What great information and deep knowledge about family dynamics and alcoholism. Claudia is in my home state of AZ 30 minutes away from where I grew up!😊
Watching this one again... I came from backwoods poverty, myself. The men, the drinkers, in Claudia's community had a jar on the bar- and they raised the funds for Claudia to get an education. Not barefoot and pregnant like my own cousins and sister. This sharing moved me to tears of gratitood... thanks again... please compliment her, when you see her next. Don't talk, don't feel, don't trust- has become our mantra... and rightly so.
I'm the daughter of a gambler and it's terrible. My heart is breaking for all the children who experience this too. I'd give anything to help them make sense of this and tell them there is a way forward for them. 💗
14:05 It Wont Happen To Me ! I swore I'd never behave like my father, an abusive battering drunk! Yet, as an adult, I didn't have the capacity to see how toxic my behavior had become until after I was treated for developmental trauma! I wasn't the raging drunk but I did suffer from toxic shame(inner critic), dysregulated emotions, and unintegrate parts/ego states driving the bus! As a result, I Parentified my children, neglected their emotional development, and depended on them to regulate my emotions! All the while, not having the capacity to realize how toxic that behavior was! It took two years of EMDR CPTSD Therapy to develop a healthy understanding of emotional maturity before I could articulate my toxic behavior of the past! I had to learn a new language and behave from my prefrontal cortex - being mindful, curious and aware! My old way of behavior was patterned by an "autopilot" mode often reacting to unconscious triggers in the limbic brain - amygdala harboring the 4F's (fight, flight, freeze, fawn)
What great information and deep knowledge about family dynamics and alcoholism. Claudia is in my home state of AZ 30 minutes away from where I grew up!😊
She has great humility and knowledge in the field. She is so impressive with her deep knowledge of addiction and the family.
Watching this one again... I came from backwoods poverty, myself. The men, the drinkers, in Claudia's community had a jar on the bar- and they raised the funds for Claudia to get an education. Not barefoot and pregnant like my own cousins and sister. This sharing moved me to tears of gratitood... thanks again... please compliment her, when you see her next. Don't talk, don't feel, don't trust- has become our mantra... and rightly so.
Thank you for your kind words David! I will be sure she gets to read them herself.
She's Brilliant !
Many thanks.
Dr. Claudia Black's work helped me personally and continues to help me professionally. Thank You so much......
Thank you Jeanie! Claudia is incredible and we are happy to hear she has had such an impact on your life!
Grateful for her knowledge. This has been most of my childhood and young adult life.
Lovely wrap-up of issues from a pioneer in the adult child movement.
Thank you Mr. George! We appreciate your feedback!
I'm the daughter of a gambler and it's terrible. My heart is breaking for all the children who experience this too. I'd give anything to help them make sense of this and tell them there is a way forward for them. 💗
14:05 It Wont Happen To Me !
I swore I'd never behave like my father, an abusive battering drunk!
Yet, as an adult, I didn't have the capacity to see how toxic my behavior had become until after I was treated for developmental trauma!
I wasn't the raging drunk but I did suffer from toxic shame(inner critic), dysregulated emotions, and unintegrate parts/ego states driving the bus!
As a result, I Parentified my children, neglected their emotional development, and depended on them to regulate my emotions! All the while, not having the capacity to realize how toxic that behavior was!
It took two years of EMDR CPTSD Therapy to develop a healthy understanding of emotional maturity before I could articulate my toxic behavior of the past! I had to learn a new language and behave from my prefrontal cortex - being mindful, curious and aware!
My old way of behavior was patterned by an "autopilot" mode often reacting to unconscious triggers in the limbic brain - amygdala harboring the 4F's (fight, flight, freeze, fawn)
The Meadows is based out of Seattle?