Being a butch lesbian is not about masculinity - here's why
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 27 ส.ค. 2024
- Butch lesbian activist Tabitha Benjamin shares why she feels being butch has nothing to do with #masculinity and the rising levels of street harassment she's experiencing as a #butch lesbian. She is also the founder of #lesbian club night Butch, Please!
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There's so much aggression towards masculine women. When I used to dress very butch, a man tried to run me over too and no one did anything, not even helped me up. I had men shout abuse at me in the street, and had food served to me cold. I'm someone who alternates between masculine and feminine styles all my life because that's how I am, and I agree a woman can be anything she wants to be and that is normal and natural.
Me too
I'm so sorry you were almost murdered by some homophobic lunatic. I'm sorry for all the pain and injustice you endured. Butch lesbians should be respected and feel safe out in public.
join the crowd - gay men have been getting their asses kicked for decades - gang attacks, fag bashing, trips to the ER and occasional death is nothing new. i wish being served cold food was the extent of the homophobia i've seen.
I hate today's social media and the only representation of feminine looking lesbians. Masculines are being erased and sometimes even hated just for their looks. Today being a lesbian can only be successful if you look feminine.
Butch is wonderful! I support you! I like to switch from masculine and feminine styles too. But I was wondering, does that make me non-binary? I’m trying to understand better and am learning.🥰✨💖🫶🌈🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
A lot of butch presentation is just.. comfortable. You know, like a lot of men just dress in a practical, comfortable way and nobody doubts their manhood. Just seeing a woman being comfy and unadorned, not dressing to please the male gaze, gets seen as such a threat. It's just as natural for a woman as for a man.
Tapping into the masculine parts of your own being does not mean you are or want to be a man. You are a woman who knows herself and is comfortable with herself.
Victoria Giro 🤔
@@nextspectra no this lady is not feminine she is trying to alter her appearance to look more like a dude that's not feminine at all enough said
@@nextspectra Jenna sorry you're wrong. There are Butch Lesbians who have admitted wishing they had a Penis. It's pretty common. Some won't even let a woman touch them sexually because they see it as feminine taking pleasure. They are known as "touch me nots"
@@Austin.D there is not such a thing of "look of dudes". She look like women. Looks haven't gender. Get over it.
@@alexojideagu i'm sorry, that's a fallacy! Also none real lesbian likes be touched. :)
As a stud lesbian who is also Asian,its heartbreaking that I have to explain every single little thing about how i represent.
Im a woman,simply a woman.My short hair doesn't define what I am or who i am.
I always have been this way and im not in any way shape or form disfigure or messed up.
-I have janitor who told me "hey dude men's toilet on the left you're in the woman's bathroom".
-I had an older guy laugh at me and making fun of me as i go out of the grocery store.
-I had family members who ask my parents "hye since when you had a son ah?"
I don't choose to be like this.Living like this is already hard enough and its truly frighten me the extent of hate people can have towards people like me.I had people wanna kill me,hurt me,cuss me and even want me to go to prison.
I just want the hate to stop.
💝💝
‘Stud’ is a term specifically for masculine Black lesbians.
@@bipolarexpress830thx i was just about to comment this
i realize people don't choose their sexuality but as a gay man I can choose to wear jeans and a t-shirt or sashay
down the street in a skirt and heels - if i choose the latter it's my responsibility to deal with the consequences, sorry sis i'm having trouble relating to your 'heartbreak'.
@@haintedhouse2990ergh no wearing tight jeans and high heels is uncomfortable and womens tops are revealing. Dresses/skirts can be lift up by perverts or the wind. Wearing 'masculine' clothing is just comfortable and covered up. It's not about making a statement for me. I just want to be able to breathe too and not have stomach pains every time I have or want to go outside. What is masculine anyway? How is wearing comfortable trousers and a comfortable tshirt an issue for people? Why the hell on earth does it bother people? Men in dresses stands out unlike women in practical clothing. People should be able to be comfortable. That's like saying if you're a woman you have to be in uncomfortable clothing. wtf lol get out of here typical hypocrital gay man
This was so interesting for me because its a common misconception that a butch lesbian is manly but not all butch lesbians are transgender men or want to be a man which people can tend to think.
NONYA Business good thing your opinion doesn’t matter :) ignorant af
@NONYA Business why are you disgusted by other lesbians? What does being les have to do with a hairstyle?
