Adam Lanza | Mental Health & Personality
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- This video answers the questions: Can I discuss the mental health and personality factors that may be at work in the case of Adam Lanza? Lanza was the perpetrator of the attack at Sandy Hook Elementary School that took place on December 14, 2012 in Newtown, Connecticut.
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His wide-eye expression screams of an endless void. It is like fear is his permanent fixture. No empathy or emotion is visible at all.
Lots of kids don’t like having their picture taken and will scowl or stare blankly when forced. His face looks to me more like someone who was surprised by the camera, uncomfortable, or too embarrassed to put on a performative smile.
Also, this notion that “empathy” and “emotion” are what keeps people from killing each other has really got to go. If you’ve been centering your morality around how you *feel* about affected parties, I can promise that you are a monster. Empathy is always selective. If you actually felt empathy for every person to whom you owed consideration, you would be unable to function. Too many highly social people try to just use their empathy like a crutch, and they can be stunningly disgusting and selfish if they can’t get their emotional fix. At the end of the day, it was always only about how they felt.
@Michael Cueva Might be, though it comes off as slightly vague. My sense for Lanza and Rodgers (I don’t have a bead on Panzram or Bundy) is that they were largely suicidal. However, suicide can feel like validating the negative judgments of others (“good thing that waste of air took himself off our hands”). With the level of disrespect some people get or feel like they get, he might’ve found it desirable to reframe it as aggression just to ensure he wasn’t doing anyone a “favor”. (The “disrespect” is not necessarily “bullying,” but a hostility and contempt that is more ubiquitous and impossible to appease or even get acknowledgment concerning.)
@Michael Cueva “Hatred of humanity” reads like a literary flourish that doesn’t mean much of anything. Excuse me if I think too concretely for this stuff, but that sounds like a non-explanation.
Rodger’s manifesto had a more notable theme of him obsessing over anything and everything that he perceived as affecting social status. Race, wealth, where he lived, the car he drove, and, of course, sexual partners. It is normal for some young people with social problems to think acquiring status symbols might cure their problems. When his tools were exhausted, however, just killing himself would validate those people he felt looked down on him. By manufacturing a grievance, however, he could feel momentarily significant.
Can’t swear it was that way with him, but “hatred of humanity” barely feels like it means anything at all.
@Michael Cueva He actually did work for those things. Some he already had, given his father’s career. Socially, however, he’d lose by default. Ostensibly, he was diagnosed with PDD-NOS, which is sort of an autism spectrum condition without the repetitive behaviors and inflexibility. If real, this sort of thing can be crippling if you think about status at all and don’t have any special skill you can compensate with. There was probably no effective concrete “work” he could plan, let alone do. He could only blindly guess.
Your last comment makes more sense to me than the one that came before. “Hatred of humanity” just gets used a whole lot and has a plethora of potential meanings. It sounds only like a literary device, and flourishes like this sound like mysticism to me. Presenting the associated concrete needs and wants makes it a lot easier, and what you say there is not far from my own guess.
@@somexp12 Wow 😯
I’ve always seen ppl say killers have “nothing behind their eyes” but this is the first time I feel I’ve actually seen it. His eyes are literally void of any emotion. It’s absolutely horrifying :(
@S. Labouisse Get real dude. Not everything is fake. Alex Jones doesn’t even believe SH was fake. Kids died, not everything is fake, not everything is real. Use critical thinking
You saw people say that or heard
@S. Labouisse why do you think it's fake? Lol
@S. Labouisse my friend’s 6 year old nephew was murdered at SH. You should be ashamed of yourself.
@S. Labouisse you make me want to throw up. I literally know Mr and Mrs Wheeler. Are you actually that stupid that you are claiming that my close friend photoshopped dozens of photos of himself and his nephew Ben over a course of 6 years in preparation for a “fake”? 6 years before the murders, they premeditated faking the birth of their child so they could fake his murder? I guarantee my friend doesn’t even know how to do basic photo edits. Are you going to claim I am being paid to say this?
i am never disappointed when dr. grande posts a video. always makes my day.
Same
It's a dirty job but Dr Grande is the most applicable to do it.
I take 'informative approach' directly as a warning.
There is RRR and XXX, but after this episode that guy looks pealed and me flaked, i.e. ZZZ 😑👍
Agreed.
PREACH 🙌🙏🙌🙏
Ditto
The mom absolutely played a huge role in this. She bought him the guns and she hardly even talk to him like everybody in his entire life. They didn't even talk to each other unless it was through emails or little notes. If she would have went in his room or at least involved herself in his life she probably would have found all these signs that her son's about to do something pretty crazy.
I was wondering how he got the guns, she got them for him?! Wtf?!
@@redjuice02 yeah she did. She was big into guns.
@@redjuice02 shit no way that kid could even walk into a Bass Pro let alone actually buy a gun if he’s never been around them before. He’d get to nervous to talk to the sales person.
So you knew Adam and his mother? Or are you just making assumptions based on your limited knowledge?
Nancy was a good mother and tried her best but unfortunately some people can’t be saved.
@@phunkyphresh3799 Adam wasn’t as socially awkward as he appeared.
And even if he was the most socially awkward person on Earth, he still had the right to purchase a firearm regardless of his appearance and demeanour...
Do you think gun dealers should refuse to sell a firearm just because the customer is nerdy and socially awkward?
He didn’t even have a criminal record so you’re essentially saying any socially awkward people shouldn’t have any rights.
That photo is scary as hell. Reminds me of that momo character.
I know...scary but also heartbreaking. He obviously needed to be hospitalized and given some serious help.
reminds me of Ian Brown
Honestly the photo of Lanza seems stretched to make his face look bizarre like some sort of photoshopped job.
@@amandac2574 Its Ian Brown
@@ketchupcommander definitely along the same looks but I'm thinking David Hogg is his twin or Lanza himself. Check out a side by side. 🤯
Its honestly disgusting how people think just providing financially means youre a good parent
What else are parents supposed to do? How are they supposed to communicate with their child? My parents for example left me alone to make friends my age. Our lives were separate. They didn't take an interest in me or engage with me at home, I find this to be normal. Maybe it is not a beautiful life, but it is pretty common. Again, speaking from experience I have siblings and parents but we are all separate from one another. Ive doubted it before, but we all leave the nest and form our own family/friends anyways for accompaniment, which is what he could have chosen to do.
@@okyesn6139 I find this to be sonewhat common but I dont find it to be normal at all, sure people go off and do their own thing but a completely fractured family to the point where you communicate primarily in sticky notes with your live-in child feels completely wrong to me
I wonder if Lanza's mom herself had some form of mental illness or autism?
That could explain why she made some of the strange choices she did in regards to her son's behavior. Perhaps 3 loads of socks a day didn't seem all that strange to her if she herself had similar compulsions but to a lesser degree. If she had an obsessive academic interest in guns because of autism or OCD, she may have assumed her son had those same interests in the same non-violent way SHE did.
She may have had some of Lanza's same mental issues without whatever it was in him that made him violent, thus her threshold for "this is too odd we need to do something" was way higher than most people's, and she couldn't perceive things had gotten as dangerous as they had.
her being in denial and wanting a normal kid might also explain some of her choices
Some women with narcissistic traits become obsessed with their male children and view them as perfect. My dad’s mom was like that and it did not suit him well. He ended up abusing me.
I believe it
I concur. We rush to blame parents, it's not a stretch to believe she had severe mental issues as well.
We have an untreated mental health pandemic disguised as a gun problem.
I will guess on my own and just my opinion that she had some mental health issues. I bet I'm right too.
He should have been institutionalized. Period. His mother was not equipped to care for him.
Neither is our system, unfortunately.
$240k annually in alimony? The family obviously had the means to circumvent the system and secure the care he needed. The mother was in denial and probably had mental health issues of her own.
@@Lisa_MS64 you can’t FORCE treatment on another person, unless they meet strict criteria...
@@lindsaycallahan8075 on a minor? she absolutely should have taken his problems more seriously & sought in patient treatment for her son.
@@lindsaycallahan8075 Correct and even then it’s for a brief amount of time. The laws have to change.
Some observations... The lethal elephant in the living room is Lanza’s access to exponentially lethal weapons. Why attempt to bond to a disturbed child through trips to the shooting range. Why leave an arsenal unsecured? Were there as many trips to a therapist as to the shooting range? Writing about the Sandy Hook massacre in the past, what has stood out in my mind is how Lanza’s extended family seemed to have abandoned him.
