20 years of guilt for something I'd always believed was my fault. Unraveling it in therapy and realising it wasn't my fault at all. It's done wonders for my sense of self, anxiety and addiction issues. Still along way to go but I'm starting to feel like I am actually a good person, rather than the individual that didn't deserve to walk among others in society
@@saumitrsharma2816 I'm training to become a therapist and a part of that means I have to be in long term psychotherapy. I'm certainly not saying anyone needs to train to be a therapist to work through this, But, I do think finding a good therapist that can help you see your guilt or shame from a different angle. I tend to find the more I understand human psychology and childhood development the more I see the things I was ashamed of weren't my fault which is so important to really embody. Wish you the best
jay rekt hey, J! Yes indeedy!! I am a forensic psychologist preparing to enter a PsyD program (my studies will be about 18mo shorter due to overlapping research coursework and some other nuts&bolts). I look forward to a few years of getting shrunk, personally, lotta stuff in the waaaay back of the closet - childhood trauma, combat vet, witnessing the murder of a similar-aged very close family member at a young age, abandonment- it’s gonna be a hoot! My guy will be doing backflips with a triple reverse by the time we’re through 🤙😉👍 In my opinion, it allows you to be COMPLETELY honest with yourself and become unburdened - it’s gonna feel great! ...and be very interesting...wondering if I’ll be highly suggestible so we can do some deep psychoanalysis. Unfortunately, my bet says ‘no’ bc I’m aware of everything that has happened. Have you started yours yet? How is it working out? And how is it affecting your view of therapy? Are you getting insights? Taking notes?
I've heard that shame is a feeling that you yourself are flawed whereas guilt is a feeling of responsibility and accountability towards others. So shame is about putting yourself down (cruelty towards yourself, self-blame) whereas guilt is about feeling bad for having caused harm in some way and perhaps wanting to make amends. One is focused inwards and is not productive and one is focused outwards and may be productive.
Agree- great video, but I still ascribe to shame vs guilt= 'i am something bad' vs 'i did something bad', but I'm just a lay, shame-having person so...
You have had such an influence in my thinking lately, starting last year. Whenever I feel bad or lonely in my thinking or feelings I just turn to your videos for condolence and instantly feel better and understood. Your videos nourish my soul. I hope you understand the positive impact you have on so many people! Just wanted to share my appreciation to you yet again because I feel like you really need the appreciation in your work and intellect, but especially the wisdom that comes from your true self, your heart and intuition. Greetings from Finland. I feel like I am commenting too much on your videos already and hope It doesn't bother you!!
To anyone who struggles with chronic shame or guilt, I recommend healing the shame that binds you by john bradshaw. Its been life changing for me, but even just reading it has been difficult because its so to the point on so many of my issues of shame.
Hello Daniel. This is a good one. I have felt profound guilt for particular transgressions an have also felt excrutiating shame for many stupid things I have done and to me this is a healthy response. Consciousness is better than dissociating to avoid the pain.
I was LITERALLY "abandoned" but the Law did it; I mean they came to the house with the social worker from CPS and took us away from our parents. That way, my mom could play the gd victim for the rest of her life, saying THEY tore apart our family, and never have to feel any of the guilt that she never felt, anyway, for doing what they did to make Children's Services and police take us away in the first place. I've always lived around people who feel absolutely freakin' NOTHING for what they've done.
Accept it for what it is. Move on with your life. There are bad actors in life: sometimes they are family. You cannot change the past: only your future.
Vicki Bee! Wow, that's awful. Keep looking for people who do feel responsible for their actions. Learn from your experiences. I feel for you and hope you find genuine people to mix with, even if that is only one or two, it's better than a thousand of the type you have experienced. All the very best.
I am wondering how trauma at the ages you mention (0-2 years old) can really affect us if we can't reflectively engage with our memories from those hazy, young years? How does such early childhood trauma get communicated to the adult psyche if it is not merely repressed, but in some ways pre- our cognitive development?
