Kevin- You are not alone. It really is such a common fear. And the depth of it is that we are afraid of experiencing shame. If you can give yourself the grace to be imperfect, it will go a long way towards helping you find peace. For me, I remind myself often that Jesus was perfect so I don't have to be. I want to rest in God's grace for my mistakes and imperfections, and I want that for you, too.
@@cynthiathornburg3651 wow, Cynthia, thank you for sharing this. My heart goes out to you. I'm not familiar with that book. I hope it has been helpful for you. John 14:1 in the Bible has really helped me because I'm learning that the key to releasing my fear is to trust in God and remember that this world is not my real home. Blessings on you, and I will pray right now that you are able to experience freedom from fear very soon!
@@SpeakEaglewithDrP thank you for that. It’s an INCREDIBLE read!!! I’m still dealing with it all but I know God is with me and he will get me through!!
This is literally me at work all the time I feel extremely stupid and my self esteem let's just say I have none at this point. I'm so slow in the head I'm so frustrated I just want to quit my job, had enough. You've explained my inner dialogue with myself perfectly I feel understood thank you for making this video.
Purnita, I feel your pain. Remember, your mistakes don’t define you; they’re just a reminder that you’re an imperfect human like the rest of us! You have the “I’m so stupid” tape playing in your head all the time, though, which is hurting you. Try replacing it with, “You can do this, Purnita,” or even the simple prayer, “God, please help me understand this.” Celebrate your wins, and try to let go of your mistakes quickly.
same here bro .. I get pain froths work stress nowadays in my whole body , brain , joints . I have this big fear of what is the next wrong thing I'm gonna be called out .
I can relate to this, and one of my supervisors was making it a joke; like she would always bring it up during their meeting. They have no regards to their employees mental health.
It was really helpful. I am unable to sleep, thinking about the nightmares which may happen tomorrow at work. And this stress is increasing day by day.
How are you doing, Sambit? Thank you for sharing. I pray you can experience peace in your imperfections through Jesus. He was perfect so we don’t have to be. May you receive this gift of God and rest in Him.
1:01 I'm really telling that to myself whenever I've done something wrong. I'm even losing the guts to explain my self. What hurts the most is that people around me sees only my mistakes. 😔
Khendy - When other people see only your mistakes, it usually has more to do with their shame than your imperfection. Hold your head high and remember that your character (who you are) is way more important than your mistakes (what you do). As a Christian, I rest in the fact that Jesus was perfect so I don’t have to be. And that gives me the freedom to say I’m sorry, release the shame, and move on. Don’t let anyone try to define you by your mistakes. You are beautiful and loved despite them.
I started a new job today and I made a few mistakes. Thankfully my manager is super patient and didn't make me feel dumb. But yeah, that feeling of being dumb is still there looming in the background. I'll apply your tips.
I’m sorry to hear that this was your experience, catpaws. It’s interesting to note that criticizing people doesn’t help them make less mistakes, but more mistakes! Obviously, criticism is not a good strategy for encouraging good work. What would you like your manager to do instead? What would help you the most?
Making a mistake is a real reason to fear. Managers can't wait to stomp on you. One never gets any praise if something is done well since its expected. It's that simple. But one mistake and you will hear the whole day or for a few days over and over about what you have done. Managers can't wait to show their superiority and distinguish themselves so they in return will get praises from higher managers. In the company where I used to work we all avoided at any cost a manager. Senior managers pressure junior managers and junior managers pressure staff. The staff has to shut up and comply or else ... Dumb for the one who approaches one. 50% quit their jobs me included. Now I have no job and I am scared to start a new one especially that I have now peace having no boss.
I get it! I am in the process of working on creating a masterclass in Executive Presence, so managers learn how to communicate with their team in ways that will encourage engagement, encourage innovation, and encourage awesome people like you to want to stay! I hate that you have been treated so terribly. Your best bet is to find out from the people in your network what companies in your area have healthy culture, and apply there.
I’m always afraid of making a mistake at my job but I also fear that my mistakes could lead to suspension or even termination. And often times when I have made mistakes the thought that comes to my mind is this, “Shame on me! How could I do that? I’m so stupid! I’m such an idiot! I should know better! I’ve been in this position for a year and a half! The next time I make a mistake I’ll be suspended or maybe even fired!” Or the other thought that comes to my mind is, “I’m probably already fired! My boss just hasn’t told me yet! But I’ll find out maybe later tonight with a phone call or text or tomorrow morning by getting a phone call or text or when I report to work!” Then I’ll have to job hunt and it won’t be easy!”
It's so easy to revert to negative self-talk and to then jump to conclusions, isn't it? It takes serious self-discipline to speak positively to yourself, like an awesome best friend would talk to you. If you can catch yourself soon enough, you can turn your self-talk positive and say things like "You are doing the best you can, Michael. Don't give up. Mistakes are how you learn. You are covered by Grace. Rest in Grace. It's going to be okay!" That's what the Holy Spirit says to you, because He is living in you. So listen to Him.
I really needed to hear this thank you:) I get so nervous somtimes.i work with mostly infant animals and measuring their meds is such a exact science. It can be stressful at times and I often worry about messing up
Hi Pat- wow! I can imagine working with infant animals is both incredibly rewarding and incredibly stressful. And yet all you can do is your best each day. Do you ever work in pairs and check each other’s dosages?
Great video You're right it's what I'm trying to remind my self to. I'm working on it And I'm training my brain to act upon it. Because mistakes could be a blessing and an opportunity that might lead you to give your best and to progress. But it's tough. When I think that I'm going to start a new job just the thinking fact destroyed me I think it's one of the reason that I'm afraid of getting a job. I feel like for sure I will make mistakes and I will disappoint my superiors and I should take the full responsibility for my incompetence. As a result I run away from the job and this situation happend every time I tried to get a job.
Imene- thank you for what you shared in your comment. It sounds like your head knows the truth but your heart is afraid. I love how you say, "mistakes could be a blessing" - now you just have to get your heart to believe it! Have faith, my friend. If you get a chance, read Philippians 4:13 in the Bible. I think it will encourage your heart.
@@SpeakEaglewithDrP @Speak Eagle with Dr. P thanks for your feedback. And as a Muslim I believe that faith is essential as well as the trust in God and I'm grateful for having the both. And I believe also that God will never burden a soul beyond what it can bear. This verse make me strong. But there is this fear I don't know how to overcome it it's Intense to the point that when I passe my job interview I hope not being choose, in my mind I think that I'm stupid, anxious person , not skilled I have a lot of weakness, I'm gonna be embarrassed. How can I do what they will demand me to do because I'm not intelligent as much. I think that I'm afraid of responsibility. How to deal with this issue. Staying home feel safe but not productive so I have the purpose to work I have the good intentions for it. But I can't.
