Be VERY careful...my ex, who never laid a hand on me for 18 years put me in the ER with a head injury, 2 spinal fractures, and a shattered R wrist. Why???? I told him I was done and wanted a divorce. Get your affairs in order, get an attorney and make sure you have a safe place to go to, leave quickly and quietly.
That's when things were scariest with mine, too, after 20 years of emotional but not physical abuse, he actually took a swipe at me. Luckily, there was something blocking his fully being able to reach. Holy crap, I suddenly felt lucky to be out alive.
You were very lucky. Dang, 20 years! I'm sorry and I hope you are on your way to healing, I lived alone for 7 years after my break from my narci ex and due to disability had to get a roommate, who I now find is also a covert narcissist. Well, I'm starting all over trying to get a plan and make the least amount of waves that I can, until I am safe again! Stay single folks, it's the only smart way. I hate life at times! Some people that you can't tell, just SUCK the will to live right out of you. Once you're better, they sense it and then like a vampire, they'll return and try to do it again. Twice bitten, forever shy. Watch! Get better, stay smart.@@cc1k435
When my mom realized that I was preparing to move out and she couldn't use me as her verbal punching bag and piggy bank she started leaving a butcher knife out on the countertop. Her allegations became even more outrageous than I could fathom. Her rages became unpredictable, you never knew what would set her off. She tried multiple times to get me to react, even threatening to “bop me upside my head” as I was walking and holding my toddler to escape her rage. . I wake up thankful every day that my kids and I made it out alive. Lee, I just have to thank you. For the longest, I did not know what I was dealing with. You help make sense of the insanity I was raised in.
Do not allow anyone to control you. I have been dealing with such a person but I've had enough. We were not born into this world to allow other flesh and bones to put us down.
Just like a narci, they know "everything" already, even that you're onto them, of course it's just a cover for their deep-rooted insecurities.@@RettaHENSH
Yes, you're right. I told nex but there a few more narcs in my life that I haven't told. I learned my lesson the first time around. Lee Hammock is an exception, his wife called him a narcissist and he went to therapy for it, most aren't like that however
Lee, you are one 💯 % correct. My ex Narcissist husband was going to kill me. He snaped one day when he was drunk and told me the whole plan about how he was going to kill me. He said that he didn't need me anymore because I had already made him rich. Without a word I left him. He could not believe that I was so strong to the point of preparing everything for 3 months and just leave. I can not write anything else because it is too painful 💔 for me 😢. Thanks so much for the video. God bless you.
Isabel, stay strong, it takes time to be able to trust again so give yourself time, be easy on yourself, love yourself. Remember there are signs you can learn so you don't get hooked back up into one of these relationships ever again. You are smart Isabel for venting here, it really does help.
That's true, I told my ex to take responsibility for his actions and then he hit me, choked me and when I started to defend myself his roommate came and saw me beating him, then they called the police. I didn't know he is a narcissist, that was the most horrible experience I've ever had. Stay away from these people, are very dangerous, I´ve been in no contact three months ago, this videos make me realize that life alone is better than being in a toxic relationship like that.
I had to plan my departure like an FBI sting. I had a U-Haul rented from a different state. I had storage boxes rented in my sons name. I had let the police know what was happening. And when he left for work, one random Wednesday, I had my house packed up and my kids and I gone in 6 1/2 hours. The whole time praying that none of my neighbors called him to tell him what was going on. Fortunately for me, all of my neighbors knew I was being physically abused. However, everyone else thought I was a crazy drama queen and he was perfect. He did find me and he did break my jaw. He was arrested and sent it domestic abuse classes. God knows what he told them, but I received a phone call saying that they felt my life was in danger, and they would help me move yet again. To say that my heart breaks for everyone in the situation is an understatement. It always makes me laugh when people throw around the world narcissist haphazardly. My ex was diagnosed by 2 Separate Court ordered psychiatrist. A real narcissist is one of the scariest individuals in the world to cross.
My ex narcissist used to abuse me when we were intimate. He used to verbally and physically abuse me and be really rough with me. When I told him I was leaving him..he tried to fight me in the car... I thank God I'm free and healing 🙏
@@MentalHealness Can you do a video on narcissist and alcohol? Mine would love bomb and say he deserved to drink then be a monster after drinking. Lots of head games. Then towards the end of "relationship" he started putting hands. His cruelness knew no bounds. It was like dating Jekyll and Hyde. I uncovered so many lies. I was younger and completely naive. It was a constant state of confusion. I thought it was the alcohol until I figured out it was a cycle and all about manipulation.
They can also be like sharks, becoming more dangerous if they smell blood in the water - if you have something they see as an exploitable weakness - like you lose your job or a family member or you are sick etc. Others would see this as a time to support you, but they will see it as a time to attack.
I was in two long term narcissist Relationships.. it can happen anytime during the relationship,you are right at the end. I'm a two time survivor ! I am strong, I am worthy, I am independent 💪
I'm so proud of you! You certainly ARE strong and worthy. You deserve the world. Find your peace! I'm fresh out of my situation (I've tried to walk away before, but always got hoovered back in), and I am scared of what the person will do. But I'm focusing on the healing and trying to protect myself, so that whatever he decides to do, I can prepare for it!
All facts. Very vindictive evil individuals always seeking revenge when they feel they’ve been wronged. They have no remorse or accountability whatsoever.
Nothing " helps" with these monsters,no open conversation 🤪,no crying,no talking about your feelings😢,asking them simple questions😮, everything is a battle accompanied by this bad feeling in the pit of your stomach practically at all times,relaxing next to a covert ( covered lol)is next to impossible because things can change so quickly and u almost already anticipate it while everything is alright for 5!!! Minutes 🤣🤣🤣,hey,and never show emotion or cry next to your narcissistic boyfriend😮,they DO NOT CARE😢thanks for the video❤
You are so completely correct with everything you have said!!! Nothing… Nothing is ever going to make them feel anything that even resembles compassion. If you get hurt it’s because you’re an idiot. Don’t even tell them if something bothers you because they will jump on that bandwagon bother you all the more… because they know better than you. No matter what you’ve ever done they’re going to trump it cut you off at the waist and for the next hour tell you how wonderful they are. There is no winning with them… No winning ever❣️
Gone gone gone… Moved out three weeks ago and have never felt better in my life!!!!! I stayed long enough and was miserable long enough that by the time I was able to get the hell out all feelings for him were gone!!!!!
When I confronted him on finding out he was on a dating site he then attempted to strangle me. But let up. I was scared to death. Please don't underestimate these people. 😢
@@mssarah38I will get a restraining order soon. But the policie told me we have to arrange a meeting with him and his wife as well to stop being threating by them. I have the proofs of threats against me. Do you think does the narcissist attend the meeting? The meeting will we held at the police station.
