She is the mother-in-law we might get in the parallel universe. Great story. Seems like older days are back when life tak stories used to make me reflect on things differently.
Why does everything has to be circled back to mother in law? These days a lot of Mother in laws I see are supportive and accepting. Any relationship requires hard work and communication. The girl must have communicated this to the boy ahead time.
FOR YOUR KIND INFORMATION, MY MOTHER WAS A PERFECT MOTHER-IN-LAW. BUT SHE WAS BLAMED & CRITICIZED UNNECESSARILY ALONG WITH ME, JUST AT THE BEHEST OF "HER" FAMILY. AND THE FINAL RESULT WAS OBVIOUS LOL
@@vgk-u1q IF THE GIRL'S INTENTIONS INCLUDING HER SO-CALLED FAMILY ARE NOT RIGHT FROM THE VERY BEGINNING, THEN NOTHING CAN HAPPEN. END RESULT WILL ALWAYS BE CHAOTIC
@@sr99979 why are you shouting? I think 200 other people have spotted the joke in this comment. Also, there is no fault with becoming a good mother-in-law, in fact, being a good mother-in-law is the norm. But, what majority of Indian women face is much different from how Life tak videos portray in-laws to be. I think that's just my opinion. It doesn't need to align with your opinion of in-laws. Rahi baat about your mother, I am sure she is the best person your partner or your bhabi/ jijaji have met in their lives.
Top reason for lack of intimacy in marriage are: 1.lack of trust and support in partners 2.too much fights and differences 3.passive aggressive partners mocking ,body shaming and humiliating before inlaws and friends 4. Lack of boundaries 5.health issues specially related to reproductive organ 6. Fear of pregnancy 7. Depression 8.extramarital affairs 9. Traumatic past 10. Hormonal imbalance and diseases But solution is Kindness love respect trust and understanding each other
My mom used to fear from touch...she was in fear , ki kya hoga mera shaadi ke baad...but,my dad is so understandable that he never misbehaved or touched my mom without her "yes"...My father knew , "that my mother is in fear for touch", so,he gave time to my mom to understand and adjust ....thanks my dad for this!
Even I had fear of intimacy even after love marriage it took 3 beautiful years of my initial married life we were best friends he understood me so much he waited for me he guarded me he gave me counseling own his own and now its 13 year of marriage and 2 beautiful kids life becomes easy when u have a good partner
A rare family with such an understanding between all its members. Proper Counselling, openness, and mutual love can move mountains and overcome all traumatic happenings of life. Life Tak is always ahead in taking burning issues. Keep it up!
It's good. But let's think in a vishals point of view. She should have discussed all these things before marriage na ?? If he is not someone who accepts her, then both of their life is ruined. Everyone has their own preferences. We should respect it.
I have a question: I would like to know your opinion if you are comfortable. Do girls generally prefer beards or a clean-shaven look, or does it vary from person to person?
I also been with this trauma but with understanding partner, I overcome from this trauma with time. Thanks to my husband for all time, patience n support
But understanding partner doesn't mean that (if wife always say No for sex ) si husband also live in a sexless marriage and husband live without sex after marriage this is not called understanding and understanding husband and wife also supposed to be understood and Keep her husband Sexually Satisfied and wife have sime Sexually problem then she supposed to tell that problems to her husband and wife should solve her problem and do sex with her husband .
I am glad that you posted this story. I am sure many women go trough the same trauma as they are not comfortable to share with their spouses or In-laws. I had similar problem. The difference is I told my husband before marriage that I need time to become comfortable with him. And he was very understanding and patient to let me decide according to my will. Hope this reaches many.
@@ayushimishra1912 this is bare minimum girl Partners should be understanding towards each other That's what makes a relationship Nobody is lucky here
@padmajaracherla4684 Sister , when I was married, as per my nature ,,I was very spontaneous, responsive, appealing, attractive wife and my husband always seems not interested in anything. His office n work n friends were more important to him. I was super excited and always in good mood to talk to him, to respond him, he was always fearful for even touch. My good response was also problem for him, he left me after marriage giving reasons , many ediotc reasons , and our divorce took place
@@Soumyameghani It's astnoishing how girls expect too much from men these days. "It's bare minimum", what? No, it's not. It's a wife responsibility to sexyally please her husband, in which if she fails, he may go outside to seek the love he deserves. Women have got way too much rights these days.
Nirupama ji....the epitome of a perfect mother in law...how can someone portray all the characters so flawlessly or enact with such ease.....let me tell you that you fit into any role without much effort....aapki jithni thareef ki jaaye kamm hai...nirupama ji you are becoming a role model for many out there....stay blessed mam...saksham and anshika superb job guys....more good things to come your way...this is just the beginning...both of you have gelled up with team life tak so easily and in no time....anshika are you the content writer...if yes then pls mark my words you are going to make really big one day... marvellously written and miraculously executed...stay blessed team life tak...next episode ke liye ek aur haftha wait nai karr payenge... why don't you guys work on releasing a video daily...or maybe a bit more lengthier story....or may be some interesting and informative seasons...
My wife is another great mother in law. Very soft and understanding. My new daughter in law, a very immature girl married at the age of 21was dealt with finesse by my wife so much so that she ( DIL) now seeks all her advice from my wife especially after her own mother died during covid.
