The BRUTALLY Honest Reason Guys Stop Chasing In A Relationship (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)
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When we first date someone, we can’t keep our hands off them. All we want to do is take them home and spend all night in bed together. But what about when the infatuation stage is over? Can you still keep up the chase even though you’re both in a stable and comfortable relationship?
In this week’s episode of LOVELife, I explain the psychology behind why so many couples get lazy and lose attraction over time, and show how you can avoid that by taking on a few key behaviors to boost the DESIRE in your relationship so that you and your partner always feel irresistibly attracted to each another.
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You should not want him to chase in a relationship. That’s the key mistake. You should make him feel like home so he feels safe to be himself and he feels warm around you. Believe or not, a man needs to feel safe in a woman’s presence too. Make him feel loved and respected without being clingy. You should definitely still keep yourself busy. But don’t play games or at least don’t make him feel that way.
it's a very fine line. But games here and there are fun too. Shits tests however are not.
It's called being feminine.... (And I'm sure no woman going to want to hear that.)... At the end of the day that's what keeps a man around.
@@dannyroe5236 no woman? I’m all about being feminine, this whole feminist movement is insane. Theres still plenty feminine women out there. You can’t generalize an entire group just because of what you see at work or media and possibly personal experiences. Women have to be masculine at work or out in the real world, it’s the only way to survive for us men made it that way. It doesn’t mean we are like this all the time. At home and with close people is where a woman’s true feminine energy shines through
When I told my Boyfriend I wanted some time to myself to BE MYSELF, he sent me a Voicemail saying "He's not wasting his life anymore and is saying 'Goodbye'". At that point I'd had enough and blocked him. 🍒
@@Archangel2020 no, you're too busy with Tinder.
When woman gets into relationship - she hopes the man will change.
When man gets into relationship - he hopes the woman won't change.
Or their so focused on trying to CHANGE their man
@BEAST NYC...truer words have never been spoken. Stay single.
"i can fix him!" -her, at the start
"ugh, he did everything i nagged him to....now i dont like him" -her, later
@@FractalPrism. 100% correct! She changes him, then doesn't like him because he's changed to make her happy. There was a reason why for tens of thousands of years, women followed the man and in return he provided security, provision and protection. Now the government does that.
Facts
You can't make somebody happy in a relationship, unless you know how to make yourself happy first, and maintain that!!!
Really? I can think of a counterexample.
Narcissistic people know how to keep themselves happy, but they make terrible partners...
@@arnavrawat9864 She's saying it's a necessary condition, not a sufficient one, i.e. it's not the *only* skill you require, but one that is needed nonetheless.
U must be still single
Arnav Rawat narcissists love themselves, you need to accept yourself
Hun Warrior You people are just plain old scumbags!
What a great young woman, wanting to keep the magic in their relationship.
I love wanting to get home to my wife and find what we're looking for with each other.
We can do that, too, if we both work on it.
If that's not what you want then by all means walk on by.
I'm 67 now. It's been 33 years since I first met her. I've still not gotten over her, and don't want to.
This guy is incredible. So empathetic, so relatable, so charismatic and flowing, and so on point. But most importantly, he has a british accent!
So most important is his accent???F....me.You really know how to spot good values.
I think it was irony. ^^
+Gallifreya789 There is some but "most importantly" what matter more to people is a factor nothing to do with points from video.Its like saying she can not cook and she is messy but she has got big boobs so I will marry her.LOGIC?
The "most importantly" was the ironic part, because most people would agree that his accent is obviously not the most important thing about his videos. It was just a little joke, get over it and don't make this a discussion about sexism or something like that, please.
Gallifreya789
Yeah, you are right, so many women commenting about his voice as irony instead making some comments on content.YES, YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT.
Matt, as a single 23 year old guy, I really appreciate your work even though its directed to women, I can harvest alot from it too. I love that you're bridging the gap between men and women without trying to remove the gap. you keep things dynamic and playful. Love it man, great stuff
My ex gained 20 pounds, started "bumming" it around me 24/7 and became meaner and meaner each month. Yea, towards the end I didnt do anything for her. I actually started to resent her
im litterally at that point in my relationship....1 step from walking away.
The resentment is normal and typical at that point. She can cry to you about her weight all day, but let you be the one to say something about her weight and you'll be hearing about it for the rest of your life.
What can we do to not get to that level?
