5 Biblical Things to Do if You Want a Man to Pursue You (Ruth 3)

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  • As we continue our Bible study through Ruth, we come to Ruth 3. In this chapter of Ruth, we discover 5 biblical things a woman can do to invite a man to pursue her.
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  • @aleasharowe2551
    @aleasharowe2551 ปีที่แล้ว +529

    Ladies, if the relationship/courtship causes your relationship with the Lord suffer or decrease in any capacity, he’s simply not fit to lead you. In marriage, scripture says a man should water his wife with the word. If you have to initiate Bible readings, devotions, worship praise time, prayers; you essentially are the spiritual leader. Pray for the right one that’s fit for you. 🙏🏻💕

    • @anastacio1989ify
      @anastacio1989ify ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Amen❤🙏🏽

    • @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
      @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger  ปีที่แล้ว +38

      God bless!

    • @tory198511
      @tory198511 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Oh you said a mouthful. Wow the truth. My last relationship I was always initiating the Bible reading and prayer etc and he still wouldn't follow through with it but claim he's a devout Christian and grew up Catholic and blah blah blah

    • @aleasharowe2551
      @aleasharowe2551 ปีที่แล้ว +37

      @@tory198511 Same here sister! I was always the spiritual leader. If a man is not living a life in constant pursuit of the Lord, he’s not someone I would be equally yoked with. I stick to the 3 P’s. He must Profess, Protect and Provide. Also lead. If he’s looking for an independent woman, he’s not for me, as that’s the opposite of what the Lord calls us to be. If he’s unwilling to wait until marriage for sex, he’s not even a baby in his walk with Christ and it usually helps weed out a bunch. His plans and timing are perfect. I don’t want it if it’s not from Him. We must remember any relationship is meant to make us more like Christ. So He often will put us with someone that requires us to be more patient, loving, forgiving, graceful and merciful. All things Christ is. Love and blessings sister! 💕💜🙏🏻

    • @TS-fj2lo
      @TS-fj2lo ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Amen. Thank You

  • @jennifern.5305
    @jennifern.5305 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    I’m just going to say this for women…you rob yourself of feeling like a discovered jewel if you chase a man. I firmly believe it helps with our ability to submit to a man if we believe that he chose us…kind of like what how God said that we love him because he first loved us. Based on the trends of the current dating environment, I don’t think it’s in a woman’s best interest to try to get a man to do anything…she’ll be shouldering that responsibility for the rest of her life and that will take it’s toll.

    • @wow.za.
      @wow.za. 17 วันที่ผ่านมา

      These are some wise words❤

  • @vanzrox1
    @vanzrox1 ปีที่แล้ว +173

    Principle 1 (0.39) - Let the man God has for you identify himself before you invite him to pursue you
    Principle 2 (2.16) - Invite him to pursue you by arousing his role as pursuer
    Principle 3 (8.40) - Give him time to know your character before expecting him to fully commit
    Principle 4 (11.48) - Defer to the mans preferred method of dating
    Principle 5 (15.00) - Let him bless you
    Thanks again for another helpful video Mark! God bless :)

  • @pursequeen6148
    @pursequeen6148 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    I know this may Not be fair, as I haven't watched this through... However... PRAY for the Father to send you the man who wants to pursue you! Then wait to hear from the Lord...
    And I LOVE your channel, btw❤😊

  • @kevindavis4709
    @kevindavis4709 ปีที่แล้ว +81

    Amen if she likes what she sees and led by God she’ll give him some hints.

    • @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
      @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger  ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Amen

    • @dianab947
      @dianab947 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Can you give some examples of hints?

