"Mary-Jo thought that when Joey gave their house to his drug dealer, this was the lowest part in her life... " Another spot-on, sardonically laid zinger by ya, Doc 👏🤣
I’m glad that they decided to prosecute Joey Buttafuoco. 4 months wasn’t long enough for his part in this violent crime. I’m glad that Mary Joe moved on and was even able to forgive Amy. Joey clearly didn’t deserve a wife like that who was so devoted to him
I remember when The Buttofuecos were on a talk show. Mary Jo was adamant that her husband was innocent. Someone in the audience said, famously, ‘if it looks like a snake and talks like a snake, then it’s a snake.’
A lot of women do that, in the early stages of being cheated on. She eventually learned the truth about him and moved on. At least she had peace of mind for the last few years of her life.
Mary Jo looks amazing btw she found someone nice after divorcing Joey but is widowed now. She paints and hangs out at the beach with her kids and grandkids. She avoids Joey and seems at 🕊️✌️ peace
I was in high school and the same age as Amy when the incident happened. As a teen I found the most unbelievable part of this story that a teen my age would find an old, fat, working class guy attractive. 😂 I was such a horrible 16 year old.
It had to have been the grooming. At first, she thought he was fat. He probably had a decent sense of humor, so she enjoyed his company when he took her on errands. He bought her things that would have been out of reach for a teenage romance, so he became attractive to her. I totally understand it. But what in all that made you a horrible 16 year old? 🤣
My heart goes out to Mary Jo! Two very self centered and self indulging people scared her life forever! Incredible analysis and final thoughts, Dr. Grande! ♡♡
I lived in Baldwin and my family knew the Buttafuocos well. My car was totaled and in their shop just before all this went down. When I met my mother-in-law, she told me she taught art at the Merrick middle school Amy attended and Amy was in her class. She described Amy as, “a sweet girl with no motivation and lacking a sense of self.” The Buttofuocos were a lovely family, I didn’t know Mary Jo but I knew Joey’s brother and father, the latter died from all the aggravation from this ordeal. The Joey I knew was a very funny and caring person. He truly cared about his customers. BTW he got a relatively cushy stay when he was in jail!
Baldwin, NY!!! Woohooooo, my hometown gets mentioned by Dr. Grande. I was a pre-teen when this happened and I vividly recall the mechanic shop having a huge "Welcome back, Joe" banner strewn on it when Joey got out of prison. I had seen Amy in passing a year or so before this all happened. She wasn't anybody at the time, so she was just a random person walking down my block and saying "hi" occasionally as a bunch of us kids played in the front yard. That's my claim to fame in this case, haha.
It always amazed me that the business Joey ran, an auto body shop, are usually experts at ripping people off and generally slimy business practices. However, Joey's shop had a fantastic local reputation of being honest and fair with their customers as well as doing outstanding work.
I remember sitting through one those dreadful Made-For-TV movies about this case back in the day! And also when Joey embarrassed himself on some daytime talkshow.
Drew Barrymore was in one, Alyssa Milano was in another one, and the third girl, I don’t know her name, but she looked the most like the real Amy Fisher.
Joey Buttafuoco certainly groomed the wrong person. I gotta say i was a kid when this happened and in the old days no one even would have thought of the word "grooming." We were all hating on Amy and disgusted with Joey. Poor Mary Jo.
Grooming When a sexual or other kind of predator sets the stage for abusing another, such as a child or other person (as in the case of sex and theory human trafficking). Trust: May give toys and/or other gifts and favors to the intended victim to gain trust. Alienation: Settings the stage for the intended victim to become alienated from their primary caregivers/circles or family and community. Fear/dependency: Sets up a power dynamic in which the victim feels too afraid to report the abuse, perhaps by involving the victim in activities their friends and family might judge the victim negatively for, such as drug use (or even the abuse itself).
Poor Mary Jo, her life was destroyed by two self centered and manipulative people. Even though she rebuilt herself, the emotional and physical damage she had to endure was immeasurable. It’s very sad to realize that years of love, dedication, and investment in a marriage will one day end up with being shot in this brutal manner by the husband’s mistress. Mary Jo did not deserve the betrayal from Joey and the cruelty from Amy. Thank you for the review Dr. Grande!❤️ On a side note- this shirt is glorious!🧡🖤🤍
@@bthomsonIt is very strange indeed. The worst is that he is not alone, many men will engage in this type of relationships despite “loving” their wives.🙁
Maybe some people are just more driven by this kind of excitement than others? Would be interesting if there was a gene ( or group of genes) that caused this kind of behavior!
A few weeks ago I was watching Addams Family Values with my niece and they made a joke about her. I had to explain to my niece who she was and she says "so they had psycho stalkers back in your day too, huh?"
Wow, your niece is niave. Of course obsessive sickos are not new... 🤦♀️ And she should be wary of how easy it is with social media. The stuff they post to eachother is rank. Kids having sex so young now, too. They seethings online and do things that are vile. There's been heaps of studies and sexual assault in teens has gone up about 2 thousand percent in 6 years alone
I'm still disgusted by the fact that little to nothing happened to Joey. I think if this had happened more recently he would have been in trouble for having sex with a minor. In my opinion, because of the grooming, he was just as guilty, if not moreso than Amy.
