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In a lot of cases, jealousy is admiration turned sour
Yes, a distorted/perverted by ego admiration.
your description of how jealousy feels resonated SO much with me. its like your stomach drops. i never really picked up on it before. i think ive mistaken it as inspiration, i want to emulate someone so badly that i get this surge of urgency and anxiety and this almost.. vengeful? desire to “outdo” them. and get to smirk about it. but that energy always burns out so fast and often turns to self deprecation, even when i do achieve the thing i wanted to emulate
i think part of what makes turning jealousy into inspiration is that it feels like a blow to the ego. it feels like admitting that you are not as successful as another person, when you really wish you were or feel like you should be. but i think it comes down to knowing the insecurity youre conflicting with, as you said
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I really resonate with this and feel so understood , thank you for sharing ⭐️
You are so right. For me, it really does feel like a blow to my ego. Like a why not me? Thank you for describing it so clearly.
this!!!!
thank you for this comment...the stomach dropping. 1000%. It's almost like I go into fight, flight, freeze, fawn mode.
i really do believe that jealousy is the worst emotion one can feel (if not dealt with properly ofc). Its not anger, not sadness...like i remember when i had some phases where i genuinely struggled with jealousy, and it really was the worst time in my life.
feel you, it's just such a disgusting emotion. You know, at least you can work with other emotions like anxiety, anger, or frustration, but jealousy is just so fucking useless and a pain to transform/ work with. I've learned it's best to avoid it and the most effective cure for it is focusing on yourself and what you can do, and just appreciate the hell out of that. Often jealousy is very illogical anyway
in my first long time relationship (when I was still quite young to be fair), I found myself feeling really jealous of their ex. it like, consumed me. but also because part of it was that there was a lot of things we had in common, but it felt like they were just doing it better. and part of it felt like privilege that I lacked too.
and this is rare, but I just woke up one day and was like, “why??”
this person had shown me nothing but kindness in all my interactions with them, and what felt like comparisons coming from my ex were mostly encouragements to befriend them because of our overlapping interests.
and I was just kind of like, “okay, let’s try and look at this person for who they are not look at them with scorn for what I feel I am lacking”. and I truly felt like my world changed.
but I mean, it’s an ongoing thing that I feel we have to work on too. I still get those moments of jealousy of course.
one thing that has helped in recent years, is just framing it like “wow, i’m so happy for them. how cool that they can do that!” (or insert any topic of what i’m feeling envy toward).
the world feels a lot less lonely when you don’t feel like everyone is purposely trying to “one up” you, and you’re putting yourself down as a result.
@@elantris-2002I feel Ike the more we avoid it, the more likely it may linger and make us get more mixed feelings towards them (can’t think of the word). Jealous is an ugly feeling but nonetheless it’s a feeling. And it’s a normal feeling as well. Best we can do if acknowledge it, and change into something different
And about other feelings we can deal with it we can turn anger/sadness into lesson and put work into ourselves but jealousy is such a loser feeling you can't turn it into smth it's such a worse feeling.
my boyfriend cheated last year, and while he promised to change and did change his life around, i have never felt the same and i genuinely cannot look at pretty much ANY other woman without the gross emotion that she would be attractive in his eyes... and there's a lot of woman out there who like to show themselves off, which is fine but I don't believe I am amazingly beautiful, just kind of normal with good days and bad days, yet to me these girls are extraordinary and something ill never be that he might want, I am really good at staying positive and seeing the brighter side of things, but this is something that entirely consumes me and it is my only thought process when out in public with or without him, i just keep getting more and more insecure and i have no idea why i still think this way when i practice self love and really try to control the thoughts i have that come with this emotion pls someone give me answers
I think a lot of the time jealousy comes from the mindset that "I feel like I am worthy to the success that the other person is having, but the reality is I just cant achieve that right now, and i dont want to admit the fact that maybe I am just not as worthy as that person"
I love this niche of "being your best self" chats while doing floral arrangements!
00:00 🌱 Shift jealousy into inspiration by adopting an abundant mindset instead of a scarcity mindset.
03:46 🔄 Jealousy can perpetuate negative emotions like resentment and discontent, leading to poisonous success.
06:18 🎯 Success without contentment and satisfaction is hollow and perpetuates jealousy and envy.
09:47 🚗 We can't replicate someone else's success story exactly, but we can draw inspiration from it to create our own path.
