How To Stop Feeling Stressed Around Women (Do This Instead...)
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- How to stop feeling nervous around women and quickly get into flow?
In this video Brian discusses:
Why stress is good for you
How attractive men deal with stress
Why is tension the key to sexual flow
What is masculine energy and how to tap into it frequently
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If you spend your life trying to get all the stress intention out of your life, your life's not going to go very far. You're not going to grow much. Now there's a really important piece to this really successful people believe that stress grows them and through cycles of stress and relaxation, they grow.
So in this video, I want to talk about tension and you guys know, I love talking about tension, but in this case, I want us to talk specifically about turning tension into flow or tending tension into flow States. You see tension is the activator of flow States and flow States are where everything gets done. It's where magic happens. It seems like where the impossible happens, where you can do basically anything. So how do we get this feeling of flow? How do we get this feeling of a flow state? Well, actually before I cover that, I'm going to give you an example with flirting. I have been out. I remember, uh, the first time it happened, really happened. I was out in a bar and I started flirting and I just flirted a little more. And for some reason, I didn't know why that night suddenly it seemed like I could do no wrong.
Every girl I talked to you was suddenly responding. Girls were getting nervous. I was starting to step into the tension more, but the more I step to the intention, the more they would enjoy me, I could start to see the matrix. I could tell when a girl liked me, even before I walked up, I could tell when a girl was checking me out. I remember I was standing at the bar one time, I was leaning against the bar, talking to my buddy. He was to my right. And we were sitting there having a nice conversation. And I suddenly saw this girl on the other side of him, I was kind of glancing. And I went like this and I looked around him to look at her and she suddenly went and look lean back. And she got, I could tell she got nervous. I knew right in that moment because I was in this flow and I'd been flirting and everything was just working.
And I was kind of talking to him about this flow state, but I was in that. She, she liked me and I said, hold, hold, hold on one minute. And I've pushed my friend out of the way. I reached over, grabbed her hand and just pulled her over. And I remember this was one of the early times when I first started to experience flow in bars and she giggled. She laughed. And then she immediately looks at me. He looks big doughy eyes and goes, I'm shy. And I just immediately laughed. I calmed her down. We started talking and we started going from there. There was a bunch more things that happened that night that were absolutely amazing. And it really blew my mind, uh, this whole idea of flow state. And I'd heard about it. I had experienced a little bit jogging, but I'd never fully experienced it in communication before.
And this was really powerful. You see, tension is the activator of these flow States. I'm sure you've had flow States in your life. It could be an a sport. Uh, it could be I'm a snowboarder. So, uh, I've had flow States and snowboarding. It could be as a skier. It could be as a mountain climber. It could be an a, an a public speaking. I get flow States in public speaking, where it's just like, everything gets fed to you. And I want to talk about how that happened and how to turn that on,
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the tension journal is one of the most powerful excercices i've ever done. I do it for some time and then take a break, just to relax into the new learnings, reading it once in a while and is so powerful to remember those experiences and the feeling of it. It would be awesome to be able to buy a Fearless Tension Journal -FTJ- with phrases and with advices to step into tension from the team, with brian view of how it should be it would be a no brainer
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Fantastic video. This is a great way to help people stay patient and grow.
Oh yes! Would love a video on the tension journal! Having trouble sticking to it myself.
YES!! We want the tension journal Brian.
Thanks for these videos, I've been getting more results with girls just by listening to you and applying what you teach.
And that's just the beginning because to be honest I'm half-assing the exercises you talk about.
Love you Brother Brian. You are truly a sword of truth and a beacon for the lost who have become almost hopelessly buried in self deception and heavy oppressive emotion. You truly see the root of the issue which i find in my experience fustrately rare. I been on a long beyond words almost beyond comprehending fustrateing journey to find true love with a women and i believe you have shed so much light on alot of what i was doing wrong and what i need to do right though still a battle i thank you for what your doing. You are true a treasure to humanity my brother may the good your doing putting into the world find its way back to you seven fold
Hai brain I find myself going into this state which I think is pushing women away from me. When ever I find a woman am attracted to it's like I don't want to lose her I feel like I need to do everything possible to win her. But instead I end up losing. This happened to me even today...This video as rich info man.....your explanation is beyond man🔥🔥🔥🔥👏🏼❤
Good to revisit this topic many times like you do. I’m curious on how the journal would look Brian but I’m interested!
