@@leebee2268 I'm so sorry. It is so horrible. It's like the meaning of my life is gone. I'm empty and when I feel, I feel horrible about myself. All the things I get accused of that would never do. It's got to stop. Stay connected with us (targeted parents) you can reach out to me anytime. I am bad about checking messages I would give u my email but I don't know how to do without it being public???? I'm sorry you are going thru this.
I am shocked that this is my current life. My husband kidnapped them on September 27th, all four are disabled and I'm the only caregiver and protector they've ever had. This system is not designed to help or protect kids or parents in an abusive environment. I'm so worried about my kids!
Jenna, thank you again. Your vids are so good. I so want to talk to you...I had asked in a comment section if you got your coaching license. You are the one I want for her. I know her and she would connect with you. I feel like I'm dying a slow death, the worst is knowing shes being abused and if I say anything...I fear it may be the straw that broke the camels back and I go from little contact (which is walking on eggshells and being treated as if I'm guilty of all the traits her covert alcoholic dad has projected on me and I will be cut out completely. I have to help her. The only way is she has to know and believe the truth. I never even told or mentioned he's a narc, I think she will figure out herself. There is so much I haven't told her because she deserves to have a father and make up her own mind where he stands in her life....but this....its all against my innate nature as a mother and vic of narc abuse. Something has to happen. Its been going on so long. I don't talk to her anymore, its her dad talking through her. Her husbands on board with the deceit and my oldest granddaughter is standing back with me now. This SOB has robbed years of my life, I have to stop him from doing it to her. I want to show her this vid...maybe? But then shell hear "narcissist" Where is God? I need Him too. I gotta take this down soon, I hope you read cuz I want you for my daughter. I hate posting this and throwing it out there but I don't see any other way.
Oh and she saw a counselor and it made everything so much worse. It validated what my daughter was believing cuz she didn't see any red flags. That made it a ton worse.
Have you seen the anti Alienation channel? Madi does a great job as an awakened adult child who reconnected with her dad. I have sent her videos to my daughters but no breakthrough. I may have made the wrong call by sending to them… Jenna’s other video says that was pushing…. I have erred on the side of communicating the reason I divorced their mom, also a narc… I think all alienating parents are
I am pretty sure, very few counselors have the awareness and can effectively identify and treat narcissistic parents who put the children through parental alienation. I think the counselors, guessing here, tend to reinforce the sense of victimhood that the alienating parent has created in their drama triangle with the child. This all too common scenario needs to be really emphasized and taught in the programs that counselors graduate from.
1) do we think sending this to my alienated sibling will help or make it worse? 2) what to do when their (stupid) husband gets involved and encourages all the drama
Hi there! This is a difficult question to answer directly without more context of the situation so I'm going go answer this more generally. 1) is your sister aware/have insight of the alienation? Basically - is she already leaning towards "I know this is going on and I want to learn more about it." If yes, education can be helpful because in that case, she would be someone who is on the road to recovery.. If not (and this is usually the case for people that ask this question) then usually it is not helpful to tell someone they are being alienated when they don't have the awareness. The reason for that is because it will usually be misconstrued by the alienator and trigger their defenses and this is especially true in narcissistic relationships. The alienator will probably claim that YOU are trying to alienate them and flip the script as they so often do. This can enhance the abuse and cause even further separation. What can you do? Continue to be supportive from a distance and keep the lines of communication open. Don't speak negatively about the spouse - just provide reassurance that you are there if she ever needs help. And when/if she gains her own insight, wants to leave ect you can act as a safe support. 2) Disengage from the drama. It won't ever stop I'd husband is a narcissist. All you can do is protect yourself. PS: I answered both these questions with the assumption that sister is an adult and her husband is the alienator - which is what I gathered from the question. I do wish you the best and realize this is a very difficult situation. I hope for healing for all parties involved. 💜
Thanks for watching this video! You can check out more videos on narcissim on my "narcissist" Playlist!
Yes more parental alienation related content please. Thank you Jenna this was a breath of fresh air and so helpful. ❤
Glad to hear! Thank you for lovely comment and watching!
Exactly. You hit the nail on the head. I’m just in acceptance mode. I’m Heartbroken
It is heartbreaking. I'm glad to hear that you've reached acceptance
@@leebee2268 I'm so sorry. It is so horrible. It's like the meaning of my life is gone. I'm empty and when I feel, I feel horrible about myself. All the things I get accused of that would never do. It's got to stop. Stay connected with us (targeted parents) you can reach out to me anytime. I am bad about checking messages I would give u my email but I don't know how to do without it being public???? I'm sorry you are going thru this.
I am shocked that this is my current life. My husband kidnapped them on September 27th, all four are disabled and I'm the only caregiver and protector they've ever had. This system is not designed to help or protect kids or parents in an abusive environment. I'm so worried about my kids!
Jenna, thank you again. Your vids are so good. I so want to talk to you...I had asked in a comment section if you got your coaching license. You are the one I want for her. I know her and she would connect with you. I feel like I'm dying a slow death, the worst is knowing shes being abused and if I say anything...I fear it may be the straw that broke the camels back and I go from little contact (which is walking on eggshells and being treated as if I'm guilty of all the traits her covert alcoholic dad has projected on me and I will be cut out completely. I have to help her. The only way is she has to know and believe the truth. I never even told or mentioned he's a narc, I think she will figure out herself. There is so much I haven't told her because she deserves to have a father and make up her own mind where he stands in her life....but this....its all against my innate nature as a mother and vic of narc abuse. Something has to happen. Its been going on so long. I don't talk to her anymore, its her dad talking through her. Her husbands on board with the deceit and my oldest granddaughter is standing back with me now. This SOB has robbed years of my life, I have to stop him from doing it to her. I want to show her this vid...maybe? But then shell hear "narcissist" Where is God? I need Him too. I gotta take this down soon, I hope you read cuz I want you for my daughter. I hate posting this and throwing it out there but I don't see any other way.
Oh and she saw a counselor and it made everything so much worse. It validated what my daughter was believing cuz she didn't see any red flags. That made it a ton worse.
Have you seen the anti Alienation channel? Madi does a great job as an awakened adult child who reconnected with her dad. I have sent her videos to my daughters but no breakthrough. I may have made the wrong call by sending to them… Jenna’s other video says that was pushing…. I have erred on the side of communicating the reason I divorced their mom, also a narc… I think all alienating parents are
I am pretty sure, very few counselors have the awareness and can effectively identify and treat narcissistic parents who put the children through parental alienation. I think the counselors, guessing here, tend to reinforce the sense of victimhood that the alienating parent has created in their drama triangle with the child. This all too common scenario needs to be really emphasized and taught in the programs that counselors graduate from.
@@TheDudeAbides1234 yes, thank you for asking. I've been watching her since she started. I so appreciate what she's doing!
1) do we think sending this to my alienated sibling will help or make it worse?
2) what to do when their (stupid) husband gets involved and encourages all the drama
Hi there! This is a difficult question to answer directly without more context of the situation so I'm going go answer this more generally.
1) is your sister aware/have insight of the alienation? Basically - is she already leaning towards "I know this is going on and I want to learn more about it." If yes, education can be helpful because in that case, she would be someone who is on the road to recovery..
If not (and this is usually the case for people that ask this question) then usually it is not helpful to tell someone they are being alienated when they don't have the awareness. The reason for that is because it will usually be misconstrued by the alienator and trigger their defenses and this is especially true in narcissistic relationships. The alienator will probably claim that YOU are trying to alienate them and flip the script as they so often do. This can enhance the abuse and cause even further separation.
What can you do? Continue to be supportive from a distance and keep the lines of communication open. Don't speak negatively about the spouse - just provide reassurance that you are there if she ever needs help. And when/if she gains her own insight, wants to leave ect you can act as a safe support.
2) Disengage from the drama. It won't ever stop I'd husband is a narcissist. All you can do is protect yourself.
PS: I answered both these questions with the assumption that sister is an adult and her husband is the alienator - which is what I gathered from the question. I do wish you the best and realize this is a very difficult situation. I hope for healing for all parties involved. 💜