So how do I do these things with someone who is also manipulating meaning she can go anywhere with anyone (but me) and does what she’s supposed to or act respectful but when it’s around me she actually hates me so she chooses to do everything but what I have set for rules mind you this is a sister who became my child
Yes, I feel like all we do is discipline . . . Consequences, consequences, consequences. It is miserable and kids and parents are not liking each other very much
I totally get that. If there isn't enough praise mixed in with the consequences, it can seem exhausting for both parties. Here is a video that could help you with praising: th-cam.com/video/ePkx4zWdsNw/w-d-xo.html I hope this helps!
I'm so grateful my husband found this video. I wish we had found this program earlier. I'm excited to check out the start program and register for the full one. We need help with our teen.
As a team leader youth worker, who looks after 10 troubled teens. This is a great start. It’s so true. Build a rapport with them, engage with them, get to know them. Always have a calm tone but stern when need to be, because cause this tactic doesn’t work over night like she said
My daughter is a deceptive liar and her mom does not enforce a high standard. She does not give her extra choirs. She is soft on correction. As a result, the father gets to discipline. And we aren’t talking small infractions, we are talking big life changing lies and actions she is taking. And associating with unwise people. I have two excellent behaved boys and one completely undisciplined daughter. (In some ways, like her mother). Help!!!
Thinking through how these principles apply to our 3 young ones under 6 years old. I took your free course this week and hope to take your full course in the near future. 🙏
That's amazing! You totally should. If you'd like more information, here's the link to the TSG Parenting Course: teachingselfgovernment.com/tsg-parenting-course/ It sounds like you're headed in a great direction! Keep it up!
This is very broad. It is not usually a given especially with teenagers with PDA to connect. Add autism into the mix and it’s even more complicated. This is a decent start with a regular rebellious teenager however won’t work on more difficult cases that are anxiety based.
Thank you for your thoughts. I do have to disagree with you, as I've seen this work with many teens who are anxious and some who have autism as well. The predictability is something autistic children latch on to and love!
That is a great question! The full response to your question is too long to type up here, but I'd love to learn more about your situation and have the opportunity to answer your question on my weekly Support Group calls that happen Wednesday mornings at 8am MST. That way, other people that have similar questions and concerns to yours can hear the answer too! If you’re interested in talking with me more about it, check out the link for more information: teachingselfgovernment.com/store/support-group/ I hope this helps!
I don't know enough about your situation (family culture, social culture, etc.) to give you specific advice, but I can tell you one thing: the only person you can control is yourself, which means you can choose calmness and maturity. You can choose to show love for someone, even if they are choosing not to show it to you. You can decide that you aren't going to continue with the same behaviors that you're surrounded with if they don't match what you feel is best for you and your family. You can choose to improve yourself by deliberately learning skills and principles that will help you become a better, more well-rounded person. There are lots of options, even if it seems like there aren't. This option that I offer for free has been a huge blessing for many people, whether they have children or not: teachingselfgovernment.com/calm-parenting-toolkit/ I hope that helps some!
That is a great question! Short answer: don't respond to it in the moment, but address it later when it's not an issue at the time. The full response to your question is too long to type up here, but I'd love to learn more about your situation and have the opportunity to answer your question on my weekly Support Group calls that happen Wednesday mornings at 8am MST. That way, other people that have similar questions and concerns to yours can hear the answer too! If you’re interested in talking with me more about it, check out the link for more information: teachingselfgovernment.com/store/support-group/ I hope this helps!
Im an adult who doesnt care about consequences either and still other people try to punish and discipline me 😅 im 45...like that didnt work with my parents...why would that work with me 😂 On the other hand i drove a school bus for 2 years with 50 teens and preteens. Never had any issues with them because i cared to listen to their issues and i was fair with them and adressed issues on a personal level rather than just writing them up and complaining to their parents.
Wow I'm studying you so hard before my kids turn into teens this is FANTASTIC 🙏💖❣️
So how do I do these things with someone who is also manipulating meaning she can go anywhere with anyone (but me) and does what she’s supposed to or act respectful but when it’s around me she actually hates me so she chooses to do everything but what I have set for rules mind you this is a sister who became my child
Yes, I feel like all we do is discipline . . . Consequences, consequences, consequences. It is miserable and kids and parents are not liking each other very much
I totally get that. If there isn't enough praise mixed in with the consequences, it can seem exhausting for both parties.
Here is a video that could help you with praising:
th-cam.com/video/ePkx4zWdsNw/w-d-xo.html
I hope this helps!
I'm so grateful my husband found this video. I wish we had found this program earlier. I'm excited to check out the start program and register for the full one. We need help with our teen.
It's never too late to start! I'm excited to see you in the Teaching Self-Government community!
As a team leader youth worker, who looks after 10 troubled teens. This is a great start. It’s so true. Build a rapport with them, engage with them, get to know them. Always have a calm tone but stern when need to be, because cause this tactic doesn’t work over night like she said
You've got this! What a great outlet to use these skills and principles in!
Omg 😱 and showing calmness I have been failing on my tone of voice 😩
Great self-analysis! That's the first step to a change of heart!
Hey Nicholeen, great content. Great advice. But more importantly, you truly deserve a compliment for your transformation. Great job
Thank you so much! It was a long process and is still a big part of my personal self-government each day.
Yessssssssss tone of trust!!! This is very good I'm even trying this on my 5 and 10 yr old !❣️
My daughter is a deceptive liar and her mom does not enforce a high standard. She does not give her extra choirs. She is soft on correction. As a result, the father gets to discipline. And we aren’t talking small infractions, we are talking big life changing lies and actions she is taking. And associating with unwise people. I have two excellent behaved boys and one completely undisciplined daughter. (In some ways, like her mother). Help!!!
Thank you! You are amazing 😊 I’m grateful that I came across your channel
Sorry for the late response! You're most welcome! I'm glad you're here!
Why am I still not seeing any results
So valuable!!!! Thank you SO MUCH for this video!
Sorry for the late response. You're most welcome! I'm glad it was helpful for you!
Thinking through how these principles apply to our 3 young ones under 6 years old. I took your free course this week and hope to take your full course in the near future. 🙏
That's amazing! You totally should. If you'd like more information, here's the link to the TSG Parenting Course:
teachingselfgovernment.com/tsg-parenting-course/
It sounds like you're headed in a great direction! Keep it up!
This title sure caught my eye!!! Whooohoooo!
I do my best! :)
Looking amazing Nicholleen😘thank you for sharing
Sorry for the late response! Thank you! And you're very welcome.
Thank you for everything.❤
This is very broad. It is not usually a given especially with teenagers with PDA to connect. Add autism into the mix and it’s even more complicated. This is a decent start with a regular rebellious teenager however won’t work on more difficult cases that are anxiety based.
Thank you for your thoughts. I do have to disagree with you, as I've seen this work with many teens who are anxious and some who have autism as well. The predictability is something autistic children latch on to and love!
Hi! I would like to sign up for the TSG Parenting Course. Where can I purchase the class?
Great question! Here's the link:
teachingselfgovernment.com/tsg-parenting-course/
Any suggestions for teaching calmness to high strung/anxious reactive preteens and parents with panic disorders/ADHD?
That is a great question! The full response to your question is too long to type up here, but I'd love to learn more about your situation and have the opportunity to answer your question on my weekly Support Group calls that happen Wednesday mornings at 8am MST. That way, other people that have similar questions and concerns to yours can hear the answer too!
If you’re interested in talking with me more about it, check out the link for more information:
teachingselfgovernment.com/store/support-group/
I hope this helps!
Hi do you have a video about illicit drugs? What to do
Not that I'm aware of, but I've added it to my list of video topics! Thanks for the suggestion!
How do you build a relationship with a 15 yr old boy, hes been through alot, has alot of trust issues,
0:44 Was this woman now. I used to have patience, but it’s gotten to be so much as he’s gotten older and now scary.
I don't know enough about your situation (family culture, social culture, etc.) to give you specific advice, but I can tell you one thing: the only person you can control is yourself, which means you can choose calmness and maturity. You can choose to show love for someone, even if they are choosing not to show it to you. You can decide that you aren't going to continue with the same behaviors that you're surrounded with if they don't match what you feel is best for you and your family. You can choose to improve yourself by deliberately learning skills and principles that will help you become a better, more well-rounded person. There are lots of options, even if it seems like there aren't. This option that I offer for free has been a huge blessing for many people, whether they have children or not:
teachingselfgovernment.com/calm-parenting-toolkit/
I hope that helps some!
After using these new skills will intrinsic motivation begin to emerge??
Exactly the own words of my teen.
God bless you !!!! True light in this world 🌎 ❤️
Thank you so much! God bless YOU!
What if your kid says “this is stupid” when you try to use this new way of speaking?
That is a great question! Short answer: don't respond to it in the moment, but address it later when it's not an issue at the time. The full response to your question is too long to type up here, but I'd love to learn more about your situation and have the opportunity to answer your question on my weekly Support Group calls that happen Wednesday mornings at 8am MST. That way, other people that have similar questions and concerns to yours can hear the answer too!
If you’re interested in talking with me more about it, check out the link for more information:
teachingselfgovernment.com/store/support-group/
I hope this helps!
What if your teen wants their boyfriend to live with you and won’t take him home
Im an adult who doesnt care about consequences either and still other people try to punish and discipline me 😅 im 45...like that didnt work with my parents...why would that work with me 😂
On the other hand i drove a school bus for 2 years with 50 teens and preteens. Never had any issues with them because i cared to listen to their issues and i was fair with them and adressed issues on a personal level rather than just writing them up and complaining to their parents.
Kids that don't care @all may have depression...a military summer camp will help
Thank you for your thoughts.
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