As I sit here with tears filling my eyes. Kevin was my best friend in the entire world and brother by heart. Kevin was my soulmate. Kevin was the best friend anyone could ever have in their lives. he was my defender, my blocker and had always defended me. he was there for me when I needed a shoulder to cry on and always cheered me up. I have always enjoyed going out for breakfast and dinners with him. we always enjoyed going to the movies, swimming, and walking around the park. always gave the best hugs. Kevin was indeed my soulmate. I am so happy he safely made it up to heaven, and I know he will always look down on me. I love you Kevin and I Miss you. Love Kathrine your soulmate and sister by heart.
My best friend died Christmas day with his wife calling me that evening to tell me. I was left in shock for days wondering how, what, where. I'm mad that I didn't get to say good by one last time due to Covid restrictions for non-family members. I walk the house in quiet now thinking of him in grief for our times together.
I lost my best friend that I've had since high school because she lost her battle with severe depression. I got the news, and my heart sank so deeply. My partner got into a fight with me and I couldn't bring myself to say she's dead. Because I feel like if I say it out loud to him, it'll validate that she's dead. I didn't want to do that without someone there for me, but everyone around me would just be like 'so? You weren't siblings' That hurt even more...she was like the sister I always wanted. She was there with me since before my mom and dad divorced. I haven't found anything or any one to vent to, my partner would just called me a defeatist for even attempting to fully explain myself. This video is what I needed, and I'm sorry that my comment is so late.
I'm so sorry. I believe my best friend's depression also contributed significantly his death. It leaves me wondering if I could have done more even though I couldn't have cured his depression... he was my mirror, my soul mate. I'll never be understood the way he understood me. Never.
Oh, I truly feel your pain. when I was 9 my dad had to tell me my best friend passed away and it hurt back in May of this year I got told my soulmate my best friend of 18 years passed away and it felt like a thousand knives stabbing you all at once.
thank you so much for this video One of my friends online friends we never got to meet in person because our own lives kept getting in the way every time we tried we always talked about meeting at Cheesecake Factory He was an amazing soul and it hurts me that i never got to meet him in person his sister called me at work to tell me about his passing... the fact that his family knew about me hurts the most because it means he cared enough to let his family know who i was and what i meant to him.. i was invited to the funeral but i dont think i will go..... this isnt how i wanted to meet him... may he rest in peace..
Thank you so much for this heartfelt video. My best friend of over 20 years died Aug 2023 after a very brief illness (2mths). I feel Like I’m struggling more even now almost six months later. I sympathize with everything you said💕 Especially when she was the one I always turned to and now that she’s gone, I try to think of how she would handle it if the roles were reversed. I just miss and love her so much! Thank you and I’m so very sorry for your loss. I totally get it. Much love to you❤
Thank you so much for this video. I lost my best friend a week ago. And I’m really going through it. I feel so alone, but watching this video helped calm me for a few moments.
My best friend since early elementary school years just died about 2 months ago. That's how I came across your Chanel. I'm very lost and confused and hurt. I really don't know how to deal with it I'm trying to stay strong and keep doing right but part of me wants to just give up and do things that I know are not good. I'm just struggling with it. Pray for me if you believe in God please
Omw everything you gone through resonated with me. I lost my friend over a year ago and it hurt so bad😢 I've just been surpressing my grief most times and the few times it comes out I go through immence pain and grief 😭 it's hard😢
Thank you for this video ❤I lost my best friend back in December, I just talk to him an hour before his passing I’m trying to move on but I just can’t, crying spells hit out of nowhere
Thank you so much for sharing your story , I understand what you mean when you lose a very close loved one friend, I've just lost my closest loved one Alicia, my angel , I loved her and I was always there for her and she was always there for me and now she's gone , so unexpected, I'd give anything to have just 5 minutes with her to tell her that I love her but I can't, I feel lost and don't know where to go or do, just like yourself we both sheard some amazing things together that will never leave me ,and your right , friends and family try to support but they don't really get it because they don't know about them times we had together , I lost her 3 weeks ago, does it get easier as time goes on? Coz this pain I'm feeling is so hard . Alicia Havelock I love you I always have from the first day I met you. I'll be with you soon I promise.
You need to be careful talking about pets dearest.... look up grief for people who's lost pets very powerful I just lost a best friend of 22 years it is so lonely i hear you
My best friend of 14 years just died two days ago and I totally relate to all this. I've eaten today in the morning for the first time since I heard the news and even though some other mutual friends came to hang out with me, it still feels invalidating cause they don't know him the way I knew him. They didn't get to experience his energy the way I did and I don't know how or if I'll recover from this. My mental health is in the pits right now.
Hugs to you. I find that my grief is eased by telling people about my close friend's wonderful traits. This may help even if others weren't as close. Also I focus on her bright delightful energy that she had in life and it raises my spirits.
I hope you made it through alright. I am in the exact same boat right now, my best friend of 15 years passed away a few days ago and I feel like I’m losing my mind. I completely understand what you’re saying. I hope you’re okay
It says completely how I feel. I don't know if I'll ever get over this. I don't know if I'll ever recover for this. Honestly, I don't know if I want to. I do but at the same time she's not here to watch me do it. So what's the point? She wants me do so much. How do you go on without your soulmate?
My childhood best friend was killed last week by a drunk driver. My friend had just graduated law school and was coming home from getting coffee and food after a night of studying for the bar exam. The drunk driver ran a red light and my friend was killed instantly. We were inseparable growing up, but hadn’t stayed as close in college and after. It’s been so comforting to see how many other people got to know and love him, but it feels very lonely being a “friend from the past.” I had been telling myself he was just so busy with school and life and that we would reconnect at some point. To have that opportunity taken away has been horrendous.
Thank you so much for this. I lost my best friend of 22 years yesterday and I feel lost. Completely lost. His name was Johnnie and there is no one I can share my grief with. As you said friends have no real validation because you’re not the spouse, kids, etc. As I sit here and cry I really really thank you and pray for you as well. I’m just starting this journey and this is the saddest I’ve ever been in my life 🙏🏾😢
Let yourself feel and cry and remember. Whether anyone ever cares to ask or listen, settle it in (your)heart, it matters. Be transparent as much as you can and do not run from the intensity of the moment. It comes in waves. Everytime I watch a food or travel show, so many memories start rolling. Cry the bucket of worthy tears because we will get a new batch. We all are passing thru, I get to see my Gwerl again. Never to say goodbye anymore, GOD says so.
I came to TH-cam trying to find some solace for the grief that I'm feeling that nobody seems to understand. My name is Jess, so finding this video felt like my best friend Kristin reaching out to me. She died almost three months ago. We lived together and most of her stuff is still at my house so I can't escape the memories and the emotions that all of her things bring up for me. I often feel like her death was my fault because of a complicated series of events that ended with me calling 911 later than I should have and for a different reason than what was actually needed. I miss her so much every day and it feels like even my boyfriend doesn't really want me to talk about it anymore. I often resent her boyfriend because he received an incredible outpouring of support when she died and it felt like I just had to tamp down what I was feeling and move on. Thank you for making this channel and these videos, I hope it brings you and the people watching some relief.