Great moms raise great sons. I always see this. Women who are kind and not bitter always raise sons to be responsible and respectful of people and even animals. They make excellent husbands too.
A long-term study published in India in the 1990s, revealed horrific results: 60% of girls and 40% of boys are sexually molested in their pre-teen or teen years. Most of the time, the perpetrator is known to them: a "trusted" and older family member or family friend, a neighbor -- a person of authority who usually intimidates the child. In case of girls, the abuse continues over the years, with the abuser threatening the young woman that if she ever told anyone, he would "expose her" by telling everyone that SHE SEDUCED HIM. 😡 Often the family does not believe her or covers it up --- after all it is a matter of खानदान की इज्ज़त! The betrayal is worse than the abuse, which was traumatic enough. But her own family disbelieving her leaves lasting scars.😢
It was the data of 1990 I hope ab cheeje behatar ho. One more thing is that almost 75% r@pist of this country comes from a very peaceful community and this data was shared by a female lawyer of supreme court whi herself used to belong that community.
Women should Inform her husband that she is a damaged piece before marriage. We men are not marrying to fix ur traumas. That's cheating. What if ur daughter marries a man and found out he is Gay or he has erectile disfuntion??.
@@ishanb.pradhan3800 what about man,who really cheat his wife,inside cheating wife and outside the others. Everyone has opinion @ rights to say . Actually,in this so called social media era, people r habituated to use slang wor ds,bad comments to the others. This is trend to tell the others slang words,bad comments.Mom should be abolished from this world.No more girl no more mom in the world.
@@ishanb.pradhan3800 at least one good logical comment found on this video, everyone just off track not realizing it's her problem so she should tell these things before marriage, she knows exactly after marriage sex should happen still she was ruining his life even after he's doing everything good for her.
She's in a terrible situation. This topics need to be brought up, it's not the girl's fault 😒😤🙄😪🤧if she was sexualy assaulted. It's the creep 😐😡 who did this 😳😐to her fault. Thanks for your English subtitles. Respect and love from South Africa 🇿🇦❤️🙏
I might not relate to this but whenever I face any problem, any short-term depression, I feel like I cannot share it with everyone nor do I want to. For me, everyone is fake, no one is genuine not even my parents. Yes, I don't trust my own parents. Sometimes I feel like, am I adopted but quickly remove those thoughts because my face is a perfect mixture of both my parents so I am their biological child. I shared my weak points with 3-4 people and seems like they did care for me at that time but later whenever they see my sad face, they forget all of it. Even I prefer to hide my tears and sad face with a fake smile and cheerful face which I was until I was 8 years old. Things started changing from then. I faced and still I am facing a lot since then. I am 11+ and turning 12 towards the end of September. ❤
This is a beautiful video. Childhood nightmares like these or molestations scar you for life and at times may even cause way serious problems like anxiety and may end up girl having issues like vaginismus. It's unexplainable. Only women who go through this can feel it. It does help when you seek help from a therapist. However it's a long journey ahead but if your partner is understanding then life becomes easier. 😊
Intimacy is such a beautiful thing to experience, it's God gifted in all genders, the pleasure. However, I feel sad when I hear stories where people aren't able to feel these because of traumatic past. People who assault sexually not just do that but snatch away this right to feel intimacy as well. Beautiful things are so delicate in this world, sad. But we need to understand each other. Kindly stop assaulting. If you feel you are going through such tendencies go see a therapist or recieve help instead of ruining someone's life.
Bahot hi achha hai. Very well executed and written. Sirf ek jagah galat hai, wo ye ki jis tarah ladke ko maafi maangte dikhaaya gaya hai. Agar ladki apne mata pita ko mana nahi kar paai to isme ladke ki kya galati? Ye to aisa hua ki ladki apne ghar waalon ke dar se, samaj ke darse kuchh bhi bol nahi paai aur ladke se shaadi bhi Karli. Lekin haan ladki apni galati maanti hai ye sahi hai. Aur ladke ka ye initiative ki wo apni wife ko therapist ke paas le jaayega wo bahot hi achha hai. Suggestion ye hai ki isme ye addition krna tha ki jo bhi ho ek baar himmat ker ke bata dena chaahiye fir wo chaahe ladke ke saath hua ho ya ladki ke saath.
It is indeed best to speak about traumatic situations like this. It's not easy to speak but it can help you heal and move on knowing you were never at fault.
I was crying at my heartiest...after watching this video.... thank u so much...at least I could see in my eyes such a vedio...so beautiful.... I do not imagine in my bad destiny to happen and get such a good truth...but at least I could watch it...hope to get and be married to a family like this.... I am left raped several times...in fact many times...and then left pregnant with refused to marry... I and my family begged several times for marriage but my boyfriend's family refused to marry...and they even refused their son's rape case...they even refused to give birth to child... I had no other option ....but to take abortion....hope my aborted child stays in peace ... I love you my child.... I could not give birth but I am always with every mother...to bear their pain ...hope no girl goes through this pain... May every mother be a success one...May I continue to serve God...may my child be in peace....thank u... please pray for my child...that he /she be in peace
Most common reason for lack of intimacy is absence of friendship that includes respect. Liking is important but it is a flimsy emotion to rely on, it comes with a bang and quickly tapers off and ends. Aside from that, trauma and regular fights (leading to mutual distrust and less free flow and more of critique thinking). Cant' get intimate with a stranger or an enemy and live under the same roof, which is why hook up is rising since you only have to tolerate the other for a few hrs in your lifetime, that too only to fulfill this emotion, sad
@@anshikawasthi Yes Ma'am, it was so so genuine and subtle that at some point of time it actually feels like a daily home to home conversation which we had generally and not something which people portray with overacting. Excellent work ma'am
i loved the fact that how this movie is so crisp and wonderful, may be not everyone around you may not be supportive but we must talk about our past traumas and seek help.