@NONYA Business butch lesbians are the real lesbians. The other the femmes are only for men pleasures and being sex toys of men, femenity is only based on heterosexuality and patriarchy. Get over it.
@NONYA Business get over it. Femme "lesbian" aren't lesbian, are sex toys for men. :) The only real lesbians are butch. :) Also they are so beautiful.
Now imagine, that there Are also Butch trans women. That's adding whole new level to this.
I look butch. Even in video games. That is how my character turns out. It's not about a style. It's what is natural for you.
Nigga please
Razo
Cry more x
@@user-vz4nt2eq4h no?
This video highlights an issue that I feel doesn’t get enough attention at all, purely because of the rampant misogyny amongst the LGBT+ community. Sending all the love and support, my fiancée is a butch woman and I could not love another human any more than I do her, and I’m so proud of her for presenting herself to the world as she is comfortable, regardless of how dangerous it can be for her alone and for us together. You are understood and loved ❤️🏳️🌈
How are gay men getting mysogyny thrown at them? Trans women aka men are the ones being mysogynistic by "Mansplaining" what they think being a woman is all about and saying that just because they like to wear dresses they should be allowed into women's sports, restrooms, donestice abuse shelters etc. While women get called "birthing people, people who menstruate," etc. And we have to entertain their delusions.
Butch is like being confident. I was told that I'm just trying to look like a man but nah, I'm just being myself. I know I can't be a man, and I don't even want to be a man, it's just the way I am. I like to be like that, I want to look more confident and more myself. Women clothing gives me nothing but insecurity, uncomfort and dysphoria. So being butch literally saved my depressed ass!
@@me_rio_sola Well I don't identify as a butch lesbian anymore but thank you for thinking so high of them. I've faced too much criticism for being a butch, it feels good to see people accepting them as the way they are.
@@santanabhowmick1671 why are all butches lesbian?
@@santanabhowmick1671how do you identify now?
Ugh, butches are so dour and unpleasant with no wit or humor. All poseurs and ridiculous at that.
Butch women play a vital role in the lesbian community. I love butch women and will defend her to the end. I believe some people are intimidated by a butch woman, it's them that have the insecurities and have a hard time with someone that is confident in who they are.
thank you for posting this. so poignant. I experience this too. so well spoken. Why is it so hard for you to see me as a woman? I am not a man wanna be, I am not a trans I am proudly female. There are all kinds of women in the world. Thank you
Trans is considered even less than butch by many. This is sadly the truth. Femininity saves you as well as being a trans man. So as a result, one is only on the safe side if you are a feminine woman or a masculine man. Trans won't matter as long as you fit in one of the former categories.
Because when you present as a man people see you as a man.
We feminine women need to support masc women more
Support humourless, dour, angry, bitter women who want to be men. Sound like a plan.
Their behaviour towards you was horrendous, absolutely shameful. You are so strong and inspiring. There are good people out there who will accept you for who you are. I don’t and will never understand why people can’t accept differences. Society needs to wake up and love more.
Once got beaten my nose bloody with a surprise fist... Coming from a 50 year old guy, I was 20 something... Was blamed by several people afterwards like, well if u would dress more female, that would have not happened.
You probably started up with him acting all tough and threatening and he called your bluff.
I have never related so hard to anything in my life. Thank you for showing exactly who you are
When it comes to what a woman can be and what a woman can look like there is no incorrect biological woman. You are you and that's beautiful!
Sadly the majority may think otherwise. Sad very sad.
I am so sad that you had to go through that. There are far too many ignorant beings out there who can't see past their own misinformed sterotypes. We are all individuals and we need to be able to be ourselves without jugdement rudeness and discrimination not to mention threats of or actual violence and abuse.
Amazing clip. Haven't felt this enlivened in a minute!
I can relate as a Black Unconventional femme The historical masculinization of Black Women often means I'm perceived as more "masculine & threatening" than the average woman simply for the fact that I don't "play up" my femininity. Right on Sis!
I really experienced this even more while living in other countries abroad.
Be yourself. It is okay to be a masculine women, own it.
She is, obviously.
No it’s not it’s bad
💯 🏳️🌈❤️💪🏼🔥😎
It's not ok to be mean and nasty to men though. We get you hate us but try and keep it in check "ladies"
I'm sorry but a grown man farted at you.....that is insane....like WTF???😂😂😂😂 I'm a masculine lesbian too but Oh My Gawd......
