I have lived a very colourful life and have heard all sorts of weird and wonderful shit . I'm with you . Pimp my swastika is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard too .
That's a guy who makes REALLY bad life choices. 1) gets 9 x 9 inch nazi symbol 2) asks to get it covered for free ($900 value), good for him 3) doubles down and says he still wants free $900 tattoo, but wants his sw****** glorified, or else. Dude seriously needs to be blacklisted from the reputable parlors.
@@FearMyLadyBits ...indeed...however...I'm getting the Too Good To Be True vibes from that story. Outside of Hollywood and prisons...seeing someone with a swastika tattoo is one in a million. Then...for the guy to be ashamed of it...back to proud of it...being around a military school? Being a Marine taught me that the white supremacy crowd isn't quite a good fit for any branch...as there are a LOT of not white people in the military...and a number of them will outrank you...and you're not going to get away with insubordination because you don't like the race of the guy giving you orders. To be honest...the whole story reeks of someone jumping on the "I fight racism!" bandwagon for likes. That...however...is just my opinion...it could be so...I don't know for sure.
It's always funny to hear the classic "k, then why don't you take her in?" reply to BS from relatives. They're all indignant and volunteering other people's things til it inconveniences them.
I had Muslim friends growing up who told me that their culture was to take the parents in and basically support them in their retirement age. Kind of upset me as one guy's shoes were tearing, but he had to make due cause his grandparents wanted to upgrade their 3 year old TV.
@@Maninawig I mean that's the least they can do for their family, although I don't think it's allowed in Islam for abusive parents to manipulate their children and force them to live a certain way that is not aligned with the teaching of Islam, so I think either he's just being too nice or he doesn't know how to stand up to authority without disrespecting that authority.
@@chaosincarnate7304 aside from stating that it is by far not the least he could do, the other Muslim that heard that agreed with him and acted like that was normal. It could also be a mix of cultural thing as both are African as well, I really don't know. I do know he quoted the commandments, specifically claiming it was under Honouring one's parents, which I have seen many use to fuel entitlement in all judeic religions. However, the thing I was upset about is taking such a sign of respect to such an extreme means, and the parents (the person I talked to's grandparents) taking advantage of that possibly due to having their parents do it to them (as those understandings are often passed down)
@@Maninawig Yeah honestly it sucks, but if they don't have any complains about it or aren't bothered by it then let them do that I guess. Also honoring your parents in Islam is a very important thing to do and not doing that is considered evil in Islam, because your parents did everything for you, your mother had you in her womb for 9 months and when birthing you she suffered great difficulties (in the old days) so parents are considered holy. In Islam Heaven is attained under your Mother's feet (Metaphorically). Obviously Parents aren't considered holier than God and His Prophet (PBUH) so it's an obligation for you to disobey your parents if they stray on the wrong path.
@@chaosincarnate7304 as I said, honouring one's parents is sacred in any Jewdaic based religion (like Muslim), though the understanding of "to honour" has been subject to great debate. For instance, some have interpreted it to mean to always do as a parent asks, regardless of if it is dangerous, illegal, or immoral. Others have taken it as a lifetime of servitude where the parent is entitled to gain graces on the merits of their children's accomplishments (either by forcing them into a carreer, demanding free labour and supplies to refurbish a house, or implied consent to lease them out like one would lend a tool). While I do agree it is quite vertuous to show respect to one's parents for all that they have done for you, I disagree with the concept that the debt starts before the child was born (especially when things like FAS are a thing) and should be shown in equal measures. Just as we are given the right to sin and the wisdom to resist that temptation, a parent is given the right to be honoured, but should practice the humility not to rely on that honour for earthly gains. But as you said, it is up to them to decide how to interpret such rules.
Pretty sure you can find that exact phrase in The Harpy's Child, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, and Disarming the Narcissist (which, by the way, has a really misleading title). Or, at least, something that sounds really similar.
I’ve said it before, when they become adults, children become the parents’ peers, equals in the eyes of the law. All authority ends at the age of majority. At that point, it’s nothing more than a shallow, pathetic attempt at guilt tripping.
@@hollyhartwick3832 Honestly, I don't think it's entirely guilt tripping. I'm pretty sure they actually think that being your "parent" means that you're an extension of them, so your time, property, relationships, and autonomy are theirs to do with as they wish.
I love how the entitled family claims that the kids are "starving" and that one dinner wont be enough but then said family decides to throw out that one dinner onto the street and drive off thus fully ensuring that the kids "starve".
hubby needs to be reminded that divorce court is just around the corner, as is unemployment if his boss hears what he does at home because he most likely is acting the same at work too.
I doubt he just started that behavior out of the blue. He was probably the kind of parents who was like "But that's the wife's job!" when it comes to cleaning/child care and his promotion just gave him more balls to push it further. If Mr. Entitled doesn't agree to marriage counselling to see what a colossal ass he's being, Divorce City is their final destination.
I don't blame OP for evicting his own mother after the stuff his own mother pulled. Mom is using emotional manipulation to keep OP in her control. Well, I would be disowning my mom and I would also be going no contact with my mom.
Third story: I would call social services 1. To find out why they were each listed separately & explain to ss that they can't do this in the future. 2. Report the families for their behavior & that they won't be allowed back next year.
Likely, they all listed themselves as separate households if married, as all are adults. The unfortunate thing is, address doesn't really matter, as if you apply for SNAP, you have to have AN address, any address. The behaviour can get them blacklisted, but all they have to say is that it's their transient location, and present separation papers to social services.
@@jengsci8268 I'm not sure if they threw the food out the window, or if they took the food out of the boxes and threw out the now-empty boxes. I was thinking the latter.
Story 2: The "I'm your mother" phrase is, to me, among the most BS excuses in the world of parenting. That give me the implication that EM gave birth to OP just so she could have an excuse to boss them around and be controlling.
Even if my parents where in sudden financial need they would never use the : I'm your mother/father card. They would just ask nicely. Even tough they would never need to ask because i would help them (they are very friendly and not a single drop of entitlement)
Raising kids like that is like telling the dog to stay off the couch. He doesn't really know why... I tell my children _Because i'm responsible for seeing to it you grow into a responsible adult, and i'm paying all your bills in the meantime._ At least my kids realize that A) It's educational B) It's temporary and C) They know they can't take care of themselves right now, and I need some cooperation caring for them.
I think OP should have opened the contest again and the people who didn't win would probably try again and someone who actually deserves it would get a new awesome tattoo.
he probably kept a slot open for the coverup which includes the time to design the new tattoo. unfortunately since douche only showed his true colors after the redesign was done he probably doesn't have an empty slot to give away anymore
@@immapotato1 doesnt mean OP cant re do the contest at a later time now i dont mean to sound rude here as thats probably exactly what OP did/plans to do i was just pointing something out
DF, I agree with what you said about blacklisting abusers. I hope the OP and owner in the story contacted the Social Services office where they get their list of people to help out and complain to them about this family. They could have helped 5 more families if this group hadn't worked the system. Hopefully safeguards were put in place to keep a repeat from happening.
I will be very surprised if that last story doesn't end in a divorce. Unless Mister Karen has a complete attitude change. It's clear that his shitty attitude and entitlement are already getting on OP's last nerve and I don't think most people are going to stay with someone who treats them like that.
I suspect there were red flags all along indicating he was like this and that she ignored them, like so many people do when they love someone. This attitude doesn’t just crop up overnight.
Story 5: If husband acts the same way at work, he won't be staying in that position for long. And the wife will be enjoying the last laugh! In my house, there is only one trump card as to who brings stuff to whom. Whoever has a cat on their lap always has the right to ask to be served as long as the cat is there...and as long as the cat was the one to climb up there herself (no cheating by getting the cat and putting her there in order to be served!). She likes both laps, so it works out pretty well.
Ah yes. Saw an ancient painting of a Chinese woman actually cutting a portion of her beautiful gown off so as to not disturb the cat. It's a time honoured thing.
I had the opposite thing happen! When I lived with my ex BF he got into medical school. The ambulance company he worked for said that his new availability [2.5 days] wasn't enough to keep him on even part time and he started delivering pizzas. He could not hanfle the sudden demotion from EMT to pizza guy and the associated lack of respect he got from customers. Meanwhile, it seems like people were getting on his case because I was the manager of 3 locations for a regional business and easily made twice what he did. The abuse was all verbal for a while, this same sort of "you need to make food I like, clean, etc." And he even got a dog against my wishes [he took a survey dog vs cat of 10 people and tried to use that to justify the surprise dachshund with behavioral issues he "got for cheap because he's older." In that neighborhood my white ass stuck out and I was not walking a dog when I got home after dark in my work suit. Might as well just throw my purse out the window. It was fine before sundown, but seriously. When it got physical I left. Asking and guilt-triping a woman until she says "I just want to go to sleep" is not actually consent. He could keep the broken bedframe [he never hit me, it was still abuse] but I took every single thing I paid for - left him with games but no electronics to play them on, some plates and forks but no spoons or anything to cook with, etc. Oh, and our wifi was a cheap Hotspot modem that I bought, so I took the whole internet too!