@@pvrebs9050 You cant. All you can do is make it know from the start that you expect her to maintain her weight or the relationship is over
Wow...... it's called not giving up on the person you love. I'm chubby my boyfriend loves it but he also wants me to be healthy and he bugs me about it a lot but I'm glad he does. It means he cares and wants to be here for my journey to a healthier life. He wants to help me, and grow with me. That's love.
Men stop chasing because they don't want to go to jail!
Just stay being yourself and look after yourself while in a relationship. That’s all he says and now I save your time
"Sometimes I sit on the couch and look over at that woman sitting there and think "Go Home!" then the horrible reality hits me...she IS home!"
-Al Bundy
distance always brings back the attraction in a relationship
I'm just at the very start of a relationship and this is really good advice. I'm not going to change my ambitions to strive being a better person than the day before...
Ironic that the more hobbies I get / the more I learn / read / embrace my interests / push myself to grow the more unkind and unloving and unappreciative my boyfriend is. I feel like a crazy person. Not everyone appreciates growth.
I have a female friend i dance with. She's way too young for me 27 years but the blokes she likes are all control freaks. They get attracted to her because she's independent. At first they buy her things, do all sorts of things for her but eventually start to dissaprove of her friends, family, hobbies, dancing etc and gradually shut her life down. I've seen this happen twice now. Its almost the opposite of what you are saying here!
she is not inlove with him.she only love the excitement being chased.
Yes! This is exactly right! Don't stop doing your things! Keep doing your beauty rituals, go on your jog etc. You nailed it Matthew
This just motivated me so much! I don't have that problem right now but this advice is not only for a relationship but for life. Never forget yourself!!!! That's the way you attract the things around you!
Why is it so hard to make a decision, stick to it and settle down with someone??? Love is not only a feeling, it’s a decision. People are wasting their time with games
Totally I agree with your points. As per my opinion, don’t attend your customers yourself.
To maintain attraction you need to maintain to: 1) Intentionally go out of your way to keep things fresh, 2) Maintain Enough Separation to appreciate one another & 3) Know how to flood and stack positive experiences together. We are about to launch a fascinating video about this very topic
iv been with my man for ten years. we just say ' I love you" every day and do things for each other every day. and he is my best friend and lover.
Guys stop chasing because women slowly start showing their true nature and alot of the time it's not good or attractive. Aggressive, loud, rude, and acting like sex is a doggy treat for men what causes the chase to slowly end.
Everyone can be aggressive and loud, its not something only men do or are. If you dont see those sides of a woman then she is either hiding something or faking it. Women are not cute, shy and soft spoken all the time if you think so.
This was awesome. In all honesty, this really helped me to reflect on how things went wrong with my ex. This has definitely helped me to understand myself better to be a better person in the future.
He’s right! Always keep your purpose in your passion when you lose interest in yourself ,that makes them lose interest in us.You’re not doing it to control them you’re doing it so you can be full of life joy have peace and purpose
I think the answer has to be self love, if you just work out to find someone who loves you, you’re missing the point - and of course you stop when you find someone.
You should be working out because you value yourself and not to make someone else value you. That’s what people are attracted to - to someone who knows their worth.
He described my ex gf perfectly. "honey stay in home today" "sweetheart lets go eat some fast food" and then boom. I was in shape, i was slim 196cm tall 86kg. 3 years passed and now im 116kg and feeling like shit
I was so opposite. When I was in an unsatisfying relationship, where it was precarious and I felt unloved, I became a worthless lump on the couch. Then I got into a relationship that felt committed and secure and I became dedicated to a healthy lifestyle and I began exploring new skills and working hard at bettering myself. So what happened? My husband abused me and abandoned me and our son. Life is funny that way.
Your husband didnt abuse and abandon you because of your healthy lifestyle and new skills.
Its strange to even think about connecting those together. I guess you dont know the reason neither, so you try to find any connection whatsoever.
Yatsura2
Uh, did I say he did those things BECAUSE I changed my lifestyle??? No........
I was merely pointing out the irony. He did those things because of his imbalanced mental condition.
+Kaela Bronan Maybe.But we know only your version.
wowerman
You can also ask his other subsequent wives whom he rushed into marriage with him and then beat black and blue.
Kaela Bronan
Why would I need to ask someone else?Its about both parties having own version which may be very different. Why should I believe only one side of relationship?
