Hey sister, thank you so much for making a video on men's side of the story just as women. We men also have a lot of issues and struggles in life. You are such a nice lady because you show both male and female sides of the story. I wish you success. China is the Best country in the world. And Chinese people are the smartest and the most innocent people in the world. May God Bless You sister.❤
* List of Topics* 1. The cost of marriage for Chinese men 2. The bride price that must be paid in order to marry a Chinese woman 2. Brides need to get paid to get on and off the wedding cars 3. Brides need to get paid to call men’s parents “mom” and “dad” 4. The cost for dating a woman 5. Are Chinese women materialistic? 6. Countless festivals in which men need to buy women gifts 7. Why is it exhausting for men to be married? 8. Chinese women are drama-queens 9. Society belittles men, yet constantly praises women 10. Why is it hard for a divorced man get a wife again? 11. Why is it risky for men to marry? 12. Women are cheating more?
It's the patriarchy that is backfiring there. China used to be a very patriarchal country before and women used to have little to no autonomy and decision-making over their own lives just like now in South Asia where I live...maybe women are doing these because of what happened in the past. Also, I don't think most women are materialistic even, although they do want to have a decent household where they can decently earn their livelihood and not get raised in poverty. Also, if men seek beautiful and slim women which is demanded from women, they need to look handsome, too, to build up the attraction. Hope it's clear.. also, According to statistics both men and women cheat almost equally and needless to say that's an unforgivable act.
OMG. All those gifts! I cannot come up with so many gifts I want. I don't want to clutter our house, either. I feel pressured just listening to what is expected of dating and marriage. My husband is a very giving person. But he buys gifts for Valentine's Day, birthday, wedding anniversary, and Christmas. That's more than enough.
I thing you all have heard the expression Butong de Guojia butong de wenhua. I believe that 1 child policy adopted by china favouring a male than female has taken its tool on the overall gender population. Its easier for a women to find a partner rather than men, hence all those demands required by then as well as their parents. No wonder the level of divorce in getting higher and birth rate declining and population getting older. Being materialist can be good but it comes with price tag. One can not exchange Love, sharing, togetherness and most importantly Compromise with so many unnecessary gifts. As always a wonderful topic to be shared. Many thanks Eileen.
The one-child policy does not favor sons over daughters, but rather favors sons over daughters in traditional thinking. This is reflected in many farming and civilized countries. Instead, the government advocates: "Both boys and girls are born the same."
Thanks for such a wonderful podcast. I hope you will consider putting the Chinese subtitles in the transcript section so that one can configure it throught the settings of the youtube video. Not only can one configure the size and color of the subtitles, but also the fonts used. Most important is of course the ability to use the Zhongwen Chinese Popup Extension in the web browser to immediately see the translation and other meanings of the words and characters by just pointing the mouse pointer at the word. Thanks again and Merry Christmas!
Thanks for the amazing video! I loved every minute of this, didn't need to slow down anything, and the topic was so interesting I didn't notice the video was actually 40 minutes long.
I subscribed to your channel a few years ago. Glad to see you're doing so well. Definitely deserved. Thanks for the anki flashcards from your website. I've been using the first HSK 5 deck everyday for a month and already noticing the benefits. 谢谢！
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Amazing podcast as always Eileen, it's always nice to study Chinese while learning about Chinese culture, and this topic is especially interesting since it's relevant to so many of us ! Also Yihao is a great guest, feel free to bring him more often :) P.S. : 14:18 我的天啊，沒想到有那麼多要送女朋友禮物的節日🫨，連有秋天第一杯奶茶🤣🤣。幸虧我的女友不是那麼物質的，要不我受不了哈哈
This is a good guest who speaks clearly, please have him on again. I can’t even listen to some guests as they just seem to talk endlessly at rapid speed.
I dont believe all women are materialistic. My mother's pay salary was higher than my father. She didnt ask for more from my dad. She wants love and attention. Please dont think all women are like that. Men need to do more research
Every time someone speaks of a very strong pattern there is always this person that comes up with the “ yeah but I know a case where ….” Who cares … it’s a pattern , of course there are exceptions…
We are talking about average. Your moms generation is very different that this generation. If your mom is 20 now and can go online to find men, how many more options will she have compared to before?
in Indonesia we also have caili (bride price) but we don't use this word, we use "uang susu" or "uang panaik". If I convert 200,000 yuan to IDR = IDR around 400 million. this amount is too big. I think here just around IDR 100 million or even below depend on the man, how much he can afford. because the money is given to the mother's of bride to say thanks already taking care the daughter. This is what I know.
