been through this, you've explained it perfectly. it's really awful and destructive. My advice is, as much as you still might love the narc., do yourself a favour and just LEAVE!
Remember also the love you feel comes from your own heart from you, because you're a loving person, grieving for the loss of the false lovebombing ego persona they sold you in the beginning to get you hooked on a limerent fantasy, but that person doesn't exist, & was never exclusive for just you, they'll be playing the same game selling the same fake facade to others after you just the same.
Though I'm single, I have witnessed couples where the narcissistic spouse will deprive their spouse from physical intimacy to control, manipulate, punish and upset 😡 their partner. Horrible toxic relationship 😪
Wow,I can’t get enough of your content! My heart is shattered. Losing my 4 year relationship has left me empty and broken. I'm drowning in grief, suffocating under my own despair. My heart is barely beating..
I'm so sorry to hear that. I've been through a similar experience before, and it was a dark time. But a spiritual counselor helped me heal and find peace. Would you like me to connect you with him?
That's so kind of you to offer. I'm desperate for anything that can help me get my ex Yes, please, I'd love to connect with the spiritual counselor. What's the next step?
Yes, affection was treated like currency. His favorite thing to weaponize against me. He was an abuser. I'm glad it's over. It's been months and this subject still pains me, how much verbal and physical affection or affirmation was purposely withheld. I just wish I had let go sooner. I wasted so much time trying to repair something irreparable.
Yep, we were intimate 3 times last year and when I found out about his new supply being behind the scenes and I brought up our last time I said to him “what, do you feel that you cheated on your girlfriend with your WIFE?! Freak”. They’re crazy as hell.
Y’all this soooo happened to me at 25 and I did everything I could! He said “when you hit 30, libido goes down or some shit” and he withheld sex from me for like at least a month +. Then I found condoms in the house. 😒. STAY NO CONTACT YA’LL. I’m 5 years and it feels great, sending positive vibes for anyone reading this ❤
Me, too. You’re not alone. Both my sister and I were married to males who purposely withheld all affection for years at a time. It certainly made us feel ugly and worthless, and that’s what it was designed to do. And the juxtaposition of having men out in the real world who were chasing me for xes, but my husband at home wanting nothing to do with me, did my mind in. I no longer believe in love, because it’s just a sick game to the mayle. What is the point of getting married if that man is gonna decide he wants to punish you for years at a time whilst you dance like a bear at the circus trying to get him to engage? And he’s the one who swears he loves you, but there are guys out in the world who would f*kk you that hate your guts. They’re working very hard to make us never deal with them again, as they change the rules constantly about what xes means or doesn’t mean. It means whatever they say it means at the time, and if you like it, they withhold it. But if you hate it, they’ll force it.
My narc ex got mad at me cuz when he started denying me i started "entertaining myself" but i had told him if he wont entertain me i will entertain myself but either way im getting entertained. Even got him to assist one day and he got mad saying that " that makes me feel like you saying im not a man or im not enough for you". I just encouraged him to do better 🤷🏾♀️
Looool I went through this same thing. I think he was trying to punish me for my reaction that he tested and pushed for when I was in an EXTREMELY vulnerable state (I was very seriously S.A.ed by someone else, and I was in a very fragile state of mind at the time, and he was excessively cheering a girl on that he didn't know for on of his buddies events. To the point I thought he knew her, only for him to turn around on me and tell me he was actually just trying to test me, you can imagine how that would cause someone to react when they are already extremely fragile and vulnerable). He stopped sleeping with me. And kept refusing me, and calling me immature and this and that, and would openly go and please himself. (Mind you, he knew that I was fragile and what happened to me) to the point where I decided to just please myself. And then he got MAD AT ME?! for pleasing my own self and not asking him anymore because he was rejecting me over and over and over again. After that, somehow he turned around and took total control of the intimacy dynamic and I ended up being seggually abused for the remainder of our relationship. Just so so sick.
My ex withhold sex for months on end. After watching this clip it’s clearer now I had my suspicions she was messing around behind my back, because sometimes she wouldn’t answer my phone calls or text at certain times, and even worse made ever excuse why she wouldn’t be intimate or even cuddle. Looking back at it I was naïve. During the relationship, I gained weight and I was no longer attractive in her eyes she said.
You’re not alone. Difficult to care about working out or looking your best when the one you love doesn’t see you- and worse- rejects and ignores you repeatedly. Most awful feeling in the world. Now, I’m someone I don’t even recognize. I’m working on finding purpose- but the energy, focus and desire to workout isn’t there yet. I hate the impact of everything.
Yeah their impact is totally toxic. Break out of their grip, escape, be free & get out there & be you, sign up to a gym, a sports club, go for long bike rides or walks, climb hills, you can do it, just keep at it, you'll get there in the end.
@@liliaaaaaaaa you’re really so right because while I’m picking up pieces- he’s out living life, already creating a new family and treating me like I’m dead- and our daughters like options. Last options. Our girls are 17 now and I told them- now is the time they get to explore life and become the people they want to be- and not to waste time on anyone- irrelevant of title because if words/actions are not aligned- it can’t be trusted. As for me, I’m finally learning to wake up without feeling utter dread. It’s not a happy or relieved start to the day but it’s better than the not wanting to wake up I experienced the last 11 months or so. The last thing, I know how much they really don’t care. They don’t care if you’re dead or alive. Sad and crying. It benefits them for us to be down- I’m trying my best to remind myself of this so i can get going. Today, I’ll be cleaning out the fridge and pantry’s and creating a healthy meal plan for the girls and myself. I can’t let them see anyone, including their dad, take me out of this game we call life. For those being affected by the person calling them unattractive- the weight isn’t the issue. Even when I was skinny and fit- he was dogging me and cheating. When you start to recognize their patterns of excuses- you realize it’s all bs and a way to distance themselves from you because they’re occupied elsewhere because any loving, decent human- absolutely can not stand to see their partner hurt. I didn’t experiences this level of grace but I’ve witnessed it. And at one point, I’d given it. Wrong place, wrong people. Wrong environment. No one deserves to be abused.
I had the same rejection for atleast that number of years. He told me he was impotent as a result of me finally confronting him. Fast forward 5 years and he told me he never said that. I felt worthless, unattractive, gross. The discard was a few months later.
