𝐆𝐫𝐨𝐰𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐔𝐩 𝐆𝐚𝐲 | 𝐒𝐮𝐫𝐯𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝗮 𝗚𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁 𝗟𝗼𝘀𝘀, 𝗔𝗹𝗰𝗼𝗵𝗼𝗹 & 𝗔𝗜𝗗𝗦
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 10 ก.ย. 2024
- 𝐏𝐚𝐮𝐥 𝐉𝐚𝐜𝐞𝐤, an actor and comedian from Los Angeles, shares a tale marked by struggle, loss, and resilience in the face of the AIDS crisis. His journey, blending humor with hardship, not only reflects his personal strength but also echoes the broader challenges faced by the LGBTQ+ community during a tumultuous era.
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𝐏𝐚𝐮𝐥'𝐬 𝐓𝐫𝐢𝐛𝐮𝐭𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐡𝐮𝐬𝐛𝐚𝐧𝐝: th-cam.com/video/Rq1TA16R504/w-d-xo.html
I'd seen this video before. Just watched it again now. Wow!
Bravo! Paul Jacek, you are an inspiration. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Paul, You should add "Motivational Speaker" to your long list of careers! I feel so lifted right now. What a joy you are. God bless you.
Agreed!
"The point of power is in the present". Thanks, Paul. "The Nature of Personal Reality" was the most important book I ever read.
I knew this was going to make cry. I’m 59 and can completely relate to the schoolyard bullying. 7-9th grades were Hell on earth in a conservative, Midwestern suburb. Thank you for your story. I truly wish I had your positive attitude and disposition. What a brave man!
Unfortunately it took a long time and many lives for people to wake up. Not that it's not happening anymore, but at least there are policies in place and people are more aware.
Wow. I’m almost in tears. 🥰Thank you for your words of wisdom, and showing the beauty of resilience. You truly are a light in this world.💜
Thank you for sharing your story Mr Paul
God bless you Paul. So glad I got to hear your story. All of us have one. Especially the issues with drugs and alcohol,being a gay man, it’s very common. Lemons ~~~~> lemonade. ✌️🙏
I think this was one of the most valuable and inspirational videos I've ever seen. And I are the same age and have many parallels. Thank you for your life and for your work.
Truly, I could listen to this man speak/lecture all day; incredibly intelligent, articulate, insightful, etc.. The gay community is so lucky to have him as one of their representatives. Thank you, sir... Wishing you lots and lots of rainbows in your life...
"I'll tell you how the sun rose,
A ribbon at a time!"
- Emily Dickinson
He's truly a kind amazing man. He lives a very simple modest life. Thanks a lot for checking out the story my friend. Yes, we're lucky to have people like you and Paul amongst us.
My goodness how these videos make you realize you've never been alone in your experiences. If it wasn't for my own self-resolve I would have never made it through school due to incessant bullying -- and of course, it was me, not them. The Drama Club saved me as well....there was where all the other misifts gravitated to. I also used booze for 40 years to falsely have courage and am now sober and enlightened, four-stepping every day. Thanks for your affirmatives.
Thanks for sharing these details of your struggles & life!
This guy seems so fun! Someone you just want to be around because they are so full of positivity and is always right, not in a show off, jerk way but in a parental, wise person that you want to listen to and take their advice.
I envy people who get to meet him and people like him.
Cheers.
You're absolutely right, and that's been my exact experience with Paul every time. He's consistent. He will make you laugh. He has this thing about him that turns a real bad day into a positive experience. I'd never take him for granted. Truly an amazing man!
Thank you for sharing this wonderful and inspiring story of your amazing life. ☮️❤️🌈
I love "alcoholics are born with broken hearts. " I so agree.
Oh I have so loved this youtube
“Boys don’t call back when you vomit in their lap” 😂😂 love it!
You're so inspiring. Thanks for sharing your story.
Wonderful man. What a teacher! ❤
This is wonderful and inspirational!!!
I'm 65 years old and I know what it is like to be bullied because of a nervous condition when I was a little girl used I literally pulled my hair out. I wore wigs off to grade school high school, never truly had a boyfriend until this one but I thought really liked me but he only did it because he wanted to get close enough to Pull my wig off in front of everybody. Even have members of my own family, especially on my father's side who would make fun of me and wanna see what I look like without my wig. On I have a good friend and he's been my good friend for a long time. But even as we were getting to know each other. He wanted to see what I looked like. Without my wig on. At least your dad would pick you up from school. Mine always said I can't fight your battles for you. Even though it was a little girl. So part of me saying all this is just to say. Well, it just reminds To be kind to other people. Because you never know what they go through and sometimes. How they're rejected just for being who they are.