12:33 💡 Retrain your brain from jealousy to inspiration by acknowledging abundance and potential for personal growth.
15:04 🌟 Creating from a place of inspiration attracts positivity and genuine support, leading to authentic success.
16:56 🔍 Identifying and addressing personal insecurities underlying jealousy is crucial for personal growth and fulfillment.
19:03 💡 Understanding why you feel jealous can help you build a stronger foundation for personal growth.
20:53 🌱 Being genuinely happy for others' achievements can signal to yourself and the world that you are worthy of success too.
22:29 💬 Redirecting jealousy into curiosity and admiration can lead to personal growth and relief from negative emotions.
25:27 🔍 Deconstructing jealousy can reveal insecurities, allowing for personal growth and inspiration.
28:49 🚀 Training your brain to feel excited instead of jealous can lead to inspiration, action, and achievement.
Thank you
Thank you🙏🏻
i just love your vibe sm ! the background, the flowers, the font, the outfit ??everything is so pretty what😭💗binge watching ur channel rn
Thank you 💐💞 So happy you’re here! 💗
@@inayah0 of course🫶🏾
ikr her energy>>>
Agreed.
It's terrible to be envied by people. It's like being hunted down
Because people don't manage it and turn it into hate
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I feel like it’s so hard to change when my mind and it’s thoughts are so used to saying negative hurtful things about myself
I understand. It is a lot of hard work and can be an intense process to change what we say about ourselves but I promise we are all on this learning journey together. I am sending you love and am proud of you regardless
@@ruckboger Lmaoo
@@inayah0 yes it is a lot of work 😅thank you for the love🙂
@@deezenutz18 hehe glad that was taken the right way! sometimes my snarky comments backfire
@@ruckboger I feel you brother
key points:
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9:27 inspiration
10:18 what’s triggering the envy?
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Thank you for this!! There are specific bits I want to come back to again 😅💞
@@Lotuaoki you’re welcome ☺️
One more thing I just realised watching this is that Jealousy comes from this need/desperation for the thing and that if we dont have the exact thing, maybe our life isnt worth it. But what I never realised, especially since I've realised I'm struggling with this now, is that the nuances of me and my life and experiences needs something different for me to flourish. If you shed the certainity that this is exactly what my life needs, then you will become open to experiences that are more moulded to your path automatically. Believing that a conventional path is necessary for life to be good is the root of jealousy. I think my life needs a relationship and being wanted by everyone, but honestly the exact desperation for it is why I shouldn't get it now. Because desperation stems from insecurity and even if I get it, I wont feel the same way the friend I'm jealous of will and im stemming my growth by forcing myself to follow this path that on a deeper level might not give me what I actually need in life
watched your confidence is uncomfortable really brought a new perspective into my life, I've been insecure about my actions towards people I love and care about i always tend to keep it to myself, and understanding that its okay to speak how i feel towards them, its been a burden of mine to keep my thoughts to myself. Honestly thank you inayah
we are on this journey together. proud of you. thank YOU
so underrated … your advice is incredible and honestly been struggling with social media addiction that’s made my body dysmorphia worse and I appreciate your energy and videos 🥹💗💐 you’re beautiful please keep making these.
I really relate to this I’m going through the same thing, you’re awesome ⭐️🪷
@@tealt333 thank you for replying and understanding me 😭💗 it’s not easy but we can conquer it, sending positive energy to you!!
@@catfreestyleof course!! again thank you for sharing I feel so seen it’s so lovely to know I’m not alone❣️I’m sending you so so much love and healing energy your way as well 🌱
i am so glad that anything i have said resonates with you. i have struggled with similar things and i appreciate you being here, we are on this journey together xx
the thumbnail is so pretty like you look so unreal your skin is glowing ur so beautiful
im so happy when u mentioned about islamic culture
When did she talking about islamic culture? Which min?
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Happy i'm not the only one here🤝
off topic but you look like a fairy princess, your skin, face and hair is sooo beautiful and your room and flowers just adds to the vibe
I started running about 2,5 years ago and my pace/progress stagnated for about a year. Then my GF started running too about 7 months ago and quickly caught up to about my level, i got slightly jealous in a non toxic way and it pushed me to change my workouts and finally improve. I'm not letting her beat me 😄
After my first girlfriend broke up with me I've been struggling with feelings of jealousy and insecurity for over 2 years now, longer than we were together. This video is a new perspective on jealousy, and I think it will help me recover. So thank you
Jealousy comes down to the feeling that someone else's mother or father loved them when we were not loved. But, this "love" is just attachment. True love is without attachment, it's basically freedom.