My ex wife did this. It was like I had to beg for intimacy. That made me feel worthless, after our sex life was already mainly one-sided. As 2-women she would turn over and go to sleep after she was satisfied and leave me hanging. Well I stopped and that made me not even want to have sex anymore. I began to pull back and she would ask me why am I not touching her anymore. It’s been 2-years now with no sex and now she’s accusing me of giving her an STD - I haven’t been with anyone in 2-years. I can’t wait until my divorce is final.
My ex started getting stingy and was attempting to put me on rations. I got one last roll in the hay and dipped. I ghosted him and continued my birthday, and have not looked back. He has not heard my voice since 08/10/2019. He stalked me and I didn't care. I was not scared. He knew that I carried and am ex-military, in English: I got hands too. He thought I was going to beg, plead, and allow him to play me. I couldn't care less. I had been with narcs before and knew how to dip.
The narcissist I was with did keep intimacy from me as punishment saying we need to curve it blah blah amongst all the other mental abuse😢 I left him 2 years ago but he still haunts my mind. I'm trying not to bring into new relationships
We slept together but he would not touch me! He was on his side of the bed and I was on mine. There where sometimes during the night I would take my hand and put it up under his arm or touching his arm cause I was TRAUMA BOUNDED. The last intiment relation I had with him was Dec. 2019 when I came home one night after having to take my older daughter to a class for 2 nights. He thought I was cheating on him!!!!!!!! 😂
I went through this and found out he had another source for sure. He actually got upset when I no longer asked for it and started treating him like a roommate 😂
The day my EX Narc Stopped,Having sex is the same day I broke up with😂 him,He was pissed because he wasn't ready to let me go ,but I let him go💪 No Contact
I experienced this with my ex narc of 22rs with the 3rd discard but with the strength of GOD he blessed me to walk away after a couple of months block completely so 1 yr & 9 months later I'm getting stronger & stronger everyday
8:26 damn… the whole scenario of trying something new and they look at you like it doesn’t matter and then being blatantly rejected. Crying and they go to sleep like nothing happened. So lonely. 😭 I really just wanted to be loved and he did everything but- What it does to the innocent party is kill that part of them that will try something new again. This is another side to the story of why these relationships can’t thrive because your self esteem and sense of joy hope etc are eroded. You risk becoming dark and cold. I noticed I went from hugging people to staying away from people or just being so agitated- so I became the hurt person hurting other people because of the hurt he made me feel- Over time- I became a shell of myself. Didn’t care what I looked like. In the end, he made a comment about how I didn’t do anything interesting. By that point I didn’t care- all lies- because I remembered trying and him blowing me off.
My ex husband stopped having any affection for me for 4 YEARS. I had enough of his BS and left. He made sure I knew he h@ted me. He even told the marriage counselor that he was punishing me despite years of arguing the contrary to me. All I needed to hear was the punishment part-to finally have him admit to what I KNEW he was doing. Then he went and married my ex best friend’s cousin who introduced her to him, because I was apparently the problem.
Lee, the banana hammock took me out sir! Never stop making these videos. I love your realness and humor. I couldn't laugh about this shit a few years ago. I was confused as hell but now that I'm out and understand, I can't stop laughing at how ridiculous the behavior that I witnessed is.
This is so eye opening. My wife and I are only a few weeks separated. She cut off the intimacy at first. She would make up every excuse to avoid it. Then, I saw she was telling people she was leaving me. Once I confronted her on it. She claimed she fell out of love with me, that I deserved better and was crying so hard. It was a lot to handle so I left for 2 weeks. I came back home unannounced and she flipped on me. Literally started jumping on the bed crying and then tried to fight me. A few days later, I saw she was sexting someone. It all clicked to me that she was holding off intimacy, because she was getting off with someone else. She even called me a narcissist. There’s a lot more to the story, but she showed textbook narcissism and I didn’t even know it until it was too late.
Mine was doing this I thought it was because of another woman I kept going back to try and make it work it's because he has HIV and on top of this is not disclosing his status I made it out by the hair on my chin luckily I'm HIV negative so I can understand that young lady I survived a monster too how I found out was a mutual person that goes to the clinic with him who also has it I didn't know knew this man 27 years they are dangerous Covert narcs are it Will take years to heal he was trying to infect me I hope whoever is reading this please don't sleep on them no matter if you love them they wicked😢
@MentalHealness I made it out lee I have noticed that you can go back so many times until you don't want to anymore or forced to either way it's a blessing to get out now the healing begins I thank you for being you I really love for your videos you helped me in more ways than you know thank you so much 🙏🏾❤️
Ladies be careful with that preselected crap y’all love sharing men meanwhile the guy that’s not so desirable in ya head quietly has his shit together and ain’t bringing death to ya soul
Very dangerous and think I was so damn stupid to have taken it for 30 yrs. I was so naive to believe the lies. Watching this video is literally making me sick to my stomach
I got a lot of this. Different instances that sometimes went years. Part of me wondered if me not engaging in relations until marriage became something he wanted to punish me for after we were married.
Mine used it as a weapon! He knew I enjoyed it and he didn’t think I was worthy of it! After a while I didn’t care. It bothered me at first and then I stop caring and he would say things to upset me lol! Ohhhhhhhh I don’t miss those days
Hi Lee. I’m from France I do understand but I don’t speak very well english. I would like to thank you for all the videos. I break up with a narcissist on october 2024 and you help me go no contact. I was really sad and depressed because he stops affection and seggs and make me feel unattractive and he keeps saying to me you are too beautiful. He already has a new supply he denies but I’m convinced and he starts to triangulate. But I think i’m borderline. 4 days after he starts whitholding I feel and fear abandonment, so i cheat on him I lie I pursue him and them I discard him and I let him know oops😅 and he blocks me everywhere 😅
Going through this right now with my husband. He has left me and went to the new supply. Now he is calling me and texting me now that he is with her, but I will not answer his calls or text. I trying to move out but it is hard right now because I am unemployed at this time.
For me, he was cheating but hadn't had actual sex with her as she was teasing him. Lots of making out, etc. THAT was when he wanted to resume relations that we barely had anymore. I didn't know that he was sneaking with her at the time, but i told him absolutely not as i already had my stuff packed and ready to go not even knowing THIS part he was doing. So glad in retrospect i did as she was his fluffer 🤡
Mine was for punishment for who knows why. That's the thing, you go crazy chasing them even more because you feel like it's your fault when in reality they are just enacting their evil spirit.
The reason I stopped being interested in intimacy was because he is mean all the time. I don’t feel like thats the same thing. He says I do it on purpose but I don’t think he is entitled to anything if he treats me badly. If anything, he has no one to blame but himself. I literally don’t wanna have sex too because it’s just so awkward and uncomfortable. I’ve become very self-conscious.