    • @kevindavis4709
      @kevindavis4709 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@dianab947 You’re a woman you should know. Hints like what kind of woman are you looking for? Or what if you’re talking to your future wife and not know she’s on the phone with you? Sending pictures asking you for pictures. Asking will you buy my food if we go out to eat? Asking for FaceTime hanging out can’t get enough of your company. Asking you do you think I’m pretty? I reply yes and with a great personality and you’re a child of God. So I’m learning as I go 🙂. Ps if I name more you’ll be reading a long comment

    • @K9amilo90
      @K9amilo90 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@dianab947 excuses to hang out

    • @K9amilo90
      @K9amilo90 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@dianab947 or even a suggestion for a date - more straightforward than excuse to hang out

  • @tory198511
    @tory198511 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    He who finds a wife finds a good thing. The Bible also said it wasn't good for man to be alone. Man was here first and the woman was added as a helpmate. We are the prize. Women need to let their man lead and just like Mark said you'll be able to tell if he is the type of godly man that can lead you if you get to know him before you allow him to pursue u.

  • @lindseycrews2739
    @lindseycrews2739 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    God's way is always the Best Way... Amen

  • @carriefawcett9990
    @carriefawcett9990 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    It's interesting that you mention how Boaz was aware that Ruth was only showing interest in HIM and not other men. I think this is extremely important when attracting and finding a partner. I myself, find it an EXTREME turn-off when I'm attracted to a man, and he seems very interested in me and then I find out he's behaving exactly the same way towards other women. This little piece you mention in the bible is so crucial for both sexes, any gender, any orientation. If you are interested in someone, attempt to build a careful connection with them as the focus, and DON'T flirt, ask-out, and build connections with others at the same time. I can't think of a bigger turn-off when initially meeting a potential love interest. It creates disappointment, and im not cool with it although a lot of people are, especially npw with all this online dating crap. Im not on any of those. Another point I want to make is that it is entirely possible to be both a modern sassy woman with opinions on things, but ALSO a humble, soft, spiritual lady who is gentle in her approach with showing interest in a particular man. Those traits are not mutually exclusive. I am a strong, independent, feminist ( yesi said it, liberal not radical!) yet spiritual woman, who a lot of the times likes to be soft, fragile and careful and humble. I won't use the word submissive, as it isn't right in this day and age. But i definitely am not one for "leading" id rather follow.. i wont "wear the pants" in a relationship either. I like to walk side by side with my man. I find your vids very interesting and and you have a way of keeping me enthralled despite the fact I do not identify as a "Christian Woman". I still can't stop watching your videos for some reason..I think you teach your interpretation of the bible with a lot of class and tact. Well done.

  • @katrinachlebek374
    @katrinachlebek374 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Very helpful thank you. Coming from a bad marriage and healing for 5 years. I’m ready to learn God’s way!

  • @elizabethc9843
    @elizabethc9843 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    You are one teacher who is grounded and always able to breakdown such difficult topics and you make it simplified to a level anyone is able to understand such topics. I’m so grateful or I would be so lost and sad from bad experiences. Thank you Mark.

  • @KM_5426
    @KM_5426 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks for sharing Mark, this video is so helpful!

  • @Clauds71
    @Clauds71 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is so good! Thank you Mark 😍🙏

  • @Christopher_1775
    @Christopher_1775 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    There is a lot of gold in this post! Thank you for posting! ✝️😎🏆👍🏾

  • @shimontamar2043
    @shimontamar2043 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Another excellent message Pastor Mark , good food for thought!

  • @danadee2101
    @danadee2101 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is all 100%. Sound teaching. Excellent. Thank you!

  • @MelissaRodgers1
    @MelissaRodgers1 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Would you consider making a video going into detail about the differences between a masculine and feminine spirit? Like what each spirit looks like when in action? Because I think a lot of people don't truly know how to tell the difference and while I have a good idea myself I definitely would be interested in learning more about what makes masculinity masculine and femininity feminine.

    • @cheerstogoodhealth
      @cheerstogoodhealth ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I would like to see this video, too. For women who grew up in single parent households without a father, you grow up doing everything for yourself without a man's help, so a video like that would be really helpful to clarify the gender roles

  • @shelbymichaels
    @shelbymichaels ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Finally Ruth 3 was great✨, thank you so much for you teachings 😊🙏

  • @nolufefemdingi3206
    @nolufefemdingi3206 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    Am grateful for this word, it came at the perfect time in my season🙏🏾😇

  • @aurora7365
    @aurora7365 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    Thank you :)
    Your videos are always based on biblical truths and full of wisdom
    You help other believers to glorify God in their relationships

  • @annrusso3162
    @annrusso3162 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Very interesting Mark, Thank you for teaching this!!

