Jo must have helped thousands of families over the years. She really is a remarkable woman who provides real help to others without any grandstanding herself
I also felt for Josh. His parents are stupid and never thought about the bullying he endures at school, and from his father.. Bullying is so very damaging and impeedes growth and learning. Thank god for Jo.❤
Josh’s parents are not stupid for not recognising the impacts the bullying had on him. The old saying “you don’t know what you don’t know “ is very true. Parenting does not come with an instruction manual. His father was reacting to Josh’s behaviour. If you haven’t been through this, you don’t know what it’s like. I had a child that was being bullied at school unbeknownst to us. His behaviour changed dramatically. He went from a loving, affectionate boy to an angry, reactive, explosive young boy. We thought it was puberty and the challenges of adolescence. His safe place was at home. He would let out his anger and frustration at home towards us all. We could not have dinner together because he would be too explosive if anyone said the wrong thing. It was almost like he wanted someone to react to. We walked on egg shells for almost a year and a half. It was only after we sort the help of a psychologist and the bully left the school that we found out what was happening to our child. We hadn’t even thought about the possibility of him being bullied. Call us naive but unless you live it, you don’t know what it’s like. He is thriving now and has grown up to be a compassionate, caring and loving young man. What you don’t know you don’t know.
A lot of school authorities as well as those who check on abusive bosses are useless. Back in my hellementary school days, there were a few teachers, two in particular, a couple, there last name being Cole, which was very fitting for their hearts, and as for the other, even though he wasn’t nearly as bad, he was still able to make my list, and two IAs, one in particular who was rarely around but was a much bigger bully, that were bullies along with four students in particular who were notably worse then the other bullies. I went through a lot, believe me. To top it all off there was this one time when I went to the principal's office to talk to the vice principal about the bullying from the teachers and other students and I was angry, sobbing and the works and I did not hold back on how I felt or on what I was saying, but little did I know that the system for the entire schools speakers was on, so everyone in the entire school heard everything. Now, some of the things that was done to a good friend of mine, who has Cerebral Palsy, well, she had an instructional assistant, same one I had, who at times put the lock of her locker on backwards as she was being timed, sometimes also having her wear an intentionally heavy nap sack when she was walking with her crutches when she already had a hard enough time with nothing extra weighing her down, on the odd occasion had her crutches put towards the classroom door so she had to use the desks to balance herself to get to them, one day she slipped and fell in the mud on her way to one of the portables and she was forced to enter the classroom. As for me, I have roughly thirty regular sized pages with regular sized font single spaced, I think it was around fifty or so before it was edited for me, of a bunch of the unfair stuff that happened to me. Anyways, after the schools PA system incident, the bullying got even worse. It did not matter that mom and dad called and tried to help. No one was able to do anything at all for me, nothing, I was a caged animal with no escape/no way to get any kind of help. Even now, emotional abuse is not something that the cops will typically intervene in. Then one day towards the end of the seventh grade I just snapped completely on one of the bullies, ripped his shirt, tackled him to the ground and would not stop going completely ballistic on him, just absolutely out of control. The lunchroom/recess supervisor who basically did pretty much nothing against emotional bullying ended up pulling us apart and if she hadn't have stepped in then I would not have stopped. The thing about these days is with the internet, social media/etc it just seems like there is a lot more evil stuff going on because it is a lot easier to uncover it, and kids/teens, as well as adults, seniors, etc, need to be encouraged to stand up to bullies, if they can, and to stand up against bullying when they see it happen and to secretly record if things get bad enough, recording live stream if possible just incase they get caught.having those recording being recorded to some secret place on the web that the victim can have access to those files when and if they ever need them. Recordings that will never be seen/known by the bullies if they do happen to snatch the recorder, if this advanced type of option is even possible. Back when I was a young teen, one day I just had this switch in my head that just flipped instantly and for quite a while I had random moments when I had to do or say something bad, thankfully I had many options and they didn't have to be something that was too horrible, so I was able to narrow it down to the least severe ones that would still cause the attacks to go away for a while, and they were either swearing, there were a decent amount of times when I had to do it in front of someone that did not want to hear it, or dialling nine one one, the nine one one was done twice when I was near enough to a phone when it happened so I tried to stay away from phones as much as I felt that I could cause I knew/know how important the nine one one service is for people. I know that it is hard for most to grasp this, but I actually had no choice when these impulses came into my head. It was like a forced Tourettes. Try if you can to imagine a combination of both Anger and Fear that would start off at a level that was still higher then what any human being should ever have to endure and them just constantly getting worse from there when I did not do one of those two things. So yeah, I had to make it go away until the next attack. There were no set times, places, etc, they would just happen, and sometime I would get two or more attacks very shortly after each other. Then finally one day, I had my last attack and that was it, so I consider myself to be very, very lucky cause I was getting to the point where I was almost ready to just end it all. As for the job end of things, with my second last boss he was a real master at manipulation, could be one of the most vicious to one of the