how to *actually* feel better about your appearance | feel DEEPLY attractive | train your brain |
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00:00 - Coming up
00:42 - "I'll be happy when I look good"
03:30 - BetterHelp
05:08 - You're not an aesthetic
07:55 - Goal setting
11:46 - Stop punishing yourself
14:37 - Judging other women
18:41 - Capitalism
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This video is important to me. A year ago, I started to improve my appearance because I wasn't putting much effort into getting ready for school. So, I began to style my hair and dress better. I was in this process of "glow up," thinking that I was really creating an internal transformation as well. Sadly, I started to develop certain behaviors of an eating disorder. I began to feel that my appearance defined me completely because as I started to change and lose weight, men would notice me more, which obviously boosted my confidence. However, it was a very fragile confidence because the moment I didn't get that validation, everything would come crashing down. The more I look back, I believe this emptiness started because I never began an inner transformation to begin with. I always based my transformation on other people's opinions, on how I would appear, on "once I look like this, then I can start my journey to happiness." Surprise, surprise, it doesn't work like that.
Currently, I still take care of my physique because I believe that taking care of your appearance is important as long as you do it for yourself. Exercising is good, setting goals is good, eating healthier is good, dressing better (based on what you like) is good. However, the moral of the story is: if you're doing it for the wrong reasons, believe me, that feeling of "glowing up" will soon collapse, leaving nothing but emptiness. You must start from a place of love and compassion for yourself. I once heard a phrase that goes like this: "Change your body because you love it, not because you hate it."
I'm so sorry to hear what you went through my love. It sounds so painful and difficult. But wow you have some powerful advice to share - thank you for being so vulnerable, I know a lot of people can relate and will benefit from reading your comment. Sending you so much love xxx 💘❤
Wow this is amazing and tsm for being open and vulnerable same thing happened to me and I feel hears thanks for sharing, I hope we can all start our journey form a place of love 💕
that intro alone made me subscribe. i have never experienced a youtuber that has held that kind of space in the beginning of the video to relax and feel safe. thank you.
As someone who suffers with body dysmorphia this video was so comforting and inspiring ❤ such great reminders in a superficial world! I would love to hear your wisdom on how to be self disiplined whilst still being self compassionate/finding balance in a pro girl boss capitalist society as this is something that's been on my mind recently.
I am sending you the biggest hug - I think it is amazing that you are watching videos like this to help yourself. Go you. ❤ Please know you have me and this community to talk to always. You are not alone.
Also I totally get you - it is hard to be kind and compassionate with yourself in our girl boss capitalist society.
Thank you for commenting so honestly. Lots of love 💘❤💘❤
I love your video ! Girl, I love that not only you give confidence to women but you also try to make us have a better behavior towards one another by changing the narrative on our hands. Thank you for that ! Keep going because you make us better human being and I’m really pround that a women like you is on this earth. By the way, i love how well-spoken you are!
You don't know how much I am happy to find your channel❤
i’ve recently been reconnecting with myself, reminding my consciousness that as i fill my cup, it will naturally overflow into filling others. watching your videos for the past few months- i’ve seen you flourish into your femininity whilst maintaining your morals and values, and it is SO easy for your messages to come across to the community. thank you for being true to yourself 🤍
side comment: when you say you’re not happy with your body, you’re really not happy with the way you’re treating your body. your body supports you and gives you life; change the way you honor it and you’ll begin loving yourself all over.
Hello my love. What a beautiful comment. Thank you for making my day! 🤍 I am so so so happy to have you apart of this community.