I cannot breathe through the grief.
Today is day 54.
54 days without hearing from him.
Nothing. Not a word.
He betrayed and abandoned me
and replaced me with another.
Discarded me like last week's garbage.
He was my "best friend". We spoke every day.
My heart is in so much pain, it physically hurts.
My soul is raped. I cannot breathe. I am drowning.
Being buried alive.
How could he do this to me? And why?
I think the key is to retain your integrity as a separate person. Keep a bit of mystery. Become more of a person yourself, and find a bit of freedom.
Which is probably the same thing you're saying.
What happened with my marriage is that I allowed myself to think I was defined by my husband. I was trying to see myself as an extension of him.
Very unhealthy--I know that now!
But what I did was to stop being the person he fell in love with. I let myself become too relaxed about becoming a better person on my own... because, after all, he promised to love me no matter what, right? I talked too much, baring my every thought to him. And driving him insane all the while!
I ought to have retained my personal identity, and pursued personal ideals and interests.
Hindsight is often 20/20.
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Look at this guy he's just telling these girls what they want to hear 😂😂😂
Yeah, they are eating it up though 🤨
These women wouldn't listen to him otherwise.
You shouldn't get fit only to please or attract the other gender. You should do it for yourself, because when you're fit, you can do a lot of things and efficiently.
this is great... i say this all the time! Relationships shouldnt stunt your growth but promote it xx keep up the awesome, non-sleezy work
I used to be a blue pilled. I've learnt my lesson the hard way. Men don't need to chase women.
Yep, i am 31 and never ever have ''chased women'' lol
Things change. You can relax into we have eachother at 10 months in, and that feels different but has it's own good feelings that weren't there before.
I left my Ex because I was resilient in the fact I wanted a better year for myself than the past 3 I'd had with him. I honestly don't care if he stops chasing because my life shouldn't depend upon being chased. 🍒
Generally we should let people be themselves. Wether we agree or not. That’s when trust and love come in .
Yoooooo I needed this and they’ve been telling me this. I guess I couldn’t understand before but this put it into so much perspective!
The capital BRUTALLY in the title made me hesitant to watch because I don’t think I was ready to hear the truth but I was mistaken and happy for it. Any video I have watched of Matthew’s has not only helped me grow but has made me feel heard. He is compassionate and understanding and I am thankful for all of the lessons I keep learning from him.
advice like this is why i have no interest in a relationship it's just endless work.
Girl : He aint the same as before
Matthew : GO THE GYM DUHHHH
I never changed. I did everything I could ..he did tho..he went from a sexual ,kind caring man to a sexless, non affectionate, self absorbed a hole...I kept myself looking good, I cooked, cleaned willing to have sex whenever he want , listened to him do nothing but talk about himself because I didn't matter. And he wouldn't even shower .and I figured out I was just being strung along..so it was time for me to go lol 4 yrs of this and sex one time a year and i had to beg..all he was doing was taking advantage of my love for him. He literally destroyed my confidence in myself..
I need and want to work out with or without someone. It's a part of me. It's good to take care of yourself. It's shows that you love yourself
This is probably useful advice, if you are happy to approach relationships from a pretty shallow perspective of: "I'm attracted to you and want to be with you because of your toned body, and because you have cool friends." So nothing to do with love, or truly seeing and accepting and appreciating another person, as who they are. Their heart and soul, if you like. And that's ok, each to their own. The advice is based on the idea that: "I am not good enough as I am. I need to TRY to be better in every way, all the time. Only then I will be relationship material." If you resonate with that, cool. The other way to look at it would be to KNOW that "I am good enough right now. Just as I am. I don't need to be anything I am not. I don't care what anyone tells me I need to be." appreciating and being your true self, and knowing that this brings people into your life that feel the same. It's all about your own BELIEFS. Make sure you pick good ones. xxx
+liinu01 Men are attracted to women who love and respect themselves. By feeling and looking your best, it says to a man I deserve the best. When a woman does not feel well for whatever reason (mentally, emotionally, physically), she is less fun, less sexual, less interesting, and therefore less attractive. Hopefully that doesn't sound superficial! Matthew's advice to keep your life interesting and healthy is for your happiness! Men will be attracted to your happiness. And, so will everyone else btw! It's great advice!! And so is...Make sure you pick good ones. Amen!