That whole entire family should be blacklisted from any further donations of any kind. Getting more than their fair share and screaming for more SMH. There are 5 more families that could have eaten a thanksgiving meal if they hadn’t been intent on hogging everything. I’m wondering if they didn’t have a pal in social services that “helped” them get more than they should have.
I agree. I would understand 2 meals if they had like 9 kids (as the turkey and trimmings might be spread too thin), but no excuse for what they did. Btw nice cat
I hear about the unappreciative people and think of the years my spouse and I had bean tacos for Thanksgiving and Christmas and were very thankful for that.
I really appreciate the story about the husband insisting that his wife get him ice cream and her telling him to get it himself. It gave me the confidence to tell my ex-boyfriend that I am not his property. We are not going together. I do not have to clean his apartment. I do not have to run over and bring him chocolate because without it he can't go to sleep. I do not have to feed him. Thank you so much!
I think when a mother calls the cops on her child bc they won't give her free stuff and expect her grown self supporting son to eaen the money but still be a obedient child, then your done
If my husband started ordering me around like that he'd be so far out of my life Google wouldn't even be able to find him. That's ridiculous! It's going to hurt really bad when he gets knocked off that high horse.
Yeah. It'd be the couch for His Majesty. Permanently. Two weeks to find alternative accommodation (only if he behaves) and all correspondence through a lawyer.
If I was married she wouldn't even get on the horse. Me: Sorry hon forgot to get your high horse. I have the disease CRS (can't remember stuff was censoring what the s traditionally stands for and saying what it means in case no one's ever heard that expression).
My dad once fired my mom and me. He realized quickly his mistake and never did it again. I went through the same thing with my husband, once. I just looked and said "If this is how it's going to be, I want a divorce ". It never happened again.
@@Gabitronia no, he had been promoted and was the manager of maintenance for a freight line. He just got mad and was yelling and without thinking said "you're fired". We laughed at him Which made him madder, so he left home for 6 months to punish us. A truly dysfunctional family.
That last story: there's no way he didn't have bad behaviors before, the promotion probably just made them way more prominent. If he didn't knock that ish off its time for counseling or a separation. A spouse is not a slave.
Was thinking the same, it would be odd that someone who had been a respectful person would wake up one morning and start treating everyone like their personal slave.
Unfortunately, giving in even an inch, people like him will take a mile. He must be a real prince to work for. The language I would have used to suggest where he could put his ice cream and cashews wouldn't be fit to print.
Are you my sister, her husband is like this too. He did work(retired now), buuuuuut, He does nothing in or around the house, my sister works too. She had to look after the kids, all household chores, Garden chores, you name it. She had just had an op on her legs and wanted to brag he had WAIT FOR IT, made her a cup of tea. A couple of days later we took kids presents down on Christmas eve, (From Santa). 😅 she came out to get a portable TV( roughly 35+yrs ago). So not light, he had a cold. No he’s a hypochondriac. If this is how you don’t want your life to be RUUUUN.
I would say “did you get promoted at home to assisted manager? If so that makes me the manager, so rub my back and get me ice cream with extra drizzle!”
What would the husband do if the wife treated him the way he was treating her like she would take a whole day and treat him the way he was treating her what would what would he do to that. .u.?
When I was 16, my mom was in my room talking to me. My room was right off of the kitchen. My stepdad, standing in the doorway asks my mom to make him a sandwich. We both look at him and she says “are your arms broke? Make it yourself”. I was floored. She didn’t usually stand up to him 😂
I would rather be single than to be with a narcissist like OP’s husband from that last story. Being in a relationship with a narcissist NEVER works out. Being married to one could also lead to a divorce
It can also, sadly, lead to the child of the narcissist thinking that this behavior is acceptable, is how to treat the mother. Which will, eventually, damage the mother's relationship with her child. This is a huge red flag, and I hope the OP gets out NOW.
I'm a woman who can rotate her own tires, do an oil change, fix a leaky faucet, etc. Why? Because I had a husband who, when asked if he would fix something, would sit down in front of said something and start barking orders. "Get me this!" "Get me that!" "I'm going to need a wrench." Blah, blah, blah. It was easier to do it myself, if I was going to do all the work! LOL
I would automatically leave. I'm no one's slave. I don't tolerate that sense of entitlement. Plus! I love you more for adding Dwight to your video!!! You're the best!!
Last story. I would have got up, thanked him for the suggestion, went in the kitchen with a book, and made myself a huge bowl of ice cream and enjoyed every bite.
@@CiaranMaxwell I heard another story like that once. The husband had gotten too big for his britches and demanded his wife make him ice cream when he'd just been in the kitchen. So she went, made this killer sunday with all his favourite toppings, grabbed two spoons, then dug out a spoonful with one spoon and returned to the livingroom. Her husband got the spoon while she had this ridiculous bowl of ice cream... and that successfully knocked him down a number of pegs and he realized he was being a dick. lmao
You notice all the other kids were trying to shame and guilt OP for not wanting to keep their mother in his house but none of them wanted to be the ones to take her in when he turned the tables on them?! Clearly they were only willing to be good dutiful children as far as it only inconvenienced OP!
The last one...lady, get divorce papers immediately. He didn't get married to have a wife, he needed a maid, and he won't change. Trust me, I know. Get the hell out of there now.
While growing up my family had to ask for help almost monthly because I had a father who would rather spend his paychecks on beer and other things instead of paying bills and buying food for his family. My mom and I would walk across town to collect food from our church. And during the holidays we were gifted full meals from fire departments and police stations , they even brought Christmas presents. I will always be thankful for the help my family received and that's why I volunteer as much as possible. Love your videos Peace and love to you and your family 💙💜💙💜💙💜
Best wishes to you & your family this holiday season! I know exactly what you're talking about & my family has been there as well when I was growing up. ❤ My son (15) & I do whatever we can with whatever we have to spare after bills & necessities to try & help our neighbors who are struggling, especially around the holidays, because we know what it's like to go without.
@@jessicawinchester7184 Same with my family. Clearly it is those of us who have the least who without hesitation give the most because we know exactly how it feels to need. 💜 ✌️ ❤️
I’m sorry you had to go through that being in a troubled house is not fun of course I wish I knew what your situation was like but unfortunately I don’t but that doesn’t mean I still can’t have empathy, anyway I hope you’re doing far better than you have ever been and may you earn a special place in heaven😘
My husband would get my disabled butt out of bed to go to the store to Buy him ice cream, then I had to make him a HUGE bowl of it BEFORE I could go back to sleep!! Guess that's why he's my EX!!! 🤣🤣🤣 🥰 Love you Fluff!! 🥰
I can't see a person changing overnight like that. It must have been sneaking in for a while and she's just noticed he's pushing his luck even further. I didn't like how she told him where to go over the icecream and he still didn't listen, just told her she didn't appreciate the situation or whatever he said. She needs to put a stop to it NOW.
Regarding story 5... in what make-believe fantasy world does he think an assistant manager in a WAREHOUSE makes more money than an actual manager at a psych ward?
As someone who has occasionally relied on Community Food Banks in the past in the past year or so, the Thanksgiving story is annoying. I mean, the food was donated by people out of the generosity of their hearts, and this family of scammers tries to take more than their fair share. I mean, if they'd all come in separate vehicles, benefit of the doubt - massive lay-off at a factory where many of the family worked at - possible - or if the younger ones were all adults, they could say "We were all coming here anyways, so we decided to save gas." Plausible. But for the unlisted member to complain, along with the rest.... ruined what little goodwill one might have.
Why is it that so often the people who legitimately need assistance feel so terrible about needing it, and in many cases don't seek help because they feel bad about it...........Yet so often people who don't need the services have such a bad attitude and don't even feel bad for the fact they are taking that from someone who is in need?!?! 🤬🤬 🤦♂️🤦♀️🤦
Those that act that entitled have no concept of understanding or empathy. I'm thinking that lately that empathy is being removed as more narcists are getting more power and breeding faster. Soon, the world will stop advancing, as only the narcists will have power or money, and they would have no interest in helping anyone so nothing would be done.
The mother story, don't you just love it when said siblings call OP to tell him off but suddenly come up with ten thousand excuses why they won't take mom in instead? And frankly, how long before big brother boots her out as well?
A MASSIVE thank you to the OP on the Thanksgiving dinner giveaway! Yeah, there are always going to be jerks, but for folks like me and my family who didn't have any resources back in the 80s, folks like you are a Godsend! HUGE HUGS to you and yours!!!
17:53 I would have said “yeah? Well a man in hell wants ice water; doesn’t mean he’s going to get it. Now, it’s late. Leave me alone.” Or, I’d say nothing at all and pretend to be asleep.
There have been times in the past when my children were little that my wife and I needed help for Thanksgiving and especially Christmas and was happy with whatever help was available, and some years it truly wasn't much but barely enough. I'm fortunately no longer in the position of needing that help and try to pass on what help I'm able to give. There are many organizations that help out such as the Salvation Army and The US Marine Corps Reserves Toys for Tots. Many communities also have food banks and many churches also have community food missions and such. The help is there, but please don't abuse it.