When I detached myself from the conditional love of my father/mother and set boundaries my heart was set free. In doing this, my jealousy left me as well.
Wow, I was actually in a therapy session two weeks ago and jealousy - or feeling unworthy - spontaneously came up. I’m in my 30s but it’s crazy how jealousy and envy can creep up in so many areas of my life, and it shows that one never grows out of it entirely, but it *can* be managed. It definitely takes discipline for me to recognize it when I begin to feel it (like a dark looming storm cloud) and navigate through it.
Fr. Envy is a hard feeling to accept. Once you’re like, you know what- yeah I want that , isss coo
I planned to watch this video on the same day, but I got busy and things happened. Not knowing this wasn’t the right time to do so, and I will watch it when I need it.
I just ended a friendship because of jealousy, me and that friend we’re very similar to each other, and over time I got attached to them and when I started to be serious about us being closer than friends I found out they have a crush on another person. It triggered something in me and I’m not the same person anymore. I cried, but then I realized I might not have loved them for real. They were the only resource of love and comfort and not because we did have a special connection, by talking to them I found out that “comfort” is just their casual personality, and they do the same to all of their friends. I just want to be loved, I don’t want them.
I kept being sad and mad but the second they talked to me everything looked pink with ribbons on it. I had a lot of split episodes on them, but they knew about none.
When I realized I was grinding over the bare minimum, I knew I wasn’t in my right mind, there was something wrong with me, so I knew this friendship if I kept it continuing I would regret it so bad and it will ruin my life, I blocked them for OUR own good. Not just me.
Lovely flowers. 🌹 low self-esteem and inferiority complex blocks the ability to Love. Attraction to drama and toxic environments and complaining and poor me me they owe me a living attitude. Jealousy is a spirit. What is success? Good relationships and communications. Name the pain and be free to it. A good Quote I came across. "Resistance comes from a lack of Clarity. It is about Giving, not receiving. Being the light not the cold beem in a dark place.
You understand how to live and move through the whole of your life. I started a similar path a few months ago, and I've never been so at peace. It's also interesting to see how things manifest but also bring the challenges that come with them. As long as you practice your art form consistently, everything else falls into place.
I could not agree more. Proud of you and glad we’re on this journey together!
I like how you said we don’t want to lose jealousy! Just change our reaction to it ❤
Sometimes you want something you literally cannot have, no matter how hard you work
you might not even realize how much this video changed my life. thank u eternally
Thank YOU ❤️❤️❤️
Great insights on transforming jealousy into a catalyst for personal growth! Embracing an abundance mindset and using others' achievements as inspiration rather than a source of envy can lead to profound self-improvement and genuine success. 🌟
Dont mind me im just venting😭I was never the jealous type but i hate to admit that im jealous of my ex’s new gf, his best friend (sadly i was betrayed. Long story short i told her about our breakup and she was upset that he cheated but she later forgave him). Her tiktok page was on my suggested and i noticed that we have so much in common but she just does everything better. I like to paint for fun knowing i aint no artist but she on the other hand paints like shes picasso. I workout at home and wish to go to the gym but with work and school i dont have enough time to go to one. She on the other has SO much on her plate i dont understand how she can still manage to squeeze hitting the gym in her schedule. Her videos are so inspiring and shes so sweet and fun but i just hate being reminded of my ex when i see her.
I RELATE SM!! and the fact that i don’t know her on a personal level really makes is that much harder to overcome the jealousy bc sometimes its like yea ik where my jealousy is coming from but what now? yk? like i don’t really have the guideline for improvement bc its the relationship they have that im jealous of and i cant base anything off of something that i dont know the true reality of. anyway hopefully i made sense and u can relate bc if u cants thats embarrassing for me😭
Even if no one relates to you (unlikely), it doesn't make your experience embarassing. Sounds like you're trying to process & grow from this -- keep it up!
This video couldn't have arrived in my recommended at a more perfect time. Literally, right as I was slightly simmering in my own failures as an upcoming adult while others around me seem to have it all figured out, boom this video comes up. And while I will admit how hard it is to shift your mindset while you're in it, the result is amazing. Even just, replying to someone else's goals with admiration, even if you don't feel it yet, is a good step and, in this moment, was the step I needed to prevent my jealousy from reaching a boiling point.
