I think it's best to mash the broccoli and carrot into some mashed potato with butter. Try different greens,but only a little, cut up really small, and don't fuss too much if he doesn't want it. Cut up any meat into small pieces, see if he likes gravy. Try fish. Small portions, try sauces, creamy ones. Mash the inside of baked potatoes with butter and a small amount of butter or cream or milk, sometimes with a little cheese.
@39:19 The way that little girl touches her mother's arm, is the sweetest, purest thing ever! She's so young yet knows that mommy needs to be comforted. So wholesome!
She may be good with kids but sometimes the way she is with parents makes me really sad and angry she basically shames them for being human,needing sleep and not being a professional child psychologist. Kids are the only thing in life that don't come with an instruction manual. Even adopting a puppy there are schools for that, but that, be perfect naturally or get shamed by EVERYONE
What a sweet, empathetic little girl! She just quietly reaches out and puts her hand on her mother's arm trying to comfort her. She is an absolute doll.
I’m an adult with Avoidant Restrictive Food Intake Disorder. I feel for that kid. When the parents said that it started as soon as they started introducing new textures I knew. My whole life I was a picky eater, but it wasn’t bad enough that my parents thought it was anything more than a kid being a kid. But, I would always say that the taste of food didn’t really bother me, it was certain textures. In my mid teens it kicked up when I started my first anxiety medication (can cause appetite loss) and I was extremely underweight to the point of almost being hospitalized. I was also being emotionally abused, so being called things like “fat” when I was a perfectly healthy weight was definitely a contributor. I also struggled with anorexia nervosa in my early teens due to it. Really, the thing that saved me was smoothies. Now, I am thankfully doing a lot better and can get at least two meals in a day with snacks. Still working on it, but I’m gaining weight, energy, and I am happy.
I was wondering if there was something like that when they mentioned textures. I have no experience with that, but that’s early in life to turn off of food. The only food I hate is water chestnuts, and that’s because of the texture of them. Well done with finding what works for you and helping your health.
Kids who have aspergers also have that trait : Not standing the food textures .It is a sensory thing that even goes with clothes some materials they can t stand
Excactly my thought, I really think this forcing him to eat everything on his plate just pushes the eating disorder further. You dont get anywhere with a "regular" nanny, I personally think, they should visit a specialist/psychologist and get proffesional help.
I see where you’re coming from but in this case, it’s not the same thing. This little boy knows exactly what he is doing… it was made clear when he was talking to the camera man saying he won’t be grounded and will ask to go to his grandmothers and bake cakes. Sadly super nanny is right in this case. It’s a power thing. He has had full control since he was a baby. As a mother I know when my daughter first started on foods, she would spit it out and gag and stuff, which is a common thing when you go from a pure liquid to something a little more solid or something mushed to fully solid. There is a way of telling when it’s a control thing and a general medical thing. I’m very happy to hear you are doing well with your struggles though!
I entertain my little cousins from time to time, they’re 4-6 yrs old. They listen to me more their mom sometimes. Haha I love them to pieces but I can never be a parent. I don’t have the patience.
🤣🤣😂 I had four and raised them in Africa where parents can parent without a psychology degree. They all survived to be adults now and am now a granny of three. Trust me it is easier than this if you NEVER make a rod for your own back. Stretch or starve is the menu and nobody starved.
When I was a child, I vomited a lot after most meals. I was malnourished. The doctors finally diagnosed me with severe anxiety. I was beaten daily by my “caregiver”. I still battle PTSD, but now I can keep food down since I was removed from her care.
Omg that's heartbreaking. It boils my piss when people who are suppose to care for children abuse them. I hope you are able to sort out your ptsd and that's not an easy feat. Hugs to you 🤗
Same with my gf, she is 30 now, finally working through all her trauma of being beaten as a child. This resultet in severe anxiety and an eating disorder where she could only eat pizza. But shes better and will get better.
That's so sad. Children are only innocent, dependent little beings who need someone to help them develop and keep them safe. They couldn't defend themselves if they wanted to. Letting out anger or frustration or even some malicious urges on them is just plain cruelty. You don't attack someone who is helpless, and you definitely don't attract someone who is both helpless and expects you to love them, like what even...? I also hope that you will get better and I am sorry this happened to you.
From the eye of experience I’m looking at the other children in the family. The child who demands the most attention from the parents in a negative way takes it away from the others. No matter what the parents do to take good care of the other children those kids will learn that their sibling causes Mom/Dad stress and will then do whatever is needed to Not cause them any more stress. Sometimes that is to their own detriment. The less demanding child will Hide some of their emotions to ease the household tensions. You think they are doing well. Then they get to adulthood and you learn that they have hidden some of themselves from you to keep the household happier. We thought we did our best to have this not happen. But it did.
Yes, and think we grow up to be people pleasers who care far too much what other people think. A lot to overcome in counselling, just because we watched brother/sister rule the household.
Yep. I grew up in a house like that. My godawful sister and my mother's profoundly dysfunctional parenting of her is the main reason I choose not to have children.
I am sobbing. Uncontrollably. I wish so bad that i had someone like Jo when i was little. Just listening to her speak to these kids makes me feel so safe and comforted.
I remember seeing this when it first came out when I was younger and the sugar and hyperactivity experiment was one of the first things that made me think about correlation and causation and helped me think critically
Same actually, I tell my mother these days about this and she still doesn’t believe me. Then again I get compliments on how good I am with my young nephews
I feel so sorry for Rio and his family! It makes me want to cry too! As someone who has been dealing with an eating disorder on and off for years, I feel like I can relate. To be more specific, I have been dealing with anorexia. Stories like this make me wish I was a dietician and a psychologist so that I could help others who suffer from eating disorders.
I am sorry for your struggles, and i wish you all the best with getting well and loving yourself. That being said, the only thing i found "sad" about that family, is that the parents, ESPECIALLY the mom, LET that go on for so long! Not even the Joe (i THINK that's her name) used the term "disorder".....she CLEARLY used the term "eating difficulties", because this was NOT a mental illness/disorder (even though the title says otherwise, that sounds more drastic), this is a behavioural issue. This was a case of a mother spoiling and enabling her child for 2 long years. An eating disorder is not "cured" within 1-2 months, the majority suffer mentally and emotionally their WHOLE lives....this kid was being a brat, and doesn't even LIKE bread&butter anymore! If that kid would have an ACTUAL EATING DISORDER, then it would be VERY irresponsible (to say the least) to MAKE him eat ANYthing in the beginning, without proper counseling, and in front of a camera.....it would actually be considered abuse. Like she said....this was a case of a child manipulating&power-playing (just like ALL kids do, to one extent or another at some point in their lives'), and a mother that kept giving in, creating the problem herself. It was a simple solution to a simple problem.....handeling REAL eating disorders are anything BUT simple.
Rio may have an eating disorder called ARFID (avoidance restrictive food intake disorder) which is an eating disorder that plays of fear and anxiety. people with this ED usually have fears with a lot of food and think that certain foods will make them sick, gag, throw up or have an allergic reaction. this ED also develops in childhood and it is often seen as "extremely picky eating.". I have this ED and get high amount of stress when eating foods that aren’t my safe foods. Often times when you eat your fear foods, your body may make you feel sick or unwell because your ED tells you that you ate an unsafe food and something bad will now happen. However this may also be a case of a child having power-play with their parents who give in.
I wish more people actually understood it. For example, I do not like it when people watch me chew. If someone asks me what I had to eat on a particular day, I feel uncomfortable. I also get anxious when a person makes a comment, such as what kind of sandwich I am having or what ingredients are in a salad. I also find it difficult to eat in front of people.
It’s never too late! You can always go to school no matter the age 😊 We need more therapists and physiologics that have a true passion in what they do (bcs they have been there done that and have made it to the other side) I believe whatever our “mess” is, becomes our Message 💝 Don’t let the wisdom you have learned throughout your life go to waste! Go out there and help ppl with what you had to struggle with (and the best part of helping others, is it gives us strength to keep going strong in our own daily struggles ♥️) You can do! I send you lots of encouragement and the push you need to make those steps into becoming what you were meant to be ✨💝
HAHAHAHAHA.. One of my nephew would cry like him without tears and I always wanted to smack him on the lips because it was so irritating and I was about 12 yo myself. I still love to smack any kid that will cry like Rio. it's so irritating and thus this is the sole reason I don't have kids at the age of 29 lol
That pacified mom is so frustrating. You see your child is being harmed, you’ve been told what is doing the harm, you’ve seen and acknowledged that what you’ve been told is true, and you still DON’T CHANGE. Now instead of unknowingly causing her child harm she’s doing it with full knowledge which is reprehensible.
Ikr? Read my comment that u posted. Rios mom needs to be happy and have a normal life but can't because her son has a disorder. Goz people are not smart sometimes
You know Jo’s methods aren’t fool proof. I’d say if she’s found something that works for her child then she’s done a good job. The most important issue is that she’s stopped the hair pulling and for the most part stopped the child needing a pacifier. Once hair pulling isn’t an issue anymore they can work on removing the pacifier at bedtime.
@@justschr Those things go hand in hand. It most certainly isn't the solution to just give in again. That's like letting a drug addict, who also has depression, just do a line of coke again after he threw a tantrum, since "let's just work on the depression first". No, this isn't how this works. Her hair pulling is a coping mechanism, which is why she is doing it even with the pacifier in. Get rid of the pacifier and she'll stop with the coping. This girl simply needs to learn that she isn't the centre of attention. But as long as her mother keeps reacting to absolutely everything she is doing, why should she stop? She needs to be ignored and she certainly doesn't need pacifiers and bottles anymore. Those do exactly one thing at that age: ruin her teeth.
"Give her some sweets and a lolli and she'll be running around the playground" Isn't.... Isn't that what you're supposed to do at a playground? Run and play???? If you don't want a child to act like a child, get a pet
I was a kid with a bad eating disorder. My parents took me to the doctor and he would tell them it's "all in her head", and I never got any more help beyond that. Since as early as I can remember, I've had anxiety disorders. I wouldn't eat, or would eat very little, because I thought food was making me sick (and some of it was, eggs and dairy were an issue; still are but not as bad) because I couldn't seem to tell the difference between hunger and digestion and being sick. And I was terrified of throwing up. So I just wouldn't eat, because you can't throw up food that isn't there. Also, some food textures would turn my stomach (mostly meat). It wasn't until high school that I started eating normally. I feel for all kids who are having trouble eating, especially the little ones. I understand.
26:29 what you said might also be his reason too! He is convincing himself eating other food will hurt his tummy, the more he believes it, the more it does happen on his body
omg i'm so glad i found your comment!! i went through the exactly same thing and i thought im going crazy!! my problem was that i have a rare genetic defect since birth that makes me sick every month for 1 week straight with high fever and all the symptoms of an influenza even nose bleeding and fainting. (so basically no appetite) i also thought if i don't eat, i won't vomit. i wish i could say it would get better as i turned older but sadly no. i was diagnosed with anxiety disorder and arfid. i got a gj tube placed a few months ago because i lost so much weight and was about to die.. but now im back in life, feeling a lot better. 😊
So proud of Rio and his progress, it's awesome. However just want to mention an eating disorder called ARFID Avoidant Restrictive Food Intake Disorder. I have it and I'm 63yrs also my 22 yr old daughter has it. It is a sensory or trauma induced disorder. It's definitely possible to improve but it's not easy!!
That could be an answer. But I recall Supernanny saying that when the boy initially rejected food around 2 years old, the family immediately pandered to him. Ofc sensory issues and other health ailments are a thing, but the parents didn't even try coaching/discipline/or introducing foods in a fun way.