Such a understanding and sensible mother in law❤❤❤❤mein to apni maan se choti choti problem share krun to ulta or depression mein chli jaati 😢😢😢isliye kbhi unki sath maan jesa feel hi ni hua
Unpopular opinion:It is up to you to deal with your own trauma. Your partners and families can support you,but they are not a replacement for therapists.
Just because somebody has suffered and have a scar in their life and has not overcome it, does not mean that they are automatically brave. They need support to overcome.
This is one of the best video I have ever seen.... Cause no one talk about this matter.... Salute to you for thinking to make a video on this topic.....
Sandeep maheswari sir has explained how to face such fears in his video.. Basically u have to detach urself from past version of yourself,it was happened with that version not present version..now u r grown mature & strong & u would fight & never allow anything wrong happen to u in any way. Trust on God is imp
Superb content. Such videos are really need of the hour. Very relevant. So many young people are going through such issues which they are unable to share with anyone. This is an eye-opener and motivation for such people to come out of their trauma. Actually people around are understanding, we only need to be brave and come out to share ones problems.
Agar log itne maturity se situation handle Karen Koi bhi problem lambe samay tak nahi rahegi .child molestation ke case mei posco ke tehat predator saza honi chaye par Indian society mei ye baatein dawa di jaati hain..nice content 🧡🧡👍👍👏👏
Very well made. I'm a psychotherapist myself and I understand how much a person grows through before realizing that thwy can take help. We need such understanding families members.
That husband is a good man. Every husband should be like him, don’t touch unless she’s comfortable with you even if you’re arranged married. Share your trauma is the first step towards healing. Indeed. But I’m glad he supported her, or else other guys would simply had extra marital affairs with their office colleagues. Thank god he didn’t take that step.
Lol when you decide to get married you know exactly sex going to happen, don't marry if you want to spoil someone's life like shown in the video. Not every husband going to be supportive to this type of bullshit, tell your husband about your past before marriage and let him decide whether to marry you or not.
@@badliar6016 tum kisi se bhi shaadi karlogi ? joblesd, homless man se ? we only support who is normal. what if the man hides his salary and job before marriage and reaveals it after marriage. its not cheating ?
Why???? why??? why??? people break the trust of young girls? ruins their lives for their HAWAS? The scenes of DIL explaining her tramatic experience to her MIL , expression of both of them is great!
CAUTION :: Such mother in law doesn't exist in real life who can understand such issues and can support you no matter what ....and I really wish I had such people around me...
Thanks for writing this comment. I have been thrashed in the comment section for the past two days by other people for opening my mouth against the in-laws. I think, this is a snippet of how women are criticised for opening their mouth against a 'norm' or putting their foot down in Indian society.
@@anujadas6756 Hey a big virtual hug 🫂 ....yes I knew people can be mean 😕 Surprisingly more than males it's females around us who put us down Tries to prove we do nothing special,,,,all other women does the same job but trust me even if everyone is doing it ,,,, it doesn't become easier ...
@@Optimistic2022 Thank you so much. Finally, after two days, I heard someone saying something nice to me. I wish you nothing but happiness and more strength coming your way. Rise and shine. 🌟😌
@@anujadas6756 I DON'T KNOW WHO THRASHED U 4 OPENING UR MOUTH MAYBE U & UR FRIENDS MUST HAVE BAD XPERIENCES WITH UR IN LAWS BUT DON'T GENERALISE IT NOT EVERY IN LAWS R SAME
Yes, we HV done quite a few IVF procedures for married couples who aren't able to start married life.. as anaesthesiologist, I HV done few other procedures where we give anaesthesia to men, women who face depression or homosexuality issues.. during deep state, they reveal their subconscious memories of childhood molestation which they may not remember clearly.. it's very important to take care our children n not to leave them alone...
Sex is a very basic fundamental need for a man I hope also for a women. If any woman got molested in her early age she should take legal or necessary actions instantly or way much before marriage. Any husband shouldn't suffer for this. I don't know why society always only care about women's perspective. Nobody even care about men's feeling. Not a single content made about men's difficulties or desire. We should make a level playing field and make sure we understand each other.
