years abroad working different kinds of jobs, now I'm self-employed which comes with its own challenges...
Sometimes I'm like "wtf am I even doing with my life" when I look at others. But then - I did everything I wanted to do so far. I might not have a big career or anything but damn - I have some stories to tell! I know if I die, I'm gonna die in peace, knowing I left my comfort zone 1000 times and didn't settle for less than what makes me happy.
Often we're too hard on ourselves. I know a lot of people probably envy me for my life and all the experiences I made. The grass always looks greener on the other side.
Often I try to remind myself that nothing really matters. I mean: We're floating around on a little blue planet in the universe, our life is so short, our problems are so small - who actually cares what we do with our lives (if we don't hurt others)?
Rightly said 👍
I can relate!
Love it ... two things to tell you 1. More money in life just buys you a better class of miserableness 2. Write you own path in life as you only get one chance. Be happy and keep sharing the love x
"At some point when you create yourself... To make it you're going to have to either let that creation go and take a chance on being loved or hated for who you really are. Or you're going to have to kill who you really are and fall into your grave grasping onto a chracter that you never were".
~ Jim Carrey
Be yourself, accept yourself to be enough - because you are. For yourself and for those around you.
Very important topic.
Thank you for your honesty 💕🙏🏼
I understand these feelings. I am a 54 year old woman living in rural USA (the State of Pennsylvania). I am a university professor teaching visual art. At the age of 40 I learned how to play the violin (and read music).
A year ago I started a journey to learn clinical herbalism. I thought it would help me age well. For the rest of my life I will be outside in nature leaning from the plants. What a perfect way to complete one's life.
What I've discovered is that no one really cares what you do with your life expect you. We have an entire lifetime to do the things we love. There is no rush. If you consider yourself to be an inquisitive person, then you are lucky. Most people in this world are not, thus they are bored with themselves. But you will never be bored with your life.
Your child will see that you know how you move forward in life, and that you are always interested in taking on new projects, and learning new things. May everything you touch in this world turn to gold !
I'll be turning 33 this winter, and I can't tell you how much I relate. For the past 6 years I've been working as a self-employed and freelance artist and illustrator, and while I feel rich in experience, my savings haven't really increased and my health is calling for a change. I find myself walking into the unknown once again, and the 'should's' I eradicated from my vocabulary long ago come creeping back in. Telling me I 'should' have things more figured out and own a house by now. I can't really conceive how that could be possible at the moment - your story is inspiring, to say the least. I realize, anything is possible if you believe, take the leap and work towards it. But also, how we measure our happiness and sense of fulfilment or success is entirely up to ourselves. Thank you for sharing.
I'm 24 right now and I get caught up thinking this way too. Everyone tells me "you have your whole life ahead of you" and its so true, but sometimes it doesnt feel like I'm doing enough. But now I'm going to Hawaii for 3 months this summer to work on a farm and get my hands in the land, grow my own food, build things, and tap in with nature, which I know is one of my purposes. I know this will teach me so much going forward with the rest of my life and I'm thankful to not have waited for so many years to grasp this opportunity!
How was your time in Hawaii on the farm? I hope it was a good experience.
@@gregoryowain2073 phenomenal. Long story short, worked on 2 farms and I got to live in Hawaii for free in exchange for working on someone’s land. It showed me a whole new way of life and it inspired me to do van life back on the mainland, which is what Im doing now!
@@nicktheavatar_ That is amazing. I'm glad it all worked out well and you found a way to continue the adventure! Definitely much more exciting than just staying at home!
@@gregoryowain2073 absolutely! Thanks for asking btw. I plan on working this summer at Denali National Park and then going back to Hawaii later this year to live there. And I think I might go to Puerto Rico for a month before I go to Hawaii! Right now I’m just focused on making money so I can afford those trips 😊 we gotta use the system to our advantage so we can explore and do amazing things!
Something to consider:
-do you live in front of the camera or behind the camera?
-do others lives in front of your camera or behind your camera?
-what about staying together on the same side of the camera?
-what about removing the camera completely from the picture?
-do you see the picture?
"I don't have to believe everything that pops into my head"... perfect! As a sensitive over thinker, this is a great phrase I will say to myself to get me through the hard events/interactions. I appreciate you sharing your perspectives, this is a timely message. Be blessed with joy Kalle.
I’m about to turn 45 and I know exactly how you feel. I feel like this every day and every day I remind myself that I am enough. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this with us.
Thank you Kalle. This is a much needed conversation. I'll be 60 in a couple of months and definitely feel like I have to make up for lost time. But then I ask "who says?" You're an inspiration to me to keep doing what I'm attempting in going for a music career. Thank you for all you do. You're enough m' dear. Big hugs from the Pacific Northwest.
I'm happy you liked it Pamela ❤ Exactly, according to who?