Thank you for this, I lost my best friend of 40 years and I’m devastated. She was more than my friend, she was my cohort, my solace, my childhood, the keeper of my secrets etc. it’s just awful losing that person in your life. I loved her and understand how you feel 💯. Thanks for this video, I bawled most of the way through lol but it helped I think.
I miss her every single day. The only person that ever really truly understood me accepted me and loved me in spite of me. It's gone now. How do you deal with that? I'm not sure. I'm not sure how to get over it. This video was helpful somewhat but it's more than any of this to get over and I know that. Thanks for trying, I will also keep trying
Thank you! My best friend passed away during the first COVID lockdown. We were friends since we were 11, I’ve just turned 50. No one gets it, you do, the empty is so real and so hard. Yes please a Facebook group 💚
Also, when you have been friends with someone from the time you are kids up through adulthood and well beyond, you are more like siblings. It is truly a special close bond that is deeper than the standard friendship.
My best friend passed away the year this video was aired. I have never recovered since then. Not sure if I may ever, but to know others have experienced despair as such as I, to this degree of everlasting internal and external sadness; reensuees me that our Heavenly reunion will be worth it when that day comes. The journey now is to not shorten my time I have left and instead, continue to live out her legacy as my soul friend would wish for me to do. Lovely video, I commend you for your strength.
I lost my best friend almost two years ago. I’m still grieving and I can’t seem to heal. It hurts so bad everyday. My thoughts and prayers are with everyone that has endured this type of loss. Keep your head up and don’t let the dead bury the living ✌🏾🕊️
I lost my best friend Feb 21st of this year. He was the sweetest, most gentle soul I will ever know. I am completely lost without him. I love you Kevin.
My friend died and I didn’t learn about it until 5 days after he passed. I feel guilty for not reaching out earlier, my heart is crushed. I feel like a terrible friend, I was there too late. I know he’s in a better place and where he wants to be, and I can’t begin to fathom what his kids and grandkids are going through - I don’t know how to be there for them, I am in shock, hurt and full of regrets. These past 3 years were distant, I’ve been going through something and I tend to deal with issues on my own. I don’t like to get others involved and then Covid but and then world changed. Isolation led to further isolation and we just reconnected again and made a pact - lunch every other week and we missed last week because I was sick and now he’s gone, I got so consumed with my caring for my home that I failed to check in on time Hold your loved ones tight. Check in, honor them in life
I am so very sorry for your profound loss. I truly know what type of loss you have experienced, it has happened to me twice now. You are correct. The surviving friend's loss and bereavement are overlooked and, for the most part, not even acknowledged. This needs to change. When we as a society now acknowledge the loss of a person's beloved pet, surely, the loss of a dear friend should be acknowledged. Hugs. 💖
I feel your pain. I just lost mine as well on June 9th. It was very sudden and unexpected. I feel like I have lost the other half of my soul. Very few people seem to understand the loss of a best friend and what that means. Hugs to you. 💖
Thank you guys it's really hard I've just celebrated my first birthday without her and my heart is in bits I miss her so much and now with Christmas round the corner it doesn't feel like Christmas without her. I'm so sorry about your best friend too I'm sending you both hugs
I feel for every single person in this comment section. Upon hearing the news that my best friend died, I didn’t cry. I puked my guts out. I felt absolutely sick. It wasn’t till months later I cried my eyes out. Knowing that there’s other people out there who went through the same horrible thing… it’s not cool… but, at least I’m not the only one in this boat. I dearly feel for anyone that lost a loved one/close friend.
My best friend Joey just passed away. He is my kindred spirit. I am so connected to him in so many levels and he's stronger than blood family. I just wanted to share that and thank you for this podcast. It really means a lot to me that you have this available for those who are grieving for their best friend.
I cant thank you enough for posting this. i have felt so alone, but this whole video was like you read all my thoughts over the past 3 years again thank you
I just lost my dear friend a month ago, and you said it all. Every single thing you said was like a page out of the grief journey I've been on. Thank you for sharing this story and your grief of your dear Jess-it made me feel understood.
Thank you so much, I’m so grateful for this, I am so sad, my friend was murdered 2 months ago, she had two boys, I feel like I don’t know how to process it, she was such a wonderful human being, her ex partner murdered her in her home, I can’t tell my son yet, he is 8, & grew up with her children, the pain feels so great when it comes over me, but as you said, it is hard because I do not want to make a fuss, or offend her family, even though I know I won’t… it’s such a horrendous thing, she was truly such a gentle, kind, courageous soul, just the best, I will always miss her & I wish I could find some peace around it, but thank you xxxxx
I lost my lifelong close friend recently and have been focusing on finding time to grieve, I can’t even function without my best buddie . Joe when my former reliable partner in crime for about 55years.
I needed to hear this today. Years later. Everything you shared is true. Thank you 😭 it felt like lights out and a part of me disappeared with her passing. The fear of forgetting has been a big part. People trying to put a time stamp on heartbreak. You are not crazy and true friendships are very rare. I went through something very similar to you. I thought surely more people would understand but I had a rude awakening. Thank you again
Thank you so much for sharing your experience. It really goes far for people who are looking for resources which validate their own experiences, just like the video title says. I know for me it is similar, I had to put my grief on hold while I helped my Best friends widow deal with her own day to day activities, funeral arrangements, support. Even to this day I don't feel like my grief was validated, even though I had known my best friend for over 20 years. Him and his family (they are all gone now), played an integral part in my life but I felt as though I had the smallest claim for grief out of everyone (though internally it was the greatest claim). Thank you again for making this video. I hope people who need it can find it when they need to.
My best friend of about the last 12 to 13 years just died last week. It was his last day in the military. While he was riding his motorcycle home, a bus cut him off and it killed him instantly. He was the best person I knew and everyone who met loved him. I was the one of the weird kids at school and he wanted to hang out with me rather than everyone else. No one else has shown me the platonic love that he shared with me.
Thank you for sharing. My experience of losing a close friend who affectionately considered me his "little brother" closely resembles yours. I was the only one taking care of him because his two half-sisters didn't want anything to do with him. The doctor who was taking care of him in the hospital he was transported to told me that I was "just a friend" and that his estranged sisters who don't care about him take precedence over someone who was literally a care taker, i.e. me. He died because he was refused a liver transplant and because his sisters refused to offer to take care of him should he receive a transplant.
I’m sorry this happened to you. Feeling dismissed because you are “just a friend” is just an ignorant thing said by people who don’t understand. I imagine your friend was so thankful for your love and care.
I'd like to thank you for making this video, having a place on the internet to hear the pain is real. I've spent many nights searching Google for things that make it okay to still hurt years later. I was having a real hard day and your story, your found knowledge, really pushed me to a new way of thinking, thank you from the bottom of my heart thank you.
I lost my best friend about 3 months ago.He died suddenly and I think I haven’t been able to cope with his death and I still can’t believe he is gone and that’s probably because I did not mourn him enough because no one validated my grief and I had to censor myself in front of my family.This pain is too much.I miss him , I miss him so much.