Well put. keeping active for your own interest and happiness is of course a good idea. and would then reflect in your overall mental and emotional wellbeing and self-image, as well as physical health and appearance. (my comments can sound a little ranty when I read them back sometimes :), the intention was to offer an alternative way to look at things, in a positive way LOL :). I do think Matthew's advice is generally good, healthy and very down-to-earth.)
I think you're mistaking 'toned body and cool friends' for 'having an inspiring commitment towards self improvement and maintenance', and 'having an interesting, outgoing personality that cool people like.' the toned body and cool friends are just evidence for the true qualities he likes about you. If he was attracted to you because you went to the gym, then when you're together you stop going, then that demonstrates a lack of resolve, loss of identity, and the absence of the original quality he liked about you in the first place. Why must Relationship Girl be of lesser value than Single Girl? They're the same person.
Amazing advice, Matt. You keep making great content, and I don't remember a time I have ever been disappointed with it. The way you put your point across is priceless too. You keep attacking with humility. Keep shining.🤗🤗
Amazing advice! This is why so many couples loose themselves in a relationship.
The main part starts at 2:11.
Man, the "at 6 months" remark struck a chord. Too many times women I've dated were all so cute and affectionate and flirty and always dressed up and gung-ho for everything. But then they just sort of "give up". I thought this was so strange and realized that on average this happens at the 6 month mark. Now I usually find out afterwards that I wasn't the ONLY guy they were dating but that's another convo haha
Same like man too. he best behave like he did at the start of the relationship, or he will lose a good woman
I don't chase because it's not worth it , they'll never value you or be loyal anyway and every time I've chased I was soon to be single but when I was with one I wasn't interested in and aloof I couldn't get rid of them
So you tried all of them??
We are made to be happy when we grow up and stop thinking like an infant (when everyone is totally self-oriented). This is why God’s Word and Truth is BIGGER THAN US...but when people become a commodity to be manipulated and consumed for our “supply,” we are still emotionally and spiritually infantile. Marriage is for godly and faithful adults, and much bigger than us! Marriage is our Creator’s way of teaching us how His eternal kingdom operates...and how to live forever with Him-heavenly! (warning: God allows us to reject Him and His ways and be separated from Him and heavenly Spiritual LIFE forever...but doesn’t allow redemption from that terrible choice after this short physical life is over!) Dt28 is very much still in effect today, as well as the Truth of a coming judgement to determine what OUR CHOICE was: Spiritual Life or death...blessings or curses from our Creator who has given us very clear INSTRUCTION FOR LIFE (Torah). 🕎❤️✝️
He was not polite in that way at all. Matt just told the truth!!! When people get lazy they get in a dangerous comfortable zone where there’s no motivation at all and either problems commence to rise up or they died in their lives. I have seen many couples living like that and there’s no light in their eyes at all...it is not politeness it is the raw straight forward true.
wow you really speak out the mind of the guys. When i saw this headline i just had to click on it and check it out
It may be THE video to watch of Matthew Hussey, at least from my point of view :) And what he explain in this video can be applied also for friendships I think!
whatever you do, be authentic so you would never have to show a facade you cannot live up to yourself...
There are various stages of love. Love is not simply roses, flowers, and compliments, and it stems from both sides. This notion that everything must be blissful is nonsense. We are humans with our own value systems and conflict will arise, change will arise, and indifference will arise. Love simply means to see one another through all of it and with no expectations.
It's interesting that a guy is advising a girl. Well done Matt, you have nailed it.
Thank you for the encouragement
So my conclusion is that I shouldn’t make any sort of extra effort for someone else, just for myself. Because unless it’s for myself, it won’t last long-term. And if it doesn’t last long term, then anybody I attract while making that effort is going to leave the second I stop (wearing special clothes, working out, etc.) Which is a crazy kind of pressure to put on a girl.
The guy I am talking to is so gorguous, I making more effort to look good just not to be the "ugly" one in the relationship.
Excellent advice here!
Lovely message ❤️
One of the key 🔑 is to never ever stop flirting ❤️😍❤️
Love this grain of salt
Thank you 🙏
This is so elegant and true. Amazing advice!
