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I think Kafka's letter to his father reads differently. Kafka percieves his relationship with his father more as a clash of different natures than abuse. He does not hold the relationship against his father.
Does not mean, that the relationship was not abusive, but that after trying to analyse his own relationship with his father Kafka he came to a different conclusion
Yes, the trial so accurately captures the narcissist’s double bind even before I knew his back story or if that is even what he meant to portray. It’s scarily accurate to those kinds of dynamics.
😂 I miss when it was just an existentialist kind of thought experiment. When it’s a real spiritual and metaphysical predicament it’s kind of horrifying to endure.
Kafka, to me, seemed sad and somber than hateful. As though he mourned what should have been but never was. A tragedy to realize none can be fully trusted as we live in a fallen world.
I will never forget reading the metamorphosis and it struck a haunting cord with me in my youth. Little did I know; the insidious motives of the ones I “loved” around me. Some of us didn’t stand a chance. My mother treated me the same way, some Words you can’t forget as much as you try
The Metamorphosis is a brilliant work, shocking, and engrossing. Yearning for care is a powerful emotion evoked in that particular beauty of literature. Pray you have found that care, vertically and above. Blessings to you God rest
I was heavily abused as a child and it resonated deeply with me too. Took me decades to realize and accept my parents just don't love me. Poor Kafka couldn't break through, but in his failure he produced art better than I ever could.
@@Dhrrhee3e11a76 I’m really sorry to hear that a book that helped me was man’s search for meaning by viktor frankl and Anton chekovs works - particularly Robert greenes mention of chekov in his book laws of human nature in which he outlined how chekov was heavily abused by his father. Life is not fair but despite your tribulations I hope that you know you have God given worth and value - it’s your birthright.
@@habibtiz4335 I love Chéjov and Dostoevski too. There's another writer who is not well known because she was a Jewish woman from Ucrania during the Second World War, Irene Nemirovski. There are articles on the internet about her relationship with her mother. She wrote about her in her novels "Jezebel" and "The dance". It was Jezebel which opened my eyes to the fact my mother was another with the same spirit.
As a resident in the Czech Republic, I've wondered what Kafka would think of the bizarre megalithic, metallic, reflective, mechanically metamorphosizing sculpture of his head that now exists in downtown Prague.
Speaking of Nietzsche and solitude, here's one of my favourite aphorisms on this topic: Anotherreasonfor solitude! - A: So you intend to return to your desert? - B: I am not quick moving, I have to wait for myself- it is always late before the water comes to light out of the well of my self, and I often have to endure thirst for longer than I have patience. That is why I gc into solitude - so as not to drink out of everybody’s cistern. When I am among the many I live as the many do, and I do not think as I really think; after a time it always seems as though they want to banish me from myself and rob me of my soul - and I grow angry with everybody and fear everybody. I then require the desert, so as to grow good again.
I think the last part proves he didn't hate people, but was more afraid of them. As said in the video if you hate everyone around you, you relinquish your responsibility towards others and lose sight of the damage you're able to inflict. Sorry for my English
When I first told my dad about Franz Kafka's life and his relationship with his father, he told me that: "Hermann Kafka is the perfect example of a father who has failed his sacred duty. His failings become clear with how he treated his only son; a father is meant to encourage and inspire their son so that they can become strong and thrive. But Hermann instilled so much fear and anxiety within Franz that he could never mount the courage or independence he needed to survive. The only saving grace is that, hopefully, Hermann must have felt immense pain, guilt, and humiliation at the death of his only son before him. The realisation that his family name ends with the death of his only son he denied true love and guidance had to have haunted him till the end of his days."
I grew up with a father who completely replicates the behaviors of Kafka's father. I knew to some degree Kafka's words resonated with me but I never knew to what extent. Thank you for covering this topic it would have never occurred to me the need to be accepted and the fear of being known has left me a shell of who I could have been.
Kafka's dad gave him CPTSD. The internal judge that takes the place of his father's judgements is the inner critic. Hating and fearing others is the outer critic. Welcome to my life.
You are not alone in this. I have heard half of the global population have childhood trauma although most of us don't know it. The same person, an ex-CIA agent said that those who have been traumatized are those who have a real sense of reality because they are not part of the herd
Only one minute into the video and I feel like you are describing my life. My father was very abusive physically, emotionally and psychologically. He was also sexually abusive to my mother and my sisters. I am over 50 years old now and I still have scars that won't heal and while I have somehow learned to let go of the hate I have for most people, I find myself unable to let go of the hate I feel about him if I think about the horrible things he put our family through. I am a writer and I am able to write about anything, but I cannot bring myself to write about my life growing up or what I have had to survive because I don't want to relive those experiences more than I already do in my head everyday. I have been wanting to find someone to talk to about my childhood, but have not been successful in finding someone I feel comfortable with. I can't afford therapy and I don't want to go to any support groups because those are usually religious based and I don't want a lecture about accepting God since I'm not religious myself. I manage to get through each day on my own and most of the time I am ok, but sometimes I really need someone to talk to. Besides the abuse from my father, I have also survived abuse from others as a child and into adulthood stemming from extreme bullying to being beaten and being molested at a young age and sexually assaulted in later years. As I said, I have learned to let go of most of the hate I used to carry with the exception of my father and while I don't hate anyone else, I do find it more and more difficult to trust anyone else. I have cut ties with all my relatives except my mother because they are toxic and dysfunctional and I feel less stress not being around any of them. The only reason I still talk to my mother is because we share a place and I would leave if I didn't feel the guilt that she might not make it on her own. Anyway, I will end my rant because I have said more than I expected. Thank you to anyone who reads this and I hope you have a wonderful day.
There isn’t anything to say to outright make you feel better or affirm your experiences and feeling but i feel the need to acknowledge this, that it meant something to me and sadly to many others. I found it tough to read and even tougher to form any words, but I was touched. I used to fear my own similar thoughts would never go away, the majority haven’t, but I too have learned to go on with life and my passions. I will end my blabbering as I don’t find it will do much good/change but know you didn’t deserve any of it and you are not alone, as much as it can seem that way. Seeing older people confront and share such things in a safe way was the reason I felt comfortable and began to understand hatred, suicide or self harm would not end the pain for myself or anyone. Thank you, I hope you too can have a wonderful day.
@@swagcat420 Thank you for your kind words. If what I said helps someone else, then it has served its purpose and I am glad if that happens. I hope that everyone learns to survive whatever they are going through.