I also have this feeling all the time...As I thought, five years ago, that by 30 I would finally own a land to grow my own food on, a little home on that land and a baby... I have accomplished none of those things, and mostly due to the lockdowns in these past years (I lost my jobs, my apartment, my partner lost his job too ) and now we are struggling so much, saving pennies and I keep seeing it impossible to even have our home this year, and I'm about to turn 31...I gave it a huge cry a couple of nights ago and I can't sleep lately and therefore my health is going down...I have mouth ulcers all the time (I mean it) and stomach aches, and I lost a lot of hair....I need to get out of this zone before I get a serious disease...So...Thank you, Kalle, I needed to hear this!
I just turned 67 I am retired I also feel so lost in Life actually I feel abandoned by my Adult children is is heartbreaking 💔 I not seen my grandchildren in going on four years I have five grandchildren I not seen even one of them.I am a retired Registered Nurse but that’s not who I am now I am so confused about this world we are living in I am awake and aware my adult children have their head in the sand I am called a Conspiracist because I know what is going on politically so I am a outcast actually I’ve never ever fit in being born a healer and deeply spiritually aware.I been deeply depressed and alone in a extremely rural area. Thank You for sharing your feeling Kalle
Kalle, I'm currently 34 with husband and 6 year old twins. Totally agree with you. There's expectations from society ( everybody who points at you, if you fail in something) the only way is to ignore those voices and enjoy little joys in life. 😉
Totally agree ❤
Dear Kalle, I feel you so much you don't even know. The feeling of not being good enough in a society where we tend to constantly compare ourselves to others. Thank you so much for showing yourself so vulnerable. This is what the world needs. Role Models like you who show themselves honestly speaking their truth. No one is good enough and that's okay. What is even good enough?! .... This is what real masculinity looks like. Thank you so much ❤
ALWAYS REMEMBER PLEASE. YOU ARE ENOUGH. I have lived 59yrs & worked so very hard to make everyone but myself happy. Finally figuring out what I did wrong. I never thought about what makes me happy. These things are always on our minds,success?, wealth, happiness. You are amazing and living a challenging wonderful life. Thank you for sharing your life. Have a blessed week 💖 🌟
I’m 30 and I couldn’t relate to this video more, Kalle. It’s almost as if the more we grow old, the more we struggle to have it together 😄
Dear Kalle, you have everything in order to make it ! You're a great singer, photograph, filmaker, come on ! Don't be too hard on you. Step by step, day by day. God bless.
Not everything, but a lot 😊 As I say in the video, I have a very good life, but it can get a bit overwhelming from time to time.
@@KalleFlodin In this planet, everybody struggles Kalle, it's a very low, dense vibrational planet, but keep your faith and courage, we're all in the same boat ! :)) Praying for you and Christina, all is well. Let it go, don't try to please everyone, it's impossible. Do what is right for you.
Tack för att du delade dina känslor på det här sättet. Jag tänker att vi människor är våra värsta slavdrivare själva. Vi har tankar om hur vi måste prestera för att bli lyckliga och där föds stressen. Istället för att kunna känna tacksamhet för vår frihet att kunna leva som skapare av våra liv och låta inspirationen guida oss.
Fint att höra att du gillade filmen Marie ❤ Ja, jag är iaf en hemsk chef åt mig själ.
This is a tough thing for me to swallow as well, and it's something I've been thinking about more as I am about to turn 30 in a few months time. There's just that something about not being in my 20s anymore, thinking that life gets more serious from here on out and that I've got to 'get it sorted'. But it's not like everyone else is leading completely happy and fulfilled lives, despite appearances online or offline. I think the good thing is that even though I've made a lot of mistakes in my 20s, and squandered many good opportunities, I have learned from them. I'm definitely a better and happier person now than I was when I turned 20 and I'm sure it'll be the same again when I turn 40. Just gotta keep faith through the difficult times in life.
I relate to what you describe so much - your fear, the pressure coming from the outside, the feeling of "I have to do more to feel worthy'. I'm 36 and also feel I should have things together, still figuring it out. Thanks for sharing, all the best
I think you are describing what many struggle with - you are one of few that are open and communicate your feelings - because it is about feelings - they do not disappear when you move away somewhere. So much is flooding all over us about what life is not...all the time...
Thank you Kalle. I am also 46 years and you just spoke out loud my inner voice, which is rambling all day long. I thank you for your honesty and inspiration.
We live in a society that basically wants us to feel behind and inadequate cause that's what drives the economy. We always get told we should work more or get a "better" job so we can buy more stuff we don't need to impress people we don't know. No matter where you are in life there is always someone who seems "ahead" of you, more "succesful" and what not, but only you can define what success means to you.
Kalle. All I can say is that you are honest and doing your best you can. Happiness can’t exist without feeling sad or having struggles. It’s the flow of life we have to deal with. Acknowledging your emotions is everything you can do and sit with it. Answers will come.