This is my story as well! I started withholding because he is so mean. But, he doesn't even care about not being intimate with me.Which hurts even worse. Talk about reverse psychology. SMH
They aren’t always getting it from someone else. Some got something else going on in their heads .They crazy!!! LEEE YOU DONT SOUND CRAZY!! This has been my thoughts for the longest!!! Acting like they are saving up for the necxt one.. 😂😂😂 BUT God ain’t gon let it happen that way. They are physically very ill. But the 😈 may still have them thinking delusional.🤷🏽♀️ Lee you da man!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
My ex fiancé did this immediately after my 40th bday dinner bf God exposed this toxic 🤢💩🐸….pulls up w/ a brand new rav 4 and thought he was gonna run me n my son out of the home we bought…..to be with the he/she 🤔🤷🏽♀️😱 he was cheating on me with….But God turned it all around for my good the house sold now he’s living with his toxic brother indefinitely….oh n no money! 😂🤣🙏🏾💪🏾🙅🏽♀️🎭👋🏾👈🏾💨💸
But also Lee, once a narc sees you love him and want to be with him he "wifeys" you up- you are now Mama. Narcs put people in 2 catagories-the good and the bad. If you're good and loving etc-they aren't turned on. They parentalize you. They make you Mommy or Daddy. So they gotta go look for the "bad" ho types , that's who they can have relations with. Crazy for sure!!!
Now This one I never heard omg. Cheating on yooooooooooooooou, but feel like their cheating on the one they cheating on you with is cheating on new supply.............. Leeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee Help meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee I am ON the floor.
I was married for 12 years to a narcissist. I was young at the time, the hormones were flowing, and I was extremely attracted to him. However, he withheld sex all the time and would give me the silent treatment whenever I tried to discuss the issue with him. in our 12 year marriage we had sex less than 10 times. It was slowly killing me. Interestingly, we have two kids. I suppose I was fortunate that I was able to get pregnant so easily…otherwise I may not have any children based on the fact that we rarely had sex. Over the last four years, I have been involved with a narcissistic neighbor who also used sex as a weapon. He would criticize my body and my techniques. As I approach 50 years of age this year, I am beginning to realize that I am really messed up in the head sexually and regarding intimacy with men. Toxic narcissistic people can cause a lot of trauma and damage for other people.
My Nasty Narc didn’t withhold sex from me he was very abusive towards me in the bedroom.. I kept repeatedly telling him I don’t like his sexual behaviors it’s not pleasing to me… He refused to listen and most of the time I had to sleep with my daughter just to get away from Mr.Jail!
I follow her i love both of your content ❤️Question kind of 🤔 what if you don’t believe he’s cheating because he’s constantly under you but constantly withholds ex from me what is he gaining from that ? It’s such a terrible terrible feeling 😔
My ex would deny me and discard me then go have sex with men and women behind my back and to this day I'm the one who got away. He has a lot of bad connection lovers and he plays them all. I'm so glad I broke free from that hell. What u say is exactly right. He raped me to punish me too. It was so scary and traumatic for me.
@PrettyLola-mm4ux me too but it awakened me to how people can be and it made me stronger once I left him. I know he was breaking me down hard and I was so confused. I never felt that awful and lost. I found me again and I'm healing after many years it's finally behind me and this is part of my healing to see I'm not alone. I'm very grateful for y'all who relate to me and God. It saved my life once waking up to this and knowing it wasn't all my fault. I just had to educate myself and see my worth.
@@jenniferking1422 I’m glad you were atleast aware of what a narc is which will help you heal, I didn’t know what narcissists were on TH-cam until after 10 plus yrs of abuse
It was what made me look into a fb page about cheating men and found out that he had been attempting to talk to many females in our little city. I also found out who the mistress/sidechick was because he was so simple as to accidentally screenshot her snap in some court evidence he took to court. Needless to say after our 7 yo confirmed it was who I thought months later I successfully had her subpoenaed to court. She was a dispatcher, he is a firefighter (it's always someone they work close to). I'm a nurse, that's how he met me. He flirted with a lot of nurses from what I saw in his phone before the birth of our child.
My ex husband went a year without touching me and was cruel…. I thought he was just getting happy in the shower but I was wrong…. I even knew his girlfriends it’s awful ….. I thought something was wrong with me…… but with Gods help I made it throught
Multiple sex partners. It’s never just one. There’s nothing wrong with you and don’t let them play the Jedi mind trick games with you. This is how they regulate their emotions. They’ve been this way when you met them and after. Get tested asap and pray to God you don’t have a std.
It quickly turns into a blessing🙌🏽 as you're thinking your body is betraying you. Once you realize it's actually THEM messing up your ph... be indifferent, restrict and remove sex. I stopped sleeping in the same bed with them for six months, and left silently because why do need you berating me to stay.🚶🏽♀️
After this relationship ended, I craved any kind of male attention and didn't care who is he. Called myself old, fat and ugly many times. Was toxicly envious of the "pretty" girls. Binge used dating apps. Walked around in incredibly short shorts. Was ok with stalking and date r*ping from a guy I randomly met on the street. Didn't notice someone is into me, because nobody can be into such an ugly girl. Hyperfixated on my physical imperfections, but didn't take care of myself anyway.
I knew some women who were married to narc men and they refused them for sexy time. They pleased themselves in front of their husband... then all of a sudden he wants to join. NOPE.
@@tranquility9325 this sounds like the mental gymnastics of a narc when they see you living your life on social media after the breakup…. Comparing it to this 🤣🤣 “YOU WERE A WIFE TO ME. YOU WERE MY HEART MY WIFE MY LIFE. NOW I HAVE TO WATCH YOU BE HAPPY WITHOUT ME AND I CANT EVEN CONTACT YOU. IN MY MIND AND MY PERCEPTION ITS JUST LIKE YOURE LAYING NEXT TO ME AND I CANT EVEN TOUCH YOU.”
This happened to me ,30 years of marriage ,sooo I had a 2 year affair with his best friend,an when he found out he couldn’t fathom it ,I couldn’t fathom he couldn’t fathom it lol,games ,,I threw the ball back ,hard ,he got what he deserved,,lol
The thing is, I've always stuck up for myself and have always been a strong person. Hes tried to make me feel ugly, less than and not worthy...but he never got to me like that. I have friends who hype me up and make me feel good about myself and I know I can get anyone I want of any gender (not trying to sound cocky...it's just the reality of my life).