Agreed. But I'm very effeminate and bi girl
Fantastic video. Here's me a straight middle aged bloke, really amazed and grateful to see a young women just being a woman her own way. I love your point about being butch not being about being masculine or trying to be a man. Its a message that needs to be shouted out.
The lgbt 🏳️🌈 community witness so much division and discrimination in our world yet we need to only look within ourselves within the LGBT 🏳️🌈 community to see we too are capable of creating division and discrimination.
Celebrate your uniqueness celebrate your beauty celebrate your diversity in a world that seeks conformity
✌🏻❤️
How do you know she is lesbian! She just said she was butch not lesbian.
@@drrd4127butch is a lesbian term
@@drrd4127whoops sorry this was a year old 💀
Thank you. Someone isn't a man because they wear pants and don't like makeup or short hair etc. Not sure why people make up all these rules about what defines us by such stereotypes. I've never been clear what society means by masculine or feminine. I was declared not "feminine" by a date once because I wouldn't put out for him. Ridiculous! I'm hetero and happily married to a guy who loves me without makeup and all the heels and what-not supposedly assigned to women. I am not "masculine" because of being basically an adult Tomboy. Always was a Tomboy and always will be. :-)
Thank you so much for posting this. Enough people don't understand the bigotry that is out there. I can see pain in your eyes, but thank you for sharing and making people feel less alone
Just wanted to write, women are all women. No matter what we look like on the outside. And looks can be very deceiving. I’m an internal butch but external total femme and my wife is a soft butch but internal EXTREME femme. Like, if we had a flat, I would be changing the tire, with my hair that’s down to my butt, nails, healed boots, a dress and red lipstick. Which I have before. While she sat in the car with her butch haircut, short nails, a fitted suit and black wing tip shoes (looking smoking hot btw 🥰), calling the resturant…it would have been AAA too if she’d been alone 🤣 I’m fire, she’s ice. I’m an aggressor, she’s more submissive. I love horror films, AHS and shows about catching serial killers. She gets scared or freaked out when we watch such things and looks at her phone or burrows her face behind my shoulder. She’s a pushover with the kids, I’m the lay down the law. I read Brett Easton Ellis, Vonnegut, Clive Barker and Nabokov. She reads lesbian poetry, Tolstoy, Anais Nin and non fiction. I’m Zeppelin, Red Hot Chili Peppers, The Yeah Yeah Yeahs, The Stooges, Prince, Eminem. She’s Barbara Streisand, Lady Gaga, Adele, Jackson Brown, Elton John. When there’s a noise at night I have to go check it out, carrying my titanium core softball batt I’ve had since the varsity days. Bugs and spiders? Me. Changing light bulbs? ME. Mopping the floor? HER. And when it comes to top and bottom, we’re switch hitters all the way. We’re just weirdos, walking contradictions, books with deceiving covers, which is why we work so well together 😂 We’ve been together 11 years, she’s 11 years older than me but we’re the same age because I’ve always been older than my years (I’ve literally lived on my own since 16 as an emancipated minor, graduated high school at 16, got my first college degree at 18, and owned my first home at 19, and at 42, recently officially retired from a very successful career with a great pension) and without a doubt the love of my life. The age difference freaked her out when we first met. But the more she got to know me, the more she discovered she’s younger than me in a lot of ways actually. I feel ancient. Like I’ve lived several lifetimes. But I’ve always had much more in common with people older than me compared with those in my own age group who, at no fault of their own, seemed extremely immature and naive just because I was so advanced for my age. I’ve only ever been with someone younger one time. A longggg time ago too. And that was only by 3 years 😂 So we are strange us human beings. There is no wrong or right when it comes to being in LGBTQ spectrum. I’ve had relationships before where I was harshly judged because I didn’t fit the “femme” stereotype. And it used to hurt me a lot. And then I figured out it’s not a me problem. We just weren’t the right people for each other. And maybe they were afraid of who I was, because they weren’t comfortable enough in who they were and me being me made them feel insecure and somehow less than. But there was nothing wrong with me. So, If it feels natural and right to you, just be you. Because you are the only one who can. And please believe, there is someone out there who will LOVE the you you are, and fit perfectly with you precisely because you are you. So let your you flag fly, embrace your weirdness, and never be afraid of rocking that out. And if the person you’re with doesn’t appreciate that, they aren’t the right person for you. Societal norms around gender are complete BS. They are manufactured lies perpetrated to keep us in boxes, shamed, handled, and conforming. There is no such thing as looking like a “real woman”. Be you. Your authentic you. Never sacrifice your internal happiness for an external that puts strangers at ease. Wishing you all ♥️, ☮️, and happiness.
