I was in a sexless marriage ft. Pallavi Barnwal
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 20 ก.ค. 2021
- In this video, certified sex coach, Pallavi Barnwal (@pallavibarnwal1) talks about :
→What role does sex play in a marriage?
→How sexless marriages are normalized?
→What are the disadvantages of a sexless marriage?
→How sex plays an important role in maintaining chemistry in a relationship?
→How parenting affects intimacy?
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My (ex) spouse was diagnosed with Vaginismus and possible case of Dyspareunia . Yes I know, it is treatable. But even after 2 years there was no sex. And moreover her attitude towards me and my family started changing. When suicidal thoughts started creeping into me and my sexual health started affecting, I took a stand and chose to leave. So, now I'm a 30 year old virgin divorcee. Talk about luck.
Edit: Divorced Now.
Bro tumne society,rishtedaro ka pressure kaise jhelte ho divorce hone ke baad, kuch rishtedar tumara majak banate hoge ki acha hua tumare sath aisa hua,is chiz ko tum kaise jhelte ho
@@akshaydogra8015 bro. Poori tharah divorce nahi hua. Just separated. Petition coming week sign hoga. But yeah I have faced mixture of both. Jinko humse jalan hai wo log keh rahe hai ki acha hua... Aur jo hume jaante hai wo keh rahe hai.. 2 saal seh chuke ho, good decision to end it. My advise grow a thick skin or cultivate a habit to be deaf when required.
@@AbhishekAshokmad17 👍👍
@Aditi Kumari Thank you for understanding.
@Aditi Kumari r u satisfied in ur life?
In India it's so tough to accept such hard truths of life... Communication is so important
I think it would be nice if you cover asexuality also with this.. There are asexual people getting married because of the pressure of society and end up in sexless marriage.. sometimes they don't even know asexuality is a thing.. especially when the male partner is the asexual person there is a chance it would be a sexless marriage and if the female is asexual there is chances for marital rapes or even having sex even though they don't want to do it but end up doing for the partner or even thinking normally females don't really enjoy sex..
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I am an asexual and I think if people are not aware of it and keep on pressuring asexual people to get married with a heterosexual person it can be a disaster.. Asexual people are the most confused ones in the spectrum.. especially in India were sex is a taboo.. they won't talk about it.. they will think everyone is just like that.. especially girls.. or if the boy is asexual he won't realise the sexual needs of his wife and even might blame her for that..
Stop blaming society.
If you don't have sexul needs then don't destroy life of another person by marrying him/her.
And marital rape is a myth. It's the duty of wife to satisfy sexual needs of husband or she can take divorce.
@@ultimate6243 Asexuality is not the cause of marital rapes.. and sex should be consensual otherwise it is rape..there is a chance that you don't want to do it at the moment.. but if you are sure you will never want to do it then of course you should leave the marriage..
sex in a relationship or marriage should be consensual.. it is not the license for doing anything..
@@annamaria1117 Sexual consent is a myth. Sex is not a contract. So Forget consent. Sexual consent is invention of west . It does not exist in nature.
It's the duty of husband and wife to fulfill sexual needs of each other.
Denying sex without valid reason is mental cruelty to spouse.
Marriage is a monogamous relationship. So wife has 100% responsibility of satisfying sexual neeeds of husband unless she has valid reason for denying sex.
Sex is not a option/Choice it's a duty.
@@ultimate6243 is it not the duty of the husband to satisfy his wife. And I agree, people should acknowledge this about themselves lest they destroy a hapless person's life. Divorce of matters of sex will create enormous difficulties in their lives.
The same towards the wife bud. Both of them are responsible to satisfy each other
You raised a very sensitive issue in a very decent manner. Thank you for bringing it up. 🙏
Wellness apko bhi yehi problem?
Yes
Dear women, He is not a sex toy. His body. His choice.
@@plutoneptune Tell this to women who always talk " She is not your sex toy.She has right to refuse sex" blah,blah 😅
@@plutoneptune But most of the time women are the ones who withhold sex. But I agree with your point.
@@plutoneptuneI don't like being with someone and meaningless relation but disagree with you because sex is the reason you were born and every other human.If there are someone willing to do in a good way it is not problem.Sex is a choice like marriage,kids and attitude it is vital for human civilisation.I like celibacy for another reason not for hardcore other people who do with a nonsensical reason.
