Why More Men Are Becoming Stay-at-Home Dads
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 4 พ.ค. 2021
- More men are staying at home to take care of their families, according to a 2018 Pew Research report. Historically, economic downturns have forced men out of the labor force and into stay-at-home roles. "Perhaps as many as two million men were stay-at-home dads, depending on how you measure it, during the height of the Great Recession," says Sociology Professor Scott Melzer. "And if we look today at the pandemic, we have another economic calamity."
However, changes in women's workforce participation and women's advancement in education have also left lasting impacts on gender roles. In 2020, women made up more than half of the U.S. workforce for the first time. "Young women are actually outpacing young men now in terms of college degrees and many graduate degrees," says Kim Parker, Director of Social Trends Research at Pew Research Center.
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Why More Men Are Becoming Stay-at-Home Dads
I have a friend who did that. Great Recession. His lawyer job was cut. His wife was a teacher with benefits. Simultaneously, they had a child with special needs...so insurance became a premium. I applaud him. He still took some part time shifts at the grocery store to make ends meet.
So he's a lawyer but ended up working part time shifts at grocery store to make ends meet? I'm not mocking or anything, I'm just surprised and wonder if I got it right
@@PeacePham1991 nothing wrong with that in this difficult stage. Even lawyer job, there are tons of different types related to “lawyer jobs”. And it does not mean all lawyers are all very successful with high income
lawyer jobs are intense. a part time lawyer is still working 40 hours a week instead of 80 hours
@@PeacePham1991 Not all lawyers make a lot of money.
@@ft9kop So a lawyer working full time is going to work for 80 hours a week?
I was a stay at home dad for 2 years and I loved it! When I die I know I raised my daughter at her most critical age. I say if you can do it
So was my husband! ❤️
Respect!
Men are the providers woman take care of the home. Why? The BIBLE says so!
@@ryanthepianoman27 Bible also said to love your wife. Staying home is an act of love.
@@ryanthepianoman27 too bad that doesnt work anymore, you need both, the Bible never said that by the way. If a woman wants to work she can, didn't the Bible also say blessed are the women who grow their own vineyard and make their own clothes to sell?
I don’t get why people are shaming these fathers who want to raise THEIR OWN kids? Are you stuck in the 1960s?? This is a positive change for families
I don't get it either. Sometimes the wive simply makes more money so it has no point for her to stay at home. Most people want kids and with that comes sacrifices. If you care about your family you will let your wife do her thing out there if that benefits your household. Who cares what the world will say, the kids gotta eat and need a roof over their heads.
They are just projecting their own daddy issues and insecurities. Calling other men “beta”, seems to make them feel “alpha”.
Because people are controlling and want to make sure that everyone else is doing exactly what they want them to do how they want them to do it. We still have this group of people trying to keep us back in the past because they prefer things that way
@@user-nv3sh5jh3p people need to realize that these "roles" are not a set thing. Not even all cultures have the same roles as if it's a thing that's made up by each individual society
I want to be stay home dad. I cook and clean as long as she provide and establish things.
The sexist comments are quite disturbing. There’s nothing that says being a stay at home dad is a free hand out - it’s a lot of work and demanding. Focus your attention on the “why” people have to stay at home to take care of children - lack of child care support for families. Child care costs a quarter or half your total income, and if you are barely making by, you have to make the decision on who should stay home to watch the kids. You really going to tell me you would rather have someone who makes lower income continue to work because he’s a male, even though the female has the better income? GTFOH. Sounds like people need better financial advisers.
💯 agree. Also, affordable daycare or not, parental nurturing of children through full time stay at home care is a VERY IMPORTANT JOB.
If more families could have a fulltime parent at home (mum or dad) it would go a long way in raising a society of healthy whole adults.
We have normalized self parenting for kids as young as 10/12... Its not normal!!
Sadly, ordinary families are being sacrificed on the alter of capitalism because can't afford decent childcare, can't afford staying at home to parent fulltime.
