You're not a flaker if you say no to plans. Your reasons are yours to be respected. You are a flaker if you say yes and then fail to commit. And those reasons are subject to debate.
“You’re probably flaking on them right now to watch this video!” No, they're flaking on me right now and so I'm watching this video while waiting. Update: they just hate me.
I’m not gonna lie, this video made me realized how much I was flaking on the friends I was close to. I almost lost two of my close friends because I was flaking over and over and over again saying I had the excuse that I was busy instead of being a good friend. It felt awful to realize but I’m glad I did before I lost them. Thank you for making this video, and I look to be a better friend for those who care about me in the future.
@@deltaxcd Honestly, it was less so excuses about being with them. It’s because I was making promises I couldn’t keep, just cause I got excited to see them, which was killing the connection.
@@deltaxcd Explaining the exact scenario is hard for me cause there was a lot more going on than the surface would show. Mostly it was just me wanting to make plans and do things, but my busy school schedule eating up time. But I didn’t wanna disappoint them so I’d make plans but cut them short or be late to balance my schedule. Frankly, Im not proud of myself for it, but I learned important time management skills from that
@@vaporeon344 Oh ok, so you were genuinely trying to follow your promises but did not make enough effort. I think that's not exactly flaking then but rather prioritizing things in certain way. You were really busy not just making dumb excuses. But yes it is good that you eventually found out that friends are more important than those other things.
i'm not a flaker myself, but i had two flaker friends and it was f**king awful. i felt like the only one who actually cared about our friendship. if it wasn't for me to remind them about the upcoming event or to call them to ask why they didn't come (and said nothing about it to anyone, of course), it'd be like interacting with a wall. it was really draining. made me feel alone and used, like i'm only needed when they want to get a quick free positive energy, but when it's something that requires just a little commitment or effort, they're off board. and to all the flakers who read this - saying "yes" and changing your mind later is more rude and offensive than saying "no" in the first place. trust me, i know.
Totally get it - I often feel used. People tap me up when they wants quick positive energy session, but then routinely flake on me for arranged meet ups. I often feel superficially liked - because I am happy go lucky and understanding, I get used. I’m starting to become really transactional now - if someone bails on me once, I don’t make another arrangement with them. They have to really work to get back into my space. Im almost 40 and just decided I am too old now for these immature games, I have a busy life and hate having my time wasted.
I feel like flaking just makes you more isolated. I have a friend whod Id invite to things and ask to hang out and what not, but abt half the time they had some medical excuse along the lines of "oh im just feeling a bit ill today" and like sure, fine, it happens but not 6 times a month, every month, and youre completely okay the next day. Eventually people will just think youre avoiding them and they will stop asking you. Dont do that. Be honest.
@@sr81 Sure, but Id say that 1) I cant go through a list of every possible mental/physical health issue that they haven told me about every time in my head that someone flakes on me and 2) Just tell me what exactly is wrong. If youre not gonna tell me then im not gonna and cant care. If youre having a mental health struggle then say that. But imma keep it 100% with you, if you do that 50% of the time i ask to do smth with you, then i will stop. Its not your fault sure, but its not mine either and to have throw away plans all the time and waste days that i wouldve spent with someone then, im sorry, but my time is limited and valuable too. If I have friends that will be more reliable, then I will ask them over you. Understanding for that situation can only go so far if you keep wasting my time agreeing to do things you will likely not do.
@@nopenopenopenopenope4101 Yes youre right, its all about you. Everyone should keep planning their lives around you and keep making plans that you will inevitably flake on. Everyone should sacrifice their time to accommodate you. Is that seriously what you think? If I truly am your friend, then you should feel comfortable to tell me about your issues and then I am more than happy to help. And if I am not that close with you, I have no responsibility or obligation to sacrifice my time for you over and over again. If you agree to something, see that you attend or tell them that you wont in a timely manner, or dont agree in the first place. Its not selfish of me to ask others to respect my time. Its selfish of you to expect from everyone around you to plan their lives around you and be okay with you flaking half the time you make plans. If something happens every now and again, thats okay. I understand that life happens and plans need to be canceled sometimes. But thats not what I am talking about. I am talking about people who frequently flake. Not just occasionally say "hey look smth happened". THose are very different
My friend is a flaker, but even if he says *he can’t* come. I drive to his house pick him up and then return to my house. then the cycle of life repeats as it should.
Rishabh Rathi Btw I fixed the comment a little bit. I knew there was something wrong with it and I knew I can fix it but I just ignored it. I updated it. Now it is more understandable Edit: This comment is useless.
I'm sometimes the opposite. Especially when it's exam season. I say no outright when my friends tell me that we're gonna grab some drinks cuz I'm gonna study for the exam. And a few hours later I'll just invite myself again and appear like a jack in a box in the bar 😂
Just remembered how I purposefully flaked my way out of dating this girl in college because my friend said she was a flake. I didn’t realize it till now, but I was both a flake and a hypocrite. Don’t be a hypoflake boys and girls.
I used to flake on my friends because they always wanted to go out to eat on 'nice places' and I couldn't explain to them that I'm poor and can't always afford to go out with them. Once, I brought it up and it just became really uncomfortable. Then i went to college and my circle of friends was mostly broke anyway so I didn't have to flake anymore lol
You should have explained it to them from the beginning. Every normal person would understand the situation you're in and instead of going to expensive restaurants they would change it to somewhere where you can afford.
When you flake bc depression /feeling of shame/ feeling ugly and people stop to invite you so you feel even lonelier, misérable, unloved... That hurts so much.
The thing is, you cannot blame your friends for not wanting to be the only one putting effort in a friendship, especially if they don’t know what you’re going through… They might also feel insecure and believe that you dislike them if you keep flaking on them :/ it’s the hard truth, but you can get through it and always try to reconnect, a true friend will accept it if you had a bad mental health time and want to try again.