She was 16.. The legal age in almost every state is 16.. Most countries too.. Not sure what state this was in.. A couple have 18 and a couple 17 I believe
seems to me that the whole case was handled poorly. They both got a slap on the wrist,, and Amy got a lucrative career out of the whole exchange, which is a huge slap in the face to the victim. Joey was the adult, and it was his responsibility to send Amy packing. he created the situation that resulted in the shooting, but legally it was impossible to convict him. on a different level we saw this happen with Zimmerman and Rittenhouse.
My senior year, I worked in the school office from nine until eleven. Afterward, I went home to do housework, laundry and cooking. My mother did not get off work until eleven PM. In the end, we are who we want to be.
@@puketinmoarliek994 had he not had a relationship with her (which was a crime bc of her age) she would not have done this. Now I agree that she's a troubled girl and she might have been a danger to any woman she deemed as a rival but he was the catalyst to this whole thing. Without him this wouldn't have happened.
@@dontdiscriminatehateeveryo9263 I understand but to try to kill someone who has their back turned is so low and cowardly, just doesn’t sit right with me. No matter what. The guy definitely was a scumbag though and I agree he probably made it worse. Poor Mary jo.
Joey was a total scum bag. I grew up in Massapequa with his son. I remember driving by the house the day it happened and saw blood all over the front steps and lawn.
What was utterly sensationalized back then about Amy Fisher was her being some wild child but to me the sleazy behavior of Joey Buttofuco was the story. He could have taken the high road and not gotten involved and, in fact, acted the role of responsible adult but he did not. Still, Amy was always the worst person ever. She was totally wrong and deserved her prison sentence but in his own way Joey was just as bad.
100% concur🌱 They were all a bunch of 🤡🤡🤡 She knew what kind of pig she was married to as well. How many times has she looked away? Self-preservation yikes. They were both from a “religious” background divorce was out of the question… Sickening. Such low brow bullshit😑.
@@ktwiri4443 I don’t know, that girl had been swimming with sharks for a bit.. To me she seems like the kind of a little girl that was dredged in flour deep fat fried cooled on paper towels, and then devoured… But you got to give her credit she’s got fortitude🤪🎣
Hello Dr. Drande, another great video as always. This one is again somewhat weird. But you presented this case very well. Thank You for the hard work. Love to follow you. ❤👍
You have the best shirts, Dr. G. Have you analyzed Eldon "El Duce" Hoke? He died days after publicly announcing Courtney Love offered him money to off Kurt Cobain. He was quite the character.
@@whitewolfpdx there is a documentary about it and a book. Love and Death is the title I believe. Good read. Taylor Hawkins passed away the same day the “studio 666” movie came out this year. A movie by the foo fighters about the supposed satanic music industry and sacrificing artists 😮
@Jen Agrippa the conspiracy theory was covered in Kurt & Courtney. El Duce himself was a shock rocker similar to GG Allin, and he appeared on several talk shows, the most infamous of which was when he appeared on springer with GWAR.
Your videos on narcissism, helped me become enlightened to the destructive and toxic behaviors of my ex husband. Been divorced since 2010 and it took me a few years to start to see him for what he was, but your inside perspective helped me pinpoint and it's really helped me heal from it all. Sounds crazy to say that it's taken that long for me, but it's true that they really can do a number on an otherwise logical and sane person.
Eye catching shirt, for sure Interesting case, though I'd say, as happens more often than not, it's hard to accept that one's love (spouse) can be a psychopath. A great lesson to learn that Mary finally made a wise move, though its never easy.
I always thought that Amy’s parents played a larger role in her demented outcome yet, somehow, they were barely mentioned in this tragic story. She was a minor after all when this happened. Also…, Joe is and was a filthy mess. MaryJo was tricked
It’s bothering me that her age is not being talked about more. She was 16 years old!! Yeah she may have been messed up, but she was 16 and Joey was an adult.
@@abbeys8905 She was obviously abused, and our culture at the time enabled her bad behavior by granting her fame. But she was young enough to be rehabilitated. She was a child! Yet No one thought she might need professional help? Speaking from experience, Gen-X was the most neglected generation ever! This is how the boomer generation treated their Gen X children. A gross boomer (Buttafuoco) commits statutory rape, and the 16 year old child he raped is treated as entertainment fodder for grown-ass adults.
I agree!...I think Amy was neglected emotionally and craved attention and affection...She too was a victim. Joey is a sleaze ball!!! He took advantage of both his wife and the vulnerable teen. He's disgusting!!! 🤮
In Manhattan at the time, I wasn't sure how worldwide the story was known (before social media of course)... the fact that two culprits got off and maryjo stayed with him were jokes to us... that, and "buttafuco pants" of course!
I'm in UK and we certainly knew all about it here. No social media, but the tabloids were happy to tell us all about it. I also saw the movies and I saw the Buttafuocos on the Geraldo talk show. She was portrayed as a nasty little seductress. In those days people didn't really think about why she would be behaving in such a way. Was she damaged as a child? Was she groomed by a paedophile? No. She was just bad. She's not completely blame free in my eyes. She was 16 not 9, but it's nowhere near as simple as she was the evil little bitch who led a grown 35 yr old man astray. She shot a woman in the head 🤷🏻♀️.