The girl asked the question because she know deep inside the guy is no longer showing that much affection. Find a guy that you no longer need feel the need to be chase, he will give you emotional security. Mat's advice is perfect for dating but not so much in married couples
The thing people need to realise is 'the chase' is not real every day life... yes its fun but normal everyday life when you go to work, come home, eat, sleep and repeat is tiring and boring... do you think you're going to be running around like a love struck teenager when you're in your 60s? you either want to be single and continually on the chase or attached and building a life?? you cant have both
Yup! That happened to me. After 3 years of marriage I took myself off the market and got complacent. We had to 2 kids 2 years apart. First one was planned. The second one wasn’t. That made things extremely difficult bc she really wasn’t built for the kind of challenge of raising a child to be a toddler and then doing it all over again with the negativity and disdain she already had for me. There was no local support. Both our families live almost an hour away so our quality time was almost non-existent. Money was short, due to being one-income household. Complacency, lack of money and support became more and more heavier for us. Although these things were not the main reason why we had problems(that’s a whole another topic), it sure as hell sure didn’t help having them around and making life difficult for ourselves. Now she’s planning to divorce me. 10 years of marriage about to be done and over with.
Thanks Matthew awesome message and I am going to do it with the next man I get involved with! I am grateful for your brutal honesty because you gave the solution to the problem love from Wendy
Just found this. I needed this for her then. But I couldn't get these words out at the time. Great advice. I'm going to download it and keep it.
I don'T get why guys should "chase" at all.
If you signaled interest and started conversing with someone, you shouldn'T be supposed to run Weekly after that Person, just because she enjoys running away and being with her Friends or other guys more
Why guys stop chasing is because they become financially, physically, and physiologically well off enough that girls begin to see them as high value and so chase them instead of just settling for a guy who chased them down. I know I consider myself high value, and if a girl is so lazy that she thinks guys should chase her. Then give one that is more motivated to be with you a chance.
_"You need to grow and keep changing your life"_
some seconds later
_"like going to gym to do same exercises every day and buy new clothes every week"_
Ay lmao, so diversified, much change, such growth, wow! XD
it's called maintenance, dude
was that a doge reference : )
To cut the chase...
Never take a dump or fart, in front of him.
Get out of the bed, while he' s still sleeping and fix your look.
Surprise him with tasty, diverse meals.
Never disgrace him, in public( talking back, being bossy,...).
Look for ways to enrich your every day lives and spend your spare time with him, instead of chosing hobbies which separate you.
Once again- look good.
Be kind and give him a massage, if you see him, feeling sore.
Good enough?
To grow you just are yourself letting go of wanting anything. Loving yourself knowing your worth. We tend to want to help but we can not chamge another only yourself. Why care or worry to become happy because we already are happy. Thank you love your style okay your very attractive. Had to say it. Blessings
Relationships have phases....ability to go through them and realize the next is better than the last because it shows progress......seems most just want to stay in honeymoon phase forever....its just not possible with any human being.....its just a reflection of you and your own well being really....52 yrs and am still learnimg
Ladies when this guy says you should keep growing, make sure you don't grow in pounds too. Also, don't grow your notch count past a few if you ever want a serious bf.
Did he say that breaking out all over the face and then have acne is not attractive and you eat like shit and that is to blame? Matthew....this is so sad for all the women who have acne and do everything about it and still suffer from it. Sad.
but i don't have friends. :( lol
This video is a gem, wish I has seen it sooner. Thank you sir.
Ladies the word is SEX. My wife refused sex for years and wondered why I stopped taking her out, buying gifts, loving her. Your sexuality is the one gift that you can give a man that he can't buy for himself. We crave it more than diamonds, fine wine, videogames. There wasn't one time where she offered sex where I wouldn't drop anything to be with her. I tolerated this for years. The lesson I took is this: If you are not going to have sex with me I am leaving because it is important to me.
This is the holy truth. I do agree with all it was said.
This chasing thing sounds so useless to me. What if I wasn’t chasing in the first place??? If we click the few seconds of meeting there’s little sense to doing this “chasing” game
Oooouch. This really IS the brutal truth. When I was younger, I was in the middle of losing a HUGE amount of weight. 13 years later, I've let myself GO. Like REALLY. And it's especially tempting because I only need to get dressed from the waist up for TH-cam, and I work my "day job" from home, too, and it's not often that my partner sees me actually getting dressed anymore. Now with the mask thing, I BARELY see the point in wasting good makeup application if it's going to get hidden behind a mask when I go out. What's a girl to do.