@@imenesaidoun9712 my friend, I hear your heart, that you are not free to live life abundantly and joyfully the way God intends for you. This is a spiritual battle and you have an enemy of your soul (Satan) who wants to keep you living in bondage. But there is a Savior (Jesus) who loves you and wants you to live free. Perfect love casts out all fear. He was perfect so you can embrace imperfection. Being dependent on God every day to do what seems impossible is not weakness, but strength. I’m praying freedom for you!
You are so right. I have noticed that i have the tendency to make mistakes right before some days off or the said mistakes manifest around that time. I just keep thinking about it making me depressed, unhappy and fall sick until i don't talk to my supervisor or until we find a solution. I am trying hard not to focus on this mistake but instead finding a solution and to never repeat it again. But I'm just afraid that i lose the job😐
Vijesh, I'm sure that doesn't help you to enjoy your days off! It's good to focus on the solutions and to be open with your supervisor. If you can, ask them for help and treat them like they are an expert in the area in which you made a mistake. We are less likely to come down hard on someone who tells us they look up to us as an expert!
Thanks, Pranay. I guess it’s heartfelt because I have beat myself up so much for making mistakes at work and I want to learn to give myself grace instead. And I want that for you, too.
I am having fear of mistakes even before the work is getting done. Sometimes I feel what I do is wrong ,it contains lots of mistake,doubts etc but when comes to reality mistakes would be lesser. This is affecting my work to do properly and can't concentrate
Hi Sangee- It’s amazing how our minds work, isn’t it? Our fear trips us up and makes it more difficult to do excellent work. I think it’s time to say goodbye to fear because it isn’t serving you well. Your mind is trying to jump ahead and protect you, but it’s not helping. Letting go of your fear, trusting God that He put you in this job for a reason, and accepting imperfection may be the keys for you to be able to finally concentrate and do the good work you know you are capable of doing.
Hi Heidi. Any advice for someone who has the irrational fear that a little mistake they make in their job could impact the whole business, and therefore keeps re-checking everything they do and feels the need to keep asking someone like their manager for confirmation?
Good question! If you’re the employee, it will take a conscious choice to do one thing and complete it without re-checking with a manager. That first time might be the hardest to trust yourself that you did it right. But once you’ve done it once, the second and third times won’t feel quite as scary. You could also have a conversation with the manager to ask if they would prefer you to check your work with them or not. Hearing that they don’t want you to check with them might give you the courage to do your work with more autonomy and confidence. If you’re the manager, it’s important to build the confidence and trust of the employee by letting them know you believe they can do this, they don’t need to check everything with you, and reassure them the business won’t fold if they make a mistake.
Thank you for your reply, viburnum. We all make mistakes every day! The key to not hating yourself is to give yourself grace, knowing God sees your mistakes and loves you anyway. Jesus was perfect, so we can rest in Him and be okay with being imperfect.
Thanks a lot for making this video because I relate to this so much. I have mild social anxiety but for me it’s not that of a problem as much as fear of making mistakes at work and then making me feel that I look stupid afterwards, all these problems are because of my over involved parents doing everything for me and also judging me for making a mistake they also would do everything for me and tell me that “you can’t do that, I do it for you, you are not capable of doing that”.Even to this day as a 23 year old they still do these things and now that I’ve become an adult it’s hard cuz you have absolutely no self esteem and I also paid a lot of attention to my behavior in the workplace,I have trouble focusing cuz I ruminate a lot,I tend to ask so many questions before doing something out of fear of being judged or yelled by my boss and it becomes annoying for my coworkers. Idk what to really do but I really need to talk to a therapist cuz I’ve read a few psychology books and I can’t really deal with it on my own and I think it’s better to talk to someone who’s professional. I thank you a lot again for making this video because it made me feel a bit better knowing that I’m not the only one going through this ❤❤
Hi dcjkl8088- You are definitely NOT alone- especially when over 36K people have now watched this video. And now that you are 23, you can hopefully start to break free of the control of your parents and decide on your own that you don't have to live in fear. As you grow in confidence and autonomy, I hope you can also find empathy for your parents- because they also are living in fear, which is why they want to do everything for you. I think it's great that you ask a lot of questions at work because I'll bet one day there will be someone who will ask you a lot of questions and you will know how they feel! Remember that making mistakes is a part of being human- and it's the best way we learn. Jesus was perfect so you don't have to be. May you find your identity in His strength and His love for you.
My friend, making mistakes is just a part of being human. Don’t quit your work. Use every mistake as a new opportunity to give yourself grace and to hear God’s voice saying you don’t have to be perfect. In fact, Jesus was perfect so we don’t have to be. Do your best, and then rest in Him. ❤️
@@SpeakEaglewithDrP Hey thanx a lot I quit that toxic job and feeling better now. I also realized that no job no degree can judge or measure our potential. I took the right call in right time.
I am so scared, and anxious that I keep making the same mistakes over again. And when I am given a task to carry out, it’s like my heart stops, because then I am thinking I will make another mistake .
Hi Adetilda- thank you for sharing. I think our anxiety over making mistakes makes us make more mistakes! It’s when we breathe and rest in our imperfect humanness that we can let go of our fear. You are not what you do. You are so much more than that. You will make mistakes and that has to be ok. Perfection is an illusion anyway. So breathe in the grace of God. Ask for help when you need it. Admit when you make a mistake. Learn from it. And let go. Jesus was perfect so you don’t have to be ❤️
Hi ankit34370- thank you for commenting here, and for your honesty. Anxiety can be debilitating. But mistakes are what make you human. If you never made mistakes you would be a robot! And then, even robots make mistakes. You mentioned that your anxiety about this is affecting your learning and growth. I would encourage you that probably the way we learn the most is by making mistakes. Thomas Edison, who eventually invented electricity, said, "I have not failed 10,000 times, I have successfully found 10,000 ways that will not work." I love that, because it means he kept trying, even when he made mistakes. And eventually he found the solution! So embrace your mistakes and learn from them, for they are the way we grow the most!
Thanks for your question. I would want to stay in close communication with people who could help me catch mistakes before they become a crisis. The truth is, you can only do your best, and sometimes we do make mistakes because we are human. Hopefully you have a team, which can help you not feel quite so alone with this pressure. The fact that you don’t want to cause a loss for the company tells me that you already are a conscientious employee who desires to do your best. The more you worry, the more you will lock yourself up with anxiety. Instead, rest in the fact that you are not alone, and you are doing your best.
