Most of my friends were girls till 9, and I always had close friendships with girls and women. Never understood why people feel nervous talking to them. You could literally beat them up so easily if you had to defend yourself, so why be scared? I don't get it
Desexualizing also means stopping yourself from obsessing over getting the “hottest” women. Which is great because hotness should not be a top priority when looking for a wife. You rule out too many amazing women when you have corn-brain.
Right? And dudes forget that the hottest girls tend to absolutely SUCK in bed. There's nothing worse than trying to get it on with a corpse, regardless how much lipstick it has on.
All of your videos make me feel like shit, not because you are mean but because it makes me realize how i lied to myself for years and how society and social media convinced me that its ok to be a fucking melvin. This is a great video as always, thanks jack.
Don’t add value such as “good” or “bad;” it’s society and you were a product of it just like me and everyone else. Algorithms have been programmed to bind to the sexual areas of our brains so it doesn’t make anyone bad. It’s just that there are simply consequence.
Let me drop some wisdom that might help you with those shitty feelings: Emotions/feelings can be pleasant or unpleasant but they are not good or bad, not objective, and not rational. They are like a sensory experience, similar to smelling roses or hearing a loud bang, but from within you body. You can't control your emotions by suppressing them. They will still be active in your subconscious, where they will exert control over your actions and beliefs without you even realising, for example in the form of addiction or avoidance. The only way to "control" your emotions is to feel them, pause and reflect on them, and then act in the best way you can think of in that moment. That means that a lot of times it feels shitty to learn things and improve yourself or you situation, but by understanding those feelings and taking the right action, those feelings will not make you life shitty, you actually allow them to push you forward in life. This is a skill that anyone can practice, and every time you practice it you'll gain more insigt and become more emotionally mature (which is infinitely more masculine than suppressing emotions and letting them control you) It took me over a decade of struggling with depression to learn this shit, so I thought I might aswell share this hard learned lesson lol. Tldr: Suppressing your emotions is a good way to fuck up your life 👍
5 steps summary: 1. Remember girls also want sex 2. Stop fapping to porn 3. Replace bad habits with good activities 4. Leave your home 5. Make new friends/Spend time with them
I’ve been married for five years. I have a very young child. Lots of work and not much in the way of sex. My “body count” is 1. My wife. You could say I’m pretty disciplined. But even I need to STAY disciplined. When your whole marriage is nothing but work and taking care of a child, it’s prime time to let your mind go to places it shouldn’t. The battle never ends. You have to actively choose to make better decisions. It’s not easy but you can strive to be a better man, one day at a time. Let me leave you with this bit of advice. “Blessed is he who finds a wife”. Notice it didn’t say “woman” it said “wife”. Think on these things.
Interesting. That's extremely rare today for BOTH parties to have 1 body count at the same time, and married. Either you're very religious or young. I hope it works out for you both. BTW for Muslims that's their ideal especially with women.
@@predatorhunter3169 Honestly believe it or not, you can do things indoors without the need to have an urge. You just gotta distract yourself. If you got family, literally just sit there and look at something or talk to them if you got a good connection and that feeling isn't gonna come out. Do not get bored in your room and take too long or else the urge will come. Talking from experience.
@@Danny328DT exactly these self improvement yt take it way too far and in a way just make a joke outta it in my eyes”GEt a hoBBy, EAt g00d, TALk t0 WoMEn, HiT ThE gYM” its all the same
I've realised with this video that I've reached the point of having desexualised my surroundings basically completely. It was really a background process of cluttering out my algorithm from thirst content and thumbnails. Also no corn for like a month now because I had great encounters in real life to replace it. I don't think I'll go back, it's pretty decent to live this way. One thing everybody needs to stop doing though is worrying about getting a girlfriend. My man, if you invest all of your time into that you just appear boring! You need to work on something you're passionate about and if you don't have a passion, find one. Enrol for a degree, learn a new skill, even play an instrument. All the while keeping your eyes out for a girlfriend and potentially occasionally going out of your way to neet new women but not obsessing of getting a girlfriend all day long.
Agree about not looking for a girlfriend. First, for some things in life, the more you try, the less likely you are to succeed, and second, they can smell the desparation of effort from a mile away, and it puts them off.
@levichicwown9760 I'm a woman and I agree strongly with the strategy of practicing on women you aren't interested in. Men who don't know how to talk to a woman like she is just another person throw out a weird vibe that is very off-putting
I was able to hold my longest streak for a month for a literal meme but after that's over I am never able to follow this for the sake of my life, however hard I try I can't get past a couple of days and honestly I was just about to break a two day streak just now. This popping up is a sign for me to discipline the fuck up and continue.
If you need to do something because your life depends on it you will die. Take the pressure off. I can shoot silly string or I can do X,Y or Z and I prefer these but it’s not the end of the world if I do shoot but it is distracting and diverting my limited time and energy to do what I like. “As a child I was slave to my impulses; now I am a slave to my habits, as are all grown men. Therefore if I must be a slave to habit let me be a slave to good habits” -brad pitt, fight club
The best thing right now for everyone here, is realising what you do wrong. That's a first big step forward. Acknowledging that you do and think some things wrong.
Realising you are wrong is not a step forward at all. It’s just coming to your senses and realising that there is a tall mountain in front of you. There are so many people who just get stuck at the first step, they never change, just get very good at realising their mistakes
Second step is looking at it while stripping away feeling of guilt or judgement. That's the hard part, but without it both guilt and self-judgement will crush you every day.
sexualization is honestly what's holding our species back. People get addicted to carnal desires and become impulsive and wild as a result. also a LOT of our social interactions involves sex or references it.
Lol animals are also impulsive and have sex nearly everyday we as humans are limited do to the fact that we have standarts and most of us cannot afford these basisics sex is a primitive desire that apes and the species where involved many 1000 years ago nowadays everyone sees it as a pure evil.
This is absolutely true. Anyone who has issues socializing mostly has those issues because they are subconsciously thinking about sex. If you're a male and have problems approaching and conversing with women, it's because you're already thinking of the end result, that being the sexual encounter. If you separate your mind from that thinking when approaching women and don't focus on the sexual aspect, but instead on truly being invested in finding someone that you can have fun with and talk to, you'll realize that the approach is much easier than it seems when sex is clouding your judgement and making you act the fool.
Yeah, but, then when you unsexualize the approach, they then want you TO sexualize. Then you have to have sex with them. That's when and where I've always gotten fucked up. As a 48 y.o dude, I can tell you that this tactic works, but, it's never for my pleasure or gain. I end up having sex with women because of duty or I feel sorry for them. I'd like for sex to cloud my judgement. To this day, I still don't understand it. Sex is anti-climactic. IF ONLY sex were fun and there was something to gain from fuckiing women other than Ego or bragging rights. Sex to me is like non-alcoholic beer. "Let's all pretend to not want to get drunk to not get drunk!! (then get shamed for it, blamed for it, guilted for it, and/or , falsely accused of it ...). Personally, saying NO to women is far sexier than sex. That's called having control and REAL POWER. If only submitting to girls were cool.
personally i feel like this is a huge reach. maybe some percentage of men are so sex obsessed they cant get their mind out of wanting to fuck the girl theyre talking to, but realize men are people too. just like women, they have mental disorders and issues such as anxiety and depression. when i try to talk to a woman it isnt me wanting to fuck her that makes things difficult, it's communication, trust, understanding, etc. i never know if theyre being honest or lying for one of millions of reasons or saying something because they feel they have to but youd be annoying to ask for clarification every 5 seconds so you just kinda have to go along with it. a lot of guys just find it hard to communicate with women, and that is completely irrelevant to the minority of men that jump to thinking of sex upon meeting a woman.