I would love a tension journal!
Brilliant video. I feel like it came exactly when I needed it this right now. wanna see more of that journal
Great video, do you have a specific release meditation associated with accepting and overcoming neediness somewhere on your channel?
Hi Fred, Brian has done multiple meditations on this topic in a variety of courses, and events. One course I took last year was: Guided Revealing Meditations for an Awesome Dating and Sex Life. If you go to our products page you'll find it: www.thefearlessman.com/products/
In looking at the description of what is covered it addresses the following: How to Eliminate Neediness That Scares Women Away.
This course has several deep meditations on a variety of topics, to include abandonment and neediness.
I hope this helps.
Landon, TFM
Yes to those journals.
Tension journal definitely ...make it Brian
Hey Rajashi, Glad to see you're into the tension journal idea. I'll keep bugging Brian to make one. Also, we’d love if you subscribed man. It helps us get the Fearless principle out to benefit more guys. Cheers - Andrew, TFM Staff
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@@TheFearlessMan Hey Andrew been subscribed to this channel for 10 months now :) .... also attended hell lot of webinars since April I guess ,Brian even recognizes my name;)
Very cool man thanks, great to have you 👍. - Andrew, TFM
Thanks for the really good example & feelings of slow lessons
Brian Love your videos.
Yes tensions journals.
Keep those videos coming.
Have a good day.
Peace ✌️ love ❤️ and light 💡
Hey Riccardo, Great to hear you are getting a lot from Brian's videos! Feel free to ask a question any time. Also, we’d love if you subscribed man. It helps us get the Fearless principle out to benefit more guys. Peace, Love, and Light to you too brother - Andrew, TFM Staff
Fearless Experience Intensive - 2021 Schedule
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Another amazing video Brian! The Fearless philosophies have made my life so much more enjoyable and it keeps getting better. I've had the experience of playing with tension spikes and building up the flow in public. I would definitely be interested in a tension journal to help encourage me to be consistent with this practice
Dude, just awesome, you made me realise what I did right in the past, which I couldn't get my grasp on. Massive thanks :D
Need the tension journal!!
thank you so much for the video. Great Stuff
About to meet a georgeous woman, i'm feeling nervous just waking up knowing i'm going to meet, perfect video for the moment
Enjoy your date man. Give us a report 👍. - Andrew, TFM Staff
How did it go
Nice, a date. Lets hope it went well.
Hey guys, at first really really nervous, in my head, but slowly but surely began to breath and feel my body, accept the nervouseness and then i was at ease, having fun in the conversation and making her smile, the bambi eyes where there.
So cool, cheers man - Andrew, TFM Staff
great material Brian, as always👌
Thank you for this! its so important 🔥
Yess sir please create a tension journal
Priceless ❤️❤️
I want a tension journal. Like a downloadable word doc or PDF.
with a huge list of recommended tension spiker examples.
@Trackman, can you think of your own list and post it here for other guys to consider? Spiking tension can come from just acting abnormally in some small way in public like walking down the street with one hand in the air. What sounds crazy to you but makes you laugh? That will translate directly into greater social freedom with women or anyone else. - Andrew, TFM Staff
Or get a journal and actually write it down
I'm new here, but you described it accurately yeah I push too much.
Killed it man
Can ye at the fearless man make a video about mental health ie. Depression and anxiety. It would greatly help me as i am struggling right now
Hey Owen, Here is one Brian did on this topic, link at the bottom. Aside from getting any needed medical treatment for depression, it's all about the revealing process and self-care. Do the little things that you can get yourself to do every day, the smallest good thing you do for yourself on a daily basis is like a spark that you turn into a flame. Also, super important: support. Connect with real friends, anyone genuine and reliable. Maybe look into some kind of (again, genuine) spiritual practice or group. And seriously, see about coming to a workshop. That will help cover a lot of these bases. Your support network will grow and strengthen. The commitment will give you a goal. When you have a goal that taxes you, it is much harder to get stuck in depression and apathy. Here are links for the upcoming events - Andrew, TFM Staff.
