Honest Q&A | I Cant Believe I've Been Divorced A YEAR!
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 11 ก.ค. 2024
- Its been a year sine I have officially been divorced and I thought an update video on life after divorce would be a good idea in the hopes that it helps someone.
I opened it up for you al to ask me questions and I'm so glad I did. You all asked great questions like if I thought I would love again or if I resented my ex or if we have any contact at all.
Please tell me I'm not the ONLY one!! How can you relate to my journey?? Let me know below.
I LOVE MY COMMUNITIES HONESTY.
Don't feel sad, we're with you! No matter what.... we're right here!
Definitely not the only one .
Even 6 months after,
I was still grieving .
Sad that I didn't have the supportive family.
But I am not living with regrets.
I’m not sad.:) life happens and it’s all about what you make of it.
I was divorced at 31 with 2 kids and no money. It was hard but I had a decent job and friends and family to lean on. Fast forward 11 years and my kids are in their early 20’s and I’m happily remarried for 7 years.
Keep pushing forward and go to Wales 🏴! Eff the haters, it doesn’t matter! Go see your man, cheers🥂
@@daneshas1468 Agreed! She has a right to do what SHE feels is right for her.
You’re definitely not a failure. You didn’t really play a role in what happened. There’s nothing that you could have done to change situation. I hope you will find absolute peace with this.
You are an inspiration Ash. You've done so well for yourself. I'm so sorry what you had to.go through. I was so shocked when I read the news and I think you've gone through this with such dignity xx
Ashley, you have come so far and are doing so well at starting over. You are so sweet for wanting to share your experiences in hopes of encouraging others. As for your divorce, you were so gracious, extremely patient and more understanding than most people would have been considering the impossible situation you had thrust upon you. It is no surprise that you suffer a bit of ptsd from time to time. I am so glad you had your faith, your parents and so many other people who love you and were able to help you make it through your healing. It is good to be cautious and yet also good that you are willing to try again to find love. I will be hoping and praying that you find your happy ever after. God bless you!
first of all, I absolutely understand you! everything you said (even though I never experienced something like that)!
ANNND you are such a genuine, kind and beautiful woman, I'm enchanted with how you're all over the place and contagious, I wish you all the love in the world.
no shame at all, you should be proud of your strength 💛
Ash you don't need to feel guilty about what happened with your ex. I love your total honesty about your life. It's lovely to see you smile again & content with your life. Wishing you all the best for your future happiness & take care. x
Thankyou for being so open. Don't ever change who you are. 💐🐶
Good questions and answers. Your openness is refreshing. Keep working at getting over the negative feelings. 🧡
You are a lovely person Ash. I was watching your channel for years and it became a regular fix for me- even the intro music!! I am sure you will build your new channel into something just as good if not better.
Take care.
Ash,
This was in my opinion, the best vlog you have done thus far on your channel so pure, open & honest. It reminded me of Tropical storm Ashley in Croatia & Real people in Brussels when u allowed viewers to see how your heart truly beats. You have come a very long way from that eventful life changing moment December 2017 while in Copenhagen. Up to that point you had 11 wonderful years with someone
you loved so it did work. NO longer beat yourself up over change. that was just part of your journey, chapters in your life novel, your book is still being written. U have taken the time to reevaluate your life, see what that looks like, discover new parts of Ashley like living alone for the very first time, falling in love with someone new and having your very own channel on TH-cam. Could u have even imagined that some 5 years ago?. Yes we make plans(Marriage/The Wayaway) but God has other plans. What made me proud was u sticking to your values which your amazing Parents taught you. It was that solid foundation which you have rebuilt upon. I hope that we have encouraged you to get out there and travel has been replaced by, I hope that I have encouraged you to be brave.
THANKS FOR SHARING
As time passes, you will feel even more secure in your situation. I would caution against remarrying so soon. Finding yourself is more important than finding another person to please. I married twice, and divorced in less than 5 years. I have a daughter who is now age 55. I like being independent, and find joy in my daughter, her family, and my hobbies.
You're an amazing person Ash! You've definitely made the best out of a very sad situation - you should never feel shame or embarrassment, you should be so proud of the incredibly strong and courageous person you are! 🤗☀️
Hey Ash, good to see you again and I hope you're having a good time!
It's so sad that nobody have been part of your life but hopefully you'll find one someday who love you so much. ❤ Love you! ❤
Ash, you didn’t fail. You didn’t do anything. You are strong and amazing. Love yourself! You have something incredible now! Live for love.
I'm glad in many you are doing better. Your smile and laughter is the best part of the day.