Hello Madam, am working in Qatar as an accountant in a company, and its the first time am working in a big firm, and its been 3 months, the problem is that am still new and has fear to ask questions to my Senior workers , while asking doubts am scared whether am asking silly/stupid questions .. how to overcome this?
Hi friend! Here's my suggestion- Begin your question by referring to the Senior worker as an "expert." You could say, "Since you have been here many years now, I view you as an expert in this area. I have a question and would love a bit of advice from your expertise." If someone referred to you as an expert, would you care what kind of question they asked? :) I think you'd be tremendously encouraged that someone called you an expert and you would be happy to answer their question. Try it and let me know how it goes!
@@SpeakEaglewithDrP thanks Madam , today I made a mistake in work and I was feeling bad about it , I watched this video again and feeling better now, I am a person with many limitations , I used to make mistakes in job ,I need to get better , can you help me
Mistakes are a part of life, my friend. Apologize to the other person when you make one, and then speak kindly to yourself: “I am human and it’s ok to make mistakes.” You are so much more than your performance, and perfection is an illusion anyway. Grace to you.
Great question, Pappu. I think you give it some time, do your best right now to complete the tasks that they give you, and then at some point when you feel you have regained their trust in other things you can ask to have a shot again at doing the task in which you initially made a mistake.
I’m inspired by this video and really needed to see this. Thank you for your obedience. You just gained a subscriber. Continue to do what God has called you to do my sister in Christ♥️✨
Shauna- thank you for your encouragement! I felt your hug through your words the day you first posted your comment and I still feel it when I re-read it tonight. Grateful to have you as my sister in Christ ❤️
@@SpeakEaglewithDrP I’m so grateful for you as well! Thankful for Gods divine connections♥️ Keep pressing! I look forward to your videos & all that God is doing in your life. All my love!!🙏🏽♥️
I was trained for 4 days and then expected to do everything perfectly, in less than a month I made 2 mistakes and my manager then said to me one more mistake and I fire you. so...
Empress, thank you for sharing. This is so hard to hear because your manager is expecting perfection. And unless your manager hires robots, perfection is an unreasonable expectation. Even then, sometimes robots make mistakes! I feel for you in this situation and pray you will be able to rest in your imperfections and trust God for a more grace-filled manager in the future.
Hi Shalaba- thank you for your comment. I have found one of the best ways to ask a question of a senior employee is to first tell them they are the expert and that is why you are coming to them. They will appreciate the respect, and you will get your question answered!
But i get scared that if I make a mistake in my work then the principal will fire me and i am the only working member of my family and Thus I feel overwhelmed sometimes. Like i am scared right now I am a substitute basis teacher in a reputed school and we have to fill out the marks of a student in a markbook and then we enter the marks on computer and it is not allowed to make mistakes in the markbook as we enter the same in the computer. But while writing my hands sweat a lot and I was using a ball pen to fill the marks and it got messy in some places, in three pages to be exact and when I tried to use a blade to scrub the extra ink and make it look ok, to correct my mistake somehow it got more messy. And secondly while checking the information from the computer I saw that I have written Green house instead of yellow house and again I used blade to correct it and make green to yellow and it got messy there too.....so that makes it 4 mistakes. And the thing is that the markbook is checked by out principal before they are printed out as result cards for the students. Now I am scared that principal will see the mistakes and call me out and fire me out of my beloved job.... Due to the lock down I was out of job for almost half a year and those were the most difficult times even sometimes I felt like I want to end my life but looking at my mom and dad who now look upto me I restrained myself under great stress and when I got back my job I couldn't come out of that fear... That trauma... What can I do? I am a new teacher in my school and an introvert and I don't know how to approach others for help and if I do approach for help they seem to not care enough... and I am a bit weird and I think it's because of my behavior and my personality and the other teachers also perceive me as weird too although they haven't told me directly but I can understand the subtle hints and eye to eye communication and the smiling among themselves when I say my opinions about something.... I feel so constricted in there but that is my school.... The same school that I passed out from and I got a job in the same school... So it is kinda my place like my home and I want to be the best teacher in my school and want to work as a team but I don't know.... I feel so confused and alone and scared that I talk to myself and to the statue and cross of Lord Jesus Christ to share my feelings and I couldn't share my feelings at home since my parents are old now and I am working for them to support them and I don't want to burden them with my worries too. .... I needed to ramble out my feelings here.... I know no one will read through this rambling but if someone does then please provide an advice on how can I overcome my issues listed above.... Please earnest request to anyone who read this.
Ratna- Thank you for not ending your life! You are making a positive difference in the lives of so many people, including your parents. We need you in our world. And even when you can't see it, believe by faith that God has a plan for your life and He sees you and knows you and loves you. We all have great fears and make many mistakes every day. No matter how hard you try, you will never be perfect. And that's ok. I have a feeling that even if you smudge the marks sometimes, your ability to teach far outweighs your mistakes. Teaching comes from the heart, and my prayer is that your principal will see your love for your students. Admit your mistakes, apologize if you need to, and then let it go and focus on loving your students by teaching them well. Maybe your mistakes will help your students be okay with trying something new and making mistakes, too. It's how we learn. Lead by example and your authenticity will be winsome. Thank you for venting to me. I appreciate you sharing your heart. Keep believing in Jesus as your Savior. He is perfect so you don't have to be.
@@SpeakEaglewithDrP Thank you so much mam for your kind words. I have to submit the markbook on Monday 15 March 2021 and I needed some words of encouragement from someone who really cares cause I really lack the people to talk to. Thanks once again to talk to me. Made me feel much better.
@@SpeakEaglewithDrP Hello again... She did not even check it . But maybe someday she will but I really hope she doesn't... And a few days back on 5th we started our new session of the classes and I am dead set on making no mistakes this time and I am trying my level best to work properly and without making mistakes. Thanks again for your kind words.
The whole rest of my day after making a mistake will beat myself up over it the night before the next work shift i have anxiety attacks about screwing up the next day is pure agony
Hi Glen- I have been there, and I agree it’s agony! My best defense against anxiety is to say, “Well, I guess there’s another example of how I’m imperfect and human.” Because we can’t be anything BUT imperfect and human! The days I hold myself to the standard of being perfect are very anxious days because I screw up every day. To be human is to make mistakes. And that’s okay. Peace and grace to you!
Hi Rolan- I would say don’t keep imagining making a mistake, but it’s ok to imagine it once and give yourself grace for being human. Otherwise I always expect perfection of myself and then beat myself up when I make a mistake. Grace, grace grace- we all need it all the time!
That is a tough combination, Rodrigo. Therapy and meds can help. Take small steps toward health and wholeness, stating with small, low-pressure tasks at first. And invite Jesus into your life. Only He, by the power of His Spirit, can free you to truly live.