You are a beautiful person. Continue to live your truth. And thank you for sharing your story 💜
What a beautiful life❤️
❤ thank you for sharing your journey…. It’s important to know
Exquisite !!!
Wonderful. Not meant derogatory but this man IS Corky st.Clair. Brilliant.
What an uplifting guy you are. From one (class of 72) to another who has also made it, thanks for posting this. God bless you.
I’m in my late 30s and your story was very inspiring it’s refreshing to know that at your your age when you were a very young man that your parents tried to do the best they could to understand you knowing you were very different which isn’t a bad thing even your dad giving you a Barbie doll and telling you to only play with it in your room that was his way of saying I accept you and i love you but your story is very inspirational and your Catholic pastor who correct me if I’m wrong killed himself because he didn’t want anyone to find out that he was homosexual and so they wouldn’t even bury him or honor him that’s crazy so you guys had the wake in your living room and during that time I couldn’t imagine living in the aids epidemic I don’t know if I would’ve made it it was scary and when you went to the doctor and he’s trying to tell you that it’s moving quicker than they can work that right there almost made me cry because then you started getting your obituary ready and your funeral arrangements alread No one should have to do that at that young age and you said you wanted your casket to come from the ceiling with disco balls hanging so funny and cute 😂😂😂but thank you so much for telling your story and your show that ran for a year so amazing also frontier airlines is still running till this day that’s probably a no-brainer 😂but when I heard that you wanted to be a flight attendant and that you thought because of your status and your condition you thought you wasn’t gonna get it it just hurt me I’m like saying to myself go get that job I’m like wow we have something in common even though you’re older than me you are amazing❤❤❤❤
You're a lovely person inside out!
What a presentation! Wit,grace,verve and heart. Someone should Clone this man. Paul...you are a Treasure!!! Bravo.
You're a wonderful guy, Paul. Thank you for being you.
Gay wisdom thanks love we need more
Nothing less than operatic. Lovely, lovely video.
Paul has so much to give to the world still. ❤️
Excellent and the truth about how hard it is to be different. Very rare!!!
Soooooooo Encouraging ❤❤❤
What a story- you owe me eye makeup- it ran to my knees.
Omg I love him!!! 🤗🥰
Wow, this was so amazing! We would all be so lucky to have Paul or someone like him in our lives.
This was so inspiring. I have to admit that I laughed at one point when I saw his class photo, because in my class photo, I'm sitting exactly the same as this gentleman was, with my legs kind of together and not like the other boys at all. Grammar school and high school was torture for me. I was beaten with baseball bats and tormented daily. The teachers were no help and in fact in some cases were abusive. I had one teacher call me up to the front of the class and announce "you have titties like a girl." I don't think I was effeminate, but I was extremely meek because not only was I secretly gay, but I also had polio as a kid and had a noticeable deformity of my arm and hand, which made my tormentors go in for the kill. To give a better idea of the kind of high school I went to, several of the jocks went up to our very obviously gay Andy Warhol look alike art teacher one day out of the blue, started beating the crap out of him and pulling his hair out and punching him right in class in front of everyone. It was horrifying. But I was just as vulnerable as he was and couldn't budge. When it was over with, the teacher practically crawled back to his desk, and I'm sure he never reported it, he didn't dare because his tormentors and abusers were the football stars and if it was between him and them, you know who was going to go. By the way, I still remember these creeps names and I looked them up a few years ago and to the man, they are Trump supporters. Big surprise. Home life was just as bad as school life, with my closet case father beating the 💩 out of me and treating me horribly my whole young life. I realize all these years later that I'm sure he suspected that from a very young age I was gay, and that my very presence was going to expose him. He used to bring me over several men's homes, without my mother's knowledge of course, and they would give me a glass of milk and some cookies while I watched TV and he and the men would go in the bedroom and have sex. I never once called him "dad" because I knew he hated me and I was too terrified of him. My poor mother was a basket case who came from an alcoholic family, in foster homes, etc ..and though we were good kids and never got in trouble, in fact we never even talked, she was never able to show affection and never once hugged us or told us she loved us. In many ways we were basically servants. We had very little, never had toothbrushes until