@@christiecat5367 The thing is, that's when the traits of autism start poking up, and I don't think they have any idea how viscerally horrible food is when you're forced to eat something your body screams at you to avoid.
forcing food into a child with an eating disorder only cuts the trust between child and parent. and even makes the ed worse. There is therapy for this kind of ed in children. They have to regain trust in food via all senses. smelling, looking, touching and even hearing food as a way to interact before eating. I saw a documentary with kids (all with this kind of ED) they simply put a ton of noodles with ketchup on clean floor to let babies and toddlers play with it. and by that, some regain the trust in food as a positive and fun thing. so eventually many kids didnt even realize that they put some noodles close or really into their mouth whyle playing. In the end so many familys who came with limited types of accepted food, left with 2 - 10 new food-options. that was amazing. this speaks directly to natural instincts of humans, doesnt include forcing or retraumatising already hurt children and even helps with the trust between parents and kids, because every familymember feels that "relief" that they overcomed a step further together. not winning a battle against each other like here.
Jo always teaches us so many valuable lessons. The bottom line for me is follow through. One of the hardest things as a parent is follow through and consistency.
I am so thankful these parents are brave enough to change and help their kids have a happier life! We have a teen in our family who never had help until it is many years too late. I love it when No tells parents suck it up and do YOUR job as a parent.
The mom with the baby that pulls her hair is so kind and teachable. She does the things she does for her daughters safety but shes listening to a pro and shes like thinking to herself shes willing to push through the hard part to let her daughter grow. And that sound so easy to hear and understand what to do till you have kids and are in a situation as severe. Yet she took all the criticism, even advice shes already heard so well. I hope everything works out for that mother and her family.
What a load of bull! All she had to do was trash the bottles and binkies. Why risk your daughters ability to ever grow hair on her head, Its cuz she feared upsetting her through tears and tantrums. Its not worth it!
@@fliconmigo Some ppl refer to Pacifiers as "binkie". I'm only now hearing its also referred to as a dummy. If u ever watched the cartoon from Nickelodeon named "Rugrats" they also called them Binkies. I agree it's just not right. Especially hearing constantly how it can affect alignment of their teeth as they grow.
It's so important to carefully introduce children to different foods according to the age appropriate food schedule. I worked really hard on this when my son was a baby however this was derailed when I returned to work and he was cared for by his grandmother. Not only did she not continue to expose him to the wide variety of fruits and veg he was given with me but she also had the habit of mashing his veg together with his potatoes. I was so angry when I realised that my child was essentially eating one type of indecipherable food for a year ( except weekends with me) I was horrified. Needless to say he ended up being a picky eater but here are my secrets for getting him out of that. 1. Include the child in the food prep and cooking. 2. Make the children familiar with the vegetables, fruit and healthy snacks by taking them to the supermarket when you shop. 3. Get the children to GROW some veg. My son and I grew bok choy and you have never seen a child more excited to eat a vegetable in your life! All because he grew it.
That might have worked four you but it doesn't work for everyone ! My mentally disabled twins would have told you what to do with your vegetables and fruit, they hate vegetables and fruit , just like their dad. Even now ( they are 20) they hardly eat any fruit and vegetables, but at least they eat, I tried smoothies, soup, puree's , etc.. a total waste of time and money.
@@maryburger1232 a baby can't tell you what to do with your vegetable and fruit. They literally only know what you expose them to. It seems like you are purposely trying to misunderstand and disregard some basic simple advice that's useful with very young children. Anyway, love and light.
I have AFRID, it’s an eating disorder and for me it’s about sensory - veggies and fruit are hard because they can widely vary on texture. The reason ppl like me will seem to only like fast food is because it is the same every single time. Picky eating is normal to a point, but if your kid would rather go hungry than eat something than it’s not being fussy, no amount of punishment will fix it. Nor will proper introduction to all types of food, I would eat pasta as a kid and now I would rather go hungry than eat it.
Very important to keep a close eye on picky eating once this advice is followed. It usually indicates problem foods of some sort which allows one to work around the problem once you find out if it's texture, taste or both. I can't tolerate overly sweet things (Chocolate, particularly darker chocolate is nice. Gummies, candies, most other sweets and cakes are blegh), dense soft bread textures (cakes are extra out) and the bitterness combined with the crunch of most raw veggies (I steam, boil, bake or fry all of them. Raw is a no go), and have a dislike for most processed foods (I think the textures tend to make me sad). My parents got bloody lucky though. It meant I had a fairly healthy diet and still do. They very quickly noticed my interesting tastes at the ripe age of when solid food became ok. All junk food, soft drinks and usual snacks were out(snack range is so limited ...). Unfortunately this led to teachers being very concerned that my parents were forcing me to diet, and it does rack up higher expenses with all the fresh fruit, veg and meat. Still does as an adult, I'll sooner abandon my hobbies to save money than eat processed garbage or sweets.
I had a picky eater, who luckily loved gravy. Every night, I cooked dinner with gravy (and blended cooked carrots, peas, you name it into the gravy). We loved pouring oodles of gravy over everything! Edit: we were under less pressure and able to overcome the hurdle slowly. Now she's 31 and a vegetarian😁
My Father saved my life when I was a toddler and he didn't even realize he did it. We were vacationing in San Francisco. We were eating at Fisherman's Warf. My Mother ordered shrimp because she loved it and ordered me a childs shrimp plate. I started to eat it and suddenly announced I didn't want it. My Father not only did not make me eat it, he let me order something else. Why I didn't want the shrimp? Even though I didn't have a name for it I was going into analaptic shock. My throat was closing up and I was itching something awful. if my Father had forced me to eat those shrimp I would not be here now, typing this.
My adult son has lived a life of serious food allergies. He took his prom date out for a nice dinner. They had shrimp and he spent prom night in the ER.
I like shrimp I like fried butterfly shrimp I started doing in the air fryer because it’s healthier than all that grease and I like shrimp scampi from red lobster but I don’t like red lobster’s coconut shrimp with that sauce so I get the sailors platter and get it with baked fish, shrimp scampi it comes with fried shrimp I may eat a few of those but not all and 2 sides I usually get salad and baked potato
Glad they are finally getting Rio help. My sisters boyfriend has an eating disorder that I think must have started as a child. They didn't get him help and now as a 30 year old he's extremely underweight and is losing his hair. All he eats is pizza, burgers, chicken nuggets and fries. On top of the physical he also has social issues because of it as he won't eat at certain restaurants, weddings, family gatherings or other things like that. Parents need to be parents young children should not be in control of their own diet.
Avoidant/restrictive food intake disorder (ARFID) which is what the black kid has and also the boyfriend you’re mentioning is not about being spoiled or the parents not parenting. It’s a serious psychological disorder.
When I was about 4, I pitched a huge fit about not wanting to help my family do yard work. I remember standing all alone in the garage shrieking while my parents and siblings totally ignored me. Then, it occurred to me that I was getting absolutely nothing out of my temper tantrum but a snotty face and a headache. I never did anything like it again.
I remember screaming and even hitting the floor with my head. But I did it to express my emotions. I remember my mother once telling me that "you are not getting what you want even if you hit the floor with your head". I actually remember how surprised I was to hear that because I was not even trying to get my way. I did it to express my anger, that's it. I did not actually expect my mom to give in. So children are very different. When I got older I would throw my things on the wall or aggressively move furniture when I was angry. I would have benefited from my family teaching me how to handle my anger. Instead my mother acted as if I was just throwing tantrums to get something. I am 28 and we are estranged.
My son was super picky like that and would say he doesn't like it and refuse when he had never tried it. I worked out when he was 3 that it was a type of food anxiety, possibly sensory. Ever since then I've helped to teach him how to explore food in a non-invasive way first, and then to give it a shot with a plan of what to do if it's gross and legitimately doesn't like it. Example: he has to smell the food and I tell him "if u like the smell, u will probably like the taste". Then he has to lick it and explore the first bit in his mouth. Then he has to have a small bite and chew it 5 times. Then he can either eat it because it's good or spit it on a pre-prepared paper towel. He's found some of his favourite foods like this. This method was accompanied by many talks about the fact we have to eat foods that aren't our favourite, little bits of lots of things, in order to stay healthy enough to have the ability to play and run and have fun. He's surprisingly honest about liking something and seems to understand. He's now 7 turning 8 this year in 6 months and has a great diet of variety 😍
One of my siblings has an ASD, but wasn't diagnosed until mid 30s. My parents made all of us try foods 5 different times (just a little mouthful) before we got to say we didn't like it. It didn't matter for the rest of us, but it successfully kept him from ending up with an all beige food diet, with no screaming fits
I love hearing Joe talk to children. Its just so sweet and innocent. Would love to hear the conversation she would have with my daughter. Joe is AMAZING❤
As a adult who throughout their whole childhood have been told "Oh, you can cry, go over there and cry if you want, come back when you're done" I'm appalled by what I've just seen. To this day I remember how it felt, when my mom used to ignore me crying. My dad used to be the one to console me, and it wasn't about him giving me what I wanted because he didn't want me to cause a scene- He just offered me emotional support, while still standing his ground. It's what I, to this day, hate about how strict my mom was. The feeling of her not understanding, not caring about me, ugly memories. I wasn't thinking at the time "oh, if I cry, she'll see I'm serious/I'm right/she'll give up". In fact, she never did, so there wasn't even a point for me, as a kid, to use my tears as a manipulation. I was just... Very angry, and sad, and oh how ashamed I felt every time my mom used to nonchalantly send me away, when I cried. And just to clear up- It wasn't like that every time I cried. It was just when I acted up and mom needed to put me in line. But here's the thing- as a kid you don't regulate your emotions so well (or at all), you don't understand why a parent ignores you crying. You just feel kinda abandoned in your turmoil. All it takes is to acknowledge your kids emotions, ask them if they want to hug, tell them that it's understandable that they're angry and sad, while still holding your ground. I'm not saying it will stop your kid's crying, but it will definately do a difference for them. My dad used to be like that and I'm so grateful.
7:26 I know the narrator said “a party for 40 six year olds” but it also sounds like “a party for 46 year olds” and now I can’t help but picture a bunch of almost middle aged people running across the playground. 😂😂😂
I am so happy this was on my recommendation page! I have only seen Jo on the program Nanny 911 ~ I just love love love the topics of this program! May Jo receive endless blessings throughout her life ~ for truly putting her gifts into action ~ which helps so many around the Globe ♥️ Lots of love from Orlando Florida
The sugar experiment proves something I have believed for ages. I don't have kids of my own, but I don't remember any of us acting crazy after eating sugar and we grew up before everybody went crazy about children's diets.
I can see myself if I get to much sugar, I go all bouncy like a duracell bunny. Even husband has seen and realised same thing, by me bouncing while I talk and talking superfast like I never do otherwise. So I believe in it to some degree, but I also see that there are other factors that make children energetic, like having lots of other friends to play with in an exciting setting where you do not know what new fun thing will come next.
Rio's parents give in too easily. If he won't eat anything but bread and butter, refuse to give it to him. He will then get so hungry he'll eat his meal without making himself sick. Toughen up parents!
I got so tired of Rio that I checked out early. Wow Jo you have awesome advice. I did the same little trick with the binky. My son decorated a paper bag put all his binkies in it and gave it to the Baby Store. When it was bed time he conveniently found one under 'my' bed but it was too gross. He never had binky again, nor a thumb or anything to suck on. And incidentially his teeth are perfect, never needed braces and only 2 cavities....he's now 21 and is a smart & handsome young man - is an EMT, so happy for him.