Great subject! I’m a women of 52 and i understand everything you said. You are a boy of this( cultural ) age and we all are in a sort of brainwashed life. It's normal to feel what you feel at this moment and for you it's even more normal to feel this inner doubt and stress because you don’t live a conventional life. You know what is going on in your mind and you can put it into words very well and you will see you will get rid of this feeling but it takes time , a lot . I wanted say to you that you should not forget your biology . What i mean is that , because you have chosen a different life, quite wild, physically demanding , you are responsible for everything yourself. You are a young man and that means you are driven to survive and provide and you make a lot of stress hormones for that. Life in the city also gives stress , but so does the life you lead. Your hormones can contribute to the feeling of restlessness , it is a lot you want from yourself and your body responds to it. Testosteron, adrenaline , cortisol makes you powerful but also restless. If they lower you feel much more at ease and won’t compare anymore or less. Meditation and food can help . Thinking and reading also but your hormones play the front role and they fool you .
This video is quite an eyeopener actually. I think everyone here will agree that you live in a place most of us dream about. But hearing you say that you sometimes feel behind in life too, makes me think. No matter what we achieve in life or happens, we directly think about our next step. In some ways we are our own worst enemy sometimes. Altough it is good that we always want to improve ourselves or the life around us, we have already improved so much. We are already enough. You are enough. Thank you for this video, always a pleasure ❤
I’m 18. I dropped out of college and now I’m having a break from burnout. I’m just struggling on what my next step is. I don’t want to settle on a crap job. I’m autistic and I really struggle with doing a 9-5 structure. I wanted to go to university but I’m thinking now that it isn’t the best thing for me now. I think it’s important to remember that life isn’t a race. Try to be happy in the moment and search for the good things.
Sorry to hear about your burnout Eloise ❤ Exactly, it's not a race at all, we have to enjoy this ride of life 😊 And yes, don't settle!
It's hard not to listen to the external influences that constantly push to accomplish more and more, and this in turn influences our inner monolog which sets up these ideas of what we should have achieved by a certain age. It's a lie. We accomplish what we need to at the time we're meant to. I'm turning 50 in a few months and I struggle with this as I see much younger friends or colleagues achieving certain things when I haven't. But comparison is not the answer. I'm an artist and I will continue to work towards how I want to live my life and I am learning to accept that my art will resonate with those who need it in their own time.
You are not behind, Kalle. And you are permitted to take as much time as you need. There will always be those who will be unhappy with your choices, but ultimately, you need to live for you. Then you can be there for your family and friends.
Sending love to you and Christine. ❤
Everyone who does this shows the good times and never the struggles. Just be you and don’t worry about what people think. You have to be happy with yourself and you are young enough to figure things out. No one is happy all the time. That is impossible. I’m 76 years old and I have times I wonder what I have accomplished. Continue to be the best person you can be and treating people the way you want to be treated. Don’t worry how other people think or do.
So long as your happy that’s at all that matters
That's sweet of you to say John ❤
Thank you this feels so encouraging. I am trying to grow my TH-cam and I feel behind on working on it. I am rebuilding my life and I am so grateful to have everything I have but I needed to hear your voice today. Thank you
I'm happy it spoke to you ❤ Keep creating videos!
@@KalleFlodin thank you my friend 🐎🐎
I’m right there with you! I work full time, take care of my elderly mother, and am trying to get my TH-cam off the ground. It’s overwhelming at times. This is such a wonderful channel Kalle - love what you are doing. You are helping so many of us with the same sort of questions and worries.
My teenage daughter once told me "I reject your reality and replace it with my own" If you are doing the best that you can how could you be "behind"? Don't forget to look back at what you've accomplished. I tended to just move on to the next thing on my list, until I started keeping track.
Wise daughter ❤
I actually just talked with my mum about this topic today. I recently quit studying and am now starting to work as a flight attendant. I‘m only twenty years old but people now are already asking about whatvI‘m going to do after working as a flight attendant. I guess a lot of people where proud that I landed at one of the best universities in the world (ETH Zurich) and did pretty well there and now think that I‘m wasting my potential and life. But I only know what I wanna do right now in this moment, and that is to not study and just live my life. most people just don‘t get it, that I don‘t have a goal in life and that I can‘t answer the question of where I see myself in 10 years.