I lost my best friend when we were 24. I mourned him for 10 years and felt crazy for that. No one understood our relationship and my loss. I’m 68 now and still miss him and think about him.
I so agree with what you are saying…after my darling friend died (just over a year ago) and I was out walking - if I struck up a conversation with a stranger I’d bring her into it - every single time. I needed to hear myself talking about her, she was still with me. We only met each other back in 2006, we were both grandmothers. Our chats covered every subject - no holds barred. Never thought she would go just yet. I miss her candour, love, laughter. My friend.
My best friend died 15 years ago.. i still cry and miss him so much. When we met in college he went home and told his mom he finally had a sister and he called me Sissy.. he was the big brother i never had. Nobody understands the gaping hole in my soul, how i long to hear his laugh or say "it'll be alright" about whatever i was bothered with in the moment. I miss you David, my brother forever💜time changes nothing, my grief is never over. It just softened a bit. Hugs and love to all walking this awful lonely path.
Thank you, I found this video very helpful. I lost my best friend two weeks ago and i miss her terribly. I loved her so much. I wish I could have helped her. She died suddenly.
My best friend of 18 years passed away from an aortic dissection last Thursday, and I don’t know how I am going to live life without him. I’ve lost my father in my adolescent years, my grandma in the pandemic and now my best friend. This grief doesn’t feel like the others though. It hurts in a place of my heart that I never knew even existed. Thank you for this video. It hasn’t even been a week and I’m already seeing who really cares. If my bff was my romantic partner or a family member, I feel like I would receive a little more sympathy than I am now. My heart is with all that are or have gone through the same.
Thank you so much for this video. I lost my friend a month ago and he was the support, light, and joy in my life. I really loved him, and feel this hopelessness and lack of passion for everything without him. I’m trying to share how he made me feel with the rest of the world and get back on track with my life again. I needed this validation. Thank you so much.
I'm here because I recently had a dream about my best friend who I knew for almost 30 yrs. He died almost 14 yrs ago and I believe I accepted it. But in this dream I was looking for him to show him the restaurant I found he would like. I woke up feeling so sad and my thoughts were no one else could appreciate it but him. When you grow together with someone you have your shared private jokes, almost your own language. Its lost when they leave.
Thank you so much for making this video. I lost my best friend of 2 years, our relationship was really complicated and it’s hard to feel like im valid in my grief but this pain feels like its killing me and it’s so real and so thank you for sharing your experience, It validated so much of what ive been feeling.
I lost a japanese best frnd ysterday wout knowing it. the last time I txt her she said that she'd be glad to see us together again someday if she'll be totally healed"..so I answer back I'm looking forward to that day! get well soon"! I didn't call her often or txt her after that bec It would disturb" her resting" toheal! My tears can't break her back but I wish Mrs. M. IWAMA's soul to RIP! I'll be missing you Dear Friend! I lost a good japanese friend in you! you're part of those good memories I'll always remember! Thank you for those wonderful times we spent together! thankyou! RIP!😢😞😭
I feel the same way about my best friend Ann who died 2 months ago. There’s really no one to share with. So many memories that only she and I had. Where to go with this. I don’t know. I want her to be remembered.
My best friend of 20 years died seven months ago and I haven't been doing with it well at all. I couldn't make it to her funeral due to my job not allowing me to go. "It's not family" 🥺. I felt and still feel like the worst best friend on the planet. I literally couldn't make it to her funeral. When I start to have a good day I start I start feel guilty because She's not here to experience a good day. Everything you're saying is one billion percent how I feel. People keep telling me to not let this "consume me" or someone said to me "it's not like it was your sister. You have to get back on that horse". She was my sister. She is my sister. She is my family and I've felt so alone in this I this. Ive been trying to talk to her mother everyday,but it's truly hard to. Her kotjer also thew away a lot of my best friends things and when I asked for some of it I got a lot of no's. I even asked if I could have some of her ashes so I could turn her into a ring and I got a no. I have nothing of her's and it's slowly killing me. Like you said, she was my person. She was my light and without her life feels colorless. Thank you for making this video and I'm so sorry for your pain🥺
Around a year and a half ago, my best friend, who was more like a brother to me, passed away. He truly more than a friend, he was my brother and when he died, a piece of me died. To put into perspective how close we were, during our senior year of high school (around a decade ago), he had actually lived me and my family to escape an abusive household, where we shared my small bedroom together, and while I helped him in this way, he helped me in just as many ways in ways I can't even begin describe. It's been over a year and a half since his passing now, and I have continued on with my life as one should and must, but every now and then, out of nowhere, something makes me think of him and I just start crying or at least feel like crying (if I am not somewhere appropriate). They say time heals all wounds, but I'm sure this is one that is not possible to heal, and as long as I'm still around, the hole in my heart, mind and soul will be there.
in a little over a month it will be five years since I lost my best friend. She was high and I sent her home in a cab. She later died that night. I still hold myself responsible for her dying, and everyone says the same thing, it's not your fault. You didn't make her do that, you could have been with her when it happened blah blah blah. I don't care. I still think it could have been different. I just feel so alone, guilty, sad and lonely constantly. She was only 27
Thank you for this video as I have been feeling alone! It's been 3m. I wish I could pick up the phone! I talk to an empty chair at times pretending it's him! Today i'm like how can I move on? Like is it even possible? I feel like I will never be the same. Life will never be the same! Who can I go to now! He was my closest friend! The person I was my true self with.💔
I can only send love. I lost my best friend a year ago. It's a loss of self as well, I miss the person I was with them, as well as mourning the loss of them. He was family to me. We shared the same pain in our past, no one knew me like him. We loved them so much, so much. I send my heart to you and share this immense loss. How would we share a time with them? At a party, he would sit in my room when we lived together and decompress, we would talk and laugh when we felt overwhelmed by company. I hold that space, as his friend. As I would have wanted to have space held for me. It's always there. I love him so much and always will.
God I needed this. My best friend since I was a freshman in high school just died on Saturday. He was 28. He was in a car accident. It was so sudden and awful. I'm still in the throes of this extremely fresh, brutal pain. Luckily I have a group of friends that all played video games with him to mourn with, and my girlfriend knew him for longer than I did and was great friends with him as well. I can't imagine going through this alone, and thank you so much for sharing. Right now I don't really see the light, but I cried again at the end of your video when you said "you can live again". Right now I feel like I just experienced a breaking point in my life. It will now always be "before" and "after".
Thank you for this comment. Thinking of you and your friend and grateful you have others to mourn with. You are right. There will always be a “before” and an “after” and it will always hurt and sometimes still make you so angry. 4 years since my friend’s death and I am glad My pain and anger is still strong at times because I know I have not stopped loving her or forgotten her. I promise though if u just keep getting up every day and putting one foot in front of the other, you will learn to take him with you in a sense. His life and memory will effect how you live and in this way because you loved him he will always stay with you. I’m sorry for your pain.