Also you speak very wise words = "as i fill my cup, it will naturally overflow into filling others." 👏 What a lovely sentiment articulated so well. You should be a writer! 🥰
i teared up from this comment convo❤
That was a good video on feel better good tip and happy Easter
Thanks for this. I’ve needed it recently x
I really appreciate you! You are an amazing human being and you inspire me to work on my personality more than on my looks!! I love the way you think and I think you are truly beautiful from the inside and out! You shine so bright!!💕✨
You are the kindest sweetest person and I can tell that you have a heart of gold. Thank you for being so generous with me - I really appreciate your warm words. Lots of love! 🥰😘💕
What attracted me to this video were the flowers and the drawer, especially the design💛its so prettyy
Thank you, thank you thank you. You hit every point. I love listening to your content. I’ve been noticing how attached to my appearance I am and how much I dim my own ability to feel joy and love in the world as a result.
Your videos are exactly what I need and want to hear. ❤
Aw hey my lovely. I totally get you - it is so easy to hold yourself back when you don't feel 'beautiful enough.' As women we can all relate to each other - you are not alone in this. Thank you for reaching out my love! 💘❤ xx
It's really true u attarct things u need towards u . Never have imagined k content like this exist bt now here m ...when i need when m changing, thinking like this m finding the help Thank You SOURCE . Thanks to u dear . MAY DIVINE Bless all 🙏💜✨️😊
Thank you as always💓
😘🥰 you are more than welcome 💗
your content has divine timing. it always shows up right when I need it - thank you lovely
That makes me so so happy!😘🥰 Sending you a big hug xxxx
thank you 💓💓☀️
thank you!! 😘xxx
Doing Goddess’s work 🙏🏻💕✨
Aw thank you so much for your lovely comment 🥰❤️💛
thank u ❤
😘🥰 you are more than welcome lovely x xx
Your videos are always exactly what I need 💖
💘❤💘❤ I am so happy to hear that!
I'll forever love your videos🤍
aw thank you! I ❤ you xxx
Thank you ❤
😘🥰 you are more than welcome xx
I always watch your videos and im only commenting to help you as a thank you for helping us 💗
Aw this is the sweetest comment ever. Thank you so so much my lovely - it means a lot 😘xxx
I needed this i was restricting my food and making myself vomit ik sometimes wrong im trying my best
You always inspire me ❤❤
aww thank you so much my love, you've made me smile! 💘❤
toothpaste stained shirt!! ahah so true girl, beautiful
I don't know where I actually am.... I am in the process of growth and self love I realized that I was waiting to be this beautiful version of myself in order to be happy.... So I'm trying to shift my energy from there to actually accepting myself rn for who I am but it's very difficult I still want to be this fit version a version without acne I want that for myself so badly... Have I lost my way again idk anymore can I accept myself and want better for myself at the same time?
It sounds like you're in a challenging place right now, navigating between accepting yourself and wanting something different for yourself. It's tough to balance those feelings. You're not alone in feeling this way. All I can say is take your time and be gentle with yourself - share these feelings with your friends/loved ones. You're doing great by opening up, even when it feels difficult. Vulnerability = power. ❤
@@alessiasutherberry I am young and do not have a supportive environment at home I try my best to rely on myself for support otherwise I have none I have stopped trying to talk to my family ad they just judge me .... I'm sitting with this feeling hopefully if I continuously remind myself of current acceptance I'll be okay.... I feel I'm rushing it.. So I'll slow down
Thank you for all your kind words
I used to constantly criticise myself cause of some extra 2 kilos I gained and things like this... but now I sometimes become embarrassed then I put no daily effort into making myself helfer and happier... I am struggling with scrolling social networks - all there looks beautiful and perfect, and successful at the same time. It always make me feel like I'm not enough, what I do isn't enough and so on...
and what is my main problem now - it's the country I live and study in. I love the nature there, I love my university, but russia just doesn't enable me to be who I really am... I wanna move, but I can do it only in 3-4 years and planning on such a long time distances confuses me...
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Alessia, do you offer coaching ? 😊
Yes! I have created a programme for women. ❤️ The details are in my video description if you want to check it out my lovely! ❤️🥰 xx
Please do feel free to pop me an email - alessia.sutherberry@hotmail.co.uk 💚
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