I was ONLY 2 years older than ‘Amy Fisher’ & my Mom was OBSESSED with this Case because my Mom Loved ‘The Enquirer & The Star Tabloid’!!! Such a SAD Event💙 I Hope & Pray for ALL parties to Heal!! Very Well Done ‘Dr. Grande’😻
Mary Jo initially had no intention of advocating for her release, but Amy's Mom convinced her because she shared Amy's troubled past. Something nasty and horrible surely did lead to her turning out the way she did, i.e., a nasty horrible self absorbed person.
I accidentally thought this was the story about the woman who liberated her boyfriend of his ability to conceive children. My bad. (Dr Grande, you look fantastic in that gorgeous new shirt!)
It is sad that we think of humorous anecdotes when it comes to this story considering the violence... But fun fact: did you know that Bobbitt and Buttafuco were scheduled for one of those trashy paid-for TV wrestling matches at one point but it never happened!!
It looks like we are only not allowed to talk about Dr. Grande's shirts if we disagree with his choice. I agree with you that this one suits him nicely. and you are thinking of John Wayne Bobbit and Elena Bobbit. Boy the 90's were a wild time, but nothing compared to now when men are cutting off their own penis versus scorned women doing it for them.
I would love to listen to you break down the investigation into the death of Lauren Agee. I know the case is a popular one amongst the true crime TH-cam community but nobody has your secret ingredient. In any case I’m looking forward to any upcoming videos you’ve got for us.keep up the great work.
I would be absent too if I had a cunning, designing, criminal minded kid like Amy. She accuses everyone of raping her. A very dangerous female is Amy Fisher.
@@benjamindover4337 Most single mothers are not "loose women who sleep around" actually. The majority of them are so dedicated they don't have time to pursue romantic interests
Just a reminder I'm not diagnosing anybody in this video; only speculating what could be happening when an imprudent strumpet shoots an innocent woman in the face like this.
"Carry a 25 if it makes you feel good, but do not ever load it. If you load it you may shoot it. If you shoot it you may hit somebody, and if you hit somebody, and he finds out about it, he may be very angry with you.” - Col. Jeff Cooper
I never knew you made this video. I grew up in Massapequa and was a friend of Joey’s son. Joey was always a big mouth. His son was very grounded and was a really nice kid.
Thank you again, Dr. Grande! The wisdom in your teaching through your analyses is one of many reasons why I allow notifications on your channel. I subscribe to many channels, but yours is my favorite, and the only one for which I use the notification bell!!
I remember this being in the news all the time, like Johnny Depp has been recently. However, I was so distracted by the name buttofuco, I never heard the details of what it was about. Thanks Dr. Grande for clarifying it!
I remember all 3 TV movies (on ABC, NBC, & CBS -- all premiering, I think, the same week)! Only recall 2 of the actresses who played Amy: Alyssa Milano & Drew Barrymore. One Saturday Night Live episode had Danny DeVito popping up in nearly every sketch, loutishly announcing (mispronouncing): "I'M JOEY BUTTA-FU-OKO!!" America was obsessed with this bizarre tragedy.
Mmmhmm 😍 this shirt sends me Doc! It's so complimentary to your hair color and skintone...I also envision khaki shorts, a nice pair of Sperrys and lounging in the cabana for a while...ooh, sounds like I need a vacay 😄...back to the video 😁 I've always been intrigued by this case, and particularly fascinated by Mary Jo and all she's overcome. Looking forward to your analysis (as always)
@@aking4766 Thanks for the concern, sweetheart...I'm not quite Amy or Mary Jo...I'm me, fully confident complimenting an intelligent man with a cute, fun shirt 😉 Have a good one
I LOVED the way "IN LIVING COLOR" did the skit on Amy Fisher and Joey Buttafucco...it was MAD HILARIOUS then, as well as now!!! PLEASE check it out!!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😁
"It would be unusual for Joey to have an affair and leave his shirt behind" WTF So does this mean Joey had had affairs but always brought his clothes home🤔😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Great analysis Dr Grande. This case , was told to me by my parents. What a horrible person, Amy deserved the prison time. Such a sad love triangle. Thank you Dr Grande. Brilliant analysis and topic.
Ive been binge watching your videos which I just discovered this past week, very insightful and educational. It's mind boggling the endless number of wackadoodle, criminal, and downright evil individuals who provide content.
It’s very different hearing this story now as a mother, especially since I happen to have a 16 year old son so I know how really, well, dumb they can be. Like he’s really smart but will turn around and baffle me with things he says that show he completely does not understand how the world works. How beautiful of MaryJo to be able to forgive her. I wonder if some of the reason is that she saw she was in the end still a child when this happened. Albeit a child who did something horrific that was intended to be deadly…
Hi Dr. G! I really appreciate your “non-diagnoses.” Are you able to talk more about the WHY behind any of the cases you analyze? That is, how they could have developed these potential “non-diagnoses”? Maybe talk about the impacts of nature & potential (or known?) impacts of nurture? Thanks!
Number one, the last name, ugh. Buttafouco? Mary Jo should have insisted Joey change his last name before marriage. All three of those players are dumb. I am glad Mary Jo survived the assault, but she stuck with that low life? With that last name, geez!
When I told my children about this case, both were amazed that anyone has the name "Buttafuoco."