@@plutoneptune I already avoided brotha im still single and don't care about being single but im not wrong because of your word which contains so mucho weight.If more people follow brahmcharya population will decline (which is not possible in rural areas mostly) then people will not left to follow brahmcharya.Brahmcharya should be followed only for lusty dirty fellows and who destroyed sex for humanity.Those who are in true love it is not for them.
most men and women stop sex after their children become teenagers.
When a marriage is forced, it’s possible they chose not to proceed physically because they lack that feel and feel uncomfortable. I think that should be mentioned and considered for awareness.
Forced marriage is illegal. Call police .
@@ultimate6243 yes, I mean sometimes due to family pressure and related aspects
@@harinigoud9468 Asking for marriage is not forced marriage.
Forced marriage means asking to marry a particular person.
Purpose of life is to survival of lineage. Through marriage parents wants to make sure the survival of their lineage. Or in layman's term parents wanted to become grand parents that's why they want to marry off their children.
@@ultimate6243 I get that but it still needs consent and freedom to choose the one you are probably expecting to spend the rest of the life. This will naturally create emotions and eliminate issues like that mentioned in this video to some extent.
@@harinigoud9468 yeah true harini, but you know na in India this arranged marriage things, it's really hard. That's why we should talk to the partner before getting into marriage about all the things, and how they are feeling. Because without feeling as you said it's really difficult to do anything after marriage
Now coming to think of it, I guess me and my husband are so lucky, cz we both have similar sex drive, he is extremely cuddly, craves my touch and has urges that are almost similar to mine. Yes it is very easy to patch up after fights, because he cannot bear distance, and we make out and things go back to love and cuddles. Sex also increases understanding. It helps us to know our partner so much better, makes us giving, and finding pleasure and happiness in our partner's pleasure. Seriously Sex plays such an important role in marriage!
Ask me about it , i have been living sexy less marriage for 19 years ! Still living under the same roof and doing all what I am supposed to do as a husband, dad! We don’t even sleep in the same room for the last many many years ! She still rules the home 🤪, so it’s not just men always …pl it’s for all genders !
@Hari - That sounds like you are unhappy…..Than You need to take her and sit and talk about it or if she’s not willing to make changes or you or whatever is the problem u need to work things out if nothing changes then things will just get worse so divorce is the answer.
men always get sex and orgasm in marriage, but for women it's very uncommon to recieve pleasure from marriage sex. Don't do whataboutism. You should communicate with your partner about it.
My parents marriage is also in a similar situation. So I think I am your son's age. Maybe even younger. But I sympathize with you. Do something for yourself. Tell her you're sad and WHY . Not only her. Go ahead and cry on your daughter's/son's shoulder about it and state the EXACT reason. Nobody else is gonna stand for you. You have all rights to cry out your sorrows to your kids. You've cared for them for so long afterall. And no, you're not pressing your wife . You're just venting your frustration in a healthy way to people who really care about you, your kids (only if they are more than 17 or 18 years, else it is gonna be really, you know..) tell your wife how worthless your life feels.she'll listen if she caress slightest bit. And if she doesn't, simply cry out, and not alone , but on a caring shoulder, maybe yo kids.
Doesn't matter, be happy
Hari Bharadwaj, try to talk to your wife about it. If she doesn't understand, then you have the option of seeking divorce.
Denying sex for a long time without a valid reason can be grounds for divorce as per Delhi High court which had granted divorce in one such case.
This video is encouraging people to share their problems. Wonderful work mam❣️👍👍
Mai 12 saal se sexless marriage me hu
Thank you! Your candid comment on this issue is most "hit home" subject. Perhaps that is why divorce or separation is so common here in the U S So frustrating for alot of us!
you have raised a very important issue as people pretend that it is not important but actually they lie with themselves and know internally that how much it is important..
In laws ruins relationship and husband keeps taking their sides especially, of mother, but men realizes too late that this is what has affected their marriage. It's not sex it's everything that happens after marriage affects marriage and of course sexual life. Mother in laws thinks that their son should keep sitting with them all the time and go to his room only for few hours to sleep. When you yourself have a toxic mother who controls even your life and wants on name of being a mother then the relationship is dead. It hasn't even picked up.
Right there are too many things
Very true. Mother-in-law they ruin everything.
Perfect
The in-law theory generalized from women's perspective is true in cases of many men also whose married life is marred by their wives' over the board concern and engagement with parents or children rather than husbands. Such cases often end up in infidelity too.
