To all my fellow INFP's out there (speaking as a 67 year old veteran of 'da feels') hitch yourself to the cause that resonates, whatever you do. You already know that money isn't everything and people's reactions to your advocacy will vary... it comes down to "so what!", right? When you're both patiently and lovingly involved in your cause, you will shine. Thank you for engaging.
Came here to say this! As an INFP art therapist who has a slight obsession with the MBTi, this was the most helpful thing I’ve seen so far in understanding my type and optimizing the cognitive functions
IN the end people will remember how you made them feel rather than what you have or the words you've spoken. If we have bettered the life of just one person, we have lived a life worth living.
I don't know if it will help my fellow INFPs, but I started turning my poems and letters into animated videos on TH-cam. One of the reasons I did this was because I thought it was a fun way of sneaking poetry into people's lives. After all, not many people will buy my poetry books but they might watch a very short animated video on TH-cam. I mention it here because I thought it might inspire you to do your own channel. I continue to do my channel because my inner 10 year old loved to watch art shows and now it gets to play with an animated program called Doodly. It makes me smile and chuckle, which is as good a reason to do something in my book even if it makes little logical sense. While I can't draw by hand and many of my videos are probably pretty weird to most people, I thought that even if they are a bit naff to you, they might inspire you. After all, I write books because I thought the ones I read were rubbish, so why not create that TH-cam channel if you think what i'm producing is nonsense. I mean, if I'm prepared to upload the kind of thing I'm creating, I'm certain you could produce something that's of much better quality. In short, be bold my fellow INFPs. You'll probably find people won't judge you as harshly as you think they will. You may even find some relief in their indifference.
Great video! I'm an INFP and the descriptions of Fi and Ne were very spot on for me. I definitely have a hard time moving on from exes/idealizing them (Si). It's funny that you brought up Netflix. Whenever I watch movies, I completely zone out and think about how certain things are relating to me, or I start thinking of possibilities. I have a very hard time staying present when watching movies and usually have to have someone explain what happened to me. 😂
I have the exact same problem !! I thought i was the person that have writting that comment !!! It’s become harder and harder to moving on from my ex (from 2 years ago) and before him from 4years ago!! And of course i idealise so many love tvshows !! Hope we will get rid of that habit Sorryyy my english isn’t perfect (From France)
At the end, you said, “…what you are doing matters, it makes a difference.” That resonated with me. To me, my life would be wasted, if I didn’t feel that I made a difference. I get lost when I try to define or put metrics on any difference I could be making, which leaves me wondering, if I’m imaging it. It was encouraging that you said those words. Thank you!
Great explanation! One of the (many) things I appreciate about the infp’s in my life (40- 65 year old) is that they never really stagnate in the sense of getting to old to dream, we still have exciting conversations about future possibilities
Thank you .. It's hard being an INFP we think and perceive things differently that most. It's excruciating to relate to others somedays and glorious in the moments where we are able to.. We live in a spectrum of elation and then disappointment in any given moment. I never feel validated as an INFP, and often made to feel inferior, or what I have to offer is less than others. I have such huge compassion on a good day.. My hope is huge on a good day. My love and compassion for others is big on a good day. It's the multiple bad day spells that leave you exhausted crabby frustrated and wanting to be left alone in the cathartic process that are hard. I wish I had more good than bad days. Those darn melancholy days make me feel so bad about myself, what I have to offer and my capabilities. I do appreciate you validating us however.. Thats so nice of you. I am so glad you appreciate us.. Yes we have few friends because we have unbelievably high standards for them. The ones we do have are amazing.
@@sunflowerpower642 yes please give space when we feel bad for our cathartic process. We often need to be alone to process when bad things happen and it takes longer than most people. We feel our emotions deeply and sometimes the roller coaster is exhausting, we simply need more rest literally physical sleep and time to ourselves to recover. We will talk when we are ready however if you poke and prod it just makes us mad. I love being an INFP but we are complicated and wonderful and yes it is not easy dating us. I am delighted I have a wonderful wife of 30 years that gets it, because very few people could or would be willing to try to..
Really love your explanations! I’m an INFP teen, and as I develop Ne I really find myself having more fun with life. When we’re at our best, life is an endless array of possibilities and outlets to express our values. One of my goals in life is to create something meaningful like a video game or tv show, as I absolutely love indie media and I’m so happy to live in a time where it’s possible to be a widely successful indie creator. These dreams comes with a cost, of course. Personally at least, it’s really easy (too easy) for me to lean too hard into Si. At my worst, I’m too stuck in my own head reminiscing on the past, things people have said to me, and the things I can’t do. Yes, it’s true that thriving as an INFP in this world is extremely tough. We are constantly berated for being too quiet, too childish, too lazy, sometimes even by those we’re closest to. But we can’t seriously let people convince us that we absolutely CAN’T thrive. Us creatives have so much to offer, and we can’t let those qualities go to waste. There’s a reason so many memorable and important creatives were INFPs. Anyway, just wanted to share my experience, and I ended up going on a little rant. 😅 Regardless, this video is absolutely SPOT ON! You did a great job!! Stay well, fellow INFPs! ❤ Edit: I really appreciate how you touched on INFPs getting a bad rep in the MBTI community. That aspect really sucks. When I had first discovered that I was an INFP, I was overjoyed, literally to the point of tears. I feel like I had gone a lot of my life feeling “misunderstood”, (that probably sounds self-centred ;-;) so I was really excited to finally have a community that understood. But honestly, I found that a lot of the MBTI community really looks down upon us, and disregards anything we have to say simply because we’re the “feely crybaby INFPs”. Lemme just say though, these videos and articles such as yours really make it all worth it, and the INFP community by itself is awesome! Thanks for the video!
i think that the community looking down upon that certain type also happens with all the other types, especially misunderstanding ESFPs and ESTJs. I notice that its usually ENFJs and INFJs who dislike INFPs for some reason, and INTJs who favor them
@@user-dx9my1en2d ENFJ's are supposed to be ideal. I saw online ENFJ and INFJ's that said they like INFP's. But, good to know that. I always loved INTJ's. I thought they didn't like me lol.