I’ve heard that it means “fire thrower”
@@autumn111155551 yes "butto" means throw. "Fuocco" means fire
There was a joke song released during this time.
So cute!
Terrible sounding name.
"Mary-Jo thought that when Joey gave their house to his drug dealer, this was the lowest part in her life... "
Another spot-on, sardonically laid zinger by ya, Doc 👏🤣
right! 👏 🤣 but yeah, you have snap?
I’m glad that they decided to prosecute Joey Buttafuoco. 4 months wasn’t long enough for his part in this violent crime. I’m glad that Mary Joe moved on and was even able to forgive Amy. Joey clearly didn’t deserve a wife like that who was so devoted to him
He got off light up
I remember when The Buttofuecos were on a talk show. Mary Jo was adamant that her husband was innocent. Someone in the audience said, famously, ‘if it looks like a snake and talks like a snake, then it’s a snake.’
Interesting how him cheating was unbelievable for her but him giving their home to a drug dealer was. Someone as nuts as Joey is capable of anything.
I remember that!
Lol
A lot of women do that, in the early stages of being cheated on. She eventually learned the truth about him and moved on. At least she had peace of mind for the last few years of her life.
I have respect and sympathy for Mary Jo. Those other two, toxic individuals deserve each other.
I have seen her in tv interviews and she is truly a lovely human being.
🤢
They deserve something. But they didn't end up with each other
Mary Jo looks amazing btw she found someone nice after divorcing Joey but is widowed now. She paints and hangs out at the beach with her kids and grandkids. She avoids Joey and seems at 🕊️✌️ peace
Glad she's doing well in her life
She looks better than ever!
Mary Jo is an amazing woman. I hope she is well and always will be.
her life was changed in an instant due to TWO SELFISH people-what a Waste.
That’s good to know. I always felt so bad for her and her children. To almost die then get pulled in to a national scandal for years.
I was in high school and the same age as Amy when the incident happened.
As a teen I found the most unbelievable part of this story that a teen my age would find an old, fat, working class guy attractive. 😂
I was such a horrible 16 year old.
As a male growing up in jr high at that time I always wondered what women saw in him, guess she was just wacko, or looking for some weird dad figure
It had to have been the grooming. At first, she thought he was fat. He probably had a decent sense of humor, so she enjoyed his company when he took her on errands. He bought her things that would have been out of reach for a teenage romance, so he became attractive to her. I totally understand it.
But what in all that made you a horrible 16 year old? 🤣
No you were not a horrible 16 yr old! I was around 25 when it happens and thought the only reason she was with Joey would've been for money.
Most 16 year old girls would say the same thing
@@randytheram1 it's always daddy issues
My heart goes out to Mary Jo! Two very self centered and self indulging people scared her life forever!
Incredible analysis and final thoughts, Dr. Grande! ♡♡
I lived in Baldwin and my family knew the Buttafuocos well. My car was totaled and in their shop just before all this went down. When I met my mother-in-law, she told me she taught art at the Merrick middle school Amy attended and Amy was in her class. She described Amy as, “a sweet girl with no motivation and lacking a sense of self.” The Buttofuocos were a lovely family, I didn’t know Mary Jo but I knew Joey’s brother and father, the latter died from all the aggravation from this ordeal. The Joey I knew was a very funny and caring person. He truly cared about his customers. BTW he got a relatively cushy stay when he was in jail!
Stop fibbing
Baldwin, NY!!! Woohooooo, my hometown gets mentioned by Dr. Grande.
I was a pre-teen when this happened and I vividly recall the mechanic shop having a huge "Welcome back, Joe" banner strewn on it when Joey got out of prison.
I had seen Amy in passing a year or so before this all happened. She wasn't anybody at the time, so she was just a random person walking down my block and saying "hi" occasionally as a bunch of us kids played in the front yard. That's my claim to fame in this case, haha.
I used to shop at The Baldwin Place Mall all the time. I lived in Shenorock.
I grew up near Glen Cove and was about the same age when this happened. Such a crazy cast of characters, and a very quintessentially Long Island case.
I grew up in Massapequa and I was friends with Joey’s son. It was a crazy time in Massapequa.
From those of us in NY, and those of us who live on islands in general, love that you knew to say "on" Long Island!
It always amazed me that the business Joey ran, an auto body shop, are usually experts at ripping people off and generally slimy business practices. However, Joey's shop had a fantastic local reputation of being honest and fair with their customers as well as doing outstanding work.
LOL
the gangstas knew their auto
parts. 🤣🤣
I guess his dreams of being a professional scammer were thwarted by his workplace so he had to do people dirty on the side
Amy's first impression of Joey was that ''he was fat'',...........classic..
Giving the house to his drug dealer was the lowest point of her life. Joey took this as a challenge to go even lower Lol.
I remember sitting through one those dreadful Made-For-TV movies about this case back in the day! And also when Joey embarrassed himself on some daytime talkshow.
I watched parts of all three!
How about that there were 3 on at once - one on ABC, NBC, and CBS (when those were the main networks).
Drew Barrymore was in one, Alyssa Milano was in another one, and the third girl, I don’t know her name, but she looked the most like the real Amy Fisher.
@@TheBOG3 Drew Barrymore may have been the better actress, but Alyssa Milano was incredibly hot back then.