I don’t try to stop myself from feeling what I feel. I let it flow.. I engage with it & ask it questions .. I seek to understand whatever I feel in the moment..and I accept it ...no matter what.. I say., ok this is what I’m feeling at this moment.. and all feelings move ( change ) so nothing to be worried about ...😉
I love yr channel. As I’ve been sad and crashing mine - hardly uploading at all anymore.. Naturally my latest video is about being depressed and exhausted currently, & it’s mostly due to constant shaming going on in my life. However, that is the sort of thing I’m not going to go into depth about..so I’m stuck speaking in vague phrases and explanations. Problem is, I love myself now so seeing the attempts at shaming make me angry ..& depressed as all hell for taking it. I don’t talk to my parents but I get shamed for it (one example) and can’t afford to get away from what’s causing it. And am treated great the other..half (tops) the time which is always confusing as f***. I get incredibly depressed having all these people looking up to me, especially as I left an abusive relationship in the past/got off dope/survived suicide attempt and got “better”....... All these people I’m supposed to be motivating while losing all my motivation. idk makes me feel like I’m living a lie now in a way, taking shit, while telling people not to take anyone’s shit. Thanks for helping summarize more clearly in my mind, what’s up, Validating what has been appearing to be going on, cheering me up, so on.
Daniel, hi! I am am a forensic psychologist (research degree) soon to enter a PsyD program. I understand your progression to new things in your life - traveling, making movies, just being a whole, complete human being. It’s a wonderful thing. Did you ever think that, perhaps you could be a conduit for therapists seeking therapy? I heard what you said regarding your own vicarious traumatization via the countertransference, in-session. It happens. You really seem like an IPT type of therapist. Did you try therapy yourself? Maybe a session per week to decompress? Many psychotherapists do this to prevent burnout. It sounds like this hiatus from therapy is significantly adding to your own philosophy of treatment and how you, altogether, function. Taking a step away really allows for that reflection - of self, of treatment algorithms, of systems, just...of people. It lets us confirm, within ourselves, internalize if you will, what was wrong with everything, ways to fix it - even if the ins companies and big pharma do not want those alternatives to occur that will cause them to lose money. You are right - it’s a shame and a sham. My theory is that 90% of ‘mental illness’ and ‘disorders’ may be ameliorated via an extended period of clean living, eating absolutely healthy and exercising for hours per day and healthy social interaction. I’m a combat vet so I’ve seen the messy shit, that nastiest-nastiness that human beings can throw at each other, so when it comes to listening to traumatic experiences and recapitulation of some more recent, horrid garbage, I could listen for years and it wouldn’t affect me. We’re all different. What do you think about that? Therapy for therapists? It’s been done for a long time but you seem like you’d really have something to offer in this niche; perhaps something small, on a PT basis? Maybe 5-10clients per week? Do you think, due to the reality (I’ve seen this too) of the fact that some do what they need to in order to maximize their profit, that each one would be completely honest with you, with themselves? How do you think it would affect boundaries? Produce new conflict? Perhaps start a bigger discussion? The potential for the latter, the propagation of further talks and insights to be revealed, could be the most significant product of this. Best regards. ~Dr MG
Hi Daniel, thank you for another great insight. I believe you are right, that healing our own trauma is key to stop destructive behavior. But how? Maybe you have already done some material on that, but if not, I’d be very interested to hear more about healing ones own trauma, how to recognize it and what does it mean to heal it. All the best Daniel and thank you so much for sharing all these insights with so much openness and courage.
Most people feel abandoned. Maybe the drive to 'train' babies to 'self soothe' in the west is why. Basically abandon your baby when it is in distress. Insanity.
Based on Daniel’s comments and comments by others, has anyone read “Healing Developmental Trauma:...” by Laurence Heller and Aline Lapiene. I started reading it and am about 3/4 of the way through. This approach may help with addressing the early trauma that infants and young children have experienced. I would welcome Daniel’s thoughts on this approach if he is aware of it.
