Best Friend's Fiancée Demands I Skip Their Wedding And Cut Ties With My Brother (Best Friend) - H...
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- My Best Friend’s Fiancée asked me to not attend their wedding and cut my friend off (u/Rich-Childhood-4419 in r/offmychest)
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Ok I know people got some salt over OP and referring to him as a brother but YEAH the fiancée is a doormat. He compared her to OP for YEARS, she has to push him into dating/proposing and it’s OP’s fault? No way.
Jack needs to get over this, he’s ruining his own life because he can’t accept that Op has no feelings for him.
The very definition of entitled incel
@@chicks417incel stands for involuntary celibate. He's very voluntarily celibate.
damm I hope that a switch like that existed xD holy shit guys, we don't choose who we have feelings for
@@chicks417
U clearly don't know what an incel is
@@ShiNijuuAKLYeah, but one can still act on how he has feelings for a person. Jack chose to fuck things up.
"We both liked mixing water with dirt"
Now that's a common interest right there
😂
Bro got into the deepest part of the mythical "friendzone" land and got lost over there.
Lost a sister and his sanity.
More like got brother-zoned
When should we expect jack to post something along the lines of I got married to a woman I didn't really love and it was the biggest mistake of my life?
Yeah... Idk y he went through with a marriage that will end in divorce.
I was getting frustrated that everyone assumed OOP was trying to get with Jack. Do they not know that adoptive and step siblings are like regular siblings?
Ehhh
Depends on how early the adoption takes place. She was 15 when adopted and they apparently enjoyed each other's company. Her not liking him is probably something as simple as lack of attraction.
People who think real life is like corn think like that
People saying "jack and OP will get together" are so weird... Have y'all never had siblings? Or like... Friends??? OP made is clear she doesn't love Jack the way she loved her previous partners, that's all you need to know.
Jack saying "I waited 19 years" was so gross. Like dude, get a grip. OP doesn't owe him anything. Although I should note OP isn't 100% in the right as she should've stepped back a little bit and given herself more space between her and Jack.
Well in her defense she thought he was over her. And Jack could've stepped back when he saw that she just wasn't into him like that.
She made her feelings known since the beginning, she called him her brother
@@yaoilover0 She shared an apartment with a guy who was attracted to her and didn't discourage him from changing schools. Parents should've stepped in.
Some people don't seem to understand that:
1- OP said a million she doesn't like Jack, FOR FUCKS SAKE, MOVE ON! She never said she liked him, never kissed him, all romantic feelings are in HIS head. HE needs to sort this out, not OP!
2- OP was adopted by Jack's parents when she was 15. She literally called them her foster parents and they clearly love her, since they were upset when Sofia tried to separate them. So THEY ARE NOT JACK'S FAMILY, THEY ARE JACK'S AND OP'S FAMILY.
So Jack's a "Nice Guy" that's deeply trapped in the friendzone and can't get over it, guy will be the author of his own misery. With the levels of delusion he's trapped in.
It's not really the friend zone at this point, he wants to f his adopted sister
He started liking her like 7 years before she was adopted. Before that they were just really close friends.
You make it sound like they adopted her as a baby and he wants to marry her. Just because his parents let her live with them doesn't automatically make him change his near decade opinion of her and shut down his feelings.
@@homebass3426 "You make it sound like they adopted her as a baby and he wants to marry her."
No one said or did this, who are these voices in your head?
The healthiest thing for Jack would be to distance himself from the OP. Unrequited feelings don’t resolve themselves, you need to put some space and boundaries between the person you like. I know it would suck for OP, but if she cares for Jack she should do what’s best for him
The fact that Jack wanted to break up when OP was considering having a child is creepy AF, he is way to invested in her life when he A) has never come out and told her at any time before now and B) realize that Op has never showed herself to be open for a romantic relationship with him. He needs to get a grip
I mean... it looks like he basically made it clear as everyone knew except OP who was in denial 😂
I can hear what he was thinking ,”The moment I get girlfriend she’ll finally realize what she’s been missing , once she sees I’m in a serious relationship she’ll finally realize she might lose me, well if she sees me getting married that’ll wake her up to how she feels,I mean 19 years she must right?”
@@ShiNijuuAKLShe thought he was over her. It's not her fault he wasn't. If she should've known he still liked her isn't it safe to say that he should've realized she wasn't into him?
I think OP needs to step back a bit here. She seems so afraid of losing everyone, but this family is going to be torn apart anyway.
Honestly, this is what gives me pause. She has a closer relationship to Jack than most siblings, keeps saying she "puts off addressing his feelings" because she is afraid of losing him, her parents didn't know her true feelings, and even her friends were catching the lovebig from her interactions...
