I feel so sad for the other boy, his brother. No one has time to see him or interact with him because the ADHD boy gets all the attention. He must feel very lonely, I think
Thats why its so important that parents know how to deal with their child if they have ADHD. Then youre not only helping him but the whole family incl brothers or sisters.
@@natalieb6956 Yeah kids with ADHD grow up to be adults with ADHD, like me. For example, they can start by not treating us like some Jeffrey Dahmer Osama bin Laden hybrid. I got treated like a serial killer by my father and some teachers and now, I’ve borderline personality disorder with my ADHD. I’m in therapy and finishing college but still.
@@yaelfeder9042 Im sorry you were treated like that as a child. You deserved better. I hope the therapy helps you grow as an adult dealing with your past, ADHD and Borderline. And I hope that you'll find your strenght and worth. I'm sure you'll get there, good luck!
I totally concur with you! I’ve often wondered why she doesn’t seem to have a partner (I think we possibly know why she doesn’t have children; if she did, I have NO doubt they’d grow into kind, selfless, productive members of society)- but perhaps she’s chosen to give that up to help others. Which is SO selfless and kind and admirable. We LOVE Jo in the USA! Love & Light from Miami Shores🦚 Stay safe mate🌎🙏🏼 Peace & Prayers for Ukraine🇺🇦
@@katherinea.williams3044 "having a partner" isn't everyone's goal, and I so dislike the thinking that people who aren't interested in paring up are somehow deficient. I look at most people's relationships, and frankly they are awful and nothing I would want for myself, ever.
Update on Josh for anyone wondering: he's attending University, is a mixing engineer and is approximately 22 years old. He looks to be very happy and he doesn't seem to have gotten any bigger than he was in this show, which I'd say is a blessing considering his childhood ☺️
How wonderful, hopefully he’s happy with how he is now, he’s a lovely lad let down by his mum but not intentionally I don’t think she seems to love him so much. I hope she’s happier now and more enlightened x
Josh is a lovley lad and I'm friends with both of his parents ! And don't believe everything you see about nanny frost either , I know she isn't as friendly as she makes out and refuses to actually speak to the families when she is not on camera working with them . can I just say Josh has grown up now and is doing very well .
I nearly cried hearing what the 6 year olds had to say about body image...absolutely shocking and heart breaking. Skinny doesn't equal beautiful, healthy equals beautiful. Also parents and kids need to understand that literally "You are what you eat", this isn't just a phrase, it's a fact of life. Also also, Josh can do it, and he deserves some mates.
@@lauraworkman9311 Totally. There was nothing healthy about the skinny ones, they were images of stunted growth and eating disorders waiting to happen.
@@lauraworkman9311you cant see if someones healty just by looking at how their body looks like. The body's they called fat where no where near fat, idk who told them thay but that needs to change.
The young girls how they see themselves makes me sad. Heartbreaking what the society shows in the tvs and such. Poor girls. They dont see how beautiful they are already.
Josh is very good looking, + his personality is so sweet! Because he does have such a handsome face, some weight loss for health's sake would also help him with girls, which will become important to him. His mum has just got to stop being so lazy, and start really caring.
@@cattymajiv I am sure, she cares. I think she might suffer from depression. She is lonely, does not have friends around, copes by playing video games and might not have the energy to do anything else.
My daughter was diagnosed with ADHD at age 7, but she didn't have the behavioral issues. She had OCD with her hyperness. She acted compulsively, and that scared me. I medicated her at that age. If I didn't, She wouldn't stay in her seat to do her school work. She was that kid who wanted to clean and straighten up things, when it wasn't warrented. At age 15, as she matured, she didn't need it, but she still needed a vice to help her get thru the day at school, and that vice was her music. Her teachers let her have her earbuds in to listen to her music, to block out the noise around her, so she can focus.....I don't know how she was able to do that, but she did. She's 24 now, and an awesome young adult.
I’m 26 now and still need music on when I’m trying to focus or organise, I don’t have ADHD but, this could be linked to my anxiety maybe. I’m glad her school accept that.
That’s amazing she was diagnosed so young adhd tends to be diagnosed much later for girls since it shows itself much differently in girls than boys and most of the research comes from boys only
@@Dealbreaker816 yah! I saw the signs when she was 4. I did daycare in my home, so I was able to observe different behaviors in the kids. I watched a child who was the same age as my daughter, but I noticed that he didn't play with the other kids, he wasn't verbal, and made no eye contact. I told his mom that I thought he could be autistic. She didn't know what that was, so I told her to take him to his Dr. She found out that he was, and he started going to a special school. It also helped, that I worked at my daughters elementary school, I learned a lot.
Soooo sad what Reagin said “you’re here to help me be good”. He thinks he’s a bad kid 😢 💔 I love that she replied that she’s there to help the parents understand him.
As a teacher, I avoid using good and bad when talking to kids about behavior. It's hard for kids to understand that they are good, even when their behavior is not. It's also not helpful in terms of changing behavior or teaching positive behavior because it's not specific and makes it about the child instead of what behavior you want them to change. It's much more productive to address specific behaviors.
I'm feeling sorry for his brother, for he seems to be the forgotten one. I know all too well how it feels like to be constantly overshadowed by your younger sibbling.
Yeah man, truly. Outrageous. He thinks we need interventions for him to be good. Terrible. Awful. I'm lucky enough to have lived my entire life knowing how proud of me my father was and is.
That poor boy Josh. That mum clearly has depression and issues with social anxiety but to not seek help for herself so she can take her child to the park to play and to stop over feeding him is neglect
Such a sweet little boy. This broke my heart at how lonely he is. I feel sorry for the mum as well. She seems a nice woman but with depression. God bless and help them both
I wonder how he is now, 13 years later. He will be an adult and may be finishing university or working. Hope he is ok, he was such a sweet and attractive boy.
Reagan is one of those cases where he truly needs medication. Just because doctors over medicating children is a legitimate problem does not mean that no one benefits from being medicated. If they are concerned about starting the medication they should start with a very low-dose and see whether or not it’s affective. Once they’ve seen that it can help they can just adjust the amount until the symptoms are manageable and bearable. We’re lucky to live in the era that we do. We are lucky to have the medications that we have. We really should use them when they’re needed. There’s no point in suffering what can be changed. Of course it should always be used alongside behavioural intervention.
Exactly. I know people which ADHD who are happier on medication because ... well ... chemical imbalances can be helped by medication. Obviously it depends on the case, but just writing it off entirely seems stupid.
It seems like it’s such a simple solution and I truly don’t know how they didn’t come to it themselves…gotta love that stigma against meds that actually make peoples lives easier
@@mimi.dixon.b Being a parent is not about wanting to make your life easier. It takes work and effort to be a good mother or father. You don't just drug the children because it's easier for you.
@@sisterkerry Hi! The last thing I want to do is cause drama or make anyone upset, but I'm a little confused on why you don't think adhd exists? I'm not sure how far you're looking back, but it's been observed as early as around the 1800s. Of course, you shouldn't drug badly behaved children to make them behave (you shouldn't drug kids in general), but if there's something off with one of your kid's vital organs, giving them treatment isn't the same as just drugging them willy nilly.
@@im_so_sorry6562 While I don't deny that ADHD exists, it is overdiagnosed. If I remember correctly there was some change in the diagnostic criteria that caused this. Essentially the diagnostic criteria (for everyone) is anything outside normal female behavior in a classroom, i.e., the baseline for "normal" is female classroom behavior. You can easily see how acive children, especially boys, will be diagnosed with this. Children are expected to sit still & quiet in classroom settings for 6+ hours a day and not deviate without being labeled problematic or disruptive, which leads to these diagnoses. Additionally since it is diagnosed too frequently now unmedicated children's behavior is now measured in comparison to the "good" behavior of the medicated classmates, and drugged children are becoming the baseline for "normal" behaviors. I remember many years ago when I used to babysit my neighbor's 7 yo boy; the school practically harassed his father to get him evaluated and diagnosed with ADHD, because he couldn't "sit still" in school. My neighbor told them that if they ever saw a 7 year old boy sitting still for school all day, there would be a problem with that child. He was never evaluated, calmed down a bit as he matured, and is just a normal adult now. Compare this to an adult person who has been on the equivalent of cocaine (to your brain) to function since elementary school. They are now adults with severe problems. There is (I believe) a documentary about this. Just my two cents. 🙂
Josh's Mum is being selfish. She seems quite happy to have him be a home body so she has company. I was really disturbed by how comfortable she was saying "we're just a couple of home bodies - WE just like to stay home"
The best part is how proud Regan is of his own good behavior, you can see it on his face! He had an image of himself as a "bad kid" and Jo turned that around for him❤️
I’ve been wrench-sobbing for 30 whole minutes about josh. that boy is a ray of sun and deserves nothing but everything good in life. someone please tell me where he is right now and what he’s up to because I seriously will not be able to move on from this if not
Dear God, I hope she stops feeding her child with food like that. My parents and grandparents (especially them ) did the same, and I was obese by 12. I had to lose an enormous amount of weight by 14 and developed an ED. I have dealt with gaining and losing all my life and disordered eating. I'm 30 and still don't have it under control fully.
I was skinny around 1 to 4 then gained loads of weight because the abuse at home. I ended up developing anorexia at 7 and have been in an out of the hospital for years. Parents need to pay attention to what they are doing!
@@grey5395 But sadly most parents do not want to recognize that they are feeding unhealthy foods to their children or they blame the children for it! They say, I had no other choice. But they do not want to see or are unable to see that it is their fault. Or they think that giving once sweets is not a big deal, but then this becomes an unhealthy habit. Sometimes it all starts with them giving the baby cheap and unhealthy formula full of sugar in too high amounts. Very selfish and narcissistic of those parents to not see their own mistakes.
I love Jo’s point about body image & young girls. Truly, if mom speaks poorly about her own body, children will internalize these beliefs. I wonder what would happen if we were kinder with our ourselves and others.