Honest question here : why would you bother to talk to women if it's not to fuck them in the end? Have a good laugh and have enjoyable conversations about XYZ? Already got bros to do that. So i'm asking again : why? 😂 Time is precious, wasting it on "trying to have a nice encounter with a woman" is a waste of time if it's not to end up fucking eachothers at some point
Hey mate i just wanna thank you for make me realise approaching girls isnt an extreme thing. I usually met girls in social activities or through my friend groups. Recently couple days after i watched one of your videos, i just turned off my brain and approached a girl i liked in public. I was direct and made my intentions clear.
@@Denmosocial I had a little bully in middle school named Ricky I beat his azz in 6th grade for pushing Me I pushed him back he punch me so I punch way harder then he pushed me to locker and punch me then I slammed his face in the locker his glasses where on ground and punched him a bit and walked away as teachers where followed me to class but lost me and I was too good with the stealth and he always talked bad about me called me g@@ because i hanged out with my best friend Charlie and Issac and they where basically my only friends and he was a jerk and one time I sold candy he stole from me and I caught up to him took it away it was peanut m and most candy and in around senior year in 2023 never saw him again I hated Ricky Ricardo that was his name basically and has a taco truck I never ever went to because why would I go to my bullies business I hate him also he was like 4'11 and 60lbs weak but popular jerk and got a lot of girls we was ugly af while Me handsome Michael Perez is still single and virgin at 18 yrs old
I pretty much started exactly what you’re talking about half a year ago. I’m much more successful at work, somehow turned to be the leader of my friend group and even got the girl I tried to get with since 3 years knowing her. All of that because I learned how important discipline is for the mind of a man. Being disciplined automatically will make you confident. Confidence is the key to be successful with women and pretty much every other aspect in life. I never felt better in my life.
If I had all the time back that I wasted looking at porn over 25 years, I'd probably have an entire year of my life back. I'd have 5 more if I hadn't chased broken women. I'm not gonna waste more time being ashamed, but it's important to admit. It's an addiction that's wasteful, shameful, and dangerous.
Ricky in a weird sort of way for his determination and persistence is a little bit of a chad. Imagine if he put that energy into something that could actually help his life !
My brain has been desexualized for ages. Is it a cheat code for life? No. It's still hard. But it does have benefits. Although I date less, I no longer date man hating psycho chicks no matter how hot they are. I don't get friend zoned because I'm not friends with women who try to lead me on (I used to be that guy). So when I am in a relationship they treat me with love and respect. My exes are really nice people but we weren't compatible. I spend a lot of time working on projects instead of simping on "friends" that flirt too damn much and secretly hate me.
Bro I'm in tech school in the Air Force and step 4 is literally the reason I love having a roommate. Having constant social anxiety keeps me hella productive. The one month that i didn't was a terrible mess of self indulgence.
Denmo, I watched a handful of your videos and you made it seem achieveable and healthy to go up and talk to people and today I started a conversation with a guy and three women on my campus and it went really well and I got all their contact info and I feel like a million bucks. You really freed me from the anxiety of feeling like it's not normal for me to go up to strangers and start conversations. Thank you!
Also sometimes you aren't interested in any girl, but just in the relationship itself. That's super dangerous. As he said, you gotta spend time with friends. I think the biggest thing that helped me get out of my depression was letting myself be vulnerable with new friends, not being in a relationship. The source of my problems was depression, anxiety, lack of friendship, etc, NOT masturbation, or any coping mechanism, it was those things that kept me alive. Don't be hard on yourself, and let yourself feel valuable without having a relationship to make you feel valuable. I think romance is best when you love the person for who they are, not because they allow you to be in a relationship.
An issue I am currently facing with my fight against porn addiction is that so many of my closer friend circles that I have the best time with are full of sex-obsessed singles who will joke and talk about basically nothing else. I'd hate to have friends with no flirty energy and who would never double down on a raunchy comment, but I can tell that spending quality time with them also fuels my urge to numb the loneliness (imbued with sexual thoughts) after I come back home.
@@VinnyMartello I have joined a church, been born and raised a Christian. I like a couple of people there, but the quality time with them does not quite compare to the sessions I have with my core group, which is entirely non-Christian. I hate that this is true, but there's no use in denying it.
@@askandanswer1503 They don't add anything per se, I just enjoy joking about anything and everything, and I would be less comfortable with a group of people that shy away from certain types of jokes.
I've never been in to no fap because I once gave it up for lent and while I managed 40 days it wasn't particularly pleasant at the end. Now it's every 5 days and it just works a lot better for me. Definitely a lot less of a distraction. I find with this setup that the approaches feel easier. In the last two days I struck up conversations with 5 different women, one of which invited me to join a running club she's in this Saturday. Fortune favours the bold.
Im trying no fap right now ...pretty much fist time .. just want to see what it's like .. almost done 2 weeks. Had blue balls the other day, that wasnt fun
That first story reminded me that yesterday, new coworker arrives, his first reaction to the cleaning lady (which is a decent looking eastern european woman) was asking me if she was single and if I liked her. Stared at him as if he was some kind of animal, this shit is insane, his first day, almost his first words to me were sexualizing a random woman. What the hell ?
Dude is always spot on with the vids man. I’m currently in a situation where all I think about is girls but it gets in the way of my job and my side hustle.
Hey man. This is the first video of yours that I've watched. I deal with a lot of childhood trauma, very serious mental health issues, and have been addicted to porn since I was 8 years old. I wouldn't say I hate my life, but I have definitely fallen into that cycle of just numbing everything and going from day to day with no real purpose. I'm not saying that this video has changed my life or anything like that, but you've given me some hope. That I'm not useless, that there is hope for me, and that I can turn things around and become a good man. Starting today, I'm going to start trying to implement some of the changes you suggested here. I'm writing this out mostly to make it concrete. I'm going to spend less time on my phone and computer, do some small workouts every day, practice piano, and read. I'm going to really give it my all to quit watching porn. Thanks for the words of encouragement and kickstarting a change for me.
One extra quick tip, from musician to musician; don't just practice piano, sit down and improvise. I have no idea how comfortable you are with improvising but I've found it to be so helpful for my mental health. Improvising is an opportunity for the unconscious parts of yourself to spill out into something creative which is not only a better way to channel libido but it's also like some kind of musical diary. I really recommend "Effortless Mastery" by Kenny Werner if you're not already aware. If you already love improvisation I'm peaching to the choir :P
I've never seen your content before, I'm not even a guy, but it's nice to see someone helping out young men like yourself. Sometimes I worry because of the prominence of people like Andrew Tate, but it's nice to see there's people who actually care and have good advice and support for young men. Keep up the good work!