Everybody is different. We get different results trying different strategies with different kids. My two got what they wanted, except sweets only on Saturday. I think the sweets only on Saturday is a Swedish thing. I works. I will always remember my sons pure happy face when he had his first ice cream. About two years old. 🇸🇪
🤦🏻♀️OMG! I was SO frustrated with the mom and the dummies!!! How did she not get the concept of "a dummy fairy"? The friken bag was STILL on the next morn!😳UHHHH! The whole point was to remove the bag as soon as she went to bed! They also should have hung a small little prize in its place to reward the "donation" of all old dummies & bottles!
I wonder if Rio who is 20 now, and Katie who is 16 ever watches this. It would be fun if the families who were in the show would do a reaction of the show now, so many years later.
I haven't watched the video yet. But I just wanted to say this incase it might help someone with a child with similar problems. I vomited multiple times a day as a child and could not control it. I had all the tests done and nothing could be found. After years we found the link. I was severely sexually abused as a 3 year old incl. repeatedly shoving "things" down my throat a lot. Whenever these memories and sensations came up, I had to vomit. There was also some bodily damage as the "shoving" had caused a reflux. So similar problems can have very different causes.
I’m so sorry evil entered your life at such a young age. Even if this person didn’t pay the consequences in this life time, they will get it in the next ten fold. You sound like such a lovely person. I love you sis! You are such a strong women! I’m praying for you. God bless you sister. JESUS CHRIST is The WAY. The TRUTH. The LIFE
My God I am so sorry. I’m crying for you. 💔 I have 5 and 3 year olds and a newborn, they are so small and innocent, the thought of anyone doing this to such precious little beings makes me want to do very violent, illegal things to the child abuser. I wish you had been fully protected and never gone through that. I was molested at age 4, the perpetrator was my friends dad, and he held his hand over my mouth while harming me. I started having issues with both binge eating and food restriction, I’d go back and forth and my weight (and immune system) was always unhealthy. At 7 and 9 I was r*ped by an extended family member and my eating disorder spiraled even more, plus I chopped my hair off to look like a boy, because I thought boys didn’t get hurt like that. Very ignorant, but the abuser blamed me and all females for being “temptresses”, I thought the solution was to be like a boy. Its so sad how sexual trauma, especially the younger you are when it happens, creates long lasting issues that seem completely out of nowhere and aren’t diagnosable. Im praying you’ve found healing and are in a better state of mind.
My friend in elementary school had ARFID. Whenever I stayed over at her house it was heartbreaking watching her mom argue with her to eat anything. She never had very good self esteem either, and although we’ve grown apart over the years I really hope she’s doing better.
Being a parent is tough, as much as we love our children and don't like seeing them hurting we still have to do the best for the child as they will grow into adults and they will have the same battles. The word no is also a word of love. Be kind to yourself and strong to withstand the battles before it becomes a war
My dad tells me the story about a boy like this. His name was Scott Martin & he would just only eat french fries & buttered bread, just that; nothing else! he said he didn't want to get the liver transplant because he was scared; so he died at the young age of 20. Look up "Boy that would only eat french fries and buttered bread"
So sad about the liver disease. It’s hard for the child and parents. I’m a retired aneathetist, where I worked in Sweden there was the children’s liver disease Center, with many of them had a transplant. But most often it was with multiple organs involved, so they did many procedures with an anesthesia. Their and their families life was hard.
When my daughter decided to act up and disrupt meal times, she would be asked to leave the table and go to her room as we all ate in peace. Once we were finished she could sit in the kitchen alone to eat her meal. If she refused to eat it, no dessert or anything else. Only had to do this a few times. Problem solved. With that said, I can't handle liver and onions. My Mom and sister loved it. I would have to leave the house as even smelling it cooking would gag me. My Mom never tried to force me to eat it. I would only be given whatever side veggies were served with it and that was my dinner. I had no problem with any other food.
I think it's fine for kids (or anyone) to have a small number of foods they dislike. I'm a grown kid and my mother will never serve me capsicum. As long as they try it enough times to know they don't like the taste, not just because it's different, and they are polite about declining it- like just eat around it and don't make a fuss.
I realize this show is so old that all these kids likely have kids of their own by now but it is still so entertaining to watch mad respect for Jo having been able to deal w parents like that, i would not have been able to
An almost 4 year old with bottles and pacifiers? That's a no for me! These parents are setting her up for failure. As a parent i would be embarrassed and ashamed for real!
Same here, my parents were encouraged to make me eat a spoonful of something I did not like every day. Taste-food they called it. They had good intentions, but it caused me SO much anxiety and stress that I'd often be gagging when thinking about it or cry in class about the upcoming food. I'd pace outside of the kitchen, eating became a disaster, I'd gag and cry and try to flee the scene and get off my chair. Till this day, if anyone says; 'Oh just finish that bite' or 'just eat it' or 'oh you should *definitely* try it' I start gagging and have to leave. I'm not saying they shouldn't have tried to give me new foods to try, but maybe not during the eveningdinner and not a spoonful. They should've given me more choices and NO herbs or additional sauces on it! I never visit restaurants, never eat at friend's houses, dinner at my (now ex)-boyfriend's place was always a drama, I'd regularly cry in shame in the bathroom or accidentally knock over my plate, because the shame of knocking it over was less than the shame of admitting I wasn't going to eat it. And whenever I wás forced to go, with colleagues, I always hid my food under the table and/or in a bag in my backpack and pretend I was very full, or sick, or allergic. Food is a problem for me, very much. Unknown or Unfavoritable food is not enjoyable to me, but a task to complete. And whenever people found out, I would be ridiculed or forced to eat it (even by autism-counselors, who forced me to try a tea while I literally cried about it.) It always ends with vomiting, which I have a massive fear of. I love food that I like, but I hate food in that way.
When I was being raised in the 1960's (granted it's a long time ago) we were told at whichever meal was being served, that's all the food we get until the next meal. I missed a few meals but not many because there was also no dessert! LOL! You do have to be consistent though.
yeah, i think there are some problems that occur more frequently nowadays than they used to (or at least in >middle wage households) simply because... people can afford it. like, if you have nothing to offer your children but what is on the plate, there is no choice for them but to eat or not and go hungry until the next meal. but if they can afford it, a lot of people will make their children something else to eat because it hurts to see your child not eating. and sometimes it's fine but sometimes, especially if it's a repeated cycle and especially if the child picks up on it, it can lead to some pretty serious behavioural issues. if your child refuses to eat so they miss a meal, almost certainly they'll given in and eat something with the next few hours or day. but if they refuse to eat something and you give in time and time again, the day you decide to tell them that if they don't eat, they can go to bed hungry - they'll likely hold out for longer because they're still assuming that you'll give in again. and a lot of parents do. it's very easy to create a rod for your own back when it comes to raising children
@@Dee-oj5zm next few hours or day? Uhh no that’s too long to wait. I don’t like pork or beef I like bread but can’t eat too much of it because the way it swells me up. I like fish, chicken and Turkey I like vegetables and fruits I’m allergic to spicy foods and radishes, and avacodoes
@@MelB868 sorry but you misread what i said. i said that a few hours or a day is fine but if you can't hold out that long and keep giving in and feeding your child only what they like, when you try to truly commit to feeding them what they need, they will likely hold out for longer than a day because they're expecting you will give in again, because you've set that standard. so the later you wait to address it, the harder it becomes to address. although frankly there are some children who WON'T give in but these cases are few and far between (usually children with serious eating disorders which can be triggered by bullying, abuse, neglect, etc.) in which case you'd need clinical assistance - but every parent worries or thinks that their child would fall into this category when more often they don't. they will eat, it's just hard for some parents to persevere through hours of crying, whining, etc. because we're biologically wired to be upset by that.
A doctor onced diagnosed a male relative of mine as a 3 year old toddler, with having a stomach to small for his body/size; which cause him not to have an appetite for food, had belly-aches, vomited after eating solids, had fevers and got sick often. This doctor said he would grow out of it, which he did. So my relatives no longer worried because he didn't eat his food. Thank God that after years of NO DOCTORS being able to diagnose him in America, it happened on an island where his mother was born in the caribbean where they travelled one summer. . There, my relative was take to the emergency room after he vomited, had a high fever and felt sick. It was there a doctor diagnosed him. I, on the other hand when as a toddler, was finally diagnosed with a stomach to big for my little body after many trips to the emergency room or doctors offices. Though I also was sick often, some of my symptoms were different, I did have fevers, no appetite, hyperventilated which made me fatigue and sleepy. I would even lie on the ground and sleep whiles playing or walking. Neighbours would pick me up and bring me home. I too grew out of it by the time I became an teenager. So please, please go easy on the little guy! He isn't faking! Watching this brought back the aches and pains of the pass, but our family from the beginning knew something was wrong. I still eat mainly a raw diet of fruits and I am 2 months away from being 59 years old.
I had my pacifier/dummy until I had them taken at 4 (my daycare didn't allow them). I drank out of a bottle at night until I has 8 then stopped myself. After I rubbed the inside of my elbow until my skin was extremely irritated, then rubbed other people's, and bit my nails. I'm 20 and cannot stop twisting my hair, especially when I'm stressed.
Same here, I sucked and bit my thumb until I was in infant school (about 4/5), then I was biting my nails when my teeth came in until they were constantly infected and bleeding. Then when I was 13 I had my retainers and couldn't shut my mouth properly when they were in, and since then (I'm also 20 lol) I stretch, pull and crack my fingers when I'm stressed, or just not thinking. As a result, I've got arthritis and hypermobility in my fingers and they're constantly painful, but I still do it when I'm stressed. It's self soothing- I'm not depressed and I don't do it any more when I'm anxious. It's a habit as well as a coping strategy. I was diagnosed as Autistic a while back and apparently it's related to that, oops.
i sucked my fingers until around the third/fourth grade I had to get a retainer because my lower jaw wasn't able to grow properly later I developed skin picking disorder I'm in my thirties and still effected it's a compulsive disorder so it's hard to treat and can't just magically go away
I'm 19 now and I was like this too. Food I didn't like would make me gag. But over the years it just clicked and I started eating more and more foods. I think a lot of children simply just grow out of it.
Rio's face is classic when his head is at a tennis match and him not unserstanding why he is not the centre of attention. If he has a stomach ache he can't eat dessert. I just realised that, I never, had, any problem with my daughter around food she iterally ate everything she was given.
I think the little boy who doesn't eat is attention seeking. That doesn't mean he doesn't have a genuine physical reaction to foods. He may have had a really bad reaction to a food he has eaten and now is cautious in case it happens again.
The ghosts of childhood past slapped me in the face with this one. Back in the early 1960's when I was born, my mother worked very hard to keep me from eating sugary foods because she said it made me hyper. I can still hear her yelling at my dad when he'd buy me ice cream from the ice cream man: "Mikey, why did you do that? You know we don't want her to have all that sugar!"
Beautiful broccoli mom! She ate the broccoli you fell off the chair.Mission accomplished! As a child I would not eat asparagus, at her wits end my mom said why won't you try it,I told her I didn't want to eat sticks from a tree, she said non,no,no sweetie they are not sticks,it's a veggie,just try one bite if you don't like it then you don't have eat it.Well I'm 71 yrs young and I still love asparagus lol.
