Start lifting weights. Make more money. Eat better. Meditate. Read more. Find new hobbies. Do martial arts. Hike. Be the best version of yourself. You’ll be alright mate. “One day you’ll look back and laugh”
Divorce. 9 years married, 13 together. 2 children, a brief military enlistment and a bought home later, she cheats. We're both 28; it was nearly half of our lives. This found me at a good time.
@@resared8538 I was unhappy with how she wanted me to put her above my family, and how she refused to be understanding to how distressing my life was. Loved her, but refusing to treat me like a person is nah.
@@resared8538 how so? I may add, she was normal and sweet when we met in highschool. Ever since she went to USC and I instead worked a job, all the feminist buzzwords started, everything is misogyny. One time I went over to her place, her parents were out of town, we fucked. I had loose change from buying something at the 7 eleven in my pocket, it was a few cents so I put it on the table. After we were done I forgot about it, she went out of her way and gave it to me back because it made her feel "like a prostitute because you left money behind as a form of transaction". Let's not forget how she would snap at me during the last couple months of our relationship. She mentioned she met an old highschool friend, I asked if he asked about me since he knew both of us, snap at me how not everything is about me. I only asked because he knew me too! She despised how I'm right wing and voted trump, she was never political or leftist until college, she hated how I don't have a filter when I talk, I say it like it is. She argued about guns with me one time, I asked her if she's even proud to be American, she snapped at me saying no. She forgot I have family that served and that hurt me deeply. She's white an I'm Hispanic, ever since college she started with the self deprecating comments about her race, I told her that I don't care what white people did 200 f-ing years ago, I care more about making rent next month and bills. I'm not an expert about women's anatomy, all I ask if she's not pregnant or anything to avoid that problem, she snaps goes on with something about "old wives tails" and other feminist crap making me sound like a low IQ brute because I'm a guy. Then starts apologizing when I ghost her for a while. After she graduated USC she struggled for 2 years straight finding a job, she applied to target, and already wanted a manager position off the bat because she has a degree (in sociology). I told her it doesn't work that way she has no real job experience. She also brushed off my job as a cashier at a grocery store at the time as "pushing some buttons and put money in". I just replied "sure I guess, I'm just trying to help". She got a seasonal job with the possibility of being hired at the end of the season, she never got hired officially. Then she finds some rich white hippy guy with a condo in San Diego and waits till we're in a public setting on a date to dump me as if I'm going to hurt her (feminism) that hurt me I never once struck her nor cheated. She called me an ass for talking with no filter, being masculine regular conservative guy, she grew up in West Hollywood. She met this guy on tinder a month prior without me knowing and had the audacity to say "I love him" after 8 years we were together. What the fuck did USC do to her?
been alone for 3 days for the first time in 9 months, it was the only time in my life I wasn't lonely and now I'm back to my old lonely self and really needed this, thank you
I didn’t find it in time, but recently I went through a breakup,it only lasted 3 or so weeks, but it felt so real, I loved her, she was perfect, she loved me back, we made full plans, named our future children… then she just through me to the wayside when she was able to get back together with my CURRENT boyfriend, but she only cared for me because she needed the attention, she never cared about me, but that’s ok, one should not hold on to your pain, when one leaves, it hurts, when one you love leaves, you suffer, but without suffering there is no life, hang in there boys and gals, you’ll find someone someday who will hold on to you, love you, keep you safe, one must wait, so stay strong, no matter what
I'm not even going through a breakup, my only breakup was like 4 years ago and it was pretty painless. I have a great and loving partner and do not need this. Still amazing video and I'm so glad you're doing this for all those that are less fortunate than I soooooooooooo I approve. To all those that ARE currently going through a tough time, keep in mind: You are loved by someone, doesn't matter who, family, friends or if you believe in god it may be god. (keep in mind I myself am not religious but am open to all those who are) Also, take care of yourself, folk. Good luck out there survivors and goodbye
6 years. She saved my life several times over. She just told me yesterday that she is leaving me. It hasn't fully settled in my mind but it's a rough road ahead.
"Ever earn a relationship" That sounds so inspirational but tragic at the same time... Are you putting yourself down? Like you think you don't deserve it?