Talk about TRAIN wrecks--Amy & Joey should be locked up 100 years!!!!!!!
Joey Buttafuoco certainly groomed the wrong person. I gotta say i was a kid when this happened and in the old days no one even would have thought of the word "grooming." We were all hating on Amy and disgusted with Joey. Poor Mary Jo.
Grooming is what you do to a dog. That is what you call "manipulation".
Dumb mary jo
@UC788GwMDfSr2XCF7bFSx4yA not
Grooming
When a sexual or other kind of predator sets the stage for abusing another, such as a child or other person (as in the case of sex and theory human trafficking).
Trust: May give toys and/or other gifts and favors to the intended victim to gain trust.
Alienation: Settings the stage for the intended victim to become alienated from their primary caregivers/circles or family and community.
Fear/dependency: Sets up a power dynamic in which the victim feels too afraid to report the abuse, perhaps by involving the victim in activities their friends and family might judge the victim negatively for, such as drug use (or even the abuse itself).
I didn't hate on Amy. I felt bad - I didn't think really highly of her, but let's be real. She was a kid. It doesn't matter.
Dr. Grande, thank you for your kindness towards Mary Jo. You have a wonderful understanding of long term exposure to gaslighting and manipulation.
Poor Mary Jo, her life was destroyed by two self centered and manipulative people. Even though she rebuilt herself, the emotional and physical damage she had to endure was immeasurable. It’s very sad to realize that years of love, dedication, and investment in a marriage will one day end up with being shot in this brutal manner by the husband’s mistress. Mary Jo did not deserve the betrayal from Joey and the cruelty from Amy.
Thank you for the review Dr. Grande!❤️
On a side note- this shirt is glorious!🧡🖤🤍
To me the strangest thing is that Joey really liked his wife!
@@bthomsonIt is very strange indeed. The worst is that he is not alone, many men will engage in this type of relationships despite “loving” their wives.🙁
Maybe some people are just more driven by this kind of excitement than others? Would be interesting if there was a gene ( or group of genes) that caused this kind of behavior!
I doubt she was a saint if she married him but yeah Joey and Amy and their selfish, destructive ilk are human stains. Sad sad lives.
I feel for Amy. If you don't you don't understand the term "grooming."
"He told his wife that he owed his drug dealer a lot of money." I'd like to think that most people would leave at that point.
When Amy came home with an STD, and told her parents, didn't they find out it was Joey? I remember something like this.
“Where Joey did what he referred to as acting” 🤣👏👏
So glad you did this one. Unforgettable, haunting case. Your analysis is amazing, as always.
A few weeks ago I was watching Addams Family Values with my niece and they made a joke about her. I had to explain to my niece who she was and she says "so they had psycho stalkers back in your day too, huh?"
I think psycho stalkers are a fairly timeless element of humanity.
Haha! Bless her heart.
@@RealmCenter40 👍
😆 LOL
Wow, your niece is niave. Of course obsessive sickos are not new... 🤦♀️ And she should be wary of how easy it is with social media. The stuff they post to eachother is rank. Kids having sex so young now, too. They seethings online and do things that are vile. There's been heaps of studies and sexual assault in teens has gone up about 2 thousand percent in 6 years alone
Mary Jo was the absolute victim in the situation. Brutally taken advantage of by so many disgusting people!
So many? How many were there?
@@KimberlyLetsGo they probably mean also the media. And previously the drug dealers of her husband who ended up with her first house.
Oh, Mary Jo was no ones victim... the subtext being someone who just lays down and takes it. She absolutely did not take any s’’’’’ .
Amy Fisher quote before judge sentenced her:
“If I could put my hand over her face and make it go away, I would.”
She knew exactly what she meant.
I remember this case very well. Poor MaryJo...married to that cheating buffoon.
I'm still disgusted by the fact that little to nothing happened to Joey. I think if this had happened more recently he would have been in trouble for having sex with a minor. In my opinion, because of the grooming, he was just as guilty, if not moreso than Amy.
She was 16.. The legal age in almost every state is 16.. Most countries too.. Not sure what state this was in.. A couple have 18 and a couple 17 I believe
I was disappointed Amy didn't kill him.
seems to me that the whole case was handled poorly. They both got a slap on the wrist,, and Amy got a lucrative career out of the whole exchange, which is a huge slap in the face to the victim.
Joey was the adult, and it was his responsibility to send Amy packing. he created the situation that resulted in the shooting, but legally it was impossible to convict him. on a different level we saw this happen with Zimmerman and Rittenhouse.
@@johnnyflannigan136 I'm pretty sure NY is sixteen BUT it has a cap of how old the other person can be (like 20 or something)
He pled guilty to statutory but only spent a few months in jail. He’s been in other legal trouble since then as well. He’s nasty.
I remember seeing this on the news. It is as unbelievable now as back in the early 90's. Very sad for Mary Jo.
Oh man, I remember when this happened. Thanks for the analysis, Dr. Grande.
My senior year, I worked in the school office from nine until eleven. Afterward, I went home to do housework, laundry and cooking. My mother did not get off work until eleven PM. In the end, we are who we want to be.
Unfortunate last name too.
@@christinepedersen5511 I have no idea what you mean. Who has an unfortunate last name?
As a child you worked harder than most adult females ❤️
One of my favorite stories that I followed day by day! I hope Mary Jo has moved into a good and happy life.