I barely ate until I was around 12 years old.. dinner time was horrible.. my mother hysterically trying to force feed me, and ending up in me throwing up. But still she kept doing it.. screaming, hitting and making me sit at the dinner table for hours and hours. there were just a few things I would eat. The doctor told her to be patient and not force me, and I will eat when I feel hungry.. Now after not eating for almost 12 years, I need to stop eating 😂 i eat literally everything and a lot of it .. it can all change for kids…
@brunobbigdongzhong under no circumstances should you ever hit your child, with one caveat: they are over 12 and they hit first **hard enough to hurt** Regardless of whether something had traumatised them, it is still abuse to yell at and hit your child with no just cause.
Rio's parents seem a lot more patient compared to Brandon's mum from the original series. That's one of those episodes I cannot watch (along with the Agate one)
@@j3licat AFRID is not a typical eating disorder. It’s not caused by a lack of control, usually it’s caused by anxiety around texture or fear of chocking/vomiting. It’s very common with autism and other development disabilities.
Jo actually checked by talking to the boy first. He confirmed that he behaved this way because he knew he could get away with it. Then when it stops working, his face and screams come across to me as pure rage and stepping up the behavior that always worked before. Then at the restaurant when he took his first bite of something else, he seemed quite happy with it. Just before that there was absolutely no pressure to put anything in his mouth and so also no special attention and once again the expression on his face looked like pure indignant fury to me. Then later, at a completely different meal, he suddenly starts grabbing his stomach and crying. Fast forward to the end and he's happily eating everything without any ill effect. There are so very many reasons for being a picky eater, figuring out the reason for it is key. I know some others here who had problems with eating had completely valid experiences. But this boy is not getting his way for the very first time and is throwing the mother of all temper tantrums to get his way once again.
I knew a boy that was hungry, but wouldn't eat. When forced to eat he would immediately vomit. Doctors thought he was bulimic. But it turned out he had stomach ulcers.
This is my son 100%. He'll be 6 in a few months. I'm ashamed to admit he ate cupcakes all day today because i couldn't convince him to eat anything else. I always thought the tough love approach would traumatise him more and that he had something psychologically wrong with him in respect to food. But I am so happy it worked out for this boy, I'm in tears watching it. I need to try this.
Have you looked into AFRID? if he is only eating a few different foods and would rather go hungry than eat them and would throw tantrums about it then it could be something worth checking
@@elijahlee6401 did you not read their comment and understand what they said? They thought something was wrong with their kid rather than suspect it was their parenting approach. No parent wants to admit something is wrong with the way they parent, and most would rather pin it on a psychological issue with their child, or "it comes from their mum/dad,". AFRID is not common, and is a result of poor parenting, not an innate issue. You're not born afraid of food, you're raised to think it's dangerous because the way your parents spoke to you gives you the association it's dangerous. Don't yell, don't cuss, don't say just try, because all that signals to a child that what's on their plate will kill them. "Just try" is kid code for "this is life threatening if I try,". As for AFRID, my brother has it, he only eats chicken nuggets, corn, carrot, broccoli, hot dogs, fried eggs, bolognese meat and pasta. He won't eat anything else and my birth giver lets him get away with it cause "he's autistic, he just doesn't like certain textures,". I wasn't allowed that excuse (excuses are lies we tell ourselves), I wasn't allowed to say I don't like lollies or choc chips in ice-cream, or I'd get none. I couldn't say I didn't like pork crackling or fat, or I'd get less meat. What I'm saying is, AFRID is rare. Very, very rare. And by that I mean, the incidence of true AFRID is so rare, those people end up on IV drips or with their meals injected directly into their stomachs. Picky eating otherwise is incompatible with life, and parents must not allow their child(ren) to manipulate them into giving into their child's whims. My friend has a daughter that cries about wanting ice-cream and muffins and Macca's. She's 3 and weights as much as an overweight 5 year old. My friend has the nerve to turn to me when I visit and ask "you sure you want children?" As if her child's bad behaviour isn't her fault for giving in, and spending $100+ on junk food a fortnight. Then complains "I can't afford health food, plus they won't eat vegetables". Yeah, cause she puts beans and peas in the microwave with craft Mac n cheese. No wonder her kids don't want to eat it.
No more bread on the table. Parents need to be strong and firm with their kids. When he's hungry, he'll eat. He's very clever at manipulating his parents.
The girl, who pulls her hear out: every clever Russian mom'd shave her head immediately after seeing her doing this just a few times. 2-3 years old she has absolutely no problem with such look, and the habit will die by itself. Later the young girl will have good look.
When I adopted my dog, she refused to eat dog food. My husband was being overly accommodating, putting cheese on it, and giving her people food. She would eat the cheese and leave the dog food. I took her to the vet and she had very bad teeth for her age. The vet said not to give her anything but dog food. If she doesn't eat it, take it away. Then, the next meal time, try again. She went two days without eating anything. On the third day, she started eating dog food. Now she loves her dog food. Don't be afraid of starving them. You are not starving them. You are offering them food, and they are not eating it. Eventually, they will eat.
The reason why many dogs refuse to eat their dog food is because most dog food like canned food and kibbles are pure crap. She only ate after two days due to her instincts to survive. You are better off giving your dog fresh human food. I also recommend the YT video feed your dog human food.
My dog went almost a whole week without eating in hopes of treats. It freaked me out so that I eventually found a dog food she was slightly less picky about but all the doctors said dogs only hold out for three days. :|
You’ve never had experience with AFRID I’m assuming (a good thing it’s really hard) nothing will make me eat something that I can’t tolerate. I spend hours at the dinner table as a child refusing to eat certain things and all it did was make it worse. Proper medical treatment is needed for it. A dog is not a human, my dog will go a few meals without eating but will always end up eating when she’s hungry, I do not.
My son was fussy up until the age of two. He suffered ear infections and we were told to supplement his diet with baby formula. It’s so worrying. Thank goodness he outgrew it. He’s 6’3” now. I once had an intern scream in my face that we weren’t feeding him enough. You don’t know how that feels as a mother who is trying everything she can think of.😢
I never argued with my son about food. He either ate what was on his plate, or no dessert at all. if he didnt want to eat what we were eating, no problem. he was NOT allowed to eat anything else in place of that. He was not excused from the table until we were done eating, and he could eat from the fruit bowl in between meals at any time he wanted. we never had any crying, throwing fits, or rude behaviour about food, ever. he now prides himself in cooking very healthy meals for his kids.
I love the broccoli mom. She literally fell off her chair.
Right 😆
Same
Woman of her word
I think it's best to mash the broccoli and carrot into some mashed potato with butter. Try different greens,but only a little, cut up really small, and don't fuss too much if he doesn't want it. Cut up any meat into small pieces, see if he likes gravy. Try fish. Small portions, try sauces, creamy ones. Mash the inside of baked potatoes with butter and a small amount of butter or cream or milk, sometimes with a little cheese.
Got her kid to eat broccoli without hiding it and taught her trust by following through on her word. 👍
@39:19 The way that little girl touches her mother's arm, is the sweetest, purest thing ever! She's so young yet knows that mommy needs to be comforted. So wholesome!
Thought exactly the same it was so sweet.
Let's just hope that it's a one-time thing, because reverse parenting is anything but wholesome
Yeah I saw that too. What a sweetie. 🥰
@@basv it's not "reverse parenting", it's a child showing empathy. completely age-appropriate
@@Dee-oj5zm I never said that it's reversed parenting. I just said I hope that it isn't.
I love Jo so much because she is so down to earth with kids and she truly understands both sides between parents and kids
I love how she believes in discipline and guidance but respects children as intelligent individuals.
I like how she works it out.
She may be good with kids but sometimes the way she is with parents makes me really sad and angry she basically shames them for being human,needing sleep and not being a professional child psychologist. Kids are the only thing in life that don't come with an instruction manual. Even adopting a puppy there are schools for that, but that, be perfect naturally or get shamed by EVERYONE
She got a whole team behind her she doesn't do IT by herself
I could solve all these problems myself with a belt and a few hours in the corner
What a sweet, empathetic little girl! She just quietly reaches out and puts her hand on her mother's arm trying to comfort her. She is an absolute doll.
agree, made me cry
I'm so lucky for seeing your comment really 3 seconds before the scene happened 😂
But yeah, that was very cute
I wondered if anyone else noticed that! 39:15 for anyone wondering 😊
Yeah, I noticed that too. Too bad mom seemed too occupied to notice, but that girl has such a good heart.
She deserves more attention from her parents.
I’m an adult with Avoidant Restrictive Food Intake Disorder. I feel for that kid. When the parents said that it started as soon as they started introducing new textures I knew. My whole life I was a picky eater, but it wasn’t bad enough that my parents thought it was anything more than a kid being a kid. But, I would always say that the taste of food didn’t really bother me, it was certain textures. In my mid teens it kicked up when I started my first anxiety medication (can cause appetite loss) and I was extremely underweight to the point of almost being hospitalized. I was also being emotionally abused, so being called things like “fat” when I was a perfectly healthy weight was definitely a contributor. I also struggled with anorexia nervosa in my early teens due to it. Really, the thing that saved me was smoothies. Now, I am thankfully doing a lot better and can get at least two meals in a day with snacks. Still working on it, but I’m gaining weight, energy, and I am happy.
I was wondering if there was something like that when they mentioned textures. I have no experience with that, but that’s early in life to turn off of food.
The only food I hate is water chestnuts, and that’s because of the texture of them. Well done with finding what works for you and helping your health.
Kids who have aspergers also have that trait : Not standing the food textures .It is a sensory thing that even goes with clothes some materials they can t stand
@@bluelight8664 Not all of them
Excactly my thought, I really think this forcing him to eat everything on his plate just pushes the eating disorder further. You dont get anywhere with a "regular" nanny, I personally think, they should visit a specialist/psychologist and get proffesional help.
I see where you’re coming from but in this case, it’s not the same thing.
This little boy knows exactly what he is doing… it was made clear when he was talking to the camera man saying he won’t be grounded and will ask to go to his grandmothers and bake cakes. Sadly super nanny is right in this case. It’s a power thing. He has had full control since he was a baby.
As a mother I know when my daughter first started on foods, she would spit it out and gag and stuff, which is a common thing when you go from a pure liquid to something a little more solid or something mushed to fully solid. There is a way of telling when it’s a control thing and a general medical thing.
I’m very happy to hear you are doing well with your struggles though!
This show is pure birth control. More power to the parents who deal with these issues!
Lol...i agree with you!
I entertain my little cousins from time to time, they’re 4-6 yrs old. They listen to me more their mom sometimes. Haha I love them to pieces but I can never be a parent. I don’t have the patience.
These programs should be shown in schools follwed by birth control advice, or vice versa and let the teens come to their own conclusions
Yeah I agree! It should be part of a chapter on “child development psychology” and make it mandatory.
🤣🤣😂 I had four and raised them in Africa where parents can parent without a psychology degree. They all survived to be adults now and am now a granny of three. Trust me it is easier than this if you NEVER make a rod for your own back. Stretch or starve is the menu and nobody starved.
When I was a child, I vomited a lot after most meals. I was malnourished. The doctors finally diagnosed me with severe anxiety. I was beaten daily by my “caregiver”. I still battle PTSD, but now I can keep food down since I was removed from her care.
Omg that's heartbreaking. It boils my piss when people who are suppose to care for children abuse them. I hope you are able to sort out your ptsd and that's not an easy feat. Hugs to you 🤗
@@oobiedoobiedoo1290
Thank you. You’re so thoughtful.
Same with my gf, she is 30 now, finally working through all her trauma of being beaten as a child. This resultet in severe anxiety and an eating disorder where she could only eat pizza. But shes better and will get better.