  • @lubacalculli
    @lubacalculli ปีที่แล้ว

    Amen! ❤🙏 lesson to memorise.. very true and godly counsel, thank you Mark. A great detail shone brighter for me this time is into Naomi’s advice to “wait and listen till what will be the next step”🔥❤️ priceless in our age of restless Eves (Eves, pl. for Eve 😊)

  • @noureenmulenga1728
    @noureenmulenga1728 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Awesome video,thank you so much.....I have been so interested to learning to be the one even though am already in a relationship.

  • @Listentomusicist
    @Listentomusicist 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Needed teaching, amen.

  • @nicoleerasmus8095
    @nicoleerasmus8095 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    this blessed me. Thank you

  • @i7abella
    @i7abella ปีที่แล้ว

    This is golden!🙏🏻🙌🏻

  • @Julia-Auraluna
    @Julia-Auraluna ปีที่แล้ว

    Very good advide, thank you!

  • @midnightclearschannel8344
    @midnightclearschannel8344 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    Thank you Mark! This is one of the most practically helpful sermons for me that I've ever heard! God bless from your little sister in Christ, Callie

  • @iwillfindyou____
    @iwillfindyou____ ปีที่แล้ว +12

    This teaching is fire 🔥 Praise the LORD and thank you 🙏🏼

  • @dianealbert3
    @dianealbert3 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Amen for everything you say!
    Bravo!!!

  • @sarahbeth9127
    @sarahbeth9127 ปีที่แล้ว

    Very good. Thank you🙏

  • @shimontamar2043
    @shimontamar2043 ปีที่แล้ว

    thank you and God bless you Brother

  • @gloriab3776
    @gloriab3776 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This word is very timely it speaks to my current situation. Thank you for allowing the Lord to speak through this ministry. God bless you.

  • @helenzielasek1812
    @helenzielasek1812 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    So helpful🌈 i have finally start to 'date" a Christian Guy and I feel in my gut He might have a great charachter🎁.i am thankfull.🌅God Bless.

  • @libertyc8688
    @libertyc8688 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for teaching this. I only wish i had the opportunity to hear and learn this 50 years ago when i was getting married. Instead I had to learn on my own, which caused a lot of pain and effort.
    May God bless you.

  • @BlessedbyGrace-rn8hl
    @BlessedbyGrace-rn8hl 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Your dedication to spreading God's teachings is commendable. May His divine wisdom and protection be with you and everyone touched by your videos.

  • @Tony-DWK-56
    @Tony-DWK-56 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Excellent!! You've hit it out of the park! Really looking forward to the next video. Thanks!

  • @Unclebuns72
    @Unclebuns72 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Thank you for this video

  • @gabrielnadia1085
    @gabrielnadia1085 ปีที่แล้ว

    Best teaching!

  • @natw.737
    @natw.737 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    This is a really great series, Mark. Ive been looking for more insight on Ruth chapter 3 and how to interpret the laying at his feet (like if it was improper or scandalous or an act of submission) and this helped. Looking forward to the next video!

  • @racheldangtoumda2045
    @racheldangtoumda2045 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I highly recommend ALL Mark’s videos because it has a strong biblical basis and it’s very real!

  • @catherinem4130
    @catherinem4130 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for speaking the truth in spite of modern younger women's ideas.

  • @nickt.7305
    @nickt.7305 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    This series is excellent. So many of us have no idea of how to conduct ourselves in a relationship or pursue a relationship and we often follow the advice of misguided individuals. Mark tactfully dissects the book of Ruth. My current relationship reflects many of the characteristics seen in the dynamics between Ruth & Boas in chapter 3. I made mistakes when I was younger because I both lacked guidance and was misguided. It’s wonderful to see how God’s word provides us with the best relationship advice available.