most loving people you have even met on the drop of a dime, flip of a switch, and knew how to pull peoples mental, emotional strings, and believe me when I say that I make a really good target especially during some days when I was the first/only one there where at times there were alcohol and beer bottles over the floor and during those time especially he had the kind of rage that literally shook my body and went right through to my very soul. One of the worst things that pretty much sums up modern day justice was when a fellow worker called workers rights and they gave the boss a two weeks advance notice of them coming by to inspect the place, obviously giving him enough time to make enough changes for as long as the inspections went on which is crazy because every inspection should be a surprise one. He never had more than four people working since anymore than four would mean the occasional inspections. The worker who reported him got blacklisted and was not able to get another job, then one day we found out that he committed the act of un aliveing himself. And people wonder why very few ever come forward in regards to abuse. Well, maybe it is because many do but very few of the ones who come forward ever get any real help. I bet that most reports that actually are filed get trashed and a fair number of the others altered. Even back when I was a kid, you could have video footage and only use the parts that make your case look good while trashing the other person, now that never happened to me, but for any parent teacher conferences, which should be illegal because the kids should be there too, and, well, who knows what might have been said behind my back during any of my schooling where it was just the parents and teachers talking as those and other conversations should have all sides of the story. I was mentally/emotionally trapped there for like eight years and as such I have lots of stuff that I typed about that job/torments as well as a couple videos I made of shots that I took in secret, there was one time in particular where the boss, a strong guy, took a large post and just chucked it at me in a way so it barely missed me.
Feel so sad for Josh, I could get why he was reacting so badly to bullying. When he said the teacher is useless is probably cos they don’t listen to him, so yes maybe he wanted to be with a teacher who pays attention. Then the parents don’t listen and just take the side of the teachers and assume he has bad behaviours. So he lashes out at home where he feels he can get it out more safely. He’s very confrontational with self righteousness and anger about his situation.
No one ever wants to hear it but many teachers ARE useless about bullying, and children are not obligated to lie about it and pretend they’re more helpful than they are.
A lot of school authorities as well as those who check on abusive bosses are just that, useless. Back in my hellementary school days, there were a few teachers, two in particular, a couple, there last name being Cole, which was very fitting for their hearts, and as for the other, even though he wasn’t nearly as bad, he was still able to make my list, and two IAs, one in particular who was rarely around but was a much bigger bully, that were bullies along with four students in particular who were notably worse then the other bullies. I went through a lot, believe me. To top it all off there was this one time when I went to the principal's office to talk to the vice principal about the bullying from the teachers and other students and I was angry, sobbing and the works and I did not hold back on how I felt or on what I was saying, but little did I know that the system for the entire schools speakers was on, so everyone in the entire school heard everything. Now, some of the things that was done to a good friend of mine, who has Cerebral Palsy, well, she had an instructional assistant, same one I had, who at times put the lock of her locker on backwards as she was being timed, sometimes also having her wear an intentionally heavy nap sack when she was walking with her crutches when she already had a hard enough time with nothing extra weighing her down, on the odd occasion had her crutches put towards the classroom door so she had to use the desks to balance herself to get to them, one day she slipped and fell in the mud on her way to one of the portables and she was forced to enter the classroom. As for me, I have roughly thirty regular sized pages with regular sized font single spaced, I think it was around fifty or so before it was edited for me, of a bunch of the unfair stuff that happened to me. Anyways, after the schools PA system incident, the bullying got even worse. It did not matter that mom and dad called and tried to help. No one was able to do anything at all for me, nothing, I was a caged animal with no escape/no way to get any kind of help. Even now, emotional abuse is not something that the cops will typically intervene in. Then one day towards the end of the seventh grade I just snapped completely on one of the bullies, ripped his shirt, tackled him to the ground and would not stop going completely ballistic on him, just absolutely out of control. The lunchroom/recess supervisor who basically did pretty much nothing against emotional bullying ended up pulling us apart and if she hadn't have stepped in then I would not have stopped. The thing about these days is with the internet, social media/etc it just seems like there is a lot more evil stuff going on because it is a lot easier to uncover it, and kids/teens, as well as adults, seniors, etc, need to be encouraged to stand up to bullies, if they can, and to stand up against bullying when they see it happen and to secretly record if things get bad enough, recording live stream if possible just incase they get caught.having those recording being recorded to some secret place on the web that the victim can have access to those files when and if they ever need them. Recordings that will never be seen/known by the bullies if they do happen to snatch the recorder, if this advanced type of option is even possible. Back when I was a young teen, one day I just had this switch in my head that just flipped instantly and for quite a while I had random moments when I had to do or say something bad, thankfully I had many options and they didn't have to be something that was too horrible, so I was able to narrow it down to the least severe ones that would still cause the attacks to go away for a while, and they were either swearing, there were a decent amount of times when I had to do it in front of someone