I'm with you. We are ALWAYS going to make mistakes because it's just part of being human. The best you can do is to apologize, give yourself grace (lots of it!), and have someone proof your documents for you.
I hate myself toooo . I always did the same mistake s everyday. I know my boss feel angry and he's only holding back. That s why I decided to pass my resignation. (sorry for my bad English)
Sometimes the best thing is to resign and find a job that is more naturally suited for how you are gifted (and you ARE gifted!) Other times the best thing is to give yourself the grace to make mistakes, apologize when you need to, and then keep going, doing your best in a challenging job. I pray that God leads you to the best job for you as you seek Him.
I can understand! The best you can do would be to own your mistake if you did, and then give yourself grace for being human. We all make mistakes every day.
I’m so sorry to hear that, Hagit. I’m sure that was very hurtful and discouraging for you. Through the love of Jesus may you experience the meaning of your name - Shalom... Peace.
I still don't understand. The solution is to gradually allow yourself to make that mistake? Really? That in itself gives me much more anxiety than ever. It triggers me to not want me to do and feels counter-productive. Furthermore, When you feel the shame..."push it off with grace"?! That's MUCH harder for me than other people. How do I "gracefully" push it off like that when I'm already in a middle of anxiety and panic?!
Hey Dukie mon- I can see your frustration with this. And it might not work for everyone. For me, imagining making the mistake helps me remember it’s ok to be human and it wouldn’t be the end of the world if I made the mistake. It can also help me come up with a plan, like simply admitting I made the mistake and asking for help. I also think sometimes I believe lies in my head like, “I’m such an idiot” and I need to replace them with truth that making a mistake doesn’t make me an idiot, it makes me human.
I made a mistake a few weeks ago and my manager asked not to do that task any longer. However, my colleague offered to train me again, but still I made mistakes unfortunately. I try to communicate with her and it goes well but sometime I just feel like I ask too much, because her behaviour change. I always like to work organised and I help my colleagues if they need me, I feel good helping them and can be patient. But, I am also sometime sad about the mistakes I made as today and get worried over how they think about me. I try to learn from it, still the tasks are pretty difficult and I want to keep going but it needs time unfortunately. Thank you for this video, it calms me down. Hopefully it get better very soon... :(
I can understand your sadness over making mistakes. I think we all feel it. It's fantastic that you are letting your colleague help you, and that you help your colleagues, too. If you colleague's behavior has changed toward you, it might be time to have an honest conversation to find out if you are truly asking too much. Or maybe her change in behavior is totally unrelated to something you are doing. I admire the fact that you are continuing to challenge yourself to do difficult tasks. Don't give up, and keep giving yourself grace every day.
@@SpeakEaglewithDrP Thank you for your responds, also your video is very helpful! I had a feedback from her and she said that her behaviour wasn’t meant for me, she just had a bad day. I think next time, I shouldn’t overthink to much and give people some space if I notice they are unhappy at the moment, also not taking it so personally. She mentioned the mistakes that I made and honestly, it were just little mistakes that I can definitely solve. I just overthink too much and should have been more confident about myself. You are really helping so many people and this give me so much more motivation! I advice you to keep it going with all the amazing support and advise that you are giving people that are having a hard time... I definitely subscribe
@@SpeakEaglewithDrP I think maybe videos that are related with reaching peoples goals, but more focused on the situation of covid. Many people needs to stay isolated and they might lose their goals of what they want to achieve. For instance, I work from home but because of the lockdown, I start feeling that I am getting a lazier as there is nothing else to do at the moment other than working and just waiting for the next day to work again... I think people would like to know what they can do, kind of hobbies, study or goals. My goal is being more active, not sleeping during the day, do some exercise to feel good the next day, eat healthy and cook, learn another language etc. Etc. I am doing some, but not all and I think advice for this period in life it could help a lot of people to be honest Edit: this are just some tips for people it might help :)
No, you aren’t the only one who is afraid of making a mistake at work. And the good news is you are one of 7 billion people who make mistakes every day because we are human. Mistakes are the way we learn.
I fear authorities of all kinds. It makes it hard to work for someone else when you fear them. To survive, I must be self employed. My ability to tolerate the fear of authority usually lasts 4-6 months. After that point I start experiencing panic attacks, migraines, digestive issues, insomnia, and depression. It doesn’t matter what my boss says, I feel like dying when I realize I made a mistake. I wonder what jobs are like for people who have a healthy relationship with authority? Do they just, like, live their lives? I can’t imagine!
Wow this is my life. Every single day I wake up on the verge of a panic attack because of this fear. Amazing video.
Kevin- You are not alone. It really is such a common fear. And the depth of it is that we are afraid of experiencing shame. If you can give yourself the grace to be imperfect, it will go a long way towards helping you find peace. For me, I remind myself often that Jesus was perfect so I don't have to be. I want to rest in God's grace for my mistakes and imperfections, and I want that for you, too.
I have been on 4 month short term disability disability because this fear has been so intense. I’ve been reading destroying fear by Juan Ramirez.
@@cynthiathornburg3651 wow, Cynthia, thank you for sharing this. My heart goes out to you. I'm not familiar with that book. I hope it has been helpful for you. John 14:1 in the Bible has really helped me because I'm learning that the key to releasing my fear is to trust in God and remember that this world is not my real home. Blessings on you, and I will pray right now that you are able to experience freedom from fear very soon!
@@SpeakEaglewithDrP thank you for that. It’s an INCREDIBLE read!!! I’m still dealing with it all but I know God is with me and he will get me through!!
Its also hapen to me
This is literally me at work all the time I feel extremely stupid and my self esteem let's just say I have none at this point. I'm so slow in the head I'm so frustrated I just want to quit my job, had enough. You've explained my inner dialogue with myself perfectly I feel understood thank you for making this video.
Purnita, I feel your pain. Remember, your mistakes don’t define you; they’re just a reminder that you’re an imperfect human like the rest of us! You have the “I’m so stupid” tape playing in your head all the time, though, which is hurting you. Try replacing it with, “You can do this, Purnita,” or even the simple prayer, “God, please help me understand this.” Celebrate your wins, and try to let go of your mistakes quickly.
same here bro .. I get pain froths work stress nowadays in my whole body , brain , joints . I have this big fear of what is the next wrong thing I'm gonna be called out .
Hi Nita, how are things going now?
@@joshbowmen7760 I quit my job and now jobless.
I feel exactly the same
hurts....specially when your manager points it out during a meeting.
I know- that's happened to me, too. Maybe I'll record a video for managers to watch about how our mistakes should be only discussed privately!
That's piss poor management!