I'm not vouching for Jack in any way here, but I am finding it hard to vouch for OP when such a resume would suggest that she let all signs point to maybe.
@Maninawig No she didn't. She said several times that she never felt that way about him. She never loved him like she loved her ex that she was trying to have a baby with. People are making a big stink about how much time they spent together but if they were sisters everyone would say that's how sisters are. To her he was her big brother and best friend.
Op did step back and he canceled the wedding again. He needs to step back and get his sh*t together. You can't force someone to live you the way he wants her to.
@@oonachestnut509 that's the issue. To her, in her own head, Jack was nothing more than a brother. However, she also claimed that her actions were to spend a lot of time with him (which you pointed out), always be physically close and reliant on him (which sounds a little too close even for blood siblings), and actively avoiding addressing his obvious feelings about her.
Your analogy is flawed in changing the genders. Instead consider how you'd perceive a blood brother/sister who is that happily dependent on each other.
@@Maninawigagreed 100%
I genuinely don’t think OP has or ever had feelings for Jack but their “sibling relationship” was 100% very abnormal
This dude is just making me sad, because I can feel his pain , he really can’t get over you and it’s ruining his life.
Jack's got Peter-Pan Syndrome, unable to move on from the past, choosing to live within it. Unless someone gives him the knock/reality check he needs, he won't be able to get out of his delusion.
LMAO that marriage is not gonna last long.
I do not need to talk to my siblings often but we have family friends that literally live together ( their twin sisters) and in another distant family the children developed a shared language so that can be very different depending on your needs
13:26 Dammit, Jack...
He needs to move on she’s just not interested bro he’s so deep in the friend zone.
Holy creepazoids Batman! "
That guy is a straight-up nice guy. "I won't stop until you give me a chance "
The crazy thing about it is Jack going to marry Sophia when he admitted to OP he's liked her all this time the feelings never went away. He begged her to date him just the other day. Like that's madness. Sophia has to live with just being the second choice her whole marriage.
Holy soap opera nonsense. Sophia is lashing out at the wrong person and op is being willfully dumb. Sophia is not a sweet and amazing girl. She's possessive and way out of line trying to forbid op from seeing people she knows as family. If jack actually marries Sophia she'll actively work towards getting op kicked out of the family. "She can just find a new family". That's heartless. Bless op's heart for the fact she still continued to defend sophia. Edit: I can't believe Sophia married Jack 🤦 that's pathetic.
Jack feelings are extreme co dependency. Just like normal twins you have to live your own life. So you understand what alone is. Who you are. For jack you were all his emotional first and he's caught in a loop. He's also a fool.
Jack needs a therapy he is stuck in fairy land. Im not trying to say he is bad person but he is stuck in the idea of loving someone from childhood and have his happily after which was not happening at all. This ruined everyone life seriously 😢
The only person i will truly blame is Jack because he is the cause of all of this tbh
Is he? He’s loved the girl for 2 decades, literally living in the house with her. He had no chance of coming out of this intact
If op didn't break up with her ex, everything would have been fine. Sad really. This story is quite heartbreaking. Losing a best friend is never easy.
Well OP you will always be a problem in his relationships as long as you are this close. No matter what you do or say. And many men will have problems with him always having had feelings fir you. Both need distance from each other or both will have problems in their relationships
I mean OP is basically an adopted sibling, the parents should have probably done more to make that relationship clear, especially after OP made it clear that was how she felt. The parents actions make it hard to believe they didnt want the two together.
The second half makes things weird, they spend alot time together for adult siblings. The whole college explanation clearly reads as her leading the dude on.
Jack is so delusional
I feeel sooo bad for sophie
Jack's a weirdo, Sopias a Karen.
OP and Jack seem to have a lot in common but she desires familial connection not a romantic one. Also Jack is probably just not attractive to her. Parents should've stepped in and helped him distance himself.
I had 2 friends who are like the brother in the story. My 1st friend was my best friend since 6th grade, he and I were assigned seats behind each other and across each other for lunch. Alot of the girls kept asking if we're dating or do I like him, I kept saying no as he's just a friend and we had alot in common (we were gamers). The other friend was also in 6th grade but had a class across from my class so he would only wave at me, I was always confused to why since I didnt know his name or didnt know him in general.
Come high school and I met up with my 1st friend after we went to different middle schools. He introduced me to his friend group that were of 2 girls and 4 guys, and 1 of the guys is the same boy from across my class back in 6th grade. I was clearly never interested in dating anyone, even dating my friends because it would be weird and awkward, so I made it a point to never date friends or boys from my high school (75% of the guys werent close to my type and 25% were just aholes).