That's so sad. Children are only innocent, dependent little beings who need someone to help them develop and keep them safe. They couldn't defend themselves if they wanted to. Letting out anger or frustration or even some malicious urges on them is just plain cruelty. You don't attack someone who is helpless, and you definitely don't attract someone who is both helpless and expects you to love them, like what even...?
I also hope that you will get better and I am sorry this happened to you.
@@phoenix72999 Hitler was also a innocent dependent being. "Innocent" until 30 years later he becomes a serial killer
From the eye of experience I’m looking at the other children in the family. The child who demands the most attention from the parents in a negative way takes it away from the others. No matter what the parents do to take good care of the other children those kids will learn that their sibling causes Mom/Dad stress and will then do whatever is needed to Not cause them any more stress. Sometimes that is to their own detriment. The less demanding child will Hide some of their emotions to ease the household tensions. You think they are doing well. Then they get to adulthood and you learn that they have hidden some of themselves from you to keep the household happier. We thought we did our best to have this not happen. But it did.
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This called me out 😭
Yes, and think we grow up to be people pleasers who care far too much what other people think. A lot to overcome in counselling, just because we watched brother/sister rule the household.
Yep. I grew up in a house like that. My godawful sister and my mother's profoundly dysfunctional parenting of her is the main reason I choose not to have children.
@@ssansu That's sad.
I am sobbing. Uncontrollably. I wish so bad that i had someone like Jo when i was little. Just listening to her speak to these kids makes me feel so safe and comforted.
She is amazing
I fell sorry for you :(
Hope you're in a better place now and are living the best life and if not, I hope you will!
I remember seeing this when it first came out when I was younger and the sugar and hyperactivity experiment was one of the first things that made me think about correlation and causation and helped me think critically
This is not a new episode? When we’re these filmed?
@@nahengland7656 don't quote me but I think it ran from 2004 - 2008
@@hayleyvic1830 oh
Same actually, I tell my mother these days about this and she still doesn’t believe me. Then again I get compliments on how good I am with my young nephews
@@nahengland7656 supernanny was filmed in the early 2000s, but this is Jo frost extreme parental guidance which aired in 2010.
I feel so sorry for Rio and his family! It makes me want to cry too! As someone who has been dealing with an eating disorder on and off for years, I feel like I can relate. To be more specific, I have been dealing with anorexia. Stories like this make me wish I was a dietician and a psychologist so that I could help others who suffer from eating disorders.
I am sorry for your struggles, and i wish you all the best with getting well and loving yourself. That being said, the only thing i found "sad" about that family, is that the parents, ESPECIALLY the mom, LET that go on for so long! Not even the Joe (i THINK that's her name) used the term "disorder".....she CLEARLY used the term "eating difficulties", because this was NOT a mental illness/disorder (even though the title says otherwise, that sounds more drastic), this is a behavioural issue. This was a case of a mother spoiling and enabling her child for 2 long years. An eating disorder is not "cured" within 1-2 months, the majority suffer mentally and emotionally their WHOLE lives....this kid was being a brat, and doesn't even LIKE bread&butter anymore! If that kid would have an ACTUAL EATING DISORDER, then it would be VERY irresponsible (to say the least) to MAKE him eat ANYthing in the beginning, without proper counseling, and in front of a camera.....it would actually be considered abuse. Like she said....this was a case of a child manipulating&power-playing (just like ALL kids do, to one extent or another at some point in their lives'), and a mother that kept giving in, creating the problem herself. It was a simple solution to a simple problem.....handeling REAL eating disorders are anything BUT simple.
Rio may have an eating disorder called ARFID (avoidance restrictive food intake disorder) which is an eating disorder that plays of fear and anxiety. people with this ED usually have fears with a lot of food and think that certain foods will make them sick, gag, throw up or have an allergic reaction. this ED also develops in childhood and it is often seen as "extremely picky eating.". I have this ED and get high amount of stress when eating foods that aren’t my safe foods. Often times when you eat your fear foods, your body may make you feel sick or unwell because your ED tells you that you ate an unsafe food and something bad will now happen. However this may also be a case of a child having power-play with their parents who give in.
I DONT CONDONE HITTING CHILDREN BUT THAT KID IS ASKING FOR IT
I wish more people actually understood it. For example, I do not like it when people watch me chew. If someone asks me what I had to eat on a particular day, I feel uncomfortable. I also get anxious when a person makes a comment, such as what kind of sandwich I am having or what ingredients are in a salad. I also find it difficult to eat in front of people.
It’s never too late! You can always go to school no matter the age 😊 We need more therapists and physiologics that have a true passion in what they do (bcs they have been there done that and have made it to the other side)
I believe whatever our “mess” is, becomes our Message 💝
Don’t let the wisdom you have learned throughout your life go to waste! Go out there and help ppl with what you had to struggle with (and the best part of helping others, is it gives us strength to keep going strong in our own daily struggles ♥️)
You can do! I send you lots of encouragement and the push you need to make those steps into becoming what you were meant to be ✨💝
37:22 LoL. Even Rio knows his screaming makes it impossible to hear what his options. What a polite little boy to push pause so we can hear 😆😇
Lmao
HAHAHAHAHA.. One of my nephew would cry like him without tears and I always wanted to smack him on the lips because it was so irritating and I was about 12 yo myself. I still love to smack any kid that will cry like Rio. it's so irritating and thus this is the sole reason I don't have kids at the age of 29 lol
That pacified mom is so frustrating. You see your child is being harmed, you’ve been told what is doing the harm, you’ve seen and acknowledged that what you’ve been told is true, and you still DON’T CHANGE. Now instead of unknowingly causing her child harm she’s doing it with full knowledge which is reprehensible.
Ikr? Read my comment that u posted. Rios mom needs to be happy and have a normal life but can't because her son has a disorder. Goz people are not smart sometimes
You know Jo’s methods aren’t fool proof. I’d say if she’s found something that works for her child then she’s done a good job. The most important issue is that she’s stopped the hair pulling and for the most part stopped the child needing a pacifier. Once hair pulling isn’t an issue anymore they can work on removing the pacifier at bedtime.
@@justschr Those things go hand in hand. It most certainly isn't the solution to just give in again.
That's like letting a drug addict, who also has depression, just do a line of coke again after he threw a tantrum, since "let's just work on the depression first". No, this isn't how this works.
Her hair pulling is a coping mechanism, which is why she is doing it even with the pacifier in. Get rid of the pacifier and she'll stop with the coping. This girl simply needs to learn that she isn't the centre of attention. But as long as her mother keeps reacting to absolutely everything she is doing, why should she stop? She needs to be ignored and she certainly doesn't need pacifiers and bottles anymore. Those do exactly one thing at that age: ruin her teeth.
@@PichDextro I think you’re over thinking this way too much.
@@justschr And I hope you'll never have kids
"Give her some sweets and a lolli and she'll be running around the playground" Isn't.... Isn't that what you're supposed to do at a playground? Run and play???? If you don't want a child to act like a child, get a pet
Play yes, become hyper and unruly, NO!!!!!
I know right isn’t it good for people to get exercise
Not a pet either.
And even then a dog or cat needs play time too XD a pet for them might be like… idk a lizard or something 🤣🤣🤣
@@captainteeko4579 a fish maybe
I was a kid with a bad eating disorder. My parents took me to the doctor and he would tell them it's "all in her head", and I never got any more help beyond that. Since as early as I can remember, I've had anxiety disorders. I wouldn't eat, or would eat very little, because I thought food was making me sick (and some of it was, eggs and dairy were an issue; still are but not as bad) because I couldn't seem to tell the difference between hunger and digestion and being sick. And I was terrified of throwing up. So I just wouldn't eat, because you can't throw up food that isn't there. Also, some food textures would turn my stomach (mostly meat). It wasn't until high school that I started eating normally. I feel for all kids who are having trouble eating, especially the little ones. I understand.
Yeah it's hard since some bodies can be so so sensitive the feelings in the body don't make sense
This is me to a T 😖😫
You can still throw up water and bile.
26:29 what you said might also be his reason too! He is convincing himself eating other food will hurt his tummy, the more he believes it, the more it does happen on his body
omg i'm so glad i found your comment!! i went through the exactly same thing and i thought im going crazy!! my problem was that i have a rare genetic defect since birth that makes me sick every month for 1 week straight with high fever and all the symptoms of an influenza even nose bleeding and fainting. (so basically no appetite) i also thought if i don't eat, i won't vomit. i wish i could say it would get better as i turned older but sadly no. i was diagnosed with anxiety disorder and arfid. i got a gj tube placed a few months ago because i lost so much weight and was about to die.. but now im back in life, feeling a lot better. 😊
So proud of Rio and his progress, it's awesome. However just want to mention an eating disorder called ARFID Avoidant Restrictive Food Intake Disorder. I have it and I'm 63yrs also my 22 yr old daughter has it. It is a sensory or trauma induced disorder. It's definitely possible to improve but it's not easy!!
Exactly! I hated the way the punished Rio for not eating. That's so dumb
That could be an answer. But I recall Supernanny saying that when the boy initially rejected food around 2 years old, the family immediately pandered to him. Ofc sensory issues and other health ailments are a thing, but the parents didn't even try coaching/discipline/or introducing foods in a fun way.
@@christiecat5367 The thing is, that's when the traits of autism start poking up, and I don't think they have any idea how viscerally horrible food is when you're forced to eat something your body screams at you to avoid.
@KuroiMushi Gross food makes me wanna vomit too.
Overcooked veggies are the worst
Tendercrisp or raw for me
forcing food into a child with an eating disorder only cuts the trust between child and parent. and even makes the ed worse. There is therapy for this kind of ed in children. They have to regain trust in food via all senses. smelling, looking, touching and even hearing food as a way to interact before eating. I saw a documentary with kids (all with this kind of ED) they simply put a ton of noodles with ketchup on clean floor to let babies and toddlers play with it. and by that, some regain the trust in food as a positive and fun thing. so eventually many kids didnt even realize that they put some noodles close or really into their mouth whyle playing. In the end so many familys who came with limited types of accepted food, left with 2 - 10 new food-options. that was amazing.
this speaks directly to natural instincts of humans, doesnt include forcing or retraumatising already hurt children and even helps with the trust between parents and kids, because every familymember feels that "relief" that they overcomed a step further together. not winning a battle against each other like here.
39:21 her comforting her mum. children are so amazing
Aw, when Rio's little sister patted her Mum's arm because she was sad. So cute. I hope they are all okay.
i always loved the parents being unable to realize their child behavior wasn't because of sugar and they were normal kids having fun
At 39:22 when the daughter putz her hand on her mom's shoulder was so sweet it spoke so many words without saying one
I just love Joe. She never misses. It is just so awesome to watch someone whom truly knows their stuff. Joe is a precious jem.
1:08 LOL!😂 I love the Mom with the broccoli! What she said was HILARIOUS! Had me cracking! 😂😂😂
Jo is literally my superhero, if I'm ever going to be a mom, she taught me a lot! She is awesome
When he is not throwing a tantrum Rio is intelligent and really well spoken.
Another term for ‘well spoken’ is white adjacent. You might want to rethink your narrative. Might being the operative word- no pressure
@@Sacred_Walls Preach!
Your racist micro aggression is very apparent… Do better!
good ol PC brigade
@@MsJubjubbird ah yes- gotta love us 😘
Jo always teaches us so many valuable lessons. The bottom line for me is follow through. One of the hardest things as a parent is follow through and consistency.
How cute was 39:20 and the little girl patted her Mummy like saying "youre doing a good job"
RIGHTT I WAS LOOKING FOR THIS COMMENT
I am so thankful these parents are brave enough to change and help their kids have a happier life! We have a teen in our family who never had help until it is many years too late. I love it when No tells parents suck it up and do YOUR job as a parent.