This video is Fucking Awesome !!!! This information is very clear Thank you !!! BTW Guilt is not a feeling ! and, shame is a self image fear (usually regarding some issue that shouldn’t be judged as shameful at all ) The best way to access early memories and feelings from very young childhood ages of infants and toddlers is by doing the suggested exercises in the book called The Homecoming by John Bradshaw Also I Recommend a book called How to Break your addiction to a person by Howard Halpern since he details deep rooted abandonment issues to something he calls Infant Hunger The interesting thing about Infant Hunger is that as a baby with a natural desire to feel connected to his mother, there can be one moment in time when the mother is not available to mirror love to the baby and in that moment the baby feels abandoned for forever since an infant is still connected with its wisdom body ( authentic feeling body ) thus the baby has the capacity to experience infinity in the moment thus a desire for connection that is thwarted imprints the infant with a feeling of being abandoned for forever. Once the adult self can reckon with this fact or reality then the adult self can sooth the inner infant. My Inner Infant is Infinitely Innocent !!!
How can we do this while still raising kids? I’m struggling with debilitating guilt from the first few years of motherhood while trying to be the best for my kids in the moment.
Do, what your parents didn't do for you: Tell them about the problems that you have been facing. Encourage them to work on the resulting issues in theit 20ies and not their late 30ies.
Lukas Böck thank you-yes I totally agree! I’ve done a lot of things different from the start (extended nursing, cosleeping, unschooling) but it still wasn’t enough to wipe out some of my deep-seated traumas. It’ll be my life’s work. I’ve been encouraging them to not make these same mistakes (and to point them out to me if I do!)
Emerson Schindel THANK YOU! Yes I love it. Totally agree with you. I’ve been apologizing in many ways already (adjusting to their different ages and personalities-somewhat how Daniel describes in a different video about crying with some clients). And I understand your sentiment about begging their forgiveness! I have at times but then it seemed (at least while still young) to be putting a further burden on them. They’d say “It’s ok, Mom” but what else could they say! Though I won’t ever truly feel better about it all, even if with sincere forgiveness from them. I have such profound regret about those years and desperately wish I could redo them. I’m struggling with not letting that ruin how I am today with them (and not add to my regret of years wasted!) And just to expand - my main regrets have been my lack of patience and focused attention with my kids. Being distracted and reactive and not just enjoying them for who they are. Always feeling the need to be somewhere else, doing something else. And some people think I’m insane that this has plagued me so. I’ve always been a stay-at-home mum and we’ve always unschooled. So, yes I was physically with them all the time but so often, I may as well have been across the world because I wasn’t present. That sadness and guilt I will forever carry.
I wonder how possible it is to truly heal the original attachment wounds if you're living with someone who caused largely contributed to the wounds in the first place..?
I love a lot of this, not, ~”separate from abandonment.” Family can use fixing very well. Also, bit preachy but: forgiveness doesn’t come from within unless it’s secondarily by your freewill choosing to welcome Christ, pick up your cross and follow the way the truth and the life with discipline, Grace, Cardinal and Heavenly virtue. I agree shame is an ‘other’ problem, but I know owning shame is funny and modest (un/healthy guilt or not,) once acknowledged, spite qualms to forgiving laughter.
Nice video. I have done somethings in my life that I regret, ashamed and guilty at the same time. On one occasion in 2006, I even sought help from a religious padre (but that was because I thought the padre would keep things confidential not because I was turning to religion, and I was in no position to spend money on a therapist)...until I found out years later, that I had been a pawn all along by some friends in a sick game and recently, around a year and a half back discovered that I have been part of some sick sadistic socially manipulative game by family (who I learnt have been at the source of it for longer than I initially thought. I know it sounds crazy and many will say I have schizophrenic disorder of being persecuted or being psychotic or whatever, but I don't care. I know what I've witnessed, its all still a bit hazy, but that's due to lack of concrete evidence (I have only circumstantial evidence)....and it is this lack of concrete evidence that has been exploited against me in a large way...I have often written what I thought and witnessed, to gain clarity, but my privacy has been violated every time I've done that. I know it has been violated due to changes in family members' attitude and subtle indirect things being said and done in response to what I've written. They have also tried so hard to hide the fact that they have in fact violated my privacy when it comes to me writing my thoughts and whatever I witness, besides I know they are like curious cats and them violating my privacy has been expected, when I didn't want them to do it. Its like asking a child not to stick their finger in the electrical socket and the child does it anyway, its extremely annoying.