I have been helping out at toys for tots in my area for the last 2 Christmas’s and their are some very greedy people out their like this family of 5 kids asked for new bikes when they just got bikes the year before and complained when they came to pick up the toys that their weren’t any bikes with their gifts also having the mom and grandparents both sign up the kids thinking they will get twice the gifts that way nope sorry. We had one grandma yell at the marines bring out the black bag full of gifts for one child saying both her and her daughter signed up so where is the other bags they told her the rules basically the kids only get a certain amount of gifts each and we only go by one applicant not both she was so livid she turned red lolz oh well her family has now been put on the black list because of that stunt and her attitude.
My husband (now ex) would frequently let me know how worthless I was because I did not have a college degree and he did. When I had enough, I let him know that until he either earns what I do an hour (I was earning $10.75 an hour, he was unemployed), been at his job a year ( I had been with the same company 7 years, the longest he had been employed was 6 months) or used his degree (speech communications ) his diploma is only good to wipe his fanny! He never brought it up again.
I'm like, 80% sure the last story was from an AITA post. I remember reading it and people telling OP how worried they were if he was like that with HER, how bad was he towards his own employmees
I love my mom more than anyone and she is the greatest, most compassionate, selfless, caring, kind and genuine woman I have ever known. I just can't imagine having a mother like the one described in this r/. Just..wow. I'm sorry to anyone who has a parent like that. That's just not right.
I was in middle management once. 10 out of 10 would not do it again. It is nothing but everyone else making their problems your problems. Draining as hell. Still though I would get off work, go to walmart, buy myself a stake at 2 am and cook that thing. No excuse for pushing everything off on a spouse daily.
Ha! Hubby knows better! He knows he'd get a piece of my mind so fast his head would spin. (My Scot-Irish/Sicilian temper is not pretty) The EH in the last story is acting as if his was the only income in the home. I MIGHT have had some sympathy for him (very little) for a very, very few of his "requests" if his wife did not work outside their home. Even then he would have to be a hell of a lot nicer about how he made them. If he doesn't calm down he's going to find out how much of his income he'll be losing in the upcoming divorce.
I've heard this "because I'm family!" bs many many times, to me and to friends, and it's always come from people who firmly believe "family benefits" flow only one way, their way. I walked out on my "loving" family, and kept my phone off-hook from Nov 1 to Jan 1 over 20 years (and managers learned to put them on "hold"). Some people will be envious and covetous of every single thing you have even if they have ten times as much.
Grew up in foster care. Those secret Santa 🎁 were the only thing I ever got for Christmas. I remember getting exactly what I asked my social worker for; a sweat shirt and a pair of black jeans and even a walk man another year.💖 I appreciated those gifts and will never forget the kindness of strangers. Gave me hope and let me know there are good people in the world. 💖💖
Last story = Take the kid and crash at the Grandma and let him know she'll return when he behaves like a mature adult. Otherwise, it's time for a divorce or couple therapy.
It sounds to me that being disowned by that family is more of a blessing than a curse. So when mama is on her deathbed she shouldn't expect a visit from OP.
I’m a disabled veteran for my sins. I got smashed in a horrific accident, and when they flew me back to the UK, I went to Hasler hospital. I started rehab and for the hydrotherapy sessions the guy that helped me in and out of the pool and helped dry and dress me was someone a future MIL would have nightmares over. Six feet tall and covered in tattoos and piercings. But he was as gentle as a lamb when handling me and other patients.
1:30 ah, bless his heart. Poor artist doesn't know who the Aryan Brotherhood is. The minute he said "Viking" I just went, "oh, he's not ashamed, he just only wants his _friends_ to know he's a racist."
right? but even I, who knows about this, was like "ok ok MAYBE he's friends with some normal, not hateful af norse pagans or something" but no. and it's just all very disheartening
@@aduckofsomesort I am well aware of this. The Nazi swastika is also a bastardized symbol that, in the reverse, stands for peace (among other benign things) in many other cultures and religions. That being said, I also worked in a prison for 15yrs and if you honestly believe AB and other white supremacist groups haven't bastardized an entire culture, you're either naive or willfully ignorant. Getting a cool Viking tattoo isn't inherently racist. Getting it to cover up a giant swastika chest piece is a pretty big red flag, because it's likely just an excuse to more covertly convey your racist hateful beliefs to those in the know, rather than broadcast it to the world.
@@huntjl88 The AB, and other white supremacist groups, took Viking iconography quite a while back. They use Mjolnir and Yggdrasil in conjunction with swastika tattoos pretty regularly. They also intersperse Norse words in their "confidential" communication. I worked in a prison for 15yrs, many white supremacists see the Norse as "true Aryans," and have appropriated the parts of the culture that fit their narrative.
Ok so a lot of neo-nazis actually really like old norse stuff, right? So him wanting a viking ship did have me cringe but be like "okay, maybe he's still interested in that without the extreme hate, there's normal norse pagans out there after all" BUT NOPE!!! of course. *of course*. I'm so damn sad for OP
It's so sad, because the Vikings were cool as heck, and Norse mythology is fascinating. They don't deserve to be pulled into some assholes nazi bullshittery
I well know the scammers. They make it so much harder for those of us genuinely in need--as well as for the people that generously want to help those in need. The burnout among Social Service workers is phenomenal. They can't do as much as they'd like to help people that are honestly in need, then they have to deal with both the scammers and the entitled jerks that often get more than they deserve. One time I listened to one client give the worker unholy hell because they couldn't give her this, that, and the other. I came up next and said, "Let me guess--they want you to make sure you use Charmin when you wipe their ass, right?" They needed that laugh... I make sure to *always* thank the social workers--even when they've had to tell me bad news--and let them know I understand how challenging their job can be. They don't hear that enough. Our safety net in the US is definitely NOT what it should be, but I am more than grateful for every bit of help I've received, and try to pay it forward whenever & however I can. There are a lot of real good folks out there.
I just got home and get the treat to listen to this after my shift at my PT job! Woohoo! (I work a FT and a PT jobs. 1 day off a week. These are treats for me!)
One yeah when my youngest was still basically non-verbal as well as being severely Autistic! We were lucky to be chosen in her special school to receive a hamper one xmas! I was and still are a divorced Mum of 4 children, I think they all have varying levels of Autism, with my youngest being the worst, then my eldest and the other two. But I had and still have no family or friends where I am and I admit I was struggling as I am disabled, no one was helping me. I can tell you I was beyond thrilled! So to the OP that was helping out with hampers for the needy we seriously really appreciate those hampers! My kids got gifts and xmas dinner, don't stop helping OP you were doing more good than you could even guess! On behalf of those of who are struggling and feel forgotten, A HUGE THANK YOU!!
Story 5 reminds me of my parents. My dads job is in construction and my mom works with special needs children at an elementary school. She is basically the only employee there who can really handle the kids and treat them with respect simultaneously. My dad doesnt take my moms job seriously and thinks he deserves all the special treatment from her because he "works harder" but i personally think my dad would crumble under the stress of autistic meltdowns and changing diapers for kids who are tall enough to dunk on him. My mom is really good at her job and she works just as hard as he does but he doesnt always remember that.
Ya know, if the wife/significant other asked for a backrub, said person is getting a backrub cause when done right said backrub can possibly lead to happy time with wife/significant other.
Mr Assistant Manager ‘s wife needs to go on strike. Remind him of the contract that they took when they got married ; part of the contract says … Love, honor and cherish. Acting like an entitled clown isn’t honoring or cherishing his family at all. Since HE broke his marriage contract she will refuse to cook, clean, or do anything for him until he apologizes. If he won’t listen to reason , I’m sure a lawyer will be happy to explain how much child support costs. I pray that your husband gets over himself. He’s the assistant manager at a warehouse, not the Pope.
@@Kayenne54 My Mum always used to say 'what did your last servant die of' I'd be cheeky and say 'underwork so I beat them to death' but I had to run so she didn't cuff me for it.
Has Emily considered a divorce, because screw that guy, he isn’t getting any better, he’d shown her who he truly is and honestly, she needs to ditch the deadbeat husband
I would simply not have a husband no more lol. Love how he pulls the "i work all day card" when his wife works more hours. I can see this relationship ending if he doesn't get his act together and act like a partner, not a greedy boss.
Hey, Mister "assistant manager". My EIGHTEEN YEAR OLD just became assistant manager at a popular retailer. After working there all of mine months. Cool your power surge, Sparky. It's key and safe privileges, not a knighthood.
Remember assistant manager can mean different things in different companies. In some companies it can be a position that actually means something unlike your 18 yo case. Still no right to treat anyone like shit, least of all his wife.
@@Ipernova and your point being? Depending on the size of the place and the type of product there is potential an assistant manager could have a bit more power than an 18 yo kid who has the same title in a shop
@@benmac940 "an assistant manager could have a bit more power than an 18 yo kid who has the same title" keyword being: *could* . Plus, that perceived "power" (LOL) you think mr Assistant has, begins and ends at that warehouse. So, what is *your* point? If, as you say, it's "Still no right to treat anyone like shit", what's the use, exactly, of pointing out how Mr. Assistant's job *could* actually "mean something", unlike OP's kid's?
