3 UPDATES: When I Arrived At My Sister's Engagement Party, She Stopped Me At The Entrance & Pointed
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- 3 UPDATES: When I Arrived At My Sister's Engagement Party, She Stopped Me At The Entrance & Pointed Me To The Back & Ordered Me To Start Serving Drinks To The Guests...While Giving Drinks To Her Fiancé, I Slipped Him A Note & The Chaos Begins
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I (27F) have an older sister named Sheila who I absolutely despise. She is the reason why I am even on Reddit today to ask if what I have decided is right or wrong.
You see, Sheila is the eldest in my family. She was not a planned baby and our parents had her when they were still in college. As a result, she had to spend the first two years more around our grandparents who were helping our parents take care of her. Our parents did visit her as much as they could while still working hard to graduate. When they finally graduated, our parents decided to get married to each other and this is when Sheila started to live with them.
Whoever asked OP to confess to her problematic sister are obviously looking for more drama. Who would want to invite more craziness into their life?
Parents who spoil their kids are turning them into the monsters they turn into.
I wouldn’t be helping her plan her wedding because I would have already told her boyfriend that she’s a big liar so there wouldn’t be a wedding.
WTH is wrong with that entire family? Dang
I think she did the right thing to keep her mouth shut. Her sister is unhinged and could possibly physically hurt her to the point of her being unalived in a fit of rage or verbally bullying her. Words hurt worse because you remember them and hear them in your head like a broken record.
Glad OP dad held the older child accountable or she’d be even more horrible.
NTA. Your only response should be a public "Dear sis, as a Berkeley graduate, you should remember how intense and stressful the last year of college can be and how much work it takes to do well. Thank you for trusting me to want me to organize your wedding and thank you for understanding why I simply can't!' Good for you for telling him the truth (can you imagine what hell he'd go through marrying her and having her lord it over him, a 'mere high school graduate?') No more truth to tell anyone. You helped him dodge a big bullet. And sorry it took so long for you to realize how many toxic people there are, and to feel that you are not alone and fell validated!
Mother was an enabler.
This is the mom's fault. All of it. She coddled the witch, she would excuse all of the horrible things her oldest did. She was the one who allowed all the bullying and harassment to continue for so long.
ETA:
Sheila had the gall to ask the sister to plan the wedding/reception? If I were OP, I would have had the crap she pulled lined up to serve to her guests.
Also, OP should have reported to the sister's company about the forging of her degree and that they needed to do a better check.
At least people at work found out at that party.
The older sister was very stupid to think that it’s easy to get a scholarship and believe her parents will take care of her the rest of her life. And the mom’s coddling is why she is the person she is today.
OP should take safety measures now. Your sister may seek revenge.
The way OP’s sister treated her growing up would have been a really good way to get her backside warmed up in our family. Behavior like this or bullying of any kind was not tolerated.
Sheila is a real piece of work! I don't understand how Sheila was able to fool her employers and friends in this age of computers and the Internet. Didn't anyone do a background check?
ETA: OP should watch her back! Sheila is a vindictive person and she'll want revenge.
The comments that OP said had been directed at her really got to me. Reddit can be a very judgmental and toxic place.
OPs sister sucks and the mother didn’t do enough to stop the bullying. Shelia is a jealous individual who has no self respect.
The mother is the problem and coddled Sheila
The parents ATA in this story. It was obvious that the older sister was struggling and needed therapy as a child, but the parents did absolutely nothing.
They are all jerks. They all need therapy. No one knows how to set boundaries or say no. This was a disgusting tale of vengeance Not one person in this story is a good person..
@court529 I second that! Especially the mom. They knew that one of their children was being abused by another of their children, and instead of dealing with the abuse and getting Sheila the help she so desperately needed, they wanted OP to rugsweep the entire thing. So sad 😭 for both children, honestly.
@@nancyoneill-buck6033 The fiance seemed cool. And the grandparents.