@@antoniop1507 I bet you think spelling Color as Colour is incorrect as well. It's not there's this thing called The U.K. American English has made it a dam mission to jumble up as much as possible to differentiate.
My relationship with my best friend ended because I told him he needed to be more reliable, and he responded by ignoring me for a month. I've reached a point where I cannot stand flakers
i have a person in my life who is just like 1:17 lol. super enthusiastic when making plans but also super vague and unclear, and doesn’t seem to be self aware / respectful of my time. has promised plans so many times that she never followed up with, and pretended like she didn’t make them in the first place. mentally distanced myself and let go energetically. 10/10 would recommend. respect your own time and yourself y’all
Your vid hit hard at 5:04 when you said "the sad reality of flakers is that you only know them for a short period of time. They can only flake so long until they fully flake out on their relationships". The biggest flaker I've ever known is my best friend from high school and that's exactly what she did. It actually hurts sometimes still. I had to make the decision of not investing my time in her any longer after years of making plans and them all falling through. What did it was when she flaked out on a job interview I got her because her mom was threatening to kick her out of the house. In the end, I only got to be her friend for four years. After high school she ghosted out of my life completely and I decided not to chase after her. It just sucks because when we were close, she was a great friend to me. And to this day I still wish she was a part of my life.
I have a friend like that. I still run after her and text her occasionally while she has ignored me for two weeks now. Usually it's about one week until she replies. She doesn't pick up the phone either. Plans never work out. I don't want to give her up because she is the only person I ever really connected with. But maybe I should? :/ Sorry about your friend :(
@@perfectlyimperfect423 Really sorry to hear about your friend. Everyone's situations is different and it's always possible that she's going through a hard time and not doing it intentionally. The best advice I could give is- talk to your friend about the issue. There's no point in losing someone you care about deeply just because no one wanted to talk about it. If they are a true friend, they will understand. Mine did not and I made my own decision afterwards. In the end, the decision is yours and no one's opinion on the Internet (including mine) matters because your situation is your own. Best of luck to you and I hope that either way, you find peace.
@@ArchToAchilles Thank you so much for your reply. She has been this way ever since we stopped seeing each other in school every day automatically. I already tried talking to her and she doesn't really have an explanation. I blamed her for her behavior pretty harshly in the past and now I try to be the patient, understanding friend that doesn't complain. She knows my opinion and she knows I hate this silence. But I don't know if she just doesn't care or if she can't help it. I don't want to lose her but at the same time it's not like the situation is beneficial for either of us. I know that there isn't a real solution, but it's so good to talk about it. Thank you for your time, I appreciate it.
Ok. I know that i'm not really part of this conversation but... Would you class someone who is friends with a group of people a flaker if they are too scared to ask to go somewhere with them in case the group don't want them?? I feel as though I'm that someone. It's not exactly flaking because there was never any invite. Which makes me think twice about the people if all I really do is hang out in school but never do anything extra. I'm just not sure and I think about "progress" to becoming friends with them. When I might already be but too blind to understand that I am. I bet many other people in many other things will have goals what will have no measure of success, and therefore no definitive goal, but something you say you want to reach. So you might never reach it. I guess I just want some advice. If you can say anything I'd appreciate it so so much.
@@bearmugs1408 I was that friend a very long time ago. No, that's not a flaker. Like Domics said in his comment (somewhere in the comment ocean below), people who flake are people that commit to plans and just don't show. But from one shy person to another, you are worthy of people's time. And if they are true friends, they are worthy of yours. But if you just don't like to hang out with groups of people (I don't), there's nothing wrong with that. It only becomes a problem if you start making promises you don't keep. But I think that no matter what, it's important to be patient with and forgive yourself. So long as you are constantly striving to become a better version of yourself. I wish you the best of luck and the best of friends!
A friendship ending flake moment was when I asked flaker half a year in advance (Already caught onto his bs) if he wanted to attend my collega graduation ceremony, you know the once in a lifetime event. Of course he agreed. fast forward to a month before the ceremony and I asked again. Of course he agreed. Fast forward to one week before graduation and I asked again. Again, he agreed. Finally when it was time for my ceremony, he didn't show up because (he confessed) went to Defqon 2016 festival instead. This was the final straw that broke the camel's back and he was violently expelled from the friend group.
Sometimes you just have to flake and when you are an introvert and you really wanted to do something it feels like you missed the opportunity of a lifetime And then you get emotionally scarred and full of regret
I have a flaky friend, but what makes this different is they’re the one asking me to do something. Every time I’ve said yes and we’ve just “forgotten” about it. I even asked to hang out with him and he just switched the convo. It just feels like I’m being on like a fish with a fishing rod, it sucks so pls don’t be flaky.
I knew a friend like this, keyword "knew." He would always make plans to hang out every saturday, and would cancel week after week without fail, if I'd ask him any other days outside of that he'd claim I was constantly pestering even though I literally only messaged him like once a week. After a few months of this the last straw came when I came to his house to wake him up like 3 in the afternoon as usual, and his mom answered telling me that he specifically told her to keep me out so he can sleep. Cut off all contact with him after that day and took him like a month to realize I wasn't messaging him and tried to sell me a half assed apology. Really hope he's got his act together before he loses the rest of his friends.
omg I remember when 2 of my friends flaked on me. They cancelled in the last minute and said that they can't go out, so then I went w my sister at the place we were supposed to meet bc she felt bad bc I was already dressed up and you won't believe who I saw there. Both of them together. This is another level of flaking
Yeah flaking would've been them trying to avoid actual social interactions to stay home and mess around, they were just being jerks trying to avoid you.
Finally I have an explanation for why I suddenly lose motivation to play games and stuff even after planning. I have however noticed that it is mostly because I don't fully know myself what I am interested in.