I can relate to this, and one of my supervisors was making it a joke; like she would always bring it up during their meeting. They have no regards to their employees mental health.
It was really helpful. I am unable to sleep, thinking about the nightmares which may happen tomorrow at work. And this stress is increasing day by day.
How are you doing, Sambit? Thank you for sharing. I pray you can experience peace in your imperfections through Jesus. He was perfect so we don’t have to be. May you receive this gift of God and rest in Him.
This is happening with me too.
Am in this situation now and am so confused and it feel bad I have family to feed am so afraid to be fired
1:01 I'm really telling that to myself whenever I've done something wrong. I'm even losing the guts to explain my self.
What hurts the most is that people around me sees only my mistakes.
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Khendy - When other people see only your mistakes, it usually has more to do with their shame than your imperfection. Hold your head high and remember that your character (who you are) is way more important than your mistakes (what you do). As a Christian, I rest in the fact that Jesus was perfect so I don’t have to be. And that gives me the freedom to say I’m sorry, release the shame, and move on. Don’t let anyone try to define you by your mistakes. You are beautiful and loved despite them.
the humans when u succeed..they shuts ...and when u failed they will barking like dogs ...never listen to them
I started a new job today and I made a few mistakes. Thankfully my manager is super patient and didn't make me feel dumb. But yeah, that feeling of being dumb is still there looming in the background. I'll apply your tips.
It’s awesome to have a patient manager! You’re blessed, for sure!
@@SpeakEaglewithDrP I can tell she's a good person. I hope I keep the job... see? That's my fear there. I can't wait to learn more stuff.
This is my first job and I made loads of stupid mistakes, my manager almost always criticise and insult me when I do. Which made me make more mistakes
I’m sorry to hear that this was your experience, catpaws. It’s interesting to note that criticizing people doesn’t help them make less mistakes, but more mistakes! Obviously, criticism is not a good strategy for encouraging good work. What would you like your manager to do instead? What would help you the most?
Feel the same way
Making a mistake is a real reason to fear. Managers can't wait to stomp on you. One never gets any praise if something is done well since its expected. It's that simple. But one mistake and you will hear the whole day or for a few days over and over about what you have done. Managers can't wait to show their superiority and distinguish themselves so they in return will get praises from higher managers.
In the company where I used to work we all avoided at any cost a manager. Senior managers pressure junior managers and junior managers pressure staff. The staff has to shut up and comply or else ... Dumb for the one who approaches one.
50% quit their jobs me included. Now I have no job and I am scared to start a new one especially that I have now peace having no boss.
I get it! I am in the process of working on creating a masterclass in Executive Presence, so managers learn how to communicate with their team in ways that will encourage engagement, encourage innovation, and encourage awesome people like you to want to stay! I hate that you have been treated so terribly. Your best bet is to find out from the people in your network what companies in your area have healthy culture, and apply there.
I’m always afraid of making a mistake at my job but I also fear that my mistakes could lead to suspension or even termination. And often times when I have made mistakes the thought that comes to my mind is this, “Shame on me! How could I do that? I’m so stupid! I’m such an idiot! I should know better! I’ve been in this position for a year and a half! The next time I make a mistake I’ll be suspended or maybe even fired!” Or the other thought that comes to my mind is, “I’m probably already fired! My boss just hasn’t told me yet! But I’ll find out maybe later tonight with a phone call or text or tomorrow morning by getting a phone call or text or when I report to work!” Then I’ll have to job hunt and it won’t be easy!”
It's so easy to revert to negative self-talk and to then jump to conclusions, isn't it? It takes serious self-discipline to speak positively to yourself, like an awesome best friend would talk to you. If you can catch yourself soon enough, you can turn your self-talk positive and say things like "You are doing the best you can, Michael. Don't give up. Mistakes are how you learn. You are covered by Grace. Rest in Grace. It's going to be okay!" That's what the Holy Spirit says to you, because He is living in you. So listen to Him.
Damn Michael this sums up how i am feeling right now😐
Feeling the same way
You're speaking directly to me... thanks
You're welcome, Chelle!
Point on, you are absolutely right. Keep up the great work and may God Bless You.
Thanks, friend! God bless you, too.
I really needed to hear this thank you:) I get so nervous somtimes.i work with mostly infant animals and measuring their meds is such a exact science. It can be stressful at times and I often worry about messing up
Hi Pat- wow! I can imagine working with infant animals is both incredibly rewarding and incredibly stressful. And yet all you can do is your best each day. Do you ever work in pairs and check each other’s dosages?
@@SpeakEaglewithDrP yep and it's helpful to each other when we do:)
Great video You're right it's what I'm trying to remind my self to. I'm working on it And I'm training my brain to act upon it. Because mistakes could be a blessing and an opportunity that might lead you to give your best and to progress. But it's tough. When I think that I'm going to start a new job just the thinking fact destroyed me I think it's one of the reason that I'm afraid of getting a job. I feel like for sure I will make mistakes and I will disappoint my superiors and I should take the full responsibility for my incompetence. As a result I run away from the job and this situation happend every time I tried to get a job.
Imene- thank you for what you shared in your comment. It sounds like your head knows the truth but your heart is afraid. I love how you say, "mistakes could be a blessing" - now you just have to get your heart to believe it! Have faith, my friend. If you get a chance, read Philippians 4:13 in the Bible. I think it will encourage your heart.
@@SpeakEaglewithDrP @Speak Eagle with Dr. P thanks for your feedback. And as a Muslim I believe that faith is essential as well as the trust in God and I'm grateful for having the both. And I believe also that God will never burden a soul beyond what it can bear. This verse make me strong. But there is this fear I don't know how to overcome it it's Intense to the point that when I passe my job interview I hope not being choose, in my mind I think that I'm stupid, anxious person , not skilled I have a lot of weakness, I'm gonna be embarrassed. How can I do what they will demand me to do because I'm not intelligent as much. I think that I'm afraid of responsibility. How to deal with this issue. Staying home feel safe but not productive so I have the purpose to work I have the good intentions for it. But I can't.
@@imenesaidoun9712 my friend, I hear your heart, that you are not free to live life abundantly and joyfully the way God intends for you. This is a spiritual battle and you have an enemy of your soul (Satan) who wants to keep you living in bondage. But there is a Savior (Jesus) who loves you and wants you to live free. Perfect love casts out all fear. He was perfect so you can embrace imperfection. Being dependent on God every day to do what seems impossible is not weakness, but strength. I’m praying freedom for you!