I guess I just wanna live a life where it would be okay for me if I died tomorrow. I mean of course it would be sad but I don‘t wanna live a fulfilled life in my 30s, because like you just said I probably won‘t have everything figured out then either. I don‘t know how it‘s in Sweden because it’s already different in France than here in Switzerland, but here people do everything in their 20s to have everything in their 30s. Two of my cousins, two of my neighbours and the sister of a friend all recently turned 30 and all got kids at the same time, it‘s crazy😅
I think this is a great example of how the external life is something else than the internal and does not always go together. The Ego itself will never feel complete, that is just how the Ego is build so to say. So if we listen to the Ego too much, one will never feel good or complete enough even if the external environment is your dream come true. Ego will always find something more to feel more complete. Same Ego exist in both the rich man sitting in his castle and the humble man sitting in his forrest cabin. This can come come from a deeper believe from childhood that one is only loved, if... Which all is something we all struggle with as humans on this earth I think. It is tough! Thanks a lot for sharing Kalle, this is how we can connect and come together as a unit
In the last two years my life has changed in dramatic and incredible ways. Not always easy and not always with a feeling of simple progress but it’s evolving in a beautiful way. Pursuing my life’s work and deepest passions has given me bigger dreams, ambitions, and better relationships. Watching your content has been a part of my growth and journey to actualize a similar dream. Writing cabin, artist retreat and community to continue the cycle of growth. Thanks for the inspiration friend. Your honesty is so valuable
People pleasing is a futile struggle. Know that you are enough, you are a great person, giving so much and doing so much. You don’t need to please everyone. You shouldn’t try to please everyone. Make sure you are content, your family is content.
A gratitude journal is a great way to start the day. Write lists for what you want to do. Social media is a crazy territory. Keep perspective and if you need a break, take a break, we will all be here when you return! Most important thing is your health- above everything in life and that includes your mental health. Take care & be kind to yourself x
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Yaaay, my first Super Thanks 😍 Thank YOU Krassi ❤
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Hi Kalle! your videos have brought me so much peace since the passing of my sister last may. Even at the age of 22 i have always felt behind, and now even more and lost. Thankyou for speaking your honest thoughts, its refreshing to see someone mentioning the thing many are struggling with. Thankyou for inspiring and being peace for me < 3
Man, it is SUCH a struggle. Being enough, doing enough, trying to progress.. a constant underlaying stress. And I think it all has to do with income for me personally. Income and sustainability. Long-term stability. Which in a sense doesn’t exist in the professions we’ve chosen and love. It’s a bit of a clash. But I rather deal with that stress than not “stressing”, but not enjoying life and work and passions.
Yea, it's a really tricky balance!
I have a simple question for you: were there people in your childhood or when you grew up in teenage years that constantly told you (or maybe only gave you the feeling) that you do things not good enough, or that you yourself are not good enough?
Sometimes its not obvious for example if people have a good childhood, because even the best parents if stressed and worried make mistakes.
The way you describe it: the possibility that there was at least one person who said things like that over a longer period of time is very high in people who think like that.
I think you basically summed it up in the end. A few words of advice:
Don't compare yourself to others, if anything, compare yourself to the person you used to be.
Being a people pleaser will only make you unhappy. Do what makes you happy, the people around you will benefit from your happiness. You have accomplished so much of what you wanted, don't stop there, but do it at your own pace. Don't let money be your reason. Money is needed to survive, but happiness, health and time cannot be bought. I hope these thoughts will be of help. I enjoy your videos, each is a gift, not a given. No expectations here, just admiration. Keep on being you.
I am 52 and after a financially devastating divorce in my mid-30s (with three young children) I’ve asked those questions of myself over and over. I finally realized that, as you mentioned, I’m the only one making up the timeline in my head about what I “should have done “ and by when. If that’s true, I can change the storyline in my own head. Sure, financial and career or relationship struggles at any age can make one feel “behind”. But again, as long as you’re breathing, there’s time to change your path. And it’s YOUR path only. I think that’s a nugget to hold onto. And I think these questions will always be with you…thanks for sharing your dance with them!!
The way I like to think about it is that we need to have things to do. It's what keeps us feeling alive.
We need things to not be perfect, and yet still we need to strive to make them perfect.
All of this has to be done with the understanding that we can never really get to the finish line, and that we wouldn't want to even if we could.
I have been struggling with this recently, I have not been able to stop....mind is a tool, lets not be pushed around by it... everything we need is here☺️🌺
Thank you for the openness and honesty,Kalle!
If you compare your life to others life, you will never be satisfied. Do everything what you can and if you did, simply live that life and be happy in.
👋🏼 Kalle I’m 68 and still can’t seem to catch up with my hopes and dreams. I use to think, am I dreaming to big, am I lazy, am I not smart enough, what do people really think about me? As time goes by I have realized that none of that really matters- the real question is ...am I enjoying my life with the people I love and truly care about. I have made so many mistakes in the past but I can’t go back and change any of it or take it back, but I can make better choices today. One of my favorite quotes is: Inch by inch, life’s a cinch. Yard by yard, life is hard.
By John Bytheway
What’s your inch today? That’s the question I ask myself each morning now. Hope you inch your way to whatever fills your heart.
Life to me is about finding happiness even through the struggles because all we can really feel and experience is "the now." Nice video ...I sent it to me 19 yr old daughter. You are going to be a great dad one day.