Totally unscientific, but I think Buttafuoco should be jailed based solely on his name. Even if he were just some random tax guy. Hard time.
I was in high school when this went down and hearing his name infuriated me for some reason and I am even Italian.
🤭🤭🤭
Too right.
that's hilarious, I didn't realize his last name sounded like a reference to anal.
@@PutinsMommyNeverHuggedHim that's not what he's implying
Amy is no saint but Joey is the real bad guy in this. He's disgusting. Always has been and always will be. Wild that this happened 30 years ago.
She… shot someone in the back of the head?
@@puketinmoarliek994 had he not had a relationship with her (which was a crime bc of her age) she would not have done this. Now I agree that she's a troubled girl and she might have been a danger to any woman she deemed as a rival but he was the catalyst to this whole thing. Without him this wouldn't have happened.
She would have done it to someone else concerning any different relationship
@@dontdiscriminatehateeveryo9263 I understand but to try to kill someone who has their back turned is so low and cowardly, just doesn’t sit right with me. No matter what.
The guy definitely was a scumbag though and I agree he probably made it worse. Poor Mary jo.
Joey was a total scum bag. I grew up in Massapequa with his son. I remember driving by the house the day it happened and saw blood all over the front steps and lawn.
Love the AWESOME ALOHA SHIRTS you rock Dr Grande 💪🏽
As a born and raised Hawaii person I strongly encourage this behavior 🔥
I so love your tone of voice, it’s very relaxing 😌
“When Joey paid off a drug dealer, Mary considered this the lowest point of her life. Joey took this as a challenge.”
😂 Hilarious as always Dr Grande
What was utterly sensationalized back then about Amy Fisher was her being some wild child but to me the sleazy behavior of Joey Buttofuco was the story. He could have taken the high road and not gotten involved and, in fact, acted the role of responsible adult but he did not. Still, Amy was always the worst person ever. She was totally wrong and deserved her prison sentence but in his own way Joey was just as bad.
100% concur🌱
They were all a bunch of 🤡🤡🤡
She knew what kind of pig she was married to as well.
How many times has she looked away?
Self-preservation yikes.
They were both from a “religious” background divorce was out of the question… Sickening.
Such low brow bullshit😑.
True...Amy went a notch higher than expected in aggression
@@ktwiri4443 I don’t know, that girl had been swimming with sharks for a bit.. To me she seems like the kind of a little girl that was dredged in flour deep fat fried cooled on paper towels, and then devoured…
But you got to give her credit she’s got fortitude🤪🎣
I couldn’t agree with you more
Correct!
She shot somone in the head point blank in their doorstep and got a slap on the wrist , why have remorse
Hello Dr. Drande, another great video as always. This one is again somewhat weird. But you presented this case very well. Thank You for the hard work. Love to follow you. ❤👍
Terrific ain't he?
Dr. Drande? .. Is this a typo or am I late to an inside joke 😆
You have the best shirts, Dr. G. Have you analyzed Eldon "El Duce" Hoke? He died days after publicly announcing Courtney Love offered him money to off Kurt Cobain. He was quite the character.
Ooh a Mentor’s fan!
WOW! That's sus! I had not heard about this.
@@whitewolfpdx there is a documentary about it and a book. Love and Death is the title I believe. Good read.
Taylor Hawkins passed away the same day the “studio 666” movie came out this year. A movie by the foo fighters about the supposed satanic music industry and sacrificing artists 😮
@Jen Agrippa the conspiracy theory was covered in Kurt & Courtney. El Duce himself was a shock rocker similar to GG Allin, and he appeared on several talk shows, the most infamous of which was when he appeared on springer with GWAR.
@@starvingbuddha7622 Who is Mentor?
Your videos on narcissism, helped me become enlightened to the destructive and toxic behaviors of my ex husband.
Been divorced since 2010 and it took me a few years to start to see him for what he was, but your inside perspective helped me pinpoint and it's really helped me heal from it all. Sounds crazy to say that it's taken that long for me, but it's true that they really can do a number on an otherwise logical and sane person.
Eye catching shirt, for sure
Interesting case, though I'd say, as happens more often than not, it's hard to accept that one's love (spouse) can be a psychopath. A great lesson to learn that Mary finally made a wise move, though its never easy.
I always thought that Amy’s parents played a larger role in her demented outcome yet, somehow, they were barely mentioned in this tragic story. She was a minor after all when this happened. Also…, Joe is and was a filthy mess. MaryJo was tricked
It’s bothering me that her age is not being talked about more. She was 16 years old!! Yeah she may have been messed up, but she was 16 and Joey was an adult.
@@lolaleslie66 Thank you for saying this! She is not just a perpetrator but a victim as well
@@abbeys8905 She was obviously abused, and our culture at the time enabled her bad behavior by granting her fame. But she was young enough to be rehabilitated. She was a child!
Yet No one thought she might need professional help?
Speaking from experience, Gen-X was the most neglected generation ever!
This is how the boomer generation treated their Gen X children.
A gross boomer (Buttafuoco) commits statutory rape, and the 16 year old child he raped is treated as entertainment fodder for grown-ass adults.
@@abbeys8905 But then, are not all perpetrators victims if you go back far enough?