You are so right. I have noticed that i have the tendency to make mistakes right before some days off or the said mistakes manifest around that time. I just keep thinking about it making me depressed, unhappy and fall sick until i don't talk to my supervisor or until we find a solution. I am trying hard not to focus on this mistake but instead finding a solution and to never repeat it again. But I'm just afraid that i lose the job😐
Vijesh, I'm sure that doesn't help you to enjoy your days off! It's good to focus on the solutions and to be open with your supervisor. If you can, ask them for help and treat them like they are an expert in the area in which you made a mistake. We are less likely to come down hard on someone who tells us they look up to us as an expert!
Wow the way she explains is really heart felt...
Thanks, Pranay. I guess it’s heartfelt because I have beat myself up so much for making mistakes at work and I want to learn to give myself grace instead. And I want that for you, too.
I am having fear of mistakes even before the work is getting done. Sometimes I feel what I do is wrong ,it contains lots of mistake,doubts etc but when comes to reality mistakes would be lesser. This is affecting my work to do properly and can't concentrate
Hi Sangee- It’s amazing how our minds work, isn’t it? Our fear trips us up and makes it more difficult to do excellent work. I think it’s time to say goodbye to fear because it isn’t serving you well. Your mind is trying to jump ahead and protect you, but it’s not helping. Letting go of your fear, trusting God that He put you in this job for a reason, and accepting imperfection may be the keys for you to be able to finally concentrate and do the good work you know you are capable of doing.
Hi Heidi. Any advice for someone who has the irrational fear that a little mistake they make in their job could impact the whole business, and therefore keeps re-checking everything they do and feels the need to keep asking someone like their manager for confirmation?
Good question! If you’re the employee, it will take a conscious choice to do one thing and complete it without re-checking with a manager. That first time might be the hardest to trust yourself that you did it right. But once you’ve done it once, the second and third times won’t feel quite as scary. You could also have a conversation with the manager to ask if they would prefer you to check your work with them or not. Hearing that they don’t want you to check with them might give you the courage to do your work with more autonomy and confidence.
If you’re the manager, it’s important to build the confidence and trust of the employee by letting them know you believe they can do this, they don’t need to check everything with you, and reassure them the business won’t fold if they make a mistake.
Thank you so much.really needed this
I'm so glad to hear it was helpful for you, Minnu
I havent watch the whole video but feel paintful. I make mistake like everyday and i hate myself so much.
Thank you for your reply, viburnum. We all make mistakes every day! The key to not hating yourself is to give yourself grace, knowing God sees your mistakes and loves you anyway. Jesus was perfect, so we can rest in Him and be okay with being imperfect.
@@SpeakEaglewithDrP thank you for your kind words doctor ;))
Thanks a lot for making this video because I relate to this so much. I have mild social anxiety but for me it’s not that of a problem as much as fear of making mistakes at work and then making me feel that I look stupid afterwards, all these problems are because of my over involved parents doing everything for me and also judging me for making a mistake they also would do everything for me and tell me that “you can’t do that, I do it for you, you are not capable of doing that”.Even to this day as a 23 year old they still do these things and now that I’ve become an adult it’s hard cuz you have absolutely no self esteem and I also paid a lot of attention to my behavior in the workplace,I have trouble focusing cuz I ruminate a lot,I tend to ask so many questions before doing something out of fear of being judged or yelled by my boss and it becomes annoying for my coworkers. Idk what to really do but I really need to talk to a therapist cuz I’ve read a few psychology books and I can’t really deal with it on my own and I think it’s better to talk to someone who’s professional. I thank you a lot again for making this video because it made me feel a bit better knowing that I’m not the only one going through this ❤❤
Hi dcjkl8088- You are definitely NOT alone- especially when over 36K people have now watched this video. And now that you are 23, you can hopefully start to break free of the control of your parents and decide on your own that you don't have to live in fear. As you grow in confidence and autonomy, I hope you can also find empathy for your parents- because they also are living in fear, which is why they want to do everything for you. I think it's great that you ask a lot of questions at work because I'll bet one day there will be someone who will ask you a lot of questions and you will know how they feel! Remember that making mistakes is a part of being human- and it's the best way we learn. Jesus was perfect so you don't have to be. May you find your identity in His strength and His love for you.
I fear too and i bcm lazy and confused
Sometimes our fear does suck the initiative out of us, Harssh. Recognizing it is fear that is holding you back is the first step to making changes.
Thanks for this video. It is really helpful 👍
You're welcome. Glad it was helpful, Shraddha!
I am doing mistakes again and again and again even though I try to remain alert. I feel like quitting my work now.
My friend, making mistakes is just a part of being human. Don’t quit your work. Use every mistake as a new opportunity to give yourself grace and to hear God’s voice saying you don’t have to be perfect. In fact, Jesus was perfect so we don’t have to be. Do your best, and then rest in Him. ❤️
Speak Eagle with Dr. P I needed to hear this 😭
@@SpeakEaglewithDrP Hey thanx a lot I quit that toxic job and feeling better now. I also realized that no job no degree can judge or measure our potential. I took the right call in right time.
Nilotpal Deka That’s so good to hear! Keep listening to God’s voice speaking love over you. Your future is bright!
@@SpeakEaglewithDrP Thank You so much 😊
I am so scared, and anxious that I keep making the same mistakes over again. And when I am given a task to carry out, it’s like my heart stops, because then I am thinking I will make another mistake .
Hi Adetilda- thank you for sharing. I think our anxiety over making mistakes makes us make more mistakes! It’s when we breathe and rest in our imperfect humanness that we can let go of our fear. You are not what you do. You are so much more than that. You will make mistakes and that has to be ok. Perfection is an illusion anyway. So breathe in the grace of God. Ask for help when you need it. Admit when you make a mistake. Learn from it. And let go. Jesus was perfect so you don’t have to be ❤️
@@SpeakEaglewithDrP thank you so much, God bless you.
I am trapped by my anxiety about making mistakes and it is affecting my learning and growth.
Hi ankit34370- thank you for commenting here, and for your honesty. Anxiety can be debilitating. But mistakes are what make you human. If you never made mistakes you would be a robot! And then, even robots make mistakes. You mentioned that your anxiety about this is affecting your learning and growth. I would encourage you that probably the way we learn the most is by making mistakes. Thomas Edison, who eventually invented electricity, said, "I have not failed 10,000 times, I have successfully found 10,000 ways that will not work." I love that, because it means he kept trying, even when he made mistakes. And eventually he found the solution! So embrace your mistakes and learn from them, for they are the way we grow the most!
@@SpeakEaglewithDrP This is the best answer I have found so far.
if that is the fear of making a mistake that may cause a huge loss for company, how to deal with it
Thanks for your question. I would want to stay in close communication with people who could help me catch mistakes before they become a crisis. The truth is, you can only do your best, and sometimes we do make mistakes because we are human. Hopefully you have a team, which can help you not feel quite so alone with this pressure. The fact that you don’t want to cause a loss for the company tells me that you already are a conscientious employee who desires to do your best. The more you worry, the more you will lock yourself up with anxiety. Instead, rest in the fact that you are not alone, and you are doing your best.