The best advice I can honestly give to you is seek an attorney. The Narc will always deny everything you say and even have proof of!! Also whoever is going with him will also deny and defend him!! It’s a game with a Narcissist person and all his/her flying monkeys and Trolls are on board with the Narcissist!! Be prepared and do not give your important information, photos whatever it may be against him to anyone or the police station. It will come up missing!! A good lawyer that will fight for you and will help you through everything and has experience in Dealings with a Narcissist is the best!! I know because being married to the narcissist of close to 30yrs and together 33yrs. I hired a lawyer ( which took me years to find the right lawyer and save, borrow money for the retailer fee) I won my case and it’s tough but I got my restraining order against him as well as we should be divorced in 6-months. He used and turned my adult kids against me and wanted them to testify against me as they never actually saw him abusing me, but I have the photos and much more proof, evidence of his girlfriends and financial abuse, everything that I claimed against him. I had a backup plan and had my evidence backed up on a CD drive from a good friend just in case!! Glad I did as Narc/Ex thought he destroyed everything by breaking into my locked bedroom door. You have to do all this secretly and smartly without telling anyone!! Very few that will not ever turn against you and side with the Narcissist or flying monkeys!! Be safe also as they will always be watching, waiting or secretly trying to talk/ get back in your life to only destroy you!! You got this but you are not dealing with a normal person and always remind yourself of that!! Get a good lawyer and start a new life for yourself. Good luck and you are not alone
I know mine was he choked me until I had to tap out. 😢 I wasn't ever the same with him since and I had to move in silence and leave him when he was at work. Proud of restraining order on, he blew up my phone constantly crying. Send in pictures of us songs. He did everything he can to could. To make me come back home? And I would not until he got served. And then after he got served, he text me and said. I don't want to be enemies. We could at least be friends, and he says we weren't that bad. Our marriage was not that bad. When in fact, it truly was with emotional abuse, financial abuse, verbal abuse, and physical abuse. Yes, it was that bad. To where I had to choose me. So, ladies, if you're in the situation , have to make it exit plan. Because it's not gonna change origin to me. If you're in this toxic situation, it's not gonna change. You have to choose yourbelieve me. I'm a living witness in my life's been better ever since it's hard. Good days and bad days But I think about all the things that hes put me through. And that does not make me miss him at all. Stay strong 💪🏽
Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me,i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i don't know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her
Make a plan!!!! Make sure you have somewhere SAFE to go. You don’t need to be “right” in the situation, you need to be safe. You’ll be soooo much happier years down the road.
Thank you Lee! In addition to these excellent and very true examples; the most dangerous time is everyday with a narcissit!. It is dangerous for you to allow yourself to believe they will change. Dangerous to allow them to talk to you into staying for the toxic cycle of love bombing, raging, berating, and discarding. Plan and RUN
When you have things to do and places to go. They rage in anger. Break the locks. Steal your keys. Block the driveway so when you get dropped off can’t even pull in driveway. On & on.
I got so scared when I left the house, he was trying to find me everywhere and stocking me. I was camping and changing place all te time. I had to go to the Police 🙄 He was never physically abusive and now I have pepper spray all the time with me. Court date October 10th. If you are scared, go camp in your car were the van lifers are going. There are Apps for that. Stay strong 💪 and do it ! I am more proud of myself than I ever felt aroud him, just a weak little girl that need to complies. NOT ANYMORE ❤
💯 agree, most dangerous time is when you try to leave or AFTER you try to leave but they talk you into staying. When he talked me into staying, that’s when the physical ab*se started and escalated FAST. The lust he had for revenge on me was crazy… he also kept telling me directly he was obsessed with me… Really scary stuff…
You're right Lee. I escaped a very dangerous Narci and I do not recommend exposing them! I had to make a secret plan to get away from him, it can take a while to do that. You have to be ever so careful to keep up with your pleasing, respectful duties while you're plotting and planning. He cannot know and you must get A LONG ways away from him and leave no trails. I went as far away as Alaska from Denver to get away from a VERY dangerous man.
So many think if someone is selfish or difficult or they're just mean....they're narcissist. UNTRUE A true narcissist is terrifying and extremely dangerous. I read comments where literally everyone is narcissist "my parents, all my siblings, my boss and my bf are all narcissist " It's most likely not true......
Talking to a narcissist when in a narcissistic rage episode is very dangerous. I did that stupid thing without knowing what is going on... So much evil unleashed in seconds. It's so scary to see the true face - nasty psychotic behavior, opinion, anger, aggression, ugliness. If it's on the phone, it's more bearable, but never do that live. It could damage a person in every possible way. Let them go softly without officially announcing your relationship is over. Grey rock and keep a long position of emotional detachment. They are coming for you very soon. Hoovering back with their lies, manipulation and false sweet behavior. Seen that too many times. Tired of their attempts.
Lost my hansom 24 yr old son. Suicide. Nasty girl. Sorry I didnt - tell him discourage from that start. He wished her a good life I have on video. After a break up 3 days afterwards. He tossed her - she had to come and taunt him with a guys car 🚙
I have learned to have pity on narcs. There's no way for them to walk through life in normalcy, and their chaos is normal to them, and it has to be super hard for them to walk through life in a miserable cycle....so if YOU can't function in their delusional reality, then life becomes hard for you... Mr. Lee this information is valuable... We can either live in a toxic nightmare, or live in a healthy healing peaceful reality!
Mine got to the point where I tried to scream in mental torture at him and tried taking my own life because I felt so unworthy. He did nothing and I finally left
Yes I had to move away. He shot me. I almost died and the system is letting the maniac out in January and I keep hoping he doesn’t make it home from prison. So I can just feel safer
I developed an online friendship with a songwriter I respected and thought it was great, only to find out after a year and a half of apparently faked interactions he would reveal himself as a covert narcissist. I blew off a few red flags because I liked him so much and wanted to write more with him. When I refused to be alone with him he had a tantrum that bordered on a psychotic break. He confessed to spying on me and trying to entrap me with an internet bot! He tried to convince me to leave my husband. He tried to get in the good graces of my grandmother. Then he scolded me for talking to them. I feel sorry for him because I know he was terribly abused and neglected as a child but I can’t help him. I would have never believed he was like this until I experienced it for myself. He presents as such a nice guy and he held up the facade for a really long time.
I trusted my God-feeling and caught him cheating,so I am listening to my God-feeling and moving on,he anyway is old like his new supply told me.I will wait for my kingdom husband,it will be worth it.
@cocomaire ALL narcissists are performers. Just not all of them make their living that way. Show business fields probably are the biggest employers of narcissists, Wall Street and the business world has lots of others with outsized egos, and religious organizations are a likely third. Wherever they're found, I can pretty much guarantee a bad childhood full of neglect and/or abuse, but not everyone whose life started that way turns into a monster. We all are human, and we all have things to learn in this life, but being successful creatively or financially doesn't excuse their bad behavior. It certainly finds them enablers, though.
I have been hunted by my narcissistic ex for over 2 years. He will not stop hunting me. Protection Orders do not deter him. He took our house, our money, my vehicle, and still tells everyone that he will find me and cut my face up so no one will ever want me and then kill me. I did not have a plan when I left. I fled and would tell anyone planning to leave to have a plan for survival, money and safe housing.
I made the mistake of leaving without a plan. Make sure you have a plan. Hire an attorney, set money aside and also be sure to change all of your accounts and passwords. I will pray for you, please pray for me. @@1WomenScorned
I've been married to a narcissist for 24 years , leaving is impossible. I think of leaving , but I get told that I'm playing the victim, and then when I have left I've has to come back....he says that I'd end up under a bridge if I left, and he wouldn't be able to live with that.. I can't even go on with the explanation, it doesn't work, try to do it without them knowing , cause I don't know what to do anymore, I don't have a support system anymore , take it from me : get out before you run out of time😢
I remember my ex narc boyfriend telling me that when he heard me talking on the phone that i was gonna leave him,he would make my life even more hell - like😮😮😢😢 than he had done before,and that was true,he almost killed me ,he threw a really ibject on me one noght while i was sleeping and brike my ribs,after that he dragged me out of bed to choke me until i passed out, when i came to ,h,i fought for my life with all my might,and here i am today....guys make sure not to talk about your plans of wanting to leave...i live to tell, literally😮😢❤
Yep. My divorce is nearly finalized and my husband is going ballistic on me. Receiving the worst messages from him, including him calling me abusive and saying I've lost my mind. He's very angry.