@Uneuphemistic, platonic superfruit I have thought of that, but experience has shown that people who want to invade privacy will stop at nothing till they manage to invade it successfully
@@dmackler58 thanks a lot for replying to me. I found your videos barely yesterday and I haven’t being able to stop watching one after another. Your material should be translated to Spanish. Latinos need to know how to detach from their disfuncional families to heal.
Be my therapist! (or why do practicing therapists can’t leave their precious perfect little high grounds and explain things in a humble way like you? starting with mine...)
Please never stop making videos they're changing my life
You deserve more subscribers
20 years of guilt for something I'd always believed was my fault. Unraveling it in therapy and realising it wasn't my fault at all. It's done wonders for my sense of self, anxiety and addiction issues. Still along way to go but I'm starting to feel like I am actually a good person, rather than the individual that didn't deserve to walk among others in society
How did you do that? Can you please describe it? I am also in same boat as you.....
@@saumitrsharma2816 I'm training to become a therapist and a part of that means I have to be in long term psychotherapy. I'm certainly not saying anyone needs to train to be a therapist to work through this, But, I do think finding a good therapist that can help you see your guilt or shame from a different angle. I tend to find the more I understand human psychology and childhood development the more I see the things I was ashamed of weren't my fault which is so important to really embody. Wish you the best
jay rekt hey, J! Yes indeedy!! I am a forensic psychologist preparing to enter a PsyD program (my studies will be about 18mo shorter due to overlapping research coursework and some other nuts&bolts). I look forward to a few years of getting shrunk, personally, lotta stuff in the waaaay back of the closet - childhood trauma, combat vet, witnessing the murder of a similar-aged very close family member at a young age, abandonment- it’s gonna be a hoot! My guy will be doing backflips with a triple reverse by the time we’re through 🤙😉👍 In my opinion, it allows you to be COMPLETELY honest with yourself and become unburdened - it’s gonna feel great! ...and be very interesting...wondering if I’ll be highly suggestible so we can do some deep psychoanalysis. Unfortunately, my bet says ‘no’ bc I’m aware of everything that has happened. Have you started yours yet? How is it working out? And how is it affecting your view of therapy? Are you getting insights? Taking notes?
I've heard that shame is a feeling that you yourself are flawed whereas guilt is a feeling of responsibility and accountability towards others. So shame is about putting yourself down (cruelty towards yourself, self-blame) whereas guilt is about feeling bad for having caused harm in some way and perhaps wanting to make amends. One is focused inwards and is not productive and one is focused outwards and may be productive.
This.
Agree- great video, but I still ascribe to shame vs guilt= 'i am something bad' vs 'i did something bad', but I'm just a lay, shame-having person so...
You have had such an influence in my thinking lately, starting last year. Whenever I feel bad or lonely in my thinking or feelings I just turn to your videos for condolence and instantly feel better and understood. Your videos nourish my soul. I hope you understand the positive impact you have on so many people! Just wanted to share my appreciation to you yet again because I feel like you really need the appreciation in your work and intellect, but especially the wisdom that comes from your true self, your heart and intuition. Greetings from Finland. I feel like I am commenting too much on your videos already and hope It doesn't bother you!!
This is authentic. Yes, we can do this. It isn’t easy or quick. It may be, indeed, a life’s work.
Agree on full removal from those that were abusive to us in childhood.
To anyone who struggles with chronic shame or guilt, I recommend healing the shame that binds you by john bradshaw. Its been life changing for me, but even just reading it has been difficult because its so to the point on so many of my issues of shame.