#TheCostOfCapitalism
@@julm7744 Unfortunately, life isn't scripted, so it's impossible to predict the future. Most people start out in stable situations when they have kids, then later find themselves stranded.
I know 4 different families that had free child care from healthy grandparents that then died of COVID. People that had amazing jobs and through no fault of their own their circumstances changed. People who were financially stable then a health crisis leaves them with 100's of thousands in crippling debt....
And then for some, despite their education, hardwork and planning, life simply doesn't progress as they'd hoped. #LifeHappens
That's because he's incompetent man Childs have to find some way keep themselves feeling more special than everyone else
@@julm7744 capitalism and most social safety nets demand an increase in population to keep the system going so no, nobody was told to have kids but it shouldn't be a luxury for those exclusively better off either.
It's disgusting how men are only valued based on his ability to make money. It's stated very clearly that he's not very good with a job, but he's being a responsible hardworking househusband doing laundry, washing dishes, and looking after the kid. It's 2022, not 1960, strong woman should financially support weak men, why can't men be allowed to participate in women's roles but women can have a high-paying career?
Work is identity for a lot of people in us culture so without it, ppl sometimes feel unfulfilled
Correct
That applies to both men and women, but sadly you have a point
I'm a proud stay at home Dad since beginning of 2020.
I do everything from laundry, dish washing, grocery shopping, cleaning, taking family and kids out, panning trips, and OH Yea...also investor of crypto and becoming financially free this year 😊
I will do cooking and caring children but cannot cleaning and laundry no matter what !
@@randomworld4662 Then what good are you?
@@equivalentexchangeisalie5726 why can't both people share the responsibilities
Great job! Keep it up.
You make your wife's boyfriend dinner too? Lmao
My husband is a stay at home dad . I won't be able to do what I love with out him on my life!! He does a great job
There is nothing wrong with men taking care of children!!
If men staying in the kitchen isn't wrong, then I don't know what is
And nothing wrong with women providing financially
@@sayeeed1303 you're probably the same kind of person that thinks the man of the house doing the kitchen work is okay
My dad has never been a stay at home dad but my mom always told us he was so much more patient with us as babies and toddler than she was! ♥️
this would all be resolved if we had true parental leave for both spouses
Women only get 2 months and how much would you want to give as an actual employer some one should just stay home or families should run family business and teenagers and single people should be in the work force
Or Mothers should be a Mother's
@@stevves4647 hard to that when you can’t even afford having a one kid on one wage
@@gamer242mooo that's a societal problem, there was a time were the father/husband could provide for his whole family with one job, the theory is that the influx of labor from working women reduced wages, society needs to either cater to working women's need so they can be mothers and work or women will need to leave their jobs to be mothers(which is not going to happen).
Well yah know when a woman gets cut open and has to recover, that’s a little different than someone just deciding to stay home.
I have worked 40+ hours a week since I was 14. I'm 33 and me and my wife decided to swap roles with out 3 and 1.5 year old. It's the best move I ever made. No job has made me smile this much and I've never felt so satisfied.
I’ve already decided that if I end up losing my job this year due to the industry recession I am in. (Trade shows). I’m going 100% self employed and being a stay at home dad to my 2 girls. I can be a graphic designer from anywhere. I could also get another job in design pretty easily, but I know I would be taking a big pay cut which would put us squarely in the working just to pay for child care group. I’m not about taking a step back, I’d rather explore something new like working for myself while being there for my kids. My wife has a good corporate job with great benefits, we can manage as long as I can also bring in my income freelancing.
Bravo! It all about being sensible and strategic in relation to your own circumstances.
I also think the value of present parenting is grossly under rated. It has incredible value for society in general; the children; both the parents. The present parent {the opportunity of bringing up your own kids day to day}. The working parent {peace of mind to focus on work because your spouse is fully present with the children}.
It's an all win situation!!
