The Psychology Of Nice Guy Syndrome - How To Stop People Pleasing
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 7 ต.ค. 2024
- In this episode I deconstruct the psychology of 'Nice Guy Syndrome' and explore a comprehensive strategy to stop people pleasing once and for all. As a recovering 'Nice Guy' I've come to understand these patterns and coping mechanisms in a very intimate way. I also tie this topic into the bigger picture of personal growth and development so you can understand how this fits with the broader scope of this work.
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Nice Guy Syndrome is a psychological pattern where men prioritize being agreeable and likable to gain approval and avoid conflict, often at the expense of their own needs and authenticity. Rooted in fear of rejection and a deep-seated need for validation, this syndrome often stems from childhood experiences and societal conditioning that equate being "nice" with being worthy of love and acceptance. Men suffering from Nice Guy Syndrome may exhibit behaviors such as excessive people-pleasing, conflict avoidance, and a tendency to suppress their own desires and emotions. They might struggle with setting boundaries, leading to feelings of resentment and frustration. To stop people-pleasing and overcome Nice Guy Syndrome, it's essential to develop a stronger sense of self-worth and emotional intelligence. If you want to learn how to heal nice guy syndrome, how to overcome people pleasing, how to stop getting friend zoned, why women don't like nice guys, understanding nice guy behaviour, curing nice guy patterns and how to show up more authentically - this episode is for you!
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True Self love comes from positive reinforcement in the critical ages.
You need other people to meet your emotional needs of love and friendship.
Good video Jasper. Love you man.
Fantastic video and im only quarter way through. Can identify so well, im a chronic people pleaser, trying to change have started being mindful of this trait.
Thanks for the feedback, glad your finding it valuable! It's a ongoing journey to break free, but awareness is the first step - Then gradually layering skills and stages of development on top of that. Any questions, just let me know 👊
@@jaspermbrown What is the evolutionary psychology background of 'nice guy syndrome'?
@@sentiment201 We could see it as a survival strategy adopted in childhood and reinforced over years or decades. It represents a certain stage of development, but it becomes outdated and limits further growth.
In order to continue developing ourselves we need to learn how to turn towards conflict, assert our boundaries and become more authentic.
This leads towards a sense of self that is more autonomous, more independent and fully formed. Who is able to interact with others in a less transactional way.
Does that make sense? Let me know what you think 🙏
I'm not going to pretend to be mean spirited for the sake of other people's approval. That's just as bad as pretending to be nice.
That's right. The aim is to be authentic, kind and caring - but not at the expense of your own needs, boundaries and feelings.
It's not about being mean. There is also nothing wrong with being nice. But for many men they have learnt a form of being nice that is unhealthy. They allow themselves to be walked over and what happens is that on the outside they appear nice and happy. On the inside they are miserable because they spend their whole life making sure everyone else is happy at their own expense. It's often easiest to recognize that pattern in others than admit we do it ourselves.
@@jacobmicallef2946 Some people choose diplomacy and compromise by nature. Going against that is pretending to be mean.
The real problem with Nice Guys is their looks. Women will date horribly abusive men who are good looking.
I date an ugly abusive man 😂
I don't find abuse attractive I'd much rather be with someone less attractive
Not all 'Nice guys' are good looking. It's about the patterns and coping mechanisms that underpin behavior. There are for example plenty of abusive men who are not attractive by conventional standards right?
Please…………stop pausing…………so ………..long between……………words
Feel free to play on x1.25 speed ;)
I'm a minute in and can't stand the pauses even on 1.5 speed.
@@jaspermbrown don't listen to haters man hahaha. I actually love the pauses, they give me time to reflect on what you're saying and it's giving me space to focus on the emotions and thoughts it arises
@@entertainer9076Hah, thanks! I can’t change it anyway. I’m speaking for an hour and a half so I need to think on the fly and have some intelligent things to say lol - but I’m glad you dig it 🙏
I like the pauses. Intelligent people pause when they speak rather than just blurting out a load of useless information.