that did not want to hear it, or dialling nine one one, the nine one one was done twice when I was near enough to a phone when it happened so I tried to stay away from phones as much as I felt that I could cause I knew/know how important the nine one one service is for people. I know that it is hard for most to grasp this, but I actually had no choice when these impulses came into my head. It was like a forced Tourettes. Try if you can to imagine a combination of both Anger and Fear that would start off at a level that was still higher then what any human being should ever have to endure and them just constantly getting worse from there when I did not do one of those two things. So yeah, I had to make it go away until the next attack. There were no set times, places, etc, they would just happen, and sometime I would get two or more attacks very shortly after each other. Then finally one day, I had my last attack and that was it, so I consider myself to be very, very lucky cause I was getting to the point where I was almost ready to just end it all. As for the job end of things, with my second last boss he was a real master at manipulation, could be one of the most vicious to one of the most loving people you have even met on the drop of a dime, flip of a switch, and knew how to pull peoples mental, emotional strings, and believe me when I say that I make a really good target especially during some days when I was the first/only one there where at times there were alcohol and beer bottles over the floor and during those time especially he had the kind of rage that literally shook my body and went right through to my very soul. One of the worst things that pretty much sums up modern day justice was when a fellow worker called workers rights and they gave the boss a two weeks advance notice of them coming by to inspect the place, obviously giving him enough time to make enough changes for as long as the inspections went on which is crazy because every inspection should be a surprise one. He never had more than four people working since anymore than four would mean the occasional inspections. The worker who reported him got blacklisted and was not able to get another job, then one day we found out that he committed the act of un aliveing himself. And people wonder why very few ever come forward in regards to abuse. Well, maybe it is because many do but very few of the ones who come forward ever get any real help. I bet that most reports that actually are filed get trashed and a fair number of the others altered. Even back when I was a kid, you could have video footage and only use the parts that make your case look good while trashing the other person, now that never happened to me, but for any parent teacher conferences, which should be illegal because the kids should be there too, and, well, who knows what might have been said behind my back during any of my schooling where it was just the parents and teachers talking as those and other conversations should have all sides of the story. I was mentally/emotionally trapped there for like eight years and as such I have lots of stuff that I typed about that job/torments as well as a couple videos I made of shots that I took in secret, there was one time in particular where the boss, a strong guy, took a large post and just chucked it at me in a way so it barely missed me.
Bullying is terrible. I was a victim of that, during almost all my shool years, at elementary and highshool. And especially in elementary school, where maybe they could have had more control over the situation (starting from the fact there were no bus-rides to shool) did not care. I was stripped naked (some kids holding me, others undressing me) just next to the place where they all stood chatting during pauses). In eyesight in hearing range. I reacted differently. Went silent and "numb", dissociated.... But I can see how a different character would lash out in anger. There were tons of other issues in my growing up, but that constant humiliation and feeling of help- and hopelessness did most definitely did not help. I have severe mental health issues, including cPTSD.
@@mangantasy289 I reacted pretty much the same as you did as there was only one time I blew up and one time when I had a big meltdown to that degree in regards to telling the vice what I told her. As for the fight after that the bullying had stopped and at least for me my highschool years had minimal bullying and in college there was none. I feel that physical violence is for sure a last resort, and wit the way things are I feel that it is one that a lot more people should take since the school system is almost always beyond useless. Hopefully as time passes the stuff that you went through will become more and more as distant memories and that you will be able to find peace.
I was bullied for 7 years long. During that time I hated my current teacher because she didn’t help me and I called her stupid. At home I would have outbursts and blame everybody for my pain and suffering. Being bullied does a lot with a child. When being bullied they can’t always control or know how they out their emotions. Always encounter children gently and let them know they’re loved but obviously also show discipline!
My late father was very heavy handed with my brother and I. He often used his belt and was easily angry and authoritarian. I guess he was very frustrated with himself and often fought with mum (loud words) and always during meals. I left home to go overseas to work at 19 and never came back home. Years later I felt sorry to leave my brother behind.
My 3rd child would go to bed and my husband and I used to stand at the end of her bed and chat about our day. She would nod off immediately because she felt loved, comforted and safe because we aren’t shutting her away or leaving alone while she’s awake. Once asleep bye bye 😃👍
With an angry child like that, if it were mine, I’d calmly pull him into another room and say to him “okay take a deep breath, take some time to relax…it’s okay to be angry, you’re allowed to be angry, but it’s not okay to hit and swear and shout at people.” And then I’d ask him to tell me why he’s feeling angry, what’s made him angry. And I’d also buy him a nice book for him to write all his thoughts in, and if he wants to discuss them at the end of each day, then that’s okay too. I’m not a parent but honestly if I were angry that’s how I’d like my parents to treat me
God bless Jo!! The British government should hire her to help children and parents! What a generation is being raised by parents who don't accept the facts of human nature!