Excellent analysis, especially in these heady days of the narcissism pandemic. There's an interesting similarly toxic power dynamic, when a person just agrees with you, praises you no matter what you do. It's a kind of vacuous Indifference that can create a monster
I realized in this video you're talking a bit more slowly and, as a non native english speaker, I appreciate that. And as always, amazing video! Big fan of Kafka and of your channel.
Sometimes I read transcription so I can follow him better and if I find something I didn't grab or I want to chew on it makes it easier to stop, re-read, think and proceeds. You'll find misspelling but it is still useful.
Ive ɓeen going through this same thing. Im 40 years old and i used to be outgoing funny and enjoyed hanging out with friends. Now i havent left the house since 2018 and i feel like ive lost touch with people. Everything feels so wrong and weird now.
Definitely resonate with your comment mate. A recent friend I've outgrown since I recognised his narcastic and controlling manipulate nature came to visit from Australia. I just told him outright that we no longer share the same values and did not make contact with them. They are completely full of their ego and worship money which are things I simply have no care for. I see a lot of introverted deep empaths realise this now later in life, it's like you can see through the fakeness and manipulation with intense ease and just simply refuse to no longer let them have any control over you.
There's such thing as too much solitude, and losing touch is tragic in itself. As a writer, I'm forced to interact more than I'd like to, as I don't have the option to lose touch. But I still find spans of solitude to reclaim myself and muster the strength to forge ahead. Those spans tend not to be more than a few weeks. Consider professional counseling...it's a good thing.
I never read Kafka but all this stuff he's been through reminds me of my current situation and the total emptyness and confusion I used to live with just very recently. Socialisation is dangerous and I just can't do it anymore! It's overwhelming and stresses me to the point of being physically hurt. Sometimes, even just the thought of having other people close to me hurts. But at the same time, I want people around me who respect and take me seriously. I feel more and more ripped apart every single day. And the worst thing is: I used to blame myself! Now it seems very odd to me but I assumed that if I wasn't in control I was simply incompetent. I have parental issues myself and they have projected onto me the ideal of absolute control. I reached a point where I thought my life itself was just not worth it anymore because I would just hurt people with my wish for absolute control. To this day, I hate having doors and windows behind me because I feel like I have to look behind my back nonstop. Whenever I talk with people, a voice inside me tells me to stop immediately. But when I am alone, the same voice tells me to socialise so I'm not alone. I know the struggle of contracting thoughts and yes, my parents do expect contradictory things from me too! Not only that but I was stigmatised and bullied for my neurodivergence at school to the point where the peers tried to kill me several times. And I thought my parents cared about me when in reality they want me to succeed only and exclusively for the sake their own feeling of success! I lived through all of this nonsense and I'm about to turn 17 next month. I just want to turn into a happy, confident and decisive young adult but I feel like these scars will stay for the rest of my life. I want children so they can live better than me but at the same time, I don't want to repeat the bad habits my parents made and planted into my brain in front of them. I want friendships but at the same time, I don't want anyone to ever stab me from behind again. Honestly, there were barely any memorable thoughts, mostly from my earliest phase before school and from a primary school I used to be in. I need to take distance from all the things around me so I can observe them carefully. I have negative intrusive thoughts, regular outbreaks out of nowhere, many clinical emergencies recently and so much more! I usually feel like an old man losing his last life energy, with my constant mental background noise and headache, my constant tiredness and lack of focus, my extreme sensitivity and pickyness. At home, I've always been criticised for what I eat. I am afraid of water and even ridiculously small height differences. I can't stand people being physically close to me. I can't even stand small, crowded or noisy rooms. I can't maintain any structure and always end up with a spaghetti pile of stuff. I used to have a hard time dealing with my very own memories. I procrastinate far more often than what is acceptable for me and for what I like to do. I lack any motivation for anything, lack any physical strength and resistance. I hate doing nearly any kind of sports, especially when it involves running or using my knees in any other way. But despite all this destruction happening in the material world, I was able to keep my world of imagination intact. It's been the only thing saving me from commiting suicide. It's been and always will be my last resort for rinning away from my mental stress when I just can't handle my difficult combination of terrible situations. It's been the place thya saved me from losing all my faith in myself and in other people. It's been my medicine ever since I can remember. It reminds me that I have a dream of my own and I'm alive to make it true! Noone can and will ever take that away from me! Noone can take me away my wisdom, though acquired the worst way imaginable, if not far beyond. Noone can take me away my philosophy for life! Noone will ever make me dead again, I will resist with all my power, no matter how little I have left of it! I died and I resurrected! And I am here to learn, heal and enjoy. I am here to sit back and look far into the fields of humanity, as puny, unaware, useless and ridiculous as humans seem to be so often. I was born to be alive!
When you find yourself wondering if you are good enough for someone else, perhaps it's time for you to start to wonder if they are good enough for you.
@@unsolicitedadvice9198 Your work ethic and ability to create content that is both informative and approachable without being condescending or ironic to diminish your points is absolutely phenomenal. Seriously keep up the good work. I send your videos often to friends when we talk a little bit about philosophy.
Excellent video! This video hit home for me so much. Maybe that’s why I’ve been drawn to Kafka’s writing lately. I’ve been subjected to narcissistic abuse repeatedly in my lifetime. Repeated negative experiences make one cynical about others and humanity. That’s why I’m my most content when I’m alone.
This is truly impactful and insightful. I can relate to Kafka. The difference is I got fed up with the social BS. The greatest lesson I learned is that it's all a mind game. That's the cheat code.
I appreciate how you personalize your analysis and reflect on how it makes you feel about your own life. All individuals have a tinge of personal bias, or personal emotional connection to their analysis, so I appreciate that you are upfront about it. It makes your analyses more interesting and relatable to listen to.
I hate how relatable so much of this is... The just enough warmth and being aware of the good and bad hit (and the effects of those things) especially hard.
I never really noticed before, but reading with the subs like this that tracks the word really helps with comprehension. So often when I'm sucked into the algo I just sort of zone out and barely anything gets in but I found this video to be a lot clearer beyond just your eloquence
Fight the algorithm my friend. Like a Jedi.. Only engage with any content that aims to enlighten or entertain. Anything positive... Avoid anything that is divisive or hateful. It does wonders for your psyche. Peace to you my friend ❤
I can see why Kafka has become so popular recently. I'm sinking into something I don't understand well. His words help somewhat in understanding it but never escaping from it.
You are truly working like Kierkegaard, consistently uploading high-quality videos every 4 days, just as he used to publish multiple high-quality books yearly. Keep up the great work! I enjoy your content very much. 👏❤
@@unsolicitedadvice9198 Additionally, thank you for your thoughts on the "suffering" aspect of Crime and Punishment. I just finished reading the book today and have been eagerly waiting to watch your videos covering it.
when i had first read the metamorphosis last year when i was 15 i immediately became enamored with his work and all of his principles and since then i have read another 3 books from him, the castle, letter to his father and the verdict. love your channel man, never cease to upload
Recently found out your philosophical videos as I have a keen interest in that ... Want to say that your videos are very helpful and like the way you present them ... Keep the good work 😊
As old as I am, I question myself often. Am I right? Was I wrong. I hide my self from others. And fear others knowing me. I remain reticent and superficial in my relationships with others outside my family. I have no deep and abiding friendships. It’s often lonely.
Yes. However, I believe that you can break away from such a cycle by doing small things that can help you. To restart. You first need to be self-aware and recognise the triggers of the cycle. Once your ready, change it with actions. Like, if it was a person, walk away from them. I know it's easier said than done. But actions speak louder than words. I wish you well Blud.
My father is just like Kafka's. Carbon copy. My eldest brother is a homeless basket case that is entirely alienated from our family because he expects rejection, my youngest brother committed suicide after a lifetime of trying to be noticed: tagging things where everybody could see, losijf himself in drugs and gang life to escape and find masculinity and belonging, getting the family name tattooed on him before rushing home to show Dad first, and finally hanging himself where only my dad would find him. Our dad has no idea what he's done wrong to cause all of this and none of us can tell him. We have all been damaged in our family by this very character. Tragic. Our dad himself was in a home of extreme violence when he was young, plagued with suicide and substance abuse. The cycle continues.
That's why I stopped being religious at age 7. Since I was so young, it wasn't too hard but for the first time ever, I did notice the trouble of getting rid of your limiting beliefs.
I had not known about Kafkas father when I read Die Verwandlung (idk the English title) and I cried almost all the way through reading bc of the relatability suffering from depression and I remember Gregors father having a huge impact on that relatability. It makes sense now.
Kafka's relationship with his father sounds eerily familar, right down to the mixture of criticism and gratitude - the latter especially is something I'm still coming to terms with. How do you reject someone who you owe your life to? The only people that ever called my father outright terrible were the therapists I talked to and I always involuntarily reacted by defending him.
I used to have a friend like Herman but would look for other people while still stringing me along until I got tired of her little game. I managed to break free but with the consequence of being alone for a while until fining the right people. And I do not regret saying no to every demand she sent my way. I am so glad that I have friends who treat me as an equal and don’t treat me like a puppet, or a pawn.
I found a new favorite hobby, carving wood while listening to people break down classic work . Chefs kiss, also I love being strange enough to understand Kafka. The narcissist creates the empath like a farmer produces pigs . boars when farmed get soft pink and lose their tusks , kindness is in nature, weakness. As I get older I find it strong enough to be attacked constantly and too seasoned to be truly manipulated . The spirit of one with righteousness is indomitable
You know what, I saw your videos at the start of a really rough thing I was, and almost still am going through. I've never been more thankful for the timing of life, and the algorithm of youtube. I'm proud of myself for being a person who not only can call someone out on their behavior but also be just as nice to them and recognize the great parts of who they are deep down. Ever sinner has a future, every saint a past.
You are correct my friend. It not only happens in families but it in the ruling elite and government, who inflict the same methods on the masses. Peace to you ❤💫
The bit about how Kafka still yearned for his father's approval later in life combined with the arbitrary drip-feed of love and approval he got as a child reminded me of Skinner's pigeon experiment and behavioral modification tactics. His father was likely unintentionally using variable-ratio and variable-interval positive reinforcement combined with fixed-interval negative reinforcement. According to the literature I'm familiar with, this would cause Kafka to learn quickly and try to avoid behaviors that drew his father's ire a la the FI negative, repeated and consistent high frequency attempts to seek approval from the VR and VI positive, and the long term behavior extinction resistance from the VR and VI. The fact that the behavior that drew love, affection, or disapproval was itself variable only compounds the effects and suffering.
Thank you so much for your work. I have a deep feeling as I share exactly the same experience with Kafka. Maybe I experience something worse? I don't know, but at least today I know that I am not the only one suffering from this brutal world
i suspect his father Hermann had his own demons, resentments and inadequacies that he released onto his son as a sort of emotional outlet. Hurt people hurt people
Some people have no business being fathers or mothers, I feel really bad for Kafka but I'm glad he used his experience to create an outlet for expressing himself.
Hermann had a very different childhood from his son.I'm not defending him but he probably thought many of his actions were a way of building the character of Franz, whom he saw as too delicate and fragile to face the world. It's quite sad to think that by doing that he only maximized his fears and insecurities, precisely what he was trying to avoid.
Perhaps Hermann was so harsh because he knew Kaftka saw who he really was - hence, Hermann's need to distort Kaftka's reality. You have to wonder what Hermann's definition of character is as well.
@@cristig243 I read that Kafka left a copy of the letter to Hermann and his mother was able to intercept it and told Franz he could not read it because it would hurt him deeply. Of course we can say she was just protecting both from confrontation.
The problem with this logic is that the world is a brutish, cold, and cruel place. It will never fail to test your strength. So I’d argue parents really don’t need to “strengthen” their children to help them learn this lesson. They’ll learn it pretty quickly through daily living. However, one thing that is extremely rare in this world is genuine and authentic love for one another. Parents are the primary source of this love and dictate how the child will view themselves in the coming years. Parents should prioritize loving their children, because it’s possible that the child will never experience love in any other capacity throughout its entire life. To take that from the child is unimaginably cruel and creates a whole host of issues in the future. My father was like this, and it’s permanently messed me up. I’m convinced I’ll never marry and have children due to what he did to me.
That's why I don't like Kafka and Nietzsche much. This is why I love Dostoevsky and Camus. I was on both chairs, afterall the question is thinnening to simple to be or not to be, after all what happened :3 you have a great channel dude, tremendous passion in your voice, I like it, I enjoy.
only my opinion, but i would remove the captions or at least make them long and full sentences. but either way you're doing great, keep up the good work , we really appreciate your content.
Just Brilliant! Great job! Really makes me reflect on my own life, and our own patterns, WOW!!! I can definitely relate, with a very abusive father and PTSD. My heart goes out to others with similar stories Life can be hard and TRULY difficult at times... the sweet is never as sweet without the sour.❤
It's like Kafka was talking about my own life. Narcissists are sadly, all exactly alike. As if they all follow the same play-book of cruelty. Thank you Kafka for writing these things down and making an impact that few others have.
Im a mix of Dostoevsky and Kafka Well.. Dostoevsky Saïd once.. suffering and pain are always mandatory broad minds and deep harts. Truly great people, its seems to me, should feel great sadness on this Earth.. that hit me in my b@lls
Your right on a lot of this. I think fear is irrational. Fear is pointless under all circumstances because it won't change anything already decided upon.
That teeter totterring between isolation and being immersed was something i thought was damaging. But i too felt like i dont like being too versed in circles & people's lives
Who knows how many times we robbed our children from their individual way of expressing their talents. But not knowing for sure, how can we make it up to them?.
@@almightybeanchild how would you know the trials of a father at the time. One man's good is another man's bad. Has always been and will always be. It's called life. How can I hate my mother? She gave me life and did what she thought wS best for me as did my father, as did I to my 6 children. They, I hope will try do better in turn. 🤷
You are a very captivating speaker. From the moment you begin to speak, you owned my my attention and interest. Your manner of expression is so dignified and inspiring. Thank you for your most delightful videos.
Just discovered your channel. Love Kafka, his work is so stimulating. I have read The Penal Colony - what a masterpiece! It actually made sense in that strange Kafka way.
People, trapped in our own sensorium, tend to focus on their intentions while ignoring their impact. My mother said to me as a young man, "I don't understand you." I replied, "Do you have to?" While she said, no I guess not, I could see she did. I eventually learned I had exceeded her capacity and I could not look to her for comfort and support anymore. Sadly, it seems that Franz could not make that leap. It's difficult to realize our parents are just regular humans who may or may not have wanted to have a child, or didn't consider it much at all. I sometimes feel like fans of Freddy N like to say, "The more I know about people, the more I like my dog." Yea, duh. People are messy, demanding, and the dog does not care if you respect them. They have no concept of respect. Personally, I think people who obsess over power dynamics or see the world as a place they have to assert dominance over are mentally and emotionally stunted. I think it is a false dichotomy to say that participation in a group *necessarily* costs us some part of our individuality. The group may demand that of us, but it is only necessary to remain in that group. Capitalism has atomized and alienated us from our communities, fooling us into believing that no one owes us anything, and by extension we own no one anything. Then we wonder why our communities suffer in decline. As a High Bard of Bacchus, I have faith in people. I consider it more difficult than faith in a god. People actually exist. However, I also have faith they will be *people* which tempers my expectations. We can also give grace to those who are struggling in the moment, as difficult as that is. They might give a kind word at any other time.
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I was just reading Kafka
is this fate?😮
or maybe something I can't comprehend
everything I desire comes into being in front of me whereas I only need the eyes to see
it has long been in front of me...
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I think Kafka's letter to his father reads differently. Kafka percieves his relationship with his father more as a clash of different natures than abuse. He does not hold the relationship against his father.
Does not mean, that the relationship was not abusive, but that after trying to analyse his own relationship with his father Kafka he came to a different conclusion
Kafka speaks for all of us who have survived narcissistic abuse.
Thank you
He sure does
He does
This casts a different light on The Trial. Being held guilty for something but never being told what you did wrong
Yes, the trial so accurately captures the narcissist’s double bind even before I knew his back story or if that is even what he meant to portray. It’s scarily accurate to those kinds of dynamics.
@@hoobeshoobes and what of the society being juge jury and executioner
The horrors of gaslighting?
The way Kafka's father acts eerily hits home...
my dad was gay, hits home for me too
My father was also a narcissist, but I got the last laugh by not becoming a famous novelist
Yep. I feel like there's loads of us here.
@@themikekren5564 What a sweet revenge!
The pain. Of growing up with no one to look up to.
The Metamorphosis: "Would you still love me if I was a bug?"
Best authors seem to have something in common; they all had a terrible childhood/life.😢
The classic literature book where the answer was: Hell nha!
Go ahead Skunk.
Please write.
You won't regret it.
Love peace.and
inspiration to you.
😂 I miss when it was just an existentialist kind of thought experiment. When it’s a real spiritual and metaphysical predicament it’s kind of horrifying to endure.
Would you still love me if I became the bug you judge me to be
Kafka, to me, seemed sad and somber than hateful. As though he mourned what should have been but never was. A tragedy to realize none can be fully trusted as we live in a fallen world.
Just another in a long line of sickly, world-weary, life-denying philosophers as Nietzsche made us all aware
Yes, but it's just world, I wouldn't call it fallen, it was never better, nature cannot be trusted and therefore none of its products can be trusted
the world hasn't fallen we have!
@blunt92 and everything that was entrusted to us. You know, the world.
I will never forget reading the metamorphosis and it struck a haunting cord with me in my youth. Little did I know; the insidious motives of the ones I “loved” around me. Some of us didn’t stand a chance. My mother treated me the same way, some
Words you can’t forget as much as you try
The Metamorphosis is a brilliant work, shocking, and engrossing. Yearning for care is a powerful emotion evoked in that particular beauty of literature. Pray you have found that care, vertically and above.
Blessings to you
God rest
I was heavily abused as a child and it resonated deeply with me too. Took me decades to realize and accept my parents just don't love me.
Poor Kafka couldn't break through, but in his failure he produced art better than I ever could.
@@Dhrrhee3e11a76 I’m really sorry to hear that a book that helped me was man’s search for meaning by viktor frankl and Anton chekovs works - particularly Robert greenes mention of chekov in his book laws of human nature in which he outlined how chekov was heavily abused by his father. Life is not fair but despite your tribulations I hope that you know you have God given worth and value - it’s your birthright.
@@habibtiz4335
I love Chéjov and Dostoevski too. There's another writer who is not well known because she was a Jewish woman from Ucrania during the Second World War, Irene Nemirovski. There are articles on the internet about her relationship with her mother. She wrote about her in her novels "Jezebel" and "The dance". It was Jezebel which opened my eyes to the fact my mother was another with the same spirit.
@@Lyrielonwind Thanks
As a resident in the Czech Republic, I've wondered what Kafka would think of the bizarre megalithic, metallic, reflective, mechanically metamorphosizing sculpture of his head that now exists in downtown Prague.
Speaking of Nietzsche and solitude, here's one of my favourite aphorisms on this topic:
Anotherreasonfor solitude! - A: So you intend to return to your desert? - B: I am not quick moving, I have to wait for myself- it is always late before the water comes to light out of the well of my self, and I often have to endure thirst for longer than I have patience. That is why I gc into solitude - so as not to drink out of everybody’s cistern. When I am among the many I live as the many do, and I do not think as I really think; after a time it always seems as though they want to banish me from myself and rob me of my soul - and I grow angry with everybody and fear everybody. I then require the desert, so as to grow good again.
Absolutely beautiful
I think the last part proves he didn't hate people, but was more afraid of them. As said in the video if you hate everyone around you, you relinquish your responsibility towards others and lose sight of the damage you're able to inflict.
Sorry for my English
@@PixlyPenguinif I could say that in any language other than my own, I’d be proud of myself. Well done
@@sararichardson737 thank you, that means a lot :)
When I first told my dad about Franz Kafka's life and his relationship with his father, he told me that:
"Hermann Kafka is the perfect example of a father who has failed his sacred duty. His failings become clear with how he treated his only son; a father is meant to encourage and inspire their son so that they can become strong and thrive. But Hermann instilled so much fear and anxiety within Franz that he could never mount the courage or independence he needed to survive. The only saving grace is that, hopefully, Hermann must have felt immense pain, guilt, and humiliation at the death of his only son before him. The realisation that his family name ends with the death of his only son he denied true love and guidance had to have haunted him till the end of his days."
I doubt he could really feel all that after how he abused him.
you can aspire to inspire but you can't teach it's a verb to learn its desire to affect success to impact
I grew up with a father who completely replicates the behaviors of Kafka's father. I knew to some degree Kafka's words resonated with me but I never knew to what extent. Thank you for covering this topic it would have never occurred to me the need to be accepted and the fear of being known has left me a shell of who I could have been.
Kafka's dad gave him CPTSD. The internal judge that takes the place of his father's judgements is the inner critic. Hating and fearing others is the outer critic.
Welcome to my life.
You are not alone in this. I have heard half of the global population have childhood trauma although most of us don't know it. The same person, an ex-CIA agent said that those who have been traumatized are those who have a real sense of reality because they are not part of the herd
Oh, yes, Kafka had a really hard time.
@@Lyrielonwind100 percent ❤
Kafka’s pain is resonant and so human ❤️🩹 great video
Only one minute into the video and I feel like you are describing my life. My father was very abusive physically, emotionally and psychologically. He was also sexually abusive to my mother and my sisters. I am over 50 years old now and I still have scars that won't heal and while I have somehow learned to let go of the hate I have for most people, I find myself unable to let go of the hate I feel about him if I think about the horrible things he put our family through. I am a writer and I am able to write about anything, but I cannot bring myself to write about my life growing up or what I have had to survive because I don't want to relive those experiences more than I already do in my head everyday. I have been wanting to find someone to talk to about my childhood, but have not been successful in finding someone I feel comfortable with. I can't afford therapy and I don't want to go to any support groups because those are usually religious based and I don't want a lecture about accepting God since I'm not religious myself. I manage to get through each day on my own and most of the time I am ok, but sometimes I really need someone to talk to.
Besides the abuse from my father, I have also survived abuse from others as a child and into adulthood stemming from extreme bullying to being beaten and being molested at a young age and sexually assaulted in later years. As I said, I have learned to let go of most of the hate I used to carry with the exception of my father and while I don't hate anyone else, I do find it more and more difficult to trust anyone else. I have cut ties with all my relatives except my mother because they are toxic and dysfunctional and I feel less stress not being around any of them. The only reason I still talk to my mother is because we share a place and I would leave if I didn't feel the guilt that she might not make it on her own.
Anyway, I will end my rant because I have said more than I expected. Thank you to anyone who reads this and I hope you have a wonderful day.
There isn’t anything to say to outright make you feel better or affirm your experiences and feeling but i feel the need to acknowledge this, that it meant something to me and sadly to many others. I found it tough to read and even tougher to form any words, but I was touched. I used to fear my own similar thoughts would never go away, the majority haven’t, but I too have learned to go on with life and my passions. I will end my blabbering as I don’t find it will do much good/change but know you didn’t deserve any of it and you are not alone, as much as it can seem that way. Seeing older people confront and share such things in a safe way was the reason I felt comfortable and began to understand hatred, suicide or self harm would not end the pain for myself or anyone. Thank you, I hope you too can have a wonderful day.
@@swagcat420 Thank you for your kind words. If what I said helps someone else, then it has served its purpose and I am glad if that happens. I hope that everyone learns to survive whatever they are going through.
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Thank you!
Excellent analysis, especially in these heady days of the narcissism pandemic.
There's an interesting similarly toxic power dynamic, when a person just agrees with you, praises you no matter what you do. It's a kind of vacuous Indifference that can create a monster
Totally agree with you
I realized in this video you're talking a bit more slowly and, as a non native english speaker, I appreciate that. And as always, amazing video! Big fan of Kafka and of your channel.
Sometimes I read transcription so I can follow him better and if I find something I didn't grab or I want to chew on it makes it easier to stop, re-read, think and proceeds. You'll find misspelling but it is still useful.
Yiu can also slow down the playback speed in the video settings, too, if that helps :)
Ive ɓeen going through this same thing. Im 40 years old and i used to be outgoing funny and enjoyed hanging out with friends. Now i havent left the house since 2018 and i feel like ive lost touch with people. Everything feels so wrong and weird now.
Same
Truly feels like I got stuck in the wrong timeline or something
@@Hay_Bay I swear, I've never believed any of that crap but it would explain a lot. I'm starting to think maybe there is something to it.
Definitely resonate with your comment mate. A recent friend I've outgrown since I recognised his narcastic and controlling manipulate nature came to visit from Australia. I just told him outright that we no longer share the same values and did not make contact with them. They are completely full of their ego and worship money which are things I simply have no care for. I see a lot of introverted deep empaths realise this now later in life, it's like you can see through the fakeness and manipulation with intense ease and just simply refuse to no longer let them have any control over you.
There's such thing as too much solitude, and losing touch is tragic in itself. As a writer, I'm forced to interact more than I'd like to, as I don't have the option to lose touch. But I still find spans of solitude to reclaim myself and muster the strength to forge ahead. Those spans tend not to be more than a few weeks. Consider professional counseling...it's a good thing.
I never read Kafka but all this stuff he's been through reminds me of my current situation and the total emptyness and confusion I used to live with just very recently. Socialisation is dangerous and I just can't do it anymore! It's overwhelming and stresses me to the point of being physically hurt. Sometimes, even just the thought of having other people close to me hurts. But at the same time, I want people around me who respect and take me seriously. I feel more and more ripped apart every single day. And the worst thing is: I used to blame myself! Now it seems very odd to me but I assumed that if I wasn't in control I was simply incompetent. I have parental issues myself and they have projected onto me the ideal of absolute control. I reached a point where I thought my life itself was just not worth it anymore because I would just hurt people with my wish for absolute control. To this day, I hate having doors and windows behind me because I feel like I have to look behind my back nonstop. Whenever I talk with people, a voice inside me tells me to stop immediately. But when I am alone, the same voice tells me to socialise so I'm not alone. I know the struggle of contracting thoughts and yes, my parents do expect contradictory things from me too! Not only that but I was stigmatised and bullied for my neurodivergence at school to the point where the peers tried to kill me several times. And I thought my parents cared about me when in reality they want me to succeed only and exclusively for the sake their own feeling of success! I lived through all of this nonsense and I'm about to turn 17 next month. I just want to turn into a happy, confident and decisive young adult but I feel like these scars will stay for the rest of my life. I want children so they can live better than me but at the same time, I don't want to repeat the bad habits my parents made and planted into my brain in front of them. I want friendships but at the same time, I don't want anyone to ever stab me from behind again. Honestly, there were barely any memorable thoughts, mostly from my earliest phase before school and from a primary school I used to be in. I need to take distance from all the things around me so I can observe them carefully. I have negative intrusive thoughts, regular outbreaks out of nowhere, many clinical emergencies recently and so much more! I usually feel like an old man losing his last life energy, with my constant mental background noise and headache, my constant tiredness and lack of focus, my extreme sensitivity and pickyness. At home, I've always been criticised for what I eat. I am afraid of water and even ridiculously small height differences. I can't stand people being physically close to me. I can't even stand small, crowded or noisy rooms. I can't maintain any structure and always end up with a spaghetti pile of stuff. I used to have a hard time dealing with my very own memories. I procrastinate far more often than what is acceptable for me and for what I like to do. I lack any motivation for anything, lack any physical strength and resistance. I hate doing nearly any kind of sports, especially when it involves running or using my knees in any other way.
But despite all this destruction happening in the material world, I was able to keep my world of imagination intact. It's been the only thing saving me from commiting suicide. It's been and always will be my last resort for rinning away from my mental stress when I just can't handle my difficult combination of terrible situations. It's been the place thya saved me from losing all my faith in myself and in other people. It's been my medicine ever since I can remember. It reminds me that I have a dream of my own and I'm alive to make it true! Noone can and will ever take that away from me! Noone can take me away my wisdom, though acquired the worst way imaginable, if not far beyond. Noone can take me away my philosophy for life! Noone will ever make me dead again, I will resist with all my power, no matter how little I have left of it! I died and I resurrected! And I am here to learn, heal and enjoy. I am here to sit back and look far into the fields of humanity, as puny, unaware, useless and ridiculous as humans seem to be so often. I was born to be alive!
Born to live and born to love my friend.
Peace to you ❤💫
@@tracelee7332 🥺 Thank you! Peace for the world! ✌️
When you find yourself wondering if you are good enough for someone else, perhaps it's time for you to start to wonder if they are good enough for you.
Just wanted to say that I appreciate these uploads. I listen to them while at my work and it helps keep me thinking. Thanks for the uploads!
Thank you! I am really glad you are enjoying them. The encouragement is much appreciated
@@unsolicitedadvice9198
Your work ethic and ability to create content that is both informative and approachable without being condescending or ironic to diminish your points is absolutely phenomenal. Seriously keep up the good work. I send your videos often to friends when we talk a little bit about philosophy.
Excellent video! This video hit home for me so much. Maybe that’s why I’ve been drawn to Kafka’s writing lately. I’ve been subjected to narcissistic abuse repeatedly in my lifetime. Repeated negative experiences make one cynical about others and humanity. That’s why I’m my most content when I’m alone.
This is truly impactful and insightful. I can relate to Kafka. The difference is I got fed up with the social BS. The greatest lesson I learned is that it's all a mind game. That's the cheat code.
He did not think he was better than others. He just saw people for what they were, and hated them.
Ooof, this one hits very close too home. I guess I have to read Kafka to better understand myself. I hope Kafka found some peace in his life.
Just stumbled upon this channel thanks to the algorithm.
Good stuff, subbed.
Little did I know that clicking on a video about Franz Kafka would help me on my journey of healing from my own narcissistic abusive relationship 💜
Alternative Title: "This One Parenting Trick Will Turn Your Child into a Successful Writer!"
Well, he proved to be inmortal to his country and the world, not his father.
I think he would have preferred to be just loved. Success. Successful Writer. I've been there. It means nothing.
Kafka never got the attention he has now during his lifetime. Even if that was his goal, he did not enjoy any of the success during his life.
"kids hate him!"
@@PhaedrusAK that is grim
I appreciate how you personalize your analysis and reflect on how it makes you feel about your own life. All individuals have a tinge of personal bias, or personal emotional connection to their analysis, so I appreciate that you are upfront about it. It makes your analyses more interesting and relatable to listen to.
This video came at the right time for me. My dad was (still is) a Hermann. Still picking up the pieces today. Thanks again.
I hate how relatable so much of this is...
The just enough warmth and being aware of the good and bad hit (and the effects of those things) especially hard.
I never really noticed before, but reading with the subs like this that tracks the word really helps with comprehension. So often when I'm sucked into the algo I just sort of zone out and barely anything gets in but I found this video to be a lot clearer beyond just your eloquence
Fight the algorithm my friend. Like a Jedi..
Only engage with any content that aims to enlighten or entertain. Anything positive... Avoid anything that is divisive or hateful. It does wonders for your psyche.
Peace to you my friend ❤
I can see why Kafka has become so popular recently. I'm sinking into something I don't understand well. His words help somewhat in understanding it but never escaping from it.
You are truly working like Kierkegaard, consistently uploading high-quality videos every 4 days, just as he used to publish multiple high-quality books yearly.
Keep up the great work! I enjoy your content very much. 👏❤
Ah thank you! That is possibly the greatest compliment I have ever received, as Kierkegaard is one of my idols haha!
@@unsolicitedadvice9198 Additionally, thank you for your thoughts on the "suffering" aspect of Crime and Punishment. I just finished reading the book today and have been eagerly waiting to watch your videos covering it.
when i had first read the metamorphosis last year when i was 15 i immediately became enamored with his work and all of his principles and since then i have read another 3 books from him, the castle, letter to his father and the verdict. love your channel man, never cease to upload
With family, love can be a very complicated factor.
Recently found out your philosophical videos as I have a keen interest in that ... Want to say that your videos are very helpful and like the way you present them ... Keep the good work 😊
You gesticulate with considerable force. I find it unrelaxing, yet compelling.
Pretty much describing the feeling of the day. Thank you immessurably for exposing me to this. This channel has and will continue to change my life.
As old as I am, I question myself often. Am I right? Was I wrong. I hide my self from others. And fear others knowing me. I remain reticent and superficial in my relationships with others outside my family. I have no deep and abiding friendships. It’s often lonely.
Yes. However, I believe that you can break away from such a cycle by doing small things that can help you. To restart.
You first need to be self-aware and recognise the triggers of the cycle. Once your ready, change it with actions. Like, if it was a person, walk away from them.
I know it's easier said than done.
But actions speak louder than words.
I wish you well Blud.
My father is just like Kafka's. Carbon copy. My eldest brother is a homeless basket case that is entirely alienated from our family because he expects rejection, my youngest brother committed suicide after a lifetime of trying to be noticed: tagging things where everybody could see, losijf himself in drugs and gang life to escape and find masculinity and belonging, getting the family name tattooed on him before rushing home to show Dad first, and finally hanging himself where only my dad would find him. Our dad has no idea what he's done wrong to cause all of this and none of us can tell him. We have all been damaged in our family by this very character. Tragic. Our dad himself was in a home of extreme violence when he was young, plagued with suicide and substance abuse. The cycle continues.
This episode was definitely unsolicited but much needed......
This is exactly how I feel in relationship with God...
Always judged, never affirmed, everything I want is not good enough... Etc.
That's why I stopped being religious at age 7. Since I was so young, it wasn't too hard but for the first time ever, I did notice the trouble of getting rid of your limiting beliefs.
I had not known about Kafkas father when I read Die Verwandlung (idk the English title) and I cried almost all the way through reading bc of the relatability suffering from depression and I remember Gregors father having a huge impact on that relatability. It makes sense now.
Metamorphosis ** haha he said it oops
I don't frequently comment on your videos, but I do want to say thank you and good work. It is appreciated.
Kafka's relationship with his father sounds eerily familar, right down to the mixture of criticism and gratitude - the latter especially is something I'm still coming to terms with. How do you reject someone who you owe your life to? The only people that ever called my father outright terrible were the therapists I talked to and I always involuntarily reacted by defending him.
I used to have a friend like Herman but would look for other people while still stringing me along until I got tired of her little game. I managed to break free but with the consequence of being alone for a while until fining the right people. And I do not regret saying no to every demand she sent my way. I am so glad that I have friends who treat me as an equal and don’t treat me like a puppet, or a pawn.
A gentle reminder that scars are a sign of healing. ❤️
I found a new favorite hobby, carving wood while listening to people break down classic work . Chefs kiss, also I love being strange enough to understand Kafka. The narcissist creates the empath like a farmer produces pigs . boars when farmed get soft pink and lose their tusks , kindness is in nature, weakness. As I get older I find it strong enough to be attacked constantly and too seasoned to be truly manipulated . The spirit of one with righteousness is indomitable
Damn this video hit hard. I believe that these integrated values is always present wherever you go, we can really never be "ourselves"
You know what, I saw your videos at the start of a really rough thing I was, and almost still am going through. I've never been more thankful for the timing of life, and the algorithm of youtube. I'm proud of myself for being a person who not only can call someone out on their behavior but also be just as nice to them and recognize the great parts of who they are deep down. Ever sinner has a future, every saint a past.
It’s called trauma bonding. Everyone should learn it because it’s psychological addiction/abuse cycle
You are correct my friend. It not only happens in families but it in the ruling elite and government, who inflict the same methods on the masses.
Peace to you ❤💫
Didn't expect my spirit animal to be an early 20th century novelist but here we are
Yes, here we are.
Imagine how many gifted individuals who are out there in the world who refuse to share their skills and views because theybsre afraid of the world
Your videos lately have been unexpectedly timely for me in my own life. Love what you are doing here ❤
The bit about how Kafka still yearned for his father's approval later in life combined with the arbitrary drip-feed of love and approval he got as a child reminded me of Skinner's pigeon experiment and behavioral modification tactics. His father was likely unintentionally using variable-ratio and variable-interval positive reinforcement combined with fixed-interval negative reinforcement. According to the literature I'm familiar with, this would cause Kafka to learn quickly and try to avoid behaviors that drew his father's ire a la the FI negative, repeated and consistent high frequency attempts to seek approval from the VR and VI positive, and the long term behavior extinction resistance from the VR and VI. The fact that the behavior that drew love, affection, or disapproval was itself variable only compounds the effects and suffering.
Great video as always.
Video request: Kafka's The Judgement
These are some of the best videos I’ve seen in a long time. This video and the one on Kafka’s Metamorphosis are absolutely brilliant.
"Kafka hated people "
I mean...
*gestures at everything*
Can you blame him?
Thank you so much for your work. I have a deep feeling as I share exactly the same experience with Kafka. Maybe I experience something worse? I don't know, but at least today I know that I am not the only one suffering from this brutal world
Kafka and philosiphy have made me feel understandable and loved
thank you for your intellectual thoughts , I'm always drawn to Kafka , I've feel the same , born in a narcissistic family.
I literally love your videos, I watch them while doing homework. I learn so much. Thank you for doing what you do. ❤
Sad story . This is why as a man i hug my daughter and try to be supportive ❤
Your videos and the way you present information are very comforting 😊
It also shows us to stop giving away our power, especially from seeking it outside of ourselves. Great video❤
I really like these karaoke-esque subtitles, it's really entertaining to sing while learning about Kafka.
i suspect his father Hermann had his own demons, resentments and inadequacies that he released onto his son as a sort of emotional outlet. Hurt people hurt people
Indeed
I get Kafka. I really do.