Your a very special person Ash . You have come through all this with dignity and a possitive attitude.I wish you All good things ahead now for your future ❤❤❤❤
Life is ups and downs. I am so glad you are finding hope and all is so much better today than last year. You are beautiful in all ways, love yourself first, all else will follow.
Ash I have followed you for years and am glad to see you whole again. I am sure that you will get to your planned path at the right time. The past is part of you and your future will be the richer for having been through your experiences.
It's amazing! I've been divorced for 6 months and can relay to everything that you say )))
You're doing well, girl
Sharing your life, sharing your thoughts, sharing your emotions to a most unknowm community/audience.
My big respect for you and your open mind, concerning this matter 👍.
And as always, best wishes from Germany 🙋♂️.
Incredibly insightful and honest. Thank you for sharing - this is so relatable
Ash, you know my screen name, you know I've followed you two forever. I have nothing but love for each of you. Nobody can begin to grasp what you two have gone through...least of all we Internet folk! I appreciate your sharing on a tough, tough experience.
I wish you and Alexis happiness. Thank you both for bringing me happiness.
🤗
@@alexisevanger7458 I hope you are ok, Alexis. You just disappeared from Instagram. ❤️
@@marieh442 Yeah I’m having fun offline. Thanks for thinking of me!
@@alexisevanger7458 I really hope that someday you will start making your own videos. Best wishes. :)
Just like people can watch your travel videos for advice and tips on what to do in different countries. They can watch this and your other personal ones to see what happened to you and how you handled it. Great video 😍
So proud of you for coming out with your story! I'm sure many people can take something from your story and thank you so much again for your work.
Thank you!! 😘😘😗
Keep it up dear!! For me it’s been 2 years. It takes time... hugs and love from Lithuania!❤️🌷
Aushra thank you. I wish all the very best for you!
Thank you Soooooo VERY much for sharing your journey with us Ash! You are awesome and your positivity shines no matter what happens to you and that is worth more than gold! That new guy better know how very special you are!!! ❤❤❤
There are so many people out there that have gone through this and I think this is a brilliant idea sharing it to help others as well as the previous "way fam" members who still love you and still want to watch what you are doing in life and be sure you are happy and living life to the fullest as always 😁
Thank you for being so strong and such an amazing influence for others! You rawk! Keep on moving girl and just remember to be whole by yourself without someone else as relying on a partner for that is not safe, just rely on God and I think you have learned to be okay by yourself now before entering another relationship ;)
I love how open and honest you are, God bless you
hi ash, i was your subsciber of your previous channel...i was lost of your trace since the last channel. but now i know this channel.
i think you are great and strong enough....keep up your spirit high, looking forward for yoy to come to Indonesia again.
Always love to see your videos. You always smile which I like most, even though you gone thorough a lot of things in the past. Time changes everything. Really good see you are happy and moved on. One day you will be travelling again. Have a great life.
Hi Ashley, hope all is well. Look forward to seeing more videos soon. You always have such an uplifting vibe. Ignore all the negativity.
Thank you for your openness and honesty, I know that can't have been easy. God bless you, you have such a promising and exciting future. Thank you for all that you do.
You have a very healthy attitude about your situation, I wish i could see things the way that you do . All the best wishes for your future happiness!
Ashley you had the rug pulled out from under you. You have matured over the years. You should never be embarrassed. You did nothing wrong. You were loving and supportive. I don't want to be the rain cloud on your happiness but please take this new budding relationship slowly.
You're amazing. I first found you on TH-cam back in 2016. Much love!
Glad to see you in a far better place. P.S - The UK in the Spring will be great too with reasonably warm rain of course :)
So happy for you and the place you're at right now. I also married very young and divorced after three years. I realized I didn't want to spend the rest of my life with that person. It was the best decision I've ever made. It made me into who I am today. No regrets. Keep moving forward! 😘
It’s the journey of life, I’ve been fortunate, others haven’t, my childhood was ridiculous. Just remember you had good times as well as the shitty times. You’re doing okay!
Wishing you all the best for your new future Ash. x
Ash am going through the same at the minute am from Washington UK keep your chin up and keep your head held high much love Neil
I'm excited to see you as a flight attendant after this pandemic!
Hello Ashley,
good afternoon from Vienna
🥐🍷🥂🍰🎻🎭🎡🎠🇵🇪
A big thanks to you and a lot of respect for you talking so honest and nice about a very difficult topic.
After all the videos i saw with and about you i can definitely see that you are a very positive person and that you will go up and find the right person for you.
You definitely deserve a wonderful life after all the things that happened to you. It's really good that you have such a wonderful careful family with you.