If you’re marrying someone with this in your past, it is your prerogative to share it with him or her. If you dont share what you’re feeling, that’s automatically builds resentment. She went through something traumatic however, she should have been able to Atleast address it with a therapist is she wasnt comfortable sharing it with someone else. Atleast that way you can get rid of that feeling that you were here. How is the husband supposed to know she went through something like this without even knowing something was wrong
Bro I think you are one of the matured guys in the comment section. Such a dumb nibbas in this comment section blaming that boy even though he didn't know the real reason behind it. But you understand the point. Super bro👏👏
I'm not married but I'm facing the same problem and I don't know how to solve this problem 💔 and I think I will never get a solution till I find someone who can understand my feelings and respect it. Thanks for making this video it might help me later.. Hope so🤞
Stay strong shrishti and try to consult some good councellor. I cannot even understand the suffering you have been through. I do hope for you to feel better soon.
Exactly, she needs counselling. It's very easy for her to walk out of his life not caring about wasting his time. Also the friend's acting was better than this main girl.
I can relate wid this , actually a type of molestation happened with me also when I was 12 yrs old and now I 'm 18 yrs old but still I am not able to overcome from that incident due to which again n again such thoughts come in my mind ,,, whether I'll be able to overcome even after getting married or not 😢
Very good story with a social message, good presentation indeed !! 👍 Story is based on post traumatic psychologycal dilemma !! The role of mother in law and husband shown here ideally but in reality it may differ. Because such matters are still misunderstood by our society !!
She is the mother-in-law we might get in the parallel universe. Great story. Seems like older days are back when life tak stories used to make me reflect on things differently.
Why does everything has to be circled back to mother in law? These days a lot of Mother in laws I see are supportive and accepting. Any relationship requires hard work and communication. The girl must have communicated this to the boy ahead time.
The husband too 😜
FOR YOUR KIND INFORMATION, MY MOTHER WAS A PERFECT MOTHER-IN-LAW. BUT SHE WAS BLAMED & CRITICIZED UNNECESSARILY ALONG WITH ME, JUST AT THE BEHEST OF "HER" FAMILY. AND THE FINAL RESULT WAS OBVIOUS LOL
@@vgk-u1q IF THE GIRL'S INTENTIONS INCLUDING HER SO-CALLED FAMILY ARE NOT RIGHT FROM THE VERY BEGINNING, THEN NOTHING CAN HAPPEN. END RESULT WILL ALWAYS BE CHAOTIC
@@sr99979 why are you shouting? I think 200 other people have spotted the joke in this comment. Also, there is no fault with becoming a good mother-in-law, in fact, being a good mother-in-law is the norm. But, what majority of Indian women face is much different from how Life tak videos portray in-laws to be. I think that's just my opinion. It doesn't need to align with your opinion of in-laws. Rahi baat about your mother, I am sure she is the best person your partner or your bhabi/ jijaji have met in their lives.
Top reason for lack of intimacy in marriage are:
1.lack of trust and support in partners
2.too much fights and differences
3.passive aggressive partners mocking ,body shaming and humiliating before inlaws and friends
4. Lack of boundaries
5.health issues specially related to reproductive organ
6. Fear of pregnancy
7. Depression
8.extramarital affairs
9. Traumatic past
10. Hormonal imbalance and diseases
But solution is Kindness love respect trust and understanding each other
Add one more ... Addiction to alcohol or some other thing
It would be good if life tak made videos on several of the topics u mentioned here
U are right
thanks for the info
One more issue is husband addicted to cricket and betting
She is too lucky to have such kind of mother - in - law. Not everyone find people like her in their life .
Is your mom like her ? 1st sort out your home and then preach others.
Bakchodi is mandatory! You know this is reel not real
My mom used to fear from touch...she was in fear , ki kya hoga mera shaadi ke baad...but,my dad is so understandable that he never misbehaved or touched my mom without her "yes"...My father knew , "that my mother is in fear for touch", so,he gave time to my mom to understand and adjust ....thanks my dad for this!
Wow! 😇
Fear of touch matlab koi bhi touch karega toh woh daar jati thi
Even I had fear of intimacy even after love marriage it took 3 beautiful years of my initial married life we were best friends he understood me so much he waited for me he guarded me he gave me counseling own his own and now its 13 year of marriage and 2 beautiful kids life becomes easy when u have a good partner
He is a real gentleman.❤🙌
@@kavyavivekartavya1477 arrange marriage ka toh samajh aata hai lekin love marriage ke baad bhi fear why
Ideal daughter in-law, wife, husband and mother in-law shown in this video which is an extremely rare combination 😂
😊
Ideal wife? Are you sure about that? Someone who hid such a big secret before marriage and just dumped all that emotional baggage on him? Think again.
Men shouldn't marry women with past.@@Optimus_Crime_
P@@prafullashetty7428
@@Optimus_Crime_awww idiot
A rare family with such an understanding between all its members. Proper Counselling, openness, and mutual love can move mountains and overcome all traumatic happenings of life. Life Tak is always ahead in taking burning issues. Keep it up!
Glad to have viewers like you!
@@LifeTak Thanks.
My in laws are like that only
It's good. But let's think in a vishals point of view. She should have discussed all these things before marriage na ?? If he is not someone who accepts her, then both of their life is ruined. Everyone has their own preferences. We should respect it.
well said sir ❤
Vishal should have left her anyway. These guys get fooled very easily.
Ur relationship cannot thrive if you are not good friends...😊 Be friend with your partner and understand each other first ☺️
I can cry seeing this kinda MIL. She's non interfering, compassionate and also with a great EQ
I have a question: I would like to know your opinion if you are comfortable. Do girls generally prefer beards or a clean-shaven look, or does it vary from person to person?