Thank you for making this video. I lost my best friend the 26th of December and this is helping me figure out how to deal with all the emotions I'm feeling. I'm sorry for your loss and hope you have found inner peace
Thank you so much for this video. Almost a month later but it seems so unreal that I lost my very best friend. I still break down at times and always ask myself a lot of questions.
My best friend since choices kindergarden died from an overdose about 3 years ago That one kid that was there from elementary middle to high. And to young adults livings with girlfriends. I miss you Chris My best friend
My really good friend Best friend died suddenly At end of Dec 2023. I as like many who knew him found later . I found out day of funeral. There is so many unresolved question . I will never get or being able to save good bye . Just shock .no closure
I lost my dad when i was 14, my daughter when I was 22, my brother when i was 36 and now my guy bestfriend just 9 days ago. Grief seems to bring up so many emotions. ✝️ My condolences to All here
My best friends name is Jess. I lost her in October 2021. Three other close people in my life passed away in the following 27 days. My best friend and two of the other losses were unexpected.
Your channel is beautiful. My best friend unalived herself Sunday evening. We've been best friends since we were kids. I keep picking up my phone wanting to text her, or waiting to see if she's messaged me back. I can't believe she's actually gone.
This is just how I feel, I lost my best friend last year and the worst thing is that her family didn't even invite me to her funeral, they just went with it and excluded me, I realized over a post that Luisiana died, and now whenever I'm having a bad day people expect me to feel better by telling me she was not my sister or my mother. But she was like a sister to me, she was always there and was the only person I really trusted. I spent beautiful and wonderful five days by her side. I can't talk about her to anyone because they think I'm exaggerating and that I should just move on, but it's hard, and I can't help but feel like I'm betraying her when I feel happy or go through something which would have made us both happy. I guess I've not been able to fully mourn her.
My best friend passed away last fall. You are right on point. What do ya do when the husband moves on but you cannot. It’s like grief all over again and I think is what is wrong with ME?!
My best friend of 57 years recently passed. She lived a few states away but we texted every single morning because we both woke up around 4 am. We were just like you and your best friend! We helped each other through life and could always make each other laugh, no matter what was going on. Now I have no one to talk to about our loving relationship. My husband is tired of hearing about it. And since I'm agoraphobic, I really don't have anyone to talk to and I feel so alone just like you said! I'm hurting deeply and all I can do is cry.
Thank you for sharing this video. I relate deeply to this after losing my best friend of 15 years so suddenly in 2019. The pain is still fresh and real. I feel like I should have come a long way already in my healing journey, but there are still incredibly difficult days where I feel so incredibly lonely and completely empty. I wear her loss like a missing ribcage. She was my safe place second to none, and we had our own unique universe where we held each other in utmost love, respect, and craziness. I miss that and want it back - in the same dimension it had been. I would love to be part of any support group that would validate this lifelong pain.
I don't know if you are still reading comments, but this video has been something I really needed to watch. My best friend just passed unexpectedly last week at the age of 26. He was on the way home from vacation then passed from heart complications on the plane. Many people offer kind words, and support - but the reality is that the man was practically my brother and as I even write this comment we are still struggling to get his body returned to the states for a proper burial. We would hang constantly after work since graduation: playing video games, watching movies, bike rides, hanging out, getting food etc. We shared a lot of hilarious, and heavy moments throughout high school as well. He was the first person I picked as a groomsman when I got married last year. There are so many memories I had with this man then just one day without warning I am called to learn that he is gone, and I will never see him again. I still have to push through work, but every moving second my friend is on my mind so I'm unable to perform my responsibilities adequately. I'm still expected to take care of things, but in reality I'm just falling apart. Even though many are mourning for him I feel isolated in my grief for the exact reasons you mentioned. I don't know how to move forward from here.
My best friend just died in January; I wanted so much to keep in contact with her family because that was a solid connection to her, but it just didn't happen. Fortunately I had and have some mutual friends and acquaintances that let me talk. I still deal with some guilt over her death. Love you, Melony.
my best friend Sean’s funeral is tomorrow. The last 4 years of knowing him have changed me immeasurably. He died one month ago, and its hard to accept that we won’t make new memories together. But I know that he needed peace and I pray he has it now.
Someone I dated in high school who I became an adult friend with passed away April 25th. I also live 6+ hours from where she lives and her core friends and loved ones. I agree, my experience with her is different from most of them, my most sweetest memories that were our most private moments together are difficult to share. I visited for her wake and had to return home and now my pain surely feels amplified. I want to reach out to everyone and validate their grief while being given an ear or heart who may understand where I'm at. I just shared with a friend that I mourn my friend as an adult and grieve her as the girl I knew and that is so true. Sadly, I am grieving more as that time was so formative for both of us, how do I share that feeling with others who didn't know her then? I'm really scared that this will be harder than I think it is right now.
Do you find it hard to know where to put that energy/love that you once gave her? I feel like I never know what to do with that time and I carry this huge box that I can never open but I have to carry it with me forever.
Thank you so much for making this video. I lost my best friend a few days ago and I'm in the huge pain. By listening to your story, I feel validated a lot.
I just said goodbye to my one and only friend for 30 years. She is alive today, but it can be over in one hour or 2 days. I have no other friends because I am Chronic ill. I have a husband, but I dont know how I am suppost to live without her. I really dont know. I really dont know.
Sometimes you love your best friends more than your family
Yes :(
As I sit here with tears filling my eyes. Kevin was my best friend in the entire world and brother by heart. Kevin was my soulmate. Kevin was the best friend anyone could ever have in their lives. he was my defender, my blocker and had always defended me. he was there for me when I needed a shoulder to cry on and always cheered me up. I have always enjoyed going out for breakfast and dinners with him. we always enjoyed going to the movies, swimming, and walking around the park. always gave the best hugs. Kevin was indeed my soulmate. I am so happy he safely made it up to heaven, and I know he will always look down on me. I love you Kevin and I Miss you. Love Kathrine your soulmate and sister by heart.
My best friend died Christmas day with his wife calling me that evening to tell me. I was left in shock for days wondering how, what, where. I'm mad that I didn't get to say good by one last time due to Covid restrictions for non-family members. I walk the house in quiet now thinking of him in grief for our times together.
I lost my best friend that I've had since high school because she lost her battle with severe depression.
I got the news, and my heart sank so deeply. My partner got into a fight with me and I couldn't bring myself to say she's dead. Because I feel like if I say it out loud to him, it'll validate that she's dead. I didn't want to do that without someone there for me, but everyone around me would just be like 'so? You weren't siblings'
That hurt even more...she was like the sister I always wanted. She was there with me since before my mom and dad divorced.
I haven't found anything or any one to vent to, my partner would just called me a defeatist for even attempting to fully explain myself.
This video is what I needed, and I'm sorry that my comment is so late.
I'm so sorry. I believe my best friend's depression also contributed significantly his death. It leaves me wondering if I could have done more even though I couldn't have cured his depression... he was my mirror, my soul mate. I'll never be understood the way he understood me. Never.