Thank you so much for eloquently sharing your very unique experience! I wish you kept a blog or write on a more visible forum, as it would be such a pity this gem to get buried or lost in the swamp that is TH-cam.
Interesting perspective! I rather agree. Please stay strong and persevere; the world needs voices like yours, and people who, by their very existence, prove that there are myriad ways to be a woman in the world, and that that is perfectly alright. A much needed message!
Thank you for this. This is a topic that needs to be talked about. Being butch doesn't mean one wants to be a man
This was epic. I get this kind of thing all the time at school and I've been pushing the teachers to do something about it
Hi Lily! xx😘
Right on!! Always walk with ur head up high!!
Thank you for your voice. Stay strong. I hate how butch lesbians are being erased and pressured into becoming "trans men". As a stem lesbian married to a butch lesbian, I am disgusted by how much lesbophobia still exists
There's lots of ways to human. Trans guys are valid too, it shouldn't be a contest on who gets to present what way and be who they are and be accepted. We all should be.
I am not butch, I am a straight woman. 10 years ago, I chopped my hair off and had a pixie cut, sometimes I just wanted to wear jeans and a jumper instead of a dress, yeah, I would get treated differently suddenly. I had men at the other side of the street get offended by my hair and scream "Dyke! Butch! lesbian", I would shout back " I am straight" for some reason their response was always "You're a lesbian hahaha". I was so baffled!
I grew my hair to my butt and I wear a jumper and jeans, people say nothing to me now.
The whole thing is Bizarre!
it's not bizarre. like it or not we are a visual society, when people see something that throws them they react with confusion and sometimes hostility - if I as a man wore a tube top with spike heels I would expect the same
pissed-off reaction
@@haintedhouse2990Stop defending asshole behaviour. People get MURDERED (by mostly men ofc) for being/or being asummed to be lesbians.
@@haintedhouse2990 “Visual society”… what a fancy word for allowing toxicity to go rampant. Why can’t people mind their own business? If a straight man wants to have long hair and wear heals, he can. If a straight woman wants to have short hair and wear baggy pants, she can. If this throws people off, then they are insecure af.
@@naniyotaka in an ideal world yes people would not care how a man or woman looks. sorry to burst any bubbles, that aint happening on planet earth anytime soon
You don't 'identify' as a woman, Tabs. You ARE a woman. It is immutable. And as a butch woman, you're awesome.
True
this is an interesting perspective as its completely different to mine. for me being a butch has everything to do with masculinity, and thats not a bad thing because living in a patriarchy doesnt mean masculinity is the problem, its men lmao. like i do dress masculine i look masculine etc thats why im confused for a boy so often! i love my masculinity and i love celebrating it, and also my womanhood! thanks for sharing ur own perspective so that i could think about this!
just finished the video and im so sorry to hear what happened to you in the post office. and thank you for sharing so bravely.
Hey Ruby,
May I ask you something?
Would you prefer to be a man?
I would appreciate it to read from you
@@dingenshier butch lesbians aren't men! Stop your lesbophobia.
What a beautifuk woman 🌸
I loved the part "Why is it so hard to see you as a woman?"
I acknowledge transpeople but it is also important to acknowledge that women can look like transguys, it doesn't mean they want to be a man or they should transition. This narrative is anti-woman. They don't have to be called men, confused about their transidentity or made to transition. People just want to push every non-gender conforming woman into hormones and masectomy these days.
You know what. I thought this was going to be a really terf-y comment but after reading it all I kind of agree. Idk if I consider myself gnc or nonbinary but I do know for a fact that if I actually had any breasts to speak of (my chest is already flat af and if I'm dysphoric I just wear two sports bras and a hoodie and you can see NOTHING it's great.) I would get a masectomy. Even though I don't really want a masectomy as my body currently is, I do admit it feels like something I "should" do if I id as nb. Honestly, this comment and video has made me wonder if a large part of why I will just tell people I am nonbinary is to decrease the "you look like a man" "why do you dress like a man" comments because for whatever reason it seems like some people have a more difficult time accepting that I just dress/look like this because it feels natural than they do accepting the concept of a third gender.