I also been with this trauma but with understanding partner, I overcome from this trauma with time. Thanks to my husband for all time, patience n support
But understanding partner doesn't mean that (if wife always say No for sex ) si husband also live in a sexless marriage and husband live without sex after marriage this is not called understanding and understanding husband and wife also supposed to be understood and Keep her husband Sexually Satisfied and wife have sime Sexually problem then she supposed to tell that problems to her husband and wife should solve her problem and do sex with her husband .
really appreciate that this issue has been addressed...many women have gone through this and never been able to share it
😂😂😂
Nirupama Verma is a fine artiste. Her body language, expressions, diction, everything is superb.
Mother in law can be loving but such understanding & accept is very rare
A sensitive and genuine subject, handled so delicately, with trust and warmth! Kudos, Life Tak 👏👏
Thank you for all the love. 💗
Very much appreciated
Film Making aesthetics are absolute ZERO
pfftt
I AM SO HAPPY TO FIND A PARTNER WHO JUST TOOK MY TRAUMA AS HIS OWN AND ACCEPTED ME AS I M ... I M REALLY LUCKY TO FIND HIM IN MY LIFE.
" mom" delivered an outstanding performance !!!!
I am glad that you posted this story. I am sure many women go trough the same trauma as they are not comfortable to share with their spouses or In-laws. I had similar problem. The difference is I told my husband before marriage that I need time to become comfortable with him. And he was very understanding and patient to let me decide according to my will. Hope this reaches many.
U are very lucky sister
@@ayushimishra1912 this is bare minimum girl
Partners should be understanding towards each other
That's what makes a relationship
Nobody is lucky here
@padmajaracherla4684 Sister , when I was married, as per my nature ,,I was very spontaneous, responsive, appealing, attractive wife and my husband always seems not interested in anything. His office n work n friends were more important to him. I was super excited and always in good mood to talk to him, to respond him, he was always fearful for even touch. My good response was also problem for him, he left me after marriage giving reasons , many ediotc reasons , and our divorce took place
@@Soumyameghani It's astnoishing how girls expect too much from men these days.
"It's bare minimum", what? No, it's not.
It's a wife responsibility to sexyally please her husband, in which if she fails, he may go outside to seek the love he deserves.
Women have got way too much rights these days.
@@anishtripathi3800sicko
Nirupama ji....the epitome of a perfect mother in law...how can someone portray all the characters so flawlessly or enact with such ease.....let me tell you that you fit into any role without much effort....aapki jithni thareef ki jaaye kamm hai...nirupama ji you are becoming a role model for many out there....stay blessed mam...saksham and anshika superb job guys....more good things to come your way...this is just the beginning...both of you have gelled up with team life tak so easily and in no time....anshika are you the content writer...if yes then pls mark my words you are going to make really big one day... marvellously written and miraculously executed...stay blessed team life tak...next episode ke liye ek aur haftha wait nai karr payenge... why don't you guys work on releasing a video daily...or maybe a bit more lengthier story....or may be some interesting and informative seasons...
Thank you so much for the positive comment. Nirupama Ji, Anshika, and Saksham says thanks!❤
My wife is another great mother in law. Very soft and understanding. My new daughter in law, a very immature girl married at the age of 21was dealt with finesse by my wife so much so that she ( DIL) now seeks all her advice from my wife especially after her own mother died during covid.
Great moms raise great sons. I always see this. Women who are kind and not bitter always raise sons to be responsible and respectful of people and even animals. They make excellent husbands too.
Whats the use, another women destroyed the life of that great son.
Most women misuses the kindness of a man and treats them badly.
Great moms raise people pleasers just like my mom did and it took me years to realise
Great women can't raise great women. Most of the women nowadays are treacherous and betrayers.
every girl desires of a mother in law like her after their marriage it was so nice yarr that she supported her in that way ❤️
@@priyodarshini_banerjee Hii..
A long-term study published in India in the 1990s, revealed horrific results: 60% of girls and 40% of boys are sexually molested in their pre-teen or teen years. Most of the time, the perpetrator is known to them: a "trusted" and older family member or family friend, a neighbor -- a person of authority who usually intimidates the child. In case of girls, the abuse continues over the years, with the abuser threatening the young woman that if she ever told anyone, he would "expose her" by telling everyone that SHE SEDUCED HIM. 😡
Often the family does not believe her or covers it up --- after all it is a matter of खानदान की इज्ज़त! The betrayal is worse than the abuse, which was traumatic enough. But her own family disbelieving her leaves lasting scars.😢
That's horrifying
A teacher...😣
STFU 🤣🤣 , less than 0.1% girls are mildly molested .
Aur kabhi kabhi ghar k sage log bhi
It was the data of 1990
I hope ab cheeje behatar ho.
One more thing is that almost 75% r@pist of this country comes from a very peaceful community and this data was shared by a female lawyer of supreme court whi herself used to belong that community.