I dont know why i am crying while reading this comment... I think i am suffering from all these situation. I have been married just for 6 months and already loosing interest in every thing. I was so talkative, so cheerful, and now i dont want to talk or meet anyone, not even family member, Loosing all my self esteem, youth everything. Feeling like trap in a cage.
A very initiative talk on the serious topic where men n society feel its normal but a lady knows what is she going through when her marriage is sex less...She has everything but not her partner...d joy of been togetherness is missing..There is much more she is missing but she always puts a smile on her face to hid all her sadness. I really appreciate the topic you come upon to discuss n spark those thoughts in our mind...
Thank you...
People move away from people when they're not happy with you, be a giver then taker once you give happiness your partner will find ways to give it back to you, think isn't same you want from him.
Well said 👌
The same can true for a man too...
What happened when situation is opposite...when woman is completely avoid to intimate with her partner....
Accept challenges and changes, have some friends, go on tour, have some hobby and your life will be colorful.
Its a topic which has many branches.. Actually, I came across a couple who never had sex in past 35 years.. At first it was shocking to even believe it.. but later that uncle told me that his wife came in touch with some spiritual guru who suggested her to stay away from sex for better future.. since then she has deprived him from sex.. he tried searching relationship outside marriage, but his wife got very furious and tried committing suicide. After hearing this I got so shocked.. matlab khud bhi theek se jeeyegi nahi aur pati ko bhi jeene nahi degi.. Uff.. insaane kare toh kya kare.. 🙂
Suicide karu dyayla pahije hoti uncle ne 😂😂😂swata nahi karaych n navryala pn nahi karu dyaych asha ni lagnch nahi karayala pahije
@@dr.kirandixit7456 True.. Some women I think are cruel to their respective husbands..
@@varshakshirsagar7131 varsha aap to thik ho?
@@dr.kirandixit7456 kiran aap thik ho
Men also have issues n trouble wives to be into the marriage relationship
Thanks for the wonderful testimony 👍 inspired by your video 🌹🙏 agreed to what all you have shared. I have suffered with this in my marriage. We all need to understand the value of marriage. Thanks Pallavi jee ❤️
The social Bhai tujhe bhi problem uff
Marriage is a defunct institution. 💔 Stay single stay happy.
@Log To Khenge yarr Ours is a singles group and all are 40+. 😊
Nope.
@@NylonStrings83 You have the right to your opinion.
Can i join your group
Shut up idiet . Are you born from your father ? 😂
1. Nope, not recommended to a have post-fight make-up love making as, the only trigger for love-making would then be fight and lead to a toxic relationship.
2. Intimacy not necessarily means sex, sex can be subset (one of the ways) of intimacy and not the only way.
3. Undoubtedly agree with its important to have an open conversation about sex in society and especially in a couple.
Thanks for providing a perspective.
Atleast someone here sees the post fight makeout as problematic. Does the makeout really solve the problem? Not at all. Infact one will feel even more hurted when they fight on the same thing again tomorrow.
Not everyone think marriage = sex
So many people may don't want sex ..
That should be talked before marriage
Contract marriages also good for things like that and finance etc ..
Every people know marriage = Sex = Children
You can't unilaterally change the definition of marriage.
Conjugal rights Is an important part of all marriage laws in the world.
@@ultimate6243 lol , you are always defaming Hinduism illiterate noob .
And marriage isn't just about sex, amd children ok
@@Bharatiya12321 The main reason of marriage is the survival of lineage.
@@ultimate6243 lol 😂 I am sure you are a noob just watch Acharya Prashant's view about marriage ( he's more good and true follower of Hinduism than you ) .
And point to be noted - he is a man with good thoughts .
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This is the link about marriage by Acharya Prashant .
Hope you may get some brain and if you wish please understand his thoughts and don't take & spread shit from this illiterate , bullshit society 🙏.
@@Bharatiya12321 Acharya Prashant is not an expert on Hindu Dharma. He is a self style Guru.
In hindu marriage bride and groom take saat-phera/Seven round. And the 5th phera is about wish of children from God.
So Hindu marriage rituals also say marriage is about children.
Read about saat-phera in wikipedia. I have given the link below..
Link--en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Saat_phere
Marrying a physically or mentally incompatible partner is a surefire way to unhappiness, either on the sexual front or otherwise. Perhaps it's better to sort these things out prior to marriage rather than struggling afterwards. But that off course requires a certain level of honesty and openness that may not be everyone's cup of tea.