That’s my current job. I hate my body so much because of my dad´s hurting words through my upbringing; but I want to change that with my daughter, so I’m strictly speaking positive, accepting and kind about myself now, so that she’ll hopefully grow up knowing she’s simply perfect just the way she is ❤️
My mom did the same to me. To this day, when I say no if she asks me what I want to eat. She keeps listing things to eat until I get angry. Toxic and making me co-dependant.
it was so weird bc i was just watching and it slowly just became so triggering ??? like i ended up having to skip and i was like “wtf how am i feeling triggered by children on fucking super nanny” but it was really gross :/
The young ones were looking at the older ones reactions first idk if anyone else caught that she should have done it separately maybe people have different opinions in groups
at 32:00 seeing the other kid helping his mom with the door really brought tears to my eyes. I hope he is getting the love and attention he needs to grow up healthy. Must be hard to grow up with an ADHD diagnosed brother :(
Surrounded by all this angst and stress, plus being ignored ,How can he be mentally healthy?. Heartbreaking, that this lovely child has been raised in this environment
They're worried about giving him medicine, but is he happy? I see an extremely angry and frustrated boy, when he should be happy and enjoying childhood. What do you have to lose at this point?
They gave him medicine afterwards. There is a follow up episode. He was doing much better after. And the parents seemed to understand him much better and have less unrealistic expectations.
When people say kids with ADHD are just naughty and need a good smack, can they not see that if someone started they would end up beating the child unconscious. They would literally just scream defiance at the parent up until that point. The poor kid needs medication to HELP him. And imagine how wonderful it would be for his siblings to actually get a tiny bit of parental attention themselves...
I've seen kids at school so bad that the other kids couldn't learn until they were medicated and settled down a bit. It was the same old (Michael) show. So disruptive. I use to sub teach and when they asked me to sub the special needs class and I said NOPE. They later asked me why and I plain out told them I haven't had training and I might snap.
@@eunicestone838 There was a boy in my elementary school class, over 20 years ago. Most definitely had serious issues that went unchecked. Disrupted class, would randomly kick children, suddenly scream...a nightmare and nothing was ever done
@@eunicestone838 Good for you for knowing your limitations. I would have said the same thing in that situation. I'm a patient person but I'm sure I would snap too.
Poor Josh. I can't understand his mum at all. "I'm sad because he's obese but there's nothing I can do about it." ... Yes there is! You're his mum! Feed him healthy food and go play outside with him.
And Josh is an absolute sweetheart. Such a lovely boy. I feel for him and for his Mum, she knows it's wrong but she's having a lot of struggles and I think she's probably quite depressed which makes it so hard for her. I hope his Mum can really help him and he can make some wonderful friends. He really is a beautiful kid. I just want to hug him 😭
I’m just realizing now how tough it must be the brother of the ADHD kid. His parents probably don’t have a lot of time for him. His brother probably takes a lot of his anger out in him to.
I have a Younger brother (he's 16) Who has issues (we dont know if its autism or adhd, or a mix of both, but he goes to a psychologist and is on medication) and before he was put on medication my grandparent's time and energy was spent on him, couldn't even go to a restaurant or birthday party without him playing Up. Now that he's going through puberty and is on medication,It isn't so bad, but he still has his moments.
High fysical activity, structure and bounderies and good nutrition is essential. He need a way to sort out some of his energy. Sofa parenting is not the way- sitting in the sofa shouting not to do or not
Josh is such a beautiful and delightful young boy (I am unsure how long ago this was filmed)! The way he took to all the active engagements was impressive - he seemed far happier to be engaging actively with life than simply consuming foods. He was not lazy, he needed his mum to support the health of both of them. I hope he is thriving now - I wish them each the best in life, and the motivation to keep at it!
It is upsetting to see a child getting all the positive praise because he does what he’s required to, but the brother who is good all the time doesn’t seem to get attention. My children used to say this when a child with behavioural problems was rewarded for being good for an hour and they were good all the time and didn’t get a reward. I think it’s so important to look after siblings. They have to cope with the hits, kicks, high volume of noise for most of their young lives. It’s very hard to explain and they should be given fun time with or without their sibling joining in. The focus is on the disruptive child. I worked with students with behavioural issues and always made sure the whole class got a benefit for being good. It shouldn’t be their loss if it was cancelled because a child had a tantrum. Let them have an hour of T-ball on Friday afternoon whether the challenging child chooses not to meet their rewards or not. I can see there is peer encouragement but they shouldn’t lose a game at the 11th hour when one child spoils it. They need to be rewarded depending on their own behaviour.
If I would be in the same class as Josh I would prefer to be friends with him, no matter if he's big or thin. He seems like such a fun person. A really kind boy. You could spend hours with him having the best time ever.
Ooo Josh’s mom has nobody in her corner either. She appears very depressed and sounds depressed. She is doting on her son so she doesn’t have to think about herself and her situation. She and her son need counselling together and separately.
Watching the young boy and his ADHD actually made me feel emotional. I have it very severe and I was only recently diagnosed. However, my twin sister has autism. So for years my parents (without meaning to) were spending more time on her because they assumed I was fine as I didn't have ASD. But they didn't realise I was struggling, and as I got into my teenage years, they assumed I turned into a very angry hormonal teenager (since girls mask behaviour, so I was never badly behaved when I was younger). But little did they know I was actually just really mentally struggling and I didn't know why. I would have never thought it was ADHD. But the point is, you really do feel so misunderstood by others- even with a diagnosis. No matter what I try to say or do, I feel like no one gets it. I don't know if people will ever fully understand, but I just hope life gets easier. It's a daily struggle.
"But the point is, you really do feel so misunderstood by others- even with a diagnosis. No matter what I try to say or do, I feel like no one gets it." This right here is my biggest annoyance. I completely agree with you and its hard to not try to explain but it always feels like you just cant say it right and they never understand.
As a mother with a child that has a little weight myself it's heartbreaking for him to be bullied he was at school a bit but I went in and made sure it gets sorted out my son has sensory issues and dyspraxia aswell The other thing that bothers me is he cannot play in our street 1 reason is he does not see danger when cars come though street and 2 kids are not nice where I live their parents do not do anythink to say dont be mean or don't talk to people like like that they just leave kids to it so I protect my kids they play in our garden or go the park near their school if a kid was to say somethink to my kids I would say somethink to them because I'm not having it if their parents have a problem they can come find out for them selves I don't care
Punishing an hyperactive ADHD child who's acting out because of excess energy by...DRAGGING and then LOCKING them in a cramped room is so counterproductive. They're acting out because they need a way to release that excess energy. Of course he's going to act out even more if you lock him in a small space with no outlet to express himself. He needs to be allowed physical activity to help him calm down, release the energy, and ground himself and get some exercise endorphins in to help him regulate his moods.
That all sounds great until you have to live with someone acting like that. The socially acceptable way to "vent" is to leave the room and do your venting. Go outside, go into another room. By about 5yrs old kids should already be doing that without prompting. People would excuse a toddler but not an 8 yr old. You don't scream your head off in a room full of people. That is dangerous. In a typical social environment his aggression would be met with aggression. You'd never send your child into the world acting like that. He does need to leave the room when he's off the wall or risk starting a fight.
@@melveny yes, but your forgetting the point, he has ADHD he needs tho sensory things, as someone with adhd and beens around other kids with it, locking the kid up and dragging them are not healthy ways. Its only going to make them act up more, hate themselves, become depressed, suicidal, etc. My 9 year old foster brother tried killing himself because of that.
@@ttv_shayla116 The issue is that he is this old and doesn't know how/where to properly vent. He doesn't sense the need to remove himself when he's getting overstimulated. You don't need to drag or lock up a properly socialized 8 year old. He'd voluntarily leave to vent or stem. He'd feel himself loosing control and take-off. Your adopted brother had more than ADHD going on. Not comparing Apples to Apples in this case. Regardless of how much people explain away this behavior the result is the same. Either learn to vent properly or be socially isolated. Noone's going put up with that in public.
@@melveny The thing is, he was not taught how to vent properly or how to take himself away from the situation, his parents yell at him, they drag him, i understand the frustration on their part but still how will he vent if he doesnt feel safe or feels that he can trust them, if its not a safe place for him.
With both my kids I try to teach them not to worry about how you look but make sure you have healthy habits. Eating balanced, following serving sizes with processed food, reading ingredients to avoid chemicals in food and being active. Health is wealth
You are doing awesome! Growing up I had no food knowledge so I ate whatever whenever with no one telling me what could/was gonna end up happening. I had trouble with my food habits BECAUSE no one taught me what to eat instead I was being told NOT to eat. Your kids are going to Thankyou later
No child acts out without a reason. Watching how Reagan's parents respond to his cries for selfless and respectful attention, explains exactly why he has problems. I admire the parents for recognising their culpability in creating a troubled child.
I’m a teacher and deal with 30 plus children in one room on a regular basis. You can do everything right and still end up with a crappy kid. Some kids just want to be shitheads.
@@eliz_scubavn im sorry for the kids , you should never be a teacher , thiere brains like sponge they see Hear and act how parents they do and people and sorry for bad languge its not mine
@@eliz_scubavn I would like to thank you for this comment because I really needed to read this today. We have two boys on foster care and have decided to return them as they are running circles around us and we cannot cope. And I've tried and tried and did all I could to be tue kindest foster parent but by goodness, they pushed and pushed until it broke.
@@eliz_scubavn No, they don't. "Bad" kids are made, not born. With respect, a teacher has no way of knowing what the parents are or aren't doing (and it's always something, if the kid is acting out). It might have been years ago, or it could be current. The parents might even seem 'perfect' in every other way. But it's always bad parenting, always.
Regan’s a good kid , his heart’s in the right place and he really wants to change his behaviour but he can’t because of his ADHD and his parents being unaware of how Regan’s ADHD effects his day to day life bless them.
Yes and because of his weight and health he will miss out on so much in life !. The stuff most of us take for granted. I do wonder how much with mothers who do this to their children with food if subconsciously they do it to keep them dependent on them(they get scared that they may not need and depend on them as much if they start getting healthy and becoming more independent and making friends etc). I hope Josh managed to keep up the good work as it will be absolutely live changing for him
@@GoogleAccount-pl5lh I agree. It is another form of child abuse that nobody punishes and the mother is excused for her very bad, selfish and narcissistic parenting.
OMG Josh´s mom is literally my mom. I´m 32 with compulsive eating disorder, bulimia, and obesity trying to overcome my addictions and mental health issues to this day. My mother was a narcissist an used to say and do all his mom said here. It´s so sad we are still so uneducated about this. Thanks so much for this kind of content, Jo you are an angel!!