Hello Daniel. This is a good one. I have felt profound guilt for particular transgressions an have also felt excrutiating shame for many stupid things I have done and to me this is a healthy response. Consciousness is better than dissociating to avoid the pain.
I was LITERALLY "abandoned" but the Law did it; I mean they came to the house with the social worker from CPS and took us away from our parents. That way, my mom could play the gd victim for the rest of her life, saying THEY tore apart our family, and never have to feel any of the guilt that she never felt, anyway, for doing what they did to make Children's Services and police take us away in the first place.
I've always lived around people who feel absolutely freakin' NOTHING for what they've done.
Accept it for what it is.
Move on with your life.
There are bad actors in life: sometimes they are family.
You cannot change the past: only your future.
Vicki Bee! Wow, that's awful. Keep looking for people who do feel responsible for their actions. Learn from your experiences. I feel for you and hope you find genuine people to mix with, even if that is only one or two, it's better than a thousand of the type you have experienced. All the very best.
Thank you again Daniel, for putting these two expressions in perspective: guilt versus shame.
I am wondering how trauma at the ages you mention (0-2 years old) can really affect us if we can't reflectively engage with our memories from those hazy, young years? How does such early childhood trauma get communicated to the adult psyche if it is not merely repressed, but in some ways pre- our cognitive development?
@@asterpear3651 Pahological relaitionships in particular I'd say.
Trauma at young ages typically presents as attachment issues later in life.
ah, and personality disorders.
A little bit of self acceptance can go a long long way..
I don’t try to stop myself from feeling what I feel. I let it flow.. I engage with it & ask it questions .. I seek to understand whatever I feel in the moment..and I accept it ...no matter what.. I say., ok this is what I’m feeling at this moment.. and all feelings move ( change ) so nothing to be worried about ...😉
Amen! This is how I walk in my life too nowadays, it makes all the difference!
It's the way you say things that connects with me sometimes.
Very clear and concise video this. Nice one!
Keep these coming!
I'd love to know your thoughts on maladaptive daydreaming.
Thank you very much!
I love yr channel.
As I’ve been sad and crashing mine - hardly uploading at all anymore..
Naturally my latest video is about being depressed and exhausted currently, & it’s mostly due to constant shaming going on in my life.
However, that is the sort of thing I’m not going to go into depth about..so I’m stuck speaking in vague phrases and explanations.
Problem is, I love myself now so seeing the attempts at shaming make me angry ..& depressed as all hell for taking it.
I don’t talk to my parents but I get shamed for it (one example) and can’t afford to get away from what’s causing it.
And am treated great the other..half (tops) the time which is always confusing as f***.
I get incredibly depressed having all these people looking up to me, especially as I left an abusive relationship in the past/got off dope/survived suicide attempt and got “better”.......
All these people I’m supposed to be motivating while losing all my motivation.
idk makes me feel like I’m living a lie now in a way, taking shit, while telling people not to take anyone’s shit.
Thanks for helping summarize more clearly in my mind, what’s up,
Validating what has been appearing to be going on, cheering me up, so on.
It's such a loss not to have you practicing what you are good at.
Great video! Thank you.