Glad that someone is talking about it so openly and bringing such issues in the society.
after couple give birth to child and became parents they give their first priority to children and then they look to their own needs
But ma'am in our indian culture and society maximum marriages are sexless because of lots of reason like career, domestic violence and different views. 😭
Sahi bola bhai
after couple give birth to child and became parents they give their first priority to children and then they look to their own needs.
Who says that? Sex is very imp.
Without sex , how female pregnent?
I am married for 5 yrs ..... My husband has a problem so we did not have sex till now.....he tried to cure but it went worse and the distance between us has gone to extent ....... Now we have planned for a divorce 👍👍 ......
@Kartik India yaa seperated.....it's not about sex but it's about the differences which start becoz of it and end on it......many ppl say without it we can live but out of it u have frustrated mind irritated situations etc which many handle it and many destroy it........so my situation tooo did not support me
@@nilus2286 unhe kya problem thi ma'am. Mai sirf jaankari k liye pooch raha hun. Darasal mujhe bhi erectile dysfunction hai aur mai iska ilaaj krana chahta hoon.
@@nilus2286 ohh so sad nilu ji i hope abb sab thik chal raha hoga apki life me.but agar problem hai to I can solve it
@Aman Ahmad Kyu Nikah krna hai kya apko?
@@abhinavbodybuilderanonymous what is going now..??
Mutual admiration is the key for a successful marriage life. The guy or girl should be rational in making own decisions without parents interference. In few months/weeks after marriage, physical admiration goes off. Mental admiration is the key for life long successful marriage life and both spouses should work towards it. It's not one way. It's applicable for both sexes.
Very nicely explained! 👍👍❤️
My goodness I'm an asexual 🌈🏳️🌈 and I'm pretty terrified of being married but I wanna adopt my kids,and being in a manipulative Toxic family and as my parents are separated I know how it feels having no parent or only one parent...I wanna get married for my children and also to support my partner too...but as asexuality is quite rare I'm terrified that after some time my partner might get tired of the relationship...let's see if this video will help me...
Hope you find an asexual partner.
I am also an Asexual and I also thought this was about it.. but this is not about it..
Hope, u found someone who excepts as u r and also support u.
I too have a toxic family but everytime I try to portray this through my behavior my family members say we raised and fed you. Those you consider as good people will never do so. Did you ever face this? How do you reply to this?
@@dikshadhir94 I am demisexual (which people consider partially asexual)
Sexless marriage is quite normal as long as both chooses it to be. After years of sex why not give it a rest. It is like your job one day you will retire. Sex may not be the priority if you both have other more important things in life to do.
Like our stomach needs food. Sexual need is also similar you need it time to time. To fuel the fire 🔥 you cannot run with an empty gas tank bro.
Then why even bother getting married
@@beastmotozYou are comparing like this seriously. Without food we will die but with out sex we will not die . If you can't control it then , that's different matter . But those PPL who can control it they don't need sex . Take divorce and live happily. Don't need to blame other person .
@@deepadutta6751Exactly
Yes very nicely explained, this is one of true bitter of life ..
Very well explained 👍
I am very happy that you have ventured to talk on a forbidden topic breaking the shackles imposed by society especially Indian society. I understand the pain of any partner who is trapped in a sexless marriage. I also suffered because I was trapped in one such marriage. I had to suffer in silence because sex was a taboo subject for the people of our generation. Hopefully people no longer have to suffer thanks to the efforts of courageous people like you.
Right mam
Yes
Mam aap mujsa bat Karo GE kya bolo
I feel bad for old genration really but nowdays thing change especially new generation who grow in Internet 4g in nxt 10 yrs thing will better i guess
में 24 साल से इस दौर से गुजर रहा हूं जी
Nice topic and nicely explained....its a reality these days.
Thanks for sharing this thoughtful issue. I hope you will cover the required labels.
How can you be contacted
What ever you are saying makes lot of sense but in practical it is totally different.
I am in a sexless marriage. We are together just for our kid. Thanks for bringinv this up.
Do you get any solution?
Me too , even I m living sexless marriage only because of kids . Thanks for sharing this video
@@glitteringstars8879 me too
But why..??