I kept getting flirted with by my 2 friends even in classes we share together and it got annoying, so I told them Im not interested in them nor looking to date anyone. Fast forward to 11th grade, I was interested in a friend who I played games with for 2 years, since 9th grade, we talked alot and had so much in common. I told my friends about him sometimes, but when I said I was interested when I turned 18th the flirting started up again. I told them Im not interested in them. My best friend didnt seem to come to terms after I told him and the group Im dating someone, even he kept flirting when we was in a skype call with my bf and I just ignored him entirely, but I did tell my bf not to worry cuz my friend was no where near my type.
As for my other friend, he started dating my sister, whos in the 9th grade. Our mother didnt like him as he was so clingy and annoying. He even lied to my sister on a normal basis about small things, and she confronted me about these lies that I corrected. I also told her to be aware cuz he did have the longest crush on me and even the day he asked her out, he shown me a ring (it was valentines day) and said he wanted to give it to a girl he liked while asking me to hold it and try it on.
Long story short, she broke up with him 3 months in; my best friend dated the other 2 girls of our group, 1 cheated on him becuz he was too neck deep in gaming than spending any time with her (he really was neck deep) and the other broke up with him amically.
Both are single, I married my bf who I dated since 11th grade, and we have a child together.
So yall ignoring the fact that jack has always loved her, and the family literally made it so that he was forced to be around his unrequited love? On top of that, she admits she was closer to him than any dude. Like I get that he’s wrong, but the poor guy was set up to fail here.
I feel like if OP cared for him, she should have stepped back long time ago. The guy really needs to move on. Watching her date around must have destroyed him, he should have distanced himself. It sucked for all involved, and I don’t think the guy was thinking clearly.
is hard to distance yourself when you are literally family
Yeah. I feel bad for everyone involved. @@ShiNijuuAKL
I was thinking more about your comment after I responded. What I think he should have done is possible started to hang out less with her, and maybe even accepted a job out of area. Which is easy to say but hard to do, the time I walked distanced myself from someone I loved was hard, but she at least was not someone that was tied to my family. @@ShiNijuuAKL
Therapy exists for a reason.
@@dokuganryu1565
Therapy is only for unintelligent people
Why tf should OP be made to feel like she has to apologize for Jack's obsession with her. Jack is responsible for his own emotions and needs to get therapy and learn to respect boundaries. Being attracted to anyone does not entitle you to their romantic interest. He showed thay he has no respect for OP or his fiancée and how entitled he is. I can't stand people telling OP that she must be the cause of his fixation in some way. F off with that bs. He's a pos for putting his emotions onto her and trying to browveat and guilt her into giving in to him. I hope he and his Pick-Me wife stay together so they can't make anyone else miserable with their nonsense, and I hope OP has a happy, peaceful life without that syress and toxicity.
How is op fault here ?
Sophia is pathetic honestly. Let thatan go honey as he will always love his adopted sister.
Clearly open doesnt understand emotions, feelings or sibling relationships vs romantic relationships.
Im going to say this Everyone Sucks Here. OP has an extremely unhealthy relationship with Jack and continues to hang out with him knowing he has feelings for her. She should have established healthier boundaries long ago. Jack is caught up on a fantasy thats never going to happen and Sophia is super possesive and she isnt a good girl. This story is a dumpster fire and there wont be a happy ending for anyone involved.
What a fucked up in this story...
I kind of sympathize with Jack a little bit; he has a woman who shares everything with him. It is better to date a soulmate than play gacha dating other women. I'm from a country where childhood friends have a high chance of ending up together in the future, and it is a typical love gossip/stories...
Sophia seems obsessed with Jack, too, and is trying to convince him to choose her over OP... So I assume Jack is alright-looking (?)
OP has a man who shares everything she likes and has so much in common but insists on labeling him as "my brother," fearing she would lose him if she dates him... Still lost him at the end, lol.
Op have no feeling for jack. What’s not clicking. Just because people in your country do that, not everyone does. Jack is a weirdo. Op have given many hint that she’s not interested. He can’t force her to have feelings for someone she views as a brother.
@@Andbit365
Yeah, I don't understand the thinking of some people and how they are trying to blame OP for Jack having feelings for her. How the hell is it her fault that he has feelings for her in spite of her constantly telling him that she has ZERO feelings for him?
You know that there are friends who like everything or do everything together right?