Dude, more power to you. Good luck!
My husband was a stay at home dad with our first born for 2 years. Wouldn’t have had it any other way. 😍
If it works for them, good. No judgement over here! Daycare is insane! If the wife makes more, I say go for it!!!
I still feel like the wife is gonna feel some type of way about husband being a stay at home dad (even if it's yielding great results) and her making more money than him.
@@gregthomas3953 if you have the same values, it won't be a problem.
ok then make sure you dont start to feel turned off and start dating Kevin from finance.... which will then lead you to become another statistic in the divorce rate.
@@ProperLeg Wtf lmao you probably use the words "gigachad" and "beta male" unironically
@@ProperLeg
You have a point there, but people won't admit it.
There is absolutely no shame in being a stay at home parent. It’s very tough work mentally and physically and mums and dads should be made to feel proud that they chose to sacrifice alternatives to look after their children.
So the feelings and struggles of stay at home parents are basically the same regardless of gender! Interesting
if anything it helps to validate women who are performing this role. Although I think its a bit disgusting those mommy groups wouldn't let the dad in. I mean its their choice but talk about double standards.
These men don’t have testosterone thought so
@@bryanshealy1260 feminists bash on women who wanna stay home but praise these men for doing it. There's a war on masculinity and they want to see the gender roles reversed.
@@bureaucratbayonet That's some pretty intense paranoia there. I think people look to much into it. You do what's best as a family. It's efficiency at its finest.
@@bryanshealy1260 I felt the same way. You can just imagine how these stay at home bums treat their husbands when he gets home from work. I bet they wouldn't think twice about divorcing their husband in order to take half his resources.
guys there is nothing wrong to become stay at home dad - why we need to be so surprised all of sudden?
I was lucky I was able to retire at 43 with a pension and be a stay at home dad...but I guess technically I'm still bringing in an income
My husband is in a similar situation. He retired last August, and now he is able to be with our kids while I focus on my career. Since he retired I was promoted, and I've had many opportunities available for me at work.
I don't have kids yet and I am changing careers, my fiance has told me he wants to work from home and be the full time child caregiver so I can keep working and build my new career when we do decide to have kids. It is already a huge relief in my mind that I can grow in my career instead of being stunted when I already will have a later start than most. The US really needs better laws for maternal and paternal leave, it will really reduce the stigma.
So he can stay home live the life while you are stressful having to work all day! Great life.
@@xdxxdxdxdxdxdxdxdxdxdxdxdx8578 “live the life” is taking care of small children. Babies, infants, and children under the age of 8 need near constant supervision not to mention school age children and there many activities. I have nothing but the utmost respect for stay at home parents as I could never.
I totally agree with you, I'm in full support of a woman being in control financially and supporting a man, you should be allowed to focus 100% on your career and your husband will fulfil his househusband duty when you come home from work. It's 2022, not 1960, women should lead men in a marriage to prove that the social construct is a myth.
@@Waterbug1591 and vice versa
Dunno about being a house husband but those dad groups look like a lot of fun for the both dads and the kids.
I love this ♥️ Father's deserve paid leave of absence when their baby is born. It's a great support for the mom and a chance for dad and baby to bond.
Shouldn't na mother also be bonding with the child she gave birth to?
@@taasch2505 They have done that for ages...Let the Dads take over...
@@taasch2505 yeah they should. It's not like it's mutually exclusive or something.
@@taasch2505 it's time for the dads now.
“Sense of being in prison”😭🤯 Thats so sad but true
Yeah I'm just not going to have kids if that is the case. I'm good
I was like: "Dang, I thought this was a happy video." Heart goes out to all the parents on full time duty with the kids.
I want to be stay home dad. I cook and clean as long as she provide and establish things.
Good for them 👍🏾 Your family arrangement is individual, so if it works for their families, that’s what counts
black pill community's worst nightmare
What’s black pill?
Proud stay at home dad and soon to be foster dad here and could not be more excited!