The mom with the baby that pulls her hair is so kind and teachable. She does the things she does for her daughters safety but shes listening to a pro and shes like thinking to herself shes willing to push through the hard part to let her daughter grow. And that sound so easy to hear and understand what to do till you have kids and are in a situation as severe. Yet she took all the criticism, even advice shes already heard so well. I hope everything works out for that mother and her family.
What a load of bull! All she had to do was trash the bottles and binkies. Why risk your daughters ability to ever grow hair on her head, Its cuz she feared upsetting her through tears and tantrums. Its not worth it!
@@Turquoise4eva I think she needed to get rid of the dummy too. Terrible seeing a walking toddler with a dummy.
@@fliconmigo Some ppl refer to Pacifiers as "binkie". I'm only now hearing its also referred to as a dummy. If u ever watched the cartoon from Nickelodeon named "Rugrats" they also called them Binkies.
I agree it's just not right. Especially hearing constantly how it can affect alignment of their teeth as they grow.
jo frost has such a great way with children! like how she whispered to the boy so he feels safe and secretive. she is a great person
It's so important to carefully introduce children to different foods according to the age appropriate food schedule. I worked really hard on this when my son was a baby however this was derailed when I returned to work and he was cared for by his grandmother. Not only did she not continue to expose him to the wide variety of fruits and veg he was given with me but she also had the habit of mashing his veg together with his potatoes. I was so angry when I realised that my child was essentially eating one type of indecipherable food for a year ( except weekends with me) I was horrified. Needless to say he ended up being a picky eater but here are my secrets for getting him out of that.
1. Include the child in the food prep and cooking.
2. Make the children familiar with the vegetables, fruit and healthy snacks by taking them to the supermarket when you shop.
3. Get the children to GROW some veg. My son and I grew bok choy and you have never seen a child more excited to eat a vegetable in your life! All because he grew it.
That might have worked four you but it doesn't work for everyone !
My mentally disabled twins would have told you what to do with your vegetables and fruit, they hate vegetables and fruit , just like their dad.
Even now ( they are 20) they hardly eat any fruit and vegetables, but at least they eat, I tried smoothies, soup, puree's , etc.. a total waste of time and money.
@@maryburger1232 a baby can't tell you what to do with your vegetable and fruit. They literally only know what you expose them to. It seems like you are purposely trying to misunderstand and disregard some basic simple advice that's useful with very young children. Anyway, love and light.
I have AFRID, it’s an eating disorder and for me it’s about sensory - veggies and fruit are hard because they can widely vary on texture. The reason ppl like me will seem to only like fast food is because it is the same every single time. Picky eating is normal to a point, but if your kid would rather go hungry than eat something than it’s not being fussy, no amount of punishment will fix it. Nor will proper introduction to all types of food, I would eat pasta as a kid and now I would rather go hungry than eat it.
Very important to keep a close eye on picky eating once this advice is followed. It usually indicates problem foods of some sort which allows one to work around the problem once you find out if it's texture, taste or both.
I can't tolerate overly sweet things (Chocolate, particularly darker chocolate is nice. Gummies, candies, most other sweets and cakes are blegh), dense soft bread textures (cakes are extra out) and the bitterness combined with the crunch of most raw veggies (I steam, boil, bake or fry all of them. Raw is a no go), and have a dislike for most processed foods (I think the textures tend to make me sad).
My parents got bloody lucky though. It meant I had a fairly healthy diet and still do. They very quickly noticed my interesting tastes at the ripe age of when solid food became ok. All junk food, soft drinks and usual snacks were out(snack range is so limited ...). Unfortunately this led to teachers being very concerned that my parents were forcing me to diet, and it does rack up higher expenses with all the fresh fruit, veg and meat. Still does as an adult, I'll sooner abandon my hobbies to save money than eat processed garbage or sweets.
@@maryburger1232 even those challenged at some point they are in positions where there are no other options
I had a picky eater, who luckily loved gravy. Every night, I cooked dinner with gravy (and blended cooked carrots, peas, you name it into the gravy). We loved pouring oodles of gravy over everything!
Edit: we were under less pressure and able to overcome the hurdle slowly. Now she's 31 and a vegetarian😁
Same story. I had a picky eater who would put on an Oscar worthy performance if expected to eat vegetables and now, 35 years later, she's a vegan!!!
I'm was a picky eater but at 34 I eat whatever I want
Vegetarian gravy exists. It’s made with mushrooms. I eat it every Thanksgiving.
@BinoDist Veganism is an Eating Disorder, a way of self Harm
My Father saved my life when I was a toddler and he didn't even realize he did it. We were vacationing in San Francisco. We were eating at Fisherman's Warf. My Mother ordered shrimp because she loved it and ordered me a childs shrimp plate. I started to eat it and suddenly announced I didn't want it. My Father not only did not make me eat it, he let me order something else. Why I didn't want the shrimp? Even though I didn't have a name for it I was going into analaptic shock. My throat was closing up and I was itching something awful. if my Father had forced me to eat those shrimp I would not be here now, typing this.
That happened to my nephew with peanut butter.
Was,praise God! Did your dad notice something weird?
My adult son has lived a life of serious food allergies. He took his prom date out for a nice dinner. They had shrimp and he spent prom night in the ER.
I like shrimp I like fried butterfly shrimp I started doing in the air fryer because it’s healthier than all that grease and I like shrimp scampi from red lobster but I don’t like red lobster’s coconut shrimp with that sauce so I get the sailors platter and get it with baked fish, shrimp scampi it comes with fried shrimp I may eat a few of those but not all and 2 sides I usually get salad and baked potato
Yeah you were severely allergic to shrimp I don’t blame them you should not eat anything your allergic to like that
Glad they are finally getting Rio help. My sisters boyfriend has an eating disorder that I think must have started as a child. They didn't get him help and now as a 30 year old he's extremely underweight and is losing his hair. All he eats is pizza, burgers, chicken nuggets and fries. On top of the physical he also has social issues because of it as he won't eat at certain restaurants, weddings, family gatherings or other things like that. Parents need to be parents young children should not be in control of their own diet.
Avoidant/restrictive food intake disorder (ARFID) which is what the black kid has and also the boyfriend you’re mentioning is not about being spoiled or the parents not parenting. It’s a serious psychological disorder.
He needs professional help.
@@maddif710 Rio is eating food now
@@maddif710 He doesn't have that... at the end of the episode they talk about how well he's eating now.
@@CO-uq3uh People can recover from eating disorders.
When I was about 4, I pitched a huge fit about not wanting to help my family do yard work. I remember standing all alone in the garage shrieking while my parents and siblings totally ignored me. Then, it occurred to me that I was getting absolutely nothing out of my temper tantrum but a snotty face and a headache. I never did anything like it again.
I remember doing that when I was a kid too lol. You just kinda stare and ur like "oh wait this is boring and hurts"
I remember screaming and even hitting the floor with my head. But I did it to express my emotions. I remember my mother once telling me that "you are not getting what you want even if you hit the floor with your head". I actually remember how surprised I was to hear that because I was not even trying to get my way. I did it to express my anger, that's it. I did not actually expect my mom to give in. So children are very different. When I got older I would throw my things on the wall or aggressively move furniture when I was angry. I would have benefited from my family teaching me how to handle my anger. Instead my mother acted as if I was just throwing tantrums to get something. I am 28 and we are estranged.
A four year old should not be expect to do yard work, unless it's pitching in to sowing or harvesting a garden
I never would've guessed that little girl is 3-and-a-half-years-old!
She looks 1
It’s the haircut and the pacifier. Makes her look younger.
My son was super picky like that and would say he doesn't like it and refuse when he had never tried it. I worked out when he was 3 that it was a type of food anxiety, possibly sensory. Ever since then I've helped to teach him how to explore food in a non-invasive way first, and then to give it a shot with a plan of what to do if it's gross and legitimately doesn't like it. Example: he has to smell the food and I tell him "if u like the smell, u will probably like the taste". Then he has to lick it and explore the first bit in his mouth. Then he has to have a small bite and chew it 5 times. Then he can either eat it because it's good or spit it on a pre-prepared paper towel. He's found some of his favourite foods like this. This method was accompanied by many talks about the fact we have to eat foods that aren't our favourite, little bits of lots of things, in order to stay healthy enough to have the ability to play and run and have fun. He's surprisingly honest about liking something and seems to understand. He's now 7 turning 8 this year in 6 months and has a great diet of variety 😍
One of my siblings has an ASD, but wasn't diagnosed until mid 30s. My parents made all of us try foods 5 different times (just a little mouthful) before we got to say we didn't like it. It didn't matter for the rest of us, but it successfully kept him from ending up with an all beige food diet, with no screaming fits
Well done! 🙏🏻♥️
I love hearing Joe talk to children. Its just so sweet and innocent. Would love to hear the conversation she would have with my daughter.
Joe is AMAZING❤
Rio looks soooo much happier now love Jo frost .
As a adult who throughout their whole childhood have been told "Oh, you can cry, go over there and cry if you want, come back when you're done" I'm appalled by what I've just seen. To this day I remember how it felt, when my mom used to ignore me crying. My dad used to be the one to console me, and it wasn't about him giving me what I wanted because he didn't want me to cause a scene- He just offered me emotional support, while still standing his ground. It's what I, to this day, hate about how strict my mom was. The feeling of her not understanding, not caring about me, ugly memories. I wasn't thinking at the time "oh, if I cry, she'll see I'm serious/I'm right/she'll give up". In fact, she never did, so there wasn't even a point for me, as a kid, to use my tears as a manipulation. I was just... Very angry, and sad, and oh how ashamed I felt every time my mom used to nonchalantly send me away, when I cried. And just to clear up- It wasn't like that every time I cried. It was just when I acted up and mom needed to put me in line. But here's the thing- as a kid you don't regulate your emotions so well (or at all), you don't understand why a parent ignores you crying. You just feel kinda abandoned in your turmoil. All it takes is to acknowledge your kids emotions, ask them if they want to hug, tell them that it's understandable that they're angry and sad, while still holding your ground. I'm not saying it will stop your kid's crying, but it will definately do a difference for them. My dad used to be like that and I'm so grateful.
7:26 I know the narrator said “a party for 40 six year olds” but it also sounds like “a party for 46 year olds” and now I can’t help but picture a bunch of almost middle aged people running across the playground. 😂😂😂
i thought the same
🤣🤣🤣 oh I needed a good laugh today, thank you 🤣🤣🤣
I'm 36 id love a party like that, love a good bouncy castle and games!
Where can I sign up? Can we have beer?
I'm in. I would love a playground for adults😂 Children hate you everytime you take the swing
I am so happy this was on my recommendation page! I have only seen Jo on the program Nanny 911 ~ I just love love love the topics of this program!
May Jo receive endless blessings throughout her life ~ for truly putting her gifts into action ~ which helps so many around the Globe ♥️
Lots of love from Orlando Florida
I feel so sorry for Rio's siblings. It's always the tricky ones that get the most attention.
Not always the attention they want though.
I knew a kid that used to do that and we realized later that was a reaction of his body to being terrorized and sexual abused. It broke my heart.
Exactly, the little girl is most likely being abused behind closed doors 😢
The sugar experiment proves something I have believed for ages. I don't have kids of my own, but I don't remember any of us acting crazy after eating sugar and we grew up before everybody went crazy about children's diets.