Spot-on. It's not just about taking your mind off sex, it's about channeling that energy into something more productive. If more people tried this, they'd probably be surprised at how much more they could accomplish. Worth a shot for anyone feeling mentally cluttered. 👌
I quit porn for months at a time, on and off. But It feels like trading one addiction for another. Sure pursuing sex aligns my lifestyle and habits to a better version of me, but at the same time it kind of feels like I'm developing a sex addiction which has kind of ironically made relationships harder. I feel like I used to be able to get a girlfriend and watch porn to kind of 'vent' my libido but when I'm not watching porn I become an absolute maniac. Dunno what to do, I wish I could be motivated intrinsically by something as much as porn/sex but I just can't
I have many things (I believe you do too) to feed my time into. Sounds like you've tried but can't hold on to it cause of boredom. Even the replacements that was exciting at first got boring after a month or so. Go back to your replacements, once it starts to feel boring again, or you start to feel urges, go for a walk, drive, or workout. Converse with others you feel comfortable with outside. Your phone and the computer are the main reasons you're stuck in a cycle, so you have to use these tools in the direction for bettering yourself, than redoing the cycle. But as soon as you feel even a little confident, jump out there and talk to others, throw yourself in the deep end. And use good news as a catalyst. Any amount will help you. Even reaching a month of discipline is good news. Don't tell people what good news happens to you unless you're fine with announcing it, and it won't turn somebody away. I wouldn't tell people I just won the lottery or I'm on my journey. Keep things normal, but find excitement talking and getting to know people.
I also think that we achieve so many things in life that a lot of it feels mundane and lackluster. I think we should bring back that excitement back in our life's, making even the most mundane victories feel like the first time we achieved them. Just celebrate them internally more. If I make it to work on time, I'll be more excited and more confident. That will add to your happiness.
Fun fact: When you respect women, support women, and believe in them, they actually like you more. No, you don't get to take whatever you want from them, no you don't get to "hit it and quit it." You actually have to be that "good guy" that you keep thinking you are. That's how you find a "good woman." That good woman, will then turn around and respect you, support you, and believe in you. The energy you put it out always comes back to you.
Personally, I think warm approach is the best option for 80% of men . Cold approach, sliding in the DMs , dating apps etc… are basic the same shit , only thing the girl really has to go on about you is what you look like . My advice , talk to girls at your job , school , church , etc… anything where you see the girl on a regular basis is the best option for most men . ( a lot of people meet there partners at work btw , for all the “sexual harassment” copers) . The whole , making your intentions clear to her the exact day you meet her is not the way to go for a lot of us. It’s great if you wanna do it for exposure therapy , but it’s better to ease your way in their than flat out tell her you like her from day one , unless you’re crazy good looking , or your social skills are out of this world
bro.. I have never watched a video where the content is halfway into the video.. that beginning had me fuckign hooked. You are such a good speaker and story teller! You're amazing and this channel is underrated.
You know I’ve never heard of anyone that has ever said “It’s okay to fap.” that doesn’t fap themselves lol. To each there own. But the benefits of not fapping are amazing. I do agree it’s stupid to count days
Stopped watching that kind of content about a month or two ago. Its embarassing waking up every once in a while, but I feel better. I'm not waiting every night for "alone time" and I'm not looking for ways to heavily cope with it as much. I hang out with my friends more, I take on more hours at work, I have more time for hobbies, even if its like an extra 10 - 30 minutes. Guys, it really is a little bit liberating to just not watch it and not masturbate.
Love your content about encouraging people to put themselves out there. Hope you could also create content that also puts introverts into that same mindset. Friendly introverts would often chat up people, but it hardly results in a hangout, date, or even just exchanging numbers, as introverts tend to enjoy their own company, so it hardly results in a suggestion of a group activity.
As a fellow introvert I'll say that you need to find people that already have similar interests. For me, I do Renaissance Faires, Pirate Faires and costumed events like Wasteland Weekend. I also do plenty of "nerdy" stuff like D&D and card games, anime, rc planes, online RPGS, yadda yadda. Look for places or ways to meet people who have similar interests to you. These people are easier to get along with and will more likely be "one of you" - a person you would be willing to spend more of your private time with. Us introverts don't usually like being in large crowds and prefer more of a smaller intimate circle right? So by seeking people with similar interests, you'd all end up meeting in smaller circles based on said interests. So make a list of the things you enjoy doing or WOULD enjoy doing, then seek out where you can find other people who share these interests. Granted I'm one of those slightly extraverted introverts (if you're into the MBTI personality typing stuff there's descriptions of that sort of thing). But I tend to approach other misfits like myself and not just "normal" people because I know I'll tend to have more in common with them. But lets say I moved to a new town and wanted to work a faire. I'd show up as a patron and spend time conversing with those who are working it. Get some info on different groups or how to work at the faire or other faires that are coming up. Bonus for faire people, is that they are largely interested in the rest of the list I mentioned. But I can also go to comic book shops or gaming shops that host gaming nights (usually have tables spread out for that) and I can show up during tournaments or gaming nights. Sometimes they'll have open invite nights where anyone can show up and join. There are also online resources (even facebook or others) that have social groups to join that may have real life meetups and the like. This is huge in the business arena but also for things like book clubs - all sorts of things. So figure your current (or future) interests, find out where you can learn or do those things, and spend time with the people there. Being introverted as you say, at least half of what I listed is mostly full of introverts (even Faire, we just make an exception for events like that because we can be 'social' for small spurts of time like that). Hope that makes sense.
Number 5 is the biggest one, all the others are sorta just obvious. But I have made new friends by starting to go to church again and in 2 months I was extremely happy, more disciplined, have made many new friends, and am just at a better place in life. I'm at the disadvantage of being in my 30's but still, he's got some solid points here that actually DO work.
Deny yourself sexual satisfaction, unless you have achieved your goals and objectives for the day or even better for the week. Use your sexual desire as a reward system for achieving your mission.
My personal motivation for not fapping is Kratos. Yeap, you heard that right. Women love a real man like Kratos (If you know you know) so that's what I'll become as well. A real man.
i've done abstinence a few times. It doesnt magically give you game, in fact it can be worse. What usually happens to me is I get agressive, frustrated, then internally dead and unmotivated. Lifting, practicing martial arts or sports, studying, working.... really have little to do with attracting women today.
Watching this video as a woman is interesting, I feel a bit like an anthropologist. I cannot tell you in words how lucky I feel that I was born a woman in this particular time and place, because what men have to go through nowadays sounds awful. Overall, I agree that this guys' advice is solid, even if it is hardly groundbreaking. There's nothing that will make me run the other direction faster than when a guy isn't acting normal. The only thing I'll say is if you do that thing he suggests where you walk up to her with the confidence of someone who sees himself as the prize... that's fine and good, but just be careful if you are a black-and-white thinker. The advice is really meant to offer some balance to guys that don't have enough self-esteem, but I can say from experience that some guys take that kind of attitude as an all-or-nothing principle, and they can end up getting really obnoxious or mean if they get rejected because it doesn't fit into the unrealistic opinion that they've been carefully constructing in their heads where they are, in fact, too desirable to be rejected (especially when they've taken all the Steps and followed all the Rules!). This isn't a male-specific phenomenon, as I see it in women too; it's like for these people there are only two self-opinion modes in their brains: (1) I am shit, or (2) I am God himself, and they choose the one that feels better. These people are those types that can't handle being made fun of even gently, and can't handle any kind of criticism even if it's constructive.
There’s something about this video that helps me understand this topic way more than the no fap/semen retention community. Semen retention/nofap brings in huge amounts of change and energy in every aspect of life, but this video makes me think about it way deeper. It’s almost like I feel disgusted not being able to control my sexual thoughts…
@@PierreHefner honestly I wouldn’t tell people to not do it but I would inform them on it’s affects. Yes it lowers cortisol levels but it also lowers sperm count and testosterone levels.