I’ve only just seen this video but thanks for sharing your story with us. I have to say videos like these are helping me through this quarantine because they make me feel less alone in my identity. Sending positive vibes to everyone here ❤️
In some cultures dressing not to attract the sometimes toxic male attention makes life easier. It’s unfortunate that we men sometimes make life difficult for women
Woow so disheartening, I’m masculine lesbian as well and I use to get the same fear of people harassing me, but at the same time I’m not wearing a dress to satisfy anyone. Only thing done to me was guys flirting with me and my wife is right there. She’s super feminine and I’m wondering why the hell you’re bothering me. I just let them know my wife thinks the same & look at her. Usually they back off.
I wish butches had some wit and humor. Most are incredibly unpleasant, and dour and incredibly dry. I try and avoid them as do most of my mates.
@@JRB644 Well in my opinion it has a lot to do with putting up a guard, because of how harshly the world judges us.
Sorry to hear you have to go through alot of hate. Really hope things get better for you. Unfortunately this is the world we live in. All the best to you. 🙂💚
I'm cis-woman and lesbian and I like wearing different clothes - feminine, masculine, lolita, gothic, casual, elegant, it's just how I am and I also met with unpleasant words because of this, especially when I dress masculine or like lolita, people look at me with disgust and whisper - why is she wearing men clothes, or - she is woman and dress like little girl. It makes me feel upset, because I just everyday feel good in different clothes. You deserve better :c In my opinion you are very good-looking woman
My gf told me i dress like i eat nails for breakfast, but im socially very feminine. While i dont like to be called feminine in any way tbh, I definitely agree on some level. My personality is very soft. I like to spoil her and cook for her and I get giggly at times.
So i agree, it isnt about masculinity.
I now identify as trans. But my identity remains butch. For me, butch just IS my gender.
I think you are beautiful!
SKRIMEO ! WHAT’S GROSS FUCKING KID ? SHE JUST TOLD HER THAT SHE IS BEAUTIFUL ANS SHE REALLY IS, WHAT’S THE THING ??
Women can be absolutely any way we want, and butch lesbians are one of the best ways for women to be - women-centered, strong, independent, fiercely themselves.
I always assume lesbians are radical, militant feminists who hate men and it's 99% of the time true.
I love butch women they're my besties...
And what are you supposed to be?
I love this, thank you for giving words to my mental monologue
It's sad how people can be so mean, not smart at all and not even to think for a bit to how it is when they get criticized, degraded or feel someone is mean to them. They don't put themselves on the other person's shoes really. Don't take it personal it's their lack of education, they were taught to be homophobic at some point on their life.
Thank you for your courage! 🇨🇦❤️🏳️🌈
At least she's sane enough to recognize herself as a woman, and I respect that.
I don’t get why some people get so offended at others being themselves.
I am gay and not attracted to butch women and I get the point why people judge masculine females. Its not a coincidence that majority of butch women are lesbians. And I disagree but lesbians is about masculinity, not just he looks, whole attitude. I tried to be in a relationship with a butch girl and felt like I was in a hetero relationship which is not something I am interested it. But ofc its never okay to be a shit to another person and I am so sorry that Tabitha had to experience this.
Femme "lesbians" aren't real lesbians and are only a sex toy for men and for porno. Fact are facts. :) Butch lesbians are the only real lesbian, because being lesbians have nothing to do with femmenity. End up
@@Feckyuoh name checks out. news flash. sexual orientation has nothing to do with looks.
Lesbian is a woman who is same sex attracted , and thats it. A woman who loves other women. You do not need to be masculine, thats an addition, not the root of what being a lesbian is... and you felt like being w a butch woman was like being in a straight relationship... how? You must be some kind of gender essentialist who believes men are ought to be inherently masculine and women inherently feminine . That is called sexism babes...
You explaining what happens to you on the internet and in this way educating people is such a strong move. Explanation and education are the key. I whish you and everybody with similar problems all the best en happiness in your life.
Masculine women are so beautiful!
i don't understand how people can see them as less than and less of a woman simply because of their clothes and hairstyle 🤷 its baffling to me
I'm sorry y'all experience that, humans suck
Butches are beautiful
So great to see women not layered up in bad makeup & crazy hair! Butch is still super womanly whilst connected to their strength.
i respect all women no matter how they look like. i became friends with women like them before. they are nice
People will complain no matter what because they are not comfortable with who they are.Be yourself, people need to stop sticking their noses in other folks lives,I do not care if a person is gay,trans or non binary or even want to be a unicorn,all I care about is if a person is kind and everyone else should be this way,worry about if a person is kind and good towards other living beings.