@@nancyoneill-buck6033 and what was wrong with op telling the truth. You don't sound like a good person if you are against that
@@Allmightyimortal this
😊OP’s main problem is College…Not the Bully of a sister …. NOT OP’s problem whatsoever ‼️‼️‼️
Why didn’t you BLOCK her ??? You have your studies, Not Her flippin wedding…she wants it planned…she can do it ‼️‼️
Shiela has a fair bit of blame here, but this really falls on the parents for failing both of them when they were young. They should of got elder sister intp therapy not long after op was born, or at least tried fo parent her behavior instead of excusing it like that.
People who are telling op to expose she did it are setting her up for more pain and suffering from their sister. op doesn’t need to say shit or let her sister know if anything they should stay quiet and distance themselves
Jack says thank you for the warning.
It will continually surprise me at all the people who expect others to lie pointlessly for them. Keep your own nonsense to yourself and then there won't be a worry that your deceits might get out. Better still, don't be intentionally deceitful and save yourselves the headache entirely.
My brother had to live with our grandparents for the first few years of his live. When my parents married he was so excited to have a Dad. Then I was born and naturally my parents had to now divide their attention. I could understand if my brother were jealous of me. But he never was violent towards me, not even when he was a wild teenager. Of course we would argue with each other but nothing more than the usual sibling differences.
OP‘s parents should have never let this going on so long. It’s got to be awful to be bullied in your own home.
Shiela is a walking red flag in 1 hand, a red stop sign in the other. In a short red dress that says: run, save yourself
On the front and back.
My elder one is the golden child 😢 He got everything while I left with nothing.
And how is this related to the story?
Just I shared my life in 2 lines 🥲 I got triggered of something in this video.
@@hobisshine Ok, np 🥰
Nah, do people still remember 'em days they were crawling ?
I dont get why people would hate on OP. Her sister is atrocious
Because she could have stopped being a doormat from the beginning. She could have gone no contact with her. She hated her sister but instead of being honest she did something else . The sniveling coward devised a plan to out her past deeds at her engagement party without her sister ever knowing it was her. She was actually proud of this . What a snake
@@nancyoneill-buck6033well. Takes one thing know one. Nothing more snake like than a self righteous victim blamer
@nancyoneill-buck6033. OP is great. She saved that poor man's life from her garbage narcissistic "sister".
Sheila sounds like she had severe abandonment issues and jealousy - neither were ever addressed.
Opie’s parents should I did a lot more and not let things go. They are partly to blame.
They are Totally to Blame…PERIOD ‼️ Momma was just Stupid letting her be the Bully from the get-go ‼️‼️
Morning, a great story for my first coffee of the day
Glad you enjoyed it!
Honestly i would say the parents are at fault and should have gotten Sheila help when she was younger,
However from what i heard, i have a suspicions that if op's dad would even suggest some form of therapy op's mom wouldn't have allowed it and possibly even ague over it, especially with her behavior during the ball incident,
Seriously I'm glad op told jack the truth, and he & any future children they might have had won't be stuck with Sheila at all,
Sheila attack op emotional and especially physical to the point of actually hurting op causing her to bleed, kids or not that was/is not acceptable at all,
Which was bad enough she then drunk driver when she was older, which luckily nobody got hurt or worse,
and yet still she behave horrible to op, forged documents, possibly got a job that could have went to someone else with said forged documents,
and most of all she lied to jack for long time and was planning to marry him while still lying to him,
So on one hand op shouldn't have let Sheila back into her life especially when she was still horrible, but on the other op saved jack from a terrible person like Sheila, which is definitely a win for jack.
The way I see it is that those toxic abusers wave red flags to warn others against them
"I arrived at my sister's engagement party". AFTER reading the first 2 minutes of the saga, OP def'ly makes butter knives look sharp. She is a doormat, an invertebrate and a jelly fish.