This was so good, Kalle! We have all heard it, “Everything is not as it seems”. But actually hearing it from the people who you think “made it” really makes you reconsider your goals and remember to enjoy the journey. Thank you for making this important video 😊 (and really nice edit btw)
Hugs, Annie
Kalle I relate so much to what you said and love your honesty. I literally was observing these same thought patterns this morning as I was meditating and saw the pressure and stress it creates. It was empowering to take the power back by seeing the thoughts and not identifying with them. You are more than enough just as you are and inspire others to have the courage to live their most authentic life :)
Kalie thank you for your honesty about your life. Do enjoy your videos that you do Kalie. Take care of yourself first then you can take care of others.
Thank you for the video. I think this was a message I needed, bc I am kinda always reminded by relatives why I am behind in life in their eyes, and it gives constant stress. Yeah, being a woman without any kids and not yet married is an eyeshore in their eyes, or they just give that feeling. So, thank you again for the vid!
Im glad you did this video, its something that a lot of people struggle with, trying to feel as though you are doing "enough". Very difficult in todays world where we have access to SO much information on the internet which can easily overwhelm us. Trying to do the right thing by the planet, disadvantaged people, countries and endangered animals, fulfill our known potentials like talents and gifts and also taking the time to go deeper within ourselves and know ourselves in new ways, not to mention our partners, children and friends.. read all the good books, watch all the classic movies, documentaries and keep informed of world events, politics, humanitarian crises. Then make sure you nurture yourself, take time to smell the roses, meditate, exercise, journal.. omg its not a wonder we get overwhelmed.. I think the important thing is to be present in the moment, and be honest with yourself about how you feel, and understand what your motivations and intentions are .. we can all only do the best we can .. I still struggle with being ok with where Im at in my life, at 56 I dont feel as though I have made all the best decisions but I do know I did the best with what I knew at the time, always coming back to Love and understanding that nothing is perfect but imperfection ..keeping a balance is important in all things .. and forgiveness, for yourself and your loved ones and the people who do you wrong .. you're doing great Kalle ❤🙏
Oh yes, I understand it so much! But also I trust so much in the Universe's guidance, because even today I tried to speak with my relatives about this topic like "is it easy for you to just do nothing? Do you feel that you've done enough?" and then spontaneusly while having a coffee break I just clicked on this video - where you just continued the topic...
So, my 'cracking the code' is regularly meditating to get to this moment as much as possible and... trusting the Universe. That we are all moving towards our best life and all the experiences we have are necessary and for our highest good!
Thanks for your sincerity and good luck in everything! ♥
Awww Kalle! It’s okay to feel like this sometimes, I’m sure literally everyone is feeling this way at some point in life.
You and Christine went through so much lately, it’s completely normal and it’s okay!
It would be nice if you two got the chance to go on a mini vacation just the two of you just to get a breather and a fresh outlook on things.
I hope you’re doing well!
Hugs from València, Spain 🥰
Thank you Kalle for sharing this. It is soooo relatable. I'll be 54 in a few months and could tell the same things about this feeling as you did. Maybe lacks wouldn't be the same as yours - I have a bathroom - but they would be so many.
What really helps me is awareness that this feeling or those thoughts are something what comes and goes. I feel this now or overthink this issue but I didn't yesterday or a day before. They are something temporary, something passing by. My reality on the other hand is so much more than fleeting feeling which comes and goes as wind or April shower rain. Knowing this I don't take those thoughts so seriously. I don't believe every thought passes by or feeling which comes and goes if they don't serve me.
It also helped me to get sincere feedback from other people. Many of them have strong respect for me and value things I have accomplished in my life. And I thought: Well, my objective reality is not just what I feel and see and also not just what they see. The best feasible truth about me is probably my view and their view combined. Therefore I better not to believe tm my view only and completely.
Wish you all the best. I'll support you by subscribing to your TH-cam and Instagram.
You are an inspiration.
Good for you. It is actually more interesting to see how people overcome life's trouble and that they are honest about it.
Hi Kalle. I guess there is nothing more human feeling. I feel you, for sure. I am 38 and I still do not have a clue sometimes. And you know what, it's ok. Yes, sometimes I am hard on myself. Feeling pressured. And sometimes I can laugh about it and take it day by day. It's not about what you do. Its all about who you are as a person. So thanks for being vulnerable. There is so much power in there. You are good enough!
A hug from the Netherlands 🤗
52 years old, and I still don't know where I am at, at heart, I am still a kid, wanting to forget all the responsibilities of adult life, I want to be free like a kid, doing whatever I like.. part of me keeps saying "grow up Simon, stop messing about".. but in reality, I like doing what I want.. we own our own house, have zero debt, and can take time to do what I like.. Then I see everyone else around me, neighbours etc.. all racing about, hyperactive, driving backwards and forwards.. and it causes me anxiety... family and friends think I am a lazy dude.. I'm not lazy, I am very efficient with time, preparing wood for the year is done without problems, doing the renovation on the house.. this isn't lazy, but people think because I don't have a 9 to 5 job (lucky, haven't had one since the age of 18).. people think I'm a slacker.. a bum..