👆🏻 this
Lanza was estranged from his father by his mother legally so yeah I'm kind of surprised nobody on his mother's side gave a shit about him
No therapy for how other people treat you because of your looks. If you want the answer of why things like this happen, just read the comments. Combine people treating him like shit his whole life with his psychopathy and at some point you end up with someone gaining power over others in the most violent way.
This is the unfortunate reality of autism of both kinds. Many people don't want to believe it exists except in people that are very low functioning. The idea of someone with autism able to somewhat function in life is foreign to them and they believe that the person is just "weird"
They don't treat them with the care and help that anyone with autism needs, they treat them with contempt and denial for being strange and different.
@JT Raven
As a person who comes from a country with heavily restrictive laws on guns and self-defense I have to say: it's all bullshit and it solves nothing.
Al it does is prevent the good people from defending themselves from criminals and a corrupt government (which all governments are to an extent, ours especially).
Again - actual citizen of an actually heavily restricted county.
Being a parent is the most powerful role you will ever play!
But women keep popping them out as tho its like getting a new pair of shoes. Smh
@@heatherberry640Just give him an iPad, that'll shut him up.
That's why most shouldn't even start.
@heatherberry640
Well, they can’t pop them out without help from the sickos who want to put them in!
Adam Lanza's parents esp. mother really enabled his psychopathy. What parent does multiple loads of laundry daily because the child compulsively puts on new socks all day? To encourage the kid's access to weapons really is unbelievable. It takes denial to a whole new level.
Exactly! I would have said...sorry you're out of clean socks...I guess you can learn how to use the washing machine, wear a pair inside out, or knock it off. If the kid can use a gun, he can operate a washing machine. Case closed.
Yes, making him do his own laundry is EXACTLY what should have happened. He has a compulsion - okay, but that has the consequence of running out of socks. "Therefore, here is what you do to mitigate the issues caused by your compulsion." YOU. The one dealing with the compulsion. Making an issue of it makes the whole problem worse. Instead, the person with the compulsion should have the choice of finding a way around it, or doing the extra laundry.
If the kid can load a gun, he can work the knobs of a washer and dryer!! I also believe his own father is at least 50% to blame; ignoring his son and just sending a check to the ex wife gets a ZERO rating from me in the "dad of the year" survey.
@@Cec9e13 I would also show him the water bill and make him responsible to pay for the excess utility fees.
The guilt she feels must be immense, and that goes without saying.
This one made me uncomfortable because the vast majority of people on the spectrum are more empathetic than they are given credit for with no desire to cause anyone harm.
Yeah honestly he sounds more like a psychopath than any autistic person I've interacted with online including myself.
Nuanced Productions I am thinking there is done unrecognized comorbidity going on. I think he is autistic, but not just autistic.
yes. Absolutely-
EXACTLY, his lack of empathy, his zoned out affect, pedophilia etc and yet his mother gives access to assault weapons.., he had far more wrong than simple spectrum..this is highly unfair to those with autism who would never harm
Yes, absolutely. His autism is being focused on and seems to miss a lot of other issues.
My son had ASD, and he had counseling and School support classes for kids with Autism. He became an excellent student and more outgoing in middle school. He had many friendships in High School and is a perfect student in college with many friends. Although there is still some rigidity and some anxiety, he has come a long, long way.
who cares
@@musictraining5071 I care. It’s great to know that there are parents who help their children receive adequate treatment in order to become successful because of it.
Kudos to you, Ann! Excellent job, Mom!!
@@lorel9371 What does successful even mean, it just means fitting people into boxes they're not made for. modern society is total BS
@@lorel9371 treatment for what? for stuff like ADHD and autism. half of the time it's hardly a "disease" that needs treatment. society needs to shove it. either they get off their "rigid thinking" or they let it be. i for my parts i'm glad i'm not socialized in this insane society.
@@musictraining5071 Successful in this case, means that Ann raised a son who didn’t kill a bunch of kids or educators. That’s success to me.
Your warped sense of what you perceive people believe success is, doesn’t apply to me. You make negative, distorted assumptions. Seriously though, who cares?!?
Dr. Grande's presentation here and in other installments, is articulated clearly and logically. He draws his listeners in with his soft voice and his excellent analyses.
im in the spectrum and i can't even believe how killing isn't extremely overstimulating and exhausting
I am too but I have to say I’m confused by what you’re saying. Extra words and the double negative have me confused. So you can’t believe it isn’t over stimulating and exhausting? Care to reiterate
@@screwmuckduck8905 i dont see how i use double negatives? think i couldn't have put it more plainly and straightforward
@@endorfiene7457 sometimes I understand what people are saying, and sometimes I can’t. You can’t even believe how killing isn’t extremely over stimulating and exhausting? So you believe how killing IS extremely over stimulating and exhausting? Or was there a typo? What was your point if you could rephrase it?
@@screwmuckduck8905 yes i believe it would be extremely over stimulating and exhausting
@@screwmuckduck8905 keep in mind english is not my native language
It is downright horrifying that he had access to firearms.
He didn't. He never existed. You are operating out of fear, bad idea.
@@hanselmansell7555 No, but nice try. Going to have to do better than that.
@@sirbader1 Qtard lol
@@sirbader1 do you think Bill gates is turning the frogs gay using chem trails as well lmao
And also that he was let loose on the public.
5:12 he went from “👋🙂” to “😳” That had me dying
Yeah...serious psychiatric illnesses are HILARIOUS.
@@sandraheaton1084 yeah they are
@@sandraheaton1084 oh really? Is it hilarious when they start killing people? Oh yeah hahaha 😂😂🤣🤣 I’m sure you’ll be laughing then.
@@screwmuckduck8905 I was being sarcastic.
@@sandraheaton1084 as someone once said there’s always some intended sneer to sarcasm. Idc what you say.
I cannot stop binge watching your video. So glad I found this channel
It's never easy seeing that picture. I took karate with his older brother, talked with his mom a lot when she would come to pick him up. She was a nice lady, (at least on the surface with her public face). Met Adam a few times... just stood there silently... never looked you in the eye... and he always had that "blank" look in his eyes (if he allowed you to even get much of a glimpse). Had you asked me anything about him, only thing I'd really have been able to say is that he looked almost exactly like his brother to the point that the genetic probability of such a similarity (at such a drastic age difference) was just crazy to contemplate, and (due to his silence) was his most stand-out feature.
We're never gonna know _everything_ about why he did it (Dr. Grande doesn't even talk about how Adam showed up at the school days before he shot it up, there was CLEARLY a "fixation" thing going on). Those kids, their parents, families of the teachers/adults, that whole town, and everyone who experienced it will never get full closure. I'll tell you this, the bullying culture in Sandy Hook School IS actually strong. I've always suspected that being part of the equation since he was fixated on the school WAY BEYOND his time in it. The teachers in that school at that time (when he attended) did an absolutely horrendous job at identifying when an individual was being bullied, let alone ever acted on it to stop it... so it doesn't surprise me to hear them say "nothing was seen/reported". Frankly, it wouldn't surprise me to learn that they even resorted to publicly shaming him in front of his peers as a way to try and "motivate" him to change his behaviors. (keep in mind, that is speculation based on first hand experience with THAT SPECIFFIC school system and school itself). There's never been any other reason that came to mind to explain why he was there and why he did it. If he's writing that story about the gun cane in 5th grade for an assignment... and Sandy Hook School was k-4... then you're gonna tell me he was feeling THAT much rage at THAT age and wasn't getting bullied? Bullshit. I'd be willing to bet that he was relentlessly bullied AND was incessantly invalidated/ignored/abandoned by authority when it came to addressing it (IF he brought it up considering how silent and shut off he was)... it was a common experience for many. The "weird kids" were picked on the worst BECAUSE they were easy targets for all the other kids to use as "community punching bags".
The other fucked up thing about that day was CNN jumping the gun before ALL of the details were gathered. Adam took his brother's ID with him, and Ryan was originally named as the one who did it. One of our mutual friends even ended up having to talk to the media because of a stupid comment on an image posted to Ryan's Facebook account... not only did that fucker end the lives of innocent children, people who jumped in the way to try and save their lives, and his own mother, but he dragged his own brother into it as well in a way that constituted a "fuck you, deal with this".
It's fucked up seeing that picture
Wow. Your insight is fascinating. Hope your area has taken a strong stance on bullying. Hope people could at least learn a lesson and get something from this awful thing.
So sorry you experienced this. Hope you and your family and community are well now. Hope you all found or will find peace.
@@stevenpaplan7154 I wouldn't want to move back to that town, that's for sure. You have former school bullies on the police force... and very strange inner-circles of a few families that have been there for absolutely ever... and more than it's fair share of fucked up occurrences (and i probably have no clue as to how many things happened in the 80s/90s).