I don't know the demographics of the people who are said to have threatened or insulted you. Could be old, young, black white, rich poor. But something is very off about the whole scenario. I live in the north, in a poor area that a liberal living in London might lazily expect to be homophobic, but I'm telling you right now there's no way that happens in a post office round my way without it kicking off. How deeply depressing it is that this can happen to someone simply or the way they look, and bystanders do nothing. London needs to have a long look at itself if this is the case.
I'm so sorry you had to go through this my dear. Much love
I’m really sorry to hear this.
Ok but it depends on the butch. I know a butch woman and she doesn’t mind if people refer to her as “dude” or “bro”. She doesn’t identify as a man tho but doesn’t mind being treated like a guy by other men
so many great well thought out comments!!
You are beautiful, inside and out. Stay strong and don't change for ANYONE
As a straight man, I always thought butch women dressed like men to appeal to straight women.
That's not true in most cases. Sexuality has nothing to do with gender expression.
Since you're straight, ask yourself: are you attracted to a man just because he is more feminine than most? For example, would you date a man who has long hair, wears lipstick, and maybe a skirt? Yet he still 100% is an looks like a man? If not, then you should be able to understand now.
@@E.V.-il Well I personally wouldn't. However I have heard of some 'straight' men who have had sexual encounters with transgender men, that is men who look a lot like women but aren't. Also, butch women often behave more masculinely in front of straight women which would often make any observer doubt them.
They do I agree. They hit on straight women and try to be alpha male. It's weird and unpleasant.
You are a beautiful woman.
Thank you Tabita! Im butch too and its about protest
Hi, I'm someone who is fluid as well. I find I'm less vulnerable in men's expression at time. But I've experience the same aggression. My first impression in a psychology class, the profession was a bit aggressive to me and yelled at me when I'm asking a normal question. The next time I came in dressed more womanly, he asked me out. Similar scenario's at work.
You rock, thank you for being yourself🙏💗
I miss old fashioned butches and studs. Please bring them back. Sincerely, all women who love them
as a butch, my butchness IS about being masculine. im still very much a woman but im a masculine one. masculinity =/= being male, femininity =/= being female. i agree that butches should all be seen as women/nonbinary women, but if its not partly about presenting yourself in a masculine way, then what is it??
I completely agree!! Same thing for femme gays or androgynous guys ... this doesn't make them any less of a man or a valid person, but you can't really say "wow you look so masculine" to them, as that is an adjective .. just and adjective
I wish I could still pull off a butch gender expression but as a detransitioned woman that's unfortunately not possible anymore without being misgendered (I sort of get it, hormones can work in "mysterious" ways). Maybe someday... anyway all I see here is a strong butch/gender non conforming woman. All the best to her.
What you should see is just a woman. She already said it herself, she does not want to be associated with masculinity. WHY is it SO HARD for YOU to see HER as JUST a WOMAN? Is it because deep down, you associate clothes with gender? I mean...you being trans and all...
@@protect_trans_lives hate? I did not express any hate so I don’t see where this attack is coming from…
@@dnnnforfordnnn7838 If you could read, which you apparently can’t, at least not properly, you would read that I’m not transgender at all, in fact…
@@protect_trans_lives well that transgender comment was directed at the person you were directing your own comment to? So I don’t know why people don’t see the @ in all of these comment section, but thank you for defending me then and I’m sorry if I came off rude…to you.
I know this is old but I hope you've found a way of expressing yourself that works for you.
(also, I deleted my reply to the other person since I don't want to cause a fight, but yeah, they totally misunderstood your comment)
Can we all just hug? 🥺
I linked this terrific video to the Facebook group, "gender Critical Women." Well said bravo. I'm sharing the video around!
I hate this stereotype it winds me up..... Im not feminine in any way and dress in jeans shirts etc and I feel comfortable that way I'm still a WOMEN and I like girls who dress comfortable for themselves...!!! I always get asked why u go for women who look like men NOOOO they are still women hence my lesbian identity and they are comfortable and should be able to be themselves!!!! Stop judging and allow us to just be X your beautiful inside an out babe xcx
You want to be a man and will never be so just forget about it and act like a woman and get a sense of humor. Lesbians are so boring, self centered and serious. Very unpleasant to be around never laugh or smile or look at life without some radical femisnist anger. Sad.