@@Andbit365 She did mention she didn't want to date him because she was afraid of losing him. She didn't say it, but I'm going to assume that she saw him as dateable but chose to play it safe and keep him as her brother.
@@rainbowpride4766 Friends of the opposite sex are bound to develop feelings at some point, especially if they are both good-looking and have attractive personalities...
Unpopular opinion, everyone minus the parents suck.
The parents knew how he felt, did they try to stop it or correct it?
OP is 100% in love with Jack. I give her 3 months.
bullshit
@@HeoBaby24yeah she’s too hard headed lol
Sofia is not wrong honestly and OP made her sound like the bad guy here.
but in reality OP is the bad guy, she doesn't wanna date him, but she also doesn't want him to move on
and despite knowing he has a massive "crush" on since childhood she calls him "brother" honestly that's disgusting
and the guy jack really is piece of work
the main issue is jack but also Sofia for being this deep with the sunk cost fallacy. She herself looked at the red flag, no red BANNER waving at her and went.
I want that.
They literally have the same parents
She literally trying to take her from the equation. How is she the bad one because she don’t want to be with Jack.no one own anyone their feelings
@@doubleedge2422 she loves them as her own parents since they raised her she thinks them as her own parents I even doubt she is legally adopted
@@Andbit365 sticking around him (mainly) is the main issue here she can very well have relation with her adopted parents but if she know how much this dikhead liked her she should at least try to stay away from him and or avoid him.
OP needs to find her own family. She keeps calling him her "brother" but admits she has an overly close and somewhat unhealthy relationship with him. Their friends, family,, and other loved ones have even said so. There are no brother/sister boundaries in their life other than her saying that it's her "brother". Women love having "brothers" that they know are attracted to them because they benefit from the relationship without actually providing anything. In this video she listed all the things that this man and his family have done for her benefit, but what has she done for any of them? Emotionally hurt and manipulate him for a couple decades? Relationships where people only gain from you while doing nothing to enrich your life are toxic. This woman is awful and I hope the parents remove her the way she removed him.
Gross. So, she's not allowed to have relationships with the parents that took her in and loved her? It's super nasty how you think because of HIS feelings she should be thrown away like trash. Not her problem. Not her fault. Not her doing. That's HIS issue.
@@morganleanderblake678 Women's favorite thing is to say "not my problem" while simultaneously expecting people to care about their problems. Family cares for one another, yet she doesn't care about him. Therefore, not family.
@@morganleanderblake678 Don't feed the troll.
@@psychedeliccouch2534you want her to ignore her feelings and get together with Jack just so she can be “ family” gtfo.
@Andbit365 No, I want her to recognize her own contribution to this problem and the situation she has put that entire family in. What I want was stated in the first sentence, she needs to find her own family.
As bad as Jack is, OP is worse because she didn't actually care about him. She cared about his parents as hers. You can tell by how quick she was willing to NC with him before anything happened, but wouldn't let go of them. He wasn't even a brother to OP. Just a someone she kept around because of how terrible her home life is.
wtf? where did you get this from? how does she not care about him? she made it clear MULTIPLE TIMES that she doesn't have feelings for him yet he can't get it through his weirdo head
why wouldn't she go NC with him? he was so quick to break up with his fiance the moment op mentioned wanting kid?
op see him as a brother but you can't let toxic weirdos walk all over you.
she has a family they adopted her they love her. she formed a bond with them
jack needs help not op op isn't at fault for jacks actions
@@HeoBaby24 because of how quickly she was ready to remove him from her life before he crossed the line.
@@HeoBaby24 I honestly can't feel any love from OP to Jack in the way she narrated the story. She had no problem cutting him out before even before he crossed the line. Jack was just a convenient guy who gifted OP his family, he already did what she wanted from him so she doesn't need him anymore, but she failed on making him not bother her anymore
@@CapnAkira so what she supposed to just wait till he crossed a line before cutting contact?
remember he the one who continued being creepy.
op not in the wrong for cutting him off before things got worse.
are you forgetting the part where he dumped his fiance to get with op when he heard she wanted kids?
is that not crossing a line?
@@ShiNijuuAKL what are you talking about?
so because she didn't struggle cutting contact with him means that she doesn't love him?
and because he didn't Cross the line?
yet if she continues contact y'all would probably say she at fault for feeding into his feelings and not stepping aways.
is she supposed to wait till he crossed a line for her to have a reason to cut contact?
how did she used him because she didn't have a fuckin actively family? her mother a druggie and her father doing god knows what
but op was close and made it clear many times she only sees him as a brother nothing else.
op still isn't in the wrong
im sorry but tbis story is fake the fact it is a total jumbled up mess e.e