"He has a chemical imbalance" "I'd rather he wasn't on medication". God help the poor kid if he got diabetes then, with parents who will deny him the medicine he needs!
undiagnosed/I medicated ADHD often leads to depression and suicide. So yes, you CAN die from it just like any other medical condition when left untreated
Awe Josh is a beautiful, loving lad who obviously loves his Mum to bits, not taking him to the park or out on his bike all these years has caused him to become morbidly obese along with the food she feeds him. The food would not be half as big an issue if she got herself sorted out with her anxiety about going out because the exercise Josh would get would balance out the amount of calories he would burn. I hope now Josh is in a better place regarding his health and eating and that his Mum is also getting professional help to encourage her build her confidence back up 🥰
I had to deal with this with my son when he was young. He was violent as well. I learned if I used logic he calmed down and did what I asked. He has aspbergers syndrome. He is 20yrs old now and attending University. He is very social and doing great.
Any updates on josh, he seemed like such a sweet kid , his mom is so selfish for thinking she’s making him happy , while making his life miserable,think apart of her wanted him to not have a friend group , because she herself said that she’s a loner and that she’s so close with her son , she was scared of him not being as close to her
He's a mixing engineer living in Manchester and attending University ☺️ I believe he's 22 years old now. Still a bigger guy but it doesn't look like he's gotten larger as an adult which is good 🌻
Parents: My child has ADHD, what do we do? Doctors: Well here is some extensively well researched, highly effective medication that will help adjust the neurochemical imbalance that your son is experiencing, and will drastically improve his concentration, ability to do well in school, emotional control, and self esteem. Parents: How about physical restraint and yelling? I think we'll go with physical restraint and yelling.
I do get it. I suffer on and off from depression, and instinctively I want to deal with it myself rather than using medication. It's not nice to feel that you need medication to make your brain 'normal', and I'm sure that parents feel the same way about their ADHD kids. But we should all be better at listening to doctors and accepting that they probably know more about medication than we do.
@@rhysepoos I totally agree with you! I also suffer from severe depression, anxiety and insomnia si ce I was 11 and a half years old and I'm 46 now. I went through various medications over the years and 10 years ago I found the right cocktail that worked for me and my life has been so much better ever since! I take Effexor, Buspirone and Klonopin, the Klonopin only when I need it and this combination of medications have been a life saver:) I had to really get to a point of understanding about how my brain works and that these medications that the doctor had me try were there to help the chemicals in my brain to work properly. There was a time when I wasn't medicated and I was self medicating with opiates and alcohol which turned into full blown addictions. I am so thankful that I listened to the doctor and got help for my addictions and accepted the fact that I need the prescribed mental health medications for the rest of my life to be able to have a life worth living:) I have been clean and sober for over 9 years now and have remarried last year to a wonderful and loving man and my 10 year old daughter has not had to see me intoxicated or loaded. She was a baby when I got sober so she has no memory of it Thank God:)
A lot of it goes back to the child's diet. What are they eating. Fatty, sugary foods, preservatives, additives, artificial flavors and colors. Eliminate all that, substitute with grilled fish and Brussels sprouts for the kids, these foods have essential vitamins for brain development and cure behavioural issues.
@@mht5875 Здоровое сбалансированное питание и активный образ жизни, а также здоровая психологическая обстановка, полная любви, принятия, понимания и поддержки очень важны для всех
@@mht5875 you don’t cure a chemical imbalance with vitamins. It can help sure but it will not fix it. We have a different brain, it a full on disorder.
This is so familiar from my own childhood. It takes just one ADHD kid to have a whole class or family of children neglected, because all attention goes to him. I had a friend who had ADHD who was great, but when I got older I felt pretty bad for her little brother in hindsight. He was such a good kid, but didn't get noticed as much. Same thing in class. The quiet kids were left unattended because the teacher had to deal with the ADHD boy. It was ususally negative attention as well, the teacher had no idea how to handle him and was constantly fighting him. Just bad all around for everyone.
Those little kids talking about body image says enough about how easy bullying already happens at such a young age and how it should've been addressed way before Jo came along.
I say this as someone struggling through the mental health system to _get_ my ADHD diagnosis: put him on medication, or at least try it. Behaviour aside, you have no idea how much it impacts someone's ability to do literally anything, particularly when they get older. I spent my whole life thinking I was lazy, and not understanding how my peers could just do things. School was a nightmare once I hit high school (7th grade in my country) and no longer had teachers to closely usher me along. Spare him the "what ifs" and regrets he'll inevitably have thinking back if he does go on it later in life.
So well written! I hope that you get what you need to live your best life! You've explained what you're experiencing phenomenoly, the fact that you understand what's happening with you is huge! You can be successful despite your conditions! We just have to find a balance to everything and build ourselves up. The way we talk to ourselves matters, so please be gentle with yourself bc you seem like a very intelligent, kind person and you deserve to be happy! I'm proud of you for trying so hard! 💯❤️💯❤️💯❤️
This. He probably won't need it forever (or maybe he will, but that's OK) but it often helps take the edge off enough for the behavioral treatments to get a foothold. The kid doesn't get a do-over of his childhood--these are the years that are setting him up for adult life. The parents don't have to live with the consequences--they need to get over themselves and at least try it.
I have worked in Sp.Ed for many years. My heart goes out to these parents. The one thing that jumps.out at me are the family home wall color. The living room is shocking green and the child's room is a bold blue. With a child in a constant state of arousal, these colors are too harsh for the family. A calming thing would be to consider changing the.wall color to a neutral beige or spa green..keep the clutter to a minimum.and decorations to basics. Too.much stimulation adds to the child's already over taxed central nervous system. I had a student who had ADHD, he also came to school with a ton of sugar/ processed junk food. It reved him up and then he crashed constantly. It will not stop the behaviors but it will help the triggers and the store bought chemicals worked against his brain chemistry and the meds he took..
Regan should be considered for oppositional defiant disorder too. Watching that was like being at work. The only reason I can work in a therapeutic school for dehavioral disorders is because (thankfully) my children do not suffer from those issues. I could not imagine that being my life 24/7.
I have adhd and we can be easily overwhelmed and be sensitive most times, it's hard to control our feelings. So being patient and giving positive reinforcement like praise really works. We lack dopamine so praising us to do the work you want and even appreciating us and telling it to us, do wonders to continue to do the work, do it again or even starting doing it. We are also at times sensitive to other people's feelings especially with anger. If you be confrontational and angry at us, especially most times, even when we aren't doing something that bad, at least for me I also get confrontational and defensive and that's when the arguments really starts. I think that's what's also sets the kid up with his Dad.
Seeing Josh sitting and being alone in his garden makes me feel so sad. And I know mom has her own trauma, otherwise she wouldn't do things this way. Obesity is not people being stupid or lazy, there are so many underlying problems. I hope Josh is a healthy (maybe still obese, but that's ok) and happy boy/man! He's such a sweet boy ❤
my friends told me I'm selfish not having kids and I'd regret it when I'm older. well I'm almost 60 and no regrets as yet and I sure did make the right decision as I would not have the ability to cope.
Right! I hate when people say that, as if childbirth is my one and only meaning to life, but I see it as meaningless and negative in my own life. I don’t want to destroy my body and all of the other side effects and complications, especially because of some health issues I already have. Especially my grandma who just cannot get over the fact that she’s never going to be a great grandma on my side. In reality, these people are the selfish ones, not the ones who choose to not aid in, or push out a small, troubling ‘clone’.
@@watermelooooon Someone can decide to not have children for selfish reasons and others can decide to have them for selfish reasons. But children are a blessing like the Bible says. And if someone does decide to not have children, that is ok, but then they do not need to fornicate and do the act that produces children! If they can be abstinent, then they show that they do not want them for unselfish reasons. This is the truth that nowadays almost nobody wants to say. And about "destroying" a body, a baby does not destroy a woman's body! The body will change anyways with age. Childbirth changes the body, it does not destroy it! Because of such narcissistic lies children are often blamed for "destroying" their mother's body. Very sad.
Protecting your ADHD child’s mental health should be a number one priority. If you are spending your day screaming at each other then you need to change things. My husband is reading to my ADHDer as we speak. Harry Potter. He’s playing quietly with a puzzle. Screaming does not need to go hand in hand with ADHD.
i tried all of this with my daughter and nothing worked, i tried all the tricks in the book, nothing made her calm down or behave, i gave her up for adoption in the end
The way Jo talks to those groups of girls... why isn't that standard in school or with their own parents? These conversations need to happen way more often.
i really like Jo, she doesnt sugar coat things and says how it is. Although shes always there for the tears and trys to help the parents. Sometimes the ugly truth is needed for a clean slate.
The boy is reminding me of myself as a kid. I often was overstimulated and was not able to control my temper and my parents put me in my room and I had to stay there for almost one hour. Of course it helped me to calm down but I felt so neclected and like my parents don't love me anymore. So the way Jo does it is way better. I love my parents so much and I'm not angry at them but seeing that other kids get understanding parenting. Keep going liek this!!
Me and my twin sister used to have food allergies when we were kids. And chocolate, eggs and milk were some of the things we couldn't eat. So we couldn't eat most of the treats, cakes or fried meals. We were sad about it but our mom managed to find some healthier treats we could eat (for example those rice or wheat breads that look like polystyrene :D ). Trust me, you don't need to give children unhealthy treats every time to cheer them up.
I have epilepsy and if I get hungry I get a headache, then incredibly dizzy, then the seizure happens. Also, if I exercise too much, I have a seizure. It's very hard having so many triggers.
I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Be kind to yourself, take it easy, eat clean and often to avoid headaches and dizziness and get moderate exercise. Take care 🌸
Josh is a beautiful young kid, such a sweetheart. He was raised well. They can both lose weight, get healthy and everything will be good. Some of the other kids I see on this show are terrors and you can't fix a personality issue.
Kids with adhd are generally pretty intelligent and see past the bullsh***. You can't be so regimented with them. Luckily I was pretty chill with my ADHD son. I understood he was going to get angry at simpler things so I chose (when he was about 6) to kill him with kindness. I was just so nice to him. If he was angry id try to make him laugh. If I asked him to do something I wouldn't make him do it immediately if say, so it when you have a chance (and remind him at the right moments).. he's 14 now and has taken meds for school since he was 12. We have had hard times and even has a diagnosis of high spectrum autism too, which actually explains his outbursts and unwillingness to participate in loud and busy activities. He's grown up into a wonderful, CALM and super smart computer "geek". Still on meds for school though, but my god. So glad to be past those past few years. Dont pressure your child, don't be angry with them. Be supportive and try to see the world from their perspective. They are probably smarter than you. 🤣
Same here, mines 3yo and I think his got adhd as I have it, dyslexia and anxiety plus my brother got ocd and dyspraxia. Maybe it runs in thr family. But I've learnt to deal with it.