  • @MsHannahbanana94
    @MsHannahbanana94 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you for your videos! This has been perfecting timing with my Bible study with Ruth! God bless ❤

  • @Ash.35
    @Ash.35 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you!

  • @hollyharte7831
    @hollyharte7831 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Bibical examples hallelujah

  • @vanessaazzopardi9334
    @vanessaazzopardi9334 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    ❤❤❤❤ thank you you are amazing

  • @PROPHETSINE.
    @PROPHETSINE. ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I've heard so many different perspectives and sermons on the book of Ruth one of my favorite books but I have never seen or heard anything like this and I love it, I fully agree with it and I am so glad I watched and have now obtained practical enlightenment.

  • @privatewandamaximoff7198
    @privatewandamaximoff7198 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thanks!

  • @boldandcourageous4176
    @boldandcourageous4176 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    😂No Mark didn't say Boss Chick 😂 that made me chuckle 🤭.

  • @lynlouis5686
    @lynlouis5686 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I agree. God's way is best. Modern minded women and man need to seek other videos if they will just come here to disagree. Mark thank you for your videos and continue helping Christians who are seeking God's grace and ways in their life.

  • @ScarletHemingway
    @ScarletHemingway ปีที่แล้ว

    I am basically Orthodox now but it is encouraging to see someone from a tradition I gave up on come to some real and beautiful truth on these vital matters. God bless you may many women step into true faith and walk this way encouraged that they will not be ashamed if they choose wisdom and faith over fear. Bless your viewers may they move into beautiful loving homes with men who truly love them and may character shine out as their greatest beauty for when we are loved for our character our beauty becomes a gift and we never feel used but instead we feel treasured. Go girls take these words to heart meditate on them and walk differently to the ways of the world and the enemy and receive the gifts God has for you in his divine order. Bless you Sir hold fast to your integrity and faith in the word of God and the heart you have received on this matter (have a read of Saint John Chrysostoms words on love and marriage for the encouragement of your good soul!). Thank you very much for your video content speaking to people who need it most with the truth that really does have the power to save I can’t bless you enough !

  • @stargazingcatgirl3233
    @stargazingcatgirl3233 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Thank you for your video ministry, and for the wisdom it imparts. This is a demographic that needs a voice and gets overlooked all too often.

  • @beautysecrets6395
    @beautysecrets6395 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for this beautyful video. I am praying that a particular guy is asking me to go on a date with him. I think he is a good man. ❤

  • @nmc1859
    @nmc1859 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for this word. How should those of us who are not beautiful approach this ?

  • @evereven3324
    @evereven3324 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    We bless the name of the Lord Jesus for the series, it is so insightful. Thank you, Mark .

  • @agnesr.4664
    @agnesr.4664 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love this! Do you have thoughts on how to put this into practice with long distance communication?

    • @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
      @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger  ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Reach out to him first too at times. Of course it's not good to be the only one reaching out first. But guys like it when a woman reaches out too. If he only responds when you reach out first though, move on as he needs to initiate conversations too if he is pursuing

  • @sunshinesunflowerz1647
    @sunshinesunflowerz1647 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thank you Bro. Mark. Laying at the man's feet is similarly to laying at Christ's feet. Both submit to each other, as both submit and answer to God.
    Biblical masculinity + Biblical femininity = Blessed union
    I believe that people don't understand God's Word, and overarch is because of their double-mindedness, and unwilling to let go of pride and let God.