Guys I promise you that this dude’s course is not going to help you get a gf. Live your life focus on yourself and putting yourself out there is the only thing that is actually going to help you. Life experience is the only thing u need
Yeah I was excited for what this video might be, then he started talking about the biological programming of women's brains and trying to sell me something. Waste of 13 minutes
I was never that into porn . Once in a while I will get into porn but I would like to get it out of my life for good. I was young when I started watching porn and I was severely disabled. I still am disabled but even more so back then. I have built myself up pretty good now but porn is still a fairly common thing and I am pretty sure that porn is keeping me single. I just want to give up porn for good. I know that it is causing some damage.
Most honest vídeo i saw in a long time. Being introverted and not get out of your house is a vicious circle for all the other advices on this vídeo. Has been three months of the last time when i left my house. I'm trying and hoping to get over depression and social anxiety. Thanks for your honesty and not sigma bullshit.
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What happens if you don't want a relationship ever? And most of the time you fap, it's literally right before going to sleep? What then? Should I sleep in public too? I have no issues talking to women because I have no interest in having sex with them.
May all the corrupt minds get detoxed so the world can be a better place for all the girls that feel unsafe and for all the homies that got caught up fapping to release stress 🤜🏽🤛🏽🖤 Amen.
this whole video us facts, i was addicted to porn being a teenager, i think we all go through that stage. but then around a year ago i met my now girlfriend, she was the first girl id ever hung out with and i thought at first i would be very nervous but that nervousness only lasts about 5 minutes if you guys vibe well. the first time i got head, its nothing like those porn videos, everything is calm and you just lay there really and let her do her thing, maybe play with her hair and all. but sex is more about the intimacy between you and your partner not just about the pleasure you get out of it.
Two girls my age recently came up to me when I was waiting for my bus and we talked until my bus arrived. I got their snapchats and we found out we have a good mutual friend (who is also a girl). I hung out with the girls last Friday. Now one of them wants to sleep over at my place 😅
My guy is trying to get striked by Teachingmensfashion. I've been enjoying your videos, but damn man, you just blatantly copied 90% of his last video about "desexualizing your brain". You seem better than this, man. Get some original content, come on!
It upsets me to say, but in my life, I had already lived this way. I have discovered it was during the 2 long term relationships I had with Narcissistic women that my life seemed to spiral into the opposite of what this video is saying. Happy to say, 5 months removed from the second relationship and already back on the positive track before watching this video. Thank you for reminding me again where I once came from and where I am again today.
Recap - Stop fapping to stuff online - Replace bad habits (fapping) with good habits (reading, exercising...) - Force yourself to work/spend free time in public After getting used to doing all of the above - Make friends/interact with new people
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Socializing with women is the best way to learn picking up women.
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@@Denmosocial🤡
Bullshit
Most of my friends were girls till 9, and I always had close friendships with girls and women. Never understood why people feel nervous talking to them. You could literally beat them up so easily if you had to defend yourself, so why be scared? I don't get it
it's also the best way to realize how retarded they are and that it's not for you
Desexualizing also means stopping yourself from obsessing over getting the “hottest” women. Which is great because hotness should not be a top priority when looking for a wife. You rule out too many amazing women when you have corn-brain.
Right? And dudes forget that the hottest girls tend to absolutely SUCK in bed. There's nothing worse than trying to get it on with a corpse, regardless how much lipstick it has on.
As long as they ain't fat or going to be fat
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This is cope, if a gold-digging hot woman came up & asked to marry you
You'd do it in a heartbeat
@@FineWine-v4.0 Not everyone has a small brain like you buddy.
All of your videos make me feel like shit, not because you are mean but because it makes me realize how i lied to myself for years and how society and social media convinced me that its ok to be a fucking melvin.
This is a great video as always, thanks jack.
all good my G, here to help you
@@Denmosocialu are the best
Use that as motivation. Don't focus on how bad you are! Instead, improve yourself.
Don’t add value such as “good” or “bad;” it’s society and you were a product of it just like me and everyone else. Algorithms have been programmed to bind to the sexual areas of our brains so it doesn’t make anyone bad. It’s just that there are simply consequence.
Let me drop some wisdom that might help you with those shitty feelings:
Emotions/feelings can be pleasant or unpleasant but they are not good or bad, not objective, and not rational. They are like a sensory experience, similar to smelling roses or hearing a loud bang, but from within you body.
You can't control your emotions by suppressing them. They will still be active in your subconscious, where they will exert control over your actions and beliefs without you even realising, for example in the form of addiction or avoidance.
The only way to "control" your emotions is to feel them, pause and reflect on them, and then act in the best way you can think of in that moment. That means that a lot of times it feels shitty to learn things and improve yourself or you situation, but by understanding those feelings and taking the right action, those feelings will not make you life shitty, you actually allow them to push you forward in life. This is a skill that anyone can practice, and every time you practice it you'll gain more insigt and become more emotionally mature (which is infinitely more masculine than suppressing emotions and letting them control you)
It took me over a decade of struggling with depression to learn this shit, so I thought I might aswell share this hard learned lesson lol.
Tldr:
Suppressing your emotions is a good way to fuck up your life 👍
5 steps summary:
1. Remember girls also want sex
2. Stop fapping to porn
3. Replace bad habits with good activities
4. Leave your home
5. Make new friends/Spend time with them
Damn that was awesome bro, that makes total sense.
Except you dont have time and have not enough money to afford freedom then your fucked lmao.
atta boy
@@DenmosocialSHMOVIDDDD
can i fap with my imagination? or with flashbacks from past encounters? haha
I’ve been married for five years. I have a very young child. Lots of work and not much in the way of sex. My “body count” is 1. My wife. You could say I’m pretty disciplined. But even I need to STAY disciplined. When your whole marriage is nothing but work and taking care of a child, it’s prime time to let your mind go to places it shouldn’t. The battle never ends. You have to actively choose to make better decisions. It’s not easy but you can strive to be a better man, one day at a time. Let me leave you with this bit of advice. “Blessed is he who finds a wife”. Notice it didn’t say “woman” it said “wife”. Think on these things.
What is your wife's body count?
@@yunglazarus5364whatever a woman says times by 3
Hers is one.
Interesting. That's extremely rare today for BOTH parties to have 1 body count at the same time, and married. Either you're very religious or young. I hope it works out for you both. BTW for Muslims that's their ideal especially with women.
We both profess to be Christian and we both are in our 30’s.
Long story short: pick up a hobby, socialize with others, and don't stay isolated for a very long period of time.
That’s literally what all these no fap mfkers all say, you can do all that just masturbate at a low volume maybe once a week
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@@predatorhunter3169 Honestly believe it or not, you can do things indoors without the need to have an urge. You just gotta distract yourself. If you got family, literally just sit there and look at something or talk to them if you got a good connection and that feeling isn't gonna come out. Do not get bored in your room and take too long or else the urge will come. Talking from experience.
@@Danny328DT exactly these self improvement yt take it way too far and in a way just make a joke outta it in my eyes”GEt a hoBBy, EAt g00d, TALk t0 WoMEn, HiT ThE gYM” its all the same
Went to college and realized talking to girls isn’t hard.
Stop fapping, start approaching www.denmo.social/socializer
why not doing both at the same time?