Poor Joshua. I feel really sad for him. He was telling about his birthday and his mom went “yeah that our boring little life style” and Josh face hurts me. And then he tells that his mom playing games while he would like to go to the park. So he watch the Telly instead
I have a Regan...he's 19 now and to big to carry anywhere away from the area. You have to find their currency and remove it until you get the change you want...sometimes at 30 second intervals. Oh my parents have so much patience...hats off to you...
I have multiple mental disabilities, including ADHD, and half of them were not diagnosed until i was 12. alot of these mental disabilities made it hard for me to process situations and resulted in me lashing out. It wasn't until I was diagnosed and medicated that i started to get better, and if i was never medicated or diagnosed who knows where i would be today. My mom would NOT let them over medicate me, I was only on one to two medications, and it took years to find the right one. I am still on medication today at 25 years old. Reagan needs to be medicated, but not overly medicated, it could save his life.
We adopted 4 kids threw foster care! Been threw this with the younger two who acted out threw trauma! They are much better behaved now 5 years later! We all learned a lot and my behavior helped the most! Working with them was always better!
To yell at a child with ADHD is not the smart choice because it can just make the behaviour worse and it triggers it and makes it worse that it has to be
I'm 31, an occupational therapist. I tried meds twice. Felt HORRIBLE and I don't with my parents made me keep taking them. Don't speak for "all adults with ADHD" because you wish you were medicated.
@A M i meant wish. I felt HORRIBLE on meds. I don't wish my parents made me keep taking them. I had dry mouth, felt faint, and had pathological crying. All side effects of thr amphetamines that are given for ADHD. No thanks.
@Ava which is my point. Not everyone needs it. Doctors often jump to it for children. I do not believe that's for the best. ADHD meds have real risks, and most people aren't recommended to stay on them long term. There are in fact things that can be done to lead to success for many without the need for what are risky medications. It shouldn't be the first or only intervention, and it's important that people know it is possible to be successful without medications. I'm not going to apologize for saying not everyone needs or should be medicated for ADHD.
I knew a kid who was told he had adhd as a child and the parents refuse to medicate him and placed him in sports to channel his energy- today he’s in college and excelling. Sometimes you need to get creative instead of looking for a quick fix. Be patient and think of other ways to help your child.
When they talk about redirecting the focus of the boy with Adhd, it is so important to remember that people who struggle with this aren't naughty or lazy, because I have worked with so many different people with adhd, and whenever they focus their attention on something, they are really hard working. One I worked with, mocked 3 boxes, by the time I had started on my second one..
The mom of Josh really really needs a reality check and some mental help. She has the most sweet and wholesome kid and she doesn't even appreciate that.
I was born in 1981. I had a normal body weight and never had any worries about my body at all when I grew up. It's sad to see so many children struggling with their body image....
Chemical imbalances can be diagnosed with medical testing, such as blood tests. The only test for ADHD is a questionnaire. No-one has found a physical test for any chemical imbalances. I have taught hundreds of children and have never come across a child who has a physical cause for their control over their behaviour, apart from diet, lack of sleep and over stimulation. One very successful pupil behaviour unit which helped hundreds of children would not allow medication and yet was successful in helping modify their behaviour so they could function within a school community .
@@kathywhitfield8515 you can actually see adhd in brain scans, but since the questionare accuratley diagnoses the condition there is no need for really complicated and exepensive exams. And the chemical inbalance in the brain causes people with adhd to focus on everything all the time, wich causes the overwealm you are noticing. It's really good that you can find ways to accomodate neurodiversity in school, but please keep in mind that adhd seldom goes away and many adults stuggle with "adulting" and medication can be helpful for adults a well. By banning certain treatments you can create an unnecesairy stigma against things that might help people live a full life.
I’m so happy to see you have a balanced view of ADHD. It’s classified as a neurocognitive disorder, and responds best to a combination of medication, behavior therapy & parent, teacher training. You have also been very kind to the self-proclaimed messiah who cured children with ADHD. She has no credentials or training - for understanding the myriad factors that contribute to medical problems. And chemical imbalances are just one small factor in brain circuitry. Decades of past & current research, trials, therapeutic techniques go into figuring out how best to arrive at a diagnosis. Clinicians aim to provide the best care without subjecting children & their families to expensive testing which take time to corroborate a 95-99 percent accurate diagnosis with patient-friendly assessments. Wish all of you much luck
It's important for parents to be aware the adhd and add present very differently in women vs men and in girls vs boys. Boys are more often diagnosed because of this and girls are not diagnosed or misdiagnosed because the signs are different.
@@jamsaidemelo1367 It is still a big problem. Girls/ women are still getting diagnosed later in life or not at all because they’re much better at masking their symptoms. Hopefully this changes soon because it’s very difficult to live with for some.
@@jamsaidemelo1367 Who's "we"? Psychiatrists can see a kid for few seconds, ask two questions, then diagnose and write script. It happened to my little sister and it ruined her life.
@@cee-emm A few seconds??? I don't know where you live but this certainly didn't apply to the lad I knew with ADHD, he had numerous visits, lots of different drugs tried - didn't work - and the doctors all worked hard with his mum to try and help him. They certainly didn't ask his mum a couple of questions then write a prescription (and even when they were prescribing he had to visit every few weeks to check on his progress, as happens in many/most civilised countries).
The girl’s broke my heart when they were pinking out what size body they wanted there’s nothing wrong with there body’s everyone is beautiful in there own ways no matter what shape and size they are. 😊 Hope everything are doing well for the family.
I really felt for the family with the boy who has ADHD as someone who has taught such a student. My student's parents nearly split up and the child was estranged from their father who was in denial of his child's condition for the first half of the school year. It took a huge collaborative effort between all the teachers and the child's parents for this child to finish the school year successfully. The "5 seconds" strategy Jo introduced to his parents really does work wonders (even for non-special needs children!).
I think my 3 year old daughter has ADHD but as she's still young and still learning boundries, i was told by her nursery school teacher to wait until she's older. Nursery school teacher tells me that my 3 year old daughter is more hyper active but they let her do her own thing, unless she does something wrong. I was diagnosed with ADHD when i was 7 years old. All i could remember is, i had to be doing something to keep my mind busy but i could get bored very easily and get side tracked. Unfortunately it turned into depression and anxiety so i take medication. I have 3 children. I'm a single mother.
I don't think you would get a diagnosis of a 3 year old as their attention isn't very developed at that age. In the area I work in we don't generally diagnose until 7
I feel so sad for the other boy, his brother. No one has time to see him or interact with him because the ADHD boy gets all the attention. He must feel very lonely, I think
I feel sorry for the dog 😔
Thats why its so important that parents know how to deal with their child if they have ADHD. Then youre not only helping him but the whole family incl brothers or sisters.
He’s a boy who has ADHD not the ADHD boy.
@@natalieb6956 Yeah kids with ADHD grow up to be adults with ADHD, like me. For example, they can start by not treating us like some Jeffrey Dahmer Osama bin Laden hybrid. I got treated like a serial killer by my father and some teachers and now, I’ve borderline personality disorder with my ADHD. I’m in therapy and finishing college but still.
@@yaelfeder9042 Im sorry you were treated like that as a child. You deserved better. I hope the therapy helps you grow as an adult dealing with your past, ADHD and Borderline. And I hope that you'll find your strenght and worth. I'm sure you'll get there, good luck!
this woman is a real helper, a coach. She is so kind and full of love for the children who have difficulties. A very good person.
I totally concur with you!
I’ve often wondered why she doesn’t seem to have a partner (I think we possibly know why she doesn’t have children; if she did, I have NO doubt they’d grow into kind, selfless, productive members of society)- but perhaps she’s chosen to give that up to help others.
Which is SO selfless and kind and admirable.
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Yes. Very loving with her authority, I agree 🙏💦
@@katherinea.williams3044 "having a partner" isn't everyone's goal, and I so dislike the thinking that people who aren't interested in paring up are somehow deficient. I look at most people's relationships, and frankly they are awful and nothing I would want for myself, ever.
Absolutely ❤❤❤❤
Update on Josh for anyone wondering: he's attending University, is a mixing engineer and is approximately 22 years old. He looks to be very happy and he doesn't seem to have gotten any bigger than he was in this show, which I'd say is a blessing considering his childhood ☺️
How do you know this ?
How wonderful, hopefully he’s happy with how he is now, he’s a lovely lad let down by his mum but not intentionally I don’t think she seems to love him so much. I hope she’s happier now and more enlightened x
Yeah how do you know this ?? If there’s some kind of follow up on him I would love to watch it
Josh is a lovley lad and I'm friends with both of his parents ! And don't believe everything you see about nanny frost either , I know she isn't as friendly as she makes out and refuses to actually speak to the families when she is not on camera working with them . can I just say Josh has grown up now and is doing very well .
@@itsmochicakes what is hes instagram
I nearly cried hearing what the 6 year olds had to say about body image...absolutely shocking and heart breaking. Skinny doesn't equal beautiful, healthy equals beautiful. Also parents and kids need to understand that literally "You are what you eat", this isn't just a phrase, it's a fact of life. Also also, Josh can do it, and he deserves some mates.
I was so surprised by what they considered fat… some of the ‘fat’ images looked healthier than the ‘skinny’ ones!
@@lauraworkman9311 Totally. There was nothing healthy about the skinny ones, they were images of stunted growth and eating disorders waiting to happen.
@@lauraworkman9311you cant see if someones healty just by looking at how their body looks like. The body's they called fat where no where near fat, idk who told them thay but that needs to change.
It was definitely heartbreaking. I also believe that kindness = beauty. That mentality would create positive change.
The young girls how they see themselves makes me sad. Heartbreaking what the society shows in the tvs and such. Poor girls. They dont see how beautiful they are already.
Josh is such a cute kid. No tantrum, not even a debate about getting biscuits when his mom says no.
🥺🥺🥺🥺 i wish i could hug him.. he need friends and be happy.. it. Breaks my 💔
That kinda worries me actually, like that mature kid but it's because they had to mature fast, so abnormal child behavior
He doesn't want to disappoint his mother
Josh is very good looking, + his personality is so sweet! Because he does have such a handsome face, some weight loss for health's sake would also help him with girls, which will become important to him. His mum has just got to stop being so lazy, and start really caring.
@@cattymajiv I am sure, she cares. I think she might suffer from depression. She is lonely, does not have friends around, copes by playing video games and might not have the energy to do anything else.