I wanted to make donation but you don’t have “Thanks “ option? Went to PayPal but there was only one amount available.couldn’t figure out how to change that.?
婚姻對許多男生來說也是困難的、不利的、不可取的，對許多女生來說也是不利的，但個人本身也有責任。 能夠擁有美滿的婚姻是擁有美滿的婚姻的必要條件。 尋找一個合適的伴侶是找到那個伴侶的必要條件。each of us is the common denominator of our own affairs, including situations where we are in a bad marriage, or we can't find a suitable person to marry, or we don't want to marry, etc. etc.; therefore, while many of our personal circumstances as well as society generally in many ways create these situations, don't we have the responsibility to rise out of them? we are not entitled to anything.
last year i was dating a girl in Shanghai, it was very nice. One day she was helping me finding an apartment, that day after finishing visiting all the places, when we were in the car , she looked at me and she said " If you want to have a serious relationship and get married in future, you must have a house in China " then she told me the price of the apartment she was renting and wanted to buy later. I said that i wouldn't be able to buy immediately and that was the last time i saw her 😂
can you make for us transcript with time map. like the other channels. in other channels, I can for one click to copy all transcript. It's need for us to copy text and translate it. This allow us At the same time we can use voice synthesizer, which allow us to listen voice on our own language.
wow, tough stuff! I've only listened to 12 min and I can't take it anymore, need a break to calm down 😅 my poor foreigner clueless self just can't get her head around all this and is getting a major headache 🙄 why is this the first time I'm hearing about this??? it sure does explain quite a lot. A LOT. Like, my kid's online tutors are all close or above 30, all single, except this one nice young man who's wife is....wait for it....from Krasnodar 😉 and I think I get it now (I thought I did before. Little did I know indeed!!) perceiving human relationships as business transactions might have been a survival tool initially - listening to this podcast one can't help but wonder if it might have been a double edged sword all along. 😥 p.s. 27:12 - very well said 👌
...wait wait wait, what?? "first milk tea on an autumn day"? to post it on social media to get validated? and it's all just some business marketing technique? ok then, I'm gonna need an ambulance after all 🤕
I agree on the wedding ceremony part, I've always found it pointless and bothersome, so I didn't do it, domestic partnership is just as fine) p.s 32:20 WHAAAAAAAAT😦 p.p.s. 32:50 WHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAT 😦😦
i wud say symbols of statuses will keep on increasing,yesterday if a person having under 1000usd was poor,perhaps tomorrow this will change to 2000usd since tomorrow an iphone,and an iwatch is a must have as opposed to only iphone. So reducing symbols of statuses (iphone,mercedes etc) and creating new social media discourse about these symbols of status like (why make like difficult for everyone by flaunting symbols of statuses on social media,lets all agree to not show off much on social media,otherwise everyone will do same to feel not left out and seen as poor lowly pauper.)
Lets say you have a 彩礼 but its tied up in the stock market. Would her family be willing to understand that the money is at work as an investment, and whatever the profit is, you can pay it out later in the future after you marry?
I undersrood majority of what he said. I think most good Chinese couples have a household in such a way that man listens to everything the woman says and he gives her his whole paycheck.
That is because court always favours female side when it comes to divorce. A lot of girls see marriage as a short cut to get rich fast and can do that repeatedly. Shame! No wonder most homeless people are male.
I'm from New Zealand, and have a chinese gf, she may have been a little materialistic when I first met her, but she has since embraced kiwi mentality, which is that money, materials arent important. But she has explained to me an issue with chinese men, and has said she would really struggle to go out with a chinese guy now. The issue is that a lot of chinese guys are "diewei", which is a "know it all" in english. Actually since she has told me this I have noticed it in many of my asian male friends, its very important for them to appear as the one that knows everything, and being around someone like this can be exhausting.