Hello Madam, am working in Qatar as an accountant in a company, and its the first time am working in a big firm, and its been 3 months, the problem is that am still new and has fear to ask questions to my Senior workers , while asking doubts am scared whether am asking silly/stupid questions .. how to overcome this?
Hi friend! Here's my suggestion- Begin your question by referring to the Senior worker as an "expert." You could say, "Since you have been here many years now, I view you as an expert in this area. I have a question and would love a bit of advice from your expertise." If someone referred to you as an expert, would you care what kind of question they asked? :) I think you'd be tremendously encouraged that someone called you an expert and you would be happy to answer their question. Try it and let me know how it goes!
@@SpeakEaglewithDrP thanks Madam , today I made a mistake in work and I was feeling bad about it , I watched this video again and feeling better now, I am a person with many limitations , I used to make mistakes in job ,I need to get better , can you help me
Mistakes are a part of life, my friend. Apologize to the other person when you make one, and then speak kindly to yourself: “I am human and it’s ok to make mistakes.” You are so much more than your performance, and perfection is an illusion anyway. Grace to you.
Hi rajasekaran same here
But what we do when bcoz of mistake they will not trust you again?
Great question, Pappu. I think you give it some time, do your best right now to complete the tasks that they give you, and then at some point when you feel you have regained their trust in other things you can ask to have a shot again at doing the task in which you initially made a mistake.
@@SpeakEaglewithDrP thank u i was feeling very bad but now got new projects 🥳🥳.
You r absolutely motivational speaker
Thank you, friend!
Excellent Doc.
Thank you, Sohail!
@@SpeakEaglewithDrP welcome and blessings
Thank you! ❤️
I’m inspired by this video and really needed to see this. Thank you for your obedience. You just gained a subscriber. Continue to do what God has called you to do my sister in Christ♥️✨
Shauna- thank you for your encouragement! I felt your hug through your words the day you first posted your comment and I still feel it when I re-read it tonight. Grateful to have you as my sister in Christ ❤️
@@SpeakEaglewithDrP I’m so grateful for you as well! Thankful for Gods divine connections♥️ Keep pressing! I look forward to your videos & all that God is doing in your life. All my love!!🙏🏽♥️
I made some mistakes at work, and I don't think I'm gonna fogive myself.
I was trained for 4 days and then expected to do everything perfectly, in less than a month I made 2 mistakes and my manager then said to me one more mistake and I fire you. so...
Empress, thank you for sharing. This is so hard to hear because your manager is expecting perfection. And unless your manager hires robots, perfection is an unreasonable expectation. Even then, sometimes robots make mistakes! I feel for you in this situation and pray you will be able to rest in your imperfections and trust God for a more grace-filled manager in the future.
I too afraid of mistake...shud i fear asking senior doubt ...their expression z different shud i bother
Hi Shalaba- thank you for your comment. I have found one of the best ways to ask a question of a senior employee is to first tell them they are the expert and that is why you are coming to them. They will appreciate the respect, and you will get your question answered!
But i get scared that if I make a mistake in my work then the principal will fire me and i am the only working member of my family and Thus I feel overwhelmed sometimes.
Like i am scared right now I am a substitute basis teacher in a reputed school and we have to fill out the marks of a student in a markbook and then we enter the marks on computer and it is not allowed to make mistakes in the markbook as we enter the same in the computer.
But while writing my hands sweat a lot and I was using a ball pen to fill the marks and it got messy in some places, in three pages to be exact and when I tried to use a blade to scrub the extra ink and make it look ok, to correct my mistake somehow it got more messy.
And secondly while checking the information from the computer I saw that I have written Green house instead of yellow house and again I used blade to correct it and make green to yellow and it got messy there too.....so that makes it 4 mistakes.
And the thing is that the markbook is checked by out principal before they are printed out as result cards for the students.
Now I am scared that principal will see the mistakes and call me out and fire me out of my beloved job.... Due to the lock down I was out of job for almost half a year and those were the most difficult times even sometimes I felt like I want to end my life but looking at my mom and dad who now look upto me I restrained myself under great stress and when I got back my job I couldn't come out of that fear... That trauma... What can I do?
I am a new teacher in my school and an introvert and I don't know how to approach others for help and if I do approach for help they seem to not care enough... and I am a bit weird and I think it's because of my behavior and my personality and the other teachers also perceive me as weird too although they haven't told me directly but I can understand the subtle hints and eye to eye communication and the smiling among themselves when I say my opinions about something....
I feel so constricted in there but that is my school.... The same school that I passed out from and I got a job in the same school... So it is kinda my place like my home and I want to be the best teacher in my school and want to work as a team but I don't know.... I feel so confused and alone and scared that I talk to myself and to the statue and cross of Lord Jesus Christ to share my feelings and I couldn't share my feelings at home since my parents are old now and I am working for them to support them and I don't want to burden them with my worries too. ....
I needed to ramble out my feelings here.... I know no one will read through this rambling but if someone does then please provide an advice on how can I overcome my issues listed above.... Please earnest request to anyone who read this.
Ratna- Thank you for not ending your life! You are making a positive difference in the lives of so many people, including your parents. We need you in our world. And even when you can't see it, believe by faith that God has a plan for your life and He sees you and knows you and loves you. We all have great fears and make many mistakes every day. No matter how hard you try, you will never be perfect. And that's ok. I have a feeling that even if you smudge the marks sometimes, your ability to teach far outweighs your mistakes. Teaching comes from the heart, and my prayer is that your principal will see your love for your students. Admit your mistakes, apologize if you need to, and then let it go and focus on loving your students by teaching them well. Maybe your mistakes will help your students be okay with trying something new and making mistakes, too. It's how we learn. Lead by example and your authenticity will be winsome. Thank you for venting to me. I appreciate you sharing your heart. Keep believing in Jesus as your Savior. He is perfect so you don't have to be.
@@SpeakEaglewithDrP Thank you so much mam for your kind words. I have to submit the markbook on Monday 15 March 2021 and I needed some words of encouragement from someone who really cares cause I really lack the people to talk to.
Thanks once again to talk to me. Made me feel much better.
Ratna- So...what happened when you submitted the markbook?
@@SpeakEaglewithDrP Hello again... She did not even check it . But maybe someday she will but I really hope she doesn't... And a few days back on 5th we started our new session of the classes and I am dead set on making no mistakes this time and I am trying my level best to work properly and without making mistakes. Thanks again for your kind words.