So in my case.. we reconnected after a yr of no contact.. seggs was cool for about 2 days then he just stopped..when I asked why the switch up, he said my timing was too random and I was treating him like a piece of meat, so what y’all think really happened?
@@minoozolalaI thought of this.. bc I was nothing but kind to him.. on that second night, he said it was a good time.. But I didn’t return to the compliment and I think that’s where it started… I mean, it was only like 5mins 😂
Hey Lee my ex narc wants me to come on social media and do funny skits together I think it's a setup for smearing as you would say a smear campaign of my life to destroy me.
Idk how it happened,- but a literal month went by without so much as a mention of “the deed “…! And we live together, as well as we are also not elderly! And he has NO excuse or explanation for it and i don’t know how to get an honest answer out of him.
@SamanthaNDcoatings simpel just take every intimicy away from him to. Go out. Have fun with friends. Egnore him back. See how he reacts where he blames you off he is doing that himself if its a narcist 🤷🏼♀️
@LinMeulen I have been going out with friends more, and I am open to any ideas cuz he refuses to admit to any misconduct- although I suspect he is even doing something in my home behind my back
@SamanthaNDcoatings place a camera in your house. Place it where he sits often. If you can so you can see what is doing on his phone to. Maybe say your leaving the house. But stay close to see if he leaves the house to or someone is getting over. Says your a few ours away. So many ways to find out. Say a friend saw him with a other woman even if its not true. Just say she called you and sent pictures see how he reacts. But the best thing is leave him. Like you dont trust him anyway. Trust is the foundation of a relationship.
I left my husband because he would not get an STD test after having a three sum with two girls that was told to have HIV or Aids. While we was separated. I tried to work the marriage out. He refused to respect my boundaries that I wasn't going to have sex with him until he was tested. Instead he reverse it and said I needed to get tested because I had slept with multiple men. I was like WTH are you talking about. I said name them b/c I can name 5 women you slept. He turned my kids on me
Just wondering if this bas happened to anyone else in rhe comments ..but what about 🌽? Have yall ever had an ex, narc or not, that you found out had a 🌽 addiction that got out of control , to the point they cant get it up when its sexy time...i thought he was cheating and went through his phone, combed it and nothing .. put it down and picked it up one more time just to see about dating sites and whoa ..reality check of my life..and we had A LOT of boom boom ..that was two years ago ,we just went down hill from there and i left a few months ago, ...but we still kinda talk ,and now ive been rejected sexually and thats HUGE, never thought he would or could ...its a person or the internet ...thank god im closer to the side of idgaf anymore...so fucking pathetic
@MentalHealness Hey can you give me your email one more time? Im the one that's local here in Durham, wanted to reach out about talking to you for your new segment ...I really need to join your support group too I'm getting on that today fr, I need an outlet to say the least lol
It does make you lose confidence like what’s wrong with me that’s when I knew it had to be somebody else. You telling on yourself these are all the signs he’s cheating smh
@MentalHealness I'm just kinda of shocked but I'm one girl that is reserved I don't go out here with this person and that person. I'm praying God sends me a good person in my life. Cause wheew
My husband says you're the one acting like a fool because we don't have anything to worry about why shouldn't I listen to a man that I know that have similar characters to yours what do you fear
I remember I put on a little outfit for him after we just got back from picking up dinner. When I snuck off to put it on turned the corner, he looked at me and said “yeah…but the food will get cold.” …I went and changed. 😒 Man I wish I had heard this back when I was with my ex-Narc. It seems so straight forward but not while you’re in it.
been through this, you've explained it perfectly. it's really awful and destructive. My advice is, as much as you still might love the narc., do yourself a favour and just LEAVE!
Well said!
Remember also the love you feel comes from your own heart from you, because you're a loving person, grieving for the loss of the false lovebombing ego persona they sold you in the beginning to get you hooked on a limerent fantasy, but that person doesn't exist, & was never exclusive for just you, they'll be playing the same game selling the same fake facade to others after you just the same.
Though I'm single, I have witnessed couples where the narcissistic spouse will deprive their spouse from physical intimacy to control, manipulate, punish and upset 😡 their partner. Horrible toxic relationship 😪
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It happened to me. It was a huge factor to my weight gain. Nothing hurts more than being rejected.
Just like the Sex and the City movie where Samantha says, “I eat so I won’t cheat. I love you, but I love me more.”
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It's a form of devaluation.
Wow,I can’t get enough of your content! My heart is shattered. Losing my 4 year relationship has left me empty and broken. I'm drowning in grief, suffocating under my own despair. My heart is barely beating..
I'm so sorry to hear that. I've been through a similar experience before, and it was a dark time. But a spiritual counselor helped me heal and find peace. Would you like me to connect you with him?
That's so kind of you to offer. I'm desperate for anything that can help me get my ex Yes, please, I'd love to connect with the spiritual counselor. What's the next step?
Here’s his handle, father Tosin he has been a lifesaver for me.
Thank you for this valuable information! I just looked him up online, and he seems impressive.
Thank you. Stay strong
He wasn't intimate nor wanted sex during the devaluing stage when he had a new supply I didn't know about.
IMO, he withheld it mostly cuz it was the only control over me...I didn't need him financially, emotionally or otherwise.
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Yes, affection was treated like currency. His favorite thing to weaponize against me. He was an abuser. I'm glad it's over. It's been months and this subject still pains me, how much verbal and physical affection or affirmation was purposely withheld. I just wish I had let go sooner. I wasted so much time trying to repair something irreparable.
Stay strong and stay empowered
I feel you
Yep, we were intimate 3 times last year and when I found out about his new supply being behind the scenes and I brought up our last time I said to him “what, do you feel that you cheated on your girlfriend with your WIFE?! Freak”. They’re crazy as hell.
Crazy as hell!
Oh wow
This is real. 😮
They be feeling so smug and satisfied...until the games get flipped on em 😏
She thinks she escaped our community bros!!!!!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉 let’s lock her bank account and show her who is boss 🎉🎉🎉🎉 bros have homies at the bank ☝️☝️☝️☝️
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They also enjoy telling you no, bec of control. Anything you like will be snatched.