Need of the hour.... it's high time to break the silence ....👍🏻
Nirupama Verma ji.... never fails to impress me.... such a seasoned performer 👌👌
this is not your fault. Thank you for sharing. I am with you...the exact lines any victim would love to hear❤
Women should Inform her husband that she is a damaged piece before marriage. We men are not marrying to fix ur traumas. That's cheating. What if ur daughter marries a man and found out he is Gay or he has erectile disfuntion??.
@@ishanb.pradhan3800 i completely agree
@@ishanb.pradhan3800 what about man,who really cheat his wife,inside cheating wife and outside the others. Everyone has opinion @ rights to say . Actually,in this so called social media era, people r habituated to use slang wor ds,bad comments to the others. This is trend to tell the others slang words,bad comments.Mom should be abolished from this world.No more girl no more mom in the world.
@@ishanb.pradhan3800 at least one good logical comment found on this video, everyone just off track not realizing it's her problem so she should tell these things before marriage, she knows exactly after marriage sex should happen still she was ruining his life even after he's doing everything good for her.
She's in a terrible situation. This topics need to be brought up, it's not the girl's fault 😒😤🙄😪🤧if she was sexualy assaulted. It's the creep 😐😡 who did this 😳😐to her fault. Thanks for your English subtitles. Respect and love from South Africa 🇿🇦❤️🙏
Athu seri aliyan ivide ondo .? Great
@izoldicsayoo whattttt????
I might not relate to this but whenever I face any problem, any short-term depression, I feel like I cannot share it with everyone nor do I want to. For me, everyone is fake, no one is genuine not even my parents. Yes, I don't trust my own parents. Sometimes I feel like, am I adopted but quickly remove those thoughts because my face is a perfect mixture of both my parents so I am their biological child. I shared my weak points with 3-4 people and seems like they did care for me at that time but later whenever they see my sad face, they forget all of it. Even I prefer to hide my tears and sad face with a fake smile and cheerful face which I was until I was 8 years old. Things started changing from then. I faced and still I am facing a lot since then. I am 11+ and turning 12 towards the end of September. ❤
I had also face same incident but now i am fine
This is a beautiful video. Childhood nightmares like these or molestations scar you for life and at times may even cause way serious problems like anxiety and may end up girl having issues like vaginismus. It's unexplainable. Only women who go through this can feel it. It does help when you seek help from a therapist. However it's a long journey ahead but if your partner is understanding then life becomes easier. 😊
It should be deal with proper counseling and trust
Intimacy is such a beautiful thing to experience, it's God gifted in all genders, the pleasure. However, I feel sad when I hear stories where people aren't able to feel these because of traumatic past. People who assault sexually not just do that but snatch away this right to feel intimacy as well. Beautiful things are so delicate in this world, sad. But we need to understand each other. Kindly stop assaulting. If you feel you are going through such tendencies go see a therapist or recieve help instead of ruining someone's life.
How to differentiate if it's only past trauma or the person actually is asexual ?
Bahot hi achha hai. Very well executed and written. Sirf ek jagah galat hai, wo ye ki jis tarah ladke ko maafi maangte dikhaaya gaya hai. Agar ladki apne mata pita ko mana nahi kar paai to isme ladke ki kya galati? Ye to aisa hua ki ladki apne ghar waalon ke dar se, samaj ke darse kuchh bhi bol nahi paai aur ladke se shaadi bhi Karli. Lekin haan ladki apni galati maanti hai ye sahi hai. Aur ladke ka ye initiative ki wo apni wife ko therapist ke paas le jaayega wo bahot hi achha hai.
Suggestion ye hai ki isme ye addition krna tha ki jo bhi ho ek baar himmat ker ke bata dena chaahiye fir wo chaahe ladke ke saath hua ho ya ladki ke saath.
It is indeed best to speak about traumatic situations like this. It's not easy to speak but it can help you heal and move on knowing you were never at fault.
I was crying at my heartiest...after watching this video.... thank u so much...at least I could see in my eyes such a vedio...so beautiful.... I do not imagine in my bad destiny to happen and get such a good truth...but at least I could watch it...hope to get and be married to a family like this.... I am left raped several times...in fact many times...and then left pregnant with refused to marry... I and my family begged several times for marriage but my boyfriend's family refused to marry...and they even refused their son's rape case...they even refused to give birth to child... I had no other option ....but to take abortion....hope my aborted child stays in peace ... I love you my child.... I could not give birth but I am always with every mother...to bear their pain ...hope no girl goes through this pain...
May every mother be a success one...May I continue to serve God...may my child be in peace....thank u... please pray for my child...that he /she be in peace
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Man, very beautifully executed.....and clear communication and understanding solves any issues ...
Amazing. Every young child needs counseling which is lacking in India.
Most common reason for lack of intimacy is absence of friendship that includes respect. Liking is important but it is a flimsy emotion to rely on, it comes with a bang and quickly tapers off and ends. Aside from that, trauma and regular fights (leading to mutual distrust and less free flow and more of critique thinking).
Cant' get intimate with a stranger or an enemy and live under the same roof, which is why hook up is rising since you only have to tolerate the other for a few hrs in your lifetime, that too only to fulfill this emotion, sad
What a shame!! She didn't share this information before getting married to her husband 😳😥
Very sensitive topic and a well made film. It will encourage many girls/women to share their trauma with their husbands helping them to heal better.