@@savageshot3723 People Tell Me There's Women Out There For Every Man, I Highly Doubt That, Relationships Are Someone To Earn Not To Be Given Out Lightly, It's Something To Cherish, Something I Will Most Likely Not Obtain
Hard times make you stronger if you allow it. While the relationship ends, be grateful for the time you had. The good and bad of any situation and/or relationship made you who you are today. The question is, whether or not you are happy witj that reflection that stares back at you in the mirror. Learn from your failures and remember what made your success a success. I lost a 7 year relationship at the end of 2022. Doesnt matter why. Now im 40 pounds lighter, in the best shape of my life, making better money, and I'm happier than I've been in a long time
6 years, 7 months, 2 days, I'm 24 and she is 21, she was my hope and everything, what pulled me out of a very dark hole and what kept me togheter, what make me feel life was more than just a dark and painful existence, I'm trying to heal, trying to hold on to that hope she gave me. This video helped me a lot as well to focus on what I have to now, thank you Jakubs
No problem, and it’s Jakub. A lot more coming about this topic, and I will make more videos about how to get over girls who let us down and leave us disappointed. I hope to see you in the comments again man.
A year of the most passionate intensity I have ever felt. I had a 7 year relationship that ended a few years ago and it was only a fraction of what I felt with this 1 year relationship. Its been 4 days but It feels as if the world has halted, years have passed yet when I check the clock its been 20 minutes. We both continue on but I always wonder if she feels as sad as I do. She gets to hang out and play games while I have to continue working 12-13 hour days. I am absolutely destroyed but what are we to do other then acknowledging our mistakes and moving forward. We do not yield when faced with the cruelty of people of this world, we push forward with the divine by our side
When I was 13( 2 years ago) I had e-dated this British girl who was 15-16 at the time. Eventually it escalated and we had e-sex. I thought it was to much and I ghosted her. Even though it was 2 years ago and I was much more immature my heart still hurts. I want to believe if we where tge same age and lived near each other it wouldn't have happened at all or became sometimes better. She could be considered my "first love", and even now as a totally different person 2 years later I still want her.
Well, after 8 + years of investment into a dream, I poured my heart and soul into I realized after my innocent fall who was really there and by my side, the issue is that with my lenses of grey, I can see all all perspectives, and some are valid for survival But I realized what I really needed and wanted in life, and my young childish dream of being the perfect partner is too self-sacrificial and too idealistic (I will add more to this post)
No shit girl broke up with me about 4 hours ago. A year and a half long and I don’t mean to get sentimental but I’ve never felt this type of pain before and I’m mortified. But, we prevail. And ill do my best to keep goin
one problem i have with this i think you focused a bit too much on the religious aspect of advice while i know that joshua is indeed a very religious man, he does give good *practical* and concrete advice maybe the next time you upload joshua graham's advice, you should keep that in mind other than that its pretty good!
This is practical advice, just say the Lord’s Prayer whether you believe the words or not. God listens even to the unbelievers. “Our father who art in heaven Hallowed be thy name Thy kingdom come, thy will be done On earth as it is in heaven Give us this day our daily bread And forgive us of our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us And lead us not into temptation But deliver us from evil Amen”
“Joshua graham feeds you the same crap you’ve heard all your life that still hasn’t solved anything.” Oh I’m sorry I meant “thank you for the advice josh, you’re right, I am worthy of love and a meaningful relationship.”
You don't need to. Your belief is irrelevant to the outcome as the result of your actions. Just as your belief or lack thereof in gravity does not change the fact if you drop something, it will fall.
I ruined my 5 year relationship for stupid shit and then lost a new relationship right after it sprouted honestly I been depressed but this helps a lot 😭
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8 years. God will give me strength
Thats gotta be hella painful, hell im hurt about just two 😭
Start lifting weights. Make more money. Eat better. Meditate. Read more. Find new hobbies. Do martial arts. Hike. Be the best version of yourself. You’ll be alright mate.
“One day you’ll look back and laugh”
I try to remember our arguments when I allow myself to remember the good times. Frustration is easier to forget than the love. Sorry for your loss.
I feel you, man. 8 years and the girl I love told me she doesn't feel anything for me.
I well pary for you my brother and sisters.
Divorce. 9 years married, 13 together. 2 children, a brief military enlistment and a bought home later, she cheats. We're both 28; it was nearly half of our lives.
This found me at a good time.
My condolences. You’ll push through it all in the end. Have faith brother
Sorry to hear that man, but keep going strong, you still have a long road full of opportunities in life, wish you the best
she got half your shit and you still gotta pay child support too ill bet, fuck this gay nation and earth
hang in there brother, we got you
I know this is an old comment, but you can do this brother. We’re all here for you
I really like that you know Joshua's character. Considering he's a religious man it totally makes sense that he advices to pray
My girlfriend broke up with me yesterday... Tks bro for making this video
Stay strong, brother
It’ll get better mate the night is always darkest before the dawn.
@@IND0RILL Tks bro
@@Artaxian_Debacle I hope so, but thanks for the kind words
You honestly made me be more religious. Thank you
Just broke up with my girlfriend of 6 months a few days ago. Thanks man, I really needed this.