Thank you
I'm from Brazil and I found your channel through the trust video, and I thought you were an "improved" version of me, we even look alike physically, and then today you posted the video about jealousy, a lot of synchronicity! thanks!
Hi😊
This is what I needed. My jealousy often makes me feel anxious and afraid. After taking notes of your ideas I felt so much relief ❤
finished your last video yesterday after receiving news that I'm fired from my job. now THIS. the universe truly works in mysterious ways. ur videos are helping me be anchored and to not spiral into unemployment depression. thank you!
omg for real i fully got rejected from a school i really wanted to go to and watched this and it helped sm
sending you love! an abundance of opportunity is coming your way. i am proud of you and glad you're here x
Thank you Thank you❤! I looove how dark it gets to focus on the flowers at the end❤
I love these videos where u sit down and talk about self improvement topics ,u truly inspire me❤
Love your videos in this format! Ur killing it, keep going ❤️
I consider myself to be successful , i have achieved a lot but i have insecurities that i think some of my jelousy arise from there . I came across your channel by accident and i loved the content and the big mindset you have . You earned my subscription immediately. Thanks
Wow this is so good, you are so well spoken and just so refreshing bruh. Thank you
Love the word "mashallah" thank you so much for mentioning it in this video
This is the second video I watch from your channel. I really appreciate your unique perspective. Thank you so much for sharing your messages love ❤
You're a very beautiful human being. Thank you for sharing your experiences and thoughts with us, your words have helped me a lot lately.
I like your outfit. Soft, feminine and fitting for your presentation. I have had sisters envious of me, my appearance and clarity. I was always confused why I felt picked on.I loved my sisters and never felt better than. I recently learned about scapegoating and how disappointing to realize this is what was going on towards me. I'm healing that now and can see now how long I had been trying to prove to them that I'm a good person. However, their envy didnt allow them to support me. I also held myself back feeling unworthy. May we people please be kinder and find our own wonderful qualities rather than being envious . Parents need to help children with this. As adults we can help each other now. Good message today. ❤
Thank you for acknowledging the healing power of the beauty of 💐 flowers.
OMG! I just saw your other video talking about how confidence is uncomfortable two days ago and I really love it. I visited your account in hopes of seeing more videos similar to that and wished that you'll upload more.
Your skin blooms like a flower so pretty !!!!
Thank you so much for your light your messages will help many! They're full of value and we can see that you "GET IT"! keep up the fantastic work!
Edit: you're doing a WONDERFUL work with these flowers!
Take care!
so glad your videos randomly popped up in my feed! i'm only 2 videos deep but you're already inspiring me~ mashallah
that makes me so happy thank you
omg i love the way she edits her videos
oh god i needed to hear this so much .. i've been feeling like a big black hole of anxiety and jealousy and envy lately and it's just a really disgusting feeling LIKE A PARASITE !! that i can't help feeling but i also can't solve. i couldn't even talk about it to anyone because it's an era of being a "girls' girl" and wish i am one i hope i am one and i love everyone else so much and i am so proud of them but i am just so jealous and resentful. thank you for this, i never thought of thinking about that feeling of mine because i was so scared it would just get darker and powerful thus i was avoiding acknowledging it...
Thank you. I think I needed to hear this right now in my life. I also appreciate a very female perspective on jealousy which got me to consider some cultural things in ways I otherwise probably wouldn't have.
the cat in the background, aww
I'm here at 11 seconds after posting omg 😭😭 cuz I really needed this and as soon as I saw the notification I clicked 💗💗💗 thank you for this 💋💗
That means so much to me! So happy you’re here 💞💞💞
More video like this please! I love ur aesthetic it so calm 💕
This video is so clarifying and important for me!! Thank you :)
You’re so gorgeous . Thank you for talking about jealousy ❤
Liz also says this that jealousy is not a bad thing it's inner you pointing that I can and I want it
So happy to see another video so soon, just stumbled upon your other video about confidence the other day - this topic is also so relevant, keep up the amazing work!
yay! thank you for being here :)
thank you so much for making this video :') it's really help me overcome my feeling
Inayah, I love your videos. They satisfy my need to consume aesthetic visuals and also fill up my soul/mind with wisdom. Thank you for making these. Just subscribed!
what a beautiful compliment! thank you so much for being here x
Thank you so much for this!! I needed this seriously!!! ❤️
So beautifully inspiring the whole video and just the idea of how easy a perspective change can go a long way❤
Your content is just what I was looking for and the universe knew. So happy to see someone with such a genuine and authentic spirit on here sharing so unapologetically. Keep doing your thing girl! And the flower arrangements always look beautiful!