This is probably the most realistic and genuine acting by each character in this video
Thank you! 🙂🙏
@@anshikawasthi Yes Ma'am, it was so so genuine and subtle that at some point of time it actually feels like a daily home to home conversation which we had generally and not something which people portray with overacting. Excellent work ma'am
i loved the fact that how this movie is so crisp and wonderful, may be not everyone around you may not be supportive but we must talk about our past traumas and seek help.
Many kids hv and are going through this harrassment .they all should share their feelings with the one who they trust , Nice concept 👍
This mother in law is like my mother in law,So cool ,matured ,beautiful and intelligent
Such a understanding and sensible mother in law❤❤❤❤mein to apni maan se choti choti problem share krun to ulta or depression mein chli jaati 😢😢😢isliye kbhi unki sath maan jesa feel hi ni hua
Unpopular opinion:It is up to you to deal with your own trauma. Your partners and families can support you,but they are not a replacement for therapists.
Someone sensible
Therapists suck, all they care about is your money. I would rather have a partner who could also act like my personal therapist.
Healing is a very personal experience . They can support n help that's all ....
It would just be a lot of unrealistic pressure on the close ones .....
Everyone has a place and all help is good
Oh how can you say such a thing. My problem is everyone's problem except mine. Everyone must put up with me and my issues.
Very good concept,but there are very rare people who understands this and support the girl
Not everyone has the courage to accept the truth unfortunately. Good message shared for people to understand and change the mindset .
How ideal mother in law n husband, I think it's rare to have such in laws in real life.
Just because somebody has suffered and have a scar in their life and has not overcome it, does not mean that they are automatically brave. They need support to overcome.
This is one of the best video I have ever seen.... Cause no one talk about this matter.... Salute to you for thinking to make a video on this topic.....
Thank you! ❤
Sandeep maheswari sir has explained how to face such fears in his video..
Basically u have to detach urself from past version of yourself,it was happened with that version not present version..now u r grown mature & strong & u would fight & never allow anything wrong happen to u in any way.
Trust on God is imp
So nice this topic is being raised. And thank God her MIL was so supportive and hubby also understood
Understanding doesn't mean that if wife always say No for sex so husband also live without sex in a Sexless marriage understanding doesn't mean that !
Great story with equally great portrayal of all characters. Very understanding and supportive mother in law and husband!!
Every girl deserve mother in law like her
The best mother in law of the world❤
Superb content. Such videos are really need of the hour. Very relevant. So many young people are going through such issues which they are unable to share with anyone. This is an eye-opener and motivation for such people to come out of their trauma. Actually people around are understanding, we only need to be brave and come out to share ones problems.
We need this type of mother in law in our houses....❤this heart is special for mother in law who is very supportive
Nope. A women lying about her past should never deserve anything.
When did she lied?@AmishKumar-lc7zs
wow! wonderful mother in law n husband, she is very lucky to have them..❣️
Its not her mistake absolutely but u should share these things before marriage its hard but u shouldn't ignore others expectations like this
Loyalty respect and understanding it's enough for better marriad life
This is so wonderful
I wish our own people understand what the real pain and help to recover from that pain .
Great content
This needs a lot of discussion and approval of each other
I thought it might be her past relationship but it's something else what a great story.😢
Kudos to this kind of mother in law
Itna under standing real life m shayed hi koi hota h
Agar log itne maturity se situation handle Karen Koi bhi problem lambe samay tak nahi rahegi .child molestation ke case mei posco ke tehat predator saza honi chaye par Indian society mei ye baatein dawa di jaati hain..nice content 🧡🧡👍👍👏👏
Kitni acchi saasu maa h bhagwan kare sabko aisi saasu maa Mile
It's also about becoming a person like that who is understanding - both the mother-in-law and son are understanding as his mom taught him well.
Very well made. I'm a psychotherapist myself and I understand how much a person grows through before realizing that thwy can take help. We need such understanding families members.
How to differentiate if this the issue or someone is actually asexual?
Such a sweet mother in law
Thanks life Tak team for bringing up this sensitive issue which girls scare to open up also
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Unbelievable video… good work guys!! Aisi saas sabko mile… Wish it was so easy sharing such stuff
Life Tak is ahead of times ✌️
Best of luck 👍
That husband is a good man. Every husband should be like him, don’t touch unless she’s comfortable with you even if you’re arranged married. Share your trauma is the first step towards healing. Indeed. But I’m glad he supported her, or else other guys would simply had extra marital affairs with their office colleagues. Thank god he didn’t take that step.
Lol when you decide to get married you know exactly sex going to happen, don't marry if you want to spoil someone's life like shown in the video. Not every husband going to be supportive to this type of bullshit, tell your husband about your past before marriage and let him decide whether to marry you or not.
@@SuperGetoverhereWhy marry if you can't support your partner?
@@badliar6016 what I wrote is tell your partner about your past before getting married, then he will decide whether to marry or not.
@@badliar6016 tum kisi se bhi shaadi karlogi ? joblesd, homless man se ? we only support who is normal. what if the man hides his salary and job before marriage and reaveals it after marriage. its not cheating ?
Why???? why??? why??? people break the trust of young girls? ruins their lives for their HAWAS? The scenes of DIL explaining her tramatic experience to her MIL , expression of both of them is great!