This video has perfect timing. I am one of the guitarists playing for my school's production of Mamma Mia; in fact, I am the lead guitarist. One of the other guitarists - in particular, the guy who takes my place in Act 2 - has been flaking out of all of our tech rehearsals this week. This means that he is now kicked out of the the show, and I don't get a break to play Smash in the corner of the orchestra room.
I don't consider myself a flaker but here's a thing: if I go out 15 times and just ONCE I decline saying "I'm tired" my friends will think that I don't want to go out ever again. So I resort to rather easily saying yes and figure things out from there
“You live like a block down” I have severe crippling depression and am facing a trial for 17 war crimes in Afghanistan, if I take a step a bullet will be fired into my brain
I had a friend who I would cancel my plans for and make plans with and then last minute they suddenly change their mind and give me some bs excuse and then post themselves on their Snapchat story with another friend, I don’t talk to that person anymore.
ATMdog42 omg me too!! And one time i wanted to vent about it so i took a snap and wrote out my complaint about this flaker to my best friend but instead of sending it to my friend I accidentally sent it to the person i was complaining about! We didn’t talk anymore after that..
@@TranquilRains an hint would be her being to busy to have ever made the plain in the first place after that there just being a dick makeing you waste ur time
I hate doing stuff with people, I would *much* rather just be alone. I’m not a flaker, I will still do stuff with people if asked, but I would rather just not be invited to anything
Sometimes you're just an introvert and really want to go and follow up with plans, but just when the moment approaches you stress out and panic. Happened to me a few times. Felt bad about it but couldn't help it in the moment. When it happens all the time it's definitely a different story though.
I used to be a borderline Flaker but then quickly realised how me not following through with plans, I kinda didnt agree with, got everyone/people involed upset. SO I slowly learnt the idea of just straight up saying no. And I was baffled how many problems could be solved by being crystal clear about it lol.
I have this girl in my friend group. We'll all make a huge plan. But she never asks her parents or she doesn't check her calendar, and then at the very last minute when we're all ready, she says she can't AND SHES USUALLY THE ONE MAKING THE PLAN. The thing is, she is always so sure she can make it, for example;On my sweet 16, she texts the groupchat 15 minutes before the party starts, "sorry I can't make it, I just realized it's my cousins birthday,and we go over every year :'("
If they're like me the chances are they plan too much stuff and look at the calendar at the start of every month and go oh shit I gotta back out on like half the stuff lmao.
he ain't a mulit billion company, or "trendy" by TH-cam's standards. Also, i think it really depends on how many views he gets on a certain period of time. But other than that, youubte is a fucking bitch. Wish we could all just move to a different site where everything isn't fucking retarded.
@@right740 Rather they be annoyed at your honest laziness and preference to do other things than be labelled in their minds a liar imo! I'd always rather people reject me than say yes and give a lame excuse as to why they didn't (and when its obvious their words dont correlate to their actions)
"Sorry, my mom said no"
"Dude, you're 26"
ill be using that excuse til i die
DUDE DOESNT MATTER MY MOM IS MY MOOOOOOMMMMM
*So?*
@*sarcasm* • 69 years ago Kinky
And ?
You're not a flaker if you say no to plans. Your reasons are yours to be respected. You are a flaker if you say yes and then fail to commit. And those reasons are subject to debate.
How come this has only one like and one comment?
Make that three
Make it four :3
Hey domics one question how long did it take you too become a b boi
По русски Пеши!!!!!!!!
"sorry i'm broke"
"you watched infinity war in theaters 6 times!"
"So you see why I'm broke then"
Checkmate.
Exactly what i thought😂
I thought they'd reply that lol
CHECKMATE
And also why you're dumb
if anyone says that to me, i just say, ill pay idc just come. haha
“You’re probably flaking on them right now to watch this video!”
No, they're flaking on me right now and so I'm watching this video while waiting.
Update: they just hate me.
Nice pfp
Get boofed
YUP THIS IS THE ONE
Yeah, yeah.... same...
Nice pfp
I like corn flakers
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
*REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE*
Oof
Ok
Die urslef
oh no I am sorry Domics I will play smash with you at vidcon next time
Casually Explained
I hope you enjoy infinity war for the eighth time 😑
Lol
Casually Explained × Domics?
Casually explained! My boiiii, give him smash
It's my birthday
0:54 "It's me. I'm that friend. I have no friends now."
_Relatability 100_
Same bro same
5:49 lol this one was funny too
Can't argue with that
Reality 100
Evariste Galois why do I see you everywhere wtf..?
I’m not gonna lie, this video made me realized how much I was flaking on the friends I was close to. I almost lost two of my close friends because I was flaking over and over and over again saying I had the excuse that I was busy instead of being a good friend. It felt awful to realize but I’m glad I did before I lost them.
Thank you for making this video, and I look to be a better friend for those who care about me in the future.
do you even need friends like that if you need to find excuses not to be with them?
@@deltaxcd Honestly, it was less so excuses about being with them. It’s because I was making promises I couldn’t keep, just cause I got excited to see them, which was killing the connection.
@@vaporeon344 I don't understand what you mean with that, You were truly incapable to follow your promises even if you wanted to do it?
@@deltaxcd Explaining the exact scenario is hard for me cause there was a lot more going on than the surface would show. Mostly it was just me wanting to make plans and do things, but my busy school schedule eating up time. But I didn’t wanna disappoint them so I’d make plans but cut them short or be late to balance my schedule. Frankly, Im not proud of myself for it, but I learned important time management skills from that
@@vaporeon344 Oh ok, so you were genuinely trying to follow your promises but did not make enough effort. I think that's not exactly flaking then but rather prioritizing things in certain way. You were really busy not just making dumb excuses.
But yes it is good that you eventually found out that friends are more important than those other things.
My parents told me my pet gold fish was visiting a friend. He must be a mega flaker because he’s been gone for 6 years.