- The woodchipper stuff in Fargo was based off a real murder in Newtown from the 80s.
- Way too many teachers in student sex scandals (3 just within my time living there).
- As with most "wealthy white suburban towns", heroine and cocaine are somehow a crazy big issue that is able to persist amongst a heavy police presence, and MANY kids OD'd.
- As far as I've heard there's no explanation for this next thing (and i don't know if it is still happening), but there is clearly SOME organization in the High School that is engaging in a hazing ritual of making a person run mostly naked, with their hands bound, on the side of the road, only to make them squat in the bushes is cars drive by. I was told about it from someone who described what they saw, and then I actually witnessed it for myself one night.
Not to intentionally rob you of hope, but i doubt that that town has learned it's lesson. The narcissistic helicopter parents that want to be all up in your business if you aren't giving them the results that they desire, despite attempts to use logic with hem, are neglecting the actual needs and healthy development of their children in hopes to creating ideological/behavioral clones of themselves... and there is clearly a culture of "abandon the child until it falls in line" going on amongst the "adults", who all seem to use the same blame-shifting method of pointing to mistakes or the effects of abuse as justifications for being overly harsh.
Frankly, Dr. Grande should do a whole episode (maybe series) on Boomer narcissism and how it has affected the culture/country on multiple levels... starting with how they abused their kids due to their conditioned fear responses from Cold War era propaganda.
@@GreenH0cker @Hocker interesting. I couldn't agree with you any more about the boomers. All over the world they're holding back progress basically.
I dont know, your town sounds like a normal place honestly. Cops are that way everywhere, drugs are bad all over, teachers sleep with students, towns go through murders, hazings of sorts happen. Granted, your example is a bit extra, especially for, high school aged kids I'm assuming.
But Adam's story is super extreme..... maybe he wasnt bullied? Autism effects everyone differently. Maybe he was just going through something, and yeah, got fixated on the school for some reason.
I dont understand why he was allowed to have guns in the first place.
It's just really sad at the end of the day. If one child family was grieving that would be devastating. I cant imagine the scene for all those families.
It's like you grew up in a stephen king novel. Except a little more dark and twisted.
Fascinating talking to you.
Not to say he wasn't bullied. I would trust your judgement above most.... but does anyone really know? Maybe they do. And you would probably know the ones that di
@@stevenpaplan7154 no, i'm a bit older than him, around his brother's age... no idea who, and did admit that it's just been a suspicion based first hand knowledge of the school and culture within it.
And yea, Newtown sounds a bit like "IT". It's definitely not like its the only place that's like that, but there's an interesting concentration of it. The woman who wrote Hunger Games is from there too, if that's any indication of how dark a person's mind can get while living there.
Thank you for covering the psychology of Lanza, most work done on this case is tearjerking pertinent to the victims, which is important but I think we need to look at the minds of these criminals as well and their background to hopefully avoid tragedies in the future.
The fact that people deny this really happened is terrifying. Denial of such events won't make them stop.
Youre the one we're worried about. Your critical thinking skills are sub Par and you shouldn't be allowed to vote. Let me guess...your voting for Biden?
"We need to talk about sandy hook" is something you should probably watch.
@@themodsify I watched it and it's a lot of nothing. I suggest you do actual research and read 'The sheltered storm'. Nothing wrong with critical thinking, but it's plain obvious there is nothing mysterious about the attack itself.
@@arutzuki2491 BS. I did do the research. It was all acting.
I think Dr. G doesn’t want to admit that he’s played hours of Dance Dance Revolution, the way he pretends he’s never heard of it. 😀
LMBO!
@@debrajones7344 laughing my butt off?
@@topnug7626 Yep.
You guys!...
Great observation! I believe you are 100% correct.
I know a lot of people who have lots of guns..... every gun is stored in a large metal gun SAFE.... unloaded and many taken apart for safety... the children do not have the ability to get into the safe.....
This mother failed her child by having guns around a mentally unstable child
Yes and it was early reported there was a safe, as she was some type of shooting sports enthusiast. But why Adam had complete access isn't known. I totally agree. And unfortunately, tragically, it wasn't just her own child at stake.
Lisbeth Bird - a sports enthusiast - what sport do you need semi-automatic weapons for?!
@@sherunswithscissors What do you need access to the internet for? What criminal plans do you have?
@@sherunswithscissors hunting for food is now a sport... some places have to hunt down the wild pigs because they are destroying property but more importantly they will attack children. Gun enthusiasts like to test their skills, ... different guns different skills...
@@sherunswithscissors right.
Adam Lanza was a very intelligent coherent boy. I was shocked when I heard him on a radio call. He had no trouble communicating and forming intelligent thought. He was calling in about a monkey that attacked and ripped face off that lady.
Nuh uh
yeah I forget the specifics of the conversation, but it was an analysis about how the chimp who ripped that lady's face off was reacting to being isolated and he was sympathetic to the chimp. He must have felt the same way, because he spoke extemperaniously about other aspects of our society and it was really a shock. I recall he used vocabulary that I woiuld never expect from even a college graduate. He has portrayed as some kind of silent autistic gun loving retard and he was very insightful. Not sure what his issue was with that school or if it was randome against society. It's worth looking back on people who were so desperate to do things like this. Kazynski was determined NOT to have the insanity defense. He wanted to change society. Looking back at the Unabombers manifesto, after the facebook big tech data mining and J6, his trancendental life philosophy seems more cogent now, as Adam Lanza's analysis of the chimp. I find them both more intelligent than idiots blocking the highway for global warming. @@jaybobdoodles
ape not monkey
What role does his father play in all of this? I think understanding the relationship of his parents is important. His dad leaves and sends money and...??? That’s it? His father must have been aware that something wasn’t right with Adam. And was Nancy enabling Adam before the father left? Why did his father (Peter) leave? I am troubled by so much blame being laid on Nancy, although it certainly a degree of blame is warranted. What about Peter’s role? Surely a boy’s relationship with his father has an impact on the kid. Just saying.
yes, right on. Nancy was left alone to deal with the severely sick child. The Executive Father just took off so he did not have to deal with Adam. I can imagine how exhausted Nancy was.
Thank you for this comment! It seems as if in cases like this everyone's always debating the mother's responsibility (and rightfully so), but it's so unfair how noone seems to feel the desire to confront the fathers who just stole away before desaster struck. When a child is born into a relationship, the responsibility doesn't automatically shift to the mother alone!
Cyd Kriletich what about places just for spectrum long term places?
Sorry Dr. G. but this presentation sounds like mother blaming.
@@ladybug1246 With $250,000 a year in alimony plus child support, the mother could not afford to hire some help ? She was a WEALTHY woman.
His mother definitely enabled his illness. My step mother does the exact same thing with my brother and I will forever resent it.
Dr. Grande....the way you say Dance Dance Revolution...
Dance
Dance
Revolution
😂 i got a giggle outta that too
Yeah that made me giggle too!🤭
It's almost as if you are dancing dancing revolutionarily
I have high functioning autism with depression, ADHD, and generalized anxiety disorder. However, I do feel empathy. It’s just different. Rather than being able to put myself in a person’s perspective, I feel bad for them from an outside perspective which can be helpful sometimes. I still sympathize. I used to cry whenever I saw homeless folks begging on the side of the curb. It’s just a different kind of empathy.
Anyways, great video! I appreciate Dr. Grande’s opinions and how he presents these cases so respectfully.
Don't compare yourself to Lanza. No matter how much society tells you it is mandatory. He does not represent us.
I'll never understand Nancy Lanza, his mom, who thought giving her sick son guns and taking him to a shooting range - to "teach him responsibility," she once said - was a good idea. She once told a school staffer not to turn his back on Adam, so she knew what he might have been capable of. Yet she ignored the obvious warning signs which cost her her life and the lives of nearly 30 people, most of them innocent children. This is a tragic cautionary tale with a hard lesson: You don't allow people like Adam Lanza to get within 20 miles of a firearm, let alone own one. In 2008, Nick Browning, a 15-year-old high school student from Cockeysville, Maryland got ahold of his dad's gun and shot his entire family - his dad, mom and two younger brothers. All were killed as they slept. The motive: He was tired of being told what to do.
Maybe his mother gave in to him beacause she was afraid of him.
The simpler explanation: his tendencies wore her down until she stopped struggling. Couldn't have been easy raising this kid.
@@reallyhappenings5597 These days it seems every other parent gives in to their children almost as a matter of course, trying to be their friend and just generally tolerating any bad behavior in the hopes the child will grow out of it. Any parent letting her kid go buck wild is not surprising in the least, IMO.
@@dingfeldersmurfalot4560 a true friend never lets a friend do wrong
Could be...
She could have and should have had him committed.
One question. Why did his mom give him access to any weapons? I will never understand.
F... ing disgusting, isn't it ?
Because she is a diehard republican
Dr. Grande talks about firearms in the manner of a person quite familiar with them.
You noticed that, too.
Not the first time this is discussed. Dr. Grande is probably the most gun nut mental health professional out there.
Lot of docs are firearm enthusiasts.
Is that a problem?
@@AlexKeithJackson Why would it?
And his mother gave him access to firearms... Let that sink in.
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5:22 - that will always be the FREAKIEST and most TERRIFYING photo of Adam Lanza for me. JESUS THOSE EYES!!!!
IT SCARES ME SO MUCH
But hes the one who looks scared
Cripes, even Marshall Applewhite's stare wasn't as creepy as Adam's! 😲
I know...terrifying but also heartbreaking. He obviously needed to be hospitalized and given serious intervention.
there are rumors that it is "photo shopped" to present him in a worse light to the public.....that's what's been said for several years....it's not a "real" photo.
I rather dislike and disagree with bringing up violent movies and video games in any case. If there were any significant correlation between those and violent behavior, these incidents would be far more common among the general population in addition to those with mental health disorders.
You should do a video on the mental health and personality factors of those who actually believed this was a hoax. Their were people harassing families and demanding to see their children's corpses as that would be the only evidence they would believe. The parents refusals were PROOF it was a hoax. How sick does a person have to be to do that?
He should do a video on people that believe everything they see on tv and never question anything.
@@kellyramsey5486 Are you actually Alex Jones? Dr. Grande's already done a video about you, so....
Levi, yes, I believe I read that those harassers were inspired by an entertainer called Alex Jones. I had never heard of him until the Newtown incident.
@@bluecollarlit
Wrong.
Alex and Halbig were late in the game.
See a fraction of the dirt on my tiny, no production channel.
Download and study the report.
Carson Lee Alex Jones believed the sandy hook story. Jeez. Simple facts. Can’t imagine you dealing with the harder stuff.
Mother of the year.
Mom: “Would you feel bad if anything happened to me?”
Adam: NO.
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Killing me softly, Dr. G. These child ones are particularly tough.
Agreed.
Truly.
He looked batshit crazy.
true i was listening to his youtube videos the other day on a drive and this kid was nuts he was definetly a sick bastard trying to be seen as a pitiful child
This is one of the saddest stories that can be told..His parents knew his diagnosis and still he was affected in the mind and could not focus like most..You can only do so much for those of us at home..Adam Lamza was alone in many of his known hobbies if any and all alone in his thinking on life and the world he tried to maintain in..He was not normal and that was well known by his parents..Adam lived a sad life and stayed away from bullies and others..not too close to anyone..Adam needed guidance and a few friends..Adam needed help and supervision which only could happen by his mother cause he lived with his mother..
@@antivalue well did you know him?
When you said he consumed a box of tissues everyday I took it literally lmao
@@fozziebear5351 He/she clearly said 'lmao' about themself, thinking he was actually eating tissues. They're not making fun of what happened. Calm down, you're choosing to be overly sensitive 🙄
Same
Fiber
this is tragic all around. 20 dead children, 7 dead adults, and a lifetime of pain and trauma, all because Nancy refused to help her clearly disabled son because she wanted to make him "normal" What's especially sad is that Adam was a victim of mental health and a poor support system, which led him to become the monster we know him as.
These people are raising monsters and then unleashes them into our society, making us sitting ducks for disasters such as Sandy Hook
@@nelixsulu6201 Why do you hate autism so much? Why do you hate parents who do their best with ever-changing diagnosis and ever changing interventions so much?
Oh, because you watch videos like these that calls themselves "scientifically informed" so that must mean of course it is all good.
So... I could explain I have a brother on the autism spectrum. I could explain without a diagnosis of intellectual disability a child would not even receive a diagnosis of autism until the late 90s.
Children who we now classify as autistic were frequently diagnosed as schizophrenic as young as 11. They were frequently given permanently mind altering next generation anti-psychotics that were never developed for or tested on children.
In the 90s until now it would be rare for someone to shame a parent for having a child with a trisomy disorder (one of which is referred to as Down's Syndrome) or Cerebal Palsey but people feel compelled for reasons to be experts on how parents of children with autism are not raising them properly. That is when parents are not getting scolded for giving their children autism for having them vaccinated.
So, back to my brother: Knowing what we know now about autism, having watched the interventions he recieved and the interventions that were available to him a child what I can say is this: If Adam Lanza experienced even half of what my brother endured a healthy skeptism of psychiatric and psychological interventions is a very normal response to clinicians practicing whatever the latest trends are and calling it scientifically informed.
As an adult I would spend time managing residential settings for adults with developmental disabilities and/or a co-morbid mental illness. I am now raising a child diagnosed with autism.
Working as a professional then becoming a parent of a child with autism do not even compare. As a professional I encountered the defensiveness of parents of children with autism. I thought I understood having watched what my brother endured in thd 90s.
There are so many more resources available to children with autism than 30,.20, or even 10 years ago. When picking treatement for my own child to say I approached with a healthy sense of skepticism would be an understatement.
My child is thriving and doing well because she has access to services such as ABA therapy that Adam Lanza did not. My child's school does not shame her for being different of put her in a "Behavior Disorders" classroom where all of the kids in there think of themselves as bad kids.
The amount of autism hatred on this forum is shocking to me. Some of y'all need to reflect why you hate autism so much. When people who self-identify on the spectrum and wonder how another person on the spectrum could commit such a mass killing without becoming overstimulated you need to be paying attention. When people on this forum self identify themselves as being on the spectrum respond with empathy and kindness. If you cannot do this you need to reflect about why.
Oh, and Dr. Grande the "Refridgerator Mom" causing autism and by extension all of the behaviors has been scientifically disproven decades ago. No matter how passive aggressively you present it you are still blaming a murder victim for her own murder based on bad science. That is much easier than admitting the legion of failure your field is responsible for diagnosing and treatment of human beings rightly or wrongly diagnosed with autism spectrum disorders. Or maybe you're a misogynist and ableist. I'm certainly not going to watch any more of your poorly informed videos with your ableist and hateful community to find out.
@Misogynistic Person You are angrier at a woman murder victim than you are the (male) mass murder or the (male) surviving parent?
Seems about right for one of @Dr. Todd Grande's fans.
She tried to get him help and was the one, who pushed to have him diagnosed but at some point he didn't listen to her anymore and stopped going to therapy
The mind in teenagers is not developed, he was a sociopathic that lacked empathy this will sadly always exist in our society. There are lots of ties to mental illness and you ultimately have to have one to do this .His mother was not honest with herself. I saw a lot of stories of teen sociopaths planning premeditated murders. Many did not have Add and were very charming. It will always exist in our society. I think it’s 1% some will commit horrible acts of this porportion or smaller scale and most end up in jail for crimes. Antisocial personality disorder is a very hard disorder to treat due to the lack of empathy respect for human life and compassion for suffering.
Absolutely outstanding observations doctor. Thank you.
Why the focus on his mother? What was his farther doing to help him? Easy to blame mothers, what would you do living with him 24/7
@Michele Ellis Our society doesn't really go for that.
Seems like the father got the hell out.
@@bluecollarlit As well as Adam's brother Ryan. Would be a very good source of information about what went on if he is ever inclined to talk.
Well his father said he wished Adam “had never been born”, so, there’s that.
I would have not give him access to the gun safe lol
Human behavior is so interesting. Thank you for explaining things with such clarity 🙏💖
This was helpful. My heart STILL breaks for those kids, the faculty, the parents. I have little boys the same age and when I went to my son’s kindergarten open house to meet the teacher and see his room; I remember looking around for exits & being relieved to see & feel heavy locking steel doors to his room with no glass. I wondered if the teacher would be able to fit all the kids in the tiny bathroom that was surrounded by cinder block (and was the safest place from flying bullets). I asked not about curriculum but security, “are these doors always kept locked? Do these windows open?” When you evacuate the building where do you take the kids? In other words; where can I find him?” I still donate to the sandy hook foundation. I still pray for the parents. I always wondered about the monster who did this. I thought he went to the school to kill his mom, I didn’t know she was already dead. I imagined he was deeply troubled. Allowing him access to those guns is unimaginable🤯
When it comes to warning signs of mass murder; I and a lot of people have been saying these messages since Columbine: No child should have to be afraid of going to school. No parents should have to be afraid of sending their children to school. See something? Say something! Silence contributes to violence.