thank you Matthew once again
Cheers! Luv this video. It's a great self-reminding notes :)
More confirmation that my relationship is worth breaking up...
yea no, at least not for me. I was in a relationship with a woman for 8 years, 6 of those married. I never cheated, never left she was incredibly lazy. I was the only one working and she was the stay at home all she did was play video games. 5'6'' and 255lbs. The house was a mess, the kids dirty despite her frustrating me I still genuinely loved her. Covid hit, I became the stay at home while furloughed and asked her to pick up a temp job at a warehouse. I clean that house, keep the kids clean, play with them, cook fresh food. 2 months later when I go across country for my grandma's final moments, she leaves me, takes the kids out of state and refuses to talk to me the week of and after her death.
I just wanted a woman who was supportive, caring, and loving. I can handle looks, I can handle some drama (so long as she is ok with me giving it back) I don't care what "passion" or "drive" a woman has for life. In the end, if our interests are even remotely in the same ball park I am a happy camper.
Find a woman who compliments the life you want to live. You have kids now. You also no longer have a PERSON holding you back from living a better life. You got this man. Find a woman who is as sexy on the inside as she is on the outside. Don't compromise.
Speaking from marriage of 24 years, I can attest to the advice this guy is giving. Excellent advice that is working. The moment you take your partner for granted is the moment you begin losing them.
A partner who puts effort into looking good and developing personally -- and then stops once they are in a committed relationship -- has used a "bait and switch" strategy.
People really do that
It's not a bait and switch when the guy feels responsible for the future of himself, his girl and potential children and is working 60+ hours a week and when he has free time just wants to relax with his girl and enjoy her company and not have to keep dealing with little fights and her need for validation and her desire to always be doing activities. Not sayin that's everybody but that is a story as old as time. Man works his ass off to afford his family a good life and once he has the house and some money stacked up the wife wants a divorce and hopefully before the man finds out she been fuckin the next door neighbor. Why because she just doesnt love him anymore and/or she was lonely. Even though she stopped working out, doesnt wear makeup, wears sweats, hair pulled back in a ponytail when hes home. Still dresses up to go to work and look good for steve her just "friend" at the office though. They became really good friends too.
MultiWeen So she ‘bait & switch’ed you too. Sounds like you both did it. You attract what you are. Be true with who you are & find someone who does the same. There are all types out there...just got to find your fit (& you’ll do it by working on yourself to be who you want to be.)
Completely agree. I do think society does this too. The ‘fake it till you make it’, etc. If we were all just real with each other we’d be able to find our match much more easily. There’s someone out there for everyone
@@jenlinds1 is that what you get from his comment GO FUCK YOURSELF asshole
The more the guy shows interest, the less the women shows interest and plays hard to get. That's why guys are not motivated anymore. The system rewards lazy guys.
@@haladuabubakar4400 😂😂😂 She is an ex for a reason 🤦🏿♂️🤦🏿♂️🏃🏾♂️🏃🏾♂️.... women are crazy
@@haladuabubakar4400 remove thou self young scammer
Women don't realize that they been insensitivizing bad behavior
@@haladuabubakar4400 outa here wid dat BS
No. Men showing interest is men showing *misplaced* interest.
Modern men aren't valued by anyone, unless they are self-made, so they need to learn to do their own upkeep until then. They keep their own home, and generate income for themselves. Modern men learned to do everything they needed women for, while doing what they were needed for as men.
Modern women gave up the knowledge of how to keep a home to generate income. These women didn't learn to do both, they traded their traditional role to do something no one needed them to do.
:/ If you are looking for someone you want to be with long term, don't put on a facade, don't do something you are not going to continue to do.
there is a reason for that, you know?
true
Good point!
Calico C exactly
Calico C ok !!!! Go head, nice and simple!
I had an ex who would say, "Well I already got you, so why do I have to try?" and laugh it off. That really pissed me off. I wanted a partner who I could GROW WITH
+Celeste R Depends what he means by trying.
Hahah he is lazy
CounterStrike211 Nope. I just know what I'm worth.
+Celeste R I think we all get comfortable, too comfortable because their is no more intrigue. you tell them everything you did from the moment you get up til bedtime. there is no mystery. its boring. your always there. even you will get board of that and dont wana try. but the moment they wana hang and you busy, the moment they text and you take long to reply, suddenly their interested. I think what Matt is showing us, is that its our fault and in our power to intrigue our guys into wanting to grow with us
+Elle- Ari Eh...I am not bored with someone though...both partners have to work at it and I find stability very romantic and comfy and it makes me be even more loving..it's all in perspective!