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They hate the word no , facts
@@Imjustaviewforstudiesthey hate to hear it, but they loooove to say it to you
Y’all this soooo happened to me at 25 and I did everything I could! He said “when you hit 30, libido goes down or some shit” and he withheld sex from me for like at least a month +. Then I found condoms in the house. 😒. STAY NO CONTACT YA’LL. I’m 5 years and it feels great, sending positive vibes for anyone reading this ❤
Same experience. Thanks sis for sharing truths. Staying narc woke.
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So he was just using you for your house while playing the field elsewhere. How low can these people go.
Yes. This happened to me several times during my relationship, but couldn't prove he was doing anything with someone else.
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My ex with held love and sex I honestly lost my confidence though this I felt worthless I still do at times
I hate to hear that
Xoxo . It is really hard , you are worth it .
Don't do that. Thats there problem. Love yourself.
Me, too. You’re not alone. Both my sister and I were married to males who purposely withheld all affection for years at a time. It certainly made us feel ugly and worthless, and that’s what it was designed to do. And the juxtaposition of having men out in the real world who were chasing me for xes, but my husband at home wanting nothing to do with me, did my mind in. I no longer believe in love, because it’s just a sick game to the mayle. What is the point of getting married if that man is gonna decide he wants to punish you for years at a time whilst you dance like a bear at the circus trying to get him to engage? And he’s the one who swears he loves you, but there are guys out in the world who would f*kk you that hate your guts. They’re working very hard to make us never deal with them again, as they change the rules constantly about what xes means or doesn’t mean. It means whatever they say it means at the time, and if you like it, they withhold it. But if you hate it, they’ll force it.
Same 😢
My narc ex got mad at me cuz when he started denying me i started "entertaining myself" but i had told him if he wont entertain me i will entertain myself but either way im getting entertained. Even got him to assist one day and he got mad saying that " that makes me feel like you saying im not a man or im not enough for you". I just encouraged him to do better 🤷🏾♀️
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@@MsPeaceandBlessings901 this!!
Looool I went through this same thing. I think he was trying to punish me for my reaction that he tested and pushed for when I was in an EXTREMELY vulnerable state (I was very seriously S.A.ed by someone else, and I was in a very fragile state of mind at the time, and he was excessively cheering a girl on that he didn't know for on of his buddies events. To the point I thought he knew her, only for him to turn around on me and tell me he was actually just trying to test me, you can imagine how that would cause someone to react when they are already extremely fragile and vulnerable). He stopped sleeping with me. And kept refusing me, and calling me immature and this and that, and would openly go and please himself. (Mind you, he knew that I was fragile and what happened to me) to the point where I decided to just please myself. And then he got MAD AT ME?! for pleasing my own self and not asking him anymore because he was rejecting me over and over and over again. After that, somehow he turned around and took total control of the intimacy dynamic and I ended up being seggually abused for the remainder of our relationship. Just so so sick.
😢 wow I'm so glad it's over. Now I have to heal.
it's healing season
I'm so glad you heal and teach people what it is to go through this ...thank you.
You are so welcome
My ex withhold sex for months on end. After watching this clip it’s clearer now I had my suspicions she was messing around behind my back, because sometimes she wouldn’t answer my phone calls or text at certain times, and even worse made ever excuse why she wouldn’t be intimate or even cuddle. Looking back at it I was naïve. During the relationship, I gained weight and I was no longer attractive in her eyes she said.
Hate to hear that. Stay strong
Me too!
You’re not alone. Difficult to care about working out or looking your best when the one you love doesn’t see you- and worse- rejects and ignores you repeatedly. Most awful feeling in the world. Now, I’m someone I don’t even recognize. I’m working on finding purpose- but the energy, focus and desire to workout isn’t there yet. I hate the impact of everything.
Yeah their impact is totally toxic. Break out of their grip, escape, be free & get out there & be you, sign up to a gym, a sports club, go for long bike rides or walks, climb hills, you can do it, just keep at it, you'll get there in the end.
@@liliaaaaaaaa you’re really so right because while I’m picking up pieces- he’s out living life, already creating a new family and treating me like I’m dead- and our daughters like options. Last options. Our girls are 17 now and I told them- now is the time they get to explore life and become the people they want to be- and not to waste time on anyone- irrelevant of title because if words/actions are not aligned- it can’t be trusted.
As for me, I’m finally learning to wake up without feeling utter dread. It’s not a happy or relieved start to the day but it’s better than the not wanting to wake up I experienced the last 11 months or so.
The last thing, I know how much they really don’t care. They don’t care if you’re dead or alive. Sad and crying. It benefits them for us to be down- I’m trying my best to remind myself of this so i can get going.
Today, I’ll be cleaning out the fridge and pantry’s and creating a healthy meal plan for the girls and myself. I can’t let them see anyone, including their dad, take me out of this game we call life.
For those being affected by the person calling them unattractive- the weight isn’t the issue. Even when I was skinny and fit- he was dogging me and cheating. When you start to recognize their patterns of excuses- you realize it’s all bs and a way to distance themselves from you because they’re occupied elsewhere because any loving, decent human- absolutely can not stand to see their partner hurt. I didn’t experiences this level of grace but I’ve witnessed it. And at one point, I’d given it. Wrong place, wrong people. Wrong environment. No one deserves to be abused.
My husband rejected every advance from 2012-2024 when I got the final discard.
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Same, fellow Aries. 😢 🙏 Here's to your healing.
I had the same rejection for atleast that number of years. He told me he was impotent as a result of me finally confronting him. Fast forward 5 years and he told me he never said that. I felt worthless, unattractive, gross. The discard was a few months later.
My ex wife did this. It was like I had to beg for intimacy. That made me feel worthless, after our sex life was already mainly one-sided. As 2-women she would turn over and go to sleep after she was satisfied and leave me hanging. Well I stopped and that made me not even want to have sex anymore. I began to pull back and she would ask me why am I not touching her anymore. It’s been 2-years now with no sex and now she’s accusing me of giving her an STD - I haven’t been with anyone in 2-years. I can’t wait until my divorce is final.
Oh man. 😞
My ex started getting stingy and was attempting to put me on rations. I got one last roll in the hay and dipped. I ghosted him and continued my birthday, and have not looked back. He has not heard my voice since 08/10/2019. He stalked me and I didn't care. I was not scared. He knew that I carried and am ex-military, in English: I got hands too. He thought I was going to beg, plead, and allow him to play me. I couldn't care less. I had been with narcs before and knew how to dip.
Dipped out didn’t you
@@MentalHealness Yes, I did.