I'm infp and i felt like crying with you when you were going to cry because I felt seen by you. Thank you for this video, and for seeing us and understanding us ❤
The Te random screaming spike attack was so true lol. I used to have sporadic motivation to change something about my life, be it my diet or to write a book or to exercise or whatever. It would last a couple days to a week or two, but then I would revert back to my old Si ways. But your INFP videos and also planning videos have helped me out a lot to become more of a planner. Actually, I'm leaving for a study abroad trip in Australia and New Zealand in about two weeks. At first Si told me it was too big of a plan and I'd never follow through, but I used my Ne to get excited about such and opportunity and my Te to plan for this trip for the past 6-8 months, and now I'm about ready to leave! Something about your videos, I think it's your Te that speaks to my inferior Te, never fails to inspire and motivate me to not let laziness and procrastination in Si stop me from doing things I want to do. Now, I have a plan for the next several years to become a therapist, and I also have many ideas of things I want to build more plans for, like writing and painting and more. Thanks to you I have hope and I'm starting to build an actual plan for my life. Fi and Si overused can make me feel pessimistic, but you're right, it's that Ne and Te we need to use to get optimistic and hopeful again, and to build lives we want. Anyways rant over but I just want to say thanks, if you see this comment Alexis!
Currently in the same Si overwhelmed state, and your comment was so positive and uplifting to read. I hope you have a very wonderful experience with that study trip. I'm gonna try to implement more Te in my life. What other videos would you recommend, btw? (Planning to sort my life out for 387373th time. 🤪)
@@Zirwoah Haha I feel it! I would definitely recommend "Goal Setting System for 2023 Goals." Says it's just about 2023, but it's one of my favorite Alexis Kingsley videos because it talks about a way to get your whole life together, and it genuinely helped me to make a plan to get it together. Sometimes I go back and watch that video again when I need motivation. That, and her original deep dive INFP video, "Are you SURE you're an INFP- the dreamy idealist?" If you haven't seen that one, it's another one of my motivating favorites. And then I'd recommend some of her recent plans your life videos, such as "how to design your life" or "How To Manage Your Time- The 60% Calendar System." Hope this helps, and I wish you luck in your goals!
@maggieo1683 aw heyyy! I didn't expect to get back a response so soon. Thanks for the recommendations! 😭✨️ I'll check them out and hopefully stop with the self sabotage lmao thank you and you too. Goodluck for the future! ❤️
Extraverted intuition “excitedly creating the future” - just what I needed to hear. Thank u. What a thoughtful and detailed video, seriously well done. U r an expert.
I’m an INFP and this is so insightful…thank you. I am a new subscriber. Have not come across such depth before Si is like my wounded child, I got like that for a long while recently. And one issue was I wasn’t creating / acting on anything, I was losing my mojo I used to be a designer and my Te was extremely strong then. I look back and it was sublime at times. It was high heights, creating visions and manifesting them. Makes sense now that I understand the power of Fi & Te in harmony. Now I’m retraining as a psychotherapist and it allows me to indulge in my Fi so much I love it! But I got too naval-gazing and stuck in the past. Everything was happening inside and got out of balance. Only now I’m finding a new equilibrium. Developing my practice as a therapist, and a way of living that practices my values, strengthening my Te again Really excited where this takes me. Feels very synchronistic to come across this material now as I’m bringing my Ne back online. Only the other day I was thinking about how my inner parent is in the driving seat now, and it’s safe enough to let my inner child come out
This video is just BRILLIANT. Loved the way you explained SO MANY THINGS in so much of detail that I'm literally screaming with the feeling of being understood. Thank you so much for this video, cuz you expressed and talked about people like me better than we could express ourselves (it's so interesting how we can be aware of all these things, but can't put them into words) so thank you for doing it! ❤
aaah i started crying when you started crying! my infp mate has been having such a hard time but is a wonderful beautiful talented capable person, and i was waiting for this video to send to him!! awesome video 🙏🙏🙏 he hasn't shown a lot of interest in this personality stuff so far, but this is exactly what he needs to understand about himself, and i have hopes that he begins to unlock more of his potential that is already on its way and find more of the joy that he absolutely deserves!!! 💜💜💜
Stop it genuinely made me so happy at the end, like i was about to cry to 😭 it gave me hope and got me excited when i thought about what i could do if i do use the TE function a litte more
35:05 thank you. I measured my MBTI while I was studying Psychology, I measured it again recently, I’m an INFP. I’ve let number 3 take the wheel for quite some time, after years of abusive relationships, I finally retreated, and I think I’ve been so stuck in the past, with such intense feelings, I haven’t moved. So glad I found your channel. Xxxx
i deeply appreciate that someone like you is in this world. It's like unexpectedly finding a rare gem that shines and radiates in a manner i've never seen before. I moved to the South from the NE 7 yrs ago and have grown so accustomed to the hypocricy, insincere niceness and apathetic indifference prevalent in my area, i was beginning to believe people everywhere had become non supportive and having ill will towards one another. Thank you for dispelling that belief before it took full form within me. Your insights and work-arounds for potential pitfalls of my INFP type that you offer prove very helpful.. But what really made my eyes tear was your non judgemental manner and a sincere vibe that you want everyone to succeed in themselves and their lives. It pulled on all my heartstrings and it's likely that INFP's possess more than most others. :)
Excellent insights on why and how as an INFP I was pushed into being stuck from primary Fi improving the world. Affirming that all my random secondary function Ne loves (ethics, maps, languages, philosophy, meditation, Star Trek, fantasy, song lyrics…) are on a right track! That my child-like auxiliary Ne needs to be the real parent to keep the secretly stuck-in-the-mud third/tertiary Si ‘problem teen’ in check is mind-blowing. Actually playing with to choose and refine a time- and task- management system from quaternary/inferior Te so I can begin to write and learn more efficiently and own my masteries makes sense! (My using math and spreadsheets to create personalized reward systems that work for me in spurring daily progress across various apps to reach stretch goals tells me I have already been embracing extroverted thinking / real-world logic in an INFP way, decades after being thrust into early development of all functions by demanding family, education, and work environments.) Thank you!!! 🙏 😃 ☮️ 🤩 ☯️ 🖖 🎉 ⛩️🏔️🏰🎻🗺️ 🕉️🎵 🧘 🧙♂️☸️
Si is just so real omggg. It brings back memories of the past and someway predict the future based on that. That makes me either anxious or overwhelmed. Then I move to not making amy move at all.. it's really is an overused weakness. Wowww
Thank you for all the time and effort you put into helping us INFP's better understand ourselves. This video was excellent. Your discussion of the Si function was extremely helpful. For the first time ever, I think I kind of get how I use that function and how I might be able to use it in more positive ways. Thanks again, so much. 💜
This is my favorite channel for types!!!! real depth of explanation. (INFP here). The SI i believe comes online with the cpstd trauma that was experienced - it is a sort of safety/protection place when I could not have the space to feel deeply or express the light (and dark) that I am in the world. Thank You!!! there is a lot well meaning rubbish out there - good to find this place
EPICCC I'm so happy about this, and that's a good idea to do the most high volume types last, I wish other MBTI TH-camrs realized this and did the same…
Wow! Oh you’re good! Holy cow, the way you explain things is like no other. Ever. In the history of this planet. I actually get it now! Feel a little called out…. (perfecting roughly 7 not yet written books in my head for the last 12 years) ….but now I can finally understand the tools in my toolbox! And how to use them! Thanks! I think you are my hero! Is that too much? ;)
Wow, brilliant assessment. I feel seen in a profound way. This is the most clear, concise, digestible material on the infp perspective I have ever seen and I’ve seen a ton of stuff, lol. Thank you!!! Awesome work ❤
Hi Alexis, just wanted to stop by and tell you, I found this as the single most helpful video with regards to understanding myself better. And I'm here watching it for the 3rd time already. Thank you!