Very true, my ex husband tried to kill me by throwing me down the stairs. He put a butcher knife to my throat, he cut my brake lines. He ACTUALLY hired a "hit man" to take me out! Be safe and escape in silence!
True that! The only reason I'm not dead is because he wouldn't have been able to explain my strangulation to the cops. When I blacked out he let go. He totally had me. Dangerous.
My soon to be ex husband always choked me for some reason I asked him one day why was that his go to move and he said “because beating you would be no fun because your not going to fight back and I want somebody that’s going to fight back” 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ that man would take my wind out of me with just 3 fingers pregnant and all and he only let me go bc my oldest daughter would wake up and start screaming for him to stop and he’ll snap out of it and let me go but it put fear in my heart so I treaded lightly with him and stayed as long as I did because he would threaten my life when I mentioned leaving
They do not scare me. They don't. MINE I gotta figure out if I have 7 real Narcissists around me. I just will not let someone do that to someone else. There's just no way. Thank you for all your videos. This is real man. These people need to be held accountable period. I will go through as much as needed to make sure that happens. I will be the one who looks crazy. I will get bullied. They won't show thier faces though. I thought bullies were tough guys and girls. To me that's not tough. Just because I'm not liked I don't care. I can't stress that enough. I will do what I have to do. Some of tbe Narcissists will even be witnesses to what I endured as I thought they were friends and so they knew what I was going through and admitted it to me. It will all be sorted out. I will prove to people that that shit is real. Bullying is real. Man lift people up instead of bringing them down. That's it.
He sometines said “I would never beat you you know that, right? “ And then friends told me why the hell would someone even mention that in the first place?! Was with him 4,5 yrs never beat me thank god but I kept thinking how weird is it that he would mention such a thing. Is this is an example of narcs usually tell on themselves Lee? He later told me in a drunk evening that he had kicked he ex. Cause he was frustrated. Showed some remorse “i should have neve done that of course” he said. She called the cops on him and left him. I always wondered dud i espcape someone violent? I would avoid arguing with him cause he could get real irritated and sadistic sometimes so I picked my battles. Was discarded few months ago
Do everything like normal if u have to go out to the store u can start looking for somewhere else to stay then still do the shopping & go back there acting like nothing's wrong don't say nothing about leaving,or continue to look for somewhere while the Narc isn't around & just leave.
Some of the most dangerous times are each micro-instance in which they taught me to whittle away at my self-respect and hyperextend myself beyond my boundaries to try and meet them where they were at. Every experience when I learned to accommodate them by stretching and contorting my sense of reality to fit neatly within their narratives. Barring physical violence or legal damages, the most dangerous times were the seemingly-innocuous-at-face-value things that kept me trapped in their world without realizing I was in danger, foggy on my own sense of reality and willing to proceed on their terms.
This is absolutely true. I had noticed my ex narcissist was keeping his phone on do not disturb something he never did before after a year into the relationship, when I asked him why, he went off the deep end and deflected and started accusing me of stuff I didn't do that now I know he was doing the whole time. He was so furious for me asking he back hand me in my face while he was driving us back from out of town after bringing in the New Year out of town and he fussed me out the entire ride home (3 hours)
My ex did the same. Took me out of town for the first time and punched me in my throat because I told him my sons weren’t going into the service. A discussion that shouldn’t have had on a romantic getaway. When he hit me I saw darkness in his soul. No remorse. He played the role when the hotel staff came to my rescue and was so apologetic only to save his good boy image. After that he went back to being the monster he truly was.
Thank you for speaking the truth about how dangerous they can be. Mine attempted murder on me. I got a restraining order and left his ass. Been free for 11 months and heard from 5 people last week that he's looking for me again. He's not gonna ever leave me alone until he overdoses on coke and dies. I used to care about his welfare but not anymore.
Hmmm as I recall....confronting, exposing them and trying to leave is dangerous indeed. G-d did warn me of a time and it was after multiple multiple narc injuries he sustained (before I knew he was a narc) because I would not join his toxic delusions...
All I know I’m scared of what I know n can’t escape! I know more than I’d like n am in hiding as i know that I’d never ever be believed in what I know n what I live with in fear! Silence is how I live
Stay as close to God and the bible as possible. 🩷 I hope you're doing okay and I wish you peace and good rest. I know you're stressed 🥺 Joshua 1:7-9 NIV - 7 “Be strong and very courageous. Be careful to obey all the law my servant Moses gave you; do not turn from it to the right or to the left, that you may be successful wherever you go. 8 Keep this Book of the Law always on your lips; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful. 9 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.”
Most dangerous times for a narcissist, was when the reactive abuser becomes convinced that yes let's make their fake accusations a reality, and agree that it's a good idea to beat them until there a unrecognizable pulp of mush and then some. But thanks be to God! I've been down that road before, & their not worth it to throw away ones own life over & just leave for good. Then take as much time is needed to grow the f up. Become emotionally mature.
you start to see them for who they really are you wonder if they even like you as a human being or flat out ask them, also you ask what makes them happy because you after years of being with them have no idea no matter what you do they don't acknowledge it after 10 years your truly concerned for you and your kids safety
My ex cheated on me, and seemed like he didn't want to be with anymore, so I think it was a reverse discard. He was still furious with me when I left though.
My daughter has told him on numerous occasions that I want nothing to do with him but I told her not to waste her time saying anything he knows I'm not coming back
Lee - when I watch your TH-cam and newer TT I am so so incredibly Proud of you. I’ve watched you since you started on TT. Your Growth and continuing honesty is Life-changing. I know you’ve changed my life by speaking the Truth and opening my eyes. Gave me the Courage to leave and stay gone. Thank you isn’t enough but THANK YOU
My husband is set to receive an inheritance from his recently deceased mother. Not a huge amount but enough to help us get ahead. I know he doesn't want me to benefit at all. It's scary bc he's getting worse & worse in his treatment of me.
Thanks Lee, they love to turn their shame on their target, The only thing you need to be ashamed of is the way they treat you, them. I had nothing to be ashamed of, Yes expose them, I am planning my strategy now, He’s been flipping the scripts at work calling me the abuser, Since the beginning telling people I am the abuser, as he lived for free being treated extremely well. I didn’t even realize I was living in abuse, the push away pull. The good person doesn’t exist, if you are pulled with compassion pity for them The real person is the one who hurts you. Dangerous time when they start picking at you in the car, cruelty And if you say no, or can’t , Don’t believe anything that comes out of their mouth, remember they are very sneaky, and cheat also It’s not because you did anything when they throw fits are cruel, leave. Or flirting on the phone, they will be cruel when they are emotionally cheating. Or maybe stealing from you, your storage, You get blamed and punished for everything they do It’s to weaken you, confuse you.
Usually the signs were pretty obvious for me with the gun pointing at my face , stabbing me , poisoning my food , messing with me in public , drugging me and doing the same to family just for their sadistic amusement till the tables got turned on them .
It is best to say nothing and leave both swiftly & quietly. Your life and the lives of your kids depend on it. Please seek safety. The rage to come is not something you want to be there to witness. Hear my heart, stay safe, God Bless you all!