@@bepositivealways...9521 i don’t know 🤷♀️ he has no interest in me .he sleeps in his bedroom and I sleep in my bedroom with my two kids
I hate him he spoil my life.
reality is sexually abused and traumatic victims in their past starts being asexual which indirectly affects the relationship🤐
Always no I don't think phir Mai ye bhi bol sakti hu men have many relations whether it is 5 or more than but they became asexual with this and if a men wants intimate life with a women then that women should be ready for it, if she is unhappy related to it then don't pressurize her and enjoy marriage without intimacy
Great video!!!
Thank you for talking about this issue.
Also please make a video on asexuality. We seldom talk about asexuality and we need to spread awareness about this orientation.
Namrata ji apki life to thik hai na. I hope ur future will be better
R u suffering from that..??
Wow.. very beautifully you explain this difficult topic which needs to be discussed....
You are looking beautiful
@@rajeshbhargav5668 thank you..but that's not topic here..
@@missanynomous2892 am not talking about topic... Am talking about you.....
@@rajeshbhargav5668 yup that's what I mean.. I am not the topic here..🤣🤣🤣🤣
No doubt you are extremely beautiful ,if you can't use your beauty in proper time ,you are totally waist ,when there is fire ,use it for cooking ,if not it is a national waste ,I Know you are angry on me ,but hold it for some time ,then you will be really realized it ,by the time you realized it , it will be too late , I do hope what I mean to say .
In my opinion, First we have to change how we view sex. It's not only sensual pleasure or mean to have a offspring. Being intimate means being close with that significant one to the deeper level to our soul and body. Being intimate means we ready to show who we are at our core, to show our vulnerability , to feel that comfort and safety. Sex should not be a taboo.
perfect...
I really wish if this video could have come up years back,, then i would have definitely taken a step right then years ago.... Where even i was in a sexless marriage for more then 7 year's n now finally after so much emotional pain m getting divorced... This video is just so resonate with me... As if it's describing word by words abt me n my sexless marriage !!! Yes... I do agree.. sex does plays an important role in building that bond between the life partners ❤️
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Are you not In a relationship now??? If Sooo why don't you move with ONS???
You have done a great job!! In a relationship, one person may be little prone to sex and other may be more tilted to emotional connection...Both are cool...Partners should openly discuss with each other about what they need and how they are gonna proceed in a relationship...Consent, respect for the other and what makes happy to both the partners ...these things are important!
I also have the same story, my partner never wants to talk about it and I am eager for sex.
@@teslatestingwala5019 आप डॉक्टर हो
Thank you very much for a great video on the topic.
Love from Africa!
I'm a yoga instructor,
I appreciate you
Keep it up
Sexless marriages are like a hanging ball with think thread. They can snap away at anytime. Sex rejuvenates passion and reinforces a relationship between a husband & a wife.
I feel emotional bond is more important as asexuals or even others can't always have a sexy or intimate relationship all the time and all this should be discussed within the couple's that how they think about their opinions on marriage and other things involved and if someone fears of being judged and they are committed as well then for sure they have a fresh start with even each other like they can work on their relationship and start their journey from being a friend to partner . and with the parenting the privacy is taken away and if it is a thing then either don't have them or send them to boarding school or something but here's also a thing that kids also want some moments with their parents so as family grows the responsibilities grow and if they have a strong emotional and mental bond they won't feel sex as need but rather an accessory for their relation.
Ya agreed emotional bonding in a relationship is more important than sex
You can't diminish the role of sex in a marriage. In many cases in india both partners are not compatible but still the marriage dosn't end . People remain in a bad marriage due to social stigma.
That depends! There should be a balance between both...one person may be little prone to sex and other may a more tilted to emotional connection...Both are cool...Partners should openly discuss with each other about what they need and how they are gonna proceed in a relationship...Consent, respect for the other and what makes happy to both the partners ...these things are important
Still sex is important for so many people ..not everyone is asexual ...sex plays a really big role in so many relationships ..you can't expect people to stop having sex or liking sex exactly same as you can't expect an asexual to start liking sex because you want ...so please I know it is difficult in our country but still try to be honest before marriage about your sexuality or else you are gonna end up being hurt and hurting others too
Only sex is not reson Therw should be caring sharing and true love which is more important sex will.follow
Remember the first time together and reset your mind.
Reset hone lge to bs,.
Huh?
What if partner considers you only a sex object n thinks shaadi sirf sex k liye hoti hai n ders no emotional connection no affecttion no warmth n if u try to tell him he says toh jao kisi aur se le lo affection... Wt if he doesn't want to understand tht emotional needs are to b fulfilled too... Can u sleep with a stranger... It's like tht only wen ders no emotional bonding... Emotions are more important n very much needed for intimacy
Totally agree
Interesting 🙄
So it's true that Girls love increases when they have an emotional connection with their husband
And guy's love increases when they both have sex🤔
Girls rely on emotional connection
Guys rely on Physical connection👍
In love marriage emotions present in couple I think
@@thebondvillain4920 guys thinking sucks
Totally agree
Very informative. We don't discuss this publicly or privately also. I'm not married but several couples must have been gone through sexless phase. They must watch this.
We have only one life & no one have to suppress there feelings if you are not happy in your marriage then just move on and should have loveable life partner. There are many people in this world who wants the same thing we want. I have gone through all this situation very pathetically & now am too much happy with the partner like I always wanted. My family is also very very narrow minded but If you can’t stand for yourself then no one will stand for you!!!
Hiii
Priyanka ji apko dekh kr acha laga ki abb aap apni life me khush ho
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Very eye opening narration
This is very good topics discussed here!! after every fight, couple should leave their ego aside and do some love making..
This is possible 100 percent when you will marry your loved one ..if marriage because of family pressure or social pressure this will never come
@@TT-qv5bt yeah, than my space card is played.
true
@@TT-qv5btbut asexual thing is not due to family pressure....it's phychology... That person doens't like or need sexual pleasure..... Such time of people should only marry that kind of asexual partners...
This is a very important & sensitive topic. Even I was in a sexless marriage for 2 yrs & excately the same even I use to feel like I am stay with a room mate. I never got the feeling so a husband that security, love & faith in him.
Same to me I am also facing this problem my husband have erectile dysfunction deasese last 6 yrs we don't have any physical relationship only 2 months we have normal relationship
@@Shinoeditzoffical hi dear
Shilajit , purnchandra ras doo
@@Shinoeditzoffical Tinder use karlo bhabi
Same here
Pallavi jee you are absolutely right, God Bless You Amen.
Beautifully explained 👍
Nicely discussed in a very decent way. Sex is very important in conjugal life. But sometimes there are serious reasons, when couples want to avoid pregnancy. If one of the partner is a carrier of genetic disease, or if the wife suffers from weak heart or severe diabetes, it is only natural to undergo birthcontrol measures. But in our society, childlessness is considered always a
curse and a shortcoming or defect of the wife.
The real love stems from sex but eventually surpasses it in a beautiful way.
Beautiful observation.
Thank You So Much Doctor for Your Kind & Informative Advice! 🌷🌿
I cry everytime thinking about what will happen to me in future as I'm an asexual.I don't know if i'll find someone who truly loves me.
true love doesn't exist. a man might say he loves you truly .. but true love is a construct , whereas sexual attraction isn't. Sorry. U might get a asexual partner but love without sex is like food without salt.
no worry mate, there are many roaming like you. you just need to find right one just like you.
Raise a pet. If you want romantic relationship, then it's not going to happen without sex.
@@frustratedpanda212Who says to you???
Thanks for sharing awareness 🙏
Hi Meenakshi
Hats off to u Maam what a grt topic u just raised n explained it so beautifully in such simple words this kind of videos r must for todays society were couples r getting divorced every now n then
I wish I saw this video 8 years ago… Better late than never… Most important to mention about the partner who wants love, bonding time n intimacy, How their mental health gets affected…
Amrita ji abb apki life sahi chal rahi hai i hope achi rahe
@@Naam_name ma'am aap bhi to harr jagah rehti ho but sorry kya karu mere mobile pe or kuch aata hi nahi bas aisi, hi videos aati hai or jab bhi yt chalata hu to aisi hi videos dekhne ko milti hai sorry ma'am agar apko bura laga to
@@Naam_name wese aap ye bata sakti ho aapne mujhe pehle kaha dekha?
my husband is a doctor and he comes home kind of 3/4 days after. We live in another country, without our families. I spend 72+ hours all alone except for going for grocery. I don't have any single friends here either. And when he come home for hardly 7/8 hours, he want sex. No time spending,nothing,just sex. I now dont feel any urge,i hate sex now. N refuse him over n over again.
Communication with your partner is the key to resolving this.
Iffat i think he is so cruel I hope ur future will be better
Iffat mere paas 3-4 ideas hai try karogi?
@@Ghanshyamtiwari19 aah no thanks,i'm happy myself!
@@iffat3547 oh dear I can feel u emotions trust me i want to see u happy. I m feeling very bad for u.plz dear talk with me i can't see u in this situation.bcoz Allah say agar iss duniya me koi bhi dukhi hai to tumhe khush rehne ka adhikaar nahi. Plz dear doctor sahab ko apke saath aisa nahi krna chahiye unko apki feelings samajhni chahiye.
Very important topic u covered 👍👍👍👌
Thank you for this video. I have a close friend who is going through this and is afraid the marriage won’t last because of this.
Actually the title should be - feminists and sexless marriages
People should marry for companionship not for exclusive sex rights. If two people not getting along well sex can't save the relationship. 15min can't cover 23h45m.
HOW CAN a marriage survive without a sex?
@@gyadre sex is by product of companionship shouldn't be the moto, marriage just to reproduce is irrelevant today.
@@hey8958 Do you really think that marriage will last without a SEX?
@@gyadre even if they do sex frequently but it isn't that grt for one partner or other. What to do!!? If your main course is grt you can adjust with side items like sex.
@@hey8958 Will you put up with a spouse who denied you sex since getting married?
Nice Information🙏🏻🙏🏻
Excellent explanation. keep it up
Consenual sex should happen in marriage (or even before marriage). Know if that person is asexual or not, so you dont blame the person later. You cannot force a person for intimacy. Couples should go for pre-marital counselling.
Sexual consent is a myth. Sexual consent is an invention of western feminist. Sexual consent doesn't exist in nature. It doesn't exist in primates and other mammals. You can't impose western idea of sex on Indian people. Let Indian people decide about thier sexual ethics.
In case of marriage Sex is not a choice/option. It's a matrimonial duty to other spouse. Denying sex without valid reason is mental cruelty to other spouse.
Agree with you.. Knowing about partner and consent is important..
@@ultimate6243 i don't think you should watch a channel just to oppose it's views
@@ultimate6243 you may have your views and we respect it
But plzz make your choice not a stereotypical decision for everyone
Everyone have different choices. For some sexless marriage is a good option but for someone sex is necessary you can make a choice for yourself but not a decision for other
Just live by your own choices and even let others live by there own 😊
@@ultimate6243 I know I will get hate for this, but I guess you're a muslim?
Appreciate your efforts to over come sexless life helping assisting couples with your experience and beautiful counseling 💕💋💋 take care wish you happiness success
Very nice way to explain
Thank you!
Please do not Mislead. If a parter does not desire for sex he/shebmight be having some physical issue...
I have seen people who have great intimasy with their partners they still go out and do extra marital affairs.
Love and lust are two different things. In past people used to practice celibacy. That does not make them depressed or deprived. Sex is important but its not that you cant live with it.
Those People also survive whom partners die in any incident.
Emotional connect and sexual intimacy are two differnt things.
Mutual understanding and understanding your partners physical discomfort is actual love.
Agreed
You have also sexless marrige
And me too...
Actually my wife have some problems so I also............😥😥
Hiiii payal
Make a video on asexuality what , how try covering every possible aspect of it
Would like to know about it
Nice ❤️
Diksha ji iska to ek hi solution hai
बहुत ही अच्छा और ज्ञानवर्धक वीडियो जी
Kudos sister for bringing up a very relevant and topical issue that is brushed under the carpet, especially in India.
I'm stunned to know about this .. i never think about this before🤷🏼♀️
Why so what
What ever you explained in this message I from my heart believe that it is 100% true and I am passing this phase most of time in my life
Madam I want your mobile no please
Same here
All your points are Very true. Though I m senior person but past so many years past like that, lack of interest or partner hatered female partner, nothing wrong from my side As It was always excited for it. Each and every point you said is true, Thanks very true explanation
Nice point.
i cannot live without sex.feelings and sex are most important things😘🎑
Same🥳
Tamseela acha
It’s a very beautiful topic you discussed . Indian society is still based on forced opinions and believes upon children by the parents . SEX is considered as LUST by our dharma gurus and religion . Extra marital affairs are considered bad but nobody tries to know why it developed . If we have supporting parents and relatives such HELL of sexless marriages can be resolved in any society .