Relating to extroverted intuition, I have really enjoyed fantastical stories grounded on reality lately. Philip Pullman, Haruki Murakami. Moreover, my line manager has encouraged me to present publicly which I have really enjoyed and has really expanded my consciousness. I’ve been told I’m good at it and has led to personal growth. Albeit in my late 50’s. Foremost, I have become really aware of what I don’t like. Predominately routine.
Your detailed insights framed in qualities and barriers really resonate with my inner and outer world. My experiences strongly confirm what you’ve said. A wonderful, kind, and valuable lesson for me. Thank you.
I read that INFP's love poetry, i always had a sort of scoffing manner when hearing about poets. I thought of the subject as it were airy fairy. Yet sitting down i wrote my first poem in half an hour and i adored it. So amazing and fulfilling to express my inwards feelings in a creative expression. I get to articulate these powerful emotions relating to deep-held convictions in a way conventional expressions fail.. Esp having dyslexia i find it hard to express concepts in written form, but poetry seems to be much easier for me!
I'm not a psychologist or anything, but I've gotten INFP multiple times and still wondered about my results. This so described me down to a tee!! It's very refreshing and almost like a sigh of relief on so many things I do/react/etc. I love how you break everything down, very conversational and informative. Thank you for making and sharing!!
I think one thing that separates the extroverted judging functions to introverted judging functions is having obligations to others (Fe and Te) vs obligations to self (Fi and Ti). Especially when I think of Fe I think of being respectful (for the sake of it), family (for the sake of it), manners (for the sake of it). For Te I think of responsibility in relation to time, I find that a lot of Te users put themselves into what they do more than figuring out who they are. At least from an Fi perspective it feels really frustrating at times. I know for me personally I have this concept of what I call “the boy with a hollow voice” where there’s this boy character who just spews meaningless words, who doesn’t stand true for what they believe in and just fills the cracks. I try really hard not to be the boy.
Thank you so much for this. It is so helpful. My 3rd function has been a real killjoy for way too long. Recognising this is priceless. Thanks again. Keep up your great work ❤😁👍🏻
Dear Alexis, 🫨Wow! I took MBTI 17 years ago at the Women's Center of a community college! Moved 5X/3 states & had forgotten all about it. Recently, I tried to recall, thought the result was INFJ. I found it! and discovered it to be INFP! Your video is the VERY FIRST time I understood clearly, the interrelation of the functions! I'll be watching this video over again! An intelligent, well outlined & masterful work! So very grateful to have found your channel. Subscribed! Blessings to you!
I lit just had a therapy session a few hours ago and it brought me here. I have always kind of known that these types of videos would help change my life for the better but I've been so stuck in the mindset that "I'm stuck" or "My life will never change" bs. My fear of failure is keeping me contained, I have put out my music for years and it has gotten me to a good place BUT I know I have been playing safe. I haven't been putting a lot of effort into advertising myself, it makes me so uncomfortable but I am taking this advice to heart. I hope I will truly feel like life is worth living once I take this into action!
As an INFP, the pandemic and a few personal events shoved me so far down into SI and made it feel like I could never access any TE traits. I've been wondering what's wrong with me and this video feels life-changing. Thank you so much, your channel is amazing.
Wow. You are a legend. This was really interesting and thorough in a very clear and captivating way. You’re a very good teacher. I also really like the visual layout of your video presentation, it’s very well organized and easy to look at while absorbing what you’re teaching 🙂
Thank you soo much for making a video like this. As an INFP, this was just what I needed to realise how I can work on improving as a person. You are very sweet, keep doing what you're doing! 😊
Thank you for allowing me to understand myself better. I have only recently learned about these types of personality/brain and it is extremely intriguing. I feel very grateful for being able to find out these things from you and I appreciate you making me feel so special, even if for only a moment. Thank you
Thank you so much Alexis, this video helped me more than you could ever know... I've been so in need of greater understanding and you brought everything I would need to comprehend myself better into this video. It's honestly helped sooo much. 🙏
Wow you’ve described me to a T. I’ve been feeling this intensely a lot, how my polar opposite functions have been tugging at each other and also trying to merge my beautiful inner world and translating that to the outer world. And also just coexisting with things and people that normally challenge my personal values. As much as it’s been scary, it’s also been freeing.
So funny I can relate infp are so blasé sometimes but the minute we are engaged, in charge and invested in a creative project we can be super bossy and intense 😂
How common is autism spectrum and/or Asperger's among this personality type? And excellent cast by the way your presentation is very comprehensive and well put. Go girl...❤
Mind blowing and very eloquently put. Some phrases brought me to tears describing me in ways I couldn't ...or parts that I've never come to terms with. Lol dating must be hard for you, prob knowing someone better than they know themselves within minutes... Yikes
I have a volume of poetry that needs to be published, I need to figure out how to do a TH-cam channel to share all my art and crafts and murals. So my T E gets really loud sometimes. 😂😂. Thank you for helping me understand how I tick!!