High Caliber Garbage thats tuff
Dang..
I approve
Hate to break it to you but
Your goldfish is a jerk
My dad buried my goldfish
Dang my dad said he was going to get milk but he’s been gone since I was born
Me: Sorry, I’m broke.
Person: You watched Endgame in theaters 6 times.
Me: Exactly...
But you watched it again for the 7th time sooo...
He got a loan
That’s what I thought and btw I went a seventh time cuz my mom forst me to
THATS Y AM BROKE IDIOT!
Ulysses Paculaba 😂😂😂 that’s what I was thinking
I like how Dom goes like "BULL-AH SHIII EHT"
*Indian accent intensifies*
@@satyatejeswar3952 lol loved it
2:19 replay button
@@satyatejeswar3952 LMAO IKR
"But it's a load of *b u l l a h s h h i e e e t !"*
i'm not a flaker myself, but i had two flaker friends and it was f**king awful. i felt like the only one who actually cared about our friendship. if it wasn't for me to remind them about the upcoming event or to call them to ask why they didn't come (and said nothing about it to anyone, of course), it'd be like interacting with a wall. it was really draining. made me feel alone and used, like i'm only needed when they want to get a quick free positive energy, but when it's something that requires just a little commitment or effort, they're off board. and to all the flakers who read this - saying "yes" and changing your mind later is more rude and offensive than saying "no" in the first place. trust me, i know.
Totally get it - I often feel used. People tap me up when they wants quick positive energy session, but then routinely flake on me for arranged meet ups. I often feel superficially liked - because I am happy go lucky and understanding, I get used. I’m starting to become really transactional now - if someone bails on me once, I don’t make another arrangement with them. They have to really work to get back into my space. Im almost 40 and just decided I am too old now for these immature games, I have a busy life and hate having my time wasted.
Me: oh new video
*2 seconds later* “Made 8 months ago”
Me: w a i t
Same idk how i havent seen this one
TH-cam being a dipshit
Sub to me
same wtf
@@Brian-tb7is no
"It's a bunch of bULl SHeEt!" Someone make this a shirt
A load*
I like ur profile pic ;)
Somebody made it an hour long loop. It's everything you've been missing from your life. th-cam.com/video/VfuBpd4q4_A/w-d-xo.html
Yasss!!
sandy victorin love your profile pic
You bless the world with another video after only 4 days?
are you going MAD with POWER
Now we wait
Don't tempt him he might just do it again!!!
Yoooo.
When's the next friggin YT in the last hour?
he probably got so pissed with flakers he made an entire video to vent his frustration
Shaggy now has a competition
I feel like flaking just makes you more isolated. I have a friend whod Id invite to things and ask to hang out and what not, but abt half the time they had some medical excuse along the lines of "oh im just feeling a bit ill today" and like sure, fine, it happens but not 6 times a month, every month, and youre completely okay the next day. Eventually people will just think youre avoiding them and they will stop asking you. Dont do that. Be honest.
They might be suffering from depression, personally I think you should give them a bit of grace
@@sr81 Sure, but Id say that 1) I cant go through a list of every possible mental/physical health issue that they haven told me about every time in my head that someone flakes on me and 2) Just tell me what exactly is wrong. If youre not gonna tell me then im not gonna and cant care.
If youre having a mental health struggle then say that. But imma keep it 100% with you, if you do that 50% of the time i ask to do smth with you, then i will stop. Its not your fault sure, but its not mine either and to have throw away plans all the time and waste days that i wouldve spent with someone then, im sorry, but my time is limited and valuable too. If I have friends that will be more reliable, then I will ask them over you. Understanding for that situation can only go so far if you keep wasting my time agreeing to do things you will likely not do.
@@tophatowl6724 facts
you’re giving a whole paragraph of reasons about why it bothers you, but it’s not about you.
@@nopenopenopenopenope4101 Yes youre right, its all about you. Everyone should keep planning their lives around you and keep making plans that you will inevitably flake on. Everyone should sacrifice their time to accommodate you. Is that seriously what you think?
If I truly am your friend, then you should feel comfortable to tell me about your issues and then I am more than happy to help. And if I am not that close with you, I have no responsibility or obligation to sacrifice my time for you over and over again.
If you agree to something, see that you attend or tell them that you wont in a timely manner, or dont agree in the first place. Its not selfish of me to ask others to respect my time. Its selfish of you to expect from everyone around you to plan their lives around you and be okay with you flaking half the time you make plans.
If something happens every now and again, thats okay. I understand that life happens and plans need to be canceled sometimes. But thats not what I am talking about. I am talking about people who frequently flake. Not just occasionally say "hey look smth happened". THose are very different
Flaker = a classmate in a group project
So true
@afootineachworld i wish i had that option. i had to do a group project yesterday and i was not having it.
Kat LOLOLOLOL no ur WHOLE GROUP
My entire f**king group was flakers!! 😤
Kat LOLOLOLOL SO TRUE
Domics:*Exists*
NordVPM:Im about to fund this mans whole career
Crunchyroll: *am I a joke to you?*
No joke they sponsored him like 10 times
Audible- Hold my audiobook.
It is VPN not VPM
IF YOU HAVE A NAME THEN WHAT IS IT ??????????
I dont even get included so I cant be a flaker
Me too... Me too...
Rip u
Frosty right
make better friends or better yourself or build a wall
Frosty ur a snowflaker lol
1:36 Dom: feeling like your wanted is amazing
Me: well not if you're 'wanted dead or alive'
you're*
Plot Twist: *He’s flaking on his friends right now by making this video on flakers.*
You a member of the clique I love youuu
Lol yes!
clique
but this is work though...
Twenty Juan Pilots ||-//
Time Dom said bullahsheeet!-
2:20
3:48
thx
haha!