This video is so relevant to me right now! I'm 23 so a bit younger than you but I've been feeling the same way as you very strongly lately. I have a house on 10 acres that I bought with my partner a year ago, we just got married, we have an adorable dog. Working on paying off the mortgage slow and steady. But it does just feel like we're not doing enough and all the long-term goals we want to reach are so far away. So it's a constant source of stress. Very good advice about how everything is made up and you don't have to believe all the thoughts in your head saying you're not good enough. I talked to my therapist today about how I've been feeling and his suggestions were similar. It helps to know this is something everybody goes through so thank you for speaking about it and being so honest!
Hej Kalle! I just want to start off by saying that you are a true inspiration when it comes to listening to and doing what YOU want and feel is right in life! I am 45 years old and have a daughter that is 9 years old (single parent every other week) and I guess I can recognize myself a couple of years ago in your thoughts. However, the older I get the more I realize that what makes me happy will also make the people around me happy. I realize that being dependent on the ”world of social media” as a living make things a bit different but I still think that if you are happy that will shine through in the content that you post. In other words I think the most important thing for you is to make sure that you do things and make choices that makes you feel good and happy and that will then reflect on the other things that you do! Many times I have felt that I have had shortcomings in being and providing good enough for my daughter but I have always loved her to the moon and back (and told her that) and done my best. Every single time that has been good enough and she is the most lovely and adoring human being and I could not dreaming of having a better relation with her. What I want to say is do not focus to much on what you think other people might think and do not have to high expectations on yourself. Focus on what you want and what makes you happy and the rest will follow!
Based on my personal experience, you do get a whole new perspective on life once it hits you hard and forces you down to your knees. How brutal life can treat you and make you helpless. Overcome those things is the most rewarding feeling in the world because you look at life and the things you have in a whole new light.
Im not saying people shouldn't seek new adventures, just saying that a void in life isn't a problem, so don't stress yourself over it. Just means you have ambition.
Figuring out the care and feeding of oneself is a lifelong task! We are not good at predicting what makes us happy so I think the answer is experimentation. Try things and then observe yourself. What experiences move your happiness dial? What do you want more of, less of? Even when you feel trapped, there's often room for little experiments. Buy yourself a bouquet of flowers. Are you smiling or sneezing?
No matter how perfect and wonderful your external environment is, it's the internal environment (your heart and mind) that really counts.
I’m 73 and still struggling with this issue. I truly think I will until my time is over. Perhaps the questioning is a positive thing, in that it guides us into periods of reflection and adjustment. After the adjustment phase, if we breathe, meditate, pause, and reflect, we may discover that “where we are in life” is precisely where we’re supposed to be. Pausing to reflect and re-choose is comforting. (Until the next time . . .)
What a great reflection. I'm a dreamer and i a dream everyday of the next day. It's hard for me to have a complete peacefully mind in the present. Thanks for these enlightening thoughts and for sharing it.
Describes me to...
The issue comes down to where we place our focus/attention; within or without. Just by looking at those two words we can see that if our attention is on what is outside of us, we feel less than or, we go without. Bring your attention back inside where it belongs and you will feel more at peace🙏🏻❣️😌
And be ok with not caring what others think. That has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. You do you🤩
Hi Kalle, is the first time I drop a comment under a video here in TH-cam, but I wanted to thank you, for being so sincere and transparent, thank you. I feel understood and wish I could hug you, I know you're doing the best you can and hope you know that as well
Have a nice day, you and Kristine, hugs from Italy
Gloria
I'm also in my mid 30's and I think when we were teenagers looking up at the 30 year olds, they seemed put together because they'd had more of a chance at a stable economy than we do today. Pre-GFC was a pretty good time, but it was a different time. So I think we need to give ourselves some slack because we're not on their timeline of success in life, we're on ours. And ours is pretty great too.
Sending much love and happy thoughts x
The feelings you have are conditioned feelings which run very deep, as you yourself said. And they are collective feelings of society. It s very well that you can feel them and express them. And they hold us so strongly!! You can see it... not even living in nature can rid you off them.
Meditating can help us to look behind this veil of what society has build around us and bring much peace of mind a understanding of the world.
Much love to you on your journey !
When I start feeling inadequate about where I am in life, I remind myself that there is ALWAYS going to be someone better than me, more intelligent, wealthier, fitter, more disciplined, more beautiful, more confident, more successful etc etc etc, and that this is probably how even the most successful people in life feel about themselves. And then I feel the pressure come down. Often quoted and so true: 'Comparison is the thief of joy'.
I can totally relate. I am not a TH-camr, but I know the feelings of not feeling good enough or this annoying little voice that always tells to push harder, never allows to take a short break. I am a musician and I am used to live with constant compairing to others and never feeling good enough to even take a short break without practicing or doing other music/job related stuff. But I try to change it! As you say in the video, it is always my choice if I compare myself to others or if I follow every single thought that is in my head. I am living in the countryside now. If my "spinning thoughts carousell" is overwhelming, I go outside and plant (or water) some vegetables. We all have to learn to set limits, take care of ourselves and stop being too serious about everything. ("Serenity" is my new favorite English word and mantra) 💚
Great video, Kalle. Like this format. Greetings from 🇦🇹 Austria.