Oh, I truly feel your pain. when I was 9 my dad had to tell me my best friend passed away and it hurt back in May of this year I got told my soulmate my best friend of 18 years passed away and it felt like a thousand knives stabbing you all at once.
my bestfriend died today.. And I don't know how to cope or how to grief.. which led me to this video.. Thank you.
thank you so much for this video
One of my friends
online friends
we never got to meet in person because our own lives kept getting in the way every time we tried
we always talked about meeting at Cheesecake Factory
He was an amazing soul and it hurts me that i never got to meet him in person
his sister called me at work to tell me about his passing... the fact that his family knew about me
hurts the most
because it means he cared enough to let his family know who i was and what i meant to him..
i was invited to the funeral but i dont think i will go..... this isnt how i wanted to meet him... may he rest in peace..
Some do not understand the impact of the death of a close friend.
We get more sympathy for family members and sometimes we are closer to a friend.
Thank you so much for this heartfelt video. My best friend of over 20 years died Aug 2023 after a very brief illness (2mths). I feel
Like I’m struggling more even now almost six months later. I sympathize with everything you said💕
Especially when she was the one I always turned to and now that she’s gone, I try to think of how she would handle it if the roles were reversed. I just miss and love her so much! Thank you and I’m so very sorry for your loss. I totally get it. Much love to you❤
Thank you so much for this video. I lost my best friend a week ago. And I’m really going through it. I feel so alone, but watching this video helped calm me for a few moments.
My best friend since early elementary school years just died about 2 months ago. That's how I came across your Chanel. I'm very lost and confused and hurt. I really don't know how to deal with it I'm trying to stay strong and keep doing right but part of me wants to just give up and do things that I know are not good. I'm just struggling with it. Pray for me if you believe in God please
Omw everything you gone through resonated with me. I lost my friend over a year ago and it hurt so bad😢 I've just been surpressing my grief most times and the few times it comes out I go through immence pain and grief 😭 it's hard😢
I dont know if this has helped me at all, but I do feel a bit better hearing this. My best friend Alex died and its really hard on me
I can't handle this pain
It’s been a month since my best friend died at 12. We were exactly one month apart and I had a really close bond with him that no one understood
Thank you, thank you so much.
Thank you for this video ❤I lost my best friend back in December, I just talk to him an hour before his passing I’m trying to move on but I just can’t, crying spells hit out of nowhere
Thank you so much for sharing your story , I understand what you mean when you lose a very close loved one friend, I've just lost my closest loved one Alicia, my angel , I loved her and I was always there for her and she was always there for me and now she's gone , so unexpected, I'd give anything to have just 5 minutes with her to tell her that I love her but I can't, I feel lost and don't know where to go or do, just like yourself we both sheard some amazing things together that will never leave me ,and your right , friends and family try to support but they don't really get it because they don't know about them times we had together , I lost her 3 weeks ago, does it get easier as time goes on? Coz this pain I'm feeling is so hard . Alicia Havelock I love you I always have from the first day I met you. I'll be with you soon I promise.
I Lost My A Classmate I Knew Since Freshman Year This year
I would so love to talk to you personally maybe I need it I don’t know
You need to be careful talking about pets dearest.... look up grief for people who's lost pets very powerful
I just lost a best friend of 22 years it is so lonely i hear you
My best friend of 14 years just died two days ago and I totally relate to all this. I've eaten today in the morning for the first time since I heard the news and even though some other mutual friends came to hang out with me, it still feels invalidating cause they don't know him the way I knew him. They didn't get to experience his energy the way I did and I don't know how or if I'll recover from this. My mental health is in the pits right now.
Hugs to you. I find that my grief is eased by telling people about my close friend's wonderful traits. This may help even if others weren't as close. Also I focus on her bright delightful energy that she had in life and it raises my spirits.
Mine of 17 years died 3 days ago 9/21/21 it turned my world upside down.
I hope you made it through alright. I am in the exact same boat right now, my best friend of 15 years passed away a few days ago and I feel like I’m losing my mind. I completely understand what you’re saying. I hope you’re okay
It says completely how I feel. I don't know if I'll ever get over this. I don't know if I'll ever recover for this. Honestly, I don't know if I want to. I do but at the same time she's not here to watch me do it. So what's the point? She wants me do so much. How do you go on without your soulmate?
Mine too God bless you all find strength please and live for them
My childhood best friend was killed last week by a drunk driver. My friend had just graduated law school and was coming home from getting coffee and food after a night of studying for the bar exam. The drunk driver ran a red light and my friend was killed instantly. We were inseparable growing up, but hadn’t stayed as close in college and after. It’s been so comforting to see how many other people got to know and love him, but it feels very lonely being a “friend from the past.” I had been telling myself he was just so busy with school and life and that we would reconnect at some point. To have that opportunity taken away has been horrendous.
Mine was killed by a drunk driver in August. I’m sorry. It’s so hard.
Thank you so much for this. I lost my best friend of 22 years yesterday and I feel lost. Completely lost. His name was Johnnie and there is no one I can share my grief with. As you said friends have no real validation because you’re not the spouse, kids, etc. As I sit here and cry I really really thank you and pray for you as well. I’m just starting this journey and this is the saddest I’ve ever been in my life 🙏🏾😢
Let yourself feel and cry and remember. Whether anyone ever cares to ask or listen, settle it in (your)heart, it matters. Be transparent as much as you can and do not run from the intensity of the moment. It comes in waves. Everytime I watch a food or travel show, so many memories start rolling. Cry the bucket of worthy tears because we will get a new batch. We all are passing thru, I get to see my Gwerl again. Never to say goodbye anymore, GOD says so.
Thank you for talking about this subject. Very important and rarely discussed.
Thank you
I came to TH-cam trying to find some solace for the grief that I'm feeling that nobody seems to understand. My name is Jess, so finding this video felt like my best friend Kristin reaching out to me. She died almost three months ago. We lived together and most of her stuff is still at my house so I can't escape the memories and the emotions that all of her things bring up for me. I often feel like her death was my fault because of a complicated series of events that ended with me calling 911 later than I should have and for a different reason than what was actually needed. I miss her so much every day and it feels like even my boyfriend doesn't really want me to talk about it anymore. I often resent her boyfriend because he received an incredible outpouring of support when she died and it felt like I just had to tamp down what I was feeling and move on. Thank you for making this channel and these videos, I hope it brings you and the people watching some relief.
Thank you for this, I lost my best friend of 40 years and I’m devastated. She was more than my friend, she was my cohort, my solace, my childhood, the keeper of my secrets etc. it’s just awful losing that person in your life. I loved her and understand how you feel 💯. Thanks for this video, I bawled most of the way through lol but it helped I think.
I miss her every single day. The only person that ever really truly understood me accepted me and loved me in spite of me. It's gone now. How do you deal with that? I'm not sure. I'm not sure how to get over it. This video was helpful somewhat but it's more than any of this to get over and I know that. Thanks for trying, I will also keep trying
Thank you. I just suddenly lost my best friend of 25 years. I am struggling and needed this validation so badly.