@@madpotato2033💀
Denmo, why your thumbnail and the title for the video is the same as the one that teaching men's fashion posted some weeks ago?
@@AndrzejAAn So what? Probrably because it works
I agree, all that energy goes to do more productive things
I've realised with this video that I've reached the point of having desexualised my surroundings basically completely. It was really a background process of cluttering out my algorithm from thirst content and thumbnails. Also no corn for like a month now because I had great encounters in real life to replace it. I don't think I'll go back, it's pretty decent to live this way.
One thing everybody needs to stop doing though is worrying about getting a girlfriend. My man, if you invest all of your time into that you just appear boring! You need to work on something you're passionate about and if you don't have a passion, find one. Enrol for a degree, learn a new skill, even play an instrument. All the while keeping your eyes out for a girlfriend and potentially occasionally going out of your way to neet new women but not obsessing of getting a girlfriend all day long.
Agree about not looking for a girlfriend. First, for some things in life, the more you try, the less likely you are to succeed, and second, they can smell the desparation of effort from a mile away, and it puts them off.
@levichicwown9760 I'm a woman and I agree strongly with the strategy of practicing on women you aren't interested in. Men who don't know how to talk to a woman like she is just another person throw out a weird vibe that is very off-putting
I was able to hold my longest streak for a month for a literal meme but after that's over I am never able to follow this for the sake of my life, however hard I try I can't get past a couple of days and honestly I was just about to break a two day streak just now. This popping up is a sign for me to discipline the fuck up and continue.
Focus on something other than women and sex
Have you tried accepting Christ in your heart?
If you need to do something because your life depends on it you will die. Take the pressure off. I can shoot silly string or I can do X,Y or Z and I prefer these but it’s not the end of the world if I do shoot but it is distracting and diverting my limited time and energy to do what I like.
“As a child I was slave to my impulses; now I am a slave to my habits, as are all grown men. Therefore if I must be a slave to habit let me be a slave to good habits”
-brad pitt, fight club
The best thing right now for everyone here, is realising what you do wrong. That's a first big step forward. Acknowledging that you do and think some things wrong.
I do that everyday but that does not get me anywhere sry thats just my exp.
Realising you are wrong is not a step forward at all. It’s just coming to your senses and realising that there is a tall mountain in front of you.
There are so many people who just get stuck at the first step, they never change, just get very good at realising their mistakes
Second step is looking at it while stripping away feeling of guilt or judgement. That's the hard part, but without it both guilt and self-judgement will crush you every day.
sexualization is honestly what's holding our species back. People get addicted to carnal desires and become impulsive and wild as a result. also a LOT of our social interactions involves sex or references it.
Lol animals are also impulsive and have sex nearly everyday we as humans are limited do to the fact that we have standarts and most of us cannot afford these basisics sex is a primitive desire that apes and the species where involved many 1000 years ago nowadays everyone sees it as a pure evil.
Way too much, dude. Way too fucking much.
Everyone knows sex will always sell
It's part of the socialist program to "free libido" and break down thr family structure. It seems to be going well.
couldnt have said it better man i hear it so much daily and im sick of it
This is absolutely true. Anyone who has issues socializing mostly has those issues because they are subconsciously thinking about sex. If you're a male and have problems approaching and conversing with women, it's because you're already thinking of the end result, that being the sexual encounter. If you separate your mind from that thinking when approaching women and don't focus on the sexual aspect, but instead on truly being invested in finding someone that you can have fun with and talk to, you'll realize that the approach is much easier than it seems when sex is clouding your judgement and making you act the fool.
Yeah, but, then when you unsexualize the approach, they then want you TO sexualize. Then you have to have sex with them. That's when and where I've always gotten fucked up. As a 48 y.o dude, I can tell you that this tactic works, but, it's never for my pleasure or gain. I end up having sex with women because of duty or I feel sorry for them. I'd like for sex to cloud my judgement.
To this day, I still don't understand it. Sex is anti-climactic. IF ONLY sex were fun and there was something to gain from fuckiing women other than Ego or bragging rights. Sex to me is like non-alcoholic beer. "Let's all pretend to not want to get drunk to not get drunk!! (then get shamed for it, blamed for it, guilted for it, and/or , falsely accused of it ...). Personally, saying NO to women is far sexier than sex. That's called having control and REAL POWER. If only submitting to girls were cool.
personally i feel like this is a huge reach. maybe some percentage of men are so sex obsessed they cant get their mind out of wanting to fuck the girl theyre talking to, but realize men are people too. just like women, they have mental disorders and issues such as anxiety and depression. when i try to talk to a woman it isnt me wanting to fuck her that makes things difficult, it's communication, trust, understanding, etc. i never know if theyre being honest or lying for one of millions of reasons or saying something because they feel they have to but youd be annoying to ask for clarification every 5 seconds so you just kinda have to go along with it. a lot of guys just find it hard to communicate with women, and that is completely irrelevant to the minority of men that jump to thinking of sex upon meeting a woman.
@@Bluzian74bro it's not "your duty" to have sex with every women who wants sex guard your seed
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Honest question here : why would you bother to talk to women if it's not to fuck them in the end? Have a good laugh and have enjoyable conversations about XYZ? Already got bros to do that. So i'm asking again : why? 😂 Time is precious, wasting it on "trying to have a nice encounter with a woman" is a waste of time if it's not to end up fucking eachothers at some point
Hey mate i just wanna thank you for make me realise approaching girls isnt an extreme thing. I usually met girls in social activities or through my friend groups. Recently couple days after i watched one of your videos, i just turned off my brain and approached a girl i liked in public. I was direct and made my intentions clear.
Vayy denmo reisi izleyen türk olduğunu hiç bilmiyordum
@@hmertyldr valla bi gün karşıma çıktı anasayfada, kral adam. Doğal olmayı, rahat olmayı aşılıyo.
And funny thing is, you have a really good chance of them just saying fuck it if you have decent hygiene and dont look homeless
aaaaaaaand? just gonna leave us on the cliffhanger?
Ricky is an absolute GigaChad😂
lmao the legend of ricky
All 4"2 of him.
@@Denmosocial I had a little bully in middle school named Ricky I beat his azz in 6th grade for pushing Me I pushed him back he punch me so I punch way harder then he pushed me to locker and punch me then I slammed his face in the locker his glasses where on ground and punched him a bit and walked away as teachers where followed me to class but lost me and I was too good with the stealth and he always talked bad about me called me g@@ because i hanged out with my best friend Charlie and Issac and they where basically my only friends and he was a jerk and one time I sold candy he stole from me and I caught up to him took it away it was peanut m and most candy and in around senior year in 2023 never saw him again I hated Ricky Ricardo that was his name basically and has a taco truck I never ever went to because why would I go to my bullies business I hate him also he was like 4'11 and 60lbs weak but popular jerk and got a lot of girls we was ugly af while Me handsome Michael Perez is still single and virgin at 18 yrs old
More like gigachat
Hey, thanks!😅
I pretty much started exactly what you’re talking about half a year ago. I’m much more successful at work, somehow turned to be the leader of my friend group and even got the girl I tried to get with since 3 years knowing her.
All of that because I learned how important discipline is for the mind of a man. Being disciplined automatically will make you confident. Confidence is the key to be successful with women and pretty much every other aspect in life. I never felt better in my life.
good shit man keep it up
friend group leader 🙏🏾🔥
@@GLA888😂
you not the leader brev
I have been very disciplined for a month now but i still don't feel any more confident in general and with women than before
It’s even harder for me to go outside because of anxiety, panic attack and agoraphobia but the more I go outside the better it is.