If you found this comment, I wish you success, health, happiness and wealth ❤️❤️❤️❤️
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Stop shaming dads for wanting to be at home .
Their wives are making more money, and more men are finally realizing that it's okay if they want to stay home while their wife who makes more $$$ works.
Yeah the lazy bumz are rubbing their hands that they don't have to work. While you guys stress out and do all the work, just don't resent him now. Lol
I am stay at home dad and I work at home...win win...
Well do you help raise your kids?
Now they understand what stay at home mothers have been saying and feeling all these years. Kudos to these men and their families.
2 way thing. Women should also consider some 'providers' may not have jobs or have less pay cause roles normally preserved for men is becoming split between both sexes.
@@techtactics788 I think plenty of women are aware of this and are with men who earn a lot less… hence these stay at home Dad arrangements. What was your point here?
@@nubian77 point is only few women have this mindset and are unwilling to accept it without considering the present state of employment becoming evenly skewed between men and women. In other words, don't look down on a man because you earn more than him.
When will women acknowledge that that the world was built by men for their comfort?
@@etf42 Don't say it like that man. Mostly men and also significant numbers of women built the world while they tended to the home. World is changing but significant number of women continue to look down on men even if they are replacing men in previously male dominated jobs leaving men to look somewhere else or secure alternative less paid jobs. Don't settle for a lazy man but avoid looking down on a lesser paid man.
i ve been a stay at home dad for 11 years, i have got to experience a great bond with my kids, i also worked in between, online jobs etc, book publishing what an experience i will always treasure :) Also stay at home dads work every day but most dont get paid.....
My dad here is huge example for other people,as well with keeping of his own job he did looked for us during our child hood
My dad too👍
Anyone who is not okay with this, would you rather families like this be on welfare?
So you think it's ok for the man of the house to do the kitchen work because he wants to?
@@whitewhitewhite2446 yes, better then them collecting welfare checks
@@vincentgiasullo wow, clown
I wish we could teach more of our sons to be like these men.
To be more feminine? No let them have a choice, but it's obvious these men are moreon the feminine side, whether you like it or not most women don't find that attractive.
It's a pity that you wanna raise your son to be a SAHD.
@@j__v5304 the only people who look down upon stay at home parents ( mom or dad) are the ones who don't realize how hard it is and it takes a lot of sacrifice to do that for their spouse and is a noble deed. People like you don't have any respect for them ( unfortunately a lot of people in the world are the same ). I feel really sorry for you and hope you find peace and hope you can fix your insecurities.
And daughters too, now more than ever !
@@pallavisah4934 imo, there's no need for full time stay at home parents. And people follow their dreams outside their homes not because they are insecure of staying at home but they are ambitious. And please don't project your silly laughable thoughts on me. There's more growth to a person when he or she chases their dreams , passion and career than just being a stay at home parent. And i didn't say I don't respect SAHPs, it's all your thoughts. May be you're an insecure SAHM or don't want to be one in future. It's not my fault hon, sorry if I hurt your feelings. I wish good for your sons and daughters if you have any.
Became a stay at home dad in Oct of 2018 , cant wait for my little one to go to school lol wife just finished her residency. Me wants freedom!
Definitely feel the isolation and prison statement
I have been home with my kids for 8 years and never felt alone or isolated I do have 4 kids so maybe that's why. I'm involved in their school, sports and church so plenty of interaction with people. Before covid we would visit old folks in nursing homes with our youth group, there are plenty of things to do with kids.
This really shows how society is evolving socially.
Its nolonger about the sterotypical gender roles.
In families can leverage their strengths, talents and preferences to build healthy functional families that work for them.
The children they're bringing up are also growing up without the traditional societal gender constructs to influence how they will choose to live when they're adults.
I think we will see problems in the future.
@@good-tn9sr doubt it, automation will take over eveything, won't take long, we will see a BUI come into place, the only problem I could foretell is of something like communism rising because of the BUI system being implemented.