  • @ServantOfTheSaviour
    @ServantOfTheSaviour ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hey Mark, I am wondering your thoughts of this?
    I asked the Lord why I was hesitant on approaching a pretty girl at church and He led me to 1 Timothy 2:9.
    She dresses extravagant; over the top dresses, hair done up, jewelry, and makeup. Pretty girl just such a turn off because I am not on that level financially or in my own dress/style. She gave me choosing signals but next day when I didn’t approach her she just looked so mad. Seems like God really helped me out and saved me from a women who needs validation from men to feel pretty/content with herself. Righteous judgement

  • @tracyoguntokun4284
    @tracyoguntokun4284 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Amen 🙏✝️🙏❤️

  • @faith-ly3po
    @faith-ly3po ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for eveything youve helped me realise, the only comment i have is at the end with not nitpicking how he leads, if you are in what you think is the friendship stage of courting - often it is used as a vague stage where a man will take no responsibility if he suddenly decides he does not want to pursue anymore or someone else comes along and when the woman would go back and say 'i thought you were pursuing me what happenned' they may say they were 'always just friends'. During that stage, the woman would often feel like she wishes he was clear on whether he was pursuing by pursuing her in a clearly romantic way instead of a friendship, but would not ask because she feels that is seen as telling him how to pursue. You probably didn't mean to encourage this scenario, just wanted to ask maybe a video on how to tell if its a friendship or a friendship to pursue??

  • @sarahkennedy1481
    @sarahkennedy1481 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Good videos but how does all this work on online long distance first dates?

  • @xeniakekae6592
    @xeniakekae6592 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great content as always. Perhaps the videos can be shorter, under 10 minutes? There's also repitions which can be avoided to have the video done in lesser minutes. Longer the video, it's easy to be distracted. Otherwise, thanks for helpful tips. :)

    • @KBowWow75
      @KBowWow75 ปีที่แล้ว

      1.5x -> 2x

  • @faithantonettecasas9399
    @faithantonettecasas9399 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This just played automatically after I heard one of Mark's content. This made me slightly cringe. Was once a feminist. 😂But yeah, I've learned something new that's Biblical. This helps widen my views. God bless you more, Mark!

  • @txwarriorbride5112
    @txwarriorbride5112 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Exactly. The right one will cause you to grow deeper with the LORD. And will lead you Into that...not away from that! And the more you grow in CHRIST, the smaller the list of potential spouses will b-come. A true daughter of the LORD will seek the one that causes her to grow in godliness, and faith. Which is why Isaiah 4:1 is so accurate now. A man or woman Must love the LORD above all things First.... not second. Why would I want a husband who does not lead me in faith? i dont want 2 lead him, that is not my role..
    I am supposed tonfollow HIM 1st.. then the one HE has 4 me will.pursue me. i tried pursuing B4, and it didnt work out. So the LORD will lead him to me...and then I will follow him. Just as Jacob pursued the one the LORD wanted 4 him. of course, he was a bit surprised at ehat he got...😂 Just as Isaac went to get Rebecca.

  • @Mygracegrace
    @Mygracegrace 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I think the root of a woman, smart or otherwise, to submit is her own peace. Ruth’s peace (and humility) was born out of loss. All Boaz had to do was be respectful (he already had the power) which is also peace-born (including peace within his identity). Peace is the position of convergence. To LAY DOWN your anxiety, on both sides, in maturity and godliness.

  • @desdarde9031
    @desdarde9031 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I don't think people these days what it means to be a "strong man" and a "strong woman". Somehow, it seems that being a strong woman is mixed with masculine traits, such as being bossy, muscular etc. In general things that are considered traditional masculinity. In the same way, I feel the idea of a strong man has also been twisted. Being a strong man doesn't mean demanding obedience from others or having a submissive wife. I believe a strong woman is confident within herself as a woman without the need to compare herself to a man or manly traits. Being a woman is a blessing. Female qualities and embracing them give a woman strength. May God give wisdom to each woman to embrace their womanhood and use them to glorify Him. Similarly, being a man is a blessing and a call to be a bright light in God's kingdom. A strong man has his foundation in God and seeks His guidance. A strong man does not need validation from anyone because he has God.

  • @divreenable
    @divreenable ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I feel like this goes for men too because if a man is not making a women feel feminine then she won’t be attracted to him, I talked to guy once and he made me feel really feminine and that’s what attracted me to him the fact that he was allowing me to submit

  • @AudraT
    @AudraT 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Ladies, we want the guy to pursue, however understand he is not your leader until he puts the ring on the finger. What am I trying to say? Don't let the guy lead you on, lovebomb you, play games, or be manipulative in any way during dating. Have boundaries and look out for red flags.