With the kid who snacks in the morning, firstly why so many snack options just lying about in easy reach? Maybe lock it, also if they’re waking up so far early from any adults and they’re hungry or bored they will find ways to occupy themselves and food is part of that. No structure or discipline or follow through. What Jo said about safety too, all that climbing on shaky objects.
I live in Kenya been following Jo from her show supper nanny to this channel here and I must say I follow her guidance on several issues and her techniques always works for me. She is a blessing for us parents ❤❤❤
We never had snacks at home. We got some on Saturdays if we were lucky. Home cooked food every day. Maybe pizza once a month. Maybe it's a generation thing.
We bought a big safe for snacks. The boys were happy with it, because 1 of them could not control his snacking. The consequence was the others got nothing, because the oldest ate it all. When I came home later from work they had their own box with snacks after school. It was for a few days. When they ate it all they were in bad luck. They respected the boxes of their brothers.
7:07 Babies have taste buds as well. Make sure whatever you are feeding them does not taste gross to you, because if it does then the baby will probably want to spit it out as well, just a thought.
I'm glad Josh is ok now it's happened to my son too he lashed out all the time andv8 found out it's the teachers horrible and some of the kid's lashed out for good reason's always listen to your kids you never know really what's going on while you not with them .
Wait lol why don’t you either stop buying junk food or put it in your closet this is ridiculous of course the kid is going to go eat all the junk you keep in the pantry
My children, when they were little wouldn't have been allowed to climb onto the bench top and help themselves; Not enough discipline and too much inconsistency with parents these days.
No she doesn’t because as soon as the mother gave in, she dived into the snack box full of chocolate. I would wait 7 days for a box of chocolate too. Lol😂
It sickens me when parents say their children won't eat and then its pantry time! Children get snacks in leau of meals and parents are unaware of how many snacks they actually eat. Even very young children are capable of sneaking food without parents notice. I do not believe a child didn’t eat anything at all for seven days, a full week with no food. Mom and dad, along with other members of the household will have been sneaking food to the child without others knowing, and the child will have been helping herself too.
With the fussy eating habits, the resolve goes great until someone in authority (teacher, health visitor,etc .. ) accuses you of neglecting your child. Then what do you do?😢
Number one , cut down your carbs 90 percent. Don't tell the family SLOWLY phase out starting with the worse,juice , cookies, sweet cereal,ECT. I'm telling you it's a start. Num. 2 put YOUR PHONES DOWN, YOUR CHILDREN NEED A HUG FOR NO REASON, SOMEONE TO LISTEN , SAY I LIVE YOU FOR NO REASON.😍
I had to laugh when the little boy was "yeah yeah yeah" when getting snacks, relatable lol
me too cheerleading his big brother hahahah
Jo must have helped thousands of families over the years. She really is a remarkable woman who provides real help to others without any grandstanding herself
I also felt for Josh. His parents are stupid and never thought about the bullying he endures at school, and from his father.. Bullying is so very damaging and impeedes growth and learning. Thank god for Jo.❤
Josh’s parents are not stupid for not recognising the impacts the bullying had on him. The old saying “you don’t know what you don’t know “ is very true. Parenting does not come with an instruction manual. His father was reacting to Josh’s behaviour. If you haven’t been through this, you don’t know what it’s like. I had a child that was being bullied at school unbeknownst to us. His behaviour changed dramatically. He went from a loving, affectionate boy to an angry, reactive, explosive young boy. We thought it was puberty and the challenges of adolescence. His safe place was at home. He would let out his anger and frustration at home towards us all. We could not have dinner together because he would be too explosive if anyone said the wrong thing. It was almost like he wanted someone to react to. We walked on egg shells for almost a year and a half. It was only after we sort the help of a psychologist and the bully left the school that we found out what was happening to our child. We hadn’t even thought about the possibility of him being bullied. Call us naive but unless you live it, you don’t know what it’s like. He is thriving now and has grown up to be a compassionate, caring and loving young man. What you don’t know you don’t know.
That's really great to hear he’s doing better really sorry your child had to go through that no child should be bullied
A lot of school authorities as well as those who check on abusive bosses are useless. Back in my hellementary school days, there were a few teachers, two in particular, a couple, there last name being Cole, which was very fitting for their hearts, and as for the other, even though he wasn’t nearly as bad, he was still able to make my list, and two IAs, one in particular who was rarely around but was a much bigger bully, that were bullies along with four students in particular who were notably worse then the other bullies. I went through a lot, believe me. To top it all off there was this one time when I went to the principal's office to talk to the vice principal about the bullying from the teachers and other students and I was angry, sobbing and the works and I did not hold back on how I felt or on what I was saying, but little did I know that the system for the entire schools speakers was on, so everyone in the entire school heard everything.