We all can see a problem in future mate.
My husband is a stay at home dad. But I am also a stay at home mom. My husband is blessed enough to be able to work from home and support us all. Even while he is working he still finds the time to feed and play with our daughter during the work week.
I wish there was a way for stay at home dads that gave up their jobs to somehow use their skills to work from home if they wanted to.
Why don't you get a job as well and provide for your family.
@@bubblegum7489 Right it’s always good for both to find things to do together because what will happen if one loses a job or things go south or one dies you know?
@@bubblegum7489
Because taking care of their home is her main job. He just plays with the baby from time to time, not actually watch her. Anyway, she doesn't need to, he makes enough. Does it bother you? Are you jealous of stay at home moms?
@@bumblebee4280 She should still get some type of job to help out financially.
@@knuclestheechidna5406 lol who are you lmao you don’t know their situation lol you sound like a jealous loser. Your opinion on her working means nothing
This is so nice. Sadly, some men would still never take this path out of "ego"
Actually it has more to do with women’s preferences. More men would love to not have to work, but in practice most women just aren’t sexually attracted to men who don’t provide, which usually means they want someone making more money than them. Multiple studies have shown this.
@@whatsittooya303 yes, this is a valid point, and I agree that this needs to change as well.
@AJ ROPE I don't think a man needing to work is related to "biology".. it's just a byproduct of centuries where they were working.
@@xhpfanx you can't change biological programming. You can't just educate the hypergamy out of a woman. You can't just educate the desire to be with an attractive woman out of a man. . Why do things need to change even? Why can't women and men be different and equal.
@@dominick6131 I think you CAN change those things. Women were trained back in the old day to marry for wealth because they weren’t working. Women no longer need to do to that today. And men are trained by media and society to look for attractive women as partners and society puts a women’s worth in her looks. Those things CAN change.
I don't know how you raise a family without two incomes
Having an MD is a good start.
It's about specialization I guess.
I made six figures a year doing code.
@@fajrdn nobody cares.
Of course it has to fit your family’s situation. There’s plenty of men that work so their wives or partner can stay at home. It’s called sacrifice.
More power to these wonderful dads.. love from 🇮🇳 India
Stay safe! Prayers!
Taking care of kids is really hard
Tks for that. I don’t feel alone now.
Watch the pay for a homemaker increase , finally
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I’d love to see how much support single fathers get.
As a wife. I don’t think I could allow for my husband give up his career. I wouldn’t want any resentment towards me in the future. 🤷🏾♀️
No you just want to continue being a leech. If you really love him, you would encourage him to stay home and enjoy life.
It is not good for a man to force a woman to stay at home or for a woman to force her man. But you two have to think about what is best for the family. Make the best decision, even if there is sacrifice
What incredible dads! I hope these men are so appreciated!
Y’all are amazing dads. ❤️
So the first guy was a waiter and married a doctor wife. That makes sense for him to stay home.
Correction he married a medical student. She is with him because she owes him for staying home so she could have children during medical school and residency. She would not be interested if they met now for the first time while she is a doctor
@@dominick6131 You know her really well personally I assume?
She’ll deff leave him after she realizes she married a simp
He was a Chef not a waiter. Chefs make pretty decent money.
@@muskokaboats Sure Mitch....lol
I wanna be a stay-at-home dad 😫. I work with sooo many women who have husband's staying at home taking care of the kids that I'm soo jealous, lol. But two incomes definitely are better than one.
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@@dragstar8127 loser
A nurse who "wanna be a stay at home dad". What a pathetic loser
It's disgusting how men are only valued based on his ability to make money. If a man is not very good with a job, but he's being a responsible hardworking househusband cleaning the house, making sandwiches, doing laundry, washing dishes, and looking after the kid, that should be applauded. It's 2022, not 1960, strong woman should financially support weak men, why can't men be allowed to participate in women's roles but women can have a high-paying career?