  • @stargazingcatgirl3233
    @stargazingcatgirl3233 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I hope it's not inappropriate to ask this question, but I could use some wisdom. When is it time to give up hope of marriage? I know that our best hope is in God, not marriage, and I don't mean to simply give up hope. What I mean is... when is it time to give up hope of ever being married? It's a long story, but I'm not looking to meet a new person, and I definitely believe in "the one." I've just really been losing heart for a while now. Thank you if you can help me. I can accept an honest answer, even if it's not what I am hoping to hear.

    • @RM-qq5rj
      @RM-qq5rj ปีที่แล้ว +17

      I don't have a hard and fast good rule for you, but I know in my situation when I gave up hope and wasn't looking at all and had pretty much rejected men and marriage altogether (didn't even consider it an option anymore) because it'd been so long past my goals of getting married and having children, that's when it happened for me that He brought us together, and it happened really fast. First God dealt with my rejection of men and marriage, that I was wrong to have that specific attitude (I was doing it to protect myself at that point because I was so angry I didn't get what I'd hoped for all my life), and once I released that and repented and changed my attitude toward it to admit I did still want to be married and have a family then it all just fell into place really quickly, within a year to a year and a half. So spend a lot of time in prayer and the Bible and ask God to show you any areas you are in disobedience or have the wrong heart state/attitude about things. When I let go of my expectations and truly gave it over to God, that's when things changed for me.

    • @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
      @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger  ปีที่แล้ว +4

      change what you can change and accept what you can't change. So if there is something you can do, do it. If there is nothing left to do right now, accept it for what it is :) This may help too: th-cam.com/video/MwXnvMiok-I/w-d-xo.html

    • @HannahJoy333
      @HannahJoy333 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Why would you ever give up hope of marriage? Unless you’re dead, there is always a possibility of marriage for you.
      My personal advice is to not just “hope” for marriage but simply enjoy each day of your life and KNOW God will lead you to your marriage with perfect timing.

    • @stargazingcatgirl3233
      @stargazingcatgirl3233 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@RM-qq5rj Wow, thanks for your testimony. I'm so glad it worked out for you. I've been reflecting a lot on my situation, and just meditating on something helps me see it with clarity... maybe it's an introvert thing? I am really unprepared in so many ways, it's scary, but I feel like I'm seeing things with clarity that were a blur before. Thanks for that good advice.

    • @stargazingcatgirl3233
      @stargazingcatgirl3233 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@HannahJoy333 God bless!

  • @trueblue844
    @trueblue844 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Kinda confusing.
    Will be tuned in tho 😊

  • @agnesr.4664
    @agnesr.4664 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Coming back a year later and while being in a dating relationship long distance. Point two is crucial for me right now! Naturally, I am very initiative, combine it with the feelings of missing a person, him naturally being more laid back, to me it is not easy to find balance in helping him pursue me and me being patient with his processes... Do you have any thoughts on how to not get frustrated by him being slower and "less passionate" yet helping him not fall into passivity? Hope to hear from you. In the meantime, I am going to search through your content. :D Thanks so much for everything you do!

    • @agnesr.4664
      @agnesr.4664 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Also, point 4 is a good one!! Thank you so much!

  • @stephanied.sanders7980
    @stephanied.sanders7980 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What do you say about a guy who has asked about being invited to come over (on multiple occasions)? I said no we are good meeting out and about spending quality time, not necessarily spending a bunch of money all the time.

  • @SanctifiedLady
    @SanctifiedLady ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I don’t quite understand his point in principle number 2…what exactly does this mean? What’s is she actually doing to “invite” him?

  • @eve3363
    @eve3363 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    "5 Things God Wants You to do if You Want a CHRISTIAN MAN to Pursue You ". Worldly men don't find value in these attributes and will try to take advantage of you.

  • @JJ-1212
    @JJ-1212 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hey Mark I'm finding there's not many options at church for a wife. I'm not sure if I need to go looking elsewhere or wait for God to do somthing? Cheers.