TheBuriedGuy 15 THANKSS
sounds like an indian accent lmfao
This is amazing.
Ah yes the combination of being an introvert and being a flaker.
Yes.
@Ian charles Reyes nobody cares
You can be both.. just don’t lie to people
Plus being a procrastinator... 😣😆
Yvonne Thomas rude
What really gets me is the "friends" who leave you on R, and then come back out of the blue and you're just supposed to be there for them.
You cant be a flaker to ur friends if u dont have friends
*Leif hax*
You know the secret!
Sick burn!
*modern problems require modern solutions*
I read this then looked at the profile picture
My friend is a flaker, but even if he says *he can’t* come. I drive to his house pick him up and then return to my house. then the cycle of life repeats as it should.
Friends who can force to socialize.
Your friend must be a gifted person.
Rishabh Rathi Thanks I guess. 😂😂
Rishabh Rathi Btw I fixed the comment a little bit. I knew there was something wrong with it and I knew I can fix it but I just ignored it. I updated it. Now it is more understandable
Edit: This comment is useless.
I have alot of these friends once they talked to my mom to convince me to come out... im 19
Mojtaba Taher
Haha. Poor dude.
*_Let's hang out!_*
*_(No fomo)_*
I'm sometimes the opposite. Especially when it's exam season. I say no outright when my friends tell me that we're gonna grab some drinks cuz I'm gonna study for the exam. And a few hours later I'll just invite myself again and appear like a jack in a box in the bar 😂
I think they’d rather a little surprise after an honest reason rather than a flake. You can’t flake on something you never agreed to do.
bold of you to assume i have friends to flake on
I'll be your friend 🙂
Lol im not the first to think of this xD
Same.
_Same_
Same
anyone else notice how smooth domics mouth movements are?
it sounds sexy as hell
He made a whole video on how to animate mouth movements, he takes a lot of time into the mouth flaps. Well, he just puts in a lot of time in general.
its always been pal
"hey are you there?" "Yeah" "I don't see you" "yeah" "so you're not here" "yeah"
Yeah
@@3xalin yeah
@@aloe7215 yeah
Lemons Yay yeah
@@fragile1723 yeah
Just remembered how I purposefully flaked my way out of dating this girl in college because my friend said she was a flake. I didn’t realize it till now, but I was both a flake and a hypocrite. Don’t be a hypoflake boys and girls.
“don’t be a hypoflake boys and girls”
this is perhaps one of the best conclusions i’ve ever read
Im not a flaker, im a *frosted flaker*
Oh so you're white
Oh yes that's me
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@@Just_Jeromeee yup
And I’m a goofy goober ya
I used to flake on my friends because they always wanted to go out to eat on 'nice places' and I couldn't explain to them that I'm poor and can't always afford to go out with them. Once, I brought it up and it just became really uncomfortable. Then i went to college and my circle of friends was mostly broke anyway so I didn't have to flake anymore lol
Faxx, mine make fun of me actually about being broke so i said foh
You should have explained it to them from the beginning. Every normal person would understand the situation you're in and instead of going to expensive restaurants they would change it to somewhere where you can afford.
@@itzm3dora sadly not everyone is like that
HelloImGalaxy technically yes, but also closed mouths don’t get fed lol. If you don’t say anything you’ll never know.
is it really flaking if the excuse is legit?
How much you wanna bet Domics got some awkward texts shortly after posting this video. "Hey Dom, was your last video about me??"
More likely just people just him texting the word “Sorry” lolllll
tell dom im sorry
Mo Su Flakers would never admit to flaking lol
When you flake bc depression /feeling of shame/ feeling ugly and people stop to invite you so you feel even lonelier, misérable, unloved... That hurts so much.
The thing is, you cannot blame your friends for not wanting to be the only one putting effort in a friendship, especially if they don’t know what you’re going through…
They might also feel insecure and believe that you dislike them if you keep flaking on them :/
it’s the hard truth, but you can get through it and always try to reconnect, a true friend will accept it if you had a bad mental health time and want to try again.
Yeah
Yeah
Yeah
No
*_Frosted Flakes have joined the chat_*
_H A V E_
💀
_Bob McCoy don’t u mean left
AYYYYY ITS BOB FROM INSIDE EDITION
_Bob McCoy Good pun😂
Im usually feel too guilty to flake. Even when I have an actual excuse i usually force myself to go anyways
We are the opisite haha😂😂
Haha same
yeah
I'm sure your friends appreciate your sacrifices.
Meeeeeeeeeee!!!!!
I misread the title as “The Fart of Laking” and REALLY wondered what was happening here.
I laughed so hard at this I farded and shidded and camed my pant
XD
@@DarkDashara ????
the big dislexia
How dyslexic do you have to be to see that idek man
"You can't post on social media while flaking"
Me who never posts: I am 4 parallel universes ahead of you
We*
Same
Can’t flake since I’m the one that organises everything and never gets invited
@OneHundred Two Hundred Ikr
Can’t spell organize
@@antoniop1507 It is also spelt organise
@@antoniop1507 I bet you think spelling Color as Colour is incorrect as well. It's not there's this thing called The U.K. American English has made it a dam mission to jumble up as much as possible to differentiate.
So you don't invite yourself then?
My relationship with my best friend ended because I told him he needed to be more reliable, and he responded by ignoring me for a month. I've reached a point where I cannot stand flakers
Yup. Don’t waste your time on people who don’t value friendships.
Ugh me too i don't stand them
Anya Delventhal I am in the same situation but I am still friends with him. I need help
Cayuga if you’re in a situation where the other doesn’t value your friendship, they arent worth keeping in my opinion.
PybroPictures okay thanks
Wow, this is a surprisingly good breakdown behind the psychology of flakers XD Not what I was expecting but was great!