I can see myself if I get to much sugar, I go all bouncy like a duracell bunny. Even husband has seen and realised same thing, by me bouncing while I talk and talking superfast like I never do otherwise. So I believe in it to some degree, but I also see that there are other factors that make children energetic, like having lots of other friends to play with in an exciting setting where you do not know what new fun thing will come next.
That was so sweet when the little girl patted her moms arm to comfort her! 😍😊👍
Rio's parents give in too easily. If he won't eat anything but bread and butter, refuse to give it to him. He will then get so hungry he'll eat his meal without making himself sick. Toughen up parents!
Also, my mom never said " ur to young, u wont understand" she also never really treated us like small little babies. Love her for that
I love how Jo talks to kids.
I don’t even have kids and I love watching this show 😂. Jo is the Child whisperer
I got so tired of Rio that I checked out early. Wow Jo you have awesome advice. I did the same little trick with the binky. My son decorated a paper bag put all his binkies in it and gave it to the Baby Store. When it was bed time he conveniently found one under 'my' bed but it was too gross. He never had binky again, nor a thumb or anything to suck on. And incidentially his teeth are perfect, never needed braces and only 2 cavities....he's now 21 and is a smart & handsome young man - is an EMT, so happy for him.
Everybody is different. We get different results trying different strategies with different kids. My two got what they wanted, except sweets only on Saturday. I think the sweets only on Saturday is a Swedish thing. I works.
I will always remember my sons pure happy face when he had his first ice cream. About two years old. 🇸🇪
🤦🏻♀️OMG! I was SO frustrated with the mom and the dummies!!!
How did she not get the concept of "a dummy fairy"? The friken bag was STILL on the next morn!😳UHHHH! The whole point was to remove the bag as soon as she went to bed! They also should have hung a small little prize in its place to reward the "donation" of all old dummies & bottles!
I wonder if Rio who is 20 now, and Katie who is 16 ever watches this. It would be fun if the families who were in the show would do a reaction of the show now, so many years later.
She does do follow-ups every now and then.
There was that kid who at 14 ate nothing his entire life except bread, butter, and chips. He went blind due to lack of nutrients.
There was a man who lived on chicken and noodles and had his legs amputated due to an infection bought on by lack of nutrients
There was that person who died due to malnourishment.
Sweet little girl comforting her mom. God bless her
Oh he doesn’t just eat bread/butter. He wants ice cream.
I haven't watched the video yet. But I just wanted to say this incase it might help someone with a child with similar problems. I vomited multiple times a day as a child and could not control it. I had all the tests done and nothing could be found. After years we found the link. I was severely sexually abused as a 3 year old incl. repeatedly shoving "things" down my throat a lot. Whenever these memories and sensations came up, I had to vomit. There was also some bodily damage as the "shoving" had caused a reflux. So similar problems can have very different causes.
I'm so sorry that you had to go through that! I was sexually abused too and sometimes I truly wonder how that has effected my struggle with anorexia.
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I’m so sorry evil entered your life at such a young age. Even if this person didn’t pay the consequences in this life time, they will get it in the next ten fold. You sound like such a lovely person. I love you sis! You are such a strong women! I’m praying for you. God bless you sister. JESUS CHRIST is The WAY. The TRUTH. The LIFE
My God I am so sorry. I’m crying for you. 💔
I have 5 and 3 year olds and a newborn, they are so small and innocent, the thought of anyone doing this to such precious little beings makes me want to do very violent, illegal things to the child abuser. I wish you had been fully protected and never gone through that.
I was molested at age 4, the perpetrator was my friends dad, and he held his hand over my mouth while harming me. I started having issues with both binge eating and food restriction, I’d go back and forth and my weight (and immune system) was always unhealthy. At 7 and 9 I was r*ped by an extended family member and my eating disorder spiraled even more, plus I chopped my hair off to look like a boy, because I thought boys didn’t get hurt like that. Very ignorant, but the abuser blamed me and all females for being “temptresses”, I thought the solution was to be like a boy.
Its so sad how sexual trauma, especially the younger you are when it happens, creates long lasting issues that seem completely out of nowhere and aren’t diagnosable. Im praying you’ve found healing and are in a better state of mind.
Im so so sorry ♥️ virtual hugs sent your way!
i literally thought this child was around 18 months..... 3.5 YEARS old. wow
Ikr? She’s too old for a pacifier.
Yess - school age for some !
My friend in elementary school had ARFID. Whenever I stayed over at her house it was heartbreaking watching her mom argue with her to eat anything. She never had very good self esteem either, and although we’ve grown apart over the years I really hope she’s doing better.
Being a parent is tough, as much as we love our children and don't like seeing them hurting we still have to do the best for the child as they will grow into adults and they will have the same battles. The word no is also a word of love. Be kind to yourself and strong to withstand the battles before it becomes a war
My dad tells me the story about a boy like this. His name was Scott Martin & he would just only eat french fries & buttered bread, just that; nothing else! he said he didn't want to get the liver transplant because he was scared; so he died at the young age of 20.
Look up "Boy that would only eat french fries and buttered bread"
So sad about the liver disease. It’s hard for the child and parents. I’m a retired aneathetist, where I worked in Sweden there was the children’s liver disease Center, with many of them had a transplant. But most often it was with multiple organs involved, so they did many procedures with an anesthesia. Their and their families life was hard.
When my daughter decided to act up and disrupt meal times, she would be asked to leave the table and go to her room as we all ate in peace. Once we were finished she could sit in the kitchen alone to eat her meal. If she refused to eat it, no dessert or anything else. Only had to do this a few times. Problem solved. With that said, I can't handle liver and onions. My Mom and sister loved it. I would have to leave the house as even smelling it cooking would gag me. My Mom never tried to force me to eat it. I would only be given whatever side veggies were served with it and that was my dinner. I had no problem with any other food.
I think it's fine for kids (or anyone) to have a small number of foods they dislike. I'm a grown kid and my mother will never serve me capsicum. As long as they try it enough times to know they don't like the taste, not just because it's different, and they are polite about declining it- like just eat around it and don't make a fuss.
I am the same! I forced myself to eat it when pregnant but only then.
This is the right way to approach it. Instead of taking away her outside time, you let her cool down in her room. Great parenting here!
And some people have the nerve to say fed is best.
I realize this show is so old that all these kids likely have kids of their own by now
but it is still so entertaining to watch
mad respect for Jo having been able to deal w parents like that, i would not have been able to
An almost 4 year old with bottles and pacifiers? That's a no for me! These parents are setting her up for failure. As a parent i would be embarrassed and ashamed for real!
as someone with autism and adhd I feel the boy. Its about the textures. I am now 31 and its still hard with eating.
Same here, my parents were encouraged to make me eat a spoonful of something I did not like every day. Taste-food they called it.
They had good intentions, but it caused me SO much anxiety and stress that I'd often be gagging when thinking about it or cry in class about the upcoming food.
I'd pace outside of the kitchen, eating became a disaster, I'd gag and cry and try to flee the scene and get off my chair.
Till this day, if anyone says; 'Oh just finish that bite' or 'just eat it' or 'oh you should *definitely* try it' I start gagging and have to leave.
I'm not saying they shouldn't have tried to give me new foods to try, but maybe not during the eveningdinner and not a spoonful. They should've given me more choices and NO herbs or additional sauces on it!
I never visit restaurants, never eat at friend's houses, dinner at my (now ex)-boyfriend's place was always a drama, I'd regularly cry in shame in the bathroom or accidentally knock over my plate, because the shame of knocking it over was less than the shame of admitting I wasn't going to eat it.
And whenever I wás forced to go, with colleagues, I always hid my food under the table and/or in a bag in my backpack and pretend I was very full, or sick, or allergic.
Food is a problem for me, very much. Unknown or Unfavoritable food is not enjoyable to me, but a task to complete. And whenever people found out, I would be ridiculed or forced to eat it (even by autism-counselors, who forced me to try a tea while I literally cried about it.) It always ends with vomiting, which I have a massive fear of. I love food that I like, but I hate food in that way.
I have used so many of your techniques and it works you are amazing Jo
Jo Frost does turn nightmare kids into well behaved angels like magic
No, she educates the parents to alter their own choices & reactions. Kids are a reflection of home environment.
Hasn’t worked on most kids
My mom said "you eat what we eat or you don't eat at all." And she meant it. Guess what, never had a problem since.
When I was being raised in the 1960's (granted it's a long time ago) we were told at whichever meal was being served, that's all the food we get until the next meal. I missed a few meals but not many because there was also no dessert! LOL! You do have to be consistent though.
yeah, i think there are some problems that occur more frequently nowadays than they used to (or at least in >middle wage households) simply because... people can afford it. like, if you have nothing to offer your children but what is on the plate, there is no choice for them but to eat or not and go hungry until the next meal. but if they can afford it, a lot of people will make their children something else to eat because it hurts to see your child not eating. and sometimes it's fine but sometimes, especially if it's a repeated cycle and especially if the child picks up on it, it can lead to some pretty serious behavioural issues. if your child refuses to eat so they miss a meal, almost certainly they'll given in and eat something with the next few hours or day. but if they refuse to eat something and you give in time and time again, the day you decide to tell them that if they don't eat, they can go to bed hungry - they'll likely hold out for longer because they're still assuming that you'll give in again. and a lot of parents do. it's very easy to create a rod for your own back when it comes to raising children
I can understand not liking some things but not everything can you not understand he has an eating disorder
@@Dee-oj5zm next few hours or day? Uhh no that’s too long to wait. I don’t like pork or beef I like bread but can’t eat too much of it because the way it swells me up. I like fish, chicken and Turkey I like vegetables and fruits I’m allergic to spicy foods and radishes, and avacodoes
@@MelB868 sorry but you misread what i said. i said that a few hours or a day is fine but if you can't hold out that long and keep giving in and feeding your child only what they like, when you try to truly commit to feeding them what they need, they will likely hold out for longer than a day because they're expecting you will give in again, because you've set that standard. so the later you wait to address it, the harder it becomes to address. although frankly there are some children who WON'T give in but these cases are few and far between (usually children with serious eating disorders which can be triggered by bullying, abuse, neglect, etc.) in which case you'd need clinical assistance - but every parent worries or thinks that their child would fall into this category when more often they don't. they will eat, it's just hard for some parents to persevere through hours of crying, whining, etc. because we're biologically wired to be upset by that.
😂👍👍👍And we had no spoiled, picky eaters back then!
Today mothers should learn to raise their kids properly ...
Jo looks so different now. I remember her early shows she was in a suit with her hair pulled back in a bun. What I imagine a nanny looks like. 😂
I love that Jo takes the time to speak to the kids, ask them how they feel and what they want to get out of the experience.
A doctor onced diagnosed a male relative of mine as a 3 year old toddler, with having a stomach to small for his body/size; which cause him not to have an appetite for food, had belly-aches,
vomited after eating solids, had fevers and got sick often.
This doctor said he would grow out of it, which he did. So my relatives no longer worried because he didn't eat his food.
Thank God that after years of NO DOCTORS being able to diagnose him in America, it happened on an island where his mother was born in the caribbean where they travelled one summer. .
There, my relative was take to the emergency room after he vomited, had a high fever and felt sick. It was there a doctor diagnosed him.
I, on the other hand when as a toddler, was finally diagnosed with a stomach to big for my little body after many trips to the emergency room or doctors offices.
Though I also was sick often, some of my symptoms were different, I did have fevers, no appetite, hyperventilated which made me fatigue and sleepy.
I would even lie on the ground and sleep whiles playing or walking. Neighbours would pick me up and bring me home. I too grew out of it by the time I became an teenager.
So please, please go easy on the little guy! He isn't faking!