第一位 diyiwei? Like having to be number one/first place? As to the substance, I'm a white male know-it-all, unfortunately, but I haven't noticed this in Asian male friends (of course, gender dynamics can make very different).
I think what you are referring to is 爹味, 爹 means father, and 味 comes from 味道, which can mean flavor or style. So some boyfriends in China are very fatherly in that they give a sense of security and care for all of the girlfriend's needs. But this also means that they might have a more chauvinistic or traditional point of view that girls need to be taken care of. (My boyfriend is sort of like this, but not so much that it is restricting.)
Let me guess, you live in Auckland? I’m a NZer too, been learning Mandarin for some time but I still can’t find a Chinese gf. Maybe I live in the wrong city 🙁
In a patriarchal culture where arranged marriages have been the norm for millennia, you are complaining about women being mercenary about marriage? Seems a given.
It's strange to me that people in a relationship share with others the details of their life together, it's so private to me. Where is love and intimacy in all of this?
Hey sister, thank you so much for making a video on men's side of the story just as women. We men also have a lot of issues and struggles in life. You are such a nice lady because you show both male and female sides of the story. I wish you success. China is the Best country in the world. And Chinese people are the smartest and the most innocent people in the world. May God Bless You sister.❤
The answer is simple.Don’t marry a city girl, go to the smaller towns and farm communities. The values of these women will be simple which makes for a better partner in life.❤🇨🇦
smalltown/farm girls that get sought after by higher salary foreign men are highly likely to use the man's resources to help their families and/or move out of the country, get a city job and sometimes take their whole families with them. subsequently they divorce them soon after. they are the ones who need money the most. the economy is in the city. you actually WANT to marry someone who can financially support themselves, crazy right? or do these men seek an inherent power imbalance? hmmm
I have some friends that the woman will also help to pay for the marriage expenses and house. Not all women are materialistic. Some of wives are the breadwinner of the family. Some of wives pay are higher than husbands. Btw, is a Christian families, that dont follow this sort of old-fashioned way😊
@notgivingyoumynamenope8077 Men also are materialistic. They like cars and other stuffs. They also like to have "fun" That's why, there is a saying for men "where got cat that don't eat fish"? Usually very rich men will go to see prostitutes, use kondoms, etc. Not take responsibility of their family. I'm not saying all men are like that
@@clownworld.notgivingmynamenope I have seen many single moms looked after their children. Many rich businessmen goes out for business trip and fooled around. Not taking responsibility to spend enough time with their family
It is sad to hear most Chinese girls are ridiculously materialistic, not much different from prostitutes. Wish Chinese boys protect their dignity, stand up, be rich and strong. Let the girls go stale😂
They have to say that because of sour grapes. How many more of these creepy unnatural videos are they going to put out pretending these women are desperate when there's a shortage. They're playing serious mind games ladies. Don't fall for it.
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Hey sister, thank you so much for making a video on men's side of the story just as women. We men also have a lot of issues and struggles in life. You are such a nice lady because you show both male and female sides of the story. I wish you success. China is the Best country in the world. And Chinese people are the smartest and the most innocent people in the world. May God Bless You sister.❤
Keep bringing this guest for other interviews, he speaks clearly and explains stuff very well👏👏
我同意👍🏽
Agree
Agree!!😊
He is reasonable without being nasty or cynical about marriage - sort of enlightened.
@@UUBrahman exactly
That's so helpful. We can improve our chinese as well as we can know more about Chinese culture. Please make more podcasts. ❤
We already done many: th-cam.com/video/R-6tenKkfe0/w-d-xo.html
@@MandarinCorner2thanks for your efforts, I agree with him that it's a very balanced and engaging podcast
* List of Topics*
1. The cost of marriage for Chinese men
2. The bride price that must be paid in order to marry a Chinese woman
2. Brides need to get paid to get on and off the wedding cars
3. Brides need to get paid to call men’s parents “mom” and “dad”
4. The cost for dating a woman
5. Are Chinese women materialistic?
6. Countless festivals in which men need to buy women gifts
7. Why is it exhausting for men to be married?
8. Chinese women are drama-queens
9. Society belittles men, yet constantly praises women
10. Why is it hard for a divorced man get a wife again?
11. Why is it risky for men to marry?
12. Women are cheating more?
It's the patriarchy that is backfiring there. China used to be a very patriarchal country before and women used to have little to no autonomy and decision-making over their own lives just like now in South Asia where I live...maybe women are doing these because of what happened in the past. Also, I don't think most women are materialistic even, although they do want to have a decent household where they can decently earn their livelihood and not get raised in poverty. Also, if men seek beautiful and slim women which is demanded from women, they need to look handsome, too, to build up the attraction. Hope it's clear.. also, According to statistics both men and women cheat almost equally and needless to say that's an unforgivable act.