Yup
PopCross Studios have dharma where
Weird flex but ok
i have a person in my life who is just like 1:17 lol. super enthusiastic when making plans but also super vague and unclear, and doesn’t seem to be self aware / respectful of my time. has promised plans so many times that she never followed up with, and pretended like she didn’t make them in the first place.
mentally distanced myself and let go energetically. 10/10 would recommend. respect your own time and yourself y’all
“[People can see] your Instagram stories.”
Jokes on them, I don’t have an Insta!
...or a social life, for that matter.
Same
Me neither, boi! I have friends, but absolute no social media! HA!
same, my only social media is facebook and i barely know how to make posts XD
@@KittyCat_Gacha same and its okay 🙂👍
Same I got no friends online or in real life
Friend: are *you* in china right now?
Flaker: *takes plane to china* , *opens messaging app* Yes.
I mean, they could have used NordVPN to make it appear like they were in china
LMAO
I_Pancake OMG me
@@1256936 that was masterful
Ri_Ri B. YES
So guys he did it.
He talked about me.
The guy who watched infinity war 7 times.
Oof
Lmao
Only 7?
NANI?!?!
Did you enjoy it
2:20 3:49
The *”iTs A LottA BuLLa- SHIIItah!”*
Got me dying 🤣🤣🤣
Your vid hit hard at 5:04 when you said "the sad reality of flakers is that you only know them for a short period of time. They can only flake so long until they fully flake out on their relationships".
The biggest flaker I've ever known is my best friend from high school and that's exactly what she did. It actually hurts sometimes still. I had to make the decision of not investing my time in her any longer after years of making plans and them all falling through. What did it was when she flaked out on a job interview I got her because her mom was threatening to kick her out of the house. In the end, I only got to be her friend for four years. After high school she ghosted out of my life completely and I decided not to chase after her. It just sucks because when we were close, she was a great friend to me. And to this day I still wish she was a part of my life.
I have a friend like that. I still run after her and text her occasionally while she has ignored me for two weeks now. Usually it's about one week until she replies. She doesn't pick up the phone either. Plans never work out. I don't want to give her up because she is the only person I ever really connected with. But maybe I should? :/
Sorry about your friend :(
@@perfectlyimperfect423 Really sorry to hear about your friend. Everyone's situations is different and it's always possible that she's going through a hard time and not doing it intentionally. The best advice I could give is- talk to your friend about the issue. There's no point in losing someone you care about deeply just because no one wanted to talk about it. If they are a true friend, they will understand. Mine did not and I made my own decision afterwards. In the end, the decision is yours and no one's opinion on the Internet (including mine) matters because your situation is your own. Best of luck to you and I hope that either way, you find peace.
@@ArchToAchilles Thank you so much for your reply. She has been this way ever since we stopped seeing each other in school every day automatically. I already tried talking to her and she doesn't really have an explanation. I blamed her for her behavior pretty harshly in the past and now I try to be the patient, understanding friend that doesn't complain. She knows my opinion and she knows I hate this silence. But I don't know if she just doesn't care or if she can't help it.
I don't want to lose her but at the same time it's not like the situation is beneficial for either of us. I know that there isn't a real solution, but it's so good to talk about it. Thank you for your time, I appreciate it.
Ok. I know that i'm not really part of this conversation but...
Would you class someone who is friends with a group of people a flaker if they are too scared to ask to go somewhere with them in case the group don't want them??
I feel as though I'm that someone. It's not exactly flaking because there was never any invite. Which makes me think twice about the people if all I really do is hang out in school but never do anything extra.
I'm just not sure and I think about "progress" to becoming friends with them. When I might already be but too blind to understand that I am.
I bet many other people in many other things will have goals what will have no measure of success, and therefore no definitive goal, but something you say you want to reach. So you might never reach it.
I guess I just want some advice.
If you can say anything I'd appreciate it so so much.
@@bearmugs1408 I was that friend a very long time ago. No, that's not a flaker. Like Domics said in his comment (somewhere in the comment ocean below), people who flake are people that commit to plans and just don't show. But from one shy person to another, you are worthy of people's time. And if they are true friends, they are worthy of yours. But if you just don't like to hang out with groups of people (I don't), there's nothing wrong with that. It only becomes a problem if you start making promises you don't keep. But I think that no matter what, it's important to be patient with and forgive yourself. So long as you are constantly striving to become a better version of yourself. I wish you the best of luck and the best of friends!
*the first voice clip of “I’m sick” had me DeaD for some reASoN-*
Mean girlsssss
Snugglebunny
Quality Reference has quality 👌
Two Domics videos in one week?
Man, we have been blessed 👏
Yep
Ikr
True domics in the house !!!
Ikr
Was gonna comment the same, till I saw this. Much agreed💖
A friendship ending flake moment was when I asked flaker half a year in advance (Already caught onto his bs) if he wanted to attend my collega graduation ceremony, you know the once in a lifetime event.
Of course he agreed. fast forward to a month before the ceremony and I asked again. Of course he agreed. Fast forward to one week before graduation and I asked again. Again, he agreed.
Finally when it was time for my ceremony, he didn't show up because (he confessed) went to Defqon 2016 festival instead.
This was the final straw that broke the camel's back and he was violently expelled from the friend group.
That's a whole lot of *BULLESHET*
Born 2 Pizza had me WEAK😂😂
Reminds me of Buk Lau from Ownage Pranks
HORY SHEIT--
Jajaja yo got me weak. 😂😂😂
That sounds awfully Indian.
Bold of you to think I have friends to flake
Bold of you to think i have existence
I agree with you
Bold of you to think I have friends! ;-;
Gemsiey MOOOOD
Artrans 747 I meant what I said
“But is a load of BULLESHEET!” 😂
2:19
3:49
BULLASHEET
Bullesheeeeeeeeeet
2:20
BULLESHEET!!!(=^･ｪ･^=)
BULLLASHIIIIIP
Didnt know flaking was an actual thing this was so relatable
Bullla Shitttt -Domics 2k19
was looking for this haha
James Decannon
Same here
I was expecting everyone to quote this in the comments.