  • @Cantthinkofwhatshouldgohere
    @Cantthinkofwhatshouldgohere ปีที่แล้ว +2

    👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

  • @4d.4c.4b4
    @4d.4c.4b4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    What questions do I ask a man to determine he is definitely a Christian as he says he is?

  • @camisweeney6813
    @camisweeney6813 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Slightly off topic question: why is the story of Ruth made it seem like this was completely her choice? I always hear "choose a man like Ruth chose Boaz" However, it was the LAW at the time for Ruth to go and try to marry Boaz. It doesn't seem like this relationship was a choice at all. But instead, Ruth was listening to her MIL and following the law to marry Boaz after her husband died. This isn't supposed to be hateful, I am genuinely curious as a Christian woman. This story has never made sense to me.

  • @evolgenius1150
    @evolgenius1150 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    As a guy I wish women would be more proactive in this process, not the pursuit, but by signaling they invite pursuit.
    In the past history women would do things to encourage a conversation. This might be dropping a handkercheif or other bobble infront of a guy they like which the man will pickup and return, or fumbling a bag of groceries inviting assistance, asking for directions, etc. All of these things create the space necessary for a conversation and introduction to take place.
    Men do not like cold approaches because it feels awkward. Walking up to a woman and introducing yourself is like holding a sign that reads to some degree "I find you attractive enough to eventually sleep with given the right circumstances" and that's a very awkward thing to lead with even if we intend to do it all biblically this attraction is still communicated!!! Us men NEED you ladies to provide an opening that allows us to approach for a different reason AND THATS why we dont approach we need an opening that isn't "me man, me like beautiful woman".
    We want to open doors for you, return your lost items, and use opportunities to assist you. These are approlriate jumping off points.

  • @GilliMarieMoody
    @GilliMarieMoody 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Respectfully, please do not assume that modern women are not aware of a man’s needs. Most of us know not to chase men, to avoid emasculating them, and to encourage them to be their best selves. I clicked on this video because… I’m not completely sure if a certain someone likes me. Plus, it’s a professional setting so, I must be extra careful. Thanks🌬️🕊️.

  • @Unclebuns72
    @Unclebuns72 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    First

  • @jessicassouza4859
    @jessicassouza4859 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    BUT to invite him to spend time with you,wouldn’t it be pursuing him?

  • @rebeccajohnson5658
    @rebeccajohnson5658 ปีที่แล้ว

    What is a "softly" approach of pursuing?

    • @KBowWow75
      @KBowWow75 ปีที่แล้ว

      Modern soft approach is a hairflip according to the eyes of women. That's callee minimal effort in my eyes.

  • @phasikamkabela
    @phasikamkabela ปีที่แล้ว

    Yoh! I’ve made all the mistakes, I’m guessing it’s chai for me😂.

  • @TRUTHBEINGTOLD-rk3ni
    @TRUTHBEINGTOLD-rk3ni ปีที่แล้ว

    that s not safe if smn pursues you need to be careful

  • @mariambeme
    @mariambeme 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Dont Chase.

  • @HOTDOG401
    @HOTDOG401 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I pursued and she made no efforts but to push me away...so I gave up.

    • @toniatonia967
      @toniatonia967 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      The right person will come for you in the name of Jesus Christ Amen

    • @HOTDOG401
      @HOTDOG401 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @toniatonia967 Thanks...won't hold my breath...but I appreciate the thoughtful prayer.

    • @Seanbanks409
      @Seanbanks409 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You’ll know when it’s the right one trust me 🎉

  • @badnewsbarbienewchannel2011
    @badnewsbarbienewchannel2011 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I need a lesson in long distance pursuit.

  • @amyj.4992
    @amyj.4992 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Period. Boaz was QUITE a bit older than Ruth

  • @tjrothausen
    @tjrothausen ปีที่แล้ว +1

    🙄

  • @juliarichardson4092
    @juliarichardson4092 ปีที่แล้ว

    Send a scripture

  • @josephineacolicol1990
    @josephineacolicol1990 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    With Ruth & Boas God has been planning them to be married for Jesus sake that His ancestors will be coming from Jewish & Gentiles. In end time the Jewish & Gentiles will come together to worship God & Jesus will be our King.