The Integrated Man Summit - Miami, December 4-6
www.thefearlessman.com/tims2020ytcom
The Experience Intensive - Miami, December 11-13
www.thefearlessman.com/ExperienceMiami2020
The Fearless Man Live - Bucharest, May 8-9, 2021
www.thefearlessman.com/tfmlBuchytcom
Depression and Anxiety Video -
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I'd love to see the journal 😍
Hey can u do a beginners guide to pick up I’m 18 and know nothing. The tension journal sounds pretty good considering I have a little anxiety
He Logan, Check out the channel, there are a whole bunch of videos on connecting with women. In general we focus on internal awareness, not pick up tricks or routines so you'll see the videos go in-depth on how to become aware of what's happening with you when you are meeting a beautiful woman. The best way to really get started connecting with more amazing women is to get into coaching with us directly. I'm linking some of our upcoming events in Miami. We'll also have an Experience Intensive coming up in LA in January.
The Experience Intensive - Miami, December 11-13
www.thefearlessman.com/ExperienceMiami2020
The Integrated Man Summit - Miami, December 4-6
www.thefearlessman.com/tims2020ytcom
Intro Playlist to Connecting with Women:
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Looking forward to meet you in Miami, Brian!
Hey Boris, Awesome to have you at the Integrated Man Summit. See you there! - Andrew, TFM Staff
Tension really scares me, I always want to avoid it. Even talk of tension in this video wants me to escape, turn it off. Time for some letting go I suppose.
I apprechiate you!
Finished the video. I will tension journal as well as the 1hr tension thing. Then i will let go.
Hey Sudigumi, Tension might scare you now but that is because of negative memories associated with higher-tension situations. As you continue to grow, not only will you have better experiences in higher-tension situations but you will be able to look back at the less fun memories with more compassion for yourself and not feel ashamed now of mistakes or missed opportunities. You will also be able to turn those memories into fuel to break free from the things that are holding you back instead of attacking yourself. - Andrew, TFM Staff
I really like your channel plz keep up
Brian, pls could you make a meditation/ releasing video about how to put that intent into your cortex and then relax your body into it? I would be super interested in that topic (making your vision become reality through your body) and I think other guys would benefit from it as well. And yes tension Journal as well😉.
Hi Honza, Here is a video that is similar and will be helpful. - Andrew, TFM Staff
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Grest Video ! Greetings from Germany
Idea : Can you look directly at the camera whey demonstrating those states of being ? Like as if we were actually holding eye contact ? I feel i'd feel even more the explanation.
The rest is beyond incredible as aways..
Great video Brian, so much in a short period, always great value, thank you. YES, make the journal!
Yes tensión Journal
A tension journal App would be cool.
Awesome idea. Noted! - Andrew, TFM Staff
This is a great video. I love your channel and you remind me of a slightly more analytical and white version of Eddie Fews
I would love the tention jernal
11:15 true..
I was thinking about somenting that usually is not productive, like playing at videogames, to practice get in the flow. Here in my country is not possible to go out and practice, because of the covid 19 restrictions. What do you think about playing intentionally to videogames at a certain difficulty to balance tension and skills and practice the reaching of the flow state? At least I can use this system to practice until the opening... Awsome message as always however. Thanks Guys.
Hi Agostino, Good question. You don't need videos games though to practice on your own. When you are talking to a woman, you are simply responding to your own emotions so you can image talking to her - or any challenging situation - as a tool BUT you have to put your attention on your emotions and work to stay with those emotions honestly without escaping into a fantasy where there is a story that you are using to trigger dopamine. Usually, when we have an image of a beautiful woman or challenging situation, a mix of emotions comes up and we try to block the less fun emotions with fantasy. It takes work but it is very real and beneficial. When a real woman or tense situation is there - Andrew, TFM Staff
Only a few percent is able to get into flow state
Very good content, but there is contradiction, rooted in the "moral relativism = wisdom" indoctrination, that blinds even the very emotionally intelligent into saying things like "stress is your friend," and "relax into the tension" ignoring the fact that relaxation and tension are mutually exclusive; the truth is that there are some stress-filled emotions, like fear, craving and anger, that are pure sabotage, it would be more accurate to call them demonic than friends, but again the indoctrination against anything being purely bad kicks in and logical fallacies follow.
This guy is slowly turning into Lao Tsu
ahahaa
Easy. You laugh at them in your mind.
What is the long-term result of that? - Andrew, TFM Staff
@@TheFearlessMan Give it a shot and find out.
I personally don't use tools like that. I prefer to connect with her directly rather than play games in my head. - Andrew, TFM