So you know she hates you. But you keep her in your life. So your a doormate & your ok with it.
I dubbed the story as fiction when OP actually gave her money expecting a different outcome.
My mom favored my sister, my mom always stuck up for my sister…
11:21 they were always fair
WHAT????
I caught that too.
Commenters on Reddit: you should tell your sister.
Op: No thinks I choose life.
A college degree isn't really that important to the vast majority of jobs, but if someone is willing to lie about it, what else will they lie about?
The Classic" i don't want drama, even though i caused it".
Many siblings (with one who is unhinged like the older sister) have said sibling unalived when the abused one finally "snaps" when NEITHER parent ever protected them.
7:13 agreed to her demands…? Sorry but children don’t get to demand anything from their parents
This sounds fakish as the sister is apparently able to do her job without the degree she claimed to have. If true, then it goes to show that I think most college degrees are a waste of time and money.
It all depends on the job she was doing and YES, it's a fact that some of these jobs can be done w/o a degree and maybe even better than some ppl with a degree
All these stories - it's like no one has read a book or have friends… LOL LOL LOL
I'd like to hear shielas side of things tbh, if op really was a golden child then it seems likely her older sister might be resentful and try to bully her, although obviously that's wrong too.
Good morning, R Girl and other fans! Let's get to it!
Good morning!
Op should have went no contact with her sister and if op would’ve did this she wouldn’t have been in this situation in the first place er
I'm one of the lucky ones it seems. My parents were always fair with me and my younger sibling. No preference ever shown. Me and my sibling are close and we always have each others backs and call each other out when we're being a douche canoe 😂
ETA my parents tried for years to have me and my sibling. A decade for me and 16 years for my sibling. They lost a lot of babies before me and between me and my sibling.
Sheila is a rotten egg...She did All her bullying with your mothers permission...I think You need to protect yourself from your narcissistic sister....
Sheila is horrible talk about taking jealousy way too far
Wow I don't know, there's always two sides to a story.
True but that doesn't mean it changes anything
The mother failed spectacularly. Should've realize gentle parenting won't work for every kids out there. If you have erratic, stubborn with violent streaks type of kid, soft parenting is just an enabler method. And if you truly love your kid, they need to be able to discern right and wrong, you haven't got forever and ever to stay beside and correct them. They gotta find their place in society as an adult, and society won't be as forgiving to misbehaving adults. Tough love is a necessity.
I’m confused how long has the younger sister been going to college. The start says she’s 27 so if she started university right after high school she’s been in uni for 9 years and hasn’t graduated yet.
I agree that her sister is the worst, but I think what op did to expose her sister at the engagement party was also very wrong, she could of done it privately.
Sister needs to hire a wedding planner or get her pacifier mother to do it
OP is AH to herself giving someone who can't stand you, your entire bank balance
OP was not the golden child. Opie simply worked hard and put an effort to accomplish things and Sheila sat on her butt and expected everything to be handed to her. Yes, the parents should have gotten her counseling because I'm sure she had abandonment issues due to the first 3 years of her life and that should have been addressed. Still that's not an excuse for how she treated op.
Sister has abadonment issues. She needs therapy
You should stay out of the entire wedding debacle. If you go along with it, you would be seen as a coconspirator in all her deceptions and lies. You should either stay no contact, or tell him the truth. If it was me, I would stay no contact and send him a not anonymously telling him to run a background check on her.
What the heck is this reddit story? The more I listen, it got me thinking that everyone in this reddit story is an AH. Shelia should've gone to therapy a long time ago as she could been going through something that isn't jealously. The mother shouldn't coddle Shelia just because she is the oldest. Gentle parenting isn't the correct way to go just in my opinion.
Also, how does someone fabricated a college degree? Like how does that even work?
That's weird, but no one checks backgrounds. I'm so sure there are plenty of people who lie on their resumes.