Thank you! My best friend passed away during the first COVID lockdown. We were friends since we were 11, I’ve just turned 50. No one gets it, you do, the empty is so real and so hard. Yes please a Facebook group 💚
Also, when you have been friends with someone from the time you are kids up through adulthood and well beyond, you are more like siblings. It is truly a special close bond that is deeper than the standard friendship.
My best friend passed away the year this video was aired. I have never recovered since then. Not sure if I may ever, but to know others have experienced despair as such as I, to this degree of everlasting internal and external sadness; reensuees me that our Heavenly reunion will be worth it when that day comes. The journey now is to not shorten my time I have left and instead, continue to live out her legacy as my soul friend would wish for me to do.
Lovely video, I commend you for your strength.
I lost my best friend almost two years ago. I’m still grieving and I can’t seem to heal. It hurts so bad everyday. My thoughts and prayers are with everyone that has endured this type of loss. Keep your head up and don’t let the dead bury the living ✌🏾🕊️
My best friend since childhood that I was incredibly close to just passed on Friday and you really hit the nail on the head.
Oh I totally understand how you feel. my best friend passed away when we were 9 years. 29 years ago and I still miss her
One of my best friends died unexpectedly 4 days ago. I'm heartbroken 💔 RIP Joyce.
I lost my best friend Feb 21st of this year. He was the sweetest, most gentle soul I will ever know. I am completely lost without him. I love you Kevin.
My friend died and I didn’t learn about it until 5 days after he passed. I feel guilty for not reaching out earlier, my heart is crushed. I feel like a terrible friend, I was there too late. I know he’s in a better place and where he wants to be, and I can’t begin to fathom what his kids and grandkids are going through - I don’t know how to be there for them, I am in shock, hurt and full of regrets. These past 3 years were distant, I’ve been going through something and I tend to deal with issues on my own. I don’t like to get others involved and then Covid but and then world changed. Isolation led to further isolation and we just reconnected again and made a pact - lunch every other week and we missed last week because I was sick and now he’s gone, I got so consumed with my caring for my home that I failed to check in on time
Hold your loved ones tight. Check in, honor them in life
I am so very sorry for your profound loss. I truly know what type of loss you have experienced, it has happened to me twice now. You are correct. The surviving friend's loss and bereavement are overlooked and, for the most part, not even acknowledged. This needs to change. When we as a society now acknowledge the loss of a person's beloved pet, surely, the loss of a dear friend should be acknowledged. Hugs. 💖
Thank you for putting this out there. I have just lost my best friend of 10 years and I'm feeling so lost without her 💔
I feel your pain. I just lost mine as well on June 9th. It was very sudden and unexpected. I feel like I have lost the other half of my soul. Very few people seem to understand the loss of a best friend and what that means. Hugs to you. 💖
Hugs to you I feel y’all pain… it’s just very difficult when it’s your friend no one gets it like you and your friends
Thank you guys it's really hard I've just celebrated my first birthday without her and my heart is in bits I miss her so much and now with Christmas round the corner it doesn't feel like Christmas without her. I'm so sorry about your best friend too I'm sending you both hugs
I feel for every single person in this comment section. Upon hearing the news that my best friend died, I didn’t cry. I puked my guts out. I felt absolutely sick. It wasn’t till months later I cried my eyes out. Knowing that there’s other people out there who went through the same horrible thing… it’s not cool… but, at least I’m not the only one in this boat. I dearly feel for anyone that lost a loved one/close friend.
My best friend Joey just passed away. He is my kindred spirit. I am so connected to him in so many levels and he's stronger than blood family. I just wanted to share that and thank you for this podcast. It really means a lot to me that you have this available for those who are grieving for their best friend.
My husband was my best friend in the world.
He died 7/6/2024.
I love these TH-cam videos.
It helps my healing.
This kind of Friend is a Shade Tree, a gift from GOD.
I cant thank you enough for posting this. i have felt so alone, but this whole video was like you read all my thoughts over the past 3 years again thank you
I just lost my dear friend a month ago, and you said it all. Every single thing you said was like a page out of the grief journey I've been on. Thank you for sharing this story and your grief of your dear Jess-it made me feel understood.
You welcome Azure. I am grateful to have helped in some way. Sending thoughts and prayers your way.
@@dearjess4197was it a girl that passed away at your house 🏠
Thank you so much, I’m so grateful for this, I am so sad, my friend was murdered 2 months ago, she had two boys, I feel like I don’t know how to process it, she was such a wonderful human being, her ex partner murdered her in her home, I can’t tell my son yet, he is 8, & grew up with her children, the pain feels so great when it comes over me, but as you said, it is hard because I do not want to make a fuss, or offend her family, even though I know I won’t… it’s such a horrendous thing, she was truly such a gentle, kind, courageous soul, just the best, I will always miss her & I wish I could find some peace around it, but thank you xxxxx
I lost my lifelong close friend recently and have been focusing on finding time to grieve, I can’t even function without my best buddie . Joe when my former reliable partner in crime for about 55years.
My best friend died last night and i dont know what to do. Hes gone
Awwww Precious one, we wrap you our prayers.
I needed to hear this today. Years later. Everything you shared is true. Thank you 😭 it felt like lights out and a part of me disappeared with her passing. The fear of forgetting has been a big part. People trying to put a time stamp on heartbreak. You are not crazy and true friendships are very rare. I went through something very similar to you. I thought surely more people would understand but I had a rude awakening. Thank you again
Thank you so much for sharing your experience. It really goes far for people who are looking for resources which validate their own experiences, just like the video title says. I know for me it is similar, I had to put my grief on hold while I helped my Best friends widow deal with her own day to day activities, funeral arrangements, support. Even to this day I don't feel like my grief was validated, even though I had known my best friend for over 20 years. Him and his family (they are all gone now), played an integral part in my life but I felt as though I had the smallest claim for grief out of everyone (though internally it was the greatest claim). Thank you again for making this video. I hope people who need it can find it when they need to.
My best friend of about the last 12 to 13 years just died last week. It was his last day in the military. While he was riding his motorcycle home, a bus cut him off and it killed him instantly.
He was the best person I knew and everyone who met loved him. I was the one of the weird kids at school and he wanted to hang out with me rather than everyone else. No one else has shown me the platonic love that he shared with me.
Thank you for sharing. My experience of losing a close friend who affectionately considered me his "little brother" closely resembles yours. I was the only one taking care of him because his two half-sisters didn't want anything to do with him. The doctor who was taking care of him in the hospital he was transported to told me that I was "just a friend" and that his estranged sisters who don't care about him take precedence over someone who was literally a care taker, i.e. me. He died because he was refused a liver transplant and because his sisters refused to offer to take care of him should he receive a transplant.
I’m sorry this happened to you. Feeling dismissed because you are “just a friend” is just an ignorant thing said by people who don’t understand. I imagine your friend was so thankful for your love and care.
I'd like to thank you for making this video, having a place on the internet to hear the pain is real. I've spent many nights searching Google for things that make it okay to still hurt years later. I was having a real hard day and your story, your found knowledge, really pushed me to a new way of thinking, thank you from the bottom of my heart thank you.