Please pin this so it’s easier to find it
If he's so broke he shouldn't be married
Really liking today's guest! Clear pronounciation and steady talking speed
Let’s get this channel to a million!!!
OMG. All those gifts! I cannot come up with so many gifts I want. I don't want to clutter our house, either. I feel pressured just listening to what is expected of dating and marriage. My husband is a very giving person. But he buys gifts for Valentine's Day, birthday, wedding anniversary, and Christmas. That's more than enough.
I thing you all have heard the expression Butong de Guojia butong de wenhua. I believe that 1 child policy adopted by china favouring a male than female has taken its tool on the overall gender population. Its easier for a women to find a partner rather than men, hence all those demands required by then as well as their parents. No wonder the level of divorce in getting higher and birth rate declining and population getting older. Being materialist can be good but it comes with price tag. One can not exchange Love, sharing, togetherness and most importantly Compromise with so many unnecessary gifts. As always a wonderful topic to be shared. Many thanks Eileen.
The one-child policy does not favor sons over daughters, but rather favors sons over daughters in traditional thinking. This is reflected in many farming and civilized countries. Instead, the government advocates: "Both boys and girls are born the same."
Excellent Podcast. I learned or rather have to memorise many new words. Thank you Eileen.
Great channel! Sending a comment in its support! Keep it up, miss! Thank you
Thanks for such a wonderful podcast. I hope you will consider putting the Chinese subtitles in the transcript section so that one can configure it throught the settings of the youtube video. Not only can one configure the size and color of the subtitles, but also the fonts used. Most important is of course the ability to use the Zhongwen Chinese Popup Extension in the web browser to immediately see the translation and other meanings of the words and characters by just pointing the mouse pointer at the word. Thanks again and Merry Christmas!
Thanks for the amazing video! I loved every minute of this, didn't need to slow down anything, and the topic was so interesting I didn't notice the video was actually 40 minutes long.
I subscribed to your channel a few years ago. Glad to see you're doing so well. Definitely deserved. Thanks for the anki flashcards from your website. I've been using the first HSK 5 deck everyday for a month and already noticing the benefits. 谢谢！
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谢谢你们俩的努力，这次博客的话题特别有趣，太享受了 🥰❤❤
Thank you for the video🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Keep making videos
Fantastic video, thank you both of you : )
This guest is great. Does he create content also? If so would love to get a link.
Amazing podcast as always Eileen, it's always nice to study Chinese while learning about Chinese culture, and this topic is especially interesting since it's relevant to so many of us ! Also Yihao is a great guest, feel free to bring him more often :)
P.S. : 14:18 我的天啊，沒想到有那麼多要送女朋友禮物的節日🫨，連有秋天第一杯奶茶🤣🤣。幸虧我的女友不是那麼物質的，要不我受不了哈哈
Wow, while listening I really couldn’t tell whether to laugh or to cry… A very sad situation in china with marriage
I came for a discussion on marriage, stayed for the tea🍵.
This is a good guest who speaks clearly, please have him on again. I can’t even listen to some guests as they just seem to talk endlessly at rapid speed.
I dont believe all women are materialistic. My mother's pay salary was higher than my father. She didnt ask for more from my dad. She wants love and attention. Please dont think all women are like that. Men need to do more research
Not all but I’d say most are.. especially in the U.S.
Every time someone speaks of a very strong pattern there is always this person that comes up with the “ yeah but I know a case where ….” Who cares … it’s a pattern , of course there are exceptions…
We are talking about average. Your moms generation is very different that this generation. If your mom is 20 now and can go online to find men, how many more options will she have compared to before?
fool, they said "most" are like that..and its true!
So true. My mom also the breadwinner.
Men should find RICH women for marriage. No more money problem. Do men have the balls dating rich women? it takes practice.