Now, some of the things that was done to a good friend of mine, who has Cerebral Palsy, well, she had an instructional assistant, same one I had, who at times put the lock of her locker on backwards as she was being timed, sometimes also having her wear an intentionally heavy nap sack when she was walking with her crutches when she already had a hard enough time with nothing extra weighing her down, on the odd occasion had her crutches put towards the classroom door so she had to use the desks to balance herself to get to them, one day she slipped and fell in the mud on her way to one of the portables and she was forced to enter the classroom. As for me, I have roughly thirty regular sized pages with regular sized font single spaced, I think it was around fifty or so before it was edited for me, of a bunch of the unfair stuff that happened to me.
Anyways, after the schools PA system incident, the bullying got even worse. It did not matter that mom and dad called and tried to help. No one was able to do anything at all for me, nothing, I was a caged animal with no escape/no way to get any kind of help. Even now, emotional abuse is not something that the cops will typically intervene in. Then one day towards the end of the seventh grade I just snapped completely on one of the bullies, ripped his shirt, tackled him to the ground and would not stop going completely ballistic on him, just absolutely out of control. The lunchroom/recess supervisor who basically did pretty much nothing against emotional bullying ended up pulling us apart and if she hadn't have stepped in then I would not have stopped.
The thing about these days is with the internet, social media/etc it just seems like there is a lot more evil stuff going on because it is a lot easier to uncover it, and kids/teens, as well as adults, seniors, etc, need to be encouraged to stand up to bullies, if they can, and to stand up against bullying when they see it happen and to secretly record if things get bad enough, recording live stream if possible just incase they get caught.having those recording being recorded to some secret place on the web that the victim can have access to those files when and if they ever need them. Recordings that will never be seen/known by the bullies if they do happen to snatch the recorder, if this advanced type of option is even possible.
Back when I was a young teen, one day I just had this switch in my head that just flipped instantly and for quite a while I had random moments when I had to do or say something bad, thankfully I had many options and they didn't have to be something that was too horrible, so I was able to narrow it down to the least severe ones that would still cause the attacks to go away for a while, and they were either swearing, there were a decent amount of times when I had to do it in front of someone that did not want to hear it, or dialling nine one one, the nine one one was done twice when I was near enough to a phone when it happened so I tried to stay away from phones as much as I felt that I could cause I knew/know how important the nine one one service is for people.
I know that it is hard for most to grasp this, but I actually had no choice when these impulses came into my head. It was like a forced Tourettes. Try if you can to imagine a combination of both Anger and Fear that would start off at a level that was still higher then what any human being should ever have to endure and them just constantly getting worse from there when I did not do one of those two things. So yeah, I had to make it go away until the next attack. There were no set times, places, etc, they would just happen, and sometime I would get two or more attacks very shortly after each other. Then finally one day, I had my last attack and that was it, so I consider myself to be very, very lucky cause I was getting to the point where I was almost ready to just end it all.
As for the job end of things, with my second last boss he was a real master at manipulation, could be one of the most vicious to one of the most loving people you have even met on the drop of a dime, flip of a switch, and knew how to pull peoples mental, emotional strings, and believe me when I say that I make a really good target especially during some days when I was the first/only one there where at times there were alcohol and beer bottles over the floor and during those time especially he had the kind of rage that literally shook my body and went right through to my very soul.
One of the worst things that pretty much sums up modern day justice was when a fellow worker called workers rights and they gave the boss a two weeks advance notice of them coming by to inspect the place, obviously giving him enough time to make enough changes for as long as the inspections went on which is crazy because every inspection should be a surprise one. He never had more than four people working since anymore than four would mean the occasional inspections. The worker who reported him got blacklisted and was not able to get another job, then one day we found out that he committed the act of un aliveing himself.
And people wonder why very few ever come forward in regards to abuse. Well, maybe it is because many do but very few of the ones who come forward ever get any real help. I bet that most reports that actually are filed get trashed and a fair number of the others altered. Even back when I was a kid, you could have video footage and only use the parts that make your case look good while trashing the other person, now that never happened to me, but for any parent teacher conferences, which should be illegal because the kids should be there too, and, well, who knows what might have been said behind my back during any of my schooling where it was just the parents and teachers talking as those and other conversations should have all sides of the story.
I was mentally/emotionally trapped there for like eight years and as such I have lots of stuff that I typed about that job/torments as well as a couple videos I made of shots that I took in secret, there was one time in particular where the boss, a strong guy, took a large post and just chucked it at me in a way so it barely missed me.