Watching this brought back the aches and pains of the pass, but our family from the beginning knew something was wrong.
I still eat mainly a raw diet of fruits and I am 2 months away from being 59 years old.
He seems to not have a problem with the very few foods he does like, though.
Rio's update made me so happy! Thank God for Jo!
I had my pacifier/dummy until I had them taken at 4 (my daycare didn't allow them). I drank out of a bottle at night until I has 8 then stopped myself. After I rubbed the inside of my elbow until my skin was extremely irritated, then rubbed other people's, and bit my nails. I'm 20 and cannot stop twisting my hair, especially when I'm stressed.
Same here, I sucked and bit my thumb until I was in infant school (about 4/5), then I was biting my nails when my teeth came in until they were constantly infected and bleeding. Then when I was 13 I had my retainers and couldn't shut my mouth properly when they were in, and since then (I'm also 20 lol) I stretch, pull and crack my fingers when I'm stressed, or just not thinking. As a result, I've got arthritis and hypermobility in my fingers and they're constantly painful, but I still do it when I'm stressed.
It's self soothing- I'm not depressed and I don't do it any more when I'm anxious. It's a habit as well as a coping strategy. I was diagnosed as Autistic a while back and apparently it's related to that, oops.
i sucked my fingers until around the third/fourth grade I had to get a retainer because my lower jaw wasn't able to grow properly later I developed skin picking disorder I'm in my thirties and still effected it's a compulsive disorder so it's hard to treat and can't just magically go away
I pick my skin too. The skin on my thumbs lately. I started picking the skin on my fingers as a child. I'm almost in my 30's, I'm 26 currently.
I used to suck my fingers too as a child. I forget when I stopped but I sucked mine past the usual age when most people stop.
Sounds like anxiety disorder ticks.
Can you imagine Rio growing up to be a chef! He'll be like "And I own my tastebuds to Jo Frost!"
My daughter was like this , its so hard to live with , shes 19 now and over the years gradually got better with food , she eats normal now
I'm 19 now and I was like this too. Food I didn't like would make me gag. But over the years it just clicked and I started eating more and more foods. I think a lot of children simply just grow out of it.
I’m a vegetarian and autistic but never refused to eat.
@@155chipmunkz same here, there's only a few textures I don't like, but as a child, I shut up, swallowed my ick and got it over with.
That kid has all the control. Wow
Rio's face is classic when his head is at a tennis match and him not unserstanding why he is not the centre of attention. If he has a stomach ache he can't eat dessert. I just realised that, I never, had, any problem with my daughter around food she iterally ate everything she was given.
I think the little boy who doesn't eat is attention seeking. That doesn't mean he doesn't have a genuine physical reaction to foods. He may have had a really bad reaction to a food he has eaten and now is cautious in case it happens again.
It's weird seeing Jo hopping on the trampoline with him. My mom would never play with me like that. Playing was only for kids.
The ghosts of childhood past slapped me in the face with this one. Back in the early 1960's when I was born, my mother worked very hard to keep me from eating sugary foods because she said it made me hyper. I can still hear her yelling at my dad when he'd buy me ice cream from the ice cream man: "Mikey, why did you do that? You know we don't want her to have all that sugar!"
Jo Frost is an absolute legend!
Beautiful broccoli mom! She ate the broccoli you fell off the chair.Mission accomplished! As a child I would not eat asparagus, at her wits end my mom said why won't you try it,I told her I didn't want to eat sticks from a tree, she said non,no,no sweetie they are not sticks,it's a veggie,just try one bite if you don't like it then you don't have eat it.Well I'm 71 yrs young and I still love asparagus lol.
I barely ate until I was around 12 years old.. dinner time was horrible.. my mother hysterically trying to force feed me, and ending up in me throwing up. But still she kept doing it.. screaming, hitting and making me sit at the dinner table for hours and hours.
there were just a few things I would eat. The doctor told her to be patient and not force me, and I will eat when I feel hungry..
Now after not eating for almost 12 years, I need to stop eating 😂 i eat literally everything and a lot of it .. it can all change for kids…
Sounds like you had an eating disorder
Omg forcing your kids to eat like that is abuse. I'm sorry you got treated like that.
@Bruno B. Bigdongzhong Uh, yeah it is abuse. Did you not read her comment?
I am so sorry, that was not ok of your parents.
@brunobbigdongzhong under no circumstances should you ever hit your child, with one caveat: they are over 12 and they hit first **hard enough to hurt**
Regardless of whether something had traumatised them, it is still abuse to yell at and hit your child with no just cause.
I genuinely believe that I should never have children... their patience as the parents they were before Jo is far more than what I have as a viewer
Rio's parents seem a lot more patient compared to Brandon's mum from the original series. That's one of those episodes I cannot watch (along with the Agate one)
And I Loved how Jo she played with Reio and talked to him about what he eats for breakfast
I love how everyone in the comments is suddenly a psychiatrist/therapist giving Rio a free diagnosis of an eating disorder...
I do agree. It looks more like a power issue. This little boy is really really clever
He does have one they even said it
@@nightrainfxstb Eating disorders are often born out of control issues...
@@j3licat AFRID is not a typical eating disorder. It’s not caused by a lack of control, usually it’s caused by anxiety around texture or fear of chocking/vomiting. It’s very common with autism and other development disabilities.
Jo actually checked by talking to the boy first. He confirmed that he behaved this way because he knew he could get away with it. Then when it stops working, his face and screams come across to me as pure rage and stepping up the behavior that always worked before. Then at the restaurant when he took his first bite of something else, he seemed quite happy with it. Just before that there was absolutely no pressure to put anything in his mouth and so also no special attention and once again the expression on his face looked like pure indignant fury to me. Then later, at a completely different meal, he suddenly starts grabbing his stomach and crying. Fast forward to the end and he's happily eating everything without any ill effect. There are so very many reasons for being a picky eater, figuring out the reason for it is key.
I know some others here who had problems with eating had completely valid experiences. But this boy is not getting his way for the very first time and is throwing the mother of all temper tantrums to get his way once again.
Do not feel guilty for making this child get proper nutrition. I’ve had to do this with my oldest son.
I knew a boy that was hungry, but wouldn't eat. When forced to eat he would immediately vomit. Doctors thought he was bulimic. But it turned out he had stomach ulcers.
31:13 I was glad to see the mom immediately ask how to change instead of the defiant parents we always see.
This is my son 100%. He'll be 6 in a few months. I'm ashamed to admit he ate cupcakes all day today because i couldn't convince him to eat anything else. I always thought the tough love approach would traumatise him more and that he had something psychologically wrong with him in respect to food. But I am so happy it worked out for this boy, I'm in tears watching it. I need to try this.
Have you looked into AFRID? if he is only eating a few different foods and would rather go hungry than eat them and would throw tantrums about it then it could be something worth checking
@@elijahlee6401 did you not read their comment and understand what they said? They thought something was wrong with their kid rather than suspect it was their parenting approach. No parent wants to admit something is wrong with the way they parent, and most would rather pin it on a psychological issue with their child, or "it comes from their mum/dad,".
AFRID is not common, and is a result of poor parenting, not an innate issue. You're not born afraid of food, you're raised to think it's dangerous because the way your parents spoke to you gives you the association it's dangerous. Don't yell, don't cuss, don't say just try, because all that signals to a child that what's on their plate will kill them. "Just try" is kid code for "this is life threatening if I try,".
As for AFRID, my brother has it, he only eats chicken nuggets, corn, carrot, broccoli, hot dogs, fried eggs, bolognese meat and pasta. He won't eat anything else and my birth giver lets him get away with it cause "he's autistic, he just doesn't like certain textures,". I wasn't allowed that excuse (excuses are lies we tell ourselves), I wasn't allowed to say I don't like lollies or choc chips in ice-cream, or I'd get none. I couldn't say I didn't like pork crackling or fat, or I'd get less meat.
What I'm saying is, AFRID is rare. Very, very rare. And by that I mean, the incidence of true AFRID is so rare, those people end up on IV drips or with their meals injected directly into their stomachs. Picky eating otherwise is incompatible with life, and parents must not allow their child(ren) to manipulate them into giving into their child's whims.
My friend has a daughter that cries about wanting ice-cream and muffins and Macca's. She's 3 and weights as much as an overweight 5 year old. My friend has the nerve to turn to me when I visit and ask "you sure you want children?" As if her child's bad behaviour isn't her fault for giving in, and spending $100+ on junk food a fortnight. Then complains "I can't afford health food, plus they won't eat vegetables". Yeah, cause she puts beans and peas in the microwave with craft Mac n cheese. No wonder her kids don't want to eat it.
This. The incidence of ARFID is extremely rare. Manipulative, spoiled brats, not so much.
Katie Ann's mommy needs to realize that babies grow up
I had an ex friend who babies her 15 and 16 year olds they still say mommy and daddy
I’m 28 and my dad treats me like I’m 5. It’s so annoying.
No more bread on the table. Parents need to be strong and firm with their kids. When he's hungry, he'll eat. He's very clever at manipulating his parents.
Absolutely
The girl, who pulls her hear out: every clever Russian mom'd shave her head immediately after seeing her doing this just a few times. 2-3 years old she has absolutely no problem with such look, and the habit will die by itself. Later the young girl will have good look.
Interesting
When I adopted my dog, she refused to eat dog food. My husband was being overly accommodating, putting cheese on it, and giving her people food. She would eat the cheese and leave the dog food. I took her to the vet and she had very bad teeth for her age. The vet said not to give her anything but dog food. If she doesn't eat it, take it away. Then, the next meal time, try again. She went two days without eating anything. On the third day, she started eating dog food. Now she loves her dog food. Don't be afraid of starving them. You are not starving them. You are offering them food, and they are not eating it. Eventually, they will eat.
While I do agree with this when it comes to dogs, it’s kind of a different game when it comes to human beings.
Humans are a little more complex.
The reason why many dogs refuse to eat their dog food is because most dog food like canned food and kibbles are pure crap. She only ate after two days due to her instincts to survive. You are better off giving your dog fresh human food. I also recommend the YT video feed your dog human food.
My dog went almost a whole week without eating in hopes of treats. It freaked me out so that I eventually found a dog food she was slightly less picky about but all the doctors said dogs only hold out for three days. :|
You’ve never had experience with AFRID I’m assuming (a good thing it’s really hard) nothing will make me eat something that I can’t tolerate. I spend hours at the dinner table as a child refusing to eat certain things and all it did was make it worse. Proper medical treatment is needed for it. A dog is not a human, my dog will go a few meals without eating but will always end up eating when she’s hungry, I do not.
My son was fussy up until the age of two. He suffered ear infections and we were told to supplement his diet with baby formula. It’s so worrying. Thank goodness he outgrew it. He’s 6’3” now. I once had an intern scream in my face that we weren’t feeding him enough. You don’t know how that feels as a mother who is trying everything she can think of.😢
She is DISTRESSED, not just stressed...
I love Jo she just seems to get kids easily :)
I never argued with my son about food. He either ate what was on his plate, or no dessert at all. if he didnt want to eat what we were eating, no problem. he was NOT allowed to eat anything else in place of that. He was not excused from the table until we were done eating, and he could eat from the fruit bowl in between meals at any time he wanted. we never had any crying, throwing fits, or rude behaviour about food, ever. he now prides himself in cooking very healthy meals for his kids.
I think that might be a good strategy because no drama involved. Best wishes from Sweden.
Same here!
thanks! @@martinasikk6162
I had this problem from 5-7 but I never threw up but I gagged and looking back it breaks my heart seeing the parents perspective