If I had all the time back that I wasted looking at porn over 25 years, I'd probably have an entire year of my life back. I'd have 5 more if I hadn't chased broken women. I'm not gonna waste more time being ashamed, but it's important to admit. It's an addiction that's wasteful, shameful, and dangerous.
Ricky in a weird sort of way for his determination and persistence is a little bit of a chad. Imagine if he put that energy into something that could actually help his life !
lmaooo rickys persistence made him chad
@@Denmosocial ricky was putting watt hours of energy into his side hustle
@@pylotheric9777 I'm ☠️☠️
My brain has been desexualized for ages. Is it a cheat code for life? No. It's still hard. But it does have benefits. Although I date less, I no longer date man hating psycho chicks no matter how hot they are. I don't get friend zoned because I'm not friends with women who try to lead me on (I used to be that guy). So when I am in a relationship they treat me with love and respect. My exes are really nice people but we weren't compatible. I spend a lot of time working on projects instead of simping on "friends" that flirt too damn much and secretly hate me.
I used to be that guy too; not for a few years, and never again. Feels good to never be any girl's simp.
you used to date men?/??
Bro I'm in tech school in the Air Force and step 4 is literally the reason I love having a roommate. Having constant social anxiety keeps me hella productive. The one month that i didn't was a terrible mess of self indulgence.
Denmo, I watched a handful of your videos and you made it seem achieveable and healthy to go up and talk to people and today I started a conversation with a guy and three women on my campus and it went really well and I got all their contact info and I feel like a million bucks. You really freed me from the anxiety of feeling like it's not normal for me to go up to strangers and start conversations. Thank you!
You want to have multiple girlfriends at the same time?
legendary. send me an email sharing your story
@@christiantaylor1495 No Friends
What doy ou study ?
@@marvin2678youtube, litteraly the same thumbnail as someone else made a month ago
Also sometimes you aren't interested in any girl, but just in the relationship itself. That's super dangerous. As he said, you gotta spend time with friends. I think the biggest thing that helped me get out of my depression was letting myself be vulnerable with new friends, not being in a relationship. The source of my problems was depression, anxiety, lack of friendship, etc, NOT masturbation, or any coping mechanism, it was those things that kept me alive. Don't be hard on yourself, and let yourself feel valuable without having a relationship to make you feel valuable. I think romance is best when you love the person for who they are, not because they allow you to be in a relationship.
An issue I am currently facing with my fight against porn addiction is that so many of my closer friend circles that I have the best time with are full of sex-obsessed singles who will joke and talk about basically nothing else. I'd hate to have friends with no flirty energy and who would never double down on a raunchy comment, but I can tell that spending quality time with them also fuels my urge to numb the loneliness (imbued with sexual thoughts) after I come back home.
Lmao that's funny. Sorry for your circumstances 😔
That demon comes for all of us. Pursue good friends. Maybe even join a church. That might sound lame but give it a try.
What do these raunchy comments add to your life in the first place
@@VinnyMartello I have joined a church, been born and raised a Christian. I like a couple of people there, but the quality time with them does not quite compare to the sessions I have with my core group, which is entirely non-Christian. I hate that this is true, but there's no use in denying it.
@@askandanswer1503 They don't add anything per se, I just enjoy joking about anything and everything, and I would be less comfortable with a group of people that shy away from certain types of jokes.
"Obviously you're not going to beat off in public."
You don't know me.
*me watching this video in a coffee shop as I'm beating off my meat*
Sweet thumbnail
Lol seen that thumbnail so many times before its unreal
@@candles6103bro he got it off teachingmensfashion not to be a hater
@@candles6103they still did a good job tho
@@SurfanicGamingyeah I saw that too :/
I've never been in to no fap because I once gave it up for lent and while I managed 40 days it wasn't particularly pleasant at the end. Now it's every 5 days and it just works a lot better for me. Definitely a lot less of a distraction. I find with this setup that the approaches feel easier. In the last two days I struck up conversations with 5 different women, one of which invited me to join a running club she's in this Saturday.
Fortune favours the bold.
And it even lead to better health. I wish you good fortune
Im trying no fap right now ...pretty much fist time .. just want to see what it's like .. almost done 2 weeks. Had blue balls the other day, that wasnt fun
Fortune favors the fortunate
bro I left my house yesterday and women were approaching me. it’s crazy. I had no idea there were women outside. Leave the house fellas.
being a sexualized person absolutely got me every relationship i've had
physical relationship?
@@foochs no
That first story reminded me that yesterday, new coworker arrives, his first reaction to the cleaning lady (which is a decent looking eastern european woman) was asking me if she was single and if I liked her. Stared at him as if he was some kind of animal, this shit is insane, his first day, almost his first words to me were sexualizing a random woman. What the hell ?
How dare you tell me i shouldnt watch italian female pole vault competitions. 😂
Dude is always spot on with the vids man. I’m currently in a situation where all I think about is girls but it gets in the way of my job and my side hustle.
i gotchu marco
Hey man. This is the first video of yours that I've watched.
I deal with a lot of childhood trauma, very serious mental health issues, and have been addicted to porn since I was 8 years old. I wouldn't say I hate my life, but I have definitely fallen into that cycle of just numbing everything and going from day to day with no real purpose.
I'm not saying that this video has changed my life or anything like that, but you've given me some hope. That I'm not useless, that there is hope for me, and that I can turn things around and become a good man. Starting today, I'm going to start trying to implement some of the changes you suggested here. I'm writing this out mostly to make it concrete. I'm going to spend less time on my phone and computer, do some small workouts every day, practice piano, and read. I'm going to really give it my all to quit watching porn. Thanks for the words of encouragement and kickstarting a change for me.
Don't worry my man. You can do it. It's a journey that I am also with you. Let's achieve the discipline we need to attain success.
One extra quick tip, from musician to musician; don't just practice piano, sit down and improvise. I have no idea how comfortable you are with improvising but I've found it to be so helpful for my mental health. Improvising is an opportunity for the unconscious parts of yourself to spill out into something creative which is not only a better way to channel libido but it's also like some kind of musical diary. I really recommend "Effortless Mastery" by Kenny Werner if you're not already aware. If you already love improvisation I'm peaching to the choir :P
I've never seen your content before, I'm not even a guy, but it's nice to see someone helping out young men like yourself. Sometimes I worry because of the prominence of people like Andrew Tate, but it's nice to see there's people who actually care and have good advice and support for young men. Keep up the good work!
If only all boys were taught itsok to pursue wommen but never pursue sex. PURSUE $$, HEALTH, FITNESS & PERSONAL HAPPYNESS
'Having a television in your home is like having a Jew in your living room'. ~Leonard Feeney (1957)
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Somebody copied Jose Zuniga’s video title 👀
Spot-on. It's not just about taking your mind off sex, it's about channeling that energy into something more productive.