I think that shame can turn into guilt
Daniel, hi! I am am a forensic psychologist (research degree) soon to enter a PsyD program. I understand your progression to new things in your life - traveling, making movies, just being a whole, complete human being. It’s a wonderful thing. Did you ever think that, perhaps you could be a conduit for therapists seeking therapy? I heard what you said regarding your own vicarious traumatization via the countertransference, in-session. It happens. You really seem like an IPT type of therapist. Did you try therapy yourself? Maybe a session per week to decompress? Many psychotherapists do this to prevent burnout. It sounds like this hiatus from therapy is significantly adding to your own philosophy of treatment and how you, altogether, function. Taking a step away really allows for that reflection - of self, of treatment algorithms, of systems, just...of people. It lets us confirm, within ourselves, internalize if you will, what was wrong with everything, ways to fix it - even if the ins companies and big pharma do not want those alternatives to occur that will cause them to lose money. You are right - it’s a shame and a sham. My theory is that 90% of ‘mental illness’ and ‘disorders’ may be ameliorated via an extended period of clean living, eating absolutely healthy and exercising for hours per day and healthy social interaction. I’m a combat vet so I’ve seen the messy shit, that nastiest-nastiness that human beings can throw at each other, so when it comes to listening to traumatic experiences and recapitulation of some more recent, horrid garbage, I could listen for years and it wouldn’t affect me. We’re all different. What do you think about that? Therapy for therapists? It’s been done for a long time but you seem like you’d really have something to offer in this niche; perhaps something small, on a PT basis? Maybe 5-10clients per week? Do you think, due to the reality (I’ve seen this too) of the fact that some do what they need to in order to maximize their profit, that each one would be completely honest with you, with themselves? How do you think it would affect boundaries? Produce new conflict? Perhaps start a bigger discussion? The potential for the latter, the propagation of further talks and insights to be revealed, could be the most significant product of this. Best regards.
~Dr MG
Thankyou Daniel this vid means a lot to me 🙂
Hi Daniel, thank you for another great insight. I believe you are right, that healing our own trauma is key to stop destructive behavior. But how? Maybe you have already done some material on that, but if not, I’d be very interested to hear more about healing ones own trauma, how to recognize it and what does it mean to heal it. All the best Daniel and thank you so much for sharing all these insights with so much openness and courage.
Thanks you for your sharing, amazing to hear ! :)
Great video. Thanks
Most people feel abandoned. Maybe the drive to 'train' babies to 'self soothe' in the west is why. Basically abandon your baby when it is in distress. Insanity.
Based on Daniel’s comments and comments by others, has anyone read “Healing Developmental Trauma:...” by Laurence Heller and Aline Lapiene. I started reading it and am about 3/4 of the way through. This approach may help with addressing the early trauma that infants and young children have experienced. I would welcome Daniel’s thoughts on this approach if he is aware of it.
This video is Fucking Awesome !!!!
This information is very clear Thank you !!!
BTW Guilt is not a feeling ! and, shame is a self image fear (usually regarding some issue that shouldn’t be judged as shameful at all )
The best way to access early memories and feelings from very young childhood ages of infants and toddlers is by doing the suggested exercises in the book called The Homecoming by John Bradshaw
Also I Recommend a book called How to Break your addiction to a person by Howard Halpern since he details deep rooted abandonment issues to something he calls Infant Hunger
The interesting thing about Infant Hunger is that as a baby with a natural desire to feel connected to his mother, there can be one moment in time when the mother is not available to mirror love to the baby and in that moment the baby feels abandoned for forever since an infant is still connected with its wisdom body ( authentic feeling body ) thus the baby has the capacity to experience infinity in the moment thus a desire for connection that is thwarted imprints the infant with a feeling of being abandoned for forever. Once the adult self can reckon with this fact or reality then the adult self can sooth the inner infant.
My Inner Infant is Infinitely Innocent !!!
Where are you sir missed your videos
How can we do this while still raising kids? I’m struggling with debilitating guilt from the first few years of motherhood while trying to be the best for my kids in the moment.
U stole the words right out of my mouth ..
What's the solution... hope he answers.
Great question. I’m also struggling with this.
Do, what your parents didn't do for you:
Tell them about the problems that you have been facing.
Encourage them to work on the resulting issues in theit 20ies and not their late 30ies.
Lukas Böck thank you-yes I totally agree! I’ve done a lot of things different from the start (extended nursing, cosleeping, unschooling) but it still wasn’t enough to wipe out some of my deep-seated traumas. It’ll be my life’s work. I’ve been encouraging them to not make these same mistakes (and to point them out to me if I do!)
Emerson Schindel THANK YOU! Yes I love it. Totally agree with you. I’ve been apologizing in many ways already (adjusting to their different ages and personalities-somewhat how Daniel describes in a different video about crying with some clients). And I understand your sentiment about begging their forgiveness! I have at times but then it seemed (at least while still young) to be putting a further burden on them. They’d say “It’s ok, Mom” but what else could they say!