My narc ex almost broke my leg when i told him I'm done with him. He got so aggressive he started throwing things around and pushing me aggressively. Worst thing i did, i should have simply ghosted him or broke up through text. Luckily, i dint get too hurt, though i did have to go to the doctor coz he hurt my ankle and it was hurting me. I'm fine now and it's been 9 months since no contact. I'm glad i escaped that monster🙏🙏
This is right about the most dangerous time being when you leave. His threats, alcoholism, and increasing physical intimidation and acts weren’t a scary as realizing that I felt safer when it seemed as if I had some control over what he might do. A sense of safety does return, slowly, maybe not completely. It’s still worth leaving.
Truth! U gotta plan accordingly. Only take what is needed to move on, such as birth certificates, ID's and social security cards. More than likely they have cameras and recording devices to monitor your every move.
Never tell your plans to family or friends about leaving or getting a job or moving somewhere else cause you never know either or might "accidentally" or even intentionally telling the narcissist that you're with, and then some? So now what? 😒🤔
If you withold important things which they need. That can also be very dangerous. And yes it can be a death and life situation. I can only tell be careful if you go against them in any way.
Yes, hold people hostage. You hit the nail on the head. The nex wouldn't leave my house, I tried asking politely, being firm, telling him while I was angry, literally nothing worked. I ended up going in to fawning reaponse because I was scared for mine and my children's lives and he was just getting more and more angry. We broke up the year before and he refused to leave. I was planning for months and couldn't see a light at the end of the tunnel, I eventually saw a way out and took it. He took me to court which I'm still fighting now. He has attempted to use the courts to control me. Just because you leave it doesn't mean that's the end so please be vigilant.
This is what my oldest daughter is terrified of. Her husband constantly threatens to Blackmail her with lies to the authorities. He tells her you'll be guilty until you can prove yourself innocent. He says the kids will be put into foster care immediately and you won't get them back until you've proven yourself innocent. He's abusive in every way possible. He hasn't supported them financially since the 1st child was born, they have as many kids as the number of fingers on one hand. The financial part has fallen on me. I'm a military widow & close to 70yrs old with not much income and terrible credit card debt because I just don't have enough money each month to care for all of them. I have to provide everything or they literally would starve, have no clothes or diapers and no roof over their heads, it's heart breaking 💔. He's a real demonic👹 monster.
@@777Pattie get her to collect evidence. Get cameras put in the house, keep records of financial statements to prove financial abuse, witnesses, journalling etc then she's got it to prove her innocence if he does take her to court. Apart from that, if he takes her to court then he has to prove it, it's innocent until proven guilty. The nex tried to say that our children had been manipulated by my mother but because she hasn't done it, he couldn't prove and that part of the case has to be dropped. My mother is looking in to taking him to court for slander after all this is done because she hasn't done anything towards the children, the children disclosed to her what had been going on at home while I was at work, she said that they need to tell me and I called the police on him.
Once a narc always a narc. Only the ppl closest to them see them unmasked. There are no part time narcs it a serious mental illness. Learn all you can about the limbic system trauma very young changes the working of their brains.
Lee, the one thing I noticed that I thought was humorous about you as a "narci" (my word), was that you proclaimed yourself as our "favorite" at the very start of your video. It was the first time that I had watched you and I was just learning about narcissism from you and others. I feel that I have some of the qualities myself of a narci and am now seeking to get better myself.
I want to tag Daina cause sis just did a shatter campaign on her ex husband narcissistic and i felt that same thing like he’s gonna retaliate because now everyone knows who he really is a gawd awful person !
I agree with you. Recently, I dropped my debit card, walking from my car to my apartment. It was night, so I didn't know I dropped it, until the next day when I couldn't find it. I went and got a new one from my bank, but I noticed that an unauthorized amount was missing from my bank account. Today, my female covert narc neighbor admitted to me that she found, took it out to a restaurant, and dined on my money. But, I didn't confront her, or call the cops. Nope! I want to deal with her the least amount I can. I just complimented her clothes and wished her a good day. Who knows what she could do to me? Thanks for your video. ✌🏼
This video made me scared because I have to see my ex next week after a year of no contact, but thank you for being honest. It was validating to hear from an actual self aware narcissist. Sometimes I still doubt myself or wonder if I’m overreacting.
I believe Lee. You are not over react acting. I want to leave but I am kinda a fraid of what will happen when I do. Leave. Been here for. All most 40+ years. Been watching Lee video for 2yrs+. Lee is telling the truth. I want to so leave so bad 😞.
@@dianerogers8791 plan carefully and leave very discreetly. My advise, put some money away for yourself, arrange a safe place to go and sort out some kind of injunction/restraining order on him and leave while he's out. At your safe place install security cameras and arrange for an emergency button, there is an app you can install on your phone, if he comes near you shake your phone and your safe person can alert the police that you need assistance ❤❤
Thought of another time not as dangerous but dodgy is when you have to sort out an issue for them that causes them shame - IE debt..... Dangerous ground
Share this truth! Please support your loved ones when they need help to escape - YOU have not experienced what they have behind closed doors! They also fell for the public persona just like you have but sadly the bad is VERY bad.
Exposing, confronting, and then immediately leaving them for good is the most dangerous times.
It takes a real man to do what you are doing.🌹
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@@MentalHealness you are trying to save lives and you are.
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Be VERY careful...my ex, who never laid a hand on me for 18 years put me in the ER with a head injury, 2 spinal fractures, and a shattered R wrist. Why???? I told him I was done and wanted a divorce. Get your affairs in order, get an attorney and make sure you have a safe place to go to, leave quickly and quietly.
That's when things were scariest with mine, too, after 20 years of emotional but not physical abuse, he actually took a swipe at me. Luckily, there was something blocking his fully being able to reach. Holy crap, I suddenly felt lucky to be out alive.
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You were very lucky. Dang, 20 years! I'm sorry and I hope you are on your way to healing, I lived alone for 7 years after my break from my narci ex and due to disability had to get a roommate, who I now find is also a covert narcissist. Well, I'm starting all over trying to get a plan and make the least amount of waves that I can, until I am safe again! Stay single folks, it's the only smart way. I hate life at times! Some people that you can't tell, just SUCK the will to live right out of you. Once you're better, they sense it and then like a vampire, they'll return and try to do it again. Twice bitten, forever shy. Watch! Get better, stay smart.@@cc1k435
Have you seen the movie? Sleeping With The Enemy
When my mom realized that I was preparing to move out and she couldn't use me as her verbal punching bag and piggy bank she started leaving a butcher knife out on the countertop. Her allegations became even more outrageous than I could fathom. Her rages became unpredictable, you never knew what would set her off. She tried multiple times to get me to react, even threatening to “bop me upside my head” as I was walking and holding my toddler to escape her rage.
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I wake up thankful every day that my kids and I made it out alive. Lee, I just have to thank you. For the longest, I did not know what I was dealing with. You help make sense of the insanity I was raised in.
Do not allow anyone to control you. I have been dealing with such a person but I've had enough. We were not born into this world to allow other flesh and bones to put us down.
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The number one advice I wish somebody would have told me was to NEVER tell a narc that you KNOW their a narcissist. 💯💯💯
Ha he told me after I mentioned listening to these videos. Of course I already knew it.
Bless you!
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Just like a narci, they know "everything" already, even that you're onto them, of course it's just a cover for their deep-rooted insecurities.@@RettaHENSH
Yes, you're right. I told nex but there a few more narcs in my life that I haven't told. I learned my lesson the first time around.