I think all we can do is to do everitime our best and to try to enjoy life, because i realy think this is why we all are here - Life is a gift ❤
Thank you for your honesty. It’s true we all struggle. Sometimes more sometimes less. I’m 58 and life still throws me curve balls! I’m having a operation on Thursday, emergency that it is. But I do have more peace with myself thankfully then when I was your age. That took me a long time!! I’m still not were I want to be but I’m close. Well I hope 😂🤞🏼
So happy to hear that the sponsor of today helps funding your build!
I wish you , Christine , Tuss and Nala all the best and lots of happiness and blessings! 💚🍀🌸
“The problem with making everyone else happy is that I’m unhappy”. So here’s the lowdown: You cannot and will not please everyone - I learned that the hard way over a couple of decades. Now, I’m 51, almost an empty-nester with both my kids at college, and I have to figure out who I am beyond being a mom and what I still can do with my life.
I think it's this constant feeling we need to keep going, do more, acomplishe more, be better version of ouselves every single day. I am pushing myself hard every single day and sometimes when I reach a certain stage of pressure, my body starts to show me and that is the moment when I have to realize, enough is enough. Just stop and let go of everything. Sometimes when we let go and simply live, the magic starts to happen. But yes, these are circles and this feeling comes and go. So being completely myself, keeping my energy, staying in my power helps a lot to overcome these pressure feelings and the need to constantly do better and more and more.😘 thank you for sharing.🙏
Hej Kalle!
In my 60 year life I have had many trials & tribulations - with career, partners, divorce, home, income & moving country.
Without belabouring that unnecessarily, it is just to say that even 'normal life' is challenging, stressful and sometimes even catastrophic things happen.
At 38 I needed to start my life again with 2 young children, a car and a suitcase or 2.
At 48 I lost my job and tried to consult, with financial burdens mounting. I got another job but at 53 lost that again - both were retrenchments, so I tried consulting again & then finally went bankrupt.
I then moved to Sweden, leaving my daughters behind aged 21 & 25 to fend for themselves mid studies & their own life problems.
I had multiple severe stresses for my entire adult life - if it wasn't work pressure it was always something.
One of the most productive, life-saving things you can do is stopping yr mind mid-thought & switching to something you are happy about or grateful for. It takes discipline, but stop those swirling negative thoughts & criticisms dead in their tracks.
Really enjoy & savour the things you do have. Don't fill moments of rest & happiness with thoughts of rushing to the next thing. We all need to rest & replenish in between chores & work moments. Plan & prize contented togetherness time with yr partner focussing on each other.
When you are ready to nod off to sleep, run through a list of things you HAVE achieved & be grateful. FEEL the gratefulness. Shut off the criticism before sleep. Go through yr happiest moments & bat away sad thoughts. Feel the peace of yr restful moments & feel the joy of happy moments.
This is supremely important to have peaceful restful sleep, heighten physical recovery & awaken rejuvenated having healed & replenished all yr cells in yr body & refreshed with positive thoughts.
I promise it works.
It is the advice of many gurus around the World & is a well-documented phenomenon.
What you think about last before you sleep will go round & round in yr sub-conscious mind & either create illness, worry, psychological imbalance & ill- health or - if you have those last minute peaceful, happy thoughts - it generates contentedness, happiness, psychological robustness, productivity the next day, good health & fewer doubts.
Good luck.
We love you.
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Thank you for sharing, further on in life, being 48 it’s still the case, still struggling especially when external stress factors increase the internal stress grows as well. But being reminded I am actually in control of my thoughts is a good thing, because it’s true.
Hej Kalle. I was sitting here having my lemon drink and writing in my diary and I was just going to cheque the weather for today, when I got "sruck" on your talk. Your honesty. is touching and admirable.There are so many things you say I can relate to. The most important thing I have learned is not to compare myself with others listen and learn yes and use what can help you but comparing ourselves to others so easily ends up with negative self talk. And a other thing, always be thankful for the things I have and the good people I know. Happy midsommar!
I think a lot of us struggle with these things in today's world . And it's great that you open up about this!
Oh wow so glad I stumbled onto your videos but this one is really what I needed to hear 49 and a people pleaser to the detriment to my physical and mental health. Also, with social media the pressure to be happy all the time and perfect is unattainable because it’s not reality
Danke!
Hey Kalle! Thank you so much for this super honest video. What I love most about your channel is precisely this: authenticity! I just turned 35 and feel so very much like you. It helps a lot to hear this from you, as you are someone I admire. Rest assured you're not alone at all, and I appreciate so much all you do, every video and idea, as I understand how difficult the life of a creator is (I'm a wannabe writer myself!). You're gonna be just fine :)
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thanks kalle i am 34 and feeling way behind, working my way on how to get to sweden is hard even as american citizen(from puerto rico) but will manage and the day i do get to sweden i will make you a visit, wishful thinking.