The narcissist I was with did keep intimacy from me as punishment saying we need to curve it blah blah amongst all the other mental abuse😢 I left him 2 years ago but he still haunts my mind. I'm trying not to bring into new relationships
We slept together but he would not touch me! He was on his side of the bed and I was on mine. There where sometimes during the night I would take my hand and put it up under his arm or touching his arm cause I was TRAUMA BOUNDED. The last intiment relation I had with him was Dec. 2019 when I came home one night after having to take my older daughter to a class for 2 nights. He thought I was cheating on him!!!!!!!! 😂
oh my goodness.
I went through this and found out he had another source for sure. He actually got upset when I no longer asked for it and started treating him like a roommate 😂
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Stopped,Having sex is the same day I broke up with😂 him,He was pissed because he wasn't ready to let me go ,but I let him go💪 No
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Great video.. i feel better knowing that it’s all over as long as i keep that door locked 🔐
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I was the punching bag. WAS being the operative word. 💛
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Yep. Embarrassing.
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Very much so
I experienced this with my ex narc of 22rs with the 3rd discard but with the strength of GOD he blessed me to walk away after a couple of months block completely so 1 yr & 9 months later I'm getting stronger & stronger everyday
stay strong
8:26 damn… the whole scenario of trying something new and they look at you like it doesn’t matter and then being blatantly rejected. Crying and they go to sleep like nothing happened. So lonely. 😭 I really just wanted to be loved and he did everything but-
What it does to the innocent party is kill that part of them that will try something new again. This is another side to the story of why these relationships can’t thrive because your self esteem and sense of joy hope etc are eroded. You risk becoming dark and cold.
I noticed I went from hugging people to staying away from people or just being so agitated- so I became the hurt person hurting other people because of the hurt he made me feel-
Over time- I became a shell of myself. Didn’t care what I looked like.
In the end, he made a comment about how I didn’t do anything interesting. By that point I didn’t care- all lies- because I remembered trying and him blowing me off.
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That’s soooo crazy!!!!!! 🤦🏽♀️ puzzle pieces 🧩 put together, madness. That’s what that was??🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
It’s crazy
Why do I feel shattered
Time to put yourself back together
Great video.....very very true. Ex narc bdaddy we were daily ....then he was like not today.....I was shookith! 😂 then found out he was community D.
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My ex husband stopped having any affection for me for 4 YEARS. I had enough of his BS and left. He made sure I knew he h@ted me. He even told the marriage counselor that he was punishing me despite years of arguing the contrary to me. All I needed to hear was the punishment part-to finally have him admit to what I KNEW he was doing. Then he went and married my ex best friend’s cousin who introduced her to him, because I was apparently the problem.
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It's a blessing not to be your problem anymore!🙌🏽💕
Lee, the banana hammock took me out sir! Never stop making these videos. I love your realness and humor. I couldn't laugh about this shit a few years ago. I was confused as hell but now that I'm out and understand, I can't stop laughing at how ridiculous the behavior that I witnessed is.
Thank you 🙏🏾
6:49 I’m sick 🤮 so darn true and I lived it
😩 stay strong
When you said go to sleep it took me to a dark place thank God for growing me
Yup...I was told I was starting to look disgusting after all the Hell he put me through- that why he didn't want to sleep w/ me anymore...
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I gotta rewatch cause i only caught the tail end just getting off work. By the way orange looks great on you bro 👌
Appreciate it
This is so eye opening. My wife and I are only a few weeks separated. She cut off the intimacy at first. She would make up every excuse to avoid it. Then, I saw she was telling people she was leaving me. Once I confronted her on it. She claimed she fell out of love with me, that I deserved better and was crying so hard. It was a lot to handle so I left for 2 weeks. I came back home unannounced and she flipped on me. Literally started jumping on the bed crying and then tried to fight me. A few days later, I saw she was sexting someone. It all clicked to me that she was holding off intimacy, because she was getting off with someone else. She even called me a narcissist. There’s a lot more to the story, but she showed textbook narcissism and I didn’t even know it until it was too late.
Mine was doing this I thought it was because of another woman I kept going back to try and make it work it's because he has HIV and on top of this is not disclosing his status I made it out by the hair on my chin luckily I'm HIV negative so I can understand that young lady I survived a monster too how I found out was a mutual person that goes to the clinic with him who also has it I didn't know knew this man 27 years they are dangerous Covert narcs are it Will take years to heal he was trying to infect me I hope whoever is reading this please don't sleep on them no matter if you love them they wicked😢
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@MentalHealness I made it out lee I have noticed that you can go back so many times until you don't want to anymore or forced to either way it's a blessing to get out now the healing begins I thank you for being you I really love for your videos you helped me in more ways than you know thank you so much 🙏🏾❤️
Ladies be careful with that preselected crap y’all love sharing men meanwhile the guy that’s not so desirable in ya head quietly has his shit together and ain’t bringing death to ya soul
Very dangerous and think I was so damn stupid to have taken it for 30 yrs. I was so naive to believe the lies. Watching this video is literally making me sick to my stomach
I got a lot of this. Different instances that sometimes went years. Part of me wondered if me not engaging in relations until marriage became something he wanted to punish me for after we were married.
Mine said is was because we had a open vent and she didn’t want anyone to hear.
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Mine used it as a weapon! He knew I enjoyed it and he didn’t think I was worthy of it! After a while I didn’t care. It bothered me at first and then I stop caring and he would say things to upset me lol! Ohhhhhhhh I don’t miss those days
Why do they have to be so cruel, why be so mean…. What kind of power do they gain?…
Hi Lee. I’m from France I do understand but I don’t speak very well english. I would like to thank you for all the videos. I break up with a narcissist on october 2024 and you help me go no contact. I was really sad and depressed because he stops affection and seggs and make me feel unattractive and he keeps saying to me you are too beautiful. He already has a new supply he denies but I’m convinced and he starts to triangulate. But I think i’m borderline. 4 days after he starts whitholding I feel and fear abandonment, so i cheat on him I lie I pursue him and them I discard him and I let him know oops😅 and he blocks me everywhere 😅
it's so tough dealing with that
I told him if I find out your messing with another person I’m done I found out and never looked back
Going through this right now with my husband. He has left me and went to the new supply. Now he is calling me and texting me now that he is with her, but I will not answer his calls or text. I trying to move out but it is hard right now because I am unemployed at this time.
Don’t move out of your family home and make it harder on yourself. Find a way to become independent first, then find a good lawyer.