Lee Hammock is an exception, his wife called him a narcissist and he went to therapy for it, most aren't like that however
Lee, you are one 💯 % correct. My ex Narcissist husband was going to kill me. He snaped one day when he was drunk and told me the whole plan about how he was going to kill me. He said that he didn't need me anymore because I had already made him rich. Without a word I left him. He could not believe that I was so strong to the point of preparing everything for 3 months and just leave. I can not write anything else because it is too painful 💔 for me 😢. Thanks so much for the video. God bless you.
Isabel, stay strong, it takes time to be able to trust again so give yourself time, be easy on yourself, love yourself. Remember there are signs you can learn so you don't get hooked back up into one of these relationships ever again. You are smart Isabel for venting here, it really does help.
@itchingbitch Thanks so much for your words and support. They really help a lot .
Youre very brave,know that!❤
That's true, I told my ex to take responsibility for his actions and then he hit me, choked me and when I started to defend myself his roommate came and saw me beating him, then they called the police. I didn't know he is a narcissist, that was the most horrible experience I've ever had. Stay away from these people, are very dangerous, I´ve been in no contact three months ago, this videos make me realize that life alone is better than being in a toxic relationship like that.
I had to plan my departure like an FBI sting. I had a U-Haul rented from a different state. I had storage boxes rented in my sons name. I had let the police know what was happening. And when he left for work, one random Wednesday, I had my house packed up and my kids and I gone in 6 1/2 hours. The whole time praying that none of my neighbors called him to tell him what was going on. Fortunately for me, all of my neighbors knew I was being physically abused. However, everyone else thought I was a crazy drama queen and he was perfect. He did find me and he did break my jaw. He was arrested and sent it domestic abuse classes. God knows what he told them, but I received a phone call saying that they felt my life was in danger, and they would help me move yet again. To say that my heart breaks for everyone in the situation is an understatement. It always makes me laugh when people throw around the world narcissist haphazardly. My ex was diagnosed by 2 Separate Court ordered psychiatrist. A real narcissist is one of the scariest individuals in the world to cross.
My ex narcissist used to abuse me when we were intimate. He used to verbally and physically abuse me and be really rough with me. When I told him I was leaving him..he tried to fight me in the car... I thank God I'm free and healing 🙏
When you try to escape.
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Can you do a video on narcissist and alcohol?
Mine would love bomb and say he deserved to drink then be a monster after drinking. Lots of head games. Then towards the end of "relationship" he started putting hands. His cruelness knew no bounds. It was like dating Jekyll and Hyde. I uncovered so many lies. I was younger and completely naive. It was a constant state of confusion. I thought it was the alcohol until I figured out it was a cycle and all about manipulation.
O social media and a new number. Don't let your guard down and never forget they don't!
That's right. So plan and make it an airtight plan that includes
I walked away from my narcisist uncle and he went insane following me through the city shouting at me it could have escalated
They can also be like sharks, becoming more dangerous if they smell blood in the water - if you have something they see as an exploitable weakness - like you lose your job or a family member or you are sick etc. Others would see this as a time to support you, but they will see it as a time to attack.
I was in two long term narcissist Relationships.. it can happen anytime during the relationship,you are right at the end. I'm a two time survivor ! I am strong, I am worthy, I am independent 💪
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I'm so proud of you! You certainly ARE strong and worthy. You deserve the world. Find your peace!
I'm fresh out of my situation (I've tried to walk away before, but always got hoovered back in), and I am scared of what the person will do. But I'm focusing on the healing and trying to protect myself, so that whatever he decides to do, I can prepare for it!
All facts. Very vindictive evil individuals always seeking revenge when they feel they’ve been wronged. They have no remorse or accountability whatsoever.
Nothing " helps" with these monsters,no open conversation 🤪,no crying,no talking about your feelings😢,asking them simple questions😮, everything is a battle accompanied by this bad feeling in the pit of your stomach practically at all times,relaxing next to a covert ( covered lol)is next to impossible because things can change so quickly and u almost already anticipate it while everything is alright for 5!!! Minutes 🤣🤣🤣,hey,and never show emotion or cry next to your narcissistic boyfriend😮,they DO NOT CARE😢thanks for the video❤
You are so completely correct with everything you have said!!! Nothing… Nothing is ever going to make them feel anything that even resembles compassion. If you get hurt it’s because you’re an idiot. Don’t even tell them if something bothers you because they will jump on that bandwagon bother you all the more… because they know better than you. No matter what you’ve ever done they’re going to trump it cut you off at the waist and for the next hour tell you how wonderful they are. There is no winning with them… No winning ever❣️
Gone gone gone… Moved out three weeks ago and have never felt better in my life!!!!! I stayed long enough and was miserable long enough that by the time I was able to get the hell out all feelings for him were gone!!!!!
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@@shilohbreigh3591congrats 👏
Swallowing down tears in the dark, hoping he won't notice
When he raged and his eyes turned completely black I knew that I was in imminent danger and I’d stop especially when he’d already started hitting me
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Omg. This is so true. They ARE DANGEROUS DANGEROUS PEOPLE.
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Untreated….
I went to work one day, with only the clothes on my back and never came back. Best decision in my life.
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When I confronted him on finding out he was on a dating site he then attempted to strangle me. But let up. I was scared to death. Please don't underestimate these people. 😢
Just be safe. Don't let him/her know your leaving. Get a order of protection, just do whatever you need to protect your Children and yourself.
Where can you get order of protection? In a lawyer or in a police station?
@@lorenaestay8087 at the court house.
@@mssarah38I will get a restraining order soon. But the policie told me we have to arrange a meeting with him and his wife as well to stop being threating by them. I have the proofs of threats against me. Do you think does the narcissist attend the meeting? The meeting will we held at the police station.
@@lalavanegas9538 I don't think they will show up, but try to proceed to get the restraining order done with your evidence.
The best advice I can honestly give to you is seek an attorney.
The Narc will always deny everything you say and even have proof of!! Also whoever is going with him will also deny and defend him!! It’s a game with a Narcissist person and all his/her flying monkeys and Trolls are on board with the Narcissist!!
Be prepared and do not give your important information, photos whatever it may be against him to anyone or the police station. It will come up missing!! A good lawyer that will fight for you and will help you through everything and has experience in Dealings with a Narcissist is the best!!
I know because being married to the narcissist of close to 30yrs and together 33yrs. I hired a lawyer ( which took me years to find the right lawyer and save, borrow money for the retailer fee) I won my case and it’s tough but I got my restraining order against him as well as we should be divorced in 6-months. He used and turned my adult kids against me and wanted them to testify against me as they never actually saw him abusing me, but I have the photos and much more proof, evidence of his girlfriends and financial abuse, everything that I claimed against him. I had a backup plan and had my evidence backed up on a CD drive from a good friend just in case!! Glad I did as Narc/Ex thought he destroyed everything by breaking into my locked bedroom door. You have to do all this secretly and smartly without telling anyone!! Very few that will not ever turn against you and side with the Narcissist or flying monkeys!!
Be safe also as they will always be watching, waiting or secretly trying to talk/ get back in your life to only destroy you!! You got this but you are not dealing with a normal person and always remind yourself of that!! Get a good lawyer and start a new life for yourself. Good luck and you are not alone
I know mine was he choked me until I had to tap out. 😢 I wasn't ever the same with him since and I had to move in silence and leave him when he was at work. Proud of restraining order on, he blew up my phone constantly crying. Send in pictures of us songs. He did everything he can to could. To make me come back home? And I would not until he got served. And then after he got served, he text me and said. I don't want to be enemies. We could at least be friends, and he says we weren't that bad. Our marriage was not that bad. When in fact, it truly was with emotional abuse, financial abuse, verbal abuse, and physical abuse. Yes, it was that bad. To where I had to choose me. So, ladies, if you're in the situation , have to make it exit plan. Because it's not gonna change origin to me. If you're in this toxic situation, it's not gonna change. You have to choose yourbelieve me. I'm a living witness in my life's been better ever since it's hard. Good days and bad days But I think about all the things that hes put me through. And that does not make me miss him at all. Stay strong 💪🏽
stay strong and be safe1
They always want to stay friends, technically for supply. They still have a degree of control and try to get in your heart
I always have protection and am well trained. I will absolutely defend myself
Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me,i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i don't know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her
wow, how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach her?
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.
Make a plan!!!! Make sure you have somewhere SAFE to go. You don’t need to be “right” in the situation, you need to be safe. You’ll be soooo much happier years down the road.
Alot of us didn't realize the extent of this until the end!
Thank you Lee! In addition to these excellent and very true examples; the most dangerous time is everyday with a narcissit!. It is dangerous for you to allow yourself to believe they will change. Dangerous to allow them to talk to you into staying for the toxic cycle of love bombing, raging, berating, and discarding.
Plan and RUN
When you have things to do and places to go.
They rage in anger. Break the locks. Steal your keys. Block the driveway so when you get dropped off can’t even pull in driveway.
On & on.
then its time to get out
I got so scared when I left the house, he was trying to find me everywhere and stocking me. I was camping and changing place all te time. I had to go to the Police 🙄 He was never physically abusive and now I have pepper spray all the time with me. Court date October 10th. If you are scared, go camp in your car were the van lifers are going. There are Apps for that. Stay strong 💪 and do it ! I am more proud of myself than I ever felt aroud him, just a weak little girl that need to complies. NOT ANYMORE ❤
Thank you, Genevieve, Good tip! Trust yourself, Stay safe woman. 🙏 😘 💞
💯 agree, most dangerous time is when you try to leave or AFTER you try to leave but they talk you into staying. When he talked me into staying, that’s when the physical ab*se started and escalated FAST. The lust he had for revenge on me was crazy… he also kept telling me directly he was obsessed with me… Really scary stuff…
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You're right Lee. I escaped a very dangerous Narci and I do not recommend exposing them! I had to make a secret plan to get away from him, it can take a while to do that. You have to be ever so careful to keep up with your pleasing, respectful duties while you're plotting and planning. He cannot know and you must get A LONG ways away from him and leave no trails. I went as far away as Alaska from Denver to get away from a VERY dangerous man.
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I ran 1000 miles when I left
So many think if someone is selfish or difficult or they're just mean....they're narcissist. UNTRUE
A true narcissist is terrifying and extremely dangerous. I read comments where literally everyone is narcissist "my parents, all my siblings, my boss and my bf are all narcissist "
It's most likely not true......
Never go back to what broke you.
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Easier said than done
Narcissist are incapable of remorse. Trying to confront them is useless. Leave!
Talking to a narcissist when in a narcissistic rage episode is very dangerous. I did that stupid thing without knowing what is going on... So much evil unleashed in seconds. It's so scary to see the true face - nasty psychotic behavior, opinion, anger, aggression, ugliness. If it's on the phone, it's more bearable, but never do that live. It could damage a person in every possible way. Let them go softly without officially announcing your relationship is over. Grey rock and keep a long position of emotional detachment. They are coming for you very soon. Hoovering back with their lies, manipulation and false sweet behavior. Seen that too many times. Tired of their attempts.
Lost my hansom 24 yr old son. Suicide. Nasty girl. Sorry I didnt - tell him discourage from that start. He wished her a good life I have on video. After a break up 3 days afterwards. He tossed her - she had to come and taunt him with a guys car 🚙
When you stand up for yourself or confront them ! 😮
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When you publicly disagree with them..or when you laugh at them
I have learned to have pity on narcs. There's no way for them to walk through life in normalcy, and their chaos is normal to them, and it has to be super hard for them to walk through life in a miserable cycle....so if YOU can't function in their delusional reality, then life becomes hard for you... Mr. Lee this information is valuable... We can either live in a toxic nightmare, or live in a healthy healing peaceful reality!
Mine got to the point where I tried to scream in mental torture at him and tried taking my own life because I felt so unworthy. He did nothing and I finally left
Yes I had to move away. He shot me. I almost died and the system is letting the maniac out in January and I keep hoping he doesn’t make it home from prison. So I can just feel safer
I developed an online friendship with a songwriter I respected and thought it was great, only to find out after a year and a half of apparently faked interactions he would reveal himself as a covert narcissist. I blew off a few red flags because I liked him so much and wanted to write more with him. When I refused to be alone with him he had a tantrum that bordered on a psychotic break. He confessed to spying on me and trying to entrap me with an internet bot! He tried to convince me to leave my husband. He tried to get in the good graces of my grandmother. Then he scolded me for talking to them. I feel sorry for him because I know he was terribly abused and neglected as a child but I can’t help him. I would have never believed he was like this until I experienced it for myself. He presents as such a nice guy and he held up the facade for a really long time.
He is a grandiose narcissist
@@jtouros but he is shy in front of people and deeply insecure. He’s a performer, so he can be very dichotomous.
I trusted my God-feeling and caught him cheating,so I am listening to my God-feeling and moving on,he anyway is old like his new supply told me.I will wait for my kingdom husband,it will be worth it.
@cocomaire ALL narcissists are performers. Just not all of them make their living that way. Show business fields probably are the biggest employers of narcissists, Wall Street and the business world has lots of others with outsized egos, and religious organizations are a likely third. Wherever they're found, I can pretty much guarantee a bad childhood full of neglect and/or abuse, but not everyone whose life started that way turns into a monster. We all are human, and we all have things to learn in this life, but being successful creatively or financially doesn't excuse their bad behavior. It certainly finds them enablers, though.
you had me at "online" ...these ppl are sick and mental
I have been hunted by my narcissistic ex for over 2 years. He will not stop hunting me. Protection Orders do not deter him. He took our house, our money, my vehicle, and still tells everyone that he will find me and cut my face up so no one will ever want me and then kill me. I did not have a plan when I left. I fled and would tell anyone planning to leave to have a plan for survival, money and safe housing.
I pray you find safely and obscurity soon. And a financial source🙏🏾
omg, 2 years and he is still trying??? your story is making me have less hope.
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Thank you so much! @@litawi7869
I made the mistake of leaving without a plan. Make sure you have a plan. Hire an attorney, set money aside and also be sure to change all of your accounts and passwords. I will pray for you, please pray for me. @@1WomenScorned
I've been married to a narcissist for 24 years , leaving is impossible.
I think of leaving , but I get told that I'm playing the victim, and then when I have left I've has to come back....he says that I'd end up under a bridge if I left, and he wouldn't be able to live with that..
I can't even go on with the explanation, it doesn't work, try to do it without them knowing , cause I don't know what to do anymore, I don't have a support system anymore , take it from me : get out before you run out of time😢
I remember my ex narc boyfriend telling me that when he heard me talking on the phone that i was gonna leave him,he would make my life even more hell - like😮😮😢😢 than he had done before,and that was true,he almost killed me ,he threw a really ibject on me one noght while i was sleeping and brike my ribs,after that he dragged me out of bed to choke me until i passed out, when i came to ,h,i fought for my life with all my might,and here i am today....guys make sure not to talk about your plans of wanting to leave...i live to tell, literally😮😢❤
Yeah it’s dangerous! exposing their lies. Now he is re-married it’s a matter of time she will leave his behind.
Yep. My divorce is nearly finalized and my husband is going ballistic on me. Receiving the worst messages from him, including him calling me abusive and saying I've lost my mind. He's very angry.
Very true, my ex husband tried to kill me by throwing me down the stairs. He put a butcher knife to my throat, he cut my brake lines. He ACTUALLY hired a "hit man" to take me out! Be safe and escape in silence!
True that! The only reason I'm not dead is because he wouldn't have been able to explain my strangulation to the cops. When I blacked out he let go. He totally had me. Dangerous.
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My soon to be ex husband always choked me for some reason I asked him one day why was that his go to move and he said “because beating you would be no fun because your not going to fight back and I want somebody that’s going to fight back” 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ that man would take my wind out of me with just 3 fingers pregnant and all and he only let me go bc my oldest daughter would wake up and start screaming for him to stop and he’ll snap out of it and let me go but it put fear in my heart so I treaded lightly with him and stayed as long as I did because he would threaten my life when I mentioned leaving
That is why when I decided to leave I did so when I was far away from him
They do not scare me. They don't. MINE I gotta figure out if I have 7 real Narcissists around me. I just will not let someone do that to someone else. There's just no way. Thank you for all your videos. This is real man. These people need to be held accountable period. I will go through as much as needed to make sure that happens. I will be the one who looks crazy. I will get bullied. They won't show thier faces though. I thought bullies were tough guys and girls. To me that's not tough. Just because I'm not liked I don't care. I can't stress that enough. I will do what I have to do. Some of tbe Narcissists will even be witnesses to what I endured as I thought they were friends and so they knew what I was going through and admitted it to me. It will all be sorted out. I will prove to people that that shit is real. Bullying is real. Man lift people up instead of bringing them down. That's it.
He sometines said “I would never beat you you know that, right? “ And then friends told me why the hell would someone even mention that in the first place?!
Was with him 4,5 yrs never beat me thank god but I kept thinking how weird is it that he would mention such a thing. Is this is an example of narcs usually tell on themselves Lee? He later told me in a drunk evening that he had kicked he ex. Cause he was frustrated. Showed some remorse “i should have neve done that of course” he said. She called the cops on him and left him. I always wondered dud i espcape someone violent? I would avoid arguing with him cause he could get real irritated and sadistic sometimes so I picked my battles. Was discarded few months ago
Do everything like normal if u have to go out to the store u can start looking for somewhere else to stay then still do the shopping & go back there acting like nothing's wrong don't say nothing about leaving,or continue to look for somewhere while the Narc isn't around & just leave.
Some of the most dangerous times are each micro-instance in which they taught me to whittle away at my self-respect and hyperextend myself beyond my boundaries to try and meet them where they were at. Every experience when I learned to accommodate them by stretching and contorting my sense of reality to fit neatly within their narratives. Barring physical violence or legal damages, the most dangerous times were the seemingly-innocuous-at-face-value things that kept me trapped in their world without realizing I was in danger, foggy on my own sense of reality and willing to proceed on their terms.
I exposed him in court. The look on his face was priceless.
This is absolutely true. I had noticed my ex narcissist was keeping his phone on do not disturb something he never did before after a year into the relationship, when I asked him why, he went off the deep end and deflected and started accusing me of stuff I didn't do that now I know he was doing the whole time. He was so furious for me asking he back hand me in my face while he was driving us back from out of town after bringing in the New Year out of town and he fussed me out the entire ride home (3 hours)
My ex did the same. Took me out of town for the first time and punched me in my throat because I told him my sons weren’t going into the service. A discussion that shouldn’t have had on a romantic getaway. When he hit me I saw darkness in his soul. No remorse. He played the role when the hotel staff came to my rescue and was so apologetic only to save his good boy image. After that he went back to being the monster he truly was.
Thank you for speaking the truth about how dangerous they can be. Mine attempted murder on me. I got a restraining order and left his ass. Been free for 11 months and heard from 5 people last week that he's looking for me again. He's not gonna ever leave me alone until he overdoses on coke and dies. I used to care about his welfare but not anymore.
Just got to get away and give 'em to God.
I'm exactly in this position right now ,& he's in s Mental Ward coming out on Thursday. He has a Warrant for choking me.
Hmmm as I recall....confronting, exposing them and trying to leave is dangerous indeed.
G-d did warn me of a time and it was after multiple multiple narc injuries he sustained (before I knew he was a narc) because I would not join his toxic delusions...
All I know I’m scared of what I know n can’t escape! I know more than I’d like n am in hiding as i know that I’d never ever be believed in what I know n what I live with in fear! Silence is how I live
Stay as close to God and the bible as possible. 🩷 I hope you're doing okay and I wish you peace and good rest. I know you're stressed 🥺
Joshua 1:7-9 NIV -
7 “Be strong and very courageous. Be careful to obey all the law my servant Moses gave you; do not turn from it to the right or to the left, that you may be successful wherever you go. 8 Keep this Book of the Law always on your lips; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful. 9 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.”
Most dangerous times for a narcissist, was when the reactive abuser becomes convinced that yes let's make their fake accusations a reality, and agree that it's a good idea to beat them until there a unrecognizable pulp of mush and then some. But thanks be to God! I've been down that road before, & their not worth it to throw away ones own life over & just leave for good. Then take as much time is needed to grow the f up. Become emotionally mature.
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Just sharing one of many miserable experiences I've had with My ex narc that was the last one.
you start to see them for who they really are you wonder if they even like you as a human being or flat out ask them, also you ask what makes them happy because you after years of being with them have no idea no matter what you do they don't acknowledge it after 10 years your truly concerned for you and your kids safety
Yes be very careful when you leave
My ex would say, "You have confronted me, therefore you are my enemy."
When they are feeling deep shame about anything. Also when something bad has happened to them & they need to do the same thing to another.
You are right .. I watch a lot of true crime.. Stay safe !!!
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Please BELIEVE Him!! Sooo True! I had everything set up to move out everything while he was at work. I didn't take a chance with my life! I ❤️ Me!.
My daughter and I could sense his body odor change when he entered into a rage. Weird!
My ex cheated on me, and seemed like he didn't want to be with anymore, so I think it was a reverse discard. He was still furious with me when I left though.
My ex dated me for 4 years and told me he was married the whole time.
My husband raised his fist at me i stared at him stright in the face and said DO IT he backed of immediately
My daughter has told him on numerous occasions that I want nothing to do with him but I told her not to waste her time saying anything he knows I'm not coming back
Lee - when I watch your TH-cam and newer TT I am so so incredibly Proud of you. I’ve watched you since you started on TT. Your Growth and continuing honesty is Life-changing. I know you’ve changed my life by speaking the Truth and opening my eyes. Gave me the Courage to leave and stay gone. Thank you isn’t enough but THANK YOU
Thanks for being here
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My husband is set to receive an inheritance from his recently deceased mother. Not a huge amount but enough to help us get ahead. I know he doesn't want me to benefit at all. It's scary bc he's getting worse & worse in his treatment of me.
Thanks Lee, they love to turn their shame on their target, The only thing you need to be ashamed of is the way they treat you, them.