My daughter was diagnosed with ADHD at age 7, but she didn't have the behavioral issues. She had OCD with her hyperness. She acted compulsively, and that scared me. I medicated her at that age. If I didn't, She wouldn't stay in her seat to do her school work. She was that kid who wanted to clean and straighten up things, when it wasn't warrented. At age 15, as she matured, she didn't need it, but she still needed a vice to help her get thru the day at school, and that vice was her music. Her teachers let her have her earbuds in to listen to her music, to block out the noise around her, so she can focus.....I don't know how she was able to do that, but she did. She's 24 now, and an awesome young adult.
Glad she is doing better today ☺️
I’m 26 now and still need music on when I’m trying to focus or organise, I don’t have ADHD but, this could be linked to my anxiety maybe. I’m glad her school accept that.
That’s amazing she was diagnosed so young adhd tends to be diagnosed much later for girls since it shows itself much differently in girls than boys and most of the research comes from boys only
@@Dealbreaker816 yah! I saw the signs when she was 4. I did daycare in my home, so I was able to observe different behaviors in the kids. I watched a child who was the same age as my daughter, but I noticed that he didn't play with the other kids, he wasn't verbal, and made no eye contact. I told his mom that I thought he could be autistic. She didn't know what that was, so I told her to take him to his Dr. She found out that he was, and he started going to a special school. It also helped, that I worked at my daughters elementary school, I learned a lot.
@@jessicawatson7360 My daughter is 24, and still needs her music. She suffers with anxiety and depression
Soooo sad what Reagin said “you’re here to help me be good”. He thinks he’s a bad kid 😢 💔
I love that she replied that she’s there to help the parents understand him.
its what constantly told. 'you are bad'. in various combinations of words by everyone
As a teacher, I avoid using good and bad when talking to kids about behavior. It's hard for kids to understand that they are good, even when their behavior is not. It's also not helpful in terms of changing behavior or teaching positive behavior because it's not specific and makes it about the child instead of what behavior you want them to change. It's much more productive to address specific behaviors.
I'm feeling sorry for his brother, for he seems to be the forgotten one. I know all too well how it feels like to be constantly overshadowed by your younger sibbling.
@@jlessien3826 It was heartbreaking to watch him being totally ignored by everyone
Yeah man, truly. Outrageous. He thinks we need interventions for him to be good. Terrible. Awful. I'm lucky enough to have lived my entire life knowing how proud of me my father was and is.
That poor boy Josh. That mum clearly has depression and issues with social anxiety but to not seek help for herself so she can take her child to the park to play and to stop over feeding him is neglect
I know, it's so sad. He's such a nice little kid too.
He will probably break the trampoline
ikr she could atleast take him to do sport and swimming
Such a sweet little boy. This broke my heart at how lonely he is. I feel sorry for the mum as well. She seems a nice woman but with depression. God bless and help them both
Definitely a hard road!
the boy with the weight issue seems so nice and intelligent,and perceptive.
I wonder how he is now, 13 years later. He will be an adult and may be finishing university or working. Hope he is ok, he was such a sweet and attractive boy.
@@HumanimalChanneli heard he’s doing very well!
Found him on Facebook, and he is still very much obese.@@HumanimalChannel
Sounds to me that the mother was actually subconsciously sabotaging everything to keep him isolated with her.
Reagan is one of those cases where he truly needs medication. Just because doctors over medicating children is a legitimate problem does not mean that no one benefits from being medicated. If they are concerned about starting the medication they should start with a very low-dose and see whether or not it’s affective. Once they’ve seen that it can help they can just adjust the amount until the symptoms are manageable and bearable. We’re lucky to live in the era that we do. We are lucky to have the medications that we have. We really should use them when they’re needed. There’s no point in suffering what can be changed. Of course it should always be used alongside behavioural intervention.
Exactly. I know people which ADHD who are happier on medication because ... well ... chemical imbalances can be helped by medication. Obviously it depends on the case, but just writing it off entirely seems stupid.
It seems like it’s such a simple solution and I truly don’t know how they didn’t come to it themselves…gotta love that stigma against meds that actually make peoples lives easier
@@mimi.dixon.b Being a parent is not about wanting to make your life easier. It takes work and effort to be a good mother or father. You don't just drug the children because it's easier for you.
@@sisterkerry Hi! The last thing I want to do is cause drama or make anyone upset, but I'm a little confused on why you don't think adhd exists? I'm not sure how far you're looking back, but it's been observed as early as around the 1800s.
Of course, you shouldn't drug badly behaved children to make them behave (you shouldn't drug kids in general), but if there's something off with one of your kid's vital organs, giving them treatment isn't the same as just drugging them willy nilly.
@@im_so_sorry6562 While I don't deny that ADHD exists, it is overdiagnosed. If I remember correctly there was some change in the diagnostic criteria that caused this. Essentially the diagnostic criteria (for everyone) is anything outside normal female behavior in a classroom, i.e., the baseline for "normal" is female classroom behavior. You can easily see how acive children, especially boys, will be diagnosed with this. Children are expected to sit still & quiet in classroom settings for 6+ hours a day and not deviate without being labeled problematic or disruptive, which leads to these diagnoses. Additionally since it is diagnosed too frequently now unmedicated children's behavior is now measured in comparison to the "good" behavior of the medicated classmates, and drugged children are becoming the baseline for "normal" behaviors. I remember many years ago when I used to babysit my neighbor's 7 yo boy; the school practically harassed his father to get him evaluated and diagnosed with ADHD, because he couldn't "sit still" in school. My neighbor told them that if they ever saw a 7 year old boy sitting still for school all day, there would be a problem with that child. He was never evaluated, calmed down a bit as he matured, and is just a normal adult now. Compare this to an adult person who has been on the equivalent of cocaine (to your brain) to function since elementary school. They are now adults with severe problems. There is (I believe) a documentary about this. Just my two cents. 🙂
Josh's Mum is being selfish. She seems quite happy to have him be a home body so she has company. I was really disturbed by how comfortable she was saying "we're just a couple of home bodies - WE just like to stay home"
"We're little soul mates". 😬😬😬
@@melanytodd2929 Yep, quite a weird thing to say 😳 she doesn't really want Josh to have friends. Depends on him being there.
The best part is how proud Regan is of his own good behavior, you can see it on his face! He had an image of himself as a "bad kid" and Jo turned that around for him❤️
Poor Josh,he has no friends, he is a sweet kid. It is his Mom fault for him being obese at such a young age.
I’ve been wrench-sobbing for 30 whole minutes about josh. that boy is a ray of sun and deserves nothing but everything good in life. someone please tell me where he is right now and what he’s up to because I seriously will not be able to move on from this if not
Someone says he is at Uni doing Engineering & looks healthy & happy
Dear God, I hope she stops feeding her child with food like that. My parents and grandparents (especially them ) did the same, and I was obese by 12. I had to lose an enormous amount of weight by 14 and developed an ED. I have dealt with gaining and losing all my life and disordered eating. I'm 30 and still don't have it under control fully.
I was skinny around 1 to 4 then gained loads of weight because the abuse at home. I ended up developing anorexia at 7 and have been in an out of the hospital for years. Parents need to pay attention to what they are doing!
@@grey5395 But sadly most parents do not want to recognize that they are feeding unhealthy foods to their children or they blame the children for it! They say, I had no other choice. But they do not want to see or are unable to see that it is their fault. Or they think that giving once sweets is not a big deal, but then this becomes an unhealthy habit. Sometimes it all starts with them giving the baby cheap and unhealthy formula full of sugar in too high amounts. Very selfish and narcissistic of those parents to not see their own mistakes.
I love Jo’s point about body image & young girls. Truly, if mom speaks poorly about her own body, children will internalize these beliefs. I wonder what would happen if we were kinder with our ourselves and others.
That’s my current job. I hate my body so much because of my dad´s hurting words through my upbringing; but I want to change that with my daughter, so I’m strictly speaking positive, accepting and kind about myself now, so that she’ll hopefully grow up knowing she’s simply perfect just the way she is ❤️
Jo has WAY more patience than I will ever have in my lifetime
Poor Josh...what a sweet little lad. I'd love to take him and his mom on a day out. It's obvious that mom has confidence/anxiety issues.
this was back in 2009 and these issues are still relevant today. jo frost is an amazing woman
Wonder what happened to ms frost
@@1971caz38 She’s still around.
@@1971caz38 moved to film 'Supernanny in America, and became very rich
@@jacqueline8559 noticed the cartier watch
My mom did the same to me. To this day, when I say no if she asks me what I want to eat. She keeps listing things to eat until I get angry. Toxic and making me co-dependant.
Jo empathises very well. She's so humane in her treatment of others, yet she's so firm and helpful. I hope to become like this.
The girls laughing at those photos made me feel so bad to be honest I honestly felt like crying
it was so weird bc i was just watching and it slowly just became so triggering ??? like i ended up having to skip and i was like “wtf how am i feeling triggered by children on fucking super nanny” but it was really gross :/
@@rico3726 yeah me too I had to turn it off it was VERY triggering for me as well I felt like vomiting to be honest
I feel guilty as an artist I always draw thin figures as post them online, this was really an important video for me. Really didn’t know
The young ones were looking at the older ones reactions first idk if anyone else caught that she should have done it separately maybe people have different opinions in groups
Me2 because I'm fat too
at 32:00 seeing the other kid helping his mom with the door really brought tears to my eyes. I hope he is getting the love and attention he needs to grow up healthy. Must be hard to grow up with an ADHD diagnosed brother :(
Surrounded by all this angst and stress, plus being ignored ,How can he be mentally healthy?. Heartbreaking, that this lovely child has been raised in this environment
He's a firefighter now. They all look happy in their facebook pictures. Regan has a girlfriend.
What a sweetheart Josh is! I wish he and his mother all the very best ♥️
They're worried about giving him medicine, but is he happy? I see an extremely angry and frustrated boy, when he should be happy and enjoying childhood. What do you have to lose at this point?
They gave him medicine afterwards. There is a follow up episode. He was doing much better after. And the parents seemed to understand him much better and have less unrealistic expectations.
When people say kids with ADHD are just naughty and need a good smack, can they not see that if someone started they would end up beating the child unconscious. They would literally just scream defiance at the parent up until that point. The poor kid needs medication to HELP him. And imagine how wonderful it would be for his siblings to actually get a tiny bit of parental attention themselves...