I don't feel this is just for women... Gold advice even for men.
EnterpriseKnight Dating isn't worth it for men. Friends with benefits or just one night stands.
Simp
In reality, most advice that state some factoid meant to be applied to men or women specifically (especially if we're speaking psychology) end up applying to both.
But business wise... you gotta niche down at some point to grab people's attention. And what better way than focusing on a label (man, woman)?
... I digress.
What ive learned a long time ago is to not treat women as a different species. Ultimately you both want the exact same things, but neither really knows that.
@@nunyabisnass1141 What's the exact same things we want?
If 'excitement' is your only motivation & glue for being with someone then it's not a person you need, it's a life.
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It's not excitement, rather how excited/happy you *make your partner feel*
Your partner isn't a soldier, people need something in return for the energy they invest. That's reality.
Of course you raise a good point, but not everyone seeking their satisfaction is shallow.
Truth !
Well Said.!!
@George Bush Demand? Are you sure it is a fair deal for both sides?
"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit."
-- Will Durant
I going to remember this one
Just here to prevent this quote from being misattributed. It was Aristotle who said that. Have a Good Day.
I actually dated a woman who admitted she was trying to keep me away from the gym so I wouldn’t be as attractive. Thinking I’d be of lower risk to be able cheat on her lmao
That is incredibly toxic. Glad to hear you got out of that dude. Keep hitting those weights!
shoulda cheated on her weak lazy ass
@@Just2Epic4U Thanks bro! Same here. Long story short she was obviously a psycho and got knocked up about a year after I dumped her so I dodged a bullet! Lol
Well I can't sense any other feelings there than jealousy and selfishness. That's sad my guy.
I’ve heard this so many times. If a girl like that went to a gym and saw how some of the women that go there look, she’d lose her fucking mind
This is true. I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 and half years now and I see that. There is a saying 'keep doing what you did in the beginning of the relationship and the relationship won't have an end', or something like that. People stop with the love, with the passion, with the chasing. They get too comfortable. My boyfriend and I are doing that, and I feel like it's time for me to step out of the comfort box and start doing my things again.
Go on, girl! :) I wish you so much fun!! :)
Yes, my friend may have the same problem. You grasped his point very well.
+Renata Ikonora I think mutal admiration is essential in a couple and it's very difficult for yor partner to be proud of you if you do nothing. Besides, if he's smart, when he sees that you can make it perfecty fine without him, he will be less likely to take you for granted.
+Haghenveien Lovely! Thank you very much!
+Renata Ikonora I thought I was the only one that felt this way....our happiness cannot rely on other people shoulders (easy to say) but let's make it happen
Be hot and semi unavailable. The end
Just be upfront and honest time is too valuable to be wasting someones time
@@misterjones7522 That is not how you draw a man in.
how to end every relationship after 6 months
How to become a cat lady
OMG this is totally true. Don't stop doing what you are doing when you meet someone. Have your own life and they have theirs. You wont come off as clingy. Good video :) Never lose yourself in a relationship:)
Waw, didnt even realise i was continuously making myself unattractive over a long period of time. All i use to do was complain about how he stopped complimenting me, stop being excited to see me and i would complain and try to CONVINCE HIM that i was still amazing when i should have been SHOWING HIM.
@Elle L a vicious and short sighted observation
Dude time to get my ass moving
Arielle Seerattan us guys learn from a young age to pay attention to a women’s actions not her words
@@KARENboomboomROXX that's interesting... just out curiosity.. why you on this video of the help needing humans...? R u picking up lines? I don't get it..so don't work on urself?
@@KARENboomboomROXX ps twisting into pretzel unattractive true..
if you are seeking satisfaction outside of yourself all relationships suck..........life is an inside job
That Really Really shook me! Wow... you are so right. I'll let that sink in, I want to find happiness away from him again
The truth has been spoken
Tula Bean then what’s the point of partnership? Especially if single life and single men treat you better
The true reason for partnership is for raising kids.
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Goal: become attracted to yourself
That sounds like a narcissist hahaha
Ain't gonna lie, the scene where Homer starts making out with himself on the Simpsons immediately sprang to mind.
underrated episode