Im only 48mns in and you have thoroughly described my ex in a way no one has ever explained. I spent 18 years with a man i initially thought was so humble. He had zero ego. Almost a non human, he gave no opinion, no emotion, no nothing, i interpreted it as almost boring but i fell for what i thought was fragility. After he got me to sign my house over to him, he changed into the cruellest most sadistic human being ive ever known. He killed our pets in front of our son, the night i ended the relationship. I was in fear for my life in the end. I definitely witnessed two personalities over the years. This explains a lot. Thank you Sam 🙏. Covert are definitely more dangerous as, if you see a gun, you can take cover. With them, the bullets are invisible.
Your videos are awesome and very thorough. I’ve been following you for several years now. Your explanations helped me through the worst parts of a relationship and helped me truly understand what was happening to me. Thankyou!
I have a malignant narcissist cyberstalker who has stalked me for over a decade. Last night, after making a comment online about - surprise! - narcissists, I was then verbally attacked by someone who I believe to be a flying monkey of his but who also apparently shares much of the same psychology (of malignant narcissism), including seeing his own traits in the person he's attacking (projection). Malignant narcs live in a world populated by phantasms of their own unrecognised traits. It is a wonder how theyare able to make their way through life, being unable to clearly apprehend anyone else's true personality, or their own.
Never concern yourself with verbal attacks online. You will never be able to comprehend another persons apprehension. These types of malignant narcs only last a nano metre or so anyways . Block your outbox and set filters outside your inbox. That should help with boundary protection. Meantime, stay safe and keep up with clarity . Great post 👌
@@rhondakmccoy To start with, make sure that you use a VPN for privacy when you are online, one with a kill-switch so that it disconnects you from the internet if it stops working and also one that starts as soon as you switch on your computer or phone. Also make sure you use strong passwords and consider using a passkey service for extra security. Last but not least, keep your financial affairs, travel and plans in general as private as possible. Stalkers stalk usually because they are looking for information to use against you later (ie., thwart your plans, mess up your finances, catch you out in something, or locate info for spreading in a smear campaign). Stalkers will also run with partial information they find and let their imagination fill in the rest, so that you end up with false accusations based on something partial. That's the usual stuff, unless the person is an obsessive rejected lover, in which case it would more likely be jealousy but you would still need to be careful. Either way, if you ever get threats, you must report them to the police. When it comes to the actual projection, there's not much you can do about that, it's simply how they are wired. The only solution is to distance yourself. Hugs🙂
You are 100% correct. this personality type does exist. I have known one my entire life. The juxtaposition of their traits makes it almost impossible for anyone to believe that they are who I say they are.
The schizoid malignant narcissist sounds like an absolute monster. The worst part is that their needs don't even usually fall into criminality, making it impossible to punish them.
You have just answered my question. And your sarcasm was just right about those poor one who have end up been married to malignant narcissist and have kids with him. 😂😂😂 because those people are narcissistic and psychopaths them self. OMG 😨 it will be hard to accept but it’s true. But if NPD can’t be cured, what about those poor ones? Thank you so much!
Dr Sam, have you ever come across any psychopathic or narcissistic clients who have experienced a near death experience? Ive always wondered, as millions of experiencers speak of a form of life review where they got to experience how their actions made others feel. Id love to know if anyone has experienced this, and if it made any difference to thecrest of their life....?
The ex I had , was putting something in my drink and handing it to me. Shortly after 1drink of it , my head fell dizzy. He then says “lay down Babe, it’ll be over soon “ Unbelievable 😡 I hate this thing called a man…He is Evil!!!In my eyes. I divorce him 8 years ago…I have not 1 word for him 😡
Who said I am the only authority? There is no one else on TH-cam, true, it is full of charlatans and con artists. But there many academic scholars with this very same knowledge.