You will get here one day soon 💪❤
Sending good vibes and prayers for a rested mind boy and soul. :) hope your doing better and feeling well.
I am in my mid 40's and am just now starting to live the life I wanted. I was very lost in my teens and twenties. When I turned 30, I was not celebrating a good job, or a lot of money, or a good education, but that I found a way to stop being self-destructive. I was amazed that I was still alive. I had to spend the later half of my twenties on therapy and self help. By thirty, it culminated in being able to go to school and hold down a job and a relationship. From the outside, it seemed like a waste of time, but those years of unlearning trauma and learning self-respect set me up for the rest of my life. I spent my thirties doing what we are supposed to do in our twenties, so I am a decade behind. Should I be mad at myself for those lost years, or proud for turning my life around?
I don't strive for happiness, I strive to find contentment. I learned this from my grandmother who passed away years ago. You are spot on with your observations and explanations of this topic. Stay blessed Kalle!
Imposter syndrome and the feeling of need to catch up with what society tells us we have to do, have to have, have to follow along with is so real... but I believe nature is a true reality check... your lifestyle is exactly what I and my husband are working towards! But mostly so we can disconnect from ' society' and the rat race, and live everyday for only us and our kids... be happy, great video 🖤
Thank you for sharing this. ❤️I just had a brake-down last week. I felt like everything I was doing wasn’t good enough. What I realized was that I couldn’t do it alone anymore. I have been putting way to much pressure on my self trying to make it easier for others. I can’t run my own life and my boyfriends and my mothers while not bothering anyone for help. I need to invent my new reality aswell and focus more on my self and my own well-being. 🌲
dear calle,
I'm watching your video right now and you speak to my soul. we put so much pressure on ourselves these days to please others or think we have to keep up with them, but it's so wrong. I've thought about it for years and now, at 31, I've gotten the reward for it. diagnosis: last stage burnout. if we don't take care of ourselves and listen to our soul, at some point the body will go on strike. I had to learn it the hard way, I wouldn't wish that on anyone. we have to learn to listen to our gut feeling again, take time for ourselves and, above all, live in the here and now. learn to appreciate the little things in life. i wish you all the luck in the world and i am grateful that you are someone who communicates openly with your followers
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Hej Kalle !
Thank you for your honesty… and I think everyone has been at that point: to feel like a failure. But that is just the system / education you (we all) grew ups with. In Reality, there is no buckelt List, there are no goals to reach. It is the process ! And your feelings along that way. Listening to others is ok, but at the end you will have to realize , that you are unique and so is your path. So, you‘re are not alone, but you are the only one to proceed your way. 💙🙏
Mate I'm nearly 67 and what life has taught me and seems to be true, 'is that life is a jourrney and not a destination'. So what would that loom like for you. It is a cliche but is it accurate. So relax and enjoy the journey. Know this - what you have done is impressive.
I have the same feelings. I live from more than 20 years from music producing so sometimes I have the feeling like the world moves in one direction and me in the opposite one. We should not compare ourselves to others but we do it anyway. Not knowing how we will pay our bills next month is a constant stress. And when we have enough money also a stress because we do not know how long they will last. But overall I would not trade my life. I am more than happy to be able to live from my passion, hobby, purpose. Take care. I enjoy ur videos
You were right...I LOVE this video! I genuinely appreciate your raw honesty! I can relate to your message. I'm 52 yrs old. I've spent the majority of my life raising 4 children on my own. I am also the proud grandma to seven grand babies. I have spent my life living and doing what was expected of me. I often feel like I'm suppose to be further ahead in life...when I measure myself in terms of other people's success. I am currently in the process of changing my life to live the life I WANT TO LIVE...regardless of anyone elses thoughts on the subject. At 52 I am starting again....and that is ok because I'm on my way to living my true purpose. I believe that is the ultimate goal in life. And I don't believe there is a right or wrong way to do that. I hope to inspire others to the same, to show people it doesn't matter what your age is. If there is breath in your body...there is possibility! As long as I listen to my own voice, follow my own path, remain guided by my own instincts and constantly remind myself this is my journey and it is meant to unfold for me in time, in just the right way! It's the journey that matters...not the destination. Be kind to yourself...Trust the process...Stop and enjoy the path your on....Celebrate the beautiful life you're building everyday...you'll get where you want to go! Look how far you've come already!! Much Love and many Blessings to you...you are an Inspiration! ✌️❤️😁🤙
Dear Kalle, don’t be too hard to yourself. Your lifestyle is the best, you have of course a lot of building and other stuff to do, but you are your own master. Think about yourself and Christine and puppies also, continue with projects which are the most important for you.
I hope you're not judging yourself by others success..I'm trying my ass off to get where you are..please stay your path..your actually leading people..