Feel so sad for Josh, I could get why he was reacting so badly to bullying. When he said the teacher is useless is probably cos they don’t listen to him, so yes maybe he wanted to be with a teacher who pays attention. Then the parents don’t listen and just take the side of the teachers and assume he has bad behaviours. So he lashes out at home where he feels he can get it out more safely. He’s very confrontational with self righteousness and anger about his situation.
No one ever wants to hear it but many teachers ARE useless about bullying, and children are not obligated to lie about it and pretend they’re more helpful than they are.
A lot of school authorities as well as those who check on abusive bosses are just that, useless. Back in my hellementary school days, there were a few teachers, two in particular, a couple, there last name being Cole, which was very fitting for their hearts, and as for the other, even though he wasn’t nearly as bad, he was still able to make my list, and two IAs, one in particular who was rarely around but was a much bigger bully, that were bullies along with four students in particular who were notably worse then the other bullies. I went through a lot, believe me. To top it all off there was this one time when I went to the principal's office to talk to the vice principal about the bullying from the teachers and other students and I was angry, sobbing and the works and I did not hold back on how I felt or on what I was saying, but little did I know that the system for the entire schools speakers was on, so everyone in the entire school heard everything.
Now, some of the things that was done to a good friend of mine, who has Cerebral Palsy, well, she had an instructional assistant, same one I had, who at times put the lock of her locker on backwards as she was being timed, sometimes also having her wear an intentionally heavy nap sack when she was walking with her crutches when she already had a hard enough time with nothing extra weighing her down, on the odd occasion had her crutches put towards the classroom door so she had to use the desks to balance herself to get to them, one day she slipped and fell in the mud on her way to one of the portables and she was forced to enter the classroom. As for me, I have roughly thirty regular sized pages with regular sized font single spaced, I think it was around fifty or so before it was edited for me, of a bunch of the unfair stuff that happened to me.
Anyways, after the schools PA system incident, the bullying got even worse. It did not matter that mom and dad called and tried to help. No one was able to do anything at all for me, nothing, I was a caged animal with no escape/no way to get any kind of help. Even now, emotional abuse is not something that the cops will typically intervene in. Then one day towards the end of the seventh grade I just snapped completely on one of the bullies, ripped his shirt, tackled him to the ground and would not stop going completely ballistic on him, just absolutely out of control. The lunchroom/recess supervisor who basically did pretty much nothing against emotional bullying ended up pulling us apart and if she hadn't have stepped in then I would not have stopped.
The thing about these days is with the internet, social media/etc it just seems like there is a lot more evil stuff going on because it is a lot easier to uncover it, and kids/teens, as well as adults, seniors, etc, need to be encouraged to stand up to bullies, if they can, and to stand up against bullying when they see it happen and to secretly record if things get bad enough, recording live stream if possible just incase they get caught.having those recording being recorded to some secret place on the web that the victim can have access to those files when and if they ever need them. Recordings that will never be seen/known by the bullies if they do happen to snatch the recorder, if this advanced type of option is even possible.
Back when I was a young teen, one day I just had this switch in my head that just flipped instantly and for quite a while I had random moments when I had to do or say something bad, thankfully I had many options and they didn't have to be something that was too horrible, so I was able to narrow it down to the least severe ones that would still cause the attacks to go away for a while, and they were either swearing, there were a decent amount of times when I had to do it in front of someone that did not want to hear it, or dialling nine one one, the nine one one was done twice when I was near enough to a phone when it happened so I tried to stay away from phones as much as I felt that I could cause I knew/know how important the nine one one service is for people.
I know that it is hard for most to grasp this, but I actually had no choice when these impulses came into my head. It was like a forced Tourettes. Try if you can to imagine a combination of both Anger and Fear that would start off at a level that was still higher then what any human being should ever have to endure and them just constantly getting worse from there when I did not do one of those two things. So yeah, I had to make it go away until the next attack. There were no set times, places, etc, they would just happen, and sometime I would get two or more attacks very shortly after each other. Then finally one day, I had my last attack and that was it, so I consider myself to be very, very lucky cause I was getting to the point where I was almost ready to just end it all.
As for the job end of things, with my second last boss he was a real master at manipulation, could be one of the most vicious to one of the most loving people you have even met on the drop of a dime, flip of a switch, and knew how to pull peoples mental, emotional strings, and believe me when I say that I make a really good target especially during some days when I was the first/only one there where at times there were alcohol and beer bottles over the floor and during those time especially he had the kind of rage that literally shook my body and went right through to my very soul.
One of the worst things that pretty much sums up modern day justice was when a fellow worker called workers rights and they gave the boss a two weeks advance notice of them coming by to inspect the place, obviously giving him enough time to make enough changes for as long as the inspections went on which is crazy because every inspection should be a surprise one. He never had more than four people working since anymore than four would mean the occasional inspections. The worker who reported him got blacklisted and was not able to get another job, then one day we found out that he committed the act of un aliveing himself.