Just for a little sake of pleasure you can leave someone traumatized for a whole life😢😢
CAUTION :: Such mother in law doesn't exist in real life who can understand such issues and can support you no matter what ....and I really wish I had such people around me...
Thanks for writing this comment. I have been thrashed in the comment section for the past two days by other people for opening my mouth against the in-laws. I think, this is a snippet of how women are criticised for opening their mouth against a 'norm' or putting their foot down in Indian society.
@@anujadas6756 Hey a big virtual hug 🫂 ....yes I knew people can be mean 😕
Surprisingly more than males it's females around us who put us down
Tries to prove we do nothing special,,,,all other women does the same job but trust me even if everyone is doing it ,,,, it doesn't become easier ...
@@anujadas6756 ,,,,loads of love ❤️ 😍 and I wish you loads of strength and peace ✌️ 😘
@@Optimistic2022 Thank you so much. Finally, after two days, I heard someone saying something nice to me. I wish you nothing but happiness and more strength coming your way. Rise and shine. 🌟😌
@@anujadas6756 I DON'T KNOW WHO THRASHED U 4 OPENING UR MOUTH MAYBE U & UR FRIENDS MUST HAVE BAD XPERIENCES WITH UR IN LAWS BUT DON'T GENERALISE IT
NOT EVERY IN LAWS R SAME
Excellent acting.. Excellent script n all.. But Don't know why missing mano shivan survi team.. Who made life tak 1M..
These stories just feel so real. I wish I could be a part in making these videos happen!
Now life tak is back, again very good content
Thank you for addressing the issue in such a beautiful way...much needed video❤
Yes, we HV done quite a few IVF procedures for married couples who aren't able to start married life.. as anaesthesiologist, I HV done few other procedures where we give anaesthesia to men, women who face depression or homosexuality issues.. during deep state, they reveal their subconscious memories of childhood molestation which they may not remember clearly.. it's very important to take care our children n not to leave them alone...
What is such a procedure called and where we can get it done? Can you share your mail id
Very understanding mother in law n husband....
Sex is a very basic fundamental need for a man I hope also for a women. If any woman got molested in her early age she should take legal or necessary actions instantly or way much before marriage. Any husband shouldn't suffer for this. I don't know why society always only care about women's perspective. Nobody even care about men's feeling. Not a single content made about men's difficulties or desire. We should make a level playing field and make sure we understand each other.
If you’re marrying someone with this in your past, it is your prerogative to share it with him or her. If you dont share what you’re feeling, that’s automatically builds resentment. She went through something traumatic however, she should have been able to Atleast address it with a therapist is she wasnt comfortable sharing it with someone else. Atleast that way you can get rid of that feeling that you were here. How is the husband supposed to know she went through something like this without even knowing something was wrong
Bro I think you are one of the matured guys in the comment section. Such a dumb nibbas in this comment section blaming that boy even though he didn't know the real reason behind it.
But you understand the point. Super bro👏👏
Positive attitude makes life great
Behad khubsurat video. Life tak ❤️❤️🙏
Kitni shaandr saas h ❤❤❤aisi saas ko love u saas ❤❤
I can relate this story completly... bas meri ab taak shadi nhi hui....actually I feel so much uncomfortable talking with boys...
Beautiful video , superb acting ! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Beautiful storyline!..grt msg!❤❤
Amazing Anshika 🙌🏻✌️
Such a power packed video. More power to you guys Lifetak
I'm not married but I'm facing the same problem and I don't know how to solve this problem 💔 and I think I will never get a solution till I find someone who can understand my feelings and respect it.
Thanks for making this video it might help me later.. Hope so🤞
Consult a doctor
Stay strong shrishti and try to consult some good councellor. I cannot even understand the suffering you have been through. I do hope for you to feel better soon.
First speak to you're family then along with them go to a counselor
It's not your fault, stay strong. You are a survivor .
Stay strong,lkn tumko jarur virodh krna cahiye
The fact that her husband is excellent with looks,as well as a mindset..i mean he is,so undrstanding..even her mother in law is fantastic.
Life tak bring or talk on serious issue. That's great
Exactly, she needs counselling. It's very easy for her to walk out of his life not caring about wasting his time.
Also the friend's acting was better than this main girl.
Wish Every daughter gets this typ of mother in law, d world would be a better place
I can relate wid this , actually a type of molestation happened with me also when I was 12 yrs old and now I 'm 18 yrs old but still I am not able to overcome from that incident due to which again n again such thoughts come in my mind ,,, whether I'll be able to overcome even after getting married or not 😢
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Be strong and don't think you are victim but a warrior and survivor.
@@nidhiyadav8721 ryt ❤️
You will. ... definitely
Me tooo
Her acting is so on point. Great job.
Here it began cheating story his wife and his friend.. I also have childhood trauma like this..But this drama she created this is insane.
It's easier to build up a child than to repair an adult..
Without sharing
One can spend a lifetime to forget a few minutes of childhood abuse.
She should have discussed this before marriage.
Very good story with a social message, good presentation indeed !! 👍
Story is based on post traumatic psychologycal dilemma !!
The role of mother in law and husband shown here ideally but in reality it may differ. Because such matters are still misunderstood by our society !!