When it comes to warning signs of mass murder; I and a lot of people have been saying these messages since Columbine: No child should have to be afraid of going to school. No parents should have to be afraid of sending their children to school. See something? Say something! Silence contributes to violence.
Years of a man lost in his own head. He delved deeper and deeper into his own psyche. If he had found a good job and sunk his teeth into it I feel over time he could have turned it around and felt more positive in his head.
Potentially..
@@Human1136 exactly he neded some tough love to force him out of his psyche.unfortuntly his mom wasn't up to it because she loved her son
You gotta have a sense of work ethic to do that, no matter what mental issue you have.
Thank you Dr Grande for reviewing this awful tragedy. I’m not sure as a mother how you could change the ocd behavior. Why was he going to regular school? This case is so unbelievably sad.
It's sad that neurotypicals think that having a normal gaze makes you good or bad. Many people with mental or physical disabilities look 'weird' but would never hurt others.
@NSDAP Enthusiast 88 Just because someone has a mental disorder (or even a physical disability or paralysis) doesn't make them a good or bad person.
@NSDAP Enthusiast 88 And my original assertion was that people with mental or physical disabilities can be 'weird' looking without being inherently good or bad. So we were talking past each other from the start.
and plenty of "normal" people are big time assholes. socialization can be super maladaptive.
You’re overgeneralizing neurotypicals here. We don’t all think the same just as non-neurotypicals don’t.
@@missmerbella That's a fair point, but I am basing my generalization on the comments from this video, so more accurately, I should have said, "commenters" instead of neurotypicals.
Sorry asking you on this video, but was wondering if you could analyze behavior of Yolanda Saldivar...the woman that killed Selena, the entertainer some years back. Thank you.
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good idea^^^
Interesting case.
If only his mother had made him buy and wash his own socks.
He would not have had time to do a shooting.
Buy and wash your socks kiddo!
In my day we had to wash our own socks, no time for mass murder. What happened to this country?
@@reallyhappenings5597 Since I left home I've found it much easier to control my murderous impulses.
Great point! Lol
Like one of my teachers said once to my class, if you can't like a kid with a slight difference from the normal, don't have a kid...
if you have children, pay attention to what they do, ask questions, be a part of their life by having them take part in activities together, show them love and forgiveness, and for the love of humanity-- keep guns away from them.
I’m a firm believer that teenaged boys, particularly troubled ones, should live with their fathers, as long as a good environment exists and the father can care for them financially. There comes a point when many boys turn their mothers “off” and she can no longer exercise control or influence. This is by no means a criticism of mothers; it’s just a reality that can occur with a male child.
You just explained in a nutshell why “The Hood” is filled with young males running wild and victimizing others.
A very troubled boy. I wouldn’t judge Nancy too harshly. It must have been very difficult trying to bring up this boy specially after the father disappeared. Never judge anyone until you have walked in their shoes
I have aspergers and adhd, my mom raised me all by herself working 12 hr shifts as a pharmacist, certainly not making $200,000. If there's a will, there's a way. Was it hard? I'm very sure, and I'm grateful to my mom, but I'm not out here trapezing around with a gun killing people.
My son was diagnosed with Autistic spectrum disorder, we no longer use Asperger’s in the UK as he was a Nazi! My son is twenty two, school was very hard for him, he couldn’t socialise so some boys did copy him, thankfully the school had a separate classroom and toilets, Harry couldn’t cope outside this classroom he enjoyed chatting with the other students, they loved Harry, they didn’t call him names etc as they were all ASD students!
My son suffers with depression which is being treated with Prozac since he was ten years old, it has certainly helped him, he takes Melatonin to aid sleep and recently he has started Pre Gabablin to stabilise his anxiety, wow he has been on these for three weeks and already I am noticing an improvement!
It's not a UK thing , rather it is individual.
Personally I'm just not surprised that he joined the NAZI party and did what he had to to get on with his work and what dark things he already had a pre deposition to do if it was encouraged. We've all got it in us to do awful things.
That doesn't negate the significant work and the influence his work had at recognising kids who were verbal etc as also having a disability and therefore qualifying for disability support.
Doesn't excuse him sending some select kids to be euthanised, doesn't excuse him being a Nazi.
He lived in evil times, he is a mix of good and bad.
I hate that word.. "cope" internet demons use em' all the time
In most of these school shooting cases, it's the perception of being a HAVE NOT vs the HAVES, in the minds of the shooter/s. They find themselves so far removed from what appears to be NORMAL around them that they lose all hope. Their sense of normalcy and confidence can become really warped, especially if they happen to be over-sensitive, too kind or humble, fragile from within.
Their comparisons with peers can range from their families (whether dead, broken home/divorced, or domestic abuse - either violence toward them or by one parent toward another), physical appearance, affluence, toys they can use to attract friends/company, lack of any unique or special skill/talent that can make them stand out in their group or help win friends, especially girlfriends, their grades or some other compensatory trait or skill that preserves their sense of a secure and happy future. Now, even gender identity & LGBTQ issues can play a factor if such people are made to feel ODD.
Medication will not change their desires and sense of what they feel they need in order to be happy/preserve their notion of NORMAL. Counseling also may not work especially if they are told NO directly as no boy at that age will want to hear the word NO as far as their aspirations (be it physical needs or emotional needs) are concerned, especially if what's out of reach for them is prevalent in their immediate vicinity among others.
All it takes is for boys' egos to get shattered and if that happens at a crucial age (pre-teens or early teens) and continues to gain momentum, then that can have drastic consequences.
The further removed they become from what's NORMAL around them, the more spaced out and lonely they will get. They will have focus and attention issues as most of their time will be spent day-dreaming in an alternate universe where they are the heroes of their universe, or time spent doing drugs & alcohol or planning a suicide to escape the reality of their situation. This will further aggravate their psyche to the point that they cannot bear to see others happy nor can they articulate exactly what they are experiencing. Because they already find themselves in deep negative territory as far as fame, wealth, adulation is concerned, they will take the easiest route to obtain the low hanging fruit (fame or rather infamy) by doing something big.
I fear that a society that's way too capitalist or darwinian will alienate such individuals. When you create bubbles for yourself then there will be someone to burst that bubble eventually.
everybody is asking “how did nobody notice” everybody noticed lol , you need to understand nowadays people literally do not care at all and are extremely miserable and could care less. whole society is sick. it’s sad but it’s reality.
People care until it takes effort
@@lillysummer3546 so you just said nothing in the hopes others will do the job?
Bingo
I'm pretty sure it is. For 9 million years humans and hominids lived in small tribal groups if 50 to 250 under tight regimented customs
So, if people DID care what did you expect them to do about it? It's hard to force people to get mental health treatment. The main problem is why let him have access to guns?
As I recall , his mother left home during the Thanksgiving holiday and thought it would do Adam good to spend this time alone without her . The emotional trigger moment .
I've never read that she did that.
@@maxsexton835 she went on a trip to nh
@T Retano How old do you think he was intellectually and emotionally ?
Yes, that’s true. She went to a spa. Adam killed her as soon as she got home. It’s in the book “Newtown”.
The official story stated he did it because he wanted to have the highest body count ever. Where did you get this claim from?
I just got done watching a new documentary from Ape Huncho on TH-cam that has a tiny amount of new information, and a LOT more context as to what Adam experienced in his daily life. I was struck by his hatred of society, I feel like he needed something to blame for him falling through the cracks. He seemed to be emotionally uncommunicative, I think it was a big part of why he empathized with Travis the Chimp, and I think that played a big role in why he went undetected by people in his real life. I've heard a lot of dark creepy stories, but that one really freaked me out because his behavior had something subtly disturbing about it from the start. It's like following a drunk driver knowing they're going to wreck.
I just finished watching the same documentary. Best one IMO about this 💯
This was a fascinating video. His mother must’ve had some serious mental problems as well.
the absentee father as well
She definitely had a big blind spot where her son was concerned. They bonded over shooting high powered rifles/assault guns. Who does that when you're aware your son is disturbed?
Yes yes yes
You got a crazy kid? Buy him guns.......
Stock broker + executive = they had kids late in life, increased paternal age increases the risk for autism spectrum disorder. Divorce was probably the thing that broke him though - autists have a hard time processing change.
Adam Lanzas mother failed him on so many levels , her thought process was flawed just as her son's was I would go as far as to say she was just as sick as her son was ! Very tragic and unusual set of circumstances !
As a person with ASD Anxiety and Depression I have high empathy and am an Emotional CPR educator. All people with autism are different.