He sounded like an Indian when he said that 😂😂
BULLA SSHHEEAATT
2:19 but it's a lode of BullaSheet!!!
Kdabs 12 load*
@@muffintae3449 wooosh facker
I’ve been clicking the blue Thing ten times now. It’s addicting
Was he doing an accent?
LMAO
Sometimes you just have to flake and when you are an introvert and you really wanted to do something it feels like you missed the opportunity of a lifetime
And then you get emotionally scarred and full of regret
Megan Gracee introverts aren’t as alone as you may think... welcome to the club.
finally. someone gets me. This is why i don’t go outside much and don’t don’t have a lot friends
Disgusting. If you are around the right friends you would not need to flake
I have a flaky friend, but what makes this different is they’re the one asking me to do something. Every time I’ve said yes and we’ve just “forgotten” about it. I even asked to hang out with him and he just switched the convo. It just feels like I’m being on like a fish with a fishing rod, it sucks so pls don’t be flaky.
Domic: Time is the most valuable currency
Me: *watching this Video
Also Me : Still worth it
I used to have at least three friends like this...used to. 😐
Marty Ray Project glad you freed yourself from such toxic relationships lol
Oof
Oh yeah yeah
I knew a friend like this, keyword "knew." He would always make plans to hang out every saturday, and would cancel week after week without fail, if I'd ask him any other days outside of that he'd claim I was constantly pestering even though I literally only messaged him like once a week. After a few months of this the last straw came when I came to his house to wake him up like 3 in the afternoon as usual, and his mom answered telling me that he specifically told her to keep me out so he can sleep. Cut off all contact with him after that day and took him like a month to realize I wasn't messaging him and tried to sell me a half assed apology. Really hope he's got his act together before he loses the rest of his friends.
Just reading that annoyed me
“Sorry I need to miss your birthday tonight, I’m tired from work and I want to sleep”
I died when he said "BUT ITS A LOAD OF BULLASHEAT" 😂🤣🤣🤣
remove ITS and A
I totally flaked on Darth Vader in our lightsaber duel.
Wtf
You had the high ground, so...
LMAO
Yess
Hello there
Hah, I’m a flaker!
*to my imaginary friends*
**cries**
Heh... 69 likes
Want to hang out? You seem lonely.😉
F
@@DittalySquat 388
Not even they show up
"Mom said no" is the only reason I'm not looking forward to moving out.
bold of you to assume that people invite me anywhere
Why would you bacially steal a comment
@@Ryan-br6ic
Why would you basically steal a profile picture?
Lumen shii
Same but when they do I'm not a flaker
Ryan Kim this ‘person didn’t copy your comment, this one is way funnier and yours barely has any related words to this one
“You’re probably flaking on them right now to watch this video!”
Haha, joke’s on you! I’m in quarantine
You can talk online-
@@ochoforreals Oh, you definitely can!
"Hi, you up for a game of later?"
"Yeah sure"
*goes to sleep*
@@mrsoundso4897 to be fair, if the game session is going to start quite a while later, you can probably squeeze in a nap *and* play.
it's been 86 years...
omg I remember when 2 of my friends flaked on me. They cancelled in the last minute and said that they can't go out, so then I went w my sister at the place we were supposed to meet bc she felt bad bc I was already dressed up and you won't believe who I saw there. Both of them together. This is another level of flaking
Dude that's just dodging you
Make new friends. They suck.
Yeah flaking would've been them trying to avoid actual social interactions to stay home and mess around, they were just being jerks trying to avoid you.
Merrell that’s not flaking that’s just straight up lying. You should make new friends
@@SleepyQuiet That happened 3 years ago. I'm in highschool now and thankfully I have better friends
Finally I have an explanation for why I suddenly lose motivation to play games and stuff even after planning. I have however noticed that it is mostly because I don't fully know myself what I am interested in.
Flakeology: The study of flaking.
U can never study them as they will never arrive!!!! 🤭
@@Ayushisha0_0 AAAAYY
Dude, the Flaker just didn't hear about the plans because he had Airpods in, smh
smh guys smhhhhhhhh
oh no he has airpods in he cant hear us oh my god
@PuNkInKaI25 yo broke ass with those wired headphones probably can't even afford fire smh
This video has perfect timing. I am one of the guitarists playing for my school's production of Mamma Mia; in fact, I am the lead guitarist. One of the other guitarists - in particular, the guy who takes my place in Act 2 - has been flaking out of all of our tech rehearsals this week. This means that he is now kicked out of the the show, and I don't get a break to play Smash in the corner of the orchestra room.
My condolences my man
I don't consider myself a flaker but here's a thing: if I go out 15 times and just ONCE I decline saying "I'm tired" my friends will think that I don't want to go out ever again. So I resort to rather easily saying yes and figure things out from there
My grades flaked on me. They said they'd be an A
Lol, how is this not in the top 5 comments?????????
Btw, me too. They said they’ll be a F, but they were a A- \:
*hello fam*
Humanities supposed to be A but C
i can relate
Domics: You’re probably flaking right now while you’re watching this video.
Me: 😳
“You live like a block down” I have severe crippling depression and am facing a trial for 17 war crimes in Afghanistan, if I take a step a bullet will be fired into my brain
Afraz Khan same
I dont have friends...
😳😳😳😳😳
nah i’m in quarantine
I had a friend who I would cancel my plans for and make plans with and then last minute they suddenly change their mind and give me some bs excuse and then post themselves on their Snapchat story with another friend, I don’t talk to that person anymore.