@@samvaknin I know. It’s just that over many decades every professional I’ve encountered tried to get me to understand that I was crazy for what I was describing. In essence, I wasn’t capable of realistically understanding my experiences with this person because of my innate damaged psyche. One of the most demeaning comments I ever got, that shut me down, was when I asked them if they believed me, they responded with, “I believe that YOU believe that you were abused.” 🫠😒
Prof. Vaknin, when the covert narcissist became a malignant, he is in an altered state of consciousness? I asked it because I saw its transformation from my ex husband. He became an overt pleausure for hurting me including in public. And in the end he tried to kill me because of his image. And reputation
Prof. Vaknin, would you suppose Sean Combs alias P Diddy as a malignant narcissist or rather a psychopath regarding the accusations in the recent indictment against him?
Hi Prof, can you make a video about how libido works in a narcissist? I think this is very unknown topic, how do they maintain high level of libido only from supply? I though maybe because of narrow world view but I'm not sure
I heard a narcissist talking about this, and in their view, they recieved supply from sex. She said she thrived on the 'control' of the nan underneath her....
If sadistic supply results in a feeling of empowerment, god-like status, does this mean that the status of the victim is a primary factor in the quality of the sadistic supply?
@@samvaknin I apologize, I wasn't clear. Does the social status or desirability of the victim affect the quality of the sadistic supply which the malignant narcissist derives from her ? Thank you in advance.
Im only 48mns in and you have thoroughly described my ex in a way no one has ever explained. I spent 18 years with a man i initially thought was so humble. He had zero ego. Almost a non human, he gave no opinion, no emotion, no nothing, i interpreted it as almost boring but i fell for what i thought was fragility. After he got me to sign my house over to him, he changed into the cruellest most sadistic human being ive ever known. He killed our pets in front of our son, the night i ended the relationship. I was in fear for my life in the end.
I definitely witnessed two personalities over the years. This explains a lot. Thank you Sam 🙏.
Covert are definitely more dangerous as, if you see a gun, you can take cover. With them, the bullets are invisible.
Your videos are awesome and very thorough. I’ve been following you for several years now.
Your explanations helped me through the worst parts of a relationship and helped me truly understand what was happening to me. Thankyou!
I have a malignant narcissist cyberstalker who has stalked me for over a decade. Last night, after making a comment online about - surprise! - narcissists, I was then verbally attacked by someone who I believe to be a flying monkey of his but who also apparently shares much of the same psychology (of malignant narcissism), including seeing his own traits in the person he's attacking (projection). Malignant narcs live in a world populated by phantasms of their own unrecognised traits. It is a wonder how theyare able to make their way through life, being unable to clearly apprehend anyone else's true personality, or their own.
Can you block them?
Can you block their alt accounts?
Yea, sucks. But eventually they get bored.
Never concern yourself with verbal attacks online. You will never be able to comprehend another persons apprehension. These types of malignant narcs only last a nano metre or so anyways . Block your outbox and set filters outside your inbox. That should help with boundary protection. Meantime, stay safe and keep up with clarity . Great post 👌
I'm starting to deal with this as well after a recent divorce. I'm looking for any tips you have. Hugs!
@@rhondakmccoy To start with, make sure that you use a VPN for privacy when you are online, one with a kill-switch so that it disconnects you from the internet if it stops working and also one that starts as soon as you switch on your computer or phone. Also make sure you use strong passwords and consider using a passkey service for extra security. Last but not least, keep your financial affairs, travel and plans in general as private as possible. Stalkers stalk usually because they are looking for information to use against you later (ie., thwart your plans, mess up your finances, catch you out in something, or locate info for spreading in a smear campaign). Stalkers will also run with partial information they find and let their imagination fill in the rest, so that you end up with false accusations based on something partial. That's the usual stuff, unless the person is an obsessive rejected lover, in which case it would more likely be jealousy but you would still need to be careful. Either way, if you ever get threats, you must report them to the police. When it comes to the actual projection, there's not much you can do about that, it's simply how they are wired. The only solution is to distance yourself. Hugs🙂
The way you described that made it sound so lonely and sad that I almost felt bad for them lol. Never thought of it that way before.