I've seen kids at school so bad that the other kids couldn't learn until they were medicated and settled down a bit. It was the same old (Michael) show. So disruptive. I use to sub teach and when they asked me to sub the special needs class and I said NOPE. They later asked me why and I plain out told them I haven't had training and I might snap.
Agree, and the sibling living in a house that is constantly yelling must be stressfull. Hope he doing okay
@@eunicestone838 There was a boy in my elementary school class, over 20 years ago. Most definitely had serious issues that went unchecked. Disrupted class, would randomly kick children, suddenly scream...a nightmare and nothing was ever done
@@eunicestone838 Good for you for knowing your limitations. I would have said the same thing in that situation. I'm a patient person but I'm sure I would snap too.
As long as that medication is giving for school only! It is not a babysitter and giving all the time the child will not learn to control his self
Poor Josh. I can't understand his mum at all. "I'm sad because he's obese but there's nothing I can do about it." ... Yes there is! You're his mum! Feed him healthy food and go play outside with him.
And Josh is an absolute sweetheart. Such a lovely boy. I feel for him and for his Mum, she knows it's wrong but she's having a lot of struggles and I think she's probably quite depressed which makes it so hard for her. I hope his Mum can really help him and he can make some wonderful friends. He really is a beautiful kid. I just want to hug him 😭
She has so much pressure
Josh is such a sweet well behaved boy. I hope his life is good now❤️
I always feel sorry for the other children. The one with problems gets all the attention.
damn sorry they didn’t get to choose to have a disability or not
I’m just realizing now how tough it must be the brother of the ADHD kid. His parents probably don’t have a lot of time for him. His brother probably takes a lot of his anger out in him to.
I have a Younger brother (he's 16) Who has issues (we dont know if its autism or adhd, or a mix of both, but he goes to a psychologist and is on medication) and before he was put on medication my grandparent's time and energy was spent on him, couldn't even go to a restaurant or birthday party without him playing Up.
Now that he's going through puberty and is on medication,It isn't so bad, but he still has his moments.
He literally kicked the brother and the parents didnt even ask if the brother was okay :(
Yes but the brother is probably understanding the ADHD of him and how he is different.
High fysical activity, structure and bounderies and good nutrition is essential. He need a way to sort out some of his energy. Sofa parenting is not the way- sitting in the sofa shouting not to do or not
The experiment about body images with the young girls made me so sad :( thank you Jo for giving important attention to this urgent problem!
But in USA in 2023 the bigger silhouette is valued, not the skinny form of this 10yrs ago.
Josh is such a beautiful and delightful young boy (I am unsure how long ago this was filmed)! The way he took to all the active engagements was impressive - he seemed far happier to be engaging actively with life than simply consuming foods. He was not lazy, he needed his mum to support the health of both of them. I hope he is thriving now - I wish them each the best in life, and the motivation to keep at it!
It is upsetting to see a child getting all the positive praise because he does what he’s required to, but the brother who is good all the time doesn’t seem to get attention. My children used to say this when a child with behavioural problems was rewarded for being good for an hour and they were good all the time and didn’t get a reward. I think it’s so important to look after siblings. They have to cope with the hits, kicks, high volume of noise for most of their young lives. It’s very hard to explain and they should be given fun time with or without their sibling joining in. The focus is on the disruptive child. I worked with students with behavioural issues and always made sure the whole class got a benefit for being good. It shouldn’t be their loss if it was cancelled because a child had a tantrum. Let them have an hour of T-ball on Friday afternoon whether the challenging child chooses not to meet their rewards or not. I can see there is peer encouragement but they shouldn’t lose a game at the 11th hour when one child spoils it. They need to be rewarded depending on their own behaviour.
Thank you; I find that very important!
The twins giving jo a kiss goodbye was so sweet
If I would be in the same class as Josh I would prefer to be friends with him, no matter if he's big or thin. He seems like such a fun person. A really kind boy. You could spend hours with him having the best time ever.
kids can b so mean
My heart breaks for Josh
Ooo Josh’s mom has nobody in her corner either. She appears very depressed and sounds depressed. She is doting on her son so she doesn’t have to think about herself and her situation. She and her son need counselling together and separately.
Watching the young boy and his ADHD actually made me feel emotional. I have it very severe and I was only recently diagnosed. However, my twin sister has autism. So for years my parents (without meaning to) were spending more time on her because they assumed I was fine as I didn't have ASD. But they didn't realise I was struggling, and as I got into my teenage years, they assumed I turned into a very angry hormonal teenager (since girls mask behaviour, so I was never badly behaved when I was younger). But little did they know I was actually just really mentally struggling and I didn't know why. I would have never thought it was ADHD. But the point is, you really do feel so misunderstood by others- even with a diagnosis. No matter what I try to say or do, I feel like no one gets it. I don't know if people will ever fully understand, but I just hope life gets easier. It's a daily struggle.
They always say everyone has adhd, or its easy i can do that or something like that, or the parents just say then dont do it or soemthing.
"But the point is, you really do feel so misunderstood by others- even with a diagnosis. No matter what I try to say or do, I feel like no one gets it." This right here is my biggest annoyance. I completely agree with you and its hard to not try to explain but it always feels like you just cant say it right and they never understand.
Aww, Josh is such a sweet boy and so kind to his kitties. Love him.
Josh seems like a lovely young lad it's horrible that he has no Freinds it's upsetting 😥
As a mother with a child that has a little weight myself it's heartbreaking for him to be bullied he was at school a bit but I went in and made sure it gets sorted out my son has sensory issues and dyspraxia aswell
The other thing that bothers me is he cannot play in our street 1 reason is he does not see danger when cars come though street and 2 kids are not nice where I live their parents do not do anythink to say dont be mean or don't talk to people like like that they just leave kids to it so I protect my kids they play in our garden or go the park near their school if a kid was to say somethink to my kids I would say somethink to them because I'm not having it if their parents have a problem they can come find out for them selves I don't care
Why is it always the sweet kids who are bullied?
Josh 's mum is the devouring mother of the myths. She is using her son for her own loneliness and making him dependent on her.
Absolutely
Very narcissistic and selfish.
She reminds me of Cartman’s mom.
That little Josh is just precious.
as someone with anorexia for the past 10-ish years, the girls talking about weight and image really hits hard
Im so glad Jo helps people improve their lives. These poor families were really stuck in a horrible nightmare...thank goodness Joe came around
She is seriously an amazing woman
The thing Jo does, is not to help the parents deal with the kids, it’s helping the kids get heard by the parents.
Or both ....
Punishing an hyperactive ADHD child who's acting out because of excess energy by...DRAGGING and then LOCKING them in a cramped room is so counterproductive. They're acting out because they need a way to release that excess energy. Of course he's going to act out even more if you lock him in a small space with no outlet to express himself. He needs to be allowed physical activity to help him calm down, release the energy, and ground himself and get some exercise endorphins in to help him regulate his moods.
Right? He needs a swing, a jungle gym, sensory play and a place to run.
That all sounds great until you have to live with someone acting like that. The socially acceptable way to "vent" is to leave the room and do your venting. Go outside, go into another room. By about 5yrs old kids should already be doing that without prompting. People would excuse a toddler but not an 8 yr old. You don't scream your head off in a room full of people. That is dangerous. In a typical social environment his aggression would be met with aggression. You'd never send your child into the world acting like that. He does need to leave the room when he's off the wall or risk starting a fight.
@@melveny yes, but your forgetting the point, he has ADHD he needs tho sensory things, as someone with adhd and beens around other kids with it, locking the kid up and dragging them are not healthy ways. Its only going to make them act up more, hate themselves, become depressed, suicidal, etc. My 9 year old foster brother tried killing himself because of that.
@@ttv_shayla116 The issue is that he is this old and doesn't know how/where to properly vent. He doesn't sense the need to remove himself when he's getting overstimulated. You don't need to drag or lock up a properly socialized 8 year old. He'd voluntarily leave to vent or stem. He'd feel himself loosing control and take-off. Your adopted brother had more than ADHD going on. Not comparing Apples to Apples in this case. Regardless of how much people explain away this behavior the result is the same. Either learn to vent properly or be socially isolated. Noone's going put up with that in public.
@@melveny The thing is, he was not taught how to vent properly or how to take himself away from the situation, his parents yell at him, they drag him, i understand the frustration on their part but still how will he vent if he doesnt feel safe or feels that he can trust them, if its not a safe place for him.
With both my kids I try to teach them not to worry about how you look but make sure you have healthy habits. Eating balanced, following serving sizes with processed food, reading ingredients to avoid chemicals in food and being active. Health is wealth
You are doing awesome! Growing up I had no food knowledge so I ate whatever whenever with no one telling me what could/was gonna end up happening. I had trouble with my food habits BECAUSE no one taught me what to eat instead I was being told NOT to eat. Your kids are going to Thankyou later
No child acts out without a reason. Watching how Reagan's parents respond to his cries for selfless and respectful attention, explains exactly why he has problems. I admire the parents for recognising their culpability in creating a troubled child.
I’m a teacher and deal with 30 plus children in one room on a regular basis. You can do everything right and still end up with a crappy kid. Some kids just want to be shitheads.
@@eliz_scubavn im sorry for the kids , you should never be a teacher , thiere brains like sponge they see Hear and act how parents they do and people and sorry for bad languge its not mine
@@eliz_scubavn I would like to thank you for this comment because I really needed to read this today. We have two boys on foster care and have decided to return them as they are running circles around us and we cannot cope. And I've tried and tried and did all I could to be tue kindest foster parent but by goodness, they pushed and pushed until it broke.
@@eliz_scubavn Exactly this
@@eliz_scubavn No, they don't. "Bad" kids are made, not born. With respect, a teacher has no way of knowing what the parents are or aren't doing (and it's always something, if the kid is acting out). It might have been years ago, or it could be current. The parents might even seem 'perfect' in every other way. But it's always bad parenting, always.
There comes a time when he’ll be able to overpower his parents with his anger. It looks impossible to me to live like this
that's why he really needs medication
I agree this needs to be changed now I can't imagine how he would be like as a teen - adult yikes
Agreed. Medication.
@@TranceGurl20 He's absolutely terrifying now!
Regan’s a good kid , his heart’s in the right place and he really wants to change his behaviour but he can’t because of his ADHD and his parents being unaware of how Regan’s ADHD effects his day to day life bless them.
In surprised they didn't look up how his mind works
I love her harsh confrontation👏👏 it’s what people need to wake up!
It's terrible to feed your child like that .. he's a sweet sweet boy . But he's going to probably die at thirty unless she really gets it together ..
Yes and because of his weight and health he will miss out on so much in life !. The stuff most of us take for granted. I do wonder how much with mothers who do this to their children with food if subconsciously they do it to keep them dependent on them(they get scared that they may not need and depend on them as much if they start getting healthy and becoming more independent and making friends etc). I hope Josh managed to keep up the good work as it will be absolutely live changing for him
It's child abuse. If he was starved to that point of weight extreme, he'd be taken into care
Wonder how he is doing today since this show was back on in 2009
@@GoogleAccount-pl5lh I agree. It is another form of child abuse that nobody punishes and the mother is excused for her very bad, selfish and narcissistic parenting.
OMG Josh´s mom is literally my mom. I´m 32 with compulsive eating disorder, bulimia, and obesity trying to overcome my addictions and mental health issues to this day. My mother was a narcissist an used to say and do all his mom said here. It´s so sad we are still so uneducated about this. Thanks so much for this kind of content, Jo you are an angel!!
I love the parents who give a gift to Jo.
It speaks volumes about them✨🙏🏼🖤
"He has a chemical imbalance" "I'd rather he wasn't on medication".
God help the poor kid if he got diabetes then, with parents who will deny him the medicine he needs!
A diabetic will die without insulin and someone with ADHD who doesn't take Adderall _won't._ What an ignorant comment
@@leahtv7778 actually they can die. from impulsive behaviour that can tend to be dangerous alot of times. meds help control it all a bit at least
undiagnosed/I medicated ADHD often leads to depression and suicide. So yes, you CAN die from it just like any other medical condition when left untreated
ADHA and diabetes are drastically different from each other
@@melancholyghost18 she is just pointing out how his parents are refusing him medication that will allow him to function in life
Awe Josh is a beautiful, loving lad who obviously loves his Mum to bits, not taking him to the park or out on his bike all these years has caused him to become morbidly obese along with the food she feeds him. The food would not be half as big an issue if she got herself sorted out with her anxiety about going out because the exercise Josh would get would balance out the amount of calories he would burn. I hope now Josh is in a better place regarding his health and eating and that his Mum is also getting professional help to encourage her build her confidence back up 🥰
Yeah she had bad anxiety about what was going on I think she did run to video games
I had to deal with this with my son when he was young. He was violent as well. I learned if I used logic he calmed down and did what I asked. He has aspbergers syndrome. He is 20yrs old now and attending University. He is very social and doing great.
Any updates on josh, he seemed like such a sweet kid , his mom is so selfish for thinking she’s making him happy , while making his life miserable,think apart of her wanted him to not have a friend group , because she herself said that she’s a loner and that she’s so close with her son , she was scared of him not being as close to her
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@PiXie BeRRie YES! Is he ok?
Josh is doing just fine! grown up now !
He's a mixing engineer living in Manchester and attending University ☺️ I believe he's 22 years old now. Still a bigger guy but it doesn't look like he's gotten larger as an adult which is good 🌻
@@itsmochicakeswhere is his social
Parents: My child has ADHD, what do we do?
Doctors: Well here is some extensively well researched, highly effective medication that will help adjust the neurochemical imbalance that your son is experiencing, and will drastically improve his concentration, ability to do well in school, emotional control, and self esteem.
Parents: How about physical restraint and yelling? I think we'll go with physical restraint and yelling.
I do get it. I suffer on and off from depression, and instinctively I want to deal with it myself rather than using medication. It's not nice to feel that you need medication to make your brain 'normal', and I'm sure that parents feel the same way about their ADHD kids. But we should all be better at listening to doctors and accepting that they probably know more about medication than we do.
@@rhysepoos I totally agree with you! I also suffer from severe depression, anxiety and insomnia si ce I was 11 and a half years old and I'm 46 now. I went through various medications over the years and 10 years ago I found the right cocktail that worked for me and my life has been so much better ever since! I take Effexor, Buspirone and Klonopin, the Klonopin only when I need it and this combination of medications have been a life saver:) I had to really get to a point of understanding about how my brain works and that these medications that the doctor had me try were there to help the chemicals in my brain to work properly. There was a time when I wasn't medicated and I was self medicating with opiates and alcohol which turned into full blown addictions. I am so thankful that I listened to the doctor and got help for my addictions and accepted the fact that I need the prescribed mental health medications for the rest of my life to be able to have a life worth living:)
I have been clean and sober for over 9 years now and have remarried last year to a wonderful and loving man and my 10 year old daughter has not had to see me intoxicated or loaded. She was a baby when I got sober so she has no memory of it Thank God:)
A lot of it goes back to the child's diet. What are they eating. Fatty, sugary foods, preservatives, additives, artificial flavors and colors. Eliminate all that, substitute with grilled fish and Brussels sprouts for the kids, these foods have essential vitamins for brain development and cure behavioural issues.
@@mht5875 Здоровое сбалансированное питание и активный образ жизни, а также здоровая психологическая обстановка, полная любви, принятия, понимания и поддержки очень важны для всех
@@mht5875 you don’t cure a chemical imbalance with vitamins. It can help sure but it will not fix it. We have a different brain, it a full on disorder.
This is so familiar from my own childhood. It takes just one ADHD kid to have a whole class or family of children neglected, because all attention goes to him. I had a friend who had ADHD who was great, but when I got older I felt pretty bad for her little brother in hindsight. He was such a good kid, but didn't get noticed as much. Same thing in class. The quiet kids were left unattended because the teacher had to deal with the ADHD boy. It was ususally negative attention as well, the teacher had no idea how to handle him and was constantly fighting him. Just bad all around for everyone.
Those little kids talking about body image says enough about how easy bullying already happens at such a young age and how it should've been addressed way before Jo came along.
I say this as someone struggling through the mental health system to _get_ my ADHD diagnosis: put him on medication, or at least try it.
Behaviour aside, you have no idea how much it impacts someone's ability to do literally anything, particularly when they get older. I spent my whole life thinking I was lazy, and not understanding how my peers could just do things. School was a nightmare once I hit high school (7th grade in my country) and no longer had teachers to closely usher me along. Spare him the "what ifs" and regrets he'll inevitably have thinking back if he does go on it later in life.
So well written! I hope that you get what you need to live your best life! You've explained what you're experiencing phenomenoly, the fact that you understand what's happening with you is huge! You can be successful despite your conditions! We just have to find a balance to everything and build ourselves up. The way we talk to ourselves matters, so please be gentle with yourself bc you seem like a very intelligent, kind person and you deserve to be happy! I'm proud of you for trying so hard!
💯❤️💯❤️💯❤️
This. He probably won't need it forever (or maybe he will, but that's OK) but it often helps take the edge off enough for the behavioral treatments to get a foothold. The kid doesn't get a do-over of his childhood--these are the years that are setting him up for adult life. The parents don't have to live with the consequences--they need to get over themselves and at least try it.
I have ADHD
I have worked in Sp.Ed for many years. My heart goes out to these parents. The one thing that jumps.out at me are the family home wall color. The living room is shocking green and the child's room is a bold blue. With a child in a constant state of arousal, these colors are too harsh for the family. A calming thing would be to consider changing the.wall color to a neutral beige or spa green..keep the clutter to a minimum.and decorations to basics. Too.much stimulation adds to the child's already over taxed central nervous system. I had a student who had ADHD, he also came to school with a ton of sugar/ processed junk food. It reved him up and then he crashed constantly. It will not stop the behaviors but it will help the triggers and the store bought chemicals worked against his brain chemistry and the meds he took..
Regan should be considered for oppositional defiant disorder too. Watching that was like being at work. The only reason I can work in a therapeutic school for dehavioral disorders is because (thankfully) my children do not suffer from those issues. I could not imagine that being my life 24/7.
I have adhd and we can be easily overwhelmed and be sensitive most times, it's hard to control our feelings. So being patient and giving positive reinforcement like praise really works. We lack dopamine so praising us to do the work you want and even appreciating us and telling it to us, do wonders to continue to do the work, do it again or even starting doing it. We are also at times sensitive to other people's feelings especially with anger. If you be confrontational and angry at us, especially most times, even when we aren't doing something that bad, at least for me I also get confrontational and defensive and that's when the arguments really starts. I think that's what's also sets the kid up with his Dad.
Seeing Josh sitting and being alone in his garden makes me feel so sad. And I know mom has her own trauma, otherwise she wouldn't do things this way. Obesity is not people being stupid or lazy, there are so many underlying problems. I hope Josh is a healthy (maybe still obese, but that's ok) and happy boy/man! He's such a sweet boy ❤
33:18 aww him and his brother are so adorable
my friends told me I'm selfish not having kids and I'd regret it when I'm older. well I'm almost 60 and no regrets as yet and I sure did make the right decision as I would not have the ability to cope.
And don’t let them tell you you’re selfish. Everyone who decided to have kids got it for his or her own personal and yes, selfish reasons too!
Right! I hate when people say that, as if childbirth is my one and only meaning to life, but I see it as meaningless and negative in my own life. I don’t want to destroy my body and all of the other side effects and complications, especially because of some health issues I already have. Especially my grandma who just cannot get over the fact that she’s never going to be a great grandma on my side. In reality, these people are the selfish ones, not the ones who choose to not aid in, or push out a small, troubling ‘clone’.
@@watermelooooon Someone can decide to not have children for selfish reasons and others can decide to have them for selfish reasons. But children are a blessing like the Bible says. And if someone does decide to not have children, that is ok, but then they do not need to fornicate and do the act that produces children! If they can be abstinent, then they show that they do not want them for unselfish reasons. This is the truth that nowadays almost nobody wants to say. And about "destroying" a body, a baby does not destroy a woman's body! The body will change anyways with age. Childbirth changes the body, it does not destroy it! Because of such narcissistic lies children are often blamed for "destroying" their mother's body. Very sad.
but 60 is ain't annymore
You need better friends.
Protecting your ADHD child’s mental health should be a number one priority. If you are spending your day screaming at each other then you need to change things.
My husband is reading to my ADHDer as we speak. Harry Potter. He’s playing quietly with a puzzle. Screaming does not need to go hand in hand with ADHD.
It's not a good communication strategy and stresses everyone out
i tried all of this with my daughter and nothing worked, i tried all the tricks in the book, nothing made her calm down or behave, i gave her up for adoption in the end
@@lolajenkins2674 I can’t imagine what you must’ve gone through I only wish the best for you and your daughter
@@lolajenkins2674 did you try putting her on medication?
Yeah us people with ADHD get treated like a combination of Jeffrey Dahmer and Osama bin Laden as kids smh.