It's really a hard situation that we all have to deal with, hopefully at the beginning of the next year everything is getting more and more back to normal and we can travel again. That's something i definitely miss a lot, it's part of my life and I will do it a lot more.
We all can see how fast something can go wrong in different ways, i appreciate to live and i learnt that i like to use my life a lot more for the things I really like to do and enjoy it a lot more.
Seeing you doing so well is a big motivation for me as well, you laughing and smiling get's my always, it's so wonderfully contagious and heartwarming.
I guess a lot of people feeling a lot better watching your lovely videos.
I'm glad that i found your channel and i appreciate you and all the nice work you are doing.
Keep your lovely attitude to life, your friendliness, passion, your special charisma and charm.
It's so nice to know you, i like to see more.
Have a nice Sunday and a good time 😊👍
Bless you Ash, time is a good healer
Just stumbling across this video after your Cardiff City Tour video found its way onto my recommended videos list. Really interesting hearing your answers. I got divorced roughly a year ago but my ex-wife and I had separated 3 years ago when she made the decision that she didn't want to be in the marriage any more. I can relate to a lot of what you say even though our circumstances were quite different but essentially very similar.
You've handled it all very well and should be very proud. There is no shame or guilt in your divorce. Divorce is certainly a grey issue and not as black and white as some make out. It sounds like you feel the same as I do now where as painful and unwanted as the whole process was we've definitely come out of it in a better place. I also now look back on my marriage with a focus on the happy times which were plentiful rather than the heart breaking end to it.
Really pleased to see things have worked out for you now and you've seen the sense to move to Wales! You'll love it here!
You should never be embarrassed Ashley! This was a shock to you! Glad you are coming out of it as well as you have, you seem so happy and i am happy for you!! I really hope and pray your new relationship is wonderful and you go thru things smoothly, once you meet. Long distance on line relationship can we terrific. I met my hubs online in a chat room twenty something years ago, January we have been married 21 yrs and we have a 20 yr old son. All the best for you Ash!!!
I met my husband online gaming. We were 5000 miles apart and fell in love and are still together and happy. 🤗
Best quote ever "I don't have room in my heart for that". That is exactly what God wants. Kudos to you for moving on with such a great attitude.
What a lovely, brave Lady you are Ash? All the very best for your future. I don't do prayers but I do do Love and Caring, both I send to you!. Be Happy Ash! x
Ash, you’re attractive, intelligent and very, very charming with the cutest smile! It’s only a matter of time before someone special will enter your life and adore you. Granted, your marriage didn’t work out for circumstances beyond your control but you have so much going for you that will bring someone into your life and change your world forever. Focus on doing the things that bring joy into your life, whether it’s travel or decorating your home or spending time with friends & family and leave the past behind.
In many ways, dwelling on what caused you heartache and pain is a lot like dragging an anchor when you’re trying to set sail because it’s tough to move forward if you’re tied up with your past. Keep your bearings in a different direction and enjoy the ride! Your fans have your back and wish you the best!
You are such a brave lady. Hopefully it won’t be to long before you can travel Ashley. The vaccination programme in the UK seems to be going on at a great pace. I had my first vaccination two weeks ago, a lot earlier than I’d hoped for.
Hi Ash. I got divorced years ago. I met my second wife and we have been married for 25 years now. Don’t worry life goes on.
People say time can be a big healer. Hope the future is full of love and joy.
Thanks for sharing your personal story, very inspiring, shows people how there is life after divorce and how you are still excited for the future, and zest for life and love and look forward to your travel content in the future....Yes timing ⏱ ....
You are a legend Ash ❤️❤️
so unreal that you got divorced-I could never see that one coming-it SHOCKED me when i found out today
I got divorced many years ago and it really was the most difficult, challenging time of my life. Now, I am so happy and I love how strong I am. It has been such a joy to see you emerge from a very dark time in your life the way that you have. You possess so many great qualities: honesty, wisdom, self-reflection, gratefulness, the ability to let go of resentment and anger. There is no way you're not going to have a fabulous life, no matter what hurdles you may come across. Oh, by the way, I have three young-adult daughters, and I sometimes put Winging It videos on when they're around because I think you are such an admirable young woman.
It's sad to see you got hurt. You are a very kind person and probably one of the kindest i have seen. There are just too many horrible people out there and it is kind of refreshing to see there are still kind people out there. I know this will probably never happen but i hope we meet one day in life (not in a creepy way lol).
Ashley I can totally understand what you say about being sad about your divorce and the years ( lost ) that were your marriage, Yes you had many great experiences during your marriage and also a friend but it didn't last ... I get what you mean. I was lucky enough that I had children with my ex as I didn't get married again until I was 40.