My dad was a stay at home dad in in the 80’s.
The downside is that the breadwinner has a lot of power in the relationship. I don't think I would be comfortable allowing someone to have that much power over me...
I agree, but somehow is deemed ok for women to be the one that has no power should in the relationship, which isn't a good thing
Yes but a Woman’s power surpasses monetary means
When women NATURALLY want to be stay at home moms, Western men insult them and call them golddigers and lazy. Now this is becoming a trend. There's something seriously wrong
That’s because that’s the agenda destroy the females stay at home. Now they are applauding men who stay home lol.
Seriously wrong
Ive been working from home for a few years running my own thing. im almost 30 and i dont really see myself working in an office or outside the home in the future. so looks like by default im a stay at home dad. good thing im good with kids since i helped my brother and sister with theirs. so now to look for someone who is open to the idea of having a stay at home husband lol. i can cook and im good at DIY projects/home improvement. any takers? lmao
no thanks ! no sissy boy for me !
@@justi353 You are a man pretending to be a woman...I am 1000% sure😂😂😂...
the thought of being a stay at home mum scares me. the cleaning the cooking, i can barely do that for myself. but ultimately i'd love for me and my partner to be able to stay at home and work so we can take turns
I think it should be normalized to be a stay at home dad as a woman I even want a stay at home husband/boyfriend if we have children I want him to be a stay at home dad
Currently a stay at home Dad and loving it. My wife and I thought it made more sense given where she was at with her career and she also earns more money than me. I also have the flexibility of working from home.
Respect man
My ideal is to be stay at home investor mom. We are working towards this as a couple.
Brave fathers! Taking care of children is hard work. You have many rolls to play when caring for children. Your the teacher, doctor, counselor, shopper, cook, cleaner, laundry person, mediator, negotiator, body guard and play mate. All in the same day. Fathers walk proud, for the work you are doing is honorable🏆
@@sledgehammer5414 how insecure do you have to be to make this comment?
@@bryanshealy1260 Lmao
@@sledgehammer5414 Because society is dumb, and what gives you the right to relegate women into "this sad existence"?
@@sledgehammer5414 Taking care of children doesn’t mean that you don’t have ambition
How exactly are they brave? They are taking care of their children like a father is supposed to do smh 🤦 🤔
I’m 19, and a stay at home step dad, I had a job, but my girlfriend asked me to step down because she managed to get a job making a decent amount of money, a lot of people will judge me and that’s okay I judge myself too, but it’s actually harder than you would expect, her kids both have ADHD one being 10, and one being 7. I expect to get hate in comments but just understand I’m not proud of it, nor did I want to not work. I did it for the better of our family and relationship
This was pretty cool to see. My mom is a stay at home mom but my dad owns a company so he only comes home once a week.
Owns a company... out of state or just a lot of travel?
@@ktsterlin9304 he owns a lot of buildings all over the U.S so he travels a lot. But hey as long as he supports me and my siblings I'm happy
Your dad has another family
@@Mr850man rude 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@Mr850man Lmao stop
I am a stay at home dad. My son is 2 years old an my wife makes more than i do.
@@SesameShorts as if stay at home wives don't cheat too
@@Karuu_kun just make sure your family fears God, you would not need to worry...
@@SesameShorts Many people fear God but they still cheat, so it's pointless
@@Karuu_kun trust in the Lord
@@SesameShorts ain't no way you tryna change the topic here bro 💀 this ain't about god, really. He's disappointed because of what humanity has become
Yeah it’s a no for me, in my house; men work!
Great for them though
Same
Facts
incredibly sad that you do not view child rearing as a job. it’s the hardest job in the world.
I think that both men and women should work so they can have a double salary! That’s just what I’m going to do. But if others want to do something else, that’s their life. I personally would hate to stay home all day, but that’s just me.
@@BeautyBySilence why would anyone want their children raised by a stranger?