🥰🥰🥰 I can feel your love for us seeping through 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼 I took a two-month trip out west car camping and took a ton of videos. Maybe this is my nudge to listen to that inner voice and set some goals on establishing a TH-cam channel ☺️ Thank you for putting so much time and love into this for INFPs ❤️❤️❤️
I'm in a loop with my 3rd function. I'm literally in bed, online with a cat in my lap. I've been stuck in it for a while due to npd abuse. I've come a long way which I'm proud of. But it has taken years to get to this point.
Is it weird that I'm an INFP with extremely strong introverted sensing? I feel all my visceral sensations very strongly and feel very connected to my body at all times.
You’re quite amazing! Very smart, articulate, warm, and apparently very caring. The book. Yeah, that book. I haven’t worked on it in almost a year. My passion for writing this book about something that happened to my life is stunted by my temperament. I’m not sure what to do. It was like you were speaking to me at the end of your show.
for me i have a sudden passionate idea for a book or a story and then after a few days im like "Nah" i had an idea for a superhero marvel film and i was excited and thought it was superb. Not too long later I just decided it was kind of boring and I wanted it to have more action and futuristic properties.
Thank you so much for this video… I was actually in a slump and very confused about who I am and why I feel certain ways ,but this video really helps a lottt… Specially the Si Part is so true and I didnt know that is what was causing so many of my problems…I watched a lot of your INFP videos as well, having a plan and getting my Te to use is going to be really helpful for me … tysmm again… I was actually writing down a new idea for my “soon to be written” story when you pointed out the overthinking part which was rly funny cause that was like the 1459th change to the story XD.
HI, in your movies all the cognitive functions are probably described in the best possible way, but what is not taken into account is their order. While Ne is in fact in theory very optimistic, in case of INFPs it takes a role of being aware of consequences, so kind of hampering. It slightly differs from Ne in Hero spot (ENFPs) when it is exactly so much optimistic, as described here. As a result developed Ne used by INFPs (INTPs) is probably the best cognitive function possible, as mature Ne of INF(T)Ps combines its generic optimistic root with awareness. (Probably you describe it in other words as "underused" strength. This underusing is this pesisimistic approach to consequences, but when used regularly and developed it becomes crucial strength in every aspect)
Oh man, the projects that I've left collecting dust in the box at the corner of my house: multiple titles, ideas, character models and fully-fledged storylines.. yea pretty guilty of that Te not being utilized much
Socionics founder Ausra shows Fe is emotions and Fi ethics of relations. But feeling is mostly contained in Si as feelings is perceptive. Ethics and logic shape values and principals. But the actual feeling cold towards somebody or something is Si.
TH-cam won't allow me to link my book but it is called God's Perfect Plan. It's a children's book. I didn't get it done until I was 65 and I have a second one I am working on. It sells better in person when people can pick it up and see it so I may never sell a lot online. I try to stay motivated by visualizing the children who will read my book and benefit from it. So to other INFP's I will say don't wait until you are 65 to work on your dream but if you are older, it's never too late.
I love INFP too. But they are not more moral than everyone else. They are complexly more concerned about their own goodness and right to exist. This inner struggle gets projected out as trying to heal the world, when in fact it is themselves they are trying to fix, and to heal, from their early childhood acquired misguided shame.
Please consider strongly (at least as an exercise) , to always when talking about INFP to the probably always 97% non-INFP ; ..tell THEM about possible necessity, AS A Society, to create, integrate and garantie living and developing space, (norms !), specifically for the INFP, perhaps thuse not the almost shaming the INFP that they have to get to understand themselfs their value. Because, what is 'value', if not 'usefulness'. Or else, it is misunderstood with "become a more competent survivor". Sure, it is about leveling ourselves, but I feel (!), INFP are perhaps the only ones that are off-balanced by societal missunderstanding (least their own). ?
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To all my fellow INFP's out there (speaking as a 67 year old veteran of 'da feels') hitch yourself to the cause that resonates, whatever you do. You already know that money isn't everything and people's reactions to your advocacy will vary... it comes down to "so what!", right? When you're both patiently and lovingly involved in your cause, you will shine. Thank you for engaging.
So what by Juice Wrld [Sample: Teeth by FiveSecondOfSummer] is all I'll say.
And thank you!
What do you mean?
Thank you. - From a younger you😊
Brilliant and timeless advice
"Finally, we're at my favourite type"
You sure know how to handle INFPS!
As an infp and psychologist I know my type very well but this video really is one of the very best I have ever seen on it
She's just saying all my inner processes .
Came here to say this! As an INFP art therapist who has a slight obsession with the MBTi, this was the most helpful thing I’ve seen so far in understanding my type and optimizing the cognitive functions
@@PalmettoBlonde25 Are you also in Charleston or SC may I ask?!
Right?!! I was blown away by this education on myself
IN the end people will remember how you made them feel rather than what you have or the words you've spoken. If we have bettered the life of just one person, we have lived a life worth living.
Facts.
Beautiful
I don't know if it will help my fellow INFPs, but I started turning my poems and letters into animated videos on TH-cam. One of the reasons I did this was because I thought it was a fun way of sneaking poetry into people's lives. After all, not many people will buy my poetry books but they might watch a very short animated video on TH-cam. I mention it here because I thought it might inspire you to do your own channel. I continue to do my channel because my inner 10 year old loved to watch art shows and now it gets to play with an animated program called Doodly. It makes me smile and chuckle, which is as good a reason to do something in my book even if it makes little logical sense.
While I can't draw by hand and many of my videos are probably pretty weird to most people, I thought that even if they are a bit naff to you, they might inspire you. After all, I write books because I thought the ones I read were rubbish, so why not create that TH-cam channel if you think what i'm producing is nonsense. I mean, if I'm prepared to upload the kind of thing I'm creating, I'm certain you could produce something that's of much better quality. In short, be bold my fellow INFPs. You'll probably find people won't judge you as harshly as you think they will. You may even find some relief in their indifference.
i just watched your deja vu video. Its lovely
@@user-dx9my1en2d Thanks. I'm glad you liked it.
What a fantastic Idea!!!
Serious I literally said ‘FINALLY🎉” when I saw you posted INFP
i flipped out when i saw, i was like she did it! 😄✨✊✨
I feel like it’s so underrated when an INFP steps into a bossy role 😅 we’re super committed at that point, just roll with it and be the hype man 🙏
Or misinterpreted would maybe be a better word to describe it 😅
Great video! I'm an INFP and the descriptions of Fi and Ne were very spot on for me. I definitely have a hard time moving on from exes/idealizing them (Si). It's funny that you brought up Netflix. Whenever I watch movies, I completely zone out and think about how certain things are relating to me, or I start thinking of possibilities. I have a very hard time staying present when watching movies and usually have to have someone explain what happened to me. 😂
I have the exact same problem !! I thought i was the person that have writting that comment !!!
It’s become harder and harder to moving on from my ex (from 2 years ago) and before him from 4years ago!!
And of course i idealise so many love tvshows !!
Hope we will get rid of that habit
Sorryyy my english isn’t perfect (From France)
I would always pause one movie several times just to imagine what if that happened to me😢😢poor INFPs
Jesus this was so incredibly vivid and clearly articulated in its depth and explanation
So much on my mind I can't even watch this, homie.
At the end, you said, “…what you are doing matters, it makes a difference.” That resonated with me. To me, my life would be wasted, if I didn’t feel that I made a difference. I get lost when I try to define or put metrics on any difference I could be making, which leaves me wondering, if I’m imaging it. It was encouraging that you said those words. Thank you!
This is one of the best videos on INFP type in general, as an INFP myself, I genuinely want to thank you for making this! absolutely wonderful stuff!
Great explanation! One of the (many) things I appreciate about the infp’s in my life (40- 65 year old) is that they never really stagnate in the sense of getting to old to dream, we still have exciting conversations about future possibilities
Thank you ..
It's hard being an INFP we think and perceive things differently that most.
It's excruciating to relate to others somedays and glorious in the moments where we are able to..
We live in a spectrum of elation and then disappointment in any given moment.
I never feel validated as an INFP, and often made to feel inferior, or what I have to offer is less than others.
I have such huge compassion on a good day..
My hope is huge on a good day.
My love and compassion for others is big on a good day.
It's the multiple bad day spells that leave you exhausted crabby frustrated and wanting to be left alone in the cathartic process that are hard.
I wish I had more good than bad days.
Those darn melancholy days make me feel so bad about myself, what I have to offer and my capabilities.
I do appreciate you validating us however..
Thats so nice of you.
I am so glad you appreciate us..
Yes we have few friends because we have unbelievably high standards for them.
The ones we do have are amazing.
Wow do u have any advice for someone dating an infp
@@sunflowerpower642 yes please give space when we feel bad for our cathartic process.
We often need to be alone to process when bad things happen and it takes longer than most people.
We feel our emotions deeply and sometimes the roller coaster is exhausting, we simply need more rest literally physical sleep and time to ourselves to recover.
We will talk when we are ready however if you poke and prod it just makes us mad.
I love being an INFP but we are complicated and wonderful and yes it is not easy dating us.
I am delighted I have a wonderful wife of 30 years that gets it, because very few people could or would be willing to try to..
@@jasoncasale3708 thanks for your reflection. This is heartbreaking for me
Really love your explanations! I’m an INFP teen, and as I develop Ne I really find myself having more fun with life. When we’re at our best, life is an endless array of possibilities and outlets to express our values. One of my goals in life is to create something meaningful like a video game or tv show, as I absolutely love indie media and I’m so happy to live in a time where it’s possible to be a widely successful indie creator. These dreams comes with a cost, of course. Personally at least, it’s really easy (too easy) for me to lean too hard into Si. At my worst, I’m too stuck in my own head reminiscing on the past, things people have said to me, and the things I can’t do. Yes, it’s true that thriving as an INFP in this world is extremely tough. We are constantly berated for being too quiet, too childish, too lazy, sometimes even by those we’re closest to. But we can’t seriously let people convince us that we absolutely CAN’T thrive. Us creatives have so much to offer, and we can’t let those qualities go to waste. There’s a reason so many memorable and important creatives were INFPs. Anyway, just wanted to share my experience, and I ended up going on a little rant. 😅 Regardless, this video is absolutely SPOT ON! You did a great job!! Stay well, fellow INFPs! ❤
Edit: I really appreciate how you touched on INFPs getting a bad rep in the MBTI community. That aspect really sucks. When I had first discovered that I was an INFP, I was overjoyed, literally to the point of tears. I feel like I had gone a lot of my life feeling “misunderstood”, (that probably sounds self-centred ;-;) so I was really excited to finally have a community that understood. But honestly, I found that a lot of the MBTI community really looks down upon us, and disregards anything we have to say simply because we’re the “feely crybaby INFPs”. Lemme just say though, these videos and articles such as yours really make it all worth it, and the INFP community by itself is awesome! Thanks for the video!
i think that the community looking down upon that certain type also happens with all the other types, especially misunderstanding ESFPs and ESTJs. I notice that its usually ENFJs and INFJs who dislike INFPs for some reason, and INTJs who favor them
@@user-dx9my1en2d ENFJ's are supposed to be ideal. I saw online ENFJ and INFJ's that said they like INFP's. But, good to know that. I always loved INTJ's. I thought they didn't like me lol.
I'm infp and i felt like crying with you when you were going to cry because I felt seen by you. Thank you for this video, and for seeing us and understanding us ❤
I feel like my infp ness if left unmanaged could lead me to be a lifetime dependant.
I was momentarily codependent until I messed up and snapped out of it.
The Te random screaming spike attack was so true lol. I used to have sporadic motivation to change something about my life, be it my diet or to write a book or to exercise or whatever. It would last a couple days to a week or two, but then I would revert back to my old Si ways. But your INFP videos and also planning videos have helped me out a lot to become more of a planner. Actually, I'm leaving for a study abroad trip in Australia and New Zealand in about two weeks. At first Si told me it was too big of a plan and I'd never follow through, but I used my Ne to get excited about such and opportunity and my Te to plan for this trip for the past 6-8 months, and now I'm about ready to leave! Something about your videos, I think it's your Te that speaks to my inferior Te, never fails to inspire and motivate me to not let laziness and procrastination in Si stop me from doing things I want to do. Now, I have a plan for the next several years to become a therapist, and I also have many ideas of things I want to build more plans for, like writing and painting and more. Thanks to you I have hope and I'm starting to build an actual plan for my life. Fi and Si overused can make me feel pessimistic, but you're right, it's that Ne and Te we need to use to get optimistic and hopeful again, and to build lives we want. Anyways rant over but I just want to say thanks, if you see this comment Alexis!
Currently in the same Si overwhelmed state, and your comment was so positive and uplifting to read. I hope you have a very wonderful experience with that study trip.
I'm gonna try to implement more Te in my life. What other videos would you recommend, btw? (Planning to sort my life out for 387373th time. 🤪)
@@Zirwoah Haha I feel it! I would definitely recommend "Goal Setting System for 2023 Goals." Says it's just about 2023, but it's one of my favorite Alexis Kingsley videos because it talks about a way to get your whole life together, and it genuinely helped me to make a plan to get it together. Sometimes I go back and watch that video again when I need motivation. That, and her original deep dive INFP video, "Are you SURE you're an INFP- the dreamy idealist?" If you haven't seen that one, it's another one of my motivating favorites. And then I'd recommend some of her recent plans your life videos, such as "how to design your life" or "How To Manage Your Time- The 60% Calendar System." Hope this helps, and I wish you luck in your goals!
@maggieo1683 aw heyyy! I didn't expect to get back a response so soon. Thanks for the recommendations! 😭✨️ I'll check them out and hopefully stop with the self sabotage lmao thank you and you too. Goodluck for the future! ❤️
It’s helpful to read about an INFP success!!! Thank you for sharing ❤️
Extraverted intuition “excitedly creating the future” - just what I needed to hear. Thank u. What a thoughtful and detailed video, seriously well done. U r an expert.
I’m an INFP and this is so insightful…thank you. I am a new subscriber. Have not come across such depth before
Si is like my wounded child, I got like that for a long while recently. And one issue was I wasn’t creating / acting on anything, I was losing my mojo
I used to be a designer and my Te was extremely strong then. I look back and it was sublime at times. It was high heights, creating visions and manifesting them. Makes sense now that I understand the power of Fi & Te in harmony.
Now I’m retraining as a psychotherapist and it allows me to indulge in my Fi so much I love it! But I got too naval-gazing and stuck in the past. Everything was happening inside and got out of balance.
Only now I’m finding a new equilibrium. Developing my practice as a therapist, and a way of living that practices my values, strengthening my Te again
Really excited where this takes me. Feels very synchronistic to come across this material now as I’m bringing my Ne back online. Only the other day I was thinking about how my inner parent is in the driving seat now, and it’s safe enough to let my inner child come out
This video is just BRILLIANT. Loved the way you explained SO MANY THINGS in so much of detail that I'm literally screaming with the feeling of being understood. Thank you so much for this video, cuz you expressed and talked about people like me better than we could express ourselves (it's so interesting how we can be aware of all these things, but can't put them into words) so thank you for doing it! ❤
I love how you break this down so in depth!
aaah i started crying when you started crying! my infp mate has been having such a hard time but is a wonderful beautiful talented capable person, and i was waiting for this video to send to him!! awesome video 🙏🙏🙏 he hasn't shown a lot of interest in this personality stuff so far, but this is exactly what he needs to understand about himself, and i have hopes that he begins to unlock more of his potential that is already on its way and find more of the joy that he absolutely deserves!!! 💜💜💜
Do you think he’ll see your comment lol
@@kindauncool yeah i mentioned it when i sent the link- couldn't contain the excitement. 💖
Stop it genuinely made me so happy at the end, like i was about to cry to 😭 it gave me hope and got me excited when i thought about what i could do if i do use the TE function a litte more
35:05 thank you. I measured my MBTI while I was studying Psychology, I measured it again recently, I’m an INFP. I’ve let number 3 take the wheel for quite some time, after years of abusive relationships, I finally retreated, and I think I’ve been so stuck in the past, with such intense feelings, I haven’t moved.
So glad I found your channel. Xxxx
i deeply appreciate that someone like you is in this world. It's like unexpectedly finding a rare gem that shines and radiates in a manner i've never seen before. I moved to the South from the NE
7 yrs ago and have grown so accustomed to the hypocricy, insincere niceness and apathetic indifference prevalent in my area, i was beginning to believe people everywhere had become non supportive and having ill will towards one another. Thank you for dispelling that belief before it took full form within me. Your insights and work-arounds for potential pitfalls of my INFP type that you offer prove very helpful.. But what really made my eyes tear was your non judgemental manner and a sincere vibe that you want everyone to succeed in themselves and their lives. It pulled on all my heartstrings and it's likely that INFP's possess more than most others. :)
Excellent insights on why and how as an INFP I was pushed into being stuck from primary Fi improving the world.
Affirming that all my random secondary function Ne loves (ethics, maps, languages, philosophy, meditation, Star Trek, fantasy, song lyrics…) are on a right track!
That my child-like auxiliary Ne needs to be the real parent to keep the secretly stuck-in-the-mud third/tertiary Si ‘problem teen’ in check is mind-blowing.
Actually playing with to choose and refine a time- and task- management system from quaternary/inferior Te so I can begin to write and learn more efficiently and own my masteries makes sense! (My using math and spreadsheets to create personalized reward systems that work for me in spurring daily progress across various apps to reach stretch goals tells me I have already been embracing extroverted thinking / real-world logic in an INFP way, decades after being thrust into early development of all functions by demanding family, education, and work environments.)
Thank you!!! 🙏 😃 ☮️ 🤩 ☯️ 🖖 🎉 ⛩️🏔️🏰🎻🗺️ 🕉️🎵 🧘 🧙♂️☸️
Si is just so real omggg. It brings back memories of the past and someway predict the future based on that. That makes me either anxious or overwhelmed. Then I move to not making amy move at all.. it's really is an overused weakness. Wowww
Such a lovely video. I'm an INFP and you've helped me to feel good about that.
