Bro live for yourself, lock in be good to yourself, be grateful you have simple things that others don't have. fill those voids with other hobbys. Be strong, shes probably getting boned right now. just move on. Just leave it in the past. Keep yourself busy.
I hear you, man, and I’m really trying. I’ve been working on myself, staying busy, and finding new things to fill those empty spaces. Some days are easier than others, but moving on is definitely harder than it sounds. I appreciate the tough love, though-gonna keep pushing forward and focusing on what’s ahead. Thanks for the support!
@SoulsSkyline reason why I commented because I felt the same with someone too, she came running back but I rejected her, why? Once she left ( went back to her family and hometown) she blocked me and then few week later she apologised but I kept saying It won't be same and even though it hurt to move on I had to. Now I'm way happier now, happy to be myself, don't chase this world bro. Understand why your here in the first place. God made this world appreciate it
Totally relatable. Last night I had a conversation with my friend about my attachment to the lady I was with for 4 years. Things ended 3 years ago in my case, still can't move on. We came to the conclusion that I never really had proper closure. Unknowingly, I left the cycle open. Now I gotta find out how to properly close it, or else it'll haunt my future relatonships... Much love for you from this side of the world!
Hey, thank you so much for sharing that with me. It’s tough, isn’t it? When you give your heart to someone, and even after years, it still holds on. I completely get what you're saying about closure-sometimes we don’t realize how much we need it until we feel stuck, unable to fully move forward. Just know you're not alone in this journey, and it’s okay to take the time to figure things out. Sending much love and strength your way!
I enjoy emotional pain, don't you? It's an endless source of energy. It just makes you feel something, a drive. Do you not consider that you focusing on bettering yourself is the best thing possible you could do?
For me brother, it's been 10 years I've had other girlfriends, but I'll never forget my first love I spent two amazing years with She's been with another man for over three years now, it hurts, but I've come to accept it I did meet a beautiful woman the last day though, and I can't stop thinking about her There's hope, my advice is to fall in love with life again brother, this too shall pass
Thank you for sharing that, brother. I can only imagine how tough it’s been, but it’s comforting to know that even after all that time, there’s hope and new connections to look forward to. I really appreciate your advice-falling in love with life again is exactly what I need to focus on. This too shall pass, as you said. Much respect to you!
I feel the same way, I broke up for the same reason as you. I found peace in Christ. Would recommend the same to you too. It still hurts but my focus is to be of service and help others. Take care brother. John 14:27
Thank you for sharing that, brother. I’m glad you’ve found peace in Christ, and I appreciate the recommendation. Focusing on serving and helping others sounds like a meaningful way to heal. I’ll definitely take that to heart. Take care, and I wish you continued peace and strength! 🙏
for me the word wife is way way different than a girlfriend, be a king, find a queen to support u the rest of your life, not a temporary relationship that ends you up wasting more time in attachment to the past
I appreciate your perspective, and I totally get where you're coming from. Finding someone who’s truly your partner for life, a queen to build with, is a powerful goal. Sometimes relationships teach us more about what we need and what we deserve. It’s all part of the journey, and maybe the struggles with the past are just preparing us for something stronger and more lasting in the future. Thanks for the wisdom! Much love.
You have a higher purpose and this life isn't all about women. Have you not considered that love is an ailment of the mind? Do you not consider that this life is temporary? Longing for someone will not bring them back, nor will begging. Find Allah, find fulfillment and that is when you will let go. Do not listen to people who say, find happiness. Happiness is fleeting and always ends bitter but contentment can be lasting. Verily do hearts find peace in Allah. Never become attached to someone to the extent that if they left whether through choice or otherwise, that you would be permanently broken ( ofc some people can break out of this with time and thought but u get the idea). I've heard of people talking about stoicism and they also talk about detachment. Detachment would be helpful to you. Don't care much and not much can hurt you.
I appreciate you, and you’re right-there’s more to life than longing for someone. I’ve been thinking a lot about finding deeper meaning and peace within myself, and you’ve reminded me to focus on that higher purpose. It’s a process, but I’ll work on detachment and finding contentment rather than chasing fleeting happiness. Thanks for sharing this wisdom!
Not going to be rude or anything cause I feel what you’re saying man, but you gotta be willing to give other girls a fair chance with you or else you’ll never break this cycle. You haven’t connected on a deep level with anyone else because you’re still holding onto whatever it is you had with your ex, and I bet you’ve missed out on some great girls because of it. Holding on for over 2 years when the relationship lasted just 8 months isn’t good for you. The reason you can’t let go is because you’re probably still looking at her socials, talking about her to friends, comparing her to other girls you’ve met etc. I don’t know your relationship like you do, but I’ll be damned if your ex hasn’t moved on, otherwise she would’ve came back, and she hasn’t. Think about how much time you’ve wasted mentally and emotionally these past two years and ask yourself if she’s going through the same thing, she’s not. You need to be stronger, live your best life and strive for your goals and along the way, you will find a girl you’ll like even more. You just have to allow yourself to be free, free from any ties you had with your ex, because trust me, you don’t want 2 years to turn into 3 or 4 or even 5.
I hear you, and you're right-I’ve been stuck in that cycle for too long. I need to let go and open myself up to new experiences. Thanks for the honest advice, I really appreciate it! ❤️
She's probably moved on man. Women have so much options which is why it's easier for them to forget. I'm guessing you haven't had much luck with women since she left, which is why you're still thinking about her. This is the harsh average man reality.
I get what you're saying, and yeah, it does feel like she’s probably moved on. It’s tough knowing that while I’m still here dealing with it. And you're right, I haven’t really connected with anyone since, which makes it harder to let go. But I guess everyone moves at their own pace when it comes to healing. It’s not easy, but I’m working on it, slowly trying to move forward. Appreciate the real talk, man.
@@SoulsSkyline A relationship is broken when you find a relationship greater to replace it, greater in emotional depth, ie connection. Make that connection with Allah or else you'll eventually be broken by human beings, unless you become a psychopath which is unlikely and rare ( You won't feel much ).
@@SoulsSkyline Keep your head up brother. I really hope I'm being a positive influence here. Usually I wouldn't suggest this, but in your case, since you still think about this girl so much. Only thing to do, is to call her and get some closure. You contacting her, will not hurt her or bother her, trust me. You are putting yourself in a vulnerable position after all (emotionally). That's just your ego protecting itself from being hurt. If she still cares about you, she'll be happy you contacted her. If not, she'll be indifferent and either reject you respectfully, or not reply at all. Which are the things which probably scare you the most. I did the same with a female friend I hadn't talked to for almost 2 years lol, but never had the guts to ask her out back then. I got in contact with her, but said she had a fiancé, so we wished each other well, and said goodbye. TL:DR. Call the girl. Find out. Move on.
Bro live for yourself, lock in be good to yourself, be grateful you have simple things that others don't have. fill those voids with other hobbys. Be strong, shes probably getting boned right now. just move on. Just leave it in the past. Keep yourself busy.
I hear you, man, and I’m really trying. I’ve been working on myself, staying busy, and finding new things to fill those empty spaces. Some days are easier than others, but moving on is definitely harder than it sounds. I appreciate the tough love, though-gonna keep pushing forward and focusing on what’s ahead. Thanks for the support!
@SoulsSkyline reason why I commented because I felt the same with someone too, she came running back but I rejected her, why? Once she left ( went back to her family and hometown) she blocked me and then few week later she apologised but I kept saying It won't be same and even though it hurt to move on I had to. Now I'm way happier now, happy to be myself, don't chase this world bro. Understand why your here in the first place. God made this world appreciate it
Totally relatable. Last night I had a conversation with my friend about my attachment to the lady I was with for 4 years. Things ended 3 years ago in my case, still can't move on. We came to the conclusion that I never really had proper closure. Unknowingly, I left the cycle open. Now I gotta find out how to properly close it, or else it'll haunt my future relatonships... Much love for you from this side of the world!
Hey, thank you so much for sharing that with me. It’s tough, isn’t it? When you give your heart to someone, and even after years, it still holds on. I completely get what you're saying about closure-sometimes we don’t realize how much we need it until we feel stuck, unable to fully move forward. Just know you're not alone in this journey, and it’s okay to take the time to figure things out. Sending much love and strength your way!
I enjoy emotional pain, don't you? It's an endless source of energy. It just makes you feel something, a drive. Do you not consider that you focusing on bettering yourself is the best thing possible you could do?
You don't need closure, you need Allah.
@@Buluyab100% bro
@@AlasnaQ glad you agree
For me brother, it's been 10 years
I've had other girlfriends, but I'll never forget my first love I spent two amazing years with
She's been with another man for over three years now, it hurts, but I've come to accept it
I did meet a beautiful woman the last day though, and I can't stop thinking about her
There's hope, my advice is to fall in love with life again brother, this too shall pass
Thank you for sharing that, brother. I can only imagine how tough it’s been, but it’s comforting to know that even after all that time, there’s hope and new connections to look forward to. I really appreciate your advice-falling in love with life again is exactly what I need to focus on. This too shall pass, as you said. Much respect to you!
@SoulsSkyline Thank you brother, all the best mate 💯
I feel the same way, I broke up for the same reason as you. I found peace in Christ. Would recommend the same to you too. It still hurts but my focus is to be of service and help others. Take care brother. John 14:27
Thank you for sharing that, brother. I’m glad you’ve found peace in Christ, and I appreciate the recommendation. Focusing on serving and helping others sounds like a meaningful way to heal. I’ll definitely take that to heart. Take care, and I wish you continued peace and strength! 🙏
for me the word wife is way way different than a girlfriend, be a king, find a queen to support u the rest of your life, not a temporary relationship that ends you up wasting more time in attachment to the past
I appreciate your perspective, and I totally get where you're coming from. Finding someone who’s truly your partner for life, a queen to build with, is a powerful goal. Sometimes relationships teach us more about what we need and what we deserve. It’s all part of the journey, and maybe the struggles with the past are just preparing us for something stronger and more lasting in the future. Thanks for the wisdom! Much love.
You have a higher purpose and this life isn't all about women. Have you not considered that love is an ailment of the mind? Do you not consider that this life is temporary? Longing for someone will not bring them back, nor will begging. Find Allah, find fulfillment and that is when you will let go. Do not listen to people who say, find happiness. Happiness is fleeting and always ends bitter but contentment can be lasting. Verily do hearts find peace in Allah. Never become attached to someone to the extent that if they left whether through choice or otherwise, that you would be permanently broken ( ofc some people can break out of this with time and thought but u get the idea). I've heard of people talking about stoicism and they also talk about detachment. Detachment would be helpful to you. Don't care much and not much can hurt you.
I appreciate you, and you’re right-there’s more to life than longing for someone. I’ve been thinking a lot about finding deeper meaning and peace within myself, and you’ve reminded me to focus on that higher purpose. It’s a process, but I’ll work on detachment and finding contentment rather than chasing fleeting happiness. Thanks for sharing this wisdom!
@@SoulsSkyline Good to hear and inshallah you'll get there
Not going to be rude or anything cause I feel what you’re saying man, but you gotta be willing to give other girls a fair chance with you or else you’ll never break this cycle. You haven’t connected on a deep level with anyone else because you’re still holding onto whatever it is you had with your ex, and I bet you’ve missed out on some great girls because of it. Holding on for over 2 years when the relationship lasted just 8 months isn’t good for you. The reason you can’t let go is because you’re probably still looking at her socials, talking about her to friends, comparing her to other girls you’ve met etc. I don’t know your relationship like you do, but I’ll be damned if your ex hasn’t moved on, otherwise she would’ve came back, and she hasn’t. Think about how much time you’ve wasted mentally and emotionally these past two years and ask yourself if she’s going through the same thing, she’s not. You need to be stronger, live your best life and strive for your goals and along the way, you will find a girl you’ll like even more. You just have to allow yourself to be free, free from any ties you had with your ex, because trust me, you don’t want 2 years to turn into 3 or 4 or even 5.
I hear you, and you're right-I’ve been stuck in that cycle for too long. I need to let go and open myself up to new experiences. Thanks for the honest advice, I really appreciate it! ❤️
shit bro. im gonna give u a few subs
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She's probably moved on man. Women have so much options which is why it's easier for them to forget.
I'm guessing you haven't had much luck with women since she left, which is why you're still thinking about her.
This is the harsh average man reality.
I get what you're saying, and yeah, it does feel like she’s probably moved on. It’s tough knowing that while I’m still here dealing with it. And you're right, I haven’t really connected with anyone since, which makes it harder to let go. But I guess everyone moves at their own pace when it comes to healing. It’s not easy, but I’m working on it, slowly trying to move forward. Appreciate the real talk, man.
@@SoulsSkyline A relationship is broken when you find a relationship greater to replace it, greater in emotional depth, ie connection. Make that connection with Allah or else you'll eventually be broken by human beings, unless you become a psychopath which is unlikely and rare ( You won't feel much ).
@@SoulsSkyline
Keep your head up brother. I really hope I'm being a positive influence here. Usually I wouldn't suggest this, but in your case, since you still think about this girl so much. Only thing to do, is to call her and get some closure. You contacting her, will not hurt her or bother her, trust me. You are putting yourself in a vulnerable position after all (emotionally). That's just your ego protecting itself from being hurt. If she still cares about you, she'll be happy you contacted her. If not, she'll be indifferent and either reject you respectfully, or not reply at all. Which are the things which probably scare you the most.
I did the same with a female friend I hadn't talked to for almost 2 years lol, but never had the guts to ask her out back then.
I got in contact with her, but said she had a fiancé, so we wished each other well, and said goodbye.
TL:DR. Call the girl. Find out. Move on.