Though I won’t ever truly feel better about it all, even if with sincere forgiveness from them. I have such profound regret about those years and desperately wish I could redo them. I’m struggling with not letting that ruin how I am today with them (and not add to my regret of years wasted!)
And just to expand - my main regrets have been my lack of patience and focused attention with my kids. Being distracted and reactive and not just enjoying them for who they are. Always feeling the need to be somewhere else, doing something else. And some people think I’m insane that this has plagued me so. I’ve always been a stay-at-home mum and we’ve always unschooled. So, yes I was physically with them all the time but so often, I may as well have been across the world because I wasn’t present. That sadness and guilt I will forever carry.
Great video! I suggest you do cuts instead of black outs when editing your video
I wonder how possible it is to truly heal the original attachment wounds if you're living with someone who caused largely contributed to the wounds in the first place..?
why don't have any social media account? or any email address for fan/critic request/letter?
Vegetoterapi is very effective to bring you back to the all the traumas even the birh trauma
I love a lot of this, not, ~”separate from abandonment.” Family can use fixing very well.
Also, bit preachy but: forgiveness doesn’t come from within unless it’s secondarily by your freewill choosing to welcome Christ, pick up your cross and follow the way the truth and the life with discipline, Grace, Cardinal and Heavenly virtue. I agree shame is an ‘other’ problem, but I know owning shame is funny and modest (un/healthy guilt or not,) once acknowledged, spite qualms to forgiving laughter.
@@fredn1219 Yes, Jesus doesn't exist as far as I'm concerned, he is imaginary, but childhood issues are real so keep religion away from me too please.
Whats your opinion on Gabor Mate?
Nice video. I have done somethings in my life that I regret, ashamed and guilty at the same time. On one occasion in 2006, I even sought help from a religious padre (but that was because I thought the padre would keep things confidential not because I was turning to religion, and I was in no position to spend money on a therapist)...until I found out years later, that I had been a pawn all along by some friends in a sick game and recently, around a year and a half back discovered that I have been part of some sick sadistic socially manipulative game by family (who I learnt have been at the source of it for longer than I initially thought. I know it sounds crazy and many will say I have schizophrenic disorder of being persecuted or being psychotic or whatever, but I don't care. I know what I've witnessed, its all still a bit hazy, but that's due to lack of concrete evidence (I have only circumstantial evidence)....and it is this lack of concrete evidence that has been exploited against me in a large way...I have often written what I thought and witnessed, to gain clarity, but my privacy has been violated every time I've done that. I know it has been violated due to changes in family members' attitude and subtle indirect things being said and done in response to what I've written. They have also tried so hard to hide the fact that they have in fact violated my privacy when it comes to me writing my thoughts and whatever I witness, besides I know they are like curious cats and them violating my privacy has been expected, when I didn't want them to do it. Its like asking a child not to stick their finger in the electrical socket and the child does it anyway, its extremely annoying.
@Uneuphemistic, platonic superfruit I have thought of that, but experience has shown that people who want to invade privacy will stop at nothing till they manage to invade it successfully
What do you do as a profession nowadays Dani?
Anyone ever told you how very attractive you are? Seriously.
Thanks
If you are doing bad behaviors to people, you deserve to be shamed.
Daniel, I wonder what that ring in your left pinky means…
It was the only finger it fit on. I found it in a hot spring in Thailand.
@@dmackler58 thanks a lot for replying to me. I found your videos barely yesterday and I haven’t being able to stop watching one after another.
Your material should be translated to Spanish. Latinos need to know how to detach from their disfuncional families to heal.
Never mind, I just realized your videos have Spanish subtitles. Wonderful!
@@bell1435 ¡Fantastico! Sí, es bueno que hay subtítulos en Español :)
Be my therapist!
(or why do practicing therapists can’t leave their precious perfect little high grounds and explain things in a humble way like you? starting with mine...)
First yeahh 😛