Thank you for all the time and effort you put into helping us INFP's better understand ourselves. This video was excellent. Your discussion of the Si function was extremely helpful. For the first time ever, I think I kind of get how I use that function and how I might be able to use it in more positive ways. Thanks again, so much. 💜
Agree!
This is my favorite channel for types!!!! real depth of explanation. (INFP here). The SI i believe comes online with the cpstd trauma that was experienced - it is a sort of safety/protection place when I could not have the space to feel deeply or express the light (and dark) that I am in the world. Thank You!!! there is a lot well meaning rubbish out there - good to find this place
EPICCC I'm so happy about this, and that's a good idea to do the most high volume types last, I wish other MBTI TH-camrs realized this and did the same…
Wow! Oh you’re good! Holy cow, the way you explain things is like no other. Ever. In the history of this planet. I actually get it now! Feel a little called out…. (perfecting roughly 7 not yet written books in my head for the last 12 years) ….but now I can finally understand the tools in my toolbox! And how to use them! Thanks! I think you are my hero! Is that too much? ;)
Wow, brilliant assessment. I feel seen in a profound way. This is the most clear, concise, digestible material on the infp perspective I have ever seen and I’ve seen a ton of stuff, lol. Thank you!!! Awesome work ❤
Hi Alexis,
just wanted to stop by and tell you, I found this as the single most helpful video with regards to understanding myself better.
And I'm here watching it for the 3rd time already.
Thank you!
This was one of the best, most functional, and actually useful videos I've ever seen about INFP. thank you 😊
INFP here working on a project ill come back to drop a link once I launch.
Relating to extroverted intuition, I have really enjoyed fantastical stories grounded on reality lately. Philip Pullman, Haruki Murakami. Moreover, my line manager has encouraged me to present publicly which I have really enjoyed and has really expanded my consciousness. I’ve been told I’m good at it and has led to personal growth. Albeit in my late 50’s. Foremost, I have become really aware of what I don’t like. Predominately routine.
Thank you so much for this! It's really clarified the ups and downs of my life and helped me understand why things have gone the way they've gone
Your detailed insights framed in qualities and barriers really resonate with my inner and outer world. My experiences strongly confirm what you’ve said. A wonderful, kind, and valuable lesson for me. Thank you.
I read that INFP's love poetry, i always had a sort of scoffing manner when hearing about poets. I thought of the subject as it were airy fairy. Yet sitting down i wrote my first poem in half an hour and i adored it. So amazing and fulfilling to express my inwards feelings in a creative expression. I get to articulate these powerful emotions relating to deep-held convictions in a way conventional expressions fail.. Esp having dyslexia i find it hard to express concepts in written form, but poetry seems to be much easier for me!
I'm not a psychologist or anything, but I've gotten INFP multiple times and still wondered about my results. This so described me down to a tee!! It's very refreshing and almost like a sigh of relief on so many things I do/react/etc. I love how you break everything down, very conversational and informative. Thank you for making and sharing!!
I'm not an INFP, but this video is superb. Thank you 🎉
I think one thing that separates the extroverted judging functions to introverted judging functions is having obligations to others (Fe and Te) vs obligations to self (Fi and Ti). Especially when I think of Fe I think of being respectful (for the sake of it), family (for the sake of it), manners (for the sake of it). For Te I think of responsibility in relation to time, I find that a lot of Te users put themselves into what they do more than figuring out who they are. At least from an Fi perspective it feels really frustrating at times. I know for me personally I have this concept of what I call “the boy with a hollow voice” where there’s this boy character who just spews meaningless words, who doesn’t stand true for what they believe in and just fills the cracks. I try really hard not to be the boy.
Thank you so much for this. It is so helpful. My 3rd function has been a real killjoy for way too long. Recognising this is priceless. Thanks again. Keep up your great work ❤😁👍🏻
Dear Alexis, 🫨Wow! I took MBTI 17 years ago at the Women's Center of a community college! Moved 5X/3 states & had forgotten all about it. Recently, I tried to recall, thought the result was INFJ. I found it! and discovered it to be INFP! Your video is the VERY FIRST time I understood clearly, the interrelation of the functions! I'll be watching this video over again! An intelligent, well outlined & masterful work! So very grateful to have found your channel. Subscribed! Blessings to you!
I lit just had a therapy session a few hours ago and it brought me here. I have always kind of known that these types of videos would help change my life for the better but I've been so stuck in the mindset that "I'm stuck" or "My life will never change" bs. My fear of failure is keeping me contained, I have put out my music for years and it has gotten me to a good place BUT I know I have been playing safe. I haven't been putting a lot of effort into advertising myself, it makes me so uncomfortable but I am taking this advice to heart. I hope I will truly feel like life is worth living once I take this into action!
As an INFP, the pandemic and a few personal events shoved me so far down into SI and made it feel like I could never access any TE traits. I've been wondering what's wrong with me and this video feels life-changing. Thank you so much, your channel is amazing.
Wow. You are a legend. This was really interesting and thorough in a very clear and captivating way. You’re a very good teacher. I also really like the visual layout of your video presentation, it’s very well organized and easy to look at while absorbing what you’re teaching 🙂
Thank you soo much for making a video like this. As an INFP, this was just what I needed to realise how I can work on improving as a person. You are very sweet, keep doing what you're doing! 😊
Thank you for allowing me to understand myself better. I have only recently learned about these types of personality/brain and it is extremely intriguing. I feel very grateful for being able to find out these things from you and I appreciate you making me feel so special, even if for only a moment. Thank you
Thank you so much Alexis, this video helped me more than you could ever know... I've been so in need of greater understanding and you brought everything I would need to comprehend myself better into this video. It's honestly helped sooo much. 🙏
Wow you’ve described me to a T. I’ve been feeling this intensely a lot, how my polar opposite functions have been tugging at each other and also trying to merge my beautiful inner world and translating that to the outer world. And also just coexisting with things and people that normally challenge my personal values. As much as it’s been scary, it’s also been freeing.
This video is insanely helpful, thank you so much.
wow you really understand us...the un understandable xD
Love your video on INFP one of the best explanations I’ve seen! INFP here
Excellent excellent video ! Especially the idea of Ne leading the Si❤️
So funny I can relate infp are so blasé sometimes but the minute we are engaged, in charge and invested in a creative project we can be super bossy and intense 😂
How common is autism spectrum and/or Asperger's among this personality type?