I have Aspergers and I totally relate in terms of being socially anxious, socially awkward, anti social and not being able to stay still or look people in the eyes and have OCD. It frustrates me because this Adam Lanza guy makes us look bad.
John Doe why that name if you don't mind me asking?
Anti social mean you don’t abide by the rules of society and lack empathy. Are you meaning reserved and that you get hyper stimulated by crowds. He said in the video having autism/ add does May actually make you less likely of these acts then the general population. There is a very small sociopathic population that also has neurodivergent symptoms. But overall the stereotyping on here is backwards. If anything you are more likely to be a victim yourself.
He clarified people with neurodivergence are less likely to commit acts of violence then the general population. Adam Lanza was a rare mix. Don’t stigmatize this statement alone is accusatory and hostile. People commit horrible acts against people because of their fear based ignorance.
Y'ALL ARE BAD
Having anxiety and depression eventually manifests itself into having no hope for the future. This is a terrible thing and can cause people to kill, either others, themselves, or both.
Anxiety and depression don't discretely correlate with homicide.
what are you talking about? “no hope for the future” depression and anxiety so common and are disorders people recover from themselves or with professionals, it’s disgusting to correlate such common mental illnesses with homicide.
I’m depressed, anxious, and have ASD. I’m also an avid hunter and gun owner. I’ve never thought about harming myself or others. Scientifically speaking, there’s very little evidence that depression/anxiety/ASD (all extremely common problems) cause people to be violent. Suggesting they do is just as absurd and scientifically inaccurate to blame violent behavior on violent video games.
@@Sixty_Five_Pronghorn I have dysthymia which is severe/long form of depression. As well as anxiety and I also have ASD. If I had a gun I would have already blown MY brains out. But never anyone else. If they hurt me in the past I want them to feel guilt once they find out I killed myself.
@@cindynunez2086 I would assume those people who hurt me in the past wouldn't think twice about it and move on. I prefer getting revenge and making them pay.
Dr Grande's knowledge of firearms is always impressive.
This was such an awful case, in so many ways. There seem to have been failures at many points and levels. I guess that's why some people have been in denial about it.
Dr Grande's knowledge of firearms is read off a script. not his forte
I think maybe the main failure is similar to many mass shootings, ignorance of the facts, too many facts, which where few to begin with, but mature with time. And like with the magical fairy sex dust, they just kept changing, until a point was reached when questioning the stories became illegal.
Very much like the Orlando queer club. If you wanted further information, about people getting shot in the head and talking about it to the world a day later, or people getting shot 3-4 times with these man slaughtering ARs with band aids on, wheeling themselves about, expect a follow-up by the fbi knocking on your door.
Or the Las Vegas music fest. where one 64 yr old guy guy shot 500-800, depending on source, people all by himself, with a bump stock from 32 stories high, and did it for an hour?
the stories get better the more attention you pay them.
the more questions you have, the more morbidly interesting they become.
You don't have to be in denial of a thing to question it, but it makes for good mental practice. especially stories with thousands of holes in them...
There are some of us that still recall a time when "If it bleeds it leads" was the news motto.
They had NO PROBLEM showing you bodies bleeding and shattered. head on collisions to suicide by shotgun on the toilet.
What do You think ever became of that?
Did we all of a sudden become a more just, moral and ethical society, with so much more pure respect about our fellow man? Look around. nope That sure didn't happen!
what then?
I mean at this juncture in time the press ought to be loving this stuff UP!
But no! The question often arises in "Denial groups", What happened? it should be plastered all over the news and dripping.
the bodies started to disappear from the tv screen about the same time as there were more and more mass shootings. that just did not make sense for tv, more blood = more views, more views = more money, right?
the mass shootings seemed to just naturally follow on the heels of calls for firearm control from every corner.
first full on calls for restrictions and bans came with Obama, mass shooting literally skyrocketed in that first year and continued chart topping throughout his reign.
now the press cannot get near a mass shoot scene. what is it that the press can't film?
even after the crime scene experts done and cleaned, no cameras? why? people picking them apart, pointing out every little thing contrary to the narrative. somebody got lazy.
this is just what i see, you or others don't see it...
correlations? I don't see any, do you? and i am not in denial, or any other river!
@@TheFlwildman Use fewer words.
This is coming from "A uniquely anarchic yet authoritative onslaught of Hibernian humour and entertainment from this Septic Isle of gooners and gombeens."
How about this, you take my off the cuff post, shorten it, convey the same meaning with the same contextual content and show me how you do it.
Thanks for your reply, and help.
"A uniquely anarchic yet authoritative onslaught of Hibernian humour and entertainment from this Septic Isle of gooners and gombeens."@@Spudcore
@@TheFlwildman That's a channel description. Your comment was overly long and BORING.
you only had ONE job, you failed miserably
@@Spudcore
"That's a channel description."
"A uniquely anarchic yet authoritative onslaught of Hibernian humour and entertainment from this Septic Isle of gooners and gombeens."
THAT is obviously overlong, boring AND indecipherable. thanks for playing.
when you see the little red arrow it means grownup stuff and move along.
thanks for your reply
I've been down the sandy hook rabbit hole lately, perfect timing for me ❣️ hope you're having a great day have a good weekend 💕
A DHS production?
They have made it much more difficult to research many events, especially this one. They came very close to being exposed.
Exposed for what?
@@G58 I hadn't really looked into it until last week my friend was asking what I think about it and I was like I've not looked into it. I didn't think it would be very interesting but I was wrong!
Yes-exposed for what?
It upsets me that there are people who deny this happened. 🙏
Only people with logical minds
Just people with agendas
"The eyes are the windows into the soul." Amen to fucking that.
I think it's important to lift up many of these killers are special kids.
Not to spread the false rumour that neuropsychological disorders raises the risk of becoming a killer.
But to lift how illtreated many of them are, hence they are very vulnerable to other problems life can cause. Like depression.
I have ADHD too, and ain't a killer although illtreated for decades, so my point is more that when these cases happen, we shall not only judge the perpetrator (although I admit it's only natural), but look at what went wrong.
In Adam's case a lot went wrong. He was put in too tough situations all his life. That can cause some real anger,frustration and hate. Believe me,I've, been there. The difference is, some of those who feel illtreated sought for revenge, some just wanna fade.
He wanted both.
Why he chose poor kids will never be totally clear, but he knew the school, he wasn't athletic so he needed smaller targets that could not tackle him. Etc.
But they just fucked him up. Like he needed that. He had issues already.
My youngest son was born just a couple days before this happened, in fact the first reports were coming in on the radio the morning we came home from the hospital. This one has always made me sick to my stomach. The stories of the parents will haunt me forever.
I think it is important to take a child to Church when they are young. That will make a difference in someone's life.
This poor kid. And kids. People, pls practice love with your family.
Scrambled Eggs why would you not have sympathy for someone who needed help and didn’t get it? He wasn’t born a murderer, it’s perfectly fine and should be *encouraged* to look at his past and figure out what made him that way. Of course what he did was wrong, but are you really surprised he got there? This is not a black and white issue, acknowledging root causes is not a bad thing.
Its not that simple..proper love is a thousand things mixed together in the right order during chaotic changing times. Its so f#$king hard to do.
My last note: He was obviously angry about something that happened to him when he attended that school that caused him to snap and do that tragic mass shooting. Chances are he was probably bullied himself.
The ill love some parents have for their kids is just beyond.
He was bullied relentlessly too. There is a video of him doing that dance game. Some bullies recorded it and uploaded it to the internet 😤 You can only poke an animal so many times before it snaps. I agree eith the mother not giving any supervision contributed, but I wondered if he was threatening her regularly🤔? Was she afraid of him? Or, did I miss something? 😬
She was an idiot to let him have access to guns. Even ‘normal’ kids his age shouldn’t have access to deadly weapons.
The Stupid Ass Dad just gave money and hid his head in the sand like a dumbass; he avoided because he knew
A lot of people are bullied they don't murder innocent people
@@thomasmatthewharris1980 That is definitely true. I was bullied myself. I have killed anyone. . . .😬
Some people just don't have the mental strength to not snap.
Are you gonna do Seung-Hui Cho some day?
He did
As, a, Brit, the idea that a teenager would have weapons is mind-boggling! I assumed his mum didn't know but it seems she did.
Oh come on, this is the USSA of amerikkka,
She definitely knew. That lady had enough weapons to arm the military
guns are honestly a religion here in the US. and its terrifying, people make it their entire personalities. over compensating, i'd say.
How’s the knife attacks in London? Huh?