I'm so sorry for you. I didn't know this happened...
Chemical unbalanced in the brain is what this is all about get help
Im 32 and still havent cut my hair like this - wanted too since I was a kid. Because im terrified of homophobic abuse after being out before we could even get married. And also because well my face is pretty fat 😂
I really like what you are saying. Very brave!
She's beautiful for sure. Can't believe there are so many insecure arseholes around. Watching from London.
I don’t get why being masculine is a bad thing for some people. In every relationship there is a more masculine person and a more feminine person, and they work beautifully together. I think she is a beautiful and strong person, and I’m so sorry people were this cruel to her
Humans are evil. At 36 years old, I want to buzz my long hair off but I’m literally too afraid of the aggression I’ll get for… absolutely no reason.
A quien corresponda: corrijan los subtítulos, que muchos verbos están escritos como que es hombre (con "o") y todo el punto es que es una mujer.
Always shocking how ignorance can produce anger, and what fuels that but an arrogant attitude of bigotry, I think. Strong to be the kind of woman one feels authentically, as opposed to following prescriptions written out by the dominant patriarchal society(how painful & wrong).
WTF?! The guy who farted at her
Great perspective!
Truth.
Agree with the fact that not being girly doesn't imply masculinity... I changed a lot the last few years and I'm mostly getting rid of the women suit that doesn't suit me
Should never be that hard to be ourselves
Lmao he farted at me 🎉🎉
That sounds so awful, who is messed up enough in the head to go around treating her badly just because of her looks? Anyway the perception of masculinity is because her mannerisms are a lot like us men, you can have another name for it if you dont like the word masculine, but i can see where it comes from. Not an excuse to be mean to the poor woman though.
They're intimidated. Butches are their own persons. Why are all the young butch lesbians transitioning to become men? Sad to me. When I was a little girl there were adults who called me a boy to be funny. For a long time as an adult if someone mistakes me for a guy I'm cool with it. I even welcome it. Great video with a candid interesting point of view. Take care!
Shut up terf
What makes you think you can tell someone if theyre a man or not
What makes them “Butch” is that they are still a women just usually present masculine. Being butch has nothing to do with becoming a man... 🤨
carbonara countess Yes some transition to male, however it’s usually because they have showed signs of Gender Dysphoria.
@@junibuni1630 I'm not a terf. TGB. Trans Gynephobic Bully -I'm very boyish and I like it. I bled and you're a terf if you say that. WTF? Shut your damn mouth Bully! The video is about expressing different points of view. Asshole!
What’s the difference between a “stud” & a “butch”?
I feel like they're almost the same thing. Butch meaning a masculine female and a stud meaning a feminine and masculine gay female
stud is a black lesbian butch
a stud is black or sometimes another poc while a butch can be any race
A stud is a black butch lesbian
I think you should change the title of the video .. Tabitha is very clear to say "for me" to qualify each time she says it's not about masculinity... For others it clearly is - there's a recommend video on the right of my screen right now entitled: "Why Butch Lesbians Embrace Masculinity".
I find those stories very hard to believe in 2021
butch is cool but im just not that every women say in my city what should i do next
The fart is insulting that just proves he’s nasty has no etiquette I think you look lovely ❤
I love Butches! 👭❤️
sending you love
Thanks for sharing your experiences. For me being butch is definitely about masculinity, but we're all different
@blue BLUE I've heard of female penises in some insects but not in humans haha
Me too! Me too.😢
They act like that because they are scared people always fear what they don’t know . Life is not fair the world itself is not fair. If this is who you are and this is your truth live it but be prepared for the Endless battles ahead . Is not going to get better trust me . A time 🕰️ will come people will pray for the past cos the future is soo much Darker. 🏳️⚧️ 🏳️🌈 ⚧️. Just wait till the AI’s become full operational in human form, that was literally the beginning from the end
Never allow any one tell you who you are.. to define you.. to tell you how to look and more important to tell you who to love……for me a butch woman is a woman… and ….and I always tell to some. #%# people…no all butch woman are lesbians… I am a straight guy married to a soft butch / butch woman…. We have learned to put stop to anyone who try to tell us that… I was gay or bi…I love my wife been butch woman… and #%##% any one that do not like her or us.
what surprises me in the West is always loud about how free and equal it is and then i watch this crap. I also note how rigid gender is in those countruies.
Stay strong woman! (I know you will)