And excellent cast by the way your presentation is very comprehensive and well put. Go girl...❤
Mind blowing and very eloquently put. Some phrases brought me to tears describing me in ways I couldn't ...or parts that I've never come to terms with.
Lol dating must be hard for you, prob knowing someone better than they know themselves within minutes... Yikes
this touched me so deeply/. I've never felt this understood even by myself. I currenlt feel like I'm in SI 3 and need some TE. Thanks
твои видео про типы личностей мои любимые, спасибо, что веришь в infp
I have a volume of poetry that needs to be published, I need to figure out how to do a TH-cam channel to share all my art and crafts and murals. So my T E gets really loud sometimes. 😂😂. Thank you for helping me understand how I tick!!
I’m pushin 40 here and feel that chronological order of functions was spot on 😅
🥰🥰🥰 I can feel your love for us seeping through 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼
I took a two-month trip out west car camping and took a ton of videos.
Maybe this is my nudge to listen to that inner voice and set some goals on establishing a TH-cam channel ☺️
Thank you for putting so much time and love into this for INFPs ❤️❤️❤️
Awww you really touched me with your 💕...thank you for this awesome, inspiring talk!!❤
I'm in a loop with my 3rd function. I'm literally in bed, online with a cat in my lap. I've been stuck in it for a while due to npd abuse. I've come a long way which I'm proud of. But it has taken years to get to this point.
As an infp, this is soooooo on point✨💯
Is it weird that I'm an INFP with extremely strong introverted sensing? I feel all my visceral sensations very strongly and feel very connected to my body at all times.
You’re quite amazing! Very smart, articulate, warm, and apparently very caring. The book. Yeah, that book. I haven’t worked on it in almost a year. My passion for writing this book about something that happened to my life is stunted by my temperament. I’m not sure what to do. It was like you were speaking to me at the end of your show.
for me i have a sudden passionate idea for a book or a story and then after a few days im like "Nah"
i had an idea for a superhero marvel film and i was excited and thought it was superb. Not too long later I just decided it was kind of boring and I wanted it to have more action and futuristic properties.
Thank you so much for this video… I was actually in a slump and very confused about who I am and why I feel certain ways ,but this video really helps a lottt… Specially the Si Part is so true and I didnt know that is what was causing so many of my problems…I watched a lot of your INFP videos as well, having a plan and getting my Te to use is going to be really helpful for me … tysmm again…
I was actually writing down a new idea for my “soon to be written” story when you pointed out the overthinking part which was rly funny cause that was like the 1459th change to the story XD.
Thank you Alexis for this... why am I crying right now
Thank you! This is a wonderful, inspiring, and helpful video!
Very informative, and very accurate. Thank you for making this.
Man this hits home….😮
That was so encouraging 😭🥹 Thank you for believing in INFP 🙏🏼 I appreciate it
Wow you nailed it, 10/10🎉 amazing video
Thank you very much for this video! Everything explained is so true! It touched me deeply, especially the last bit.
INTP man looking to start dating an INFP woman soon - gonna enjoy devouring this video
HI, in your movies all the cognitive functions are probably described in the best possible way, but what is not taken into account is their order. While Ne is in fact in theory very optimistic, in case of INFPs it takes a role of being aware of consequences, so kind of hampering. It slightly differs from Ne in Hero spot (ENFPs) when it is exactly so much optimistic, as described here. As a result developed Ne used by INFPs (INTPs) is probably the best cognitive function possible, as mature Ne of INF(T)Ps combines its generic optimistic root with awareness.
(Probably you describe it in other words as "underused" strength. This underusing is this pesisimistic approach to consequences, but when used regularly and developed it becomes crucial strength in every aspect)
I feel like deep down I'm an INFP... But because of my intense interest in technology and philosophy, I'm commonly typed as an INTP.
Thank you so much, you are awesome at this!
This is so spot on 😊
I feel called out so bad, can’t move forward with any project is too real and being scared of any problems 😖
Oh man, the projects that I've left collecting dust in the box at the corner of my house: multiple titles, ideas, character models and fully-fledged storylines.. yea pretty guilty of that Te not being utilized much
Socionics founder Ausra shows Fe is emotions and Fi ethics of relations.
But feeling is mostly contained in Si as feelings is perceptive.
Ethics and logic shape values and principals.
But the actual feeling cold towards somebody or something is Si.
If i could, i’d give this vid a thousand 👍 👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍
Ily!!!! Ty so much for this 🤯
This video is amazing I really needed to experience this content thank you !
This video is incredible! Thanks so much for sharing all this ❤❤
Man, you REALLY know how to talk to INFPs!
This was great, thanks for making this
Love you too. INTJ's are wonderful for us☺
This was so helpful
TH-cam won't allow me to link my book but it is called God's Perfect Plan. It's a children's book. I didn't get it done until I was 65 and I have a second one I am working on. It sells better in person when people can pick it up and see it so I may never sell a lot online. I try to stay motivated by visualizing the children who will read my book and benefit from it. So to other INFP's I will say don't wait until you are 65 to work on your dream but if you are older, it's never too late.
I love INFP too. But they are not more moral than everyone else. They are complexly more concerned about their own goodness and right to exist. This inner struggle gets projected out as trying to heal the world, when in fact it is themselves they are trying to fix, and to heal, from their early childhood acquired misguided shame.
Your videos are the best-thanks, Alexis:)
Socionics shows the 4 conscious functions are the Beebe Dominant, Auxiliary, Demon, Trickster.
Well, you made me cry too.
Such a great video! Thank you 🙏
Please consider strongly
(at least as an exercise) ,
to always when talking about INFP to the probably always 97% non-INFP ;
..tell THEM about possible necessity,
AS A Society,
to create, integrate and garantie living and developing space, (norms !),
specifically for the INFP,
perhaps thuse
not the almost shaming the INFP that they have to get to understand themselfs their value. Because, what is 'value', if not 'usefulness'.
Or else, it is misunderstood with "become a more competent survivor".
Sure, it is about leveling ourselves, but I feel (!), INFP are perhaps the only ones that are off-balanced by societal missunderstanding (least their own). ?