@@ratnasanyal1774 “she didn’t even check it!” Well, that’s a miracle 😀 I’m happy with you! We are all imperfect. Relax and know you are loved. ❤️
The whole rest of my day after making a mistake will beat myself up over it the night before the next work shift i have anxiety attacks about screwing up the next day is pure agony
Hi Glen- I have been there, and I agree it’s agony! My best defense against anxiety is to say, “Well, I guess there’s another example of how I’m imperfect and human.” Because we can’t be anything BUT imperfect and human! The days I hold myself to the standard of being perfect are very anxious days because I screw up every day. To be human is to make mistakes. And that’s okay. Peace and grace to you!
But they say if you keep on imagining something there's a possibility for it to happen in real.
Hi Rolan- I would say don’t keep imagining making a mistake, but it’s ok to imagine it once and give yourself grace for being human. Otherwise I always expect perfection of myself and then beat myself up when I make a mistake. Grace, grace grace- we all need it all the time!
What if I have ergophobia and anxiety disorder?
That is a tough combination, Rodrigo. Therapy and meds can help. Take small steps toward health and wholeness, stating with small, low-pressure tasks at first. And invite Jesus into your life. Only He, by the power of His Spirit, can free you to truly live.
Good advise. But what if u make mistake a few more times, like typo error on documents. Please help
I'm with you. We are ALWAYS going to make mistakes because it's just part of being human. The best you can do is to apologize, give yourself grace (lots of it!), and have someone proof your documents for you.
I hate myself toooo . I always did the same mistake s everyday. I know my boss feel angry and he's only holding back. That s why I decided to pass my resignation.
(sorry for my bad English)
Sometimes the best thing is to resign and find a job that is more naturally suited for how you are gifted (and you ARE gifted!) Other times the best thing is to give yourself the grace to make mistakes, apologize when you need to, and then keep going, doing your best in a challenging job. I pray that God leads you to the best job for you as you seek Him.
Idk if I closed the fridge in my workplace (McDonald's) and I'm freaked out
I can understand! The best you can do would be to own your mistake if you did, and then give yourself grace for being human. We all make mistakes every day.
Me rn. 😔
Hi Shirley- I pray you are learning to release your fear and rest in God's grace for you.
@@SpeakEaglewithDrP thank you so much. 🌷
sadly, I was fayerd many times couse of that. Boses today dont want to give to people to work and make mistakes
I’m so sorry to hear that, Hagit. I’m sure that was very hurtful and discouraging for you. Through the love of Jesus may you experience the meaning of your name - Shalom... Peace.
Perfectionism is toxic. I know. I can barely function if I don't have certainty in almost everything I do.
Hi Devlins10- that’s a tough place to live because so little in life is certain! What have you found helps you not be anxious when you are uncertain?
I still don't understand. The solution is to gradually allow yourself to make that mistake? Really? That in itself gives me much more anxiety than ever. It triggers me to not want me to do and feels counter-productive. Furthermore, When you feel the shame..."push it off with grace"?! That's MUCH harder for me than other people. How do I "gracefully" push it off like that when I'm already in a middle of anxiety and panic?!
Hey Dukie mon- I can see your frustration with this. And it might not work for everyone. For me, imagining making the mistake helps me remember it’s ok to be human and it wouldn’t be the end of the world if I made the mistake. It can also help me come up with a plan, like simply admitting I made the mistake and asking for help. I also think sometimes I believe lies in my head like, “I’m such an idiot” and I need to replace them with truth that making a mistake doesn’t make me an idiot, it makes me human.
I made a mistake a few weeks ago and my manager asked not to do that task any longer. However, my colleague offered to train me again, but still I made mistakes unfortunately. I try to communicate with her and it goes well but sometime I just feel like I ask too much, because her behaviour change.
I always like to work organised and I help my colleagues if they need me, I feel good helping them and can be patient. But, I am also sometime sad about the mistakes I made as today and get worried over how they think about me. I try to learn from it, still the tasks are pretty difficult and I want to keep going but it needs time unfortunately.
Thank you for this video, it calms me down. Hopefully it get better very soon... :(
I can understand your sadness over making mistakes. I think we all feel it. It's fantastic that you are letting your colleague help you, and that you help your colleagues, too. If you colleague's behavior has changed toward you, it might be time to have an honest conversation to find out if you are truly asking too much. Or maybe her change in behavior is totally unrelated to something you are doing. I admire the fact that you are continuing to challenge yourself to do difficult tasks. Don't give up, and keep giving yourself grace every day.
@@SpeakEaglewithDrP Thank you for your responds, also your video is very helpful!
I had a feedback from her and she said that her behaviour wasn’t meant for me, she just had a bad day. I think next time, I shouldn’t overthink to much and give people some space if I notice they are unhappy at the moment, also not taking it so personally. She mentioned the mistakes that I made and honestly, it were just little mistakes that I can definitely solve. I just overthink too much and should have been more confident about myself.
You are really helping so many people and this give me so much more motivation! I advice you to keep it going with all the amazing support and advise that you are giving people that are having a hard time...
I definitely subscribe
@@jeffreyvisser8628 Thank you so much, JV, and thank you for subscribing! What other topics in communication would be helpful for you?
@@SpeakEaglewithDrP I think maybe videos that are related with reaching peoples goals, but more focused on the situation of covid. Many people needs to stay isolated and they might lose their goals of what they want to achieve. For instance, I work from home but because of the lockdown, I start feeling that I am getting a lazier as there is nothing else to do at the moment other than working and just waiting for the next day to work again...
I think people would like to know what they can do, kind of hobbies, study or goals. My goal is being more active, not sleeping during the day, do some exercise to feel good the next day, eat healthy and cook, learn another language etc. Etc.
I am doing some, but not all and I think advice for this period in life it could help a lot of people to be honest
Edit: this are just some tips for people it might help :)
@@jeffreyvisser8628 Great suggestions, JV! Thank you!
I see I'm not the only one at all
No, you aren’t the only one who is afraid of making a mistake at work. And the good news is you are one of 7 billion people who make mistakes every day because we are human. Mistakes are the way we learn.
I fear authorities of all kinds. It makes it hard to work for someone else when you fear them. To survive, I must be self employed. My ability to tolerate the fear of authority usually lasts 4-6 months. After that point I start experiencing panic attacks, migraines, digestive issues, insomnia, and depression. It doesn’t matter what my boss says, I feel like dying when I realize I made a mistake.
I wonder what jobs are like for people who have a healthy relationship with authority? Do they just, like, live their lives? I can’t imagine!
Thank you so much for motivating us
You're welcome!