ATMdog42 omg me too!! And one time i wanted to vent about it so i took a snap and wrote out my complaint about this flaker to my best friend but instead of sending it to my friend I accidentally sent it to the person i was complaining about! We didn’t talk anymore after that..
That friend is a asshole sir
Whos plans are you canceling to hang with them though. U a flake too
I feel like you just explained my life😭😭
Susanne Moseid Bryhni I’m canceling stuff like getting a hair cut.
I love the periodic 'bullshieet' in the background
People who use the “too much snow” excuse are called Frosted Flakes.
...uhh hello? Why is this comment not getting more attention? This actually made me Lol
😂
GOOD ONE XD
This made me laugh so loud I scared my dad 😂😂 then I showed him and he did the same lmfaooo
I feel so called out
GoldenJimin same🤣
Me too 😅
stryfetc1 This comment is golden
Then stop being an asshole
i had a friend who would flake on me after i was already done getting ready, even as far as me already being halfway to her house.
I've been there :I
Take a hint
@@TranquilRains an hint would be her being to busy to have ever made the plain in the first place after that there just being a dick makeing you waste ur time
Even worse when u just finished putting on makeup
*S h i n s o u*
Sorry, I just had to notice it.
I hate doing stuff with people, I would *much* rather just be alone. I’m not a flaker, I will still do stuff with people if asked, but I would rather just not be invited to anything
_when you realise you’re flaking while watching this video_
Disgusting
Go join your friend, or at least be honest
People reading comments with a friend:
lol im kinda flaking tho my friend is going to sleep so does it really count
😂😂
man, i've mastered this art
Flakers are the most annoying thing, people invite me and i dont come.
Its really annoying
hmmmmm
I think your problem is that you need to start telling them beforehand you'll be there early and then never talk to them for 2 years afterwards
Sometimes you're just an introvert and really want to go and follow up with plans, but just when the moment approaches you stress out and panic. Happened to me a few times. Felt bad about it but couldn't help it in the moment. When it happens all the time it's definitely a different story though.
I hate flaking. I would never fl
You flaked on writing the whole comment
@@Rickrollmachine23 good job at explaining the joke
@@Rickrollmachine23 r/whooosh
oh shit he gone
Wait... have we been double wooshed?
Nobody:
Not a single soul:
Dom: BULLASHIET
You mean: *excuses that are not real*?
*BOOLASHEET*
wait so nobody said nothing? So everyone was talking?
bruh bruh trees
I'm a flaker because some people don't understand the phrase "i don't drink"..
Same! Then they come to your house and they ask if I want to join their company and I'm like - *laughs nervously*
That’s not flaking. You literally told them no. Flaking is if you tell them you’re coming and then make that excuse.
Retendo your friends should figure that out beforehand if they’re really your friends. They should not be disappointed unless they’re inconsiderate.
Hahahaha
Wait what does that mean?
Halal is allowed to eat in islam
I used to be a borderline Flaker but then quickly realised how me not following through with plans, I kinda didnt agree with, got everyone/people involed upset. SO I slowly learnt the idea of just straight up saying no. And I was baffled how many problems could be solved by being crystal clear about it lol.
I have this girl in my friend group. We'll all make a huge plan. But she never asks her parents or she doesn't check her calendar, and then at the very last minute when we're all ready, she says she can't AND SHES USUALLY THE ONE MAKING THE PLAN. The thing is, she is always so sure she can make it, for example;On my sweet 16, she texts the groupchat 15 minutes before the party starts, "sorry I can't make it, I just realized it's my cousins birthday,and we go over every year :'("
3":
Lol
Wooow if she goes every year to her cousins party I’d totally go to yours xD for my sweet 16th...I didn’t have anyone but it was fine.....xD
If they're like me the chances are they plan too much stuff and look at the calendar at the start of every month and go oh shit I gotta back out on like half the stuff lmao.
This happened waayyyyy too often in girls group when I was ur age it was the same until u realize when u r getting older
My dads been flaking on me my whole life
Damn. My mom's been flaking on me my whole life.
That’s rough buddy.
Lmao nerd
like on the fresh prince of bel-air?
"How come, he don't want me man?!""
Ow
HOW IS THIS NOT ON TRENDINGGGggGGgg
Ari Animations becaus youtube is fucked
Because algorhythm
This vid ain't long enough
And he isn't on TV
he ain't a mulit billion company, or "trendy" by TH-cam's standards. Also, i think it really depends on how many views he gets on a certain period of time. But other than that, youubte is a fucking bitch. Wish we could all just move to a different site where everything isn't fucking retarded.
People flaked out on watching it.
No TH-cam ads on it, so they wouldn’t profit from putting it on trending.
I love your videos!! My teen son is on the spectrum and social stuff is hard... these are perfect!!
*Hard to flake when you don’t have friends* 🥴
;-;
Kiki & Mickey Studios you can be my friend. Just come into my white van across the street
@@Lexsss Is there space for one more person in the van? I'm a huge fan of white vans!
Sry bout that
Relatable
Tinny how is it the wrong emoji? 😂
I've decided to be more honest and tell my friends "Yeah I can't come I gotta watch youtube"
Halosty
Your honesty is to be saluted
I wanna be honest but then my friends would be annoyed with me
Same. My friends get kind of annoyed at it but I’m way nicer to them than they are to me anyway...
@@right740 Rather they be annoyed at your honest laziness and preference to do other things than be labelled in their minds a liar imo! I'd always rather people reject me than say yes and give a lame excuse as to why they didn't (and when its obvious their words dont correlate to their actions)
@@qewdascz1839thats accurate for me too
*My Dad is very good at flaking*
*He still isn't back*
*Come back dad..Please*
give up suliry. he moved on. so should you
@@peachibread1983 r/whooosh
hes buying cigarettes
@@danksbrother r/wooosh
@@danksbrother r/whooshthewhoosher
5:04 hits hard, I literally stopped existing for 3 years straight