I agree!...I think Amy was neglected emotionally and craved attention and affection...She too was a victim. Joey is a sleaze ball!!! He took advantage of both his wife and the vulnerable teen. He's disgusting!!! 🤮
The Joey Buttafuoco story starring Jim Ballushi.
In Manhattan at the time, I wasn't sure how worldwide the story was known (before social media of course)... the fact that two culprits got off and maryjo stayed with him were jokes to us... that, and "buttafuco pants" of course!
I'm in UK and we certainly knew all about it here. No social media, but the tabloids were happy to tell us all about it. I also saw the movies and I saw the Buttafuocos on the Geraldo talk show.
She was portrayed as a nasty little seductress. In those days people didn't really think about why she would be behaving in such a way. Was she damaged as a child? Was she groomed by a paedophile? No. She was just bad.
She's not completely blame free in my eyes. She was 16 not 9, but it's nowhere near as simple as she was the evil little bitch who led a grown 35 yr old man astray. She shot a woman in the head 🤷🏻♀️.
I was good friends with his son. Imagine how he felt!😂
I was ONLY 2 years older than ‘Amy Fisher’ & my Mom was OBSESSED with this Case because my Mom Loved ‘The Enquirer & The Star Tabloid’!!! Such a SAD Event💙 I Hope & Pray for ALL parties to Heal!!
Very Well Done ‘Dr. Grande’😻
Could you cover the case of Lacey Ellen Fletcher? I'd love to know how you would analyse her parents, who watched her die. It's such a sad case.
This never gets old. I remember the made for TV movies.
Poor Mary Jo the victim of two malignant sociopath I felt so sorry for her This woman showed her beautiful heart forgiving Amy it was truly Grace🌹🌹
Mary Jo initially had no intention of advocating for her release, but Amy's Mom convinced her because she shared Amy's troubled past. Something nasty and horrible surely did lead to her turning out the way she did, i.e., a nasty horrible self absorbed person.
Joey had a boat AND and murderous drug dealer. His cup runneth over.
I remember when this was a punchline for jokes for a few years, Like with Beavis and Butthead.
I accidentally thought this was the story about the woman who liberated her boyfriend of his ability to conceive children. My bad. (Dr Grande, you look fantastic in that gorgeous new shirt!)
The shirt and title of the video has me now in the mood for a Long Island iced tea.
P.S. I think you are thinking of Bobbit.
@@RealmCenter40 yes, to both! Ha ha!
Same time period as Lorena Bobbitt, if I remember correctly.
It is sad that we think of humorous anecdotes when it comes to this story considering the violence... But fun fact: did you know that Bobbitt and Buttafuco were scheduled for one of those trashy paid-for TV wrestling matches at one point but it never happened!!
It looks like we are only not allowed to talk about Dr. Grande's shirts if we disagree with his choice. I agree with you that this one suits him nicely. and you are thinking of John Wayne Bobbit and Elena Bobbit. Boy the 90's were a wild time, but nothing compared to now when men are cutting off their own penis versus scorned women doing it for them.
"What he referred to as acting" - I mean, how brilliant is that?
“Joey took this as a challenge” ROFL!!
Can you please do a video on Naomi Judd? Her death/suicide just seem odd to me.
Because of that shirt I’d like the background wall to be pulled away to reveal a sandy beach and a waiter bring Dr G a cocktail
I remember watching Amy Fischer on Oprah making light of the whole ordeal. She learned nothing and showed no remorse.
What is your take on the William Kennedy Smith scandal 1991?
I would love to listen to you break down the investigation into the death of Lauren Agee. I know the case is a popular one amongst the true crime TH-cam community but nobody has your secret ingredient. In any case I’m looking forward to any upcoming videos you’ve got for us.keep up the great work.
Love the Hawaii Shirt and your Italienglish pronunciation of the Italian surname Buttafuoco❣ Now I will listen to your analysis 😀👍
I love your channel and think you are brilliant!!
Great shirt ! Great synopsis! Enjoyed this one.
It doesn’t surprise me that Amy had an absent father. Girls with emotional issues most always have fathers who treat them poorly/ abuse them.
Her mother was sexually loose and didn't know who the father was. Most single mothers are like that. Its sad that the children suffer for it.
@@benjamindover4337 what do you mean, single mother? Amy’s parents were married
I would be absent too if I had a cunning, designing, criminal minded kid like Amy. She accuses everyone of raping her. A very dangerous female is Amy Fisher.
@@benjamindover4337 Most single mothers are not "loose women who sleep around" actually. The majority of them are so dedicated they don't have time to pursue romantic interests
@@benjamindover4337 I wonder if the father was " loose" too and that's why she fell for Joey.
Your analysis was spot on. Good job.
I remember that Letterman and Leno had a field day with this case. 😁
Just a reminder I'm not diagnosing anybody in this video; only speculating what could be happening when an imprudent strumpet shoots an innocent woman in the face like this.
Absolutely adore the term “impudent strumpet.”
@@DrCatterBox It's from Othello, but I first remember it being quoted in 'Brave New World' 🦓😃
@Jen Agrippa yes its old alright, 17 th century ar least.
I like it when you explain firearms.
Hello Dr.!! Thank You Very Much as Always!! Hope You Really Enjoyed Your Day, and that You Have a Peaceful and Relaxing Evening!!🌵🦜🪴🪴🦜🌵
Love the shirt, Dr Grande! Thank you for your wise words on relationships involving personality disorders, too!