I'm a stay at home dad but I also have my own income. I don't need to work so I don't. Don't get me wrong, i am hated for it, my family stopped talking to me and I lost some friends because of it. Why? Because I can basically do what I want. Jealousy caused it. My advice to you, if you're gonna be a stay at home dad, keep it to yourself.
This makes me happy to see, mom or dad, I wish more people were able to stay home with their kids.
Great trend! 👏🏼
Makes sense for a lot of families now. Nothing to be ashamed of at all...it's a math decision really.
LOVE THIS!
I think it’s great because it shows the respect and appreciation of stay at home mothers! Way to go dads!
If only a single income source can support a family
My wife makes $114,000 a year with a 2 year community college degree. We get by just fine on a single income.
@@kpath74 Do tell! I wanna get on her level $$$
If you’re saving money by not paying for child care, you can actually break even or make more money being a stay at home parent depending on how much child care usually costs.
It can if one is smart with their money.
@@kpath74 If you have a good degree, that family income could double and be $228k a year, then you could save and invest more for retirement. Always ask yourself this queation.....what happens to me financially when I am 70 years plus old.
Nice work 🎇🎆🌠
I don't see anything wrong with this if the partners are in agreement with this and as long as the stay at home husband is helping in a huge way.
Respect for all the stay home dads❤️
They are doing such an honorable job of rasing a child I could never imagine..
I need a women that make 200k so I can stay at home too lmao 😂
Stay at home dad is very rewarding, sometimes your wife brings you flowers
I mean if their wives earns a high paying salary and with them they can never attain that salary, then it makes sense especially if their salary was less than or equal to the cost of child care. And it seems like, well with this video, this is a temporary situation for most of them and they might join the workforce again.
I did not get that at all from this video. Actually very much the opposite.
the problem is women don't generally want a man that isn't the breadwinner. They want a high earner which equals higher status. Even if the guy makes 100k, the woman will feel she's dating down if she is making 400k.
@@ninjablack4347 your comment is an impossible situation. If she want's a high earner then she is gonna have to work hard taking care of the kids. If she wants to have a job then she will forgoe daycare to someone else. Not any different than the past I suppose.
@@ninjablack4347 I think this goes mostly for the lower income groups. If both make around $50K a year and they both want children, one of them probably needs to stay at home if childcare in their area is expensive. So women prefer a man who can provide a comfortable lifestyle while they stay at home and take care of the kids. It's just nature. It's unnatural for a woman to look for a man who will make her and the kids go hungry.
Also men with a very high income can afford childcare which means the women don't have to sacrifice their careers if they want to have kids at any point.
In case of the $100k vs $400k: most men who make less than their gf or wife have an issue with that. It's really annoying. One of my best friend's bf broke up with her after he found out she made a lot more money than him. Kinda sad because he left her heartbroken. Most men have ego issues.
@@misshoneynevercame4832 There are more women who can't tolerate a man who makes less than them than there are men who can't tolerate a woman Making more than them.
Heyyy I see some of our #FatherhoodIsLit crew in the pics!!!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽
Not interested in being a Dad. Not interested in marriage. Being single is the way to go ! 😌
The issue is, if a man hasn’t achieved enough in a career or profitable venture, and then becomes a stay at home dad at too young an age, he’s likely to become depressed. If he isn’t able to achieve these goals and feel that he fulfilled a purpose outside of his family, after his children grow up he will resent the wife who’s HAS achieved goals outside the marriage. His age at that time is his biggest hurdle which tends to increase depression. Lesson? Learn what you want to be way before you can become a father and achieve your goals in your twenties and early 30s WHILE you become a father. Any man who doesn’t do this is relying on a woman to do it for him.
I'm sure some women feel the same way. Being a stay at home parent isn't for everyone.
No that's bull. Women have become housewives without achieving a thing in life and plenty of them are happy.