If more people tried this, they'd probably be surprised at how much more they could accomplish. Worth a shot for anyone feeling mentally cluttered. 👌
i gotchu
Should we watch nude scenes from Hollywood movies or Not 🚫
Thumbnail and title taken straight from @teachingmensfashion 😂😂
Bro that knocking noise got me looking around for a minute 😂😂
lmaooo
BRO ITS THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT THE KNOCKING ON THE DOOR SCARED ME GAH DAMN
i started SHAKINGbro LMAOAOA
I quit porn for months at a time, on and off. But It feels like trading one addiction for another. Sure pursuing sex aligns my lifestyle and habits to a better version of me, but at the same time it kind of feels like I'm developing a sex addiction which has kind of ironically made relationships harder. I feel like I used to be able to get a girlfriend and watch porn to kind of 'vent' my libido but when I'm not watching porn I become an absolute maniac. Dunno what to do, I wish I could be motivated intrinsically by something as much as porn/sex but I just can't
I have many things (I believe you do too) to feed my time into. Sounds like you've tried but can't hold on to it cause of boredom. Even the replacements that was exciting at first got boring after a month or so. Go back to your replacements, once it starts to feel boring again, or you start to feel urges, go for a walk, drive, or workout. Converse with others you feel comfortable with outside. Your phone and the computer are the main reasons you're stuck in a cycle, so you have to use these tools in the direction for bettering yourself, than redoing the cycle. But as soon as you feel even a little confident, jump out there and talk to others, throw yourself in the deep end. And use good news as a catalyst. Any amount will help you. Even reaching a month of discipline is good news. Don't tell people what good news happens to you unless you're fine with announcing it, and it won't turn somebody away. I wouldn't tell people I just won the lottery or I'm on my journey. Keep things normal, but find excitement talking and getting to know people.
I also think that we achieve so many things in life that a lot of it feels mundane and lackluster. I think we should bring back that excitement back in our life's, making even the most mundane victories feel like the first time we achieved them. Just celebrate them internally more. If I make it to work on time, I'll be more excited and more confident. That will add to your happiness.
Fun fact: When you respect women, support women, and believe in them, they actually like you more. No, you don't get to take whatever you want from them, no you don't get to "hit it and quit it." You actually have to be that "good guy" that you keep thinking you are. That's how you find a "good woman." That good woman, will then turn around and respect you, support you, and believe in you. The energy you put it out always comes back to you.
I don't think any person is worth that much effort. It is far better to be alone than have to deal with others.
I'm sure that is the case, as in a unicorn. Probably not most women in western countries, where the dis-respect is high.
I know these aren’t the most popular videos on youre channel, but these are probably some of the most important!Much thanks
Keep it up
Personally, I think warm approach is the best option for 80% of men . Cold approach, sliding in the DMs , dating apps etc… are basic the same shit , only thing the girl really has to go on about you is what you look like . My advice , talk to girls at your job , school , church , etc… anything where you see the girl on a regular basis is the best option for most men . ( a lot of people meet there partners at work btw , for all the “sexual harassment” copers) . The whole , making your intentions clear to her the exact day you meet her is not the way to go for a lot of us. It’s great if you wanna do it for exposure therapy , but it’s better to ease your way in their than flat out tell her you like her from day one , unless you’re crazy good looking , or your social skills are out of this world
bro.. I have never watched a video where the content is halfway into the video.. that beginning had me fuckign hooked. You are such a good speaker and story teller! You're amazing and this channel is underrated.
Being in public won’t stop me from fapping 😤
That's true dedication
this man is a menace to society
Legend
you stand out because you call out like no one else...much needed advice man! Thanks
Thanks mate you made me realize the lies i tell myself , i will change , have a good one :)
Silence. Enjoy the Silence. Seriously, it's not just a song title. It's amazing advice.
You know I’ve never heard of anyone that has ever said “It’s okay to fap.” that doesn’t fap themselves lol. To each there own. But the benefits of not fapping are amazing. I do agree it’s stupid to count days
10:48 this guy never takes the NYC subway.
Stopped watching that kind of content about a month or two ago. Its embarassing waking up every once in a while, but I feel better. I'm not waiting every night for "alone time" and I'm not looking for ways to heavily cope with it as much. I hang out with my friends more, I take on more hours at work, I have more time for hobbies, even if its like an extra 10 - 30 minutes. Guys, it really is a little bit liberating to just not watch it and not masturbate.
bro this man was making drunk chick inteviews like decade ago or some shit what timeline am i at rn
Love your content about encouraging people to put themselves out there. Hope you could also create content that also puts introverts into that same mindset. Friendly introverts would often chat up people, but it hardly results in a hangout, date, or even just exchanging numbers, as introverts tend to enjoy their own company, so it hardly results in a suggestion of a group activity.
He's not encouraging anyone, he's just selling his shit product. Don't be so gullible.
As a fellow introvert I'll say that you need to find people that already have similar interests. For me, I do Renaissance Faires, Pirate Faires and costumed events like Wasteland Weekend. I also do plenty of "nerdy" stuff like D&D and card games, anime, rc planes, online RPGS, yadda yadda.
Look for places or ways to meet people who have similar interests to you. These people are easier to get along with and will more likely be "one of you" - a person you would be willing to spend more of your private time with. Us introverts don't usually like being in large crowds and prefer more of a smaller intimate circle right? So by seeking people with similar interests, you'd all end up meeting in smaller circles based on said interests.
So make a list of the things you enjoy doing or WOULD enjoy doing, then seek out where you can find other people who share these interests. Granted I'm one of those slightly extraverted introverts (if you're into the MBTI personality typing stuff there's descriptions of that sort of thing). But I tend to approach other misfits like myself and not just "normal" people because I know I'll tend to have more in common with them.
But lets say I moved to a new town and wanted to work a faire. I'd show up as a patron and spend time conversing with those who are working it. Get some info on different groups or how to work at the faire or other faires that are coming up. Bonus for faire people, is that they are largely interested in the rest of the list I mentioned. But I can also go to comic book shops or gaming shops that host gaming nights (usually have tables spread out for that) and I can show up during tournaments or gaming nights. Sometimes they'll have open invite nights where anyone can show up and join.
There are also online resources (even facebook or others) that have social groups to join that may have real life meetups and the like. This is huge in the business arena but also for things like book clubs - all sorts of things. So figure your current (or future) interests, find out where you can learn or do those things, and spend time with the people there. Being introverted as you say, at least half of what I listed is mostly full of introverts (even Faire, we just make an exception for events like that because we can be 'social' for small spurts of time like that).
Hope that makes sense.
Number 5 is the biggest one, all the others are sorta just obvious. But I have made new friends by starting to go to church again and in 2 months I was extremely happy, more disciplined, have made many new friends, and am just at a better place in life. I'm at the disadvantage of being in my 30's but still, he's got some solid points here that actually DO work.
Deny yourself sexual satisfaction, unless you have achieved your goals and objectives for the day or even better for the week. Use your sexual desire as a reward system for achieving your mission.
I can't be the only one who spazzed out from the knocking sound at 0:22.. Scared tf out of me and I jumped to see if someone was knocking at my door.
Lol sameeeeeee … i literally have a window to my left and was like who the fck is knocking at 3 in night
My personal motivation for not fapping is Kratos. Yeap, you heard that right. Women love a real man like Kratos (If you know you know) so that's what I'll become as well. A real man.
kratos would be disappointed if he knew you beat your dick
i've done abstinence a few times. It doesnt magically give you game, in fact it can be worse. What usually happens to me is I get agressive, frustrated, then internally dead and unmotivated. Lifting, practicing martial arts or sports, studying, working.... really have little to do with attracting women today.