Another video on women point of view plz the topic is interesting
in Indonesia we also have caili (bride price) but we don't use this word, we use "uang susu" or "uang panaik". If I convert 200,000 yuan to IDR = IDR around 400 million. this amount is too big. I think here just around IDR 100 million or even below depend on the man, how much he can afford. because the money is given to the mother's of bride to say thanks already taking care the daughter. This is what I know.
27:39 exactly
Keep it up . Love from Lahore (PAKISTAN )
*Why Chinese Girls Don't Want to Get Married Anymore?* : th-cam.com/video/onnks2FRdYs/w-d-xo.html
谢谢你的内容。请注意这个英语翻译的句子结构。如果是问题的话，应该说“Why Don't Chinese Guys Want To Get Married Anymore?”.
这个问题对我来说真的很有意思。希望能看到很多你们的视频
这个视频的PDF记录不在网站上吗？
在Download for Supporters Page, Click on Audio Podcast, and you will see the PDF of this video.
@@MandarinCorner2 找到了，谢谢老师，辛苦了
I wanted to make donation but you don’t have “Thanks “ option? Went to PayPal but there was only one amount available.couldn’t figure out how to change that.?
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婚姻對許多男生來說也是困難的、不利的、不可取的，對許多女生來說也是不利的，但個人本身也有責任。 能夠擁有美滿的婚姻是擁有美滿的婚姻的必要條件。 尋找一個合適的伴侶是找到那個伴侶的必要條件。each of us is the common denominator of our own affairs, including situations where we are in a bad marriage, or we can't find a suitable person to marry, or we don't want to marry, etc. etc.; therefore, while many of our personal circumstances as well as society generally in many ways create these situations, don't we have the responsibility to rise out of them? we are not entitled to anything.
last year i was dating a girl in Shanghai, it was very nice. One day she was helping me finding an apartment, that day after finishing visiting all the places, when we were in the car , she looked at me and she said " If you want to have a serious relationship and get married in future, you must have a house in China " then she told me the price of the apartment she was renting and wanted to buy later.
I said that i wouldn't be able to buy immediately and that was the last time i saw her 😂
As an average Chinese guy we may not even have the chance to date her lol. She is truly a Gold Digger.😂
Where is Yi Hao's accent from? I can't place it at all.
He's from Hebei. He first appeared in our last video and we explained his accent.
th-cam.com/video/R-6tenKkfe0/w-d-xo.html
Eileen 😂
Me 😢
can you make for us transcript with time map. like the other channels. in other channels, I can for one click to copy all transcript. It's need for us to copy text and translate it. This allow us At the same time we can use voice synthesizer, which allow us to listen voice on our own language.
一如既往的非常棒。
非常好
wow, tough stuff!
I've only listened to 12 min and I can't take it anymore, need a break to calm down 😅 my poor foreigner clueless self just can't get her head around all this and is getting a major headache 🙄 why is this the first time I'm hearing about this??? it sure does explain quite a lot. A LOT.
Like, my kid's online tutors are all close or above 30, all single, except this one nice young man who's wife is....wait for it....from Krasnodar 😉 and I think I get it now (I thought I did before. Little did I know indeed!!)
perceiving human relationships as business transactions might have been a survival tool initially - listening to this podcast one can't help but wonder if it might have been a double edged sword all along. 😥
p.s. 27:12 - very well said 👌
...wait wait wait, what?? "first milk tea on an autumn day"? to post it on social media to get validated? and it's all just some business marketing technique? ok then, I'm gonna need an ambulance after all 🤕
You are helping the people by this video. I great 👍 you. Allah bless you.
爱情在哪里？
I agree on the wedding ceremony part, I've always found it pointless and bothersome, so I didn't do it, domestic partnership is just as fine)
p.s 32:20 WHAAAAAAAAT😦
p.p.s. 32:50 WHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAT 😦😦
i wud say symbols of statuses will keep on increasing,yesterday if a person having under 1000usd was poor,perhaps tomorrow this will change to 2000usd since tomorrow an iphone,and an iwatch is a must have as opposed to only iphone.
So reducing symbols of statuses (iphone,mercedes etc)
and creating new social media discourse about these symbols of status like
(why make like difficult for everyone by flaunting symbols of statuses on social media,lets all agree to not show off much on social media,otherwise everyone will do same to feel not left out and seen as poor lowly pauper.)
hai, eilin.. 您这次的客人是不是 Chinese Tea Time 的 播主？声音好熟😂
不是哦
@@MandarinCorner2 哦。抱歉。😊
Lets say you have a 彩礼 but its tied up in the stock market. Would her family be willing to understand that the money is at work as an investment, and whatever the profit is, you can pay it out later in the future after you marry?
在中国，婚姻似乎只适合富人！另一个区别是，当你在美国买房子时，房子，而不是公寓，你拥有它，而不仅仅是70年的租约。这是您拥有的资产，可以由您的继承人继承。
為什麼愛情需要付錢呢？為什麼叫爸媽需要錢呢？ 愛情不是很純良的嗎？ 為什麼要腐敗它了。錢不是最重要的
因为咱们过生活过在一个资本主义社会而不是在一个乌托邦社会呀
I live in America and everything he says is even true in the U.S. and some even in my previous relationships.
You also have a bride price there? Wtf 😮
@@zhevtone No, but mostly everything else is accurate.
老師好！我是同志有三十七歲跟丈夫九個年結婚了。我們的家人都比較傳統的也對同志文化不太接受，因為這樣所以我們沒有一個超貴的婚禮。我們決定要婚以後就去政府中心申領婚紙一共一百美元。不要禮物不要拍照不要告訴家人朋友們，九個年過去了還是一起。在美國文化裡人也還喜歡非常貴的婚禮但是一半離婚。我發現一般人婚禮標準太高了，不管男生女生都有這樣的想法。他們的基礎不是愛是愛拍照給別人看，社交媒體讓社會變成瘋狂的自私的。對我來說沒有錢的人並不是不好的事，只要認真地工作關愛別人有禮貌的個性那就好了
Xie xie ni.this vedio help me alot .
浙江杭州人，感觉彩礼三金五金好像是最近十几年出来的？以前好像都没有听过诶，可能也是因为那时候小所以没关注。我爸妈阿姨姨夫结婚似乎都没有这些。
确实，就连彩礼在我父母那个年代也几乎没有。到我们这一代才开始越来越夸张。
我希望他女朋友看不见这个视频😂
他说的都是准确的哈哈哈，别着急哦
我爱了❤
I undersrood majority of what he said. I think most good Chinese couples have a household in such a way that man listens to everything the woman says and he gives her his whole paycheck.
Love in China is like doing business
Same everywhere else.
That is because court always favours female side when it comes to divorce. A lot of girls see marriage as a short cut to get rich fast and can do that repeatedly. Shame! No wonder most homeless people are male.
I'm from New Zealand, and have a chinese gf, she may have been a little materialistic when I first met her, but she has since embraced kiwi mentality, which is that money, materials arent important. But she has explained to me an issue with chinese men, and has said she would really struggle to go out with a chinese guy now. The issue is that a lot of chinese guys are "diewei", which is a "know it all" in english. Actually since she has told me this I have noticed it in many of my asian male friends, its very important for them to appear as the one that knows everything, and being around someone like this can be exhausting.
第一位 diyiwei? Like having to be number one/first place? As to the substance, I'm a white male know-it-all, unfortunately, but I haven't noticed this in Asian male friends (of course, gender dynamics can make very different).
I think what you are referring to is 爹味, 爹 means father, and 味 comes from 味道, which can mean flavor or style. So some boyfriends in China are very fatherly in that they give a sense of security and care for all of the girlfriend's needs. But this also means that they might have a more chauvinistic or traditional point of view that girls need to be taken care of. (My boyfriend is sort of like this, but not so much that it is restricting.)
@@jadeo1875 oh yeah, that makes sense!
你们的国家的风景是如此的美丽，我最近听说连养鸡场的鸡都有养殖空间的要求，我被你们的文明程度所震惊。
Let me guess, you live in Auckland? I’m a NZer too, been learning Mandarin for some time but I still can’t find a Chinese gf. Maybe I live in the wrong city 🙁
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What? Now Chinese guys too? I got to watch this because I don't understand, does anyone want to get married anymore?
Cassin Route
这种社会陋习害的其实是年轻人自己，让他们找不到人睡觉， 呵呵。如果年轻人有勇气，干脆不婚而睡， 生了孩子共同抚养。等孩子生出来了，父母也就答应了，没彩礼又怎么样。 什么最重要，性和生孩子。 呵呵。
In a patriarchal culture where arranged marriages have been the norm for millennia, you are complaining about women being mercenary about marriage? Seems a given.
为什么他们自己结婚的事都让全家庭来承担呢。谁想结婚谁来负责不是吗？
彩礼在意大利消失了已经很久了，所以这类似的故事和传统确实好像不可能的！关于这个话题，我能自信地说：在全部世界上一个自愿赠予二百多钱的意大利人就不存在。请大家多多照顾你自己，爱情不需要这么多钱。我的看法来，如果他/她需要这么多钱，那不是爱情，是个小孩子。
It's strange to me that people in a relationship share with others the details of their life together, it's so private to me. Where is love and intimacy in all of this?
Hey sister, thank you so much for making a video on men's side of the story just as women. We men also have a lot of issues and struggles in life. You are such a nice lady because you show both male and female sides of the story. I wish you success. China is the Best country in the world. And Chinese people are the smartest and the most innocent people in the world. May God Bless You sister.❤
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The answer is simple.Don’t marry a city girl, go to the smaller towns and farm communities. The values of these women will be simple which makes for a better partner in life.❤🇨🇦
smalltown/farm girls that get sought after by higher salary foreign men are highly likely to use the man's resources to help their families and/or move out of the country, get a city job and sometimes take their whole families with them. subsequently they divorce them soon after. they are the ones who need money the most. the economy is in the city. you actually WANT to marry someone who can financially support themselves, crazy right? or do these men seek an inherent power imbalance? hmmm
Oh really? 😂
You just said the opposite.
NO LOUSY DEAL PLZ !!!! 😂😂😂🏴☠️🇨🇳
Hello, I asked a question in an email to you more than a week ago. I would like a reply.
The answer is we don't know.
@@MandarinCorner2 Please check a few online dictionaries. Thank you for your useful podcasts.
I wish you well.
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Men dont want to get marriage is a reality all over the world
Omg 😢feeling sorry for Chinese guys
感赞安拉我是穆斯林，这所有的问题如果服从伊斯兰的政策根本不会存在的。
对了😂我不仅没把视频的速度慢些的，而且把速度给加快了，哈哈
Why this man speaking so slowly, is it on purpose to help learners understand his speech or by nature his speaking slow
That is the way he speaks. We do *NOT* ask any of our guest to speak slowly.
I have some friends that the woman will also help to pay for the marriage expenses and house. Not all women are materialistic. Some of wives are the breadwinner of the family. Some of wives pay are higher than husbands. Btw, is a Christian families, that dont follow this sort of old-fashioned way😊
In China it’s the man that brings the money and pays 90 percent of the time and most Chinese women are very materialistic.
thats the exception, not the rule. 90 percent are materialistic, of course a few arent, but the majority are
@notgivingyoumynamenope8077
Men also are materialistic. They like cars and other stuffs. They also like to have "fun"
That's why, there is a saying for men "where got cat that don't eat fish"? Usually very rich men will go to see prostitutes, use kondoms, etc. Not take responsibility of their family. I'm not saying all men are like that
@@clownworld.notgivingmynamenope
I have seen many single moms looked after their children. Many rich businessmen goes out for business trip and fooled around. Not taking responsibility to spend enough time with their family
It’s all abt money.
我发誓，这辈子都不会结婚。。。
It is sad to hear most Chinese girls are ridiculously materialistic, not much different from prostitutes. Wish Chinese boys protect their dignity, stand up, be rich and strong. Let the girls go stale😂
还是越南老婆厉害，生孩子，养孩子，所有的家务都是老婆负担
In Indonesia people say: more sons more blessings❤
Here is an important word for the young men: 带眼识人。😂
They have to say that because of sour grapes.
How many more of these creepy unnatural videos are they going to put out pretending these women are desperate when there's a shortage.
They're playing serious mind games ladies. Don't fall for it.
Baby machine
These types of videos are just going to make them act in more unattractive ways
Let's gay 😂😢😅