NO NO NO
This is why I think gentle parenting is a crock of ish. because most parents who use gentle parenting do not use it properly and they allow their children to become evil little arseholes. and they allow their children to walk all over them and their siblings and they allow their children to become disrespectful to everyone around them if they use it properly their children would turn out to be decent human beings because even in gentle parenting you still discipline it's just not corporal punishment. something else I despise is when there is one parent who always goes behind the other parents back and undoes any discipline that that parent does, that's the kind of parent that is the biggest failure.
Wow! It's amazing how american can't do hard parenting. Don't solve their problem but give them advice and let them solve their own obstacles. Don't protect them from anyharm, but educate them about every harm that will came their way at their age, over come any obstacle your kids have together and grow together. And start from as young as elementary age, so your kids won't get their lesson from life itself and be humbled by them.
It really has gotten ridiculous. It's no wonder most people now are so mentally and emotionally fragile. No boundaries or discipline. Then they're turned loose on the world with no idea how to survive or cope.
Why are you lumping Americans together, what is your country? You have Sheilas and OPs there too.
OP1: If you behave like a doormath dont complain if people uses you a doormath
You look very pretty today 😊
Thank you so much!!!!
Op why did you go?
No way she has memories of being pushed away when she tried crawling towards her
Are you aware of the other site using your content called revenge show
Am I the only one who says the outro outloud every time?
OP, you are not the AH to refuse to do a job you never wanted to do for a person who has done nothing but bully you and blame you for her shortcomings your whole life. Being her wedding planner means that she will point at you and blame you for anything that goes wrong. Nope out of that shit because she hates you and you know it. So do your parents so they are sort of AHs by expecting you to interact with her. And OP, she doesn't love you or respect you or she would find a place for you within her wedding party instead of asking you to do grunt work she would have to pay people good money to do. Your sister is nothing but trouble.
As far as all of the lies she told to her BF, you know of course that somehow, somewhere she is going to get found out. I would advise you not to be the one who tell him unless you can be sure of doing it without being found out by him or anyone else. Hell, even if he found out because she was talking in her sleep, or because the company they work for contacted Berkley to check something and found out she never attended, she will blame that on you too. Your sister is dangerous and the idea of her physically hurting you as a child proves it. You dad isn't terrible, but your mother is because you sister was dangerous as a child, but they never took action to get her help or protect you. And I doubt that your sister has gotten less danerous with time. You are far past the point of going NO CONTACT with your sister, and your parents can either except that your life has no room for your sister and her craziness or they will be cut out too.
Please, please, please OP see your sister for the danger she is to you and your life. Never, ever let her know your home address. Never ever let her know where you work or meet your significant other or introduce your kids to her. She is psycho level crazy and you are a fool for trying to stay in touch with her.
The dad failed as a man, husband and father. He saw the very clear problem with his wife and daughters and did nothing. He allowed one daughter to become a psychopath and continually hurt the other daughter. He allowed his wife to coddle the hurtful one without putting his foot down. Weakling. Then let the monster loose on society to be everyone's problem.
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Yes The sister is a piece of work but all you had to do is tell her no. You didn't have to out her secretly.At her engagement party. What is this anyway is it what used to be called a wedding shower or is it another layer of b.s for wedding. That you did it secretly is pretty slimy. Really quite vindictive. If you don't want to do something just say no. If you want to do something vindictive don't be a coward fess up.. yea I ruined her life lol but she'll never know right. Isn't that great?
Found the sister
I agree. She should have outed Sheila when they met Jack and her lying about college was revealed. OP claims she never lied but she is lying through omission. OP is a bit like Sheila herself.
While Shelia is wrong the fact remains that OP wrecked her sister life. She now has no man, no job and no friends. It’s easy to say that Shelia caused it it doesn’t change the fact that OP’s sister was finally in a good space and now that it’s gone. What’s the sister suppose to do now?
Treating her sister like a slave is being in a good place"?
Op is a busy body, should have minded her own business