@@PatrickBergersen There's really no comparison, is there!?
Wow. Now I know he went through this much, I'm beginning to understand how a mind can evolve to mad hatred by loneliness. It's so horrible to know such sad and evil human emotions, which we've felt, can be reflected on his, his way of thinking. It's all there.
His yt channel was found the other day. Really normalized him. Sucks they already pulled it
Yeah. Im glad there's tons of archives of it though.
Yeah! It really gave me a different view of him.. just how he talked, the topics he talked about, the jokes he made, and the way he giggled.. ya know?
The way he laughs and makes awkward jokes in some videos make him seem like an average goofy teenager.
What his yt channel?
@@Breh3543 his channel name its Cultural Philistine
His mother was an absolute fool to let
That dude have access to any firearms.
you're forgetting violent videogames
I don't know Dr Grande, but I kind of lean towards the mother being afraid of him so she over compensated for his behavior in an effort to keep peace, thinking that if he doesn't get upset then everything will be fine. I suspect this started when he was a young boy and developed over the years. She was in a state of denial really, but no matter how sick someone is it seems a mother would never expect her son to do what he did. I'm sure had she known what would happen in the end she would have made different choices parenting him. But we don't get to see into the future unfortunately. She ended up paying the ultimate price for her inaction. Does that makes sense? I hope not to get a bunch of backlash from people saying what they would have done if they were her because people don't really know what they would do until they are faced with the same situation.
Maybe it wasn’t just up to the mother. Maybe the father still needed to supervise him.
Swear every picture of Lanza just scares me to my core. I don’t mean this disrespectfuly but I swear that blank stare from his just comes off as Soulless. Like there’s nothing behind it there’s no soul behind those eyes. Just Evil incarnated.
For comparison someone more insane doesn’t even give me that vibe and that’s Nick Cruz like he has a blank stare at times but just not as haunting as Lanza’s if that makes sense.
Wish we could have done something to help everyone and anyone involved in these horrible tragedies on BOTH sides of the gun.
no ure absolutely right , just got off work & decided to watch this before bed. was scared sh!t less i couldn’t look him in the eyes
"He was going through a box of tissues every day."
Ok to be fair that's somewhat common for boys of that age. Jk
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Thanks for the video, Dr. Grande, your analysis was interesting and extremely helpful for gaining some understanding of Adam Lanza's circumstances. Was there a breakdown in Adam's relationship with his father? I don't recall that being addressed. Indeed, it may not be relevant, at all.
scripted, there was no analysis by this man. and he didn't do a thing to help you understand
@@TheFlwildman remarkably similar to your grammar
grammar was not my intent nor care, to convey a message of fact to you was.
we can start a correspondence if you would like and you can show me how to polish it up. Thanks for getting back. glad you got the message.
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I empathize with the mother, to a certain extent. You have a weirdo for a son, known this since he was a toddler. You have a seemingly absent father, no help there. I can imagine she felt overwhelmed most of the time, not understanding HOW to parent an unwilling-to-be-parented kid with special needs. I'd think with her affluence she might've had more resources available but that does ZERO for a child that resists help. My criticism is this; she knew this kid was a mental basket case better than anyone, yet she allowed him access to firearms?!?!? How'd she THINK it would end??? I'm an ardent advocate of our Second Amendment rights, but allowing a KNOWN unstable, potentially violent person access to firearms is willful negligence.
How the hell is any school supposed to handle a person like Lanza? Sending children with such severe social problems to a regular school is a recipe for disaster.
My wife adopted a pair of siblings with her previous mate. Long story long, the oldest sib is a psychopath. The ex ran away because of his behaviors. I moved in a year later. Had no idea what I was in for. Our school kept suspending him for violence. We couldn’t keep him at home, no one was safe anywhere around him. Law mandates he gets a FAPE. Parents here are visited by CPS and cops showing up over truancy. We couldn’t homeschool, school couldn’t handle him. It was a nightmare. At 9 years old I thought he was going to rape some smaller kid at his school. Finally he qualified for residential care. Everyone blamed us and treated us like criminals for causing his behaviors and for sending him away. It’s been unreal. People, especially school personnel, ignore these kids and deny the problems or blame the caregivers and turn a blind eye. There’s no help, it’s horrible. My stepson is superficially very charming, smiles warmly at all strangers. It’s all phony. He’s assessing what he can get out of them, and if he can dominate them. He overplayed his hand at the school eventually. He got very ugly and abusive with an aide that was a very submissive type person who had no boundaries. I was glad he finally showed what we live with even if they blame us for it. I was even more glad they finally figured out they needed to care about the other kids safety around him. They would not listen to me even though I had been documenting everything from within a month of moving in.
Agreed, it was a disaster,
She was extremely passive and reluctant to enforce any limits with him. As school year progressed and he got more aggressive she tried to stop him from cutting a girls hair in class. He called her an effing b and continued to try to cut other kids hair. After that incident he started pooping his pants in class to create chaos. We found out the aid was doing ALL of his work for him and any push to get him to do any work was met with this kind of retaliation from him. He’d also smear it all over the bathrooms. Finally when he was caught with a metal piece of a folding chair he’d taken apart to make a weapon, he got his ticket to residential. At home he was trying to start fires and being sexually aggressive to his sister who was also very submissive to him.
Electric shock therapy
No way is this reprobate worth going to jail for again. I’ve already been to jail over false abuse allegations once and it’s not happening again. In order to drive us out of district the school admins orchestrated a stunt to get me arrested. Lied to CPS and local Sherrifs. Too bad for them I kept perfect records of everything on this kid beginning from first month I moved in. I made everyone involved including my stepson regret that bull💩. I spent a year cleaning it up. I got a determination of factual innocence and sued the school. They settled for 145K.
He got 2 1/2 years of therapeutic boarding school. He’s been home a year and what works for us is intense strict structure. He falls out of line he gets to be grounded until he fills out my accountability form with zero blame shifting. He hates those forms. Would probably rather be tazed. 🤣🤣🤣 When he’s gotten it done correctly to my satisfaction, he signs it taking ownership of the incident and the corrective action needed and then I file it in a binder in chronological order in my locked cabinet inside my locked bedroom. I’ve told him if he gets arrested for anything that hurts anyone, I will be taking all my binders to the prosecutor to help them get the max sentence possible because I’ve made sure he knows better now. He’s hasn’t tried anything violent since he’s been home. Zoom schooling is working out great for him. No opportunities to be invasive and irritating to peers. 👍
We’re pretty confident we’re going to get him graduated from high-school without a criminal record. Currently he’s requested to wean off the vyvance and then the Risperdal in order to join the Marines. 2 years 328 more days to go. I would advise people to never adopt from our system. Foster only. Getting stuck with a psychopath and blamed for all the kids they hurt is horrible. There are almost no mental health services that are useful. We’ve had to figure it out on our own, piecing together a system for our home that works and nail down the safety with locks and WiFi cameras. No unsuspecting parents should be tricked into adopting a kid like this and be forced to house a violent mental patient who has no ability to self regulate who cannot feel empathy who spreads ptsd to everyone else in the home until they’re 18.
How could anyone look at him and think he's okay?
He seems cool 😂
He never existed.
Dr. Grande?
He does have an awkward way of speaking, but, I can't quite put my finger on it .
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I'm looking at a Google list of Dr. Grande's vids in the Google right sidebar. He hardly changes at all. That same affect-free blank stare. Only the shirt changes significantly, and it's virtually the same shirt-style. Maybe he bleaches the same shirt out now and then and painstakingly dyes it in different colors and patterns.
I wonder if the man went into psychiatry to wrest its control over himself, from the inside.
@@sirbader1 oh please ,do you have you psychology degree? You just stated your opinion without any examples or contradicts of the mother behavior then just ad hominem the channel
Of all the many hobbies in the world, why would Lanza's mother introduce her son to guns? Just does not make sense.
@Pat Shaw and that's why the America is great.
Tragedies happen, but eliminating guns is far worse. It looks like Chicago is doing just well and Australia's crime rates too 🙄😉
@@milicadjordjevic4498 there hasn't been a mass shooting in Australia or the U.K in 25 years after banning guns. We also have the advantage of not having tons of innocent or minor criminals shot to death by cops either.
But you will never get rid of your guns so you can look forward to Hundreds of more Adam Lanzas in the coming decades because you refuse to address your problem.