You are an amazing lady. Thank you for continuing to share your story and journey. Lots of prayers for you and your future. Maybe someday you can write a book to encourage Christian women on having faith through a difficult life situation
I find it hard not to be angry in your situation. You are way more mature than I’am
Good to see you being so positive…..older and wiser. The pandemic came along at a period of time when you needed space in your life to come to terms with the breakup. An opportunity to recover. Your family was there to pick you up and care for you. Just like a bereavement, these were the things you needed. Now your spirit can recover. Be brave and take advantage of the joys that await you.
Your story definitely resonates with me, I married for the first time at age 20 and with the intention of staying married forever. I probably stayed too long in a toxic relationship because I refused to give up on our marriage. After 11 years it all fell apart. Divorced saddened me but I know I had tried my best to make it work. I actually met my second husband-to-be quite quickly, but we were only friends for a couple of years as we lived a couple of hours apart, but this gave us time to grow a friendship before getting involved. But when we did get together we then moved very quickly, getting married and having two beautiful children. We've now been married almost 25 years, we welcomed our first grandchild last year and I retired from work. So my life didn't turn out quite how I expected and I still feel very sad about my first marriage experience but I know I'm in the right place with the right person now.
Ash, please carry on the way you are, you've got this 👍
Dear Ashly once true love comes to your life, your divorce and all sadness that you had in the marriage and after divorce will become like bad dreams and you won't think about those sad moments anymore. I hope and pray that your better half comes to your life soon. Also never loose your passion for traveling.
Your not the only one . I was married 15 years and made so many changes to myself for my ex that I realised he was the one who should have considered who he was. I evolved beyond him and needed to do what was best for me. He wasn't prepared to look at himself, so we divorced. I would never have changed and grown to understand myself as I do now if I hadn't been pressured into someone else's vision. But I found myself and found that the only thing that markers is being the best yourself you can be and good honest decent person x
Only thing that matters
Wishing you health, wealth and happiness:)
A relationship, and in particular marriage, is based on trust and security. An environment in which you can be completely yourself, be respected, appreciated and free. If one of those aspects is no longer there, and it cannot be repaired. A good relationship is actually no longer possible. It can of course have various causes. But a relationship that ends comes into a mourning phase. After all, you lose a loved one. This is often accompanied by frustration and anger, including towards yourself. The important conclusion is that it did not work. However, you do possess the skills of loving and falling in love, which you will never lose. You just have to find the moment to use them properly again. The annoying thing is that you are going to compare with a new partner, a big mistake. He or she is never the same, and normally your partner selection was fine. So trust yourself, learn from your own "mistakes". Look at the fun things about your new partner. Take it easy. Be yourself, discover yourself. The answer to success lies in you, you make choices. You can of course live your life freely, but that also has consequences.
Above all, enjoy life. If you have children with a partner, realize that it will always make you a parent. Kind regards.
good on yer, be happy! 4 years for me
Thanks for the life update.
Ash I suppose in some cases both people can have some responsibility - but knowing your situation - it’s 100% impossible for you to have any blame for the divorce.
Hy ash,hope your ok.ive followed your channel for some time now and I could watch your videos all day.you are a stunning,beautiful young women,I'd give my arm to be married to you.pleasekeep your uploads coming,you inspire me so much.love,James.uk.x
In all end is new start when i see your video and your smile give me positive energy welcome to you in morocco again 🤙😍😍
its okay, your incredible you will do amazing, do vlogs and your life in general doesnt have to be travel vlog...
I got divorced after 40 years and it was the best thing for me. You can change yourself but no one else. There’s no shame in leaving a marriage that was never gonna be right and GOD doesn’t want that for us. Took me long time to understand that but I finally did. GOD has a plan for you and what we go through is either gonna make us or break us. Your strong and a joy. Stay true to who you are.
I'm sure this video has helped you on your journey through life, talking about it, good luck for the future.
Let them go away
Cause they are way away
Good days are not far away
Have a great life all the way 💕💕
Love you till my breath go away 😘😘
So thankful you have good support and the foundation of faith. It makes things so much more bearable. Praying for your continued journey, Jesus and you have got this!
Love your videos. There's no shame in divorce. I was divorced many years ago. I met my husband of 46 years 6 months after my divorce. We were married 8 months later! We have 2 children and 4 grandchildren now. Trust your heart and instincts!
I used my husband's account. This is CIndy J onson!
You are such a beautiful woman with a pure heart, and I could notice that you were the crush of many guys that were following Way away through all of these years. But God is going to give you the right partner 🥰💕
just saying hi :) . I think the older you get you do appreciate life more. You understand its cruelty and get along with its nonsense. It's not all about highs and lows, it's more about enjoying the time spent in the middle.