@@Ipernova the point is exactly as I said it can mean something where as the initial comment is explicitly stating that it means nothing at all except a key and a kid with no experience could do it. Which may be correct in some cases but certainly not all. That is my point
The last story kind of reminds me about my ex-husband. He was in the U.S. Army. He's smart, so I encouraged him to take college classes. He took what's called CLEP tests (College Level entry Program) and did so well that he CLEP'd out of his Freshman and Sophomore years! I was so darned happy for him. Until he began to gloat and lord over me about how smart he was, while I was "only" a stay-at-home wife. I was livid, but thought about it for a few days, then professed an interest in what the actual test looked like. He gleefully went to the person in charge and asked for a copy 9f the test to prove that he is smarter than I. He brought it home and I sat down at the table to work on it. Honestly, it didn't seem that difficult, so I just assumed he'd brought just one part of the test. Meh! Whatever. Two days later, he came home and handed me a sealed envelope with my name on it. I opened it, bracing myself for miserable test scores. But, no. I'd done well. Really, really well. So well, in fact that there was a letter included, encouraging me to attend college, that I'd likely qualify for a scholarship. I silelntly showed my arrogant ass of a husband. Hie froze, then his face fell. He then admitted that I'd done better than he had. I just smiled. With all the horrible things he did until I finally left him a few years later, he at least never called me stupid because we both knew the truth.
So in the "I'm your mother" story.......why did the other children not want to take mom in? Sounds like she is a handful and none of the other wanted to take her in
Story 5: I personally think there's a divorce in order. If that's how he treats her over a promotion at his job and has had 3 weeks to chill out and go back to normal then clearly he isn't the great guy she married. And I get some marriages aren't perfect. But when a parent/husband stoops so low as to be not only negligent of his own wife's feelings and physical stress, then forcing a child to play by themselves in their own room and to be quiet as if he's some great king. This kind of behavior without consequence leads to more stuff happening and entitlement like that can probably get physical and since the police nor the law can do anything until after something has happened it's best that OP either find a way to settle his new attitude or leave him and take their daughter with her.
I knew where story 1 was going when he said he wanted Vikings. Sadly there is a disgusting trend for those people to latch onto Viking and Scandinavian lore and imagery. As someone studying Norwegian, I've learned to watch for it.
The nazis were big on all forms of pre-Christian, Nordic, “white” culture, the SS had numerous occult references to Viking lore, runes, etc, (they commandeered the swastika, & changed its meaning indelibly, in the minds of future generations, it used to mean peace, & harmonious balance, & now it is associated with brutal tyranny, & sadistic ignorance)….
@@DreAmeoba1 LockPickingLawyer has a swastika lock in his collection as the symbol was used to invite all those things (and to protect the home) in certain countries.
Story 3: This is a private organization, you were under NO obligation to give all of them meals as individuals. Social Services didn't provide the food just a list of names of POTENTIAL needy families. You should have denied them the extra food. Let them call the cops and be told to pound sand - it was charity.
One thing you don't want to do is mess with social services and act entitled every thing you do regarding social services gets placed on your identity cards under the social security number
The second story about him losing work after his insane mother shut the computer off, I get so paranoid about that. I hit Ctrl+S multiple times when doing anything before I get up to walk away.
that last story... They would be presented with divorce papers, and since he makes "so much more than me" he can afford the child support, and he'll have all the peace and quiet he wants after that.
That one about the ekg made me remember something that happens to me, I go to the hospital for annually check ups since I have a uncommon heart condition, and the hospitals I go to are considered "training hospitals" where medical students go for their hands on training. Since I have an uncommon condition, it's rare if I don't have a student in on or doing my appointments. I don't mind much but what I do mind is how I only see my actual doctor about 50% of the time when I go to these visits, so if there was something wrong I couldn't bring it up
For the first story. I believe a lot of the anti Nazi restrictions and such in the military were dropped because of the manpower shortages after Iraq and Afghanistan. I don't know if they were readded afterward, but for a while they removed a lot of those restrictions because they needed more people and knew resorting to the draft would be disastrous. It's possible OP was in the military before the policy changes and didn't know that.
Loved that comment he read on the end of the 4th story. Reminds me of back when I drove water taxis, had one customer who was like who are you, how long have you been here do you know where to go etc etc. So I ended up saying no never driven a boat before no clue where to go was just told last night where the boat was and that you'd know where to go. She suddenly got worried asking if it was true. As a side note to operate a boat commercially where I am at the time required you to have a ticket that needed 18 months commercial sea time plus a couple of months at polytechnic to obtain.
THE STORY OF THE OP WHO WORKS IN THE HOSPITAL+ HAS A DISABILITY REALLY SHOULD B PROUD OF HIM /HER SELF. THE FAMILY IN THE STORY IS SO STUPID. I HAVE A PROBLEM MY SELF THOUGH NOT AS BAD AS THAT OF OP +I AM MORE LESS ABLE 2 TAKE ADVANTAGE OFIT 2 HELP OTHERS.
If my husband suddendly started demanding things just because he started making more money than me I would probably just laugh at him. I normally would help him out if he asks because we rarely ask each other for anything if we can do it ourselves but if this became a regular thing and with the attitude too... yeah that would be a great big NOPE.
"Pimp my swastika" is not a phrase I think I ever wanted to hear!
I have lived a very colourful life and have heard all sorts of weird and wonderful shit .
I'm with you .
Pimp my swastika is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard too .
1942 Germanys equivalent to “Pimp My Ride”
r/brand new sentence
"Dude wanted me to pimp his sw***ika."
Well, that's a new sentence.
I'm writing that down. I have no idea why or when I'll use it, but I'll find an excuse!
That's a guy who makes REALLY bad life choices.
1) gets 9 x 9 inch nazi symbol
2) asks to get it covered for free ($900 value), good for him
3) doubles down and says he still wants free $900 tattoo, but wants his sw****** glorified, or else.
Dude seriously needs to be blacklisted from the reputable parlors.
Hmmm... Swastika with floral motifs, I guess....
LOL 😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@FearMyLadyBits ...indeed...however...I'm getting the Too Good To Be True vibes from that story. Outside of Hollywood and prisons...seeing someone with a swastika tattoo is one in a million. Then...for the guy to be ashamed of it...back to proud of it...being around a military school? Being a Marine taught me that the white supremacy crowd isn't quite a good fit for any branch...as there are a LOT of not white people in the military...and a number of them will outrank you...and you're not going to get away with insubordination because you don't like the race of the guy giving you orders. To be honest...the whole story reeks of someone jumping on the "I fight racism!" bandwagon for likes. That...however...is just my opinion...it could be so...I don't know for sure.
Vikings are cool and all, but are a huge red flag if someone also has a swastika.
It's always funny to hear the classic "k, then why don't you take her in?" reply to BS from relatives. They're all indignant and volunteering other people's things til it inconveniences them.
I had Muslim friends growing up who told me that their culture was to take the parents in and basically support them in their retirement age. Kind of upset me as one guy's shoes were tearing, but he had to make due cause his grandparents wanted to upgrade their 3 year old TV.
@@Maninawig I mean that's the least they can do for their family, although I don't think it's allowed in Islam for abusive parents to manipulate their children and force them to live a certain way that is not aligned with the teaching of Islam, so I think either he's just being too nice or he doesn't know how to stand up to authority without disrespecting that authority.
@@chaosincarnate7304 aside from stating that it is by far not the least he could do, the other Muslim that heard that agreed with him and acted like that was normal. It could also be a mix of cultural thing as both are African as well, I really don't know. I do know he quoted the commandments, specifically claiming it was under Honouring one's parents, which I have seen many use to fuel entitlement in all judeic religions.
However, the thing I was upset about is taking such a sign of respect to such an extreme means, and the parents (the person I talked to's grandparents) taking advantage of that possibly due to having their parents do it to them (as those understandings are often passed down)
@@Maninawig Yeah honestly it sucks, but if they don't have any complains about it or aren't bothered by it then let them do that I guess. Also honoring your parents in Islam is a very important thing to do and not doing that is considered evil in Islam, because your parents did everything for you, your mother had you in her womb for 9 months and when birthing you she suffered great difficulties (in the old days) so parents are considered holy. In Islam Heaven is attained under your Mother's feet (Metaphorically). Obviously Parents aren't considered holier than God and His Prophet (PBUH) so it's an obligation for you to disobey your parents if they stray on the wrong path.
@@chaosincarnate7304 as I said, honouring one's parents is sacred in any Jewdaic based religion (like Muslim), though the understanding of "to honour" has been subject to great debate. For instance, some have interpreted it to mean to always do as a parent asks, regardless of if it is dangerous, illegal, or immoral. Others have taken it as a lifetime of servitude where the parent is entitled to gain graces on the merits of their children's accomplishments (either by forcing them into a carreer, demanding free labour and supplies to refurbish a house, or implied consent to lease them out like one would lend a tool).
While I do agree it is quite vertuous to show respect to one's parents for all that they have done for you, I disagree with the concept that the debt starts before the child was born (especially when things like FAS are a thing) and should be shown in equal measures.
Just as we are given the right to sin and the wisdom to resist that temptation, a parent is given the right to be honoured, but should practice the humility not to rely on that honour for earthly gains.
But as you said, it is up to them to decide how to interpret such rules.
“I am your mother” is the biggest argument from authority ever. No logic and only emotion.