Some people have no business being fathers or mothers, I feel really bad for Kafka but I'm glad he used his experience to create an outlet for expressing himself.
I really needed to hear what you've said
Probably my favorite interpretation ive seen from you. Thanks
Thank you for pointing out why I connected so much to Kafka's writing
What I'm getting from this is that Kafka didnt hate people, he was scared of judgement, because he was convinced his own mind was faulty
Yes, he himself became a metaphor for what happens when we fully give in to other people's expectations, thus social norms.
The reason I identify with Kafka's writing is becoming painfully more apparent...
Bravo. You have explained Kafka to me perfectly. I equate so much with him.
Hermann had a very different childhood from his son.I'm not defending him but he probably thought many of his actions were a way of building the character of Franz, whom he saw as too delicate and fragile to face the world. It's quite sad to think that by doing that he only maximized his fears and insecurities, precisely what he was trying to avoid.
A narcissist doesn't care . More accurately, he finds joy in other's pain .
Perhaps Hermann was so harsh because he knew Kaftka saw who he really was - hence, Hermann's need to distort Kaftka's reality.
You have to wonder what Hermann's definition of character is as well.
@@cristig243 I read that Kafka left a copy of the letter to Hermann and his mother was able to intercept it and told Franz he could not read it because it would hurt him deeply. Of course we can say she was just protecting both from confrontation.
@@Here4TheHeckOfIt I don't think Hermann was hiding who he really was. He just expected his only son to be like him which was impossible.
The problem with this logic is that the world is a brutish, cold, and cruel place. It will never fail to test your strength. So I’d argue parents really don’t need to “strengthen” their children to help them learn this lesson. They’ll learn it pretty quickly through daily living.
However, one thing that is extremely rare in this world is genuine and authentic love for one another. Parents are the primary source of this love and dictate how the child will view themselves in the coming years. Parents should prioritize loving their children, because it’s possible that the child will never experience love in any other capacity throughout its entire life. To take that from the child is unimaginably cruel and creates a whole host of issues in the future.
My father was like this, and it’s permanently messed me up. I’m convinced I’ll never marry and have children due to what he did to me.
I really appreciate the captions with the words highlighted as they are said 🙂 Also thank you for your content! Amazing!
These relationships are the stuff of everyday life. You do not need books to learn about philosophy or psychology, just open your eyes and ears.
Some of us do
That's why I don't like Kafka and Nietzsche much. This is why I love Dostoevsky and Camus. I was on both chairs, afterall the question is thinnening to simple to be or not to be, after all what happened :3 you have a great channel dude, tremendous passion in your voice, I like it, I enjoy.
only my opinion, but i would remove the captions or at least make them long and full sentences.
but either way you're doing great, keep up the good work , we really appreciate your content.
Just Brilliant! Great job! Really makes me reflect on my own life, and our own patterns, WOW!!! I can definitely relate, with a very abusive father and PTSD. My heart goes out to others with similar stories Life can be hard and TRULY difficult at times... the sweet is never as sweet without the sour.❤
It's rare that I encounter actual synchrony in my life, but this video, today, at this moment sang my soul.
It's like Kafka was talking about my own life. Narcissists are sadly, all exactly alike. As if they all follow the same play-book of cruelty.
Thank you Kafka for writing these things down and making an impact that few others have.
One channel I visit when I want to understand human nature ❤
I think you are my fav youtuber now
Im a mix of Dostoevsky and Kafka Well.. Dostoevsky Saïd once.. suffering and pain are always mandatory broad minds and deep harts. Truly great people, its seems to me, should feel great sadness on this Earth.. that hit me in my b@lls
Your right on a lot of this. I think fear is irrational. Fear is pointless under all circumstances because it won't change anything already decided upon.
That teeter totterring between isolation and being immersed was something i thought was damaging. But i too felt like i dont like being too versed in circles & people's lives
Who knows how many times we robbed our children from their individual way of expressing their talents. But not knowing for sure, how can we make it up to them?.
You can't. Accept that you were a shitty, jealous parent
@@almightybeanchild how would you know the trials of a father at the time. One man's good is another man's bad. Has always been and will always be. It's called life. How can I hate my mother? She gave me life and did what she thought wS best for me as did my father, as did I to my 6 children. They, I hope will try do better in turn. 🤷
You are so great.
This is the best channel ever.
Great channel that I recently stumbled upon
Thank you! I am really glad you are enjoying the videos!
You are a very captivating speaker. From the moment you begin to speak, you owned my my attention and interest. Your manner of expression is so dignified and inspiring. Thank you for your most delightful videos.
Just discovered your channel. Love Kafka, his work is so stimulating. I have read The Penal Colony - what a masterpiece! It actually made sense in that strange Kafka way.
i love this channel sm like i learn alot haha js have to search some complicated words so i even learn some new vocab
You really do have the greatest talent to put out a video about my current reading material.
I'm going to read 50 shades next week to trip you up.
enjoying the content as always! you've grown so much as a channel, been here since 40k subs, keep up the good work!
Thank you so much! Great channel & beautiful videos
People, trapped in our own sensorium, tend to focus on their intentions while ignoring their impact. My mother said to me as a young man, "I don't understand you." I replied, "Do you have to?" While she said, no I guess not, I could see she did. I eventually learned I had exceeded her capacity and I could not look to her for comfort and support anymore. Sadly, it seems that Franz could not make that leap. It's difficult to realize our parents are just regular humans who may or may not have wanted to have a child, or didn't consider it much at all.
I sometimes feel like fans of Freddy N like to say, "The more I know about people, the more I like my dog." Yea, duh. People are messy, demanding, and the dog does not care if you respect them. They have no concept of respect. Personally, I think people who obsess over power dynamics or see the world as a place they have to assert dominance over are mentally and emotionally stunted. I think it is a false dichotomy to say that participation in a group *necessarily* costs us some part of our individuality. The group may demand that of us, but it is only necessary to remain in that group.
Capitalism has atomized and alienated us from our communities, fooling us into believing that no one owes us anything, and by extension we own no one anything. Then we wonder why our communities suffer in decline. As a High Bard of Bacchus, I have faith in people. I consider it more difficult than faith in a god. People actually exist. However, I also have faith they will be *people* which tempers my expectations. We can also give grace to those who are struggling in the moment, as difficult as that is. They might give a kind word at any other time.
Awesome 👌🏾
Hell is other people
It is also inside ourselves . In our own shadow (see C G Jung) .
Jean Paul Sarte
Hell is hell, people are people.