I lost my best friend about 3 months ago.He died suddenly and I think I haven’t been able to cope with his death and I still can’t believe he is gone and that’s probably because I did not mourn him enough because no one validated my grief and I had to censor myself in front of my family.This pain is too much.I miss him , I miss him so much.
It’s been 23 years. Validation of the pain is something I knew 23 years ago.
Miss you Kris.
I lost my best friend when we were 24. I mourned him for 10 years and felt crazy for that. No one understood our relationship and my loss. I’m 68 now and still miss him and think about him.
Nobody ever fills the hole that is left from the loss of someone we love….. May God just hold you close…. 🙏🏼
I so agree with what you are saying…after my darling friend died (just over a year ago) and I was out walking - if I struck up a conversation with a stranger I’d bring her into it - every single time. I needed to hear myself talking about her, she was still with me. We only met each other back in 2006, we were both grandmothers. Our chats covered every subject - no holds barred. Never thought she would go just yet. I miss her candour, love, laughter. My friend.
My best friend died 15 years ago.. i still cry and miss him so much. When we met in college he went home and told his mom he finally had a sister and he called me Sissy.. he was the big brother i never had. Nobody understands the gaping hole in my soul, how i long to hear his laugh or say "it'll be alright" about whatever i was bothered with in the moment. I miss you David, my brother forever💜time changes nothing, my grief is never over. It just softened a bit. Hugs and love to all walking this awful lonely path.
Thank you for validating everything I’m feeling. I lost my friend two weeks ago. I didn’t even get to go to a funeral. I’m so sad and angry.
My best friend die in 9 11
Thank you, I found this video very helpful. I lost my best friend two weeks ago and i miss her terribly. I loved her so much. I wish I could have helped her. She died suddenly.
My best friend of 18 years passed away from an aortic dissection last Thursday, and I don’t know how I am going to live life without him. I’ve lost my father in my adolescent years, my grandma in the pandemic and now my best friend. This grief doesn’t feel like the others though. It hurts in a place of my heart that I never knew even existed. Thank you for this video. It hasn’t even been a week and I’m already seeing who really cares. If my bff was my romantic partner or a family member, I feel like I would receive a little more sympathy than I am now. My heart is with all that are or have gone through the same.
Thank you so much for this video. I lost my friend a month ago and he was the support, light, and joy in my life. I really loved him, and feel this hopelessness and lack of passion for everything without him.
I’m trying to share how he made me feel with the rest of the world and get back on track with my life again. I needed this validation. Thank you so much.
I'm here because I recently had a dream about my best friend who I knew for almost 30 yrs. He died almost 14 yrs ago and I believe I accepted it. But in this dream I was looking for him to show him the restaurant I found he would like. I woke up feeling so sad and my thoughts were no one else could appreciate it but him.
When you grow together with someone you have your shared private jokes, almost your own language. Its lost when they leave.
I felt this to my core
Thank you so much for making this video. I lost my best friend of 2 years, our relationship was really complicated and it’s hard to feel like im valid in my grief but this pain feels like its killing me and it’s so real and so thank you for sharing your experience, It validated so much of what ive been feeling.
I lost a japanese best frnd ysterday wout knowing it. the last time I txt her she said that she'd be glad to see us together again someday if she'll be totally healed"..so I answer back I'm looking forward to that day! get well soon"! I didn't call her often or txt her after that bec It would disturb" her resting" toheal!
My tears can't break her back but I wish Mrs. M. IWAMA's soul to RIP! I'll be missing you Dear Friend! I lost a good japanese friend in you! you're part of those good memories I'll always remember! Thank you for those wonderful times we spent together! thankyou! RIP!😢😞😭
I feel the same way about my best friend Ann who died 2 months ago. There’s really no one to share with. So many memories that only she and I had. Where to go with this. I don’t know. I want her to be remembered.
My best friend of 20 years died seven months ago and I haven't been doing with it well at all. I couldn't make it to her funeral due to my job not allowing me to go. "It's not family" 🥺. I felt and still feel like the worst best friend on the planet. I literally couldn't make it to her funeral. When I start to have a good day I start I start feel guilty because She's not here to experience a good day. Everything you're saying is one billion percent how I feel. People keep telling me to not let this "consume me" or someone said to me "it's not like it was your sister. You have to get back on that horse". She was my sister. She is my sister. She is my family and I've felt so alone in this I this. Ive been trying to talk to her mother everyday,but it's truly hard to. Her kotjer also thew away a lot of my best friends things and when I asked for some of it I got a lot of no's. I even asked if I could have some of her ashes so I could turn her into a ring and I got a no. I have nothing of her's and it's slowly killing me. Like you said, she was my person. She was my light and without her life feels colorless.
Thank you for making this video and I'm so sorry for your pain🥺
Thank you.. I lost my best friend in November at the age of 22. Completely unexpected, I've been struggling since... this helped me more than you know
2 day before his birthday my best friend was killed on a motorcycle at age 26 2022 nothing will ever be the same
Around a year and a half ago, my best friend, who was more like a brother to me, passed away. He truly more than a friend, he was my brother and when he died, a piece of me died. To put into perspective how close we were, during our senior year of high school (around a decade ago), he had actually lived me and my family to escape an abusive household, where we shared my small bedroom together, and while I helped him in this way, he helped me in just as many ways in ways I can't even begin describe. It's been over a year and a half since his passing now, and I have continued on with my life as one should and must, but every now and then, out of nowhere, something makes me think of him and I just start crying or at least feel like crying (if I am not somewhere appropriate). They say time heals all wounds, but I'm sure this is one that is not possible to heal, and as long as I'm still around, the hole in my heart, mind and soul will be there.
in a little over a month it will be five years since I lost my best friend. She was high and I sent her home in a cab. She later died that night. I still hold myself responsible for her dying, and everyone says the same thing, it's not your fault. You didn't make her do that, you could have been with her when it happened blah blah blah. I don't care. I still think it could have been different. I just feel so alone, guilty, sad and lonely constantly. She was only 27
I hope you are having some acceptance and peace now.
Thank you for this video as I have been feeling alone! It's been 3m. I wish I could pick up the phone! I talk to an empty chair at times pretending it's him! Today i'm like how can I move on? Like is it even possible? I feel like I will never be the same. Life will never be the same! Who can I go to now! He was my closest friend! The person I was my true self with.💔
I can only send love. I lost my best friend a year ago. It's a loss of self as well, I miss the person I was with them, as well as mourning the loss of them. He was family to me. We shared the same pain in our past, no one knew me like him. We loved them so much, so much. I send my heart to you and share this immense loss. How would we share a time with them? At a party, he would sit in my room when we lived together and decompress, we would talk and laugh when we felt overwhelmed by company. I hold that space, as his friend. As I would have wanted to have space held for me. It's always there. I love him so much and always will.