I used to work in the court years ago as an interpreter, and I have heard some really awful stories. Many people got married to the wrong person.
There are things that I could say from my own perspective of what happened, but they are third party opinions and--ultimately--it's none of my business to have an opinion on your life. So, I just want to say that your feelings, all of the feelings, are valid. I understand the guilt and shame, and sadness; whether we *should* feel those things is irrelevant, because those feelings exist. It's okay. You're okay. Jesus took the wheel. Thank God for your family, friends, and your faith. I'm so happy to see you where you are today! You are SO amazing! Thank you for sharing with us. I wish you all the best. God bless ❤️
I wish you both happiness
You are such a sweet and beautiful girl 😍. I always thought that he was very lucky guy being married to you when you were couple. That was strange twist. ❤️
Don’t worry I’m 37 and never been married, engaged, nothing. Forever alone, don’t even know how to have a relationship 🤷🏻♂️
awwww can I be a friend
You are so young Sean, don't give up on the idea of a relationship. I am quite a bit older than you and believe me, 37 is indeed young and you have plenty of time.
@@Diana-lo6cx wow nice motivation
Don't feel bad Sean I'm 40 and feel the same,only been in one real relationship.
Im 50y old have not find The right woman yeath but i can survive on my own.
The world is full of new beginnings. The last video I saw was you on a huge ship called Symphony. The world has changed since then and how much everyone took for granted the freedom to be able to meet in huge crowds in the middle of a huge ship and get a drink from a robot bartender giving little concern about whom had filled the drinks or who last sat on a deck chair... or noticing someone have a regular cough...and as you said on your video, keep moving forward... well, Odyssey is currently on sea trials, hopefully cruising will resume and should see your video on Odyssey at launch or sometime? I think in life, it is fair not to let others make you live your life for them so to fit their spheres of influence.
Are you still on social media? Haven't seen any posts as of recently. Hope you're okay and family/friends are okay.
God’s plan is always better than ours. Not that He wants us to experience heartache but I think there are things we learn from each experience in how we can relate to others or things we will discover about ourselves before we move forward. I think this is true for both you and your ex. Thanks for being honest, Ash. God bless you.
Amen ❤️
Missed your videos, keep it up, visit Egypt ;)
Hey Ash
Sorry you feel ashamed about your divorce. I'm not sure you should. It was obviously a very difficult situation. You need to find your happy! Maybe I'm missing things as someone that doesn't follow any faith.
Keep strong and walking upwards and onwards!
I am sure you are correct in thinking that her faith is what makes her divorce appear to cause her a noticeable amount of sadness. I am also a Christian and carried a great deal of guilt when I divorced because it quite simply goes against everything we are taught from the Bible. Marriage is intended to be forever. Unfortunately, there are circumstances beyond our control sometimes when the other person does not end up holding marriage by the same standard. Not much you can do about it then but it still makes you feel like you have failed and a bit ashamed to have not lived up to the promise you made to God.
life with you so Amazing because you open mind and modest simple person , and pretty honest model kind wish i can find 1 as you .
The truth is, people grow and change. Sometimes it means growing apart. And despite the pain, people mostly end up who and where they need to be, with whom too....
I am glad to see you managed to get through this year with wisdom, hope and love. Well done Ash
God bless your heart Ash you deserve all the happiness in the world and most especially Our Lord Jesus Christ loves you more than we will ever know and with that you will be ok no matter what comes your way God bless my dear
Hi Ash hope you are enjoying Wales
Good choices should be celebrated; and a divorce is just a neutral thing, and not a negative or positive in it self.
Divorce is amazing, I gained my freedom
Also, if you want to be off of it, that's cool. Just hope everything is good.
You are so adorable. Praying God blesses you with the best marriage imaginable because you deserve it!
You are beautiful cute and powerful women. Life is contued and the future is more better. Love from Morroco ❤
Don't rush into anything too soon. Beware of men who are too nice and understanding. I had some challenges with a man in Australia. Beware of when love fades and they grow tired of you. What helped me is to focus on something else and surrender to God's will. In your case, there is nothing to go back to with your ex. Go forward but remember that people and life are unpredictable.
Agree with you
Love you, Ashley. So glad to see you’re well and in a new relationship. Would love to catch up soon, if you can!
I watch your travel videos with your ex husband i like Them alot and I like your own you do now Ash like your soul! 😀👍❤️
Hey Ashley, hope everything is okay!
Things are good.:) thanks for asking!