I had nothing to be ashamed of,
Yes expose them,
I am planning my strategy now,
He’s been flipping the scripts at work calling me the abuser, Since the beginning telling people I am the abuser, as he lived for free being treated extremely well. I didn’t even realize I was living in abuse, the push away pull.
The good person doesn’t exist, if you are pulled with compassion pity for them
The real person is the one who hurts you.
Dangerous time when they start picking at you in the car, cruelty
And if you say no, or can’t ,
Don’t believe anything that comes out of their mouth, remember they are very sneaky, and cheat also
It’s not because you did anything when they throw fits are cruel, leave.
Or flirting on the phone, they will be cruel when they are emotionally cheating.
Or maybe stealing from you, your storage,
You get blamed and punished for everything they do
It’s to weaken you, confuse you.
Woow this video hit home 😭😭😭
Usually the signs were pretty obvious for me with the gun pointing at my face , stabbing me , poisoning my food , messing with me in public , drugging me and doing the same to family just for their sadistic amusement till the tables got turned on them .
It is best to say nothing and leave both swiftly & quietly. Your life and the lives of your kids depend on it. Please seek safety. The rage to come is not something you want to be there to witness. Hear my heart, stay safe, God Bless you all!
My narc ex almost broke my leg when i told him I'm done with him. He got so aggressive he started throwing things around and pushing me aggressively. Worst thing i did, i should have simply ghosted him or broke up through text. Luckily, i dint get too hurt, though i did have to go to the doctor coz he hurt my ankle and it was hurting me. I'm fine now and it's been 9 months since no contact. I'm glad i escaped that monster🙏🙏
This is right about the most dangerous time being when you leave. His threats, alcoholism, and increasing physical intimidation and acts weren’t a scary as realizing that I felt safer when it seemed as if I had some control over what he might do.
A sense of safety does return, slowly, maybe not completely.
It’s still worth leaving.
Mental Healness--omg that is what i have dealt with....the hairs stood up on the back of my neck!!!!wow
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Truth! U gotta plan accordingly. Only take what is needed to move on, such as birth certificates, ID's and social security cards. More than likely they have cameras and recording devices to monitor your every move.
Never tell your plans to family or friends about leaving or getting a job or moving somewhere else cause you never know either or might "accidentally" or even intentionally telling the narcissist that you're with, and then some? So now what? 😒🤔
If you withold important things which they need. That can also be very dangerous. And yes it can be a death and life situation. I can only tell be careful if you go against them in any way.
Yes, hold people hostage. You hit the nail on the head.
The nex wouldn't leave my house, I tried asking politely, being firm, telling him while I was angry, literally nothing worked. I ended up going in to fawning reaponse because I was scared for mine and my children's lives and he was just getting more and more angry. We broke up the year before and he refused to leave. I was planning for months and couldn't see a light at the end of the tunnel, I eventually saw a way out and took it.
He took me to court which I'm still fighting now. He has attempted to use the courts to control me.
Just because you leave it doesn't mean that's the end so please be vigilant.
Interesting 🤔
This is what my oldest daughter is terrified of. Her husband constantly threatens to Blackmail her with lies to the authorities. He tells her you'll be guilty until you can prove yourself innocent. He says the kids will be put into foster care immediately and you won't get them back until you've proven yourself innocent. He's abusive in every way possible. He hasn't supported them financially since the 1st child was born, they have as many kids as the number of fingers on one hand. The financial part has fallen on me. I'm a military widow & close to 70yrs old with not much income and terrible credit card debt because I just don't have enough money each month to care for all of them. I have to provide everything or they literally would starve, have no clothes or diapers and no roof over their heads, it's heart breaking 💔. He's a real demonic👹 monster.
@@777Pattie get her to collect evidence. Get cameras put in the house, keep records of financial statements to prove financial abuse, witnesses, journalling etc then she's got it to prove her innocence if he does take her to court. Apart from that, if he takes her to court then he has to prove it, it's innocent until proven guilty.
The nex tried to say that our children had been manipulated by my mother but because she hasn't done it, he couldn't prove and that part of the case has to be dropped. My mother is looking in to taking him to court for slander after all this is done because she hasn't done anything towards the children, the children disclosed to her what had been going on at home while I was at work, she said that they need to tell me and I called the police on him.
I think....I love You!!! For being soooo REAL!!! -😘
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In my experience currently - its dangerous when I bring something up that he feels I should have gotten over.
then you should get out...now
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Thanks its very painful and difficult bud the only way is leave. 💔
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“You see what I’m sayin?” 💜
When you are doing well at school or work, and they take that as a threat.
When you dont want to be there anymore😢
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Thank you Lee Hammock, for fighting the hard demons that come along with this challenge and for teaching us that narcissists CAN be human!
Once a narc always a narc. Only the ppl closest to them see them unmasked. There are no part time narcs it a serious mental illness. Learn all you can about the limbic system trauma very young changes the working of their brains.
Lee, the one thing I noticed that I thought was humorous about you as a "narci" (my word), was that you proclaimed yourself as our "favorite" at the very start of your video. It was the first time that I had watched you and I was just learning about narcissism from you and others. I feel that I have some of the qualities myself of a narci and am now seeking to get better myself.
Yes this man does this. It's gotten bad. So no response from me! He's getting modification behavior
When you tell them you know !!!
Thank You So Much Mr. Lee for this Important Information.
You’re welcome
Lee, I admire you for having a caring heart.
I definitely lost my support system by keep going back. I didn’t know he was isolating me!
I want to tag Daina cause sis just did a shatter campaign on her ex husband narcissistic and i felt that same thing like he’s gonna retaliate because now everyone knows who he really is a gawd awful person !
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For me it was him doing physical harm to others. Example if a random guy just hi he would attack them and blame me for it.
I agree with you. Recently, I dropped my debit card, walking from my car to my apartment. It was night, so I didn't know I dropped it, until the next day when I couldn't find it. I went and got a new one from my bank, but I noticed that an unauthorized amount was missing from my bank account. Today, my female covert narc neighbor admitted to me that she found, took it out to a restaurant, and dined on my money. But, I didn't confront her, or call the cops. Nope! I want to deal with her the least amount I can. I just complimented her clothes and wished her a good day. Who knows what she could do to me? Thanks for your video. ✌🏼
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His look is head down eyes looking crazy at me heavy breathing wow
This video made me scared because I have to see my ex next week after a year of no contact, but thank you for being honest. It was validating to hear from an actual self aware narcissist. Sometimes I still doubt myself or wonder if I’m overreacting.
I believe Lee. You are not over react acting. I want to leave but I am kinda a fraid of what will happen when I do. Leave. Been here for. All most 40+ years. Been watching Lee video for 2yrs+. Lee is telling the truth. I want to so leave so bad 😞.
@@dianerogers8791 then leave..in silence they are dangerous
you HAVE to see them ???
@@dianerogers8791 plan carefully and leave very discreetly. My advise, put some money away for yourself, arrange a safe place to go and sort out some kind of injunction/restraining order on him and leave while he's out. At your safe place install security cameras and arrange for an emergency button, there is an app you can install on your phone, if he comes near you shake your phone and your safe person can alert the police that you need assistance ❤❤
Thought of another time not as dangerous but dodgy is when you have to sort out an issue for them that causes them shame - IE debt..... Dangerous ground
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Whole facts Lee🙏🏽 leave QUICKLY AND QUIETLY
Share this truth! Please support your loved ones when they need help to escape - YOU have not experienced what they have behind closed doors! They also fell for the public persona just like you have but sadly the bad is VERY bad.
Very well said. Exactly.