You are 100% correct. this personality type does exist. I have known one my entire life. The juxtaposition of their traits makes it almost impossible for anyone to believe that they are who I say they are.
It's scary yet highly useful how accurate and precise all of these descriptions are! Top-notch science, thank you, Prof. Vaknin.
Now this title sounds really interesting!
The schizoid malignant narcissist sounds like an absolute monster. The worst part is that their needs don't even usually fall into criminality, making it impossible to punish them.
Sadistic and aggressive
She’s barking mad - you always belong to them - she will never let you go.
That thumbnail... lol ☻
Thank you, Professor for this quality videos 🙏🏼
Wow!! I’m blown away by this video. Thank you so much for this informative and valuable content. 🤙🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Это было прекрасно! Спасибо, Сэм!))
'MINNIE'S BACK!'✨🤩✨🤩
You have just answered my question. And your sarcasm was just right about those poor one who have end up been married to malignant narcissist and have kids with him. 😂😂😂 because those people are narcissistic and psychopaths them self. OMG 😨 it will be hard to accept but it’s true. But if NPD can’t be cured, what about those poor ones? Thank you so much!
Professor can you point us to sources regarding the epidemiology of such cases? What (true) percentage of the population?
Google Scholar.
Thank you
Dr Sam, have you ever come across any psychopathic or narcissistic clients who have experienced a near death experience? Ive always wondered, as millions of experiencers speak of a form of life review where they got to experience how their actions made others feel. Id love to know if anyone has experienced this, and if it made any difference to thecrest of their life....?
Search the channel.
The ex I had , was putting something in my drink and handing it to me. Shortly after 1drink of it , my head fell dizzy. He then says “lay down Babe, it’ll be over soon “ Unbelievable 😡 I hate this thing called a man…He is Evil!!!In my eyes. I divorce him 8 years ago…I have not 1 word for him 😡
Oh God I'm 27 seconds in and I am white knuckling LOL his description IS my mother exactly.......😤 HERE WE GO.....
I know this one ...
Prof. Vaknin, why are you the only authority that understands this?
Who said I am the only authority? There is no one else on TH-cam, true, it is full of charlatans and con artists. But there many academic scholars with this very same knowledge.
@@samvaknin I know. It’s just that over many decades every professional I’ve encountered tried to get me to understand that I was crazy for what I was describing. In essence, I wasn’t capable of realistically understanding my experiences with this person because of my innate damaged psyche. One of the most demeaning comments I ever got, that shut me down, was when I asked them if they believed me, they responded with, “I believe that YOU believe that you were abused.” 🫠😒
@@samvakninNot in Denmark there isn’t. We must be the country with the lowest knowlegde in narcissime in the world.
I like your videos a lot. I only know surface level psychology, but these videos have gjven me insight on my own dark traits as well as others'.
Prof. Vaknin, when the covert narcissist became a malignant, he is in an altered state of consciousness? I asked it because I saw its transformation from my ex husband. He became an overt pleausure for hurting me including in public. And in the end he tried to kill me because of his image. And reputation
Watch the IPAM playlist.
Prof. Vaknin, would you suppose Sean Combs alias P Diddy as a malignant narcissist or rather a psychopath regarding the accusations in the recent indictment against him?
Machiavelli
Hi Prof, can you make a video about how libido works in a narcissist? I think this is very unknown topic, how do they maintain high level of libido only from supply? I though maybe because of narrow world view but I'm not sure
Search the channel. Also search the playlist titled Narcissist’s Sexuality.
I heard a narcissist talking about this, and in their view, they recieved supply from sex. She said she thrived on the 'control' of the nan underneath her....
If sadistic supply results in a feeling of empowerment, god-like status, does this mean that the status of the victim is a primary factor in the quality of the sadistic supply?
I don’t understand your question.
@@samvaknin I apologize, I wasn't clear. Does the social status or desirability of the victim affect the quality of the sadistic supply which the malignant narcissist derives from her ? Thank you in advance.
@@JavierMares No.
The thumbnail is very scary
This whole video is ks about me :cool guy emoji: