I was molested by a guy friend some time ago. I had known him for around 6 years before that. We were at a party and he waited for me to drink (i rarely do) before touching me in appropriately. Almost everything that Donny speaks of after i have experienced. The seeking of sexual violence and the bond I formed with the guy. The disgust, the embarrassment and worst of all, the fact that i froze. I said no and stop but he didnt listen. I blamed myself for what happened for a long time. In a way it was like a forced? Sexual experience (i have never had sex). I felt so alone and those who i opened up to told me to forget and move on. Seeing that it happened to someone else made me seek healing. I refuse to give power to those who hurt me. I felt so angry at Donny for his reaction before i realised i reacted the EXACT same way.
It was remarkably disturbing! An easy 10 out of 10 for me. There are so many depths. Who’d ever think an encounter like that would become the catalyst for a journey of self-discovery. The sexual assault was heartbreaking but appeared to be a very real experience and process that a survivor may go through. Great series!
I empathized with Martha and Donny in different ways. Donny more so that Martha, but I think Martha found someone who could appease her loneliness and found that in Donny. I think at times I’ve been Martha myself, but not to the extent of stalking or becoming violent, but prioritizing as a person as my favorite person. You stated that 9mos was not enough time for Martha, but I personally believe she’s a person who needs help not punishment (my personal opinion) there was something so heartbreaking to me about the revelation of why Donny was her baby reindeer. Sometimes people become taken over by their trauma and they are the ones who are punished for it. It’s a heartbreaking world we live in.
I'm with you..doubtful Donny healed. I mean we're to believe he's so healed he made this time with Martha a part of his career and work for years (e.g. read on wiki he did 1 man shows of essentially the baby reindeer show).
In Martha I definitely see BPD, probably erotomania, a pinch of HPD and just a tiny dash of NPD. But the last one is just optional and like I said, just the tiniest dash.
@@TheInnerchild.Whisperer I guess so... Am I putting too much on the plate? I have BPD myself, my mother had it and she definitely had some histrionic and narcissist traits but like I said there's just a tiny hint of narcissism in Martha. There was just a bit more in my mom. And btw I'm more of a Donny combined with a bit of Martha.
@@TheInnerchild.Whisperer I couldn't, I find the subject matter too depressing. I have enjoyed the commentary, because it's a way to consume the content from a safer, saner distance.
⭐Can you see yourself relating to Donny or Martha?⭐
I was molested by a guy friend some time ago. I had known him for around 6 years before that. We were at a party and he waited for me to drink (i rarely do) before touching me in appropriately. Almost everything that Donny speaks of after i have experienced. The seeking of sexual violence and the bond I formed with the guy. The disgust, the embarrassment and worst of all, the fact that i froze. I said no and stop but he didnt listen. I blamed myself for what happened for a long time. In a way it was like a forced? Sexual experience (i have never had sex). I felt so alone and those who i opened up to told me to forget and move on. Seeing that it happened to someone else made me seek healing. I refuse to give power to those who hurt me.
I felt so angry at Donny for his reaction before i realised i reacted the EXACT same way.
💕 thank you for being vulnerable. You’re not alone in your experience. Keep healing ❣️❣️
It was remarkably disturbing! An easy 10 out of 10 for me. There are so many depths. Who’d ever think an encounter like that would become the catalyst for a journey of self-discovery. The sexual assault was heartbreaking but appeared to be a very real experience and process that a survivor may go through. Great series!
Amazing series! I really enjoyed it.
I empathized with Martha and Donny in different ways. Donny more so that Martha, but I think Martha found someone who could appease her loneliness and found that in Donny. I think at times I’ve been Martha myself, but not to the extent of stalking or becoming violent, but prioritizing as a person as my favorite person. You stated that 9mos was not enough time for Martha, but I personally believe she’s a person who needs help not punishment (my personal opinion) there was something so heartbreaking to me about the revelation of why Donny was her baby reindeer. Sometimes people become taken over by their trauma and they are the ones who are punished for it. It’s a heartbreaking world we live in.
You are so RIGHT! Thank you for this perspective! I agree rehab/treatment could have been better. Do you still wonder about Martha?
I'm with you..doubtful Donny healed. I mean we're to believe he's so healed he made this time with Martha a part of his career and work for years (e.g. read on wiki he did 1 man shows of essentially the baby reindeer show).
I agree! highly doubt healing happened!
In Martha I definitely see BPD, probably erotomania, a pinch of HPD and just a tiny dash of NPD. But the last one is just optional and like I said, just the tiniest dash.
Wow a little bit of everything on that plate! Martha was def extra 🌶️🌶️
@@TheInnerchild.Whisperer I guess so... Am I putting too much on the plate? I have BPD myself, my mother had it and she definitely had some histrionic and narcissist traits but like I said there's just a tiny hint of narcissism in Martha. There was just a bit more in my mom.
And btw I'm more of a Donny combined with a bit of Martha.
@@happypepi7939 thank you for sharing your personal experience. It’s always nice when I do these videos to hear what others see and I may have missed.
This series is so, so, so dark.
It was did you watch all the eps?
@@TheInnerchild.Whisperer I couldn't, I find the subject matter too depressing. I have enjoyed the commentary, because it's a way to consume the content from a safer, saner distance.
@@FishareFriendsNotFood972 Wow this is something I never thought about! Thank you for the support!