God I needed this. My best friend since I was a freshman in high school just died on Saturday. He was 28. He was in a car accident. It was so sudden and awful. I'm still in the throes of this extremely fresh, brutal pain. Luckily I have a group of friends that all played video games with him to mourn with, and my girlfriend knew him for longer than I did and was great friends with him as well.
I can't imagine going through this alone, and thank you so much for sharing. Right now I don't really see the light, but I cried again at the end of your video when you said "you can live again".
Right now I feel like I just experienced a breaking point in my life. It will now always be "before" and "after".
Thank you for this comment. Thinking of you and your friend and grateful you have others to mourn with. You are right. There will always be a “before” and an “after” and it will always hurt and sometimes still make you so angry. 4 years since my friend’s death and I am glad My pain and anger is still strong at times because I know I have not stopped loving her or forgotten her. I promise though if u just keep getting up every day and putting one foot in front of the other, you will learn to take him with you in a sense. His life and memory will effect how you live and in this way because you loved him he will always stay with you. I’m sorry for your pain.
Thank you for making this video. I lost my best friend the 26th of December and this is helping me figure out how to deal with all the emotions I'm feeling. I'm sorry for your loss and hope you have found inner peace
I lost my best friend recently and I'm in so much pain. It hurts very bad, my heart is sore.💔💔💔
Thank you so much for this video. Almost a month later but it seems so unreal that I lost my very best friend. I still break down at times and always ask myself a lot of questions.
I just lost one of my closest and dearest friends. She was like a big sister to me, this is tough, a terrible loss.
So sorry for your loss. I understand - totally.
My best friend since choices kindergarden
died from an overdose about 3 years ago
That one kid that was there from elementary middle to high. And to young adults livings with girlfriends.
I miss you Chris
My best friend
My really good friend Best friend died suddenly
At end of Dec 2023. I as like many who knew him found later . I found out day of funeral. There is so many unresolved question . I will never get or being able to save good bye . Just shock .no closure
I just found out my friend died today. Her husband sent me a text message. Thursday February 1st 2024. God I'm gonna miss that crazy lady
I lost my dad when i was 14, my daughter when I was 22, my brother when i was 36 and now my guy bestfriend just 9 days ago. Grief seems to bring up so many emotions. ✝️ My condolences to All here
My best friends name is Jess. I lost her in October 2021. Three other close people in my life passed away in the following 27 days. My best friend and two of the other losses were unexpected.
Your channel is beautiful. My best friend unalived herself Sunday evening. We've been best friends since we were kids. I keep picking up my phone wanting to text her, or waiting to see if she's messaged me back. I can't believe she's actually gone.
This is just how I feel, I lost my best friend last year and the worst thing is that her family didn't even invite me to her funeral, they just went with it and excluded me, I realized over a post that Luisiana died, and now whenever I'm having a bad day people expect me to feel better by telling me she was not my sister or my mother.
But she was like a sister to me, she was always there and was the only person I really trusted.
I spent beautiful and wonderful five days by her side.
I can't talk about her to anyone because they think I'm exaggerating and that I should just move on, but it's hard, and I can't help but feel like I'm betraying her when I feel happy or go through something which would have made us both happy.
I guess I've not been able to fully mourn her.
My best friend passed away last fall. You are right on point. What do ya do when the husband moves on but you cannot. It’s like grief all over again and I think is what is wrong with ME?!
My best friend of 57 years recently passed. She lived a few states away but we texted every single morning because we both woke up around 4 am. We were just like you and your best friend! We helped each other through life and could always make each other laugh, no matter what was going on. Now I have no one to talk to about our loving relationship. My husband is tired of hearing about it. And since I'm agoraphobic, I really don't have anyone to talk to and I feel so alone just like you said!
I'm hurting deeply and all I can do is cry.
Thank you for sharing this video. I relate deeply to this after losing my best friend of 15 years so suddenly in 2019. The pain is still fresh and real. I feel like I should have come a long way already in my healing journey, but there are still incredibly difficult days where I feel so incredibly lonely and completely empty. I wear her loss like a missing ribcage. She was my safe place second to none, and we had our own unique universe where we held each other in utmost love, respect, and craziness. I miss that and want it back - in the same dimension it had been. I would love to be part of any support group that would validate this lifelong pain.
I don't know if you are still reading comments, but this video has been something I really needed to watch. My best friend just passed unexpectedly last week at the age of 26. He was on the way home from vacation then passed from heart complications on the plane. Many people offer kind words, and support - but the reality is that the man was practically my brother and as I even write this comment we are still struggling to get his body returned to the states for a proper burial. We would hang constantly after work since graduation: playing video games, watching movies, bike rides, hanging out, getting food etc. We shared a lot of hilarious, and heavy moments throughout high school as well. He was the first person I picked as a groomsman when I got married last year. There are so many memories I had with this man then just one day without warning I am called to learn that he is gone, and I will never see him again.
I still have to push through work, but every moving second my friend is on my mind so I'm unable to perform my responsibilities adequately. I'm still expected to take care of things, but in reality I'm just falling apart. Even though many are mourning for him I feel isolated in my grief for the exact reasons you mentioned. I don't know how to move forward from here.
My high school best friend died July 4th 2022 I’m lost
My best friend just died in January; I wanted so much to keep in contact with her family because that was a solid connection to her, but it just didn't happen. Fortunately I had and have some mutual friends and acquaintances that let me talk. I still deal with some guilt over her death. Love you, Melony.
my best friend Sean’s funeral is tomorrow. The last 4 years of knowing him have changed me immeasurably. He died one month ago, and its hard to accept that we won’t make new memories together. But I know that he needed peace and I pray he has it now.
My best friend of 14 years died May 9th. Every single day I cry and miss her so much. It's torture and feels like this ache will never stop.
Someone I dated in high school who I became an adult friend with passed away April 25th. I also live 6+ hours from where she lives and her core friends and loved ones. I agree, my experience with her is different from most of them, my most sweetest memories that were our most private moments together are difficult to share. I visited for her wake and had to return home and now my pain surely feels amplified. I want to reach out to everyone and validate their grief while being given an ear or heart who may understand where I'm at. I just shared with a friend that I mourn my friend as an adult and grieve her as the girl I knew and that is so true. Sadly, I am grieving more as that time was so formative for both of us, how do I share that feeling with others who didn't know her then? I'm really scared that this will be harder than I think it is right now.
Do you find it hard to know where to put that energy/love that you once gave her? I feel like I never know what to do with that time and I carry this huge box that I can never open but I have to carry it with me forever.
Thank you so much for making this video. I lost my best friend a few days ago and I'm in the huge pain. By listening to your story, I feel validated a lot.
💔Broken heart?, Sin G yc ya Baha ul abha, thats also A way to god's Mercy. 🛐🌈🌬️💗
My friend just passed this past Sunday doesn't seem real...she didn't want to die I know did something way to much and that was how...so hard
I just said goodbye to my one and only friend for 30 years. She is alive today, but it can be over in one hour or 2 days. I have no other friends because I am Chronic ill. I have a husband, but I dont know how I am suppost to live without her. I really dont know. I really dont know.