It always makes me so happy to see parents reallyuse the advice they got and have it work out for them
The way Jo talks to those groups of girls... why isn't that standard in school or with their own parents? These conversations need to happen way more often.
i really like Jo, she doesnt sugar coat things and says how it is. Although shes always there for the tears and trys to help the parents. Sometimes the ugly truth is needed for a clean slate.
The boy is reminding me of myself as a kid. I often was overstimulated and was not able to control my temper and my parents put me in my room and I had to stay there for almost one hour. Of course it helped me to calm down but I felt so neclected and like my parents don't love me anymore. So the way Jo does it is way better. I love my parents so much and I'm not angry at them but seeing that other kids get understanding parenting. Keep going liek this!!
Me and my twin sister used to have food allergies when we were kids. And chocolate, eggs and milk were some of the things we couldn't eat. So we couldn't eat most of the treats, cakes or fried meals. We were sad about it but our mom managed to find some healthier treats we could eat (for example those rice or wheat breads that look like polystyrene :D ). Trust me, you don't need to give children unhealthy treats every time to cheer them up.
I have epilepsy and if I get hungry I get a headache, then incredibly dizzy, then the seizure happens. Also, if I exercise too much, I have a seizure. It's very hard having so many triggers.
I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Be kind to yourself, take it easy, eat clean and often to avoid headaches and dizziness and get moderate exercise. Take care 🌸
Josh is a beautiful young kid, such a sweetheart. He was raised well. They can both lose weight, get healthy and everything will be good. Some of the other kids I see on this show are terrors and you can't fix a personality issue.
raised well by the dad now hes gone
Kids with adhd are generally pretty intelligent and see past the bullsh***. You can't be so regimented with them. Luckily I was pretty chill with my ADHD son. I understood he was going to get angry at simpler things so I chose (when he was about 6) to kill him with kindness. I was just so nice to him. If he was angry id try to make him laugh. If I asked him to do something I wouldn't make him do it immediately if say, so it when you have a chance (and remind him at the right moments).. he's 14 now and has taken meds for school since he was 12. We have had hard times and even has a diagnosis of high spectrum autism too, which actually explains his outbursts and unwillingness to participate in loud and busy activities. He's grown up into a wonderful, CALM and super smart computer "geek". Still on meds for school though, but my god. So glad to be past those past few years. Dont pressure your child, don't be angry with them. Be supportive and try to see the world from their perspective. They are probably smarter than you. 🤣
Same here, mines 3yo and I think his got adhd as I have it, dyslexia and anxiety plus my brother got ocd and dyspraxia. Maybe it runs in thr family. But I've learnt to deal with it.
Poor Joshua. I feel really sad for him.
He was telling about his birthday and his mom went “yeah that our boring little life style” and Josh face hurts me.
And then he tells that his mom playing games while he would like to go to the park. So he watch the Telly instead
I have a Regan...he's 19 now and to big to carry anywhere away from the area. You have to find their currency and remove it until you get the change you want...sometimes at 30 second intervals. Oh my parents have so much patience...hats off to you...
I have multiple mental disabilities, including ADHD, and half of them were not diagnosed until i was 12. alot of these mental disabilities made it hard for me to process situations and resulted in me lashing out. It wasn't until I was diagnosed and medicated that i started to get better, and if i was never medicated or diagnosed who knows where i would be today. My mom would NOT let them over medicate me, I was only on one to two medications, and it took years to find the right one. I am still on medication today at 25 years old.
Reagan needs to be medicated, but not overly medicated, it could save his life.
We adopted 4 kids threw foster care! Been threw this with the younger two who acted out threw trauma! They are much better behaved now 5 years later! We all learned a lot and my behavior helped the most! Working with them was always better!
To yell at a child with ADHD is not the smart choice because it can just make the behaviour worse and it triggers it and makes it worse that it has to be
This is why you don't insult your own body or anyone else's in front of your child. Ideally you wouldn't ever, but kids are so impressionable.
I'm 40. I have ADHD . I'm a teacher. I wish I had had medication as a child. All adults like me all say the same thing: we wish we had been medicated.
I'm 31, an occupational therapist. I tried meds twice. Felt HORRIBLE and I don't with my parents made me keep taking them. Don't speak for "all adults with ADHD" because you wish you were medicated.
@A M i meant wish. I felt HORRIBLE on meds. I don't wish my parents made me keep taking them. I had dry mouth, felt faint, and had pathological crying. All side effects of thr amphetamines that are given for ADHD. No thanks.
@Ava which is my point. Not everyone needs it. Doctors often jump to it for children. I do not believe that's for the best. ADHD meds have real risks, and most people aren't recommended to stay on them long term. There are in fact things that can be done to lead to success for many without the need for what are risky medications. It shouldn't be the first or only intervention, and it's important that people know it is possible to be successful without medications. I'm not going to apologize for saying not everyone needs or should be medicated for ADHD.
I’m 28 and autistic. I didn’t get my full diagnosis until I was 19. I wish I had gotten my diagnosis earlier.
I knew a kid who was told he had adhd as a child and the parents refuse to medicate him and placed him in sports to channel his energy- today he’s in college and excelling. Sometimes you need to get creative instead of looking for a quick fix. Be patient and think of other ways to help your child.
When they talk about redirecting the focus of the boy with Adhd, it is so important to remember that people who struggle with this aren't naughty or lazy, because I have worked with so many different people with adhd, and whenever they focus their attention on something, they are really hard working.
One I worked with, mocked 3 boxes, by the time I had started on my second one..
True, but it is so difficult not to think they are not naughty or unruly. But needs to be done.
The bigger child is very well spoken and sounds very intelligent. I hope he’s doing well
The mom of Josh really really needs a reality check and some mental help. She has the most sweet and wholesome kid and she doesn't even appreciate that.
I was born in 1981. I had a normal body weight and never had any worries about my body at all when I grew up. It's sad to see so many children struggling with their body image....
Omg when that mom said she liked the shape of the butternut squash I nearly died lol. I wonder what it looks similar to...
I have two adult kids with ADHD, both are being treated. This has nothing to do with how they are raised, it IS a chemical imbalance.
Chemical imbalances can be diagnosed with medical testing, such as blood tests. The only test for ADHD is a questionnaire. No-one has found a physical test for any chemical imbalances. I have taught hundreds of children and have never come across a child who has a physical cause for their control over their behaviour, apart from diet, lack of sleep and over stimulation. One very successful pupil behaviour unit which helped hundreds of children would not allow medication and yet was successful in helping modify their behaviour so they could function within a school community .
@@kathywhitfield8515 you can actually see adhd in brain scans, but since the questionare accuratley diagnoses the condition there is no need for really complicated and exepensive exams.
And the chemical inbalance in the brain causes people with adhd to focus on everything all the time, wich causes the overwealm you are noticing.
It's really good that you can find ways to accomodate neurodiversity in school, but please keep in mind that adhd seldom goes away and many adults stuggle with "adulting" and medication can be helpful for adults a well. By banning certain treatments you can create an unnecesairy stigma against things that might help people live a full life.
LMAO, people still falling for "chemical imbalance" hypothesis for psychological disorders.
I’m so happy to see you have a balanced view of ADHD.
It’s classified as a neurocognitive disorder, and responds best to a combination of medication, behavior therapy & parent, teacher training.
You have also been very kind to the self-proclaimed messiah who cured children with ADHD.
She has no credentials or training - for understanding the myriad factors that contribute to medical problems. And chemical imbalances are just one small factor in brain circuitry.
Decades of past & current research, trials, therapeutic techniques go into figuring out how best to arrive at a diagnosis.
Clinicians aim to provide the best care without subjecting children & their families to expensive testing which take time to corroborate a 95-99 percent accurate diagnosis with patient-friendly assessments.
Wish all of you much luck
@@daniloberserk Saves parents the inconvenience of having to take some parental responsibility
It's important for parents to be aware the adhd and add present very differently in women vs men and in girls vs boys. Boys are more often diagnosed because of this and girls are not diagnosed or misdiagnosed because the signs are different.
I think this was true decades ago, but know we know better.
@@jamsaidemelo1367 It is still a big problem. Girls/ women are still getting diagnosed later in life or not at all because they’re much better at masking their symptoms. Hopefully this changes soon because it’s very difficult to live with for some.
@@jamsaidemelo1367 Who's "we"? Psychiatrists can see a kid for few seconds, ask two questions, then diagnose and write script. It happened to my little sister and it ruined her life.
@@jamsaidemelo1367 Not sure where you got this idea from but this is still very much prevalent today.
@@cee-emm A few seconds??? I don't know where you live but this certainly didn't apply to the lad I knew with ADHD, he had numerous visits, lots of different drugs tried - didn't work - and the doctors all worked hard with his mum to try and help him. They certainly didn't ask his mum a couple of questions then write a prescription (and even when they were prescribing he had to visit every few weeks to check on his progress, as happens in many/most civilised countries).
Its important to distinguish between happiness and pleasure. Treats can bring you (transient) pleasure, but not happiness. Theyre not the same thing
The girl’s broke my heart when they were pinking out what size body they wanted there’s nothing wrong with there body’s everyone is beautiful in there own ways no matter what shape and size they are. 😊 Hope everything are doing well for the family.
Josh is such a gorgeous kid. He's been turned into his mums companion instead of her son.
I really felt for the family with the boy who has ADHD as someone who has taught such a student. My student's parents nearly split up and the child was estranged from their father who was in denial of his child's condition for the first half of the school year. It took a huge collaborative effort between all the teachers and the child's parents for this child to finish the school year successfully. The "5 seconds" strategy Jo introduced to his parents really does work wonders (even for non-special needs children!).
Jo is a national treasure. ♥️ Josh is doing good, he will if his Mother is onboard. Great families.
I feel bad for Josh and his mom. They had no clue on how to help him.
I think my 3 year old daughter has ADHD but as she's still young and still learning boundries, i was told by her nursery school teacher to wait until she's older. Nursery school teacher tells me that my 3 year old daughter is more hyper active but they let her do her own thing, unless she does something wrong. I was diagnosed with ADHD when i was 7 years old. All i could remember is, i had to be doing something to keep my mind busy but i could get bored very easily and get side tracked. Unfortunately it turned into depression and anxiety so i take medication. I have 3 children. I'm a single mother.
I don't think you would get a diagnosis of a 3 year old as their attention isn't very developed at that age. In the area I work in we don't generally diagnose until 7