What happened man
@@resared8538 I was unhappy with how she wanted me to put her above my family, and how she refused to be understanding to how distressing my life was. Loved her, but refusing to treat me like a person is nah.
I got dumped after 8 years. She left me for a rich hippie guy with a condo in San Diego that she met on tinder.
@@Uncle_Ruckus_ you didn’t lose anything, you dodged a bullet there
@@resared8538 how so? I may add, she was normal and sweet when we met in highschool. Ever since she went to USC and I instead worked a job, all the feminist buzzwords started, everything is misogyny. One time I went over to her place, her parents were out of town, we fucked. I had loose change from buying something at the 7 eleven in my pocket, it was a few cents so I put it on the table. After we were done I forgot about it, she went out of her way and gave it to me back because it made her feel "like a prostitute because you left money behind as a form of transaction". Let's not forget how she would snap at me during the last couple months of our relationship. She mentioned she met an old highschool friend, I asked if he asked about me since he knew both of us, snap at me how not everything is about me. I only asked because he knew me too! She despised how I'm right wing and voted trump, she was never political or leftist until college, she hated how I don't have a filter when I talk, I say it like it is. She argued about guns with me one time, I asked her if she's even proud to be American, she snapped at me saying no. She forgot I have family that served and that hurt me deeply. She's white an I'm Hispanic, ever since college she started with the self deprecating comments about her race, I told her that I don't care what white people did 200 f-ing years ago, I care more about making rent next month and bills. I'm not an expert about women's anatomy, all I ask if she's not pregnant or anything to avoid that problem, she snaps goes on with something about "old wives tails" and other feminist crap making me sound like a low IQ brute because I'm a guy. Then starts apologizing when I ghost her for a while. After she graduated USC she struggled for 2 years straight finding a job, she applied to target, and already wanted a manager position off the bat because she has a degree (in sociology). I told her it doesn't work that way she has no real job experience. She also brushed off my job as a cashier at a grocery store at the time as "pushing some buttons and put money in". I just replied "sure I guess, I'm just trying to help". She got a seasonal job with the possibility of being hired at the end of the season, she never got hired officially. Then she finds some rich white hippy guy with a condo in San Diego and waits till we're in a public setting on a date to dump me as if I'm going to hurt her (feminism) that hurt me I never once struck her nor cheated. She called me an ass for talking with no filter, being masculine regular conservative guy, she grew up in West Hollywood. She met this guy on tinder a month prior without me knowing and had the audacity to say "I love him" after 8 years we were together. What the fuck did USC do to her?
This helped. 5 years but I’m trying to move passed this. Thank you.
been alone for 3 days for the first time in 9 months, it was the only time in my life I wasn't lonely and now I'm back to my old lonely self and really needed this, thank you
I didn’t find it in time, but recently I went through a breakup,it only lasted 3 or so weeks, but it felt so real, I loved her, she was perfect, she loved me back, we made full plans, named our future children… then she just through me to the wayside when she was able to get back together with my CURRENT boyfriend, but she only cared for me because she needed the attention, she never cared about me, but that’s ok, one should not hold on to your pain, when one leaves, it hurts, when one you love leaves, you suffer, but without suffering there is no life, hang in there boys and gals, you’ll find someone someday who will hold on to you, love you, keep you safe, one must wait, so stay strong, no matter what
I'm not even going through a breakup, my only breakup was like 4 years ago and it was pretty painless. I have a great and loving partner and do not need this. Still amazing video and I'm so glad you're doing this for all those that are less fortunate than I soooooooooooo I approve. To all those that ARE currently going through a tough time, keep in mind:
You are loved by someone, doesn't matter who, family, friends or if you believe in god it may be god. (keep in mind I myself am not religious but am open to all those who are)
Also, take care of yourself, folk. Good luck out there survivors and goodbye
6 years. She saved my life several times over. She just told me yesterday that she is leaving me. It hasn't fully settled in my mind but it's a rough road ahead.
I needed this years ago. it's still good to hear.
Thanks
Maybe I'll Need This One Day If I Ever Earn A Relationship In The First Place
better to be alone, you learn about youself better then helping someone with blink eye.
"Ever earn a relationship"
That sounds so inspirational but tragic at the same time... Are you putting yourself down? Like you think you don't deserve it?
@@savageshot3723 People Tell Me There's Women Out There For Every Man, I Highly Doubt That, Relationships Are Someone To Earn Not To Be Given Out Lightly, It's Something To Cherish, Something I Will Most Likely Not Obtain
@The Eternal I'm really indifferent about "women out there for every man".
Do you have friends? Are you close with your family?
@@theeternal2734 I'm only asking these personal questions to better Guage your mindset on relationships. If you don't wanna answer them I understand
I've heard similar things in these past weeks, but this made me cry.