And people wonder why very few ever come forward in regards to abuse. Well, maybe it is because many do but very few of the ones who come forward ever get any real help. I bet that most reports that actually are filed get trashed and a fair number of the others altered. Even back when I was a kid, you could have video footage and only use the parts that make your case look good while trashing the other person, now that never happened to me, but for any parent teacher conferences, which should be illegal because the kids should be there too, and, well, who knows what might have been said behind my back during any of my schooling where it was just the parents and teachers talking as those and other conversations should have all sides of the story.
I was mentally/emotionally trapped there for like eight years and as such I have lots of stuff that I typed about that job/torments as well as a couple videos I made of shots that I took in secret, there was one time in particular where the boss, a strong guy, took a large post and just chucked it at me in a way so it barely missed me.
Bullying is terrible. I was a victim of that, during almost all my shool years, at elementary and highshool.
And especially in elementary school, where maybe they could have had more control over the situation (starting from the fact there were no bus-rides to shool) did not care. I was stripped naked (some kids holding me, others undressing me) just next to the place where they all stood chatting during pauses). In eyesight in hearing range.
I reacted differently. Went silent and "numb", dissociated.... But I can see how a different character would lash out in anger.
There were tons of other issues in my growing up, but that constant humiliation and feeling of help- and hopelessness did most definitely did not help.
I have severe mental health issues, including cPTSD.
@@jordanphilipperris I honestly did not read all, but I feel you nonetheless. I'm sorry you had to go through all of this.
@@mangantasy289 I reacted pretty much the same as you did as there was only one time I blew up and one time when I had a big meltdown to that degree in regards to telling the vice what I told her. As for the fight after that the bullying had stopped and at least for me my highschool years had minimal bullying and in college there was none. I feel that physical violence is for sure a last resort, and wit the way things are I feel that it is one that a lot more people should take since the school system is almost always beyond useless. Hopefully as time passes the stuff that you went through will become more and more as distant memories and that you will be able to find peace.
I think that Josh is a good and smart, intelligent kid. He had a bad start, but he will be fine.
I was bullied for 7 years long. During that time I hated my current teacher because she didn’t help me and I called her stupid.
At home I would have outbursts and blame everybody for my pain and suffering.
Being bullied does a lot with a child. When being bullied they can’t always control or know how they out their emotions. Always encounter children gently and let them know they’re loved but obviously also show discipline!
People need to stop hitting their children.
My late father was very heavy handed with my brother and I. He often used his belt and was easily angry and authoritarian. I guess he was very frustrated with himself and often fought with mum (loud words) and always during meals. I left home to go overseas to work at 19 and never came back home. Years later I felt sorry to leave my brother behind.
My 3rd child would go to bed and my husband and I used to stand at the end of her bed and chat about our day. She would nod off immediately because she felt loved, comforted and safe because we aren’t shutting her away or leaving alone while she’s awake. Once asleep bye bye 😃👍
She nearly pushed him over 😂
Go Jo!
With an angry child like that, if it were mine, I’d calmly pull him into another room and say to him “okay take a deep breath, take some time to relax…it’s okay to be angry, you’re allowed to be angry, but it’s not okay to hit and swear and shout at people.” And then I’d ask him to tell me why he’s feeling angry, what’s made him angry. And I’d also buy him a nice book for him to write all his thoughts in, and if he wants to discuss them at the end of each day, then that’s okay too.
I’m not a parent but honestly if I were angry that’s how I’d like my parents to treat me
This works with a child who can speak well and understands their feelings. But some kids can't speak well and/or don't understand their feelings.
@@kaija-liisalaakso8266 true, but it also could help that child to eventually understand and articulate their feelings more.
Ba ha ha said like a non parent lol just you wait
Do you have children?
@@TeaCup1940didn't you read the commrnt?
God bless Jo!! The British government should hire her to help children and parents! What a generation is being raised by parents who don't accept the facts of human nature!
With the kid who snacks in the morning, firstly why so many snack options just lying about in easy reach? Maybe lock it, also if they’re waking up so far early from any adults and they’re hungry or bored they will find ways to occupy themselves and food is part of that. No structure or discipline or follow through. What Jo said about safety too, all that climbing on shaky objects.
SIMPLE DONT BUY UNHAELTHY SNACKS. Make snacks together, kids love that
I live in Kenya been following Jo from her show supper nanny to this channel here and I must say I follow her guidance on several issues and her techniques always works for me. She is a blessing for us parents ❤❤❤
Just don‘t buy any unhealthy snacks..?
Exactly, the parents should set an example.
hmmm yeah that’s true, but he also needs go respect the rules.