Find a community that help women in abusive relationships
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For me, he was cheating but hadn't had actual sex with her as she was teasing him. Lots of making out, etc. THAT was when he wanted to resume relations that we barely had anymore. I didn't know that he was sneaking with her at the time, but i told him absolutely not as i already had my stuff packed and ready to go not even knowing THIS part he was doing. So glad in retrospect i did as she was his fluffer 🤡
It explains alot like why he wanted me to cheat
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My narcs behavior was a huge turn off. The toxic behavior made me disinterested in it. Is it normal for the survivor to be disinterested?
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Mine was for punishment for who knows why. That's the thing, you go crazy chasing them even more because you feel like it's your fault when in reality they are just enacting their evil spirit.
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The reason I stopped being interested in intimacy was because he is mean all the time. I don’t feel like thats the same thing. He says I do it on purpose but I don’t think he is entitled to anything if he treats me badly. If anything, he has no one to blame but himself. I literally don’t wanna have sex too because it’s just so awkward and uncomfortable. I’ve become very self-conscious.
This is my story as well! I started withholding because he is so mean. But, he doesn't even care about not being intimate with me.Which hurts even worse. Talk about reverse psychology. SMH
They aren’t always getting it from someone else. Some got something else going on in their heads .They crazy!!! LEEE YOU DONT SOUND CRAZY!! This has been my thoughts for the longest!!! Acting like they are saving up for the necxt one.. 😂😂😂 BUT God ain’t gon let it happen that way. They are physically very ill. But the 😈 may still have them thinking delusional.🤷🏽♀️ Lee you da man!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
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This is very true in my case , everything spot on.
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My ex fiancé did this immediately after my 40th bday dinner bf God exposed this toxic 🤢💩🐸….pulls up w/ a brand new rav 4 and thought he was gonna run me n my son out of the home we bought…..to be with the he/she 🤔🤷🏽♀️😱 he was cheating on me with….But God turned it all around for my good the house sold now he’s living with his toxic brother indefinitely….oh n no money! 😂🤣🙏🏾💪🏾🙅🏽♀️🎭👋🏾👈🏾💨💸
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My ex narc was only maybe once or twice a month....maybe.
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But also Lee, once a narc sees you love him and want to be with him he "wifeys" you up- you are now Mama. Narcs put people in 2 catagories-the good and the bad. If you're good and loving etc-they aren't turned on. They parentalize you. They make you Mommy or Daddy. So they gotta go look for the "bad" ho types , that's who they can have relations with. Crazy for sure!!!
Thats very sad 😢
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Now This one I never heard omg. Cheating on yooooooooooooooou, but feel like their cheating on the one they cheating on you with is cheating on new supply.............. Leeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee Help meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee I am ON the floor.
it's crazy
I was married for 12 years to a narcissist. I was young at the time, the hormones were flowing, and I was extremely attracted to him. However, he withheld sex all the time and would give me the silent treatment whenever I tried to discuss the issue with him.
in our 12 year marriage we had sex less than 10 times. It was slowly killing me. Interestingly, we have two kids. I suppose I was fortunate that I was able to get pregnant so easily…otherwise I may not have any children based on the fact that we rarely had sex.
Over the last four years, I have been involved with a narcissistic neighbor who also used sex as a weapon. He would criticize my body and my techniques.
As I approach 50 years of age this year, I am beginning to realize that I am really messed up in the head sexually and regarding intimacy with men. Toxic narcissistic people can cause a lot of trauma and damage for other people.
My Nasty Narc didn’t withhold sex from me he was very abusive towards me in the bedroom.. I kept repeatedly telling him I don’t like his sexual behaviors it’s not pleasing to me… He refused to listen and most of the time I had to sleep with my daughter just to get away from Mr.Jail!
I follow her i love both of your content ❤️Question kind of 🤔 what if you don’t believe he’s cheating because he’s constantly under you but constantly withholds ex from me what is he gaining from that ? It’s such a terrible terrible feeling 😔
Can you please share her page I would love to watch and follow.
My ex would literally say to me he witheld affection if I didn't act how he thought was right. What an a$$hat.
I should really book a session with you cuz omg! 😩
My ex would deny me and discard me then go have sex with men and women behind my back and to this day I'm the one who got away. He has a lot of bad connection lovers and he plays them all. I'm so glad I broke free from that hell. What u say is exactly right. He raped me to punish me too. It was so scary and traumatic for me.
Oh man
It’s common for narcs to go both ways - I’m sorry that happened I’m glad you got away
@PrettyLola-mm4ux me too but it awakened me to how people can be and it made me stronger once I left him. I know he was breaking me down hard and I was so confused. I never felt that awful and lost. I found me again and I'm healing after many years it's finally behind me and this is part of my healing to see I'm not alone. I'm very grateful for y'all who relate to me and God. It saved my life once waking up to this and knowing it wasn't all my fault. I just had to educate myself and see my worth.
@@jenniferking1422 I’m glad you were atleast aware of what a narc is which will help you heal, I didn’t know what narcissists were on TH-cam until after 10 plus yrs of abuse
It was what made me look into a fb page about cheating men and found out that he had been attempting to talk to many females in our little city. I also found out who the mistress/sidechick was because he was so simple as to accidentally screenshot her snap in some court evidence he took to court. Needless to say after our 7 yo confirmed it was who I thought months later I successfully had her subpoenaed to court. She was a dispatcher, he is a firefighter (it's always someone they work close to). I'm a nurse, that's how he met me. He flirted with a lot of nurses from what I saw in his phone before the birth of our child.
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😂😂 love the humour
Appreciate it
My ex husband went a year without touching me and was cruel…. I thought he was just getting happy in the shower but I was wrong…. I even knew his girlfriends it’s awful ….. I thought something was wrong with me…… but with Gods help I made it throught
Multiple sex partners. It’s never just one. There’s nothing wrong with you and don’t let them play the Jedi mind trick games with you. This is how they regulate their emotions. They’ve been this way when you met them and after. Get tested asap and pray to God you don’t have a std.
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It quickly turns into a blessing🙌🏽 as you're thinking your body is betraying you. Once you realize it's actually THEM messing up your ph... be indifferent, restrict and remove sex.
I stopped sleeping in the same bed with them for six months, and left silently because why do need you berating me to stay.🚶🏽♀️
She was me and I knew it
After this relationship ended, I craved any kind of male attention and didn't care who is he.
Called myself old, fat and ugly many times. Was toxicly envious of the "pretty" girls.