Thanks for posting Doc
looking forward to hearing your take on this topic, Dr!
It is life altering when you can see someone who they really are.
"Carry a 25 if it makes you feel good, but do not ever load it. If you load it you may shoot it. If you shoot it you may hit somebody, and if you hit somebody, and he finds out about it, he may be very angry with you.”
- Col. Jeff Cooper
Thanks. Very enlightening on that old case. I remember it and you explained it very well.
I never knew you made this video. I grew up in Massapequa and was a friend of Joey’s son. Joey was always a big mouth. His son was very grounded and was a really nice kid.
Buttafuoco is fun to say, though. That is undeniable.
Buttafuoco. Buttafuoco! BUTTAFUOCO! Yes, it is.
I realize it's extremely juvenile but, I can't stop giggling hearing that name... I'm sorry 😊
Thank you again, Dr. Grande! The wisdom in your teaching through your analyses is one of many reasons why I allow notifications on your channel. I subscribe to many channels, but yours is my favorite, and the only one for which I use the notification bell!!
I remember this being in the news all the time, like Johnny Depp has been recently. However, I was so distracted by the name buttofuco, I never heard the details of what it was about. Thanks Dr. Grande for clarifying it!
The whole case was a train 🚂 reck, messy AF!!! And we were there for the mess
I remember all 3 TV movies (on ABC, NBC, & CBS -- all premiering, I think, the same week)! Only recall 2 of the actresses who played Amy: Alyssa Milano & Drew Barrymore. One Saturday Night Live episode had Danny DeVito popping up in nearly every sketch, loutishly announcing (mispronouncing): "I'M JOEY BUTTA-FU-OKO!!" America was obsessed with this bizarre tragedy.
The name ‘Buttafuoco’ gives away his character. Doesn’t fuoco mean fire? Just saying.. 😂
sounds like spit or BM if you ask me. 💩💩
Mmmhmm 😍 this shirt sends me Doc! It's so complimentary to your hair color and skintone...I also envision khaki shorts, a nice pair of Sperrys and lounging in the cabana for a while...ooh, sounds like I need a vacay 😄...back to the video 😁 I've always been intrigued by this case, and particularly fascinated by Mary Jo and all she's overcome. Looking forward to your analysis (as always)
Yikes...calm down there Amy part 2...😬🤦🏼♀️
@@aking4766 Thanks for the concern, sweetheart...I'm not quite Amy or Mary Jo...I'm me, fully confident complimenting an intelligent man with a cute, fun shirt 😉 Have a good one
For some strange reason the phrase, "book em Danno, murder one" pops into my mind.
I LOVED the way "IN LIVING COLOR" did the skit on Amy Fisher and Joey Buttafucco...it was MAD HILARIOUS then, as well as now!!! PLEASE check it out!!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😁
I love your shirt Dr. Grande. 😊
"It would be unusual for Joey to have an affair and leave his shirt behind" WTF
So does this mean Joey had had affairs but always brought his clothes home🤔😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I remember being pretty obsessed with this case because Amy and I were the same age.
“…where Joey did what he referred to as ‘acting’.” 🤣
Great analysis Dr Grande. This case , was told to me by my parents. What a horrible person, Amy deserved the prison time. Such a sad love triangle. Thank you Dr Grande. Brilliant analysis and topic.
Great points on this case. I forgot some of the crazy details. Thanks Dr G 😊💕💕
Zena - Mary Jo seemed so normal to me! What a thing to happen to you on your own front steps! Nuts!
@@bthomson I know!!😑
Same. Great listen today!
@@bthomson Great comment.😚❤💙
Please, my friend, did you get the transfer? 😢😜❤💙✉🎋🎋🎋
I remember when Artie Lange was roasting the shit out of her and her husband on the HSS, was legendary.
Ive been binge watching your videos which I just discovered this past week, very insightful and educational. It's mind boggling the endless number of wackadoodle, criminal, and downright evil individuals who provide content.
Ooh I remember when this was all over the news and they made all kinds of movies about it
It’s very different hearing this story now as a mother, especially since I happen to have a 16 year old son so I know how really, well, dumb they can be. Like he’s really smart but will turn around and baffle me with things he says that show he completely does not understand how the world works. How beautiful of MaryJo to be able to forgive her. I wonder if some of the reason is that she saw she was in the end still a child when this happened. Albeit a child who did something horrific that was intended to be deadly…
Nice shirt Dr. Grande ....good analysis on this topic
I haven’t heard THOSE names in a long time!
Okay who remembers this....
Buttabing, Buttabang, Buttafuoco.
Hi Dr. G! I really appreciate your “non-diagnoses.” Are you able to talk more about the WHY behind any of the cases you analyze? That is, how they could have developed these potential “non-diagnoses”? Maybe talk about the impacts of nature & potential (or known?) impacts of nurture? Thanks!
Number one, the last name, ugh. Buttafouco? Mary Jo should have insisted Joey change his last name before marriage. All three of those players are dumb. I am glad Mary Jo survived the assault, but she stuck with that low life? With that last name, geez!
That's funny, just the other day I was wondering if Dr. Grande had ever done an episode about Amy Fisher.