I started mowing lawns when I was about 13 years old and saw commercials for toothbrushes and figured it was time to buy one. When I finally admitted to myself I was gay and first went to the gay bar, it was like when Dorothy opens that door and everything just turns into color. Being a 19 year old vulnerable mess of a person, the first time someone hugged me in a romantic way, I burst into tears and apologized for being "so ugly." I was in a 7-year relationship with that person and unfortunately he was a very abusive and somewhat psychotic person who actually ran me over at one point, and I had to move 1500 mi away to get away from him. Though I worked hard in life, I never really became successful like this gentleman has. Now I'm 68 years old and not really happy with who I am right now. Amazingly, I never abused drugs or alcohol, I probably should have lol. And I did try to better myself and did in some ways and made myself as attractive as possible, but there's always been something missing and something "off." I am unfulfilled. I will say one thing, I took it upon myself, starting at a young age, to take care of my little sister who is 10 years younger, I didn't want her to go through what I went through. I made sure she had clothes and I worked two jobs to have braces put on her teeth, at which time I also had them put on my teeth, I took her to New York City for her high school graduation after having saved all year, and she has turned into a fabulous kind hearted person with a long-standing wonderful marriage and two fantastic intelligent now college-aged kids who have turned out great, and that is probably the best thing I've done with my life. I do believe I have a grain of talent, ( I've made several funny videos which you can see on my channel here), and my frustration is that I never had the guts to do anything about it and develop what little talent I may have. I've written songs and poems and also draw, but they've never really developed much and let's face it, with the advent of TH-cam and things like that, there are millions of talented people out there. What the gentleman said in closing here is what I found really inspiring, and though I don't think I'm going to be conquering Hollywood and Broadway at this point lol, I guess it's never too late to keep working on yourself and aspire and to dream. The effects of post-polio syndrome have wreaked havoc on me, with many surgeries over the last 20 years and the last 5 months was spent on crutches and in bed, but thankfully I have started to come out of that latest set back. I really thought it was over with. I hope all this doesn't sound like self-pity, and I'm sorry that I am rambling but I'm a little buzzed on a CBD gummy lol. It just took me years to reflect and realize the damage that was done to me when I was young, and spending my life trying to conquer that. I want to thank this gentleman for what he said here because it really resonated.❤😢
I need to find you and do an interview with you! Thanks a lot for sharing!
@@lgbtqarchives That's very kind of you. I'm in South Florida. I'm not feeling like much of a success story these days, tho I DID survive, so I don't know how inspiring I'd be. And sometimes I'm fairly well spoken and sometimes not. In the past, I've been accused of self pity, just by recounting my history, but it's 100% my truth, so F-'em! I will say that while many periods of my life have been a struggle, my sense of humor has saved me. I'm a work in progress who is quite aware of the ticking clock. I've thought about writing a book ( who hasn't..lol) and title it "Polio Case", which was one of the lovely nicknames my childhood tormentors bestowed upon me. A final thought: Seeing the advent of and flourishing of a scumbag who mocked the disabled and became POTUS has resulted in a wearing down of my spirit that I DO try and get past, but it brought up a lot of old issues I've tried to overcome, and I admittedly often conclude what I found out at a very young age, that man is cruel, and life is an effort in futility. ( I do know that there remain alot of good people out there, and I have a few great friends and family, and always try and keep that in mind.) Okay, I'll shut up now. Lol.
Paul. Thank you. I just lost my husband to Parkinson’s Disease. I now have the present.
Be strong my friend.
Thank you. Jeffrey
An inspiring life and attitude you have Paul. 💕
Paul, I had to pause the video at 4:09 - my God, youre a square jawed blonde HUNK!! 😍Be still my heart, you look like a movie star ⭐
ha ha ha...I will definitely let him know that he's getting some hot comments around here.
👏 BRAVO
And there was this unscrupulous junction and there was a little bit of a joint thing
they let me play in the kitchen in kindergarten and later I played jacks and jumping rope while the boy dud sports.
I love you
but girl we made it I'm close to 70 LOL and keep having fun but the new generations of gays are no fun anymore I did it all drag been a NUN w the Sisters of P and many more
Ha ha ha, that’s amazing. Are you from Los Angeles by any chance?