Pretty sure you can find that exact phrase in The Harpy's Child, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, and Disarming the Narcissist (which, by the way, has a really misleading title). Or, at least, something that sounds really similar.
I’ve said it before, when they become adults, children become the parents’ peers, equals in the eyes of the law. All authority ends at the age of majority. At that point, it’s nothing more than a shallow, pathetic attempt at guilt tripping.
“That worked when i was 17, but not anymore”
@@hollyhartwick3832 Honestly, I don't think it's entirely guilt tripping. I'm pretty sure they actually think that being your "parent" means that you're an extension of them, so your time, property, relationships, and autonomy are theirs to do with as they wish.
Honestly, the OP's mom sounds like my mom. Except for the fact that she wanted to see my bank statements, even though I was 31 at the time.
I love how the entitled family claims that the kids are "starving" and that one dinner wont be enough but then said family decides to throw out that one dinner onto the street and drive off thus fully ensuring that the kids "starve".
That last story reminded me of my late grandfather! He wanted me to wait on him hand and foot. I told him: "You're NOT a baby! GET IT YOURSELF!"
Lazy entitled sack of booboo wants U2 fetch ice cream at 11 p.m. you might want to divorce that.
hubby needs to be reminded that divorce court is just around the corner, as is unemployment if his boss hears what he does at home because he most likely is acting the same at work too.
I had a girlfriend that was like this. People told me that was 'completely normal'. Weird how those roles switch around.
Agreed!
I doubt he just started that behavior out of the blue. He was probably the kind of parents who was like "But that's the wife's job!" when it comes to cleaning/child care and his promotion just gave him more balls to push it further. If Mr. Entitled doesn't agree to marriage counselling to see what a colossal ass he's being, Divorce City is their final destination.
I don't blame OP for evicting his own mother after the stuff his own mother pulled. Mom is using emotional manipulation to keep OP in her control.
Well, I would be disowning my mom and I would also be going no contact with my mom.
I'd also be disowning the siblings too, they didn't help but tried to push the mom back on OP
It's not really emotional manipulation but rather just a parent forgetting that they do not own their child
I not going into it but I Cut my mother out of my life when I was in my 50's. I\m 73 now & life is good.
Third story: I would call social services
1. To find out why they were each listed separately & explain to ss that they can't do this in the future.
2. Report the families for their behavior & that they won't be allowed back next year.
This, I believe, is the perfect course of action.
Likely, they all listed themselves as separate households if married, as all are adults. The unfortunate thing is, address doesn't really matter, as if you apply for SNAP, you have to have AN address, any address. The behaviour can get them blacklisted, but all they have to say is that it's their transient location, and present separation papers to social services.
Especially since they threw some of the food out the window back at them. Apparently they didn't need it that badly. Some people are just bungwads.
@@jengsci8268 I'm not sure if they threw the food out the window, or if they took the food out of the boxes and threw out the now-empty boxes. I was thinking the latter.
@@melaniem2744 Re-visited the story, and just the boxes. Still, it was bad/rude behavior.
Story 2: The "I'm your mother" phrase is, to me, among the most BS excuses in the world of parenting. That give me the implication that EM gave birth to OP just so she could have an excuse to boss them around and be controlling.
My mom tried that, one time. She never did it again after I said "that's not my fault".
She's no mother, just an entitled egg donor. OP is much better off "disowned". Just go hard No Contact. OP doesn't need her stupid drama.
Even if my parents where in sudden financial need they would never use the : I'm your mother/father card. They would just ask nicely. Even tough they would never need to ask because i would help them (they are very friendly and not a single drop of entitlement)
Raising kids like that is like telling the dog to stay off the couch. He doesn't really know why...
I tell my children _Because i'm responsible for seeing to it you grow into a responsible adult, and i'm paying all your bills in the meantime._
At least my kids realize that A) It's educational B) It's temporary and C) They know they can't take care of themselves right now, and I need some cooperation caring for them.
@@stevecannon4780 GREAT RESPONSE!
I think OP should have opened the contest again and the people who didn't win would probably try again and someone who actually deserves it would get a new awesome tattoo.
I agree... and the reason why they are needing to re-run it!
@@wolphin732 Definitely. Someone out there still needs their awesome tattoo that they deserve.
he probably kept a slot open for the coverup which includes the time to design the new tattoo. unfortunately since douche only showed his true colors after the redesign was done he probably doesn't have an empty slot to give away anymore
@@immapotato1 doesnt mean OP cant re do the contest at a later time
now i dont mean to sound rude here as thats probably exactly what OP did/plans to do
i was just pointing something out
I second that
DF, I agree with what you said about blacklisting abusers. I hope the OP and owner in the story contacted the Social Services office where they get their list of people to help out and complain to them about this family. They could have helped 5 more families if this group hadn't worked the system. Hopefully safeguards were put in place to keep a repeat from happening.
I will be very surprised if that last story doesn't end in a divorce. Unless Mister Karen has a complete attitude change. It's clear that his shitty attitude and entitlement are already getting on OP's last nerve and I don't think most people are going to stay with someone who treats them like that.
I suspect there were red flags all along indicating he was like this and that she ignored them, like so many people do when they love someone. This attitude doesn’t just crop up overnight.
HE NEEDS A DIVORCE!!!!!!!!
I'd say couple therapy should be given a chance if he's acting like this after a promotion and if that doesn't work, definitely a divorce.
Yeah, I'm sure the red flags were there all along. He just feels like he has more leverage now. That marriage was doomed from the beginning.
Story 5: If husband acts the same way at work, he won't be staying in that position for long. And the wife will be enjoying the last laugh! In my house, there is only one trump card as to who brings stuff to whom. Whoever has a cat on their lap always has the right to ask to be served as long as the cat is there...and as long as the cat was the one to climb up there herself (no cheating by getting the cat and putting her there in order to be served!). She likes both laps, so it works out pretty well.
cats rule. my cat just plunked down on my legs, guess its time for bed.
Ah yes. Saw an ancient painting of a Chinese woman actually cutting a portion of her beautiful gown off so as to not disturb the cat. It's a time honoured thing.
Same for me but with dogs
I had the opposite thing happen! When I lived with my ex BF he got into medical school. The ambulance company he worked for said that his new availability [2.5 days] wasn't enough to keep him on even part time and he started delivering pizzas. He could not hanfle the sudden demotion from EMT to pizza guy and the associated lack of respect he got from customers. Meanwhile, it seems like people were getting on his case because I was the manager of 3 locations for a regional business and easily made twice what he did. The abuse was all verbal for a while, this same sort of "you need to make food I like, clean, etc." And he even got a dog against my wishes [he took a survey dog vs cat of 10 people and tried to use that to justify the surprise dachshund with behavioral issues he "got for cheap because he's older." In that neighborhood my white ass stuck out and I was not walking a dog when I got home after dark in my work suit. Might as well just throw my purse out the window. It was fine before sundown, but seriously.
When it got physical I left. Asking and guilt-triping a woman until she says "I just want to go to sleep" is not actually consent. He could keep the broken bedframe [he never hit me, it was still abuse] but I took every single thing I paid for - left him with games but no electronics to play them on, some plates and forks but no spoons or anything to cook with, etc. Oh, and our wifi was a cheap Hotspot modem that I bought, so I took the whole internet too!
This is genius.
That whole entire family should be blacklisted from any further donations of any kind. Getting more than their fair share and screaming for more SMH. There are 5 more families that could have eaten a thanksgiving meal if they hadn’t been intent on hogging everything. I’m wondering if they didn’t have a pal in social services that “helped” them get more than they should have.
I agree. I would understand 2 meals if they had like 9 kids (as the turkey and trimmings might be spread too thin), but no excuse for what they did.
Btw nice cat
To the person in the last story; divorce him. You don’t need someone like that in your or your four-year-old’s life.
Yeah he would have been wearing that ice cream
I hear about the unappreciative people and think of the years my spouse and I had bean tacos for Thanksgiving and Christmas and were very thankful for that.
I really appreciate the story about the husband insisting that his wife get him ice cream and her telling him to get it himself. It gave me the confidence to tell my ex-boyfriend that I am not his property. We are not going together. I do not have to clean his apartment. I do not have to run over and bring him chocolate because without it he can't go to sleep. I do not have to feed him. Thank you so much!
I think when a mother calls the cops on her child bc they won't give her free stuff and expect her grown self supporting son to eaen the money but still be a obedient child, then your done
If my husband started ordering me around like that he'd be so far out of my life Google wouldn't even be able to find him. That's ridiculous! It's going to hurt really bad when he gets knocked off that high horse.
Yeah. It'd be the couch for His Majesty. Permanently. Two weeks to find alternative accommodation (only if he behaves) and all correspondence through a lawyer.
If I was married she wouldn't even get on the horse.
Me: Sorry hon forgot to get your high horse. I have the disease CRS (can't remember stuff was censoring what the s traditionally stands for and saying what it means in case no one's ever heard that expression).
The divorce will slap him, but he won't learn.
That is hilarious: "so far out of my life Google wouldn't even be able to find him". I have to try to remember that line!
I'd suggest casually leaving ads for divorce lawyers around where he'll find them and playing dumb if he asks 😈
My dad once fired my mom and me. He realized quickly his mistake and never did it again. I went through the same thing with my husband, once. I just looked and said "If this is how it's going to be, I want a divorce ". It never happened again.
Good idea
@@stevecannon4780 fired your mom, and you? Family business?
@@Gabitronia no, he had been promoted and was the manager of maintenance for a freight line. He just got mad and was yelling and without thinking said "you're fired". We laughed at him Which made him madder, so he left home for 6 months to punish us. A truly dysfunctional family.
@@stevecannon4780 "left home for six months". Yeah mate, I wouldn't have been there when he came crawling back. No forwarding address either.
That last story: there's no way he didn't have bad behaviors before, the promotion probably just made them way more prominent. If he didn't knock that ish off its time for counseling or a separation. A spouse is not a slave.
Was thinking the same, it would be odd that someone who had been a respectful person would wake up one morning and start treating everyone like their personal slave.
Unfortunately, giving in even an inch, people like him will take a mile. He must be a real prince to work for. The language I would have used to suggest where he could put his ice cream and cashews wouldn't be fit to print.
Are you my sister, her husband is like this too. He did work(retired now), buuuuuut, He does nothing in or around the house, my sister works too. She had to look after the kids, all household chores, Garden chores, you name it. She had just had an op on her legs and wanted to brag he had WAIT FOR IT, made her a cup of tea. A couple of days later we took kids presents down on Christmas eve, (From Santa). 😅 she came out to get a portable TV( roughly 35+yrs ago). So not light, he had a cold. No he’s a hypochondriac. If this is how you don’t want your life to be RUUUUN.
I would say “did you get promoted at home to assisted manager? If so that makes me the manager, so rub my back and get me ice cream with extra drizzle!”
And don't forget the cashews.
What would the husband do if the wife treated him the way he was treating her like she would take a whole day and treat him the way he was treating her what would what would he do to that. .u.?
“I normally work in the kitchen as a dishwasher” & “I’m good at videos games” LOL!!
When I was 16, my mom was in my room talking to me. My room was right off of the kitchen. My stepdad, standing in the doorway asks my mom to make him a sandwich. We both look at him and she says “are your arms broke? Make it yourself”. I was floored. She didn’t usually stand up to him 😂
I would rather be single than to be with a narcissist like OP’s husband from that last story. Being in a relationship with a narcissist NEVER works out. Being married to one could also lead to a divorce
It can also, sadly, lead to the child of the narcissist thinking that this behavior is acceptable, is how to treat the mother. Which will, eventually, damage the mother's relationship with her child. This is a huge red flag, and I hope the OP gets out NOW.
What surprises me is that it doesn't more often lead to homicide.
@@Kayenne54 it does, but it's the Narcissist that's the perpetrator in 99%of the times...
I'm a woman who can rotate her own tires, do an oil change, fix a leaky faucet, etc. Why? Because I had a husband who, when asked if he would fix something, would sit down in front of said something and start barking orders.
"Get me this!"
"Get me that!"
"I'm going to need a wrench."
Blah, blah, blah.
It was easier to do it myself, if I was going to do all the work!
LOL
I would automatically leave. I'm no one's slave. I don't tolerate that sense of entitlement. Plus! I love you more for adding Dwight to your video!!! You're the best!!
Last story. I would have got up, thanked him for the suggestion, went in the kitchen with a book, and made myself a huge bowl of ice cream and enjoyed every bite.
while he was waiting.
I would have come back with it and eaten it in his presence. "Oh no, this is my ice cream. I told you to make your own."
@@CiaranMaxwell 😆
@@CiaranMaxwell I heard another story like that once. The husband had gotten too big for his britches and demanded his wife make him ice cream when he'd just been in the kitchen. So she went, made this killer sunday with all his favourite toppings, grabbed two spoons, then dug out a spoonful with one spoon and returned to the livingroom. Her husband got the spoon while she had this ridiculous bowl of ice cream... and that successfully knocked him down a number of pegs and he realized he was being a dick. lmao
The good thing about the all the family's names being on the list is they won't be added to next year
You notice all the other kids were trying to shame and guilt
OP for not wanting to keep their mother in his house but none of them wanted to be the ones to take her in when he turned the tables on them?! Clearly they were only willing to be good dutiful children as far as it only inconvenienced OP!
2nd story: if your "family" disowns you for standing up for yourself thats good cause i wouldnt call them family either
"I am your MOTHER!"
Mine used to say shit like that to me.
Plot twist, I disowned her 🤷♀️
The last one...lady, get divorce papers immediately. He didn't get married to have a wife, he needed a maid, and he won't change. Trust me, I know. Get the hell out of there now.
While growing up my family had to ask for help almost monthly because I had a father who would rather spend his paychecks on beer and other things instead of paying bills and buying food for his family. My mom and I would walk across town to collect food from our church. And during the holidays we were gifted full meals from fire departments and police stations , they even brought Christmas presents. I will always be thankful for the help my family received and that's why I volunteer as much as possible. Love your videos Peace and love to you and your family 💙💜💙💜💙💜
Best wishes to you & your family this holiday season! I know exactly what you're talking about & my family has been there as well when I was growing up. ❤ My son (15) & I do whatever we can with whatever we have to spare after bills & necessities to try & help our neighbors who are struggling, especially around the holidays, because we know what it's like to go without.
@@jessicawinchester7184 Same with my family. Clearly it is those of us who have the least who without hesitation give the most because we know exactly how it feels to need. 💜 ✌️ ❤️
I’m sorry you had to go through that being in a troubled house is not fun of course I wish I knew what your situation was like but unfortunately I don’t but that doesn’t mean I still can’t have empathy, anyway I hope you’re doing far better than you have ever been and may you earn a special place in heaven😘
I love what op does helping the families at Thanksgiving. Things like that is what I want to do in life. My heart was so happy.
My husband would get my disabled butt out of bed to go to the store to Buy him ice cream, then I had to make him a HUGE bowl of it BEFORE I could go back to sleep!! Guess that's why he's my EX!!! 🤣🤣🤣 🥰 Love you Fluff!! 🥰
Oof
Talk about toxic at least he's an ex now
Standing ovation from me! Great job on the ex. What a bloody cheek! Congratulations on the divorce.
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It wouldn't even occur to me to do something like that to my wife.
That last dude belongs in the wife's "my toxic ex" stories.
The way he is denying his actions is gas-lighting, and is a form of abuse. I hope OP can get out of that situation (and the kid as well).
I can't see a person changing overnight like that. It must have been sneaking in for a while and she's just noticed he's pushing his luck even further. I didn't like how she told him where to go over the icecream and he still didn't listen, just told her she didn't appreciate the situation or whatever he said. She needs to put a stop to it NOW.
Regarding story 5... in what make-believe fantasy world does he think an assistant manager in a WAREHOUSE makes more money than an actual manager at a psych ward?
OP said because he "makes more".
As someone who has occasionally relied on Community Food Banks in the past in the past year or so, the Thanksgiving story is annoying. I mean, the food was donated by people out of the generosity of their hearts, and this family of scammers tries to take more than their fair share. I mean, if they'd all come in separate vehicles, benefit of the doubt - massive lay-off at a factory where many of the family worked at - possible - or if the younger ones were all adults, they could say "We were all coming here anyways, so we decided to save gas." Plausible. But for the unlisted member to complain, along with the rest.... ruined what little goodwill one might have.
Why is it that so often the people who legitimately need assistance feel so terrible about needing it, and in many cases don't seek help because they feel bad about it...........Yet so often people who don't need the services have such a bad attitude and don't even feel bad for the fact they are taking that from someone who is in need?!?! 🤬🤬 🤦♂️🤦♀️🤦
Because the people who actually need it get shamed due to the behaviour of the people who don't
@@periwinkle98 to me it makes no logical sense. 😔😞
Those that act that entitled have no concept of understanding or empathy. I'm thinking that lately that empathy is being removed as more narcists are getting more power and breeding faster. Soon, the world will stop advancing, as only the narcists will have power or money, and they would have no interest in helping anyone so nothing would be done.
Love how the siblings get mad that OP won't keep their mother living with them. Yet they don't want to take her in either. Hypocrites.
The mother story, don't you just love it when said siblings call OP to tell him off but suddenly come up with ten thousand excuses why they won't take mom in instead? And frankly, how long before big brother boots her out as well?
A MASSIVE thank you to the OP on the Thanksgiving dinner giveaway! Yeah, there are always going to be jerks, but for folks like me and my family who didn't have any resources back in the 80s, folks like you are a Godsend! HUGE HUGS to you and yours!!!
To make things worse OP's husband could be assistant manager, but OP said she was chief manager, so she still has a higher rank than her husband.
I bet his name is DICK. Wonder if ever saw the movie "Burning Bed?"
17:53 I would have said “yeah? Well a man in hell wants ice water; doesn’t mean he’s going to get it. Now, it’s late. Leave me alone.” Or, I’d say nothing at all and pretend to be asleep.
There have been times in the past when my children were little that my wife and I needed help for Thanksgiving and especially Christmas and was happy with whatever help was available, and some years it truly wasn't much but barely enough. I'm fortunately no longer in the position of needing that help and try to pass on what help I'm able to give. There are many organizations that help out such as the Salvation Army and The US Marine Corps Reserves Toys for Tots. Many communities also have food banks and many churches also have community food missions and such. The help is there, but please don't abuse it.
I have been helping out at toys for tots in my area for the last 2 Christmas’s and their are some very greedy people out their like this family of 5 kids asked for new bikes when they just got bikes the year before and complained when they came to pick up the toys that their weren’t any bikes with their gifts also having the mom and grandparents both sign up the kids thinking they will get twice the gifts that way nope sorry. We had one grandma yell at the marines bring out the black bag full of gifts for one child saying both her and her daughter signed up so where is the other bags they told her the rules basically the kids only get a certain amount of gifts each and we only go by one applicant not both she was so livid she turned red lolz oh well her family has now been put on the black list because of that stunt and her attitude.
I would have divorced that guy so fast, he wouldn't even see it coming. His legs and arms aren't broken.
My husband (now ex) would frequently let me know how worthless I was because I did not have a college degree and he did. When I had enough, I let him know that until he either earns what I do an hour (I was earning $10.75 an hour, he was unemployed), been at his job a year ( I had been with the same company 7 years, the longest he had been employed was 6 months) or used his degree (speech communications ) his diploma is only good to wipe his fanny! He never brought it up again.
I'm like, 80% sure the last story was from an AITA post. I remember reading it and people telling OP how worried they were if he was like that with HER, how bad was he towards his own employmees
Last story hubby would be sleeping on the sofa till his behavior improves
Preferably someone else's sofa.
And think of it: these sofas are very heavy. If he has to move it to the garage to be able to sleep on it his back might hurt!
The husband made me grit my teeth so hard. I would leave him if I didn’t have the kid. The urge to just stomp on his face was so strong
I love my mom more than anyone and she is the greatest, most compassionate, selfless, caring, kind and genuine woman I have ever known.
I just can't imagine having a mother like the one described in this r/. Just..wow. I'm sorry to anyone who has a parent like that. That's just not right.
I was in middle management once. 10 out of 10 would not do it again. It is nothing but everyone else making their problems your problems. Draining as hell. Still though I would get off work, go to walmart, buy myself a stake at 2 am and cook that thing. No excuse for pushing everything off on a spouse daily.
I'm not sure if I can legally say what I'd do if my partner treated me like the OP of that last story. I feel so bad for her.
Ha! Hubby knows better! He knows he'd get a piece of my mind so fast his head would spin. (My Scot-Irish/Sicilian temper is not pretty) The EH in the last story is acting as if his was the only income in the home. I MIGHT have had some sympathy for him (very little) for a very, very few of his "requests" if his wife did not work outside their home. Even then he would have to be a hell of a lot nicer about how he made them. If he doesn't calm down he's going to find out how much of his income he'll be losing in the upcoming divorce.
She should of brought the ice cream, chocolate and the cashews and dumped them on him and told him
"here you are sweetie, enjoy your ice cream."
I've heard this "because I'm family!" bs many many times, to me and to friends, and it's always come from people who firmly believe "family benefits" flow only one way, their way. I walked out on my "loving" family, and kept my phone off-hook from Nov 1 to Jan 1 over 20 years (and managers learned to put them on "hold"). Some people will be envious and covetous of every single thing you have even if they have ten times as much.
That last story Divorce him immediately if he does appreciate your work I know you just work as hard as he does He does not deserve you
Grew up in foster care. Those secret Santa 🎁 were the only thing I ever got for Christmas. I remember getting exactly what I asked my social worker for; a sweat shirt and a pair of black jeans and even a walk man another year.💖 I appreciated those gifts and will never forget the kindness of strangers. Gave me hope and let me know there are good people in the world. 💖💖
Last story = Take the kid and crash at the Grandma and let him know she'll return when he behaves like a mature adult. Otherwise, it's time for a divorce or couple therapy.
I'd divorce right off the bat.
The last story: I would effing smack the crap out of him and tell him to get over himself and get his s*it together before I completely lose mine🤬
Yep, he needs to be hit with a good dose of reality!
Or maybe a scare of divorce and not seeing his kid again
Just a kick in the balls once a month to make him mature a little quicker!!? Psml
I would have given him mock divorce papers and say that the next time you pull this sh!t they will be real divorce papers.
An that's why older guys treat you better, not through fear, but just fed up of being shouted at?? Kiddin!x
I have always enjoyed hearing about entitled people getting their just Rewards
Just Desserts, but yes.
It sounds to me that being disowned by that family is more of a blessing than a curse. So when mama is on her deathbed she shouldn't expect a visit from OP.
I’m a disabled veteran for my sins. I got smashed in a horrific accident, and when they flew me back to the UK, I went to Hasler hospital. I started rehab and for the hydrotherapy sessions the guy that helped me in and out of the pool and helped dry and dress me was someone a future MIL would have nightmares over. Six feet tall and covered in tattoos and piercings. But he was as gentle as a lamb when handling me and other patients.
1:30 ah, bless his heart. Poor artist doesn't know who the Aryan Brotherhood is. The minute he said "Viking" I just went, "oh, he's not ashamed, he just only wants his _friends_ to know he's a racist."
right? but even I, who knows about this, was like "ok ok MAYBE he's friends with some normal, not hateful af norse pagans or something" but no. and it's just all very disheartening
What does AB have to do with vikings? Couldn't find any AB symbol that had anything to do with vikings.
@@aduckofsomesort I am well aware of this. The Nazi swastika is also a bastardized symbol that, in the reverse, stands for peace (among other benign things) in many other cultures and religions. That being said, I also worked in a prison for 15yrs and if you honestly believe AB and other white supremacist groups haven't bastardized an entire culture, you're either naive or willfully ignorant. Getting a cool Viking tattoo isn't inherently racist. Getting it to cover up a giant swastika chest piece is a pretty big red flag, because it's likely just an excuse to more covertly convey your racist hateful beliefs to those in the know, rather than broadcast it to the world.
I was thinking the story was going to end, "No, no, not actual Vikings, but the football team!". Strewth.
@@huntjl88 The AB, and other white supremacist groups, took Viking iconography quite a while back. They use Mjolnir and Yggdrasil in conjunction with swastika tattoos pretty regularly. They also intersperse Norse words in their "confidential" communication. I worked in a prison for 15yrs, many white supremacists see the Norse as "true Aryans," and have appropriated the parts of the culture that fit their narrative.
The last story. This is how you end up with things in your ice cream.
Ok so a lot of neo-nazis actually really like old norse stuff, right? So him wanting a viking ship did have me cringe but be like "okay, maybe he's still interested in that without the extreme hate, there's normal norse pagans out there after all" BUT NOPE!!! of course. *of course*. I'm so damn sad for OP
Oh shit, so he DIDN'T renounce it? I figured...once a Nazi always a Nazi...
I was like oh. An Odinist. Of course. 🙄 The All-Father deserves better!
@@kespeth2 oh yeah. If someone calls themself an Odinist beware!
It's so sad, because the Vikings were cool as heck, and Norse mythology is fascinating. They don't deserve to be pulled into some assholes nazi bullshittery
@@gilded_lady he deserves so much better
When the right question in annoyance is asked a 10x's the awesomely SHOCK value answer of all time will be given!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I well know the scammers. They make it so much harder for those of us genuinely in need--as well as for the people that generously want to help those in need. The burnout among Social Service workers is phenomenal. They can't do as much as they'd like to help people that are honestly in need, then they have to deal with both the scammers and the entitled jerks that often get more than they deserve.
One time I listened to one client give the worker unholy hell because they couldn't give her this, that, and the other. I came up next and said, "Let me guess--they want you to make sure you use Charmin when you wipe their ass, right?" They needed that laugh...
I make sure to *always* thank the social workers--even when they've had to tell me bad news--and let them know I understand how challenging their job can be. They don't hear that enough.
Our safety net in the US is definitely NOT what it should be, but I am more than grateful for every bit of help I've received, and try to pay it forward whenever & however I can. There are a lot of real good folks out there.
Insanity = doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result.
I just got home and get the treat to listen to this after my shift at my PT job! Woohoo!
(I work a FT and a PT jobs. 1 day off a week. These are treats for me!)
One yeah when my youngest was still basically non-verbal as well as being severely Autistic! We were lucky to be chosen in her special school to receive a hamper one xmas! I was and still are a divorced Mum of 4 children, I think they all have varying levels of Autism, with my youngest being the worst, then my eldest and the other two. But I had and still have no family or friends where I am and I admit I was struggling as I am disabled, no one was helping me. I can tell you I was beyond thrilled! So to the OP that was helping out with hampers for the needy we seriously really appreciate those hampers! My kids got gifts and xmas dinner, don't stop helping OP you were doing more good than you could even guess! On behalf of those of who are struggling and feel forgotten, A HUGE THANK YOU!!
Story 2: Now OP has a new response when his brothers and all them say "She's our mother" he can say "No she's not"
Story 5 reminds me of my parents. My dads job is in construction and my mom works with special needs children at an elementary school. She is basically the only employee there who can really handle the kids and treat them with respect simultaneously. My dad doesnt take my moms job seriously and thinks he deserves all the special treatment from her because he "works harder" but i personally think my dad would crumble under the stress of autistic meltdowns and changing diapers for kids who are tall enough to dunk on him. My mom is really good at her job and she works just as hard as he does but he doesnt always remember that.