Good information 🙏
Beautifully explained
Zeenath abb to apki life me sab thik hai na koi problem na ho apko Allah bless u
U really explained well.... this is a very big thing a healthy n successful marriage needs everything...... emotional distance increase when marriage is sexless....there is nothing left no love no emotions n no chemistry......it's just same as if any other family member is sitting next to u while watching TV or doing other works ......the problem is when a wife talks about this....it doesn't create any effect on her husband....this result depression n then emotional divorce...
Hiii mam
Hi puja
No. Wrong. Sex is never necessary.
What's going on in your life now..??
True
Mam thank you for this lovely video and councling.
This would help md for my futurr life with my Fiancé whom about to be my wife soon enough.
Would share her this video.
Thank you mam
U just explained each and everything i feel and needs.
Thank you so much. Learn from this lady everyone ... learn !
How respectfully highlighted this sensitive topic, appreciated
Exactly..
It's better to express one's own human orientation with their partner before marriage (No one knows other than themselves)rather than being in uninterested marriage life/toxic relationship.
True i am unmarried but i am also confused on the topic of sex. Sometimes i think i am asexual but i want a deep soul connection first with my partner. I dont know why i am in search of my soulmate which i dont think i will meet at all as i havnt met him yet. Things don't place well so much so that marriage can take place. I dont know what i want. Do i even want to get married or not! Or is it just in my imagination because i am single and i dnt really incline for physical needs. Rather i crave a strong connection and supportive and understanding partner. Then i think some kind of intimacy can be there. I can not get physical with like anybody. I am in a search of that someone special and i dont know what will happen if i dont find one.
Get a feminist male partner for yourself. Yours every worries will come into an end.
You have also sexless marrige
And me too...
Actually my wife have some problems so I also............😥😥
Hiiii
Remember one thing guys Need a lot of sex if u don’t give it properly it may end up badly
Tannu khayali pulao
very best infomation
I will keep listening again and again
Shortest horror story - I married
You have completely lost in the river of lust because you don't know the true love ...I personally know thousands of couple who are enjoying their marriage life without sext/lust with true love ....you don't need sex for understanding your partner but you need sex to satisfy your lust feelings... Lust is a vice (विकार) but one thing everyone needs to understand that you want physical relationship after marriage or not ..it should be clear in your mind. Please discuss everything with each other before marriage... Otherwise it may distroy your life. I am not against sex but what I am saying is that you don't need sex to understand your partner ...it just about pure unconditional love, respect and understanding ...that makes happy family
Very true
You know what people like you are rare in this world God bless you
Yea some what true but it better not to be in relationship in such case my openion
Yaaa...if we are doing it privacy is the most important thing needed,,if our kids notices it then it will be more than like a horror film. For them....it will make their mind fully depressed I am sure....
Very Nice Video.
Great video
This is so good but can you please cover what should asexual people do in marriages as we want partnership, emotional attachment but not sex? It would be of great help as people usually don't understand asexuality...
So true
See if an a sexual person finds an asexual partner then it would be otherwise the other person could cheat or ask permission to do sex outside marriave or take divorce ....because a sexual partner would not live without a sexual partner...this is a fact ..no matter how much the other person loves him/her ...
Asexuals should find asexuals. Allosexuals should be avoided at all cost cuz you both will have different perspective on love. Don't try to dictate any relationship by your personal standards.
Be open about it with future partner before getting married. Nobody is obligated to adopt his/her life according to your sexual orientation if they are not compatible with it.
Sexless marriage is not that normal.Now marriage out of sex is normal
its your experiance you can mot generalise
It can happen after few years also. Maybe 3-4 years.
Sorry I mean Sex out of Marriage 😆
Sexless marraige is normal but people who think sex is always important made it abnormal,sorry people who don't like sex,and love without sex Exists
@@Tamil_Atheist2023 After marriage love without sex?Something not right.. I don't mean daily sex.You mean there are marriages and both love each other but no sex in two weeks or in a Month or atleast once in a year in youth.For kid they have to do atleast one time😁??I doubt there is any love(for both people) when they don't have sex anytime..
Best indian topic to continue disscuss our society to solve hidden family problem..thank you madam 😊😊😊😊😊
Very nicely expressed by Pallavi about sexless life and its demerits clearly. Supurb.
Really nicely explained, thank you
Very nice ❤️
Hiii mam
Hi Supriya
Very important aspect of a married life!!! Thanks for bringing this topic.
Yes mam
What's going on in your married life..??
Well said
All demerits were expressed about sexless marriage. Too good.