We never had snacks at home. We got some on Saturdays if we were lucky. Home cooked food every day. Maybe pizza once a month. Maybe it's a generation thing.
Yeah definitely!! I only buy snacks she asked for but I don’t buy loads of crap and when she has run out of snacks tough luck !!
@@plowensonit’s so funny we had a cupboard each as children and we had a 6 pack of crisps and soda for the week , once their gone that was it !!
We bought a big safe for snacks. The boys were happy with it, because 1 of them could not control his snacking. The consequence was the others got nothing, because the oldest ate it all. When I came home later from work they had their own box with snacks after school. It was for a few days. When they ate it all they were in bad luck. They respected the boxes of their brothers.
Jo keep up the good work. You are the best. May God bless you.
A foolproof way would be to lock the fridge, the freezer and all cupboards containing food.
And stop buying all the rubbish food. Parents need to set an example.
If the fridge and cupboards are filled with good food it wouldn't matter. Kid will eat only so many carrots.
7:07 Babies have taste buds as well. Make sure whatever you are feeding them does not taste gross to you, because if it does then the baby will probably want to spit it out as well, just a thought.
I absolutely adore Jo.
I can see on Josh’s arms marks of histamine intollerance that can be also connected to aggresion and mood swings. That shood taken care of too.
Oh really? What was the mark? I noticed his eyes were red and swollen and he kept rubbing them like they were itchy.
King Charkes should give Jo a Crown. Mary Poppins of the 21st century.
I'm glad Josh is ok now it's happened to my son too he lashed out all the time andv8 found out it's the teachers horrible and some of the kid's lashed out for good reason's always listen to your kids you never know really what's going on while you not with them .
Can these parents say SCAPEGOAT?
that's Josh.
Wait lol why don’t you either stop buying junk food or put it in your closet this is ridiculous of course the kid is going to go eat all the junk you keep in the pantry
Right?? I've never seen a kid sneak a banana... get a grip people lol.
@@estellegetty1995 Bananas would soon fill them up. The junk food just makes them hyper.
My children, when they were little wouldn't have been allowed to climb onto the bench top and help themselves; Not enough discipline and too much inconsistency with parents these days.
The snacker needs to just have locks on everything.
Loved the video
What if that child at 10:00 has ARFID? 7 days without food is wild lol
No she doesn’t because as soon as the mother gave in, she dived into the snack box full of chocolate. I would wait 7 days for a box of chocolate too. Lol😂
It sickens me when parents say their children won't eat and then its pantry time! Children get snacks in leau of meals and parents are unaware of how many snacks they actually eat. Even very young children are capable of sneaking food without parents notice. I do not believe a child didn’t eat anything at all for seven days, a full week with no food. Mom and dad, along with other members of the household will have been sneaking food to the child without others knowing, and the child will have been helping herself too.
Common sense would tell you to put locks on the fridge and food cupboard
Kids don't sneak carrots and apples. Don't keep crap food in the house and they wouldn't have an issue.
Why in the home video of Oliver do they have 100 rolls on the stove 😂
They must be helping at the school or a sausage sizzle or party.
No shoes on the white sofa,Mum!!! 1rst lesson😮
I was bullied too i know what the first boy feeling
With the fussy eating habits, the resolve goes great until someone in authority (teacher, health visitor,etc .. ) accuses you of neglecting your child. Then what do you do?😢
Yeah when someone in hospital finds out you haven't fed your kid for over a week when do social services come in? 😅
It was such weird advice. I was quite shocked. It sounds like a good way to get child protection involved!
Why so many snack foods. Buy only what family will eat at same time.
Buy fruit. Have half a sandwich. Why does snack = junk food?
this kid looks 55 years old. poor lad
Why are you sleeping when kids that little are up and about? …. Nope
Why they open pringles with a scissors? 😂😂
Lil kid hands not strong enough to tear back by the flappy part then it rips and you have to chew your way through the packet I mean get scissors
OH NO The Ginger attitude lol.
Those poor siblings ,ya he treats u different bc u r a bully to all your family
Relatable
Number one , cut down your carbs 90 percent. Don't tell the family SLOWLY phase out starting with the worse,juice , cookies, sweet cereal,ECT. I'm telling you it's a start. Num. 2 put YOUR PHONES DOWN, YOUR CHILDREN NEED A HUG FOR NO REASON, SOMEONE TO LISTEN , SAY I LIVE YOU FOR NO REASON.😍
I feel kids should only start having unhealthy stuff at the age of seven, that way you pass the terrible twos, frantic fives and screaming sixes.
I don't feel with him at he knows exactly what he's doing that's an excuse
is that Samara like girl OK?
Sounds like a gluten allergy
fkn ads grrr lol
Feral kid
Josh. Boot camp for 15 years
Josh future serial killer ginger nuts
Josh is spoilt horror that’s why he gets bullied wich I truly doubt