This means so much to me! Thank you for your kind words and support, it means more than you know!
Great video, your confidence video was inspiring and really resonated with me
I like your point about how jealousy is ingrained in women from a very young age, and is very similar with how anger is ingrained in men. Like anger, it’s a cocktail of other emotions, and is more the result of social pressure and personal expectations than anything else
literally JUST finished watching your last video lol... love what you're doing, you're amazing
ooooo is that idv in ur pfp
@@rochapear BAHAHA yes 😭 doc is so cute, couldn’t pass the opportunity
@@ridonas she is!!
thank you so much love
I love your videos, you’re helping me become a better version of myself and I’m so grateful. Thank you
thank you for being here
you're literally the coolest person
23:02 It is amazing to see you finding the true beauty in appreciating everything and be more peaceful and Satisfied. I also admire the passion with which you make these videos this is really touching ...really mashallah
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«В твоих глазах мудрость, в изяществе тела совершенство, в движениях гармония, моя любимая кошка»
omg i really, i really need this because i became insecure, jealous, and more competitive to one of my classmates and im aware of it, what i want is to appreciate what's mine, but it's hard for me so im watching this video !!
Just genuinely curious how does appreciating what’s yours affect the jealousy? I think you phrased it very interesting.
@@ritaevergreen7234 showing gratitude for what you already have
Saw your other vid it’s always cool rooting for someone doing something wholesome that’s what I see through your videos good luck hope your channel continues to grow!
Thank you!!!
i love you so much please never stop filming these videos 💗💗💗💗
I love YOU💗
I read the artist’s way by Julia Cameron last year and she says the exact same things. I recommend everyone this gem of a book. Feeling negative emotions like jealousy and anger is actually a good thing you just have to decipher what it means and it’s so fun and educating to get to know yourself like that.
Love the Artist's Way! Couldn't agree more x
@@inayah0 ❤️❤️ also you’re so pretty
to me, jealousy feels like illness that forms in the stomach and eats at you from the inside like maggots. I thought I could use that anger and outdo other people out of pure spite. But spite, however powerful in the moment, fizzles out SO fast. It always just becomes depression or self-hatred, it has no substance.
i really love your video essays :") it helps me soooo much 🥹🫶
Jealousy is twisted admiration
i trust you more than i trust my self. God bless u.
new favorite creator 🫶🏼
Thanks for subtitles!! ❤
You remind me of sighswoon quite a bit and I love it. Thank you for your vision and thoughts of inspiration 💫
Woww and such a beautiful floral arrangement, I love it! 🌿💖
She’s so pretty
I love your videos endlessly!!
what about jealousy about things out of someone's control? like being born with it? such as physical features?
i thought about that too. I guess acceptance or self love
You go to my vision board as inspiration 💗 I have so much hope and motivation now thanks to you. 💗Greetings from Poland
Your videos are so good and calming, you were meant to do this!🌸❤️
that means a lot to me! xx
ur so pretty wth
I think it’s better not to force feelings but to let them be and just step back and think about them.. everything has a reason for happening
we are not trying force feelings. we just trying to alternate them to not negatively effect ourselves
Congratulations on your recent success!
This channel is becoming my comfort place in toxic world. Thank you so much
that means the world to me
Facts I never thought about it like this
so authentic
yeah ... you're absolutely my new favorite TH-camr
You’re absolutely my new favorite subscriber
You have so much style
You remind me of my mother when she was young, she was very beautiful and charming like you, she was my first love.I miss it when I see you, I hope you are happy
shes so pretty
You're amazing bro.
Great video. I am learning a lot from you. I think it is also helpful to recognize that jealousy has (or rather had) an adaptive function for human beings. Jealousy might have helped our ancestors survive, by driving them to take resources from others that they themselves needed. It sounds a bit twisted to me, but I do not want to demonize this feeling even though it is ugly and painful.
love the lower-case letters you use
love your vid style
Exactly. That's why I have an Instagram where I showcase my art and attempts to fight against the human sex trafficking that takes place on various platforms and in many industries supported by women who are either naive or too self absorbed to care.
Masha Allah ❤