America
@Mercury hmmm let's just check the numbers shall we...bk in a min
@Mercury murders in 2018 UK/US
London 132
Chicago 539
New York 289
Detroit 304
L.A 259
Baltimore 318
ST Louis 188
I looked up Gary Indiana but it was surprisingly low at 46 I think but I guess that's due to only 3 people left alive there 🤣🤣
As a special education teacher myself, I blame the Department of Education for eliminating most of the Special Day programs for special-needs children, i.e , the "full-inclusion" garbage foisted on every school in the US. Many of the students "pushed in" to the general ed. programs are not receiving services they desperately need.
Very important point. Nowadays only the wealthiest, those who can afford to live in a major city, can afford to send their kids to schools specifically designed for special needs kids.
Full inclusion works for students with physical disabilities and obvious mental disabilities, so think Down’s syndrome and physical disablement , also people with motor neurone disease , people with disabilities on the autistic spectrum should not be in full inclusion , it’s very difficult for neurodivergent people to adapt to an inclusive environment, hear me out people , I’m autistic and I have ADHD. People like myself can misunderstand social interactions and we have trouble understanding the social interaction of joking around and making fun of people as a friendly thing. We think different, we are not dangerous but we do need to be treated differently, I am not in any way giving this nasty murderer a pass , what he did was disgusting and was a terrible tragedy for all the families involved and he deserves to rot in hell ,my point is that he should have never have been to be in an inclusive school at such an early age, it was only going to lead to him becoming what he became, his hyper focus made him a killer, he could have been pushed into something else , nobody was watching his focus
Feds are to blame for this uninformed legislation...LRE.
Secondly, why wd a mother have guns in the house with an unpredictable & troubled child? What was up with mom?
Mom had 1/4 of a million in resources to meet his mental health needs & instead bought an arsenal.
How did he learn how to operate these weapons?
Let's get real...We know that these brain & emotional behavioral disorders are linked to heroin meth crack & coc use by one or more parent....
I too am a special education student and to see that the Schools or department of education isn’t helping makes me very sad it’s like they don’t care they only want money.
I totally agree. I feel that school districts should do more to help kids with disabilities and provide with support to their families because the money they receive come from government wich is paid with our taxes. But the reality is that they don't care about the kids struggling and let them sink in their own. Very sad but true.
If she was getting over 200,000 a year in child support, why didn’t she spend some of that on getting him a lot of treatment?
He was a meal ticket- not even on the level of a beloved pet. She would lie to him about his future. Disgusting.
I wasn’t a meal ticket worth THAT much, but we pick up on it early. I can’t imagine what a kid with his problems went through.
When the one person in the world you know should be there for you, can’t be-? No one is worth the time. This poor guy saw no point in living.
It was Alimony, not child support. And she was in denial. Had she gotten 200Million a year, she wouldn’t have done a thing..
@Clark Hull I thought there was a way for family to request mandatory mental health services though, like through a court?
you mentioned Adam Lanza had a mom who would indulge him by doing things like doing 3-4 loads of laundry per day. That's a big sign that his mother was co-dependent. Having an anxiety disorder and a parent who is co-dependent is literally worst thing that happen to a kid psychologically. Just speaking out of personal experience.
It's what mothers do.
@@andymullarx6365 damn yo mama did it??…don’t remember mines doing it🧐
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Mothers are supposed to do what’s best for their children. Not indulge their delusions and unreasonable requests, even if they have mental disorders
She appeased Adam and allowed Adam to run her life like a dictator, and it didn’t fix anything in the end. It cost her her own life, her son’s life, and the lives of a bunch of innocent children as well
the kids need to do laundry....
She seemed worn down & exhausted.
The young man never got the help he needed. To allow him any kind of access to firearms is beyond irresponsible. He needed meds and therapy from early on.
Yeah he also needed to not shoot up a school. Be careful of absolving monsters like Adam Lanza of guilt just because they had issues.
As Dr Grande points out, there is no evidence of psychosis in this case.
Adam Lanza knew precisely what he was doing.
He knew what he was doing was wrong.
He didn't care.
@Yucan Amen.
What meds?
It’s true Lanza had issues, but nothing that could be easily medicated. There’s no reason to think he had any form of psychosis or mood disorder that meds could address.
Edit: I did another watch and noticed what I'd either forgotten or missed. He did have depression and that is associated with increased homicide risk. So, there's something. Still hope you don't mean giving Celexa to a 6 yo when you say "from early on", though.
@@PutonyourSundayBests What on earth does it mean to “absolve” a dead person. None of us can hurt him or punish him. Perhaps you’re looking for justification to sadistically defame other (living) people with similarly flat affects. If they don’t smile for the camera, that’s your cue to give them whatever sh!t is entertaining to you. Then you get to congratulate yourself for “preventing” a shooting when you were, in fact, merely amusing yourself at another’s expense.
@@somexp12 If you don't understand what the word means then google it. Absolve is to free someone of blame or responsibility. Dead people are responsible for the things they did whilst alive.
The rest of your comment reads like deranged ranting. I made no reference to his affect or 'smiling to the camera'.
Don't bully people, point, laugh and ignore them like they are a plant. Try to be nice. it's not always easy. Try. There are a lot of Adam Lanza people around. He was angry at a system that is unfair. We are NOT all created equal. And there ARE people above the law.
we are all created equal but we are all very different.
Yup. So many of this kinds of situations could be prevented if people actually took the time to care about people's mental health and listen to the warning signs.
Hola from Queretaro.
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I do not like greedy beggars.
You reap what you sow.
Stay alert.
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seems to me the mom was co-dependent “Codependent parents have a hard time enforcing boundaries and limits when their child becomes angry, sad or even distant”
Dr Phil is in the Hizzouse
@@TheHeavensFellen 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@JP-cr5uq what do squares mean?
You know some things that others don't. Co-dependency is buried. I am an addict on the other side. You have every right to be here. Rights however come with responsibility.
Agreed. And I also think she just really had a huge dissonance about mental health. She might not have been educated enough to understand him, or how to help him. That's why I love the internet, and youtube channels like this. Knowledge is power, and can change the world if we know how to use it.
That photo reminds of "The Scream" by Edvard Munch.
same
I'm sorry for laughing 😂
Yes, I couldn't place why his face made me feel uncomfortable 😕. Absolutely a likeness.
Hahahahahahahahahahahahahah
Except he's not screaming, it's before the scream.
I read that he weighed 114 pounds at death and was 6 feet tall. That’s anorexia. His mom had to have seen that he was wasting away. He should have been hospitalized and certainly not given access to firearms. She should have at the least have been worried about him hurting himself. His father didn’t really bother with him either. Horrible crime that could have been prevented. I think his mom was so far in over her head that she just drank to avoid his problems.
Eating disorders can be comorbid with autism, some autistic people aren't able to perceive internal sensations like pain and hunger, and sometimes sensory issues limit what kinds of food a an autistic person is able to eat. Whatever the reason for the weight loss, you're right that his mother should have been concerned that he was becoming so underweight and got him professional help.
If she was aware of the spreadsheet of mass murderers, that would be a point to consider inpatient care. Most of the time it's good to let people have their special interests, but a special interest in violence like that should be very concerning. The motivation to engage in special interests can be very strong, so it would probably have taken inpatient care to keep him away from material related to a special interest in violence.
The writing about violence when he was at school should have been a cause for concern.
There are so many points where he showed problems not typical to autistic people where people should have been concerned about him hurting himself or others. It's really tragic that he was left to become so obsessed with violence and had access to weapons.
Six feet tall and 114 pounds...that totally sounds like the physical description of one bad ass commando who could easily carry an entire load of guns and ammunition into a school and then skillfully shoot 26 people dead in less than even ten minutes. Yep.
If he only weighed 114 pounds how could he carry 40lbs worth of machine guns?
@@pepekekistani4472 Wikipedia says he was 6 feet tall and weighed 112 lbs...damn, how did no one notice and ask what was wrong with him??
@@midnightdeirdre Maybe no one noticed him because he never actually existed to begin with?
You forgot to say why he targeted the little kids. He thought he was saving and freeing them from a lifetime of suffering, rejection and disappointment, just like his life. He had a channel where he discussed a lot of this. Also some of his notes discussed this, in one he wrote "I wake up early just to be disappointed"
He didn’t think that
bullshit
@@takethelanzapill2643 He probably did, based on his TH-cam channel where he talked about exactly his antinatalist views and how society treats children (specifically, the "You want to rape them, but I want to save them" part). Also, he expressed something quite similar based on the call to the radio, how society corrupts children. Also, in the interview with his DDR friend, he then again expressed something along those lines.
@@quetevalgavergaaa That makes no sense
@@takethelanzapill2643 I don't care, just read and hear for yourself to the evidence and think whatever you want 🤷🏻♀️ those are all things that he said and was seemingly obsessed with, not me.