Binge used dating apps. Walked around in incredibly short shorts. Was ok with stalking and date r*ping from a guy I randomly met on the street.
Didn't notice someone is into me, because nobody can be into such an ugly girl.
Hyperfixated on my physical imperfections, but didn't take care of myself anyway.
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I'm going through this right now
That sucks
I knew some women who were married to narc men and they refused them for sexy time. They pleased themselves in front of their husband... then all of a sudden he wants to join. NOPE.
Wow
@@tranquility9325 this sounds like the mental gymnastics of a narc when they see you living your life on social media after the breakup…. Comparing it to this 🤣🤣
“YOU WERE A WIFE TO ME. YOU WERE MY HEART MY WIFE MY LIFE. NOW I HAVE TO WATCH YOU BE HAPPY WITHOUT ME AND I CANT EVEN CONTACT YOU. IN MY MIND AND MY PERCEPTION ITS JUST LIKE YOURE LAYING NEXT TO ME AND I CANT EVEN TOUCH YOU.”
This happened to me ,30 years of marriage ,sooo I had a 2 year affair with his best friend,an when he found out he couldn’t fathom it ,I couldn’t fathom he couldn’t fathom it lol,games ,,I threw the ball back ,hard ,he got what he deserved,,lol
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Im happy my ex and I never engaged in intimacy of any kind cuz if we did and he was great at it...I would have stayed with him longer.
The thing is, I've always stuck up for myself and have always been a strong person. Hes tried to make me feel ugly, less than and not worthy...but he never got to me like that. I have friends who hype me up and make me feel good about myself and I know I can get anyone I want of any gender (not trying to sound cocky...it's just the reality of my life).
protect your peace
These kind of toxic relationships happening daily so ... and most of them survive like me
stay safe
He was always with a certain man...
I'm going to find her. Ty so much.
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So in my case.. we reconnected after a yr of no contact.. seggs was cool for about 2 days then he just stopped..when I asked why the switch up, he said my timing was too random and I was treating him like a piece of meat, so what y’all think really happened?
He wanted to confuse and hurt you. He had some old grudge against you and got revenge this way.
I bet your on point here @@minoozolala
@@minoozolalaI thought of this.. bc I was nothing but kind to him.. on that second night, he said it was a good time..
But I didn’t return to the compliment and I think that’s where it started… I mean, it was only like 5mins 😂
Perhaps there was someone else?
Big mistake to “reconnect” he just wanted to see if you would let him hit and had his taste- now he’s off to do what they do best-be with everyone.
Hey Lee my ex narc wants me to come on social media and do funny skits together I think it's a setup for smearing as you would say a smear campaign of my life to destroy me.
Stay vigilant
Stay away
He wants to use you to bait more chicks u must be cute
He's going to take advantage of you and smear you in real time and make it seem like your a monster. You should skip this lesson and block them
No contact.
How do we reach you to discuss having a 1 : 1 ????
www.mentalhealness.net
😂😂 be happy let others be stressing about std im out bye
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Idk how it happened,- but a literal month went by without so much as a mention of “the deed “…! And we live together, as well as we are also not elderly! And he has NO excuse or explanation for it and i don’t know how to get an honest answer out of him.
@SamanthaNDcoatings simpel just take every intimicy away from him to. Go out. Have fun with friends. Egnore him back. See how he reacts where he blames you off he is doing that himself if its a narcist 🤷🏼♀️
@LinMeulen I have been going out with friends more, and I am open to any ideas cuz he refuses to admit to any misconduct- although I suspect he is even doing something in my home behind my back
@SamanthaNDcoatings place a camera in your house. Place it where he sits often. If you can so you can see what is doing on his phone to. Maybe say your leaving the house. But stay close to see if he leaves the house to or someone is getting over. Says your a few ours away. So many ways to find out. Say a friend saw him with a other woman even if its not true. Just say she called you and sent pictures see how he reacts. But the best thing is leave him. Like you dont trust him anyway. Trust is the foundation of a relationship.
I left my husband because he would not get an STD test after having a three sum with two girls that was told to have HIV or Aids. While we was separated. I tried to work the marriage out. He refused to respect my boundaries that I wasn't going to have sex with him until he was tested. Instead he reverse it and said I needed to get tested because I had slept with multiple men. I was like WTH are you talking about. I said name them b/c I can name 5 women you slept. He turned my kids on me
This is exactly right 🥹
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He was sleeping with someone else
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So what if I’m being verbally abused and I shut down and withhold sex, am I a narcissist
NO
If you're considering the thought (esp out loud to others) that you're a narc you're usually not one.
Just wondering if this bas happened to anyone else in rhe comments ..but what about 🌽? Have yall ever had an ex, narc or not, that you found out had a 🌽 addiction that got out of control , to the point they cant get it up when its sexy time...i thought he was cheating and went through his phone, combed it and nothing .. put it down and picked it up one more time just to see about dating sites and whoa ..reality check of my life..and we had A LOT of boom boom ..that was two years ago ,we just went down hill from there and i left a few months ago, ...but we still kinda talk ,and now ive been rejected sexually and thats HUGE, never thought he would or could ...its a person or the internet ...thank god im closer to the side of idgaf anymore...so fucking pathetic
the 🌽 can be a huge issue
@MentalHealness Hey can you give me your email one more time? Im the one that's local here in Durham, wanted to reach out about talking to you for your new segment ...I really need to join your support group too I'm getting on that today fr, I need an outlet to say the least lol
What was her name?
@isurvivedamonster
It does make you lose confidence like what’s wrong with me that’s when I knew it had to be somebody else. You telling on yourself these are all the signs he’s cheating smh
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@MentalHealness I'm just kinda of shocked but I'm one girl that is reserved I don't go out here with this person and that person. I'm praying God sends me a good person in my life. Cause wheew
@MentalHealness I'm very reserved I will not deal with this man and that man. These are some I don't know what to say about the world 🌍 today.
Not always true it can be nasty talking woman always accusing you of stuff you never done bad emotions
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@@MentalHealness he means false alligation, accuse you of things that aren't true
My husband says you're the one acting like a fool because we don't have anything to worry about why shouldn't I listen to a man that I know that have similar characters to yours what do you fear
I’m a fool?
I remember I put on a little outfit for him after we just got back from picking up dinner. When I snuck off to put it on turned the corner, he looked at me and said “yeah…but the food will get cold.” …I went and changed. 😒
Man I wish I had heard this back when I was with my ex-Narc. It seems so straight forward but not while you’re in it.