  • @theresa2499
    @theresa2499 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Most men lead sexually,very inappropriate for a Christian woman. Sad indeed.

  • @JanetLee-wh1if
    @JanetLee-wh1if 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    How does a 78 year old Pastor persue a woman?

  • @robertharrold4976
    @robertharrold4976 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I like this teaching but it’s important to note that a man pursuing you and chasing you are two separate things….for example if you’ve been on one outing together, let him know how great of a time you had and you’d love to get together again.
    from that moment he has the invitation & has a window of opportunity to schedule the next date with you. If he is chasing, he is simply going after something that isn’t reciprocating. I think it should be the women’s idea for the couple to get together and her contacting the man gives him an opportunity to continue to schedule the next dates and times to get together.
    I can guarantee most ladies don’t feel the polarity and attraction to a guy who’s constantly contacting you and telling you how much he likes you and wants to get together.
    A simple “hey how are you” sent to a guy let’s him know you are ready to get together and you want him to set the next date. That’s allowing a guy to pursue you without him feeling like he’s chasing you.

  • @2023mimii
    @2023mimii 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Jewish writings say that boaz died the day after his wedding to Ruth. She carried a moabite curse on men. her son was not breastfed otherwise the king david-to-Jesus lineage would hv bn affected by this curse. Spiritual mapping is a must b4 marriage.

  • @cccc8643
    @cccc8643 ปีที่แล้ว

    God never allowed this. so im done w it. Gods got jokes w my life

  • @runitupc3658
    @runitupc3658 ปีที่แล้ว

    My brothers don’t ever pursue a woman, it just leads to heart break just focus on yourselves

    • @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
      @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger  ปีที่แล้ว +37

      terrible advice. This sounds like it's coming out of a wounded place, not a healthy place.

    • @Dj.D25
      @Dj.D25 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I know this is a belief of the MGTOW/ Red Pill. I'll admit, it's very tempting to prefer the woman to pursue, especially after being hurt enough times, seeing all the toxic relationships and seeing all the selfish women out there, even Christian women because often times pursuing a woman can get you labeled a creep, unless she finds you attractive already. A lot of women are too picky too with what they want. Focusing on yourself I can understand can make your confidence grow. I tried following these ideas for a while and it made me feel hurt, depressed. I learned real Christian women are not like these toxic women.

    • @connormarek1028
      @connormarek1028 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Dj.D25 Yeah, I think a real Christian woman will respond differently than a secular/ worldly one (because Christians are trained to behave differently). Though, focusing on yourself (career, hobbies, spiritual life, ETC) can not only boost your confidence, but also put you in contact with like-minded women that are actually worth your time. They might just "naturally appear", and then you can pursue if you want. I like a lot of what the MGTOW/ Red Pill folks say, but you have to make sure an idea is Biblical.

    • @joleshore4818
      @joleshore4818 ปีที่แล้ว

      😂

    • @KBowWow75
      @KBowWow75 ปีที่แล้ว

      We don't live in Biblical times. We live in Satanic times.

  • @angelinahoyos9926
    @angelinahoyos9926 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks for clarifying that a woman should defer to a man's "preferred method of pursuing" *after the woman has identified him as a Godly man* not just because.
    Honestly with a certain upbringing and past, it is difficult as a woman to force yourself to unlearn a lot of these things or even allow the Lors to re-teach us. But thank you these videos are very practical in applying what God's word says also🙏🏻🤍

  • @charisseibanez9984
    @charisseibanez9984 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you for sharing this great video 🙏 I reflected and assessed myself and I realized that I was a masculine woman. 🥲 This is now my first step to change what needs to be change. (You're helping us a lot, God bless you!) 💛
    I'm praying for a strong godly man to spend my life with by His grace and His perfect timing! 🙌