My responses to the demands and orders from entitled dad who "worked all day" would all be sarcasm and many tiny little acts of petty revenge.
Ya know, if the wife/significant other asked for a backrub, said person is getting a backrub cause when done right said backrub can possibly lead to happy time with wife/significant other.
Mr Assistant Manager ‘s wife needs to go on strike. Remind him of the contract that they took when they got married ; part of the contract says … Love, honor and cherish. Acting like an entitled clown isn’t honoring or cherishing his family at all. Since HE broke his marriage contract she will refuse to cook, clean, or do anything for him until he apologizes. If he won’t listen to reason , I’m sure a lawyer will be happy to explain how much child support costs. I pray that your husband gets over himself. He’s the assistant manager at a warehouse, not the Pope.
My immediate imaginary answer to that guy demanding ice cream like a 3 year old was "And who died and made you god?"
@@Kayenne54 My Mum always used to say 'what did your last servant die of' I'd be cheeky and say 'underwork so I beat them to death' but I had to run so she didn't cuff me for it.
Me listening to the last story, "chuckles, he's in danger"
Has Emily considered a divorce, because screw that guy, he isn’t getting any better, he’d shown her who he truly is and honestly, she needs to ditch the deadbeat husband
I would simply not have a husband no more lol. Love how he pulls the "i work all day card" when his wife works more hours. I can see this relationship ending if he doesn't get his act together and act like a partner, not a greedy boss.
Hey, Mister "assistant manager".
My EIGHTEEN YEAR OLD just became assistant manager at a popular retailer. After working there all of mine months.
Cool your power surge, Sparky. It's key and safe privileges, not a knighthood.
Remember assistant manager can mean different things in different companies. In some companies it can be a position that actually means something unlike your 18 yo case.
Still no right to treat anyone like shit, least of all his wife.
@@benmac940 he's assistant manager in a warehouse. C'mon man.
@@Ipernova and your point being? Depending on the size of the place and the type of product there is potential an assistant manager could have a bit more power than an 18 yo kid who has the same title in a shop
@@benmac940 "an assistant manager could have a bit more power than an 18 yo kid who has the same title" keyword being: *could* . Plus, that perceived "power" (LOL) you think mr Assistant has, begins and ends at that warehouse. So, what is *your* point? If, as you say, it's "Still no right to treat anyone like shit", what's the use, exactly, of pointing out how Mr. Assistant's job *could* actually "mean something", unlike OP's kid's?
@@Ipernova the point is exactly as I said it can mean something where as the initial comment is explicitly stating that it means nothing at all except a key and a kid with no experience could do it. Which may be correct in some cases but certainly not all. That is my point
The last story kind of reminds me about my ex-husband.
He was in the U.S. Army. He's smart, so I encouraged him to take college classes. He took what's called CLEP tests (College Level entry Program) and did so well that he CLEP'd out of his Freshman and Sophomore years! I was so darned happy for him.
Until he began to gloat and lord over me about how smart he was, while I was "only" a stay-at-home wife.
I was livid, but thought about it for a few days, then professed an interest in what the actual test looked like.
He gleefully went to the person in charge and asked for a copy 9f the test to prove that he is smarter than I.
He brought it home and I sat down at the table to work on it. Honestly, it didn't seem that difficult, so I just assumed he'd brought just one part of the test. Meh! Whatever.
Two days later, he came home and handed me a sealed envelope with my name on it. I opened it, bracing myself for miserable test scores.
But, no. I'd done well. Really, really well. So well, in fact that there was a letter included, encouraging me to attend college, that I'd likely qualify for a scholarship.
I silelntly showed my arrogant ass of a husband. Hie froze, then his face fell.
He then admitted that I'd done better than he had. I just smiled.
With all the horrible things he did until I finally left him a few years later, he at least never called me stupid because we both knew the truth.
I get to watch this 2 minutes after it was posted! This is awesome. tell Stevo hi for me!
I’m not sure who ASKED?
32 minutes after it was posted i am just as excited my dude!!!
@@sacjony1 let the person have their fun
@@sacjony1 poor take, I asked.
@@vidmaster6451 2 hours after
So in the "I'm your mother" story.......why did the other children not want to take mom in? Sounds like she is a handful and none of the other wanted to take her in
I gotta say it is great listening to ya while I work, my coworkers think I am nuts when I start laughing
Bonding moment?
Story 5: I personally think there's a divorce in order. If that's how he treats her over a promotion at his job and has had 3 weeks to chill out and go back to normal then clearly he isn't the great guy she married. And I get some marriages aren't perfect. But when a parent/husband stoops so low as to be not only negligent of his own wife's feelings and physical stress, then forcing a child to play by themselves in their own room and to be quiet as if he's some great king. This kind of behavior without consequence leads to more stuff happening and entitlement like that can probably get physical and since the police nor the law can do anything until after something has happened it's best that OP either find a way to settle his new attitude or leave him and take their daughter with her.
I knew where story 1 was going when he said he wanted Vikings. Sadly there is a disgusting trend for those people to latch onto Viking and Scandinavian lore and imagery. As someone studying Norwegian, I've learned to watch for it.
Got a good book, documentary, or resource to recommend? (Just curious.)
And as this is the 4th comment about this, I learned to be weary of Norse tattoos.
Not the stupidity I wanted to know exists in the world.
The nazis were big on all forms of pre-Christian, Nordic, “white” culture, the SS had numerous occult references to Viking lore, runes, etc, (they commandeered the swastika, & changed its meaning indelibly, in the minds of future generations, it used to mean peace, & harmonious balance, & now it is associated with brutal tyranny, & sadistic ignorance)….
@@DreAmeoba1 LockPickingLawyer has a swastika lock in his collection as the symbol was used to invite all those things (and to protect the home) in certain countries.
@@DreAmeoba1 As far as I'm aware, the Nazi swastika is actually a reverse of the one you are talking about here. As in, a reversed image.
Story 3: This is a private organization, you were under NO obligation to give all of them meals as individuals. Social Services didn't provide the food just a list of names of POTENTIAL needy families. You should have denied them the extra food. Let them call the cops and be told to pound sand - it was charity.
One thing you don't want to do is mess with social services and act entitled every thing you do regarding social services gets placed on your identity cards under the social security number
Good, then those people won't be able to take advantage of the system anymore.
Looks like that last woman was already on the shit list.
The second story about him losing work after his insane mother shut the computer off, I get so paranoid about that. I hit Ctrl+S multiple times when doing anything before I get up to walk away.
In my army, if you have a tattoo like that, and are even proud of it. That's 1 of the quickest ways to get booted out and get dishonorably discharged.
In Germany, you won't even get in...
Unfortunately, we currently have to weed out folks with swastikas _in_ their heads.
The comment from the “dishwasher who’s good at video games” was fantastic! 😂😂😂
that last story...
They would be presented with divorce papers, and since he makes "so much more than me" he can afford the child support, and he'll have all the peace and quiet he wants after that.
Strike while the iron is hot. With that attitude, he won't last long in either the marriage or the job.
But who will then rub his back or bring him ice cream in the middle of the night?
@@macdieter23558 LOL
That one about the ekg made me remember something that happens to me, I go to the hospital for annually check ups since I have a uncommon heart condition, and the hospitals I go to are considered "training hospitals" where medical students go for their hands on training. Since I have an uncommon condition, it's rare if I don't have a student in on or doing my appointments. I don't mind much but what I do mind is how I only see my actual doctor about 50% of the time when I go to these visits, so if there was something wrong I couldn't bring it up
For the first story. I believe a lot of the anti Nazi restrictions and such in the military were dropped because of the manpower shortages after Iraq and Afghanistan. I don't know if they were readded afterward, but for a while they removed a lot of those restrictions because they needed more people and knew resorting to the draft would be disastrous.
It's possible OP was in the military before the policy changes and didn't know that.
Loved that comment he read on the end of the 4th story. Reminds me of back when I drove water taxis, had one customer who was like who are you, how long have you been here do you know where to go etc etc. So I ended up saying no never driven a boat before no clue where to go was just told last night where the boat was and that you'd know where to go. She suddenly got worried asking if it was true. As a side note to operate a boat commercially where I am at the time required you to have a ticket that needed 18 months commercial sea time plus a couple of months at polytechnic to obtain.
THE STORY OF THE OP WHO WORKS IN THE HOSPITAL+ HAS A
DISABILITY REALLY SHOULD
B PROUD OF HIM /HER SELF.
THE FAMILY IN THE STORY IS SO
STUPID. I HAVE A PROBLEM MY
SELF THOUGH NOT AS BAD AS THAT OF OP +I AM MORE LESS ABLE 2 TAKE ADVANTAGE OFIT
2 HELP OTHERS.
If my husband suddendly started demanding things just because he started making more money than me I would probably just laugh at him. I normally would help him out if he asks because we rarely ask each other for anything if we can do it ourselves but if this became a regular thing and with the attitude too... yeah that would be a great big NOPE.