You are projecting your own internal misogyny here. My partner is a househusband and we have been together for 11 years. Just because your surroundings are patriarchal doesn’t make them true.
@@samuraijosh1595 women and men aren't same
@@aishaswallen6139 OK feminist
I think this is great! Especially for the men who are almost driven to suicide because they feel the constant social pressuere of having to provide for their family while they are stuck in a job they hate or unemployed for a while. This seems less stressfull.
Not every man likes having to be the bread-winner.
Your not a man so you don’t know how the average man thinks. We aren’t driven to suicide, what’s wrong with you?
@@icietla46 How do you know I'm not a man. Did you chech my tools?
@@misshoneynevercame4832 based off of your comments and your name, I would assume your a woman.
@@icietla46 LMAO don't present so called facts based on assumptions.
@@icietla46 I'm a guy and she's actually right. You don't speak for all of us. money has never been my motivation in life. The only thing I ever wanted in this life was a loving, loyal wife and happy, healthy babies. Everything else is a means to an end.
I don’t enjoy my job. I would become bitter by having to work while someone else stayed home.
same!
if I suffer, you have to suffer too :/ I don't make the rules
@@vickyyyy that's a toxic mindset and a great way to start an abusive relationship
Yeah!!! Go, dads! It's well established in Sweden already. I wouldn't mind if we split childcare and both work part-time. That's my ideal 🙌🏻
but still expect a guy to ask a girl out, plan dates, open doors, etc.... smh
@@omatic7862 Of course! The world is not only black and white. What's wrong with that?!
@@omatic7862 Because we see that as masculine behaviour. Being emancipated does not prevent you from being masculine/gentleman.
Don't you like your wife to bring you a nice cold drink while you lay a wooden floor in the new house? That I do that for my husband does not mean he can abuse me or that I don't stand up for myself. I see it as feminine behaviour and love to help him in that type of way.
@@misshoneynevercame4832 This is such a good reply.
@@evanli8813 Thanks!
I love this but I could never!
as men its time for us to get the mens group for stay at home dads and helping fathers out
True indeed
80% of high earning women won't marry a man who makes less. Multiple studies show. They might have a boyfriend who makes less, but not marry. I've certainly seen some exceptions, but that's the minority.
I’m in this category. Not interested. I would marry a woman that’s stays home before marrying a man that doesn’t work. No thanks.
Yes, It’s just women’s instinct.
So you’re sexist.
Time is changing.
For the worst
@@chrisisnice why do u say that?
@@chrisisnice For the better
I work from home, does that count?
It'd be amazing to be able to afford a parent at home - either parent
80 on a diet 😬😬😬😬
This is amazing!! Having a parent home is so beneficial for the kiddos.🤗
I'm thankful that I get to be home but if the roles were ever swapped I know my husband hands down would be a great stay-at-home parent and would fully support him in that role.
Handsome and ambitious male news anchor likely making 6 figures: “I couldn’t do it!”
~think about that one again. Then you’ll know what he really meant by that.
The dad groups 🥰🥰
GOOD on them! I couldn't do it so chose to live childfree.
Goals
Future house-husband here. Looking for any tips and advice. Thanks in advance!
Be transparent about how you feel.
Trust the process.
And remember, your role is equally important within the household. You are equally important as a house-husband as you would be as the main financial provider.
Translation can't wait to sit down and relax and make my wife do all the work
No male domination no female slavery gender equality
Feminism was created by men so we can finally get a break lol
Lmfao 😆
Plot twist 😂
I am so proud of all these stay at home dads!
Makes sense financially for whoever will make more to work and the other spouse to watch the kids. Social and cultural norms be damned but sucks people get stigmatized based on genders etc
Yup. I make 18$ an hour and my bf only work part time and he makes 13$ an hour only so I work full time not him.
Thanks for making this video. I learned a lot and enjoyed watching this.
These people are being practical and are skillfully adapting to their economic situation. Bravo 👏🏼 👏🏼 👏🏼
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