Denmo deserves more subs! A true legend 💯
I had headphones on and the knocking scared the fuck out of me😂
Definitely not idea and even the title from jose zuniga😂😂
0:21 man that scared the shit out of me😂😂I m wearing headphones, it s dark in the room and those knocks I thought they were real😂😂
Thank you for this, simple yet infinitely helpful.
i gotchu brotha
Being with people is the best way to get closer to people and nothing can replace that 🙃🙃
Watching this video as a woman is interesting, I feel a bit like an anthropologist. I cannot tell you in words how lucky I feel that I was born a woman in this particular time and place, because what men have to go through nowadays sounds awful.
Overall, I agree that this guys' advice is solid, even if it is hardly groundbreaking. There's nothing that will make me run the other direction faster than when a guy isn't acting normal.
The only thing I'll say is if you do that thing he suggests where you walk up to her with the confidence of someone who sees himself as the prize... that's fine and good, but just be careful if you are a black-and-white thinker. The advice is really meant to offer some balance to guys that don't have enough self-esteem, but I can say from experience that some guys take that kind of attitude as an all-or-nothing principle, and they can end up getting really obnoxious or mean if they get rejected because it doesn't fit into the unrealistic opinion that they've been carefully constructing in their heads where they are, in fact, too desirable to be rejected (especially when they've taken all the Steps and followed all the Rules!). This isn't a male-specific phenomenon, as I see it in women too; it's like for these people there are only two self-opinion modes in their brains: (1) I am shit, or (2) I am God himself, and they choose the one that feels better. These people are those types that can't handle being made fun of even gently, and can't handle any kind of criticism even if it's constructive.
You are a great story teller. I can literally hear you talks for hours. Subscribed
0:22 this is what makes Denmo the best comedian in this niche 😂
i jumped like a bitch ill admit it
0:22 lmfao
"You just earned a new subscriber, my dude."
There’s something about this video that helps me understand this topic way more than the no fap/semen retention community. Semen retention/nofap brings in huge amounts of change and energy in every aspect of life, but this video makes me think about it way deeper. It’s almost like I feel disgusted not being able to control my sexual thoughts…
people who masturbate have less testosterone. This made me stop entirely which feels liberating that I have almost no urges to touch myself.
@@xirochamber5863 I feel the same way... I feel disgusted after attempting to do it... Im already recovering a bit just from the mindset alone.
@@PierreHefner honestly I wouldn’t tell people to not do it but I would inform them on it’s affects. Yes it lowers cortisol levels but it also lowers sperm count and testosterone levels.
It might work for you, but my brain sexualizes slime and sentient food.
Damn copying from thumbnail to script and everything, you must be very knowledgeable and proud
Fr i just got this video after watching original
What is the name of the original video ?
I remember subscribing when you were in the early days of “embarrassing phone calls”
I’m glad i stuck around
Guys I promise you that this dude’s course is not going to help you get a gf. Live your life focus on yourself and putting yourself out there is the only thing that is actually going to help you. Life experience is the only thing u need
true, this is not something someone should pay for
Yeah I was excited for what this video might be, then he started talking about the biological programming of women's brains and trying to sell me something. Waste of 13 minutes
thank god finally someone who knows what they're talking about.
I was never that into porn . Once in a while I will get into porn but I would like to get it out of my life for good. I was young when I started watching porn and I was severely disabled. I still am disabled but even more so back then. I have built myself up pretty good now but porn is still a fairly common thing and I am pretty sure that porn is keeping me single. I just want to give up porn for good. I know that it is causing some damage.
Most honest vídeo i saw in a long time. Being introverted and not get out of your house is a vicious circle for all the other advices on this vídeo. Has been three months of the last time when i left my house. I'm trying and hoping to get over depression and social anxiety. Thanks for your honesty and not sigma bullshit.
not you copying teachingmensfashion's thumbnail, title and video style
word
He said he used an AI to make the thumbnail, chances are so did teachingmensfashion too.
AI can render more than one image. In order for AI to give you an image extremely similar to another image you have to tell it the prompts required to render that. It's copied.
oh I see, thanks for explaining it
I found it funny since I saw both their videos on my fyp simultaneously
TELLING IT HOW IT IS MANNN !! Your presentation method is on point
What happens if you don't want a relationship ever? And most of the time you fap, it's literally right before going to sleep? What then? Should I sleep in public too? I have no issues talking to women because I have no interest in having sex with them.
Keep them coming😄🙏
May all the corrupt minds get detoxed so the world can be a better place for all the girls that feel unsafe and for all the homies that got caught up fapping to release stress 🤜🏽🤛🏽🖤 Amen.
Thank u
My pleasure 🔥❤️
0:22 that knock scared the shit outta me lol
Good thing I'm ugly and fat. Since I have no chance, I don't even think about it.
U stole this video bruh
Where is the original?
@@spencerbuck1074teachingmensfashion
Very cool information 👍
this whole video us facts, i was addicted to porn being a teenager, i think we all go through that stage. but then around a year ago i met my now girlfriend, she was the first girl id ever hung out with and i thought at first i would be very nervous but that nervousness only lasts about 5 minutes if you guys vibe well. the first time i got head, its nothing like those porn videos, everything is calm and you just lay there really and let her do her thing, maybe play with her hair and all. but sex is more about the intimacy between you and your partner not just about the pleasure you get out of it.
I don't find it safe to learn things from youtube all the time but this video is an exception for me.
“Ricky you need to fack” 😂😂😂
lmaoo
That’s just a form of detachment. The further you detach yourself, the better vantage you can have in a situation.
stolen
Omg “good Melvin, touch it, jerk off” at the beginning had me dying 🤣
Two girls my age recently came up to me when I was waiting for my bus and we talked until my bus arrived. I got their snapchats and we found out we have a good mutual friend (who is also a girl). I hung out with the girls last Friday. Now one of them wants to sleep over at my place 😅
and then u wake up. Happened to me too
@@hugoferraz4775you must have a boring life if that sounds unreal to you
@@hugoferraz4775 why did you have to do my mans like that 😭🤣
This video just changed my life
My lizard brain is telling me I constantly need to be playing Halo 3.
My Halo 3 addiction is actually stronger than any desire to bate.
Just quit
Lmfao man wait till you play halo reach!!!
@@ots9358
lol Been there done that but even after 16 years Halo 3 is a Classic in my book😏
@@radfoo72 Lmfao yeah I feel you I’m the same way with halo reach
@@ots9358
I used to be into Reach hardcore but I got tired of the armor lock bs and 3 is just more simplistic🤷🏻♂️
The knocking at 0:23 fucked me up and scared the shit out of me. Listening to this with headphones was a bad idea. 💀
My guy is trying to get striked by Teachingmensfashion. I've been enjoying your videos, but damn man, you just blatantly copied 90% of his last video about "desexualizing your brain". You seem better than this, man. Get some original content, come on!
It upsets me to say, but in my life, I had already lived this way. I have discovered it was during the 2 long term relationships I had with Narcissistic women that my life seemed to spiral into the opposite of what this video is saying.
Happy to say, 5 months removed from the second relationship and already back on the positive track before watching this video.
Thank you for reminding me again where I once came from and where I am again today.
Recap
- Stop fapping to stuff online
- Replace bad habits (fapping) with good habits (reading, exercising...)
- Force yourself to work/spend free time in public
After getting used to doing all of the above
- Make friends/interact with new people
I found that having a job that takes up most of your time really helps.