More like this coming friend.
6yrs ended just like that I pray everyday because I just cant understand why....
Sorry to hear that.
Hard times make you stronger if you allow it.
While the relationship ends, be grateful for the time you had. The good and bad of any situation and/or relationship made you who you are today.
The question is, whether or not you are happy witj that reflection that stares back at you in the mirror.
Learn from your failures and remember what made your success a success.
I lost a 7 year relationship at the end of 2022. Doesnt matter why. Now im 40 pounds lighter, in the best shape of my life, making better money, and I'm happier than I've been in a long time
Thank you for the insights and wise words. Glad to have you in the community
6 years, 7 months, 2 days, I'm 24 and she is 21, she was my hope and everything, what pulled me out of a very dark hole and what kept me togheter, what make me feel life was more than just a dark and painful existence, I'm trying to heal, trying to hold on to that hope she gave me. This video helped me a lot as well to focus on what I have to now, thank you Jakubs
No problem, and it’s Jakub. A lot more coming about this topic, and I will make more videos about how to get over girls who let us down and leave us disappointed. I hope to see you in the comments again man.
I feel that with my 8 + relationship
Hold in there, fellow compatriot life does get better
My girlfriend broke up with me two days ago. This video helps thank you.
A year of the most passionate intensity I have ever felt. I had a 7 year relationship that ended a few years ago and it was only a fraction of what I felt with this 1 year relationship. Its been 4 days but It feels as if the world has halted, years have passed yet when I check the clock its been 20 minutes. We both continue on but I always wonder if she feels as sad as I do. She gets to hang out and play games while I have to continue working 12-13 hour days. I am absolutely destroyed but what are we to do other then acknowledging our mistakes and moving forward. We do not yield when faced with the cruelty of people of this world, we push forward with the divine by our side
Absolutely love that last quote.
I've been through my 8 + years, and I'm sure in time I will feel the same or find my relationship with myself to that or more
7 years. Long distance be damned. To bad what drove us appart was us coming together. Consider this, me letting go. I need this only once hopefully.
When I was 13( 2 years ago) I had e-dated this British girl who was 15-16 at the time. Eventually it escalated and we had e-sex. I thought it was to much and I ghosted her. Even though it was 2 years ago and I was much more immature my heart still hurts. I want to believe if we where tge same age and lived near each other it wouldn't have happened at all or became sometimes better. She could be considered my "first love", and even now as a totally different person 2 years later I still want her.
These are really getting me through lately Thanks for making them
Np
6:16 I need to listen to this the most
Thank you for this. Can't wait for more speeches, they help so much
More to come!
You have earned a new subscriber, and believer.
Joshua Graham make a game about an 15 year old with no parents that he takes under his wing and guides him to become the best version of himself
Well, after 8 + years of investment into a dream, I poured my heart and soul into
I realized after my innocent fall who was really there and by my side, the issue is that with my lenses of grey, I can see all all perspectives, and some are valid for survival
But I realized what I really needed and wanted in life, and my young childish dream of being the perfect partner is too self-sacrificial and too idealistic (I will add more to this post)
Thank you for this comment. Your perspective means a lot.
No shit girl broke up with me about 4 hours ago. A year and a half long and I don’t mean to get sentimental but I’ve never felt this type of pain before and I’m mortified. But, we prevail. And ill do my best to keep goin
I thank you
No problem
I wish to believe love is still real, yet everyday i am shown the opposite. Though i love her, she is not mine. May she be the last and everlast.
So cool
Do you write all these yourself? If so they are amazing, and you are very wise
Yes.
one problem i have with this
i think you focused a bit too much on the religious aspect of advice
while i know that joshua is indeed a very religious man, he does give good *practical* and concrete advice
maybe the next time you upload joshua graham's advice, you should keep that in mind
other than that its pretty good!
This is practical advice, just say the Lord’s Prayer whether you believe the words or not. God listens even to the unbelievers.
“Our father who art in heaven
Hallowed be thy name
Thy kingdom come, thy will be done
On earth as it is in heaven
Give us this day our daily bread
And forgive us of our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us
And lead us not into temptation
But deliver us from evil
Amen”
“Joshua graham feeds you the same crap you’ve heard all your life that still hasn’t solved anything.” Oh I’m sorry I meant “thank you for the advice josh, you’re right, I am worthy of love and a meaningful relationship.”
Okay but what if I am literally incapable of believing in the divine?
You don't need to. Your belief is irrelevant to the outcome as the result of your actions. Just as your belief or lack thereof in gravity does not change the fact if you drop something, it will fall.
I ruined my 5 year relationship for stupid shit and then lost a new relationship right after it sprouted honestly I been depressed but this helps a lot 😭